I broke my silence: My story of domestic violence | Emma Murphy | TEDxUniversityofNicosia
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- Опубликовано: 18 мар 2018
- This speech is based on the Domestic Violence video that has been viewed over 50 million times and the aftermath of her assault. Emma is now focusing on the positive impact these developments have had in her life. Emma Murphy is a 28-year-old fitness blogger and single mother of two. In 2015, she faced repeated domestic battery from her ex-boyfriend and father of her children. After one such incident that left her with a black eye, she decided to take to social media, where she posted a vulnerable video of herself telling the world about the abuse, deceit, lies and betrayal she was going through. In doing so, she consciously turned the terror of being a victim into a positive situation, refusing to let domestic violence diminish or define her as a person. To date, that video has been viewed over 50 million times worldwide. Emma is now a Domestic Violence Advocate, travelling the world to raise awareness for women and children who cannot speak for themselves. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Currently watching this at a shelter after fleeing my abuser to know I'm not alone..
Analy Javalera I’m so proud of you. You did a really hard thing and you have demonstrated exceptional strength already, whether you feel exceptionally strong or weak right now. I know I felt weak after leaving in many ways for many reasons for a long time, but I look back with pride. The woman you’re becoming will cost you material things, spaces, and relationships but she’s worth it. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
I am so proud of you, and I want you to know you are loved!
Me too. Been at a shelter for the past 3 weeks. Feeling super lonely.
You’re not alone
Analy Javalera I feel like you need a hug
At least she got out when the children were still babies.
Not having a father sux but having violence in the home is much, MUCH worse. She spared them much mental damage by leaving when she did.
She'll have another one just like him moved in before long, is she hasn't already. Might not be so lucky next time. LOL
Uncle Vladi No. She has more courage, bravery to speak up in public about it. Let's see how far you'd get if we'd be able to see your picture and hear your voice on that screen.
@@unclevladi6328 you are heartless and I don't understand how you can say this in such a glib way and that you end with "LOL". You must have difficulties with emotions...
@@powellm415 - it's called Social Darwinism, and this wretch epitomizes it. She's not brave and she's not noble. She's one of many that drank the Kommunist Kool-Aid and is now paying the price.
Fuk the fathers
2015 was also the year my husband terrified me. I thought he was about to kill me, but he was careful not to touch me, so I didn’t know it was abuse. We NEED to raise awareness!! He doesn’t need to hit you, push you, choke you, or even touch you. R@pe is not always violent or physically painful. And in my case, family were the worst people I told. They have turned their backs on me and sided with my abusive husband. They tell him they can’t believe how awful I’m being. Thank God for a few safe friends and some strangers on the Internet.
"I'm just an ordinary mudsh4rk"
Leaving was the best decision I ever made, for my children and myself. My girls were young too. My oldest 19 months, my youngest only one month old. Worth it.
Gratefully Rose did he try to get in contact with you afterwards
@Gratefully rose, So happy for you:)). You deserves happiness.
I just have one question to y'all! I honestly don't know who is at false! I m starting to doubt my own sanity, I feel like prior to his anger is because of me! He told everyone that I m physcopath and paranoid yet when ever I try to communicate heart to heart, He declined to mutual communicate n made my feelings invalid! Everyone around him probably thinks I m physcopath and doesn't even cares whenever I m trying to raise my voice! And everyday is a living nightmare for me, I tried to get rid of this toxicity relationship but he comes back turning more sweet and at the point I couldn't resist myself forgiving him! My friends told they're convinced that I m under going pyscological oppression and I should leave but I was in denial because as earlier mentioned that I m the prior to his cruel treatment, I thought I could change myself! But deep down, I genuinely feel I don't deserve such excruciating pain but everyday I m starting to hate myself for what I put him through but on left side, I feel like everything happening with me isn't just right! I can't express this confusing n traumatic emotions right now. :((( I find myself crying every single day 😓
@@Tchoden.namgyal___ have you left the relationship yet? It does not sound safe and can get much worse. You are not a psycho even if he tells people you are.
No Body, you deserve better
The only problem I have with this... is that many people have no friend/family to run to. Many people have police who belittle their stories, who take the side of the abusers, who laugh with a side smile at a woman in peril who they see as overreacting because they don’t live in the home or maybe they don’t care.
You are right!. That's what I've experienced for 20 + years. Our families want us to be thankful we have a roof over our head. When we tell authorities it only gets worse. All we have are each other. You're brave darling. It does never stop. I'm still trying to figure out the best way to end the torture. I pray i will have a story of survival to tell one day. Thank you
People also always take the abusers side because they always come across as the nice respectful man , but behind closed doors their is a women crying, suffering and suffocating
Emily Bailey, I agree. She also doesn't mention that leaving is the most dangerous time in a domestic violence relationship. So, walking away fast and steady isn't always a good decision. Leaving is a dangerous time and therefore, must be carefully planned to ensure the safety of everyone, children included.
I agree
Exactly
My husband been abusing me for 3 years I gave birth 9moths ago. My whole pregnancy my husband strangled me beat me punched me. I end up going to labor had to get emergency c-section on June 08/2019 after the surgery the next day my abusive husband drag me out of the bed nurses heard me screaming they call the security to escort him out of the hospital but I still stayed on 03/11/2020 I found out my abusive husband been cheating on me . When I try to confront him he punched me in my mouth put a tv code around my neck strangled me I thought to my self he’s gonna kill me if I don’t leave. I waited till he went back to sleep I call the police when the police came he took off running . They finally locked him up this is my time to walk away from him.
Hi Hana, are you safe now? Hope you are doing better these days🙏
Its so sad that in life we never know what were getting ourselves into or with who. I hope you and your baby are safe and doing well .
and dont look back either
I hope you divorced him. And moved on.... far away. Do not contact him. Do not ask anyone about him. Keep it moving with your child. You can start over fresh new. But most of all, let God fight your battles. God fought mine. I'm a domestic violence survivor too.
yes Hana! I'm so proud of you. One less child will have to grow up like I did with the constant threat of violence to mother and child
I was abused by my ex..it’s been three years and I STILL have nightmares every night about him. The moment she posted she put her life in danger..god bless her strength because if I had done that I’d be dead...
I agree i been silent for 4 years and just this month started posting little things about DV on FB . i have no where to go. Im getting no help after 4 years of constant calls for help. Still no help. I still spend my days making calls to recources and they are dead ends. I need to know how to get my life back. No family or friends because i been isolated . i learned you dont say much on facebook you get contant backlash saying i wanted to be there. No i never want to be in a situation like that. I am physicall broken and was told even 2 days ago by a shelter to live on the street. I am not healthy from this broken and no where to go.
@Darla I m so glad that you're in good place! God bless you. :)
It is not by him to decide death or alive it is in God hands to decide if it is in his hands that is your fated and destiny without fighting but if you fight for life then you are diminished that worthwhile cos you done the best to leaving him early on and you done your share of life to escape and live but if you don't make it through you have try your behest to survive then , it is good you made an efforts
@anne smith There's a 5 year waiting list for housing.
@Ex Plorr I hope you are alive and found safety
The reason he is violent and cheated is that he is a spineless creep who shouldn't be around women and children and pets
I was spat on, punched, slapped, stabbed with a screw driver, had boiling water thrown over me, eyes gouged, heavy glass objects thrown at my head, my possessions destroyed, money stolen, the list goes on.
She was the worst thing that ever happened to me and I still struggle mentally to this day.
A man hit me once. I crushed his cashews. I left him with that. But when it’s your husband, it’s more than just a man you are leaving. Find your support. There are shelters that can help in many ways. Get out. Take your kids and run. It’s never going to change and it’s not your fault he’s that way. Go. Just go.
You are right but indian society is very bad and Orthodox
Study Time praying for the women there xx
@@zarax9546 ohh may God bless people like you who think for others .....🤗
Sunny Skye well done.
I worked in a police station one time. The amount of DV/FV cases I had to deal with was crazy. Every lunch time these battered women would always come to the police station to come to pick up their stuff. The fellow police officers would always say wait the evidence officer is having lunch. I would cut my lunch short and assist where I could.
Thank you so much for your help we need more people like you x
Bless your caring heart.
The ex strangulated me near death Sept.1, 2020. Hes a 30 year habitual domestic violence. Pray that he gets a life sentence in prison! Thank you young lady for your strength and endurance!
Not giving up my single life. Not worth it. I support my self..put my own food on the table, pay for my own rent and everything. Better to be single my whole life and rely on myself rather than put me in any situation....
This.^
So true.
I left when my daughter was 6 months old and after taking parenting and domestic violence classes. I pray any of you going thru this get out of it when your kids are young. It does so MUCH damage to kids being in a domestic violence
What's the status on the toll 🤔
I'm so sorry for your pain, but you're incredibly brave to share your story. So many of us have been through similar and worse. We've tried to speak out about the abuse we've suffered only to be accused of being paranoid, crazy or playing the victim in order to gain attention and sympathy. Victim blaiming and shaming by those who couldn't possibly understand the horrible nightmare that we've survived becomes insult to injury. Lack of validation is a type of psychological abuse in itself that retraumatises the victim while making it very difficult for them to heal or move forward with their lives. No wonder so many of us are too fearful to speak up. You're truly an inspiration to all women still suffering in silence. Thank you for sharing!
These men are COWARDS! The law should be much stricter on domestic abuse! It's an insidious way of ruining someone's life, and tantamount to murder! I hope you have found peace at last, and you and your children are now safe.
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Total respect to you Emma, I am a man who just sat down and watched your film, I am now crying, I get angry but no matter how angry I get, I honestly can't lift my fist to a woman, it's not in my nature to hit a woman, I really wish I could give you a hug right now and tell you that everything is going to be good for you and your kids, seeing as I can't hug you in person, have a virtual hug from me sweetheart xxxxx
Calling her sweetheart...that's assuming too much intimacy and creepy...learn boundaries. Emotional, "sensitive" & sentimental men also abuse others hence the abuse wheel...they are loving and kind and then get abusive and around again.
You have done the right thing. I was brought up in very violent abusive environment, you have done so much for you your children and other womenXXXXX
Women:
A) Take some Martial Arts lessons
B) Keep your finances separate (a secret account if you must).
C) Don’t let an abuser or a religion, isolate you. Keep in contact with family, friends and the police.
D) Don’t be in a rush to have children. Be together for a few years first.
E) Keep detailed records of abuse. Dated notes, pictures of injuries, pictures of broken items.
F) Abusers test you and condition you, with mean jokes or light violence to see what you will put up with.
G) Mental abusers will twist their violence to be your fault.
Check out this new book, " Why I Stayed in an abusive marriage by Sarah Winters" it says it all. Even some answers we are all looking for. Check out the book video also.
@@nosoyyo5441 it applies to both Sexes, but Majority of Abusers and Narcissists are Men.....still if you are a Male Victim, please do apply. Also it can be Family of Origin, Mother's or Father's who are Narcissistic Abusers or Psychopaths so please seek help to heal in Order to break the Cycle and to love and respect Yourself
It’s not that simple. As woman I was afraid to defend myself even though I have been trained to fight back. Why? Because abusers often try to turn the law against the victim who was only trying to protect themselves. Think about that.
@@jennifermorgan1837 yes true, however the above is a very good general Advice, plus if u trully are trained properly, then Ye know how to defend just enough.
I don't agree with rule #1, martial arts isn't going to help much if the man is a foot taller than her and 100 lbs heavier. The muscle definition of a man is just something women can't compete with.
I felt like she was sitting right next to me, I literally just broke down. I wanna thank you so much for your courage. I myself have gone and still am going through desomtic violence. I no longer will tolerate anything unhealthy. I love myself so much more, I'm working on my self love. I see life so much different now.
Bad boys do bad things. You reap what you sow. Stop crying. I am sure you dumped countless good men before, so don't cry.
@@jannieschluter9670don't blame the victim
@@renelacomb8737 nothing personal. It's called "accountability"
@@jannieschluter9670 it's still blaming the victim
@@renelacomb8737 yes and for good reasons. birds of same feather flock together. abusers attract abusive people and codependency is a form of being abusive because it enables and feeds into abusive and narcissistic tendencies.
I am not here to tell you how to live your life, so go do as you say and carry your own consequences. For anything more, come pay me for my counsel.
I am currently working on a fundraiser for our local domestic violence prevention and support nonprofit. God bless this lady and her powerful message.
I am packing my things right now. 😭 Please pray for me. Keep me strong. He is in jail right now. I’ve given him too many chances. I fear the next chance I give, me or my child will be dead.
I hope you never go back. You've got this.
You’ve got this girl !!! ❤️
At least he’s locked up and gives you a chance to heal/break away. Prayers for safety.
Toll: Paid.
She relaxed.
I am a mother of a daughter who has been in a series of abusive relationships with boyfriends, and now is married. She can't seem to break this cycle. And I can't seem to get anyone to take me seriously, not even Christians and Churches. Just because it's not physical, there is still control, isolation (I haven't seen my daughter in 3 months) because her husband told her dad (my husband) and me 'to cease all communications' I couldn't even get a Mother's Day card to my daughter as she has a precious little girl. And I never heard from my daughter nor received a Mother's Day card from her. Until she is ready to leave, there isn't much I can do. But there must be something we can all do, then just wait for 'battered' women to leave. We need to let them know what are Healthy Relationships, we need to let them know that 'isolation' is a sign of control. We need to let them know they have 'equal rights'. I miss my daughter and grand-daughter so much. I love them so much.
Eliz White if u have suspicion get help... Look up domestic violence hotline
Eliz White were their boyfriends white ?
Hi is your daughter still with the man now ?? Have you got to talk to your daughter yet ?? I was just wanting to no because your story touched my heart because your so right when you were talking about your daughter it made me feel like you were talking about me because I went through the same thing till I got away from that and went to my parents for help and now I am not living that kind of life anymore I'm so sorry you are going through this it's really hard I hop your daughter will see that and come to you to get away from it !!!!!!!!
I saw an excellent Christian Church video put out via Daily Bread network, re how Church deals with (or doesn't), domestic violence. It said sermons that discuss man as head of household, also need to cover when that role is abused. That kind of unresolved dilemma is probably why some or many Christian Churches can't respond effectively. So yeah keep seeking support etc. Even just that could indirectly help your daughter,even if you can't have contact.
I'm so sorry, I hope she gets out of that relationship
Good luck and I hope she and her daugter will come back to you ❤️
I watched your video on Facebook some years back. I was in an abusive situation 8 months pregnant with a 3 year old. I cried and wished I could get out like you. I finally left a month ago. I'm so glad to see a follow up on you. It gives me hope and inspiration ❤️
mudshark. Burn the coal, pay toll.
God, how many times was I told my insecurity would kill me... I felt nuts. I had no idea what gaslighting was...
Or how many times they tell you that you are a mental case and everybody knows it but you. How they feel sad for you because you need to be protected from the outside world. Or how they don’t want to go to counseling because they know the counselor will tell you not them that you are mental and it’ll make you cry. So th year don’t want to hurt you by doing that. These people are honestly crazy.
I'm in mine for almost 17years, trying to leave in a pandemic with 4 kids and no money, no social life, in a third world country..But I'm fighting for my kids and i will get out...
You have given me strength..I will find a way...I'm suffocating...and need to breathe freely..
Please pray for me and my kids safe escape....😥😢
Did you get out yet? I hope you and your kids are safe!
Hello Charlotte...I'm praying for you today, wherever you are. Sending love
It takes a lot of courage to get away. Months later it’s amazing how much you realize how wrong that relationship was. The realization of that is unbelievable. But we’re not alone. Even without the love of our abuser. I have a court date set for my abuser. I’m the one pressing charges.its a choice I made based on Will Smith’s words, “it’s not your fault that your (abuser) partner abused you but it’s for damn sure your responsibility to do what’s right...your heart, your life is your responsibility and your responsibility alone.” That motivated me to do what I need to do for myself. I am a product of a domestic violent childhood. So I know what it looks like. Never in the past 33 years had I had an abusive relationship like this last one and I was proud to say that before. Now I understand. Don’t stop fighting the good fight and if you can’t stand up for yourself then do it for the girls of the future, your mother and other wives who have/had been through any kind of violence, mental, physical. It’s not right and it’s not ok, my sisters.
For any person experiencing domestic violence get out of it. You are beautiful and deserve love and respect and never violence or any type of abuse. Reach out to loved ones or emergency services.
Prayers are with you. Be strong, love and move on. Never ever go back he will never change. You and your children deserve better.
My mom was verbally abused by my dad... I started to think negative about relationships because of a lot of things. There’s this song by The Killers called “Run for Cover” and it’s about Domestic Violence. My advice is that We always have to remember that this is not okay and there are people who support us. Think about them, and find the courage to get help. For you and if you have children and pets, for them.
Thank you so much for sharing your story and for your bravery. I also left my abusive unfaithful husband a few years ago. I still struggle with memories of the abuse but leaving him was the best thing I have ever done and probably saved my life. Stay strong! xoxo
Thank you so much Jamie. Im so happy to hear you left your abusive relationship - so brave. Xxx
David Clark moron
Padraig Flanagan moron
I went through it too. Stay strong. Every year might be difficult, but not as difficult as living with someone who purposefully abuses you and denies it like a coward.
Bravery? You mean, pathetic lack of brains?
she paid the toll ..just a reminder to all women who want to burn the coal... just don't do it..
I was in this for over 12 years. It was so awful. I'm so glad you got out. It took me too long. I've been out for good two years.. You are so brave. Thank you for sharing.
I'm so sorry you had to experience what you did. What a wonderful role model you are. That even with the evident heartbreak you can push through the pain and be strong.
You are enough and your life has just begun. Thank you for your courage and honesty. Love, LaRaiin
Your best bet is to leave as soon as you notice a warning sign because it rarely gets better, more often it gets worse.
Coal
You are a truly remarkable woman who deserves to be in a relationship where you feel safe, respected, appreciated, and trusted on a daily basis. You deserve to have your emotional needs and wants to meet consistently. You wholeheartedly deserve to be surprised with random romantic gestures which make you feel sincerely cherished and loved. You deserve to come home each and every day, knowing that you are always safe and appreciated. You will be able to discuss what’s going in your mind with your partner without worrying about what his reaction might be. You will be once in a while showered with physical affection in the form of reassuring hugs and sweet kisses. You will be able to know that he will be there for you, no matter what happens and vice versa. You will share spontaneous laughs with him as well as find him to be a shelter where you can share unspoken tears. ❤ Stay extraordinary, my lovelies!
Beautiful thought
Leaving was the best decision ever. It took some time to heal then I met someone that shows me what true love is.
Brave woman . I'm crying watching her speak about her experience .
Thank you for sharing your story. I intend to share share share, your voice may save so many. Feel proud!
mudshark. Burn the coal, pay toll.
You have so much courage to walk away, make this video and protect your children. Good for you, Emma!
I am glad she made it out alive! As a domestic violence survivor myself this is something that so many women are going through today. We don't get justice in USA. There are so many violent offenders let out who kill cops and women. So many lives are lost. Coming together we can make a change to protect women and change laws hold these men accountable and in prison. To save lives! I know there is love after domestic violence and their is life. There is hope.
All she had to do was date an Irish man. How hard is that? But she was looking for exotic African meat and got exotic beating.
I get what your saying but women can have a good probability of being treated well if they stick with white guys
@@markcuckenberg7869 wtffd
This hits home cause I have suffered alone in silence with physical and psychological abuse. I was never going to leave my husband and God knew I wasn't. I believed the lies. I lost myself in the marriage. I didn't love myself and accepted the abuse. I have never told anyone about it. March 4, 2022 I caught my husband cheating with the babysitter/daycare worker (not the first time he cheated on me) That day he left and never came back instead he chose her. He left the family and went with her. I blamed myself I thought what could I have done differently. I wasn't worthy. I wasn't enough for him. I found out he has been lying and scamming this whole time. I realized that GOD made this happen. It took him leaving me for another woman for me to say "I AM BETTER OFF WITHOUT HIM AND I WILL NEVER GO BACK OR BE WITH ANYONE WHO ABUSES ME" God has a plan and doesn't make mistakes.
Ive been through exactly what yoy are going through. I loved my abuser unconditionally, took care of his 3 children. Loved his children so much. I was with him for 6 years from the age of 24 to 30. I left him and am so much smarter and strongrr now. Love you girl. Survivor.
Is there a way to contact you? I’m in a similar situation.
Wow what a difference in her demeanor she's confident total 360 when speaking to thousands she can help.amazing strong women stand up.don't forget your amazing don't put up with the toxic energy even neg words towards you is a sign of abuse.
Her video saved me from returning to my abusive relationship,the hardest Hong sometimes is not to return.i miscarried because of violence her working out might have saved a life or two.i just got goose bumps to see her again.Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures was buried and rose again on the third day according to the scriptures 1Corinthians 15:3
Stay blessed and strong, and everybody is responsible for their horrible actions and they will get what they deserve when we stand in front of the king of all kings. May Allah protect you.
Emma Murphy, I applaud you for your courage, and your GUTS! May Our Heavenly Father and St. Michael The Archangel watch over and protect you! Ex Virtute Dei Defendam!
Bless you Emma. A heartbreaking story from Australia a dear mother and her three children were murdered by her husband and their father. So bloody tragic.
Thank you so much for having the courage to share this with everyone. I'm sure you have helped countless others by doing so. I hope you are now happy and healthy and safe.
Awww luv. My heart goes out to u and your babies.
LOVE LOVE LOVE your babies. Hold them close to your heart and support them as much as you can. And LOVE yourself.
@l o 😂😂😂😂 and what? Your DNA will be passed down too like you need to reproduce 😂😂😂
I got out August 25 2018. This resonated with me more then any other ted talk or RUclips video. I am so thankful to stumble across it.
Abusers. Lie/ cheat/ stalk/ leave & return / charm u to win u back/convince you that you are in the wrong/ this is what an abuser does
I absolutely agree. I have experienced at least 1 of these in the abusive and narcissistic men I've dated. It surprising how MANY men are like this to some degree.
I feel so sorry for her . My mom was physically abused by my dad for 17 years . She finally got out and left him . Thank god she did because he threatened to kill her and my brother and sister also many times . My mom is my rock and is 80 years old now . I commend her for leaving him and always taking care of her children . She would do anything for her kids . Love you mom . ❤️❤️❤️
I will be telling my story too may God give me strength to tell me story for it’s not easy .i am proud of you ,to all women suffering from abuse please run ,run and never look back .
Cairo Dupree thank you so much your words have given me strength.
none of your damn business he think he exist I feel him
Sheffanessea Brown you can do this! Proud of you girl you are strong
I am a survivor too.
So glad you had the courage to Break the SIlence and share your story of triumph and resilience from Domestic Violence. There is absolutely no excuse for a man to physically assault a woman. You are Strong single Mom of two.
She paid the toll
Thank you so much for your bravery and strength. You are a great reminder of how we must first love ourselves. 💓
I’m so sorry love and I’m just happy you are brave enough to come and talk about it! Your sooo strong !
I hope that you found the courage to escape AND stay away from that monster. If you stayed, your little boy will grow up to be an abuser, just like his father. Your little girl, will grow up to think this is an acceptable way of life: to be abused! I hope and pray you will find the courage to out this monster and file charges against him. I know it's really hard but you sound like a very strong and courageous woman.
Melonee Murray, you look stunning
Please never go back. I've been there, more than once unfortunately. They never change. I am single but happier than I've been. I wish you all the love, peace and happiness you deserve.
The toll is a harsh mistress.
I grew up in this environment and my Mom didn't leave. If anyone is in this environment they HAVE TO leave...
It is the only right answer there will ever be. I can tell you this from the experience of a child whose Mother didn't.
If I could go back in time and pull the trigger, I would.
One of my coworkers was in a relationship with an African man and unfortunately 'paid the toll' when he beat the brakes off of her while 5 months pregnant. I am so shocked this happened. I always thought it was so progressive and brave that she dated and got pregnant by an African.
Now as a single mom, she struggles to find anyone that will date her which is shocking because she's so nice.
how amazing. You are powerful. I broke through it too and hope one day to share my story. You are a winner
"Amazing" "Brave" "Powerful" "Noble" "Telling" - LOL just wait for her next video, and she'll look three times worse.
I am so sorry that this happened to you. You are amazing.
I left the father of my son because he was abusive and it was the smartest thing I ever did. I just wish I would've left sooner.. 😭😭😭😭😭
When he was a kid, was he a poor kid or a white kid? Asking for my friend Joe
@@blanchy both
you are so brave, we will always stand beside you!
Thank you for your courage to tell your story & break stigma
She's a coalburner haha
I just posted a video admitting the first time ever how badly the cycle of violence has affected my well-being. I have never been able to form a relationship which a super painful thing for me. The violence has ran in the family for generations as a "method of raising kids". When in fact it was always my father totally losing his temper and not being in control of his actions. Since I was the youngest of the pack, I received the pain from everyone else, my older siblings and my mum, being the easy target. I would then target my pain towards our pets. Both of my parents are now gone and I am finally ready to let go of the feeling of shame with all of this. I have made my piece with everything.Talking about it openly is empowering. Hope my story can help someone struggling with these things.
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I am so sorry this has happened to you, but so grateful - for you and on behalf of your children - that you are getting away from this. That is so brave. Your children will grow up knowing how courageous their mom is! That you are strong enough to stand up for you and brave enough to bring them away from anyone who could even potentially hurt them. Oh my gosh. You have so much to look forward to. Thank you for all this hard work you are doing by sharing this information. You are setting such an amazing example for your kids and for the world. May God continue to bless and keep you! Three Cheers!
Good that you didn't believe him, he was gaslighting you
You are brave and I wish you and yours the best for the future
Thanks for sharing your story
So sorry about your ordeal but im happy you found the mental courage to leave your abuser..just came across this video
I hope you and your children are safe and can move on with a healthy happy life..you have helped many with your story..BOSTON🍀
WOW!!! I. Thank God your OK! God bless You!!!!! Peace & Love❤
He was gaslighting you
This is so hard to watch specially one year after leaving my narcissistic abuser. I'm still picking up the pieces and working on self love.
I am victim of domestic violence at the hands of my own sister. My family couldn't support me.
Such brave , courageous ladies! It took me 30 years to leave. They never change, leave if you can! Police and the courts need to change the way they treat victims. I was treated as the perpetrator, while he got away with it as i had no proof. Good luck to you all! X
This same situation happened to my mom I learned never forgive this kind of guy please let this guy go I pray you find true love it hurts so much when guys do this
emma - hugs / love on your courage and healing
This is powerful. Thankyou for sharing. My mother was in danger from my biological father. When I was 6 we escaped from Virginia to Texas and basically hid. No telling where we would be.
You can very proud of you ! Women who have a heavy Karma and it's with the person like you who have the courage to speak it out loud to raise the awareness. Thank you !
I’m trying to quit being a victim. I’m tired of choosing abusers. My child is two. I wanted b strong for her.
I am in the same position. Its just so sad how it gets to this point.
Your so courageous and I'm so happy that you left. You suffered enough, you must be strong for your kids
She is a beautiful young lady & I hope her family are doing great.
mudshark. Burn the coal, pay toll.
I'm also a domestic violence survivor. Twice with 2 husbands. 1st husband choked me unconscious, broke my right leg and took custody of my son. The State of Georgia failed me. Stating I only suffered a broken bone, they closed a attempted murder charge case and left me bitterly devastated. 2nd husband attacked me twice. The 2nd time he attacked me, the police shot and killed him. I'm so grateful God let me live. I'm single and most of all at peace.
The system can definitely fail and it’s horrible.
I cherish the UPS and am so grateful I am away from the downs - him cheating was the greatest thing that ever happened to me (and the most agonizing) because he let me leave him and move on - I would have been imprisoned for life with my mis-placed loyalty and my nievity in believing his lies - THANK YOU EMMA! I saw this video when you left it 2015 and it really WOKE me up took me two more years but I got out too!
Good for you girl! Love ❤️. Strength ❤️ resilience ❤️
I'm 19. I was with with him since I was 17. I finally got the courage to leave him, but it's harder then I thought with him not being around. For the last 2 1/2 years he controlled my life and took it away from me, I'm not sure how to move forward now. I never thought I would get away and now that I have I'm just stuck it feels like. Molded into this stranger and structure he created to fit his every need. I miss the me who he took away. Do I ever get her back?
Why do women choose the 'bad boy' in the first place? Why aren't they smart enough to marry the nerd?
This is one of the most hearth breaking videos I have ever seen
Pay the toll...
I don't think many of these posters understand the real problem here.
@@rodneystanger1651 wdym, she burn the coal and pay the toll
@@anhcuongnguyen3195 I meant there's not enough mention by her of the k0leburner part, and these people commenting don't seem to be putting two and two together about that. I'm with you guys, "don't relax or you'll pay the tax".
@@rodneystanger1651 alright man 😳😳
Lol $13.50 after the inflation it became $13.65
Toll: PAID
I think a lot of people must have prayed for you, 🙏and the thruth shall set you free 🌸 God bless you and your children 🌸🙏 🌸
Thank you for sharing, I’m not a huge person for social media due to the many negative outlets of social media ! Although, you have made a valid change in my thoughts ! I don’t know you and I’m highly wishing i did for your bravery ! The cycle of abuse and fear to come forward is what I hope Changes for our futures! That said, social media is our future so thank you again For bravery to come forward. I’ve seen too much of this abuse go unjustified and not taken seriously with the high amount of abuse and cry’s for help that occur and calls going unanswered or handled by law enforcement. They actually would probably like to do more if the law allowed it, and Rw doing all the can legally ro follow their actual safety of their
Own selves...And the many laws that block them from actually doing all that can be done with the situation and especially these abusers who have many routes to scare the abused and block A lot of legality to interview the abused and the abused usually has a plan
In tact to put the fear of death into anyone residing in that home and ha been traumatized by this abuse. The officers try to ask to-ask to spectate to get the true facts but only so far can they act on legal rights! Let’s start educating the kids who can talk about the issues and feel safe ! Step one - building blocks from there !!! Thank you again for our bravery and you a example to more then you’ll ever know 🙏🏻👍
Well done for standing up for yourself. 💗
91/2 yrs of abuse. Everyone of my 4 pregnancies. I have a story.
Tell us please