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I was in an LTR with a woman who had daddy issues. It was always a challenge. I didn’t kno why she just couldn’t get with the program. They’ll never really subscribe to your belief and always question your judgement. She did speak bad about her dad leaving her mom. I asked her a couple times to reach out to her dad and work it out. She never got closer. You could be a traditional man providing and taking care of the house but she would always find issue. In the end had to cut that anchor off my life.
@@keepingtorah9832 if they grew up never seeing a man in the household leading their mom. What makes you think they would wanna be led by a man? She liked the idea of having a man. She just believed in a lot of “what her friends and mainstream media said”. Most of her friends had man issues. It was like the blind giving advice to the blind. After we broke up she did admit that life was easier when I was in charge. Now she’s trying to figure out how to live without the comforts of a man taking care of the situation. When you find an argumentative get ready for the rumble and shit test.
@@keepingtorah9832there will always be outliers. Just like most men aren’t absent fathers who don’t act harshly towards their daughters, most women if you do everything correctly won’t find fault. Unless it’s from another outlier scenario such as insecurity stemming from never being able to trust men in her life. It’s very hard to recorrect behavior that was necessary for her survival as a child.
Any woman with major daddy issues is not going to be able to pair bond with any man. At all. Ever. You can be a true leader all you want but she will put forth every effort to tear you down to her level. She will do absolutely nothing else. This is exactly why Rich is telling us to STAY AWAY from them!
My ex of 4 yrs had borderline. She wanted my baby badly and when I denied her, she broke up with me and went to have kids with 3 other men and didn't stay with either of them. I dodged a bullet.
The 2 women I've been with who had "Daddy issues" both seemed like real sweethearts initially but ended up being complete nightmares. So, yeah, stay away from any women that have any daddy issues.
I'm a few weeks away from the end of a 2 year effort to get divorced. I met my wife over a decade ago. Back then, the "Red Pill" was in the Heartiste/RooshV phase, where men were early in learning why women do the things they do, but before the long-term focused stuff like Rolo and Rich existed. My wife hits way too many of the red flags in Rich's book. I knew on some level not to marry her at the time. But then her carelessness caused my house to burn down, and it was easy to steer me into marriage when I was neck deep in trying to recover from that. I was very red-pill about dating before meeting my wife. But still blue-pilled about long-term relationships. I wasted years trying to "fix" a marriage that was doomed from the start. Buy Rich's book. I could have avoided over a decade of pain if this book had been around back then. I used to roll my eyes a little when Rich would say his "book is worth its weight in gold". But I weighed it just now. 9 ounces. about $18,000. I've spent more than that on the divorce lawyer so far, much less all the other money I wasted supporting that women.
You wouldn't have read Rich's book or even heeded it if you DID read it back then. This isn't personal.. men need to get knocked down first hand to feel the pain, THEN discover the Red Pill and that buttresses you against these woman issues after that. But not before.
Spot on. I am currently going through a divorce from a woman who is textbook BPD. I've never even heard of that term until last year. I started questioning my own sanity, I've been seeing a shrink for 11 months now - I filed for divorce 2 and 1/2 months ago. Rich is 100% right on this topic, if I didn't have to divorce her I wouldn't have. I'm currently at war with half my church over it. I am a God-fearing man and do not take divorce lightly, but it had to be done.
Unfortunately the vast majority of modern churches are horribly out of step with current reality. They are bastions of eliminate men and masculine women. I saw this in the early 90s and stopped attending. It is Soo much more worse now than I ever thought possible.
Unfortunately the vast majority of modern churches are horribly out of step with current reality. They are bastions of efiminate men and masculine women. I saw this in the early 90s and stopped attending. It is Soo much more worse now than I ever thought possible.
Yup, was a hard lesson for me to learn too. Thought I could save her with love and hard work, I was so naive and foolish. Learned from it and didn't blame all women for one bad one. The woman I married had a great relationship with her father, worked with him everyday in the barn milking cows and he was her hero. She is a wonderful partner in this life, very intelligent and has a wonderful feminine energy that makes our house into a wonderful home. He passed away before I dated her and never got to meet him, I wish I couldve and thanked him for being a man and raising a great family.
@@deebo1103 I dated a girl recently for 9 months who's father was an alcoholic and died when she was young. The relationship was chaotic. She was often combative, argumentive, challenging behaviour and even disrespect. She was masculine too. She kept pushing me to have a baby with her, eventually her arguing and outbursts became too much for me, so I asked her to leave. I haven't spoke to her again and it's been nearly 9 months. I loved her, but girls raised without a father are such hard work.
@@Vision-dd8fl my ex wife hated her father, he was never around and had substance abuse problems. She was very sweet to start (narcissistic personality mirroring) but after we got married and when her father was eventually completely out of her life, she had to put the hate somewhere and it got directed at me. My mistake was that I tolerated it, hoping it'd get better. Had to learn the hard way not to get walked on and that this type of behavior was not common or healthy. Hope she got the help she needed but it wont be on my dime.
@@deebo1103 Yeh I leaned from previous bad experience, no matter how attractive she is, if she brings too much chaos and drama to your life and doesn't treat you well, it's better to give her a couple of chances, if it doesn't improve, it's best to walk away. It's easier to walk away some months down the line, than years down the line, with a child in tow.
I had what i considered the perfect woman. Successful hot and feminine. She worshipped me and I could bring her anywhere and she would fit in. After 9 months out of nowhere she dumped me and said i didnt treat her right and basiclly she was insecure. Fucked me up for over a year. I treated her like a wife because she was the first that I felt could be my wife. Later after lots of relationship coaches and research I found she likely had quiet BPD. This doesn’t absolve me from my part in the breakup but it provided solace to know what went wrong and that it wasn’t me. There was nothing I could have done.
Same thing for me. Went through a couple rounds with a quiet BPD. Knew she had her issues, but seemed high functioning, sweet, funny, loving. Talking marriage and then out of nowhere, breakup cuz she felt weird one day. Messed me up for a long time.
Don't forget about women who have had a too close relationship with her father. Emotional (also called "covert") incest also leads to personality disorders! A woman with that background wouldn't to able to have a balanced relationship because her primary relationship has been her father and it is still (subconsciously) on-going. It doesn't matter if her father is still alive. If he is already a deceased person or for some other reason out of reach she will look for a partner only as a replacement for him, not as a person of his own right. She may refuse building bonds by reducing dating to meaningless flings.Or she may go to the other extrem and claim that she will only accept the one relationship for life thus reproducing the child parent constellation. So, what appears to be opposite extremes may be basically the same. Les extrêmes se touchent. PS: Borderline is in women more frequent than narcissistic personality disorder. But NPD for sure exists among women, too. And it is even possible that a narcisstic woman has got the male version of narcissism! PPS: "The Iron Stove" fairy tale describes narcissism in woman out of emotional incest to the father.
You are 100% right. People can have an unhealthy attachment to their parents. The 40 year old guy that lives with his mom still.. The woman with the perfect dad who did everything for her. She'll have unrealistic expectations of her boyfriends. The girl that was raised by a mom that never punished her for anything.. Too good parents are not ideal. Loads better than terrible ones, but still far from ideal.
@anroojoo, you are spot on mate, Recently started dating a women who had Daddy issues and would snap and be aggressive to me and admitted being aggressive to previous workmates, whilst she said sorry, to me and others at 45 years old, it is a reoccurring behaviour. Glad to be out.
So fascinating. I’ve had a couple of relationships with women like this. No dads. constantly creating chaos. The key is father figure. I had another who was close to her grandfather so she was very stable. If they have no dad, pull the insecure needy crap, just run. You can’t fix them. They will drag you down. They’re a black hole.
I dated a girl who did have a father in the picture but he was always hanging out with his buddies and it seemed like he didn't care for spending time with her. She still had typical daddy issues.
Daddy issues - walk away. They give you Hell on Earth. Minimize your splitting away effect on your minor children SOMEHOW. it's not worth your time to stay with your wife/ gfriend. You will suffer tremendously Until you value yourself enough to save yourself. Her disdain towards you is a result her childhood experiences. You don't have to absorb this shit.
On this day two years ago my ex-girlfriend with BPD decided she was going to leave because we were having a disagreement. I called her bluff and I said go ahead. Now she doesn’t wanna leave so I give her space and when I come back to find her, she took a drink of Drano, and I found her face down on the floor in my kitchen. I called 911 and they showed up within five minutes. Well, this is a domestic so I had to stay home and wait for the police. I had to talk with them and I thought for a while there I might end up going to jail. I don’t think she was able to keep her story straight though, so that probably saved me.
Very good points that I hadn't considered before. I've run into plenty of problems with women who/who've had pretty serious daddy issues. Now, I don't mean to be disagreeable R.C., but how do you square this with encouraging men to date younger women? I can speak to this from experience.....the heavy majority of women who are into 10+ year older men have daddy issues, and usually serious ones
Most younger women are into 10+ year older men that are successful. But it's generally the markers of success they like, not the age. Yes, there's a moderate chance they have daddy issues, because most people are growing up in broken homes. But it's still better odds than older women. Every available person over 30 either IS a hot mess, or WAS a hot mess, and the latter group is significantly smaller than the former.
I was married to a woman who kicked me out of the marriage. my daughter does not really talk to me anymore. I have a sinking feeling that you are prophesying my daughter's future, and I pray for my daughter every day and I pray for reconcilliation and to be friends in the future. By the way - something that is kind of related - if you are a Christian (man), never ever marry an Adventist woman since that church was started by a narcissist grandiose anxiety-attachment boss woman who said that she was speaking for God (Nope). you will regret it, trust me.
What if the female was abandoned by her mother? raised in the interim by female relatives until re united with her father who went overseas for a better life (brought her over later) not sure on the timing specifics but always felt something was a little off with this girl.
I was in an ltr with a girl who was abandoned by her parents. It was really good for a couple of years, but then she felt I disconnected emotionally, because i didn't share political beliefs.. (yep, bleeding heart liberal) The relationship took a massive hit. It's logical in retrospect. There were other issues as well, like her being a slob, and strangely neurotic. Anyway, it was good for a while and she had a rocking body 😂
I had a wife who had a very strong relationship with her father, but her father hated everything, even the rock that was on his way, so his daughter inherited the same attitude. I didn’t know how to read girls by that time, I was young and stupid. She was always hateful towards others, eventually she turned against me, after 24 years of marriage, it became a big issue that led to our divorce.
My ex wife had a strong connection to her father, BUT her father raised her to be a boss like his attitude was towards everyone, huge control freak and daddy's little princess, I learned the hard way never again
@@nightfangs2910 Now I met a 30 year old girl in the Philippines who never had a father or a mother. She is super nice, respectful and obedient. She always tells me that I am the boss. In the morning, I am still in bed, but she gets up early, cooks breakfast, cleans the kitchen and brings me the towel to take a shower. I think I found what I want. The only regret is, I wasted 24 years of my life with the wrong woman.
@@makenocommento-kj4gq You are absolutely right, they change, especially when you bring them to the US. I like her, but I am scared to death to get married again. I hate to be alone, on the other hand, I love my freedom.
I had a friend in high school who grew up with no Dad in the home. OMG !!! so many mental health issues....insecure, clingy, threw herself at every guy which drove them away ....sad case stay away.....you can't fix her
Hi I am a 54 year old woman I have been married for almost 38 years I think what you say is so true about women today and it’s only getting worse I have two sons and I did my best along with my husband to teach them about these types of women I do have a question for myself my husband has a ex girlfriend that they still keep in touch he say that they were friends first and sees nothing wrong with being friends now I feel very hurt by this and I want to know if I’m overreacting I’ve only brought the subject up a few times with him and he has told me that he will not end the friendship So I have not said anything to him about this for years Please give me your opinion I would greatly appreciate it Thank you
If it’s bothering you speak about this directly!! Personally I feel that the past should be left where it belongs which is the past!! There is always that instinctual sexual friction and or frustration between the masculine and feminine especially if they had intimate past!! If this is not addressed these feelings can turn into resentment and bitterness and even hate!! Boundaries should be laid out clearly and respected!!
If your husband takes care of everything in the home and is a good husband, don't worry about that girl. She is not gonna take your plane, because you and your husband have built so much together already. He might fuck her, but he will never prioritize her over you. Focus on what YOU gain from being with him. Disregard that other bitch. Worry about YOU. Are YOU happy!?
Even if he has or hasn't attraction to her anymore, she's in touch with him for some reason! My ex wanted to have sex with me after separating but I refused to play her games. She may tempt him too especially if she hasn't a man in her background either. Casually suggest you all go and observe, although she may flirt deliberately to get your back up...women🙄
It's amazing how this woman will dispute "daddy issues" but then turn around and spew out a comment like that and PROVE what we are talking about with her own words.
Ex with bpd, her father was a party animal with numerous wives under his belt then died young, her mother is a narcissist control freak. Her daughter is a narcissist in the making and high maintenance who is not chastise for anything, and the son is basically brain dead gamer. She has no control over either, and they have no respect for her. The ex was also on anti depressants. The ex was an intelligent women who was a lawyer and 43. Most dramatic 10 months of my life and I myself have been divorced, and that was considerably better to deal with. Her kids walked out the house for a week in protest because they did not want their mother in a relationship with another man, oh and her ex who she was estranged of, of 13 years tried to vandalise my car, and I've never met the fella. Use those eyes and ears wisely. I'm out of it now but it was painful my dudes....
Keep in mind we are all a mess. You just need to decide what mess you’re willing to put up with. You’re never gonna find someone perfect, but you can at least have standards
@@professionalpookiethat's obviously not a true stat, though probably a high percent of good looking single women have it (otherwise its something else that is preventing them from being taken).
In movies/film/cinema, a tilted frame is used to sho a skewed world view. I think the tilted thumbnail picture of the woman whose comment that you quote should be viewed in this context.
Great video, Rich. I have noticed exactly what you're saying to a tee. I do think the whole borderline personality is way overused. Any psychologist will tell you that in order to be borderline there has to be self mutilation. Usually, that manifests itself as a cutting disorder. I suppose you could consider the tattoos and the piercing as that, but the main thing stems around that cutting. You will see the scars on their arms. They are trying to relieve the pain from trauma in their lives. I went to school to be a psychologist. No degree, but it is the natural gift God gave me. I have always been very empathic and it comes very naturally to me to have a strong spiritual understanding of people. Great video and topic.
99% of women which are EVEN diagnosed as BPD & bipolar by a psychologist are really neither BPD nor bipolar. They are mostly just women who are very unhappy with how their life turned out due to their belief systems and behaviors stemming from feminism. This creates severe mood swings in them. On one side they get feelings of extreme hopelessness. To overcome these, they chase dopamine in excess which brings them into manic states. The field of psychology is fully driven by feminism, therefore you cannot expect psychologists to challenge feminist belief systems during diagnosis & treatment . If by pure chance they end up with a real masculine guy who can create in them the feeling of trust, gives them a life quality which they are happy with and security and hope for the future, all their symptoms disappear.
@@WW-nk7wg great point. Very true. Sometimes however, if she does happen to find that great guy it's uncomfortable to her. Why? Chaos was such a regular part of her life that it became comfortable to her. Much like an animal that's been mistreated, it's nearly impossible to gain their trust. It's almost like we become indoctrinated to what became familiar to us. Suppose you take the expression from the African American community. " you can take the girl out of the hood, but you can't take the hood out of the girl"
Wouldn't men with pre-nuptial agreements be far less "disposable?" If men are legally protected to retain their wealth, women have less financial incentive to divorce him or for her to do things that cause him to divorce her (ie cheating).
bro most pre nups don't even end up all that enforceable because there isn't enough assets there for the court to give two dams. If it isn't many milly, the court has tendency to just split 50/50(ish) regardless. This is for many reasons besides that. In any event, no this doesn't come close to making men not disposable.
@Rmulberger I had a prenup with my first husband and that didn't stop us from getting divorced. You mistakenly believe and/or buy into this red pill narrative that women are out to take "your" money. The reality is that no woman I know has ever said she married then divorced in order to get money. Moreover, unless the man is a multimillionaire, no woman is going to be set for life coming out of a divorce. Most women's financial situation is worse after a divorce.
The damage that no gender roles oriented family make😔. Im here because as most of us women we didnt have a strong father figure. Its so sad what an unhealthy family does to us...
@missnoment, I'm glad a women is honest about these important issues. The Calculated propoganda to destroy Trad Families is in its 4 th generation, we now see the results. Pity the the rest of the " Sisterhood" don't acknowledge the same. Thanks
very insightful....I always ask a guy "tell me about your relationship with your mother" cuz that is how I will be treated...this answer can be a deal breaker
It’s because “trauma” and baggage are things women use to get favors, support, praise, and advantages. Therefore in her mind, her “trauma” and baggage are positives that make her “fun and quirky and crazy in a good way!” Stay away from that train wreck.
What if her father died when she was young? Her mom raised her and her 3 siblings. Appreciate some advice. She is very successful but caters to me. My problem is her attitude she has sometimes.
@michaeljcox24 Unfortunately yes (but not guaranteed). My experience dating a woman with daddy issues was with someone who lost her father to a car accident before she was a teenager. She did not reject him, but still missed out on having him to guide her into adulthood. I found it was helpful to know the typical traits and behaviours of someone with these issues so I could recognize if she was doing them. She was textbook in a lot of ways. Once I put it together, I felt I was taking advantage of her in a way, even though she was a willing participant. In the end I saw her as a tragic story. One tragedy lead to another (her troubled life full of poor decisions). Unfortunately, she also has kids and may unwittingly pass some negative/toxic attitudes to the next generation. Learn the traits so you will recognize them as they happen, not way later looking in the rear view mirror after a failed relationship.
You can’t advise not to date a woman with daddy issues - we are not responsible for our upbringing - and then profess that we are responsible for the outcome of our lives
@@colinchan7678 to say “take responsibility” and then say that women with daddy issues cannot become better people with better lives is a contradiction. Indeed it’s an admission that we are actually not responsible for the outcome of our lives.
@@humanbeing6933You are responsible for your actions. I grew up in a bad neighborhood, and was a product of a bad environment. The police are not going to let me off for drvg dealing. No matter what your background, as an adult you are responsible for your actions
I think its not 100% fair to judge a woman if she doesnt respect a man/father when the masculine fugure doesnt act or behave respectably! If he doesn't inspire respect! How she can know of respect when her father didnt make himself being respected? Women get most judgement nowdays and we are forgeting men are the foundation of the family. They are meant to be leaders. To be respectful, to make themselves respected by others, but most don't do that, because society has castrasted men...
Dad was supposed to love her, guide her and be the one who gave her advice on how men want to seperate her from her panties in her adolescence. So what prompted her to hate her father? Was it the mother? There are many questions. Maybe the father was a genuine asshole. Or a piece of furniture. Either way I don't blame her if I vet her and she's honest with me and can prove it to me. If she literally hated and disrespected all men because of her father she wouldn't have disclosed such information to me so there is a level of trust towards me. So not everything is doom and gloom. BPD can be treated with talk therapy. If that doesn't work then move on. There's plenty of fishholes in the sea :D
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I was in an LTR with a woman who had daddy issues. It was always a challenge. I didn’t kno why she just couldn’t get with the program. They’ll never really subscribe to your belief and always question your judgement. She did speak bad about her dad leaving her mom. I asked her a couple times to reach out to her dad and work it out. She never got closer. You could be a traditional man providing and taking care of the house but she would always find issue. In the end had to cut that anchor off my life.
You couldn't get her on your program...if someone is a true leader, people follow him.
@@keepingtorah9832 if they grew up never seeing a man in the household leading their mom. What makes you think they would wanna be led by a man? She liked the idea of having a man. She just believed in a lot of “what her friends and mainstream media said”. Most of her friends had man issues. It was like the blind giving advice to the blind. After we broke up she did admit that life was easier when I was in charge. Now she’s trying to figure out how to live without the comforts of a man taking care of the situation. When you find an argumentative get ready for the rumble and shit test.
@@keepingtorah9832there will always be outliers. Just like most men aren’t absent fathers who don’t act harshly towards their daughters, most women if you do everything correctly won’t find fault. Unless it’s from another outlier scenario such as insecurity stemming from never being able to trust men in her life. It’s very hard to recorrect behavior that was necessary for her survival as a child.
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Really? Well you are either a woman or a blue pill man.
Any woman with major daddy issues is not going to be able to pair bond with any man. At all. Ever. You can be a true leader all you want but she will put forth every effort to tear you down to her level. She will do absolutely nothing else. This is exactly why Rich is telling us to STAY AWAY from them!
My ex of 4 yrs had borderline. She wanted my baby badly and when I denied her, she broke up with me and went to have kids with 3 other men and didn't stay with either of them. I dodged a bullet.
The 2 women I've been with who had "Daddy issues" both seemed like real sweethearts initially but ended up being complete nightmares. So, yeah, stay away from any women that have any daddy issues.
@@gezenews very true!
I’m guessing the s**x was 🔥 though right ? 😅😂
Same here.
Ditto
Same
I'm a few weeks away from the end of a 2 year effort to get divorced. I met my wife over a decade ago. Back then, the "Red Pill" was in the Heartiste/RooshV phase, where men were early in learning why women do the things they do, but before the long-term focused stuff like Rolo and Rich existed. My wife hits way too many of the red flags in Rich's book. I knew on some level not to marry her at the time. But then her carelessness caused my house to burn down, and it was easy to steer me into marriage when I was neck deep in trying to recover from that.
I was very red-pill about dating before meeting my wife. But still blue-pilled about long-term relationships. I wasted years trying to "fix" a marriage that was doomed from the start. Buy Rich's book. I could have avoided over a decade of pain if this book had been around back then. I used to roll my eyes a little when Rich would say his "book is worth its weight in gold". But I weighed it just now. 9 ounces. about $18,000. I've spent more than that on the divorce lawyer so far, much less all the other money I wasted supporting that women.
You wouldn't have read Rich's book or even heeded it if you DID read it back then.
This isn't personal.. men need to get knocked down first hand to feel the pain, THEN discover the Red Pill and that buttresses you against these woman issues after that.
But not before.
Man, what is Roosh doing nowadays?
@@americandissident9062he’s a Russian orthodox Christian’s writing articles for them.
Spot on. I am currently going through a divorce from a woman who is textbook BPD. I've never even heard of that term until last year. I started questioning my own sanity, I've been seeing a shrink for 11 months now - I filed for divorce 2 and 1/2 months ago.
Rich is 100% right on this topic, if I didn't have to divorce her I wouldn't have. I'm currently at war with half my church over it. I am a God-fearing man and do not take divorce lightly, but it had to be done.
It'll be worth it.
I don’t recall anywhere in the Bible where it says that a man has to tolerate abuse from his wife.
Ooof you married one?? Can’t blame you, they’re tricky like that.
Unfortunately the vast majority of modern churches are horribly out of step with current reality. They are bastions of eliminate men and masculine women. I saw this in the early 90s and stopped attending. It is Soo much more worse now than I ever thought possible.
Unfortunately the vast majority of modern churches are horribly out of step with current reality. They are bastions of efiminate men and masculine women. I saw this in the early 90s and stopped attending. It is Soo much more worse now than I ever thought possible.
Women with daddy issues are a nightmare…stay the hell away…
speaking from experience 🙄
Same experience here
Yup, was a hard lesson for me to learn too. Thought I could save her with love and hard work, I was so naive and foolish. Learned from it and didn't blame all women for one bad one. The woman I married had a great relationship with her father, worked with him everyday in the barn milking cows and he was her hero. She is a wonderful partner in this life, very intelligent and has a wonderful feminine energy that makes our house into a wonderful home. He passed away before I dated her and never got to meet him, I wish I couldve and thanked him for being a man and raising a great family.
@@deebo1103 I dated a girl recently for 9 months who's father was an alcoholic and died when she was young. The relationship was chaotic. She was often combative, argumentive, challenging behaviour and even disrespect. She was masculine too. She kept pushing me to have a baby with her, eventually her arguing and outbursts became too much for me, so I asked her to leave. I haven't spoke to her again and it's been nearly 9 months. I loved her, but girls raised without a father are such hard work.
@@Vision-dd8fl my ex wife hated her father, he was never around and had substance abuse problems. She was very sweet to start (narcissistic personality mirroring) but after we got married and when her father was eventually completely out of her life, she had to put the hate somewhere and it got directed at me. My mistake was that I tolerated it, hoping it'd get better. Had to learn the hard way not to get walked on and that this type of behavior was not common or healthy. Hope she got the help she needed but it wont be on my dime.
@@deebo1103 Yeh I leaned from previous bad experience, no matter how attractive she is, if she brings too much chaos and drama to your life and doesn't treat you well, it's better to give her a couple of chances, if it doesn't improve, it's best to walk away. It's easier to walk away some months down the line, than years down the line, with a child in tow.
If Dad doesn't give his daughter, love and guidance, she will find it elsewhere....
Tyrone.
Yeah Chad will give guidance on how to bend over
They have good head game tho
Can confirm
Years of practice
Thank you!😂
Not true
@@susanhaines7358 prove it to me or ion believe u
I had what i considered the perfect woman. Successful hot and feminine. She worshipped me and I could bring her anywhere and she would fit in. After 9 months out of nowhere she dumped me and said i didnt treat her right and basiclly she was insecure. Fucked me up for over a year. I treated her like a wife because she was the first that I felt could be my wife. Later after lots of relationship coaches and research I found she likely had quiet BPD. This doesn’t absolve me from my part in the breakup but it provided solace to know what went wrong and that it wasn’t me. There was nothing I could have done.
Went through the exact same thing. Messed me up for 18 months.
You were probably mr. nice guy. Women lose respect and attraction for nice guys.
Cmon man 9 months? You give them 2 years probation before treating them as a wife. Huge fail 🤦🏻♂️
Same thing for me. Went through a couple rounds with a quiet BPD. Knew she had her issues, but seemed high functioning, sweet, funny, loving. Talking marriage and then out of nowhere, breakup cuz she felt weird one day. Messed me up for a long time.
10 years. Didn't know BPD exists before a discard via monkey branching. Then she got officially diagnosed with BPD.
Don't forget about women who have had a too close relationship with her father. Emotional (also called "covert") incest also leads to personality disorders!
A woman with that background wouldn't to able to have a balanced relationship because her primary relationship has been her father and it is still (subconsciously) on-going. It doesn't matter if her father is still alive. If he is already a deceased person or for some other reason out of reach she will look for a partner only as a replacement for him, not as a person of his own right.
She may refuse building bonds by reducing dating to meaningless flings.Or she may go to the other extrem and claim that she will only accept the one relationship for life thus reproducing the child parent constellation. So, what appears to be opposite extremes may be basically the same. Les extrêmes se touchent.
PS: Borderline is in women more frequent than narcissistic personality disorder. But NPD for sure exists among women, too. And it is even possible that a narcisstic woman has got the male version of narcissism!
PPS: "The Iron Stove" fairy tale describes narcissism in woman out of emotional incest to the father.
You are 100% right. People can have an unhealthy attachment to their parents. The 40 year old guy that lives with his mom still.. The woman with the perfect dad who did everything for her. She'll have unrealistic expectations of her boyfriends. The girl that was raised by a mom that never punished her for anything.. Too good parents are not ideal. Loads better than terrible ones, but still far from ideal.
I'd say this is THE most important dating advice for men, than most never look for when choosing a life partner. Thanks for your great work!
@anroojoo, you are spot on mate, Recently started dating a women who had Daddy issues and would snap and be aggressive to me and admitted being aggressive to previous workmates, whilst she said sorry, to me and others at 45 years old, it is a reoccurring behaviour. Glad to be out.
So fascinating. I’ve had a couple of relationships with women like this. No dads. constantly creating chaos. The key is father figure. I had another who was close to her grandfather so she was very stable. If they have no dad, pull the insecure needy crap, just run. You can’t fix them. They will drag you down. They’re a black hole.
Women bring chaos to a man's life.
The ratio of women with BPD or anything else is one to one.
I dated a girl who did have a father in the picture but he was always hanging out with his buddies and it seemed like he didn't care for spending time with her. She still had typical daddy issues.
Daddy issues - walk away. They give you Hell on Earth. Minimize your splitting away effect on your minor children SOMEHOW. it's not worth your time to stay with your wife/ gfriend. You will suffer tremendously Until you value yourself enough to save yourself. Her disdain towards you is a result her childhood experiences. You don't have to absorb this shit.
On this day two years ago my ex-girlfriend with BPD decided she was going to leave because we were having a disagreement. I called her bluff and I said go ahead. Now she doesn’t wanna leave so I give her space and when I come back to find her, she took a drink of Drano, and I found her face down on the floor in my kitchen. I called 911 and they showed up within five minutes. Well, this is a domestic so I had to stay home and wait for the police. I had to talk with them and I thought for a while there I might end up going to jail. I don’t think she was able to keep her story straight though, so that probably saved me.
Very good points that I hadn't considered before. I've run into plenty of problems with women who/who've had pretty serious daddy issues.
Now, I don't mean to be disagreeable R.C., but how do you square this with encouraging men to date younger women? I can speak to this from experience.....the heavy majority of women who are into 10+ year older men have daddy issues, and usually serious ones
Good point
Most younger women are into 10+ year older men that are successful. But it's generally the markers of success they like, not the age. Yes, there's a moderate chance they have daddy issues, because most people are growing up in broken homes. But it's still better odds than older women. Every available person over 30 either IS a hot mess, or WAS a hot mess, and the latter group is significantly smaller than the former.
@@vtmegrad98 gotta pick your poison I guess, daddy issues or lifestyle chasers 🤷♂️
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Most women are definitely NOT into 10+ year older men
My Brother from another mother is back!!
I was married to a woman who kicked me out of the marriage. my daughter does not really talk to me anymore. I have a sinking feeling that you are prophesying my daughter's future, and I pray for my daughter every day and I pray for reconcilliation and to be friends in the future. By the way - something that is kind of related - if you are a Christian (man), never ever marry an Adventist woman since that church was started by a narcissist grandiose anxiety-attachment boss woman who said that she was speaking for God (Nope). you will regret it, trust me.
Don't save her, she don't wanna be saved.
What if the female was abandoned by her mother? raised in the interim by female relatives until re united with her father who went overseas for a better life (brought her over later) not sure on the timing specifics but always felt something was a little off with this girl.
I was in an ltr with a girl who was abandoned by her parents. It was really good for a couple of years, but then she felt I disconnected emotionally, because i didn't share political beliefs.. (yep, bleeding heart liberal) The relationship took a massive hit. It's logical in retrospect. There were other issues as well, like her being a slob, and strangely neurotic. Anyway, it was good for a while and she had a rocking body 😂
I had a wife who had a very strong relationship with her father, but her father hated everything, even the rock that was on his way, so his daughter inherited the same attitude. I didn’t know how to read girls by that time, I was young and stupid. She was always hateful towards others, eventually she turned against me, after 24 years of marriage, it became a big issue that led to our divorce.
My ex wife had a strong connection to her father, BUT her father raised her to be a boss like his attitude was towards everyone, huge control freak and daddy's little princess, I learned the hard way never again
@@nightfangs2910 Now I met a 30 year old girl in the Philippines who never had a father or a mother. She is super nice, respectful and obedient. She always tells me that I am the boss. In the morning, I am still in bed, but she gets up early, cooks breakfast, cleans the kitchen and brings me the towel to take a shower. I think I found what I want. The only regret is, I wasted 24 years of my life with the wrong woman.
Ivan7143, yes I've heard a mixture of both good and not so good things regarding Phillipino Ladies/wives.
@@makenocommento-kj4gq You are absolutely right, they change, especially when you bring them to the US. I like her, but I am scared to death to get married again. I hate to be alone, on the other hand, I love my freedom.
From my experience the girls with daddy issues seem to be wild and fun in bed. But relationship wise not so much
I had a friend in high school who grew up with no Dad in the home. OMG !!! so many mental health issues....insecure, clingy, threw herself at every guy which drove them away ....sad case stay away.....you can't fix her
Hi I am a 54 year old woman I have been married for almost 38 years
I think what you say is so true about women today and it’s only getting worse
I have two sons and I did my best along with my husband to teach them about these types of women
I do have a question for myself my husband has a ex girlfriend that they still keep in touch he say that they were friends first and sees nothing wrong with being friends now
I feel very hurt by this and I want to know if I’m overreacting I’ve only brought the subject up a few times with him and he has told me that he will not end the friendship
So I have not said anything to him about this for years
Please give me your opinion I would greatly appreciate it
Thank you
If it’s bothering you speak about this directly!! Personally I feel that the past should be left where it belongs which is the past!! There is always that instinctual sexual friction and or frustration between the masculine and feminine especially if they had intimate past!! If this is not addressed these feelings can turn into resentment and bitterness and even hate!! Boundaries should be laid out clearly and respected!!
If your husband takes care of everything in the home and is a good husband, don't worry about that girl. She is not gonna take your plane, because you and your husband have built so much together already. He might fuck her, but he will never prioritize her over you.
Focus on what YOU gain from being with him. Disregard that other bitch. Worry about YOU. Are YOU happy!?
Your husband should not maintain a friendship with an ex after so many years of marriage. Something is wrong there. You need to enforce boundaries.
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Thank you for your input
Even if he has or hasn't attraction to her anymore, she's in touch with him for some reason! My ex wanted to have sex with me after separating but I refused to play her games. She may tempt him too especially if she hasn't a man in her background either. Casually suggest you all go and observe, although she may flirt deliberately to get your back up...women🙄
It's amazing how this woman will dispute "daddy issues" but then turn around and spew out a comment like that and PROVE what we are talking about with her own words.
Ex with bpd, her father was a party animal with numerous wives under his belt then died young, her mother is a narcissist control freak. Her daughter is a narcissist in the making and high maintenance who is not chastise for anything, and the son is basically brain dead gamer. She has no control over either, and they have no respect for her. The ex was also on anti depressants. The ex was an intelligent women who was a lawyer and 43. Most dramatic 10 months of my life and I myself have been divorced, and that was considerably better to deal with. Her kids walked out the house for a week in protest because they did not want their mother in a relationship with another man, oh and her ex who she was estranged of, of 13 years tried to vandalise my car, and I've never met the fella. Use those eyes and ears wisely. I'm out of it now but it was painful my dudes....
lol I think we lived the same life. Mine is a little different but so similar.
I listen to these videos because I need to know what I should work on…. But dam I walk away feeling way worse… like no hope….
Keep in mind we are all a mess. You just need to decide what mess you’re willing to put up with. You’re never gonna find someone perfect, but you can at least have standards
BPD is thrown around as much as wom3n call men narcissistic just for setting boundaries.
I never hear men say women have BPD
Well 75% of women have it so 3/4 people with a bipolar personality disorder is a big deal
@@Thedudemannn where'd you get this stat?
BPD is borderline, not bipolar. And 3/4 of the female population is way too high@@Thedudemannn
@@professionalpookiethat's obviously not a true stat, though probably a high percent of good looking single women have it (otherwise its something else that is preventing them from being taken).
I watch for the hyphenated last name, either by her or more commonly her mom. Even if dad was around, the hyphen results from a weak dad/feminist mom.
I dated a woman he is describing, it’s 100% truth. Be careful out there!
Covered in tats.
Thanks Rich for opening our eyes.
In movies/film/cinema, a tilted frame is used to sho a skewed world view. I think the tilted thumbnail picture of the woman whose comment that you quote should be viewed in this context.
Great video, Rich. I have noticed exactly what you're saying to a tee. I do think the whole borderline personality is way overused. Any psychologist will tell you that in order to be borderline there has to be self mutilation. Usually, that manifests itself as a cutting disorder. I suppose you could consider the tattoos and the piercing as that, but the main thing stems around that cutting. You will see the scars on their arms. They are trying to relieve the pain from trauma in their lives. I went to school to be a psychologist. No degree, but it is the natural gift God gave me. I have always been very empathic and it comes very naturally to me to have a strong spiritual understanding of people. Great video and topic.
99% of women which are EVEN diagnosed as BPD & bipolar by a psychologist are really neither BPD nor bipolar. They are mostly just women who are very unhappy with how their life turned out due to their belief systems and behaviors stemming from feminism. This creates severe mood swings in them. On one side they get feelings of extreme hopelessness. To overcome these, they chase dopamine in excess which brings them into manic states. The field of psychology is fully driven by feminism, therefore you cannot expect psychologists to challenge feminist belief systems during diagnosis & treatment .
If by pure chance they end up with a real masculine guy who can create in them the feeling of trust, gives them a life quality which they are happy with and security and hope for the future, all their symptoms disappear.
@@WW-nk7wg great point. Very true. Sometimes however, if she does happen to find that great guy it's uncomfortable to her. Why? Chaos was such a regular part of her life that it became comfortable to her. Much like an animal that's been mistreated, it's nearly impossible to gain their trust. It's almost like we become indoctrinated to what became familiar to us. Suppose you take the expression from the African American community. " you can take the girl out of the hood, but you can't take the hood out of the girl"
@@WW-nk7wgRight, keep up the delusion. Let us know how that goes.
Self mutilation can take many forms, not just cutting. Tattoos, peircings, body mods, substance abuse
Rich is a simp
.won't respond to John Anthony
Wouldn't men with pre-nuptial agreements be far less "disposable?" If men are legally protected to retain their wealth, women have less financial incentive to divorce him or for her to do things that cause him to divorce her (ie cheating).
bro most pre nups don't even end up all that enforceable because there isn't enough assets there for the court to give two dams. If it isn't many milly, the court has tendency to just split 50/50(ish) regardless. This is for many reasons besides that. In any event, no this doesn't come close to making men not disposable.
@Rmulberger I had a prenup with my first husband and that didn't stop us from getting divorced. You mistakenly believe and/or buy into this red pill narrative that women are out to take "your" money. The reality is that no woman I know has ever said she married then divorced in order to get money. Moreover, unless the man is a multimillionaire, no woman is going to be set for life coming out of a divorce. Most women's financial situation is worse after a divorce.
Respect should be earned overtime.
WOW!!!
If there were ever a real life case study on the BPD's outlined in this piece, I unfortunately have the perfect example!
The damage that no gender roles oriented family make😔. Im here because as most of us women we didnt have a strong father figure. Its so sad what an unhealthy family does to us...
@missnoment, I'm glad a women is honest about these important issues. The Calculated propoganda to destroy Trad Families is in its 4 th generation, we now see the results. Pity the the rest of the " Sisterhood" don't acknowledge the same. Thanks
Nola has a good relationship with her father. Share some insight?
100%!!!!
very insightful....I always ask a guy "tell me about your relationship with your mother" cuz that is how I will be treated...this answer can be a deal breaker
Most will just tell you right to your face.
I had a woman tell me she had daddy issues like it was a green flag 😂
It’s because “trauma” and baggage are things women use to get favors, support, praise, and advantages. Therefore in her mind, her “trauma” and baggage are positives that make her “fun and quirky and crazy in a good way!”
Stay away from that train wreck.
sounds like an invitation for some extracurricular activity to me lol
You can't cheange damaged woman never! Seems like people hate normal life 😂😂😂
Thank you for your input
I dated a girl who had an alcoholic as a father. Let’s just say never again.
What if her father died when she was young? Her mom raised her and her 3 siblings. Appreciate some advice. She is very successful but caters to me. My problem is her attitude she has sometimes.
What about men and mommy issues. Do we write them off too. What if people have done the work?
I'm pretty sure where that where a lot of my issues come from. I seem to attract chaotic women
You know there's a lot of women watching these videos calculating ways to still get their way.
It’s not “interesting” my mom was mean and abusive, so we don’t have the best connection. I love and respect her, but she was awful.
What about absent Father whp died when she was young? Same ?
@michaeljcox24 Unfortunately yes (but not guaranteed). My experience dating a woman with daddy issues was with someone who lost her father to a car accident before she was a teenager. She did not reject him, but still missed out on having him to guide her into adulthood.
I found it was helpful to know the typical traits and behaviours of someone with these issues so I could recognize if she was doing them. She was textbook in a lot of ways. Once I put it together, I felt I was taking advantage of her in a way, even though she was a willing participant.
In the end I saw her as a tragic story. One tragedy lead to another (her troubled life full of poor decisions). Unfortunately, she also has kids and may unwittingly pass some negative/toxic attitudes to the next generation.
Learn the traits so you will recognize them as they happen, not way later looking in the rear view mirror after a failed relationship.
Stupid question!! Plus he mentions this in the video.
Life changing video thank you
The body count of a girl with daddy issues is the least of the problemS
These women descend from the bloodline of Lilith, NOT Eve… it’s that simple.
You can’t advise not to date a woman with daddy issues - we are not responsible for our upbringing - and then profess that we are responsible for the outcome of our lives
Yup you can. You can leave them behind. Dont ever be with a women with daddy issues. No respect.
@@colinchan7678 to say “take responsibility” and then say that women with daddy issues cannot become better people with better lives is a contradiction. Indeed it’s an admission that we are actually not responsible for the outcome of our lives.
@@humanbeing6933You are responsible for your actions. I grew up in a bad neighborhood, and was a product of a bad environment. The police are not going to let me off for drvg dealing. No matter what your background, as an adult you are responsible for your actions
I think its not 100% fair to judge a woman if she doesnt respect a man/father when the masculine fugure doesnt act or behave respectably! If he doesn't inspire respect! How she can know of respect when her father didnt make himself being respected?
Women get most judgement nowdays and we are forgeting men are the foundation of the family. They are meant to be leaders. To be respectful, to make themselves respected by others, but most don't do that, because society has castrasted men...
Why don't you respond to John Anthony??
Fun as hell in the bed though.
However, once in a while one will do the work on reconciling with real father.
Just remember AWALT dudes.
Dad was supposed to love her, guide her and be the one who gave her advice on how men want to seperate her from her panties in her adolescence. So what prompted her to hate her father? Was it the mother? There are many questions. Maybe the father was a genuine asshole. Or a piece of furniture. Either way I don't blame her if I vet her and she's honest with me and can prove it to me. If she literally hated and disrespected all men because of her father she wouldn't have disclosed such information to me so there is a level of trust towards me. So not everything is doom and gloom. BPD can be treated with talk therapy. If that doesn't work then move on. There's plenty of fishholes in the sea :D
None of that is worth our time
@@JohnSkyLey To each their own whatever.