Parents are the real reason in siblings revenge. They say we don't differentiate between our children, but it's totally false. Especially in some cases to keep their daughter's involvement in their home they usually go against their sons. But perhaps they don't know, to keep their daughter happy, they are spoiling the life of their daughter and their sons and their own life also. Bitter but truth
You are 100% right ….. some parents Enjoy the rivalry and the fact that one child’s family giving them more importance…. Also, thanks for a positive message ..hope your msg. Reaches out …… and stupid family politics reduces…. Thank you!
But how can these parents politics can be reduced? In no way they seem to be affected... on the contrary they behave more silly and weird. Is there a way to complain against such toxic parents?
Pro tip: Never discuss your siblings with your spouse. Good or bad that's between your siblings must remain there. Your spouse will listen to you very sympathetically at the time, but it will come out very badly in some other time. Never ever discuss your parents or siblings with your spouse
I beg to disagree. The discussion can go both ways. Whenever my wife has issues, I always ask her to let it go and try to reduce her stress. Talking and venting help people to cope with stress. The spouse should listen and try to defuse not exaggarate the situation.
Never insult your spouse in front of your siblings...never compare your spouse with your siblings..never downgrade your spouse in front of your family.. your spouse will never accept your family then...
Same situation in Pakistan. Parents especially mothers are mainly responsible for this mess. They create sibling rivalries by constant comparisons and pit children against each other in childhood. Their is one most favorite and least favorite child among most families. And least favorite child is rebuked in front of other siblings and that destroys the self confidence and resentment grows in that child. Eventually when children grow older then this is already ingrained in their minds and they keep on competing and comparing with each other and those fights continue.
Exactly, sir, I agree that Indian families me Indian parliament se jyada politics hoti hai ...aur ye sab maine apni shaadi k baad se hi clearly dekh liya tha, luckily meri sasural aur mere maayke dono jagah maine sibling rivalry nahi face ki hai, because siblings bonding kaafi achi hai, but I have seen that many parents play a vital role in siblings rivalry..... parents need to understand this, otherwise they will lose a beautiful relationship
Problem arises when one of either side is egoistic and self centred. Overly compromising one's value only for sake of relationship brings out resentment and later on hatred. So every red flag should be deeply understood even in siblings. The truth is that mutual trust is the most important factor in any relationship and it should be based on truthfulness. Then only a relationship can flourish.
Well said. I always tell my children wherever you both will be and whenever you will feel happy or sad, your first call will be to your sibling only. It's a fact. So live with Harmony and in that case your respective partners will also be cordial in relationship and won't be able to misuse.
This plays out pan India . Very insightful video. Many thanks ,You have not just analysed the root cause but best part is you have also given practical solutions to avoid such toxic rivalry that destroys families. You are blessed with great wisdom which only comes when you've been through a lot in life. Keep these pearls of wisdom coming.
Thank you so much. This topic takes me back to my girl hood days. Today we siblings are friendly and confide in each other. But earlier as the youngest sibling, I was bullied a lot. They would pick on me for their own entertainment. Sibling relationships outlast marriages, survives the death of parents, resurfaces after quarrels that would sink any friendship. They flourish in a thousand incarnations of closeness and distance, warmth, loyalty and distrust.
Excellent video, on an original topic. Highlights : 1.If you have to compare, compare with the best in that category from around the world. Not with sibling. Also, never compare your worst with siblings best, and vice versa.2 After parents and spouse, sibling with shared past for years will stand by you, so nurture this relationship emotionally and don't let rivalry creep in. Rather learn from them. 3.Spouses & parents who enjoy sibling rivalry or compare them are unwittingly snatching from them a dependable ally.
Superb n perfect!! My parents helped my poor lazy brother to steal my 12 years worth of hard work money. Now he lives in grand Bungalow and I live in rented house trying to rework again....
Please sir make video on how parents compare their child to their cousins. They expect us to be like him/her, and this results a lower self esteem of many children. This is most common issues now a days.
My elder sister who is financially and socially well off tries to avoid me. She calls me only when there is some death or major calamity. And when I call she cuts off within 2 minutes. I have 2 other sisters.
My mother always tell 5 fingers of hands are not same then how come siblings will same .In our family we never encourage siblings rivalry .This is mainly in north India .My husband faced this because he is engineer and his brother is Doctor. My n laws tell we are lucky our son is DR they never given equal love and care to my husband. But my husband never complaints about this .But as wife I feel bad. since in family I never saw this kind of discreamtion.
Why anybody needs to categorize the children into assets and liabilities. Let them be what they are, your children. Even the birds and animals don't do that.
So glad you are coming up with this type of videos, these problems are real as real as sun and moon but we keep on avoiding them in our life. India (specially north) needs to talk about these things.
Guruji . Vow . One of the excellent comment was that you can divorce your spouse but not yours siblings. Maja aaa raha hai jo hamesha hi aata hai aapke videos dekh kar . Salute , sir
Main culprits are parents.. its hurtful when they pressurise their one kid to give his hard-earned money to their other kid who is just enjoying his life without doing work .. one kid is working hard but they only care about second child ..
Namaste Amit ji..am from Karnataka Its a grt boon to me dat i came across ur vedios recently ur clarity giver for future life inall da way..still so many vedios lined up to watch thank you soo much from bottom of my heart
Arey bacchon ko asset or liability banana band karo. It is low scum level of existence. janavar, panchiyon se bhi kuch sikho. Kam se kam apane bacchon ko to niswarth bhav se badha karo.
I am a confident grownup woman , I have achieved many things but still I can't overcome what my siblings did to my self esteem , I was always the chubbier one and always bullied by parents and relatives in India, my good looking siblings treated me really bad and my elders knew exactly what was happening but no one confronted us kids and when we grew the elders still didn't care, as a result today we are in no contact situation where can say I hate my sibblings( paternal cousins ) and they hate me too. And we will never speak again, I know for sure.
Woh toh sahi hai but what about planing and plotting by an elder sibling who is rocking the world making fortune but blackmailing the younger one to return back, leave the job and look after their mother.
Really your videos are too good and e y e oppening videos thank you sir thank you I am from South Indian Karnataka please don't say sir always North Indian North Indian
indian parents very much play politics in life of children..even if they are having blood relations...so how come ..children of step..mother will make u feel comfortable..not possible
@@arpitapanda9428 ..I know because my mother is step...don't think about them much ..step out ,and stop seeking affectation from them, live ur hard life..count it as ur destiny ...least expectation..morally and financially..is key ..if u wish..just call me
Namaste sir. Thank you so much for your valuable time and efforts. I came to this video by typing sibling rivalry in Google which I am going through. I have two brothers one elder and one younger. I am in middle girl among 3 siblings. Both brothers are equal and loving for me. But they both fight because of different nature and lifestyle. I have hard time bringing them together. I want to tie rakhi to both of them together but they don't get along and I have to go separate to celebrate rakhi. They don't talk to each other and I talk to both of them separately. This is going on for quite a sometime. Now I want them to be united. Can you please suggest how can I make friends and as a sister what is my duty so that both brothers are happy and united. Thank you sir
Don't try to bring them together Let them be Different personalities can't live together So don't give much importance to this thing that they are brothers
Sir aap ispe sirf video bna sakte h...logo ka mentality and fitrat nhi change hoga. Even if they see these videos, they will point out negativity and blame you for believing in such videos and not listening to them.
Parents are the real reason in siblings revenge. They say we don't differentiate between our children, but it's totally false. Especially in some cases to keep their daughter's involvement in their home they usually go against their sons. But perhaps they don't know, to keep their daughter happy, they are spoiling the life of their daughter and their sons and their own life also. Bitter but truth
You are 100% right ….. some parents Enjoy the rivalry and the fact that one child’s family giving them more importance….
Also, thanks for a positive message ..hope your msg. Reaches out …… and stupid family politics reduces….
Thank you!
Same in my family
But how can these parents politics can be reduced? In no way they seem to be affected... on the contrary they behave more silly and weird. Is there a way to complain against such toxic parents?
बेहतर परिवार ,बेहतर समाज ,बेहतर राष्ट्र और बेहतर सृष्टि के लिए एक कोशिश और , प्रणाम जी
Parents are looking for rich sibling for old age comfort
@@mathconcepts4u159 yes very mean parents now a days... only greedy and toxic... they only think about themselves!
Unko sirf apni padi hai... total matlabi
it's opposite. Because rich ones won't compromise, poor ones compromise because they get free benefits from them.
Pro tip: Never discuss your siblings with your spouse. Good or bad that's between your siblings must remain there. Your spouse will listen to you very sympathetically at the time, but it will come out very badly in some other time. Never ever discuss your parents or siblings with your spouse
I agree with you..and I regret it so much.
Absolutely correct
You are absolutely right.
I beg to disagree. The discussion can go both ways. Whenever my wife has issues, I always ask her to let it go and try to reduce her stress. Talking and venting help people to cope with stress. The spouse should listen and try to defuse not exaggarate the situation.
Yes..I made this mistake already..and I'm facing the result😢..but I'll tell my daughter to not do this...
Glad you are speaking about taboo issues in indian society & parents play a major role in creating such dynamics in families.
Never insult your spouse in front of your siblings...never compare your spouse with your siblings..never downgrade your spouse in front of your family.. your spouse will never accept your family then...
Politics in relation you are correct, ruining every joy , no one is enjoying
Elders are 100% responsible
You are doing great job sir🙏👍
Same situation in Pakistan. Parents especially mothers are mainly responsible for this mess. They create sibling rivalries by constant comparisons and pit children against each other in childhood. Their is one most favorite and least favorite child among most families. And least favorite child is rebuked in front of other siblings and that destroys the self confidence and resentment grows in that child. Eventually when children grow older then this is already ingrained in their minds and they keep on competing and comparing with each other and those fights continue.
Exactly, sir, I agree that Indian families me Indian parliament se jyada politics hoti hai ...aur ye sab maine apni shaadi k baad se hi clearly dekh liya tha, luckily meri sasural aur mere maayke dono jagah maine sibling rivalry nahi face ki hai, because siblings bonding kaafi achi hai, but I have seen that many parents play a vital role in siblings rivalry..... parents need to understand this, otherwise they will lose a beautiful relationship
Problem arises when one of either side is egoistic and self centred. Overly compromising one's value only for sake of relationship brings out resentment and later on hatred. So every red flag should be deeply understood even in siblings. The truth is that mutual trust is the most important factor in any relationship and it should be based on truthfulness. Then only a relationship can flourish.
Well said. I always tell my children wherever you both will be and whenever you will feel happy or sad, your first call will be to your sibling only. It's a fact. So live with Harmony and in that case your respective partners will also be cordial in relationship and won't be able to misuse.
True
This plays out pan India . Very insightful video. Many thanks ,You have not just analysed the root cause but best part is you have also given practical solutions to avoid such toxic rivalry that destroys families. You are blessed with great wisdom which only comes when you've been through a lot in life. Keep these pearls of wisdom coming.
You are right, sibling rivalry is almost there in all families. Most parents don't realise what they are doing is wrong.
Thank you so much. This topic takes me back to my girl hood days. Today we siblings are friendly and confide in each other. But earlier as the youngest sibling, I was bullied a lot. They would pick on me for their own entertainment. Sibling relationships outlast marriages, survives the death of parents, resurfaces after quarrels that would sink any friendship. They flourish in a thousand incarnations of closeness and distance, warmth, loyalty and distrust.
Very well put. Thanks
@@mamtalele5674 Welcome dear
Excellent video, on an original topic. Highlights :
1.If you have to compare, compare with the best in that category from around the world. Not with sibling. Also, never compare your worst with siblings best, and vice versa.2 After parents and spouse, sibling with shared past for years will stand by you, so nurture this relationship emotionally and don't let rivalry creep in. Rather learn from them.
3.Spouses & parents who enjoy sibling rivalry or compare them are unwittingly snatching from them a dependable ally.
You always make videos on the subjects which society is facing nowadays !
Superb n perfect!! My parents helped my poor lazy brother to steal my 12 years worth of hard work money.
Now he lives in grand Bungalow and I live in rented house trying to rework again....
How strange
And disprest
Same. I can relate to it.
Please sir make video on how parents compare their child to their cousins. They expect us to be like him/her, and this results a lower self esteem of many children. This is most common issues now a days.
My elder sister who is financially and socially well off tries to avoid me. She calls me only when there is some death or major calamity. And when I call she cuts off within 2 minutes. I have 2 other sisters.
Sad to hear😢
The best topic so far....
Pata nahi log apne hi bhai behan se kaise rivalry kar lete hai
Ab tak 3 min hi suna hai... Bht hi important guidance hai aapka... 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
My mother always tell 5 fingers of hands are not same then how come siblings will same .In our family we never encourage siblings rivalry .This is mainly in north India .My husband faced this because he is engineer and his brother is Doctor. My n laws tell we are lucky our son is DR they never given equal love and care to my husband. But my husband never complaints about this .But as wife I feel bad. since in family I never saw this kind of discreamtion.
Important topic.. glad you made a video on this and briefly nicely explained.. someone please like this comment so I can rewatch this video later
Girl child is not a liability.
Much needed topic 👍
Why anybody needs to categorize the children into assets and liabilities. Let them be what they are, your children. Even the birds and animals don't do that.
Thanks for bringing this on RUclips. I hope it will serve ages to come 🙏🏻
Gratitude sir... I'm from Mumbai and in your fan club.
Kanhase late ho aap ye sab subjects .... keep posting .... Take care ...
So glad you are coming up with this type of videos, these problems are real as real as sun and moon but we keep on avoiding them in our life. India (specially north) needs to talk about these things.
Thank you for this one video...such a relaxing witty advice...it is bringing peace in my family...👌👍👏
U always gives practical example in day to day life.excellent
Need more topics like this 🙏Phaji
Really appreciate your knowledge sharing in direct form
Beautiful words by a good thinker ❤
Sir "log kya sochenge/kahenge" ye soch kr mere jaise bahut se log kuch krna chah kr bhi nhi kr pa rhe h. Is mindset se related ek video banayega plz.
Guruji . Vow . One of the excellent comment was that you can divorce your spouse but not yours siblings. Maja aaa raha hai jo hamesha hi aata hai aapke videos dekh kar . Salute , sir
I'm into family business so far best topic. Best video on this topic
Bahut badhiya sir....reality batayi aapne...but lam afraid Nothing is going to change in lndia
Main culprits are parents.. its hurtful when they pressurise their one kid to give his hard-earned money to their other kid who is just enjoying his life without doing work .. one kid is working hard but they only care about second child ..
I completely relate to this
😂
Actually have tears how practical u go through all aspects v does not dare to share really worth to watch
Namaste Amit ji..am from Karnataka
Its a grt boon to me dat i came across ur vedios recently ur clarity giver for future life inall da way..still so many vedios lined up to watch thank you soo much from bottom of my heart
Sir how ladka is not an asset anymore ....please please make a video on that
Arey bacchon ko asset or liability banana band karo. It is low scum level of existence. janavar, panchiyon se bhi kuch sikho. Kam se kam apane bacchon ko to niswarth bhav se badha karo.
Dhanyawad guruji!
Very interesting very useful 🙏🙏🙏 please keep on.
What if they are egoistic without any conscience
Very nice and emotional, Sirji....
Very emotional video Sir 😭
Khud bhi best version Bano aur ye chaho dusre bhi apna best version ban jae. Competition, comparison Gaya bhad me. This is what I believe
This is a very Good series..
Please continue it.
❤️
Nice Sir.
Also.make for Single child...jiska koi Sibling nahi....Shadi ke baad bhi if he feels lonly wat to do
Sir plz do continue with these series 🙏
"VERY VERY DEEP"KNOWLEDGE 'THANKS SIR.'
Thanku sir itna important topic ke liye🙏
Sir pls make a video on why a boy is not an asset anymore🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏💐💐💐💐💐
I am a confident grownup woman , I have achieved many things but still I can't overcome what my siblings did to my self esteem , I was always the chubbier one and always bullied by parents and relatives in India, my good looking siblings treated me really bad and my elders knew exactly what was happening but no one confronted us kids and when we grew the elders still didn't care, as a result today we are in no contact situation where can say I hate my sibblings( paternal cousins ) and they hate me too. And we will never speak again, I know for sure.
जो भी चीजें दोतरफा होती हैं, वही चलती हैं। इसलिए सबको समझना चाहिए
Thanks sir for taking up so highvalue topics.
Sir video excellent thanks 👍👍👍👍👍 Good night ji.
Woh toh sahi hai but what about planing and plotting by an elder sibling who is rocking the world making fortune but blackmailing the younger one to return back, leave the job and look after their mother.
I’m in same situation,but your advice is helpful. Thanks And make more videos on this problem.
Please sir it's a request to you to make video on not comparing child with others 🙏
Apki hr ek video se seekhne ko milta hai guruji
Most common cause of rivalries are Jar, Joru, Jameen
Really your videos are too good and e y e oppening videos thank you sir thank you I am from South Indian Karnataka please don't say sir always North Indian North Indian
Aap log north indian se jyada achchhe hain in every aspect
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Sir Dil bhar aya😞
Very nice thoughts
TRULY AWESOME…PP❤
Thank you so much sir for this video
Awesome sir make more like this ✅❤️
Excellent 🙏👍❤️
Amazing series 🙋
SHIBLING K BISOI MAI NEHI JANTI THI,THANK YOU SIR🙏
Sir plz make videos on astrology also.... start that series also...
Very well explained Sir
Great sir
True
So AGREE!!
What if sibling rivalry is between brother from step mother and childhood memories are not good. How to deal with it?
indian parents very much play politics in life of children..even if they are having blood relations...so how come ..children of step..mother will make u feel comfortable..not possible
@@jyotigupta2889 right but there might be some way to minimize the rivalry
@@arpitapanda9428 ..I know because my mother is step...don't think about them much ..step out ,and stop seeking affectation from them, live ur hard life..count it as ur destiny ...least expectation..morally and financially..is key ..if u wish..just call me
Shared video with my sibling, now we are not talking ☹️
Sometimes truth hits hard.
😂
Good suggestions thank you❤❤❤
Good topic
You are best sir
Beta beti bedhaw pe video banaen plzzz
Zabardast
Yes
Very good 👍
Meri maa ka bhatija meri maa ko kha raha hai kya karu
Great😊 go ahead sir
Please make a video on the topic you mentioned. Why favouring boys is foolish now
Very nice sir
Super 👍
Namaste sir. Thank you so much for your valuable time and efforts. I came to this video by typing sibling rivalry in Google which I am going through.
I have two brothers one elder and one younger. I am in middle girl among 3 siblings. Both brothers are equal and loving for me. But they both fight because of different nature and lifestyle. I have hard time bringing them together. I want to tie rakhi to both of them together but they don't get along and I have to go separate to celebrate rakhi. They don't talk to each other and I talk to both of them separately. This is going on for quite a sometime. Now I want them to be united. Can you please suggest how can I make friends and as a sister what is my duty so that both brothers are happy and united.
Thank you sir
Don't try to bring them together
Let them be
Different personalities can't live together
So don't give much importance to this thing that they are brothers
Do review of DHOLERA SIR also, it's in GUJARAT.
Eagerly waiting.
You are awesome👍
Very good
What to say sir there are many more complication which can't be told on social platform
🙏
Sir aap ispe sirf video bna sakte h...logo ka mentality and fitrat nhi change hoga. Even if they see these videos, they will point out negativity and blame you for believing in such videos and not listening to them.
But kabhi siblings totally fayade ke level par hi dekhe apko to toda bura lagta
This should tell to mother in law.. first they should stop comparing with their daughter and daughter in law....
Beautiful ❤
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