Emotionally Damaged Women Say THIS To Manipulate You!
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- Things She Says to Undermine You and How To Handle It! #Gaslighting... The things she says to undermine you can have a detrimental impact on your self-esteem and promote a sense of insecurity and self-doubt. Criticism, belittling comments, or manipulative tactics are some of the things she says to undermine you. Pay attention to this relationship advice and learn how to handle it when she undermines you.
What she says to undermine you often takes the shape of insidious remarks, dismissive tones, or calculated attempts to distort reality and create a toxic atmosphere that will challenge your self-worth. I want you to know how to handle it when she undermines you so that you can maintain your confidence and set boundaries assertively. It is crucial to remain grounded in your beliefs and perceptions when she undermines you.
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This is a great subject but best used to identify the abuse. Good job Anna.
We always enjoy your videos. Even the ones that test us.
Do you know my ex-wife? You have described her perfectly. Divorced almost ten years and she's still that way. Her life is falling apart, and everyone else is to blame.
🙏 I hope she reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
@@YourWingmam me too! Thanks
Any sort of manipulation, or gaslighting towards me, well lets just say they're quickly in my "do not contact or give attention ever again" list. I give no second chances for people like that, or second chances overall.
On spot! One a gaslighter always a gaslighter......walk away.
Yeah that's what you have to be like. If you've been brought up in an environment where gaslighting was the primary means of communication then you have a high tolerance for it, with a guarantee of unhappiness for life if you aren't very careful.
Yeah that's what you have to be like. If you've been brought up in an environment where gaslighting was the primary means of communication then you have a high tolerance for it, with a guarantee of unhappiness for life if you aren't very careful.
Yeah that's what you have to be like. If you've been brought up in an environment where gaslighting was the primary means of communication then you have a high tolerance for it, with a guarantee of unhappiness for life if you aren't very careful.
Yeah that's what you have to be like. If you've been brought up in an environment where gaslighting was the primary means of communication then you have a high tolerance for it, with a guarantee of unhappiness for life if you aren't very careful.
Why would you ever get into a relationship with a woman like that ? If she is questioning everything you say or do, trying to undermine you, she is clearly not on your side, and she needs to go -- IMMEDIATELY !
You might think it's that easy. Love,sex,dreams,hope,hoping against hope,commitment, responsibilities, dysfunction on her part,dysfunction on your part.....it's not so simple
@@64maxpower No, not if your are that screwed-up !
@@alwaysgreatusa223 says you
@@64maxpower You have merely stated the obvious.
@@alwaysgreatusa223 lol
This whole country was gaslighted for 4 years
by a narcissist.
"Gaslighting is the fast track to Stressville, where anxiety is the mayor and peace of mind is a distant relative." (1:57) You have a wonderful way with words. I hardly ever watch one of your videos without getting at least a little laugh out of it. Thanks!
Glad you liked it and got a chuckle!
I can relate in a big way Anna.. experienced a lot of the trauma as a teenager and have been recovering ever since.. it put a huge dent in my life but I have survived and work on it to this day at 74.. thanks for all you do
One day at a time, you got this!
Thing is with narcissism personality disorder is every interaction becomes about usurping. It's a game they're addicted to - they love doing it because the power thrills them.
This is the most information - perfectly explained - in the shortest amount of time - EVER! Good job :)
Glad you enjoyed it!
My ex was the grand champion of gaslighting.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Had to walk away from a relationship because of example No.7 happening too often.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
@@YourWingmam Thanks you 🙏🏾. I'm doing fine. I walked away so I could move on. Plus this happened several years ago and have had other relationships since that one.
When you say they don't even realize they're doing it nobody's buying that. They know they're doing it.
That's a psychopath, sociopath or narcissist. Often emotionally damaged who are not total narcs don't consciously realize some of what they do. Regardless, it's a red flag. Call her out the very first time and if there's not immediate regret and change in behaviour, give her the kettlebell buh-bye
p.s. that's not to say they don't do it on purpose or at minimum deny it sometimes if not often
Tell her you have an important project to finish. Then go fishing.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Better to be upfront & honest. Better to say "I choose not to participate with a dishonest person." Then go fishing.
The techniques do not work on gaslighting parents. 😢
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
#8: break up as fast as possible!
Sometimes a breakup is a blessing in disguise 🙏
@@YourWingmam or, as in my case, a divorce
Minimizing is what women generally do when they've been caught cheating.
Excellent! I agree. When I first saw this caption I wasn't going to watch this, but after listening to her examples I realized that denying she was cheating was not just lying but also gas lighting. In either case relationships are all about trust. If you lose your trust long enough to question her, its already over. If she knows your thoughts on this (tell her in advance) , she won't put you in a situation were you have to guess or ask her, if she wants to maintain a relationship. One strike and you are out!
Those sort of folk are avoided not debated - the wrestle with a pig metaphor
Excellent excellent and spot on.
I have had all those experiences many times with my wife. She says that I'm trying to gaslight her. She has a ton of past trauma from childhood and adult and I believe I triggered something about 4 years into our relationship. She did a 180 and continued to get worse. First 4 years were amazing now she doesn't trust anybody including going to get help. But back to gaslighting, it seems like the dream version of me is the biggest issue. She will tell me of a nightmare she has with me cheating on her or leaving her. Months later and it's "you cheated on me with my best friend last spring". Then a new nightmare and they just keep compounding on each other. I did start documenting them and when faced with facts she just went back to another one I don't have proof of it being a dream. She has stopped communicating to all her friends because they are supposedly going behind her back to get me.
Always start from the incontrovertible foundation that she is less important than you and that she always needs to prove herself to you. Sound toxic ?
That's because modern society tries to gaslight you into thinking you have to prove yourself to others -- especially women.
Don't let society gaslight you, with the possible exception of your children, you are always the most important person in your own life !
You are the prize!
I think, that gaslighters not so common in relationships just because you avoid them first of all. But scumbags or gaslighters very often can meet you at work, at shops everywhere! And you continue across with them all the time in outside not at own relationship. Be aware gaslighters!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
People will Treat you the Way you let them.
This is so true, I lived that life for 20 years, I thought it was me that was the issue, always trying to fix issues and questioning myself, always giving in to make peace. I was always unsure of everything and would never make a decision with out her knowing if I did make one it would be wrong so would follow unrest till I did it her way. I lost me for s very long time, never knew why I was so unhappy, till the day I found out she had been cheating on me for 3 years and cross that boundary, I woke up started the divorce and went through the heeling process, I then start to see the true, it wasn’t me it was her. I’m on the other side now and I’m so happy, may never be in a relationship again but so what, I live my life my way and now wake up with a smile.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Eleanor Roosevelt said, "no one can make a fool out of you without your permission." Meaning don't give the gaslighter the power to manipulate you. How do you not become manipulated? Don't care about what they say or do. If they do something you don't like you don't have to care about it which is saying you may not like her actions but you don't have to let it get to you. Learn how to shift your focus. Learn how to change your thoughts. Someone does something you don't like start thinking about something you want to do or enjoy like an upcoming movie or trip or game. If you don't give them power they can't bother you.
You don’t have to go on an emotional rollercoaster just because someone says or does something you may not like. You can think “I might not like their behavior but in this moment I’m not going to let them have my day. I’m putting my attention elsewhere” and shift your thoughts to something positive.
I'm glad you teach honesty and bravery.
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
Gaslighting: I know a bit about this. My late wife was victimized this way repeatedly by her mother (narcissism at work). It left her with most of the problems on your list -- many persisted for her entire life. It was painful for her and affected our relationship in many ways. After going through that, there's no way I could tolerate a gaslighting girlfriend. That stuff is poison! Energy today: outwardly, looks good. Can't get rid of a sense that you were fighting something, though. Tired? In pain? Hoping I am just wrong about that. Praying for you! -- Russ P PS/You've got an adorable little giggle! PPS/Church was canceled today due to icy conditions, leaving me at home with a couple very sleepy pooches and 3 pots of soup destined for the defunct "Souper Sunday" lunch which was to follow the service.I'd ship you some, but I doubt it would arrive well. ;)
Narcissistic parents do a lot of damage to their kids, so sad. Your wife was lucky she had you. Yep, like the pups, I'm tired, but prefer to focus on positives. Thank you for your prayers, Russ, keep 'em coming please! Freeze the soup! lol
You are so sweet and feminine. I wish all young girls be more like you.
You are helping me a lot to find better relationship, partner .
I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
@@YourWingmam of course 😊
Great insights on gaslighting in relationships! It's crucial to recognize these signs and empower oneself against manipulative behaviors. As a fellow dating coach, I appreciate your focus on building healthy connections. Understanding these dynamics contributes immensely to creating meaningful and respectful relationships. Keep up the valuable content!
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
I think we all always enjoy your videos, there's always something new to learn.
I appreciate that!🙏
My ex girlfriend was like that and should have left her ages ago . She called everyone her btch . She was depressed and blame others . She gaslighted and minimize my feelings.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
I am fine but i tell others not be disrespectful to me but i still hear the word Bitch in my head sometimes. I had Soul Ties with her in Coke cola toxic relationship and feel better now .
Love your channel. Very helpful
Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!
My ex was an abusive narcissist who believed her own lies - not kidding.
The good: I divorced her 12 years ago.
The bad: The kids picked up some of her habits; they're grown up now and I don't know if they'll ever change.
At least you got out. Pray for your kids.
Thank you for making this video. I was the one who was talking with you about the no contact/ghosting bit last week on my other account, and it turns out that the lady in question was a complete narcissist and borderline sociopath. I don't say that lightly, as I'm someone to own my mistakes. My biggest mistake was not staying totally silent, especially when I noticed her slandering me on social media after innocently asking her if she wanted to talk over the phone a week and a half earlier, subsequently getting ghosted. Yes, you read that right. She made a flurry of posts about me after a week and a half. I shouldn't have commented on one of the posts she made, but I did to assert boundaries. She was caught off guard at first, but then proceeded to gaslight me and got SUPER angry. She turned into what I call a Gorgon lol. I've seen this type of woman before. They are generally very masculine and are angrier than I have been on my worst day. I think it would be interesting if you made a video on this type of female, as she has become extremely commonplace among modern women! The Gorgon is also what some men refer to as a nutbuster and generally speaking, is actively aware of exactly what she's doing and has perfected her craft. She brings a whole new meaning to the phrase "The devil comes disguised as the angel of light." With all this being said, I love good women! Thank you for being one of them Anna!
Thank you for sharing your experience, and I appreciate your openness. Dealing with individuals exhibiting manipulative behavior can indeed be challenging. I'm glad you're recognizing and setting boundaries. If you're looking to further strengthen your emotional resilience and navigate such situations, my program, WakeUp2Luv, could offer valuable insights. I offer a full money-back satisfaction guarantee so there’s no risk to you. If you’re curious, here’s the link: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
Let's go Anna! ❤
You're AWESOME Anna. I enjoy your lessons and sense of humor
Glad to hear that. Thank you for your response, and don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏
This is the type of problem I simply run from. If she can do that now, I do not want to be around to find out how far she can take it or how bad she can lie.
usually for the best!
@@YourWingmam Absolutely!
No handling. RUN
Most of the time that's the sanest course of action. Of course, we all forget sometimes but if it's a pattern, RUN
Thank you.
This could have been named, the last things she has said before I dumped her.
You have described my ex to the last detail! Taken a long time to get over it.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Anna, thanks for this video! I remember through it all I stayed strong!
Darealdeal
"Been dazed and confused for so long it's not true
Wanted a woman, never bargained for you
Lots of people talk and few of them know
Soul of a woman was created below, yeah
You hurt and abuse, telling all of your lies
Run 'round, sweet baby, Lord, how they hypnotize
Sweet little baby, I don't know where you've been
Gonna love you, baby, here I come again
Every day I work so hard, bringing home my hard-earned pay
Try to love you, baby, but you push me away
Don't know where you're going, only know just where you've been
Sweet little baby, I want you again..."
From the song "Dazed and Confused" by Led Zeppelin
Off their first album.
Yes, it's the first song I thought of when Anna talked about gas lighting.@@user-jz6to8md3c
Thank you Anna🙂
My pleasure ❤️
Anna this video made me think you have been reading my mind ! Sometimes my comments my seem a little out there or stern but I'm a veteran of the gaslighting wars and what I learned was a general sign that this act is going on and how to cope with it on a general basis .One telltale sign you are being gaslighted is the other person's off the cuff manufactured indignance . The greatest way of dealing with these people is to keep the encounter on a short leash because the gas lighter or mind gamer wants to get your response to feel validated .They want you to fight with them and cause conflict that they can turn on you through some kind of blame shift trick and narcissists have a ton of them . What I tend to do is not take the bait and hold my ground and let silence and sometimes a lack of acknowledgement be my guide for what's next . I take this tack because you can't fight with these people on any level. If you fight and win you lose by consensus or if you fight you still lose -- because they still beat you with their well practiced cunning . When you make the first two moves like I spoke of earlier ; this really tends to confuse these people and what you do in these situations is let this stuff happen until you finally say there is no argument here and depending on whose turf you are on just say well I'll see you later . And if she blinks she will knock that crap off because she isn't getting what she wants ( and will maybe lose that anticipated dinner ). If not and she gets even madder, I just say this is inappropriate or unacceptable or something like that and leave if you are on her turf or tell her to leave if she is on your turf. I live a life where my home is my sanctuary and tolerating dog and pony shows in that environment is my own bad choice if I let these people past my front door . One of the reasons I live a MGTOW life style is to put out there that my home and life are to be respected like I promise to respect you until other wise determined and if you think you can bring your mind games and garbage into my home and life life -- think again . I don't hate women but sometimes women think because they may think too highly of themselves and you are well mannered ,that they can run their charm machines over you like some kind of lawn mower . When working with clients ,I have done the same thing and I project the attitude that I believe in service -- but just because you are spending a buck in my direction it doesn't mean you own me .
Thank you for sharing your insights! It sounds like you've developed a wise approach to navigate gaslighting and maintain healthy boundaries. Your commitment to self-respect is commendable. If you're interested in further enhancing your interpersonal skills and resilience, my program, WakeUp2Luv, offers valuable tools. It might resonate with your experiences. Wishing you continued strength and positive interactions! 😊🌟 I offer a full money-back satisfaction guarantee so there’s no risk to you. If you’re curious, here’s the link: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
It’s always “my fault”.
Red flag.
When leaving this relationship calm but firm NO's and lots of silence are the best defenses and completely discombobulates them
Really got this kind of stuff from coworkers at a job, I once had.. Dealing with this treatment from anyone will completely undermine your confidence. It's not fun, in fact , it's evil. You need to separate from it to keep your sanity..
I can relate. My ex has completely forgotten that she was cheating on me with a man who financed her part in the divorce. She later dumped him.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Great info, thank you
My pleasure ❤️
Unfortunately nobody is perfect, and when you don't give a 2nd chance, you might be in a pickle. It could be that you think you are too good and too perfect for...
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be on doing what is truly best 🙏
@@YourWingmam my apologies i wrote that comment in the wrong place, it was meant to a narcissistic comment that stated " we should never give a chance to a woman who made a mistake" it seems to me he's been taught wrongly.
Again my mistake, but I think you are awesome. And thank you for all this hard work you do , to help others. That is very nice🕊 GOD speed🙏
I agree with a lot of what Anna says, but feel that we are in an age where we are banding terms around that can be quite dangerous. Narcissist for example. I think pretty much everyone has narcissist traits of different degrees and that everyone is capable of a bit of what we now call 'Gaslighting'. For me this term really should only be used when there is strong preemptive manipulation taking place and is language that should be reserved to psychologists and only the most capable and empathic of therapists. In my opinion one should never call out someone as a narcissist.
Some people are guilty of rotten behaviour towards others without even being aware of what they are doing.
So much of our relational behaviours come from inner wounds that lay deep. If we are on the receiving end of bad behaviour we should have as much responsibility as the perpetrator when it comes to self awareness and to what dynamics are at play.
Relationships can often be a calamity of messiness and the words we should really apply are 'How am I mature ?' and 'How is the other mature ?.'..or not..
All that can be exhausting, but either way we should aim to be kind where we can and of course importantly to ourselves.
Thank you for sharing your perspective! It's true that labeling can be complex, and self-awareness is crucial in navigating relationships. If you're interested in exploring more about maturity in relationships and enhancing self-awareness, you might find the WakeUp2Luv program valuable. It focuses on understanding and improving relational dynamics. Feel free to check it out .members.wingmam.com/get-women/ Wishing you insightful and fulfilling connections! 🌟
Thanks!
Thank you so much! 🙏🥰
Dear Anna:
You know, for such a dark topic you were giggling quite a bit in this video. I like seeing you happy though, so all is good.
Definitely seen gaslighting and I no longer care for it. I think the best thing to do if you are emotionally mature is to walk away once you spot it in a new relationship. It is not worth fighting that beast. One example you left out of things gaslighters do, they flat out accuse you of gaslighting them. They are just too much work. Wash your hands of them.
Great video though. I like how you explain everything in detail and offer good examples each time. I can tell you put a lot of time and effort into your videos, very appreciated.
That is all for today. I hope you are having a great weekend and you have an awesome week. You have a beautiful smile and a beautiful laugh Anna. Hug and a peck on each cheek. See you next week.
Thanks for appreciating the video and for your thoughts and the compliment! :))
Congrats on 300K. 🥳🎉🍾
Woohoo! Thank you for being here and for being part of it! :))
Jesus over you and yours😢. Narcissist abuse recovery. Thanks for your bringing more knowledge and understanding😊.
You got this! Recovery means you're out. :)
Thank you.
Very important for me: MAKE NOTES!!!
Of what you want to cover and things said during an adult discussion
Some women can intentionally or unintentionally overwhelm you with words and feelings to knock you off focus. Be ready for tears.
It sounds misogynistic. Oh well. Tune your argument to the monthly cycle.
I'm so glad we had this talk said no man to no woman ever during her lady cycle
Gaslighting affects one in the workplace and in social circles, but what I find absolutely unbelievable allows some greater clarity and discussion can develop. In the workplace I have noticed that gaslighting can happen in a hierarchy, where the more power or authority one has the more "gaslighting" is interpreted. If gaslighting becomes habitual by the person, it is likely the case that it is a marker of both lack of self control or entitlement. In general when we view events as comporting with a norm or pattern, the point is that it justifies or serves as an excuse. "hey" I'm not the only one who thinks this "gaslighter", convincing others that she or he are acting like others would. Thinking about social groups, generally, we would note or recall there were people that were passive and others that were more extroverted. In other words in social groups, norms or customs evolve and it is not so much about healthiness but rather about custom or what is accepted by a group participant in exchange for membership. If workplaces mirror social groups, the question about decomposing the learned behavior and reinforcing the change might be relevant. Gaslighters are not popular in the eyes of others which reinforces denail about the subject. So perhaps group activities reinforcing the opposite of gaslighting should be involved imo. It'd be great if HR people were proactively involved in social dynamics at work.
Key point
✔️😁
This applies to 90% of employers too.
Not being gaslighted. Being ghosted. I dropped the lady that was gaslighting me. I kept in contact with her occasionally but basically dropped her as a 2024 New Years Resolution.
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Thanks for the info on how to respond and how to take back your power.
Depending on how much I like the lady, might just end the relationship before trying your solutions.
I hope I don't have to, but now you made this video, I can refer to these solutions.
They're useful phrases even if your gal isn't gaslighting. Relationships come with misunderstandings. :)
@@YourWingmam That's for sure. Everyday life comes with misunderstandings.
Have an issue at work, which I now take photographic proof of my message book to prove if extra messages have been added after my arrival, then accused of not actioning the message.
I exploded my temper in public at 2 of the nurses last week.
I thought I was the Narcissist, 😵💫 thanks for posting!
I appreciate your honesty! I recommend this video 😉👉 ruclips.net/video/sQe0IBI-yL0/видео.html&pp=iAQB
Women in general, will respect a man so long he is assertive and firm in his convictions.
Anna, again it's a good look. An understated gold necklace would have added. Content of the video was excellent.
Yes, you're right! And thank you for appreciating the video!
This describes my experience with all relationships with women over 60+ years.
Ya gotta school 'em... teach them how to treat you.
@@YourWingmam I’ve not had a lot of receptivity to my efforts to provide information, insight OR schooling. Boundaries is more successful
Shouldn't it be gaslit not gaslighted? I've definitely heard the phrase I'm being gaslighted but it's also true that you go into a gaslit restaurant not a gaslighted restaurant.
Very articulate. Hopefully the law will catch up to Narcissism, especially covert passive aggressive Narcissism. Keep up the amazing work you do. I unfortunately went down this rabbit hole to include her daughter being passive aggressive... This behavior had to have been taught and reinforced. We need a new shirt logo "I’m with stupid--->"..."I’m with narcissist--->"
Children learn by observation. At least you got out! (I assume.)
@@YourWingmam I did. 9 months no contact. Free as a bird…enjoying life with my dogs.
Great topic that is so real with some people i have been incontact with. To solve any problems i get it in a text message. One can not wiggle out of something. I have a very good memory. What i have done i would say i want one to text any thing family get togeather. If i am dating someone and a narc. or psychopathic control freat i walk from them just like any drama qween. Family mrmber i would shorten time spent or in a controled enviroment to mimize any problems. Very good video
Anna’s red flag’s tips was awesome
Frankly: IMHO, if ANY ONE of those 10 signs is proven to be true, one should call it quits. That person is not a coworker you're stuck to cooperate with indefinitely; that person is not your mother or your child. Just quit. You can't correct/change/improve a toxic adult of this kind. No negotiations. And - sorry - no therapists (a therapist will only suck your money to prolong the obvious agony); that's their bread & butter.
Love your videos. But no man is going to look at his girlfriend and say, "I just bought this new outfit. What do you think?". And if he did, he better hope his buddies never find out he said it. Lol.
Yeah, true! Though he might say, “is this good enough?” Referring to what he should wear to some event she wants him to go to.
Thank you milady, another video to add to my "Run, Forest run" playlist.
And now something completely different...
Any chance to make a video with suggestions on what (or not) to focus on to increase chances to get a real date through speed dating? I recently went on one of those events and of course I did it totally unprepared. I mean what could go wrong? 😀
It was such a great experience, from pure panic in the beginning, through pride that I didn't run away screaming with tears in my eyes and sheer happiness afterwards when it was over and I realized that I did it.
With hindsight, I spoiled my chances with probably two or three potentially good women that seemed to be interested until we started conversation which was not soo... Well, let's say that I didn't use well those 3-4 minutes one have to make a good impression.
So, any chances to enlighten us on this subject?
Oooooh ouch girl that Sounds downright Machiavellian
Can be! And sneaks up on you little by little. :(
It's nice to be prepared for the gaslighting war a lady might bring to the guy. I have a question, Anna. Why do some people smile in awkward or uncomfortable situations, including in relationships? My guess is they are just being polite, making light of the situation, or maybe boosting their confidence. For example, a woman asks her man semi jokingly "You can't afford that truck! Aren't you broke?" and he smiles and laughs and maybe says "Don't worry. My piggy bank is my angel. " or nothing at all and just changes the subject. Do you think smiling with a mild laugh and a response like that shows he's confident and emotionally strong?
Great observation! Indeed, people often use humor and smiles to navigate awkward situations, showing confidence and emotional strength. It can be a positive coping mechanism. If you're interested in enhancing your understanding of social dynamics and relationships, check out my WakeUp2Luv program members.wingmam.com/get-women/. It provides valuable insights and tools. Wishing you positive and confident interactions! 😊🚀
Tragically I've observed these things in so many women...
You sound like you are now Red Pill!
More than before, yes, especially the younger ones (though it happens at any age). Teach them how to treat you.
The "One strike and your out" attitude establishes your boundaries, and confidence. @@YourWingmam
@@YourWingmam A really comprehensive and well put together video by the way!
Women also chip away at men to test their emotional strength. Many men cannot handle it
Truth!
The girl I'm dating have some of them
The weirdest thing at work happened to me today at the liquor section long story short I helped this guy get a bottle of liquor he told me to hurry up he was tired of wating this girl who also wanted liquor said she works retail and she said you shouldn't let people treat you like that we had a brief conversation hadand then she told me she works retail and reported the guy for me and as she walked out I looked at her and said I appreciate it my sigma ways said don't try to approach this girl but i Think I might have fallen in love lol. I've never had a woman show empathy and integrity before. Maybe that meant she liked me? she didn't have to do Any of that she was really tall and really gorgeous so I'm thinking yeah no don't do it she's probably just a nice person
That's a unique and intriguing encounter! It's wonderful when people show empathy and integrity. If you're interested in exploring more meaningful connections, the Wakeup2Luv program could provide valuable insights. Cheers to unexpected moments! 🌟 If you’re curious, here’s the link: 👉 members.wingmam.com/~access/a2c2208f/
@YourWingmam I looked her in the eyes and said I appreciate it normally." I wouldn't do that, but I might have fallen in love at that moment just cause of her actions and wanted to approach lol
A lot of women will make a statement but not finish the sentence leaving you hanging trying to figure out what they are trying to say. It's really aggravating! Is this a form of gaslighting?
9:15 Maybe a narcissist, or is ready to break down and admit that she's insecure or wrong. Kind insistence with the knowledge that you are winning is an option.
Why would believe what someone else says ? Believe in yourself, and always make them prove to you what they say that contradicts whatever you already believe is true. NEVER BETRAY YOURSELF by simply accepting other people at their word. Before you accept anyone's word, they must already have an established credibility with you -- which is always an on-going process of 'trust-but-verify'. The bottom-line is: Nobody can gaslight you unless you uncritically accept what they say.
Amen!
Okay, how is this for a gaslighting example; husband: you said you were lucky to have me, wife: no I didn’t or, husband : I liked that thing you did, wife: I didn’t do that, you must have imagined it.
It appears professionals may be more likely to give advice to preserve the relationship than the mental health of the person being gaslit.
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Not my type. Classy looking..... Most of all. Great content.. big fan of you. Channel!!!!!
I appreciate that!
You so gorgeous
Red Red Red. ( Sigh sigh ) no not gaslighting you 😅😅. Just Real comment Real Talk lovely ❤🙏💯👋👋
Thanks for watching! 💞
@@YourWingmam 😚😚
like I've seen below, Why put up with this behaviour. Just walk away and enjoy your life.....
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
is the reverse of gaslighting possible?
Someone who claims to forget... but firmly believes what she/he claimed happened or was said?
It’s still gaslighting even if they’ve subconsciously forgotten it. :(
@@YourWingmam sad... cause I fell for that trick pretty deep...
But it all cam crumbling down when cops were called on my for "supposed" verbal abuse.
I left her that night... but then she called my best friend to tell her that I was physically abusive towards her, I was jealous and insecure.... but she somehow waned my friend to convince me to come back... 🤔
And all this while she had started sleeping with another man, barely days after I had left...
I had met her a year after going through a divorce. And if I'm honest with myself, she forced the relationship on my with the: "I'm gonna change my Facebook status, cause I'm no longer single".
I am now single... and will remain so for the foreseeable future.
You content is still rather refreshing to watch.
Thanks for providing this content!
OK Anna. You forgot one key thing is.... what exactly is "gas lighting?"
All good comments for when both of you are willing to work on yourselves and your relationship. Otherwise get rid of the toxic person and move on to better. Or you can stay on the roller coaster ride until you've had enough :)
Exactly!
@@YourWingmam It appears I am looking for a unicorn! And that's ok cuz I love my life as is! So many women are not into self improvement...sad actually
Anna, I’m just curious how recent did you film this video was it; days ago, a week ago, or a month ago or two months ago let me know as soon as you can with answer.
A week ago
@@YourWingmam Thanks.
I have a car.
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@@JSFGuy OK Karen 😂
@@JSFGuy and btw it's no Pick me behavior
Well done!
Good job, but it's important to remember, "The first will be last, and the last will be first." 😊
@@audiophileman7047 ...god damned i should deleted my comment 😑
Was in your neck of the woods recently , cold, it must have followed me back to the smart asses cause mine is frozen. Gaslighting, what would we call it without the movie? The effort recognized would leave no room for confusion,I wouldn’t make a good target. Thanks
Just for the record, it’s not that different for relationships with men. I do have a handful of long term male friends I consider myself very fortunate to have. My conclusion is the point of view of people is primarily based in self interest, getting ahead and avoiding responsibility. People are often broken early, don’t trust and can’t invest for the long term since there has been so much failure and disappointments in relationships.
Wise words!
@@YourWingmam every now and then. Thanks
Would you be interested in a video pertaining to gaslighting yet not in a romantic relationship scenario?
It’s essentially the same, simply adjust responses according to who you’re dealing with. The formula is basically the same. The love sammich (
No gaslighting. If she does it, see ya later.
Didn't Roy Orbison write a song about you?
Cat always halfway of video and semihiden. And always decoy-targets hide it ;)
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You are so lovely 😉
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You 'got this one'. You're back on track. And I feel good.......... Da da da da da How's the West Coast?
Glad you enjoyed it! Cold with melting snow lol