She doesn't have to stay single. There are men that share the same views as she does but hopefully she has been straight up with this man because they want different things
@@desiremakungu3372 Yes, I try to have an open mind...and to each his/her own but to get married and not want to live together just doesn't make sense. She is very confused
@C caymer you don't need to get married for sex. And having your own household while being married is also indicative of not wanting to be married for financial reasons. Getting married for financial reasons usually requires people to live together so as to cut down on living expenses in order to generate financial stability and ultimately, wealth.
Girl leave that dude alone and let him find a woman that can give him what he wants. Let's just keep it real, Sounds like she just wants a friend w/benefits.
@@tiberiusedwards3968 he is going to to find a woman that is going to be on board with everything he wants and then she is going to be S.O.L. she has the right to want what she wants BUT you don't have the right to try to control what HE wants.
My husband and I sleep in separate rooms because of my disability, it's just more comfortable for both of us that way. But it sounds like she just wants a pet.
The truth is, the likelihood of cheating by both spouses is way too high in that living arrangement. If my wife suggested it, I would tell her, "One condition: I can have other women living with me in that other house."
Exactly! Why you asked then? She didn't want his advice or opinion. She only wanted him to agree with her. Who in their right mind gonna agree with this foolery? 🤨
She needs to let this man go so he can find a compatible mate. She is wasting his time. There are so many women longing for marriage and a family and here she is playing games with him. Sis, stop being selfish and leave this man alone so that he can find happiness.
The estimated cost for each household are Separate Mortgage $850 per month Separate utilities $250 per month. Separate insurances $250per month. Separate service bills $150per . Transportations $ 500 per month. Separate groceries $500 per month. Total expenses per 🏠 $2500 Per month - Per person. Not to mention house chores time will increased. Home repair expenses will increase. Working hours will increase in order to make ends meet.
Nope. Not if everything is paid off. My wife & I have done this for 11 years. We live 5 minutes apart. She had a house before we got married and so did I. Never had one infidelity issue and we are as nuts about each other as the day we met. Just because others have their own philosophy about it doesn't mean it's concrete. That's just them. Other people's ideals should have absolutely no bearing on anybody else's lives. Every situation is different. We've done it our way for 11 years and we'll keep doing it.
Shes the type to ask for an opinion and say at the same time "Its my Life" than sis! don't ask me for ISHHHHHHHHH keep it to yourself because you don't want my opinion and you don't want a man.
Yeah because she's also the type to seriously consider wasting/ruining another's life when she knows at the start they want FUNDAMENTALLY different things. The only sacrifice she's facing is doing the right thing, but she's willing to let him sacrifice (seemingly unbeknownst to him) nearly everything. It's called sociopath or at least a very selfish narcissist.... Ugh. Lol
Look here lady black people don't do what you are talking about And ain't no man on his right sences would do what you are talking about First of all you want to get married second you don't want children and the last you don't want to stay with him together I think you don't know what you want exactly!!!
@vaseives Exactly, they all judge that she doesn't want to seemingly be smothered by a guy and all what they can bring in, but yet She has got those "issues" loool. Some thing is very off there. Not sure if you agree, but seems and is very wrong to judge a person who wants and should get true love (if deserves love and relations, face it not all deserves nor should have, so only mentioning that bcz relevant) if both are good people and sane they can make such arrangements work.
I asked my mom that a few years back if I married could we live in two separate households. She been married to my dad for forever and said no. I had to realize that the question was simply rooted in my selfishness. Just like her that’s why she got defensive. Go on and let that man go. This is what operating out of wanting to be alone but not lonely looks like. Need to pull the deep root of that issue up and out!!
I honestly don't think she really wants to be with him. They don't live in the same city currently, and when he does move there she wants 2 separate houses and hasn't even told him that yet which isn't fair. My husband would divorce me if I said some nonsense like that
@@prncessbaby16 There are some people out there who dearly love their spouses, but need their space outside from absolutely everyone to de-stress. I get where she's coming from, if I was rich by the time I was married I'd buy myself a studio apartment to do work in and sleep in for a couple of days a month to de-stress.
Pink That's completely different than living in two separate households. Also, if you ever want to get married you'd better get that separate studio idea out of your head now, because no one's gonna be okay with that. If you need tome to destress, then you tell your spouse you need some space and to leave you alone. But no one is okay with leaving for a few days every single week just to 'destress and get some work done'.
Literally the first thing she said was "I left behind a 3 year relationship". She then talks about how much she utterly rejects this man to the point where she doesn't want to sleep in the same bedroom, or even the same roof because she feels oppressed ("underneath a guy 24/7")..............................................Why the hell is she even talking about marriage?!
Everyone doesn't live traditionally. I support what she wants, and she'll find someone who's in alignment. It's similar to being in a long-distance relationship. ALWAYS DO WHAT'S BEST FOR YOU!
I've heard of two separate beds in the same room, even two bedrooms in the same house, but two households🤔??.... What is her purpose for wanting a marriage?
Because she loves the guy and that's what he wants. But she doesn't get that that isn't what she wants. And because they have two very different goals, they need to end the relationship now. Rip off the band-aid and put on some alcohol before that cut gets infected cause the infection will cause more damage.
One day she will look back at this video and see how ignorant she sounds. Than man needs to run because she doesn't want to compromise and their unequally yoked. She needs Jesus!!!!
It can work...as long as he can have another wife who actually wants kids and a life together... this lady can be the side chick then😀..of course I'm not serious..I'm just presenting a counter offer.
April Sandifer Oh right, and when he wants to talk with her, he can go to her house....get food for the kids, get woman stuff for his wife, shoo they gonna be saving some mad moneyyyyyyyyyyy
I always wanted to have my own house so I can go live there a few times a week away from my husband. TO ME THAT'S HEALTHY. I don't see anything wrong with that...If the TRUST and LOVE is there, go for it🥰
She did essentially say that in the very beginning by saying, "I left a 3 year relationship behind" which was the man that wants to marry her and move to LA. She doesn't need to be married or have children to pass this mess along to.
She probably wants the companionship or friendship from him but not necessarily the co-habitation. She is more in love with her freedom than their co-dependence.
Oh my goodness this is SO ME, why is it we can’t live in a duplex(not separate addresses)! I want to be married, and will do my wifely duties! I don’t see why it wouldn’t work, when couples get older they get separate bedrooms!
@@etf42 You are right in your subjective feelings. The woman is weird and obviously 99.5 percent of the folks agree. There are too many women for the dude to marry. He needs to let her weird self go.
Marriage is unity, and unity means that go and live your life as one sharing everything together. HTF does a couple live separately?!! Thats just stupid.
I know! I mean there's nothing wrong with not being single if marriage is not what you want in life BUT how you gonna say you married and live in separate households lmao
I feel like there is something deep going on in this girl. She didn't even want to sleep in the same room as him. Either she really doesnt love him and only thinks she does. Or she has deeply rooted intimacy issues.
This is legit only a question I have since I'm not actually educated in the area. But could it be that she's asexual? By not having a sexual desire for the man she finds it easier to have a separate everything really.
@@monicadacosta7161 it could be that. Thank you for sharing that perspective. ❤️ Honestly, reading a lot of the other comments on this video, it's truly infuriating to me how people don't understand and are judging her so harshly. I believe I've heard of something like what she's talking about and they're all acting crazy about it and like she's abnormal or something. I actually just looked it up again and it's called living apart together (LAT). Clearly these people aren't aware that some married couples actually do this. I guess it's not well known though. ❤️ For anyone who could potentially see this comment one day and want to argue this with me: I'm not here for that. Instead, go do even a little research on living apart together (LAT). There are articles on it. It is a real thing and everyone lives differently and you don't have to accept it, to respect that they can make the choices that are best for them. Just because moving in together after marriage is what you consider the "norm", that doesn't mean others aren't allowed to make their own choice that may be outside of your box of what you do or what you think is acceptable. Okay?? Let's get really clear on this right here and now. You have NO place in judging them or belittling them because you don't agree. Open your mind up and if you don't want to do that (because, again, as humans we can make choices), just go somewhere else with your foolish, close minded thinking.
@@tansley67 oh people can make their choice.. just like people can judge these people as well. If they want to live separately, then don't marry. Also your so call little research, just because some people live like that doesn't mean it is a THING. You might as well say there are pedophiles out there, why can't it be a norm? Don't judge them. You are the only close minded and selfish fool who thinks of that.
@@monicadacosta7161 I think that's a good point but even if you're asexual why did she sleep in another room? Cuddling and sleeping together always goes with intimacy, but isn't necessarily sexual
YO, too true me never thought so...... just a sad dumbass women.. the way she says... she cant live UNDER a man 24/7.. tells me some bad traume..... but like.. jesus......
My thoughts exactly like she act like she don’t even want the man around my husband and I both have our respective rooms and if I need to get away from him or vice versa go to your room and have a minute but sis don’t wanna be married
What is this woman really trying to hide? Living in 2 separate households kind of defeats purpose of getting married. This woman is so strong and independent that she is incapable of living with another human being. I suggest that she break up with her boyfriend, buy a male robot and name him Walter and build a shed in the back of her house for her 7 adopted cats.
Haha she definitely does not know what real marriage is... Two shall become one... She has issues for sure seems like she wants to be in control of her own house and not willing to compromise.
I don’t even think she necessarily is trying to hide something. She’s clearly just not somebody who wants to get married. Plus that’s not their only problem, he wants kids she doesn’t. That should be an immediate break up. This girl is stupid
She started off being defensive cuz she know she sounds stupid. What she's saying isn't even financially sound. Miss Lady mam, please quietly have several seats
Nakia Lowe or maybe theirs just a lot of aspects of her man that turns her off and she still hasn’t really found “the one” yet and just isn’t sure . No need to insult her like that
I met one separate household couple but they lived next door to each other. They were just both ocd and didn’t want their belongings mixed together, they slept in the same bed were attached at the hip, they just owned two homes. That’s really the only example of that working.
Not really.....this is a bad example because they still slept together and essentially lived together and just had their their things in two different homes
Kat Starr they cant be attached @ the hip and snd live in separate households. 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️. and most importantly; THEY ARE EXACTLY THE SAME PERSON!! They think alike... So it works for them because they are like-minded and want the exact same thing....This nonsense is not the same as you’ve described.
@@Michelle-pn9xt boyfriend or husband, if you live with the person you'll still have the same issues. And in some states they do common law. Fortunately for my state the worst that could happen is we would both be stuck paying the rest of a lease together, thats if you dont buy a home together
I really don’t understand why people want others to change for them. It’s alright if you want a two-household marriage, just find a guy who wants the same thing. That means it’s going to be much more rare, but at least you two would be compatible. If you want something rare, and you can’t find it, then just accept that you won’t have it in your life. You can’t go and blame the rest of the world for not being what you want them to be. Whether or not it will work, or if you believe it can work, doesn’t really matter. Life happens the way it wants to happen. This lady should stop expecting people to change for her sake.
Because she probably ain't gonna find a man that wants the same thing. There's a lotta hurdles and asks, from financially to socially, that I can't imagine even the most understanding man would cosign too.
Girl just be single and stop wasting that man or any mans time!
Sade_Ashley
Bye FELICIA ....girl bye 👋....wasting his time and energy on you. Please
Sade_Ashley 💯 11/5/18
Girl.... she got issues. That man needs to run🏃😅😅😅
Sade_Ashley Lol, completely unrealistic.
Exactly!
Stay single, don't waste this man's time.
@Leonard Johnson tt
I agree she minus will stay bitter and single the rest of her life
This ^^
I agree
She doesn't have to stay single. There are men that share the same views as she does but hopefully she has been straight up with this man because they want different things
She wants the marriage but not the responsibility of one.
And that’s exactly what it is! Well said!
The when the man cheated on her she will be complaining....but wait was she planning on taking care of 2 houses 😆 she's crazy
#BOOP!! THIS the comment I was looking for!!!
she just want the title married yet doesnt want to be in marriage.
That is madness
Just when you think you’ve heard it all.
i tell yah, we havent.
Sharla... we still waiting to listen more😋
Sharla Samuel Exactly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm in shock right now 😂😐
She’s gotta be an idiot
😂 the black woman with the blond afro😂 when she heard 40 years 🙌🏾 👏🏾👏🏾
exclusivesuperblend “yeah!!! C’mon” 😹😹😹
Medjine Seguy 🤣 love it
I love her reaction😂
@@exclusivesuperblend Me too. Marriages like that SHOULD be celebrated
Super excited💞
I like the lady behind the woman that's been married 40 years, when she heard that she got the holy spirit. I love it!!
I almot felt like she just wanted to channel that holy spirit to those 2 beautiful lost ladies
That dude she’s dating needs to move on🏃🏽♂️🚗🏃🏽♂️
Precious Jewlz right !!!
Indeed
The poor guy needs to run for the hills ! This chick is crazy . Waste of time
Quick!
move on? he has to run
"Imma judge you in a minute"
Steve is too much man lol
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣he's too much!
The lady behind that couple was too excited 😂😂. It was cute.
Why do people complicate life for themselves and then come to ask for advice?????
Yessss!!!!!! KEEP IT SIMPLE SPECIAL
Right, She is asking for advice but don’t want to hear it.
She’s just trying to find someone who justifies her way of doing things. She didn’t get it.
maybe living separate simplifies her life?
@ Naya Abannor, Sascrisse, exactly..she knows what she wants...
She actually doesn't want a man
Maybe that was her way of trying to get a girl's phone number don't know just saying. The girl in red eyes but said enough to give up the number
Joe Woodfin she is confused
@@desiremakungu3372 Yes, I try to have an open mind...and to each his/her own but to get married and not want to live together just doesn't make sense. She is very confused
@C caymer you don't need to get married for sex. And having your own household while being married is also indicative of not wanting to be married for financial reasons. Getting married for financial reasons usually requires people to live together so as to cut down on living expenses in order to generate financial stability and ultimately, wealth.
She wants a D.
Lady, I feel the same. Nothing is wrong with how you feel. I need my space.
Makes no sense getting married if you don't even want to live together
Concrete Rose I’m sitting here shaking my head, thinking wth! What does she truly want?
She doesn't want children and he does, so not going to work anyway.
Exactly!
Ridiculous
@@speerrituall1 she wants to able to say she's married but wants nothing else that comes along with it
4:03 "C'MON!!!!"
I need a supporter like her in my life 😂😅
yes...lmao
Yessss!! 😂
love to meet her.
Lmao
The way I was rollllllling, she's great man!
Have watched this episode of ask Steve more than 10 times and ain't getting tired ...🤣🤣🤣
Also, if she doesn't want to be judged then don't stand up on national TV asking for someone else's opinion. 🙄
Angel Stephenson 😂😂😂😂👌🏾
Thank you !!!
@@sabrinar.purnell3869 took the WORDDDS out my mouth! THANK YOU!!!
Angel Stephenson that's what I said. Lol people need to go talk to their pastor.
Ugh I feel so bad for her. This is not the right forum. It's like 200 vs. 1. This is not productive.
Girl leave that dude alone and let him find a woman that can give him what he wants. Let's just keep it real, Sounds like she just wants a friend w/benefits.
@For the Love of my peoples 4life I know...
dymplez exactly
dymplez ok like he wants kids she dont neva gonna work
@@tiberiusedwards3968 he is going to to find a woman that is going to be on board with everything he wants and then she is going to be S.O.L. she has the right to want what she wants BUT you don't have the right to try to control what HE wants.
My husband and I sleep in separate rooms because of my disability, it's just more comfortable for both of us that way. But it sounds like she just wants a pet.
People do have this type of marriage..it's called "on the rocks" or "separated"
@@himynameisandri right and then wonder why her marriage is not working
Tru Mandy right
Hahahaha! Preach.
@@prophetbunny you feel me
@Tru Mandy, well said, or side chick
And the sad part is, she probably has a very loving man in her crazy life....damn,
Right these clowns do be the ones who get good men
purple lady52 And she looks crazy too! 😒
I think she is spoiled and afraid of commitment...why get married? Stay single...you AIN'T READY to be grown..
She won’t have him very long
it's always like that. lol
I love the woman behind the lady declaring she’s been married for 40 years yelling “c’mon!”. Now that’s supportive love!
This is the most idiotic theory I’ve ever heard.
Me too
Count me too
She probably after his money or something like that!
Thank you
Is she serious? Me too I ever ever heard something like that.
That lady who jumped up when she heard 40 years. Lol. 😂🤣😂🤣😂 4:04
Jay 2Death 😂😂😂
COME ON, COME ON!!! 😂😂😂😂😂
Was looking for this comment 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Jay 2Death thought I was the only one that say that
That’s nice way of saying friends with benefits
She needs to stay single
Chemma Daniel: Yes
4:06 The lady behind 😂😂😂I love my people.
🗣LOOOOOOVVVVVVVVVVEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂😩😩😂😩😩😩
I love it ! lol
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@@NissrineA74 🙂
I need someone like her in my life.. 😂
By far the best issue on hey Steve
Marriage is a union point blank simple. Under one roof. One family that’s it.
So let's get married 😂
Its because she's a witch. Witches don't marry, they control.
The truth is, the likelihood of cheating by both spouses is way too high in that living arrangement. If my wife suggested it, I would tell her, "One condition: I can have other women living with me in that other house."
👈🏾👈🏾👈🏾
Not necessarily. Get your facts straight and respect who wants different things. Point blank simple
She asked Steve a question and then says "It's MY life" lmao
Right she want to make somebody else to be a part of her life decision , if it’s her life. Do she hear herself.
Exactly! Why you asked then? She didn't want his advice or opinion. She only wanted him to agree with her. Who in their right mind gonna agree with this foolery? 🤨
Cynthia Cummings most sensible comment 👏
clownish
Shes one of those people hoping that you’ll agree with their foolery when they ask for your advice.
It was the, "comeover part for me." 🤣🤣🤣
When he smashing women in that other house DON'T COMPLAIN!! When he leaves you for somebody that wants kids, DON'T COMPLAIN!!
Well... Men who are like that are gonna do that regardless. Ya Know.. While in the same household.
Men are still smashing other women while they live with us.
@@redlotusqueen not all men
she prolly be smashin some in her house too
Yeah that was what Steve was asking but her dumb ass didn't understand the question.
She needs to let this man go so he can find a compatible mate. She is wasting his time. There are so many women longing for marriage and a family and here she is playing games with him. Sis, stop being selfish and leave this man alone so that he can find happiness.
I am a widow, but have actually have this thought if I should do it again. 😀
The estimated cost for each household are
Separate Mortgage $850 per month
Separate utilities $250 per month.
Separate insurances $250per month.
Separate service bills $150per .
Transportations $ 500 per month.
Separate groceries $500 per month.
Total expenses per 🏠 $2500
Per month - Per person.
Not to mention house chores time will increased.
Home repair expenses will increase.
Working hours will increase in order to make ends meet.
Nope. Not if everything is paid off. My wife & I have done this for 11 years. We live 5 minutes apart. She had a house before we got married and so did I. Never had one infidelity issue and we are as nuts about each other as the day we met. Just because others have their own philosophy about it doesn't mean it's concrete. That's just them. Other people's ideals should have absolutely no bearing on anybody else's lives. Every situation is different. We've done it our way for 11 years and we'll keep doing it.
@@atlanticmilklord4049you live in a two house hold marriage?
Shes the type to ask for an opinion and say at the same time "Its my Life"
than sis! don't ask me for ISHHHHHHHHH
keep it to yourself because you don't want my opinion and you don't want a man.
She doesn't want an opinion. She was justification and validation.
@@NODE1975 right a lot of ppl these days want you to agree to their stupidity
Yeah because she's also the type to seriously consider wasting/ruining another's life when she knows at the start they want FUNDAMENTALLY different things. The only sacrifice she's facing is doing the right thing, but she's willing to let him sacrifice (seemingly unbeknownst to him) nearly everything. It's called sociopath or at least a very selfish narcissist.... Ugh. Lol
Bryan Fitzhugh TELL IT!
Bryan Fitzhugh right
Love the reaction of the lady behind the woman that said 40 years! She came out her seat! 😂😂❤❤
4:04 oh did see her click the blue highlite number
😂😂😂
Yeah as if her seat was electrocuted ⚡
Oh yeah 🤣 and i thought she would break the chair 🤣
I saw her too that’s what I like
I was out on the kids comment. Free that man from your selfish shackles lady. She don't make since!! Be alone
She said “whats the problem with that” im saying “whats the point in that” ‼️🤔
Look here lady black people don't do what you are talking about And ain't no man on his right sences would do what you are talking about First of all you want to get married second you don't want children and the last you don't want to stay with him together I think you don't know what you want exactly!!!
@@davidgobrain497 the only guys which would agree with that are the ones planning on cheating
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lol amen amen
@Avi hello somebody!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
She needs a therapist not a partner for the moment. I hope she heals! 💜
That's exactly what I said!
She need Jesus to lay hands on her ASAP
I totally agree! She has serious issues.
Amen, sister! I really do hope she heals, too..
@vaseives Exactly, they all judge that she doesn't want to seemingly be smothered by a guy and all what they can bring in, but yet She has got those "issues" loool. Some thing is very off there. Not sure if you agree, but seems and is very wrong to judge a person who wants and should get true love (if deserves love and relations, face it not all deserves nor should have, so only mentioning that bcz relevant) if both are good people and sane they can make such arrangements work.
I asked my mom that a few years back if I married could we live in two separate households. She been married to my dad for forever and said no. I had to realize that the question was simply rooted in my selfishness. Just like her that’s why she got defensive. Go on and let that man go. This is what operating out of wanting to be alone but not lonely looks like. Need to pull the deep root of that issue up and out!!
40 years thats goals😩❤️
Hmu bb
Amen!
Honeyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy drink a tall glass of shut the hell up
Lovelyti 😂😂
Hear hear
😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂😂
I just like how he left her standing there 😃😃😃
She don't want to be married period.
I honestly don't think she really wants to be with him. They don't live in the same city currently, and when he does move there she wants 2 separate houses and hasn't even told him that yet which isn't fair. My husband would divorce me if I said some nonsense like that
@@prncessbaby16 There are some people out there who dearly love their spouses, but need their space outside from absolutely everyone to de-stress. I get where she's coming from, if I was rich by the time I was married I'd buy myself a studio apartment to do work in and sleep in for a couple of days a month to de-stress.
She did mentioned she don't have to be married
Exactly. She's just too proud and/or vain to say it.
Pink That's completely different than living in two separate households. Also, if you ever want to get married you'd better get that separate studio idea out of your head now, because no one's gonna be okay with that.
If you need tome to destress, then you tell your spouse you need some space and to leave you alone. But no one is okay with leaving for a few days every single week just to 'destress and get some work done'.
4:04 LOL that black lady so excited for the white lady, I laughed so hard hahahaha 😂👍😊🤣❤
🙃🙃😂
ME TOO!
Oh my goodness 😂😂I couldn’t believe it...
Haaaa
She was bout to smack her haha
4:02 OMG that was it for me xD that orange hair lady reaction.. got me laughing so hard XD
The way he asked the other lady are you married and gives the 👀 lmaoooo I love Steve so much!!
Ayomide Akinlolu 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 ikr
Yea. I was weak!!!
Ayomide Akinlolu she jus want to have legal sex some how that marriage certificate makes it better
😂😂😂😂😂
Steve is SHADYYYYY LOL 😂
Literally the first thing she said was "I left behind a 3 year relationship". She then talks about how much she utterly rejects this man to the point where she doesn't want to sleep in the same bedroom, or even the same roof because she feels oppressed ("underneath a guy 24/7")..............................................Why the hell is she even talking about marriage?!
Avakai2 my point exactly!!
then she claims she loves him. The whole thing was just weird, she should end the relationship.
Avakai2 yeah I was confused too
Avakai2 exactly
@@demetriusdavis95 shoot she confused too we all confused by that statement 😂😂
Everyone doesn't live traditionally. I support what she wants, and she'll find someone who's in alignment.
It's similar to being in a long-distance relationship.
ALWAYS DO WHAT'S BEST FOR YOU!
The girl at the back be like wtf u talking about at 0:35 girrll she got me deaadd fr fr😂😂💯
T T I had to replay
T T her face 💀
💀💀💀😂😂😂😂😂😂!!!!
I've heard of two separate beds in the same room, even two bedrooms in the same house, but two households🤔??....
What is her purpose for wanting a marriage?
She can't be wrong, she can't be bothered, and she can't put anyone else first.
Because she loves the guy and that's what he wants.
But she doesn't get that that isn't what she wants.
And because they have two very different goals, they need to end the relationship now. Rip off the band-aid and put on some alcohol before that cut gets infected cause the infection will cause more damage.
True
Only thing separate we can when married is bathrooms or sinks...and cars. But that's it🙅🏿♂️
Lol she don't want to get married!
I feel like a polygamous marriage would suit her well loool. That way there are separate households and he won’t be there 24/7 🤷🏾♀️
One day she will look back at this video and see how ignorant she sounds. Than man needs to run because she doesn't want to compromise and their unequally yoked. She needs Jesus!!!!
Yes she needs Jesus!
It can work...as long as he can have another wife who actually wants kids and a life together... this lady can be the side chick then😀..of course I'm not serious..I'm just presenting a counter offer.
Lol she's crazy
Lol basically lol
April Sandifer lmaooo well said
No....because that will hurt his wife. So she back to square one.
April Sandifer
Oh right, and when he wants to talk with her, he can go to her house....get food for the kids, get woman stuff for his wife, shoo they gonna be saving some mad moneyyyyyyyyyyy
I always wanted to have my own house so I can go live there a few times a week away from my husband. TO ME THAT'S HEALTHY.
I don't see anything wrong with that...If the TRUST and LOVE is there, go for it🥰
I agree‼️🙌🏽💯 Healthy space is needed in every relationship dynamic. It allows you to actually MISS someone and keep the spark ignited.✨️
What I heard:
I don't love him Steve and can very easily imagine a life without him
Word. She's just selfish.
OR she's been traumatized and needs counseling.
And that's what I heard as well
She did essentially say that in the very beginning by saying, "I left a 3 year relationship behind" which was the man that wants to marry her and move to LA. She doesn't need to be married or have children to pass this mess along to.
That's what I heard.
True👍... Dats wat she meant
Stay single. Girl bye
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"I'm just listening, imma judge u in a minute."🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💯💯💯💯
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"Don't judge me..".then don't stand up and ask the question!!😂😂.
She probably wants the companionship or friendship from him but not necessarily the co-habitation. She is more in love with her freedom than their co-dependence.
Bingo!!
She wants the title of wife without being one
Richardson doesn't even seem like she wants the title because I noticed she said HE wants to get married...so it's like she doing it for him
Agree. Different people have different ways of love. To some , friendship has a higher value than commitment & marriage
complete BS
Oh my goodness this is SO ME, why is it we can’t live in a duplex(not separate addresses)!
I want to be married, and will do my wifely duties!
I don’t see why it wouldn’t work, when couples get older they get separate bedrooms!
2 seperate households is completely different from 2 different bedrooms😟
@@akila5628 I said a duplex and not separate addresses!
Steve held back so much in this one he had to ask the audience for their opinion lmao 🤣🤣🤣
He didn't even gave his own awnser. He was so shocked, he needed the audience help and just by luck he had the right people.
So many weird people in this world
Absolutely
weird is subjective. whats weird to you is normal to someone else
@I Share U Watch no..her weird is borderline insanity
@@etf42 You are right in your subjective feelings. The woman is weird and obviously 99.5 percent of the folks agree. There are too many women for the dude to marry. He needs to let her weird self go.
@@jackpea7102 so the more people agree with something, the more valid it is?
People do what's best for you,what works for you may not work for the next person!!!
Marriage is unity, and unity means that go and live your life as one sharing everything together.
HTF does a couple live separately?!!
Thats just stupid.
I know! I mean there's nothing wrong with not being single if marriage is not what you want in life BUT how you gonna say you married and live in separate households lmao
With being single**** it's too early for all this lmfa
The One very stupid, she needs help loll
The way my bank account is set up😫.... we gon need only 1 set of bills 😅 .... I mean one of the perks of marriage is having more money in the pot lol
like! babe must be swimming in money to even suggest this.
@@judeokoye9466 right!
Right!
"We go need one set of bills"...riiiight!!😂😂😂😂
You just reminded me of a Kevin Hart joke 😂😂... Thank you lady. You made my night! Well.. you and Steve 🤣🤣
The lady in orange behind the married couple was catching some power 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
This chick is going to be single for the rest of her life with that mentality
tf........ she don't need to get married...she dont need a relationship... she just need a cat.. and a booty call here and there.... lol
Uh huh.✌🏿That's what I heard.💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿
She doesn't want to date him, she wants him just as a friend!
I feel like there is something deep going on in this girl. She didn't even want to sleep in the same room as him. Either she really doesnt love him and only thinks she does. Or she has deeply rooted intimacy issues.
This is legit only a question I have since I'm not actually educated in the area. But could it be that she's asexual? By not having a sexual desire for the man she finds it easier to have a separate everything really.
@@monicadacosta7161 it could be that. Thank you for sharing that perspective. ❤️ Honestly, reading a lot of the other comments on this video, it's truly infuriating to me how people don't understand and are judging her so harshly. I believe I've heard of something like what she's talking about and they're all acting crazy about it and like she's abnormal or something.
I actually just looked it up again and it's called living apart together (LAT). Clearly these people aren't aware that some married couples actually do this. I guess it's not well known though. ❤️
For anyone who could potentially see this comment one day and want to argue this with me: I'm not here for that. Instead, go do even a little research on living apart together (LAT). There are articles on it. It is a real thing and everyone lives differently and you don't have to accept it, to respect that they can make the choices that are best for them. Just because moving in together after marriage is what you consider the "norm", that doesn't mean others aren't allowed to make their own choice that may be outside of your box of what you do or what you think is acceptable. Okay?? Let's get really clear on this right here and now. You have NO place in judging them or belittling them because you don't agree. Open your mind up and if you don't want to do that (because, again, as humans we can make choices), just go somewhere else with your foolish, close minded thinking.
@@tansley67 oh people can make their choice.. just like people can judge these people as well. If they want to live separately, then don't marry.
Also your so call little research, just because some people live like that doesn't mean it is a THING. You might as well say there are pedophiles out there, why can't it be a norm? Don't judge them.
You are the only close minded and selfish fool who thinks of that.
@@monicadacosta7161 I think that's a good point but even if you're asexual why did she sleep in another room? Cuddling and sleeping together always goes with intimacy, but isn't necessarily sexual
It's simple. There is only one reason you don't want your spouse to live with you: you need some privacy for you and your side piece.
Don't judge me 😂😂😂. Girl bye.
Ntombikayise Ncube Right 😂 ha stupid ass
Leave the woman alone. Sure she is far happier than most of you.
The lady in the back did it all for me
2 separate households is for couples dating.
I'll be damned if that happened to me and I end up paying bills and/or rent in both homes.
Well if there are 2 households then it's one for each 😉 so each one should take care of it on his/her own...That should mean separate finances too
Bills? That is not the issue. Women have jobs.
Right
Lady in the blond afro had me dying😂 type of motivation everybody needs
😂😂😂😂
I think I am in love with this woman.
She's going to end up being the side chick while he find someone else who is committed to him totally, and not part time
It sounds like she likes being single.
Are you married
No:😂😂😂
ramoshaba ramoshaba
Priceless
I was like TA-DAAAAAA😂😂😂😂
She didn't want an honest answer.
This lady is bat ish crazy. Just be single for the rest of your life and live alone.
She has all "the good mistress" criteria.
YO, too true me never thought so...... just a sad dumbass women..
the way she says... she cant live UNDER a man 24/7.. tells me some bad traume..... but like.. jesus......
She wants the legal protections of marriage without any of the responsibilities.
Why not just have a separate room/a mancave or a womancave so yall can have space when you need it but 2 households is crazy as hell!!😳🙄
Damn right somebody can have a cave in the house 😂😂😂😂..
My thoughts exactly like she act like she don’t even want the man around my husband and I both have our respective rooms and if I need to get away from him or vice versa go to your room and have a minute but sis don’t wanna be married
The man wants a family.
That's my ideal situation
That's my plan when I get married, because I do like my space at times. But what she is suggesting is just ridiculous!
What is this woman really trying to hide? Living in 2 separate households kind of defeats purpose of getting married. This woman is so strong and independent that she is incapable of living with another human being. I suggest that she break up with her boyfriend, buy a male robot and name him Walter and build a shed in the back of her house for her 7 adopted cats.
Probably an earth sign selfish
Haha she definitely does not know what real marriage is... Two shall become one... She has issues for sure seems like she wants to be in control of her own house and not willing to compromise.
Whatever sleeping arrangement works best for you and your partner is fine.
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I don’t even think she necessarily is trying to hide something. She’s clearly just not somebody who wants to get married. Plus that’s not their only problem, he wants kids she doesn’t. That should be an immediate break up. This girl is stupid
0:26that lady laughing in the background already knew this ain't gonna work🚶🏽♀️😂
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also it's a waste of money. why pay for 2 household's when you could split the bill for one.
Nakia Lowe you literally took the damn thought out my mind.. that’s not even cost efficient. She tryna be single and broke ESPECIALLY IN LA.
I don’t want 50/50 man
And still sleep in different bedrooms like she's doing now.
Waste of time and money.
She probably wants him to pay for both 🏡 🏡
She started off being defensive cuz she know she sounds stupid. What she's saying isn't even financially sound. Miss Lady mam, please quietly have several seats
get yourself a hypeman like the womon in the back at 4:02
Steve made her look stupid by using the audience as example😭legend 👏🏽
Fax
She did a good job making herself look stupid.
Well aint nobody gunna marry her
Daddy Diesel
Nope...she doesn’t want to be under a man, trust no man will not be crawling to get under you.
Daddy Diesel she doesn’t want to be married. She just wants a boy friend .
Nakia Lowe or maybe theirs just a lot of aspects of her man that turns her off and she still hasn’t really found “the one” yet and just isn’t sure . No need to insult her like that
cookiegirl891 it wasn't an insult. just possible facts.
@@Nleezie33 theres something def wrong with a 2 seperate houshold marriage why get married if u gunna still feel alone
« Sometimes i like to change hey Steve into Hey everybody »LMAO😂😂😂
I met one separate household couple but they lived next door to each other. They were just both ocd and didn’t want their belongings mixed together, they slept in the same bed were attached at the hip, they just owned two homes. That’s really the only example of that working.
Not really.....this is a bad example because they still slept together and essentially lived together and just had their their things in two different homes
Kat Starr they cant be attached @ the hip and snd live in separate households. 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️. and most importantly; THEY ARE EXACTLY THE SAME PERSON!! They think alike... So it works for them because they are like-minded and want the exact same thing....This nonsense is not the same as you’ve described.
My bf is OCD and I told him he and I could never live together. We run our households polar opposites and I also have kids so it would be a disaster.
@@michellerichardson3090 A boyfriend is not a husband. That is not what we are talking about here.
@@Michelle-pn9xt boyfriend or husband, if you live with the person you'll still have the same issues. And in some states they do common law. Fortunately for my state the worst that could happen is we would both be stuck paying the rest of a lease together, thats if you dont buy a home together
The girl with the hoops behind her is me 💀💀😂😂
Gurl, love those expressions lollll
I enjoy my space & have never been married or cohabitated. If I ever do marry, we will just need a large home.
Honey, a marriage isn’t when it’s CONVENIENT for you..... you’re either all in or all out!!! Have several seats!
What type of mess is this???? 🤔 She needs to remain single.
Right smdh and she's not embarrass to get on national tv and say some foolishness like this
this is, so far, the best hey steve video I've seen in a long time
I love the excitement the lady got when she heard the couple was married for 40 years
I really don’t understand why people want others to change for them. It’s alright if you want a two-household marriage, just find a guy who wants the same thing. That means it’s going to be much more rare, but at least you two would be compatible. If you want something rare, and you can’t find it, then just accept that you won’t have it in your life. You can’t go and blame the rest of the world for not being what you want them to be.
Whether or not it will work, or if you believe it can work, doesn’t really matter. Life happens the way it wants to happen. This lady should stop expecting people to change for her sake.
Right
Get a theripist
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Because she probably ain't gonna find a man that wants the same thing. There's a lotta hurdles and asks, from financially to socially, that I can't imagine even the most understanding man would cosign too.
Agreed. Who makes this marriage rules anyway?
This Lady should see Trevor Noah. He wants two household marriage. U two can be a great match
She needs to go find my son's father he would be perfect for her 🤦
GodsChild B4TheWomb 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Girl i was cracking up
Lol
Lol
Yes.