I have been active viewer/ subscriber to your channel for 4 years. Your programs were literally a life-raft when my family separated after 19 years of marriage. I tried to catch every episode. The paradigms presented in your shows played a positive role for years right through the divorce which was a lot more positive for me and the kids having imbibed the substance of your programs.
Thank you so much for such a thoughtful, positive comment! And I'm so glad my videos and programs have offered value in such challenging times. Glad you got through that time and thank you for being here! For anyone curious, my programs: members.wingmam.com/men-programs/
@@YourWingmam You do much good for many people. I feel like I am just getting started with all this and I feel it’s so late in the “game.” I am 70, male, never married, retired and tired! Luv U ❤ I plan to hang in there and do the best I can; it just seems a little late sometimes. I don’t like going out to eat alone, and I am, since the Pamdemic in Mexico without a kitchen or women to cook and here they don’t have many Can goods or TV dinners. I could talk your ears off. I’ll stop with that! 😂
I don't know how this woman knows, but she does. She teaches a baseline that people can always refer too when life and hurt and dysfunction gets in the way. How does she know so much? I'm happy she does
@@YourWingmam Ever watch the classic 1988 movie A Fish Called Wanda or the classic 1995 movie To Die For then you will see how incredibly easy it is to manipulate or hymotized man or guy teenagers with almost zero effort cause the more attractive a women is the more powerful they are = Facts
We all have a right not to be miserable. A girl likes to torture me being hot and cold and I’ve thought about dating her for over a year. Maybe I should just date the nice girl that doesn’t play games.
Summary of tutorial by Anna 1. Anna focuses on manipulative tactics used by women to control men, emphasizing that manipulation is harmful and should not be condoned. 2. Anna lists 10 manipulative tactics used by women: using emotions to guilt, gaslighting, silent treatment, playing the victim, withholding affection/intimacy, manipulative seduction, jealousy and possessiveness, emotional blackmail, financial manipulation, and undermining self-confidence. 3. Anna acknowledges that some of these traits are also found in narcissists and that manipulation often stems from insecurity and past trauma. 4. Reasons why women resort to manipulation include insecurity, power dynamics, learned behavior, fear of abandonment, lack of communication skills, control issues, and emotional or psychological struggles. 5. Tips for dealing with manipulation include recognizing the signs, trusting instincts, setting boundaries, open communication, seeking support, prioritizing self-care, considering professional help, and, if necessary, ending the relationship for personal well-being. 6. Anna encourages viewers to share it for support and recommends other videos on narcissism and relationship issues for further guidance.
@@YourWingmam Much of what you talk about is actually abuse and being abusive not merely manipulation. If it were a man doing these things the majority of women would label what he did as abuse and would say that he is abusive. Do you see these manipulation tactics as abusive whether the perpetrator is male or female?
Good Video Ana. I've noticed that many toxic women will also avoid being called-out by using the court system against the other person. The person that I was dealing with would always joke about needing to get a restraining order against people of her past, which should of been a red flag. They will use any avenue to silence the other person, including threats of a false restraining order. The best defense against people like that is no contact, its the only way to heal.
Women with many of these manipulative behaviours almost always have plenty of red flags, but they’re also often sexy, sexual and/or charismatic which makes too many men ignore the red flags. :(
@@roberttruman8444 Their ego won't allow for them to have honest adult conversations. Conflict resolution is impossible with a toxic person. I think that's why so many of them are constantly paranoid in their lives because they know that they wronged someone and choose not to fix it. I truly feel that guilt eats away at them.
The more you work on your personal development, the easier it is to spot manipulation. Stay in your frame and state what is important to you. She will either work with you and her own issues or she will find another to manipulate. Either way, it is the best outcome. Work on getting to the point where you can be single and happy, so no need to be in a relationship and be unhappy!
Like my friend said after a breakup just weeks before the wedding. "It's better to have loved and lost than to spend your life with a psycho." He met a wonderfully humble gal soon after and married, sadly she passed away shortly after of some rare ailment.
I hope you enjoyed my video, "The Dark Side: Exposing WOMEN'S MANIPULATIVE TRICKS to Control Men" Watch this dating advice video next, "5 Desperate TRICKS Women Use to Manipulate Men! 😡" 👉 ruclips.net/video/D030geG-vKw/видео.html *Red flags, shit tests, nice guys playlists:* www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam/playlists *Therapy:* wingmam.com/online-therapy/
This is good content! The therapist/social worker/psychologist/etc bias is 100% real. As most women are unable to acknowledge their flawed behaviors. Be it in a personal, social or societal setting. I've been conscious of the double standard in messaging for a long time. It's what got me interested and looking into what women consider "sexism" or "inequality" nowadays. It's a lot of bs! Even how they portray the past is extremely skewed. If you put effort and want to honestly try to white knight for feminist issues, you will find out that women lie to themselves, other women and will almsot never hold themselves accountable. All that to say that after being conscious of the hate and lack of consideration given to men, I got red pilled. The family I was told I would have, the more or less healthy relationship on which I would base my life and had been working for seemed not only impossible but an emotionaly unfulfilling financial trap. The female social worker looked at me like I was talking about "reptilians" or aliens. Anyway, I ended the help relationship early. Didn't see the point in confessing/sharing my anxiety and distress to a woman straight out of the super leftist sociological/humanities departmen. I could feel the unease, the condescending attitude. She was chalking it down to dilusion, online radicalization, weakness, social akwardness and mysoginy. The bias is real. Reality isnl neither fair nor juste nor well balance. It just is. I hope men take more interest in becoming therapist/etc so men have someone to talk to.
Very much real. My ex-wife checked every single one of the mentioned on that list. The therapist in the session always came at us in a biased way. Words were used to make me seem to minimize my issues while maximizing her concerns. I quit that bs before the 3rd session knowing what I was being set up for. Created a perfect excuse machine for her to add to what she wanted to do anyway. Divorce. Got back in the gym, school, hobbies, and yes just me. I feel like a new man. I bond with my son, and live life for once. Not worried about fear of being alone or any of that. Just build a better me for me. Negative out positive in.
Huh - I can honestly say that I have never in my long life (I'm 67) run across a woman that has NOT used most - if not ALL - of these manipulative tactics in the course of our interactions ! And YES - when calling out these behaviors.. *I* instantly became the "Bad Guy". Every. Dam. Time.
They start out as (unconscious) shit tests and become habits, catch them and deal with them early and firmly. Shit Tests: ruclips.net/video/IIL6meWKwCQ/видео.html
@@YourWingmam This might be true for some women, but I have had women tell me about their intentional use of these strategies for their own amusement on other men.
Possibly, I am not a psychologist. However the many correlations I see daily in the observable behaviors of women suggest that malignant narcissism ( as self love) may be an intrinsic component of womens psyche? If you study the Five Factor model of human behavior, "Trait Neuroticism" from the acronym ( O C E A N or C A N O E) ) is a dominant feature of women. Could it be that narcissism generally is a component of this Trait Neuroticism. Does the female obsession with cosmetics and designer shoes also tend to support this idea? I don't know, but it is a peculiar and dominant behavior not found in other species. Where are the barefoot lassies?
Oh us older experienced Men know so well Red. 😢😢. We know All the tricks of the trade 😂😂. I avoid most women these days, majority of Women here in California are just looking for financial purposes 🥶🤢🤮. Be glad to move out of this State when possible. 😢😢. Thanks Beautiful. Your one of the best. Take care ❤️🙏💯🥰🔥💯👋👋
I learnt if I say NO to a request, I was going to be guilt trip until I gave in, my come back was "did this work on your father or last boyfriend", or "are you practising on me?"
This is scaring me lmao. Seriously. This is overwhelming to look out for in order to find a quality woman after bettering myself for years and I don't want to waste time w/ low quality.
Dear Anna: What an interesting topic. I am not exaggerating, I have experienced pretty much all of those in just one relationship, except for maybe, depends on how you look at, bad communication. Most of the women who do all of the things you mentioned, usually are nonstop talkers, and they view themselves as great communicators; which is as we all know, part of their narcissistic behavior and personality. Also,I believe if a woman does two of these things, it is best to run, because she will do them all. I speak from that thing called personal experience. Just saying. How are you, Anna? I hope life is treating you well. Your eyes looked beautiful in this video. I hope you have a great week and keep doing great work. Hug and a peck on each cheek, may God keep you safe and healthy.
Women are like children, you give an inch they take a mile! More on that coming up in another video. Glad you learned from experience even though I'm sure it was both frustrating and painful! Watch for red flags in future. Thank you for the compliment and well wishes, God bless!
Still as smart and comprehensive i see. Thought bothering you with a comment was a good idea. Been a while. Looking good , lovely lady. Lively and energetic. Good
Gee Anna you've described my ex perfectly. Also men should understand that in many arguments with his lady there is a strong possibility that she has consulted all of her gal pals first. Therefore not only is the man arguing with his lady he is arguing with her posse as well.
Yay! Bingo! All 10 being used on me in the last year of our relationship. What have I won? :D Thank you for videos like this. It reminds me to stay away - hard to do so when you've loved someone. What's funny, in our case also your 7 reasons why sounds applicable. I've found out she's not loyal to me, and started setting boundaries. That's when the hell started - no wish to fix what's broken, to communicate, to heal just manipulation tactics applied one by one (or multiple at once) to gain the power and avoid responsibility and accountability. Edit: Lol, I've also checked all "what you can do". So video is 100% accurate for me. Thanks, it's very reassuring that there was nothing more that I could do before ending the relationship. It's so sad, but at some point I saw no other option.
Good night story time with Aunty Anna. I love when women acknowledge that not all women are all sugar and spice and everything nice all the time. Manipulation is also categorized as Machiavellianism in the dark triad personality traits.
More women need to take responsibility for all our bad behaviours. Also, statistically more men have dark triad traits *but* more women instinctively manipulate even when they don't have dark triad traits. :)
@@YourWingmam statistically yes. But there’s a lot of hidden numbers. A lot of Men and women of this kind don’t seek therapy. A lot of men also don’t speak out. I think it might be closer to 50/50 than 85 men 25 women. Maybe 40 women 60 men.
Wow I went through a lot of these with the last one. Spent the last few months asking myself if I really was the problem, and I'm definitely not perfect, but the only one that didn't apply here was 6. ...but that's because our sex life was destroyed when she broke up with me, called me unloving, slept with someone else, made it my fault and complained about me being "angry" and abusive, then defended the guy when I said he had taken advantage of her, which was because she trusted him and never ever trusted me (that is my assessment of her reasons based on a looooot of examples). I'm typing this out because I need to come to terms with it, there are a load more details but I need to see this to realise how stupid I was being, and hopefully other people can be more aware.
You let love or lust excuse a lot of dealbreakers, very common! Awareness is the first step to change. Pinned comment has link to my playlists, some you’ll find helpful. (More on women’s childish behaviour in an upcoming video.)
@@YourWingmam thank you very much for your wisdom and insight, I've subscribed and I'll be giving a listen! I hope you'll talk a bit more about the "gaslighting" phenomenon. My experience with this girl was that once she convinced herself of something, I couldn't even deny it without it being called gaslighting!! It's so damaging.
Thank you and bless you. It’s rare to find such thorough and helpful analysis, and thank you for not dumping on the men, well that would make you a narcissist and you’re not.
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I thought I was the crazy one ..glad she's gone ..out of my life for good .... Everything you said here in this video..is the reason why I don't want to date any more ... I'm done !!! To many women hold this in them and it just destroys any thing good that comes there way ..soo sad ...
Just an FYI, I’ve dated hundreds of women. I’m a successful investment professional, 6’2” athletic, with a full head of dark hair and I never get sick at sea. Steve from Brooklyn USA
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith Again, thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏 ❤️
I have suffered through #1, sometimes #3, forever #5 (don't ask how long since any intimacy) as punishment, #7 once, and #10...but with a twist; occasionally tells me I'm a good man, or a good grampa, but other times not so nice. Oh, been married 48 years.
Ah yes, then you can attest it happens a little at a time over the years until here you are. Tough to turn a ship around when it's out of port. Change what you can, accept what you can't.
@@YourWingmam Thanks. Pretty damn difficult though. Here's an uncredited quote I have posted at my home bar: "Give me coffee to change the things I can change, and whiskey to accept the things I can not." Cheers, "Wingman!"
I spent years simply pushing my wife's disrespectful behavior out of my mind. On occasions I would reach rock bottom and lash out in unhelpful ways... and then when i would come to my senses, she would use those times to treat me with even greater disrespect. All of this came to a head and I realized how foolish I had been for years. I started confronting her, telling her how disrespectful she had been for years. She wanted examples... and I have literally hundreds of them. But, I picked some of the worst ones to make my point painfully obvious. Well, some of these incidents she claims she doesn't recall, even going so far as to say I am having false memories. Sorry sweetheart, those are not false memories. Those things really did happen. They were just so common place and mundane from your vantage point that you do not remember them.
It's a little bit scary when you think about it Anna, the way we trying to control each other.😬It's good to know we've you Anna to see through all the smoke and mirrors😉🥰🥰🥰
Thank you for all your great knowledge and your advices and tips, as always, Anna! Such a "beautiful" woman and soul, Anna! You're definitely a keeper... 👌😉 All the Best and God bless you, Anna!
Ah yes, relationships do require a level of vulnerability but that doesn't mean you have to let her control you. Trust yourself to handle challenges. :)
Hi Anna, Will definitely keep all confidential, with respect to my friend in this case a Gemini-Horse! For the past 13 year's I have dealt with ( The Pied Piper: bread crumbing, Gaslighting, Narcissism of the Twins on horse back! Lol ) the very dysfunctional behavior and including your related article's you have mentioned and I have learned from them! Thank you. She and I live in different parts of Ontario, and I am living in Toronto, in the "friend zone" as to where she is concerned Lol. This has been a unfortunate, misfortune for both of us! It is what is, we are both big enough to definitely handle it and moving on as friends. We will keep in touch still and I hope that she wishes me the best of luck! As God knows I wish her the best! I will be leaving Toronto, Ontario shortly in 2023, and relocating to Victoria, British Columbia for a new career opportunity! I am wandering and interested, and thought you might have some experienced ideas or pointers as to what the prospects of the type of women in the City of Victoria and women in the smaller rural B.C. town's out side of Victoria and Vancouver compared to Ontario for instance? Where there differences may compare in relationship to some of the comments mentioned and responses asked in this episode of "Your Wingman"? What I may expect geographically, humanly and emotionally with women in British Columbia? Hope this is not a hurdle for you and that you are comfortable with a response? Looking forward to your expertise in response. I've never been a smoker! All the same you have always left me breathless!
Most women in any given country are largely similar except when immigrating from a different culture, of course. The larger differences are between small, medium and large cities. Because of supply and demand, the bigger the city the more hypergamous the attractive women are even though they're competing with a larger market of other attractive women. As a side note, Victoria is known for "newly weds and nearly deads." It's relatively small population and it being a University city provide a lot of younger women and as the "mildest climate in Canada" it also attracts retirees. Either way, the dating market there is probably "better" than where you are. Hope this helps!
#1. Women do not TEND to honor BOUNDARIES. Some do, most do not. #2. Set boundaries with clear cut explanations of what they are early on. #3. Make it clear that there will be repercussions for encroaching on your boundaries. Therefore, make you boundaries FAIR and HONEST to both parties involved. #4. When boundaries are crossed - stick to your guns and your repercussions. If that means leaving the relationship - then you MUST do it. Don't just threaten to do it. #5. Always be ready for courtroom drama. Consult a lawyer if necessary EARLY ON. Be ready for the drama especially if children are involved. Don't be JD & AH.
So many pearls of wisdom here thankyou Anna. Still need to work on the guy I see in the mirror,my primary goal is my own happiness,still looking for that keeper. If more women were like you the task would be so much easier. Love your new look by the way.
Great video. You just hit every woman I’ve met, again. If a woman behaves, acting nice, being pleasant to be around, it’s a theater show. The mask ALWAYS comes off. MGTOW! No shit, no tests, no headaches, no manipulation, just a blue sky with a warm sun!
My ex wife attempted to control, manipulate, and test; one example was finances, so!!! I decided to teach her a lesson. I told her to pickup a set of speakers that I always wanted from a local electronics store, that I paid in advance, she was not happy, but! I got my point across and things improved dramatically.
You look amazing Anna and I love the way your hairstyle is little different today and how are you and how is your health now Anna. So, about manipulation from woman, the truth in my whole life so far for the last 29 years I dealt with many toxic womans and girls iny life and even now I'm dealing with a woman who I believe was manipulating me and taking advantage because I shown mercy towards her because everyone mostly the other womans ignored her now because of her insecurities and manipulation. I believe this woman seeks help and wanted the healthy life but however her childhood trauma is one of the main reason she is very insecure and having low self esteem of herself and most of the things she do. I don't even have any clue why she does. She is definitely one of the very beautiful woman I ever seen in my life, but however because of insecurities and manipulation I don't feel any attraction with that woman and I really wanted to help her, but also wanted to protect myself and your ideas will help definitely. I will set more boundaries on her and will discuss things and I won't be approaching her myself but I hope she has to get better and improve herself and believe worth and value in herself. So, this is my story how I deal with manipulation by a woman currently but this woman is okay it's all because of insecurities, trauma and fear of abandonment is the reason she is acting like that way, but the womans I previously known be manipulative are very dangerous and they gaslights and made me guilty for something I never done. So, it will help Anna and you helped me more with the understanding of the woman and the understanding of woman in modern times.
As much as you want to help her (perhaps because she's so beautiful?) you must remember: you can't fix or save her. But you may be able to help her if you do set boundaries. Watch/re-watch some of the videos in my shit test playlist, guaranteed they'll be relevant! ruclips.net/video/IIL6meWKwCQ/видео.html
my first wife of 20 years did all them , I found out it was never me it was her . she is so toxic she drove are Boys away they are Men 42 40 , only took them longer to see the light , i could not say anything in fear i would push them away from me .
@@YourWingmam She don't know how, its everyone else not her . she knows how to make you think it is you . I was told you get married for life . 20 years of a life in prison .
Anna, another excellent discussion: A) Manipulation- Good ideas but two elephants remain in the room: 1) The 45 day phone call (she claims she is "late") 2) Allegations of "Me Too". I found that "good girls" try to use these techniques. B) Why do women Manipulate? Easy, because they have cultural and pernicious legal privileges and as a result it is her ordained right as a woman. Oh, Karen?!
@@YourWingmam I could write a few chapters in a book titled" A" , unfortunately few people actually read books today. Seriously, I know several men who have been accused of being a "Biodad" even though they were shooting blanks ( aka vasectomy) and one of them was a virgin. Could it be interesting to add one new law to the criminal codes? "Unfounded claim or assertion of paternity". In the US there are numerous reality TV shows that demonstrate this aka "Who's Yo Daddy?". A contestant may be on her 15th appearance where she blames one more man for her pregnancy...and the DNA test results please? You are NOT the daddy! ROFL So what about the time, energy, emotional trauma, medical tests and attorneys to PROVE that you are NOT "the daddy" ? It takes TWO to Tango in my Biology text books. Immaculate conception? Maybe once?
@@YourWingmam Okay, you asked for this one. Met a lady twice at her apartment. No physical contact and no dates. We were in the "talk" phase: Is she a keeper? Never contacted her, she must contact me first. A few weeks later co workers received a call from her but coincidentally one of the colleagues played a practical joke encouraged by other staff. He tried to act like he was me. Guess why she called? To inform that she was pregnant and must meet her at her law office for "lunch" to discuss. Result: Zero contact and blocked her number. No more practical jokes in that office. This is abuse, harrassment and should be illegal, but it is a "right" of all women to point their little finger at blame others for any reason.
It's true that they way people present themselves can send a message to a partner, friend, relative, co worker etc about what behaviour they can/will tolerate. But to go as far as saying that we teach people ho to treat us is a cop out. It's our responsibility as grown adults to treat others with respect. We shouldn't need to be taught how to be civilised and respectful, we should know that already. Immaturity and/or insecurity can make us act out in harmful ways, but that's no excuse. But to try and blame the victim for our disrespectful behaviour is shameful.
Important comment! While I agree with your ideology, I lean toward suggestions we ourselves have control of. We don't have control of others. No victim blaming, just self-accountability where we can. :)
When discussing a topic with a deaf women she turned her back to me and raised a middle finger over her shoulder...I was shocked then laughed...which she saw in the mirror she was facing...damn...
Oh, Anna. Too bad the internet and YT didn’t exist when I was dating way back in the last millennium! This video would have saved me lots of emotional pain had you been around in the ‘80s and ‘90s. I may not have gotten married when I did.
@@YourWingmam My marriage lasted 16 years, but it flawed from the start. That said, my ex and I raised a fine daughter, who’s 30, engaged to her college BF, and is going about things more sensibly than her father 😊
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I recently saw a video on the Fight The New Drug YT channel that broke my heart. 😢 A woman in Washington State was lured to California and forced to make pornography against her will over seven hours. They would reshoot scenes when she didn't appear to be enjoying it. She was terrorized, physically harmed, and her family and her community became aware of the porn film she made. She felt shame, guilt, disgrace toward her family, worthlessness, and attempted suicide five times. The severe trauma she went through and the impact on her psychologically was devastating. Though she has found ways to cope and is healing, she is unable to enjoy sex and her marriage dissolved. She said that her husband didn't know how to support her after all of this happened, and they both felt it was better for them to go their separate ways. She's afraid to have children, because they may find out about what she did. This woman is now only 28 years old. Many other women experienced the same abuse at the hands of these monsters. 👿There are so many hurting women out there now who need our support and prayers. Can women who have gone through this kind of devastation ever have a happy, normal relationship with a man ever again? Could these women become manipulators?
Extreme case but SA is very common, way more so than gets reported. Some can get through it, some can't. If they can, it takes years and a lot of therapy. Even a good man can't fix it or rush her healing. Many do become manipulators.
@@YourWingmam Thank you for answering my question, Anna. The woman is now a nurse who plans to get her doctorate in nursing. She has a cute dog named Cozy and recommends getting a dog to everyone. She's very close to her family. She continues in therapy and does some sort of anesthesia drug treatment to temporarily take the memories away. She is also very close to other women who were abused by the same people. They united to help prosecute them in a successful Federal Indictment. That is her life. Take care and be safe.
Guys, keep in mind that there are 3 things a men provide to women: Guidance Awareness Protection Are you up to the job? (Women cannot provide these to men.) Also, take into account that the foundation of all civilizations have basicly relied on the practical virtues of men: Strength Courage Mastery Honor Anna has decoded women for us. Not for you to abuse. So, with the above in mind stop whimpering, and be the man God has meant you to be. At the outset of your relationship with women, when she triggers a signal, set the rules straight. And even if you are in a relationship, it might still work out, for the sake of your love and devotion to her and for the children. If she doesn't reason or gets her act straight, get out fast. There is always another God sent, loving and caring woman out there waiting for you. Like Anna suggested, trust your instincts.
Awesome video, thank you. I can now bettter understand my wife and myself and not to reac with nerves. I am in Europe, do you accept private consultation?
I'm glad you found this helpful! I don't offer personal consults but I do have a relationship coach I recommend: wingmam.com/relationship-marriage-coach/
This isnt a rant or something like that. It`s more of a observation. 108 comments at time of writing this and not one person has mentioned being manipulated into watching this video.
Anna, my ex used all manipulated tacticts you mentioned. My favorite one, was her bringing up old arguments/fights in the middle of the current argument. Some I could not even remember 😂. She on the other hand could name the specific date and time. I was so done with her, that I ended the relationship. You know what she did behind my back after the break-up? Sending messages to all my friends and my entire family. Basically informing them, how bad of a person I was. I red some messages and I was in total shock. So, I was so angry that I called her, asking for an explanation. You know what she replied. "You destroyed our relationship, so I will destroy your life." Luckily, my family and my friends did not take her messages seriously and said she was crazy. Unfortunately she also sent a message to my employer, I got to answer to my boss. Basically, she wrote that if he did not fire me, she would send a labor inspection. He did not fire me but asked me to control my crazy ex. I applied for another job and was hired. Now, I can laugh with it, but at that time, I was so mad at her. "No reason to hit a woman, plenty of reasons, you just do not do it." Cfr. Bill Burr. She was a narcissistic person. In the beginning, very sweet, but over time she got more controlling. Unfortunately for her I did not give in and always arguing. If I would go with my male friends to see a basketball game, she automatically assumed I was with another woman... and so on. Trying to cut me of from my friends and family. None of my friends liked her. Oh when I told her I was done with the relationship, she said she would end herself, because I was the love of her life. Waterworks, begging not to leave her... I learned a lot.
@@YourWingmam Anna I am health now, but my mistake was ignoring the red flags and moving in too soon with her. If I am honest about it. There were already some red flags. She was too sweet. Doing everything for me. That changed quickly after we moved in. So, I agree with you. Take your time to get to know each other. That goes both ways of course. Your core values need to be the same. As there are horrible men, you have horrible women. Just focus on yourself and surround you with good, positive people. bless you, Anna.
Young Men. Never try and figure out a woman. They run on emotions 😊😊. They can drive you crazy at times 😮. You either like them, love them or you don't. When it comes to Redheads like Anna. These fillies are different. They can be outspoken and stubborn at times 😅. In fact they got the nickname. Spitfire's for a reason. 👍✌️. I admit I'm still crazy about curvy Redheads after all these years 😂😂. ❤️🥰🔥💯. They are getting rarer to find. Ok take care Gentlemen. 👍💪💯. Not over running you Red. Just adding some more icing to the cake sweetie.❤❤. I think I'm too experienced for my Britches oh lordy lordy 😂😂😂. Oh yikes proof reading and realized i wtote a book 😮😮🤢✌️
I am watching your video She will regret leaving you. Your hair is absolutely BEAUTIFUL like no other Woman I've seen. Been watching you awhile and I don't want a Woman that makes me talk to you! Gorgeous hair!
Now going through a separation from a woman who did the majority of these things, except for using sex as a manipulative tool because for her it was just for procreation purposes.
Watch my video: never apologize to a woman: ruclips.net/video/97fjD6LcO70/видео.html She gave *you* 2 chances? You must change your mindset. Right now you assume she's the prize. Decide if YOU want to give her another chance. Does SHE meet your standards (beyond the physical)?
This is how some people parent, including mine, when they DON'T use spanking!! It turns out withdrawal of affection in children is WORSE than spanking! (Garry Richardson) All of these ways are used Equally by both men and women, although financial abuse is most commonly used by men against women without independent income.
What a mine field of mental gymnastics Anna 😂. Why can't men and women just act normally and show each other respect? What has this world come too when we have to be on our guard all the time. Sign of not a healthy environment. I am sure this sort of manipulation doesn't go on in the Amish community. ❤
Yes agreed. Chuches these days are light on guiding the young on how to develop lasting relationships for life. We are so conditioned from movies and tv how to treat one another which is why we are in such a deprave state, and seek advice from experts like yourself the decipher the mess we have gotten into. Thanks Anna for your caring attitudes. 🌷
All those attributes are narcissistic actions. The person must be very insecure and with no trust - no relationship. I am happy to stay single and I don't need a woman. I am loved by God and his Angels and that keeps my fire burning nicely! I don't have time for man haters.
Can you please inactivate auto-translation of your video clips titles? It's so annoying since the quality of auto-translation is so poor. from South Korea
re manipulation tactics, jeez my ex wife scores 8 out of 10, especially silent treatment and undermine confidence. Thank God I left that relationship..
I have been active viewer/ subscriber to your channel for 4 years. Your programs were literally a life-raft when my family separated after 19 years of marriage. I tried to catch every episode. The paradigms presented in your shows played a positive role for years right through the divorce which was a lot more positive for me and the kids having imbibed the substance of your programs.
Thank you so much for such a thoughtful, positive comment! And I'm so glad my videos and programs have offered value in such challenging times. Glad you got through that time and thank you for being here!
For anyone curious, my programs: members.wingmam.com/men-programs/
It's gotta be tough for anyone you get involved with. No disrespect. On the other hand how can you relax being so aware. LOVE your content ❤
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You do much good for many people. I feel like I am just getting started with all this and I feel it’s so late in the “game.” I am 70, male, never married, retired and tired! Luv U ❤ I plan to hang in there and do the best I can; it just seems a little late sometimes. I don’t like going out to eat alone, and I am, since the Pamdemic in Mexico without a kitchen or women to cook and here they don’t have many Can goods or TV dinners. I could talk your ears off. I’ll stop with that! 😂
I don't know how this woman knows, but she does. She teaches a baseline that people can always refer too when life and hurt and dysfunction gets in the way.
How does she know so much? I'm happy she does
@@YourWingmam Ever watch the classic 1988 movie A Fish Called Wanda or the classic 1995 movie To Die For then you will see how incredibly easy it is to manipulate or hymotized man or guy teenagers with almost zero effort cause the more attractive a women is the more powerful they are = Facts
Always remember Gentlemen: It’s not your responsibility to make a Miserable Woman 👩 Happy. 💯 💊
FACTS!!
We all have a right not to be miserable. A girl likes to torture me being hot and cold and I’ve thought about dating her for over a year. Maybe I should just date the nice girl that doesn’t play games.
That's what the pills are for.
If she is miserable what are you attracted too????
@@kerryfoster1 Figure of Speech You should try it sometime.
Summary of tutorial by Anna
1. Anna focuses on manipulative tactics used by women to control men, emphasizing that manipulation is harmful and should not be condoned.
2. Anna lists 10 manipulative tactics used by women: using emotions to guilt, gaslighting, silent treatment, playing the victim, withholding affection/intimacy, manipulative seduction, jealousy and possessiveness, emotional blackmail, financial manipulation, and undermining self-confidence.
3. Anna acknowledges that some of these traits are also found in narcissists and that manipulation often stems from insecurity and past trauma.
4. Reasons why women resort to manipulation include insecurity, power dynamics, learned behavior, fear of abandonment, lack of communication skills, control issues, and emotional or psychological struggles.
5. Tips for dealing with manipulation include recognizing the signs, trusting instincts, setting boundaries, open communication, seeking support, prioritizing self-care, considering professional help, and, if necessary, ending the relationship for personal well-being.
6. Anna encourages viewers to share it for support and recommends other videos on narcissism and relationship issues for further guidance.
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@@YourWingmam thank you for not deleting these quick summaries!
Terrific summary. I look forward to your summary on future videos :3
@@YourWingmam Much of what you talk about is actually abuse and being abusive not merely manipulation. If it were a man doing these things the majority of women would label what he did as abuse and would say that he is abusive. Do you see these manipulation tactics as abusive whether the perpetrator is male or female?
Good Video Ana.
I've noticed that many toxic women will also avoid being called-out by using the court system against the other person. The person that I was dealing with would always joke about needing to get a restraining order against people of her past, which should of been a red flag. They will use any avenue to silence the other person, including threats of a false restraining order. The best defense against people like that is no contact, its the only way to heal.
Women with many of these manipulative behaviours almost always have plenty of red flags, but they’re also often sexy, sexual and/or charismatic which makes too many men ignore the red flags. :(
I've known a couple of people who did this. In their cases it had a lot to do with them being hell bent on having the final word.
@@roberttruman8444 Their ego won't allow for them to have honest adult conversations. Conflict resolution is impossible with a toxic person. I think that's why so many of them are constantly paranoid in their lives because they know that they wronged someone and choose not to fix it. I truly feel that guilt eats away at them.
The more you work on your personal development, the easier it is to spot manipulation. Stay in your frame and state what is important to you. She will either work with you and her own issues or she will find another to manipulate. Either way, it is the best outcome. Work on getting to the point where you can be single and happy, so no need to be in a relationship and be unhappy!
Exactly! Wise words :-)
Bingo
In order to be single & happy, I'd have to be getting lots of NSA action. I wish I knew how to.
Well like I like to tell people. It's all pretty simple until you've got children a house and Bill's together. The options are all bad after that.
Like my friend said after a breakup just weeks before the wedding. "It's better to have loved and lost than to spend your life with a psycho."
He met a wonderfully humble gal soon after and married, sadly she passed away shortly after of some rare ailment.
I hope you enjoyed my video, "The Dark Side: Exposing WOMEN'S MANIPULATIVE TRICKS to Control Men" Watch this dating advice video next, "5 Desperate TRICKS Women Use to Manipulate Men! 😡" 👉 ruclips.net/video/D030geG-vKw/видео.html *Red flags, shit tests, nice guys playlists:* www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam/playlists *Therapy:* wingmam.com/online-therapy/
This is good content! The therapist/social worker/psychologist/etc bias is 100% real. As most women are unable to acknowledge their flawed behaviors. Be it in a personal, social or societal setting. I've been conscious of the double standard in messaging for a long time. It's what got me interested and looking into what women consider "sexism" or "inequality" nowadays. It's a lot of bs! Even how they portray the past is extremely skewed. If you put effort and want to honestly try to white knight for feminist issues, you will find out that women lie to themselves, other women and will almsot never hold themselves accountable. All that to say that after being conscious of the hate and lack of consideration given to men, I got red pilled. The family I was told I would have, the more or less healthy relationship on which I would base my life and had been working for seemed not only impossible but an emotionaly unfulfilling financial trap. The female social worker looked at me like I was talking about "reptilians" or aliens. Anyway, I ended the help relationship early. Didn't see the point in confessing/sharing my anxiety and distress to a woman straight out of the super leftist sociological/humanities departmen. I could feel the unease, the condescending attitude. She was chalking it down to dilusion, online radicalization, weakness, social akwardness and mysoginy. The bias is real. Reality isnl neither fair nor juste nor well balance. It just is. I hope men take more interest in becoming therapist/etc so men have someone to talk to.
Very much real. My ex-wife checked every single one of the mentioned on that list. The therapist in the session always came at us in a biased way. Words were used to make me seem to minimize my issues while maximizing her concerns. I quit that bs before the 3rd session knowing what I was being set up for. Created a perfect excuse machine for her to add to what she wanted to do anyway. Divorce. Got back in the gym, school, hobbies, and yes just me. I feel like a new man. I bond with my son, and live life for once. Not worried about fear of being alone or any of that. Just build a better me for me. Negative out positive in.
Do you get hate mail from other women for blowing their cover?
Not so far, but the ones this applies to probably aren't watching my videos lol
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Wingman, sorry to disturb you. But, I need help with some things about NC etc.
😅 low key throwing rocks at a hornets nest
We must clone The Wingmam!!
If I think she's testing me, should I say to her that I know she is?
Yes, in an amused way (to give her the chance to save face and change directions). :)
New hairdo! I love it. And I love when AJ "exposes" her own gender.
Thank you! And lol
I like the shorter hair too. Looks like the sun came out in Vancouver for a while also, she has a little tint to her. Nice.
Huh - I can honestly say that I have never in my long life (I'm 67) run across a woman that has NOT used most - if not ALL - of these manipulative tactics in the course of our interactions !
And YES - when calling out these behaviors.. *I* instantly became the "Bad Guy". Every. Dam. Time.
They start out as (unconscious) shit tests and become habits, catch them and deal with them early and firmly. Shit Tests: ruclips.net/video/IIL6meWKwCQ/видео.html
@@YourWingmam This might be true for some women, but I have had women tell me about their intentional use of these strategies for their own amusement on other men.
@@crimestoppers1877 thats morbid, well knowledge is power
@@crimestoppers1877 thats some level of narcisism for sure.
Possibly, I am not a psychologist. However the many correlations I see daily in the observable behaviors of women suggest that malignant narcissism ( as self love) may be an intrinsic component of womens psyche? If you study the Five Factor model of human behavior, "Trait Neuroticism" from the acronym ( O C E A N or C A N O E) ) is a dominant feature of women. Could it be that narcissism generally is a component of this Trait Neuroticism. Does the female obsession with cosmetics and designer shoes also tend to support this idea? I don't know, but it is a peculiar and dominant behavior not found in other species. Where are the barefoot lassies?
Oh us older experienced Men know so well Red. 😢😢. We know All the tricks of the trade 😂😂. I avoid most women these days, majority of Women here in California are just looking for financial purposes 🥶🤢🤮. Be glad to move out of this State when possible. 😢😢. Thanks Beautiful. Your one of the best. Take care ❤️🙏💯🥰🔥💯👋👋
In CA, smaller towns may have better ponds ;)
@@YourWingmam you never know darlin 😂🤭🙈❤️🙏
Anna Jorgensen is Kind And Sweet Human. She counselled me as much as possible. And Anna day by Day you are growing young. Keep doing what you are 👍🏼
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I've been through it all. It's sad that I only know about these things now.
I learnt if I say NO to a request, I was going to be guilt trip until I gave in, my come back was "did this work on your father or last boyfriend", or "are you practising on me?"
Great reply! Upcoming video on "if she acts like a child treat her like one" hope you'll reiterate this comment on that video!
This is scaring me lmao. Seriously. This is overwhelming to look out for in order to find a quality woman after bettering myself for years and I don't want to waste time w/ low quality.
All you have to remember is: don't reward bad behaviour. If she's disrespecting you, handle it. The good ones will respect your self-respect. :)
I should download this and listen to it every morning. Gospel against evil.
Thanks for sharing. Much appreciated
You’re welcome!
Dear Anna:
What an interesting topic. I am not exaggerating, I have experienced pretty much all of those in just one relationship, except for maybe, depends on how you look at, bad communication. Most of the women who do all of the things you mentioned, usually are nonstop talkers, and they view themselves as great communicators; which is as we all know, part of their narcissistic behavior and personality. Also,I believe if a woman does two of these things, it is best to run, because she will do them all. I speak from that thing called personal experience. Just saying.
How are you, Anna? I hope life is treating you well. Your eyes looked beautiful in this video. I hope you have a great week and keep doing great work. Hug and a peck on each cheek, may God keep you safe and healthy.
Women are like children, you give an inch they take a mile! More on that coming up in another video. Glad you learned from experience even though I'm sure it was both frustrating and painful! Watch for red flags in future. Thank you for the compliment and well wishes, God bless!
Still as smart and comprehensive i see. Thought bothering you with a comment was a good idea. Been a while. Looking good , lovely lady. Lively and energetic. Good
Gee Anna you've described my ex perfectly.
Also men should understand that in many arguments with his lady there is a strong possibility that she has consulted all of her gal pals first. Therefore not only is the man arguing with his lady he is arguing with her posse as well.
True! More on that in an upcoming video on "if she acts like a child.."
Yay! Bingo! All 10 being used on me in the last year of our relationship. What have I won? :D Thank you for videos like this. It reminds me to stay away - hard to do so when you've loved someone. What's funny, in our case also your 7 reasons why sounds applicable. I've found out she's not loyal to me, and started setting boundaries. That's when the hell started - no wish to fix what's broken, to communicate, to heal just manipulation tactics applied one by one (or multiple at once) to gain the power and avoid responsibility and accountability.
Edit: Lol, I've also checked all "what you can do". So video is 100% accurate for me. Thanks, it's very reassuring that there was nothing more that I could do before ending the relationship. It's so sad, but at some point I saw no other option.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback 🙏
Great video Anna! Thank you as always. Couldn't agree more on all points. Peace ✌
Thank you so much!
Yes, absolutely amazing video. This one is going into my permanent Favorites bin.
Very very clear explained. A very usefull video. Thank you
Glad you found it helpful!
Good night story time with Aunty Anna. I love when women acknowledge that not all women are all sugar and spice and everything nice all the time. Manipulation is also categorized as Machiavellianism in the dark triad personality traits.
More women need to take responsibility for all our bad behaviours. Also, statistically more men have dark triad traits *but* more women instinctively manipulate even when they don't have dark triad traits. :)
@@YourWingmam statistically yes. But there’s a lot of hidden numbers. A lot of
Men and women of this kind don’t seek therapy. A lot of men also don’t speak out. I think it might be closer to 50/50 than 85 men 25 women. Maybe 40 women 60 men.
I always get the silent treatment like: i dont reply her immediately, my job is pays less, my music taste is different 😂
Thank you very much, It’s so easy not realise fully when you haven’t learnt about this prior.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
Wow I went through a lot of these with the last one. Spent the last few months asking myself if I really was the problem, and I'm definitely not perfect, but the only one that didn't apply here was 6.
...but that's because our sex life was destroyed when she broke up with me, called me unloving, slept with someone else, made it my fault and complained about me being "angry" and abusive, then defended the guy when I said he had taken advantage of her, which was because she trusted him and never ever trusted me (that is my assessment of her reasons based on a looooot of examples).
I'm typing this out because I need to come to terms with it, there are a load more details but I need to see this to realise how stupid I was being, and hopefully other people can be more aware.
You let love or lust excuse a lot of dealbreakers, very common! Awareness is the first step to change. Pinned comment has link to my playlists, some you’ll find helpful. (More on women’s childish behaviour in an upcoming video.)
@@YourWingmam thank you very much for your wisdom and insight, I've subscribed and I'll be giving a listen!
I hope you'll talk a bit more about the "gaslighting" phenomenon. My experience with this girl was that once she convinced herself of something, I couldn't even deny it without it being called gaslighting!! It's so damaging.
Thank you and bless you. It’s rare to find such thorough and helpful analysis, and thank you for not dumping on the men, well that would make you a narcissist and you’re not.
Welcome back! Haven't seen a new video in a while.
I’ve been posting a video every week for years. If you haven’t seen them, RUclips isn’t showing them to you. Subscribe and hit the notification bell to ensure you see all my new videos. So to you… welcome back!! 🥰
I thought I was the crazy one ..glad she's gone ..out of my life for good ....
Everything you said here in this video..is the reason why I don't want to date any more ... I'm done !!! To many women hold this in them and it just destroys any thing good that comes there way ..soo sad ...
Many of these "manipulative tricks" if perpetrated by a man would be seen as abuse
Just an FYI, I’ve dated hundreds of women. I’m a successful investment professional, 6’2” athletic, with a full head of dark hair and I never get sick at sea. Steve from Brooklyn USA
Great value. I experienced everyone of these tactics for 30 years.
Listen to this video carefully, then listen again.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith Again, thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏 ❤️
Hello beautiful! Thank you for the great advice.👍🍀🍀🍀🍀
Great video! Hope the missing cat pillow will someday make a return!
It makes an appearance ;) thanks for watching!
Thank you so much for your help. appreciate it 🙏🏼
I'm working on getting car insurance and my driver's license.
I believe independence will help not depend on women so much.
I have suffered through #1, sometimes #3, forever #5 (don't ask how long since any intimacy) as punishment, #7 once, and #10...but with a twist; occasionally tells me I'm a good man, or a good grampa, but other times not so nice. Oh, been married 48 years.
Ah yes, then you can attest it happens a little at a time over the years until here you are. Tough to turn a ship around when it's out of port. Change what you can, accept what you can't.
@@YourWingmam Thanks. Pretty damn difficult though. Here's an uncredited quote I have posted at my home bar: "Give me coffee to change the things I can change, and whiskey to accept the things I can not." Cheers, "Wingman!"
I spent years simply pushing my wife's disrespectful behavior out of my mind. On occasions I would reach rock bottom and lash out in unhelpful ways... and then when i would come to my senses, she would use those times to treat me with even greater disrespect.
All of this came to a head and I realized how foolish I had been for years. I started confronting her, telling her how disrespectful she had been for years. She wanted examples... and I have literally hundreds of them. But, I picked some of the worst ones to make my point painfully obvious. Well, some of these incidents she claims she doesn't recall, even going so far as to say I am having false memories.
Sorry sweetheart, those are not false memories. Those things really did happen. They were just so common place and mundane from your vantage point that you do not remember them.
Yikes, gaslighting. She could be a narcissist. Watch some of those videos in my red flags playlist (link in pinned comment). 🚩
😂😂😂😂 I hope you walked away from being a doormat!
Thank you Anna.
My pleasure ❤️
Anna, you have basically described my recent Borderline relationship ! 😊 .... typical BPD / ASPD traits.
I’ve done a video specifically on borderline vs bipolar, probably a lot of cross over!
It's a little bit scary when you think about it Anna, the way we trying to control each other.😬It's good to know we've you Anna to see through all the smoke and mirrors😉🥰🥰🥰
We’re all a little broken. Glad my videos are helpful! 💞
Thank you for all your great knowledge and your advices and tips, as always, Anna!
Such a "beautiful" woman and soul, Anna!
You're definitely a keeper... 👌😉
All the Best and God bless you, Anna!
Women hate that they have absolutely no control over me whatsoever, yet this has caused me to have a really lonely life.
Ah yes, relationships do require a level of vulnerability but that doesn't mean you have to let her control you. Trust yourself to handle challenges. :)
Hi Anna, Will definitely keep all confidential, with respect to my friend in this case a Gemini-Horse! For the past 13 year's I have dealt with ( The Pied Piper: bread crumbing, Gaslighting, Narcissism of the Twins on horse back! Lol ) the very dysfunctional behavior and including your related article's you have mentioned and I have learned from them! Thank you. She and I live in different parts of Ontario, and I am living in Toronto, in the "friend zone" as to where she is concerned Lol. This has been a unfortunate, misfortune for both of us! It is what is, we are both big enough to definitely handle it and moving on as friends. We will keep in touch still and I hope that she wishes me the best of luck! As God knows I wish her the best! I will be leaving Toronto, Ontario shortly in 2023, and relocating to Victoria, British Columbia for a new career opportunity! I am wandering and interested, and thought you might have some experienced ideas or pointers as to what the prospects of the type of women in the City of Victoria and women in the smaller rural B.C. town's out side of Victoria and Vancouver compared to Ontario for instance? Where there differences may compare in relationship to some of the comments mentioned and responses asked in this episode of "Your Wingman"? What I may expect geographically, humanly and emotionally with women in British Columbia? Hope this is not a hurdle for you and that you are comfortable with a response? Looking forward to your expertise in response. I've never been a smoker! All the same you have always left me breathless!
Most women in any given country are largely similar except when immigrating from a different culture, of course. The larger differences are between small, medium and large cities. Because of supply and demand, the bigger the city the more hypergamous the attractive women are even though they're competing with a larger market of other attractive women. As a side note, Victoria is known for "newly weds and nearly deads." It's relatively small population and it being a University city provide a lot of younger women and as the "mildest climate in Canada" it also attracts retirees. Either way, the dating market there is probably "better" than where you are. Hope this helps!
PS Good luck in your new adventures and good for you!
#1. Women do not TEND to honor BOUNDARIES. Some do, most do not.
#2. Set boundaries with clear cut explanations of what they are early on.
#3. Make it clear that there will be repercussions for encroaching on your boundaries. Therefore, make you boundaries FAIR and HONEST to both parties involved.
#4. When boundaries are crossed - stick to your guns and your repercussions. If that means leaving the relationship - then you MUST do it. Don't just threaten to do it.
#5. Always be ready for courtroom drama. Consult a lawyer if necessary EARLY ON. Be ready for the drama especially if children are involved. Don't be JD & AH.
100%!
Thnx Ana, this video is GOLDEN. I lived through all that hell. Cheers
Glad you enjoyed it! They start out as shit tests: ruclips.net/video/IIL6meWKwCQ/видео.html
So many pearls of wisdom here thankyou
Anna.
Still need to work on the guy I see in the mirror,my primary goal is my own happiness,still looking for that keeper.
If more women were like you the task would be so much easier.
Love your new look by the way.
Glad you found value in this one and we are all works in progress (and that's ok)! And thank you for the compliment!
Great video. You just hit every woman I’ve met, again.
If a woman behaves, acting nice, being pleasant to be around, it’s a theater show. The mask ALWAYS comes off.
MGTOW! No shit, no tests, no headaches, no manipulation, just a blue sky with a warm sun!
The key to mgtow is to live a fulfilling life without bitterness, otherwise they're still affecting you. Know what I mean?
@@YourWingmam If I told you, you wouldn’t believe how much trouble I’ve walked away from. That bitterness you mentioned, it’s for somebody else.
Remember men don't negotiate with terrorists.
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What kind of a super gem would a woman have to be to make it worth it to play all these BS games? Basically tell a woman follow me or go home.
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Excellent. I love it! Great advice.
CTH is a real diagnosis that you can shot-call yourself:
Crazier than Hell
Remember: you can be as manipulative but make sure manipulation is used for good reasons
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
My ex wife attempted to control, manipulate, and test; one example was finances, so!!! I decided to teach her a lesson. I told her to pickup a set of speakers that I always wanted from a local electronics store, that I paid in advance, she was not happy, but! I got my point across and things improved dramatically.
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What point? How did her picking up speakers that you'd paid for improve things between you & her?
0:42 I like it when you say: just the tip :p ;-)
You look amazing Anna and I love the way your hairstyle is little different today and how are you and how is your health now Anna. So, about manipulation from woman, the truth in my whole life so far for the last 29 years I dealt with many toxic womans and girls iny life and even now I'm dealing with a woman who I believe was manipulating me and taking advantage because I shown mercy towards her because everyone mostly the other womans ignored her now because of her insecurities and manipulation. I believe this woman seeks help and wanted the healthy life but however her childhood trauma is one of the main reason she is very insecure and having low self esteem of herself and most of the things she do. I don't even have any clue why she does. She is definitely one of the very beautiful woman I ever seen in my life, but however because of insecurities and manipulation I don't feel any attraction with that woman and I really wanted to help her, but also wanted to protect myself and your ideas will help definitely. I will set more boundaries on her and will discuss things and I won't be approaching her myself but I hope she has to get better and improve herself and believe worth and value in herself. So, this is my story how I deal with manipulation by a woman currently but this woman is okay it's all because of insecurities, trauma and fear of abandonment is the reason she is acting like that way, but the womans I previously known be manipulative are very dangerous and they gaslights and made me guilty for something I never done. So, it will help Anna and you helped me more with the understanding of the woman and the understanding of woman in modern times.
As much as you want to help her (perhaps because she's so beautiful?) you must remember: you can't fix or save her. But you may be able to help her if you do set boundaries. Watch/re-watch some of the videos in my shit test playlist, guaranteed they'll be relevant! ruclips.net/video/IIL6meWKwCQ/видео.html
@@YourWingmam I will watch those videos again and I already watched before but yes the best way I can help myself and her is to set more boundaries.
my first wife of 20 years did all them , I found out it was never me it was her . she is so toxic she drove are Boys away they are Men 42 40 , only took them longer to see the light , i could not say anything in fear i would push them away from me .
🙏 I hope she reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
@@YourWingmam She don't know how, its everyone else not her . she knows how to make you think it is you . I was told you get married for life . 20 years of a life in prison .
I've been trying to date for so long, Anna. You keep me strong.
Thank you for sharing 👍🏾😊
Anna, another excellent discussion: A) Manipulation- Good ideas but two elephants remain in the room: 1) The 45 day phone call (she claims she is "late") 2) Allegations of "Me Too". I found that "good girls" try to use these techniques. B) Why do women Manipulate? Easy, because they have cultural and pernicious legal privileges and as a result it is her ordained right as a woman. Oh, Karen?!
Aka because people let them get away with it. Do you have any personal stories re: A)?
@@YourWingmam I could write a few chapters in a book titled" A" , unfortunately few people actually read books today. Seriously, I know several men who have been accused of being a "Biodad" even though they were shooting blanks ( aka vasectomy) and one of them was a virgin. Could it be interesting to add one new law to the criminal codes? "Unfounded claim or assertion of paternity". In the US there are numerous reality TV shows that demonstrate this aka "Who's Yo Daddy?". A contestant may be on her 15th appearance where she blames one more man for her pregnancy...and the DNA test results please? You are NOT the daddy! ROFL So what about the time, energy, emotional trauma, medical tests and attorneys to PROVE that you are NOT "the daddy" ? It takes TWO to Tango in my Biology text books. Immaculate conception? Maybe once?
@@YourWingmam Okay, you asked for this one. Met a lady twice at her apartment. No physical contact and no dates. We were in the "talk" phase: Is she a keeper? Never contacted her, she must contact me first. A few weeks later co workers received a call from her but coincidentally one of the colleagues played a practical joke encouraged by other staff. He tried to act like he was me. Guess why she called? To inform that she was pregnant and must meet her at her law office for "lunch" to discuss. Result: Zero contact and blocked her number. No more practical jokes in that office. This is abuse, harrassment and should be illegal, but it is a "right" of all women to point their little finger at blame others for any reason.
Hi Anna, great video again!!!! great haircut, you look well !! Have an awesome week!!!!!
Thank you so much!
Good morning miss Anna I have a question for you How do I make a woman feel happy ❤❤😊
Here's how to keep a woman happy in a relationship 👉 ruclips.net/video/-RZK4ycesV0/видео.html
It's true that they way people present themselves can send a message to a partner, friend, relative, co worker etc about what behaviour they can/will tolerate. But to go as far as saying that we teach people ho to treat us is a cop out. It's our responsibility as grown adults to treat others with respect. We shouldn't need to be taught how to be civilised and respectful, we should know that already. Immaturity and/or insecurity can make us act out in harmful ways, but that's no excuse. But to try and blame the victim for our disrespectful behaviour is shameful.
Important comment! While I agree with your ideology, I lean toward suggestions we ourselves have control of. We don't have control of others. No victim blaming, just self-accountability where we can. :)
Hey Anna thanks for this eye opener...it help alot I thought I was the problem...
You’re only part of the problem if you let her continue to manipulate you. We teach people how to treat us. Glad it was helpful!
Should I say to her that I know what she's doing & why?
Also, watch my shit test videos for other replies :) ruclips.net/video/IIL6meWKwCQ/видео.html
In my opinion, I'd just break things off if they are like this.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I appreciate hearing from you ❤
thanks !
When discussing a topic with a deaf women she turned her back to me and raised a middle finger over her shoulder...I was shocked then laughed...which she saw in the mirror she was facing...damn...
My mom used to use most of these tactics :|
Since I grew up with her, now I naturally notice them.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
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Oh, Anna. Too bad the internet and YT didn’t exist when I was dating way back in the last millennium! This video would have saved me lots of emotional pain had you been around in the ‘80s and ‘90s. I may not have gotten married when I did.
I hope what you've learned will help save you from future pain! :)
@@YourWingmam My marriage lasted 16 years, but it flawed from the start. That said, my ex and I raised a fine daughter, who’s 30, engaged to her college BF, and is going about things more sensibly than her father 😊
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Very good video as always. 👍👍
Thank you for watching!
manipulated who wants it, if she's good in bed we have the tendency to ''forget'' those behaviors .
Truth
Wow stumble on this ch wow good video
Glad you enjoyed it! Which of these situations feel familiar?
@@YourWingmam most of them in past i was like if only i knew then 😂
It starts so early on from motherhood onwards.
Oh yes, I can recognise some of those manoeuvres throughout years of marriage.
I recently saw a video on the Fight The New Drug YT channel that broke my heart. 😢 A woman in Washington State was lured to California and forced to make pornography against her will over seven hours. They would reshoot scenes when she didn't appear to be enjoying it. She was terrorized, physically harmed, and her family and her community became aware of the porn film she made. She felt shame, guilt, disgrace toward her family, worthlessness, and attempted suicide five times. The severe trauma she went through and the impact on her psychologically was devastating. Though she has found ways to cope and is healing, she is unable to enjoy sex and her marriage dissolved. She said that her husband didn't know how to support her after all of this happened, and they both felt it was better for them to go their separate ways. She's afraid to have children, because they may find out about what she did. This woman is now only 28 years old. Many other women experienced the same abuse at the hands of these monsters. 👿There are so many hurting women out there now who need our support and prayers. Can women who have gone through this kind of devastation ever have a happy, normal relationship with a man ever again? Could these women become manipulators?
Extreme case but SA is very common, way more so than gets reported. Some can get through it, some can't. If they can, it takes years and a lot of therapy. Even a good man can't fix it or rush her healing. Many do become manipulators.
@@YourWingmam Thank you for answering my question, Anna. The woman is now a nurse who plans to get her doctorate in nursing. She has a cute dog named Cozy and recommends getting a dog to everyone. She's very close to her family. She continues in therapy and does some sort of anesthesia drug treatment to temporarily take the memories away. She is also very close to other women who were abused by the same people. They united to help prosecute them in a successful Federal Indictment. That is her life. Take care and be safe.
Guys, keep in mind that there are 3 things a men provide to women:
Guidance
Awareness
Protection
Are you up to the job? (Women cannot provide these to men.)
Also, take into account that the foundation of all civilizations have basicly relied on the practical virtues of men:
Strength
Courage
Mastery
Honor
Anna has decoded women for us. Not for you to abuse. So, with the above in mind stop whimpering, and be the man God has meant you to be. At the outset of your relationship with women, when she triggers a signal, set the rules straight. And even if you are in a relationship, it might still work out, for the sake of your love and devotion to her and for the children. If she doesn't reason or gets her act straight, get out fast. There is always another God sent, loving and caring woman out there waiting for you. Like Anna suggested, trust your instincts.
Yes, the world needs good men! ❤️
Awesome video, thank you. I can now bettter understand my wife and myself and not to reac with nerves.
I am in Europe, do you accept private consultation?
I'm glad you found this helpful! I don't offer personal consults but I do have a relationship coach I recommend: wingmam.com/relationship-marriage-coach/
@@YourWingmam thank you, much appreciated.
Great informative video
This isnt a rant or something like that. It`s more of a observation. 108 comments at time of writing this and not one person has mentioned being manipulated into watching this video.
Manipulation is win-lose. Positive persuasion is win-win. Most will learn something in this video = win win. :)
Anna, my ex used all manipulated tacticts you mentioned. My favorite one, was her bringing up old arguments/fights in the middle of the current argument. Some I could not even remember 😂. She on the other hand could name the specific date and time. I was so done with her, that I ended the relationship. You know what she did behind my back after the break-up? Sending messages to all my friends and my entire family. Basically informing them, how bad of a person I was. I red some messages and I was in total shock. So, I was so angry that I called her, asking for an explanation. You know what she replied. "You destroyed our relationship, so I will destroy your life." Luckily, my family and my friends did not take her messages seriously and said she was crazy. Unfortunately she also sent a message to my employer, I got to answer to my boss. Basically, she wrote that if he did not fire me, she would send a labor inspection. He did not fire me but asked me to control my crazy ex. I applied for another job and was hired. Now, I can laugh with it, but at that time, I was so mad at her. "No reason to hit a woman, plenty of reasons, you just do not do it." Cfr. Bill Burr. She was a narcissistic person. In the beginning, very sweet, but over time she got more controlling. Unfortunately for her I did not give in and always arguing. If I would go with my male friends to see a basketball game, she automatically assumed I was with another woman... and so on. Trying to cut me of from my friends and family. None of my friends liked her. Oh when I told her I was done with the relationship, she said she would end herself, because I was the love of her life. Waterworks, begging not to leave her... I learned a lot.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
@@YourWingmam Anna I am health now, but my mistake was ignoring the red flags and moving in too soon with her. If I am honest about it. There were already some red flags. She was too sweet. Doing everything for me. That changed quickly after we moved in. So, I agree with you. Take your time to get to know each other. That goes both ways of course. Your core values need to be the same. As there are horrible men, you have horrible women. Just focus on yourself and surround you with good, positive people. bless you, Anna.
Young Men. Never try and figure out a woman. They run on emotions 😊😊. They can drive you crazy at times 😮. You either like them, love them or you don't. When it comes to Redheads like Anna. These fillies are different. They can be outspoken and stubborn at times 😅. In fact they got the nickname. Spitfire's for a reason. 👍✌️. I admit I'm still crazy about curvy Redheads after all these years 😂😂. ❤️🥰🔥💯. They are getting rarer to find. Ok take care Gentlemen. 👍💪💯. Not over running you Red. Just adding some more icing to the cake sweetie.❤❤. I think I'm too experienced for my Britches oh lordy lordy 😂😂😂. Oh yikes proof reading and realized i wtote a book 😮😮🤢✌️
And that's why I'm happier by myself 😅😅😅😅😅
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I am watching your video
She will regret leaving you.
Your hair is absolutely BEAUTIFUL like no other Woman I've seen.
Been watching you awhile and I don't want a Woman that makes me talk to you! Gorgeous hair!
Thank you for the compliment! There are a couple videos coming up with "bad hair days" lol Apologies in advance!
Now going through a separation from a woman who did the majority of these things, except for using sex as a manipulative tool because for her it was just for procreation purposes.
I hope it’s a smooth split. Don’t tell her if you’re dating, she’ll use it as leverage. You’ll get through this. 🙏
You just described standard behaviour of most women. Thankfully my daughters are not like this I love and have loved them dearly.
With dads like you there's hope for the future!
I believe self-reflection is the key to growth.
Absolutely! Plus, action to change.
A woman gave me 2 chances to date her. Should I apologize to her for me ruining the relationship or move on?
Watch my video: never apologize to a woman: ruclips.net/video/97fjD6LcO70/видео.html
She gave *you* 2 chances? You must change your mindset. Right now you assume she's the prize. Decide if YOU want to give her another chance. Does SHE meet your standards (beyond the physical)?
Add insulting to injure and youve got the play book of a malignant narcissist
Red flags/narcissist playlist: ruclips.net/video/sQe0IBI-yL0/видео.html
This is how some people parent, including mine, when they DON'T use spanking!! It turns out withdrawal of affection in children is WORSE than spanking! (Garry Richardson) All of these ways are used Equally by both men and women, although financial abuse is most commonly used by men against women without independent income.
All true!
What a mine field of mental gymnastics Anna 😂. Why can't men and women just act normally and show each other respect? What has this world come too when we have to be on our guard all the time. Sign of not a healthy environment. I am sure this sort of manipulation doesn't go on in the Amish community. ❤
Broken families, broken society, no one is taught how to develop healthy relationships. (I'm sure the Amish have their own challenges, such is life.)
Yes agreed. Chuches these days are light on guiding the young on how to develop lasting relationships for life. We are so conditioned from movies and tv how to treat one another which is why we are in such a deprave state, and seek advice from experts like yourself the decipher the mess we have gotten into. Thanks Anna for your caring attitudes. 🌷
You're beautiful and inspiring as always.
Thank you! 🙏
All those attributes are narcissistic actions. The person must be very insecure and with no trust - no relationship. I am happy to stay single and I don't need a woman. I am loved by God and his Angels and that keeps my fire burning nicely! I don't have time for man haters.
I am trying to understand, is a TRO considered flirting or a turnoff?
Sense of humour: check!
(Answer: only a turn-on if you want an emotionally damaged woman)
Can you please inactivate auto-translation of your video clips titles? It's so annoying since the quality of auto-translation is so poor. from South Korea
How do you stop dishonesty?
1. Always be impeccably honest yourself.
2. Make it safe for others to be honest by not over-reacting when they are.
@@YourWingmam beautiful to hear. Stay strong Anna.
re manipulation tactics, jeez my ex wife scores 8 out of 10, especially silent treatment and undermine confidence. Thank God I left that relationship..
Glad you escaped!
We judge others by their actions but we judge ourselves by our intensions.
Indeed!