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Anna hi. Not particularly referencing this video, which is as good as always. Just acknowledging 2 videos in particular that were outstanding that you have included links to. One was the reaction to someone (How to make yourself more beautiful). I have mentioned that before. The other, which I have just watched, is the Accountability video. My, that must have really stung, so brave to come to the conclusion. Cannot have been easy for you to have made that video. Love those more "philosophical" videos. 🙂👏👏👏👏👏👍 The deep-thinking and understanding of where we are at. Very thought-provoking. An insight into the nature and nurture of female thinking. Some of the best in your back catalogue. Very much appreciated. Take care. 🙂
Great advice as usual. Honestly, I was drawn to your channel because you remind me of a girl I used to know. Keep up the great work. I wish you more success ☺️
Here's the deal I appreciate you telling truth about the woman act today finish we can win the Western women heart we have the statements man that we are superior stronger but the biggest because of what's going on because of because of Margaret Sager who started the birth control movement Susan B Anthony and the feminist movement another woman in 1960s 70s if we could turn this around and woman with surrender all of that what they doing we could take back the American women and love them again but it's not going to be easy I feel bad for you cuz you speak the truth Adventures to buy today's woman here in the Western Hemisphere
There is an unwritten rule among men that states, "Don't put your d**k into crazy." Anna's videos proves that this rule is valid and should be followed at all times.
That's a good rule, and glad I followed it on a few occasions. I got a better new rule now, weed out all the crazies within the first 15 minutes of meeting her, and skip the sexual stage all together. Always reach for the higher hanging fruits. (Beautiful women that cultivated their own maturity levels and avoiding women who are immature). Saves you more time in the dating world, less emasculating toxicity in your life, and you bring less skeletons in your closet into the equation with the higher quality women.
You know why crazy is so tempting? Because those women know how to use their cookie to override the red flags you're big head is seeing lol Thanks for watching!
I have experience with an ex which used to gaslight me, manipulate me, untruthful, didn't care about her health (lots of cigarettes and junk food), drama queen(always complaining), chaotic life, she always had to be right, felt entitled that I MUST provide her home and money, also she showed signs of feminism - and she denies everything for over an year of discussions. So I dumped her and I think she is a clinical narcissist. I am pretty positive that I made the right choice.
You absolutely made the right choice! You tried to discuss to no avail. She can't be fixed by you. Have you seen my narcissist videos?: ruclips.net/p/PLQ8Q-8-X18dkSudIvtlVD37IgqIWXnaMQ
@@YourWingmam Yes. I have seen many of your other videos . And they helped me big time (btw my ex recently asked me for forgiveness and said she had changed, but I said NO). In the near future I consider making a donation for you, honestly. What you do is so worth, since I am living in a society where there are lots of broken families or just familiy problems. Combine that with social media and we have a pretty good formula how a girl can be easily damaged, forever. I am so grateful to you. Thanks to you I even helped my friend to dump his obviously damaged ex girlfriend, also.
Not sure how other guys feel about the "silent treatment" as a form of punishment or a communication/argument tactic, but my advice is run like hell. I put up with the silent treatment a several times per year (I know many have it worse) over the course of almost 30 years together. The lady I have now been with for about 7 months just tried it on me from last night till now(bedtime until dinner) and I told her this is the only warning. Try again and I will pack and leave in silence.
I covered the silent treatment in one of my other red flags videos (can't remember which one but it was more recent): ruclips.net/p/PLQ8Q-8-X18dkSudIvtlVD37IgqIWXnaMQ Edit: Good for you! We teach people how to treat us. ✔️
Hi Anna, Thank You so much for the video, I found it informative, as well as entertaining! The only sign/flag I would include to your list is the "Narcissist", I recently walked away from a woman who ultimately after six months posesed all the major traits- entitled, self absorbed, lack of taking responsibility for her actions/behavior, it's always someone else's fault, manipulative, you know the funny thing is, she was really good at masking them in the initial stages of the relationship, however as time went on they were revealed- It's to bad 'cause I initially really liked her, however I knew she did not possess the ability to modify her detrimental behavior- Once again, Thanks for the piece! William
Highly Recommend to thoroughly watch the entire video! Very insight and detailed. Reg Flags 1:38 Uses smarts as a weapon 2:34 Takes everything personally 3:19 Drama Queen 4:22 Acting like a princess 5:11 Excessive attention 8:57 Perfectionaist Reconsider and give benefit of doubt 6:55 Mature discussion 7:06 Changed behaviour
Thank you. Your list of Anna's important warnings here to all men will help me remember them ! Some years back I had a week's stay in hospital suffering from acute memory loss. My then wife's only visit to me in that hospital was on my second day there. She was angry, did not ask me how I was and berated me for inviting a New Zealand cousin, who had arrived that morning, to stay at our UK home. I had not told her about the cousin's pending visit as I had forgotten about it. On my last day at the hospital a psychiatrist told me that I had been diagnosed with 'dissociative amnesia' - a loss of memory resulting from a need to dissacociate myself from personal difficulties - and that my wife had met the hospital doctors each day of my stay there 'trying to get you sectioned'. She had being trying to get me admitted to a secure psychiatric unit alleging that I was insane. Another of Anna's videos has explained to me the root cause of my memory problems - another's narcissistic personality disorder. I had not heard of the disorder before.
I spent to many years with a woman who was later diagnosed with Border Line disorder. Warning. Don't try this at home. Thank You for this subject review. Sometimes its not you. Sometimes you just need to change the scene.
I knew from the age of 5 through my Mother that women can be trouble. I watched her manipulate men and she used her body to draw men into her planning and business deals..thanks for the free training/ awareness lessons and I can spot a troublesome woman a mile away.... Thanks Mother !!
Many years ago I met a really attractive girl and we got on well. She was great company and fun. We got engaged. However she had 'moods' for no reason, sort of sulky and quiet she could never explain the reason. In the end no matter how attractive I found her that was trumped by the moods. So I split with her. We did still go out for a while and I used to get upset but in the end got over it. Physical attraction is a strong influence at first but becomes less important as time goes on IF personality is not 'right' Its like a car that looks great, but it has to drive great too!
Wow, I just edned a 4 year relationship with a girl and she has ALL of these traits.. It was exhausting, dramatic, time and energy consuming. Love is blind guys, watch out for early signs as they can be angels at the beginning. Wish I didn't waste so much time and effort on this relationship but hey, life itself is a lesson. I'm a better and more experienced man now. Raise your values, pursue your dreams and high value women will be automatically attracted to you. Wish you luck fellow men!
I use to go with a woman who used condescending sarcasm, and it really does get under your skin, though some of it I probably brought on myself, but it does get exhausting, and you should definitely steer clear of such people. On a side note: One thing about people who use condescending sarcasm, you'll often find they have a negative outlook on people, and life in general, and if you try to be positive, or encourage them to look at positive things, they'll act like you're naive and stupid, which isn't true. Being positive doesn't have to mean being naive. What it really means is that instead of letting outside events dictate your attitude and character, it's you choosing who and what you will be.
It's called maturity a significant part of which is empathy before criticism and understanding before shame. Maturity in a young beauty is a dazzling and rare elixir
I have yet to meet one that wasn't trouble.... I have married friends who are miserable married to controlling psychopaths.... I pray for their souls everyday and thank god that i am single...
Lots of good tips. I have no problem walking away (many 2-4 month relationships) So red flags are countered with NEXT! Had an LTR over 8 years and learned how to work through things but we never fought so that helps.
trust your instincts: never compromise for a hot lady; if it feels off, it is. scratch off these: those that drink to excess; those that hand out with ex BFs
My wife is number 1. She’s a retired English Professor. She thinks she is smarter than everyone. She tried that “Women are smarter than men” crap on me. I shut her down and it worked because we are still married 15 years later and retired. We went on our first date and after the date, she rejected me because I lacked intelligence. I do make grammatical errors which means my Linguistic Intelligence needs some work. Those were fighting words saying that I lack intelligence. Lol Me: “What type of intelligence do I lack?” She: “What are you talking about? There is one type of general intelligence” Me: “I hate to pop your bubble, but there are 9. I’ve never met a woman who knew the 9 types of intelligence, but they all claim they are the smartest person in the room. Maybe you should work on your Intrapersonal and Interpersonal Intelligence”. She got offended (of course), then she went to her phone to verify it. After seeing that she had made a huge mistake, she ended up giving me a big kiss and more. The rest is history.
Your sense of style continues to stun. It's amazing to me how many different looks you easily master. Bravo! The list: I've witnessed so many of these traits in women over the years. It's so necessary for a man to evaluate a woman with his "upper brain" rather than the "lower" one. RE Respect vs s3xual rewards: I think one of the most detrimental plagues in relationships today is the notion that men need to EARN s3x from their wives by being obedient to her. It destroys his ability to be a man by training him to respond like a pet poodle. When he does something special, by all means she should acknowledge it, giving him respect and thanks. But if she's tossing him some nookie in exchange for obeying her commands, it reinforces the notion that s3xual intimacy is a mere privilege that the woman controls 100%, rather than a necessary component for a healthy marriage. Excellent job! Praying for you. -- Russ P PS/ Glad Stuffy didn't knock over the lamp this time. Mischievous kitty. Mr. T is too tired to say hello tonight.
100% agree! Too many women use sex as a negotiating tool, whether overtly or not. Sad. Thank you for the compliment and prayers, Russ! Lol on Stuffy and hope Mr. T gets a good rest! God bless!
Welcome! Always let them know what they did wrong. They can't change what they don't know. And even if they don't change for you (likely) if they hear it enough the seed is planted. You are not crazy!
Anna, thank you so much for this wonderful video. After watching it, I had to go back and watch it a second time. Many of the personality types that were described, in the worst cases are descriptive of a narcissist. I was married to one for 24 years, and it took me that long to discover certain secrets, divorce and walk away. Sometimes you are so close to the situation, you can't believe what you are witnessing until finally you realize how you are being abused. The only viable option is to get out and move on. BTW, all of your videos are very useful and entertaining. ⚘
The divorce happened 21 years ago and narcissists only care about their own wants, not yours. I would not subject myself to that evil again. Run away and don't look back.
So glad you were able to eventually get out! Thank you for watching my videos. You may recognize some other signs in my Red Flags/Narcissist videos: ruclips.net/p/PLQ8Q-8-X18dkSudIvtlVD37IgqIWXnaMQ
A friend of mine who was a psychologist by profession said " I'll never understand women, therefore I do". He just accepted the fact he never will :). This channel helps! Thanks.
Great video, Anna. I've had experiences with women who fall into two of the categories that you mentioned, and it was a total beating. Fortunately, I saw the red flag and exited. Keep up the great work.
I agree especially with the ones who think they own you. Being with a girl for a hour or two is nice, actually 30 minutes seems like the ideal length of time. But being together the entire weekend or living together...
Sounds like you’ve had a bad experience. That sucks! 😞 Big hug! I think you might benefit from my WakeUP2Luv program... curious: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
About half of these points hit the nail on my ex's head.!! Especially as my ex would say "treat me well, I'm a princess". Holy smoke Anna, you know your stuff. Sadly two years later, I'm still trying to recover from her narsistical ways. What kept me there for five years was thinking with the wrong head, s3# was totally out of this world with her.
As an multiple degree engineer, ATC, plus a tote full of certificates, Master tech, 5 languages, there is no woman that ever will come close to my accomplishments, not that I care anymore as I'm 65 and don't worry about it. They will never keep me.
I like that you add to watch out for these things in ourselves. As someone that is mostly working on myself but still trying to learn about others at the same time, I appreciate the reminder.
I appreciate you appreciating that! lol But seriously, it shows you're open and have already done a lot of personal development work. Taking responsibility for ourselves is tough to do. Our ego/pride doesn't like it, but it's the one place we have control. :))
I've been enjoying your videos for quite some time. I must confess that it just occurred to me how much production value you put into them: the little graphics that pop up, the overlaid text, the little inset videos, the sound that accompanied your batting your eyes. I mean, these videos are *highly* polished and professional. This got me to wondering: do you have a person who does the video editing and production, or does Anna do it all? None of my business, of course, but if you don't mind, I'd really like to know.
Thank you for appreciating the details! My earlier videos were edited by me but they're not as polished and it's quite time consuming, so now I have a video editor. Only the best for my viewers!! ;)
I occasionally do marriage counseling, and you are exactly right. Yes, you would be surprised how many marriages have been jeopardized by the misuse of a man's mayo.
@@YourWingmam Laughing like crazy here on the East Coast. I saw your reply then went to finish my "box lunch" provided by the hospital, and in the bottom of the box was a small packet of .......... Get this ...... "Hellmann's Real mayonnaise made with 100% CAGE FREE EGGS". Well, lucky me.
I love your content Your Wingman. You are spot on. My son is dating now and I told him that, “You can’t bargain with evil”. Trying to fix your evil girlfriend will make you both sicker.
I had a lady that would put me down for not knowing famous people in her home country. I asked her if she knew famous people from my home country...she didn't. I did not demean her. Years have gone by. We remained friends. She asked me twice to retry our relationship. I refused. She sent me a happy new years day message, and said she loves me. I did not reply, I love you. I did say if travel becomes easier, we could maybe meet again. I have wondered if she has changed her ways.. It will take some discussion before anything happens. Also, she is close to her now widowed mother, so might want to stay with her. They share her apartment now. That is a bond I would respect if she decided to stay. I don't want her back unless she has changed from her red flag behaviour. She had a few red flags. I would rather be a happy single, than a sad hubby.
Thank you for sharing more of your story! Definitely take it slow and test her to see if she's changed. It's ok to test! Especially if she's given you reason to. For anyone wondering how to test a woman ethically, watch this: ruclips.net/video/099Ko-WWZeI/видео.html and this: ruclips.net/video/IIL6meWKwCQ/видео.html
"And yes, some of these traits men (/women) can have too, so make sure you are watching that you don't have any of these traits." This is an important line to be said to both men & women, when taking about other gender. Normally when men/women have options they have a long list of dating red flags of the opposite gender. But they don't realize that in few cases, few men also have bad feminine traits, and few women have bad masculine traits.
Perfectionist is Godlisness. As long as you make the effort, damn, give us credit for trying! You are absolutely right and we are well aware that "attaboys" are not the same as "thank you". But I agree, don't settle. I was once with someone who chastise me for being proper. I taught my kids to say "excuse me" or "pardon" instead of "huh". She would make fun of us and criticize us for being stuck up. Additionally, she would - on purpose = mispronunciate certain words just to tease us. Now mind you, that was only the tip of the iceberg that caused us to break up. However, I did learn never allow anyone to alter your expectations. For men, chivalry, manners, and proper manners are never to be compromised.
Hmm, you might want to ask yourself why you're making that choice. Some of the videos in my self-sabotage list might help you discover the answer: ruclips.net/p/PLQ8Q-8-X18dkmwwVhGpFygsimaRcTIbPi Big hug
You're the spot on guru about this: to thats a compliment by the way. Oh I hate the esteem trashers! Water world... works, oivey. The truth about drama is it's not really fun: exhausting.
A woman who responds poorly to the word 'no'. A woman who expects you to spend money on her. Tattoos, especially ones that are visible while she is in public. A woman who uses sex as a tool, weapon, or bargaining chip. A woman who goes to the clubs without you. Adult entertainers of most any sort. Women who have motorcycles or their kids in their online dating profiles.
I think I never reach the standards clame that women .I haven't any chance to reach it . I'm so simple to please them . and above all I'm Christian and a Christian haven't this mindset to fight with his wife . the life becomes a true battle. I think I'll finish my life alone .but sometime as I'm human I need afection but I'm not ready to fight this battle but I recognize when you date someone you should change your behavior it's all right nobody is perfect if your wife tell you something important to do and you don't do it .it's important to see what you can change about you .but I think if they love each other they can overcome their imperfection. I like to listen to you .it helps me to improve my English skill. but it's so difficult to speak because I'm alone and the main purpose to learn a language it's to speak . thank you RICHARD
What about the passive aggressive that avoids a serious discussion or a meaningful conversation concerning relationship issues. As if they are not addressed they will go away. That drives men crazy. Refusing to talk about something that needs to be hammered out. Silence, withdrawn behavior, refusing to engage...
Wow. I think this may be the best video for quite some time. I've known, dated and even married, some version of all those women (2 Wives), the only thing I would add is: Guys, if you are intent on meeting and dating women with regularity and maybe some relations on occasion, EXPECT DRAMA. Everyone learns this the hard way, to find where their own personal lines are drawn. It's good to be briefed before you go into this real life contest, but if you think that knowing this (the red flags in Anna's video) going in, when she is dreamy eyed and rubbing you right is going to be enough to stop you, then you are aiming to low. ;-)
I understand the point of avoiding shallow people who are conceited about their looks and how some women cater their physical appearance too much to the point as to be a turn off but i’m concerned about this online trend that i’m seeing where there is a stereotype or assumption that its the beautiful women who are the dangerous crazy seductive loose booty crazy ones to avoid- as a female its taken me years to build a healthy self esteem and self love- part of that process has involved improving my physical appearance by learning how to wear attractive clothes, wearing flattering makeup and jewelry and losing weight at the gym while also developing my inner qualities- its possible to do both at the same time- i have a healthy self esteem and confidence at 48 that i never had at 25 and take care with my appearance in a way that reflects i like who i am and i’m doing it now without a guy in the picture so its not for someone else- women of all types can be the crazy loose booty types- even the average looking women who wear next to no makeup so i think it would be more appropriate to say no matter what a woman looks like- avoid the crazy , avoid the immature, avoid the shallow girls who haven’t grown up yet - its possible to be both inwardly and outwardly beautiful and be the total package and reflect confidence and healthy self love that is irresistible to the opposite gender - let’s not promote these stereotypes that a beautiful woman is the seductive crazy temptress while the less attractive women are the good ones who won’t do their man wrong- we’re damned if we do and damned if we don’t - if we take pride in how we look and present our best selves we’re conceited,shallow evil seductresses and if we don’t take care of our appearance we’re pathetic, pitiful and have low self esteem and will be cat ladies - can’t there be a middle ground?
This was REALLY Good - tks. But there's one phrase that really did for Me that I've never heard before - "is the juice worth the squeeze?" STILL cracking up on that on because IT'S TRUE!!! REALLY digging Your views from BOTH sides - keep up the GREAT work. It makes for a LOT of VERY interesting conversations! ❣❣
Really appreciate your great advice, especially for inexperienced men. You’re helping untangle the web for us. Your significant other surely is grateful to have such a balanced partner like you. Thank you so very much !
Marriage is such a serious thing for me. No one in the history of my family line has ever gotten a divorce. I see divorced people (men or women) as broken. Mentally ill. They are poor judges of character and tend to be fakes themselves. And in business, 100% of the time, the divorced guy is unreliable and dishonest. Divorced women are hopeless. They blame each other for the divorce but in reality they are both always messed up. And a woman who is in a bad marriage is messed up also.
My ex was definitely a 6...literally I couldn't do anything right in her eyes..I would genuinely try my best fixing something or decorating and if it wasn't exactly how she wanted it she would make me feel so small about it.. but I've definitely dated a 1, 2, 3 and 5 too...managed to dodge number 4 though..
Thanks for the good work. I'm a father of boys and girls, they are teenagers and young adults. I was looking for talking points about the perilous waters of relationships and your videos gracefully and courageously address the delicate subject of the brutal reality. of relationships Great work and keep it up! God bless
Ah, the perfectionist. I knew my marriage was well and truly over when I spent 2 days of my vacation cleaning the garage and paying for junk pick-up only to receive withering criticism over the cost of the junk removal. That was about 5 years ago and I very clearly remember it being the absolute last straw. Now, I'm a MGTOW man and enjoying doing things my way and leaving up the toilet seat in my castle.
@Your Wingman >>> Tip #6: I attended an aviation technical school in the early 1980s. One teacher there had a saying that I still remember: *_"There is a degree of perfection NOT worth the effort to obtain."_*
"if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife, so from my personal point of view, never get a pretty girl to marry you." Good oldies song 😂
@@YourWingmam shiiiiiid. Not me. 😂 I see a baddie, and immediately think, "yea that's problems waiting to happen." 😂 usually the word "immaturity" kicks in and I get turned off fast. I guess a "basic" highly intelligent woman with some snark remarks back, attracts my attention. They may look small and frail, but they're a hidden firecracker 😂😂😂
I have found that some plain or semi attractive girls were the meanest ones and probably insecure. The pretty self confident were the happiest, which can translate to pleasantness and even loyalty.
Stay together long enough with a woman and they will be a disappointment (most). So don't lose your best friends while in a relationship. Your best friends will be there in your times of trouble. A woman wont. In fact, its grounds for divorce.
At some point in a LTR both sides will be disappointed so I agree, never lose your friends. Did you see my review video on Better Bachelor's video "she leaves him at rock bottom and when he becomes a winner she's furious"? Just in case: ruclips.net/video/MWzMqSTt70Q/видео.html Actually, you might like my video on why women don't accept accountability, too: ruclips.net/video/hXvSbYpCYmM/видео.html Thanks for being here!
@@YourWingmam - different levels of disappointment. She is disappointed because she believes she can get more from another man. A man is disappointed in her as a human. After the sex, there just isn't anything there.
All of the women are know. Work colleagues and women I've been in relationships with have most of these traits 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️. People don't change they always revert back to type. To what they are. That's not me being negative, that's telling the truth 💫
The key to change is wanting to change. People can change but it's not easy and it's especially not easy changing *for someone else* if they don't see the value in changing *for themselves.* Nonetheless, the example I gave in this story is true. The woman did change so it can be done (with the right person). :)
@@airadaimagery692 People don't change. Their habits, things they do, say how they react. They always revert to type. Always. It's a psychological fact. Ask any good psychologists they will tell you that. People are who they are. If you really believe everyone becomes a better person ! you really need to get out more. And see what goes on in the world 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️
@@YourWingmam People Don't want to change because people are so self obsessed. Far too full of themselves and think they're all that and they are not. Ask any good psychologists if people change ! the don't. They always revert to type Always.
@Scarlet Pimpernel The famous quote does not state that people CHANGE who they are, You took it upon yourself to interject that. . The quote means, for example, if a person is an evil person, that person will find better ways to be evil, in order to not catch a bunch of flack, as they have learned this over time. “People Don’t Change Who They Are, They Just Become Better Versions Of THEMSELVES (meaning that they become better at what they Do)” Be careful what you read, and read it thoroughly before you lash out!
This is exactly my marriage situation. And I wasn’t able to get away with it for some reason. I don’t have any outlet and just keep it in my heart and hoping someday she will change. My heart is extremely broken but I couldn’t do anything.
Dear Anna: Cat is behind the red lamp. The lamp shade camouflaged it a little, so good job in that one. I have definitely dealt with drama queens, perfectionists and ones who took everything super personal. Those were the worst. It seemed like every little thing I did wrong hurt them deep down to their soul; I am not kidding. I do not understand how anyone can take everything so personal, but I guess that's just me. Well, queen Anna; I must say on the thumbnail for your video it looked like you had another very conservative outfit on, but it turns out it was a bit sexy. Classy of course, but sexy. Bow was a very nice touch. Well, I hope your are of to a wonderful new year, and Canada is not too cold. Great video, as always. I hope the rest of your week is fun. Hug and a peck on each cheek. Anna, you are truly beautiful.
Cat: check! Yes, I think we've all known a few of these ladies, they're exhausting no question. Glad you like the outfit, thanks so much for the compliments! And it is indeed very cold here right now lol #snow #hibernation
@@YourWingmam Anna, have you ever worked in the fashion business ? All of those Red Flag women you described can be found in that field. That business seems made for those types. Do they work in any other fields I'm not aware of ?
Okay, without any reservations, this is the best video wingmam has put together yet. This is helpful for anyone. I had a victim/perfectionist who was never satisfied even when the business picked up and we could have anything we wanted. I consider the relationship unhealthy and got out after twenty incompatible years. However, the worst thing you can ever get into is a relationship with a narcissist. It will serve all those reading to look up the definition. Last point, guys don’t have clean hands either. What you want is a respectful relationship with compassion. If someone isn’t a person you respect, run. If the relationship does not create happy, run. Great job wingmam. You deserve metals and honor.
Two things come to my mind while I watched your video; 1. The quote from Blanche DuBois from A Streetcar Named Desire, when Blanche says to Stanley Kowalski, “Alright. Cards on the table. After all, 50% of a woman’s charm is illusion.” Women who are very attractive and know it only show what the world around them see(men are also guilty of this, as well). They try to be as alluring and as mysterious as they possibly can because they are testing everyone around them. A lot of women enjoy the chase. It is a game in which she has control. 2. The classic Stevie Wonder song “Lately”. There is a lot of things in that song that really makes a guy wonder if the woman he is with is really worth hanging on to.
Think you've described most women... At least the ones I've been out with... Today finding an American woman without these traits is like finding a gem in the muck...
As long as you address it at some point, otherwise it festers. We teach people how to treat us. If it matters and you let people get away with treating you poorly it's much more challenging to change the dynamic later. :)
Wow yes I have dealt with these. You are quite accurate. Ex-wife narcissist it basically all of these things. But it's tough because with a narcissist the initial love bombing it's hard to see through because some are really good at hiding this stuff for a few months or in my case a year. By the way I appreciate your sense of humor.
They can be sneaky but if you test them you may find the cracks in their veneer sooner. How to ethically test a woman: ruclips.net/video/099Ko-WWZeI/видео.html (For when you're ready)
If you're brave you can tell her you'd rather be appreciated for making the effort. Changing the direction of ship is tough, but can be done. Sometimes. How to ask for what you want: ruclips.net/video/bib2O2oC_TU/видео.html
Thank you very much Anna for your efforts, Iam still looking forward to your videos, as a single man, your videos has helped me alot, I feel like iam very much lucky to come across with your channel, iam completely strengthened💪💪🇳🇦
Another red flag in early stages of long-distance online interactions, with a view to dating, is the old refusal to have facetime because "The camera in my phone doesn't work." (Note: we are not talking about women who have been forced to live in trailer parks.) There must exist some Bunny-Boiler University out there which offers degrees in Non-Operational Camera Science to these divas.
Ana... some men love intelligence in a women. The two women I liked the most in my life were brilliant. And they didn't hide it from me. One was a full scholarship student at Harvard and was on the NY Times for her achievements. The other a genius, her dad was a physics professor and a scientist at JPL, her mom a medical doctor. A PhD student herself. Unfortunately, I had to break it off with both. One was not honest about her age, and I didn't want to go to jail. The other was going to be a long distance relationship, and I didn't want that for either of us (we met the night before I moved). Both empathetic, intelligent and kind. Highly evolved. Extremely rare people.
Intelligence isn't a negative trait. Holding your intelligence over someone and acting or feeling superior because of it is. :) p.s. you made wise choices!
@@YourWingmam - it would have been worth waiting for the one and worth driving over 6 hours for the other. Both had severe daddy issues. The former's dad never wanted a daughter, the latter's dad was a work-a-holic. And I seemed to fit the image both wanted. A extremely nerdy, simpish older man. Yes, shamefully admit I am a simp. Though I don't know about the nerd part. I see myself as a bad boy.
Can say that U spoke of my former wife of 15 yrs.. Had to stop or my spirit would have been broken. Kids grown no reason to stay. It is a horrible life to live
Hi Stuffy!, 50-50 odds that lamp is ending up on the floor. Haaa great content as always! Have to agree about the chick flipping out over mayo. It's only supposed to go in pasta and potato salad not on a sandwich pffft.
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Anna hi.
Not particularly referencing this video, which is as good as always. Just acknowledging 2 videos in particular that were outstanding that you have included links to.
One was the reaction to someone (How to make yourself more beautiful). I have mentioned that before.
The other, which I have just watched, is the Accountability video.
My, that must have really stung, so brave to come to the conclusion. Cannot have been easy for you to have made that video.
Love those more "philosophical" videos. 🙂👏👏👏👏👏👍
The deep-thinking and understanding of where we are at.
Very thought-provoking. An insight into the nature and nurture of female thinking. Some of the best in your back catalogue.
Very much appreciated.
Take care. 🙂
Great advice as usual. Honestly, I was drawn to your channel because you remind me of a girl I used to know. Keep up the great work. I wish you more success ☺️
Here's the deal I appreciate you telling truth about the woman act today finish we can win the Western women heart we have the statements man that we are superior stronger but the biggest because of what's going on because of because of Margaret Sager who started the birth control movement Susan B Anthony and the feminist movement another woman in 1960s 70s if we could turn this around and woman with surrender all of that what they doing we could take back the American women and love them again but it's not going to be easy I feel bad for you cuz you speak the truth Adventures to buy today's woman here in the Western Hemisphere
No matter how good she looks, there is always someone, somewhere, that's tired of her
Truest shit I've ever heard
If she is not virgin thats a huge red flag
Herself is the first one !!!
@@kunalsaiyan2126 modern indian girls are not virgin, they got 50-60 body count
@@Sifat_Rashid that's why stay a brahamchari and ignore these girls
There is an unwritten rule among men that states, "Don't put your d**k into crazy." Anna's videos proves that this rule is valid and should be followed at all times.
That's a good rule, and glad I followed it on a few occasions.
I got a better new rule now, weed out all the crazies within the first 15 minutes of meeting her, and skip the sexual stage all together. Always reach for the higher hanging fruits. (Beautiful women that cultivated their own maturity levels and avoiding women who are immature).
Saves you more time in the dating world, less emasculating toxicity in your life, and you bring less skeletons in your closet into the equation with the higher quality women.
They are all crazy, you have to choose your crazy...
You know why crazy is so tempting? Because those women know how to use their cookie to override the red flags you're big head is seeing lol Thanks for watching!
Unwritten?? 🤣 How about start reading books my friend!
@@YourWingmam no its because they do all fun shit
I have experience with an ex which used to gaslight me, manipulate me, untruthful, didn't care about her health (lots of cigarettes and junk food), drama queen(always complaining), chaotic life, she always had to be right, felt entitled that I MUST provide her home and money, also she showed signs of feminism - and she denies everything for over an year of discussions. So I dumped her and I think she is a clinical narcissist. I am pretty positive that I made the right choice.
You did
You absolutely made the right choice! You tried to discuss to no avail. She can't be fixed by you. Have you seen my narcissist videos?: ruclips.net/p/PLQ8Q-8-X18dkSudIvtlVD37IgqIWXnaMQ
@@YourWingmam Yes. I have seen many of your other videos . And they helped me big time (btw my ex recently asked me for forgiveness and said she had changed, but I said NO). In the near future I consider making a donation for you, honestly. What you do is so worth, since I am living in a society where there are lots of broken families or just familiy problems. Combine that with social media and we have a pretty good formula how a girl can be easily damaged, forever. I am so grateful to you. Thanks to you I even helped my friend to dump his obviously damaged ex girlfriend, also.
Do you think that she really changed?
@@matthewschwartz6607 No. I think she will not change.
Not sure how other guys feel about the "silent treatment" as a form of punishment or a communication/argument tactic, but my advice is run like hell. I put up with the silent treatment a several times per year (I know many have it worse) over the course of almost 30 years together. The lady I have now been with for about 7 months just tried it on me from last night till now(bedtime until dinner) and I told her this is the only warning. Try again and I will pack and leave in silence.
Ultimatums are a sign of weakness
Never ever ever for any reason be dependent on a woman for a place to live. Visit fine, live NO.
I covered the silent treatment in one of my other red flags videos (can't remember which one but it was more recent): ruclips.net/p/PLQ8Q-8-X18dkSudIvtlVD37IgqIWXnaMQ
Edit: Good for you! We teach people how to treat us. ✔️
Hi Anna,
Thank You so much for the video, I found it informative, as well as entertaining! The only sign/flag I would include to your list is the "Narcissist", I recently walked away from a woman who ultimately after six months posesed all the major traits- entitled, self absorbed, lack of taking responsibility for her actions/behavior, it's always someone else's fault, manipulative, you know the funny thing is, she was really good at masking them in the initial stages of the relationship, however as time went on they were revealed- It's to bad 'cause I initially really liked her, however I knew she did not possess the ability to modify her detrimental behavior-
Once again, Thanks for the piece!
William
i learnt that the silent treatment was the only time she wasnt bitching and complaining about stuff. i learnt to embrace it.
Highly Recommend to thoroughly watch the entire video! Very insight and detailed.
Reg Flags
1:38 Uses smarts as a weapon
2:34 Takes everything personally
3:19 Drama Queen
4:22 Acting like a princess
5:11 Excessive attention
8:57 Perfectionaist
Reconsider and give benefit of doubt
6:55 Mature discussion
7:06 Changed behaviour
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Thank you. Your list of Anna's important warnings here to all men will help me remember them !
Some years back I had a week's stay in hospital suffering from acute memory loss.
My then wife's only visit to me in that hospital was on my second day there. She was angry, did not ask me how I was and berated me for inviting a New Zealand cousin, who had arrived that morning, to stay at our UK home. I had not told her about the cousin's pending visit as I had forgotten about it.
On my last day at the hospital a psychiatrist told me that I had been diagnosed with 'dissociative amnesia' - a loss of memory resulting from a need to dissacociate myself from personal difficulties - and that my wife had met the hospital doctors each day of my stay there 'trying to get you sectioned'. She had being trying to get me admitted to a secure psychiatric unit alleging that I was insane.
Another of Anna's videos has explained to me the root cause of my memory problems - another's narcissistic personality disorder. I had not heard of the disorder before.
Man I get exhausted just imagining these types of women in my head...
I spent to many years with a woman who was later diagnosed with Border Line disorder. Warning. Don't try this at home.
Thank You for this subject review. Sometimes its not you. Sometimes you just need to change the scene.
Exactly! Glad you got out. Wonder if this video resonates?: BPD vs Borderline: ruclips.net/video/LyBTHhxcu38/видео.html
I knew from the age of 5 through my Mother that women can be trouble. I watched her manipulate men and she used her body to draw men into her planning and business deals..thanks for the free training/ awareness lessons and I can spot a troublesome woman a mile away.... Thanks Mother !!
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️
Many years ago I met a really attractive girl and we got on well. She was great company and fun. We got engaged. However she had 'moods' for no reason, sort of sulky and quiet she could never explain the reason. In the end no matter how attractive I found her that was trumped by the moods. So I split with her. We did still go out for a while and I used to get upset but in the end got over it. Physical attraction is a strong influence at first but becomes less important as time goes on IF personality is not 'right'
Its like a car that looks great, but it has to drive great too!
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your honest feedback ❤
3 Sisters, 1 Late wife, as a widow numerous dates all women have no less than 90% of these negative traits. Are there really any good women?
Reality land: we teach people how to treat us. School 'em. :)
Edit: Condolences on your loss :((
Wow, I just edned a 4 year relationship with a girl and she has ALL of these traits.. It was exhausting, dramatic, time and energy consuming. Love is blind guys, watch out for early signs as they can be angels at the beginning. Wish I didn't waste so much time and effort on this relationship but hey, life itself is a lesson. I'm a better and more experienced man now. Raise your values, pursue your dreams and high value women will be automatically attracted to you. Wish you luck fellow men!
Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
@@YourWingmam Great content as always, Anna. Helped me through some tough times, I appreciate your work! ❤
I use to go with a woman who used condescending sarcasm, and it really does get under your skin, though some of it I probably brought on myself, but it does get exhausting, and you should definitely steer clear of such people.
On a side note: One thing about people who use condescending sarcasm, you'll often find they have a negative outlook on people, and life in general, and if you try to be positive, or encourage them to look at positive things, they'll act like you're naive and stupid, which isn't true.
Being positive doesn't have to mean being naive. What it really means is that instead of letting outside events dictate your attitude and character, it's you choosing who and what you will be.
Wise words right here!
@@YourWingmam - Thank you for the compliment.
It's called maturity a significant part of which is empathy before criticism and understanding before shame. Maturity in a young beauty is a dazzling and rare elixir
Just an observation I made many years ago, the uglier the female the more condescending and sarcastic she's gonna be.
I have yet to meet one that wasn't trouble.... I have married friends who are miserable married to controlling psychopaths.... I pray for their souls everyday and thank god that i am single...
Correct and you will never lose half of your shit or have to pay vaginamony.
Better to be single than sorry! Thanks for watching, prayers for your friends :)
Lots of good tips. I have no problem walking away (many 2-4 month relationships) So red flags are countered with NEXT! Had an LTR over 8 years and learned how to work through things but we never fought so that helps.
That's the right mindset! Walk if it's not worth the effort, work through stuff if it is! :))
Sexual acts should be something both people want to do and not a reward for getting given something. This is so manipulative.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
trust your instincts: never compromise for a hot lady; if it feels off, it is. scratch off these: those that drink to excess; those that hand out with ex BFs
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My wife is number 1. She’s a retired English Professor. She thinks she is smarter than everyone. She tried that “Women are smarter than men” crap on me. I shut her down and it worked because we are still married 15 years later and retired.
We went on our first date and after the date, she rejected me because I lacked intelligence. I do make grammatical errors which means my Linguistic Intelligence needs some work. Those were fighting words saying that I lack intelligence. Lol
Me: “What type of intelligence do I lack?”
She: “What are you talking about? There is one type of general intelligence”
Me: “I hate to pop your bubble, but there are 9. I’ve never met a woman who knew the 9 types of intelligence, but they all claim they are the smartest person in the room. Maybe you should work on your Intrapersonal and Interpersonal Intelligence”.
She got offended (of course), then she went to her phone to verify it. After seeing that she had made a huge mistake, she ended up giving me a big kiss and more. The rest is history.
Your sense of style continues to stun. It's amazing to me how many different looks you easily master. Bravo! The list: I've witnessed so many of these traits in women over the years. It's so necessary for a man to evaluate a woman with his "upper brain" rather than the "lower" one. RE Respect vs s3xual rewards: I think one of the most detrimental plagues in relationships today is the notion that men need to EARN s3x from their wives by being obedient to her. It destroys his ability to be a man by training him to respond like a pet poodle. When he does something special, by all means she should acknowledge it, giving him respect and thanks. But if she's tossing him some nookie in exchange for obeying her commands, it reinforces the notion that s3xual intimacy is a mere privilege that the woman controls 100%, rather than a necessary component for a healthy marriage. Excellent job! Praying for you. -- Russ P PS/ Glad Stuffy didn't knock over the lamp this time. Mischievous kitty. Mr. T is too tired to say hello tonight.
100% agree! Too many women use sex as a negotiating tool, whether overtly or not. Sad. Thank you for the compliment and prayers, Russ! Lol on Stuffy and hope Mr. T gets a good rest! God bless!
Man. You sound simpish! Look in the mirror.
Lol yeah, I thought the bow covering the goods was smart also. Lmao
You are incredibly right! Thank you for showing some of us that we were not crazy for leaving women that fit into these lists.
Welcome! Always let them know what they did wrong. They can't change what they don't know. And even if they don't change for you (likely) if they hear it enough the seed is planted. You are not crazy!
@@YourWingmam very true.
Anna, thank you so much for this wonderful video. After watching it, I had to go back and watch it a second time. Many of the personality types that were described, in the worst cases are descriptive of a narcissist.
I was married to one for 24 years, and it took me that long to discover certain secrets, divorce and walk away. Sometimes you are so close to the situation, you can't believe what you are witnessing until finally you realize how you are being abused. The only viable option is to get out and move on.
BTW, all of your videos are very useful and entertaining. ⚘
The divorce happened 21 years ago and narcissists only care about their own wants, not yours. I would not subject myself to that evil again. Run away and don't look back.
So glad you were able to eventually get out! Thank you for watching my videos. You may recognize some other signs in my Red Flags/Narcissist videos: ruclips.net/p/PLQ8Q-8-X18dkSudIvtlVD37IgqIWXnaMQ
A friend of mine who was a psychologist by profession said " I'll never understand women, therefore I do". He just accepted the fact he never will :). This channel helps! Thanks.
Wise psychologist lol and so glad my channel helps! :)
Great video, Anna. I've had experiences with women who fall into two of the categories that you mentioned, and it was a total beating. Fortunately, I saw the red flag and exited. Keep up the great work.
Thank you for watching and so glad you got out! :)
My ex had so many red flags. I was too young to see what was happening. Totally toxic. We men needed this when young.
Admitting your faults and working to change them? Kudos Anna!
Thank you for acknowledging! Walking the walk ain't always easy but it's worthwhile :))
I agree especially with the ones who think they own you.
Being with a girl for a hour or two is nice, actually 30 minutes seems like the ideal length of time.
But being together the entire weekend or living together...
Split the difference, make it 45 min? lol Thanks for watching!
every single woman I've had in my life had every one of these traits 😂
Sounds like you’ve had a bad experience. That sucks! 😞 Big hug! I think you might benefit from my WakeUP2Luv program... curious: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
About half of these points hit the nail on my ex's head.!! Especially as my ex would say "treat me well, I'm a princess". Holy smoke Anna, you know your stuff. Sadly two years later, I'm still trying to recover from her narsistical ways. What kept me there for five years was thinking with the wrong head, s3# was totally out of this world with her.
Indeed they are experts at s3x so they can get away with their bad behaviours! More red flags here: ruclips.net/p/PLQ8Q-8-X18dkSudIvtlVD37IgqIWXnaMQ
@@YourWingmam Thankyou Anna, ps.. keep up the good work.
Nothing better than great totally mind blowing craterless regular sex.
I think about #1 and chuckle. Attempting intellectual snobbery against an engineer is just about impossible.
That's good. You should tell all the women that when you meet them.
As an multiple degree engineer, ATC, plus a tote full of certificates, Master tech, 5 languages, there is no woman that ever will come close to my accomplishments, not that I care anymore as I'm 65 and don't worry about it. They will never keep me.
@@stevensullivan5287 this is good stuff. You should put that in your dating profile. Don't waste it here.
@@cliffthecoolcat Agreed 👍
True dat! lol
I like that you add to watch out for these things in ourselves. As someone that is mostly working on myself but still trying to learn about others at the same time, I appreciate the reminder.
im perfect
I appreciate you appreciating that! lol But seriously, it shows you're open and have already done a lot of personal development work. Taking responsibility for ourselves is tough to do. Our ego/pride doesn't like it, but it's the one place we have control. :))
A solid 5 or 6 always beats a crazy 10...It's about the product, not the packaging...
Absolutely!
@@YourWingmam Now I just need a 5 or a 6 who likes poetry, books, coffeehouses and jazz... i know she's out there :-)
I've been enjoying your videos for quite some time. I must confess that it just occurred to me how much production value you put into them: the little graphics that pop up, the overlaid text, the little inset videos, the sound that accompanied your batting your eyes. I mean, these videos are *highly* polished and professional. This got me to wondering: do you have a person who does the video editing and production, or does Anna do it all? None of my business, of course, but if you don't mind, I'd really like to know.
Thank you for appreciating the details! My earlier videos were edited by me but they're not as polished and it's quite time consuming, so now I have a video editor. Only the best for my viewers!! ;)
This is the girl I just left everything you just said .... leaving her is what saved my sanity
I occasionally do marriage counseling, and you are exactly right. Yes, you would be surprised how many marriages have been jeopardized by the misuse of a man's mayo.
Boggles then mind doesn't it! lol #passthemayo
@@YourWingmam Laughing like crazy here on the East Coast. I saw your reply then went to finish my "box lunch" provided by the hospital, and in the bottom of the box was a small packet of .......... Get this ...... "Hellmann's Real mayonnaise made with 100% CAGE FREE EGGS". Well, lucky me.
I love your content Your Wingman. You are spot on. My son is dating now and I told him that, “You can’t bargain with evil”. Trying to fix your evil girlfriend will make you both sicker.
I had a lady that would put me down for not knowing famous people in her home country. I asked her if she knew famous people from my home country...she didn't.
I did not demean her. Years have gone by. We remained friends. She asked me twice to retry our relationship. I refused.
She sent me a happy new years day message, and said she loves me.
I did not reply, I love you. I did say if travel becomes easier, we could maybe meet again.
I have wondered if she has changed her ways.. It will take some discussion before anything happens.
Also, she is close to her now widowed mother, so might want to stay with her. They share her apartment now. That is a bond I would respect if she decided to stay.
I don't want her back unless she has changed from her red flag behaviour.
She had a few red flags.
I would rather be a happy single, than a sad hubby.
Thank you for sharing more of your story! Definitely take it slow and test her to see if she's changed. It's ok to test! Especially if she's given you reason to.
For anyone wondering how to test a woman ethically, watch this: ruclips.net/video/099Ko-WWZeI/видео.html and this: ruclips.net/video/IIL6meWKwCQ/видео.html
"And yes, some of these traits men (/women) can have too, so make sure you are watching that you don't have any of these traits."
This is an important line to be said to both men & women, when taking about other gender.
Normally when men/women have options they have a long list of dating red flags of the opposite gender. But they don't realize that in few cases, few men also have bad feminine traits, and few women have bad masculine traits.
100%! Thank you for seeing that. Tough to turn the spotlight on our own blindspots!
Perfectionist is Godlisness.
As long as you make the effort, damn, give us credit for trying! You are absolutely right and we are well aware that "attaboys" are not the same as "thank you".
But I agree, don't settle. I was once with someone who chastise me for being proper. I taught my kids to say "excuse me" or "pardon" instead of "huh". She would make fun of us and criticize us for being stuck up. Additionally, she would - on purpose = mispronunciate certain words just to tease us. Now mind you, that was only the tip of the iceberg that caused us to break up.
However, I did learn never allow anyone to alter your expectations. For men, chivalry, manners, and proper manners are never to be compromised.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Thank you. I'm still stuck in this love hate romantic and evil repulsive relationship...
Hmm, you might want to ask yourself why you're making that choice. Some of the videos in my self-sabotage list might help you discover the answer: ruclips.net/p/PLQ8Q-8-X18dkmwwVhGpFygsimaRcTIbPi
Big hug
The phrase GETMO applies. Good Enough To Move On.
I've had to learn this. Perfection is reserved for certain things I do.
Ima borrow that! lol :))
You're the spot on guru about this: to thats a compliment by the way. Oh I hate the esteem trashers! Water world... works, oivey. The truth about drama is it's not really fun: exhausting.
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A woman who responds poorly to the word 'no'.
A woman who expects you to spend money on her.
Tattoos, especially ones that are visible while she is in public.
A woman who uses sex as a tool, weapon, or bargaining chip.
A woman who goes to the clubs without you.
Adult entertainers of most any sort.
Women who have motorcycles or their kids in their online dating profiles.
You might appreciate some of my other videos on red flags... ruclips.net/p/PLQ8Q-8-X18dkSudIvtlVD37IgqIWXnaMQ
I think I never reach the standards clame that women .I haven't any chance to reach it . I'm so simple to please them . and above all I'm Christian and a Christian haven't this mindset to fight with his wife . the life becomes a true battle. I think I'll finish my life alone .but sometime as I'm human I need afection but I'm not ready to fight this battle but I recognize when you date someone you should change your behavior it's all right nobody is perfect if your wife tell you something important to do and you don't do it .it's important to see what you can change about you .but I think if they love each other they can overcome their imperfection. I like to listen to you .it helps me to improve my English skill. but it's so difficult to speak because I'm alone and the main purpose to learn a language it's to speak . thank you RICHARD
Thank you for your feedback, Richard. I appreciate hearing from you ❤️
Yes!!! So true. You just stopped me from endlessly second guessing myself. Thank you
Glad to help! :)
My experience is that every woman has a little bit of Marilyn inside of her... you just have to find out if Monroe or Manson 😨
Ha! Right?! ;)
What about the passive aggressive that avoids a serious discussion or a meaningful conversation concerning relationship issues. As if they are not addressed they will go away. That drives men crazy. Refusing to talk about something that needs to be hammered out. Silence, withdrawn behavior, refusing to engage...
Yep, covered some of that in my other red flags videos: ruclips.net/p/PLQ8Q-8-X18dkSudIvtlVD37IgqIWXnaMQ
Wow. I think this may be the best video for quite some time. I've known, dated and even married, some version of all those women (2 Wives), the only thing I would add is:
Guys, if you are intent on meeting and dating women with regularity and maybe some relations on occasion, EXPECT DRAMA.
Everyone learns this the hard way, to find where their own personal lines are drawn. It's good to be briefed before you go into this real life contest, but if you think that knowing this (the red flags in Anna's video) going in, when she is dreamy eyed and rubbing you right is going to be enough to stop you, then you are aiming to low. ;-)
Wise words indeed! And thank you so much for the appreciation! :))
I understand the point of avoiding shallow people who are conceited about their looks and how some women cater their physical appearance too much to the point as to be a turn off but i’m concerned about this online trend that i’m seeing where there is a stereotype or assumption that its the beautiful women who are the dangerous crazy seductive loose booty crazy ones to avoid- as a female its taken me years to build a healthy self esteem and self love- part of that process has involved improving my physical appearance by learning how to wear attractive clothes, wearing flattering makeup and jewelry and losing weight at the gym while also developing my inner qualities- its possible to do both at the same time- i have a healthy self esteem and confidence at 48 that i never had at 25 and take care with my appearance in a way that reflects i like who i am and i’m doing it now without a guy in the picture so its not for someone else- women of all types can be the crazy loose booty types- even the average looking women who wear next to no makeup so i think it would be more appropriate to say no matter what a woman looks like- avoid the crazy , avoid the immature, avoid the shallow girls who haven’t grown up yet - its possible to be both inwardly and outwardly beautiful and be the total package and reflect confidence and healthy self love that is irresistible to the opposite gender - let’s not promote these stereotypes that a beautiful woman is the seductive crazy temptress while the less attractive women are the good ones who won’t do their man wrong- we’re damned if we do and damned if we don’t - if we take pride in how we look and present our best selves we’re conceited,shallow evil seductresses and if we don’t take care of our appearance we’re pathetic, pitiful and have low self esteem and will be cat ladies - can’t there be a middle ground?
It definitely isn't an easy situation, but the focus needs to be doing what is truly best 🙏
All points are valid in reality well done 👏 ✔️
❤️ 🙂 Thank you!
@@YourWingmam welcome 🙏
This was REALLY Good - tks. But there's one phrase that really did for Me that I've never heard before - "is the juice worth the squeeze?" STILL cracking up on that on because IT'S TRUE!!! REALLY digging Your views from BOTH sides - keep up the GREAT work. It makes for a LOT of VERY interesting conversations! ❣❣
Thank you, wonderful comment! I appreciate you being here and God bless! :)
Really appreciate your great advice, especially for inexperienced men. You’re helping untangle the web for us. Your significant other surely is grateful to have such a balanced partner like you. Thank you so very much !
Just walk away, enjoy peace and quiet.
There's one time you might reconsider... let me know what you think when you get to that bit! :)
oh god i was married to 4 out of 5 of these red flags. thanks you anna
If a woman has problems with her father, politely excuse yourself and keep looking elsewhere.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
Obviously because the prospective daughter you have with her will probably inherit the same traits
I feel the title of this video should have been; Warning, Warning Will Robinson!! Love the little icons that come up on the video.
The *REAL TOP 5* to avoid is
1. Single moms
2. Divorced women
3. Smokers/Drinkers
4. Women overdone with tattoos
5. Overweight women
Yep...Covered! Here: ruclips.net/p/PLQ8Q-8-X18dkSudIvtlVD37IgqIWXnaMQ
Marriage is such a serious thing for me.
No one in the history of my family line has ever gotten a divorce.
I see divorced people (men or women) as broken. Mentally ill.
They are poor judges of character and tend to be fakes themselves.
And in business, 100% of the time, the divorced guy is unreliable and dishonest.
Divorced women are hopeless. They blame each other for the divorce but in reality they are both always messed up.
And a woman who is in a bad marriage is messed up also.
@@solobackpacking exactly marriage is 1 time thing only thru good times and bad times together for life!
@@YourWingmam were you ever involved with being a single mom or divorced?
Very fit women also are trouble!
5:15 'Attn ho isle 6' excellent! Funny as hell, so true!
Glad you got a chuckle! :))
My ex was definitely a 6...literally I couldn't do anything right in her eyes..I would genuinely try my best fixing something or decorating and if it wasn't exactly how she wanted it she would make me feel so small about it.. but I've definitely dated a 1, 2, 3 and 5 too...managed to dodge number 4 though..
Glad you got out and dodged the others! Filter filter filter! :)
I was courting a girl for 3 months and the video actually gave examples that are so spot on.. I am very thankful that I dodged a bullet..
Glad you dodged that one!
I'm Québecois, and in my culture, not putting mayo on the sandwich is a major red flag.
You just described 95% of all women. My dog is my best friend
A lot of competition for the 5%... if it's too much work, a dog is much easier :)
Thanks for the good work. I'm a father of boys and girls, they are teenagers and young adults. I was looking for talking points about the perilous waters of relationships and your videos gracefully and courageously address the delicate subject of the brutal reality. of relationships Great work and keep it up! God bless
Thank you so much, wonderful compliment to have a ring dad watching my videos for the benefit of his kids!! God bless!
Ah, the perfectionist. I knew my marriage was well and truly over when I spent 2 days of my vacation cleaning the garage and paying for junk pick-up only to receive withering criticism over the cost of the junk removal. That was about 5 years ago and I very clearly remember it being the absolute last straw.
Now, I'm a MGTOW man and enjoying doing things my way and leaving up the toilet seat in my castle.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️
My ex wife is a perfectionist. I apologized, modified my behavior, replaced bad habits with good ones, and grew as a person, but it was never enough.
@Your Wingman >>> Tip #6: I attended an aviation technical school in the early 1980s. One teacher there had a saying that I still remember:
*_"There is a degree of perfection NOT worth the effort to obtain."_*
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that.
@@YourWingmam >>> You're Welcome...👍
"if you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife, so from my personal point of view, never get a pretty girl to marry you." Good oldies song 😂
Idealistically and logically, this makes total sense but dang how that biology can get in the way of a man wanting a hottie ;)
@@YourWingmam shiiiiiid. Not me. 😂 I see a baddie, and immediately think, "yea that's problems waiting to happen." 😂 usually the word "immaturity" kicks in and I get turned off fast.
I guess a "basic" highly intelligent woman with some snark remarks back, attracts my attention. They may look small and frail, but they're a hidden firecracker 😂😂😂
I have found that some plain or semi attractive girls were the meanest ones and probably insecure. The pretty self confident were the happiest, which can translate to pleasantness and even loyalty.
Refreshing honesty. The gaslighters with their straw man memes, are the worst.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Stay together long enough with a woman and they will be a disappointment (most).
So don't lose your best friends while in a relationship.
Your best friends will be there in your times of trouble. A woman wont. In fact, its grounds for divorce.
At some point in a LTR both sides will be disappointed so I agree, never lose your friends. Did you see my review video on Better Bachelor's video "she leaves him at rock bottom and when he becomes a winner she's furious"? Just in case: ruclips.net/video/MWzMqSTt70Q/видео.html
Actually, you might like my video on why women don't accept accountability, too: ruclips.net/video/hXvSbYpCYmM/видео.html
Thanks for being here!
@@YourWingmam - different levels of disappointment. She is disappointed because she believes she can get more from another man. A man is disappointed in her as a human. After the sex, there just isn't anything there.
Chalk up another one for the Canadian Princess! Thank you Anna!
All of the women are know. Work colleagues and women I've been in relationships with have most of these traits 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️. People don't change they always revert back to type. To what they are. That's not me being negative, that's telling the truth 💫
The key to change is wanting to change. People can change but it's not easy and it's especially not easy changing *for someone else* if they don't see the value in changing *for themselves.* Nonetheless, the example I gave in this story is true. The woman did change so it can be done (with the right person). :)
“People don’t change who they are, they just become better versions of themselves”
@@airadaimagery692
People don't change. Their habits, things they do, say how they react.
They always revert to type. Always.
It's a psychological fact. Ask any good psychologists they will tell you that. People are who they are.
If you really believe everyone becomes a better person ! you really need to get out more. And see what goes on in the world 🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️🤦🏻♂️
@@YourWingmam
People Don't want to change because people are so self obsessed. Far too full of themselves and think they're all that and they are not. Ask any good psychologists if people change ! the don't. They always revert to type Always.
@Scarlet Pimpernel The famous quote does not state that people CHANGE who they are, You took it upon yourself to interject that.
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The quote means, for example, if a person is an evil person, that person will find better ways to be evil, in order to not catch a bunch of flack, as they have learned this over time. “People Don’t Change Who They Are, They Just Become Better Versions Of THEMSELVES (meaning that they become better at what they Do)”
Be careful what you read, and read it thoroughly before you lash out!
This is exactly my marriage situation. And I wasn’t able to get away with it for some reason. I don’t have any outlet and just keep it in my heart and hoping someday she will change. My heart is extremely broken but I couldn’t do anything.
🙏 I hope she reaches the point of truly doing what is best and I pray that you heal from all that you have been through!
Dear Anna:
Cat is behind the red lamp. The lamp shade camouflaged it a little, so good job in that one.
I have definitely dealt with drama queens, perfectionists and ones who took everything super personal. Those were the worst. It seemed like every little thing I did wrong hurt them deep down to their soul; I am not kidding. I do not understand how anyone can take everything so personal, but I guess that's just me.
Well, queen Anna; I must say on the thumbnail for your video it looked like you had another very conservative outfit on, but it turns out it was a bit sexy. Classy of course, but sexy. Bow was a very nice touch.
Well, I hope your are of to a wonderful new year, and Canada is not too cold. Great video, as always. I hope the rest of your week is fun. Hug and a peck on each cheek. Anna, you are truly beautiful.
Cat: check! Yes, I think we've all known a few of these ladies, they're exhausting no question. Glad you like the outfit, thanks so much for the compliments! And it is indeed very cold here right now lol #snow #hibernation
@@YourWingmam Anna,
have you ever worked in the fashion business ?
All of those Red Flag women you described can be found in that field.
That business seems made for those
types.
Do they work in any other fields
I'm not aware of ?
Really good video! Great examples 👍
❤️ 🙂 Thank you! for watching, I appreciate your feedback.
Relationship/marriage is too complicated these days. Simple single life is better.
That's allowed! ;))
Okay, without any reservations, this is the best video wingmam has put together yet. This is helpful for anyone. I had a victim/perfectionist who was never satisfied even when the business picked up and we could have anything we wanted. I consider the relationship unhealthy and got out after twenty incompatible years. However, the worst thing you can ever get into is a relationship with a narcissist. It will serve all those reading to look up the definition. Last point, guys don’t have clean hands either.
What you want is a respectful relationship with compassion. If someone isn’t a person you respect, run. If the relationship does not create happy, run.
Great job wingmam. You deserve metals and honor.
Wow, thanks so much for the generous compliment! Glad you got out and thanks for those extra words of wisdom that should help other men!
No such thing as makeup sex. You just got a woman who’s holding back until she got you to give a concession 😂😂.
I admire the woman on this one hehehe.
Nah, if you've got a good one you get the regular sex too ;)
Two things come to my mind while I watched your video;
1. The quote from Blanche DuBois from A Streetcar Named Desire, when Blanche says to Stanley Kowalski, “Alright. Cards on the table. After all, 50% of a woman’s charm is illusion.” Women who are very attractive and know it only show what the world around them see(men are also guilty of this, as well). They try to be as alluring and as mysterious as they possibly can because they are testing everyone around them. A lot of women enjoy the chase. It is a game in which she has control.
2. The classic Stevie Wonder song “Lately”. There is a lot of things in that song that really makes a guy wonder if the woman he is with is really worth hanging on to.
I'm sure you wouldn't ever be any trouble 😜
Most definitely!
@@YourWingmam 😜
You are the best I ever heard when it comes on to dating advice. I have been watching your videos for a wild now
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Hmmm... these 5 types represent 99% of women
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
Great as always. Love how your scarf matches your shirt and the way the scarf is tied! Keep up the good work
Thank you for watching! And the compliment as well :)
Think you've described most women... At least the ones I've been out with... Today finding an American woman without these traits is like finding a gem in the muck...
Filter filter filter and let them know why (if you're brave). Then be the best you you can be, the good ones are in high demand!
Some people when angry get quiet so they don't say anything stupid and don't respond because they know it will turn into a fight. I'm one of them.
As long as you address it at some point, otherwise it festers. We teach people how to treat us. If it matters and you let people get away with treating you poorly it's much more challenging to change the dynamic later. :)
No matter how pretty, beautiful, wonderful or rich, somebody somewhere is sick of her shit!
I feel you, it isn't an easy situation, but we have to focus on doing what is truly best!
I gave up on American women. I found my darling wife in Thailand. She's traditional, respectful and loving. We have a very happy marriage.
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏
My ex was exactly all these things...........so I walked out and left bye after 3 years. I feel sorry for the fool shes with now.
You dodged a bullet 🙏
That is a eternal line
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Sage advice as ever Anna. Keep up the good work & God bless x
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that and may God bless you as well 🙏
Wow yes I have dealt with these. You are quite accurate. Ex-wife narcissist it basically all of these things. But it's tough because with a narcissist the initial love bombing it's hard to see through because some are really good at hiding this stuff for a few months or in my case a year. By the way I appreciate your sense of humor.
They can be sneaky but if you test them you may find the cracks in their veneer sooner. How to ethically test a woman: ruclips.net/video/099Ko-WWZeI/видео.html (For when you're ready)
I really enjoy your insights on various topics.. straight and to the point!! Great job 👌
Thank you very much I'm happy to hear that 🙌
Wow you just completely described my wife. And yea I get scolded for the dishwasher
If you're brave you can tell her you'd rather be appreciated for making the effort. Changing the direction of ship is tough, but can be done. Sometimes. How to ask for what you want: ruclips.net/video/bib2O2oC_TU/видео.html
😆😂 wow! thanks Anna wingmam, I’m so happy I’m single. You reminded why i haven’t had a girlfriend for a long time.
Sometimes it's better to be single than sorry!
5 Times to Stay Single: ruclips.net/video/GKE9sKwjH_g/видео.html
@@YourWingmam
Thank you for your reply, very nice to take the time and effort. I listened to the link you attached. 👍🏼😎
As a general rule : the more beautyfull a woman is ,the more problem you'll get from her, been there done that
Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that ❤️
Thank you very much Anna for your efforts, Iam still looking forward to your videos, as a single man, your videos has helped me alot, I feel like iam very much lucky to come across with your channel, iam completely strengthened💪💪🇳🇦
I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏
Another red flag in early stages of long-distance online interactions, with a view to dating, is the old refusal to have facetime because "The camera in my phone doesn't work." (Note: we are not talking about women who have been forced to live in trailer parks.) There must exist some Bunny-Boiler University out there which offers degrees in Non-Operational Camera Science to these divas.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
Ana... some men love intelligence in a women. The two women I liked the most in my life were brilliant.
And they didn't hide it from me.
One was a full scholarship student at Harvard and was on the NY Times for her achievements.
The other a genius, her dad was a physics professor and a scientist at JPL, her mom a medical doctor. A PhD student herself.
Unfortunately, I had to break it off with both. One was not honest about her age, and I didn't want to go to jail. The other was going to be a long distance relationship, and I didn't want that for either of us (we met the night before I moved).
Both empathetic, intelligent and kind. Highly evolved. Extremely rare people.
Intelligence isn't a negative trait. Holding your intelligence over someone and acting or feeling superior because of it is. :) p.s. you made wise choices!
@@YourWingmam - it would have been worth waiting for the one and worth driving over 6 hours for the other.
Both had severe daddy issues. The former's dad never wanted a daughter, the latter's dad was a work-a-holic.
And I seemed to fit the image both wanted. A extremely nerdy, simpish older man.
Yes, shamefully admit I am a simp. Though I don't know about the nerd part. I see myself as a bad boy.
Great video and so well presented as ever, Wingmam. You rock!
Glad you think so! I appreciate your comment!
I had these issues with a women with BPD.
Even in business most women take everything personally, until I explained they had to pay until I left the parking lot, they got back to business.
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.
Can say that U spoke of my former wife of 15 yrs.. Had to stop or my spirit would have been broken. Kids grown no reason to stay. It is a horrible life to live
I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️
Hi Stuffy!, 50-50 odds that lamp is ending up on the floor.
Haaa great content as always!
Have to agree about the chick flipping out over mayo.
It's only supposed to go in pasta and potato salad not on a sandwich pffft.
Glad you appreciate it, thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts ❤
Totally true.
💯 Yes!