Restaurant Etiquette: How to Dine Out Like a Gentleman

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    Today, we talk about restaurant etiquette or how to dine out like a gentleman without embarrassing yourself or committing any faux pas. Restaurant dining presents an interesting human dynamic similar to flying in an airplane, you're in a public space and you have to behave in a way so others around you are comfortable and you are, too. Also, dining in a restaurant represents a lot of a person's etiquette and social skills and because of that, it's very popular with employers to take potential employees or key leadership people out to a restaurant to see how they behave. So without further ado, let's walk through the essential restaurant etiquette that you can apply for business dinners, celebrations, events, or dates. Before you even step inside the restaurant, there are a few things to consider beforehand.
    Rule number 1, make sure you can afford it so you don't stretch yourselves too thin, financially. Eating out isn't cheap, especially in a group situation, it can be sometimes awkward to split bills or come up with something so just going to a restaurant with a mindset of ordering water and the cheapest appetizers won't always work.
    Also, if you've specific food preferences like gluten-free or if you're allergic to seafood or anything else, make sure the restaurant can accommodate that because having a long ordeal with the waiter isn't the best solution. Most importantly, make a reservation. It's the easiest way to skip a line. If the restaurant doesn't accept the reservation, it's maybe not the best place to go out for a business dinner or a date because it's completely embarrassing to wait with a business guest or a date and you have zero control about how long it's gonna take or not.
    Now, in a restaurant, there are typically a few modifications. First of all, while at a private home, the silverware for the entire meal will be laid out on the table, that's not the case at a restaurant. Typically, servers bring you the appropriate silverware for your course, maybe the spoon for the soup or a steak knife for the meat. If there is a lot of silverware on the table, it means you start from the outside and work your way in. Also in the US, you will often find two forks and one knife; that means they'll bring you another knife for your main course or sometimes they want you to reuse your knife. Personally, I always like to have new utensil for every course so I don't mix any flavors. If you need more silverware, simply ask, they are always happy to accommodate you.
    If you travel abroad, try to understand a tipping culture. In Germany, it's okay to round up and more is not expected. In Japan, it's downright rude and people won't accept your tip even if you offered it to them. Once you've paid, depart in a reasonable amount of time. In the US, typically, restaurants have multiple seatings a night so I would say 30 minutes after you paid is a good time to leave. If they're not busy and there are many open tables, you can stay as long as you want.
    0:00 Introduction
    1:07 MAKE SURE YOU CAN AFFORD IT
    2:26 1A. SHOW UP ON TIME
    3:20 DRESS ACCORDINGLY
    3:52 WHAT ABOUT COATS AND HATS?
    4:45 MEETING YOUR FELLOW DINERS
    5:32 HOW TO SIT AT A RESTAURANT
    6:13 HOW TO ENGAGE WITH STAFF
    7:28 HOW AND WHAT TO ORDER
    9:16 KEEP YOUR PHONE OFF THE TABLE
    9:42 HAVE GOOD TABLE MANNERS
    14:10 2. DON'T GIVE IN TO PEER PRESSURE
    15:52 COMPLAINTS
    20:52 ONLINE REVIEWS
    22:01 OUTFIT RUNDOWN
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  • @nathanborms5960
    @nathanborms5960 4 года назад +1716

    Shoutout to Preston for being the third wheel in this one

    • @anthonybeard2747
      @anthonybeard2747 4 года назад +68

      Bro I feel his pain.

    • @almartin3759
      @almartin3759 4 года назад +11

      Hahah!

    • @iqbalroskolnikov1391
      @iqbalroskolnikov1391 4 года назад +24

      Nathan Borms he is enjoying getting away without paying. May be he should follow these rules as well

    • @needfoolthings
      @needfoolthings 4 года назад +18

      You do realize that a third wheel makes the vehicle more stable?

    • @theplasticdesert2408
      @theplasticdesert2408 4 года назад +8

      Nathan Borms *until later in the evening 😉

  • @morningstar8187
    @morningstar8187 4 года назад +4312

    Can’t wait to apply those skills at McDonald’s.

    • @onemanshow4116
      @onemanshow4116 4 года назад +558

      I tried this. A young man (whom I can only assume was the waiter) asked to take my jacket. I have not seen him or the jacket since that day.

    • @nursen2106
      @nursen2106 4 года назад +68

      :-) a colleague of mine, a french, always used the paper tissues, that we could get in our companies, low key cantine, the way, Raphael did show here. on his lap. and he always sat upright. would be amusing to see that in McDonald's

    • @garmtpug
      @garmtpug 4 года назад +104

      It's proper to have good manners anywhere!

    • @kristiadihartanto2623
      @kristiadihartanto2623 4 года назад +51

      I can't wait to apply at my own house.

    • @SpamMouse
      @SpamMouse 4 года назад +71

      One can dine with style at McDonald's it is the person not the venue.

  • @derlachendevagabund7942
    @derlachendevagabund7942 4 года назад +1777

    My father taught me - even if you are invited, always have enough money with you to pay for everyone if necessary

    • @SuperKiko112
      @SuperKiko112 4 года назад +366

      This is so true . Thats why i eat alone

    • @IIIrandomIII
      @IIIrandomIII 4 года назад +44

      Der lachende Vagabund
      My father never needed to teach me to carry enough money.
      The lesson was unnecessary. Lol.

    • @DavidLLambertmobile
      @DavidLLambertmobile 4 года назад +88

      In my view, if you invite someone out, you should pay. A business lunch or dinner. A formal date with a woman. If a group or people are meeting at a restaurant for breakfast, lunch the most wealthiest person should pay or it should be a business expense, corp 💳. Its tacky & gouche to make a issue over 💲 at a table. The waiters or servers look down on it & the person who offered will be mortified. 😲

    • @masterchief5437
      @masterchief5437 4 года назад +44

      Eat and run mate

    • @TVSuchty
      @TVSuchty 3 года назад +80

      @@DavidLLambertmobile If a group or people are meeting at a restaurant for breakfast, lunch the most wealthiest person should pay or it should be a business expense, corp 💳.
      I disagree completely. Anyone should pay their bill.

  • @emceha
    @emceha 4 года назад +1079

    Hey man. I'm a guy in my 30s, raised in poor rural Poland. Now I live in Copenhagen and I feel like a Neanderthal every time I have to be social with my coworkers or Danish friends. Your videos really help me, keep up good work Sven.

    • @SuperKiko112
      @SuperKiko112 4 года назад +35

      If you go back home you will be more at ease.

    • @ahmadtugimin9916
      @ahmadtugimin9916 4 года назад +5

      emceha or u choose the wrong crowd

    • @razzi0718
      @razzi0718 4 года назад +22

      Huh, I find it odd that you have had that experience in Denmark.. I’m Danish and I have the perception of danes to not be very polite or have very good manners at a restaurant for an example

    • @adamsilverman2
      @adamsilverman2 4 года назад +8

      Well it's a cheap price for a sturdy east-european head, ready to outdrink any western spies

    • @romanz9342
      @romanz9342 4 года назад +12

      it's all in your head buddy

  • @nancyoffenhiser4916
    @nancyoffenhiser4916 4 года назад +580

    A funny story Sven. My father worked for the JC Penney company and when he went for his lunch with Mr. Penney he was warned by the secretary because she liked him, to taste his food first before he salted it. Mr. Penney didn't trust anyone who seasoned their food before tasting it.
    My father was hired.

    • @Jay-vr9ir
      @Jay-vr9ir 4 года назад +55

      I took a chef training course years ago and the chef always said it was an insult to the chef, to salt your food before taking a sample..The chef would always say, try the food first , to see if it needs salt.

    • @Originalman144
      @Originalman144 4 года назад +33

      It makes sense. Why season something if you don't even know what you are seasoning it. (The only exception is a salad like a Caesar salad where cracked black pepper was not added in preparation).

    • @BOOLERTHANOPPS
      @BOOLERTHANOPPS 3 года назад

      This is fire

    • @colonial6452
      @colonial6452 2 года назад +17

      OMG. As a college student in 1968, I was interviewed for a position with JCP and received this same advice. Got the job, too.

    • @hihosh1
      @hihosh1 2 года назад +8

      My father taught me to taste the food before I use salt

  • @virksaab9454
    @virksaab9454 4 года назад +88

    Well I'm from India and about a month ago i came here in Canada for study, what I noticed first thing was that people over here care for each other. I went to a mall and while entering A guy was on phone and as he was coming out i was entering he came out and hold the door for me even though he was on the phone which really surprised me. So now whenever i get the chance i do the same thing so that I can get mixed up with these guys.

  • @bosvigos9165
    @bosvigos9165 4 года назад +452

    This fascinates me, as do all your vids. I am an Englishwoman and was taught all of these things from an early age. I was born when women wore hats and gloves, as did men, as a matter of course. It is nice to see people being educated about these things still. Thank you so much.

  • @scsmith4604
    @scsmith4604 2 года назад +130

    My grandparents would have loved the Gentleman's Gazette. I usually visited her and my grandfather at Christmas time. We always went to a nice restaurant at least once during the visit. I was given a proper etiquette lesson from my grandmother each visit. When we were visiting my grandparents would always pay the bill if it was just us at the dinner but if there were other friends of theirs joining then one interesting thing my grandfather would do would excuse himself during the meal or ahead of the meal to meet with the maitre di' in private. He would settle the bill at that time with the establishment. At the end of the meal, I remember the staff of the establishment would always come to the table and thank my grandfather for his patronage and ask that we all visit again soon. As I grew older I realized that he was paying ahead and tipping for service. I do not remember ever having poor service. Perhaps it is due to him settling the bill and tip in this manner.

    • @jimstark643
      @jimstark643 Год назад +13

      Your grandfather was a true gentleman and a scholar. I think such a classy gesture today would never go unnoticed, even for the youngest & most uncouth of diners.

    • @Teresa-K
      @Teresa-K 4 месяца назад +1

      Your grandfather certainly had great manners and was a fine gentleman.

  • @evonica3912
    @evonica3912 2 года назад +58

    11:55 In some eastern cultures we are taught that “you should go to the food, the food does not come to you”. So you would meet the food halfway or bend your head towards it, as it’s a sign of humility. To sit upright and bring the food to you can be seen as arrogant or uncultured. It’s amazing how some dining customs can differ so dramatically between cultures!

    • @roselee4445
      @roselee4445 2 года назад +8

      Yes read up first , but I understood him to say, in USA, ON CONTINENT, IN EUROPE

    • @EE-uj6tw
      @EE-uj6tw 10 дней назад

      In western culture we consider that “the pig with his head in the trough”
      Usually seen with elbows on the table and about 20 centimetres from food to the mouth

  • @Officialhelpkenet
    @Officialhelpkenet 4 года назад +1286

    Really bad guide, I went to McDonald's with my gal and there was no host to greet us and in the only wardrobe I could find (which was very far into the restaurant) they said I wasn't allowed to be there. Then we sat at our table for a solid hour before any waiter showed up, and he had the audacity to tell us to go up to a counter to order the meal!

    • @JamesRDavenport
      @JamesRDavenport 4 года назад +77

      And the Wine Steward at McDonald's wheels around a mop bucket.

    • @estevanperez6161
      @estevanperez6161 4 года назад +74

      Similar experience but the wine machine was out of order

    • @kurtmueller2089
      @kurtmueller2089 4 года назад +54

      joke is on you, in Switzerland McD and Burger King actually offer table-service as of recently. Also they won the award for healthiest food several times in a row.
      Sometimes It feels like living in lala-land.

    • @victorespino5650
      @victorespino5650 4 года назад +4

      Lol

    • @rupurrtpurrcy7502
      @rupurrtpurrcy7502 4 года назад +25

      That "they said I wasn't allowed to be there" really got me.

  • @aaronsakulich4889
    @aaronsakulich4889 4 года назад +297

    Not going to lie: not sure how this ended up in my recommendations and I was a bit wary, considering the plethora of video series for gentlemen out there. However, the advice regarding wine tasting and when not to send back food (i.e. if it's your own dumb fault) is DEAD ON. I have rarely heard this in these sort of videos, and never as succinctly. Well done!

    • @jamessamuel1255
      @jamessamuel1255 4 года назад +5

      Aaron Sakulich my thoughts and situation exactly. The way he presents all this advice and the way he speaks isn’t outdated or narcissistic, unlike other ‘channels for men’, it’s considerate of different possible circumstances, and well presented. Brilliant channel.

  • @samtsang8471
    @samtsang8471 4 года назад +63

    A tip on dining with kids is to feed them a light meal and keep them involved in conversations. I've had my kids dine with me in white table cloth restaurants since they're toddlers. They behave best when they're not famish. If we keep them engaged and if we keep our inside voice on, they'll also follow our lead.
    On paying the bill, if you're dining with Chinese clients or even hosts (not Chinese-American, but Chinese-Chinese), you'll find that they'll always insist on paying because that's the cultural etiquette. However, it's best to at least pretend to fight for the bill with them, even if they're the host. Fighting for the bill is considered part of being polite. Just letting them pay after they insist is considered rude. Of course, it's even worse if you're the host and your client paid. Don't expect to close any deal if you've done that.

  • @jamierife7789
    @jamierife7789 4 года назад +207

    We gotta find a date for Preston!

    • @iqbalroskolnikov1391
      @iqbalroskolnikov1391 4 года назад +5

      That lady is his wife.

    • @jamierife7789
      @jamierife7789 4 года назад +4

      @@iqbalroskolnikov1391 Yeah, I know. We still need to fix single Preston up though.

    • @zang9147
      @zang9147 4 года назад +4

      @@iqbalroskolnikov1391 4:52 I hope that's his wife.

  • @ohmightywez
    @ohmightywez 2 года назад +35

    We were raised in the wilds of Arizona, but our mother stressed the necessity to hold and use our utensils properly.
    It never occurred to me that I ate in any way oddly until one charity gala in California when my table mate insisted I’d either been raised in Europe or that my parents had been European by the way I handled my cutlery.
    It took me quite a while to convince her I was a yokel from a small town. lol

  • @georgelush1998
    @georgelush1998 4 года назад +122

    If the glass has a stem, hold it by the stem. Yes! The stem is there so the temperature of your hand does not affect the temperature of the beverage.

    • @mapledoodle5516
      @mapledoodle5516 4 года назад +1

      These people are Neanderthals, George!

    • @admiralcraddock464
      @admiralcraddock464 2 года назад +5

      But if it`s a red wine you might want to increase the temperature slightly, holding it by the bowl will do just that

    • @rossmaclean3405
      @rossmaclean3405 2 года назад +1

      Didn’t know this gunna look fancy when I get smashed

    • @jimklemens5018
      @jimklemens5018 2 года назад +1

      @@admiralcraddock464 You should never touch the bowl of the glass. Fingerprints are bad.

    • @jimstark643
      @jimstark643 Год назад

      Especially for a champagne flute. Warm glass of bubbly? Heaven forbid!

  • @joshuacormier7595
    @joshuacormier7595 4 года назад +56

    Thank you so much, Sven & others. I am a Canadian who personally sees traditional courtesy & etiquette vanishing by the day. This is helpful as I desperately wanted to bring some of this beautiful kindness back to the everyday gentleman. Again, thank you!

    • @gentlemansgazette
      @gentlemansgazette  4 года назад +11

      It is our pleasure. :)

    • @Jay-vr9ir
      @Jay-vr9ir 4 года назад +5

      It is sad , I live in Toronto and manners are going slowly , I thank the people waiting on me , they usually do not , thank me in return. I do not know if you know ,I have never been , but is Manitoba really as friendly as advertised on Manitoba car plates?

    • @joshuacormier7595
      @joshuacormier7595 4 года назад +1

      Well, I am actually on the west coast, not the east. British Columbia, not Manitoba. However, I have a lot of friends who live in Ma itobe who say people out, you know, on the streets and in public, they've gotten more common courtesy in Washington state. I believe it's just a matter of who it is you manage to meet. But I wouldn't say it's the 'Golden Province' of Canada, no.

    • @brianmccarthy5557
      @brianmccarthy5557 2 года назад +2

      @@doroparker1702 If I eat in a place regularly I try to get to know my servers. I'm more likely to get the best service, advice and attention if we have a good relationship. Plus it makes dining there more comfortable. Being a regular at any dining place from a coffe shop to a good quality restaurant is the best way to get the best experience.

    • @doroparker1702
      @doroparker1702 2 года назад +1

      @@brianmccarthy5557 As long as the restaurant is owned by a constant owner and the waiters stay longer than just one season this is true.
      We got some restaurants owned and run by families where grandma started a relationship and we still love it there.
      Our kids can get chocolate lavacake for desert no matter if it is on the menu.
      It is like visiting family and friends.

  • @user-ly5mj2xw6o
    @user-ly5mj2xw6o 4 года назад +124

    When the corporal in our company asked where I learn my dining etiquette from, I said that I learned from Gentlemen's Gazette 👍

    • @MrDavey2010
      @MrDavey2010 3 года назад +12

      I wouldn’t expect he was impressed.

    • @killerdoc1077
      @killerdoc1077 2 года назад +4

      Should had lied lol

  • @admiralcraddock464
    @admiralcraddock464 2 года назад +34

    One thing that often caught me out was if I was at a table where the seating was close together, I wasn`t sure what bread plate or wine glasses were mine. A good acronym to remember is the German car BMW. From the left B= bread plate on your left, M= meal (dinner plate) in the middle and W= wine glasses to your right.

  • @THExxGHASTxx53
    @THExxGHASTxx53 4 года назад +819

    "If you order a $500 bottle of wine" yeah... maybe the video is not for me

    • @carlivandenis
      @carlivandenis 4 года назад +77

      xXKILLER56Xx You misunderstood the example. He is saying that if you were to order $100 worth of food and a $500 bottle of wine you would not leave, at 20%, a $120 tip. You would leave $20 for the food and perhaps another $5-10 tip for the work that went into uncorking and pouring the wine. Did that clarify it?

    • @disco.jellyfish
      @disco.jellyfish 4 года назад +27

      @@carlivandenis Who gives 20% of tip in the first place. Of what I have seen 10% is quite common in the US. And yeah, thats a really good amount of tip. If you give 10% tip in germany people are like: yoooo, thats a lot of tip cuz for a 50€ mealy most people dont give more than 2€ of tip, sometimes none at all. But I usually stick to that ~10%.

    • @Gilamath.
      @Gilamath. 4 года назад +33

      Disco Jellyfish you do as you like, but in the US where tipping has become solidified as supplemental pay to the staff, a 10% tip is very rude and should only be left when service is uncommonly poor (if ever). 20% is standard is standard is standard. Again, you do as you want. Slam doors and chew with your mouth open while you’re at it

    • @michaelrunnels7660
      @michaelrunnels7660 4 года назад +27

      @@disco.jellyfish The tipping guide is for fine dining, not a breakfast cafe.

    • @disco.jellyfish
      @disco.jellyfish 4 года назад +5

      @@michaelrunnels7660 Well Its just really rare that service is goog enough to be worth for 20% of tip. A few weeks ago I was customer of a quite expensive place. The dinner was good but the server was so insanely far away in his imagination that the cook had to bring me my dinner after he rang this bell 3 times. I gave him the amount of tip he deserved, which was just rounding up to the next full euro. I will not meet this place again.
      Good thing I found another place I will leave my money at in the future. Not only are the prices way more realistic, the food is better too and the service was fast, concettated and friendly, which is, why he also deserved a lot of tip. with a 25% tip maybe gave quite a lot, but I felt the servisce was worth it.

  • @Duncan2988
    @Duncan2988 2 года назад +28

    "ideally, you should order off the menu without modifications" as a Chef I appreciate this point. other than reasons related to allergies, it kind of hurts a bit when someone arbitrarily decides "I don't want xyz on my food". There often is a lot of thought, effort and experimentation put into these dishes we create, and we do so with a passion for what we do. So it can be quite annoying to the kitchen staff when people want to make modifications to their food based solely of of what they think might make a dish better.

    • @Beer_
      @Beer_ Год назад

      You ever think that maybe certain people aren't fans of certain things, so they're paying you to do it the way they wanted?

  • @GogebicYooper
    @GogebicYooper Год назад +43

    I so desperately hope that more people follow the techniques in this series of videos. Baseball caps, sleeveless t-shirts, blaring TVs,' and cell phones destroy an experience.

  • @MrRainierSalu
    @MrRainierSalu 4 года назад +38

    "the tone makes the music" man you can feel his german identity strongly with that phrase!

  • @CaptainSpaulding
    @CaptainSpaulding 4 года назад +36

    My in-laws invite us to dinner at a rather stuffy place that I was very uncomfortable going to for the longest time. Your videos have heklped give me the knowledge and the confidence to not only be comfortable, but I’m one of the best dressed gents in the place now and the men all stop to look haha. Thanks for all you do!

  • @corporate.security
    @corporate.security 4 года назад +41

    12:50, wow, Germany never disappoints; talk about being intense.

  • @marash3231
    @marash3231 2 года назад +12

    This video just highlights to me how much etiquette society as lost. Thanks for the refresher course 👍🏾.

  • @jec1ny
    @jec1ny 4 года назад +22

    Three piece suit + pocket watch + classic men's hat= Gold.

    • @hopefletcher7420
      @hopefletcher7420 2 года назад +3

      My co-worker went to Texas for a business meeting in our Dallas office. He wore a three piece suit (very dapper).
      He overheard a guy in the hallway ask "Whose the mafia type?"

    • @roselee4445
      @roselee4445 2 года назад

      But some drug store cowpokes leave hat on at tables, or worse put it on the table,,, hair people

  • @kerrythomas6948
    @kerrythomas6948 4 года назад +103

    I'm from the South, and older, I always hold the door open for everyone in our group.( And anyone else either entering, or leaving the establishment. )

    • @susanmathis1682
      @susanmathis1682 4 года назад +5

      God bless you 💫✨💫✨💫mother for raising a gentleman 🤗
      God bless you for your kindness.

    • @charliefinlay6555
      @charliefinlay6555 4 года назад +2

      Absolutely correct! Mr. Raphael needs to learn these points of protocol.

    • @scottsteibel
      @scottsteibel 4 года назад +3

      My mom is from the south...she taught me the same. Thanks Mom

    • @DavidLLambertmobile
      @DavidLLambertmobile 4 года назад +5

      I live in Orlando. In 2019, you will often see a 20s age woman in a dress or nice outfit, nice shoes, purse, hair do. The "guy" will be in a tank top or sleeve less shirt, shorts, board shorts, flip flops or sandals. 🙄 no class, no concern.

    • @tazman5722
      @tazman5722 4 года назад +5

      @@DavidLLambertmobile
      We see that here in Canada also. The woman deserves much better and it looks ridiculous. No manners or respect on the guys part.

  • @Danielxulu
    @Danielxulu 4 года назад +80

    Great video. The differences between China and the western world are huge, including restaurante etiquette, this is what we need to know before we go to western countries.

    • @Christoff070
      @Christoff070 4 года назад +8

      Right but that doesn't mean China etiquette is wrong. I'm English but I slurp my noodles. I feel like some of these so-called etiquette that some of us still cling to is actually ways to be repressed and stuffy, instead of allow an evening to flow and be enjoyable.
      If I have to run through mental checklist before going on a dinner date, something is wrong. Honestly I'd rather stick to my good awareness of manners and respect for others than have to think precisely which fork and spoon goes where.

    • @Danielxulu
      @Danielxulu 4 года назад +21

      c j You are right, sometimes these “rules” can drive people crazy. I didn’t say Chinese etiquette is wrong, I said we as a Chinese need to know your habits and costumes before we go to your country. In Chinese, we have a word 入乡随俗, it means do the things local people do, or follow the etiquette as local people, it is just a matter of respect and behave properly in a different country and culture.

    • @Christoff070
      @Christoff070 4 года назад +2

      @@Danielxulu nice

    • @Christoff070
      @Christoff070 4 года назад +5

      @Dojocho maybe the older generation Chinese, but not the younger gen. I have several Chinese friends in their 30s, and they are cultured and respectful when eating and shopping. Please don't dig up a relic of past behaviour by a few pushy people and state it as though fact.

    • @gohantanaka
      @gohantanaka 4 года назад +11

      徐璐 so, the Chinese equivalent of “When in Rome”.

  • @benjaminlehman3221
    @benjaminlehman3221 4 года назад +74

    Etiquette, dressing up, and high class things have always fascinated me. Love this channel so much.

  • @mahdavimail
    @mahdavimail 4 года назад +9

    It's so interesting, I am from Iran and I grew up there. It's not written but our parents have learned us almost all of these rules traditionally. How small the world is!! Now I'm in North America and things are the same! Here we added some comfort to the rules which I find good. Thanks for video.

  • @rogaldorn605
    @rogaldorn605 2 года назад +7

    as an italian i can say something about paying,
    if you're a student like me and you go out with friends, usually everyone pays for what they ordered, if you go with friends to a fancier place usually you just split by heads so that everyone has enough money to pay for the meal, its not something that's taught to us but it's instinct

  • @cob9834
    @cob9834 3 года назад +21

    We need to treat the staff politely because they could do something with your food that you would rather not have done. Enough said. It does happen.

  • @GG-bw3uz
    @GG-bw3uz 4 года назад +22

    You Sir are a blessing for us socially awkward souls. Keep up the good work !

  • @hidoito5866
    @hidoito5866 4 года назад +34

    Nice to see that things my parents told me about are still up to date 30 years later. You should mention the volume of conversation though. So many loud people:/

  • @Goblin_Tank
    @Goblin_Tank 4 года назад +30

    When I first started to watch these I didn't care to much for the the what I am wearing portion of the video. I have since learned the importance of it because now I see the different styles and contrasts of dressing like a gentleman. Thanks for improving my life.

    • @cattycorner8
      @cattycorner8 3 года назад

      And the lives of those around you! Civlisation truly has it's benefits.

  • @Leningrad_Underground
    @Leningrad_Underground 4 года назад +16

    As an old Oilfield drilling hand. I just love this channel. Its like another planet. I am always delighted. liked and subscribed ages ago. There must be hope of redemption, even for Oilfield trash.

  • @PrivacyPlease_
    @PrivacyPlease_ 4 года назад +60

    I would also note as a caveat that when drinking from a host's fine crystal (for instance, in a home) you NEVER EVER EVER ”clink” their crystal.

    • @anthonybanderas9930
      @anthonybanderas9930 2 года назад +8

      Well, you shouldn't "clink" anyway.

    • @annettehatzman8058
      @annettehatzman8058 2 года назад +3

      AAAHHH! THANK YOU! There are some people with whom I spend a certain amount of time, usually including dining together, and they always clink the crystal - even when it's their own! - and it has always sort of freaked me out! I will continue to go along with it when with them, of course, since good manners includes never making people uncomfortable, but at least I now know NOT to clink elsewhere.

    • @annrrf1464
      @annrrf1464 2 года назад

      Clinking is superstitious so I avoid it. But that's a very good point

    • @jimklemens5018
      @jimklemens5018 2 года назад +1

      Ummmm... I have Riedel sommelier series glassware at my house and we touch glasses gently.

  • @2bitrasputin793
    @2bitrasputin793 4 года назад +11

    I once went to a restaurant with a good friend (Bill Kirkpatrick) who educated me to always take the napkin and put in on your lap right when you sit down, before you've been served anything, or even ordering. I guess Bill knows, he's a fancy worldly guy, so I always remember this each time I sit down at a table.

    • @Return_of_the_Dude
      @Return_of_the_Dude 10 месяцев назад +1

      Americans let it dangle from their necks it's crazy 🤣

  • @Akula114
    @Akula114 4 года назад +14

    Marvelous, as usual. More and more often I find there is a lot of comfort in knowing how to behave like a gentleman. When you understand proper etiquette and the reasons behind it, you can be relaxed knowing others aren't judging you negatively. Even if I am "low man on the totem pole" and may even not be dressed as expensively as others, they often forget and simply treat me as one of their own - because I am acting the part.
    I've often heard the excuse for poor manners or even the resistance to learning them actually results from ignorance masquerading to the juvenile "I just want to be me," "Those rules are just made up by people trying to act more important," and "I don't care what other's think... who died and left them to judge me?" The answers, in order, are 1. You are being you... a narcissistic buffoon 2. Those rules came into being as a way to show respect to others, an action wasted on a pretentious, self-centered child like yourself, and finally, 3. You are judged by everything you do. Your disrespect of others leaves the court of public opinion with only one verdict... you are condemned as a person of little if any value in a civilized society. You should get a job as a lighthouse keeper or fire lookout at Gila National Forest in New Mexico.
    Thanks. I'm glad I got that off my chest.

  • @ruthlewis6678
    @ruthlewis6678 4 года назад +8

    Fellas! Listen to this man. You would be amazed at how good you will feel knowing what to do in any situation. And you will be super cool.

  • @christinaFaith84
    @christinaFaith84 Год назад +11

    Taking your children to lower class places and working your way up, while always teaching manners at every place, makes it easier to bring them to a higher class place. Also, it shows that you care about how your children act not just for you but for others.

  • @razzi0718
    @razzi0718 4 года назад +43

    Take a shot every time Sven recommends the “table manners” video

  • @mirashova
    @mirashova 10 месяцев назад +1

    Thank God there are still man out there whos interested in etiquette!

  • @liams706
    @liams706 4 года назад +21

    I'm going out will my girlfriend's family next week. Thank you so much!

  • @chrisgarrett898
    @chrisgarrett898 4 года назад +51

    When Raphael blew the soup I laughed so hard

  • @rogerhwerner6997
    @rogerhwerner6997 2 года назад +5

    It's amazing that grown men don't already know these details. I learned them before I was 20. I'd forgotten in Europe it asking for a menu modification just isn't the norm. In France, I've seen American customers asked to leave if they can't deal with the menu.

    • @ladaminuetkittens5216
      @ladaminuetkittens5216 2 года назад

      French people were probably thinking you were British. They tolerate Americans much more.

  • @sherizaahd
    @sherizaahd 2 года назад +2

    Slurping soup is good manners in some cultures, or so I have been told.

  • @TomMcMorrow
    @TomMcMorrow 4 года назад +9

    As someone who by their chemistry lacks social etiquette, I've found videos like this and books like the Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Etiquette to do wonders for the Millennial generation's understanding of the correct way to do things. I get very excited whenever I see them come across the wire!

  • @James.D
    @James.D 4 года назад +30

    Great video! I think an episode on handshakes is in order. I saw some not so firm handshakes in his video. Its a pet peeve of mine when all I get in a handshake is the persons fingers. Im a firm believer that the webs of the thumb/index fingers should touch. No hard squeeze, but somewhat firm.

  • @GallantKnight98
    @GallantKnight98 4 года назад +36

    I work in a Deli that serves sandwiches and such, but a little more upscale, as I wear dress shoes and dress pants with a polo. I really wish people would follow basic etiquette rules, even at a ready-to-eat establishment like mine. I am one of the few ones that enjoy customer service but I am always amazed at how entitled people act! 🧐 😂

    • @DavidLLambertmobile
      @DavidLLambertmobile 4 года назад +4

      You are 💯 correct but in the 2020s good luck having class, style or panache. 🧐. People or "men" who clean items, wear fashion, know proper methods seems like a relic or a pariah.

    • @davidcrisp8791
      @davidcrisp8791 4 года назад +4

      Zion Gallant
      I totally agree. I heard this once and I try to live by it ..
      “ act like you’ve been there and you wanna come back “
      It drives me nuts the way adults act in public much less adolescents

  • @t9gear
    @t9gear 3 года назад +2

    This is the first time I watched any of your videos but it made me very comfortable and almost addicted to wanting to better myself and my manners

  • @patriciahiranocolquiet9126
    @patriciahiranocolquiet9126 Год назад

    We appreciate your presentation! Thank you!

  • @nicelyplayedgamer3777
    @nicelyplayedgamer3777 4 года назад +150

    Me watching this in bed while stuffing my face with Cheetos.

    • @cattycorner8
      @cattycorner8 3 года назад +4

      same. although with me it's usually exercise vids!

    • @roselee4445
      @roselee4445 2 года назад

      Keep elbows off your pillow please

  • @flightsimulatorblaine8727
    @flightsimulatorblaine8727 4 года назад +61

    Never clicked so fast, great Vid Raphael.

  • @fergusmallon1337
    @fergusmallon1337 4 года назад +72

    It is becoming difficult to find restaurants with table cloths - even good ones with exceptional menus will sit you down at a bare table and set it with utensils rolled up in paper serviettes. Hardly ever see a dress code. Usually, well dressed patrons wear the ubiquitous blue jeans with a sports shirt. Men, in particular, seem to compete for the most casual back yard attire.
    This is a shame because I like to be elegant.

    • @matthew8153
      @matthew8153 4 года назад +11

      Fergus Mallon
      I blame baby boomers

    • @user-iu1ru1qz7u
      @user-iu1ru1qz7u 3 года назад +1

      Maybe you shouldn't eat at McDonald's so much. And how is anything you said stopping you from being elegant? Quit whining.

    • @doroparker1702
      @doroparker1702 3 года назад +3

      In which country is this?
      Only in fast food places or at bars with small snacks you will find tables without cloth.
      This video is about restaurants not about fast food places.

    • @danielhalachev4714
      @danielhalachev4714 2 года назад +3

      @@doroparker1702 In my country tables without table cloths has become widespread even in restaurants

    • @roselee4445
      @roselee4445 2 года назад +1

      @@doroparker1702 maybe in Europe, but many restaurants the table is still half arse wet from the wipe, can see the missed areas, the server is offended if one asks for napkin to dry, water dripping off edge of table, seat wet where she used same cloth, wiped table with space cloth shevwiped seat where child standing on seat, had been in toilet, cutlery stopped on wet nasty table no service or anything,,,,, where, you ask, cheesecake factory mediocre place but not fast food

  • @elias4398
    @elias4398 4 года назад +21

    Austria is just perfect for gentlemen

  • @tarunnathani8499
    @tarunnathani8499 4 года назад +4

    loved how beautifully this video was made. slow pace, amazing information and great narration. i loved the whole video. keep it going

  • @christiankirkenes5922
    @christiankirkenes5922 4 года назад +5

    These are really helpful, thank you. The three of you are putting out some great videos.

  • @CrokeyTV
    @CrokeyTV 4 года назад +10

    I love your channel! Long time fan. Keep going, stylish as always.

  • @simbaevans.3301
    @simbaevans.3301 Год назад +1

    After watching this channel for now almost a week
    I am getting transformed day by day and getting enlightened

  • @britannia2129
    @britannia2129 4 года назад +3

    British etiquette allows tipping the soup bowl, but one tilts the bowl away from you, not towards you like one might with cereal

  • @brandonswendsen9248
    @brandonswendsen9248 4 года назад +6

    Manny's is a fantastic restaurant! I've always had exceptional experiences there.

  • @bryanharvey1689
    @bryanharvey1689 4 года назад +1

    I just stumbled upon this channel recently, but I absolutely love it. Very informative. Nice guide to things we, as men, SHOULD know. But sometimes, we can use a little “refresher”, and this is a perfect way to remind us how to be gentlemen. Great videos!

  • @joeheinecke5134
    @joeheinecke5134 3 года назад +1

    Your content is so thorough and so well laid out. I have learned a great deal and love the contrast between cultures. On a side note I bought my first Goodyear welted pair of shoes because of your videos. Thanks for your continuing education.

  • @mianfaran2470
    @mianfaran2470 4 года назад +7

    Thanks for uploading such an infomating things

  • @SilverSamurai12
    @SilverSamurai12 4 года назад +7

    Recently came across this channel when I was initially looking for info on a tweed blazer/suit. I've learned a lot. Great videos!
    The one thing I'm surprised you didn't mention (although maybe you did in the alcohol video) is when dining out don't be afraid to ask the sommelier for a wine recommendation. It's what we're trained for. The last thing you want to do is order the wrong wine for the meal and just ruin it all. Not to mention having to pay for it all!
    Red wine with fish? Sure SOME combinations work such as a pinot noir, but it's almost certainly not going to if you pick out a cabernet sauvignon from California or a shiraz from Australia.
    Anyways, keep up the awesome videos!

  • @1357MECA1357
    @1357MECA1357 4 года назад +3

    My dear, thank you for all your videos.
    With you, I am perfecting my manners (with the means that I have) and I am catching up in English.

  • @ypsiow1008
    @ypsiow1008 2 года назад +1

    Easy to understand, like your illustrations, thank you. It's interesting to learn that a restaurant has become a venue not only to feed the hungry but for socialising.

  • @michaellupu2080
    @michaellupu2080 2 года назад +4

    I gotta say, a lot of the "acting" I see on the Gent's Gazette channel is not to my liking, but the acting in this video is gold! The "do not do"s are really well made and funny! And the waiter was a good sport as well!
    Thank you for this video! It's invaluable.

  • @2bitrasputin793
    @2bitrasputin793 4 года назад +27

    Here's a tip from my English Butler friend (Jayne Wrightsman, Betsy Whitney, valet for the Queen Mother) , instead of saying "Can I get..?", "May I have..", the royalty and royally rich always make request of staff by saying, "Would it be possible...?". He laughed while telling me this and said, "Of course everything is possible, but that is how they always ask for things". Of course, ordering in Restaurants, that don't fly, just say "I'll have the...". But asking for a something else, this is a nice affectation to ape. (I think).

    • @simontuffen8243
      @simontuffen8243 4 года назад +2

      Brits under 35, who obviously watch too much American TV, now all seem to say "Can I get..." instead of "May I have..." or "Could I have...". I find it infuriating!

    • @MarkWilliams-gy9bi
      @MarkWilliams-gy9bi 4 года назад

      I always thought "may I have" was polite. But I suppose there *are* more elegant ways to phrase it.

    • @tazman5722
      @tazman5722 4 года назад

      @@MarkWilliams-gy9bi
      A lot of people I hear just say,
      "give me..." No manners.

    • @IIIrandomIII
      @IIIrandomIII 4 года назад +2

      2Bit Rasputin
      Would it be possible....
      ....to seem more pretentious!?

    • @dorianphilotheates3769
      @dorianphilotheates3769 4 года назад

      2Bit Rasputin - In my day, you didn’t have to ask for a thing - staff were expected to anticipate any request before you were even aware of it yourself. Then the War came; the October Revolution ruined everything...

  • @duanemiles1558
    @duanemiles1558 2 года назад

    And, again, you have to appreciate a good food server. like a good bartender who makes your cocktail. It is a talent to archive. It makes the evening.

  • @sirtfs
    @sirtfs 2 года назад

    I like this. Thank you for posting.

  • @DrNetz-nf4bn
    @DrNetz-nf4bn 4 года назад +26

    Lieber Herr Schneider,
    ich habe diesen Kanal erst vor Kurzem entdeckt und muss sagen, dass er einfach nur super ist. Ich liebe es, mir hier Inspirationen zu holen und immer wieder Ihre tollen Looks anzuschauen.
    Machen Sie weiter so, wie bisher! Ich finde Sie, und natürlich auch Preston, super!👍🏼
    Vielen herzlichen Dank für Ihre Mühe, die Sie sich jedes Mal geben... Es macht immer wieder sehr viel Spaß und ich schätze Sie sehr dafür!
    Ganz liebe Grüße
    Paul aus Niedersachsen.
    PS.: Ich weiß zwar nicht, wie viele deutsche Zuschauer Sie haben, aber ich persönlich würde mich freuen, wenn Sie vielleicht mal ein kleines deutsches Video machen würden. Das würde ich sehr spannend finden, wenn Sie mal die ganze Zeit deutsch sprechen würden. Es liegt natürlich bei Ihnen, ob Sie es für lohnend erachten.🙂😉

    • @louistostmann2049
      @louistostmann2049 4 года назад +6

      Ich kann mich dir nur anschließen, Gentleman's gazette ist einfach ein großartiger Kanal. Das ganze Team wirkt einfach nur freundlich, sympathisch und vor allem kompetent!
      Freundliche Grüße aus Sachsen
      Louis

    • @DrNetz-nf4bn
      @DrNetz-nf4bn 4 года назад +4

      Louis Tostmann Genau! Sie stehen auch für den klassischen Gentleman...

    • @oxysoxos
      @oxysoxos 4 года назад +5

      Ich kann deinem Kommentar nur zustimmen. Hier lerne ich so viele Dinge die viele Menschen meiner Generation scheinbar vergessen haben...

    • @TheVintageMusician
      @TheVintageMusician 4 года назад +3

      Ich schließe mich ebenfalls an. Gentlemen’s Gazette hat mein Leben bereichert

    • @filibuster8760
      @filibuster8760 4 года назад

      Ich finde ihm interessant. Sein Englisch is perfekt.

  • @tulsiram6144
    @tulsiram6144 4 года назад +5

    Thank you sir

  • @udayshah3615
    @udayshah3615 Год назад

    Best knowledge. Very well explained.

  • @ianlangsev5828
    @ianlangsev5828 4 года назад +1

    Nothing better than Manny’s in Minneapolis. It makes me so happy to know that the Gentlemen’s Gazette is from MN; love it!

  • @LeanBackMac
    @LeanBackMac 3 года назад +3

    Manny's steakhouse is awesome, one of my favorite spots!

  • @torbenlillegraven6783
    @torbenlillegraven6783 4 года назад +4

    The best RUclips Chanel! Dankeschön 😍

  • @940351579
    @940351579 2 года назад

    Wonderful to hear such polite tips directed at being a good person.

  • @michaelleyshon6986
    @michaelleyshon6986 4 года назад +1

    Nicely done. Thanks for sharing.

  • @civil150
    @civil150 4 года назад +5

    I love the fact I’m seeing Minneapolis! Sven I hope to run into you someday either out and about or on a racquetball court! Happy holidays GG team!

  • @ThaFashionAssassin
    @ThaFashionAssassin 4 года назад +163

    This is something I need to know. I'm 30 and feel like I still don't get it right.

    • @TomMcMorrow
      @TomMcMorrow 4 года назад +4

      If you're committed to learning, and there's no shame in admitting what you don't know, check out the Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Etiquette. This monster tome is 800 pages and my rule is if it's not in there, you can't be admonished for not knowing it!

    • @campkira
      @campkira 4 года назад

      only if you r rich... i got those down long time ago.. and now i can relex and don't care muchwith stiff

    • @slappy8941
      @slappy8941 4 года назад +1

      You should watch more old British movies.

    • @MrDavey2010
      @MrDavey2010 3 года назад

      Don’t take all of this as correct because it isn’t!

  • @linedog19delta
    @linedog19delta 2 года назад

    The more I see you're videos , the more I like it . Thank you for sharing your videos . I feel enlightened .

  • @JMontP
    @JMontP 3 года назад +2

    Great video. My mother taught me most of this from a young age! Thanks.

  • @m.p.maxplanation1726
    @m.p.maxplanation1726 4 года назад +41

    Gute Tipps für das nah gelegene Döner-Restaurant.

  • @dorsvenabili5573
    @dorsvenabili5573 4 года назад +6

    The “Savage Raphael” character in the video made me laugh audibly while watching this! Great video by the way :)

  • @Petergriffiths001
    @Petergriffiths001 Год назад +1

    Colour combination of his suit here is really awesome.

  • @spectre5x5
    @spectre5x5 4 года назад +1

    Excellent video!! You can also tell a lot about a person how they act and interact at a restaurant.

  • @Menuki
    @Menuki 2 года назад +4

    Bear in mind, in many Asian cultures, it’s entirely appropriate to slurp the soup. The aeration helps cool and enhances the flavor.
    Your Japanese guests aren’t being rude

  • @buttermepancake3613
    @buttermepancake3613 Год назад +4

    I'm a trans man, and I really appreciate the helpful advice. Having not been socialized with this information, I have to essentially relearn it as an adult, and videos like these have really helped me build my confidence. Thank you!

  • @jonathananderson1206
    @jonathananderson1206 3 года назад

    Thank you Sven, these videos are fantastic.

  • @albertwoods3921
    @albertwoods3921 2 года назад

    Your videos are magnificent Thank you

  • @davidnavarro4821
    @davidnavarro4821 4 года назад +7

    Nice follow-up to « table manners » video ! What I like about your videos is that you don’t tell your viewers the usual « be sure to subscribe » formula. Instead you just shows your channel’s logo with the word « subscribed ». Discreet and efficient!
    By the way have you done a video on gentleman’s manners? I wanted to know your opinion on hand kissing.

    • @MegaMagicdog
      @MegaMagicdog 2 года назад

      I'm a lady and I love it when a man kisses my hand!

  • @luisvalles4535
    @luisvalles4535 4 года назад +78

    Paying the Bill: El que invita, paga.

    • @billace90
      @billace90 4 года назад +5

      Correcto.

    • @kelseycalvo8258
      @kelseycalvo8258 4 года назад +3

      Exactamente

    • @scottab140
      @scottab140 4 года назад +3

      If he buys the dinner, she may offer to be dessert.

    • @scottab140
      @scottab140 4 года назад +2

      The woman in your life is allowed to take you out on special occasions like your birthday, that is when she is extraordinary.

    • @nealgrey6485
      @nealgrey6485 3 года назад

      scottab140: Profound.

  • @robertchavez5483
    @robertchavez5483 Год назад

    I discovered your channel and excellent advice about a year ago. Please keep the videos coming.
    I work in a bar/restaurant so I appreciate the tip on dining with children. For sure, don't be the person who lets the kids disturb other diners or make huge messes for the staff to clean.

  • @Er.Sunil.Pedgaonkar
    @Er.Sunil.Pedgaonkar 7 месяцев назад

    Thank you for nice tutorial!

  • @billyboland2391
    @billyboland2391 4 года назад +8

    When eating soup the correct way is so spoon the soup away from you, from the furthest edge of the soup bowl. Not spoon towards yourself.

    • @jonwiley2592
      @jonwiley2592 4 года назад +3

      You are so right. And if we're being strict, you DRINK soup (consomme, etc), not eat it unless it's hearty with meat or vegetables.

    • @1nv1ctu58
      @1nv1ctu58 3 года назад +1

      Spoon the soup away from you, so you mean TOWARDS the furthest edge not FROM?

    • @nealgrey6485
      @nealgrey6485 3 года назад

      In NYC I took a class, “Let Sarah improve your table manners”, and she said the soup spoon did not HAVE to scoop toward the opposite side of the bowl. I also learned that I should have sat opposite her, to get more individual attention.

    • @roselee4445
      @roselee4445 2 года назад

      @@nealgrey6485 well Sarah is incorrect

  • @2bitrasputin793
    @2bitrasputin793 4 года назад +13

    In Michigan, no matter who much you 'thank you" to the waiter for what they bring you, their response will always be, "No Problem".

    • @nothertreeinbox
      @nothertreeinbox 4 года назад

      Not true.

    • @nancyoffenhiser4916
      @nancyoffenhiser4916 4 года назад +1

      Iowa too.

    • @Jay-vr9ir
      @Jay-vr9ir 4 года назад +1

      Ontario as well , not a problem . You are welcome is long gone.

    • @thefutureisnowoldman7653
      @thefutureisnowoldman7653 2 года назад

      Yeah the same thing on the West Coast I honestly prefer no problem to your welcome. It's much less smug

  • @EquipmentReviewer
    @EquipmentReviewer 3 года назад

    Beautiful couple. You two look great together.

  • @madreus
    @madreus Год назад

    Just found this channel, I like it a lot. Thank you!!