Taking Back The Life I Gambled Away | Can Ask Meh?

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  • Опубликовано: 26 ноя 2024

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  • @Unicornxz
    @Unicornxz 4 года назад +140

    Very commendable of them to tell stories of their past, even the ones they are ashamed of... thank you for sharing

  • @ivanseet940
    @ivanseet940 3 года назад +19

    Thank you for the video. I'm in the process to quit gambling. Lost my life to casino and sgpool too. Family support is key to kick this habits. Avoid friends who gamble and keep yourself busy with activities. I wash the toilet super clean just to keep myself occupied

  • @temasekb
    @temasekb 4 года назад +53

    The problem with gambling is,
    1. no matter how much you win, it wont be enough to satisfy. It might develop into a mindset where money can be won easily so why work so hard?
    2. no matter how much you lose, you feel that it will be possible to recover as long you keep trying but chances are often low.
    For casinos, you can opt for the blacklist for yourself but the moment you touch online casinos thats it. Anywhere, anytime 24/7 and so much dangerous since the betting amount isnt seen physically but just as numbers on the screen. Advice for those, gamble within your means and dont ever borrow from ah longs no matter how jialat the situation is.

  • @ft4686
    @ft4686 3 года назад +45

    Kudos to those who stepped forward to encourage others and raise awareness with their stories!

  • @MS-qh3iz
    @MS-qh3iz 3 года назад +6

    I used to be a die hard internet addict and this video, even though it’s about gambling, really spoke out to me. This is the first time I’ve ever “related” to someone with my addiction. Thank you for this video.

  • @melodytan5603
    @melodytan5603 3 года назад +57

    Definitely something that they are not proud to share,, but they're really brave to do so.
    Everybody makes mistake, as Long as they owned it up and choose to stand up again, they definitely deserve a second chance :)

  • @Chiruchiru57
    @Chiruchiru57 3 года назад +23

    It's not surprising that the recovered people all mention the unconditional love and support from their loved ones. Chronic gambling is a symptom of other problems; a need for escapism or unfulfilled emotional needs. It's not about money, or every gambler would stop after losing once.
    You don't get rid of a habit. You merely replace it with another one. Hopefully a better one. Sadly, not all addicts get the support and knowledge to work through their emotional problems and will relapse.

    • @yangtzeling7468
      @yangtzeling7468 3 года назад +1

      Everyone feels a need to escape and have unfulfilled emotional needs.
      But we don’t resort to gambling away hundreds of thousands.
      I don’t think we should make excuses for gamblers. It’s important for them to realise the brutal truth which I shall not spell out here.
      Gambling is the only addiction where it can cost the lives of your loved ones too ( when the money lenders become ruthless or when they become homeless ).

  • @yangtzeling7468
    @yangtzeling7468 3 года назад +9

    Gambling is the Worst of all demons. It’s tragic.
    Kudos to these individuals who have beaten this habit, and kudos to their family and friends who have forgiven them.

  • @happyleaf9635
    @happyleaf9635 3 года назад +20

    I always have this stereotype that gamblers are mostly males. Good to include what most people will not expect as a gambler. There’s young adults and middle aged woman etc

  • @teohyc
    @teohyc 4 года назад +160

    People have to realise there are no easy ways to make money.

    • @editg121
      @editg121 3 года назад +2

      There are actually if you have money. Money makes money.

    • @pyschannel30
      @pyschannel30 3 года назад

      Nope. There is. You need to be smart about it. All those billionaires are billionaires with 1 of the 2 reason. Either you see a problem/loophole and exploit it. Or you diversify your initial income and 10x. Both are not gambling and you will actually get your gains. There is just NO get-rich quick scheme in this world. 2 of the method i have mentioned takes time and money.

    • @pyschannel30
      @pyschannel30 3 года назад

      When i mention 10x. It could be as simple as having a active income and buying a website/app/property (Which is assets) and these assets have the ability to generate wealth

    • @pyschannel30
      @pyschannel30 3 года назад

      And no. They are not gambling. My dad was a gambler. I can spot a "method" that is gambling 100m away

    • @teohyc
      @teohyc 3 года назад +3

      @@pyschannel30 If you think it's easy, go tell your friends and see how many actually follow up on your advice. Seriously, advice your friends. Then you'll wonder how come so easy but no one want to follow your advice.

  • @jncchang176
    @jncchang176 4 года назад +19

    I fear all addictions. Smoking, drugs, gambling... I enjoy gambling. But I only go if I have earmarked a certain budget for it. So I don’t go to Vegas without a certain limit I set myself. I do fear gambling addiction, especially when twice I hit jackpots without any efforts. But I always walk away without resorting to borrowing any money. I have been blessed. Most times I come out with more money than I sat down. But I don’t beat myself up if I DO lose it all. It has been 4 years since I’ve gambled. I’m always cautious before I sit down to “play”. How much am I willing to lose? When I reach that, I get up and walk away.

    • @xxxcool2565
      @xxxcool2565 3 года назад

      But isn't that like a heroin addict who claims that he/she knows their limit? One shot, feel the high and that's it?

  • @recklessdrivinginsingapore
    @recklessdrivinginsingapore 3 года назад +16

    I wish I could give 10, 100, no... 1,000 likes for this honest and down to earth video.

  • @kenny6921
    @kenny6921 4 года назад +27

    really happy for the uncle.

  • @hawwusong74
    @hawwusong74 3 года назад +2

    this is super scary..... i had a brush with this gambling feeling the very first time i went to genting.... i caught myself in time and realized the nearly irresistible draw..... and i have NEVER properly gambled before (with the exception of the usual new year relatives blackjack....) i was so stunned at myself that i have never stepped into a casino since.... this addiction is very real..... and you get into it without even realizing.....

  • @addvictory
    @addvictory 3 года назад +24

    Amazing content! Really appreciate everyone that bravely shared.

  • @Itspavi98
    @Itspavi98 3 года назад +3

    It’s really sad, when most people try to gamble to earn more money to overcome their financial constraints. Sometimes, they don’t have a choice

  • @ten3920
    @ten3920 3 года назад +2

    a gambling addiction seriously has been one of my biggest fears since i was child, never grew up around gambling but the idea of it completely repulses and scares me.

  • @simmering4749
    @simmering4749 4 года назад +7

    Thank you for the heartfelt sharing, very courageous. Have also seen first hand how destructive problem gambling is, this video needs to be seen by more.

  • @steventeoh260
    @steventeoh260 4 года назад +109

    Can do a video on mobile game addiction until paying thousands

    • @poopypain1641
      @poopypain1641 3 года назад +1

      MOBILE????

    • @liguanyee2561
      @liguanyee2561 3 года назад +7

      Yeaa, for example, it could be like when some people whale for gacha games

    • @haileydirks3559
      @haileydirks3559 3 года назад

      especially in youths!

    • @limwar6109
      @limwar6109 3 года назад

      @@liguanyee2561 u play lifeafter?

    • @limwar6109
      @limwar6109 3 года назад

      @pigjedi lol

  • @jonasho9894
    @jonasho9894 Год назад

    Really thankful for the candid answers and thoughtful questions presented.
    It takes so much courage to put your shames and failures out there so props to all the interviewees!!

  • @thelayman_metrics
    @thelayman_metrics 3 года назад +1

    The key impact of any tragedy starts with gambler is using "future money" (未来钱) to gamble, once you tap on credit cards, cashline and loans from people ( the thought of sure recovery , win back mindset are actually pure ignorance of the "fair" gambling tools set outside waiting to prey on you), once using future money (未来钱) you are already in the direction of self destructions, greed, ignorance and anger ( of losing money ) are the key emotional factors that drive people on this "future" money (未来钱) move, hence if you are someone who is buying "small" on 4D, TOTO for hope ,it's need to be within your limits , say like $50-$100 a month etc if you are earning only $3000 a month. Those went to moneylender, simply has no way out as the interests are skyrocketing high, banks shun on you and rated you badly.. Use of future money (未来钱) is the rootcause here. Speaking from more than 30 years here and hope it's help!
    任何悲剧的关键影响都始于赌徒,一旦使用信用卡,现金线和人们的贷款(想赢回心态实际上是对赌徒的无知),就用“未来钱”来赌博。设置在外面等着要捕食您的“公平”赌博工具),一旦使用了未来的钱,您就已经朝着自我毁灭,贪婪,无知和愤怒(失去金钱)的方向发展,这是驱使人们前进的主要情感因素在这个“未来”钱的思想上,因此,如果您是在4D上购买“小”(TOTO)以获得希望的人,它必须在您的限制之内,比如说每月$ 50- $ 100等,如果您正在赚钱每月只需​​$ 3000。那些去放债人的银行,根本没有出路,因为利益飙升,银行避开了您,对您的评级很差。.未来钱的使用是根本存在的错误的想法问题。在这里讲了30多年,希望对您有所帮助!

  • @christopherchong592
    @christopherchong592 3 года назад +1

    I agree to stop gambling is to completely stop. if not you can never quit gambling. i am a gambler myself since a very young age. I did not quit completely but I dont have the urge anymore for the need to gamble. I am not a small gambler, i also start small from a normal card to become the highest level card of platinum card. VIP. but is expensive when you get that card. feels good everything is free but the amount that you lose you already pay 10X more. best is never to start but if you have started best is to quite completely.

    • @GameOn-lc2lk
      @GameOn-lc2lk 3 года назад +1

      Hey agree. Really x10.​
      Casino is a business to profit from us..​
      Yup,​ not for us to get rich.

  • @Alice12578
    @Alice12578 4 года назад +35

    Why Clee didn't get help from a social worker for her medical cost problem?
    Need a 'Can Ask Meh?' with the friends and families they had scammed lots of money from.

    • @erth2877
      @erth2877 3 года назад

      I know her in real life, she's my ex colleague..

    • @sydneyyeo7281
      @sydneyyeo7281 3 года назад

      @@erth2877 her name is Michelle right? I am confused!

    • @erth2877
      @erth2877 3 года назад

      @@sydneyyeo7281 yes, ya right

    • @sydneyyeo7281
      @sydneyyeo7281 3 года назад

      @@erth2877 so I am right… thank u…
      After seeing the video, dun think what was reflected in the video was true. This $$$$ borrowing thingy started more than 10 years ago… trusted her but my $$$$ NEVER came back as promised. Guess that’s the character of a gambler. Guess “ Clee” was just to confuse people. When saw her folding the money into a flower, I KNEW it!!! She was good with folding incense paper into lotus flowers .
      Anyway… thanks for info..

    • @erth2877
      @erth2877 3 года назад

      @@sydneyyeo7281 do u know her in real life??

  • @muse2182
    @muse2182 3 года назад +1

    Takes strong guts to face your addictions and shared your story. Thanks v much

  • @seizure_
    @seizure_ 4 года назад +9

    love your content as always, OGS!

  • @safeworld-168yjk
    @safeworld-168yjk 2 месяца назад

    Young people often pick up gambling habits from the elders and adults in the family. Casual social gambling during Chinese new year, boasting of winning toto, 4D.... make children think that they can win lots of money from gambling.

  • @caocao8200
    @caocao8200 4 года назад +20

    So.. I am lucky cause I always lose when I go to casino... is 500k SGD a lot of money to average Singaporeans? I dont think I can recover that amount of money in 10 years...

    • @erth2877
      @erth2877 3 года назад

      Money is not easy to win, definitely not possible to recoup back either...

  • @anfield0109
    @anfield0109 3 года назад +1

    I really hope I can meet each and everyone of them to know more of their stories and fighting spirit against gambling. I was in depression and I am still fighting it. I have relapse and my overall losses has reach at least a million. And I’m talking about at least. My story of failure in my life with gambling could write u a book and I have no one to support me emotionally and encourage me or even take me out for a breather. I am fighting depression too and I know I need help badly. I’m facing it alone until this very day and struggling everyday repeatedly. If possible I really hope to meet these people. I’m too ashamed to walk in to any NCPG or help centers. I only kept rotting my life away.. tried calling helpline. I’m sorry to say they are a bunch of time wasters for me. Life is in a messed.

    • @cutiebeanhun.c3525
      @cutiebeanhun.c3525 3 года назад +5

      hello! I hope you know that you're not alone in this struggle, while life seems crumbling, there may be small glimpses of hope in our daily mundane life, i hope you know that there is no shame and no condemnation with struggling with such issues! :") i pray that you will find the courage to seek help from the help centres and have the courage to try again everyday :')! you can do it!

  • @royyeo2838
    @royyeo2838 2 года назад +1

    Gambling has destroyed many life and families.

  • @blaqstar
    @blaqstar 3 года назад +1

    I grew up with family with gambling addiction. From grandparents, uncles, aunties, cousins even among my own family, of course i did try at first but i dont know why but gambling really doesnt appeal to me nor satisfying

    • @safeworld-168yjk
      @safeworld-168yjk 2 месяца назад

      You are a hero n very wise, bcos you stand firm on NO GAMBLING. Everyone will reap what they sow. They sow poor decisions, they will reap the terrible consequences.

  • @wayfaringstranger5808
    @wayfaringstranger5808 3 года назад +1

    This is just the tip, of the tip, of the iceberg. You have no idea how massive this monster really is.

  • @GameOn-lc2lk
    @GameOn-lc2lk 3 года назад +2

    I had gave myself a reason not to go anymore.
    To build a Casino, takes billions of dollars. To run a Casino needs hundreds of Staff.
    Nobody will invest So much money into this business to let you get a single cent out of the casino.

    • @andrewlimchunlee7090
      @andrewlimchunlee7090 2 года назад

      Sad.. governments do not see this.. having evil places in proximity of ppl is so damaging.. pls be realistic.. the Levy will not stop ppl.. it only makes ppl stay longer to maximize it

  • @biibikiki1304
    @biibikiki1304 3 года назад +1

    These people .. especially those scamming their family and friends needs to be slapped. Only quitting is not commendable ... they should pay off the debts.

  • @ultimateyoong
    @ultimateyoong 4 года назад +4

    Amazing content. So vulnerable.

  • @kaijie1708
    @kaijie1708 3 года назад +2

    Freaking love this series!!!

  • @thefairplayer
    @thefairplayer 3 года назад +4

    For health problems, insurance is important. Buy it while you’re still healthy

    • @rhuyisia8163
      @rhuyisia8163 3 года назад

      Insurance is a scam! Been there, done that! The worst decision I made entirely!

    • @erth2877
      @erth2877 3 года назад

      @@rhuyisia8163 how do u define it as scam, u mind elaborate more?

  • @Foxie635
    @Foxie635 3 года назад +2

    It took me over a year to build back
    My savings. I am trying to not take from it. Tough though

  • @yisingpoo8827
    @yisingpoo8827 3 года назад +2

    So how did they pay back their debts? Why never explain?

  • @lightnrain57
    @lightnrain57 4 года назад +8

    My friend, Andy L, really could watch this video!

  • @limwar6109
    @limwar6109 3 года назад +2

    3:16 getting highlands silver card

  • @GameOn-lc2lk
    @GameOn-lc2lk 3 года назад

    Alot of people i met lost hundreds over thousand. Casino addiction is not a joke

  • @nasgothus
    @nasgothus 3 года назад

    *Raymond* story is very inspirational.

  • @myobuz3145
    @myobuz3145 3 года назад +3

    The house always win

  • @biancagabriel5267
    @biancagabriel5267 4 года назад +8

    Can help put translation on the parts where the participants speak mandarin ?

    • @caitlinchin6462
      @caitlinchin6462 4 года назад +16

      If you turn on the subtitles you can see the English translation, hope that helps

  • @liewhongkhang2128
    @liewhongkhang2128 3 года назад +1

    All the best!

  • @adilialai5796
    @adilialai5796 3 года назад +3

    You have the best videos ❤️

  • @jimmyjamesraynor6180
    @jimmyjamesraynor6180 4 года назад +10

    Is yolo $PLTR considered as gambling?

    • @temasekb
      @temasekb 4 года назад +1

      Technically, we all invest with the hopes of the stock going up. Its sort of similar even though some say if you do your own dd etc it isnt gambling. At least you wont lose your capital in one shot :)

    • @starsoffyre
      @starsoffyre 4 года назад +2

      @@temasekb The difference is in gambling, the odds are usually stacked against you (or at best, a zero sum game). The stock market generally goes up in the long run

    • @hanzt468
      @hanzt468 4 года назад

      just dont buy in leverage or weekly options

    • @brandontoh662
      @brandontoh662 4 года назад

      Now PLTR 27 is it too high i have 10PLTR

  • @OGS.Official
    @OGS.Official  4 года назад +1

    If you need a listening ear, more information or assistance on problem gambling recovery, call NCPG helpline 1800-6-668-668 or use their webchat service at www.ncpg.org.sg,
    available daily from 8am to 11pm.
    You may also consider approaching the following centres to find support:
    Blessed Grace Social Services
    www.bgss.org.sg/
    Arise2Care Community Services
    arise2care.sg/

  • @Potomacstud
    @Potomacstud 3 года назад

    Gambling just one the hobbies , red alert !!

  • @ksk122
    @ksk122 Год назад

    Happy for you have quit gambling! Kudos.

  • @et8633
    @et8633 3 года назад +1

    Lucky I nv gamble. I put whatever money I can spare into my CPF.

  • @bobbylee5699
    @bobbylee5699 3 года назад +3

    You will think you have the system figured out, you can make money easily, but what you don’t know is that online casinos can control whether you win or not. Please la my singaporean buddies, just stop, Ive seen things I don’t expect myself from friends and myself. I have close friends having debts, and when they do have the money to pay back, their weak mind will lead them to gambling the money away. End up even more debt. Think of your close ones, stop as soon as possible

  • @manchuriancandybar864
    @manchuriancandybar864 3 года назад

    Glad to hear that you have stopped gambling. You can bet on that.

  • @nancyhon406
    @nancyhon406 3 месяца назад +1

    Pls put in the subtitles in english for those speaking in dialect.

    • @safeworld-168yjk
      @safeworld-168yjk 2 месяца назад

      Hi, we can hv auto-generated captions......
      click on the SETTING button at top right corner,
      Then click on CAPTIONS
      Then select the language.
      Hope this is helpful.

  • @michellezhu5230
    @michellezhu5230 2 года назад

    Kudos to all of you

  • @tareginda
    @tareginda 3 года назад

    Thank you for in depth video

  • @smoothytunes1155
    @smoothytunes1155 3 года назад

    Good content!

  • @gh8066
    @gh8066 3 года назад +1

    SO REAL

  • @zenn9294
    @zenn9294 2 года назад

    How about Game Addiction

  • @ocswoodlands
    @ocswoodlands 3 года назад +1

    another form of gambling that is "glorified" and "hidden" is the stock market. should have interviewed someone addicted to the market...

  • @clementwang7097
    @clementwang7097 2 года назад +1

    Don't gamble. It will be your downfall

  • @naikhsianwei2825
    @naikhsianwei2825 3 года назад

    ybb need see this

  • @MrZipher20
    @MrZipher20 4 года назад

    Where is jialing boss?!

  • @agofpos
    @agofpos 3 года назад

    If you could advise your younger self, what would you say? I was shocked that all of them regret what they have done. I'm a gambler just like them. Just lost 2K A while ago. Its a small amount of money. I felt Raymond's answer. Too bad I grew up hearing my mom telling me that I should have been buried when I was a baby and that makes all the difference. I lost around Php 200K in total in all my gambling. Its a small amount of money. Almost lost my family and my own family. The thing is, I regret nothing. I'm even happy I experienced those things. And yes, go happy go lucky. Life is good.

    • @-m3741
      @-m3741 3 года назад

      Hey man, alot of people in addiction would think that their addiction is nothing. But once you truly look up and evaluate your life, you'll realize life is more than this & regret the time and resources lost...spend the money on your family...God loves you

  • @whis5448
    @whis5448 3 года назад +2

    These gamblers are like devils. Even own family member money also want to con. Now the new norm is gambling in SGX. Stupidity had no cure.

  • @manchuriancandybar864
    @manchuriancandybar864 3 года назад

    yiren tan You bet it does.

  • @KKGoh5125
    @KKGoh5125 3 года назад

    We Malaysians have been locked out from our casino since early Jan 😂😂😂 I really miss Genting Casino

  • @manchuriancandybar864
    @manchuriancandybar864 3 года назад

    Can ask meh? Want to bet?

  • @78Mkv
    @78Mkv 3 года назад +2

    Where to eat his wanton mee? I want to support. ☺️

  • @martinh619
    @martinh619 3 года назад

    You have better change to win in casino

  • @rhuyisia8163
    @rhuyisia8163 3 года назад

    The gamblers and drinkers I know are shameless and irresponsible!

  • @kaseycomme
    @kaseycomme 3 года назад

    Gamblers anonymous sg chapter, anyone?

  • @pepelepew1227
    @pepelepew1227 3 года назад +1

    after the end of the interview, all 4 gather to play mahjong

  • @andrewlimchunlee7090
    @andrewlimchunlee7090 2 года назад

    Not specific to any country but comments for any country considering legalising it now ( please, by all means explore any and all other options to create value and earn revenue. This means of earning revenue is truly not worth it. )
    1) selling drugs which are addictive. Is the seller sinless ? Charge a levy to new buyers and drug addicts to buy drugs ?
    2) going to great lengths to lockdown during covid to save lives, lives lost and families destroyed due to the “casino” is fine “ ?
    3) the shithead which talks about jobs creation.. ur earnings are non value added mate.. it is the loss of another.. when one of your loved ones gets sucked in and hurt real bad, god forbid, ur eyes will open.. get a real job that adds meaning and value to society..
    4) seriously think entry levy is a safeguard? Think again please, if one has any semblance of conscience. Merely makes ppl gamble long hours to maximise the levy and increase odds of addiction.
    5) seriously, anyone who can condone making money in this manner … i beg you to reassess your moral compass ? One day ppl will realise (hopefully sooner rather than later) … this is no different than an “ opium den “ from yesteryears..
    6) seriously, any controls over casino’s marketing gimmicks studied in detail to truly understand its ramifications ?
    7) casino’s make money from problem gamblers and by converting non problem into problem gamblers. Does anyone seriously think or believe they can survive on casual gamblers ? Leave casual gambling to the confines of people’s private lives during cry etc.. no need for a casino.
    8) ridiculous and nonsensical arguments on tourism ? Many cities with high tourist arrivals DO NOT necessarily rely on casinos… there are other means to attract tourists… many.
    9) if the “casino” is taken away, would ppl still invest in an integrated resort. If the answer is “no”, pls kindly refer to point 7) above.

  • @_kaiyan1313
    @_kaiyan1313 3 года назад

    YBB

  • @ready4cheeseburger
    @ready4cheeseburger 3 года назад

    All Champions fail before they succeed :)

  • @dreamydisaster
    @dreamydisaster 3 года назад +1

    Why no subtitles for the mandarin speakers. Is singapore china?

  • @yirentan9909
    @yirentan9909 3 года назад +1

    Wow all of them look very young for their age, maybe gambling makes you younger?

  • @jamesyue1348
    @jamesyue1348 3 года назад

    My name is yan fei. I will use this $10 win over your entire casino.

  • @Food-is_Life
    @Food-is_Life 3 года назад

    Why no translation?👎🏼👎🏼👎🏼

    • @juniorbee1564
      @juniorbee1564 3 года назад +3

      You can turn on the “captions (CC)”

    • @Food-is_Life
      @Food-is_Life 3 года назад

      @@juniorbee1564 oh wow. Thanks. I didn't know that it translate other languages into English.

  • @swedeturbo666
    @swedeturbo666 3 года назад

    gambling is fun, please dont stop.