Maleficent immediately came to mind when you asked to put a character to my anger. The live action version. All of my anger and rage stem from giving away my power over and over and over again, starting in early childhood. Trusting and loving, only for those to be used as a weapon against me at a later time….. I’m pretty new here, and I thank you for the time and energy you put into your videos🙏🏻❤️💫❤️💫
Wow! In all the years I have been on RUclips no one has ever said to turn anger into a character or image. Sadly, the image that came up immediately was my father. Very sad. He was my hero but only in my mind and not reality 😢
😢our parents voices remain in our heads … so at some point they are actually our voices that mimic our parents, and it can be helpful to identify it as my “internalized dad voice.” So that might be a good image to work with a seeing the image as your internalized ‘dad’ , not your actual dad. Maybe that internalized dad developed somehow to protect you? Wondering what it has to say now? Just some thoughts… what do you think?
I don't know why, but I visualize Cat Woman for my anger. Stealthy and lethal. I don't have an issue with anger in my healthy relationships. I have it in relationships that have been abusive in the past and dealing with abusive customers. I freeze with most other things, but 'fight' comes out in the rare instances I'm angry. I actually have a stop sign bracelet to wear to work to help remind me not to react. 😅
The stop sign bracelet is such a great idea if you have to work with angry customers! And I love Cat Woman - sounds like you have a decent relationship with her - I wonder if inviting her to tea could deepen the relationship! Thank you for sharing ❤️
Anger: your approach to everything is so unique, like imagining an angry little thing sitting my shoulder. Asking it to tea. Anger is just an emotion. But what is driving it? Once again such a different thoughtful exploration and explanation. Thanks
Anger: your approach to everything is so unique, like imagining an angry little thing sitting my shoulder. Asking it to tea. Anger is just an emotion. But what is driving it? Once again such a different thoughtful exploration and explanation. Thanks
I'm currently trying to understand why certain things make me angry. So instead of blowing up, I'll sit and think why is this making me upset and is it worth giving it that energy. Maybe even understanding it from a different point of view has helped me at times but it's a total work in progress. Not always in that mind set but getting better.
Very helpful. Last time i saw a therapist she remarked how angry I was but didn't offer any tools to process it or even acknowledge that it was a valid emotion so this is helpful. I'll have to think about what my character is. Maybe a super nova?
I am the explosive one because I'm not allowed to express my anger (never have been). I am always the angry scapegoat, the less successful traumatised one. The one that fixes everything around the house and cooks the best food. I am the failure with the successful narcissistic older sibling, the one without the highflying job. The one that didn't go to the Ivy league college. I am the one who is not "the pride of" my father's "life". I am the one that remembers the birthdays, the wedding anniversaries, father's day, and mother's day. I am responsible for everyone's ills and diseases. I am a failure
At first I couldn't really give it a character than I thought of Harley Quinn. I only watched some short clips about her but I think maybe it makes sense that I chose her
Best to identify what and who made you angry? Is your anger reasonable? Did you get treatment completely opposite what you offer? Then it is worth walking Away from people, situations and expections that drive you to anger. Think again if you're taking your anger on others it's something you need to work on yourself. That's what I learned about myself now I'm surrounded by people who comfort me and stay away from those who anger me.
Im cycling through a park, in good mood and see people walking in the only part allowed for cycling. I switch as i approach them to annoyance. How dare they walk here, they have the whole park. I cycle really close past them. If i come out of cycle lane i will be fined get wrong, appear not to respect the rule. Its daft and i lose all the pleasure of the cycle ride.
Interesting… maybe just give it time. Also, sometimes these “parts” have been hiding too long to come out right away! I wonder if you can visualize it hiding and you can’t see it but you can talk to it? Just an idea!
Maleficent immediately came to mind when you asked to put a character to my anger. The live action version. All of my anger and rage stem from giving away my power over and over and over again, starting in early childhood. Trusting and loving, only for those to be used as a weapon against me at a later time….. I’m pretty new here, and I thank you for the time and energy you put into your videos🙏🏻❤️💫❤️💫
Oooo - Maleficent is scary! How did it go when you invited her to tea? ! Welcome to the channel and thank you for your thanks ❤
@@BarbaraHeffernan it was pretty intense and she had A LOT to say! I appreciate this exercise! And you’re welcome🤗❤️💫❤️💫
Wow! In all the years I have been on RUclips no one has ever said to turn anger into a character or image. Sadly, the image that came up immediately was my father. Very sad. He was my hero but only in my mind and not reality 😢
😢our parents voices remain in our heads … so at some point they are actually our voices that mimic our parents, and it can be helpful to identify it as my “internalized dad voice.” So that might be a good image to work with a seeing the image as your internalized ‘dad’ , not your actual dad. Maybe that internalized dad developed somehow to protect you? Wondering what it has to say now? Just some thoughts… what do you think?
I don't know why, but I visualize Cat Woman for my anger. Stealthy and lethal. I don't have an issue with anger in my healthy relationships. I have it in relationships that have been abusive in the past and dealing with abusive customers.
I freeze with most other things, but 'fight' comes out in the rare instances I'm angry. I actually have a stop sign bracelet to wear to work to help remind me not to react. 😅
The stop sign bracelet is such a great idea if you have to work with angry customers! And I love Cat Woman - sounds like you have a decent relationship with her - I wonder if inviting her to tea could deepen the relationship! Thank you for sharing ❤️
I have been binging your videos for a few days now and honestly you have helped put SO MUCH into perspective for me. Thank you!!!!
Anger: your approach to everything is so unique, like imagining an angry little thing sitting my shoulder. Asking it to tea. Anger is just an emotion. But what is driving it?
Once again such a different thoughtful exploration and explanation. Thanks
Anger: your approach to everything is so unique, like imagining an angry little thing sitting my shoulder. Asking it to tea. Anger is just an emotion. But what is driving it?
Once again such a different thoughtful exploration and explanation. Thanks
I'm currently trying to understand why certain things make me angry. So instead of blowing up, I'll sit and think why is this making me upset and is it worth giving it that energy. Maybe even understanding it from a different point of view has helped me at times but it's a total work in progress. Not always in that mind set but getting better.
If I were to make my anger a person it would be Bruce banner and the hulk
Very helpful. Last time i saw a therapist she remarked how angry I was but didn't offer any tools to process it or even acknowledge that it was a valid emotion so this is helpful. I'll have to think about what my character is. Maybe a super nova?
A super nova! Wow. Totally understand that feeling! It might have a lot to say :)
Hi I'm a mental health Therapist
My anger looks like oppenheimer's bomb
Michael from the Godfather. Calm but firm until it’s calm but ruthless.
What a powerful analogy!
Mine is a purple colour big slob like cartoon character.
WOW,THIS WAS GOOD 👍🏻
I agree I hope I can learn to put it into practice being someone who surpresses and then explodes only to regret it or make things worse.
I am the explosive one because I'm not allowed to express my anger (never have been). I am always the angry scapegoat, the less successful traumatised one. The one that fixes everything around the house and cooks the best food. I am the failure with the successful narcissistic older sibling, the one without the highflying job. The one that didn't go to the Ivy league college. I am the one who is not "the pride of" my father's "life". I am the one that remembers the birthdays, the wedding anniversaries, father's day, and mother's day.
I am responsible for everyone's ills and diseases. I am a failure
At first I couldn't really give it a character than I thought of Harley Quinn. I only watched some short clips about her but I think maybe it makes sense that I chose her
I found this video useful .I do feel anger but I don’t express it and I let stay inside me then later I would take to anyone who is around
Best to identify what and who made you angry?
Is your anger reasonable?
Did you get treatment completely opposite what you offer?
Then it is worth walking Away from people, situations and expections that drive you to anger.
Think again if you're taking your anger on others it's something you need to work on yourself. That's what I learned about myself now I'm surrounded by people who comfort me and stay away from those who anger me.
@@mariagill7129 Staying away from people is easier.
My anger looks like Yosemite Sam.
Thankk you for this tip. Useful.
Dragon 🐉 😂 😭
Monster
Thanks to you I just imagined Sauron sitting on my couch drinking tea, complete with armor and flames, and now I can't stop smiling. Thank you!! 😂 🎉🎉
Wonderful! I love it!
It seems like ( my anger) , a monster that destroys everything around it,
My anger, Kali Ma
Wonderful image. Does that feel helpful?
Im cycling through a park, in good mood and see people walking in the only part allowed for cycling. I switch as i approach them to annoyance. How dare they walk here, they have the whole park. I cycle really close past them. If i come out of cycle lane i will be fined get wrong, appear not to respect the rule. Its daft and i lose all the pleasure of the cycle ride.
Guess next week you'll try bowling.
Excellent
I'm a woman, but what came to mind is Batman.
Batman is great! I really like that because he is a protector. Maybe you just need Batman to work with you a little more? 😄
Weird how i cannot find the words nor images to describe my anger 😢
Interesting… maybe just give it time. Also, sometimes these “parts” have been hiding too long to come out right away! I wonder if you can visualize it hiding and you can’t see it but you can talk to it? Just an idea!
@BarbaraHeffernan ty, will definitely try to imagine that 😊
My anger is a fire that burns evetything. It can't be invited to tea; it doesm't speak; it just burns.