Q&A: On getting unstuck, travel insomnia, how I sleep now and perfect bedtime |
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- Опубликовано: 26 июл 2024
- 00:00 Intro
01:09 How to not get stuck
05:58 Dealing with jet lag and travel insomnia
12:24 How I sleep now
17:39 "What else can I try?" Is time a cure?
23:11 When to go to sleep
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such a good video, not just for insomnia but helped me realise a WHOLE new approach to why I get insomnia and the relationship with the mind!! Great great insights - Thankyou Alina 🙏🙏🙏
So glad it resonated, Monica 😊 thank you for being here!
I think the willingness to experience "bad nights" is so important. In my experience the more ok I became with sleeping very little the sooner I was able to teach my brain that it's safe to have "bad nights" (brain feeling safe = sleep coming our way easier). I've learned that having a bad night doesn't automatically mean that i'm going to have a bad day, I've had great days even with very little sleep (2 hrs if that). Know that our mind by nature will always think of worse case scenarios but for the most part those scenarios almost never manifest. Great Job Alina! 🙌🙌
So insightful as always! ❤🙏
Alina was my sleep coach! This is what truly worked….You truly have to attack the fear & my fear ran very deep. It takes time but it works ❤
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I am really enjoying your videos as they are giving me such great insight. I’ve been dealing with sleep troubles for 3 months now after a small not-serious health scare. The problem is that I tend to over analyze everything. I’ve been analyzing everything from what might have triggered this, to what exactly happens the moment I get that rush of anxiety riiiight before I drift off into sleep and snaps me awake with a nervousness. Last week I read Sasha Stephens books and it gave me some much needed empowerment and insight, and now that I found your videos and way of explaining things, I feel even more at ease.
After a week of trying Sasha’s methods, I truly believe I’m improving (from 3-4 nights of less than 2 hours of sleep, to having slept three days in a row a few nights ago), but I hit a speed bump last night and of course, my mind is getting the best of me. I’ve learned to recognize and ease my anxiety throughout the day now, but it’s that fleeting moment as I walk into my bedroom after basically falling asleep on the couch that still gets me. It’s the moment where I’ll lay on my back, take a few deep breaths and try to “melt” into my bed and then I switch to a side and it seems like that’s when I subconsciously put pressure on myself to fall asleep, or like you said, telling myself “it’s show time.” Next thing I know I’m fretting in another room and doing damage control at 4:00. I will think about your words and let myself just go with the motions and try to let the drowsiness guide me, instead of my guiding it.
Thank you so much and I hope you keep it up to help other desperate non-sleepers.
So glad that you found relief and help in my videos as well as Sasha's books - encouragement and empowerment are needed on the journey ❤🩹
Another very useful Q and A. Thank you Alina.
Great video!! You are terrific!!!
Thank you :)
So insightful🙏t thank you❤️ just a question: how can I convince the brain that insomnia does not cause dementia for example? For it to feel safe. Very often, we stumble upon articles that trigger the brain concerning health consequences of insomnia.
Why it's sometime easy to fall back asleep but sometimes impossible to get even 5 hours tho I'm not stressed!? I have maintenance insomnia..today I had almost 7 hrs 😇
Bonjour.when l see your videos sleeping seems to be very easy.but in reality i m dealing whith insomnia and poor and short sleeping for 30years .it affectcs me a lot and it affects my social life during the nights l m changing rooms many times trying to have few hours of sleep and having fear from seeing through the window the light of the next day comming it s a real battle .
Thank you - I found this video very helpful! I'm wondering... is there a period where you went from feeling scared/anxious about sleep to feeling annoyed? I find now I'm much less anxious and fearful - I truly "get" that I'm OK now if I don't sleep - but if I do have a more restless night I tend to get angry and frustrated. Is this still fear? Or is this part of the path to recovery?
Definitely I had a period like that 👍 To me, it’s a sign of progress - moving from fear, to irritation/anger, to finally - acceptance and non-resistance 🤍
@@FearlessSleep Appreciate you taking the time to respond! That's nice to know. I could tell things are different now... but yet, couldn't quite make sense of it all. Less scared, but still lots of restless nights. At the same time, I'm much more accepting of restless nights (more just annoyed now) and I don't worry about sleep as much anymore. What an interesting journey this is! You are amazing for taking the time to post all of your material. Truly. You've helped me and I can tell countless others.
Hi Alina, I am experiencing discomfort since 3 years. Many times I just try not to have expectations but my subconscious mind has deep expectation for sleep. Brain feels defeated in morning with dark and tiring eyes. How to teach brain to leave fear in this case when brain itself is not seeing results?
Hello Jack, what's helped a lot in my insomnia recovery (i'm still recovering but I've come along way) is I stopped dwelling on sleep related questions and concerns (easier said than done because our human instinct is to problem solve), I also stopped wondering when I will sleep like I just to pre-insomnia days. "Let muddy water stand and it will become clear" quote by Lao Tzu.
Hi Jack! I agree with Santiago, it is definitely not an easy task to stop our brain from problem-solving when problem-solving is what our brains are great at! I think it can be helpful to just know that it's okay to have difficulties with teaching the brain not to fear - we all experienced that difficulty. I haven't seen anyone who would just perceive the message to let go of control and they'd go like "okay, done!" and never have fear come back. That is the process of iterations when we stumble and get up, stumble again and get up again... until we know the terrain to well that we aren't bothered by it and just move on. I don't know if this made sense :) I would also recommend to check out my video on speed bumps (How long it takes to get rid of insomnia): ruclips.net/video/z-8Ewtshh1Q/видео.html
I sleep fine but when a event/travel happens i cannot sleep whole night and i try so hard to sleep the next night and it again leads me to another sleepless night. The more i give importance to sleep i get almost no sleep. How to get over this vicious cycle ? How to contact you mam on any social media platform?
You can find the link on my Instagram in the description to this video. Take care!
have you solved the problem?
@@coco-cabanak.7160 She is helping but my fear is Not fully solved and what about you?
@@rishavadhikari8002 my problem with sleep is a little bit bigger,cause i don't get sleep if someone is in same room. and i sleep very bad if i have to get up very early in the morning.and i have problems with sleep, if i am going out with friends: after that i can't sleep the whole night 🤣 i have sleep problems since school. and on normal days i fall asleep too late and i get up too early. and i wake up during the night, too.
I hope, that you can sleep some day without problems, although you have a travel next day 👌 i know how difficult it is, to be outside, if you haven't slept enough.
@@coco-cabanak.7160 Almost same problem mate. How old are you?