Hey Steve: I’m Stuck in A One-Sided Friendship 😞 II Steve Harvey
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- Опубликовано: 30 янв 2023
- Her relationship with her friend of 25-years has turned into a one-sided friendship. She wants to repair things, but doesn’t know what steps to take. Can this relationship be salvaged? Steve had to give her the honest truth.
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"Remove yourself from those one sided friendships where you're the only one putting in the effort"..
Yes it is
True friendships don’t expire. Sometimes we hold on to relationships that aren’t there. Some people were never our friend.
Let them go, if they meant to comeback, they will, with their own realization that they ghost you on your important milestones and celebrations. Just give the space. If they ask you "hey girl where have you been, oh you just noticed that I am no more there?!?! Did you noticed that you were no show nor support GIRLFRIEND!! So I figured that's it WE EXPIRED!" I chilling. With some friends. No time to waste to wait. If you spare your boyfriends, you need not spare your girlfriends. If you can walk aqay from a boyfriend, fiancé who ain't treating you right, same rules apply to girlfriends too. Done! Khapish?!? 😮
I have a saying, all friendships come to an end. People move on with their lives sometimes, no hard feelings.
I let all one-sided friends go. Now I have no friends 😅 Edit : I am manifesting my soul family , so there is hope !
Bruhhhh me af and I'm cool with that ... they can go 👉🏽👉🏽
It takes two....I can't say for sure but how many were there? If you were the common denominator that's always something to consider js
I bet you have peace✌though!
🗣️Same here!!! I’ve noticed since living on the West Coast there is no loyalty. People are in it for themselves.🤷🏽♀️
Exactly
Once I turned 30, I decided to get rid of some friends like this. It was hard at first but I feel peace now and guess what, I've made new friends. Sometimes you have to let go of something to get a better one.
I've been struggling a very long time to let go of toxic friends but they know me so well and what buttons to push, its hard. I don't like them.
@@Mattamillion-vk2pf Do it gradually. Sometimes don't pick up or respond and they'll slowly fade away.
@@Mattamillion-vk2pfI've been there, too. It was tough when I realized that I was hanging out with a bunch of people that I don't even like and probably wouldn't miss. Take that first step and leave. It might be tough at first, but you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain by leaving.
They really need to bring this show back. Steve has so many valuable nuggets if wisdom
I thought he died
I had a friend that I was always there for. When her husband was cheating on her, she used to come to my home for solace and to get away for a few hours. Once they parted ways and she got another man and was getting remarried, she just told me she was getting married and did not extend an invitation. A mutual male friend of ours told me some years later that she was always jealous of me because guys always tend to gravitate to me and not her. I was done for life and don’t care how she tried to act friendly, I just considered her someone I know but not a friend. Sometimes you just have to view people through the rear view mirror.
Amen.... view them through the rear view mirror, well said!
Happened to me too
Great wisdom from Steve Harvey again!
1) Friendship has an expiration date. If the milk is stale, let it go.
2) Let the men hunt for you ladies! (and an extra tip that I learned: "Don't get in the habit of collecting red flags."
3) Old is the goal! "Everyday that you wake up is Gd telling you He's not done with you!"
Love all of it, thanks Uncle Steve!!!
*God
Scammer impersonating Steve!!!
Loyalty do have an expiration date I learned this couple years ago I stopped showing up for some ppl who hasn't shown up for m period
I don't know why a lot of people is afraid of getting older... For me it actually a blessing 🙌 🙏 thank you Lord. I'm so not afraid to tell others my age 😊
I've been struggling my whole life with a one-sided friendship. I've been fighting my codependency on this person, but I think it's finally time to realize this person let me go and to just be happy, like Steve said.
Ouch..same..a lot easier said than done
Quality over quantity when it comes to “Friends”!
For everything. Not only for friends.
I don't do one-sided relationships and friendships go; so I am over it!
I love Steve's advice. It's so practical and correct, we just don't see it for ourselves. He must be a great father.
We just celebrated my great grandmother's 100th birthday in December 2022! Had a blast, she even "cut a rug"! 😆
Happy belated to her that God blessed her with a long life
God bless her with many more blessings my great grandmother died at 100 years old she lived a great life
Happy Birthday to her 🎂🎉
@@lynettebrown91 That's not a nice making such comment on someone's 100th birthday.
@@lynettebrown91 I'm saying you should leave out the last part.
When I turned 40, I really fricked out! Then I got into this thing of not carring about what other people think about me. 40 is a really cool stage of life, because you learn to be you, and you are happier in your own body. It's now been 2 years, and I m still enjoying!
That second woman is blessed. I'm sure plenty of mature men would love a 35 year old woman who still looks younger. She does look great.
LOL..Steve! You go to the same church, same grocery store, same beauty salon; He ain't there, you ain't seen him down there yet, he ain't coming. Lmboo🤣🤣 Loyalty has a expiration date. Great advice Steve!
That part cracked me up 😂😂
Once they show you they aren’t for you. It’s done. Time doesn’t equal friendship or quality. Period.
Yea. Hearts go through seasons . You have to protect yours.
I definitely needed this reminder the one right here exactly
Steve you never cease to amaze me with how you approach people's questions, they always go back convinced and contented. I too, always looks up to you for solutions. I have learned a lot from all your programs. Thank you
Steve, I had no idea that you were in your 60’s!! I honestly didn’t. All along I was thinking you were maybe in your late 40’s or early 50’s!! You certainly aged well! I wish you the best & pray you have many more years ahead! 💗🙏
People who don't contribute to sustaining the relationship don't deserve your effort.
It is not important that your friend treats you with kindness, the important thing is how you deal with him. This is morals
I needed this. Exactly
Jeeez.. she's 35? and I thought I looked young.. oh Lord. The first lady I have that kind of relationship exactly what Steve said us what I did about it
She’s gorgeous, too! Such a pretty smile 👌😍
Totally agree. My best friend just quit me
I think Steve could have asked that sweet-16 looking lady to dress a little older. You know, drop the pigtails and wear a gown and heels. That should help.
And the guy freaking out about turning 40 is just because there is much in his life that he's not achieved. When you are on schedule with your goals you worry less about your age. The satisfaction of achievements and fulfillments make ageing a positive experience.
There’s the flip side…if one can develop an affinity for the gold that life offers through the tough lessons, which are 1.)sage wisdom, and 2.)coming into knowing oneself at a deeper level as to what’s truly valuable to us…what is it we need to do to get ourselves in gear and begin to use our days bring about self-actualization starting from just where we are first. Then, progress step by step from there. The fact is that some of us truly are meant to be late bloomers. Some of the worlds most renowned, successful people did not hit their stride until the mid-40’s. Facts 💯. Check out history. So, 3.) like Uncle Steve said, be grateful, because God is clearly not through with us that we keep waking up. How many people did not make it around the sun as any times as we did? Didn’t get any where near it, their days were cut far too short. We’ve got to count our blessings. That’s what the cliched attitude of gratitude is about. And 4.) change one’s perspective, who keeps saying “age” and “years old”? Why not say I’m 40 Tas or tats (Times Around The Sun), or I’m 40 years young? And OWN that gift. Take control of your mind and you take control of your feelings!
Steve's scream 😅
I used to wish someone a Happy Birthday every year for several years. Knowing that this person never even asked when’s mine, I was done! 🤷🏽♀️
I basically felt the same way about joining a dating site, “Perhaps he’ll find me on here!”
On line dating is for hooking up. No thanks
32 years old and 3 months old over here. I’ve always live sharing my age. Somebody in the dirt who wished they was alive. I’m beautiful healthy.
I learned that today i was in a one-sided friendship, and i went through a traumatic experience where it was sexual trauma. I was crying at my job, and my friend didn't even text or call or anything. That's when i realized that he wasn't a friend at all. Im learning to deal with life at the age of 20 and learning that i need to heal besides my family was there and some of my co-workers as well.
STEVE YOU ARE AN AWESOME DUDE. HARDEST WORKING MAN IN THE BUISNESS. I LOVE EVERYTHING YOU REPRESENT. THANK YOU MY MAN
I LOVE THIS COMMENT AND THE HEART YOU HAVE TO POST SUCH A THING XD HOPE YOU NEVER LOSE THIS, IT'S GREAT
I would have told her to stop going to her friends things everything. When her friend ask her why doesn’t she come around just say felt you might have needed some alone time because you stopped coming to my invitations was give you the space thought you needed
I walked away from a onesided freindship after 2020.....and it was the best thing I ever did for myself.
Our families had been freinds since I was little, but it was around my 20s when I really thought I was officially a freind to this one person.
However as the years went on a clear pattern started to form which always ended with me getting kicked to curve or really hurt by this "freind" yet somehow I always had to pretend to be fine with everything as if nothing was wrong. I would suck it up because our families were freinds and I didn't want to be the one who did damge to all that. Still, as the years went by it became very obvious I was never important to this person.
After 2020, in my 30s, I finally hit a breaking a point and just walked away without a warning or goodbye......and I now really wished I had done that sooner. I'm a lot happier now. Its sad that it had to come down to that, but I rather not be freinds at all then repeat that pattern again.
I disagree with letting hurtful actions not be addressed. She needs to find the courage and confront her friend; let her know how she views her friendship.
That she didn't invited you to her wedding said all you needed to know....... I had a friend that did me the same and i knew how late it was. When she saw me she give me some bs story i just smile🙂 celebrate her and check her of my future guess list.
See when some people get on their're feet they ten to forget who had they back when they was in the gutter.... It's okay leave them alone.🤷
Steve always on point
I’ve experienced this! Exactly Steve!!! If I see them ( hey girl) if I don’t I just don’t.
I am learning English. I found this channel today. It was so interesting and instructive. This is the best English lesson in my life. Thanks a lot for your optimism (and clear, legible speech).
The older I get the more I believe in the saying "When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time" Sometimes you just have to accept that some people will never be great friends, and if you keep waiting for them to change their ways, you'll be waiting forever. Let them go, wish them well, move on and make new friends. There are plenty of good people out there.
to those of you who binge-watching Steve Harvey's videos, I'd say good luck.. since this channel has like 8K videos 😆
One sided friendships are not real friendships. If they don't get a hold of me, they clearly don't care. 👋
I'm her best friend..
She's not my best friend ..
That's a one-sided relationship.
Ugh Steve is so lovable ❤️❤️❤️ Great advice all through 👌🏽
Good advices Steve 👏👏👏💕
Hello
@@tomcrusie1091 Did you escape the
@@name9601 escape the what?
I lOVE what you said about Loyalty!
It sounds like your "friend" is a narcissist.
Old is a goal ✅
Maybe she gonna watch this video and you not need to approach her
48 !! She looks like she could be 25
Master Class. We have all kept milk in the fridge past its expiration date. You can use it for baking good breads and cakes or be done with it and pour it out. Either way, you don't have see it as a huge loss because they have already checked out. Even if they are present they might be toxic, like the sour milk. If you struggle with letting people go, that's okay. Just stop checking in. Stop prioritizing them. Reset the boundaries. It's called a 'lock change'. You simply have recoded access. You don't have to change your telephone number unless there is a bigger reason and need to do so. Just stop taking their calls. You are likely moving away they way they've moved away from you already. Trust and believe, they already know you are door mat, so when they cannot wipe their feet on you any longer they will get an immediate alert and try to find out 'what is wrong with you'. It is up to you if you want to tell them. This is something to void if they've habitually line-stepped over the course of the relationship. Just move on. You're a good person, you will find more people. Don't forget boundaries.
Great advice!!
I don't think a friend not showing up for a birthday has anything to do with loyalty. She mentioned the friend had a baby shower. You a grown woman upset that a friend didn't show up to a birthday party. Sometimes as we get older life gets busier and we can "party" like we used to. If your relationship depends on whether I show up to a birthday party. That's more of a you problem
Exactly! The friend has a little baby now
The point was she's always there for her friend, but her friend is not always there for her.
You’re the type of friend I wouldn’t want to
That WW looks good for 35. U go girl.
Why do people expect? Especially from other people? I only expect from myself...period!
It's the braids and the striped shirt that makes the 35 yr old woman look like Pippi Longstocking's lol 😅 she obviously loves the look, mature it up a bit if you really want better results. 👍👍👍
Any advice on how to do that?
Steve Harvey, is just so funny, taking to the man, about niddles, in his neck. Steve Harvey truth, is just brilliant
Why are you single at 35 with the 18 looks? Red Flag!
She looks much older than 18, like maybe 25, she just wanted to be on TV. 😂
Loyalty has an expiration date
It would to have a balanced life
I freaked out at 40. 15 years later I wish I was 40!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
😂 wizard of OZ... knows it all😂😂
💯💯💯💯
I love Steve harvey
Great video thanks
The 35 year old younger looking lady has what my pastor would call a "Good Problem"...........
So lovely I love the girl❤
Old is the goal now that's right!!!
Her friend just had a baby! That is why she couldn't go to your party! If you got married and were pregnant, you would have those big parties too, but once the baby comes, the baby comes first! Your problem is that you never got married and started a family.
First of all, her image (hair style and clothing) is designed to make her look like a much young person. What 35 year old woman wear pig tails?
very very smart advice for that 35yrs old lady
I never need friends coz they misleads drain you etc
Can someone please tell Corrine that I'm looking for her too?? If you're watching Corrine I'm here babe!!
Scammer!!!
HI STEVE GLAD TO SEE YOU.. I LOST ALL CONTACT. THIS MAN STOLE MY PHONE. MADE MY FAMILY BREAK MY TABLED. BREAK MY LAPTOP. AND DOES NOT LET ANYBODY HELP ME OUT WITH THAT. I AM NOW WORKING AT THE OFFICE OF 10 YEARS TODAY. I AM GOING THROUGH VERRY DIFFICULT TIME WITH THESE PEOPLE. HOPE TO GET HELP TO LEAVE ONE WAY OR THE OTHER.
that isn't a friend. if it's one-sided that isn't good. i had to end some friendships because of that same reason. you gotta end it! ppl don't change
Bye! Bye! You're not stuck in this relationship JUST LEAVE
Lol,hey girl
Maybe she just had a baby and is too tired to go to a birthday party.
Not the dating app part though.. I have been single for almost 7 years and the least I do is stay away from dating app. I'd rather being single than meeting someone who God knows whether they are genuine people from the app or not, dont want to end up missing after seeing them 😆
Steve is a foundtain of all kinds of information..Loyalty has an expiration date. Wow..Now I know...
Beautiful 35 year old she looks good. I have her same issue accept I am in my 50's. Lol.
Wow!!! She got married after two weeks
I disagree with Steve. Sometimes things may be happening in that other person's life that may not be known. Talk to your friend about how you feel. She may not know how you are being affected.
She looks good for 35 years old.
it's not everyone that smile ☺ at you that's your friend sista run
Online dating can be very ⚡ dangerous Uncle Steve! Bad advise! 🥺☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️
That not friend that. That someone that bother with u. Move on 😐
Hold Up!!! Come on Black Queen!!! Move On...
I’m 61 Man I’m so cool with it 😂
Maybe he should just marry that girlfriend of his to sign his 40th birthday. How are you afraid to get old and you are with someone you love
Her hair do makes her a lot younger and if she would dress different, you the deal…
Hey girl how u doing? I'm just checking in, ok bye talk next time. that's what I do!
😳😳 35 years 😭😭
I am Very like Steve Harvey
Good evening
Online dating is not the advice you should give such good lady. 🌚
What's your advice?
@@frost7490 go outside, meet people in person but not inn places like bars where the risk of finding dumb and goofy people is high.
@Moka LARE The number of people that will see you outside is limited, a couple. But the chances online are massive.
There must be ways to narrow filter out the fools.
She has a lotta sec
Proverbs 15:24
The way of life is above to the wise, that he may depart from hell beneath.
The tattoed neck guy dresses like a teenager cause he never grew up. No surprise he is scared of turning 40.
I have to hear the friends side of the story. Oh, and there is no such thing as a soulmate.
Well, with respect, I disagree. I grew up in a nightmare as a child , & as soon as I was old enough, I left & got a job here & there to support myself & all the while, I prayed for my Lord to send me my soulmate. I started attending a large Pentecostal Church, was saved & I kept myself pure still waiting for my soulmate.
It took a while, but I realized later that God works in His time; not ours, & one day at a coffee shop, I was just sitting there sipping on my coffee & although many had come & gone, the door opened & I happened to look up & as soon as I saw him, I instantly knew he was the one!! He got his coffee, walked up to my table & asked if I minded him sitting there & I said no. Five months later we were married & come to find out, he also had been praying for God to lead him to his soulmate. Half century later, we’re still together, have 3 grown children with families of their own, & we love each other as much, if not more after all these years. It takes prayer,
faith , patience & staying pure, but I truly believe that God has a Soulmate for every person! It’s really sad that you don’t believe that. Lord bless you. 👏🙌🕊