I Was Addicted To Porn For 40 Years | Can Ask Meh?
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- Опубликовано: 9 июн 2024
- For a long time, Teh Hsin was addicted to pornography, to the point where it even cost him his marriage. In this episode, he shares how his addiction took over his life, and how he eventually overcame it.
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0:00 Intro
0:42 Did you watch pornography all the time?
3:57 Did you feel like your marriage wasn’t enough?
8:49 Do you still watch pornography?
14:46 Have you ever felt undeserving to be a pastor?
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It takes guts to share his own story. Thank you for bringing awareness to the public.
it takes guts if you care about people judging you. Apparently he doesn´t
actually shouldn't sex be a normal part of life just like eating, sleeping and drinking? But you don't hear people being shamed or labelled as bad for saying they are addicted to eating and sleeping right? lol
agree
- from Indonesia -
@@andyng5321 Experts say masturbation is normal and healthy. They even say it is good to prevent prostate cancer. But like anything too much is not good. The desire to have sex is probably the most important drive that any living thing can have, for without it, the species would die off.
if it was a woman in this video she would't be shamed as much.@@anonymous-zn2iv
Addiction needs treatment, not judgment.
Well said.
How to push addict for treatment? Judgement, ngl
@FLee-zf8pt Maybe for some or few. But most already feel shame or guilty about their addictions, at least I do since being shown at a very young age and being Christian at that time gave me quite amount of guilty and shame. But it was only later that me realizing the shame and guilty weren't helping and was causing me to be in bad relapses.
dianogsis@@FLee-zf8pt
@@supershifter2862 if a person who can control his addiction is not addict, addicted to something very very hard to treat or move on from it, we don't know what he do when no one around him,
I have a story, my uncle is heavy smoker “heavy” they live in the beach and work as fisherman, one night he run out of cigarette at 2am, at midnight he walk to the village store, the store is running billiard for play also so they rarely close, and the road he pass by is soil not an flat road, like have a coconut root bump, the road is not straight, the distance not so far Maybe 1-1.5km, and my uncle fall off the cliff near the beach, the cliff height is 2meter and twisted his ankle and his leg finger bleeding Maybe because tree root, also in that village they don't have electricity, it's dark outside and only use torch
And yet he keep walking to the store and buy cigarette and come back..Lol..
And they said it's not first time my uncle go.out midnight buy cigarette
This problem is huge. But nobody is talking about it. This is important.
It's become normalized
@@EmoDKTsuchiyanormalized by men on top. Look at Hollywood, creating useless sex scenes depicting underaged girls having sex with old men (Euphoria tv show). Shows like game of thrones written by men for men (male scriptwriters). All those tv shows and movies filled with useless sex scenes are made by pervert men. So normalized!
True
how is it a problem, its just fun, The reason why you dont like it is cause you have been cucked
It is everywhere , a scourge
uncle speaks so well and calmly it was a real joy watching this interview.
I just need Uncle's Browser bookmark of his fav sites. That will be the real joy.
He's a pastor
actually shouldn't sex be a normal part of life just like eating, sleeping and drinking? But you don't hear people being shamed or labelled as bad for saying they are addicted to eating and sleeping right? lol
porn is not free, you pay for it with your self esteem.
@@Y3llow_Submarin3 Catholic pastor you mean?
A man who I never want my son to become and A man who i never want my daughter to marry.... The impact of reality hit him so hard.
His voice, his eyes, his body language, he's very calm. And the authenticity that this man gives, it feels so warm. All the best Mr. Teh Hsin.
Shoutout to OGS for making this video-and to Teh Hsin for having the courage to reflect upon and speak about your history despite the social stigmas that may be surrounding these sensitive and personal topics. It was not only educational, but also sincerely heartfelt and genuine-and is especially important in today’s online space where younger folks may be in vulnerable environments and narratives.
I’m happy that Teh Hsin has also received the social support from his ex wife and kids to get to where he is today. I imagine that it must be hard to decide later on in life to turn over a new leaf where there must be plenty of doubt, from both the self and others. May you continue to uphold the values you hold dear, and continue to like/love yourself infinitely more from here on out! ❤
Boys are boys.
is visiting a prostitute acceptable? Since sex is a natural part of life just like eating, sleeping and drinking?
porn is not free, you pay for it with your self esteem.
Last month i was suffring through social media addiction i was watching nonsense content for avg 5h daily and i have refuced it to around 30min in these 30 min i Don't scrol i only watch good content like politics and current newses
The addiction left behind was pornography with reduction in social media addiction it is also reduced to one fourth but this still hurt me
Today i felt really scared after watching this old man i wiil never watch porn again i m admitting this❤
Uncle's face looks calm and peaceful, and when he said he likes himself "infinitely more" now, I'm happy for him. Nothing is worse than hating yourself. I wish him all the best!
testoterone is gone already. come on man. haha
@@MsPaperbearwhat?
Thank you for sharing sir. Im in my 20s and porn and masturbation has affected me a lot. Im less active, less attentive, and away from my loved ones. But this story movtivates me to take control over my actions to lead a meaningful life as you do now. It is the only way out of this hell for me right now.
@@gangadhar1886 all the best brother 👍
Hey Brother, I remember being in my twentys. I screwed up much of my life with porn( and prostitutes). It screwed up my perspective of women. That's why I married the wrong woman. Lust and porn screwed up my self esteem and mental health as well as hurt others !!!!!. Now I'm over 60. My life is messed up now I'm getting treatment.
In your 20 s give it to God NOW!!!! I'm proud of you for. Coming forward. Wish you all the success.....
@@user-rk8gu2vj6p Thank you so much for your words
@@clipsofmovies8946dont give up my friend,i wish you healing and success
@@user-rk8gu2vj6pi wish you healing and peace of mind,from Saudi Arabia
Huge respect to this guy for being so bold and speaking out. It takes immense courage to be able to talk about these things openly, I’m sure this will help a lot of young people who are battling through such problems
i'm 19.
He’s very brave for going on the internet to talk about this.
yes, but do u watch pawn too?
Holy shit you're everywhere
@@ninjapirate123yes
@@nguyennguyen-be6ny ok what kind?
@@Dust_in_the_wind__ lol this is funny
The moment you realise your own mistakes, owning up to them, i think it’s commendable and very mature as it helps you grow as a person, no matter what age. A precious takeaway for all of us.
Absolutely !
Bro Teh Hsin, you have my respect and utmost admiration for the courage to share this with the world thru the internet. A men's group for mutual encouragement and strengthening is definitely needed in this world. I encourage all men to find one that they can feel comfortable and trust in. Fathers can consider the Dad's For Life community started by a local Singaporean father. But I'm sure they also welcome other men, fathers or not.
A word of encouragement to Bro Teh Hsin, His grace is enough.
Glory to God
porn is not free, you pay for it with your self esteem.
Couldnt stop crying when he spoke about his kids sobbing in the car after his wife announced mummy and daddy are divorcing. It took me back to my parents divorce which affected my bro and I hard as kids. So much changed when that happened. I don't blame them. It just took me many years to understand why parents divorce.
Edit: I love this series. It's like an azn version of Soft White Underbelly! I wish all guests and viewers a healthy and happy journey in life!
It's good to see that the comments section here ain't like Instagram's.
Absolutely think RUclips is good since it targets specific audience who are ready to learn important things
i was the woman in his wife's shoes except i was only his gf and it was a short one. but it has damaged my confidence level and mental health beyond my imagination within a short span. i cried myself to sleep almost every other day during the relationship, i felt so unloved and unworthy. i wanted to help him desperately, and gave him all the love i could for him to change, but i eventually came to terms that it was out of my capacity. he has to want that change for himself. i can't imagine what his ex wife went thru throughout those years of misery. respect and love to her, i hope she's living her best life. ❤ as for me ex i still pray that he finds this video, learns from teh hsin's mistakes and changes for the better for himself and loved ones.
U can send him
This is one of the bravest stories I've ever watched. Thank you for bringing it to us and with such compassion too.
My dad has been a house removalist for almost 20 years. He's fit and steady, a solid driver too. When he was younger he was also affected by lust. With the serial cheatings and violence, he destroyed the family single-handedly and has never taken any responsibility for the consequence. We have not spoken for almost 7 years. Yet, this man, this scrawny pastor, with the bravery to face his past, admittrd his mistake, took responbility and committed to make amend with those affected by him. This person is more of a man than my dad will ever be.
Your dad still has time. You should show this to him.
@@EmoDKTsuchiya Continue praying for him, God will work eventually.
Your dad did wonderful job. U should proud of him
But he nevER had to watch cporn tho
@@netnomad47 No offence, a life of misery and dysfunction shouldn’t happen if God *did* work in the first place.
So a prayer won’t do much now would it.
This took guts telling this to tons of people, but nowhere near what it took to admit you were addicted to a negative escape and owning up to your family that you were at fault. Nothing but respect for you sir!
Thank you Teh Hsin for your sharing. And only in such genuine weakness and vulnerability, can we see true courage, strength and forgiveness
Thank you for your courage in speaking so openly about this. I suspect pornography addiction is more wide spread than we think. Bringing it to light will help so many men and women for that matter.
Absolutely no one wants to talk about. So many people are addicted to porn. It's such a clandestine problem
So many people go through this issue yet very few have the guts to speak about it. Uncle spoke about it with utmost courage albeit the pain would penetrate his heart while talking about it. It feels rejuvenating to see a person find wisdom through their suffering. I hope he is doing better today.
I'm from Indonesia, and I've also struggled really hard with pornography, masturbation, lust, sex addictions, that literally have destroyed my life too. If anything, I deeply thank you for this man (& also this video youtube channel that accidentally been recommended to me), for being really brave to speak the truth real honestly. It makes me really think now about my pornography addiction.
To be open about this for people to watch, takes courage.
“But He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” - 2 Corinthians 12:9
Thank you Pastor Teh Hsin for being vulnerable and sharing your testimony with us - it's a huge encouragement and it shows how Men are all fallible, whether we are laymen or leaders in the Church. We ought therefore to continually pray for each other, support and hold each other accountable so that our lives may reflect God's strength and impact on our lives.
I’m 22. I will watch this from time to time for the next 20 years. Strong video.
im 19. knew porn at 11. found out no one wants to talk about it
Thanks OGS for sharing this video. I'm a working female who struggles similarly with the same addiction and often feel like there's no way out of this horrible cycle. Thank you for this testimony that shows me it is possible taking baby steps and one day be free from this endless toxic cycle.
Hope we find freedom!
There are addictions therapists that you can seek help from and multiple books on this subject that can help you ❤
I wish you well. Confident you will break the cycle❤
You watch black ones right?
it feels so bad struggling with porn. No one even cares to talk about it and some claim porn is harmless.
If only they know what porn really does
Brother forget "respect you", I admire you. I've frequented RUclips from the very beginning, and you're one of the bravest men I've ever come across on RUclips. Vulnerability and authenticity through and through.
I am forever proud of him for turning around his life. I am currently going through a divorce due to my husband doing porn for my whole marriage …25 years. My husband is 54 and he has been doing poor for 40 years. When I learn abt the porn I was already 12 years into my marriage. I went to get him help he didn’t show the interest. He stopped but then reverted back. I caught him again and this time I wanted him to accept the help on his own in which he did but it was too late. I had already filed for divorce. Along this journey of my decision to divorce him I’ve learned about the dating sites, social media pages and video chats etc he was using. I’m on my way.. I only wished he did more to help himself like this gentleman here. 🙏🏽
When I discovered my ex watching porn and found nudity pictures on his phone, he became upset. He justified it by saying it's just a natural aspect of being a man and that there's nothing wrong with it.
I found that he didn't respect me at all.
RESPECT!! that he tell openly about his sins / addictions , this guy has totally throw the rubbish out of his system, 99% of the people struggle with their sins
Thanks OGS and Teh Hsin for sharing this
"Fight The new drug" is a very relevant RUclips channel for this topic. It has stories from actors in the adult industry talking about trafficking and what really goes on behind the scenes, past traumas etc. Some topics they tackle are from interviews with Neuroscientist about how it affects the brain. Quite a useful resource
Also Terry Crews has also talked about his addiction in some of his interviews and books
The level of sincerity in this man is killing me!!! He speaks so honestly yet is so at peace with who he was. I came in sarcastic, now I can see why he was able to transition into pastor. Salut to uncle!
Definitely, we need men's ministry to fight back against porn addiction! Thank you for sharing uncle.
It takes so much courage and vulnerability to shine a spotlight on a painful and shameful past - thank you for starting this much-needed conversation. I believe that the problem of lust and pornography is not just affecting men, but women of all ages as well. Thank you for shedding light on this and being an inspiration to all who struggle with this.
No matter how your past has been, how shameful, how devastating, how much it mesed you up and the people around you, it doesn't change the fact that all of us have to go through something to learn from it in this course of life. Huge Huge respect to you Teh Hsin for being so open to sharing your stories and being vulnerable about what you've been through.Thank you for being such a brave man that you are for educating the men about similar struggles that we face by sharing your own. You have my respect and admiration for your radiating courage in speaking your emotions through your experiences.
16:39 "Opening up about my shameful past, may cause people to not respect me and I think that is fine. I don't need people to respect me because I want people to know the truth I want to learn so that I can learn and grow as a women/man" , very good mindset message
Respect is never asked or given, respect needs to be earned. You have earned many people's respect, including mine. It is not easy to break a habit, and even harder to openly discuss it. I really hold you in high regard for sharing. Keep fighting, we are sinners and have to pray for strength daily. Thank you.🙏
Man this man journey is so mesmerizing as porn addict myself I truly can see that I can break from this addiction and get my life on truck I am so blown away by his life story thank you for sharing your story god bless you
Now that's what I call a testimony... so many are struggling in this disease, not only men but women too ... I pray for all who are committing the sin of the flesh for God to heal us ❤
This is one of the most important things to have been made. Many many boys lack this exact form of male mentorship and this video will do so much good. 😢 Thank you Teh Hsin and OGS
Such an inspiring testimony...I got teary eyed ,that moment you've accepted your mistake...
God blessed you pastor..
I am trying to set myself free from these dirty things. I am fasting today and I know God answers to my prayer. I was trying to search for the sermons regarding this. Today is Sunday, here in my country. Even before I searched, I came across this video. Thank You, Jesus for this miracle. 🙏❤✨😭✌🙏
It takes a lot of courage to come onto the spotlight to speak about your past regrets just like that. Thank you for sharing your story and I'm glad that you got through it in the end
I have so much respect for this man! it takes full lots of courage to speak about topics like these. Thank you for sharing! and i sincerely hope for the best for anyone who also struggling any sorts of addiction!
God bless you Pastor Teh ❤ Couldn’t have been easy to discuss such things to a public audience, good job OGS for this content. Subscribed 👌🏻
I was deeply moved by the immense vulnerability shown by teh hsin. It's incredibly powerful to see someone not only confront and admit their battles but also to acknowledge the impact it has had on their loved ones, including his now ex-wife and children. His journey, albeit heart-wrenching, is a testament to the strength of the human spirit and the courage it takes to face our darkest moments. It's stories like these that truly deepen my appreciation for the complexity and resilience of human beings. His willingness to share his story serves as a beacon of hope and a reminder that it's never too late to change our path and seek healing.
It takes a real man the courage to admit & share his mistakes, and assumed accountability for it. I have the highest respect & admiration for him. Uncle Teh, you didnt allow your ego to win, with the grace of God, you are unknowingly helping men with such addiction to internalise their struggles. Peace be upon you 🙏🙏
Thank you Uncle Teh Hsin for sharing your story with us. It was incredibly brave of you to share this painful past, and your self reflection towards this is very touching. I'm sure that there are others out there who struggling with this too, so I hope they will find this video because they are not alone to battle against pornography addiction.
Initially I had thought this interview would turn religious. However Uncle has kept his faith out of this. Very insight interview. Thank you for sharing your experience and deeply respect your bravery.
Yet because of his faith in Lord Jesus Christ, he stands strong today to share his testimony. 😇✝
Thank you Teh Hsin, OGS, this is very humbling and a cause for deep reflection.
Thank you Pastor for your courage to share such a personal story on such a public platform. And OGS for covering this!
Fuck this. I'm quitting pornography from here and now.
This old man sharing this is so brave. Thank you for sharing
"Opening up about my shameful past, may cause people to not respect me and I think that is fine. I don't need people to respect me because I want people to know the truth I want to learn so that I can learn and grow as a women/man" , very good mindset message
What a courageous testimony on this all-to-often hidden addiction. Thank you Teh Hsin for sharing.
love this, raw emotions and reflections
There are hundreds of thousands if not millions in this kind of struggle but this courageness is incredible God bless you.
Such a courageous act to share his past. He looks very calm and speaks well. Thank you for coming out 👍
thank you OGS for bringing this to us and using social media for good (:
OGS does it again… wished you guys have more subscribers!!!
Thank you for being true and honest. Regret are the most painful in life. Live with no regret the purest peace in the ends of journey.
Thank you, Bro Teh Hsin for sharing. I hope many people who have the same struggle learns from you.
Praise The Lord🙌🙌🙌
Thank you for sharing your beautiful testimony Sir. It means a lot to many who may face a same struggles to conquer their demon.
Thank you so much for sharing! I rarely comment on any video (ever), but your testimony really moved my heart. God bless your heart of gold!
Thank you for sharing vulnerably. Everyone makes mistakes. It is really courageous of you to share your story and bring others closer to God.❤
Very brave to share your story with us, thank you.
Thank you so much for being vulnerable sharing your shameful past experiences. It's truly inspiring. I'm so amazed at how wise you are through your speech.
Wow. Thank you OGS and Teh Hsin for sharing.
like how you posted at start of Ramadan. Gives some perspective on why Muslims fast as well. Fasting is great for everyone.
thank you so much. this was a blessing.
The humility, repentance, and courage this man has.
Not only is he just sharing but he proposes a solution to everyone massive respect!!
Very powerful and brave sharing. Thank you
Wow! That was such a powerful story. So much respect for Uncle.
Salute for you, I bet a lot of men have this struggle but not brave enough to share, it’s good that u create awareness, and thanks for sharing
Articulate, honest, and sincere. My ex-husband was addicted to pornography too. Needless to say, the marriage broke down. He lost everything, his children, his wife, his home, and his jobs. Thank you for sharing.
Take care.
How was being addicted porn made him lose his job?
@@missjoblue7992😂
@@missjoblue7992It's extremely possible since addiction equates to hyper focusing on solely one thing, which can be a barrier to tackle day to day tasks.
@@missjoblue7992It's hard to say no when your brain function strives for what the addiction will satisfy such as low self worth, lack of self control, desiring/ active onset of the immediate award minset, mood imbalances, depression, etc.
The bravery he needed to share his story is commendable. Thank you!
i dont think finding these videos a coincidence anymore rn, bcs the timing is crazy
a very truthful interview.
Thank you Pastor . You helping others with this problem. You are brave. GOD BLESS YOU HELPING OTHERS.
His eyes lit up when he talked about his daughter ❤😢
Thanks for your honesty to share with us.
God bless you. ❤
Thank you very much to Mr Teh for his valuable sharing and OGS🙏🏽🙇🏻♀️❤️❤️❤️ May we walk towards freedom
Hi pastor. Thank you for share your story and encouraging us to away from this harmful behavior.
God bless you pastor.
Thank you for sharing your story, Mr. Teh Hsin. You are very brave and humble for openly admitting your weakness in the past so that the many millions of men out there who struggle with the same addiction can relate to what you struggled with and how Jesus helped you overcome it.
Salute to this man, it's not easy to share stories like this.
Pastor Teh Hsin, thank you for sharing your testimony. You are a testimony of God's grace, because we are ALL undeserving, regardless whether one is a leader or not. We cannot earn God's favour. May your life continue to speak of God's grace and power in transforming your life.
I admire the courage this man has at letting himself be recorded while talking about this topic. I'd be utterly ashamed if i were him because you can bet anything that this friends and family might make fun of him.
Porn addiction is a huge topic and lots of men are affected by it.
Respect the candour. It's dumb how we as a society avoid talking about 'taboo' topics like these simply because it makes us uncomfortable.
What a guy . Thanks for amazing share pastor..we need more religious leaders like you
Huge respect to this very brave man for sharing his shameful past and struggles. It will definitely leave a positive impact for many viewers.
Thank you for posting this video.🙏
Genuine, courageous, inspirational. Thank you Pastor.
Thank you so much for this video. Many young teenagers today are being exposed or introduced to this evil on their screen unexpected , without it being invited , being young and curious coupled with peer pressure and being embraced by open culture in the society today , they are trapped and lied to. My teenage son now turned young adult was not exempted and my mother’s heart bled when I found out . Parents , do not regard this temptation lightly that it won’t happen to your sons . The evil is always on the prowl as with drugs . Today is a world not as simple as before
Thanks for sharing, it's intimate stuff that people are not willing to talk so openly and freely
Seeing him break down his journey in such detail and honesty and him breaking down in tears when talking about his children being told about the divorce almost made me cry. I see his regrets for his past actions and wish him the best in his future endeavors
Thank you Brother for your testimony. It gives people hope. Please keep me in your prayers.
He is so brave for sharing this
A sincere moving personal story.
May God bless your ministry, Pastor Teh Hsin!
Except for the Ads that Google places mid-way in the video with no respect for the content. =P