Hey Amy I just found your channel and it’s already helped me. I start school in a week and I’ve needed some tips so tysm for all your love, support, and tips!❤
I'm glad I found this video. A friend recommended your channel and I think it's gonna rly help me this year. (I also am in math club and do competitions like math counts, so finding someone else online who does that is rly cool)
Hey, is your podcast available on Deezer? I couldn't find it. If it's not, do you think you could put it there? It would be awesome. And by the way, thanks for this video, it was really helpful ❤
also, reframing your MIND is so much more important than reframing your ACTIONS. your mindset literally translates into what you do, so watching videos that tell you what to DO rather than how to THINK should only come after you master the ability to COACH YOURSELF. tysmmm amy
Thanks for your kind words, Hazel! I'm so glad you say that because sometimes I worry when I say my achievements, but saying them is really just to inspire you all! :)
bruh true. school is already a torture, fiting in will only make it worse. we just need some to chitchat on the free times, and on lunch D': where are them ppl?!
yall are speaking FACTS 😞 as a 14 y/o who just started highschool last week, i’ve been desperately trying to find ppl i recognize during break/lunchtimes just so i can have SOMEONE to hang out with and not look lonely but it seems like everyone in my grade already knows each other 😭 like hows it so easy for them??
Fr I just happen to be the substitute friend with this girl but whenever she was near anyone in her friend group she would ignore me. And then I’m friends with this weird kid but being friends with him has prevented me from making any other friends because people ostracize him 😭
Can we just appreciate everything this wonderful individual does for us? The fact that she's spent months creating A FREE video to help teens as well as juggling a very busy academic life is truly inspirational. Thanks Amy!
Thank you so so much for recognizing my efforts 🥹 I truly spend such long periods of time thinking through my experiences deeply and learning wisdom for each video. Really happy to see my efforts are paying off. I appreciate you Tali!
Henlo, I'm 14 yrs old, going into high school this year in a week. The meltdowns and panic I've felt had been more frequent than I would prefer. And the funny thing is I always blame it on myself, saying that my procrastination is hurting me. And in truth it is, I have no excuse for being a failure, for being average when I know I can be so much better. Watching this video, I hope I can change everything, that I can be a new person who truly wants something good for themselves. In school, everywhere I look I see people running in a race, in a competition to get higher and better than everyone else when really all I need is to be the best I can be. I hope it will work, that I'll change somehow. With hard work but I make no promises. I hope in a few months time I can return to this place and write of my success. Only time will tell. Signed : A Lost Soul Edit#1: Henlo, this is entry 2 of my personal journey. Only yesterday was my first day of school, when I woke up it felt like my heart had frozen overnight and was left in the darkest abyss, light could not reach it, my doubts had clouded too much… I forced myself off the bed and fast forward onto the bus. On the bus, I suppose my luck had finally changed as someone I knew was there saving me the trouble and embarrassment of finding a seat, usually I’d sit alone with ny thoughts swarming around my head but a change felt nice. But still, talking seemed draining and I wasn’t sure where to begin, but taking a deep breath, I told her what I felt about the first day, how I was scared and felt so small… I didn’t know how she’d react but after listening she broke too and told me what I’d told her. I guess I wasn’t the only one who was beyond nervous… We started talking about things beyond school and some may wonder “How did I just start talking when I’m such an introvert?” Well what I usually try to do is channel that extroverted energy I have when I’m in a group of friends who appreciate and accept me, that feeling of being the loud crazy self I am inside felt fulfulling, it felr good to laugh weird and make cringe jokes because thats who I am. So despite being terrified, I took a deep breath and shoved my extroverted side out the door, imagining I was just talking to another friend. And the rest of the day I continued to do the same thing, and in each class I found people responded well to me being myself at core, even those in grades higher than me! After the day I felt exhausted and I immediately thought the day had gone miserably due to my doubts about friends, and future, and academics. But when I sat down with myself and looked up at the sky, I recounted all the experiences of the day, and somewhere inside I felt like something had gone well. And today I continued to channel my true self when I found appropriate, when talking to new people and teachers, and while my hands still shook and my heart jumped up and down, when I was my positive self, telling myself I can do this it made things change. Truly having the right mindset changed a lot, Ive seen plenty of back to school videos that tell you about mindset but often I get confused, “Ok I understand but how am I supposed to change in myself?” Well what worked for me was channeling my best self, not the person who OTHERS thought was amazing but the person I thought was amazing, and that was the person who took regular classes so she wouldn’t be overwhelmed and be happy instead, that was the girl who showed everyone her extroverted side because she wanted to make others feel welcomed and feel appreciated like I had when someone talked to me. After knowing who I wanted to be I always made sure to think, is this happiest version of me? And if it were I would take that person and put her forward, pushing my quieter side that I appreciated but wanted to change towards the back seat. And guys if I’m being honest, I didn’t expect anyone to respond to my comment or even see it, I wrote it one day thinking that I have to say something, perhaps it will help someone else… and now it kind of has! So I apologize if my words seem all over the place because when it cones to new experiences I’m still finding myself, but I hope my experiences still assist someone and I’ll try my best to respond here every so often, ngl I feel a bit of pressure now 😅 hehe
how dare youtube hide this from me for 8 minutes guys why are you all spamming when you all got the video in your fyp? I'm literally getting so many notifications🤯
i actually heard the same analogy of the golf ball, but with a plane....if you change the plane only one degree of its destination, i will end up at a completely different place. thank you for this amazing video amy! continue being awesome!! 💜🦋
Finally fitting in the age!!! 🧡✨ 1 stop trying to fit in the "cool" Factor that is set by others, make a shift of your mindset and reframe your own kind of cool! 2 playing organized sports If not sports engage in something outside of school that requires commitment from your side 3 soft skills( communication ,patience ,persuasion, etc) >>>>Hard skills (math, coding, etc) 4 Don't do extra self improvement, like don't overthink too much in this topic just following the things mentioned in the video could help alot in the long run! Ps: its cool to hear that you are confident about the application, Go girl! 💅
Being in a organized team is really sooo lifechanging! I'm in a stage-acting group and it not only turned my life, but me as a person around for the better. Acting helped me gain confidence and discover my love for dancing. My group even got praise by a known actor in my area!
We're kinda have the same experience here... I'm in my school band and often have practices after school Like amy said, you need to be early to do stretches and laps if you're doing sports... For musicians like me, we also need to be early to tune our instruments and set up the electronics Playing wind instruments also helped me a lot because it teaches you to control your breath. It also helped me to be in control of my emotions(especially on stage) because the note would sound weird if you're anxious(e.g. over-biting your instrument and shaky breath)
Omg yes! I have a similar experience as well! I have been taking musical theatre (dancing, singing and acting) and it is amazing how much you are willing to happily dedicate to your group/team. I love going to the course and am gaining confidence and doing something that truly makes me happy while improving myself.
This video was so convenient for me since I’m 13 about to turn 14. I’ve been struggling with these things especially extra self improvement, but this video taught me a more efficient way to go about this so that I excel as a teen such as prioritizing, studying, learning important skills, and to be more formidable instead of letting my development go to waste. It’s so nice to have someone so successful giving advice on things many people have problems with. With that said I love you and your videos and I wish you the best for your future with you and your content. :D⭐️!!!
I also did the extra self-improvement too. I'm in your age range too, lol. Anyways, I believe in you and I'll pray for your journey! Change is a slow process, haha, since I've only started a month ago (July 7th).
this is actul good advice unlike some other influencers just saying some basic stuff that will not help u at all. u support me to get out of bed everyday
Hehe I truly spend a loooot of time thinking through what I want to share with you, so thanks so much for your kind words ❤ You especially cool when you're not in bed :D
god, what would we do without you. your content is the ONLY type on this platform that actually works long-term, and actually explains HOW to start doing things, instead of just telling people to do things. I've watched TWO of your videos and already I am so hyped for the school year, and am picking up good habits, and throwing the bad habits away. from the bottom of my heart, thank you amy
I'm going to turn 18 next year, to be honest i'm struggling with wanting to be fit in but still feeling be and odd in the friend group. Thank you Amy for this video, I'll try changing my mindset, hope with such a little time I have left, it will pay off one day 😭
Omg i did it i set myself to watch this whole video without going to the comments or scrolling at other videos or seeing how much tike is left and i succeeded!! This is the first step in my re-building my attention span journey. Thanks for the tips in the video girlie!!!
5:56 I agree! I'm 14 and people verbally tell me how to fit in but at the same time admire my grades and discipline so I feel happier choosing myself, not what my peers tell me to do. Ofc sometimes these things align but it's rare. e. g. My classmates don't understand why I don't have social media, and I don't personally want it, so I don't download it so I can be seen as 'cool'.
I'm going to be a senior in high school in the fall, and for some reason all my adult relatives want to know if I'm going to start drinking soon. One time this summer, I had a sore throat and was making tea with honey and my grandmother asked if I would rather have some wine 😆 humans are so weird
I am a middle child. When i was born, everyone is paying attention to my newborn sister. Both of my sisters outshine me in every single thing im proud of. I joined a sport just to try to be good at something. My mom forces me to go with my sister. And all of the attention, the praises, compliments, it all only directed to my sister. Im so sick of doing it while everyone is just “good job ___” “you are doing well ____!” while i was never once looked at. Not just that, im sick for always only being the “funny” friend. Everyone makes jokes at me and never treat me like im a human. I crave attention. I crave being respected. I want to be loved, i want to be good at something. There’s nothing about myself that i am proud of. Both of my sisters already have a boyfriend, they have good friends too. While i need to sacrifice my blood sweat and tears just to have one friend or a boy to look at my direction. I wish i can be positive, but everyday is like a reminder on how unlucky my whole life is, even if i tried to stay positive. I tried taking pills, doing workouts, and doing everything i can to distract myself and make me a better person, but i dont know. Its getting really tiring. I just want to be loved, i just want to have attention. I just want people to stop looking at me like im a joke. thats why i tried everything i can to fit in I dont know who to tell this to i just dont know
Hey, I guess we are sort of around the same age, but even if not, I can at least try to give some advice eh? I get what you're talking about. I feel the exact same way so don't feel like you're alone. I have two siblings too, you know, and my little sister surpasses me in everything I've ever been good at. You know, language skills, drawing, literally anything. I try to tell myself that I shouldn't be mad or jealous because that's just how they things are, the newer generation will always surpass the older one. Well, that mindset did not work for me. So here's what I'm doing now. As hard as it sounds, I'd suggest you try to not focus on being better. I get what you crave and this is just being human, but I don't think you'll get it by forcing it. You shouldn't do a sport to be better, you should do it because you want to. You shouldn't try to surpass your siblings, you should focus on what you want and what you strive to achieve. Sounds dumb, I know. I myself am still struggling with that. But I firmly believe that if you do what you want to do, you'll get what you're craving for. Because if I change my point of view, I'd be much more drawn to a person who follows their own desires and dreams instead of trying to fit in, like she said in the video. Most importantly, you don't have to do what I've said here because that would be a contradiction again. You should do, what you think is right and feels good to you. Just one more thing, you really aren't alone. It's a tough journey. For all of us, life's never easy. But if you keep on being yourself, I'm sure you'll find everything you crave for. I believe in you. Please don't give up. You're awesome
@@Masklzve thank you so much you really made my day :'( I actually started sport because I really like it, I lose my motivation because of how unfair the coach is to me I didn't expect someone would care enough to write an entire paragraph for me, so TYSM ANGEL, I hope you have the besttttest life ever
@@k_krabco9562 aww, no worries! I'm glad I could at least cheer you up a little. Might sound dumb but if you ever need something just reply to this comment kkk Anyways, hope you have a good night/day (And respectfully, damn that coach)
hi! im a middle child too and i feel like im the one who gets the blame for eveyrthing, but this isn't about me. i just wanted to say that you're not alone and plenty of people feel the same! as much as it is unfair, i can try to help you find some ways to make you feel better. first of all, im not sure how's ur relationship with your parents but try telling them how you feel? just tell them that you don't feel heard. they're your parents they care, and if they dont (which i highly doubt) then you did not lose anything. also as you mentioned you're called the "funny" friend, how about if somebody calls you that, try saying something. don't be silent. say that you have way more than that and just anything to make them take back what they said. if not, you need new friends girl. anwyays my advice is also starting new hobbies! this helped sooo much. since your sport isn't working out since you're w ur sister, again, ask your parents to switch. orrrr you could try another hobby! like drawing or an instrument. something just for YOU. i hope this helped i’m really sorry if not. best of luck!
Thank you! ❤ Ever since June, I've been struggling because my "friends" told me a lot of cruel things and then kicked me out of the group. I decided that I wanted to be better than them and improve myself. They always made me believe that I had no value and no self-worth. But I deserve to know my value and my self-worth because I AM important. So now, about two months later I work out and I'm still learning to grow. Self improvement takes time, and right now that's all I have. Bye Stranger❤
Then they weren’t your friends, and you didn’t need them anyway. If a “friend” says cruel things to you, they’re bullies. You need to find better friends. I know because I can relate. I was friends with mean girls who would bully nerds, and I simply decided their vibes suck and I don’t want to surround myself with negative energy anymore. So I broke apart and left. I currently found a decent friend group with positive energy I can happily associate with. And if I can, you can too! You can do it :) I wasn’t invited anywhere either, I was kicked out of groups, excluded from conversations, and it sucked. Hope it gets better for you!
Hi, Amy Last year I spent my holidays watching videos on how to be the best version of yourself. At the end of the holidays I decided to start taking action. It's been worse and better, but I don't regret it. I still have a lot to work on, but I'm proud of myself. I understood many things on my own without the help of others. Now I enjoy what I have and continue to take care of myself. sometimes I refuse to talk to my friends at night, but sometimes I also allow myself to do it. I feel better every time I watch your videos, and especially when I understand what you're saying. Thanks Amy! ❤
The thing about extra self improvement is so true because I always see some people my age or even younger going to gym, spending so much on skincare and makeup and many stuffs (those aren't bad but coming from a middle class family i am not used to those so i always feel about how i don't look like them or maybe if i could have a lil skincare i would be pretty) but then i realise that there were and are a lot of people who don't do those and theyre still growing and are doing great and i still consider them so pretty and kind so yeah i don't think i need those untill i grow up and earn myself and spend on my body. For now, eating healthy, sleeping well, staying clean and moving more are all i need to be healthy and happy.
Thank You Amy❤I can't tell you how much badly I needed this!! These days I constantly felt guilt caz I didn't followed the extra "self improvement" tasks. Now I know that my main motive at this age is too just be happy with what I have and make the most with this.
The one about organized sports is SO true. Out of all my friends, two particular ones really inspire me because of their organization, their stamina and their determination. Both play softball and volleyball and have done martial arts, they are the best under pressure and have amazing communication skills.
I’m 13 years old, and I am SO GLAD I watched this in eight grade before high school. You just changed my whole perception of life. Thank you so much for being such an inspirational and wise big sister! ❤😢
I needed to hear this rn😭✋🏼 lately I’ve been thinking that i was the problem for the lack of friendships that i have, but i realized that they are just too much different from me and have other “goals”. I feel lonely at times but i think this is for the better
oh my god me too, and if ur name is Malak then hey name twin ❤ i too am pretty lonely and struggle finding friends who share the same passions as me, as time goes on the distant friends leaves and new ones will come too, cheers to us as we will eventually and definitely find our people 🫶🙏💘
Where were you in my teenage years. The genuine advice I am getting now after 10 years of my teenage years . But I think it's alright, this video is still relatable. Thankyou for sharing❤❤❤
I really wanted to cry when you talked about extra caring about self improvement , these days there is a really big pressure on teenagers , thank you Amy it really made me breath freely .
This is an AMAZING video and the fact that you put months in the working makes it better. Since I’ve watched this video I have been feeling super pressured with myself and sometimes I think I’m not good enough because I’m not doing what I’m “supposed” to do, I’ve pressured myself so much that most of the time I feel worthless and unworthy of having what I have because I’m doing things wrong and that I have to be better, every day I have woken up and lifted myself to do the things that I have set for myself, right now it’s almost 3:00 am and I’m commenting on this video because these past few days have been awful, I try to pressure myself even MORE to get up and even eat something but I just don’t have the energy and I feel like I’m a mistake because I can’t do anything okay and I’m just having a bad time. Sorry for my exaggeration, I’m just trying to share my experience with other people to see if this has happened to someone else.
To anyone reading this who has ever felt disheartened and confused, hurt or lost...you are not alone. You are surrounded by countless multitudes of people everywhere who are just like you. Just like us. But you don't have to stay confused or lost or in pain. We might forget this sometimes - or may not know it at all. But there is nothing in your life, no matter how difficult or painful, that cannot be turned into something very beautiful. So please, have lots of hope
i am 13 and i am so happy to find this video, i cant thank her enough for changing my perspective this much. i am finding this video 19 days later it is released and i realized it released on my birthday! like as if its meant to be.
Yes, I think that each of us would like to know what our classmates who think we are not cool say for us, but it is obvious that we will never learn it.
I am a girl and I am going to go to 8th grade I had no motivation but I thought I needed it I opened Pinterest for that and yah I got motivation for a limited time and then again I was at my crying stage a stage of confusion and worry and etc so I just came across ur videos and I got the everlasting motivation and u have all the answers to my questions and the best advice and at last, I just wanna say thank you from the bottom of my heart (me crying now)
@@wamyy5 No problem. I actually got a feeling to share this problem and thank u for ur hard work for us. as u have helped me a lot there may be many people out there thanking u for ur work but really. thank u!😢
I will turn 13 soon so I am SO glad I got this on my FYP. Thank you for this advice. Middle school has been a new experience and this will help me get through it.💖
I'm soon bout to leave for my first time in college, this really helped to remind me that i don't need to immediately try making new friends and do things even if i don't like just to fit in. Which is something ive been stressing the most of, not having friends. Real good friends will pop up eventually just by being your authentic self :]
In my previous year of school, my classmates did not like my english teacher at all. I on the other hand respected him because he really wasnt a bad teacher in my opinion, he was genuinely a fun teacher who was striving to make his lessons more fun by making us do presentations, play games every once in a while etc and not just pile work on us and expect us to finish it the next day. when the second semester rolled around i was the only one who who got full marks in his class. side note english is not my first language i moved to the west when i was 7 y/o with absolutely no english in my dictionary, most of the people in my class that year have english as their first language and i still managed to get the highest grade in my class. This is why i heavily agree with what you said at 4:43
I talked abt this in your last video i believe but here it is again i am turning 18 in almost 16 days and i agree with everything you said - one of the things i am super proud of is that no matter what i was always very authentic to who i was/am it's never worth it to change yourself to fit in whether you are 13 or 31 its important to realize that if you aim to be like anyone else you're still going to be the 2nd best at being like that person. there's only one you, remember that and try to make yourself a better version of YOU instead of the current version of someone else - another advice id give is guys pursue your passions and goals and work hard towards them trust me you'll never regret it as in my opinion everything in life leads you to another important thing. same goes for bad experiences, every bad thing that has happened to me has taught me something and made me a better person. this does not mean you should just let bad things happen to you but understand that there are no ups without downs and its always best to learn from them instead of letting those things destroy you i wish you guys best of luck however old you are, have a wonderful day and life
I saw the notification as soon as you uploaded the video but then I challenged myself to complete my study goal and then watch the vid as a reward :) I ABSOLUTELY love how your videos are straight to the point, keep up the good work amy!
I take this into my daily routine to watch it everyday as an affirmation to remind me to stop scrolling, hardworking and stop trying to fit it Edit: Let’s see how many days I can do without scrolling or useless videos Day 2 - 🎉 Yay Day 3 - It’s evening and I forgot to watch, realizing that I haven’t scroll yet but I still spend lots of time on useless video today, I have math next, see u tomorrow (sorry) Day 4 - 🎉 I’m here again, I know that my screen time today will go as my mindset Day 5 - 🎉 Yay, I’m here, I love you video Amy, I’m in summer break and it feels so good to hit the golf ball in the best angle I can do now Day 6 - 🎉 I wake up a little late today so I decided to cut out ALL dead times today, this video never feel old, it’s a good day starting video Day 7 - 🎉 The key information in the video sink in my head and they help me adapt them to my life, you guys wanna do a “lesser scrolling” challenge in the reply? ❤❤❤ Day 8 - After 3 days long vacation, just join audition for lead role in school musical, this summer is not just for studying and relaxing now! Day 9 - 🎉 The words in this video sink inside my brains and it become more real and settled than the first day. I make a 30 days challenge with my dad to not play Yt shorts / FB for dad Day 10 - 🎉 The audition got nearer, I’m nervous scaring to not get the expected role. But the part “Your hard work will pay off” motivates me to study and vocal train no matter what distract me Day 11 - 🎉 Yay again Day 12 - A whole day without watching shorts and useless video. This is easy Day 13 - 🎉 The school has opened and I’m kinda sick (sore throat) this time, see y’a later Day 14 - 🎉 This is after school start, I’m feeling so hard about fitting in. My best friend is on TikTok all the time and I don’t know how to handle relationship. The mean popular girls get to the new kids and that makes them don’t care about me. It’s hard but I’ll promise my self that “I’ll do what gives me highest long term advantage, you do you, I do me”
I've always been insecure of my love for my sports and I felt like I wasn't as connected as much with others yet seeing this video and realizing I've learned how to work in a team, mange time and schedule, and learn to devote time and work into things making me more advance in certain situations like I wouldn't be as stressed in certain situations my other classmates are in. I became much more ambitious and hard-working in sports, job, and school and I didn't realize this until this video, thank you so much.
I’m a thirteen year old girl this video has helped me so much with how I feel about things especially the extra self improvement. I always stress my self with all these extra things I want to do when I should just relax and enjoy life. Thank you so much for
I am14 years old. i joined a new school, where i have the feeling of being "left out" .The people who say many good things about me and make their temporary bestie betray me at last saying i was back bitching about their friends. For this incident i felt soo bad and after watching this video i feel much confident and feel that sitting alone being the new girl, studying will all be worth it one day...... thankyou so much for this video it really helps!🥰
Thanks Amy i really need it... Bcz everyone in school is saying enjoyy it's time to enjoyy but I'm try to becoming super productive. But This Video Is Gonna Help Me lot...
relating sports, I'm really REALLY passionate about sports, but the only thing that stopping me is academies cost.. its really really expensive my family can't afford it :( i literally tried gymnast as a kid and it did work.. but now i want some sport that has teams, such as volleyball (its pretty fun!) but this is the only problem thats stopping me :( i wish i can get into some academy.. the competitions etc ;(
Thanks to u big sister a lot. i always wanted to fit in amoung those students as i had no friends in school and my classmates always ignored me . and yesterday i almost cried because of this as i couldn't take it anymore . but.... thanks to god to give me this vid and to you to explain me in such a beautiful manner. Now i personally feel confident and i think i can stand out alone. Again thanks to you a lot....
I'm a teenager girl who has really much pressure about studies and everything.. I'm currently suffering from family problems that is too much i can't even handle and every single person gives me feeling of being left out but i managed to being alone and i feel much better in alone i passed my last 4 years in depression and now i just don't care about anyone that is what helping me to stood for myself and being very practical I'm just really lost about my goals and i don't have anyone...🙁 I'm the one who is being there for everyone...and lefted being alone.
@@Naina_.lv._Error hey, I'm sorry to hear that. I can relate to you though, we should be around the same age, so believe me when I say you're not alone. You know, family problems is sadly something everybody has to go through at least once in their life. And as discouraging that feels, it is also a chance to grow. Of course I don't know your personal situating but I don't think I need to, because of regardless what's going on, you deserve to be cared and looked out for as well. You said you're always the one being there for people right? Well, maybe try to reach out to one of them or literally anyone. The fact that you shared this here is already a step forward, even if small. It might seem scary, but telling anyone your feelings, even if it's just your diary, can ease your mind. For me personally, writing my thoughts and problems down helps me, but it's different for everybody! Maybe you like expressing yourself through art, playing a sport (as it's said in the video) or play an instrument, there are so many creative ways to get rid of those thoughts. You don't have to be alone you know? After all, we're all underneath the same sky and as you might've seen in this comment section, there are many people with similar situations to yours. So, don't be scared and reach out if you feel like you can't handle it alone. I believe in you!
@@Masklzve oh thank you 🥹 I didn't thought no one would read my comment but u did thank u so much I'm a 16 years old who has many problems to face with.. I'm sorry that u can relate with me too🥲
@@Naina_.lv._Erroryeah, but that just means we can try to get better right? It feels kinda nice to know we're around the same age and struggle with similar things, so at leats we're not alone no? I hope you'll be okay.
thank you sooo much . im 15 ryt now and not only am i failing my subjects but also in my social skills and the fact that my dream of hosting a charity event is sooo far away but now i have some closure .
im a 16 years old girl, it's already 3 years ago that my best friend was leaving my school, i felt really lonely. I jus wanted to do things alone all the time and focus on school. I started to just isolate myself from others because my heart couldn't take it anymore, I couldn't trust anyone in my inverionment, they deceived me so many times. I felt so insecure because of everything what those people said to me, so i started working out a lot, listening to music also helped, i just wanted to disappear from the world. I always try my best at everything but sometimes i need to rest. Now, I started to say also more no to people :) and they don't like it. I want to just restart my life again and just be anywhere but not home, home isn't the right term. My dream is to travel, i wanted to start as soon as possibe to just go away from home and discover this beautiful earth. My dad said it wasn't possible to start travelling at 18 cause i need to study. I was dissapointed for sure but idk if i can live like this longer, my heart is going to explode, I still try but it's hard. But what people don't understand is that, I like being alone cause I feel happier alone:)
Hi Amy! I'm starting highschool in a few days and when I look at the classes it looks so much harder than middle school ever was, but everytime I think about how hard it is I think of two people- My mom, because I want to make her proud, and you, because everytime I think about school work i remember your advice and I hope one day I can be a very good student and have a fullfilling life.
Hi Amy. I’m so disappointed that RUclips hasn’t recommended your channel to me until now. This video has been so inspirational to me, and I really relate to the struggles you talk about in it. I’m only 12, and now hyped to be the best version of myself in my teenage years. Thank you so much ❤
I am turning 13 next year and since all those things with the quarantine in 2020, I started to be addicted to my phone and I just noticed now. I lost some years of my childhood (even if I still have some). Since 2020 I started to get more and more insecure with time and things. I thought "Oh if you don't study enough they will make fun of you and your grade!" (It's because actually this happen to one of my classmates) so I started to lose confidence in myself and trying to blend in with everyone while not caring enough about myself. I was always left out and I am still but since I am starting a new year of school I want to be stronger and more confident now so in the future I will be the best version I will be and try to build myself. Your podcasts really inspired me and your videos. I know you probably won't see this comment but you really changed my life. I am happy that I got off my phone now more (my screen time was way too big since I thought "Oh it must be cool to spend hours on your phone, that's what teenagers do, no? ") and from that some years of my life was just wasted by technology at such a young age. I know this is also part of my fault because yea I could try to not use my phone that much and focus on myself but people always tend to not notice their mistakes till it's too late. I am inspired by your video, Amy and again thank you for making such inspirational videos and helping. Keep it up!
Amy I am an Indian and you know in India looks generally doesnt matter that much at least in my school and we 16 to 18 year old are much pressurised by our college entrance exams and thats why I havent been subjected to this I wanted to fit in mindset maybe its because I dont naturally care about it 😅 but yeah for now I am more of a student focused on career but still will watch this full video and will learn and take these tips by heart thankyou❤❤ 1 minute into video and you know what that angle thing I have read it in atomic habits were you also inspired by that book ( well its very nice book about habit building )
This video came to me when i was crying struggling about my differences with the people in my social life and when the video ended i am actually smiling with confidence and satisfaction of who i am
Hey, i'm 13 and you really inspired me with this video. It's really helpful hearing your words. You really have opened my eyes. I really wanna thank you for that because i was getting off course. I have many dreams and goals i'av made for the future. So thank you for reminding me of what's important. Bro this almost made me cry😁 in a good way tho
My high school years are just around the corner and I'm so ready to use all this good advice because middle school years were too stressful for me. Thanks for making this video:) ❤
I remembre when I was like, 10, my biggest dream was to get into Caltech, and when I started talking about it with people around me, nobody seems to know it. So it's crazy for me how I just landed on this video. When I heard Caltech my brain just twitched ! You're great, I know how hard it is to get there !
Hi Amy I just wanted to let you know that I love you and your videos you are motivating me and leading me to a great success in my life I love your content and I’m sure that you will continue your journey with the best way possible ❤❤❤love from India
8:49 I always wanted to do sports but I have very bad skins problems which makes it difficult- due to the fact that I actually can’t sweat. I could walk for only 2 minutes and I’d already be exhausted, the fact that I stay in my room all day isn’t helping either 😭 if anyone has advice for me I’d appreciate it because I really want to do sports but it’s not easy for me due to these problems
Maybe you could try a hobby that does take some practice and if you really like that hobby it might push you to try harder and get better I hope that this helps you and don’t forget to drink water
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Hey Amy I just found your channel and it’s already helped me. I start school in a week and I’ve needed some tips so tysm for all your love, support, and tips!❤
Thank you but my parents are not allowing to play sports or join any class😢
Wow you so beautiful.
I'm glad I found this video. A friend recommended your channel and I think it's gonna rly help me this year. (I also am in math club and do competitions like math counts, so finding someone else online who does that is rly cool)
Hey, is your podcast available on Deezer? I couldn't find it. If it's not, do you think you could put it there? It would be awesome. And by the way, thanks for this video, it was really helpful ❤
There is a quote I really love
"You can't blend in when you were born to stand out "
I love that ❤!!
Love it!! 🫶
That really hits home ❤
Is that from the book ''Wonder''? I also like that book
@@Yuris-Starsthat surely is ...thats one of my fav books
I love how Amy can brag so easily without sounding cocky and instead being an inspirational big sister to us all. what a gift 😭
also, reframing your MIND is so much more important than reframing your ACTIONS. your mindset literally translates into what you do, so watching videos that tell you what to DO rather than how to THINK should only come after you master the ability to COACH YOURSELF. tysmmm amy
Thanks for your kind words, Hazel! I'm so glad you say that because sometimes I worry when I say my achievements, but saying them is really just to inspire you all! :)
EXACTLYY
@@wamyy5you’re my best friend Amy I really like you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@@wamyy5you’re very pretty
I dont want to fit in, i just want someone to speak with during freetime between class.
this is so real
bruh true. school is already a torture, fiting in will only make it worse. we just need some to chitchat on the free times, and on lunch D': where are them ppl?!
yall are speaking FACTS 😞 as a 14 y/o who just started highschool last week, i’ve been desperately trying to find ppl i recognize during break/lunchtimes just so i can have SOMEONE to hang out with and not look lonely but it seems like everyone in my grade already knows each other 😭 like hows it so easy for them??
Fr I just happen to be the substitute friend with this girl but whenever she was near anyone in her friend group she would ignore me. And then I’m friends with this weird kid but being friends with him has prevented me from making any other friends because people ostracize him 😭
@@kasacchiithis is literally my exact situation except I turned 15 a month ago
School phsycologist - ❎
Amy - ✅
Oh God,school physiologists are awful😢😢😢
@@Yalda-om1lg I know 😐
@@Yalda-om1lg they just don't help ...
@@alexandra-p5y my school physicalogist is mad 😠, although I'm in the best school in my city 😐
The angle A ..angle B visual with the golf ball ..really hits home!!
As a golf player so true lmaooo
Haha really *hits* home - idk if that was meant to be a pun, but nice one 😁
@@wamyy5 I didn’t even see it 😑
Can we just appreciate everything this wonderful individual does for us? The fact that she's spent months creating A FREE video to help teens as well as juggling a very busy academic life is truly inspirational. Thanks Amy!
Thank you so so much for recognizing my efforts 🥹 I truly spend such long periods of time thinking through my experiences deeply and learning wisdom for each video. Really happy to see my efforts are paying off. I appreciate you Tali!
its free for us she gets pain but it doesnt take away her hard workshe's an amazing person for sure
“Im never peeking, I’m always growing”
-Amy Wang
The most inspiring quote I’ve heard
Henlo, I'm 14 yrs old, going into high school this year in a week. The meltdowns and panic I've felt had been more frequent than I would prefer. And the funny thing is I always blame it on myself, saying that my procrastination is hurting me. And in truth it is, I have no excuse for being a failure, for being average when I know I can be so much better. Watching this video, I hope I can change everything, that I can be a new person who truly wants something good for themselves. In school, everywhere I look I see people running in a race, in a competition to get higher and better than everyone else when really all I need is to be the best I can be. I hope it will work, that I'll change somehow. With hard work but I make no promises. I hope in a few months time I can return to this place and write of my success. Only time will tell.
Signed : A Lost Soul
Edit#1: Henlo, this is entry 2 of my personal journey. Only yesterday was my first day of school, when I woke up it felt like my heart had frozen overnight and was left in the darkest abyss, light could not reach it, my doubts had clouded too much… I forced myself off the bed and fast forward onto the bus. On the bus, I suppose my luck had finally changed as someone I knew was there saving me the trouble and embarrassment of finding a seat, usually I’d sit alone with ny thoughts swarming around my head but a change felt nice. But still, talking seemed draining and I wasn’t sure where to begin, but taking a deep breath, I told her what I felt about the first day, how I was scared and felt so small… I didn’t know how she’d react but after listening she broke too and told me what I’d told her. I guess I wasn’t the only one who was beyond nervous… We started talking about things beyond school and some may wonder “How did I just start talking when I’m such an introvert?” Well what I usually try to do is channel that extroverted energy I have when I’m in a group of friends who appreciate and accept me, that feeling of being the loud crazy self I am inside felt fulfulling, it felr good to laugh weird and make cringe jokes because thats who I am. So despite being terrified, I took a deep breath and shoved my extroverted side out the door, imagining I was just talking to another friend. And the rest of the day I continued to do the same thing, and in each class I found people responded well to me being myself at core, even those in grades higher than me! After the day I felt exhausted and I immediately thought the day had gone miserably due to my doubts about friends, and future, and academics. But when I sat down with myself and looked up at the sky, I recounted all the experiences of the day, and somewhere inside I felt like something had gone well. And today I continued to channel my true self when I found appropriate, when talking to new people and teachers, and while my hands still shook and my heart jumped up and down, when I was my positive self, telling myself I can do this it made things change. Truly having the right mindset changed a lot, Ive seen plenty of back to school videos that tell you about mindset but often I get confused, “Ok I understand but how am I supposed to change in myself?” Well what worked for me was channeling my best self, not the person who OTHERS thought was amazing but the person I thought was amazing, and that was the person who took regular classes so she wouldn’t be overwhelmed and be happy instead, that was the girl who showed everyone her extroverted side because she wanted to make others feel welcomed and feel appreciated like I had when someone talked to me. After knowing who I wanted to be I always made sure to think, is this happiest version of me? And if it were I would take that person and put her forward, pushing my quieter side that I appreciated but wanted to change towards the back seat. And guys if I’m being honest, I didn’t expect anyone to respond to my comment or even see it, I wrote it one day thinking that I have to say something, perhaps it will help someone else… and now it kind of has! So I apologize if my words seem all over the place because when it cones to new experiences I’m still finding myself, but I hope my experiences still assist someone and I’ll try my best to respond here every so often, ngl I feel a bit of pressure now 😅 hehe
goodluck!!! ^_^
Girl I am 14 years and everything you said is very relatable to me Iam glad that iam not alone
Good luck with everything, you got this :)
Good luck! You're gonna do great in highschool and in the future 💖
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how dare youtube hide this from me for 8 minutes
guys why are you all spamming when you all got the video in your fyp? I'm literally getting so many notifications🤯
yt hide this from me for 51 mins
Yt hide this from me for 56 min
2hrs for me 😭
@@marakathrynsame 😭✋
How dare RUclips hide this from me for three hours.
i actually heard the same analogy of the golf ball, but with a plane....if you change the plane only one degree of its destination, i will end up at a completely different place. thank you for this amazing video amy! continue being awesome!! 💜🦋
Ooooh right, I heard that before too! :D thank YOU!
I think I've read it in a book 'Atomic Habits'... I may be wrong tho
@@pravinfusate6704 yup you’re right, the New York and Washington analogy I believe?
Finally fitting in the age!!! 🧡✨
1 stop trying to fit in the "cool" Factor that is set by others, make a shift of your mindset and reframe your own kind of cool!
2 playing organized sports
If not sports engage in something outside of school that requires commitment from your side
3 soft skills( communication ,patience ,persuasion, etc) >>>>Hard skills (math, coding, etc)
4 Don't do extra self improvement, like don't overthink too much in this topic just following the things mentioned in the video could help alot in the long run!
Ps: its cool to hear that you are confident about the application, Go girl! 💅
Me too
@@GirlsSoultalk 13-18 yr old gang 💅
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tysm ❤️
this girl deserves so many more subscribers she is such a wise person
Exactly!
that's what I was thinking!
Being in a organized team is really sooo lifechanging! I'm in a stage-acting group and it not only turned my life, but me as a person around for the better.
Acting helped me gain confidence and discover my love for dancing. My group even got praise by a known actor in my area!
YES! That's exactly the type of thing I'm talking about. So amazing of you and thanks for sharing your incredible experience!
We're kinda have the same experience here... I'm in my school band and often have practices after school
Like amy said, you need to be early to do stretches and laps if you're doing sports... For musicians like me, we also need to be early to tune our instruments and set up the electronics
Playing wind instruments also helped me a lot because it teaches you to control your breath. It also helped me to be in control of my emotions(especially on stage) because the note would sound weird if you're anxious(e.g. over-biting your instrument and shaky breath)
Omg yes! I have a similar experience as well! I have been taking musical theatre (dancing, singing and acting) and it is amazing how much you are willing to happily dedicate to your group/team. I love going to the course and am gaining confidence and doing something that truly makes me happy while improving myself.
Wow! How did you guys join your stage groups?
@@kofabillion I heard it from a friend, tried it and loved it!
This video was so convenient for me since I’m 13 about to turn 14. I’ve been struggling with these things especially extra self improvement, but this video taught me a more efficient way to go about this so that I excel as a teen such as prioritizing, studying, learning important skills, and to be more formidable instead of letting my development go to waste. It’s so nice to have someone so successful giving advice on things many people have problems with. With that said I love you and your videos and I wish you the best for your future with you and your content. :D⭐️!!!
I also did the extra self-improvement too. I'm in your age range too, lol. Anyways, I believe in you and I'll pray for your journey! Change is a slow process, haha, since I've only started a month ago (July 7th).
I am also 13 about to turn 14!
If you guys don’t mind, can you explain what she meant by extra self improvement? I’m also your age.
@@AyuPlus extra self improvement meant like pressuring yourself to be more. It's like unrealistic standards for yourself.
this is actul good advice unlike some other influencers just saying some basic stuff that will not help u at all. u support me to get out of bed everyday
Hehe I truly spend a loooot of time thinking through what I want to share with you, so thanks so much for your kind words ❤ You especially cool when you're not in bed :D
god, what would we do without you. your content is the ONLY type on this platform that actually works long-term, and actually explains HOW to start doing things, instead of just telling people to do things. I've watched TWO of your videos and already I am so hyped for the school year, and am picking up good habits, and throwing the bad habits away. from the bottom of my heart, thank you amy
Cause she has done them herself her whole life! Advice that comes from someone that doesnt do it might not last too long
@@orwahs6275 yeah… im aware of that…
I'm going to turn 18 next year, to be honest i'm struggling with wanting to be fit in but still feeling be and odd in the friend group. Thank you Amy for this video, I'll try changing my mindset, hope with such a little time I have left, it will pay off one day 😭
18 is still a child, so is further. these insights are always helpful, hope you'll be very happy with your love❤❤
@@ЯЧеловек-ю8ы thank you very much, you're so kind 🥺❤️🩹
@@ЯЧеловек-ю8ы I see 18 as an adult. I turned 17 last month and It feel like I’m too old now
4 key points (thank u so much AMY!!
Gurl I am copying this ty
Omg i did it i set myself to watch this whole video without going to the comments or scrolling at other videos or seeing how much tike is left and i succeeded!! This is the first step in my re-building my attention span journey.
Thanks for the tips in the video girlie!!!
5:56 I agree! I'm 14 and people verbally tell me how to fit in but at the same time admire my grades and discipline so I feel happier choosing myself, not what my peers tell me to do. Ofc sometimes these things align but it's rare. e. g. My classmates don't understand why I don't have social media, and I don't personally want it, so I don't download it so I can be seen as 'cool'.
Right?? Social media is just another thing I’d end up addicted to, so I refuse to download it no matter what my peers are doing
I'm going to be a senior in high school in the fall, and for some reason all my adult relatives want to know if I'm going to start drinking soon. One time this summer, I had a sore throat and was making tea with honey and my grandmother asked if I would rather have some wine 😆 humans are so weird
no way! czech?
@@TheoSur Jo! Jsi/jste taky z Česka?
@@LaurensHamstersRUclips isa social media but ok
I am a middle child. When i was born, everyone is paying attention to my newborn sister. Both of my sisters outshine me in every single thing im proud of. I joined a sport just to try to be good at something. My mom forces me to go with my sister. And all of the attention, the praises, compliments, it all only directed to my sister. Im so sick of doing it while everyone is just “good job ___” “you are doing well ____!” while i was never once looked at. Not just that, im sick for always only being the “funny” friend. Everyone makes jokes at me and never treat me like im a human. I crave attention. I crave being respected. I want to be loved, i want to be good at something. There’s nothing about myself that i am proud of. Both of my sisters already have a boyfriend, they have good friends too. While i need to sacrifice my blood sweat and tears just to have one friend or a boy to look at my direction. I wish i can be positive, but everyday is like a reminder on how unlucky my whole life is, even if i tried to stay positive. I tried taking pills, doing workouts, and doing everything i can to distract myself and make me a better person, but i dont know. Its getting really tiring. I just want to be loved, i just want to have attention. I just want people to stop looking at me like im a joke. thats why i tried everything i can to fit in
I dont know who to tell this to i just dont know
Hey, I guess we are sort of around the same age, but even if not, I can at least try to give some advice eh? I get what you're talking about. I feel the exact same way so don't feel like you're alone. I have two siblings too, you know, and my little sister surpasses me in everything I've ever been good at. You know, language skills, drawing, literally anything. I try to tell myself that I shouldn't be mad or jealous because that's just how they things are, the newer generation will always surpass the older one.
Well, that mindset did not work for me. So here's what I'm doing now. As hard as it sounds, I'd suggest you try to not focus on being better. I get what you crave and this is just being human, but I don't think you'll get it by forcing it. You shouldn't do a sport to be better, you should do it because you want to. You shouldn't try to surpass your siblings, you should focus on what you want and what you strive to achieve. Sounds dumb, I know. I myself am still struggling with that. But I firmly believe that if you do what you want to do, you'll get what you're craving for. Because if I change my point of view, I'd be much more drawn to a person who follows their own desires and dreams instead of trying to fit in, like she said in the video.
Most importantly, you don't have to do what I've said here because that would be a contradiction again. You should do, what you think is right and feels good to you. Just one more thing, you really aren't alone. It's a tough journey. For all of us, life's never easy. But if you keep on being yourself, I'm sure you'll find everything you crave for. I believe in you. Please don't give up. You're awesome
@@Masklzve thank you so much you really made my day :'( I actually started sport because I really like it, I lose my motivation because of how unfair the coach is to me
I didn't expect someone would care enough to write an entire paragraph for me, so TYSM ANGEL, I hope you have the besttttest life ever
@@k_krabco9562 aww, no worries! I'm glad I could at least cheer you up a little. Might sound dumb but if you ever need something just reply to this comment kkk
Anyways, hope you have a good night/day
(And respectfully, damn that coach)
Hey girly,I am really sorry,but do you have insta?I would love to give you some advices:)
hi! im a middle child too and i feel like im the one who gets the blame for eveyrthing, but this isn't about me. i just wanted to say that you're not alone and plenty of people feel the same! as much as it is unfair, i can try to help you find some ways to make you feel better. first of all, im not sure how's ur relationship with your parents but try telling them how you feel? just tell them that you don't feel heard. they're your parents they care, and if they dont (which i highly doubt) then you did not lose anything. also as you mentioned you're called the "funny" friend, how about if somebody calls you that, try saying something. don't be silent. say that you have way more than that and just anything to make them take back what they said. if not, you need new friends girl. anwyays my advice is also starting new hobbies! this helped sooo much. since your sport isn't working out since you're w ur sister, again, ask your parents to switch. orrrr you could try another hobby! like drawing or an instrument. something just for YOU. i hope this helped i’m really sorry if not. best of luck!
7:28 I needed to hear that, thank you
agreed 👍
Thank you! ❤
Ever since June, I've been struggling because my "friends" told me a lot of cruel things and then kicked me out of the group. I decided that I wanted to be better than them and improve myself.
They always made me believe that I had no value and no self-worth.
But I deserve to know my value and my self-worth because I AM important.
So now, about two months later I work out and I'm still learning to grow.
Self improvement takes time, and right now that's all I have.
Bye Stranger❤
Then they weren’t your friends, and you didn’t need them anyway.
If a “friend” says cruel things to you, they’re bullies.
You need to find better friends.
I know because I can relate. I was friends with mean girls who would bully nerds, and I simply decided their vibes suck and I don’t want to surround myself with negative energy anymore. So I broke apart and left.
I currently found a decent friend group with positive energy I can happily associate with.
And if I can, you can too! You can do it :)
I wasn’t invited anywhere either, I was kicked out of groups, excluded from conversations, and it sucked. Hope it gets better for you!
1) Dont try to fit in
2) do sports
3) work a job that helps people
4) don’t do extra self improvement
thanks. Now on top of the 10 years I’m saving with this video, I can save an extra 20 minutes
Hi, Amy
Last year I spent my holidays watching videos on how to be the best version of yourself. At the end of the holidays I decided to start taking action. It's been worse and better, but I don't regret it. I still have a lot to work on, but I'm proud of myself. I understood many things on my own without the help of others. Now I enjoy what I have and continue to take care of myself. sometimes I refuse to talk to my friends at night, but sometimes I also allow myself to do it. I feel better every time I watch your videos, and especially when I understand what you're saying. Thanks Amy! ❤
Congrats
The thing about extra self improvement is so true because I always see some people my age or even younger going to gym, spending so much on skincare and makeup and many stuffs (those aren't bad but coming from a middle class family i am not used to those so i always feel about how i don't look like them or maybe if i could have a lil skincare i would be pretty) but then i realise that there were and are a lot of people who don't do those and theyre still growing and are doing great and i still consider them so pretty and kind so yeah i don't think i need those untill i grow up and earn myself and spend on my body. For now, eating healthy, sleeping well, staying clean and moving more are all i need to be healthy and happy.
And I need to stop procrastinating on my school projects
@@Hahshdhbcbcyoutube i agree, you got this ♡
This is just what I needed going into grade 8 and facing peer pressure. Thank you so much Amy!!
Thank You Amy❤I can't tell you how much badly I needed this!!
These days I constantly felt guilt caz I didn't followed the extra "self improvement" tasks.
Now I know that my main motive at this age is too just be happy with what I have and make the most with this.
Yes, you are enough :)
@@wamyy5 💖🫂
The one about organized sports is SO true. Out of all my friends, two particular ones really inspire me because of their organization, their stamina and their determination. Both play softball and volleyball and have done martial arts, they are the best under pressure and have amazing communication skills.
I’m 13 years old, and I am SO GLAD I watched this in eight grade before high school. You just changed my whole perception of life. Thank you so much for being such an inspirational and wise big sister! ❤😢
I needed to hear this rn😭✋🏼 lately I’ve been thinking that i was the problem for the lack of friendships that i have, but i realized that they are just too much different from me and have other “goals”. I feel lonely at times but i think this is for the better
oh my god me too, and if ur name is Malak then hey name twin ❤ i too am pretty lonely and struggle finding friends who share the same passions as me, as time goes on the distant friends leaves and new ones will come too, cheers to us as we will eventually and definitely find our people 🫶🙏💘
@@sssushang oh my gooood heyy name twinnn🫶🏼😊😊😊 Btw im glad i found someone in my same situation and hope we’ll both reach our goals soon❤️❤️❤️
I don't understand how this person doesn't already have 1 milion followers. She's just like a better teacher of subject namesd life. Love her so much
Where were you in my teenage years. The genuine advice I am getting now after 10 years of my teenage years . But I think it's alright, this video is still relatable. Thankyou for sharing❤❤❤
I really wanted to cry when you talked about extra caring about self improvement , these days there is a really big pressure on teenagers , thank you Amy it really made me breath freely .
This is an AMAZING video and the fact that you put months in the working makes it better. Since I’ve watched this video I have been feeling super pressured with myself and sometimes I think I’m not good enough because I’m not doing what I’m “supposed” to do, I’ve pressured myself so much that most of the time I feel worthless and unworthy of having what I have because I’m doing things wrong and that I have to be better, every day I have woken up and lifted myself to do the things that I have set for myself, right now it’s almost 3:00 am and I’m commenting on this video because these past few days have been awful, I try to pressure myself even MORE to get up and even eat something but I just don’t have the energy and I feel like I’m a mistake because I can’t do anything okay and I’m just having a bad time. Sorry for my exaggeration, I’m just trying to share my experience with other people to see if this has happened to someone else.
To anyone reading this who has ever felt disheartened and confused, hurt or lost...you are not alone. You are surrounded by countless multitudes of people everywhere who are just like you. Just like us. But you don't have to stay confused or lost or in pain. We might forget this sometimes - or may not know it at all. But there is nothing in your life, no matter how difficult or painful, that cannot be turned into something very beautiful. So please, have lots of hope
thank you ❤🫶
@@Nunuzz you're welcome 💖
i am 13 and i am so happy to find this video, i cant thank her enough for changing my perspective this much. i am finding this video 19 days later it is released and i realized it released on my birthday! like as if its meant to be.
I wonder what your classmates who thought you weren't cool could say if they came across this video
Cute pfp
Yes, I think that each of us would like to know what our classmates who think we are not cool say for us, but it is obvious that we will never learn it.
I am a girl and I am going to go to 8th grade I had no motivation but I thought I needed it I opened Pinterest for that and yah I got motivation for a limited time and then again I was at my crying stage a stage of confusion and worry and etc so I just came across ur videos and I got the everlasting motivation and u have all the answers to my questions and the best advice and at last, I just wanna say thank you from the bottom of my heart (me crying now)
Thank you for sharing and your vulnerability. You will do great - have faith in yourself :)
@@wamyy5 No problem. I actually got a feeling to share this problem and thank u for ur hard work for us. as u have helped me a lot there may be many people out there thanking u for ur work but really. thank u!😢
I will turn 13 soon so I am SO glad I got this on my FYP. Thank you for this advice. Middle school has been a new experience and this will help me get through it.💖
I'm soon bout to leave for my first time in college, this really helped to remind me that i don't need to immediately try making new friends and do things even if i don't like just to fit in. Which is something ive been stressing the most of, not having friends. Real good friends will pop up eventually just by being your authentic self :]
your explanation in the beginning is actually immaculately so true.
In my previous year of school, my classmates did not like my english teacher at all. I on the other hand respected him because he really wasnt a bad teacher in my opinion, he was genuinely a fun teacher who was striving to make his lessons more fun by making us do presentations, play games every once in a while etc and not just pile work on us and expect us to finish it the next day. when the second semester rolled around i was the only one who who got full marks in his class. side note english is not my first language i moved to the west when i was 7 y/o with absolutely no english in my dictionary, most of the people in my class that year have english as their first language and i still managed to get the highest grade in my class. This is why i heavily agree with what you said at 4:43
1:30 love this analogy
Same! Was surprised no one noticed
I talked abt this in your last video i believe but here it is again i am turning 18 in almost 16 days and i agree with everything you said
- one of the things i am super proud of is that no matter what i was always very authentic to who i was/am
it's never worth it to change yourself to fit in whether you are 13 or 31 its important to realize that if you aim to be like anyone else you're still going to be the 2nd best at being like that person. there's only one you, remember that and try to make yourself a better version of YOU instead of the current version of someone else
- another advice id give is guys pursue your passions and goals and work hard towards them trust me you'll never regret it as in my opinion everything in life leads you to another important thing. same goes for bad experiences, every bad thing that has happened to me has taught me something and made me a better person. this does not mean you should just let bad things happen to you but understand that there are no ups without downs and its always best to learn from them instead of letting those things destroy you
i wish you guys best of luck however old you are, have a wonderful day and life
I saw the notification as soon as you uploaded the video but then I challenged myself to complete my study goal and then watch the vid as a reward :)
I ABSOLUTELY love how your videos are straight to the point, keep up the good work amy!
Wow that’s amazing!! I love that system and I’m pretty sure Amy would too!
“U cant be no 1 without being odd” woah!
The golf explenation is soooo POWERFULL👑
I take this into my daily routine to watch it everyday as an affirmation to remind me to stop scrolling, hardworking and stop trying to fit it
Edit: Let’s see how many days I can do without scrolling or useless videos
Day 2 - 🎉 Yay
Day 3 - It’s evening and I forgot to watch, realizing that I haven’t scroll yet but I still spend lots of time on useless video today, I have math next, see u tomorrow (sorry)
Day 4 - 🎉 I’m here again, I know that my screen time today will go as my mindset
Day 5 - 🎉 Yay, I’m here, I love you video Amy, I’m in summer break and it feels so good to hit the golf ball in the best angle I can do now
Day 6 - 🎉 I wake up a little late today so I decided to cut out ALL dead times today, this video never feel old, it’s a good day starting video
Day 7 - 🎉 The key information in the video sink in my head and they help me adapt them to my life, you guys wanna do a “lesser scrolling” challenge in the reply? ❤❤❤
Day 8 - After 3 days long vacation, just join audition for lead role in school musical, this summer is not just for studying and relaxing now!
Day 9 - 🎉 The words in this video sink inside my brains and it become more real and settled than the first day. I make a 30 days challenge with my dad to not play Yt shorts / FB for dad
Day 10 - 🎉 The audition got nearer, I’m nervous scaring to not get the expected role. But the part “Your hard work will pay off” motivates me to study and vocal train no matter what distract me
Day 11 - 🎉 Yay again
Day 12 - A whole day without watching shorts and useless video. This is easy
Day 13 - 🎉
The school has opened and I’m kinda sick (sore throat) this time, see y’a later
Day 14 - 🎉 This is after school start, I’m feeling so hard about fitting in. My best friend is on TikTok all the time and I don’t know how to handle relationship. The mean popular girls get to the new kids and that makes them don’t care about me. It’s hard but I’ll promise my self that “I’ll do what gives me highest long term advantage, you do you, I do me”
I believe in you! :D
It's my second day in my highs chool. Nothing more than Thank you so much Amy.It's only two days and I already lost it but you just pulled me back
Can you do one about how to do these things while being in full fledged fatigue?
Fire video Amy 🔥
I've always been insecure of my love for my sports and I felt like I wasn't as connected as much with others yet seeing this video and realizing I've learned how to work in a team, mange time and schedule, and learn to devote time and work into things making me more advance in certain situations like I wouldn't be as stressed in certain situations my other classmates are in. I became much more ambitious and hard-working in sports, job, and school and I didn't realize this until this video, thank you so much.
you're like an older sister i never knew i needed
She's the kind of person we need more of because people like her can make a significant impact on the world.
I appreciate your kind words!
it's like you knew exactly what i needed to hear!! this video is just what i needed to give me that small push , thank you for what you do Amy!! 🌷
I loved this video so much thank you, and I feel so motivated as a result!!
2:38 Amy is an army 💜 and thankyou for explaining or teaching this to us it means a lot❤
Yes she was wearing an bts hoodie
I’m a thirteen year old girl this video has helped me so much with how I feel about things especially the extra self improvement. I always stress my self with all these extra things I want to do when I should just relax and enjoy life. Thank you so much for
Amy please make a video on study routines
I am14 years old. i joined a new school, where i have the feeling of being "left out" .The people who say many good things about me and make their temporary bestie betray me at last saying i was back bitching about their friends. For this incident i felt soo bad and after watching this video i feel much confident and feel that sitting alone being the new girl, studying will all be worth it one day...... thankyou so much for this video it really helps!🥰
Thanks Amy i really need it... Bcz everyone in school is saying enjoyy it's time to enjoyy but I'm try to becoming super productive. But This Video Is Gonna Help Me lot...
U r such a good influencer , a distracted teenager like me needs this i just know i distracted but i just cant be productive
But I’ve been trying to do the opposite to make my teenage years really boring so I don’t peak at a young age
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Dont do that pls, I did that and I regret it everyday
@@Chema34 what should I do then???
This made me actually rethink everything as I watched the video. Thank you for this inspiring video.
relating sports, I'm really REALLY passionate about sports, but the only thing that stopping me is academies cost.. its really really expensive my family can't afford it :( i literally tried gymnast as a kid and it did work.. but now i want some sport that has teams, such as volleyball (its pretty fun!) but this is the only problem thats stopping me :( i wish i can get into some academy.. the competitions etc ;(
Thank you for all these tips, they're really helpful! 😊
Thanks to u big sister a lot. i always wanted to fit in amoung those students as i had no friends in school and my classmates always ignored me . and yesterday i almost cried because of this as i couldn't take it anymore . but.... thanks to god to give me this vid and to you to explain me in such a beautiful manner. Now i personally feel confident and i think i can stand out alone. Again thanks to you a lot....
I'm a teenager girl who has really much pressure about studies and everything.. I'm currently suffering from family problems that is too much i can't even handle and every single person gives me feeling of being left out but i managed to being alone and i feel much better in alone i passed my last 4 years in depression and now i just don't care about anyone that is what helping me to stood for myself and being very practical I'm just really lost about my goals and i don't have anyone...🙁
I'm the one who is being there for everyone...and lefted being alone.
@@Naina_.lv._Error hey, I'm sorry to hear that. I can relate to you though, we should be around the same age, so believe me when I say you're not alone. You know, family problems is sadly something everybody has to go through at least once in their life. And as discouraging that feels, it is also a chance to grow. Of course I don't know your personal situating but I don't think I need to, because of regardless what's going on, you deserve to be cared and looked out for as well. You said you're always the one being there for people right? Well, maybe try to reach out to one of them or literally anyone. The fact that you shared this here is already a step forward, even if small. It might seem scary, but telling anyone your feelings, even if it's just your diary, can ease your mind. For me personally, writing my thoughts and problems down helps me, but it's different for everybody! Maybe you like expressing yourself through art, playing a sport (as it's said in the video) or play an instrument, there are so many creative ways to get rid of those thoughts. You don't have to be alone you know? After all, we're all underneath the same sky and as you might've seen in this comment section, there are many people with similar situations to yours. So, don't be scared and reach out if you feel like you can't handle it alone. I believe in you!
@@Masklzve oh thank you 🥹 I didn't thought no one would read my comment but u did thank u so much I'm a 16 years old who has many problems to face with.. I'm sorry that u can relate with me too🥲
@@Naina_.lv._Erroryeah, but that just means we can try to get better right? It feels kinda nice to know we're around the same age and struggle with similar things, so at leats we're not alone no? I hope you'll be okay.
thank you sooo much . im 15 ryt now and not only am i failing my subjects but also in my social skills and the fact that my dream of hosting a charity event is sooo far away but now i have some closure .
the analogy at the start was so smart lol!
im a 16 years old girl, it's already 3 years ago that my best friend was leaving my school, i felt really lonely. I jus wanted to do things alone all the time and focus on school. I started to just isolate myself from others because my heart couldn't take it anymore, I couldn't trust anyone in my inverionment, they deceived me so many times. I felt so insecure because of everything what those people said to me, so i started working out a lot, listening to music also helped, i just wanted to disappear from the world. I always try my best at everything but sometimes i need to rest. Now, I started to say also more no to people :) and they don't like it. I want to just restart my life again and just be anywhere but not home, home isn't the right term. My dream is to travel, i wanted to start as soon as possibe to just go away from home and discover this beautiful earth. My dad said it wasn't possible to start travelling at 18 cause i need to study. I was dissapointed for sure but idk if i can live like this longer, my heart is going to explode, I still try but it's hard. But what people don't understand is that, I like being alone cause I feel happier alone:)
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Hi Amy! I'm starting highschool in a few days and when I look at the classes it looks so much harder than middle school ever was, but everytime I think about how hard it is I think of two people- My mom, because I want to make her proud, and you, because everytime I think about school work i remember your advice and I hope one day I can be a very good student and have a fullfilling life.
I’m starting high school too!! We’re in this together :) Ik we both can do it! It seems hard, but if we work hard, we can achieve anything!!!!! 🎉🎉🎉
jun yuh and you give the same self improvement energy LOL. thank u for the vid, golf analogy really helped!
Amy, you are a beauty at heart and incredible. Thank you for all your videos. They're truly inspirational 🔥🔥🌹🔥🔥
Right excatly when i needed it, thanks Amy! 😊❤
Hi Amy. I’m so disappointed that RUclips hasn’t recommended your channel to me until now. This video has been so inspirational to me, and I really relate to the struggles you talk about in it. I’m only 12, and now hyped to be the best version of myself in my teenage years. Thank you so much ❤
Aw, yay!! You have so much time
thanks for the video 🤍🤍
I am turning 13 next year and since all those things with the quarantine in 2020, I started to be addicted to my phone and I just noticed now. I lost some years of my childhood (even if I still have some). Since 2020 I started to get more and more insecure with time and things. I thought "Oh if you don't study enough they will make fun of you and your grade!" (It's because actually this happen to one of my classmates) so I started to lose confidence in myself and trying to blend in with everyone while not caring enough about myself. I was always left out and I am still but since I am starting a new year of school I want to be stronger and more confident now so in the future I will be the best version I will be and try to build myself. Your podcasts really inspired me and your videos. I know you probably won't see this comment but you really changed my life. I am happy that I got off my phone now more (my screen time was way too big since I thought "Oh it must be cool to spend hours on your phone, that's what teenagers do, no? ") and from that some years of my life was just wasted by technology at such a young age. I know this is also part of my fault because yea I could try to not use my phone that much and focus on myself but people always tend to not notice their mistakes till it's too late. I am inspired by your video, Amy and again thank you for making such inspirational videos and helping. Keep it up!
Amy I am an Indian and you know in India looks generally doesnt matter that much at least in my school and we 16 to 18 year old are much pressurised by our college entrance exams and thats why I havent been subjected to this I wanted to fit in mindset maybe its because I dont naturally care about it 😅 but yeah for now I am more of a student focused on career but still will watch this full video and will learn and take these tips by heart
thankyou❤❤
1 minute into video and you know what that angle thing I have read it in atomic habits were you also inspired by that book ( well its very nice book about habit building )
This video came to me when i was crying struggling about my differences with the people in my social life and when the video ended i am actually smiling with confidence and satisfaction of who i am
Thnx Amy, this was very helpful!!
Hey, i'm 13 and you really inspired me with this video. It's really helpful hearing your words. You really have opened my eyes. I really wanna thank you for that because i was getting off course. I have many dreams and goals i'av made for the future. So thank you for reminding me of what's important. Bro this almost made me cry😁 in a good way tho
under 8 mins, ty sm for the inspiration Amy!
My high school years are just around the corner and I'm so ready to use all this good advice because middle school years were too stressful for me. Thanks for making this video:) ❤
wheres the ADHD version 😭😭😭😭
Ikr😭
And autism
I remembre when I was like, 10, my biggest dream was to get into Caltech, and when I started talking about it with people around me, nobody seems to know it. So it's crazy for me how I just landed on this video. When I heard Caltech my brain just twitched ! You're great, I know how hard it is to get there !
Wow awesome you know Caltech! Thank you! Good luck!!
Hi Amy I just wanted to let you know that I love you and your videos you are motivating me and leading me to a great success in my life I love your content and I’m sure that you will continue your journey with the best way possible ❤❤❤love from India
the fact that you experienced the same thing as me make me feel less lonely, i been actually lost recently. also tysm for giving such useful tips!
3:34 Same 🥲 after I graduated middle school I didn’t get invited to the 6th grade get together
Been watching Amy for 3 years now and her beauty has evolved tremendously. Love the vibe!
Wow thank you for sticking with me all this time and for your kind words! ❤️ confidence works wonders hehe
8:49 I always wanted to do sports but I have very bad skins problems which makes it difficult- due to the fact that I actually can’t sweat. I could walk for only 2 minutes and I’d already be exhausted, the fact that I stay in my room all day isn’t helping either 😭 if anyone has advice for me I’d appreciate it because I really want to do sports but it’s not easy for me due to these problems
Maybe you could try a hobby that does take some practice and if you really like that hobby it might push you to try harder and get better I hope that this helps you and don’t forget to drink water
I love how your points were different than what others usually ralk about in their videos!
Thank you Amy!!
Ur videos are always helpful!!!🫶💕✨
Thank you
I was actually tired of those old sayings we always here
But u really made me appreciate my hardwork and effort
Be proud of yourself!! :D
15:50 I am outside this age range but I'm not 19 I'm 12 😭
wow thank you so much for these good tips, i am really proud of you , you've been though a lot in your teenage years
hey wake up our mother post a new video