These moms aren't doing this for what's best for their kids.... they are doing what makes THEM feel better. They aren't helping those young adults whatsoever. We can't follow our kids around everywhere, and our kids have to learn how to handle things without us right there. If these mothers don't let up, they will mess around and limit these kids and their abilities and not even realize it
I'm 21 year girl.... When I was young, my mom always came to pick me up from school which made me happy.... But when I am in college, my mom still goes with me wait for me to finish my classes and then right after I have to return home.... I don't have that freedom to have fun with friends... And also, she always tells me I must have to tell her every single details of my life (till now)... I used to do that till I was 18(My mentality grew as I must have to tell her as this is my only job).... But right after that, I realized I'm not living my life... I feel like controlling doll. And nowadays, my mom even if I wanna try to talk to her, she without listening always make the conversations bitter and I'm losing interest to talk to her. She always tells me I'll be bad at math and English (I believed till 18 and I suffered so much in my academic believing in her words).... Then she also said, I can't make any friends because I have problems in me.... But in reality, everybody in my college fond of me... Some of them think I'm brilliant and smart and again some think I'm good, cute and kind person... Whenever I tell mom what other persons think of me she mock me and tells I lie and act outside. (I'm honestly sick of this toxic mother - daughter relationship)... Recently, I boy from my college had a crush on me(for the 1st time)... I asked him why he liked me he said because of my personality(this is also a clear sign I'm not defective). However, my mom always teat me according to my grades... When it goes high, she treats me like princess and when the opposite, you know.... Since I'm an Asian, I can't avoid my situation and I always have to be careful and self defense mode (I didn't inform about the boy to her because you can realize the consequences). So I'm waiting when this torture gonna end... Lastly I wanna say, my mom is some sort of person who wants me to stay away from boys now and right after my graduation, she will say, I want a grandchildren which is absolutely hilarious.
You have to get your independence. As someone else said here, save money, don't tell her anything, and move out. Don't feel guilty about it. It's for the best for both of you. Don't try to explain much to her because she will not understand, and you will only get disappointed and sucked into her drama. When the time comes to move out, use short sentences to just inform her what you will do, in a kind but firm way. "I am moving out, it's the best solution" or "it's what I want" for example, and that's it, don't go into details. Meet people but be careful and smart, take care of yourself, respect yourself in all relationships with people always. Your mother is probably trying to protect you from the craziness in the world, because there are bad people out there, but she is paranoid, and seems to be a bitter person, and that has a negative impact on you. If you can afford it, maybe see a therapist once in a while. A good therapist can help you tremendously to navigate this crazy life, read some good books about this stuff, meditate - to heal yourself from the negative impact she has had on you and to be able to make good decisions on your own. Best of luck, young lady.
First mother I agree with her picking her daughter up from down the street. I knew someone who was kidnapped, raped and killed for the same exact thing. She would park 2 blocks from her home because parking in front of the house was limited and she walked home and never made it. They found her body the following day 30 miles from her home. Found out it was random and the guy lived in one of the houses she would walk by every night at midnight.
Today in South Africa one is wise to even pick up one's Son from that short distance. If possible in a Group, weaponed or at least with a ferocious dog growling at attackers. People do not go out after dark : 17.00 hours if they value their lives.
@@OneWomanMan888 I'm 21 year girl.... When I was young, my mom always came to pick me up from school which made me happy.... But when I am in college, my mom still goes with me wait for me to finish my classes and then right after I have to return home.... I don't have that freedom to have fun with friends... And also, she always tells me I must have to tell her every single details of my life (till now)... I used to do that till I was 18(My mentality grew as I must have to tell her as this is my only job).... But right after that, I realized I'm not living my life... I feel like controlling doll. And nowadays, my mom even if I wanna try to talk to her, she without listening always make the conversations bitter and I'm losing interest to talk to her. She always tells me I'll be bad at math and English (I believed till 18 and I suffered so much in my academic believing in her words).... Then she also said, I can't make any friends because I have problems in me.... But in reality, everybody in my college fond of me... Some of them think I'm brilliant and smart and again some think I'm good, cute and kind person... Whenever I tell mom what other persons think of me she mock me and tells I lie and act outside. (I'm honestly sick of this toxic mother - daughter relationship)... Recently, I boy from my college had a crush on me(for the 1st time)... I asked him why he liked me he said because of my personality(this is also a clear sign I'm not defective). However, my mom always teat me according to my grades... When it goes high, she treats me like princess and when the opposite, you know.... Since I'm an Asian, I can't avoid my situation and I always have to be careful and self defense mode (I didn't inform about the boy to her because you can realize the consequences). So I'm waiting when this torture gonna end... Lastly I wanna say, my mom is some sort of person who wants me to stay away from boys now and right after my graduation, she will say, I want a grandchildren which is absolutely hilarious.
@@OneWomanMan888 I'm now university student and yeah but I'm doing kinda rebel and now she's telling me I'm being bad. I used to be a good girl before. (emotional blackmail). She still goes university with me. 🙂
Too much. I’m a mother. I love my daughter more than any thing in this world. When she go out with new friends m, I ask her their number , name and pictures but I won’t do anything unless something happen to my daughter. I can reach out or report to 911. Meeting parents of the boy?😂😂😂 her daughter can bring home pregnancy and she can’t do anything but accept. Respect and trust your kids.
The first mom i definitely don't see a thing wrong with a mom want to protect her daughter.... there are sooo many jamaicans right now would go crazy for that only if they momma care enough to even say hi to them damn... let a good momma be free and do her job
If you raised them right, you shouldn't be afraid to let them fly! I would drive across the country for my daughter if she called me in the middle of the night and she needed me to. But if the police ever call me saying she got arrested dealing drugs I'm gonna leave her in jail. Hope she get out by Thanksgiving, but she done messed up. Don't let her out a day too soon. She has a good head on her shoulders and is going to learn from her mistakes.
I always said when my kids were young, that I was worried about my kids growing up, and moving out. And I also said I was worried that they would grow up and never move out.
You are damn crazy, that is what you are. I would accept that if she would be under 10. But the daughter is as crazy for staying all that time at mom’s.
A mother who is protective of her child in a "World Of Today" knows why. You brought this child into the world, and you ought to take care of your child. When this child becomes an adult is still your child. If anything is wrong with this child as an adult, you the mother who still bears the pain of this child. I'm listening from the Caribbean.
Their wings work, love it!
“It was culture shock… for them” Lmao Steve is hilarious yet REAL 👏🏽😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
These moms aren't doing this for what's best for their kids.... they are doing what makes THEM feel better. They aren't helping those young adults whatsoever. We can't follow our kids around everywhere, and our kids have to learn how to handle things without us right there. If these mothers don't let up, they will mess around and limit these kids and their abilities and not even realize it
"You can't just be book smart and make it in this world, there are a lot of book smart people who are just stupid" - Steve Harvey
Quote unquote 😂😂😂😂😂
"There are a lot of book smart people who are just stupid"
That was the realest thing Steve could've said.
I'm 21 year girl.... When I was young, my mom always came to pick me up from school which made me happy.... But when I am in college, my mom still goes with me wait for me to finish my classes and then right after I have to return home.... I don't have that freedom to have fun with friends... And also, she always tells me I must have to tell her every single details of my life (till now)... I used to do that till I was 18(My mentality grew as I must have to tell her as this is my only job).... But right after that, I realized I'm not living my life... I feel like controlling doll. And nowadays, my mom even if I wanna try to talk to her, she without listening always make the conversations bitter and I'm losing interest to talk to her. She always tells me I'll be bad at math and English (I believed till 18 and I suffered so much in my academic believing in her words).... Then she also said, I can't make any friends because I have problems in me.... But in reality, everybody in my college fond of me... Some of them think I'm brilliant and smart and again some think I'm good, cute and kind person... Whenever I tell mom what other persons think of me she mock me and tells I lie and act outside. (I'm honestly sick of this toxic mother - daughter relationship)... Recently, I boy from my college had a crush on me(for the 1st time)... I asked him why he liked me he said because of my personality(this is also a clear sign I'm not defective). However, my mom always teat me according to my grades... When it goes high, she treats me like princess and when the opposite, you know.... Since I'm an Asian, I can't avoid my situation and I always have to be careful and self defense mode (I didn't inform about the boy to her because you can realize the consequences). So I'm waiting when this torture gonna end...
Lastly I wanna say, my mom is some sort of person who wants me to stay away from boys now and right after my graduation, she will say, I want a grandchildren which is absolutely hilarious.
Continue getting g good grades go to uni/ find a good job save don’t tell her how much you make and save the rest find a place and move out
You have to get your independence. As someone else said here, save money, don't tell her anything, and move out. Don't feel guilty about it. It's for the best for both of you. Don't try to explain much to her because she will not understand, and you will only get disappointed and sucked into her drama. When the time comes to move out, use short sentences to just inform her what you will do, in a kind but firm way. "I am moving out, it's the best solution" or "it's what I want" for example, and that's it, don't go into details.
Meet people but be careful and smart, take care of yourself, respect yourself in all relationships with people always.
Your mother is probably trying to protect you from the craziness in the world, because there are bad people out there, but she is paranoid, and seems to be a bitter person, and that has a negative impact on you.
If you can afford it, maybe see a therapist once in a while. A good therapist can help you tremendously to navigate this crazy life, read some good books about this stuff, meditate - to heal yourself from the negative impact she has had on you and to be able to make good decisions on your own. Best of luck, young lady.
@@TheWilDOn31 thank you so much... Your valuable suggestions encouraged me.. Thanks again from the bottom of my heart 🙏🏻
I understand doing that at 16,17 but let off the 21 year olds
"It was culture shock... FOR THEM" 😂😂😂🤣👏🏾
First mother I agree with her picking her daughter up from down the street. I knew someone who was kidnapped, raped and killed for the same exact thing. She would park 2 blocks from her home because parking in front of the house was limited and she walked home and never made it. They found her body the following day 30 miles from her home. Found out it was random and the guy lived in one of the houses she would walk by every night at midnight.
Today in South Africa one is wise to even pick up one's Son from that short distance. If possible in a Group, weaponed or at least with a ferocious dog growling at attackers.
People do not go out after dark : 17.00 hours if they value their lives.
So sad
Agreed
Oooh, that's so sad to hear.
Good wisdom is valued universally. Thank you. So rare to hear good advice and that benefits men and women.
Hello crosenblum, how are you doing?
You love her like a hostage😭💔
There's hundreds of ways to be a good mother, let alone a perfect mother..
Having an overprotective mom, I can relate. 🙂
Let me know you're a boy or a girl? Then I can give you some advice.
My mom was controlling and I ended up moving far away, several states away. The more smothered the child the more they might try to escape.
@@OneWomanMan888 I'm 21 year girl.... When I was young, my mom always came to pick me up from school which made me happy.... But when I am in college, my mom still goes with me wait for me to finish my classes and then right after I have to return home.... I don't have that freedom to have fun with friends... And also, she always tells me I must have to tell her every single details of my life (till now)... I used to do that till I was 18(My mentality grew as I must have to tell her as this is my only job).... But right after that, I realized I'm not living my life... I feel like controlling doll. And nowadays, my mom even if I wanna try to talk to her, she without listening always make the conversations bitter and I'm losing interest to talk to her. She always tells me I'll be bad at math and English (I believed till 18 and I suffered so much in my academic believing in her words).... Then she also said, I can't make any friends because I have problems in me.... But in reality, everybody in my college fond of me... Some of them think I'm brilliant and smart and again some think I'm good, cute and kind person... Whenever I tell mom what other persons think of me she mock me and tells I lie and act outside. (I'm honestly sick of this toxic mother - daughter relationship)... Recently, I boy from my college had a crush on me(for the 1st time)... I asked him why he liked me he said because of my personality(this is also a clear sign I'm not defective). However, my mom always teat me according to my grades... When it goes high, she treats me like princess and when the opposite, you know.... Since I'm an Asian, I can't avoid my situation and I always have to be careful and self defense mode (I didn't inform about the boy to her because you can realize the consequences). So I'm waiting when this torture gonna end...
Lastly I wanna say, my mom is some sort of person who wants me to stay away from boys now and right after my graduation, she will say, I want a grandchildren which is absolutely hilarious.
@@kuromi17920 Now you're no longer in college, is she still controling you?
@@OneWomanMan888 I'm now university student and yeah but I'm doing kinda rebel and now she's telling me I'm being bad. I used to be a good girl before. (emotional blackmail). She still goes university with me. 🙂
Asking for the date's Email Address.... hahahaha
You about to give him a job or what?
It sucks to be the child of divorced parents when one, or bot, has a bad attitude towards the other.
Mom's have got to stop keeping woman a girl and Man a boy. Stop babying your offspring! anybody!
Hello Antonia, how are you doing?
Yep
Exactly 👏 let them be adults
Wow... this is so true we all need to let go somtimes and let our children make their part in this world.
A lot of people don't even use emails anymore so first mom has got to chillout
Too much. I’m a mother. I love my daughter more than any thing in this world. When she go out with new friends m, I ask her their number , name and pictures but I won’t do anything unless something happen to my daughter. I can reach out or report to 911. Meeting parents of the boy?😂😂😂 her daughter can bring home pregnancy and she can’t do anything but accept. Respect and trust your kids.
that face steve be making when impersonating a female is priceless🤣😂
Yes! The crossed arms & pursed lips, lol😂
@@sarahrupert5320 ikr
@@nickybradford4829 . Ur words are so beautiful as you.
I thought this was about young kids since I have a four year old …. Wow how silly of me not to think it was adult kids 🙄🤣
The first mom i definitely don't see a thing wrong with a mom want to protect her daughter.... there are sooo many jamaicans right now would go crazy for that only if they momma care enough to even say hi to them damn... let a good momma be free and do her job
Usually mother's are more protective to the daughters then the sons.
Great sharing👍
@Sara. Ur saying absolutely right.
The woman hitting her husband, not nice
Yea, that's a bit much. I can understand she wants to make sure she is safe. But mom is doing too much.
Steve Harvey show. My favorite show
I moved away from home when I was 15. 36 now and still alive and kicking. :D
Lucky people, who have a mother to worry about them.
Unlucky people more like, they will sow so much resentment if they do not stop their behaviour.
If you raised them right, you shouldn't be afraid to let them fly! I would drive across the country for my daughter if she called me in the middle of the night and she needed me to. But if the police ever call me saying she got arrested dealing drugs I'm gonna leave her in jail. Hope she get out by Thanksgiving, but she done messed up. Don't let her out a day too soon. She has a good head on her shoulders and is going to learn from her mistakes.
can't keep your kids, kids forever!! holding on too much is bad.
Good thing he had the money to ensure they have their apartments.
you will never make him a man - he can onl learn how to be a man from another man... amazing!!!
My mother same way. If 👁️ half stay at work. She would call what take so long. So when 👁️ get it 💯 question. That 👁️ move out she starts 😢
Some single mothers raise sons without a father and they turn out good so I dnt get why Steve always saying women cnt teach boys how to be a man
Once they are 13 they are not babies!!!! Stop calling them that!!!!
Mom coming to get her blocks fm her hm rocks...Do you know how many women to missing fm their front lawn, apt door, entry way, parking lot, monthly.
🤣🤣🤣you raised the like a hostage..
So if the daughter feels that way, why she don't move out and live in her own house?? Good steve👌
I always said when my kids were young, that I was worried about my kids growing up, and moving out.
And I also said I was worried that they would grow up and never move out.
I believe that there are certain things that cannot be taught, the only way to learn them is through personal life experience.
That president don't want to talk to you. And, those professors cannot discuss that students grades or nothing unless he signs a waiver.
I hope everyone has a wonderful Saturday/Happy New Year's!!! 🙏✌️
Merianne mecaire's mum was like that she never used to let her kids do anything
The Merianne from Inala Brisbane Australia
I have seen many men who have been raised by women.
She should be a prison guard
Elise needs to see a few sessions of Therapy so she can set boundaries and long term maintain those boundaries
yo doesnt the mother need therapy as well?
All these mamas doing too much lol
God.. These ladies are so blind and unwise..
Thats protect the mother to daughter bcoz this generation a lot crime and bad guys
exactly
Wow.
Well! #britneyspears ?
2:46 Yeah Theresa Mae Gallagher who stopped me from seeing Trump since at least 2018 to stop #corona
She would never go to Mexico
I disagree with Steve I love the first Mom. Women are being snatched everyday!
You are damn crazy, that is what you are. I would accept that if she would be under 10. But the daughter is as crazy for staying all that time at mom’s.
Todd Barron didn't make men. #kariandlindsey #haventtalkedwithmyrobk #😔
In every single thing you do, you are choosing a direction. Your life is a product of choices. Dr. Kathleen Hall
A mother who is protective of her child in a "World Of Today" knows why. You brought this child into the world, and you ought to take care of your child. When this child becomes an adult is still your child. If anything is wrong with this child as an adult, you the mother who still bears the pain of this child. I'm listening from the Caribbean.
❤
resfact this sho😍😍😘😘
Justice and Equality prevailed and such a system of justice was formed that the rest of the world became surprised.
(Muhammad Qasim Dreams)
nothing is wrong with moms concerns
Get rid of your beard Steve. 🤦🙄😝