That's awesome you say that because I really feel that is what I need to do to overcome. There is nothing I need to do but there is something that I just need to be. And this is me. And I really struggle with being still.
Soren, I don't know what Strong Determination Sitting is but the other three are beautiful kriyas. I would also recommend some yoga karmas/kriyas including asana, pranayama, naad and mudras.
im currently in treatment one of the best rehabs in America for heroin addiction. and this video has done more for me than 60 days of rehab. Thank you so much man.
Tyler Carlson brother. I have been fighting this battle going on 7 years. I realize everything we have been taught(I've been taught). was not correct. This video and a Tedtalk by the name Everything You Know About Addiction is wrong. I believe using both these systems together is the correct tool. Olympic athletes have 5,000 thoughts a day and "normal" whatever that is has 70,000. that's showing us clearly when observing your thought which creates a temporary void and supposedly gets lengther as real mindfillness is practiced, has a profound affect on our physical, mental, and emotional systems. HAS TO BE, TALENT ALONE DOESN'T MAKE THEM GREAT. Then you have connection, we have huge rise of anxiety, depression, and mental illness more than ever. What else do we have? No authentic connections anymore(this is what holds true to me). You are strong brother and you will win!
the video Everything You Know About Addiction is wrong, is spot on - it explains why i spent 10+ years on heroin, methadone and other stuff like that - find connections with friends, work, even within yourself - re-engage with life. Live the life you want to live!
I don’t really agree. Everyone needs food and water to survive. Does that mean you are addicted? There is a difference. The mindset we have towards these kinds of things is everything
@@jaredmello No one said needing food and water to live was an addiction. Always Needing Too much food or too much to drink to feel good would be. That’s the emotional attachment, it makes u feel good superficially but afterwards you’re unhappy. You completely missed the point of what he’s saying.
been an addict my whole life. i am now 45 and looking to achieve the impossible. this is literally the best video i have ever seen on addiction. thank you!
I'm 48 same been using heroin since I was 14 canabis and booze since was 16 crack since I was 19 beeb clean few times fir years at a time .. My son died in 2009 relapsed 2011 been using since then .. agrr .. Down to 0.4 of subby . It's stopping that last bit .. psychological dreams turn it nightmares .. Good luck to all those on similar paths ... we can do it if we want to.. Peace ..
@Sho Gun currently trying to wean the last bit too. Wim Hof is my current favorite internet teacher, Deep breathing, ice baths, and "The 30 day sobriety solution" get me through the day. Great Day
Paraphrasing Gurdijef "Inner demons are like dogs chasing you, the more you want to escape them, the closer they get to you, but once you stop, just stop and sit down with no distraction whatsoever, they loose the fire you've been feeding them by constantly running away. Then you just watch them go one by one, disappearing into the void". Another great video Leo.
Sometimes people have a dream about being chased by a shadow figure. Sometimes they take a courage, stop a ask the shadow why it chases them. And the shadow says: "because you are running" ... which is th essence of the problem. We create the very issues we are escaping from, sitting still may reveal that.
The think the greatest addiction people have is the addiction to thinking. Thats why observing the thought patterns, cravings and "inner demons" is the key to neutralizing the effects. When I began meditating I was able to really tone down my mind and allow more space in between my thoughts. This promoted a more balanced state of being and a peaceful state of being. What Leo suggests is a great tool as well.
I think I've watched this like 20 times.... Leo, I would like to say thank you.. I've been sober for 3.5 month and when the need for drugs comes up I just take a step back, watch it and let it go by.. You are amazing. Best regards from Sweden.
and the reason you want validation is because at your core you feel you're not good enough, work on that core belief and you'll be free of your addiction
@Jeremy Horne substances didn't create the void for me, it was that empty feeling that made me want to use drugs, drugs just made the void more painful!!
I'm here because I felt a trigger or craving and I didn't want to give in. Now I'm going to go for a walk and find a quiet place to sit. Thank you and wish me luck. Day 1
I am a hardcore drug addict. I am replacing my addictions with becoming actualized. This video alone alone answered so many of my questions about myself, about 12 step, etc. if there’s any better way to spend my time. I think it’s to watch these self help videos But ultimately be with myself and be comfortable with being alone I will post my progress.
Some time ago, when I was asked why I drank, I really gave it some thought. The answer I came up with was “ just to make the silence stop” . When I just watched this clip, it has really hit a cord. Many thanks.
Leo, I'm an emotional wreck right now, having just found you and hearing, really hearing what you have to say. I'm 64 dealing with all kinds of shit at the moment and the child in me is suddenly balling his eyes out. Not from self pity but from the realisation, I do not need to carry on, as I have done, all of my life. I'm not sure if, in the light of tomorrow, when I've watched this again, if what I've written here will make any sense. But right, now in the moment, I need to say something - Thank You. You, what you have to say, what I've heard so far is incredible, awesome. I'll be back. Much Love, David.
David Gb Today is 4/5/18 and I feel exactly what you describe. I am blown away...absolutely speechless with the realization that what he says is exactly right. I have never in my life felt this way-just total understanding of what this addiction is. I am so grateful to understand, finally, why. It won’t make it easier to overcome, but Jesus at least I know why. I can’t sit alone for an hour without needing to do something. My entire life. Addiction now makes absolute sense to me.
David Gb David, you have the gift of self awareness. I hope you know how rare that is. I hope the light of all the tomorrow’s since your post has brought you to where you want to be. You’ve got this buddy
Greed and More is IT. NOPE. ITS NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES NO NO NO. do whatever you please all you want if you’re not having negative consequences. No. Not emptiness It’s feeling worthless Poor self esteem Negative outlook on life Hating yourself So to get out of feeling bad we want to not feel so shitty I cannot agree.
Good for you Lauren, but I find the video only helpful if someone has either found recovery and need it to self manage or the person isn't a real addict and who probably has alot of prior support and help.
Been addicted to hard drugs the last 6 years - this video really made me aware I’ve been addicted to external stimulation my whole entire 24 years of life due to the environment I grew up in. I always have tried to fill the void. Whether it’s food, tv, computer, etc. I’ve always felt like I needed to feel “more”. I can honestly say this video made me have an epiphany. I know to tackle this head on, the ROOT cause is needed to be brought into light. I’ve made some very stupid choices and put myself in many sketchy situations because of my addiction to wanting to be stimulated by any & everything I find that I enjoy. I thought of myself as a “mother who could do both and maintain both lifestyles” ITS IMPOSSIBLE. The double life will eventually collide and when it does finally clash.. it clashes hard. And without warning. I know now that I cannot be a “good mother” while being on these stupid drugs that literally do nothing but give me energy to go out and do all these compulsive behaviors. I recently tried the needle for the first time ever a couple weeks ago. And felt nothing but guilt. I cried when ever I looked at my innocent sweet 4 year old son when I got home that night. I never wanna feel that feeling again. Today is my last time dancing with the Devil. I’ve been locked in a prison and now I realize I had the key the whole time. METHAMPHETAMINE - I’m not letting you take me, I’m not letting you take my sons childhood experiences away, I don’t need you. I never did. I will be able to overcome this challenging time in my life. I can fight my cravings. I can do it. Thank you so much for posting this video. I’m already about to go outside and bust all my glass pipes. I’m done.
Hey fellow momma bear , I hope things have gotten better for you. I hope you spend every moment you can with your son. I hope you stay far from those needles. My heart goes out to you truly, I can relate to so much of what you have gone through and when it comes crashing down it sucks it really fucking sucks. I have a daughter who is 5 and did the whole double life thing and ruined my family, my future and my self as a whole. The guilt is overwhelming at times and I think maybe that’s why I still reach for drugs is to make that pain stop? Even though that’s how it started in the first place. It could be a never ending cycle for sure. Anyway girl I know how hard it can be dealing with all of these things and I’m sorry I know it can be lonely and shameful at times too. Unfortunately my family isn’t close or supportive so I really lean on my best friend who is and I think having that support person has got me through the tough shit. Take care XoXo .
Do it for yourself! Do it for your son!!! Yes You Can!! No more drugs!!! God loves you so much!! Pray. Sending you STRENGTH 💪 LOVE ❤️ and light. Peace.
the nature of addiction is such that you will watch this video through to the end and believe in every word that defined your life in front of your eyes , then get up to light a joint and comment on it to say how beautiful it was.
See that you light up that joint because of your inner conviction that you can't stop. You are to afraid to face the idea that you are not going to smoke it. The fear is an important part of every addiction and sustains it. You can only break that fear by facing it. Stop, sit and watch hat happens. Great inspirational moment when you succeed for the first time. Then you know you can stop !!
Priceless advice. I lost 70lbs and then decided it was time to quit smoking weed. I've now put on 28lbs having quit the weed. Self actualization is the ultimate goal. Do nothing. Right. I'm on it. Emotional maturity, here I come. Thanks Leo.
I'm still amazed by two things. 1- How you're able to deliver value in such deep and true way every time. 2- Why it is almost impossible to hear anything like this from friends, family, media, school, etc.
"All addictions are emotional immaturity" Yes!! Finally someone who says it. Of course people are not going to sit still in an empty room and do nothing, it's not a natural state unless you are meditating. People crave connections.... connections with others and/or with nature. That is what can fill the void. Stillness is not the problem, lack of connections is the problem. Seems to me that early age trauma is often the driving force behind most addictions because the brain development was arrested due to an inability to cope with stressful situations. A child cannot understand why he cannot feel safe and/or is not taken care of as he should. He thinks there is something wrong with him/her. This must be unlearned, dispelled and addressed. We see this time and time again with the most hardcore case of addictions. The inability to self-soothe is very strong because one did not have a chance to learn how to do it in other ways then by self-satisfying immediate needs. It comes from a survival mode type of learning. Many good points but missing some elements.
zabelicious can you elaborate more on this ? Where did you learn this ? It seems on point I just want to dive deeper into this because it resonates with me.
Indeed, I miss some important root cause elements. A lot of addicted people search distraction and are escaping from negative thinking and feelings. Whenever they are alone, sitting still, there negative thinking will arise. Learning to deal with negativity is not a 'I sit still for one time' moment. But will take a lot of inventories, practises and transforming your negative experiences into positive ones by forgiving. Making your wise and loving voice stronger and your judgemental ego less strong.
You made me understand by saying fear of emptyness. Life had been hell since childhood abusive parents domestic violence now 28 years old i struggle with addiction drugs/tobacco/gambling. It all started when my dad died...6 months later my girl left me with my 4yo daughter and i havent seen jer since. Its been 2 years. Later my mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer and she died 4 months later. After that the suiciadal thoughts started. So i went to therapy and al l that stuff but it didnt change I started to numb myself by smoking weed and isolating myself. After the first attempt i started making music.now 8 months after that i still find myself struggling. And the gambling begins. Stuck with this fear of emptyness. Thank you for your video.
Sounds like a very rough life. Sorry to hear it. You got a lot of psychic wounds to heal. You might want to look into psychedelics. They can accomplish a year of therapy in one day. Psychedelics are the most powerful and direct method for healing deep psychic wounds.
@@ActualizedOrg Can you reccomend some phsycadelics to beat this? Im an addictive soul. Jumped off subuxone and been clean a month and started using kratom 3 days ago and it feels like opiates..
@@kimfuruwal9285 I've heard shrooms and MDMA. Gwyneth Paltrow has a new show called goop something or other that's all about this. Its badass. Either on netflix or hulu.
when you said all addictions come from the same place, i thought “yeah alright buddy. let’s hear this shit.” but wow man. that shit hit me hard. i’m dealing with cannabis withdrawals right now and i probably have many more addictions: phone, sugar, tv, overthinking. and you’re right. im absolutely terrified of being alone with myself. and any escape is worth it. thank you so much for making these and opening peoples eyes. i hope i can use this to get over my problems. thanks leo!
Perspective, man. 2000 years ago people needed to hire philosophers or attend to schools of philosophy and devote their lives to it. Heck, It took Buda's whole life to realize this
You should rethink that. Becoming spiritually aware, more so than being self-actualized as in Maslow's self-actualization. I'm a psychologist, but what he calls " new age" is a spiritual awakening, you will find a higher purpose & get in touch with your "higher self" that resides in all of us. Death is NOT a void! People would be committing mass suicide if they knew what was on the Other Side. LIGHT, pure unconditional love, peace, bliss, & all knowledge. I have seen the Other Side & so have many others. I didn't remember all the knowledge, because that would remove our purpose for being on earth. It's to discover our divine selves & LEARN. When I learn it's more like remembering now. But challenges & problems are still there, to teach me the lessons I'm meant to learn. And I learned my purpose for being here. So I work on that daily, but I look forward to death. Much love❤❤
End the stigma. I am a recovering opiod addict. During my active addiction, I was working to get high, and getting high to work. Homeowner, licensed driver, and only true parental figure to the child of my ex-girlfriend. Nobody knew about my addiction except my dealer. I hid it well, and it never stood in the way of my responsibilities. I was arrested as a result of an unlawful search, which resulted in me losing my job for my employer to save face, and being forever painted as a worthless junkie. I've never stolen anything or broken any laws outside obtaining drugs. Never got loans, never asked for one penny from anyone. My arrest outed my addiction to the public eye, and stigma makes them believe I'm something that I have never been. I'm the same person I was before, during and after my active addiction. I am not a monster, I am not a junkie, I am human. 32 days clean following a 10-year buprenorphine addiction. You are strong. You are not alone. You are loved. You can do this, one day at a time. One love❤️
Before I saw this video, I was broken beyond measure. I've never seen addiction put into this perspective before, but with out a shadow of a doubt, I felt everything that was mentioned here. Leo, thank you.. now I know how to address this. -Tone
Addiction can be so difficult to overcome. It hardens the heart, making it so easy to give in over and over again. I tried to resist by myself, but I would end up falling back into the same cycle. Shame makes you weak and vulnerable, so you just give in to experience some false happiness. That said, the only thing I found that broke the chains of addiction is being close to Jesus. The flesh is weak, but God has the power to permanently break every addiction. Even if you are in disbelief, call on His name today. If nothing else has worked so far, give Jesus a chance. Whether you know it or not, Jesus loves you so much that He gave up glory in Heaven to manifest in this world to die for the sins of everyone...if He did that for us, what makes you think His perfect love couldn't break your addiction? I can attest that praying on a daily basis, having a relationship with God, and staying in His word will lessen the power and influence that addiction has over you. Fasting can help break the chains as well. If you are truly deep in addiction and cannot escape, I implore you to trust and believe that Jesus can set you free. Call out to Him. If you walk in the Spirit, you will not fulfill the lust of the flesh (Galatians 5:16).
Not true ! I’ve been asking God, Jesus and all the Angels of heaven for years and years to help me with my addictions. So far no help, however I do hear them say “ if you take that first step, know that we will have your back” and I know that first step starts with me and only me.
Update: Yesterday I took my first bath in over a year, couldn't stand doing nothing until then. I challenged myself and kind of meditated for half an hour. Today, I just sat down after my first smoke and meditated for one and a half hours! I've already only smoked half as much as yesterday, I feel so much more relaxed, I even worked out. Holy frick.
Blaise Pascal said "All human evil stems from man's inability to sit still in a room." As a content creator specializing in addiction/recovery content, I found this video to be on point. Thank you for the work you do :)
So true -being satisfied with stillness and being in an empty room. The inner sanctums of my mind or spiritual heart rather is far from empty. Had to face that emptiness head on like this man says. Jail and prison was a beautiful experience that so helped me grasp these concepts. I give God all the glory for the true peace and joy that transcends any mere happiness.
You are absolutely right about finding happiness in just being and embracing emptiness. All of my life I’ve been chasing external things and all that’s done is cause lots of disappointment, dissatisfaction, and frustrations. I appreciate you taking the time to explain these concepts and making an impact. You’re the man ✊🏼.
This is amazing. I wish everyone would see this video. Every single person has an addiction. We shouldn't just switch one addiction for another. Deal with the core cause of the problem.
I learned this long ago, when I was a very small child. My immediate family were all making noise all the time. Laughing, crying, moaning & groaning. So much drama. I couldn't get a word in most of the time. The best time I could have was to find a quiet place & just be. I didn't know that I was doing self actualization. It always made me feel peaceful. Somewhere along the line my began to fill up with things I had little control over. Thanks for your video it was enl
Thank you. I was desperate and depressed. This video saved me. As I did the isolation, I felt afraid, palms and feet suddenly became sweaty. After a while I felt calm. I need a lifestyle change. Too much stimulation.
I did sit in a room alone without distraction-just this morning (had wisdom teeth extracted 2 days ago). I was afraid for the first few seconds, and afterwards, I realized I was okay, and that I am the same nothingness that I've always feared. I observed the sensation of pain in my jaw, and I smiled, because I have the gift of knowing what pain is, and feeling all of these senses. I am so grateful for pain and fear, they allow me to see a new spectrum of color. I didn't think I would feel content, but I was/am. I just overthink and create problems that don't really exist. Thank you for this video, you have a golden heart!
sober for 2 months now with AA help (alcohol/drugs) and have been watching/listening to your stuff and damn I must say that being chemically sober makes you understand everything much better. God Bless you man on this great mission of sharing your experience.
More people need to hear this / watch this video. We live in an over-stimulating world today. I’m kind of scared to sit alone and not do anything. Listened to this on my way home from work. Going to give it a shot as I’ve been trying to find more positive things that will replace my more harmful addictions and I already knew that wasn’t exactly the right answer. This sounds much more correct. I’ve been replacing addiction after addiction majority of my life and I’ve repeated behaviors over and over. This should be the first thing they tell you in any drug/alcohol therapy.
I know you are right about this. I’ve already experienced that horrible feeling of emptiness during a long fast. I went back to eating unhealthy food again and can’t never maintain a healthy diet for long. I will follow your advice but I have to say that just the thought of sitting and doing nothing for an hour is terrifying and that’s precisely the reason why I have to do it. Thank you for uploading this very helpful video.
Fasting doesn't always have to be not eating. You can do a Daniel fast, fast TV, phone, video games. Anything that takes a priority in your life that isn't a priority can be fasted. I think food was always popular because way back then you didn't have all the distractions we have now.
I'm 21 years old and have been an IV heroin addict for 7 years. Heroin was my drug of choice but really I was addicted to all hard drugs, and also addicted to the needle as most IV addicts are. I've now been clean 7 months. My 8th stint in Jail is what got me clean originally but spirituality is what's kept me clean. Since I connect addictions to my drug addictions I've never put much thought into any other kind of addictions I may have, but now I see I am very addicted to cigarettes, and also addicted to anything that will distract me from myself. boyfriend, RUclips, my phone) I've never given much thought to it though until now. So glad this video brought it to my attention! Cus I know from experience if I'm not dealing with my underlying issues, emotions than it will eventually lead me back to drugs. So thanks for this video!
I'm addicted to thinking and it's draining me worse than my drug addictions. I love emptiness and the quiet but I can't get there often and even when I do, thinking overwhelms me. (Because I can't help knowing, this nothing, contains everything).
@@grantyentis5507 Apologies, I talk in riddles of metaphors more often than not. I'm working on my communication skills daily, they suffered a lot after 20yrs of substance abuse.
I’ve been in aa for years and this took it to the next step. If you are in aa listen to this whole video! It’ll change the way you see sobriety, this feels so much more accurate for addiction then the 12 steps
Thank you Leo!!! I needed this video so much!!!! Addiction is ruining my life. This was eye opening. Keep the videos coming. I don't know any resource like Actualized.org.
It's so true, I have tinnitus in left ear from accident, and the fear of being alone with my thoughts and just hearing silence with uncontrollable ringing is petrifying. Your wisdom and video is so healing. Thank you.
Dopamine Enigma Unveiled seriously blew my mind. Learning about dopamine optimization and detox completely changed how I approach productivity and focus. Has anyone else here tried applying these techniques? The section on unlocking peak mental performance was a game-changer for me!
I used to identify as an addict because NA said once an addict always an addict but I heard these words in my spirit "you are not an addict, you are a child of God"!! This "Realization" of my true identity has set me free!! Often people call themselves losers or no good or stupid or gay etc... list goes on but I've learned that these are false identities created by the ego!! You are who Divinity (God) says you are and you are healed and cured and whole and complete, it's just a matter or realizing who you really are!! No more false identities!!
As a 20+ year meditator I have to say that Leo is the perfect translator of Eastern spiritual concepts which can sound very arcane to the Western mind. I find myself feeling "busted" and "called out" on several occasions. I recently quit marijuana after a two decades long run and what he says about getting familiar and comfortable with just sitting there in a room, making friends with emptiness, doing nothing, is truth and nothing but the truth! Looking forward to watching the rest of your videos. Very inspiring.
+Gene Brockhoff Good on you brother, I also have stopped smoking the herb after 2 decades of indulgence and dissatisfaction. That is how I ended up watching this video
I have an extremely addictive personality. I'm pretty much addicted to all of the main ones you listed in the beginning: porn, alcohol, video games (tech consumerism in general), and especially food. Thank you for the video, it's helped me get a start on taking control on things
Please do not think that you have an addictive personality. Don't mix you're personality with your addiction. You just got hooked like we have. I would recommend you the book "The easy way to quit..." By allen Carr. He wrote many books about all kind of addictiona and it helped me soooo much. Stay strong ✌️
Alcohol and nicotine are drugs I can't stand when people say drugs and then they put alcohol/nicotine in it's own separate category. An alcoholic is a drug addict no different from a coke addict or any other drug
Yes, nicotine, alcohol, caffeine are all drug's that if you use, you will become addicted. Just as the harder drugs! As an addict, I can say that I know first hand of these things.
As published on health line, studies report sugar is also a drug. If you’re already offended by the alcoholics and smokers, you should also include getting offended by anyone who consumes more than 50 grams a day of sugar but don’t admit they’re a drug addict. (FYI- this will be most people, god speed my friend)
Everyone seems to blow videos like this out of proportion and assume nihilism and depression is the only answer. Not even close. It's really quite simple, just become aware of yourself. Aware of what motivates you and drives your personality since your personality is shaped by your addictions. No one is telling you to cut them all out. You can have whatever vice you like, as he mentioned (still play video games) as long as you've come to a point where you are also happy and content just sitting in a room quietly with no external stimulus. We are the universe fucking experiencing itself. This thought alone should be enough to enjoy what is.
I agree with your old statement on this addiction blog, but do you have any good advice for someone who struggles with finding the line between moderation & addiction? The system/rehabs etc tell alcoholics they can never drink again but with drugs its approached differently. It'd be good to think I could indulge now & again as that seems an easier challenge than that of a normal detox!!⚖ Thanks for your time ☯✌🏼️
Yeah I've been heavily addicted and I describe the craving as a similar mental feeling like when you were a kid and would see how long you could hold your breath underwater in a swimming pool as long as you could, then that feeling of needing to get up to the surface for air. That's what craving feels like, the need to get that oxygen - but instead for whatever you're addicted to
I was addicted to porn for nearly 15 years. This addiction seriously impaired my relationship with others, daily activities and perspective on women. And I tried everything I can to stop and get free from it but was not able. I had mild depression, fatigued everyday and was enslaved by the images/guilt. I blamed the internet, media and my lack of self-control and felt regretful for wasting my time, energy and effort. However, when I got on my knees in prayer and repented earnestly to Jesus Christ and I no longer felt the strong, impulsive urge that I had before. Though I had brief relapses. I always sought the Lord and not once did Jesus condemned me when I repented. His unfailing love and amazing grace will be with you if you open up your hearts completely to him. John 3:16 "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes him shall not perish but have eternal life." God bless you!!
@@scoopsmoo7812 I think he prayed and got it over which is Naïve. I have watched this video 3 years ago and at that time I never realised how powerful this advice was. To this day I am addicted to porn but I can assure that I will get over this shit very soon by embracing the suffering and just sitting it through the pain, not reacting to it. We all can get over it but we have to be patient and have faith in our journey.
WOW! What a penny dropping-moment! Had I learnt this when I was an adolescent could have resulted in an entirely different life. This should be taught at school as a CORE subject. ‘THE’ CORE SUBJECT! Such and incredibly simple yet profound concept. My addicted life has never looked more wonderfully surmountable. 30+ years of being held back by this but somehow knowing deep inside that this is the beautiful truth..the TRUTH..that with spiritual labour I can mature and finally grow into my true self. I’m excited. Thanks Leo and Actualized, you are a treasure! Much Love Ben
What we do gives us our identity, when we stop doing, we loose our identity, thats when we enter the realm of the abstract, usually we go back to what we know, unless the abstract is the door into the void, nothingness. Then if we are lucky we can reboot and recommit to a new identity by changing what we do.
My background is Christian, that's my path, everyone has different path, I used to identify as an addict because NA meetings told me once an addict always an addict but one day I heard in my spirit these words "you are not an addict, you are a child of God"!! This "Realization" of my true identify, has liberated me and set me free!! Often people call themselves losers or no good or idiots or addicts or gay etc list goes on but I've discovered that these are false identities! Our true self is only found in Divinity (God)!!
+Akhmed Minkailov Still, I spoke to an Indian monk with a beard the other day, and he seemed way less wise and coherent than this bald young man. Respect!
+Zachary Lee yes he is smart and the best help 4 now, bt he also has uncureable problems.. i hear the weeknes of his toughts thro his voice.. hes strong bt he has one weeknes.
The only time I ever was able to just sit with myself was when I released the tension in my muscles through breathing exercises. I just breathed out and held my breath and tried to scan my body and focus on the feeling of excitement. This then caused my abs and then my legs and then my whole body to spasm. And then immediately afterwards all the tension went away and I felt lightweight and incredibly flexible again. I'm going to be honest, people get addicted not because they aren't trying to control their emotions, but that their emotions are just in such an overdrive that they no longer have the ability to control themselves. They become a slave to their desires, but not of their own choosing. Addicted people are traumatized people. What they need is love and a good massage, not more accusations and guilt piled upon them.
This was the video that changed my whole life... I've watched it 10 times at this point and its always relevant. This was the video that inspired me to take self-actualization seriously.
Addiction is about pain it's about hurt its about medicating a wound that you got from childhood or relationship and that you're not able to cope with the pain cuz of pain is too great and so the addiction sues you it medicates you it helps you to feel better but the thing is you go through the same revolving circle of the pain and the routine and things get worse when you keep using I know because I am an addict and I know what it feels like but to let go and surrender to God no matter how painful it is is probably the best way to go and also to get support from a support group it's not about emptiness for me it's not it's about pain hurt insecurities anxieties and there's always some circumstance or issue for that reason it's not necessarily emptiness
I was so empty that I turned to drugs and they told me once an addict always an addict but one day these words came into my spirit "you are not an addict, you are a child of God!! This "Realization" liberated me and set me free, just like Jesus said, He said you shall know The Truth and The Truth shall set you free!! Often people call themselves losers or no good or stupid or addicts or gay etc.. but I've learned that these are false identities created by the ego, our true self and identify is found in God!! Basically we are who God says we are!! And God calls us redeemed and healed and cured and whole and complete and Loved and a child of God!! Doesn't mean I'm tempted, the spirits willing but the flesh is weak, I have a temptation for woman but by Grace, it's easy!!
I am a teacher & one of my student is going through all these perils of drug addiction.Over last 9 months I have been with him like a mother but he lies to me regarding this issue & doesn't admit his addiction to me.He is deeply attached to me but just doesn't want to quit these or even listen to such stuff.He might even be apprehensive watching this video. But I want him to quit as I can't see him ruin his life like this ,please convey how to persuade him to quit.
Leo~~ thank you for a no nonsense presentation. You speak in a way that’s understandable for anyone listening. Most importantly, what and how you approach subject matter is remembered for a positive, practical take away for success.
+Nolan Joseph James Flood for me I'm struggling with addiction to smoking and negative thinking!! Waking up late everyday....idk seems like my life is falling apart I need to do a lot of things but why I don't really feel like it
yes its an addiction when you think you need something but you really dont. It can be anything even apparently good things like exercising and you take it so far you become ill in the end because you start to neglect everything else that is needed for a balanced life
Hazel Love About 3 years back, I started saying the same thing.. Wishing that I went jogging or did yoga!! Even went walking across the green fields of England in the late summer afternoon sun setting 'magic hour' But instead, I continued to sit on the sofa and imagined what it would be like ... I guess I was preparing for it subconsciously because sure enough, I'm out walking the doggies so much more, in all seasons and I've got my own yoga mat and favourite place to put the mat Disney, get on it and 'pull some shapes' lol Still not jogging though. You think so therefore you are...
Finally I have found something that could just work for me. Since being a small child, I have always thought "what's the point to anything?". I have felt like the freak, but I am right, there IS no point to anything. I have filled this emptiness with alcohol for 33 years now. Time to face it. Thank you so much.
When I read the title I was like: again no video about enlightenment, damn :'(. But this video is one of the best if not the best I've seen from you, it really resonates with me! Thank you
Thank you for another Excellent Video, Leo! Gabor Mate’ has done a lot of work in addictions. He teaches that 97% of addictions come from childhood traumas. That the opposite of addiction is Connection. I believe that many of us that have had addictions, need to connect with ourselves and learn to forgive and love ourselves, too.😊♥️✌️
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This man is brilliant, this has been a true game changer. First weekend of trying this and oh my god. Bro, this works if you just follow his exact words to the T.
I can't begin to explain just how much this instantly resonated with me. It felt like... Something that had been disconnected for a very long time, suddenly became reconnected. That's the best way I can explain it. This is the only thing in all my years of various hard core addictions of one kind or another, that felt like it would work. That I didn't sit the entire time, listening scornfully, and discounting the validity of from the beginning. From the first two minutes of the video, I was paying attention. I felt relieved, because for the first time, this solution, and this explanation for my addiction, made sense to me. I couldn't poke holes in the logic. And this is the first thing that has actually gotten me sober from many chemical addictions of different kinds, but also from many soft addictions I didn't know were addictions. Scorn. Criticism of others... And many more. You are a gift to the world and I thank you for sharing what you've learned and ways to become self actualized. You're videos and such are changing and saving, more lives than you imagine I'm sure. The only other guidance I've had that has deeply transformed how I think and helped me learn more about who and what I am, and what this thing called life is about, is Jordan Peterson. Another very intelligent mind, that this world desperately needs. You two coming together for a discussion would be an absolutely amazing thing. At least I imagine it would be. I'm sure with two great minds such as yours, would result in some pretty amazing ideas. And one heck of a video. Just my opinion. I wonder if either of you have listened to one another's videos, and if so how you felt about what it was you heard.
If you just watch this entire video, you will be cured.😬 It took strength in me not to search for more information. I impulsively wanted to know MORE. I try to teach this to people as well. That all things can become addictions. I have had the hardest time letting go of sugar and unhealthy foods as well as coffee I've also let go of an addiction to cigarettes. My husband is recovering from drug and alcohol addiction so it is my priority to find healthier habits. The silence technique clicks though because my husband was in detention centers as a child, and heavily medicated. He spent a lot of time alone in confinement and I believe that caused trauma leading to him constantly needing something to occupy his time, to distract him.
@@vola-2899 What's behind the mental addictions? Look deeper. Find the root cause. The mind will do anything to escape pain. I promise there are underlying issues behind your mental addictions. We all have painful issues buried behind such things, or just buried. I can help you if you want. Peace&love ❤❤
@@vola-2899 yes!!!! I legit just came to this realization a week ago. My brother and friend helped me realize this. My addiction was trying to find love and validation in men. Then I realized what I was doing was bad. So I stopped.... but guess what I did? I replaced it with another one. My new addiction is falling for men that are broken and have a lot of problems in hopes that I can help and save them. And then when I cant I bring myself down. I need to realize its not my job to fix everyone. I can try but at the end of the day they are their own people and I shouldn't be hard on myself. And I need to stop doing this to myself cuz I end up the one being hurt.
1)Do nothing technique.
2)Mindfulness meditation.
3)Strong determination sitting.
4)Existential investigation.
That's awesome you say that because I really feel that is what I need to do to overcome. There is nothing I need to do but there is something that I just need to be. And this is me. And I really struggle with being still.
I've been trying these for over 10 years. Not working
Are we performing as a result or for results? You can't perform for God lol.
@@nicomilo270 How often do you meditate? Is it every day for 10 years?
Soren, I don't know what Strong Determination Sitting is but the other three are beautiful kriyas. I would also recommend some yoga karmas/kriyas including asana, pranayama, naad and mudras.
The fact that nobody talks about subliminal affirmations for overcoming addiction on Borlest speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance
these types of comments are scam guys, don't fall for it. I've seen exact same comments on many videos
@@amit_arise he just told you. ive seen these same comments on many videos too. its just a person trying to sell their product most likely. its spam
Borlest?
AND THE FACT THAT NOBODY ASKED YOU SPEAKS VOLUMES TOO YOU ARE STUCK ON REPEAT ONLY GOD KNOWS HOW MANY TIMES YOU POSTED THIS NONSENSE
im currently in treatment one of the best rehabs in America for heroin addiction. and this video has done more for me than 60 days of rehab. Thank you so much man.
stay strong, I sincerely hope you will get over it
which one did you go to? I went to Glenbeigh in may this year
Tyler Carlson brother. I have been fighting this battle going on 7 years. I realize everything we have been taught(I've been taught). was not correct. This video and a Tedtalk by the name Everything You Know About Addiction is wrong. I believe using both these systems together is the correct tool. Olympic athletes have 5,000 thoughts a day and "normal" whatever that is has 70,000. that's showing us clearly when observing your thought which creates a temporary void and supposedly gets lengther as real mindfillness is practiced, has a profound affect on our physical, mental, and emotional systems. HAS TO BE, TALENT ALONE DOESN'T MAKE THEM GREAT. Then you have connection, we have huge rise of anxiety, depression, and mental illness more than ever. What else do we have? No authentic connections anymore(this is what holds true to me). You are strong brother and you will win!
Sending the best wishes to you, I truly wish you get over the addiction. Think positive
the video Everything You Know About Addiction is wrong, is spot on - it explains why i spent 10+ years on heroin, methadone and other stuff like that - find connections with friends, work, even within yourself - re-engage with life. Live the life you want to live!
"All addiction is emotional immaturity"... thank you brother
If he said that ..phew
I don’t really agree. Everyone needs food and water to survive. Does that mean you are addicted? There is a difference. The mindset we have towards these kinds of things is everything
Follow those who are seeking the truth, doubt those who have found it
@@jaredmello No one said needing food and water to live was an addiction. Always Needing Too much food or too much to drink to feel good would be. That’s the emotional attachment, it makes u feel good superficially but afterwards you’re unhappy. You completely missed the point of what he’s saying.
@Linscreation He literally says he used to be overweight
been an addict my whole life. i am now 45 and looking to achieve the impossible. this is literally the best video i have ever seen on addiction. thank you!
I'm 45 too. An addict for 30 years. I'm looking to achieve the impossible too.
It's so damn hard.
Like you I'm sat here listening to this.
Thanks roadrunner
I'm 48 same been using heroin since I was 14 canabis and booze since was 16 crack since I was 19 beeb clean few times fir years at a time ..
My son died in 2009 relapsed 2011 been using since then .. agrr ..
Down to 0.4 of subby . It's stopping that last bit .. psychological dreams turn it nightmares ..
Good luck to all those on similar paths ... we can do it if we want to..
Peace ..
@Sho Gun currently trying to wean the last bit too. Wim Hof is my current favorite internet teacher, Deep breathing, ice baths, and "The 30 day sobriety solution" get me through the day.
Great Day
@@np9966 I'll check out wim now ... do you watch wes watson stuff he's a great inspiration to me
Paraphrasing Gurdijef "Inner demons are like dogs chasing you, the more you want to escape them, the closer they get to you, but once you stop, just stop and sit down with no distraction whatsoever, they loose the fire you've been feeding them by constantly running away. Then you just watch them go one by one, disappearing into the void". Another great video Leo.
Nice
If you realize your true power, (that you can do anything) even a vicious dog will avoid you.
Thank you for giving me such a beautiful and true read
Death is not a void. It's pure unconditional love, peace, bliss, light, & knowledge of all things.
I've seen the Other Side. Much love❤❤
Sometimes people have a dream about being chased by a shadow figure. Sometimes they take a courage, stop a ask the shadow why it chases them. And the shadow says: "because you are running" ... which is th essence of the problem. We create the very issues we are escaping from, sitting still may reveal that.
The think the greatest addiction people have is the addiction to thinking. Thats why observing the thought patterns, cravings and "inner demons" is the key to neutralizing the effects. When I began meditating I was able to really tone down my mind and allow more space in between my thoughts. This promoted a more balanced state of being and a peaceful state of being. What Leo suggests is a great tool as well.
Really got something from this comment as well as so much from the vid. Thank you both!
Aaron Doughty is meditation that powerful? How long do you meditate for regularly?
wow! can't believe your comment on here!
Adam do not criticise instead, try to understand why?
Aaron I like your videos!!..glad to see you here....
I think I've watched this like 20 times.... Leo, I would like to say thank you.. I've been sober for 3.5 month and when the need for drugs comes up I just take a step back, watch it and let it go by.. You are amazing. Best regards from Sweden.
So... How's it going?
Congratulations!!! So happy for you, encouraging to me since 2 of my 3 children are addicts, they will come out of it too!! 👏🏼🙏🏼
You are so right. Avoidance of emptyness fuels addictions. I realize that needing validation is one of my addictions.
and the reason you want validation is because at your core you feel you're not good enough, work on that core belief and you'll be free of your addiction
@Jeremy Horne substances didn't create the void for me, it was that empty feeling that made me want to use drugs, drugs just made the void more painful!!
Sandra. You are def validated. I’d certify that for sure. How have you been doing since this post.
@Jeremy Horne More accurately they contribute to the void that was already there.
Same
I'm here because I felt a trigger or craving and I didn't want to give in. Now I'm going to go for a walk and find a quiet place to sit.
Thank you and wish me luck.
Day 1
wishing you mindful peace!
Good luck , you got this👍
Two weeks later and I hope your getting stronger and more committed. Practice Not perfection. 🙏💜🌷
Keep doing.
you got this man
I am a hardcore drug addict. I am replacing my addictions with becoming actualized. This video alone alone answered so many of my questions about myself, about 12 step, etc. if there’s any better way to spend my time. I think it’s to watch these self help videos But ultimately be with myself and be comfortable with being alone I will post my progress.
Good luck and I agree stumbled upon this last night at 2:30am cause I couldn't sleep. I am ready to get started right away
Also try Byron Katie and meditation with a very good meditation teacher, who has themselves experienced the truth and has the ability to teach ( rare)
Tapering off Kratom. One day at a time. The silence is where ultimate peace is truly found
update ?
just dont get neurotic about self actualizing, its a long slow procces, so dont take it as a replacement for the drugs
Some time ago, when I was asked why I drank, I really gave it some thought. The answer I came up with was “ just to make the silence stop” . When I just watched this clip, it has really hit a cord. Many thanks.
Leo,
I'm an emotional wreck right now, having just found you and hearing, really hearing what you have to say.
I'm 64 dealing with all kinds of shit at the moment and the child in me is suddenly balling his eyes out.
Not from self pity but from the realisation, I do not need to carry on, as I have done, all of my life.
I'm not sure if, in the light of tomorrow, when I've watched this again, if what I've written here will make any sense.
But right, now in the moment, I need to say something - Thank You.
You, what you have to say, what I've heard so far is incredible, awesome. I'll be back.
Much Love,
David.
+David Gb Good, stay on the path now that you've found it.
He fell of the bandwagon
David Gb Today is 4/5/18 and I feel exactly what you describe. I am blown away...absolutely speechless with the realization that what he says is exactly right. I have never in my life felt this way-just total understanding of what this addiction is. I am so grateful to understand, finally, why. It won’t make it easier to overcome, but Jesus at least I know why. I can’t sit alone for an hour without needing to do something. My entire life. Addiction now makes absolute sense to me.
Blessings David!
David Gb David, you have the gift of self awareness. I hope you know how rare that is. I hope the light of all the tomorrow’s since your post has brought you to where you want to be. You’ve got this buddy
i will not go into detail, but you are saving lives. thank you.
🤣
Hope you're doing well, Luis.
#Truth I was an alcoholic. 💕 💕
Greed and More is IT.
NOPE. ITS
NEGATIVE CONSEQUENCES
NO NO NO. do whatever you please all you want if you’re not having negative consequences.
No. Not emptiness
It’s feeling worthless
Poor self esteem
Negative outlook on life
Hating yourself
So to get out of feeling bad we want to not feel so shitty
I cannot agree.
@@stevenhoog1 Can you clarify your idea more?
Leo helped me through a coke addiction, something i thought i’d die with/for. Can’t give enough thanks now ❤️
Good job Lauren,. I personally had a strong addiction to video games; it gave me an escape.
Good for you Lauren, but I find the video only helpful if someone has either found recovery and need it to self manage or the person isn't a real addict and who probably has alot of prior support and help.
Been addicted to hard drugs the last 6 years - this video really made me aware I’ve been addicted to external stimulation my whole entire 24 years of life due to the environment I grew up in. I always have tried to fill the void. Whether it’s food, tv, computer, etc. I’ve always felt like I needed to feel “more”. I can honestly say this video made me have an epiphany. I know to tackle this head on, the ROOT cause is needed to be brought into light. I’ve made some very stupid choices and put myself in many sketchy situations because of my addiction to wanting to be stimulated by any & everything I find that I enjoy. I thought of myself as a “mother who could do both and maintain both lifestyles” ITS IMPOSSIBLE. The double life will eventually collide and when it does finally clash.. it clashes hard. And without warning. I know now that I cannot be a “good mother” while being on these stupid drugs that literally do nothing but give me energy to go out and do all these compulsive behaviors. I recently tried the needle for the first time ever a couple weeks ago. And felt nothing but guilt. I cried when ever I looked at my innocent sweet 4 year old son when I got home that night. I never wanna feel that feeling again. Today is my last time dancing with the Devil. I’ve been locked in a prison and now I realize I had the key the whole time. METHAMPHETAMINE - I’m not letting you take me, I’m not letting you take my sons childhood experiences away, I don’t need you. I never did. I will be able to overcome this challenging time in my life. I can fight my cravings. I can do it. Thank you so much for posting this video. I’m already about to go outside and bust all my glass pipes. I’m done.
Hey fellow momma bear , I hope things have gotten better for you. I hope you spend every moment you can with your son. I hope you stay far from those needles. My heart goes out to you truly, I can relate to so much of what you have gone through and when it comes crashing down it sucks it really fucking sucks. I have a daughter who is 5 and did the whole double life thing and ruined my family, my future and my self as a whole. The guilt is overwhelming at times and I think maybe that’s why I still reach for drugs is to make that pain stop? Even though that’s how it started in the first place. It could be a never ending cycle for sure. Anyway girl I know how hard it can be dealing with all of these things and I’m sorry I know it can be lonely and shameful at times too. Unfortunately my family isn’t close or supportive so I really lean on my best friend who is and I think having that support person has got me through the tough shit. Take care XoXo .
Blessings over u and your sons life 🙏
Do it for yourself! Do it for your son!!!
Yes You Can!! No more drugs!!!
God loves you so much!! Pray. Sending you STRENGTH 💪 LOVE ❤️ and light. Peace.
hey vro, have you made it? did you quit?
While listening to you i was fighting my youtube addiction to watch many short videos
Same here. Have u stopped now?
Me too.
You're clever in making clever statements that sound good Flint Arck Happy now?
and me....
Maann im fucking weak😂😂😂
the nature of addiction is such that you will watch this video through to the end and believe in every word that defined your life in front of your eyes , then get up to light a joint and comment on it to say how beautiful it was.
Gosh this is exactly me now!!! And I wish was just a joint 😜🥱
Dam bro. I feel ya
The haves and the have-nots have combined into one of many halve knots.
Omg that's me all over I thought it was just me as well lol xxbless
See that you light up that joint because of your inner conviction that you can't stop. You are to afraid to face the idea that you are not going to smoke it. The fear is an important part of every addiction and sustains it. You can only break that fear by facing it. Stop, sit and watch hat happens. Great inspirational moment when you succeed for the first time. Then you know you can stop !!
Plot twist: Stops thinking for a week to see if you're addicted.
*Accidentally becomes enlightened*
ආහාර සහ තාක්ෂණය කියන දෙකට තමා මම නම්. මොකෝ ඔයාගේ තත්ත්වෙ ? එනි ප්රෝග්රස් ?
Not sure that anyone ever died of thinking. Think about that for a week and let me know if you find a person who did.
OH YEAH WHY DONT I JUST DO THAT, JUST STOP THINKING WOW SO EASY WOW
FUCK IT, ASCENSION
Ryan mgogo, meditating helps; it isn't hard to stop thinking.
"Think about the last time you stuffed yourself. You really felt full and dirty." Yes sir i did.
Priceless advice. I lost 70lbs and then decided it was time to quit smoking weed. I've now put on 28lbs having quit the weed. Self actualization is the ultimate goal. Do nothing. Right. I'm on it. Emotional maturity, here I come. Thanks Leo.
AmeseyPop good for you 👌🏻
That's great ,go you 😉
Are you still off the pot?
Amseypop are you still off the pot
I lost 70lbs too. My thyroid doesn't work properly but used to be bulimic for 15 years. I'm 44 now and clean off opiates for 5 years now.
I'm still amazed by two things. 1- How you're able to deliver value in such deep and true way every time. 2- Why it is almost impossible to hear anything like this from friends, family, media, school, etc.
True that
"All addictions are emotional immaturity" Yes!! Finally someone who says it. Of course people are not going to sit still in an empty room and do nothing, it's not a natural state unless you are meditating. People crave connections.... connections with others and/or with nature. That is what can fill the void. Stillness is not the problem, lack of connections is the problem. Seems to me that early age trauma is often the driving force behind most addictions because the brain development was arrested due to an inability to cope with stressful situations. A child cannot understand why he cannot feel safe and/or is not taken care of as he should. He thinks there is something wrong with him/her. This must be unlearned, dispelled and addressed. We see this time and time again with the most hardcore case of addictions. The inability to self-soothe is very strong because one did not have a chance to learn how to do it in other ways then by self-satisfying immediate needs. It comes from a survival mode type of learning. Many good points but missing some elements.
zabelicious can you elaborate more on this ? Where did you learn this ? It seems on point I just want to dive deeper into this because it resonates with me.
Indeed, I miss some important root cause elements. A lot of addicted people search distraction and are escaping from negative thinking and feelings. Whenever they are alone, sitting still, there negative thinking will arise. Learning to deal with negativity is not a 'I sit still for one time' moment. But will take a lot of inventories, practises and transforming your negative experiences into positive ones by forgiving. Making your wise and loving voice stronger and your judgemental ego less strong.
interesting; could you go on?
I suspect you're afraid to do it :)
God damn it! Pls elaborate or write a damn blog lol share your insight!
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This video was the reason i could quit smoking - without any withdrawals or cravings. I share it often.
If you didn't have withdrawal or physical side effects from a physical addiction you weren't addicted but well done on not smoking
You made me understand by saying fear of emptyness. Life had been hell since childhood abusive parents domestic violence now 28 years old i struggle with addiction drugs/tobacco/gambling. It all started when my dad died...6 months later my girl left me with my 4yo daughter and i havent seen jer since. Its been 2 years. Later my mom was diagnosed with terminal cancer and she died 4 months later. After that the suiciadal thoughts started. So i went to therapy and al l that stuff but it didnt change
I started to numb myself by smoking weed and isolating myself. After the first attempt i started making music.now 8 months after that i still find myself struggling. And the gambling begins. Stuck with this fear of emptyness. Thank you for your video.
Sounds like a very rough life. Sorry to hear it. You got a lot of psychic wounds to heal. You might want to look into psychedelics. They can accomplish a year of therapy in one day. Psychedelics are the most powerful and direct method for healing deep psychic wounds.
@@ActualizedOrg Can you reccomend some phsycadelics to beat this? Im an addictive soul. Jumped off subuxone and been clean a month and started using kratom 3 days ago and it feels like opiates..
@@kimfuruwal9285 I've heard shrooms and MDMA. Gwyneth Paltrow has a new show called goop something or other that's all about this. Its badass. Either on netflix or hulu.
Everything is ok now. Thank you.
Sabijo Wals congrats man I just came across your comment from months ago. Glad things are better
when you said all addictions come from the same place, i thought “yeah alright buddy. let’s hear this shit.”
but wow man. that shit hit me hard. i’m dealing with cannabis withdrawals right now and i probably have many more addictions: phone, sugar, tv, overthinking.
and you’re right. im absolutely terrified of being alone with myself. and any escape is worth it.
thank you so much for making these and opening peoples eyes. i hope i can use this to get over my problems. thanks leo!
Cant believe a bald guy on the internet just convinced me to sit down for 30mins and do nothing
Perspective, man. 2000 years ago people needed to hire philosophers or attend to schools of philosophy and devote their lives to it. Heck, It took Buda's whole life to realize this
You should rethink that. Becoming spiritually aware, more so than being self-actualized as in Maslow's self-actualization.
I'm a psychologist, but what he calls " new age" is a spiritual awakening, you will find a higher purpose & get in touch with your "higher self" that resides in all of us.
Death is NOT a void! People would be committing mass suicide if they knew what was on the Other Side.
LIGHT, pure unconditional love, peace, bliss, & all knowledge. I have seen the Other Side & so have many others.
I didn't remember all the knowledge, because that would remove our purpose for being on earth. It's to discover our divine selves & LEARN. When I learn it's more like remembering now. But challenges & problems are still there, to teach me the lessons I'm meant to learn.
And I learned my purpose for being here. So I work on that daily, but I look forward to death.
Much love❤❤
Leo is pretty smart...its a shame he is not churning out more content.
lol, he's the real deal.
LMAO!
End the stigma. I am a recovering opiod addict. During my active addiction, I was working to get high, and getting high to work. Homeowner, licensed driver, and only true parental figure to the child of my ex-girlfriend. Nobody knew about my addiction except my dealer. I hid it well, and it never stood in the way of my responsibilities.
I was arrested as a result of an unlawful search, which resulted in me losing my job for my employer to save face, and being forever painted as a worthless junkie. I've never stolen anything or broken any laws outside obtaining drugs. Never got loans, never asked for one penny from anyone. My arrest outed my addiction to the public eye, and stigma makes them believe I'm something that I have never been. I'm the same person I was before, during and after my active addiction. I am not a monster, I am not a junkie, I am human. 32 days clean following a 10-year buprenorphine addiction. You are strong. You are not alone. You are loved. You can do this, one day at a time. One love❤️
Wow! good job. you are amazing.
Well done 👍♥️
1-Cause: FEAR OF EMPTINESS.
2-Solution: The DO NOTHING Technique.
3-How: The ERP Technique (Exposure Response Prevention)
GOOD LUCK 👍
Before I saw this video, I was broken beyond measure.
I've never seen addiction put into this perspective before, but with out a shadow of a doubt, I felt everything that was mentioned here. Leo, thank you.. now I know how to address this.
-Tone
The gist of this video is: EMBRACE THE VOID!
Khonsu the Core Thank you for this comment! 😂😂😂 You saved soooo much of my time! 😌🗣
Addiction can be so difficult to overcome. It hardens the heart, making it so easy to give in over and over again. I tried to resist by myself, but I would end up falling back into the same cycle. Shame makes you weak and vulnerable, so you just give in to experience some false happiness. That said, the only thing I found that broke the chains of addiction is being close to Jesus. The flesh is weak, but God has the power to permanently break every addiction. Even if you are in disbelief, call on His name today. If nothing else has worked so far, give Jesus a chance. Whether you know it or not, Jesus loves you so much that He gave up glory in Heaven to manifest in this world to die for the sins of everyone...if He did that for us, what makes you think His perfect love couldn't break your addiction? I can attest that praying on a daily basis, having a relationship with God, and staying in His word will lessen the power and influence that addiction has over you. Fasting can help break the chains as well. If you are truly deep in addiction and cannot escape, I implore you to trust and believe that Jesus can set you free. Call out to Him. If you walk in the Spirit, you will not fulfill the lust of the flesh (Galatians 5:16).
Thank you for this post.
love you brother even I don’t know you.
Lord you are the king!
Jesus? All you did is SWITCH addiction then.
@@umaharadaiguren2908 fr😆
Not true ! I’ve been asking God, Jesus and all the Angels of heaven for years and years to help me with my addictions. So far no help, however I do hear them say “ if you take that first step, know that we will have your back” and I know that first step starts with me and only me.
Oh wow this actually made me cry. Its true. Thats the weird thing about it, its true. We're all so fucking scared of just being. Thank you.
Update: Yesterday I took my first bath in over a year, couldn't stand doing nothing until then. I challenged myself and kind of meditated for half an hour. Today, I just sat down after my first smoke and meditated for one and a half hours! I've already only smoked half as much as yesterday, I feel so much more relaxed, I even worked out. Holy frick.
Proud of you!
@@miasterling575 Update?
💝How are you?
@Spanish John Sure, thanks!
Blaise Pascal said "All human evil stems from man's inability to sit still in a room." As a content creator specializing in addiction/recovery content, I found this video to be on point. Thank you for the work you do :)
So true -being satisfied with stillness and being in an empty room. The inner sanctums of my mind or spiritual heart rather is far from empty. Had to face that emptiness head on like this man says. Jail and prison was a beautiful experience that so helped me grasp these concepts. I give God all the glory for the true peace and joy that transcends any mere happiness.
You are absolutely right about finding happiness in just being and embracing emptiness. All of my life I’ve been chasing external things and all that’s done is cause lots of disappointment, dissatisfaction, and frustrations. I appreciate you taking the time to explain these concepts and making an impact. You’re the man ✊🏼.
This is amazing. I wish everyone would see this video. Every single person has an addiction. We shouldn't just switch one addiction for another. Deal with the core cause of the problem.
This 37 minute video must be the most eye opening experience I've had in my life...gonna start doing nothing and find my happing in blank emptiness
Did you found it? Or very least felt like you were getting there?
I learned this long ago, when I was a very small child. My immediate family were all making noise all the time. Laughing, crying, moaning & groaning. So much drama. I couldn't get a word in most of the time. The best time I could have was to find a quiet place & just be. I didn't know that I was doing self actualization. It always made me feel peaceful. Somewhere along the line my began to fill up with things I had little control over. Thanks for your video it was enl
I’m sitting here in a rehab right now this is more beneficial than any group I’ve been to my whole time here
hey,,,, 7 hermetic princibles healing takes time ,,, how have you ben ?
How are you on a phone in rehab?
techniques that Leo recommended
1- do nothing technique
2- mindfulness med.
3- strong determination sitting
4- existential investigation
Thank you. I was desperate and depressed. This video saved me. As I did the isolation, I felt afraid, palms and feet suddenly became sweaty. After a while I felt calm. I need a lifestyle change. Too much stimulation.
This is - by far- the BEST video I have EVER seen on Addiction. Thank you so much!!!!
I did sit in a room alone without distraction-just this morning (had wisdom teeth extracted 2 days ago). I was afraid for the first few seconds, and afterwards, I realized I was okay, and that I am the same nothingness that I've always feared.
I observed the sensation of pain in my jaw, and I smiled, because I have the gift of knowing what pain is, and feeling all of these senses. I am so grateful for pain and fear, they allow me to see a new spectrum of color.
I didn't think I would feel content, but I was/am. I just overthink and create problems that don't really exist. Thank you for this video, you have a golden heart!
I think you may have saved my life bro... thank you so much for opening my eyes
sober for 2 months now with AA help (alcohol/drugs) and have been watching/listening to your stuff and damn I must say that being chemically sober makes you understand everything much better. God Bless you man on this great mission of sharing your experience.
You can be proud!!!
More people need to hear this / watch this video. We live in an over-stimulating world today. I’m kind of scared to sit alone and not do anything. Listened to this on my way home from work. Going to give it a shot as I’ve been trying to find more positive things that will replace my more harmful addictions and I already knew that wasn’t exactly the right answer. This sounds much more correct. I’ve been replacing addiction after addiction majority of my life and I’ve repeated behaviors over and over. This should be the first thing they tell you in any drug/alcohol therapy.
I know you are right about this. I’ve already experienced that horrible feeling of emptiness during a long fast. I went back to eating unhealthy food again and can’t never maintain a healthy diet for long. I will follow your advice but I have to say that just the thought of sitting and doing nothing for an hour is terrifying and that’s precisely the reason why I have to do it. Thank you for uploading this very helpful video.
the same , i ve tried this fasting in center, and all addiction was worst after that
Fasting doesn't always have to be not eating. You can do a Daniel fast, fast TV, phone, video games. Anything that takes a priority in your life that isn't a priority can be fasted. I think food was always popular because way back then you didn't have all the distractions we have now.
I'm 21 years old and have been an IV heroin addict for 7 years. Heroin was my drug of choice but really I was addicted to all hard drugs, and also addicted to the needle as most IV addicts are. I've now been clean 7 months. My 8th stint in Jail is what got me clean originally but spirituality is what's kept me clean. Since I connect addictions to my drug addictions I've never put much thought into any other kind of addictions I may have, but now I see I am very addicted to cigarettes, and also addicted to anything that will distract me from myself. boyfriend, RUclips, my phone) I've never given much thought to it though until now. So glad this video brought it to my attention! Cus I know from experience if I'm not dealing with my underlying issues, emotions than it will eventually lead me back to drugs. So thanks for this video!
+Payton Rice Check out 5-meo-dmt. It will cure you in ways you never imagined possible.
Respect
well done Payton rice.xxxxx
Payton Rice are you a drug addict?
Anything that would distract you from yourself. Those words hit home. I hope you beat heroin. I hope that very much.
thoughts corresponds with breathing and your heart beating corresponds to your intentions. spiritually they will never end!
Man, this is real talk. Thanks Leo, your videos are really staggering me in a positive way. Always deep and never too easy.
this man is unbelievably well spoken and motivating really hits different
“…surrender yourself to the purifying fire of emptiness” 💓💓💓
I'm addicted to thinking and it's draining me worse than my drug addictions. I love emptiness and the quiet but I can't get there often and even when I do, thinking overwhelms me. (Because I can't help knowing, this nothing, contains everything).
Sirius Lee I’m the same way mate
I'm going to really have to think about what you just said
@@grantyentis5507 Apologies, I talk in riddles of metaphors more often than not. I'm working on my communication skills daily, they suffered a lot after 20yrs of substance abuse.
Sirius Lee. I was just making a light hearted joke cause you remind me of myself
@@grantyentis5507 get ya now, had a washing machine head type of day so was a bit slow 🤦♂️
Interventions to Use [i.e. summary]: [go to 25:45]:
1. Do nothing technique
2. Mindfulness meditation
3. Strong determination sitting
4. Bonus: Existential investigation
I’ve been in aa for years and this took it to the next step. If you are in aa listen to this whole video! It’ll change the way you see sobriety, this feels so much more accurate for addiction then the 12 steps
This man has a gift and that's what makes him a gift to us.
I also really like how you said business and work because most people think being addicted to those things is necessary
Thank you Leo!!! I needed this video so much!!!! Addiction is ruining my life. This was eye opening. Keep the videos coming. I don't know any resource like Actualized.org.
+Juan Try Passion for truth ministries or bulldozerfaith.
It's so true, I have tinnitus in left ear from accident, and the fear of being alone with my thoughts and just hearing silence with uncontrollable ringing is petrifying. Your wisdom and video is so healing. Thank you.
Dopamine Enigma Unveiled seriously blew my mind. Learning about dopamine optimization and detox completely changed how I approach productivity and focus. Has anyone else here tried applying these techniques? The section on unlocking peak mental performance was a game-changer for me!
Nah I’m stuck in instant gratification cycle , if I think about leaving I’m hit with whatever the opposite of dopamine is.
I used to identify as an addict because NA said once an addict always an addict but I heard these words in my spirit "you are not an addict, you are a child of God"!! This "Realization" of my true identity has set me free!! Often people call themselves losers or no good or stupid or gay etc... list goes on but I've learned that these are false identities created by the ego!! You are who Divinity (God) says you are and you are healed and cured and whole and complete, it's just a matter or realizing who you really are!! No more false identities!!
As a 20+ year meditator I have to say that Leo is the perfect translator of Eastern spiritual concepts which can sound very arcane to the Western mind. I find myself feeling "busted" and "called out" on several occasions. I recently quit marijuana after a two decades long run and what he says about getting familiar and comfortable with just sitting there in a room, making friends with emptiness, doing nothing, is truth and nothing but the truth! Looking forward to watching the rest of your videos. Very inspiring.
+Gene Brockhoff Good on you brother, I also have stopped smoking the herb after 2 decades of indulgence and dissatisfaction. That is how I ended up watching this video
I have an extremely addictive personality. I'm pretty much addicted to all of the main ones you listed in the beginning: porn, alcohol, video games (tech consumerism in general), and especially food. Thank you for the video, it's helped me get a start on taking control on things
Please do not think that you have an addictive personality. Don't mix you're personality with your addiction. You just got hooked like we have. I would recommend you the book "The easy way to quit..." By allen Carr. He wrote many books about all kind of addictiona and it helped me soooo much. Stay strong ✌️
Omg! I so needed to know that my feelings of emptiness are nothing but normal. I thought it meant I didn’t have something others did. Thank you!
Alcohol and nicotine are drugs I can't stand when people say drugs and then they put alcohol/nicotine in it's own separate category. An alcoholic is a drug addict no different from a coke addict or any other drug
Yep. Alcohol is a hard drug with horrible consequences for abusing it
Yes, nicotine, alcohol, caffeine are all drug's that if you use, you will become addicted. Just as the harder drugs! As an addict, I can say that I know first hand of these things.
As published on health line, studies report sugar is also a drug. If you’re already offended by the alcoholics and smokers, you should also include getting offended by anyone who consumes more than 50 grams a day of sugar but don’t admit they’re a drug addict. (FYI- this will be most people, god speed my friend)
serendipidus1 Check out Dr. Gabor Mate.’ I’m in total agreement with you.♥️✌️
Alcohol is one of the drugs you can die from withdrawals, it beats me why they don't include it with drugs
Everyone seems to blow videos like this out of proportion and assume nihilism and depression is the only answer. Not even close. It's really quite simple, just become aware of yourself. Aware of what motivates you and drives your personality since your personality is shaped by your addictions. No one is telling you to cut them all out. You can have whatever vice you like, as he mentioned (still play video games) as long as you've come to a point where you are also happy and content just sitting in a room quietly with no external stimulus. We are the universe fucking experiencing itself. This thought alone should be enough to enjoy what is.
hmmm Interesting. not sure why you get nihilism and depression out of this video but I did like the second half of your paragraph. I concur.
he probbab;y didn't get it from a video but from comments
#alanwatts
I agree with your old statement on this addiction blog, but do you have any good advice for someone who struggles with finding the line between moderation & addiction? The system/rehabs etc tell alcoholics they can never drink again but with drugs its approached differently.
It'd be good to think I could indulge now & again as that seems an easier challenge than that of a normal detox!!⚖
Thanks for your time ☯✌🏼️
Yeah I've been heavily addicted and I describe the craving as a similar mental feeling like when you were a kid and would see how long you could hold your breath underwater in a swimming pool as long as you could, then that feeling of needing to get up to the surface for air. That's what craving feels like, the need to get that oxygen - but instead for whatever you're addicted to
I was addicted to porn for nearly 15 years.
This addiction seriously impaired my relationship with others, daily activities and perspective on women.
And I tried everything I can to stop and get free from it but was not able. I had mild depression, fatigued everyday and was enslaved by the images/guilt.
I blamed the internet, media and my lack of self-control and felt regretful for wasting my time, energy and effort.
However, when I got on my knees in prayer and repented earnestly to Jesus Christ and I no longer felt the strong, impulsive urge that I had before.
Though I had brief relapses. I always sought the Lord and not once did Jesus condemned me when I repented.
His unfailing love and amazing grace will be with you if you open up your hearts completely to him.
John 3:16
"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes him shall not perish but have eternal life."
God bless you!!
Thou shalt not beat your meat excessively
did you start sitting and doing nothing?
@@scoopsmoo7812 I think he prayed and got it over which is Naïve. I have watched this video 3 years ago and at that time I never realised how powerful this advice was. To this day I am addicted to porn but I can assure that I will get over this shit very soon by embracing the suffering and just sitting it through the pain, not reacting to it. We all can get over it but we have to be patient and have faith in our journey.
WOW! What a penny dropping-moment!
Had I learnt this when I was an adolescent could have resulted in an entirely different life. This should be taught at school as a CORE subject.
‘THE’ CORE SUBJECT!
Such and incredibly simple yet profound concept. My addicted life has never looked more wonderfully surmountable. 30+ years of being held back by this but somehow knowing deep inside that this is the beautiful truth..the TRUTH..that with spiritual labour I can mature and finally grow into my true self. I’m excited.
Thanks Leo and Actualized, you are a treasure!
Much Love Ben
❤
What we do gives us our identity, when we stop doing, we loose our identity, thats when we enter the realm of the abstract, usually we go back to what we know, unless the abstract is the door into the void, nothingness. Then if we are lucky we can reboot and recommit to a new identity by changing what we do.
This is really deep
We need to remember we are human beings not human doings!!
My background is Christian, that's my path, everyone has different path, I used to identify as an addict because NA meetings told me once an addict always an addict but one day I heard in my spirit these words "you are not an addict, you are a child of God"!! This "Realization" of my true identify, has liberated me and set me free!! Often people call themselves losers or no good or idiots or addicts or gay etc list goes on but I've discovered that these are false identities! Our true self is only found in Divinity (God)!!
I know I'm at the beginning of the end of my addiction (s).
I feel it in my bones now.
Thank you Leo!
I agree with everything dude said except one thing.. There is an afterlife and when we pass on we will be filled with complete love and acceptance ❤ 🙏
You will come back and repeat ALL mistakes not learned from
@@jenniferbistline7572 no I’ll go to heaven
Wow, I'm amazed to see such wisdom, spokely so eloquently, from one so young.
okay grandad
+9/11 did bush Haha!
+Zachary Lee not him alone... he has friends...
+Akhmed Minkailov Still, I spoke to an Indian monk with a beard the other day, and he seemed way less wise and coherent than this bald young man. Respect!
+Zachary Lee yes he is smart and the best help 4 now, bt he also has uncureable problems.. i hear the weeknes of his toughts thro his voice.. hes strong bt he has one weeknes.
The only time I ever was able to just sit with myself was when I released the tension in my muscles through breathing exercises. I just breathed out and held my breath and tried to scan my body and focus on the feeling of excitement. This then caused my abs and then my legs and then my whole body to spasm. And then immediately afterwards all the tension went away and I felt lightweight and incredibly flexible again. I'm going to be honest, people get addicted not because they aren't trying to control their emotions, but that their emotions are just in such an overdrive that they no longer have the ability to control themselves. They become a slave to their desires, but not of their own choosing. Addicted people are traumatized people. What they need is love and a good massage, not more accusations and guilt piled upon them.
This was the video that changed my whole life... I've watched it 10 times at this point and its always relevant. This was the video that inspired me to take self-actualization seriously.
Addiction is about pain it's about hurt its about medicating a wound that you got from childhood or relationship and that you're not able to cope with the pain cuz of pain is too great and so the addiction sues you it medicates you it helps you to feel better but the thing is you go through the same revolving circle of the pain and the routine and things get worse when you keep using I know because I am an addict and I know what it feels like but to let go and surrender to God no matter how painful it is is probably the best way to go and also to get support from a support group it's not about emptiness for me it's not it's about pain hurt insecurities anxieties and there's always some circumstance or issue for that reason it's not necessarily emptiness
I was so empty that I turned to drugs and they told me once an addict always an addict but one day these words came into my spirit "you are not an addict, you are a child of God!! This "Realization" liberated me and set me free, just like Jesus said, He said you shall know The Truth and The Truth shall set you free!! Often people call themselves losers or no good or stupid or addicts or gay etc.. but I've learned that these are false identities created by the ego, our true self and identify is found in God!! Basically we are who God says we are!! And God calls us redeemed and healed and cured and whole and complete and Loved and a child of God!! Doesn't mean I'm tempted, the spirits willing but the flesh is weak, I have a temptation for woman but by Grace, it's easy!!
I am a teacher & one of my student is going through all these perils of drug addiction.Over last 9 months I have been with him like a mother but he lies to me regarding this issue & doesn't admit his addiction to me.He is deeply attached to me but just doesn't want to quit these or even listen to such stuff.He might even be apprehensive watching this video.
But I want him to quit as I can't see him ruin his life like this ,please convey how to persuade him to quit.
Ever tried punctuation?
Leo~~ thank you for a no nonsense presentation. You speak in a way that’s understandable for anyone listening. Most importantly, what and how you approach subject matter is remembered for a positive, practical take away for success.
I wish I had some good addictions like
Exercise
Studying
Positive thinking
Meditation!!
+Nolan Joseph James Flood for me I'm struggling with addiction to smoking and negative thinking!! Waking up late everyday....idk seems like my life is falling apart
I need to do a lot of things but why I don't really feel like it
Hazel Love agreed lol. we can make those things addictions/good habits if we try..we just dont feel like tryin..lol ugh!
yes its an addiction when you think you need something but you really dont. It can be anything even apparently good things like exercising and you take it so far you become ill in the end because you start to neglect everything else that is needed for a balanced life
they are addictions to them too.
Hazel Love About 3 years back, I started saying the same thing.. Wishing that I went jogging or did yoga!! Even went walking across the green fields of England in the late summer afternoon sun setting 'magic hour' But instead, I continued to sit on the sofa and imagined what it would be like ... I guess I was preparing for it subconsciously because sure enough, I'm out walking the doggies so much more, in all seasons and I've got my own yoga mat and favourite place to put the mat Disney, get on it and 'pull some shapes' lol
Still not jogging though.
You think so therefore you are...
Finally I have found something that could just work for me. Since being a small child, I have always thought "what's the point to anything?". I have felt like the freak, but I am right, there IS no point to anything. I have filled this emptiness with alcohol for 33 years now. Time to face it. Thank you so much.
I feel his honesty in every word he says.
This is amazing. Just thank you, Leo. THANK YOU.
When I read the title I was like: again no video about enlightenment, damn :'(. But this video is one of the best if not the best I've seen from you, it really resonates with me! Thank you
I continue to share this video to this day. It's how I quit smoking cigarettes. Thank you!
When he said pot, I felt the Universe speaking to me 😂
LMAO
Oh my god, u are so funny....
Thank you for another Excellent Video, Leo!
Gabor Mate’ has done a lot of work in addictions. He teaches that 97% of addictions come from childhood traumas. That the opposite of addiction is Connection. I believe that many of us that have had addictions, need to connect with ourselves and learn to forgive and love ourselves, too.😊♥️✌️
This man is brilliant, this has been a true game changer. First weekend of trying this and oh my god. Bro, this works if you just follow his exact words to the T.
I'm going to try this I'm tired of my addictions
Whats the routine that you're following ?
Self-actualization is about Living life to the fullest vs fixing a problems or an addiction...that’s a nugget of info right there.
When you said fear of emptiness. I got a existential crisis.
I have become so powerful through your teachings, that I am no longer addicted to watching your videos. Thank you!
Your videos are addicting. Now what do I do ?🙀
+king nick Cut down to once a week. On Sundays. :)
+king nick HAHA
+king nick Hehe! Luckily you have the option to go without Leo for a week, without missing any content;)
Lol I guess once a week ain't to bad
+king nick Do nothing.
I can't begin to explain just how much this instantly resonated with me. It felt like... Something that had been disconnected for a very long time, suddenly became reconnected. That's the best way I can explain it. This is the only thing in all my years of various hard core addictions of one kind or another, that felt like it would work. That I didn't sit the entire time, listening scornfully, and discounting the validity of from the beginning. From the first two minutes of the video, I was paying attention. I felt relieved, because for the first time, this solution, and this explanation for my addiction, made sense to me. I couldn't poke holes in the logic. And this is the first thing that has actually gotten me sober from many chemical addictions of different kinds, but also from many soft addictions I didn't know were addictions. Scorn. Criticism of others... And many more. You are a gift to the world and I thank you for sharing what you've learned and ways to become self actualized. You're videos and such are changing and saving, more lives than you imagine I'm sure. The only other guidance I've had that has deeply transformed how I think and helped me learn more about who and what I am, and what this thing called life is about, is Jordan Peterson. Another very intelligent mind, that this world desperately needs. You two coming together for a discussion would be an absolutely amazing thing. At least I imagine it would be. I'm sure with two great minds such as yours, would result in some pretty amazing ideas. And one heck of a video. Just my opinion. I wonder if either of you have listened to one another's videos, and if so how you felt about what it was you heard.
Hehe, you will be disappointed in my opinions on JP. But baby steps. You can only grow so fast ;)
Except Jordan Peterson believes in God.
I wish I had a friend like you
If you just watch this entire video, you will be cured.😬
It took strength in me not to search for more information.
I impulsively wanted to know MORE.
I try to teach this to people as well. That all things can become addictions.
I have had the hardest time letting go of sugar and unhealthy foods as well as coffee
I've also let go of an addiction to cigarettes.
My husband is recovering from drug and alcohol addiction so it is my priority to find healthier habits.
The silence technique clicks though because my husband was in detention centers as a child, and heavily medicated. He spent a lot of time alone in confinement and I believe that caused trauma leading to him constantly needing something to occupy his time, to distract him.
Leo, America was gifted a great Russian philosopher in you.
This video is a game-changer! So much helpful information packed into one clip. I personally don't like promoting anything in comments,
Truly great ideas and techniques! Thank you so much for all the work you are doing and I am looking forward to video about existential crisis!
Time to revisit this video...for the billionth time.
We are addicted to family, to love, to affection - but nobody talks about it, everybody talks about heroine!
@@vola-2899 Pain is the reason people become addicted.
@@vola-2899 What's behind the mental addictions? Look deeper. Find the root cause. The mind will do anything to escape pain. I promise there are underlying issues behind your mental addictions.
We all have painful issues buried behind such things, or just buried.
I can help you if you want. Peace&love ❤❤
@@vola-2899 Good luck in your serenity! When you find what works for you that's a great thing. Peace&love❤❤
Mr Free1 • 18 years ago everyone is addicted to something I think we need addiction but some are very health and so are really damaging and unhealthy
@@vola-2899 yes!!!! I legit just came to this realization a week ago. My brother and friend helped me realize this. My addiction was trying to find love and validation in men. Then I realized what I was doing was bad. So I stopped.... but guess what I did? I replaced it with another one. My new addiction is falling for men that are broken and have a lot of problems in hopes that I can help and save them. And then when I cant I bring myself down. I need to realize its not my job to fix everyone. I can try but at the end of the day they are their own people and I shouldn't be hard on myself. And I need to stop doing this to myself cuz I end up the one being hurt.
Powerful message for anyone who feels like their behaviors are addicted.