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  • Опубликовано: 26 авг 2024

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  • @astarisborn9820
    @astarisborn9820 2 года назад +96

    This was me a few months ago. I prayed to God to change my mindset about debt/hoarding and materialism. The things I used to care about fashion wise and cosmetics wise are meaningless to me now. I just try to be happy with myself and I have so much peace! 😊

    • @lanafeulner4083
      @lanafeulner4083 2 года назад +5

      Don't EVER put any negative tone to materialism. It's about an appreciation for art. Handbags are a form of art. You can look without buying. Chanel is a perfect example of art.

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад +7

      I think it's so true people say happiness comes from within xx

    • @lelexoxo303
      @lelexoxo303 2 года назад +2

      @@lanafeulner4083 So you think being materialist is a good thing? 🤨 Huh.

    • @lanafeulner4083
      @lanafeulner4083 2 года назад +1

      @@lelexoxo303 handbags are a form of art in my opinion. Do you think the Mona Lisa Painting is materialistic?

    • @AdrienneMint
      @AdrienneMint 2 года назад +3

      @@lelexoxo303 I’m just here to say I agree, I don’t think materialism is a good thing. I think art is not materialism. The Mona Lisa is art. A purse is not.

  • @JenJenFlower5
    @JenJenFlower5 2 года назад +4

    I love you channel Eileen, after watching so many unboxing and shopping haul on RUclips I felt like I need to keep up with them! I feel so lucky that I found your Channel which gives me peace. I used to me a minimal luxurious person but other channels changed me to shopaholic and now I am converting back to my old self. I feel so much better that there is actually minimal luxurious people out there like me. Please keep up with the good work!!!

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад +3

      Thank you for your kind words! I'll keep working hard to post more videos about intentional spending xx

  • @KateKay28
    @KateKay28 2 года назад +27

    “This is the last thing I’ll buy in awhile”… Yup. Guilty. Another great video! Thanks so much for these Eileen. So helpful.

  • @njnn4896
    @njnn4896 2 года назад +5

    Such deja vu feelings especially on "I will make it work", "saving money by shopping now"! 😂
    "I can make it work," was the ultimate killer lie for me. Had 2 Chanel, 2 Gucci, 1 Salvatore Ferragamo & 1 Prada bags from my previous purchase which aint my style & lifestyle. I kept telling myself I will have opportunity to use them in the future but eventually they just sat on my closet collecting dust for 3-4 yrs.
    And ... I have finally bite the bullet & decluttered my bags from 20+ bags to 10 & 15+ slg to 6!!! Retaining those that really suit me & my lifestyle.
    And yes Eileen "I can sell later" though is true but it is truly a very painful experience. I suffered 70% loss on slg ie wallets (bifold & long) from Prada, Chanel, Burberry & Gucci & 50% loss on Chanel, Gucci, S.Ferragamo & Prada shoulder bags. The only blessings is that I managed get cashback instead of consignment & that I have cut my losses earlier than later. I might further adjust as I realised I have mostly shoulder bags & might sell 1 to replace with a crossbody or a more versatile piece.
    Perhaps some could argue that classic pieces could earn a profit or sell at small a loss, but these items will have to be in pristine/like new condition.
    Well, firstly I hope to enjoy my bags not baby them, secondly I don't have the intention of reselling them when I initially purchased them.
    Anyway in short, lesson learnt & not let history repeat. I do feel relief after decluttering though heart pain, sweet bitter feeling 🙏🏻😂

  • @ceecee7879
    @ceecee7879 2 года назад +13

    Perfect explanation of an investment “piece” which should be a classic piece. Something that may be costly but will be a “valuable” part of wardrobe for years to come ☺️

  • @vanessabogaert2104
    @vanessabogaert2104 2 года назад +6

    You have such a sensible approach to consumerism! And your delivery is very humble and kind. I really enjoy your videos and find them very helpful in reforming my shopping habits.

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад

      That's really kind of you, thank you xx

  • @tamiewert808
    @tamiewert808 2 года назад +4

    I relate to all of these things we tell ourselves, particularly "this is the last thing I'll buy for awhile"!!!

  • @reneehampton7665
    @reneehampton7665 2 года назад +8

    You are so on point with everything you talked about in this video. I am constantly saying that people should not calling handbags investments.

  • @Mrphy52
    @Mrphy52 2 года назад +2

    I think mine are “I’ll wear this when I lose weight” or “I’ll wear this when I go back to the gym”… 🙈

  • @bibikhan1080
    @bibikhan1080 2 года назад +1

    Eileen ,I am so relieved to hear this video.I was having restless nights on a bag I was thinking about.

  • @jasminebaby3375
    @jasminebaby3375 2 года назад +6

    I think most people who doesn’t have it like to keep up with the Jones, like I used to be. I remember when I didn’t have the means I was buying too many luxury handbags and shoes. I have no idea what I was thinking, very irresponsible of me. I’m currently in a better position and I can easily spend 15k on a luxury item on a spot, but I have no desire for things anymore. I’m truly enjoying my curated pieces and I really don’t want anything to else.

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад +1

      Thanks for sharing! I think it's probable the desire for validation xx

  • @kins1332
    @kins1332 2 года назад +1

    You are speaking truth. For me, it got to the point where I lived in shame and guilt. I wouldn't wear any of the pieces because I didn't want to hear any comments or have attention brought unto to me. It wasn't about not being able to afford it. It was more about the embarrassment of living in excess. Have way more than I needed. And you are so right, I've been thinking about how my past decisions have affected my future. I choose wisdom over believing the lies. As always, thank you for your video. We need to hear the truth.

  • @SA-hy6nw
    @SA-hy6nw 2 года назад +8

    Spot on Eileen, guilty of all of this unfortunately but will be actively working towards less materialism and consumption.

    • @lanafeulner4083
      @lanafeulner4083 2 года назад

      I don't think her video is about education. She may feel guilty for investing in thousands of dollars worth of handbags for investments, but this is NOT what is expected. You invest in what you LOVE and want to USE, FIRST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Chanel and Hermes is a great choice, but you can't guarantee an investment!!!

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад +1

      @S A thank you! Sending you a lot of positive energy xx

  • @mylifemyjourney1
    @mylifemyjourney1 2 года назад +2

    Great point Eileen. But for most of us it's easy to agree & to talk about minimizing luxury; but in reality it is difficult, in other words luxury could be an addiction. And the luxury is an investment idea is very toxic.

  • @pisomadridful
    @pisomadridful 2 года назад +7

    Thank you Eileen for another great video ♥️. The thought “this is the last bag I’ll buy because it’s THE bag I’ve been looking for” is just a lie we tell ourselves - I’ve been there many times! And always wanting another perfect bag afterwards. How can that be possible…? Maybe because these bags are just there to momentarily cover something deeper (lack of self-esteem, need for approval, boredom, emptiness…). It’s so difficult to understand the real reasons why we impulsively shop, apart from marketing and the social media. I’m starting a no-buy year now, and really hope to stick to only those purchases that belong to the “I need this” category - no more “I want this” for a while… Have a lovely week! 😘♥️

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад

      Wishing you a great no-buy year xx

    • @Lindygracie
      @Lindygracie 2 года назад +3

      I just completed my first year of no buy and I must say, it opened my eyes to a lot. Materialism is a soul disease indeed. One can stay detached to these is free indeed. I’m not interested in luxury items, I’d rather spend the money elsewhere. You should try it, it’s really enlightening. I’ve discovered people buy out of boredom sometimes.

    • @pisomadridful
      @pisomadridful 2 года назад

      @@Lindygracie totally agree! One non shopping month already (from non necessary stuff) and I feel so encouraged to keep going! Thanks for sharing your experience 💕

    • @katereading7824
      @katereading7824 2 года назад

      me too. 2022=no buy year. wish you luck!

  • @tippytoe5069
    @tippytoe5069 2 года назад +4

    I used all those excuses myself. I learned the hard way.

  • @marystafford7624
    @marystafford7624 Год назад

    Excellent excellent video. Unfortunately I can identify with all the points you made. Especially the “FO MO” and “this is the last thing I’ll buy”! I have two Chanel bags I wish I’d never bought, and now I don’t know what to do with them. I don’t really buy high luxury bags anymore, I have a nice collection that I’m pretty happy with. I definitely think twice, even thrice, before buying an expensive item. Many times now I pass on buying it. This is a very educational video that every woman out there should watch!

  • @thealiceedit2153
    @thealiceedit2153 2 года назад +6

    I definitely needed some of these reminders 😅 thanks for continuing to put out content like this!

  • @Lifeisbeautiful-ri2tb
    @Lifeisbeautiful-ri2tb 2 года назад +3

    I have been there with the this is the last purchase I will make for a while mentality. It was a lie and I see that now. I now have the one in one out bag policy and it is tough but makes me think harder before a purchase because I would have to let go of an item. Love the sound of your soothing voice. ♥️

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад

      I definitely follow the one-in-one-out rule for my bags too xx

  • @ChrisCanomi
    @ChrisCanomi 2 года назад

    I love her vocabulary, great video

  • @sujitashah1664
    @sujitashah1664 2 года назад +3

    Thank you for creating these video, in this profit oriented world everyone looks to find a way to make profit out of something, specially luxury item bloggers, they show off their collections and encourage viewers to shop more, but I am really grateful for your Channel and insights you provide through your videos, as I find out it really helpful. I like your passion , energy, and effort you put in making these videos. Thank you very much 🙏

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад

      Glad you enjoyed it! Feedback like this really keeps me going xx

  • @designsgood
    @designsgood 2 года назад +2

    As always, you're a breath of fresh air. Thank you, Eileen!

  • @mackey6239
    @mackey6239 2 года назад +5

    Even though I’ve listened and agreed to you all the time, but it’s so difficult to practice and do this Eileen. 😢 Hope I can practice and do much better next time.

  • @belindarodriguez01
    @belindarodriguez01 2 года назад +2

    I love this video. It's so honest and relateable. Thanks Eileen for the wonderful content xx

  • @chatpontonnjamsirirojrat6980
    @chatpontonnjamsirirojrat6980 2 года назад +1

    Thank you Eileen, your messages helps keeping me calm during holiday shopping this year :)
    I've adapted mindful shopping (about uses and longevity) to gifting also.

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад +1

      That's really lovely to hear! Happy holidays xx

  • @iamjulia9458
    @iamjulia9458 2 года назад +3

    So true! Being in the marketing industry for so long, I knew the marketing tricks and tactics but I still can't help it, making some impulse buys at times. 😅

    • @perthfanny3017
      @perthfanny3017 2 года назад

      You should make a video about those tricks 😅 that be so interesting!

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад +1

      It must be so interesting to work in marketing! xx

  • @lluvbagel9875
    @lluvbagel9875 2 года назад +2

    Yup quilty as charged!!! I made a promise to myself to cut down on unnecessary shopping earlier this year but I’m falling off wagon over n over again with those excuses you mentioned in your video 😵‍💫 MUST start in 2022!!! 💪🏻

    • @jucaja
      @jucaja 2 года назад +1

      I know how you feel!🥶

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад

      Sending you a lot of positive energy and wishing you a mindful 2022 xx

  • @yulianagonzalez2428
    @yulianagonzalez2428 2 года назад

    You are amazing babe this is a great video I always said is the last one😂
    I have to watching twice because I love the content
    I’m watching you from Washington

  • @sianpateman5479
    @sianpateman5479 2 года назад

    I love this video, it' so brave and honest. I understand the obsession with the Cartier 'Love' bracelet as I can get that obsession with many things and then feel as though I have to have them even though they aren't right for me. It's great that you wear the same stunning VCA necklace in so many of your videos, it always looks beautiful and elegant!

  • @colelynn8089
    @colelynn8089 2 года назад +2

    Wow you hit the nail on the head for everything I do and tell myself!! I need a how to stop video. Coming in to 2022 I want to break my bad habits. Would love to know more about the low buy challenge.

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад +1

      Wishing you a smooth low buy year for 2022 xx

  • @karenlie5256
    @karenlie5256 2 года назад +3

    I have a small wardrobe which I think I have so many nice pieces to choose from. ESP with covid, we are not going out. For bags, I urge everybody to reconsider your purchases a few months b4 dropping the money. In my country, luxury items are highly inflated compared to Europe. I just can't bring myself to buy them unless I am travelling. Price is very important to me.

  • @HyperlazyRosi
    @HyperlazyRosi 2 года назад +2

    I came across your channel recently and started to watch all your videos. Another great video! I’m trying to declutter my closet and investing in quality pieces that I feel best in. It’s so difficult to get rid of clothes I now view as the hours I spent working to purchase them. Slowly but surely.

  • @eleawanis1732
    @eleawanis1732 2 года назад

    I really wish to have your Mindset !! I have to stop ✋🏻 with all the luxury shopping ! Who in the world needs 40 designer bags !!

  • @warningshoes8986
    @warningshoes8986 2 года назад +7

    The word investment came out of the blue over the last year and a half, it seems to be another pandemic gimmick ! Luxury influencers earn money through hauls and unboxings, so every single piece is an investment ! As far as we are concerned here, none of these pricy stuff is an investment.. 🤑🤪❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @zainabnasir5571
    @zainabnasir5571 2 года назад +1

    Thank you Eileen for sharing the advice.

  • @pxl4689
    @pxl4689 2 года назад

    Eileen you are spot on! Thats exactly all the lies I told myself 😅 very accurate!

  • @DaniOchannel
    @DaniOchannel 2 года назад +3

    My pants are on 👖👖🔥🔥🔥. Still working on more mindful spending💕💕

  • @fcicabyss74
    @fcicabyss74 2 года назад +1

    I really appreciate you Eileen, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and ideas!
    Much love and happy holidays!

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад +1

      That's really sweet of you, thank you xx

  • @mrsm8517
    @mrsm8517 2 года назад +1

    You are very wise, Eileen!! Thank you for your videos :)

  • @Lv2na
    @Lv2na 2 года назад +1

    Thank you again so much for sharing healthy content! Love it

  • @CathiesEnsemble
    @CathiesEnsemble 2 года назад +1

    really helps remind me how i fall under some of those idea, so thank you! :D I just need to probably read all of this over and over again! lol

  • @ketchan7275
    @ketchan7275 2 года назад +1

    Love your videos and your ideas, very proud of you ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @jucaja
    @jucaja 2 года назад +1

    Another great video full of great advice! Thank you so much! I need this weekly! BTW I went to Chanel this past week to pick up my bags that needed repair and I didn’t buy anything extra! I was so proud of myself. 😆

  • @karen1552
    @karen1552 2 года назад +3

    Great tips and video!

  • @silviahernandez4827
    @silviahernandez4827 2 года назад +2

    Great tips . Yeah I been there too. Now I’m thinking about it more before I’m purchasing. I’m still working on the events outfit I still feel like I need to buy a new dress if I go to a wedding . God help me. 😍

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад +1

      Those wedding guest dresses can be tempting I agree xx

  • @annhans3535
    @annhans3535 2 года назад +1

    I am guilty of the "I have nothing to wear" then, buy 5 outfits with the intention of returning the ones I don't like and never do. So, I have one closet downstairs full of dresses with stickers on them. Never wore them.

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад +1

      I definitely had been there myself xx

  • @minimalistluxestyle
    @minimalistluxestyle 2 года назад +1

    Great video and lots of great tips!

  • @debraturner4559
    @debraturner4559 2 года назад +1

    Excellent points with this topic!

  • @mindbodysoul8214
    @mindbodysoul8214 2 года назад +1

    My thoughts exactly... the investment in a store purchase should be an investment in YOU and how often it will be used. I noticed during the Black Friday/Cyber Monday sale there was always a --- going fast, only a few more left notice.... the pressure was there but I found out it was there the next morning; a week after, many of these items sold clearance 75-80% less. Next year I'll be even more prepared. I learned *I can Walk Away* from a BF/CM purchase even. I am thankful for your message, I've learned so much from you Eileen.🙏🏾💕🌺

  • @claricemorris2298
    @claricemorris2298 2 года назад +1

    Love your sweater and advice

  • @bymiahs
    @bymiahs 2 года назад +2

    This was so true! Thank you for this video darling!

  • @ChatsWithChris
    @ChatsWithChris 2 года назад

    I’m 27 and discouraged I can only afford to put 500 a month away in my 401k. It’s so slow to build. I feel like even by 60 I won’t have enough put away.

  • @LezzySarr
    @LezzySarr 2 года назад +1

    Lies we tell ourselves when it comes to shopping: If I spend a little extra money on something, I'm getting better quality. This is usually not the case (IMO). I have purchased many "quality" items thinking that I am getting my money's worth but in reality no. I purchased an expensive name brand pair of shoes (based on a recommendation) for my job. Since I needed good shoes at the time, I decided to spend the money. These shoes didn't last for 2 months. The laces fell apart right away and the overall quality was just terrible. My lower end brand shoes lasted longer than those! I do respect well made items, but we need to do more research when it comes to spending. Your video is really helpful. Thanks.

  • @laurenromeo
    @laurenromeo 2 года назад

    So much wisdom in this video 🙌!

  • @bostonandbeyondfrenchbulld7335
    @bostonandbeyondfrenchbulld7335 2 года назад +1

    Hi Eileen,
    Another helpful video. Thank you. Can you share how you feel about wallets and other Slg’s? Do you purchase Hermes wallets? How many is too many? Do you switch out your wallets so they last longer?

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад

      I don’t actually have any SLGs from Hermes. Personally I don’t fancy having a collection of small leather goods, my ‘collection’ mainly consists of those pieces I use on a daily basis xx

  • @TheBerryPurple
    @TheBerryPurple 2 года назад

    I want to stick to a budget for 2022, I really want to feel financial freedom by saving more for moving/holidays etc and also investing more. I am very fortunate that I earn enough to be able to save, I just spend too much 🙄 Looking forward to your videos next year to keep me on track 🥰

    • @perthfanny3017
      @perthfanny3017 2 года назад +1

      You should really read the millionaire's next door^^ It is really about underachieving financial wealth because of bad financial habits. So eye opening!

    • @TheBerryPurple
      @TheBerryPurple 2 года назад

      @@perthfanny3017 Thank you for the recommendation, I will look into it! ♥️

    • @perthfanny3017
      @perthfanny3017 2 года назад +1

      I am sure it will help you to achieve your goals for 2022!

  • @sau4329
    @sau4329 2 года назад +2

    Eileen, I agree with you and I love your content.
    However, you need to have a good financial education when investing in the stock market, which I believe you have. As I don’t have it myself, I made big mistakes and lost a huge amount of money. Therefore, I wouldn’t advise to buy stocks. But I totally understand your point when talking about saving and planning the future. I think we should all prepare our retirement and as early as possible. Please just make sure you mention investing with a disclaimer as not everyone is able to this on their own.
    Love from Switzerland 💕 And please keep up with the excellent content.

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад +5

      Thank you! I read quite a lot of books about investing and personal finance, which helps. It's a shame schools don't teach us money management, so I really believe self education is important xx

    • @sau4329
      @sau4329 2 года назад

      Thank you for your response. You are such a kind an wise person ☺️
      As I have said I love your videos and content and always look forward to the new one. Take care 🙏🏼

  • @LaleArpaci
    @LaleArpaci 2 года назад

    Good points! Thank you

  • @MY-kh9hx
    @MY-kh9hx 2 года назад +1

    “This is the last bag” “This is the forever bag” “This is the only bag I will ever need.” Are what I always tell myself when I buy a new handbag. Lol

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад

      I know that feeling lol, I told myself the same thing a lot xx

  • @ev132-e2h
    @ev132-e2h 2 года назад +1

    I do think luxury accessories made my outfit look 10 times more expensive. So from my personal experiences, if I choose well, it can service me 5+ or 10+ yrs

  • @RKJournal
    @RKJournal 2 года назад +3

    *Me watching this video while thinking what I can do to fit a shoes that one size bigger that my real size. 😓

  • @kikidekort5009
    @kikidekort5009 2 года назад

    I agree with u.

  • @mariasullins6276
    @mariasullins6276 2 года назад +1

    Agreed!

  • @princessdyn
    @princessdyn 2 года назад +1

    I refuse to buy that don't fit or bags that don't fit with my lifestyle or that I already have one I use for the same purpose

    • @ColourfulNoir
      @ColourfulNoir  2 года назад

      That's a very rational way of thinking-- I like it ! xx

  • @rridafitness2340
    @rridafitness2340 2 года назад

    👋💃🧥🧥🧥🔥🔥🔥👍

  • @brownlatinaa46
    @brownlatinaa46 2 года назад

    do you live with parents?

  • @sipoli100
    @sipoli100 2 года назад

    Nothing to wear could come as well getting fatter and fatter- as my case I went up from 72 kg to 100kg- because I just like to eat sweet- so of course stuff I have when I was 70 kg or even 80kg does not fit me when jow I am 100 kg… and as I gain weight fast- I should buy nee stuff on every 10 kg I gain… so your lecture cant be true in all cases