I Came Out to My Father As Lesbian | Can Ask Meh?

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  • Опубликовано: 25 ноя 2024

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  • @OGS.Official
    @OGS.Official  3 года назад +527

    Note: Claire’s pronouns are they/them, but they’re comfortable with their family referring to them with she/her pronouns. Though Christopher may not always get them right, he’s trying his best and learning ❤️
    Thank you to the Pink Dot SG team for connecting us to Claire & Christopher. Head to ruclips.net/video/n3Ge4-Qstv4/видео.html to check out the Pink Dot 13 livestream if you missed it!

    • @HengOngHuatAh
      @HengOngHuatAh 3 года назад +15

      grammatically incorrect lol

    • @SuccessforLifester
      @SuccessforLifester 3 года назад +15

      Still don't know how to use. Want me to fail my English exam?

    • @zexiniooo
      @zexiniooo 3 года назад +16

      First time i’ve heard people wanting to be referred to as they/them, that sounds so awkward

    • @mairaalisha8443
      @mairaalisha8443 3 года назад +86

      @@HengOngHuatAh no its correct. when you refer to people w/o knowing their gender/pronouns you would say eg. theres a poster about someone who lost *their* dog. *they* must be really worried. its pretty normal but when its conciously used to refer to people whose pronouns are specifically they/them, people tend to think its grammatically wrong and weird just as the other comments say.

    • @HengOngHuatAh
      @HengOngHuatAh 3 года назад +7

      @@mairaalisha8443 I would say someone lost his dog. Male pronouns are used by default in the context you raised. They/them is used when referring to a family losing their dog.

  • @pinkribbon1007
    @pinkribbon1007 3 года назад +402

    what a rare gem of a father

  • @jjrmmrrja4535
    @jjrmmrrja4535 3 года назад +460

    Dad looks strict and a little bit scary. But it turns out, he has a soft heart for his children.

    • @laiyinquan8355
      @laiyinquan8355 3 года назад +12

      That's why we must know everyone has layers like an onion. He may have the scariest outermost shell, but as you peel that out, it may become soft.

  • @horsepower8886
    @horsepower8886 Год назад +14

    I lost it when her dad said, " what can i say, I love you so much...that's the reason i accept you as who you are".

  • @hotline333
    @hotline333 3 года назад +318

    Your father, christopher is a beautiful soul.

  • @eg1197
    @eg1197 3 года назад +218

    Relationship between Claire and Christopher is beautiful. And Claire couldn't ask for a more loving and accepting father. I knew this guy many years ago, he was so tormented because his parents weren't embrace for who he is. He was so despondent, to this day, I hope he's doing ok and alive. Christopher thank you, Claire thank you, for sharing your story. Loving ❤ people as they are is being a decent person .

  • @8krach
    @8krach 3 года назад +386

    Really glad to see a father sticking out for his daughter & accepting who she is/wants to be.

    • @yawnxxn
      @yawnxxn 3 года назад +26

      the vid says they go by they/them 🏃‍♂️💨

    • @Remomba
      @Remomba 3 года назад

      Are they supporting a disorda??

    • @deborahpoh4729
      @deborahpoh4729 3 года назад +10

      @@Remomba yo why wld u say that? Ive seen you comment before and hey just because you think that way doesnt mean others do too. If you don’t support it then why watch this video? If its not biblically right or wtv then so be it? Not everyone follows ur religion so dont use tgat as a reason to hate on other people

  • @mvtildvz
    @mvtildvz 3 года назад +460

    “what can I say? I love you so much” WHO’S CUTTING ONIONS?!?!!?

    • @victorvictor4235
      @victorvictor4235 3 года назад +9

      Love overcomes everything

    • @KamiKaze43v3r
      @KamiKaze43v3r 3 года назад +4

      when he said that i just started bawling... he showed his love through both words and actions, they are both blessed.

    • @Violet-nh9xi
      @Violet-nh9xi 3 года назад +2

      Watching this is public was a bad idea😭😭😭

  • @sgmei
    @sgmei 3 года назад +153

    Grateful for parents like Christopher uncle.
    My dad would never. He said in my face before "girls are useless" and he only has eyes for his son. No matter how hard I tried, no use.
    I'm lucky at least I have my mum. I hope in my next life I get to meet parents with hearts as big as Christopher uncle.

    • @LexicroftAlpha
      @LexicroftAlpha 3 года назад +28

      "Girl are useless"
      Told by a clueless man who born from woman womb
      I hope you can find happiness in life, because there are many kind of happiness to get, out there

    • @LexicroftAlpha
      @LexicroftAlpha 3 года назад +8

      Also
      Boy CAN be useless too
      Clueless person thinks :
      What makes me happy?
      Why my life have to suffer?
      Was it victory, was it defeat?
      In the end, they still doesn't know what makes them happy, because their expectation doesn't match reality.

    • @sweetcandysugaarmy8480
      @sweetcandysugaarmy8480 3 года назад +6

      Girls are useless? Your Dad ought to be ashamed of himself. Even Mao Zedong, a dictator and tyrant in the eyes of many, once famously said :"Women hold up half the sky.", which means: male or female, all genders are equal. I hope that you are living a happy life now. 💖

    • @sgmei
      @sgmei 3 года назад +2

      @@LexicroftAlpha You're right, I always question myself "does he not know that he was born out of a woman?" oh, wait, then I remembered that his mum aka my grandmother is also the type that only feel that boys matter and girls don't, the fact that she managed to give birth to 5 sons.
      I just try and learn it the tough way, and don't wanna become people like them. I'm glad that the younger generation doesn't follow their footsteps in the same thoughts.

    • @sgmei
      @sgmei 3 года назад +2

      @touchdownbattle Yes, I'm kind of tired when I share my story to people and they'll be like "you can try educating them" because you would understand it won't work. They are stubborn and have been stuck with the mindset, so it's fine. I will not force them to believe in what they won't, they should believe it on their own will. As long as the younger generation doesn't walk in the same path, I'm very glad. I've learn to just not engage :D it gives me peace honestly.

  • @gp5675
    @gp5675 3 года назад +149

    "I love my children very much." Not just lip service. We need more parents like him.

  • @crablrone
    @crablrone 3 года назад +357

    i would think most parents who are unacceptable over children being lgbt is because they think this is a disgrace to their family.
    The way the father defend her when the uncle comment about her boyish hair, is really a good example to tell those close-minded relatives to mind their own business. Just like asking people why don't get married or have kids.

    • @Remomba
      @Remomba 3 года назад +1

      No, it’s because it’s not biblically right

    • @orangeworm
      @orangeworm 3 года назад +18

      @@Remomba cry about it

    • @Remomba
      @Remomba 3 года назад

      @@orangeworm you’re crying already ouch

    • @LexicroftAlpha
      @LexicroftAlpha 3 года назад +8

      I don't understand why people preach
      They just need to mind their own bussiness because who enjoy heaven if their "teachings" was right?
      Themselves
      Because nobody can prove which teachings was right because nobody came back from heaven and tell this religion or teachings is the right one.

    • @brokewizone6535
      @brokewizone6535 3 года назад +4

      @@Remomba being rude isnt biblically right either though? also not everyone is a christian

  • @Its_a_me_WSA
    @Its_a_me_WSA 3 года назад +309

    no one chose their disposition, gender or sexual preferences. What is more important is that they live decent, honest lives as best they can and be contributing members to society

    • @kittycake1294
      @kittycake1294 3 года назад +10

      Yes! What’s matter they’re a good person.

  • @novicetim6138
    @novicetim6138 3 года назад +111

    Damn I didn't expect to shed a tear or two watching this. It's so nice to see a progressive and accepting father at that kind of age. The world would be a better place if more parents were like him.
    Happy pride month everyone, be proud!

  • @lynwarhol
    @lynwarhol 3 года назад +71

    when he said "leave it to me. i will know how to bring this up." omg T_T

  • @gilian89
    @gilian89 3 года назад +53

    The assurance that he gave to his daughters are so reassuring 😊

  • @robinr3666
    @robinr3666 3 года назад +119

    The only thing that stopped me from ugly crying was a stupid Milo ad.

  • @dubbie89ify
    @dubbie89ify 3 года назад +17

    Kudos to Christopher. He may look strict but he is actually a very very good man and a super dad. He not only tells his children that he loves them, he truly accepts them and protects them. 🤧🤧🤧

  • @daisybb8148
    @daisybb8148 3 года назад +75

    I salute this father. He truly honestly loves his daughter his children. Yes, be true to ones gender. More Sporean fathers and parents should be like this man. We should learn from him. God bless him 💕

  • @padmeboudreau3004
    @padmeboudreau3004 3 года назад +58

    these honest conversations are so importent, their relationship is so precious

  • @beckham48
    @beckham48 3 года назад +89

    She could have choose the easier route out by having long hair but despite of all others criticism she choose to be true to herself that act itself is a courage act

    • @benchua7100
      @benchua7100 3 года назад

      yeah very courageous to purposely be ugly

    • @alecrosewell6959
      @alecrosewell6959 3 года назад +31

      @@benchua7100 what? So if men have long hair they purposely be ugly?

    • @animeargonaut3127
      @animeargonaut3127 3 года назад +36

      @@benchua7100 Very courageous of you to use your anonymity to degrade others for no reason

    • @phoebelimm
      @phoebelimm 3 года назад +12

      @@benchua7100 They didn't cut their hair to look good for you in the first place, why so triggered

    • @benchua7100
      @benchua7100 3 года назад

      @@animeargonaut3127 very courageous of you to be a keyboard white knight

  • @iamroyroyful
    @iamroyroyful 3 года назад +36

    The papa got an alpha vibe. However, protective over her daughter. 💪💪💪 Father's love.

  • @LT-qt5xj
    @LT-qt5xj 3 года назад +30

    shout out to my fellow singaporean closeted queers - the fear is real and it's also okay not to tell your parents if you don't feel safe/ready. but if it helps, you're not alone. we're in this together xx

  • @0001Mxrcel
    @0001Mxrcel 3 года назад +16

    this was heartwarming to see, especially in a country where lgbtq is not accepted by many, where some get bullied to leave the school.
    this warms my heart to know we still have a chance

  • @steffitan8926
    @steffitan8926 3 года назад +29

    I'm really really blessed to also have a father like Christopher, told me exactly the same thing and now I'm missing him so much :'(

  • @tomryann86
    @tomryann86 3 года назад +23

    As a singaporean gay muslim i wish that my parents could accept me of who i am. Unfortunately i still am couldn’t come out, still in the closet cause i’m still living in her house afraid to get chased out if i ever come out. I hope someday i could get a affordable rental room and leave that horrible place soon

    • @MsEverAfterings
      @MsEverAfterings 3 года назад +3

      Take care man, stay strong!

    • @Oreo-vh7rk
      @Oreo-vh7rk 3 года назад +3

      As someone who's not straight and from a muslim family as well, I know how much that really sucks. Keep moving forward man ✊

    • @englishmuffin2893
      @englishmuffin2893 3 года назад +3

      Your not alone too same but I'm from a Christian family I love my parents but I know they won't accept me for being gay so I keep a low profile and study school hope to do well and moved aboard

  • @pp33448
    @pp33448 3 года назад +11

    It takes a lot of courage to tell your parents but it takes even more to take a video of it! Good job!

  • @Jae-lg6nv
    @Jae-lg6nv 3 года назад +3

    He said, "Daddy's here to protect you." ♥ I replayed it and acted like it was said to me.

  • @krizdeep
    @krizdeep 3 года назад +30

    I wish all dad can learn something from this man ....

  • @outerspace7
    @outerspace7 2 года назад

    I teared alot at the last question segment. Dad has such a beautiful soul and the love for his children is so pure and unconditional. I am so touched.

  • @two2hills
    @two2hills 3 года назад +8

    Accepting parents…..really love and care for their children.
    Those that reject……..only care about themselves and what others(society) thinks.

  • @viet862
    @viet862 3 года назад +2

    It is normal that all parents want to look out for their children happiness and protect them at all cost. Definition of happiness depend on the understanding of each parent.

  • @Garfield_cat393
    @Garfield_cat393 4 месяца назад

    I can understand how this father feels. Such a nice dad.

  • @nadhirahhan7676
    @nadhirahhan7676 3 года назад +3

    Wow...Such a beautiful, strong and unconditional relationship between a father and his daughter. Love this so much!

  • @liztan3457
    @liztan3457 3 года назад +8

    What a wonderful Dad! The love he has for his child is so much greater than anything else....

  • @lovedblissed
    @lovedblissed 3 года назад +2

    Love is accepting, unconditional. Thank you for this video, we DO have families that loves truly.

  • @turtlegeneral
    @turtlegeneral 3 года назад +16

    Amazing - every lgbt child needs a father like this!!!!

  • @yipeyaya
    @yipeyaya 3 года назад +6

    There was a year that I had my hair cut as short as Claire and people would ask why I cut so short and mom would defend me saying “fashion la”. Love my mom

  • @richardneo
    @richardneo 3 месяца назад

    A Father who truly love his child. Kudos !!

  • @nadiabrook7871
    @nadiabrook7871 3 года назад +23

    Well done, Christopher, for being a BRILLIANT dad!! XXXX

  • @rachelkohwoonsim7445
    @rachelkohwoonsim7445 3 года назад +1

    they are my classmate in poly and i think it's really cool that they and their father are so brave to share this with us. i wish them well

  • @shahvei
    @shahvei 3 года назад +5

    Freaking good Father 👍🏻 so lucky to have him as your Dad.

  • @tngchinghwa
    @tngchinghwa 3 года назад +46

    quick, someone take a leveling meter and put on top of uncle's hair

  • @wenwuipu5831
    @wenwuipu5831 3 года назад +2

    I agree with your father, be happy, be you. The worst thing in life is always to live according what is expected of you as being "correct".. have a good life claire.🥳

  • @tamalim7886
    @tamalim7886 3 года назад +6

    So so blessed to have such a daddy

  • @sher2942
    @sher2942 3 года назад +5

    Claire is very blessed to have a father who protects her; mine has never done so.

  • @raymondwoo2648
    @raymondwoo2648 3 года назад +3

    Bravo for this very wonderful, very loving Dad! God loves everyone! God bless Claire & Christopher & all their family! 🙏🙏

  • @이천태-e5i
    @이천태-e5i 3 года назад +1

    Every father should be like this.

  • @bchpls24
    @bchpls24 3 года назад +2

    my dad will flip table if he knows. you're lucky to have uncle as your dad. rather than living in constant fear of being ousted

  • @kindsouls5326
    @kindsouls5326 3 года назад +8

    may we all embrace each other and understand our differences, being lgbtq is not something you can change, please respect that!

  • @cr899
    @cr899 3 года назад +2

    Thank you Claire and dad for sharing your story. Its full of love :)

  • @leigh7816
    @leigh7816 3 года назад +4

    as someone who isn't out to my my fam yet this makes me so happy for them and hopeful that maybe one day my fam will accept me too 💓

  • @zgang761
    @zgang761 3 года назад +5

    That's a great father right there

  • @redditstuff5535
    @redditstuff5535 3 года назад +1

    "I'm always a very protective father" 😭

  • @spanishjo4282
    @spanishjo4282 3 года назад +3

    The most importantly is your family are happy!

  • @erinmok6334
    @erinmok6334 3 года назад +1

    I wish to give a message to Claire. It’s awesome to feel secure and have the best daddy in the world. But be prepare. Daddy don’t be forever with us in the world. When we lost the security we will go upside down in every way. That’s happen to me. So I need to learn how to treasure the moment and accept things once my security is lost.

  • @RenLuvSuju
    @RenLuvSuju 3 года назад +1

    He can be accepting because he's exposed to the community and accept it. The second part is really important.

  • @cmxo-w3b
    @cmxo-w3b 3 года назад +7

    Saw this on PinkDot yesterday and JEEZ THE WATERWORKS WAS INTENSE
    They have such a beautiful relationship ❤️

  • @sharontham11116
    @sharontham11116 Год назад

    Be happy with who you want to be,you are very blessed to have a very understanding father!!

  • @Konushku
    @Konushku 3 года назад +9

    Christopher is a role model for unconditional love ❤️

  • @AOTLTng
    @AOTLTng 3 года назад +1

    Love is More important then everything else.

  • @entertainment1443
    @entertainment1443 3 года назад +16

    What a wonderful and logical parent 😍😍😍😍😍.

  • @marcashleyde9800
    @marcashleyde9800 3 года назад +6

    Awesome dad and family. 🙏

  • @lavenderandwoods7804
    @lavenderandwoods7804 3 года назад +1

    Really proud and wise what claire father's do, "although they are my children, they have their responsibility"👍

  • @nancylie9431
    @nancylie9431 3 года назад +2

    Protect your family to the max, they really precious🥰🥰🥰

  • @calamari39
    @calamari39 3 года назад +2

    It must be nice to have parents who are like Christopher. I don't think I can ever come out to my Viet parents/family since I know they will never accept me.

  • @TheLetyougo
    @TheLetyougo 3 года назад +7

    You been bless to have a lovely , more understanding father. He's so supportive. Take care fam

  • @66695
    @66695 3 года назад +11

    Dad's gold game on point.

  • @ayulene
    @ayulene 3 года назад +2

    My favourite OGS video for sure.

  • @jmeigh
    @jmeigh 3 года назад +1

    What an incredible Dad. A model parent.

  • @spanishjo4282
    @spanishjo4282 3 года назад +2

    i award you the best charismatic stylish father 2021!

  • @SoonGii
    @SoonGii 3 года назад +1

    What a lovely relationship between the two!

  • @tommyliangwei3724
    @tommyliangwei3724 2 года назад +1

    Christopher 62 (1959) and Claire 24 (1997)

  • @JL-jm7
    @JL-jm7 3 года назад +3

    My respect for the father.

  • @user-hq5hg6mz2n
    @user-hq5hg6mz2n Год назад +1

    my daddy issues triggered immenselyyyyy

  • @michaelseet9320
    @michaelseet9320 3 года назад +3

    right there is the father of the year..

  • @galaticallysane9773
    @galaticallysane9773 3 года назад +10

    I didn't not expect to cry

  • @jacquelinebary4168
    @jacquelinebary4168 3 года назад

    Claire, u hv a great father and as long as what u do dnt hurt ppl, then be youself n be proud.

  • @Cmi1267
    @Cmi1267 3 года назад +1

    omg this video is so beautiful!

  • @doomsdaydragonsproductions2801
    @doomsdaydragonsproductions2801 3 года назад +5

    _cries in non supportive parents_

  • @kayalsubramaniam4579
    @kayalsubramaniam4579 3 года назад +9

    Sibei touching wish my parents like him also

  • @LaBerry02
    @LaBerry02 3 года назад

    he’s so supportive

  • @mariafanny6238
    @mariafanny6238 3 года назад +1

    A wonderful and sweet Dad 🥰

  • @Violet-nh9xi
    @Violet-nh9xi 3 года назад

    What are these things tryna coming out frm my eyes😢 too wholesome

  • @eggyolkdeli2618
    @eggyolkdeli2618 3 года назад +1

    I wish i can be this cool parents in the future

  • @yvonnescully5037
    @yvonnescully5037 Год назад

    Blessings to your Father or both your Parents. Blessings to you to proceed on to a beautiful life ahead🙏🙏🌹🌹

  • @pyschannel30
    @pyschannel30 3 года назад +7

    BROOO, im a far-right conservative person but some of these comments need to stop for real. yes, we may not necessarily agree with the stance they are taking but learn how to be a civilized human and respect their decision and choices. As long as they arent putting a knife down and asking you to change there is not much reason to fight back with hostility. yes, we can have a healthy debate/discussion about alternating views but I really don't see a need to hurl insulting words over. Whatever they do, let's just respect them.

  • @MrZomfgwtfbbq
    @MrZomfgwtfbbq 3 года назад

    Christopher is a baller. Look at that flex ready to throw down for his children.

  • @melodytan5603
    @melodytan5603 3 года назад +3

    they are so sweet

  • @holidayyeoh
    @holidayyeoh 3 года назад +8

    Live your life the way you feel it's right Claire and so proud of you for staying true to yourself as well as the courage to do so! Christopher is an awesome papa and parents should be like him, serve as a protector, respect his children, and attempt to understand them. Love~

  • @cindychiew832
    @cindychiew832 2 года назад

    What an amazing father…well Done 👍you and your Wife have both rsised wonderful kids

  • @yuucreations8569
    @yuucreations8569 3 года назад +1

    so touched

  • @farihamohamedhilmy4700
    @farihamohamedhilmy4700 Год назад +1

    I wish I have a father like Claire

  • @thengohguy
    @thengohguy 2 года назад

    Mark Lee in his 60s, well done dad!

  • @jag4064
    @jag4064 2 года назад

    What a great dad 🙏🏻

  • @nakoF1030
    @nakoF1030 3 года назад +6

    who's cutting onions 😭

  • @Cyberoll
    @Cyberoll 3 года назад

    That's amazing father & son relationship. I wish I have father like him.

  • @toixcchicken4019
    @toixcchicken4019 2 года назад

    I feel like women's body check up is like quite important. But you know, coming from a traditional mindset family, it's hard to like ask about these question. What if I feel wrong but just dk who to ask, how to find out. This has make me feel less confident. so, really hope that yk there's a sharing of where to contact or what can we do

  • @park_suhong
    @park_suhong 3 года назад +2

    I know this is weird but u probably won’t believe me I started realising I’m bi and that like guys too after seeing jimin from bts 😊💜

  • @erth2877
    @erth2877 3 года назад

    The dad looks fierce, if I were to encounter u in the public, I would be in a pressure situations

  • @Caveman712
    @Caveman712 3 года назад +5

    I’m not crying..you’re crying!!