I'm 6 months out of an abusive relationship. Gaslighting, manipulation, contempt...nearly everything listed here. It's videos like this that have helped me through the healing process, helped me understand my feelings and how I arrived here. Thank you! I'm currently alone and totally comfortable with it. I dont know what the future holds, but i know it will be wonderful and fulfilling. Thanks again for another great video.
Dude, glad that you got out of a sick relationship like this, must have been horrible! Wish you all to best to avoid toxic women/people in the future and that your next relationship will be healthy and full of love and that you will be surrounded with caring and nice people! ✊❤🩹🤝
Yes Im in a 24 year marriage, applying for divorce. Definately abusive. Contempt and manipulation, silent treatment unless she wants something. She blames me for her perpetual unhapiness.
Wish I'd had this information a long time ago. I experienced basically everything you described during my marriage, especially social control, gaslighting, and erratic behavior. Most attempts I made at setting or enforcing any kind of boundary were met with overwhelming rage. Same with trying to raise any kind of issue in the relationship. No discussion to be had, just a screaming fight. Add to this that I believed this was just how marriage was, until I started looking into resources for how to cope with the situation. It's over now, but it was a terrible experience and one that I hope other men can avoid by paying attention to the warning signs, and using resources like your channel.
Thank you for sharing your experience, my heart goes out to you that you went through that! You are not alone in your experience. What's worse is there's some kind of unhealthy acceptance or at least making light of women's rage that should not be acceptable on any level. If you think this video might help someone, please share it. Big hug, better single than sorry... filter filter filter!
This presentation fits my past relationships to a tee because I've experienced pretty much the same things which were discussed which is why I haven't been involved with anyone since because I don't need to have that kind of drama in my life. I needed them like a bull elk needs a hat rack.
Yep I’ve been a victim of all these. The last girl I dated sent me into intense mental health counseling for 6 months this last year and now I’ve caught her stalking me like a predatory feral cat.
Travis, I had four years of abuse from a brief encounter. All the red flags. Ex-wife went as far as punching and elbowing me in dangerous places. I’m happy to be free. It’s rare people tell the truth from the start and stick to it. I don’t want to blame women, they did the bulk of childcare way back when. As in business, it starts from the top and many people I general are afraid to look inwards. And as Anna has said hormones wreak havoc on stability. So there’s so many unhealthy relationships. Seemingly the Pareto Principle applies to hypergamy, hegemony and everything else. I think it may be the 30/70 rule, because so many couples give up so easily. Then their children have to be the ones in the middle. And depending on age they’ve already tried to balance the mobile sculpture (like the ones above a baby’s crib).
Early in one relationship my partner started complaining that I was verbally abusive. I picked up a few books on abusive relationships to understand what I was doing. What abuser was saying in various case studies in the books was almost verbatim what my partner was saying to me, specifically claiming to be the victim. Later on, if I tried to talk about the relationship - intentionally phrased as 'when you do this, I feel this emotion' they responded defensively. Literally, I once said I was not happy. Their response was that I never game them credit for all the work they were trying to put into the relationship. It got to a point when they expected me to apologize for things I never said (or even thought) and denied what I had heard from them that it felt like they were having a conversation with someone else in the room. Eventually, I had said every thing I could think to say with no change in the responses and I left.
@@YourWingmam Thank you. It was awhile ago and by the time I'd made my best efforts and accepted there wasn't going to be a change, the feelings had 'moved on' from the emotional sunk cost and it was just the intellectual decision. I'm a little sad at the lost investment of time and energy, but I was and still am in a fairly good 'relationship' with myself.
Hearing the psychologist in the trial explain Amber Heard's behavior and traits of BPD and HPD gave me chills. Like I had live through it before with my ex. She actually convinced menI was the problem. I will never ignore my gut again. At least I listened enough to drag my feet so hard on marriage that it never happened.
That's what they always do dude. You go back and read your text messages and realize you were arguing with her for absolutely nothing. Most of what she's complaining about and most of what you're fighting about has NOTHING to do with what is actually going on and you cringe to see that you apologized for shit you didn't actually do. Like it was your fault. She will convince herself that her cheating was your fault and I've even seen many men agree with it because they've been mund f****d into thinking they're wrong.
I dated a woman years ago who was emotionally damaged. Walking on eggshells is correct. It seemed like everything I said she took some kind of offense to. I'm so glad that relationship is over and I had no children with her.
@@YourWingmam Thank you so much. This last year and half has been tough. I lost my mom and grandfather. Back to the woman I dated. That was a learning experience. But, I recognize my own trauma because I put up with her issues when I should've ended things as soon as the red flags started popping up.
I'm glad you brought up therapy. I dated a woman 3 years ago for 3 months that almost ended in my suicide. I realized in therapy yesterday that all that damage is still unprocessed. I just reasoned that I preferred being alone to hurt.
I stuck it for 8 years it never ended until she died some 43 years after i met her, I am damaged by her so am ultra careful how i am with my new wife, i am that caring man i always was, and not the abused wreck i became. O do believe i am suffering from PTSD !
This video is spot on. I've lived it for years and can see some of these signs clearly, yet unless I review I don't see some of the other signs. Men sometimes just come to accept it as the way life is. Thankfully I am now doing something about it and my current change in attitude is affecting my other half as she seems to be scrambling to hold on. Too little and too late. A great video to watch and keep in the back of your mind as we overlook the red flags and think that it's normal. Don't be in an abusive relationship, not on either side.
Good for you! If she can manage to come around to being a decent human then she's potentially redeemable. But you'll always have to keep her in line (lovingly but firmly). If she's scrambling there may be hope. You got this!
There are so many men I knew where I wish I could have shown them this video years ago. 3:45 Like my former best friend used to be pissed at her bf when he wanted to meet a friend, drink a beer with him and play ps3. His friend was in the same town but he wasn't allowed to visti him and he actually listened to her and stayed at home. But when she wanted to go out with her female friends, she just went. Thanks for bringing awareness to such things.
Hi Anna, Good to listen to this video. An emotionally damaged woman will usually look for a man with no strong convictions in life I believe. A woman with this behaviour will turn very quickly to her winning ways what she wants from a man, What I have been through and now always being careful with who i make friends with. She said to many times that I was a wonderful man and she really loved me. But, I would wait for what would come next. YOU REALLY EMBARRASSED ME I FEEL BAD NOW. I bid not know what to do or fight back with words. I had to learn a new way. and that was backing away. And learning a new way of living. Have a great week. George
Hi Anna, the biggest problem is that, when in a new relationship, people are afraid to say that a behavior is unacceptable and then this becomes the norm. Regards, Paul (Uk)
I know it's always our choice whether we accept people or not, I'm so sick of encountering so many damaged women, especially when the damage is their own insecurity based on their own actions in the past. I may as well just stay on my own to avoid the bull$hit. Thank you. I'm not responsible
Just broke up with a Narcissist. Bi-polar, B P D I think too. Guys, they start off great, then you start seeing the true person. My Advice; Listen to Anna, Wing Ma'am
Good information here. He did a girl for about a year… Came from a divorced family… Emotionally abusive and controlling alcoholic father… Sexually assaulted in college… And a history of abusive loser man. And the first guy that came in and actually showed her unconditional love and just a good dude because that’s how I was raised but I’m a single dad of two kids and I was upfront about not wanting more kids. I can never give her enough time and then she change your mind and said she wanted children of her own when she started playing games I broke up with her. Really hard decision but I know I made the right one. End of the day I should’ve listened to my intuition ugh Seven months later and it’s still tough
Another GEM .. great job of making this all easy to understand. You can love and pull off a long-term relationship with an emotionally damaged woman. You'll need to be very thick skinned, generous, patient and forgiving, but it can be done. Setting firm boundaries with firm consequences mandatory. Damaged people aren't bad people, but you don't need to be their victim either..
Thank you and excellent extra tip that emotionally damaged women are not (necessarily) bad people. Challenging for sure but if you lead and set boundaries, you'll find out if you can manage happily with one! :)
@@YourWingmam If you really love the girl and don't want to break up with her. Then learn, learn, learn (about her PD) ..it's the best way to deal issues caused by a severe childhood ... one the other hand "I've seen a lot of stuff, I wouldn't recommend it !!!
@@Mett19 Sometimes they can't .. It's not a matter of will always. If you abused neglected from 0-5 the brain develops abnormally ... it can be reversed, but it's not always practical. Often those with these issues even if they recognize it can't afford the time and money needed to correct the issue. If you are talking about cheating that needs accountability and if the person gets a second chance ... it's the last
Most important point : We (men/women) are all little bit damaged. We all have baggage, we all have flaws, we all are not perfect. So, don't run away from work, stay and work on your relationship. And leave only when it is obvious that work will fetch no results. All men/women have a little bit of some of these signs definitely. YOU TOO !! Red Flag =/= Run Away Red Flag == Pay Attention
I just watched enough of this to the "trust your instincts". That's enuff said. The more you gotta learn this lesson the more disappointed, lied to, and hurt you're gonna be
I think it's so rare for a woman to show interest in some men, that the man is aware of it at some conscious level, and they are just willing to accept the toxic traits. The reverse would be the case for men with options, it gives men the freedom to make the right choices(standards, expectations, boundaries).
This is real, fellas. A man can lose himself completely over time by staying linked up with a woman like this. Nothing good she offers is worth staying in. Reclaim yourself and get out at any cost.
Seeing the snippets of testimony from Johny Depp has made me realise the behaviour I accepted in past relationships before I realised what was really happening. The physical violence was obvious, the psychological manipulation wasn't so much for a long time and even when you know what to look for from experience, it's not always totally apparent because it may look like things other than what it actually is.
I was there and now I'm out. There is a new chump with 4 kids of his own trying to keep up with her needs. He lives at home with his parents. Yup, lives at mom and dad's with his 4 kids....and he spends every available moment at her house doing dishes and driving my kids around because she asks him to....and buying bday gifts for my kids' friends. Sadly, he's a nice guy. My ex never goes to his place to do anything for him. It's so good to be out.....but I feel for that guy.
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Without going into detail, you have described really well a past relationship experience of mine. It was only after the relationship ended that it occured to me that it was abusive - possibly in part because society tends to suggest to us that abuse in relationships is always male to female abuse, but of course I now realise that's not true. However, what I liked best about your video was that you did not dismiss and dehumanise the woman abusing, and you also pointed to the possibility the man could be contributing: we all have our baggage. In fact, I don't think I handled the situation very well - I was out of my depth in terms of knowing what to do/ how to respond. Much respect for your video here: you really covered this topic well. Thank you.
Thanks Anna, Remember guys / brothers, the very first and often overlooked red-flag is that she is a from a broken family, Grew up in a single mother environment and has daddy issues. Those are the type you want to stay clear from, as these women have no respect to anyone and have never been disciplined before!, However there is hope, if you are willing to grag her thru some crap, Once these women get a huge slap from life itself, they hopefully learn and get to know her place, It's also a good idea to put them on ice every once in a while. With these women things have to get worst (Much worst) before it gets better. Listen to Anna and take notes..
Gotta say this is often (not always) something that shows to be the case. Although it does nothing to help us find solutions even during this behaviour dynamic, it does emphasise the reality of the situation and at least explain why it is happening; and the roots of it. The tragic irony is - you may find yourself living in the middle of the very same story repeating itself, where children are involved. At least with all the insight as to what is going on and why, us daddies can hopefully show our children what healthy relating looks like, and ultimately how to be emotionally mature.
Spot on thats the woman i faced from a single parent family her mum had died when she was young and she worshipped her father thank you for your words.
I was in relationship with female covert narcissist. . i had to Google to find out if im in a abusive relationship - bc bullying from her side, wasn't obvoius and very subtle and she knew how to use reverse phycology, gaslight and project her negative feelings back on to me. making me feel like guilty and like the wrong person. point is abuse from female covert narsistic is difficult to pick up on and a lot of times us men dont reconside if we are in a abusive relationship
Other than counseling or therapy, it is possible to do the process of personal change through personal commitment, being able to snap out of ones own story and face the emotions that come up, meditation and letting go. Wishing everyone who visits her page and videos a great journey ahead. life is beautiful. :)
Listen to your intuition 👍 there's so many damaged narcissist women out here,gas lighting and manipulation is a narcissist tactic,run Forest run 😂👍 Anna thanks for the tip Tuesday.
How many is “so many”. Oh sure there are some. There are dysfunctional folk in any quarter. I wonder if the issue is that you hang out in circles where you encounter “so many”. Perhaps find a new field.
Thank you for this video. In 2019 I met an attractive woman a few years younger than me, and I was overwhelmed by how many complimentary things she was saying to me and immediately hugging me. But I soon realized she was, as you've described, emotionally damaged, and I had simply come along at the right time for her. I did give her my contact info, but I suspect she did not follow up because I was cautious about beginning a close relationship.
Two and a half years out of this kind of difficult relationship. Still trying to recover. Thanks for your reassurance and advice. And btw Anna, you are her doppelganger, hence why I find you so attractive.
"We are not being taught that at school" And we definitely should. And there should be an obligatiory, institutionaly established, at least one week long personality tests before marriage. That is very important, in order to PREVENT bad consequences for parents, and especially for their children. God bless you Wingmam. I wish that I had a chance to see ... at least this one video before I got married. This is what everybody needs to see. This is what everybody has to know. This video is ... the masterpiece. All your videos are extremely good, but this one is ... the "life-saving belt" for all who are about to get married (or who are about to start living together and have children).
Thank you Anna you are always reminding me not ti get involve with wrong type of person. It's good to listen to you to remind myself how is it when it's bad
I'm old. In the 70s and 80s we had a rule. If you opened the passenger to let her in and she didn't reach over and pop your door open, she failed. We knew the simple ways to test people.
I remember telling a lady maybe we should spend a little less time together and she said I didn't like her. Wanted me to spend all my time with her. I would ask her what she wanted to do and she would ask what I wanted to do. I would name several things and she would pick one. Later she would accuse me of doing what I wanted to do. I waited until she said it was over and never looked back..
@@YourWingmam For context, we only married as our first child was born with disabilities. Almost like I married him, and she came attached. It has become worse during the last few years with tough financial times, but she’s not a total monster, she does have her good side.
@@macnadoodle I imagine that is so. I had a challenge a few months back. My eldest son (in his 30s) was reflecting that when he was a child; his mother had returned to study. I work as one does to provide for the family. Our marriage broke up soon after. There was much angst over property, contact with children. My oldest can recall such. So he asked me if I had regretted supporting his mother returning to study. She had died much to young. So the children were with me when young. What was I to say. In myself I knew that in the same circumstances I do it all over again. That is what we Men do. That is our role. Would I be believed. We discussed this. My son will make his own decisions in life. And as did my father I’ll support him. It is hard. You have made a big Commitment. You have my commiserations for what it is worth.
Grateful thanks to Anna for this sensitive, careful and clear set of guidance for men. To have such boundaries explained by a female is incredibly useful. Thank you, Anna!
The moment you suspect you have suffered abuse, your responsibility is to pay for some therapy. Abuse equals damage, if one does not deal with it then one is a hazard to the next lady. Facts.
Thanks Ann, BIG HUG GOD BLESS BACK AT YOU. I've already been thru these scenarios at one time or another in my life. I have either walked away from or dropped the association with the woman.
This hit me in the gut. As a man, I think it's hard for us to see this while it's happening to us. We think "there's no way she's being abusive, she's just really emotional and hurt and is saying things without thinking through it". But as time goes on and things don't change, and we don't change, you almost get trapped and it happens over and over again. "Walking on eggshells" is the one thing I can look back on and say "Yes! That was a clear cut sign and happened to me every single day." So guys, if you feel like you're walking on eggshells more than 50% of the week, open your eyes and look for these other points that she mentioning because you're probably experiencing more of them than you realize.
Great video on a timely topic. The notion that a man can be emotionally abused is really a very recent concept in modern history. In my youth, the lesson to men was always, "buck up and take it." That's a good lesson in many circumstances, but the concept of avoiding this particular situation altogether by recognizing a damaged woman is sorely (sometimes literally) needed! I have a family member who needed to hear this years ago; he's been paying the price for many years now. As much as I welcome seeing your smiling face all over social media, it breaks my heart to hear that it comes from lack of health! I will be praying for you all the more intensely. Know that your health matters greatly to me! -- Russ P PS//Mr T is having health issues of his own; bleeding. :( Suggest you read and confess Isaiah 53:5 "By His stripes we are healed."
Oh no! I hope Mr T will be ok!(?) I hope it's nothing serious. Prayers for Tysone! And thank you for yours, I will check out Isaiah :) As for the video, I'm glad there is more awareness coming to light given the Will/Johnny situations. Hopefully, the conversation will continue and help the many men who quietly face abuse from women!
I just got out of a mutally prolonged relationship with an emotionally damaged woman. We both got hurt even though we both wanted to make it work. Lord knows I wish I'd known I always want to help and I always think I can but I guess you can't. I wish I could find someone who isn't messed up but maybe it's just my lot in life.
I am not sure how this came in my feed but wanted to say how impressed I am with you and your show. You truly are amazing and have great insight into relationships. I only wish as a 40 some yr old that this would have been available in my early 20s as your shows would have been sooo helpful. Thank you for what you do. Many kudos to you.
Plenty you can do, men are to soft, leave grow yourself, fix your weaknesses, level up enough to be desired and find a women who knows the value of a good man.
I am not entirely blameless for the breakdown of my marriage but I do think my infidelity was in reaction to decades of gaslighting and contempt. My wife had told me that if I ever wanted to leave our marriage, I should just leave. So I confessed all and told her I was leaving and moving 1000 miles to start a new life in a different country. Her response... "But that's not what I meant!" A desperate flurry of weeks of marriage counselling followed...before I moved.
I think that convincing someone that they have to love themselves, be happy for themselves before they can have a successful relationship with a good person is a big challenge. I had to face that as well. Because many people believe that the happiness can only come thanks to someone else.
You Teach someone how to treat you and if they don't have a problem with stepping over your boundaries repeatedly then thats a huge red and a sign to move on...
Thank you so much Anna. I’m not dealing with a woman in a relationship but I am dealing with a woman that has been placed in my life to teach me all these things from a different point of view. And his testing my boundaries of what I will and will not put up with. God has put her into my life to teach me these things for when I do get into a relationship and how to deal with both mine and her issues. Thank you so much and God bless
I think my last short relationship was with an emotionally damaged woman. I gave her my number in the train after she kept looking and smiling at me and 3 weeks later ( wich is odd by itself) she contacted me and we got together at the first date. Then I noticed her being very submissive and "traditional"( cooking cleaning , asking if i like it, saying sorry for not cooking enough), but also very jealous asking the whole time if i have another girl, checking if I have kissing signs on my body etc. She also never wanted to leave the house with me, just remote areas not the city centre. Turns out she had a strong relationship with some ultra macho ex that kept looking for her in the city , and even called her when she was with me demanding she doesn't have sex with me etc then she pulled away, and broke up with me. Then she called me back we had sex again and then she went cold again . But didn't wanna let me go and kept texting me but flaking. Maybe just to not let me go with another woman. The last 3-4 weeks were horrible for me I was in love with her but I'm better now Bet she is back with him and enjoys it more to be in this toxic relationship where she gets controlled by that dude . I think she just sees these kind of guys as ultimate alphas.
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏 I think you might benefit from my WakeUP2Luv program... curious: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
Great information. I’m in relationship with narcissistic. Having hard time leaving. I am before she ruins me. She lies,always angry. My friends don’t like her. Grandma didn’t either. It’s time
Number 5 baggage and trauma. My ex broke with me because I accidentally did a move which her old narcissistic and evil ex did in the past. We talked about it and I explained I had no ill intentions. For 25 days things felt fine. But then she turned ice cold and dumped me for that thing I did, even though what I did was in good intention. But because of her ex did the same she blamed me. So for a few months I was pathetic and tried to win her back. I gave up and worked on myself. Became strong and fit from all the gym work. Then suddenly she contacted me out of the blue and told me that she missed me, I was the best thing that ever happened to her and she had regrets. Plus it wasn’t my fault what happened cause I did nothing wrong. I replied and said perhaps we should meet and have talk and figure things out. But then she became stone cold again and said that she was confused, and she tried to find herself. And she ghosted me again. That is why I’m done with dating. She was the best thing that happened to me, but also the most damaging on my mental health cause I was walking on eggshells through a freaking mine field always. Good thing though is that I’m now super jacked from all the gym work, and women pile up like crazy to get me. I’m however not interested. I’m happy by myself. There is no one to hurt me anymore.
Similar but blackguards I accepted bread like a hungry chicken Gym is my sanity Piling men's but just for my body configuration Just have to reach bottom rock hard to understand that I just must love myself Now is such a peace in my soul Single for longest time and I will stay single for the rest of my days That I am happier
My gf who has been with me for 2yrs....appears to have this nasty trait..is now gone back to her country...and she now appears to be gaslighting me...tq for the information....enlightenment and awareness...
Yes Anna,, lots of therapy,in my case it did help in a few problem areas,, Another tip,,if she holds both bank cards to a joint account, and you have to ask for the card when needed,, I was always the mushroom ,getting fed bullshit.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️ and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
@@YourWingmam your welcome,,that's why I watch your vids,to help me sort through all the mind games that were played,and help me out for whenever I start dating. Definitely not rushing. It's been 3yrs,it's really hard to say,,ok who's next...but I know not all woman are the same. But I know there are others out there going through it.male and female
@@YourWingmam I think I need to sign up for your wake up to love program....I been single dad for 16 years and the modern dating scene has become a real shit show...pardon my french
Thanks Anna for the videos, lots of good advice that I have actually used recently. Smart and gorgeous. But beware....there is a static paper cutout of a black and white panther behind you photo bombing your video(s). It might be ready to pounce.
I dated a girl who I met on a dating site…she turned out to be bipolar and had board line personality disorder…I told her I just really wasn’t feeling it and she acted like it was a break up after 3 dates I RAN…and blocked her on my phone and Facebook…I got off that site for a while…I went back on a few months later(and the first day back on she messaged me) Creepy…
@@YourWingmam You’re welcome…I felt bad because I didn’t wanna hurt her feelings, rejection sucks I know…been there…but the way she reacted makes me know I made the right decision…and thank you for another great video!
Wow I never thought I would see a Video on this Topic !!! I been Used and Abused verbally and physically by women Most of my life including Family members!!! So I am careful and a little scared generally when meeting New women !!! But I never pre-judge them !!! Every woman is a separate and different Individual !!! I can easily now recognize the Signs and the Games But every woman is different and there men that are the same way !! And I definitely refuse to hang around them !!! If they treated one of my very good female friends that way they would certainly be some Big trouble for them !!! At times it Can go Both ways !!!
I'm here for a reason, and all I can say is, wow. I've been with my fiance for a little over 5 years now. A quite a bit of these you covered is right on the money. It's so tiring, and I feel beat down sometimes.
Hi I like your program very professional and helpful. You are also swell looking in appearance and beautiful at heart. Wish you well. Thanks for helping us
I was watching the live stream and she kept texting/calling. Showed up at my house close to the end, so I missed it. I broke it off with her and the drama and devaluation phase started. Deactivated my social media and blocked her number. And still I feel guilty about it? I think it's just my brain trying to trick me into going back. Your videos are helping me understand this and stay away.
I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you and I pray that you heal from all you have been through 🙏 my WakeUP2Luv program will help you... curious: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
Excellent points. And I'm fortunate to have found you before I jumped back into the dating pool. I just ran into a very damaged woman. And I probably would have pursued her if you (and MC) hadn't of posted videos like this one. Everything on the surface was fine. Our lifestyles, values, and beliefs aligned. Then she turned into a complete fruitcake. A hot fruitcake, but a fruitcake. After several weeks of seeing each other, I slowly started getting all her unresolved grief from past relationships. It was after I added her to my social media (rookie mistake and worth mentioning in one of your videos) and she saw an old picture of me and my ex wife. It was from a family Christmas card of all things. And she immediately became insecure and started comparing herself. She accused me of not being over her. Sure, my ex was a pretty very lady and I don't speak ill of her. But I have ZERO to do with my ex unless it's child related. I guess it was because I didn't call her names and say mean things. Man, brunette women really hate blondes. Like seriously hate them. Teeth gnashing, snarling hatred. Lol. And even though I tried to explain to her that I wanted nothing to do with my ex and that I wasn't the guy that hurt her, she still continued to accuse me of something that just wasn't true. She even started saying things like I was "just settling" for her. And she was not anyone's second choice. Fruit. Cake. And bullet dodged.
Thanks, but it wasn't like that with this woman. There were no deep attachment or feelings on my side. Just disappointing that she lined up so well on paper. But then fell short in application. We're still friends. I'm just not going hopping on the crazy train again. @@YourWingmam
Sounds like you’ve had a bad experience. That sucks! 😞 Big hug! I think you might benefit from my WakeUP2Luv program... curious: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
Anna, I have total respect for you and your videos. With your help I have developed a better understanding of relationships and how to be in a successful relationship. However, as a man who has been through these signs with an emotionally damaged woman I would advise men to RUN....RUN FAST AND RUN FAR! You get two red flags....anything more than that is not worth your time, energy and money. Life is too short for abuse and emotionally damaged women. If you invest anymore time after two red flags then you are going to be missing multiple opportunities to find a high value woman. When you try to talk to her in a kind and gentle way about problems in the relationship and her regular response to that effort is “now you are trying to blame it on me”.....my advice is EJECT! EJECT! EJECT!
HELLO ANNA. AWESOME TOPIC. I RATHER LISTEN TO MUSIC THAN DATE A DAMAGED WOMAN. NO OFFENCE TO WOMEN OUT THERE. MUSIC IS RELAXING. THINKING AND MOST OF ALL IT.S THE HEALING FORCE OF THIS WORLD. I DON.T DATE DAMAGED WOMEN DON.T WANNA KNOW THEIR PAST OR DRAMA. I.M VERY HAPPY WITH MY LIFE THO I HAD A ROUGH PAST BY WOMEN. I STILL HAVE A FISHING ROD I TEND TO USE IT SOME DAY.
I really like your summing up here, about what a functional long-term relationship should be. It’s not until me and my ex hit “adult” discussions about life when things get tough that inability to discuss or (crucially) resolve conflict started to show. By then, we’re often in too deep. I sure was, and we have a beautiful little girl. I recognise a lot of these behaviours, I’m just not sure they were intentional on her part. They seemed like automatic programmed responses which no doubt came from childhood.
Thanks for caring Wingmam! If it helps/saves one person it was well worth doing! Much of what you said describes my ex-wife. The bigger problem however was not her but me because I had no awareness of who I was or my purpose so she set the boundaries to which I later greatly resented. Again it comes back to being whole, complete, happy and respecting yourself first. You are your most important relationship.
It reached a point of contempt and she left me. So, kind of a favour in retrospect. I let it happen because it felt familiar. I never had a voice as a child. In retrospect, she did me a favour but I have to learn from this experience. I would never want to go back to the way that was.
I once met a girl having I think "ALL" the red flags , at least I still haven't found a red flag she did not had yet ... not that I am actively looking for flags, I was in love and refused to look at them at first. I suspect a borderline personality disorder ++. Luckily I spoke to one of her X's , he mentioned one episode: - They were going to move into a flat together , share the same home, they were just engaged , and things seemed cool. He ordered the moving-guys to install his furniture's in their new flat, and he thought everything was ok. When he arrived home after work, all his stuff were placed outside on the pavement. The reason was: She had found a new love that same day or close, and ended it , then she had told the moving guys to carry out his stuff which they just had moved inside. The short time I spend with her, she always had an engagement ring on her finger. I always wondered why, but she was not engaged , only very almost "sickly" occupied with the thought of being in an engaged relationship so she could turn on the Facebook status. She often told other people she was engaged showing off the ring and get the acceptance, while in reality she was single. I don't think it matter too much whom she got engaged with , only that she was engaged and viewed as "normal". She also had 4 kids with four different fathers,(not that it necessarily means something in isolation) she also had a genuine extreme fear of being abandoned, sometimes she dropped her "mask" and a another personality surfaced , just like a 12 year version of herself. She also had a tendency living in the moment and forgetting she was in a relationship, acting by impulse. Deep within I believe she was a good person, however as the flags accumulated I was reading books about personality disorders, and had to think of saving myself, it also took my energy, but realized I could not save her despite how much love I could offer. However, I always distinguish between the person and disorder.
My advice to men is try your best not to get involved with women. Keep your sanity. My best anti-pickup line is "Have a good day... Good bye". It's polite and final.
Yep, this video sums it up. And it’s been expensive to get away from the crazy woman too. One point I’d add: guys should analyse their relationship with their mothers. I love my Mom very much, but she has always been bossy and I always went out of my way to keep her happy. I think that leads many of us guys to tolerate too much with wives and girlfriends - us always aiming to please. Plus the cost of divorce unfortunately scares guys away from walking out when they should.
I'm 6 months out of an abusive relationship. Gaslighting, manipulation, contempt...nearly everything listed here. It's videos like this that have helped me through the healing process, helped me understand my feelings and how I arrived here. Thank you! I'm currently alone and totally comfortable with it. I dont know what the future holds, but i know it will be wonderful and fulfilling. Thanks again for another great video.
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Dude, glad that you got out of a sick relationship like this, must have been horrible! Wish you all to best to avoid toxic women/people in the future and that your next relationship will be healthy and full of love and that you will be surrounded with caring and nice people! ✊❤🩹🤝
@@YourWingmam you are very beautiful girl
I went threw the same thing n she left me for a fat guy lol
@@563allday LOL..my Ex is now "in love" with a fat dude as well.
Yes Im in a 24 year marriage, applying for divorce.
Definately abusive. Contempt and manipulation, silent treatment unless she wants something.
She blames me for her perpetual unhapiness.
I'm sorry to hear about that, and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Me too in that same boat
Wish I'd had this information a long time ago. I experienced basically everything you described during my marriage, especially social control, gaslighting, and erratic behavior. Most attempts I made at setting or enforcing any kind of boundary were met with overwhelming rage. Same with trying to raise any kind of issue in the relationship. No discussion to be had, just a screaming fight. Add to this that I believed this was just how marriage was, until I started looking into resources for how to cope with the situation. It's over now, but it was a terrible experience and one that I hope other men can avoid by paying attention to the warning signs, and using resources like your channel.
Thank you for sharing your experience, my heart goes out to you that you went through that! You are not alone in your experience. What's worse is there's some kind of unhealthy acceptance or at least making light of women's rage that should not be acceptable on any level. If you think this video might help someone, please share it. Big hug, better single than sorry... filter filter filter!
This presentation fits my past relationships to a tee because I've experienced pretty much the same things which were discussed which is why I haven't been involved with anyone since because I don't need to have that kind of drama in my life. I needed them like a bull elk needs a hat rack.
@@michaelclark4043 boy, I FEEL you, Bro!
I was married to her, but very important she did Love me and her sons more than life and proved it.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
I’m sorry to hear
I signed up for Krav Maga and kickboxing towards the end of my divorce, it restored my sanity and is helping me climb out of the whole she put me in.
Yep I’ve been a victim of all these. The last girl I dated sent me into intense mental health counseling for 6 months this last year and now I’ve caught her stalking me like a predatory feral cat.
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
I relate with you, it almost finished with me.
Travis, I had four years of abuse from a brief encounter. All the red flags. Ex-wife went as far as punching and elbowing me in dangerous places. I’m happy to be free. It’s rare people tell the truth from the start and stick to it. I don’t want to blame women, they did the bulk of childcare way back when. As in business, it starts from the top and many people I general are afraid to look inwards. And as Anna has said hormones wreak havoc on stability. So there’s so many unhealthy relationships. Seemingly the Pareto Principle applies to hypergamy, hegemony and everything else. I think it may be the 30/70 rule, because so many couples give up so easily. Then their children have to be the ones in the middle. And depending on age they’ve already tried to balance the mobile sculpture (like the ones above a baby’s crib).
Early in one relationship my partner started complaining that I was verbally abusive. I picked up a few books on abusive relationships to understand what I was doing. What abuser was saying in various case studies in the books was almost verbatim what my partner was saying to me, specifically claiming to be the victim. Later on, if I tried to talk about the relationship - intentionally phrased as 'when you do this, I feel this emotion' they responded defensively. Literally, I once said I was not happy. Their response was that I never game them credit for all the work they were trying to put into the relationship. It got to a point when they expected me to apologize for things I never said (or even thought) and denied what I had heard from them that it felt like they were having a conversation with someone else in the room. Eventually, I had said every thing I could think to say with no change in the responses and I left.
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
@@YourWingmam Thank you. It was awhile ago and by the time I'd made my best efforts and accepted there wasn't going to be a change, the feelings had 'moved on' from the emotional sunk cost and it was just the intellectual decision. I'm a little sad at the lost investment of time and energy, but I was and still am in a fairly good 'relationship' with myself.
Hearing the psychologist in the trial explain Amber Heard's behavior and traits of BPD and HPD gave me chills. Like I had live through it before with my ex. She actually convinced menI was the problem.
I will never ignore my gut again. At least I listened enough to drag my feet so hard on marriage that it never happened.
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
That's what they always do dude. You go back and read your text messages and realize you were arguing with her for absolutely nothing. Most of what she's complaining about and most of what you're fighting about has NOTHING to do with what is actually going on and you cringe to see that you apologized for shit you didn't actually do. Like it was your fault. She will convince herself that her cheating was your fault and I've even seen many men agree with it because they've been mund f****d into thinking they're wrong.
I dated a woman years ago who was emotionally damaged. Walking on eggshells is correct. It seemed like everything I said she took some kind of offense to. I'm so glad that relationship is over and I had no children with her.
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
@@YourWingmam Thank you so much. This last year and half has been tough. I lost my mom and grandfather. Back to the woman I dated. That was a learning experience. But, I recognize my own trauma because I put up with her issues when I should've ended things as soon as the red flags started popping up.
@@kamala80 sigh 😔, unfortunately, these damage women seems to be the best in bed . Would love to hear Ann’s though on that.
I'm glad you brought up therapy. I dated a woman 3 years ago for 3 months that almost ended in my suicide. I realized in therapy yesterday that all that damage is still unprocessed. I just reasoned that I preferred being alone to hurt.
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
I stuck it for 8 years it never ended until she died some 43 years after i met her, I am damaged by her so am ultra careful how i am with my new wife, i am that caring man i always was, and not the abused wreck i became. O do believe i am suffering from PTSD !
This video is spot on. I've lived it for years and can see some of these signs clearly, yet unless I review I don't see some of the other signs. Men sometimes just come to accept it as the way life is. Thankfully I am now doing something about it and my current change in attitude is affecting my other half as she seems to be scrambling to hold on.
Too little and too late.
A great video to watch and keep in the back of your mind as we overlook the red flags and think that it's normal.
Don't be in an abusive relationship, not on either side.
Good for you! If she can manage to come around to being a decent human then she's potentially redeemable. But you'll always have to keep her in line (lovingly but firmly). If she's scrambling there may be hope. You got this!
There are so many men I knew where I wish I could have shown them this video years ago. 3:45 Like my former best friend used to be pissed at her bf when he wanted to meet a friend, drink a beer with him and play ps3. His friend was in the same town but he wasn't allowed to visti him and he actually listened to her and stayed at home. But when she wanted to go out with her female friends, she just went. Thanks for bringing awareness to such things.
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Hi Anna, Good to listen to this video. An emotionally damaged woman will usually look for a man with no strong convictions in life I believe. A woman with this behaviour will turn very quickly to her winning ways what she wants from a man, What I have been through and now always being careful with who i make friends with. She said to many times that I was a wonderful man and she really loved me. But, I would wait for what would come next. YOU REALLY EMBARRASSED ME I FEEL BAD NOW. I bid not know what to do or fight back with words. I had to learn a new way. and that was backing away. And learning a new way of living.
Have a great week. George
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
life is wonderful, and I am doing great. birds and flowers. Thanks for your words. George
Fellas..
The moment they start disrespecting you don't try to change that person..
Just walkway!!!!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Hi Anna, the biggest problem is that, when in a new relationship, people are afraid to say that a behavior is unacceptable and then this becomes the norm. Regards, Paul (Uk)
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Hmmmm enlightenment is seriously powerful....a very important vid
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I know it's always our choice whether we accept people or not, I'm so sick of encountering so many damaged women, especially when the damage is their own insecurity based on their own actions in the past. I may as well just stay on my own to avoid the bull$hit. Thank you. I'm not responsible
Just broke up with a Narcissist. Bi-polar, B P D I think too. Guys, they start off great, then you start seeing the true person. My Advice; Listen to Anna, Wing Ma'am
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Good information here. He did a girl for about a year… Came from a divorced family… Emotionally abusive and controlling alcoholic father… Sexually assaulted in college… And a history of abusive loser man. And the first guy that came in and actually showed her unconditional love and just a good dude because that’s how I was raised but I’m a single dad of two kids and I was upfront about not wanting more kids. I can never give her enough time and then she change your mind and said she wanted children of her own when she started playing games I broke up with her. Really hard decision but I know I made the right one. End of the day I should’ve listened to my intuition ugh Seven months later and it’s still tough
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️
Another GEM .. great job of making this all easy to understand. You can love and pull off a long-term relationship with an emotionally damaged woman. You'll need to be very thick skinned, generous, patient and forgiving, but it can be done. Setting firm boundaries with firm consequences mandatory. Damaged people aren't bad people, but you don't need to be their victim either..
You're absolutely right!
Thank you and excellent extra tip that emotionally damaged women are not (necessarily) bad people. Challenging for sure but if you lead and set boundaries, you'll find out if you can manage happily with one! :)
@@YourWingmam If you really love the girl and don't want to break up with her. Then learn, learn, learn (about her PD) ..it's the best way to deal issues caused by a severe childhood ... one the other hand "I've seen a lot of stuff, I wouldn't recommend it !!!
@@Inseparable724365 The person has to be accountable and willing to change for the better.
@@Mett19 Sometimes they can't .. It's not a matter of will always. If you abused neglected from 0-5 the brain develops abnormally ... it can be reversed, but it's not always practical. Often those with these issues even if they recognize it can't afford the time and money needed to correct the issue. If you are talking about cheating that needs accountability and if the person gets a second chance ... it's the last
Most important point :
We (men/women) are all little bit damaged.
We all have baggage, we all have flaws, we all are not perfect.
So, don't run away from work, stay and work on your relationship.
And leave only when it is obvious that work will fetch no results.
All men/women have a little bit of some of these signs definitely. YOU TOO !!
Red Flag =/= Run Away
Red Flag == Pay Attention
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
Now Stuffy, don't scratch your paws on that lovely sofa !! xx
lol, 🙂 stuffy is a good cat.
I just watched enough of this to the "trust your instincts". That's enuff said. The more you gotta learn this lesson the more disappointed, lied to, and hurt you're gonna be
Always important to listen to your intuition
@@YourWingmam Wingmam you're the best!
I think it's so rare for a woman to show interest in some men, that the man is aware of it at some conscious level, and they are just willing to accept the toxic traits.
The reverse would be the case for men with options, it gives men the freedom to make the right choices(standards, expectations, boundaries).
This is real, fellas. A man can lose himself completely over time by staying linked up with a woman like this. Nothing good she offers is worth staying in. Reclaim yourself and get out at any cost.
And then don't let it happen again. Teach them how to treat you well from the get-go and if they mess up early, bye Felicia!
Well, certainly don’t stay if the relationship isn’t good and nurturing. That is taking responsible for yourself.
Seeing the snippets of testimony from Johny Depp has made me realise the behaviour I accepted in past relationships before I realised what was really happening. The physical violence was obvious, the psychological manipulation wasn't so much for a long time and even when you know what to look for from experience, it's not always totally apparent because it may look like things other than what it actually is.
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@@JackFalltrades Not to worry.
None of them would want Your
autograph or watch any of
Your shows, either.
@@billmurray7473 A desire to be famous is not necessarily a healthy desire.
I was there and now I'm out. There is a new chump with 4 kids of his own trying to keep up with her needs. He lives at home with his parents. Yup, lives at mom and dad's with his 4 kids....and he spends every available moment at her house doing dishes and driving my kids around because she asks him to....and buying bday gifts for my kids' friends. Sadly, he's a nice guy. My ex never goes to his place to do anything for him. It's so good to be out.....but I feel for that guy.
🙏 I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best.
If they are NPD, the go is to GO and fast unless legal weights prevent this, then
grey rock
If these signs you might be an abused man resonated, you need to watch some of these videos:
Red Flags, Narcissistic & Emotionally Damaged Women videos: ruclips.net/p/PLQ8Q-8-X18dkSudIvtlVD37IgqIWXnaMQ
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COACHING/COUNSELLING: wingmam.com/online-therapy/ BIG HUG!
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WakeUP2Luv GET AN AMAZING GIRLFRIEND! *“Would have saved me years of counselling…” Y.C.* members.wingmam.com/get-women/
thank you for doing this video
The best one is when they claim you’re gaslighting them as they gaslight you 🤦🏼♂️
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Without going into detail, you have described really well a past relationship experience of mine. It was only after the relationship ended that it occured to me that it was abusive - possibly in part because society tends to suggest to us that abuse in relationships is always male to female abuse, but of course I now realise that's not true.
However, what I liked best about your video was that you did not dismiss and dehumanise the woman abusing, and you also pointed to the possibility the man could be contributing: we all have our baggage. In fact, I don't think I handled the situation very well - I was out of my depth in terms of knowing what to do/ how to respond.
Much respect for your video here: you really covered this topic well. Thank you.
You’re welcome and I commend you for your self reflection and awareness!
Thanks Anna, Remember guys / brothers, the very first and often overlooked red-flag is that she is a from a broken family, Grew up in a single mother environment and has daddy issues. Those are the type you want to stay clear from, as these women have no respect to anyone and have never been disciplined before!, However there is hope, if you are willing to grag her thru some crap, Once these women get a huge slap from life itself, they hopefully learn and get to know her place, It's also a good idea to put them on ice every once in a while. With these women things have to get worst (Much worst) before it gets better. Listen to Anna and take notes..
Absolutely. Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤
Gotta say this is often (not always) something that shows to be the case. Although it does nothing to help us find solutions even during this behaviour dynamic, it does emphasise the reality of the situation and at least explain why it is happening; and the roots of it. The tragic irony is - you may find yourself living in the middle of the very same story repeating itself, where children are involved. At least with all the insight as to what is going on and why, us daddies can hopefully show our children what healthy relating looks like, and ultimately how to be emotionally mature.
This is one of the most disgusting comments I've seen.
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Spot on thats the woman i faced from a single parent family her mum had died when she was young and she worshipped her father thank you for your words.
I was in relationship with female covert narcissist. . i had to Google to find out if im in a abusive relationship - bc bullying from her side, wasn't obvoius and very subtle and she knew how to use reverse phycology, gaslight and project her negative feelings back on to me. making me feel like guilty and like the wrong person.
point is abuse from female covert narsistic is difficult to pick up on and a lot of times us men dont reconside if we are in a abusive relationship
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
Other than counseling or therapy, it is possible to do the process of personal change through personal commitment, being able to snap out of ones own story and face the emotions that come up, meditation and letting go. Wishing everyone who visits her page and videos a great journey ahead. life is beautiful. :)
Thank you for sharing my WakeUP2Luv program will become handy when it comes to that... curious: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
Listen to your intuition 👍 there's so many damaged narcissist women out here,gas lighting and manipulation is a narcissist tactic,run Forest run 😂👍 Anna thanks for the tip Tuesday.
Always important to listen to your intuition
@@YourWingmam that's for sure 😊
How many is “so many”. Oh sure there are some. There are dysfunctional folk in any quarter. I wonder if the issue is that you hang out in circles where you encounter “so many”. Perhaps find a new field.
Thank you for this video. In 2019 I met an attractive woman a few years younger than me, and I was overwhelmed by how many complimentary things she was saying to me and immediately hugging me. But I soon realized she was, as you've described, emotionally damaged, and I had simply come along at the right time for her. I did give her my contact info, but I suspect she did not follow up because I was cautious about beginning a close relationship.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
Two and a half years out of this kind of difficult relationship. Still trying to recover. Thanks for your reassurance and advice. And btw Anna, you are her doppelganger, hence why I find you so attractive.
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
"We are not being taught that at school"
And we definitely should.
And there should be an obligatiory, institutionaly established, at least one week long personality tests before marriage. That is very important, in order to PREVENT bad consequences for parents, and especially for their children.
God bless you Wingmam. I wish that I had a chance to see ... at least this one video before I got married. This is what everybody needs to see. This is what everybody has to know. This video is ... the masterpiece. All your videos are extremely good, but this one is ... the "life-saving belt" for all who are about to get married (or who are about to start living together and have children).
Glad I could help 🙏
Still in recovery and that is a good thing....Have you heard the latest AJ ? You're the greatest !
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌 and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
@@YourWingmam You have been a tremendous help AJ ! I enjoyed reading your book..
Thank you Anna you are always reminding me not ti get involve with wrong type of person. It's good to listen to you to remind myself how is it when it's bad
Glad I could help 🙏
I'm old. In the 70s and 80s we had a rule. If you opened the passenger to let her in and she didn't reach over and pop your door open, she failed. We knew the simple ways to test people.
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I remember telling a lady maybe we should spend a little less time together and she said I didn't like her. Wanted me to spend all my time with her. I would ask her what she wanted to do and she would ask what I wanted to do. I would name several things and she would pick one. Later she would accuse me of doing what I wanted to do.
I waited until she said it was over and never looked back..
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
I’ve had all of this for the last 25 years. I do the grey rock act most of the time. And yes, I’m working on a smooth exit, as far as possible.
Oh I’m sure that in that 25 years that was good too.
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
@@YourWingmam For context, we only married as our first child was born with disabilities. Almost like I married him, and she came attached. It has become worse during the last few years with tough financial times, but she’s not a total monster, she does have her good side.
@@russellmiles2861 Yes, but those times are becoming harder to remember now.
@@macnadoodle I imagine that is so. I had a challenge a few months back. My eldest son (in his 30s) was reflecting that when he was a child; his mother had returned to study. I work as one does to provide for the family. Our marriage broke up soon after. There was much angst over property, contact with children. My oldest can recall such. So he asked me if I had regretted supporting his mother returning to study. She had died much to young. So the children were with me when young. What was I to say. In myself I knew that in the same circumstances I do it all over again. That is what we Men do. That is our role. Would I be believed. We discussed this. My son will make his own decisions in life. And as did my father I’ll support him. It is hard. You have made a big Commitment.
You have my commiserations for what it is worth.
I am a year away from being discarded... it results she was narcicist NPT BORDER LINE. God Jesus Christ! Getting better every day!
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
@@YourWingmam thanks Ana, your channel s info had helped me much also, much obligged!. Cheers from 🇲🇽
I was hoping that you would make this! God bless you Anna!!
❤️ 🙂 Thank you very much and may God bless you as well 🙏
Grateful thanks to Anna for this sensitive, careful and clear set of guidance for men. To have such boundaries explained by a female is incredibly useful. Thank you, Anna!
I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏
I absolutely LOVE the little PIP clips. Keep ‘em coming!
Thank you! Will do ❤
I learned the hard way as well. So many red flags, I ignored. But I know now what I don't want, in next woman.
You are not alone! Knowing what you don't want is a better place to start over! #filter
Thank you for your videos! I wish i could meet you in person
❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching, I appreciate your feedback!
@@YourWingmam I love to watch 🙂 I feel like i know you almost lol i live alone and enjoy listening to you
The moment you suspect you have suffered abuse, your responsibility is to pay for some therapy. Abuse equals damage, if one does not deal with it then one is a hazard to the next lady. Facts.
Thank you for sharing, healing is definitely key!
You make a rainy day look great! Thank you!!!
You are so welcome ❤
Wish this was around when i was younger, younger males have tools like this to avoid the pitfalls.
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I love that floral dress on you, and how your hair drapes down. Beautiful!
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Thanks Ann, BIG HUG GOD BLESS BACK AT YOU. I've already been thru these scenarios at one time or another in my life. I have either walked away from or dropped the association with the woman.
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
This hit me in the gut. As a man, I think it's hard for us to see this while it's happening to us. We think "there's no way she's being abusive, she's just really emotional and hurt and is saying things without thinking through it". But as time goes on and things don't change, and we don't change, you almost get trapped and it happens over and over again. "Walking on eggshells" is the one thing I can look back on and say "Yes! That was a clear cut sign and happened to me every single day." So guys, if you feel like you're walking on eggshells more than 50% of the week, open your eyes and look for these other points that she mentioning because you're probably experiencing more of them than you realize.
Indeed, it really helps when you embrace that. Thank you for sharing!
Great video on a timely topic. The notion that a man can be emotionally abused is really a very recent concept in modern history. In my youth, the lesson to men was always, "buck up and take it." That's a good lesson in many circumstances, but the concept of avoiding this particular situation altogether by recognizing a damaged woman is sorely (sometimes literally) needed! I have a family member who needed to hear this years ago; he's been paying the price for many years now. As much as I welcome seeing your smiling face all over social media, it breaks my heart to hear that it comes from lack of health! I will be praying for you all the more intensely. Know that your health matters greatly to me! -- Russ P PS//Mr T is having health issues of his own; bleeding. :( Suggest you read and confess Isaiah 53:5 "By His stripes we are healed."
Oh no! I hope Mr T will be ok!(?) I hope it's nothing serious. Prayers for Tysone! And thank you for yours, I will check out Isaiah :)
As for the video, I'm glad there is more awareness coming to light given the Will/Johnny situations. Hopefully, the conversation will continue and help the many men who quietly face abuse from women!
Anna- I love your hair .
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
I just got out of a mutally prolonged relationship with an emotionally damaged woman. We both got hurt even though we both wanted to make it work. Lord knows I wish I'd known I always want to help and I always think I can but I guess you can't. I wish I could find someone who isn't messed up but maybe it's just my lot in life.
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There is no woman more beautiful than your freedom 😎
I am not sure how this came in my feed but wanted to say how impressed I am with you and your show. You truly are amazing and have great insight into relationships. I only wish as a 40 some yr old that this would have been available in my early 20s as your shows would have been sooo helpful. Thank you for what you do. Many kudos to you.
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I know I’ve been abused by my daughters Mother. A lot of men are the majority of men are and there’s nothing they can do
Plenty you can do, men are to soft, leave grow yourself, fix your weaknesses, level up enough to be desired and find a women who knows the value of a good man.
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I am not entirely blameless for the breakdown of my marriage but I do think my infidelity was in reaction to decades of gaslighting and contempt. My wife had told me that if I ever wanted to leave our marriage, I should just leave. So I confessed all and told her I was leaving and moving 1000 miles to start a new life in a different country. Her response...
"But that's not what I meant!"
A desperate flurry of weeks of marriage counselling followed...before I moved.
I think that convincing someone that they have to love themselves, be happy for themselves before they can have a successful relationship with a good person is a big challenge. I had to face that as well. Because many people believe that the happiness can only come thanks to someone else.
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You Teach someone how to treat you and if they don't have a problem with stepping over your boundaries repeatedly then thats a huge red and a sign to move on...
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Thank you so much Anna. I’m not dealing with a woman in a relationship but I am dealing with a woman that has been placed in my life to teach me all these things from a different point of view. And his testing my boundaries of what I will and will not put up with. God has put her into my life to teach me these things for when I do get into a relationship and how to deal with both mine and her issues. Thank you so much and God bless
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Good points. I hope someone is implementing.
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I think my last short relationship was with an emotionally damaged woman. I gave her my number in the train after she kept looking and smiling at me and 3 weeks later ( wich is odd by itself) she contacted me and we got together at the first date. Then I noticed her being very submissive and "traditional"( cooking cleaning , asking if i like it, saying sorry for not cooking enough), but also very jealous asking the whole time if i have another girl, checking if I have kissing signs on my body etc. She also never wanted to leave the house with me, just remote areas not the city centre. Turns out she had a strong relationship with some ultra macho ex that kept looking for her in the city , and even called her when she was with me demanding she doesn't have sex with me etc then she pulled away, and broke up with me. Then she called me back we had sex again and then she went cold again . But didn't wanna let me go and kept texting me but flaking. Maybe just to not let me go with another woman. The last 3-4 weeks were horrible for me I was in love with her but I'm better now
Bet she is back with him and enjoys it more to be in this toxic relationship where she gets controlled by that dude . I think she just sees these kind of guys as ultimate alphas.
I'm sorry to hear about that and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏 I think you might benefit from my WakeUP2Luv program... curious: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
Great information. I’m in relationship with narcissistic. Having hard time leaving. I am before she ruins me. She lies,always angry. My friends don’t like her. Grandma didn’t either. It’s time
🙏 I hope you reach the point of truly doing what is best.
Number 5 baggage and trauma. My ex broke with me because I accidentally did a move which her old narcissistic and evil ex did in the past.
We talked about it and I explained I had no ill intentions. For 25 days things felt fine. But then she turned ice cold and dumped me for that thing I did, even though what I did was in good intention. But because of her ex did the same she blamed me.
So for a few months I was pathetic and tried to win her back. I gave up and worked on myself. Became strong and fit from all the gym work.
Then suddenly she contacted me out of the blue and told me that she missed me, I was the best thing that ever happened to her and she had regrets. Plus it wasn’t my fault what happened cause I did nothing wrong.
I replied and said perhaps we should meet and have talk and figure things out. But then she became stone cold again and said that she was confused, and she tried to find herself. And she ghosted me again.
That is why I’m done with dating. She was the best thing that happened to me, but also the most damaging on my mental health cause I was walking on eggshells through a freaking mine field always.
Good thing though is that I’m now super jacked from all the gym work, and women pile up like crazy to get me. I’m however not interested.
I’m happy by myself. There is no one to hurt me anymore.
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Similar but blackguards
I accepted bread like a hungry chicken
Gym is my sanity
Piling men's but just for my body configuration
Just have to reach bottom rock hard to understand that I just must love myself
Now is such a peace in my soul
Single for longest time and I will stay single for the rest of my days
That I am happier
One of your best, Jorgenson. Thank you. Sent it to 3 of my buds, including the one who whose wife monitors his communications. ;)
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My gf who has been with me for 2yrs....appears to have this nasty trait..is now gone back to her country...and she now appears to be gaslighting me...tq for the information....enlightenment and awareness...
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Yes Anna,, lots of therapy,in my case it did help in a few problem areas,,
Another tip,,if she holds both bank cards to a joint account,
and you have to ask for the card when needed,,
I was always the mushroom ,getting fed bullshit.
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@@YourWingmam your welcome,,that's why I watch your vids,to help me sort through all the mind games that were played,and help me out for whenever I start dating. Definitely not rushing. It's been 3yrs,it's really hard to say,,ok who's next...but I know not all woman are the same.
But I know there are others out there going through it.male and female
Thank you, Anna.
I am sharing this with my sons.
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Thanks for the coaching, nice work on the look 💞
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Just got time to sit down and watch and listen.Outstanding video,balanced perspective,and right on the trolley of what I needed to hear.Thanks Anna.
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@@YourWingmam I think I need to sign up for your wake up to love program....I been single dad for 16 years and the modern dating scene has become a real shit show...pardon my french
Thanks Anna for the videos, lots of good advice that I have actually used recently. Smart and gorgeous. But beware....there is a static paper cutout of a black and white panther behind you photo bombing your video(s). It might be ready to pounce.
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I dated a girl who I met on a dating site…she turned out to be bipolar and had board line personality disorder…I told her I just really wasn’t feeling it and she acted like it was a break up after 3 dates I RAN…and blocked her on my phone and Facebook…I got off that site for a while…I went back on a few months later(and the first day back on she messaged me) Creepy…
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@@YourWingmam You’re welcome…I felt bad because I didn’t wanna hurt her feelings, rejection sucks I know…been there…but the way she reacted makes me know I made the right decision…and thank you for another great video!
My mates wife was diagnosed as bipolar disorder. All that I can observe is you probably missed out on some great sex.
Wow I never thought I would see a Video on this Topic !!! I been Used and Abused verbally and physically by women Most of my life including Family members!!! So I am careful and a little scared generally when meeting New women !!! But I never pre-judge them !!! Every woman is a separate and different Individual !!! I can easily now recognize the Signs and the Games But every woman is different and there men that are the same way !! And I definitely refuse to hang around them !!! If they treated one of my very good female friends that way they would certainly be some Big trouble for them !!! At times it Can go Both ways !!!
I pray that you heal from all that you have been through 🙏
I'm here for a reason, and all I can say is, wow. I've been with my fiance for a little over 5 years now. A quite a bit of these you covered is right on the money. It's so tiring, and I feel beat down sometimes.
Great video Thanks
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Hi I like your program very professional and helpful. You are also swell looking in appearance and beautiful at heart. Wish you well. Thanks for helping us
Glad I could help 🙏
You're the Best! 🤗
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I don’t have the strength to leave yet but thank you for making this video.
I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏
I know of a emotional damaged woman, unfortunately it's my sister.
Good info you have in your videos.
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I was watching the live stream and she kept texting/calling. Showed up at my house close to the end, so I missed it. I broke it off with her and the drama and devaluation phase started. Deactivated my social media and blocked her number. And still I feel guilty about it? I think it's just my brain trying to trick me into going back. Your videos are helping me understand this and stay away.
I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you and I pray that you heal from all you have been through 🙏 my WakeUP2Luv program will help you... curious: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
Hello beautiful! Great advice and thanks for the hug😎
You are so welcome ❤
@@YourWingmam 💙
Most people are damaged, the problem is that they cannot keep it to themselves. Learn to keep your problems contained to yourself only.
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Your best video advice ever. That was clear. You summarized all points to check when starting a new relationship.
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Excellent points. And I'm fortunate to have found you before I jumped back into the dating pool. I just ran into a very damaged woman. And I probably would have pursued her if you (and MC) hadn't of posted videos like this one. Everything on the surface was fine. Our lifestyles, values, and beliefs aligned. Then she turned into a complete fruitcake. A hot fruitcake, but a fruitcake. After several weeks of seeing each other, I slowly started getting all her unresolved grief from past relationships. It was after I added her to my social media (rookie mistake and worth mentioning in one of your videos) and she saw an old picture of me and my ex wife. It was from a family Christmas card of all things. And she immediately became insecure and started comparing herself. She accused me of not being over her. Sure, my ex was a pretty very lady and I don't speak ill of her. But I have ZERO to do with my ex unless it's child related. I guess it was because I didn't call her names and say mean things. Man, brunette women really hate blondes. Like seriously hate them. Teeth gnashing, snarling hatred. Lol. And even though I tried to explain to her that I wanted nothing to do with my ex and that I wasn't the guy that hurt her, she still continued to accuse me of something that just wasn't true. She even started saying things like I was "just settling" for her. And she was not anyone's second choice. Fruit. Cake. And bullet dodged.
I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Thanks, but it wasn't like that with this woman. There were no deep attachment or feelings on my side. Just disappointing that she lined up so well on paper. But then fell short in application. We're still friends. I'm just not going hopping on the crazy train again. @@YourWingmam
Yep. Got all those… she finally dumped me one last time and now I can get over it and move on.
Sounds like you’ve had a bad experience. That sucks! 😞 Big hug! I think you might benefit from my WakeUP2Luv program... curious: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
@@YourWingmam How about I just take you out on the perfect date and you can give me some honest feedback? Sound fair? 😁
Anna, I have total respect for you and your videos. With your help I have developed a better understanding of relationships and how to be in a successful relationship. However, as a man who has been through these signs with an emotionally damaged woman I would advise men to RUN....RUN FAST AND RUN FAR! You get two red flags....anything more than that is not worth your time, energy and money. Life is too short for abuse and emotionally damaged women. If you invest anymore time after two red flags then you are going to be missing multiple opportunities to find a high value woman. When you try to talk to her in a kind and gentle way about problems in the relationship and her regular response to that effort is “now you are trying to blame it on me”.....my advice is EJECT! EJECT! EJECT!
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HELLO ANNA. AWESOME TOPIC. I RATHER LISTEN TO MUSIC THAN DATE A DAMAGED WOMAN.
NO OFFENCE TO WOMEN OUT THERE. MUSIC IS RELAXING. THINKING AND MOST OF ALL IT.S THE HEALING FORCE OF THIS WORLD. I DON.T DATE DAMAGED WOMEN DON.T WANNA KNOW THEIR PAST OR DRAMA. I.M VERY HAPPY WITH MY LIFE THO I HAD A ROUGH PAST BY WOMEN. I STILL HAVE A FISHING ROD I TEND TO USE IT SOME DAY.
Thank you for watching! Better single than sorry! :)
I really like your summing up here, about what a functional long-term relationship should be. It’s not until me and my ex hit “adult” discussions about life when things get tough that inability to discuss or (crucially) resolve conflict started to show. By then, we’re often in too deep. I sure was, and we have a beautiful little girl. I recognise a lot of these behaviours, I’m just not sure they were intentional on her part. They seemed like automatic programmed responses which no doubt came from childhood.
Healing is definitely key. Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️
Excellent message
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Thanks for caring Wingmam! If it helps/saves one person it was well worth doing! Much of what you said describes my ex-wife. The bigger problem however was not her but me because I had no awareness of who I was or my purpose so she set the boundaries to which I later greatly resented. Again it comes back to being whole, complete, happy and respecting yourself first. You are your most important relationship.
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Thanks for sharing your experience and you are so right about being whole within yourself! Nice new avatar pic! :)
@@YourWingmam Thanks, it was time for an upgrade!
Great video. You're the very best.
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I look forward to Tuesday's.
Make sure to mention your clips channel
I keep forgetting to do that! Thanks for being here and for the reminder!
It reached a point of contempt and she left me. So, kind of a favour in retrospect. I let it happen because it felt familiar. I never had a voice as a child. In retrospect, she did me a favour but I have to learn from this experience. I would never want to go back to the way that was.
I once met a girl having I think "ALL" the red flags , at least I still haven't found a red flag she did not had yet ... not that I am actively looking for flags, I was in love and refused to look at them at first. I suspect a borderline personality disorder ++. Luckily I spoke to one of her X's , he mentioned one episode:
- They were going to move into a flat together , share the same home, they were just engaged , and things seemed cool.
He ordered the moving-guys to install his furniture's in their new flat, and he thought everything was ok.
When he arrived home after work, all his stuff were placed outside on the pavement.
The reason was: She had found a new love that same day or close, and ended it , then she had told the moving guys to carry out his stuff which they just had moved inside.
The short time I spend with her, she always had an engagement ring on her finger. I always wondered why, but she was not engaged , only very almost "sickly" occupied with the thought of being in an engaged relationship so she could turn on the Facebook status.
She often told other people she was engaged showing off the ring and get the acceptance, while in reality she was single.
I don't think it matter too much whom she got engaged with , only that she was engaged and viewed as "normal". She also had 4 kids with four different fathers,(not that it necessarily means something in isolation) she also had a genuine extreme fear of being abandoned, sometimes she dropped her "mask" and a another personality surfaced , just like a 12 year version of herself.
She also had a tendency living in the moment and forgetting she was in a relationship, acting by impulse.
Deep within I believe she was a good person, however as the flags accumulated I was reading books about personality disorders, and had to think of saving myself, it also took my energy, but realized I could not save her despite how much love I could offer. However, I always distinguish between the person and disorder.
Wooow!!!
@@Kayzef2003 thanks for reading sir
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My advice to men is try your best not to get involved with women. Keep your sanity. My best anti-pickup line is "Have a good day... Good bye". It's polite and final.
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“Women; can’t live with them. Can’t have heterosexual sex without em.”
Dick Solomon
3rd Rock from the Sun
Yep, this video sums it up. And it’s been expensive to get away from the crazy woman too. One point I’d add: guys should analyse their relationship with their mothers. I love my Mom very much, but she has always been bossy and I always went out of my way to keep her happy. I think that leads many of us guys to tolerate too much with wives and girlfriends - us always aiming to please. Plus the cost of divorce unfortunately scares guys away from walking out when they should.
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3:38 "Just because there's a flag, doesn't mean you gotta ditch and run"
That was funny! I do that all the time.