e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g she is saying i swear i felt it so strongly in my heart. like, you never feel secure with ppl like that. you never feel like you know them, or they know you. there is always this awkward anxious attachment style vibe, where they only tell you what you wanna hear. but you don't really know them. and they don't really want you to know them either. its a lot of secrets, and hush-hush, and a lot of mind games. i thankfully gotten out, i hope other people found the inner strength to get out of this abusive circus called a "relationship with a narcissist" because you deserve way wayyyy waaaay better then have someone play with your guts and heart and mind and spirit even!! on a daily abusive bases. Peace and good luck!
*_Bring a Magic Board, Chalkboard, or Wall Organizer into the mix. Watch it mysteriously go to the back of the closet then the yard sale or curb. Try to plan something and watch your plans get tossed out the window. Narcissists want their servants to be service-minded. Hanging on their every whim. On a need-to-know basis. That means the last to know anything on their itinerary. That keeps an anxious mindset. Nervous and uncertain. Keeps their "Ranking Order" in place and fully operational._*
*_"You see relationships are hard man. And in order for any relationship to work."_* *_"Both people have to be on the same page. Both people have to have. The same focus."_* *Chris Rock's "Relationships Are Hard" circa era 2014*
*"But the trick is. Not to be hated. I treat my men good. But not too good. I give them too much. Then they don't need me. I give them just enough where they need me. But they don't hate me."* *Sonny to "C" The "Bronx Tale" Movie circa era 1993*
@@EXSlimShady8798 *Whenever I'm sick (which is not very often) or beaten down by the day. (often)* *My Animals always come and stay with me. And sit beside me. In fact, they won't let me leave their sight. They know. They place their paw directly on me. And won't leave me. No matter what. NO MATTER WHAT.* *Proving beyond a shadow of a doubt. They have Empathy. Lots of it. Something Narcissists. Just don't have.*
*_One day she'll love you. The next day she'll leave you._* *_Why can't we have it just the way it used to be?_* Bad Company's "Good Lovin Gone Bad" circa era 1975
@@smokingcrab2290 *just make sure you don't find yourself in the dreaded: "Oh won't you stay. Just a little bit longer. Please please please, say you will" ... situation.*
Once im on my own, what I would like most is to take a lot of time to myself to heal and work toward my goals. My last relationship lasted 7 awful years and he kept refusing to leave my house no matter how many times I told him I didnt want to be with him. 4 months later I was in another relationship where I didn't learn the lesson and now im 6 years into the second relationship with someone who makes me feel awful but won't leave my home either. I will want to be alone for a long while to repair what these men destroyed. I do not ever want to let another man in my home again. I have no idea how to get out of this again.
Putting on earphones with your favourite music , loud enough to drown out their constant ranting makes life a lot more peachy 😊. Much easier to do a bit of housework while he's arguing with himself in another room 😊. Take off the earphones, look at him & ask him what's wrong? Then he starts ranting about you ignoring him . Then tell him he's arguing with himself because you didn't hear anything he said 😂 put back on the earphones until his mouth stops moving & put on netflix.
Took me three cycles to see the pattern I was confusing with avoidant attachment. I think it's better not to tolerate any 'hot and cold', and ghost them as soon as they go cold, instead of finding them excuses. There's also a gut feeling about the lack of sincere emotions, when they manage to get you, their feeling is 'triumph', not 'joy', a different kind of happiness.
*_Once upon a time_* *_I drank a little wine was as happy as could be happy as could be_* *_Now I'm just like a cat on a hot tin roof_* *_Baby what do you think you're doing to me?_*
I feel like many people may not be narcissists persay, but ALL of them these narcissist traits. So what I'm doing is I'm just avoiding anyone who shows me the first sign of any of these traits. I won't accept anything less
I say if you're with a narc you should just always think of yourself as single because they're not even emotionally invested in the "relationship" and they're probably cheating through the whole thing
@@johnmaurer2035 *It is. It's very old. I always wondered what happened to her. I watched her years ago. She's a hard-core Louisianna girl. So her accent is way different. She just seems in some ways to be a Cajun version of Pastel Danielle. Angie Atkinson was the bomb too. R.I.P. All 3 women have that certain "Aire" about them. Like they hold something that just can't be bought.*
e-v-e-r-y-t-h-i-n-g she is saying i swear i felt it so strongly in my heart. like, you never feel secure with ppl like that. you never feel like you know them, or they know you. there is always this awkward anxious attachment style vibe, where they only tell you what you wanna hear. but you don't really know them. and they don't really want you to know them either. its a lot of secrets, and hush-hush, and a lot of mind games. i thankfully gotten out, i hope other people found the inner strength to get out of this abusive circus called a "relationship with a narcissist" because you deserve way wayyyy waaaay better then have someone play with your guts and heart and mind and spirit even!! on a daily abusive bases. Peace and good luck!
*_Bring a Magic Board, Chalkboard, or Wall Organizer into the mix. Watch it mysteriously go to the back of the closet then the yard sale or curb. Try to plan something and watch your plans get tossed out the window. Narcissists want their servants to be service-minded. Hanging on their every whim. On a need-to-know basis. That means the last to know anything on their itinerary. That keeps an anxious mindset. Nervous and uncertain. Keeps their "Ranking Order" in place and fully operational._*
Merry Christmas Danielle 🎅 🎄 ❤
*_"You see relationships are hard man. And in order for any relationship to work."_* *_"Both people have to be on the same page. Both people have to have. The same focus."_*
*Chris Rock's "Relationships Are Hard" circa era 2014*
*"But the trick is. Not to be hated. I treat my men good. But not too good. I give them too much. Then they don't need me. I give them just enough where they need me. But they don't hate me."*
*Sonny to "C" The "Bronx Tale" Movie circa era 1993*
Even a mob sociopath is more humane than a covert narcissist
@@EXSlimShady8798 *Whenever I'm sick (which is not very often) or beaten down by the day. (often)*
*My Animals always come and stay with me. And sit beside me. In fact, they won't let me leave their sight. They know. They place their paw directly on me. And won't leave me. No matter what. NO MATTER WHAT.* *Proving beyond a shadow of a doubt. They have Empathy. Lots of it. Something Narcissists. Just don't have.*
@@Imnotyourdoormat I am sure cats protect us from narcissists STD (Spiritually transmitted demons) God sends a cat to protect you
*_One day she'll love you. The next day she'll leave you._* *_Why can't we have it just the way it used to be?_* Bad Company's "Good Lovin Gone Bad" circa era 1975
How can I stay if they're just gonna leave
@@smokingcrab2290 *just make sure you don't find yourself in the dreaded: "Oh won't you stay. Just a little bit longer. Please please please, say you will" ... situation.*
Happy Holidays, everyone. At least we're still breathing. Mega thanks to Danielle for another year of educating us.🎁
*"It's always ... You vs. Them"*
*Dr. Phil has an entire series on ... "The Narcissist's Motto is Get Them Before They Get You"*
Once im on my own, what I would like most is to take a lot of time to myself to heal and work toward my goals. My last relationship lasted 7 awful years and he kept refusing to leave my house no matter how many times I told him I didnt want to be with him. 4 months later I was in another relationship where I didn't learn the lesson and now im 6 years into the second relationship with someone who makes me feel awful but won't leave my home either. I will want to be alone for a long while to repair what these men destroyed. I do not ever want to let another man in my home again. I have no idea how to get out of this again.
Happy holidays! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. I appreciate your confidence also! 😊
Putting on earphones with your favourite music , loud enough to drown out their constant ranting makes life a lot more peachy 😊. Much easier to do a bit of housework while he's arguing with himself in another room 😊. Take off the earphones, look at him & ask him what's wrong? Then he starts ranting about you ignoring him . Then tell him he's arguing with himself because you didn't hear anything he said 😂 put back on the earphones until his mouth stops moving & put on netflix.
Took me three cycles to see the pattern I was confusing with avoidant attachment. I think it's better not to tolerate any 'hot and cold', and ghost them as soon as they go cold, instead of finding them excuses. There's also a gut feeling about the lack of sincere emotions, when they manage to get you, their feeling is 'triumph', not 'joy', a different kind of happiness.
Thank you for all the good work you, happy holidays
Merry Christmas Danielle!
Thank you so much
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Brillant!!! You are a super woman! Thank you so soo much.
Yep❤
*_Once upon a time_*
*_I drank a little wine was as happy as could be happy as could be_*
*_Now I'm just like a cat on a hot tin roof_* *_Baby what do you think you're doing to me?_*
True been there done that
I feel like many people may not be narcissists persay, but ALL of them these narcissist traits. So what I'm doing is I'm just avoiding anyone who shows me the first sign of any of these traits. I won't accept anything less
It's like you have a camera inside my home!
Most people have unresolved issues. That's why it's very important to solve all your problems BEFORE you start dating 😊🧑🎄🎄🕎🎅
So true.
I say if you're with a narc you should just always think of yourself as single because they're not even emotionally invested in the "relationship" and they're probably cheating through the whole thing
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*Nolla Girl 504 hahaha but no LOL. She's a classy girl just like Danielle.*
@Imnotyourdoormat Think it's an old channel. The last post was around 4 years ago. Danielle still wears the crown. 👑
@@johnmaurer2035 *It is. It's very old. I always wondered what happened to her. I watched her years ago. She's a hard-core Louisianna girl. So her accent is way different. She just seems in some ways to be a Cajun version of Pastel Danielle. Angie Atkinson was the bomb too. R.I.P. All 3 women have that certain "Aire" about them. Like they hold something that just can't be bought.*