Thanks Kek Yong, Serene and Ramah for sharing your story with us! To find out more about Advance Care Planning (ACP) visit bit.ly/AICACP This video is part of our Offbeat series. Welcome to our no-judge zone, where nothing is off-limits. Join us to create open, honest dialogues for a more progressive society. Want more stories? Follow our Instagram: instagram.com/ourgrandfatherstory
My mom died peacefully in her sleep a month ago. It was exactly what I prayed for. She was diagnosed with end stage cancer and given months to live. Despite not having any advanced care planning, it wasn't a difficult decision for the family to opt for no treatment, given her age and other ailments. She was comfortable, with little pain and surrounded by loved ones at home. There was no life support machine, feeding tube, or IV drip. That's a good way to go.
I like this kind of meaningful question, just make us think about our life, and I will start searching in my mind for my own answer when I was listening to others' answers. Also remind us to live our lives to the fullest, love and appreciate your loves one while u still can, cause our life is not eternity. We will leave one day. Just like a quote " No ones' tomorrow is promised."
I am not afraid of dying... But I am afraid of my family's support after I gone to after life. Therefore, it is important to have financial support, assets... Etc for my family.... This is so important.
It's a hard decision to face but an ACP is actually something very useful if you get sick. It's a bit different system for my home country but my father is terminally ill and we have already discussed with him what he wants. Actually it takes some of the pressure and guilt off my sibling and I because we don't have to make the decision when it comes, we will follow what my Dad has asked of us. The aunty who still has bad relationship with her siblings cos of the situation of her father's death ... That's so tragic
I like the last woman’s answer of how a funeral should be carried out. It should be a celebration of life, of how you lived a worthy and loving life, instead of mourning and doing all the “traditional” Buddhist stuff, which they do in every funeral in Vietnam
Im terrified of dying, Im terrified of losing my parents, Im still 18 and the process I had to go through with my grandparents was traumatic. I just hope by then Ive got someone to rely on emotionally when it happens.
Loved the mj part! I would also love for my friends or anyone at my funeral to play mj, cards or board games or just chit chat just have a good time gathering together happily:))) an occasion to gather and be joyful in the moment, a breather amidst our busy lives...
I love all the answers. They're so adorable. Each of them has their own optimistic energy that motivates me a lot. We will die one day but we can choose our attitude toward it.
Dying oneday everyone will leave oneday. But how we go we dont know. I will missed my loved ones of course and I pray that they will continue their normal lives without me someday. I wishes hope to see my love ones oneday. I'd have family members passed on and I know the death feeling when you lose someone dearly but it's a circle of life everyone will face. I hope I wont die painfully and I dont want to burden my love ones too.... I will get everything ready before I leave this world for my love ones...
I have been asking myself this question too recently! After I witness a close relative died because of cancer. Of course I have seen ppl dying before, I have attended funerals, but she was so close that when she died, it really hit me. I wonder if she feels lost out there after her soul left her body? Where will she go? Will she still watching over us and saw that we were crying hard when she left? But we still need to move on. Does she see it when we were trying to find a place near her husband’s grave so she could be near him (though we are not sure if it works that way in heaven)? So many questions! Suddenly hit me!
Those who take ACP are the kind of person wanna be known as unselfish, because at their last moment where they have the right to be selfish, they still think about others; how they wake up tomorrow and continue their lives. It is so beautiful to witness that these people have so much wisdom in preparing their last chapter.
Ive heard an impressive answer to the question “How would you like to die” from my best friend. He said that he would like to die while doing something he loves, and he gave an example of that Hollywood guy from Fast and Furious died while driving his car-which is also his passion. Isn’t it great to die while doing your most favourite thing? I think it is, too.
A little late to this video but I would love to find out more about Serene's heart and her donor, interview her again maybe? I believe it's a great story to be told.
I don't want to die after suffering from a terminal illness and the pain of treatment. I hope to die pain free and peacefully in my sleep. But not yet though... Not so soon
If you ask if I am afraid to die I won't be scared my brothers can take care of my parents I had brain tumor now I got stroke and I don't know wat is next
@@xxs0ulxx1 that's stupid too... Sooner or later we going underground housing. Perhaps in future we can stay with aliens too. As space tour is available already
@@rinne7244 at 4 ,,9 and11 l got fits and die work up next day in the funeral home ,19 got struck by a car pronouns dead and got up on the way to the hospital and I got a heartattack at 25 and got up at the funeral.
Thanks Kek Yong, Serene and Ramah for sharing your story with us! To find out more about Advance Care Planning (ACP) visit bit.ly/AICACP
This video is part of our Offbeat series. Welcome to our no-judge zone, where nothing is off-limits. Join us to create open, honest dialogues for a more progressive society.
Want more stories? Follow our Instagram: instagram.com/ourgrandfatherstory
Advance care planning is the same as advanced medical directive.
The 1st woman's answer is really good. I've seen people who died in pain . Wish people can leave the world in peaceful way
End of life discussion should be as simple as a dinner conversation.
It should take place when everyone is healthy and not emotionally swayed.
If only it’s THAT simple, many times children and heir go against the wishes because it’s natural to want to keep their loved ones around
serene does NOT look like 41
Must be a typo! hhaha
TRUE
Bro I looked at her and I was like wtf she is not 41
Ya i agree. She looks like 48
My mom died peacefully in her sleep a month ago. It was exactly what I prayed for. She was diagnosed with end stage cancer and given months to live. Despite not having any advanced care planning, it wasn't a difficult decision for the family to opt for no treatment, given her age and other ailments. She was comfortable, with little pain and surrounded by loved ones at home. There was no life support machine, feeding tube, or IV drip. That's a good way to go.
I don't wanna die slowly and painful, don't wanna be a burden for anyone, I hope when the time is come it could be fast and simple.
I pray that Serene lives a long and fruitful life
I like this kind of meaningful question, just make us think about our life, and I will start searching in my mind for my own answer when I was listening to others' answers. Also remind us to live our lives to the fullest, love and appreciate your loves one while u still can, cause our life is not eternity. We will leave one day. Just like a quote " No ones' tomorrow is promised."
I am not afraid of dying... But I am afraid of my family's support after I gone to after life.
Therefore, it is important to have financial support, assets... Etc for my family.... This is so important.
It's a hard decision to face but an ACP is actually something very useful if you get sick. It's a bit different system for my home country but my father is terminally ill and we have already discussed with him what he wants. Actually it takes some of the pressure and guilt off my sibling and I because we don't have to make the decision when it comes, we will follow what my Dad has asked of us.
The aunty who still has bad relationship with her siblings cos of the situation of her father's death ... That's so tragic
OGS should interview an existential therapist. Remember... unless you’re ready to die, you aren’t ready to (really) live.
Interesting idea!
A great reminder:)
I like the last woman’s answer of how a funeral should be carried out. It should be a celebration of life, of how you lived a worthy and loving life, instead of mourning and doing all the “traditional” Buddhist stuff, which they do in every funeral in Vietnam
Dying yes. Death no. The former can be dragging. The latter is certain.
I aspire to be as positive, cheerful and considerate as Ms Kek Yong.
OMG, I miss Singapore so much! The accent is so unique.
very important for all of us to have conversations about death and dying while we are still alive, lucid and can make our own decisions.
OGS... you guys have done it again... *runs away sobbing*
the auntie who said hospital her second home ☹️ she's so good vibes
It will be also helpful to talk about other aspects of estate planning, like CPF nomination, LPA, will and trust.
really insightful and great video
This is amazing, we should all be having more open/honest conversations about death. Especially with the people we're going to leave behind someday.
Im terrified of dying, Im terrified of losing my parents, Im still 18 and the process I had to go through with my grandparents was traumatic. I just hope by then Ive got someone to rely on emotionally when it happens.
Loved the mj part! I would also love for my friends or anyone at my funeral to play mj, cards or board games or just chit chat just have a good time gathering together happily:))) an occasion to gather and be joyful in the moment, a breather amidst our busy lives...
I love all the answers. They're so adorable. Each of them has their own optimistic energy that motivates me a lot. We will die one day but we can choose our attitude toward it.
This was needed!
Dying oneday everyone will leave oneday. But how we go we dont know. I will missed my loved ones of course and I pray that they will continue their normal lives without me someday. I wishes hope to see my love ones oneday. I'd have family members passed on and I know the death feeling when you lose someone dearly but it's a circle of life everyone will face. I hope I wont die painfully and I dont want to burden my love ones too.... I will get everything ready before I leave this world for my love ones...
I have been asking myself this question too recently! After I witness a close relative died because of cancer. Of course I have seen ppl dying before, I have attended funerals, but she was so close that when she died, it really hit me. I wonder if she feels lost out there after her soul left her body? Where will she go? Will she still watching over us and saw that we were crying hard when she left? But we still need to move on. Does she see it when we were trying to find a place near her husband’s grave so she could be near him (though we are not sure if it works that way in heaven)? So many questions! Suddenly hit me!
Did you shared your thoughts about these questions with any of your closed ones?
One of the best and most enjoyed! ❤
Those who take ACP are the kind of person wanna be known as unselfish, because at their last moment where they have the right to be selfish, they still think about others; how they wake up tomorrow and continue their lives.
It is so beautiful to witness that these people have so much wisdom in preparing their last chapter.
Ive heard an impressive answer to the question “How would you like to die” from my best friend. He said that he would like to die while doing something he loves, and he gave an example of that Hollywood guy from Fast and Furious died while driving his car-which is also his passion.
Isn’t it great to die while doing your most favourite thing? I think it is, too.
I feel so sad whenever I think about dying…I wont be here anymore whats the point of living
Serene doesn’t look like 41. More like 31.
We thought she looks young too!
@@OGS.Official pls ask what collagen she’s using
Unfortunately death is painful. Souls leaving the body it is not easy.
A little late to this video but I would love to find out more about Serene's heart and her donor, interview her again maybe? I believe it's a great story to be told.
I don't want to die after suffering from a terminal illness and the pain of treatment. I hope to die pain free and peacefully in my sleep. But not yet though... Not so soon
thank you for sharing 🙏🏼
0:37 ... agreed
Ok out of topic but.... Serene looks like 20+, max 30 years old!!! Surprised that she’s 41
Not afraid to die but afraid to die alone.
The mechanical Heart Pump reminds me of Tony Stark. Except that his device is an Electromagnet that prevents a sharapnel from shredding up his heart.
Should get in touch and understand more bout spiritual. It’s not religion . It’s you finding your own truth yourself and seek path to enlightenment :)
makcik is so cute ^^
I just scared to answer god question
Live your life intentionally now then :)
After I graduate from university, I will live a meaningful and intentional life. God is love so no fear of him.
dying in pieces
People shouldn't be afraid to die if they are at peace with themselves.
Dying yes. Death no. But what comes after than is even scarier for me. Knowing that I am not being a good servant to my God.
I wonder if the heart failure that serene encountered has any link to her delivery to her third child? Like the delivery caused the heart failure?
Hi there! To answer your question, her heart failure has no link to her delivery. It’s a genetic disease. Her mom received heart transplant too.
@@OGS.Official i see.. Ok thanks. Thought delivery might cause heart failure at first. So its not. 👌
This is oot but im surprised serene is 41
Where can I find the link to ACP?
www.aic.sg/care-services/advance-care-planning
@@user-zk9vv2qh4n thanks
I don’t want to die in my sleep. I want to say goodbye properly.
💖🌸🌺
dont know why all singapoleans people like to think die in hospital is the best, i never tink it is a good place
If you ask if I am afraid to die I won't be scared my brothers can take care of my parents I had brain tumor now I got stroke and I don't know wat is next
Hey @Luke, know that it hasn’t been easy for you. don’t worry about what will come next. Live in the present. Wishing you all the best!
@@carinehope thanks for ur wishes
All living thing will die..
How good if medical science can keep us living forever, so we don't have to say goodbye to our love ones and our pets too.🥺🥺🥺
That’s stupid. The world cannot sustain unlimited population.
@@xxs0ulxx1 that's stupid too... Sooner or later we going underground housing. Perhaps in future we can stay with aliens too. As space tour is available already
how the fuck is serene 41 😂
I am not afraid of dying because I have died about 5 time already.
Nani?! Elaborate more!
@@rinne7244 at 4 ,,9 and11 l got fits and die work up next day in the funeral home ,19 got struck by a car pronouns dead and got up on the way to the hospital and I got a heartattack at 25 and got up at the funeral.
How does it really feel ? Like fainting or falling asleep ? XD
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Why can you not give these people the respect they deserve and let them speak without the distracting, banal and irritating background music?
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