I've never seen a discussion that is so brutally honest, so in your face, and so very relevant to these times. Ek hi video mein aapne past se le kar present, karma se lekar dharma, psychology se lekar legality aur bhi jaane kitne concepts ko itne simple tarike se interweave kiya hai, aur saari baat itne simple aur "tark sangat" tarike se samjhai hai. Hats off to you Sir...
मैं एक एडवोकेट हूं और आप जो जो उदाहरण दे रहे हैं ऐसा लग रहा है कि आप और सारे उदाहरण मेरी निजी जिंदगी के दे रहे हैं वास्तव में हर इंसान के जीवन में ऐसा ही होता है आप बहुत बधाई के पात्र हैं कि इतना जीवंत और वास्तविक उदाहरण प्रस्तुत किया है
Sometimes I feel our Indian culture is so complicated. We are so mean to each other in fly for money and property and then we judge westerners for having no values Such an irony
I wish, we had more people like you guiding the society on sensibility and practicality in our day-to-day lives.we as a society could make so much of progress. Thank you.
I don't see any problem in giving more to the child who takes care of parents because parents also need a child's care and support. Love and care are valuable but if parents want to give something in return for it without being forced or influenced there's nothing wrong
@@annsgal2025 He didn't share the scenario when the child is taking care of the parents because of good values and he is equally doing good but he is supportive and well cultured wife, however other brothers are there in the same old building but are not taking care of the parents , he is compromising with his freedom, privacy etc and have good nature thats why parents want to stay with him , mother has option to live in separate floor/room and everyone take care of her
Adorable Sir you are very practical man..... your suggestions are very useful but people don't change they are selfish specially old generation....they are scared of situations Old generation never changed... practice makes man permanent .
Looking g after the well being of old parents is a thankless job. Even the law does not allow any extra gratification to the Shravan kumar and his wife. That's the reason parents are taking shelter in old age homes.
One absolute benefit of ur videos is Not ki ye families ki problems solve karega. More than that , It is teaching the present generation about ---- what r the real issues in a household . Specially after 50 s and 60 s. So the present ( 30,s 40s 50 s) vaali generation now know what issues r . Very clearly thru ur videos. And for sure. Whoever is watching these. Will not do the same with their own kids. When our kids grow ,problems will b different n these Problems of property , parents dominance etc. Will b already solved becuase of ur videos ( whosoever is watching these) A great service u r doing atleast to indians 👏
Smaller family ...good parwarish ........ property division is more clearer as division less hota hai ...less chance of dispute.... . Aaj kal purani property ka dispute ka bahut bada kaaran large number of family hee hai....most cases....
You bring out in open what is happening in our families , I have not come across any such videos on You Tube … That’s why I llike your good work sir … I appreciate all your videos !! Thank You!!
You are so so right.. my father inlow is a boneless man my mother in low tell her where to sit whom to talk she don't even allow him to talk my husband his son ..above all he transfer his all ancestors property to my mil...and my mil transfer that to her 3 daughters...my husband now suffering...
To avoid these issues in my peaceful life I opted for single child. This is one of the many reasons I opted for single child. Whatever i earn or get it will be for that child. I don't need the drama for my child.
And the girl is someday going to marry a boy who has such disputes and may have to suffer ...so there is no escape from the reality of the society we live in ..one way or the other It has to be resolved from the core.
Sir, I have been watching your videos from last one week. I agree with all of your views🙏🏻 Your content is unique and awsome. It has instantly brought positive changes in me . Keep going 👍🏻😊
I have a different opinion in this. Money can't replace everything. The couple staying with elderly parents adjust their life styles according to the whims and requirements of their elderly parents. There are many untold sacrifices from both sides and misunderstandings between couples who are staying with old parents. If according to the law property has to be distributed evenly then according to the law the nalaik son must have the right to leave his parents with the so called elite,efficient and moneyed sibling for few months and enjoy a stress free life with his family.Now a days personal nurses are earning a fortune only for having a companionship to the line senior citizens. But when a nalaik villager son does the same then why he should not get some extra ? I think a portion of the share should go to the daughter in law ( or son in law,if the daughter is keeping the parent ) of the son who is looking after the parent.
To be honest even the son who stays with parents does not pay rent or emi.If he would have option then he may go out to pursue his career.He is not willingly opt to serve parent ..this is most of the cases happening
I know of a relative in my village who has never gone away from village since 20 years because he has to be with his bed-ridden chacha at home. People sacrifice family holidays, family outings because there is a bed-ridden parent at home. Even the parent do not want to be left alone. The child living away is enjoying life without a care in the world, not even calling and asking the parent how they are doing. But they want barabar barabar. Barabar should be in everything, then? Yes, 75:25 ratio may be ok in such cases.
@@rahulchandra2164 - Hopefully the man taking care of village property welcomes all his nephews and brothers with love every time they go to visit and doesn't sell the land.
@@anushuks Yes my [eldest] grand father is died but his children taking care of everything in village. And we now don't go to village because of habit of living in Bombay. But my other relative go there yearly.
your content is well researched and touches the core of many north Indian Households and reveals the truth which has been prevalent but no one openly talks about. Thanks for bringing light on such topics. Keep sharing your valuable* insights with us.
I agreed with what you say but also who is providing care to parents day in and out is also compromising on many aspects of life e g going out on vacation or outings and care giver stress is also there hospital stays during hospitalisation monetary involvement may be there may not be there but day in and day out taking care itself is stressful daily monitoring of food acc to their choices med and their social obligations
What happens when all brothers live in same house with parents? And one brother is not ready for partition/distribution due to Jeaolousy and comparioson for everything and just develop intution and percetption that other one is doing more good however that is not the case , when Jealousy and comparison takes in ones mind solution is difficult. It is not always nikamma is taking care of parents , it is about values of the Son and his wife otherwise he is ready to equal distribution today itself and let others also take care of parents he is not saying that son is very much only interested to take care of parents , All four brothers are living in the same building
Mere ghr main he aisa hai main or mere husband dosri city main rehte the but hm logo ne sari jimedaria pori ko mere MIL bimar hoyi six month unka dhyan rakha bad main unki death ho gyi meri devrani ne kni job se chutti ni le jab saas bimar thi..uski beti ka bi maine dhyan rakha ...abi main apne bete ki study ke liye ghr pr as kr rehne lag gyi ...papa ka bi dhyan rakhti hu baki sab kaam bi krti hu ..rishtedaro ko bi dekhti bu ..ab devrani chahti hai k yeh ghr main vhi log rehge ..kyuki vo log shru se rehte aye hai ..job krti hai to vo sham ko 7vje atti hai aor main pori din ghr sambhalti hu ..ab papa un logo ko jada property dena chahtehai aor hme kaam ... reason hai k vo kam kmate hai ...main bahar jror rehti thi but maine sari jimmedari pori ki hai ..but ab hm es kamm property lene ke liye bi ready hai ...saas ko usne sambhala ni but saas ki property jror leni hai
I live in Mumbai but my mother's parents were in Pune, they passed away without will, my mom has 2 sisters and 2 brothers. Brothers assume all the property belongs to them both. It's agricultural land , they have sold some part of it already, they just call my mom n her sisters for their signatures cuz property is still not distributed among them. I told my mom that she should ask for her share, she knows I'm right but since so many years women were not given the part of the property she hesitates to talk about it with her brothers, she thinks it'll cause many problems in the relationship. How can I get her part of the property?
@@Inspector1987 I am the elder Son having 1 younger brother, 9 years younger to me &2 sisters born & bought up in a lower middle class family but my father gave us good education within his means, although studied in Govt Schools but with dedication & with the grace of Almighty did my Engineering & had to leave my home town for Job & benefits of the Family as a whole including Brother, Sisters & Parents but in the process did not get even a single penny from my Parents including my parental house which was built up mostly out of my hard earned money My father gave every thing to my younger brother which I came to know only after his death
@@anilbakshi4505 hope you are financially well off. Consider you could build a house for your family members especially parents who could live comfortably during their old age. Let your sibling live there peacefully. God will give you n your family peaceful life
Actually ulta bhi hota hai. The son staying with the family may be more qualified, earns more and does not keep any of his salary and invests in family. The other may be earning more or less does not matter, never looks back at the family and contributes neither time nor money. But pata chala parents sab kuch dusre wale ko de gaye because usko jarurat hai, tu to qualified hai, wo jyada udata hai 😂. Tu apna dekh le. This guy has no where to go, no savings in his 50s. And he may even lose his earning if he was running a business kyoki Bina money ke business band. This is real life. Parents do it just for fun.
What happens when all brothers live in same house with parents? Then one says I did more for parents and other says I’m favorite of parents and other says I’m the eldest. Then what to do?
@@aadi594 Yes this should happen but one is not ready to go for parition or distribution , All can have different financial status and condition but due to greedness , jealousy or some hidden aspirations is not getting the distribution partition done
Same is my case , four brothers , economically all are doing good but due to their calculations they feel other is more good and have comparison and jealousy factor , and one is not ready to go for parition or distribution , All can have different financial status and condition but due to greedness , jealousy or some hidden intentions they are not going for equal distribution , at present they are not ready to go for distribution , Unable to understand what they want , they are not disclosing their greed also.
sir as you are describing about partiality between sibling, its happening with us also. But situation is completely opposite, Me and my wife is taking care of my parents all the time but they are always supported my sister who doesn't care at all. She just called up every week on Sunday as a tick marking activity. but my parents have always felt that she also their close to heart kid. we are feeling very frustrating in that situation. pls. suggest.
Agar parents Ameer aur powerful hai to budhape to aur bhi mazaa loot te hai. Ye sab love shove sab bekaar ki cheeze hai. You cannot depend on parent's wealth, jaise life change hoti hai waise waris bhi change hote hai. Yehi atal satya hai
I've never seen a discussion that is so brutally honest, so in your face, and so very relevant to these times.
Ek hi video mein aapne past se le kar present, karma se lekar dharma, psychology se lekar legality aur bhi jaane kitne concepts ko itne simple tarike se interweave kiya hai, aur saari baat itne simple aur "tark sangat" tarike se samjhai hai.
Hats off to you Sir...
Equal equal batwara kr dia to jo seva kr rha h vo bhi bnd kr dega
Humans don't come with a manual. Your videos are a kind of life manual, and eye-opening. Greetings from Pakistan.
मैं एक एडवोकेट हूं और आप जो जो उदाहरण दे रहे हैं ऐसा लग रहा है कि आप और सारे उदाहरण मेरी निजी जिंदगी के दे रहे हैं वास्तव में हर इंसान के जीवन में ऐसा ही होता है आप बहुत बधाई के पात्र हैं कि इतना जीवंत और वास्तविक उदाहरण प्रस्तुत किया है
Awesome videos always
It all comes down to having integrity. Parents and children both should have integrity then none of the problems will occur
Lol.. it's like defining morality.
There is no black and white
Sometimes I feel our Indian culture is so complicated. We are so mean to each other in fly for money and property and then we judge westerners for having no values
Such an irony
Not all , but there'll be few exceptions in any country
I wish, we had more people like you guiding the society on sensibility and practicality in our day-to-day lives.we as a society could make so much of progress. Thank you.
You are absolutely right sir! but many father s don't understand this and do a lot of bungling in their old age.
Feel lucky to find this channel... Next level knowledge of the society
I don't see any problem in giving more to the child who takes care of parents because parents also need a child's care and support. Love and care are valuable but if parents want to give something in return for it without being forced or influenced there's nothing wrong
@@annsgal2025 If he is not nikamma then what he has good values , if not do equal distribution now , Values also matters
@@annsgal2025 He didn't share the scenario when the child is taking care of the parents because of good values and he is equally doing good but he is supportive and well cultured wife, however other brothers are there in the same old building but are not taking care of the parents , he is compromising with his freedom, privacy etc and have good nature thats why parents want to stay with him , mother has option to live in separate floor/room and everyone take care of her
Adorable Sir you are very practical man..... your suggestions are very useful but people don't change they are selfish specially old generation....they are scared of situations
Old generation never changed... practice makes man permanent .
Ek dam practical knowledge ,not only for middle class but for all .👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
Looking g after the well being of old parents is a thankless job. Even the law does not allow any extra gratification to the Shravan kumar and his wife. That's the reason parents are taking shelter in old age homes.
Old age homes less than 1% . Drama zyada hai.
You r absolutely right sir....my husband sister doing all wrong things to us only brother for their property ..also his parents are very partial
One absolute benefit of ur videos is
Not ki ye families ki problems solve karega.
More than that ,
It is teaching the present generation about ---- what r the real issues in a household . Specially after 50 s and 60 s.
So the present ( 30,s 40s 50 s) vaali generation now know what issues r . Very clearly thru ur videos.
And for sure. Whoever is watching these. Will not do the same with their own kids.
When our kids grow ,problems will b different n these
Problems of property , parents dominance etc. Will b already solved becuase of ur videos
( whosoever is watching these)
A great service u r doing atleast to indians 👏
Yes Amit ji...such disputes do happen in many families and there are ' darkness' too.
Smaller family ...good parwarish ........ property division is more clearer as division less hota hai ...less chance of dispute.... .
Aaj kal purani property ka dispute ka bahut bada kaaran large number of family hee hai....most cases....
You bring out in open what is happening in our families , I have not come across any such videos on You Tube … That’s why I llike your good work sir … I appreciate all your videos !! Thank You!!
You are so so right.. my father inlow is a boneless man my mother in low tell her where to sit whom to talk she don't even allow him to talk my husband his son ..above all he transfer his all ancestors property to my mil...and my mil transfer that to her 3 daughters...my husband now suffering...
If it is really ancestral property, your mil cannot do that without your husband's approval and signature.
To avoid these issues in my peaceful life I opted for single child. This is one of the many reasons I opted for single child. Whatever i earn or get it will be for that child. I don't need the drama for my child.
Respectfully i want to tell you to not seek a confirmation bias for having a single child..dispute sabke beech nhi hain,chill.
And is that single child a girl or a boy? 😉
It's a girl so does it matter
Me too , I have only one daughter
And the girl is someday going to marry a boy who has such disputes and may have to suffer ...so there is no escape from the reality of the society we live in ..one way or the other
It has to be resolved from the core.
Sir, I have been watching your videos from last one week. I agree with all of your views🙏🏻 Your content is unique and awsome. It has instantly brought positive changes in me . Keep going 👍🏻😊
Kahan se itna fair judgment le aato ho sir kamaal hain
Yes.U r absolutely right.Each word is right for family. My father did as you say.Mother did same.Younger brother nd his wife did same
I have a different opinion in this. Money can't replace everything. The couple staying with elderly parents adjust their life styles according to the whims and requirements of their elderly parents. There are many untold sacrifices from both sides and misunderstandings between couples who are staying with old parents. If according to the law property has to be distributed evenly then according to the law the nalaik son must have the right to leave his parents with the so called elite,efficient and moneyed sibling for few months and enjoy a stress free life with his family.Now a days personal nurses are earning a fortune only for having a companionship to the line senior citizens. But when a nalaik villager son does the same then why he should not get some extra ? I think a portion of the share should go to the daughter in law ( or son in law,if the daughter is keeping the parent ) of the son who is looking after the parent.
To be honest even the son who stays with parents does not pay rent or emi.If he would have option then he may go out to pursue his career.He is not willingly opt to serve parent ..this is most of the cases happening
I know of a relative in my village who has never gone away from village since 20 years because he has to be with his bed-ridden chacha at home. People sacrifice family holidays, family outings because there is a bed-ridden parent at home. Even the parent do not want to be left alone. The child living away is enjoying life without a care in the world, not even calling and asking the parent how they are doing. But they want barabar barabar. Barabar should be in everything, then? Yes, 75:25 ratio may be ok in such cases.
@@rahulchandra2164 - Hopefully the man taking care of village property welcomes all his nephews and brothers with love every time they go to visit and doesn't sell the land.
@@anushuks Yes my [eldest] grand father is died but his children taking care of everything in village. And we now don't go to village because of habit of living in Bombay. But my other relative go there yearly.
I completely agree with you Sir... Have seen this exact same scenario in the case of my in-laws.
i am unmarried in service worked day and night . now my brother and sister in law deflaming me everywhere so that i dont get married
All your videos are too good. Very honest and brave video on propety disputes.
your content is well researched and touches the core of many north Indian Households and reveals the truth which has been prevalent but no one openly talks about.
Thanks for bringing light on such topics. Keep sharing your valuable* insights with us.
You are just very clear in the matter,
Great Great Great..
Bahut sundar
Thank u again for the peace this video brings in my practical life❤
Thank u sir
❤❤❤
No one talk this clear crisp the facts of life like you do
So many hard facts in this video sir.....simply amazing...!
So true.. Each and everything is to the point and practical..
Thanks Amit sir, for providing such valuable information.
Very honest & practical discussion..
Very upfront views on Ghar ghar ki kahani
Gajab insights into our society. Keep it up. Add subtitles. Your audience will expand
I agreed with what you say but also who is providing care to parents day in and out is also compromising on many aspects of life e g going out on vacation or outings and care giver stress is also there hospital stays during hospitalisation monetary involvement may be there may not be there but day in and day out taking care itself is stressful daily monitoring of food acc to their choices med and their social obligations
Also taking care one is not doing any favours but when only one is doing it comes to one’s mind
Sir u have put my emotions in words🙏
Super sir you are not best in the country but you are the best in the world..👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
100% sahi baat bol rahe hai.. Sir ji..
U r absolutely right Sir.
My mother- in -law and father- in- law r like that.
Katu satya hai ,great observations ,heads off to u
What happens when all brothers live in same house with parents? And one brother is not ready for partition/distribution due to Jeaolousy and comparioson for everything and just develop intution and percetption that other one is doing more good however that is not the case , when Jealousy and comparison takes in ones mind solution is difficult.
It is not always nikamma is taking care of parents , it is about values of the Son and his wife otherwise he is ready to equal distribution today itself and let others also take care of parents he is not saying that son is very much only interested to take care of parents , All four brothers are living in the same building
Yes correct. Excellent sir. Happened with me
Mere ghr main he aisa hai main or mere husband dosri city main rehte the but hm logo ne sari jimedaria pori ko mere MIL bimar hoyi six month unka dhyan rakha bad main unki death ho gyi meri devrani ne kni job se chutti ni le jab saas bimar thi..uski beti ka bi maine dhyan rakha ...abi main apne bete ki study ke liye ghr pr as kr rehne lag gyi ...papa ka bi dhyan rakhti hu baki sab kaam bi krti hu ..rishtedaro ko bi dekhti bu ..ab devrani chahti hai k yeh ghr main vhi log rehge ..kyuki vo log shru se rehte aye hai ..job krti hai to vo sham ko 7vje atti hai aor main pori din ghr sambhalti hu ..ab papa un logo ko jada property dena chahtehai aor hme kaam ... reason hai k vo kam kmate hai ...main bahar jror rehti thi but maine sari jimmedari pori ki hai ..but ab hm es kamm property lene ke liye bi ready hai ...saas ko usne sambhala ni but saas ki property jror leni hai
SIr u discussed the problem but not the solutions..What is the solution for this and at which stage in life the decision should be taken.
I live in Mumbai but my mother's parents were in Pune, they passed away without will, my mom has 2 sisters and 2 brothers. Brothers assume all the property belongs to them both. It's agricultural land , they have sold some part of it already, they just call my mom n her sisters for their signatures cuz property is still not distributed among them. I told my mom that she should ask for her share, she knows I'm right but since so many years women were not given the part of the property she hesitates to talk about it with her brothers, she thinks it'll cause many problems in the relationship. How can I get her part of the property?
Don't try to get their property.
Get your father side property only.
Mother side property belongs to your mother's brothers only.
Hire property lawyer !!!!
Hats off to you for calling out things
Sir ye bahut achi baat batayi h aapne 🙏
Please put some light when sister (is living with married) brother and is unmarried.both are earning well.
Very good explanation sir
Great work
बिलकुल सही
Very True I have faced same situation with me
What was the final outcome as i am also at the begining of this.
@@Inspector1987 I am the elder Son having 1 younger brother, 9 years younger to me &2 sisters born & bought up in a lower middle class family but my father gave us good education within his means, although studied in Govt Schools but with dedication & with the grace of Almighty did my Engineering & had to leave my home town for Job & benefits of the Family as a whole including Brother, Sisters & Parents but in the process did not get even a single penny from my Parents including my parental house which was built up mostly out of my hard earned money My father gave every thing to my younger brother which I came to know only after his death
@@anilbakshi4505 hope you are financially well off. Consider you could build a house for your family members especially parents who could live comfortably during their old age. Let your sibling live there peacefully. God will give you n your family peaceful life
Dhalia ji
Yes with the Grace of God I was able to build up my own house & living comfortable life with my wife , Son & Daughter in-law
Thanks God
Outstanding videos...well said sir
You are 100% right sir.
Happy Father's day
Very good approach sir
Feel free
Your words are so true
Nahi sir, jaha Bhai hota hai waha ladki sirf property me hissa mangati hai. Lekin maa baap ki hospital kharche ke samay patli galise nikal jati hai.
You are superb!
Once the common civil code is enacted this property issue will be settled once and for all
Sir! You should bring the dark talk
Actually ulta bhi hota hai. The son staying with the family may be more qualified, earns more and does not keep any of his salary and invests in family.
The other may be earning more or less does not matter, never looks back at the family and contributes neither time nor money.
But pata chala parents sab kuch dusre wale ko de gaye because usko jarurat hai, tu to qualified hai, wo jyada udata hai 😂. Tu apna dekh le. This guy has no where to go, no savings in his 50s.
And he may even lose his earning if he was running a business kyoki Bina money ke business band.
This is real life. Parents do it just for fun.
Most entertaining and wise channel.
Happened same with me. My paternal uncle cheated me
Reality है.... हम भुक्त भोगी है
Yes
Dark reality 👍🙏
What happens when all brothers live in same house with parents? Then one says I did more for parents and other says I’m favorite of parents and other says I’m the eldest. Then what to do?
Equal distribution among all the siblings
@@aadi594 Yes this should happen but one is not ready to go for parition or distribution , All can have different financial status and condition but due to greedness , jealousy or some hidden aspirations is not getting the distribution partition done
Same is my case , four brothers , economically all are doing good but due to their calculations they feel other is more good and have comparison and jealousy factor , and one is not ready to go for parition or distribution , All can have different financial status and condition but due to greedness , jealousy or some hidden intentions they are not going for equal distribution , at present they are not ready to go for distribution , Unable to understand what they want , they are not disclosing their greed also.
सब बातें सच हैं ।
Very true nicely explained
Bilkul r8
Original video
sir as you are describing about partiality between sibling, its happening with us also. But situation is completely opposite, Me and my wife is taking care of my parents all the time but they are always supported my sister who doesn't care at all. She just called up every week on Sunday as a tick marking activity. but my parents have always felt that she also their close to heart kid. we are feeling very frustrating in that situation. pls. suggest.
Daughter is always more important than son to parents
Sir i salute u 🙏 v true 👍
It is like ki me apni khani sun rha hu
I have always hated this point that you raised... Just because someone is elder.. He can get away with anything..
Sir if a parents having 3 daughters no son how to devide the small property parents both are no more all are fighting .
3 daughters, just divide equally
Sir, here you are wrong, लड़कियां भी गलत निकलती है, एक लड़की ने तो प्रॉपर्टी के लिए अपने सगे मां बाप और भाइयो को मरवा दिया नहीं, मार दिया
Agar parents Ameer aur powerful hai to budhape to aur bhi mazaa loot te hai.
Ye sab love shove sab bekaar ki cheeze hai.
You cannot depend on parent's wealth, jaise life change hoti hai waise waris bhi change hote hai. Yehi atal satya hai
Agreed with you totally
Yes certainly
Yes I do agree
Thanks nice very nicely explained.
Whatnis the solution… kya kare bada bhai jo ghar se nikal gaya???
Super correct 💯
Exactly Jivan ku yahi sach hai he
Great video sir…!!!
You are very true 👍
Family m dispute karwaye zate h , it's all womenias shayapa , chahe maa ho ,behan ho, bahu ho ,beti ho ,
Y jo kare kaam hai ,
Sahi kaha bro
चार चूचियां एक साथ नही रह सकती
I think exactly same way
Ladies own their husband
Sahi kha bro😍😍😍
how to make sure after my death, wife should not get anything, my son should inherit once he becomes 18
Absolute truth 👌
Ur r reality Dr
Ur truly best
Relateable each n every point
This is a reality .