I am a Muslim woman from the UK. I grew up with a very angry and violent father, then lived with a narcissistic husband for decades. following my divorce I am finding peace and perspective. Thank you for guiding me and my friends. we just never got this type of sage affirmation, guidance and support.
My prayers for your healing and you are supported here! I’m so glad I came I cross this platform sober a year ago and Pastor Blake and Lisa are a GODSEND! ❤ Much love to you dear!
When a man loves you he: 1. Pursues and is devoted to you 2. Affirms, appreciates, and cherishes you 3. Sacrifices for you 4. Treats you with respect, honor, and as an equal partner 5. Wants to spend time with you outside of the bed (emotional intimacy/companionship) 6. Grows with you 7. Is very protective (not controlling)
Hearing this made me realize in all my 44 years, I haven’t experienced real love from a man. This is sad but I thank God for Pastor RC Blake’s teachings. ❤
Same, I'm 39 and my father is a narcissist. He never poured into me growing up so I easily fell for my narcissistic ex. 6yrs out and God & Pastor Blakes are pouring into me.
EXACTLY, its mind blowing! I was with a man for 20 years, married for 7 and thought it was love! I know for a fact it was NEVER love, he was a narcissist and my father is toxic 😢
Don't feel bad hon...I'm 52 and haven't felt the real deal ever. This podcast is what I needed to invest time in. Great topic and insight Pastor. Thank you so much.
Ladies please show yourself some grace...I was in an abusive marriage for 10 years...since I filed for a divorce in 2019..I have been single, healing and praying more than before... I blamed myself so much it took me some time to even talk to a man...due to trauma..I love myself now and put God before everything I do...ladies surround yourself with people who love you and be gentle with yourself 🙏🏾
I’ve been listening to you for at least 4 years…got married 2 years ago. A lot of what you taught got me ready to be in the mindset of a wife. I love your videos and they bring me to tears because I do have an amazing and supportive husband. Thank you for sharing your message, I don’t know where I’d be today without it!❤
I hope I find a loving and supporting husband as well. I’m tired of the kind of men I’ve been entertaining. I worry that I won’t find a good man because I gave my ex a baby 15 months ago. I don’t regret my daughter however. I just hope I find a good man that will love the both of us and that will be a good step dad to a little girl.
@@beautiful_wonderfullymadeu must believe you deserve having a great man... without focusing on your past mistakes...u have to heal from your past... remember who is for us is praying for us as well...
Wow this is awesome, evert woman and man need to hear this. I've learned so much. Stuff I never heard. Didn't have a father growing up, so I didn't know how I should have been treated, I've been through a lot, been married twice, and both failed, and now I'm waiting on God to send me who he have for me.who will love me and respect me. Thank you so much. Keep allowing God to use you.
Wow wow.. "A husband is a man that fulfills all the responsibilities of a good Father" Took me to my knees....I have just that, couldn't put it in those words.
So happy to be a part of this Queen conscious community ❤ thank you RC Blakes for making a Queen out of me 👑 I did find my crown and I wont never loose it again
Well said! I wish he would know just how many broken souls like myself he has helped fix, and how many crowns have been recovered as a result. This is the best thing that ever happened to me this year. I was feeling so broken and lost after my marriage broke up and I even lost my company and job as a result. But God found me in time and led me to this Channel. Eternal blessings to you and your generations, Bishop RC!
I been turning in to your platform since 2019. I’m single my father died very young he wasn’t there for me. I was abused by my mother ex husband. My uncle’s are not a good example either. I have no real father figure but you. Thank you for your help !
Here’s what I learned: Pursuit + Devotion, Affirmation + Appreciation, Sacrifice, Respect + Honor (values as equal partner), Emotional Intimacy + Companionship (time outside of bed), Grows with you: Equally Yolked(mutual evolution), and finally Protective(not toxic masculine manipulation) I loved this video and this will help me make a very important decision.
As a 35 year old I never experienced a love from a man I just realized I only been used as a sex object never had a Father. But watching Mr.Blake I can feel the love and teaching thru the screen You are my thru Christ my father figure.
Ditto! I never had a father and men including the partner I m with have just used me as an object . I have never experienced intimacy or emotional connect with anyone . Sad!!
I agree with this entire video. I was fortunate to have an amazing father who loved my mother until his last breathe. Although my mom worked, he took care of her. He was her peace. They never had issues. He never cheated, disrespected her or swore at her. My mom took good care of my dad and submitted to him. They both valued each other and were a blessing to each other. Neither one lacked bc of the other. Even being both sick as they got older, sacrificed for each other. It’s very difficult for me to settle with any man bc of witnessing the example I had as a father. And it is also very disappointing to me witnessing what I see in men today.
Lets be honest your mother must have been somewhat extremely beautiful in order for a man to do that Was she the type of woman that no matter what she wears anything looks good on her, weight gain suits her or she has a body that does not gain weight It seems impossible otherwise to have a man doing all that
This morning I was just remembering so many actions that were hurtful -- nothing physical, but no support. No protection. No covering. Thank you Pastor Blakes for your obedience to the Lord.
The good part is the self love 💕😘 & respect we ladies are being taught & now know what a quality man looks like with his actions, and vwhat a qualifier man 👞 💪 🌹 😁 to date sounds like with his words to protect, care for, honor, respect & adore 💕 us & not settle for less & his color & cuiture can be different from ours but loving, kind fun, protection 💟🎉.
I was with a really good man who never lied to me,never betrayed me and was always there for me but because I came from a broken home with a highly narcissistic father I thought I did not deserve such love and left the only man who ever loved me...and life showed me that true ,authentic love is rare and hard to find and I ended up in an abusive relationship with a man who lied to me and betrayed me ...something I was used to as a little girl...I know that I have to heal first from my childhood trauma before I can ever get back into a relationship with a good man😊
Too many black fathers don't realize the damage they create in the lives of their children, especially their girls. Having a supportive and wise father is one of the best blessings that I have ever experienced. He is next to God and the Holy Spirit! Amen!
@@eaglespreston8056🧡 Thank you for reminding us of our high+spiritual Father. When our human father hasn't been able to be a loving, comprehensive father: THERE ARE STILL OTHER GOOD MASCULINE FIGURES THAT CAN EXEMPLIFY THE LOVE+COMPREHENSION... BUT THE FULL SOURCE IS.... DIVINE.
Too many black males have become the oppressor. Narcissism like oppression are forms of control. Study those males and seriously protect yourself from them. Finally, avoid them at all cost. They mission is to steal, kill, and destroy. Shalom!
I never experience love of my father, no affection, no attention, no conversation, no protection. I attract men who ignore me and won't show love or affection. If they do, it doesn't continue or is short lived. Its hard to find or even accept love that feels uncomfortable when you want it so desperately but are always in fear of losing it.
Would you know what love is when you run into it now? Learn what it is so that you will be able to recognize it and learn to leave as soon as you know its not there, leave respectfully. Give more love to people around you and you will get more love attracted you❤
This video comes at a time when I’ve been questioning my worth as a woman bc I’ve never been poured into by a good man. It’s a struggle to not be depressed but God’s grace is bountiful and we are blessed to have your ministry, thank you pastor ❤
This sounds like my girlfriend relationship with her husband. She said that she didn't love her husband at first, but the way he treated her she felled in loved with him. She said that he was good for her by doing things for her. She said that when they start having children they came to an agreement that they children would come first and now they had been married over 40 years. I was there to witness up and downs but they made it through the hard times. She said that she fears no woman and that sounds like true love under a solid rock.❤❤️❤️
This is the message I needed. My husband and I are divorcing and although I am beginning to find acceptance in it, I find I slip into the feelings of rejection and being discarded. We have the most beautiful family so it saddens me to think we weren't enough in his eyes. This message gives me hope and helps me to have vision for something real and authentic.
I feel the same way, not feeling good enough keeps me with him to “try harder” we have a history of him actually telling me I ain’t enough for him and him threatening me with other women, during a high risk pregnancy etc. I need to leave so bad. I been a SAHM for 10 years now, I have nothing and my kids are homeschooled. I don’t even know where to start to dig myself out. I’m so desperate at this point.
Hey, you have everything, a unique you and a beautiful family, God Almighty made you to be strong, when you feel weak, carry on, God is at the steering wheel ……
A lot of us never had Good Father Role models in our lives, and because of that..... I had bad relationships 😞😢looking for love in wrong places......Thank You Sir ✊🏽continue to allow GOD THE FATHER to SPEAK THROUGH YOU TO HIS DAUGHTERS! 👑 👑 👑
I am finally experiencing this kind of love after being in survival mode for 30 years of my life, let me tell you how hard it is to surrender and not being paranoid about all those attentions my man give me. He told me he just want me to be happy, and he prays for me in addition to being my support and comfort ❤ I love him so much but I’m afraid to lose him because I’ve never been used to this kind of safe love. Our meeting was so unpredictable and we learn to know each other each and every day at a distance. The long distance relationship is hard but definitely worth it when you encounter such a pure hearted person ❤ I thank God everyday for putting this man in my life at a point I needed this kind of energy ✨
I wish I heard this 20 years ago...I'm 46 now. BUT-at the same time, I know that I wouldn't have been READY to hear this advice- out of stubbornness and naivety. Some people just learn better from their own mistakes.
Can we get Part II to this? A convo is needed for the men whose father wasn’t good and only witnessed their moms in an unfaithful and abusive marriage. And for the women who are healthy, healed, and not broken.
You are Absolutely right me and a close friend was just talking about this. It started at home. It's who we were birth from both parents and how we were raised and the environment and what we saw in the house hold. And how much love we was shown or how much toxicity was shown. Now that we are adults it still hurts. I can't believe how many of us experienced these types of parents not loving or being there for their children properly I thought I was alone. Smh
Pastor First Lady Lisa is blessed to have you We need this kind insightful information thanks for sharing and pouring into us and thank God for giving you this amazing assignment .
My parents lived distant, separate lives. They fought all the time and kept secrets from each other. Dad told us not to share anything with our mom because other people's problems upset her. We walked on eggsshells around both. There were no talks about emotions, relationships or any emotional support, connection. It was a nightmare and terrifying as a child to be alone without someone to count on or turn to. Like growing up in a horror movie. Almost 50 and have never had a real or safe and satisfying relationship.
❤ I'm realizing that there are adult men in my life who have watched me deeply struggling to keep a foundation and watched me being continually threatened and mistreated in all kinds of living situations and have been ineffective in securing any type of long term support, supportive education on buying a home, e.t.c. I have realized listening to this that this is dysfunctional male character and I truly need transformation! Spiritual cleansing, therapy maybe, and to stop turning to the male family members who have been listening but not stepping up to really help me with this foundation building. This was really helpful and revealing. Why are so many men falling short on really protecting and providing and helping the women in their lives become more secure? My brother is providing me a place to stay and I am grateful and I need to make a significant transformation in my entire life and mindset and spirit.
I love this because it’s through these teaching and counseling that I was able to see the amazing man that god allowed to walk into my life. I was not looking for it at all. But through listening to these teaching I was able to change my ways. And adopt new ideas that allowed me to let this man love me. Because I knew from day one he would not force himself to love me but that it should and would happen naturally. I let go and have been enjoying the ride ever since.
Then you must love yourself 1st. Then once you have achieved that Then what you think you are looking for is not what you WANT or NEED.. TRY IT. once you love yourself the GAMES WILL STOP. because you will not subject yourself to GAMES from ANYONE.
Don’t play them the Queen! You are far more worth the bs and there are no rules to love other than what you make it! Forgive yourself for the past and start to congratulate yourself for the future! ❤
Awesome message ❤. A few concerns or points needed. 1. A message to men on what the love of a good woman looks like. 2. A message to men and women on it's never too late to transform their mindsets to a healthier mindset to be with the one God called for them to be with.
Thank you so much for this video above. It was Excellent!!! I am 58 years old now, never married, and still looking for a loving man to one day marry. I have watched many red pill community videos lately to see what the men are watching and its been disheartening to say the least so I drank in your wise words like someone drinking their first glass of water after 10 days in the desert. God Bless you for giving your guidance to the women!!! I wish more men would follow you rather than these red pill community leaders out there spreading their ugliness and disrespect towards women.
Yess I’m loving the new intro. I found you 2 years ago after my 5 year break up, I just want to say I will never waste any more of my time nor will I ever settle for anything I do not deserve. Thank you so much for helping me stand on the queen in me. I love you
You are so right! My boyfriend is totally different from what I am use to. He has pursued. Me from day one. He is very understanding. And now he is talking about marriage 😊
Thank you Bishop for speaking on this because I was missing seeing my father love my mother properly. He was an excellent provider and protector, however he was cold and hard. Later in life, I realized he and my mother did an excellent job! My mother was raised by her grandmother until 7; when her mother came to get her. From 7 my mom took care of 3 children, all under 2; by herself, 24 hours a day. She wasn't allowed to go to school and was beaten regularly for the smallest infractions. Her only escape was marrying my father when she was 15 and he was 25. My father had been living with his single mother; he raised his siblings; putting 2 in college. He had no example from his father about loving your wife and kids . I don't have time to get into what my grandparents' deal was. Throughout it all, they stayed together and raised their children. So my take away is, each generation should learn better and do better. I learned loyalty and a love that didn't have to be spoken, but it was seen and felt. We all should grow in love because love never ends........
My father died when I was 7😭 and I wish that I had these type of talks with him ,and that age of 52 it’s hard for me to recognize true love I wish that I had someone like you to talk to me and teach me the right way this video today is nothing but the truth thank you so much♥️😭
Yes indeed he is!! I am continually learning a lot! What a treat to have a man of God teaching women and dropping pearls of Wisdom in our Spirit. God is continuing to use him! Thank You Lord for pouring YOUR Wisdom and instructions into us🦁🐑🔥🔥🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿Amen!!!❤
Pastor your have no idea how this message was needed exactly tonight in my life. This is a divine word. It amazed me how in tune you are with the Father. Keep your ministry and keep close to Father.
I am so grateful for Dr RC Blake's. I stumbled on his video about narcissistic behaviors and from then I just love him. He has so much wisdom. I wish I knew him years ago. He opened my eyes and helped me define the marriage I'm in. Thank you Sir. May God continue to pour into you and that you continue to have the wisdom like Solomon. 🙏
Thank you RC for helping me understand the personality of a narcissist. You are also helping me truly see what the love of a man is supposed to be like and should be. All my life I have lived in abuse (as a child seeing my Dad abuse my Mom), and my Dad never showed my sisters and I love like I see the father daughter relationship in some of my friends. I’ve always wanted a true loving relationship from my Dad. My Dad beat on my Mom in front of me and my sisters. We also knew about all his adulterous relationships. But I just wanted to say that you are helping me with so many messed up feelings and relationships with my Dad, etc.
I haven't experience what true love is being raised by a narcissistic father and toxic mother caused me to get into relationships I had no business being involved in I thank God I found pastor Bishop Blake's channel years ago ,last year I went on Amazon and purchased two of his books plan on buying more always praying for Bishop and First Lady their ministry 😊🙏🏾❤️❤️
As soon as this is over, I’ll be watching what I missed plus what I already saw. This was very important for me to see. Thank you for this. I really appreciate it.
I feel u are speaking to the old me! My fam & environment was very UNGODLY. My earthly father was a preacher! He & momma weren't dependable. I found it hard to trust GOD for decades because I saw no one I could trust on earth! Thank Bishop for this beautiful message! I'm married to a good man, but I let him know my 1st love is JESUS!!!
Your knowledge is so valuable and deep. My mother is a difficult narcissist and kept me from my father after I was born. He didn’t fight or try to see me; was never around. I met him in my 20’s and the experience was horrible. His wife was rude and disrespectful to me and he did nothing about it. He wasn’t a person I could have looked up to. I was so angry for my mother taking away my decision to know him and decide for myself if I wanted him in my life. It has caused me much heartache and pain trying to find love and support from a good man, but God has used this for His and my good and I’m learning how to make smarter decisions; gaining wisdom and discernment. I just recently started watching you and I can honestly say that no one has ever been so direct and knowledgeable in this subject. You have blessed my life with so much promise and given me hope. You truly are a blessing from God and I’m so thankful for your teachings and understanding of women and their needs and struggles. God bless you, Pastor Blakes. ❤️❤️🙏🙏
Thank you so much. Now I'll know when a man is really seriously in love with me. I've had a few good pretenders that started out doing some of things you mentioned but they can only pretend for so long and then things start getting ugly I thought I was responsible and was causing men to fall out of love with me.
You are awesome! My father taught me LOVE!!! 100 % he raised me at a young age when my mother left the home he build for her!! I just did not have a healthy, safe partner. Period!
I am very particular of who I let my ears listen to and eyes see but this title led me to select the video and the message was right on time . I literally have journaled and removed all toxic people including family ( which was the hardest to let go ) but because I knew it was necessary as I seek peace and my faith journey with God , thank you for this video. I love how God allows us to hear confirmation.
This teaching was pure gold, and yet at the same time hurt so deep to have to come to the realization that I am 53 and all the men that I dated and one who I walked down the aisle with never loved me or sacrificed for me, and rather than protect me abused me, every single one. Perhaps the result of an earthly father that was not present and when he was beat my mother to a pulp almost daily. I have been single for 14 years, have since done the forgiveness work and healed all glory to my Heavenly Father and Savior Jesus Christ. Maybe someday that Good man will find me. It will be a gift to experience the love of a good man, at least once.
This message is a prime example on why as a parent raising children, it is a necessity to not raise your kids in dysfunction. It does take a real woman and man to admit their wrong actions. What I have learned throughout my life is that first man a girl falls in love with is her father just like the first woman a boy falls in love with is his mother.
Real good healthy love exist ladies and gents and it looks like and feels like peace safety and expansion like something only a Man filled with gods love can give to a women. Iam blessed to say I have experience with this love from a man I wasn’t expecting it from. We are engaged to be married and I know if your not use to it at first it’s scary to be loved so healthily (I just made that word up lol) I promise if you allow yourself to be loved properly it’s a blessing and you and me we all deserve a healthy love. Choose to love yourself first and know that God will deliver the right person to you have faith in God and in Yourself. Because you deserve the best for you and your spouse deserves your best in return.
I often have tears in my eyes and a deep feeling in my soul whilst listening to your powerful words. 🙏 Your love for those you seek to enlighten is simply overwhelmingly beautiful and I have, at 69, never felt that kind of love and acceptance from anyone. Thank you for reconnecting me with God, through your sermons. Bless all you do, and who you are. 💞🙏✨️
Bishop! This answered a lot of questions on why I didn't understand the love of the man in my life. I almost lost him, but thank God that through therapy, your teaching, and healing, I am in a much better place, and my relationship is restored! Keep doing what you do! We need more fathers like you!
Beloved 🙏🏼First Lady Lisa & Bishop RC: You have enriched my🔥 Holy Spirit and my 🧠metacognition with your Biblical ✝relationship teachings... while navigating my life. It is "not" forgetting what I have learned from your ordained wisdom and making sure my mind is consciously aware & in control of my subconscious body, whereas, I am not in some low level hummmmmm . (Dang that flesh😖). With sincere gratitude for your "purposeful Jesus work"... Don't stop because I really love the way you school me! Respectfully USN VET cc
Thank you so much it has been about 2 years since I discovered your teachings and 2 years since I walked away from soul ties. From bread crumbs. And I am ok without it. I’ve concentrated on my career, family and earning more money. Time has gone by fast. Still no love offerings but I am ok with that. It just hurts to reaffirm what love is not. What love really is because like someone said before 44 + years in this world and still I haven’t experienced it❤
Sir you have no idea how your messages are helping us as women! This video came at just the right time! My God!! I feel like I'm dreaming in a sense that, how can this message be so timely. Thank you thank you and may God continue to give you wisdom as you strive to help women at large. May God also bless your wife as you are a gift to us as well❤
I am a Muslim woman from the UK. I grew up with a very angry and violent father, then lived with a narcissistic husband for decades. following my divorce I am finding peace and perspective. Thank you for guiding me and my friends. we just never got this type of sage affirmation, guidance and support.
Salam habibti
Thank you for saying this 🙏🏽😊♥️
My prayers for your healing and you are supported here! I’m so glad I came I cross this platform sober a year ago and Pastor Blake and Lisa are a GODSEND! ❤ Much love to you dear!
I pray one day that a good godly man finds me.
@@raechellnichole9472He will sis. Just continue to work on you, love on you, honor you, grow closer to God and there he'll be... believe it. 🩷🙏🏾
When a man loves you he:
1. Pursues and is devoted to you
2. Affirms, appreciates, and cherishes you
3. Sacrifices for you
4. Treats you with respect, honor, and as an equal partner
5. Wants to spend time with you outside of the bed (emotional intimacy/companionship)
6. Grows with you
7. Is very protective (not controlling)
I love this
Now waiting
Yep. All of this.
Thank you
This was amazing ❤. I really needed to hear this message.
Thank you !🎉
Date to marry the father you wanted, not the father you had.
Love this
Love this!!
I love this but how are we supposed to filter them out?… I’m just goin thru it rn ngl
Hearing this made me realize in all my 44 years, I haven’t experienced real love from a man. This is sad but I thank God for Pastor RC Blake’s teachings. ❤
Same, I'm 39 and my father is a narcissist. He never poured into me growing up so I easily fell for my narcissistic ex. 6yrs out and God & Pastor Blakes are pouring into me.
EXACTLY, its mind blowing! I was with a man for 20 years, married for 7 and thought it was love! I know for a fact it was NEVER love, he was a narcissist and my father is toxic 😢
Don't feel bad hon...I'm 52 and haven't felt the real deal ever. This podcast is what I needed to invest time in. Great topic and insight Pastor. Thank you so much.
your not alone 😩😭
Ladies please show yourself some grace...I was in an abusive marriage for 10 years...since I filed for a divorce in 2019..I have been single, healing and praying more than before... I blamed myself so much it took me some time to even talk to a man...due to trauma..I love myself now and put God before everything I do...ladies surround yourself with people who love you and be gentle with yourself 🙏🏾
I’ve been listening to you for at least 4 years…got married 2 years ago. A lot of what you taught got me ready to be in the mindset of a wife. I love your videos and they bring me to tears because I do have an amazing and supportive husband. Thank you for sharing your message, I don’t know where I’d be today without it!❤
Beautiful testimony
I hope I find a loving and supporting husband as well. I’m tired of the kind of men I’ve been entertaining. I worry that I won’t find a good man because I gave my ex a baby 15 months ago. I don’t regret my daughter however. I just hope I find a good man that will love the both of us and that will be a good step dad to a little girl.
Excellent for you! Much Blessings as you both grow together. Love that your mindset changed - bravo!!!
@@beautiful_wonderfullymadeu must believe you deserve having a great man... without focusing on your past mistakes...u have to heal from your past... remember who is for us is praying for us as well...
Wow this is awesome, evert woman and man need to hear this. I've learned so much. Stuff I never heard. Didn't have a father growing up, so I didn't know how I should have been treated, I've been through a lot, been married twice, and both failed, and now I'm waiting on God to send me who he have for me.who will love me and respect me. Thank you so much. Keep allowing God to use you.
When a man loves you, he sacrifices for you
Yes that is correct
Wow wow.. "A husband is a man that fulfills all the responsibilities of a good Father" Took me to my knees....I have just that, couldn't put it in those words.
MIC DROP RIGHT THATS IT THATS IT HOME RUN TO HIM ❤❤❤AND YOU STAY BLESSED😊HOPE YOUR 2024 IS AMAZING
All the other cultures know this already. We hard headed bad
*THANK YOU SIR. THANK YOU*
“A man that really loves you, will grow with you” -Bishop RC blakes 🙏🏼🙂
This cut me to the white meat!
So happy to be a part of this Queen conscious community ❤ thank you RC Blakes for making a Queen out of me 👑 I did find my crown and I wont never loose it again
Thank you for your very kind words
Well said! I wish he would know just how many broken souls like myself he has helped fix, and how many crowns have been recovered as a result. This is the best thing that ever happened to me this year. I was feeling so broken and lost after my marriage broke up and I even lost my company and job as a result. But God found me in time and led me to this Channel. Eternal blessings to you and your generations, Bishop RC!
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Your testimony is mine as well. God bless you bishop
PLEASE SHARE THIS AND LIKE FAMILY. God Bless ❤
I have no idea and I give up. Bless you for trying to help people.
I been turning in to your platform since 2019. I’m single my father died very young he wasn’t there for me. I was abused by my mother ex husband. My uncle’s are not a good example either. I have no real father figure but you. Thank you for your help !
@@lakendraadams1077 That is such an honor for me. 🙏🏽♥️
I also realize I have a broken heart 💔 and a broken consciousness
Here’s what I learned: Pursuit + Devotion, Affirmation + Appreciation, Sacrifice, Respect + Honor (values as equal partner), Emotional Intimacy + Companionship (time outside of bed), Grows with you: Equally Yolked(mutual evolution), and finally Protective(not toxic masculine manipulation) I loved this video and this will help me make a very important decision.
Thanks for the summary!
@glenda yyyayyyy
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Yes I enjoyed this video
As a 35 year old I never experienced a love from a man I just realized I only been used as a sex object never had a Father. But watching Mr.Blake I can feel the love and teaching thru the screen You are my thru Christ my father figure.
Ditto! I never had a father and men including the partner I m with have just used me as an object . I have never experienced intimacy or emotional connect with anyone . Sad!!
Women that have a father also sometimes never experience this
Rc thanks for the information I'm learning to choose wisely
I agree with this entire video. I was fortunate to have an amazing father who loved my mother until his last breathe. Although my mom worked, he took care of her. He was her peace. They never had issues. He never cheated, disrespected her or swore at her. My mom took good care of my dad and submitted to him. They both valued each other and were a blessing to each other. Neither one lacked bc of the other. Even being both sick as they got older, sacrificed for each other. It’s very difficult for me to settle with any man bc of witnessing the example I had as a father. And it is also very disappointing to me witnessing what I see in men today.
Lets be honest your mother must have been somewhat extremely beautiful in order for a man to do that
Was she the type of woman that no matter what she wears anything looks good on her, weight gain suits her or she has a body that does not gain weight
It seems impossible otherwise to have a man doing all that
thank you, this brings tears to my eyes
This morning I was just remembering so many actions that were hurtful -- nothing physical, but no support. No protection. No covering. Thank you Pastor Blakes for your obedience to the Lord.
That's exactly what I got in my marriage that lead to divorce.
I’m single and celibate but I’m not used to being covered even when I was in a relationship so I ended it and put him out. End of story.. 😐
The good part is the self love 💕😘 & respect we ladies are being taught & now know what a quality man looks like with his actions, and vwhat a qualifier man 👞 💪 🌹 😁 to date sounds like with his words to protect, care for, honor, respect & adore 💕 us & not settle for less & his color & cuiture can be different from ours but loving, kind fun, protection 💟🎉.
I was with a really good man who never lied to me,never betrayed me and was always there for me but because I came from a broken home with a highly narcissistic father I thought I did not deserve such love and left the only man who ever loved me...and life showed me that true ,authentic love is rare and hard to find and I ended up in an abusive relationship with a man who lied to me and betrayed me ...something I was used to as a little girl...I know that I have to heal first from my childhood trauma before I can ever get back into a relationship with a good man😊
God spared me, so many of us find ourselves in abusive, narcissistic relationships. Heal, keep it moving, reject regret!
I did the same. Left one who really loved me and married a narcissist not understanding it all for 16 years…..
Too many black fathers don't realize the damage they create in the lives of their children, especially their girls. Having a supportive and wise father is one of the best blessings that I have ever experienced. He is next to God and the Holy Spirit! Amen!
@@eaglespreston8056🧡 Thank you for reminding us of our high+spiritual Father.
When our human father hasn't been able to be a loving, comprehensive father:
THERE ARE STILL OTHER GOOD MASCULINE FIGURES THAT CAN EXEMPLIFY THE LOVE+COMPREHENSION...
BUT THE FULL SOURCE IS.... DIVINE.
Too many black males have become the oppressor. Narcissism like oppression are forms of control. Study those males and seriously protect yourself from them. Finally, avoid them at all cost. They mission is to steal, kill, and destroy. Shalom!
I was married 41 years and he never loved me. These teachings are strengthening the insecurities he instilled in me. He passed away 3 yrs ago.
I never experience love of my father, no affection, no attention, no conversation, no protection. I attract men who ignore me and won't show love or affection. If they do, it doesn't continue or is short lived. Its hard to find or even accept love that feels uncomfortable when you want it so desperately but are always in fear of losing it.
Would you know what love is when you run into it now? Learn what it is so that you will be able to recognize it and learn to leave as soon as you know its not there, leave respectfully. Give more love to people around you and you will get more love attracted you❤
This video comes at a time when I’ve been questioning my worth as a woman bc I’ve never been poured into by a good man. It’s a struggle to not be depressed but God’s grace is bountiful and we are blessed to have your ministry, thank you pastor ❤
This sounds like my girlfriend relationship with her husband. She said that she didn't love her husband at first, but the way he treated her she felled in loved with him. She said that he was good for her by doing things for her. She said that when they start having children they came to an agreement that they children would come first and now they had been married over 40 years. I was there to witness up and downs but they made it through the hard times. She said that she fears no woman and that sounds like true love under a solid rock.❤❤️❤️
I was married to a so called “Alpha “ male. 20 years! Nothing but loneliness. Sage words he’s speaking !
This is the message I needed. My husband and I are divorcing and although I am beginning to find acceptance in it, I find I slip into the feelings of rejection and being discarded. We have the most beautiful family so it saddens me to think we weren't enough in his eyes. This message gives me hope and helps me to have vision for something real and authentic.
I feel the same way, not feeling good enough keeps me with him to “try harder” we have a history of him actually telling me I ain’t enough for him and him threatening me with other women, during a high risk pregnancy etc. I need to leave so bad. I been a SAHM for 10 years now, I have nothing and my kids are homeschooled. I don’t even know where to start to dig myself out. I’m so desperate at this point.
Hey, you have everything, a unique you and a beautiful family, God Almighty made you to be strong, when you feel weak, carry on, God is at the steering wheel ……
@@susansmith4003 Thank you for the encouragement! 🙏🏼
@@krystalgardiner5591my prayers for you and your family. You are enough! God sees and will walk with you through it all.
Hey sis. Join Jenny Weaver's core group.We just completed a 3vday fast for our husbands. God is doing amazing things.
The man that loves has a deep pursuit and devotion what a man !!!
A lot of us never had Good Father Role models in our lives, and because of that..... I had bad relationships 😞😢looking for love in wrong places......Thank You Sir ✊🏽continue to allow GOD THE FATHER to SPEAK THROUGH YOU TO HIS DAUGHTERS! 👑 👑 👑
I can relate to this😢😢myself
Hearing this made me realize that my dad didnt love my mother like he should have. I developed my own idea of love.
I am finally experiencing this kind of love after being in survival mode for 30 years of my life, let me tell you how hard it is to surrender and not being paranoid about all those attentions my man give me. He told me he just want me to be happy, and he prays for me in addition to being my support and comfort ❤ I love him so much but I’m afraid to lose him because I’ve never been used to this kind of safe love. Our meeting was so unpredictable and we learn to know each other each and every day at a distance. The long distance relationship is hard but definitely worth it when you encounter such a pure hearted person ❤ I thank God everyday for putting this man in my life at a point I needed this kind of energy ✨
I wish I heard this 20 years ago...I'm 46 now. BUT-at the same time, I know that I wouldn't have been READY to hear this advice- out of stubbornness and naivety. Some people just learn better from their own mistakes.
We appreciate you taking the time to pour into us women, it’s much needed 💕✝️
I'm greatful for the teaching. Not everyone has someone to guide them the right way. I'm thankful for my spiritual father🖤👑
So true!!!
Can we get Part II to this? A convo is needed for the men whose father wasn’t good and only witnessed their moms in an unfaithful and abusive marriage. And for the women who are healthy, healed, and not broken.
❤I agree totally.
It all starts from the kind of love the man got from his mother, father, or whomever raised them.😮
You are Absolutely right me and a close friend was just talking about this. It started at home. It's who we were birth from both parents and how we were raised and the environment and what we saw in the house hold. And how much love we was shown or how much toxicity was shown. Now that we are adults it still hurts. I can't believe how many of us experienced these types of parents not loving or being there for their children properly I thought I was alone. Smh
Pastor First Lady Lisa is blessed to have you We need this kind insightful information thanks for sharing and pouring into us and thank God for giving you this amazing assignment .
My parents lived distant, separate lives.
They fought all the time and kept secrets from each other.
Dad told us not to share anything with our mom because other people's problems upset her.
We walked on eggsshells around both.
There were no talks about emotions, relationships or any emotional support, connection.
It was a nightmare and terrifying as a child to be alone without someone to count on or turn to.
Like growing up in a horror movie.
Almost 50 and have never had a real or safe and satisfying relationship.
❤ I'm realizing that there are adult men in my life who have watched me deeply struggling to keep a foundation and watched me being continually threatened and mistreated in all kinds of living situations and have been ineffective in securing any type of long term support, supportive education on buying a home, e.t.c. I have realized listening to this that this is dysfunctional male character and I truly need transformation! Spiritual cleansing, therapy maybe, and to stop turning to the male family members who have been listening but not stepping up to really help me with this foundation building. This was really helpful and revealing. Why are so many men falling short on really protecting and providing and helping the women in their lives become more secure? My brother is providing me a place to stay and I am grateful and I need to make a significant transformation in my entire life and mindset and spirit.
I love this because it’s through these teaching and counseling that I was able to see the amazing man that god allowed to walk into my life. I was not looking for it at all. But through listening to these teaching I was able to change my ways. And adopt new ideas that allowed me to let this man love me. Because I knew from day one he would not force himself to love me but that it should and would happen naturally. I let go and have been enjoying the ride ever since.
Children should learn A B C! A is for Appreciate❤
I’m tired of playing these games, I just want to be loved and cherished like the Queen that I am 👑🩷❤️
Then you must love yourself 1st. Then once you have achieved that Then what you think you are looking for is not what you WANT or NEED.. TRY IT. once you love yourself the GAMES WILL STOP. because you will not subject yourself to GAMES from ANYONE.
@@mspj6008Thank you I am doing some soul searching and discovering myself again to pick and choose who fits right with me.
God will send the man that you deserve in due season
Don’t play them the Queen! You are far more worth the bs and there are no rules to love other than what you make it! Forgive yourself for the past and start to congratulate yourself for the future! ❤
That is all we need really
Getting off work get situated and tuned in for my lesson tonight praise GOD AMEN 🙌🏾🙏🏽
Thanks for pouring into a woman's heart. Many women need that and prefer a male opinion. Especially a man of God. I appreciate your word ❤
Awesome message ❤.
A few concerns or points needed.
1. A message to men on what the love of a good woman looks like.
2. A message to men and women on it's never too late to transform their mindsets to a healthier mindset to be with the one God called for them to be with.
He has videos that cover those points.
I attended that conference in Detroit. I was so blessed. Thank you so much.
Thank you so much for this video above. It was Excellent!!! I am 58 years old now, never married, and still looking for a loving man to one day marry. I have watched many red pill community videos lately to see what the men are watching and its been disheartening to say the least so I drank in your wise words like someone drinking their first glass of water after 10 days in the desert. God Bless you for giving your guidance to the women!!! I wish more men would follow you rather than these red pill community leaders out there spreading their ugliness and disrespect towards women.
Yess I’m loving the new intro. I found you 2 years ago after my 5 year break up, I just want to say I will never waste any more of my time nor will I ever settle for anything I do not deserve. Thank you so much for helping me stand on the queen in me. I love you
A dog will pursue u! Wow, what a life-opening metaphor😮❤
You are so right! My boyfriend is totally different from what I am use to. He has pursued. Me from day one. He is very understanding. And now he is talking about marriage 😊
Thank you Bishop for speaking on this because I was missing seeing my father love my mother properly. He was an excellent provider and protector, however he was cold and hard. Later in life, I realized he and my mother did an excellent job! My mother was raised by her grandmother until 7; when her mother came to get her. From 7 my mom took care of 3 children, all under 2; by herself, 24 hours a day. She wasn't allowed to go to school and was beaten regularly for the smallest infractions. Her only escape was marrying my father when she was 15 and he was 25. My father had been living with his single mother; he raised his siblings; putting 2 in college. He had no example from his father about loving your wife and kids . I don't have time to get into what my grandparents' deal was. Throughout it all, they stayed together and raised their children. So my take away is, each generation should learn better and do better. I learned loyalty and a love that didn't have to be spoken, but it was seen and felt. We all should grow in love because love never ends........
I am still learning....
My father died when I was 7😭 and I wish that I had these type of talks with him ,and that age of 52 it’s hard for me to recognize true love I wish that I had someone like you to talk to me and teach me the right way this video today is nothing but the truth thank you so much♥️😭
Pastor Blake’s is a blessing that generations of women need❤
Yes indeed he is!! I am continually learning a lot! What a treat to have a man of God teaching women and dropping pearls of Wisdom in our Spirit. God is continuing to use him! Thank You Lord for pouring YOUR Wisdom and instructions into us🦁🐑🔥🔥🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿Amen!!!❤
So happy for this teaching. My father was physically present but emotionally absent .
Pastor your have no idea how this message was needed exactly tonight in my life. This is a divine word. It amazed me how in tune you are with the Father. Keep your ministry and keep close to Father.
You are needed more than ever for our community 😌
I am so grateful for Dr RC Blake's. I stumbled on his video about narcissistic behaviors and from then I just love him. He has so much wisdom. I wish I knew him years ago. He opened my eyes and helped me define the marriage I'm in. Thank you Sir. May God continue to pour into you and that you continue to have the wisdom like Solomon. 🙏
Me too!
I am always so impressed by RC.. his messages and his spirit is so refreshing. I look forward to everything he does 😊. We love you pastor
Thank you RC for helping me understand the personality of a narcissist. You are also helping me truly see what the love of a man is supposed to be like and should be. All my life I have lived in abuse (as a child seeing my Dad abuse my Mom), and my Dad never showed my sisters and I love like I see the father daughter relationship in some of my friends. I’ve always wanted a true loving relationship from my Dad. My Dad beat on my Mom in front of me and my sisters. We also knew about all his adulterous relationships. But I just wanted to say that you are helping me with so many messed up feelings and relationships with my Dad, etc.
I haven't experience what true love is being raised by a narcissistic father and toxic mother caused me to get into relationships I had no business being involved in I thank God I found pastor Bishop Blake's channel years ago ,last year I went on Amazon and purchased two of his books plan on buying more always praying for Bishop and First Lady their ministry 😊🙏🏾❤️❤️
As soon as this is over, I’ll be watching what I missed plus what I already saw. This was very important for me to see. Thank you for this. I really appreciate it.
A dog will pursue you.
The man that loves you is devoted and Pursuits.
Unwavering devotion
Affirmation
Appreciation
Tell you your beautiful
A man of God loves God, knows who he is, where a man finds a wife, he finds a good women, and can loves and appreciates his Queen ❤
True A dog will pursue you,the man that loves you is devoted and pursuits,unwavering devotion
I feel u are speaking to the old me! My fam & environment was very UNGODLY. My earthly father was a preacher! He & momma weren't dependable. I found it hard to trust GOD for decades because I saw no one I could trust on earth! Thank Bishop for this beautiful message! I'm married to a good man, but I let him know my 1st love is JESUS!!!
A husband should be like a father with intimacy.......TRUE
Love of a real man =
Pursuit and devotion
Your talks are REALLY helping me 🙏🏾 Thankyou RC Blakes Jr
I am grateful for your fathering heart. Blessings Bishop RC Blake.❤❤
Your knowledge is so valuable and deep. My mother is a difficult narcissist and kept me from my father after I was born. He didn’t fight or try to see me; was never around. I met him in my 20’s and the experience was horrible. His wife was rude and disrespectful to me and he did nothing about it. He wasn’t a person I could have looked up to. I was so angry for my mother taking away my decision to know him and decide for myself if I wanted him in my life. It has caused me much heartache and pain trying to find love and support from a good man, but God has used this for His and my good and I’m learning how to make smarter decisions; gaining wisdom and discernment.
I just recently started watching you and I can honestly say that no one has ever been so direct and knowledgeable in this subject. You have blessed my life with so much promise and given me hope. You truly are a blessing from God and I’m so thankful for your teachings and understanding of women and their needs and struggles. God bless you, Pastor Blakes. ❤️❤️🙏🙏
R.C you have truly been anointed. . Thank you for helping so many...
Thanks Pastor Blakes for another great teaching. I truly appreciate you and Lady Lisa dedication to helping women. ❤❤
👋 just hopped in from Ohio. Love you RC Blakes & Lady Lisa ❤
Thank you so much. Now I'll know when a man is really seriously in love with me. I've had a few good pretenders that started out doing some of things you mentioned but they can only pretend for so long and then things start getting ugly I thought I was responsible and was causing men to fall out of love with me.
You are awesome! My father taught me LOVE!!! 100 % he raised me at a young age when my mother left the home he build for her!! I just did not have a healthy, safe partner. Period!
I am very particular of who I let my ears listen to and eyes see but this title led me to select the video and the message was right on time . I literally have journaled and removed all toxic people including family ( which was the hardest to let go ) but because I knew it was necessary as I seek peace and my faith journey with God , thank you for this video. I love how God allows us to hear confirmation.
This teaching was pure gold, and yet at the same time hurt so deep to have to come to the realization that I am 53 and all the men that I dated and one who I walked down the aisle with never loved me or sacrificed for me, and rather than protect me abused me, every single one. Perhaps the result of an earthly father that was not present and when he was beat my mother to a pulp almost daily. I have been single for 14 years, have since done the forgiveness work and healed all glory to my Heavenly Father and Savior Jesus Christ. Maybe someday that Good man will find me. It will be a gift to experience the love of a good man, at least once.
I love this message!… Your like the father I never had.
Blessings,
Mr & Mrs. Blake’s….
We enjoyed you in Detroit! I’m still so overjoyed to finally have met my mentor! 🥰🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽♥️
Thank you for being a sound voice with meaning and intentions we never have to question, we are blessed to have you as a father
Such a sweet comment
This message is a prime example on why as a parent raising children, it is a necessity to not raise your kids in dysfunction. It does take a real woman and man to admit their wrong actions. What I have learned throughout my life is that first man a girl falls in love with is her father just like the first woman a boy falls in love with is his mother.
Mr. R.C. Blakes is my earthly Father!🙏🏽💝
I’ve made mistakes , I rest with that accountability . I am going forward with different boundaries but I don’t want them back 😒 … I learned 😊
Watching the replay and this was awesome topic that I didn't know I needed. Bless you Bishop
Thank you Father for this education I appreciate it and need this channel to learn what real love looks like so I want miss it. Thank you so much 🙏🏾💕
Your words mean so much to us women who were not validated by our fathers
Real good healthy love exist ladies and gents and it looks like and feels like peace safety and expansion like something only a Man filled with gods love can give to a women. Iam blessed to say I have experience with this love from a man I wasn’t expecting it from. We are engaged to be married and I know if your not use to it at first it’s scary to be loved so healthily (I just made that word up lol) I promise if you allow yourself to be loved properly it’s a blessing and you and me we all deserve a healthy love. Choose to love yourself first and know that God will deliver the right person to you have faith in God and in Yourself. Because you deserve the best for you and your spouse deserves your best in return.
❤ This was one of my top favorite videos by @RCBLAKES
I often have tears in my eyes and a deep feeling in my soul whilst listening to your powerful words. 🙏 Your love for those you seek to enlighten is simply overwhelmingly beautiful and I have, at 69, never felt that kind of love and acceptance from anyone.
Thank you for reconnecting me with God, through your sermons. Bless all you do, and who you are. 💞🙏✨️
Thank you ao much Mr. BLAKE and LISA. Love the wisdom.
I greatly appreciate your videos Bishop... God bless you, Lisa and the family too!
I've never heard a preaching this good based on the Songs of Solomon......Thanks Bishop ❤
Bishop! This answered a lot of questions on why I didn't understand the love of the man in my life. I almost lost him, but thank God that through therapy, your teaching, and healing, I am in a much better place, and my relationship is restored! Keep doing what you do! We need more fathers like you!
Beloved 🙏🏼First Lady Lisa & Bishop RC: You have enriched my🔥 Holy Spirit and my 🧠metacognition with your Biblical ✝relationship teachings... while navigating my life. It is "not" forgetting what I have learned from your ordained wisdom and making sure my mind is consciously aware & in control of my subconscious body, whereas, I am not in some low level hummmmmm . (Dang that flesh😖). With sincere gratitude for your "purposeful Jesus work"... Don't stop because I really love the way you school me! Respectfully USN VET cc
Thank you Pastor Blakes we love u and first Lady more❤
Awesome awesome awesome. Thank you Pastor. I love your love story about you and your wife. Both of you are blessed to have each other.
Thank you so much it has been about 2 years since I discovered your teachings and 2 years since I walked away from soul ties. From bread crumbs. And I am ok without it. I’ve concentrated on my career, family and earning more money. Time has gone by fast. Still no love offerings but I am ok with that. It just hurts to reaffirm what love is not. What love really is because like someone said before 44 + years in this world and still I haven’t experienced it❤
I love this message! I liked it and I will share also. You're the best RC Blake's. It blessed me and my husband ❤️ God bless you.
Sir you have no idea how your messages are helping us as women! This video came at just the right time! My God!! I feel like I'm dreaming in a sense that, how can this message be so timely. Thank you thank you and may God continue to give you wisdom as you strive to help women at large. May God also bless your wife as you are a gift to us as well❤
Always awesome relevant teaching that's VERY HELPFUL! DOING A GREAT WORK FOR THE WORLD WHICH IS GREATLY NEEDED THESE DAYS! THANK YOU!
Thank you Pastor! You really be on point. ❤
Frfr
From: Beaumont Texas. Blessings to you Pastor and Lady Blake
I’m so blessed to be a part of queenology🎉❤
Looking forward to this message. I need it right now. Guidance and understanding as God leads me.
Smart men listen to you.
Your words have arrived at JUST the right time in my life, everything is nicely coming together! Had me smiling and laughing...thank you!❤
Thank you so much my spiritual father & thank you Queen Lisa for sharing him with us! Continued blessings to the both of you!❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for your teachings Mr Blakes
And Ms. Lisa. She's the other half that makes him great. Love them both.
This is a wonderful message for "a humble fella", not a prideful guy.....
This is so true! My pops is a great father but I didn’t witness him treating my mother properly. Now I understand… 😮❤