I was so shy at that age, my mother actually set me up on a blind date with a young girl she worked with. I married her. We just celebrated 47 years. Guess that worked out well. Update, we just celebrated 50 years together...in Tahiti.
the group situation or double date situation allows for your date to see how you act around other people and allows your date to see what kind of people you associate with. In the end it is about being respectful and courteous towards your date
Essentially the moral of the story is invite your favourite crush out to do what you normally do. Somewhere where it isn’t awkward and you feel you can be yourself to some degree! 😊
@Zeek Banistor You're so supercilious, yet you seem unaware of the simple fact that styles of behavior continually change, for better and worse. The kids in this film would have horrified previous generations, what with their ankles showing, their makeup, and the "jungle music" (the term shocked elders used for the swing era bands). Girls bobbing their hair was horrifying to elders in the 1920s. You just sound foolish.
When I was a teenager, nobody gave me any advice on dating. I knew a lot of swell girls but I didn't know how to date them. The closest advice I received about dating was from health class at school, which only addressed STD's like HIV. I think it would be a swell idea to bring back videos like these to teach life skill to teenagers, rather than just teaching them how to put on a condom.
So basically, the best dates involve an activity; not just eating awkwardly in front of them at a table. This video was a huge help. My boyfriend and I went to the carnival for our first date a little while back. Super fun!
Back then that was considered just an average man talking or something, i mean just look at the boy in the video talking like that 😂 kinda crazy to be honest
@@helenacorreia7613It’s still better. I’m a man that got/gets almost every woman I ever really wanted so far, and the way women act (not all but most) now is close to basic primates or prostitutes, then complain I don’t stick around or call back. Life has never been perfect but I can guarantee people were more polite, classy and less degenerate at the time.
Well, Dreamyfool, my generation did watch and grow up by these videos. Many of us are/were still married to the same person until death did do us apart. There are still people like that in younger generations - guys (and gals) that dress nicely, have good manners, and show respect to one another. But understand that you will not find these people at the local bar. I was married to my late wife 30 years, how could I want more? She wrote to me every single day while I was in combat, not even knowing that I would make it back or marry her. Her love kept me alive through hell - do not give up, there are still some good souls around to "build a nest". Peace be with you, Ciao, L
I try to be very caring and chivalrous but unlike people in the 50s I have and arm full of tattoos and big gauges. Idk if you’d go for that sort of thing😉⚓️💎
Ironically enough, this is why I’m struggling so much in dating. I get rejected left and right because I’m either seen as “not their type” or “too nice”. The majority of the girls I’ve dated in the past have had a history with abusive boyfriends who beat and cheated on these girls. It’s amazing how flipped everything became from the 1950s and how girls now have the upperhand in controlling exactly how they want their dating life to be and guys have no say. At least in the east coast of the United States
I just came here after watching " young Mans Fancy " which is my very favorite of these old films after I first saw it on Mystery Science Theater years ago. The actor playing Jeff is the same actor from " young Mans Fancy " and is still living at 97 years old which is great!
Cheers to a time when people still knew how to socialise, despite being shy and treat each other with respect and politeness, despite barely knowing each other.
Lol treat each other with respect yet back then black people weren’t even allowed to use the same water fountain as everyone else. Not to mention husbands would routinely beat their wives for small things. Where is the respect in that?
@@jacklaker1939yes, it’s much better now to have black on black gang violence in the streets and 50% of all marriages ending in divorce. So much better now. All things considered, people seemed much happier back then, and society seemed much more cohesive.
@@starlit_hawser11 they had gang violence back then too like with the mafia for example. And the reason they had lower divorce rates back then is because society generally frowned upon divorce. And yeah obviously when you look at videos from back then they’re gonna seem happy because these videos are basically a highlight reel of these times. Like they aren’t gonna show you a video of a man beating his wife or people getting shot to death in ww2 because that wouldn’t display happiness. Yes there were definitely some good aspects that we lost but overall you are extremely lucky to live in 2023 instead of like 1960 and below
@@jacklaker1939 You have a really good point, I can't argue with that. We've improved a lot since then, although there are some aspects from that time, as I mentioned, that would be nice to have back. Life is a give-and-take, I suppose.
5:41 The most hurtful part of this: people are so starved for even just simple platonic community activities these days. Imagine there being a literal list of activities and events you could just sign up for, right there.
This is 70 years old and it’s surprisingly good advice. Just talk with the person, find out what they like to do and then go on a date. It’s much better than most of the “mind games” people give as advice.
I still remember the first date when I was allowed to drive. It was my dad's car, a '64 Pontiac Catalina. I consider it my first real date. It was after my sophomore year in high school, the summer of 1967. I was 16 and had my driver's license for a couple of months. The girl sat next to me in a study hall in the school auditorium. I surprised her with my telephone call and probably not in a good way. I believe she was unprepared with an excuse to say no. I asked her to go to a movie. With a discernable lack of enthusiasm, she agreed. After the movie I think we went for ice cream. There was no kiss goodnight. A few days later I called her for a second date and that time she was ready. She said no with an assortment of excuses. I felt downtrodden for about a week. Now, over 50 years later, those few days are filed in my brain under _Marty's nostalgia_ and it now brings a worldly smile. She is on Facebook. She is a grandmother in her upper 60s and works in a little craft shop. We are not Facebook friends. In fact, she may not remember my name.
To The Brilliance of Martin Teboski Fifty years past and you still remember so much about the whole thing, right down to the initial telephone call. And yet she declined a second date. As a diehard romantic, I can appreciate bittersweet nostalgia.
Group dates are perfect. You get to see how they interact with others, how they place themselves in social situations, and less pressure in terms of being alone. Man, when I was dating, we would go to the woods, the park, a hike, and mainly IN our friend groups! Dodged so many bullets that way.
@@omuffin1854 great question. Put yourself out there. Online or in real life. Build connections and relationships based in common interests and consistency first! I understand how lonely no friends can feel like. You will overcome this challenge and realize you were able all along!"
how the heck do women worsen it up lol i thought it was shitty people like andrew tatti and more of those bald single people that gave the disgusting advice, i mean tik tok is just completely unhelpful but those guys really want us to repel women more than attract
@@JoeKaye-hn5dt I thought ‘groovy’ was more in the sixties around the time of the hippie movement. I remember a song in the sixties when I was growing up called, ‘Feeling groovy’.
My name is George. I identify super closely with the George in this video. It was truly a George thing to do. Only other Georges can understand what I mean.
I like that they put an emphasis on getting to know each other well and becoming friends. Modern day dating focuses just of the intimacies of a relationship rather then the connection. I feel like it's something we've forgotten about. It makes sense why most relationships nowadays don't last.
@@daniel6648Most likely you will only see the person once and never meet them again. Also it is better to get to know the person when meeting someone for the first time before anything.
Currently a Freshman in High school that’s infatuated with the 50’s, and even more so with a girl I met last week. Just last Friday, I asked her if she’d like to have lunch with me and she said yes, I’m now here looking for advice, and I’d like to thank whoever uploaded this
Do quick and easy food. I literally remember freshman yr like it was yesterday (am a freshman in college now) because of the quarantine cut my hs yrs short.. don't see it as a date, don't pedestalize her
My mother would buy depression glass for nickels and dimes in thrift shops in the '60's. Even before she passed in 1985, some of the pieces went for a couple hundred dollars.
I know this is just supposed to be a social guide, but I was really rooting for Nick the whole time, waiting for when he’d get the courage to talk to Kay about another date! 😂
I'm 70 and have ONE piece of advice for old fashioned dating. If he calls you for a date, you have a nice dinner or whatever and then you wait for him to call you again? Rather call him THE NEXT DAY. Be 'in a hurry' as when at work... and THANK HIM FOR DINNER or whatever but DON'T talk future dates... just a quick dose of 'nice'. I can't believe how few young women know this trick. It can end in marriage.
Dear madam, I'm sorry to report that women today aren't interested in being treated with respect. They laugh at men that treat them well and make fun of them with their female friends. They quickly put them in what is called in today's vernacular "the friend zone". The men that women today obsess over is guys that treat them like trash: cheat, lie, ignore them, dating dozens of other women at the same time, pressure them sexually right away, etc. Women today would rather share a man that's out of their league with several other women, than marry a good man who's at her level.
he checks in with her so often throughout!! and revolving time spent together around activities has always been my favourite way to date, over staring at each other over coffee!
@@goshawk4340 If you're still small on the inside, no amount of money or muscles will conjure a satisfactory and loving relationship. Certainly helps to take care of yourself though, not just for women but for career, social life and everything else.
Just watched this with my grandpa born 1910. He says it's just like any other advertisement or a movie portraying what the society wants to be but rarely are, like a good guide for what to be. Nothing changed for the last 70+ years, we still making movies and advertisements on how better we should be.
@@Least_Banging_Headbanger No one said but tons of people think and say that it was and is real, even me. We want to believe in better things, not reality.
In 1950, I was only 10. My very first date was in 1957, right after graduating the 6th grade and going into junior high. I was 13. It was on a saturday. I went to her house to get her. I already knew her mom so when she asked where we were going, I said we were going to the Ice cream parlor for an Ice cream sundae and back to her house to play records. She approved ! (It was a 10 minute walk from her house). I remember how nervous I was, but I was so excited because now I thought I was becoming a teenager ! We went back to her house where she promptly threw up and I went home ! 😂😂😂 I couldn't believe what had happened. Anyway, we went to different junior high, so we never saw eachother again. Oh, young love. To learn a lesson so early in life ! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Exactly! You're so right! This has been something this generation is missing, especially in the U.S. I am of the opinion that both the prevalence of the internet and suburbanization have been driving factors in this loss of community. It's sad, but that's reality today.
Yup. I would love for people to be able to socialize more, and more often. Unfortunately they all need to work full time jobs just to survive and we all don't think the same way, and many people get offended just for what you believe.
My first date happened like this. When I was 15 in 1973 I was in a park and an extremely cute blonde haired blue eyed girl with a perfect figure was throwing a football with her brother and a friend. She was 14. At one point they threw the ball over by me and so I threw it back and then we started playing touch football. I tackled her a couple of times and she was really playful and seemed to flirt with me and I got her name. A few days later a friend of mine who was 16 told me he was going on a date and asked me if I could find a girl for a double date. I asked around and found out how to get in touch with the girl I met in the park and asked her about a double date. To my surprise she said yes. So my friend came over with his date driving his dad's pickup. One bench seat. I got in and we went and picked up my date and the four of us went to the skating rink. We skated for about an hour and then sat down. We talked for a while and I got close to her and then leaned over and started kissing her. We kissed for like 15 minutes straight but then she said "everyone is watching us" so we stopped. Later we went to the drive in and ordered a cherry lime sprite. Then we started kissing again for 10 more minutes and I asked her if she had fun and she said "well one thing I know for sure.... you are a really good kisser!" That was one of the funnest days of my life partly because the girl looked almost like Marilyn Monroe. She soon found a guy taller and more handsome than me but I was just happy for that one night. I just couldn't believe that all happened. Later my dad found out that I was kissing a girl at the skating rink in front of everyone. He wasn't mad though, he seemed proud. That was funny. Years later I met another blond haired blue eyed girl and we dated and got married when I was 21 and she was 18 in 1979. We are still married. Life is good but sometimes I really miss my teenage years.
I’m a teenager myself and hearing this makes me smile like a freaking lunatic! Thank you for reminding me again to enjoy the rest of my teenage years. Good luck to your marriage, glad it’s doing better than ever!
@@jalixvintageI’m too! And back then I think was so much fun to make friends, no social media, decent people I mean there were weirdos ofc 😂 but I would love to travel in time and date someone from 1950 😅hahaha
@@FransceneJK98 No I never did. That was so long ago now. I think it's best to just let the past be the past. I already have a 60 something year old woman... I have no interest in another one!
I had my first date when I was 16 ( wasn’t allowed to date until I was sophomore in high school) I went on a group date with some of my friends. We went for ice cream and went bowling. It was actually fun. Everyone was relaxed and having fun. I actually don’t see anything wrong with dating in a group or public setting
I remember in the 60s my older sister, 16 or 17, would get ready for dates. She'd use dippity doo and put her hair in large curlers for most of the day to get ready for the evening. Her dresses were gorgeous with lots of lacy layers and twirl.
I can't say this enough, but these old tv time how to videos are the best! I am learning more from these videos about dating, self care, relationships etc then school ever taught me!
Hi Alyssa, that is the way it was "in my days". We learned about "good manners" and "proper etiquette" at home, at school, at church, in 4H/Boy Scouts... and most of the people from my community that remained in our community (farms and ranches) married for life. It was a time of mutual respect - that is the way we (my late wife and I) raised our children. Peace be with you, Ciao, L
Teenagers in 1950: "how do you know what a girl likes" "Just ask her" Pick up artists in 2022: "women don't have hobbies" EDIT: come on people... Society changed, but women are still human beings. Controversial opinion here!!: women have opinions and ways to express them. I'm pretty sure that independently of what are your beliefs on religion, politics, philosophy, you name it, there are women out there who think the same, you just don't bother to have deep conversations. If you don't like the possibility of someone challenging your worldview, THAT'S A YOU PROBLEM.
In the early 1980s I was in high school. One day while sitting in class, out of the blue, for reasons i cant recall, the school 16mm movie projector was rolled into the classroom. And they played for us several of these old, antiquated 1950s instructional films on how to date, how to be polite, how to behave, etc. My classmates laughed through them. The wooden acting, the cheap production values, the over politeness, the squeaky clean activities (a picnic, a carnival, a weenie roast, bike riding, a day at the park, dinner at home with the family, etc), the innocent slang of the time (gee, golly, swell, etc). I on the other hand, wasn't laughing. To the contrary. As someone who was being raised in a severely abusive, dysfunctional home, i found these films to be quite charming. A sort of a time capsule of a more innocent era. DON'T get me wrong. I had no illusions. I was well aware that the 1950s wasnt so perfect and innocent. That there were negative things going on in the 1950s, such as segregation, criminal activity, corruption in the public and private sectors, poverty, the occasional economic recession, war, etc. No decade is perfect. But still, it seems to me that there were SOME things in the 1950s they were doing so right back then that we were doing so horribly wrong in the early 1980s as well as today.
I wish I’d heard this advice sooner. When I first started dating all I knew was that you’re supposed to kiss and then start calling him your boyfriend. It made me so scared! I didn’t even know him! How am I supposed to know if I’m ok with kissing! But you aren’t supposed to know anything on a first or second date. You’re just supposed to do something meaningless with a stranger that results in normal conversation so they become less of a stranger. If I had dated that way I might have been less stressed and had more success sooner
Everything seems so wholesome and intentions seem pure. Back when people seem to actually want to know each other by investing time and effort and actually marry.
My son is 15 and has a 17 year old girlfriend. They're been together for 2 years now. They met the last week of public school before we took him out to homeschool him. They were both skipping class, wandering around the playground thinking about what to do. Schools in Australia are locked with security fencing so kids can't get out (or bad people in). He saw her, she took his breath away, and he mustered up the courage to approach her. As soon as they started talking they got on swell and they both realised they had a lot of things in common. He tells me they have a favourite movie, "Elemental" and that the movie's promotion picture looks like the two of them so they've taken it to represent them.
I went on a date one time in college, took her to Round Table Pizza. When I brought the pizza to the table I spun it with a flourish on its metal plate. Centrifugal force took care of things and most of the slices landed on her lap, if not the floor.
We'll likely never live to see that. My clothes are mostly generic polos, button ups, or tshirts with khakis and the occasion jeans from Goodwill/value village or Walmart if i want something nicer.
If you travel to countries that are still traditional or conservative you see this too. Teenagers are treated like adults and expected to face adult consequences. Pretty much if you are having sex or old enough, you are grown and have to act like it. It’s strange for me to see how in Western countries people infantilize adolescence so much that they call adults in their 20’s “kids”... it’s extended way too long. The decline of marriage and expectations of marriage with romantic partners also kind of removes this sense of responsibility.
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I'm having a date coming up, and I cant believe this is where I am finally turning to for advice
Not a bad idea
Now I need to know if it went well it not:)
@@Peayou... Not great, she turned out to be a communist
@@jeremykessler4148 OHHH DARN. At least you know now
Jeremy Kessler woooooahhhh 😳
I was so shy at that age, my mother actually set me up on a blind date with a young girl she worked with. I married her. We just celebrated 47 years.
Guess that worked out well.
Update, we just celebrated 50 years together...in Tahiti.
You mean you guess it worked out SWELL! 😃
Thanks mom!
That's so cute oh my stars
Your mom is ballin
How sad! You missed out on your issue of tail. It must have been a good dip in the pool that first time!
in 70 years, we still are trying to convince our friends to ask their crushes out.
Friends? What friends
@@nexstbob6911 💀💀
THE BOYS ARE ETERNAL!
@@yucatansuckaman5726 yes
The boys never die 💪
I wish I had a teenager friend with the voice of a 42 yr old trucker father of 3 to give some simple advice like "just call her" and "just ask her".
Fr they sound like real me. Back then now we sound like boys
@@Maximus5775we need to bring underage smoking back!
@@meatgrinder9506aren't they already smoking though?
Low testosterone nowadays, for real, look it up. Boys are under developed now, its a huge health problem.
@@meatgrinder9506😂😂
This is actually not bad advice! If you're in a group, there's less pressure and you get a chance to see how the other person treats people.
Unless your first date is at a nudist colony.
Yes, the clothing might seem goofy however people like to be treated nicely and with respect.
@@jimbailey5681 LoL!
@@stephenpmurphy591 I agree!
the group situation or double date situation allows for your date to see how you act around other people and allows your date to see what kind of people you associate with. In the end it is about being respectful and courteous towards your date
Essentially the moral of the story is invite your favourite crush out to do what you normally do. Somewhere where it isn’t awkward and you feel you can be yourself to some degree! 😊
Ok this actually simplified it for me thank you 😭😭
So in the basement?
@@DarthMessias You're not ready for a date. lo;l
(everyone who never goes out or does anything): "Crap."
@____________________________51Easy, you lie together in your bed.
1950: Kay's a swell girl
2019: Damn she thiccc
Swell meant 'cool' or 'fine' back then.
@Zeek Banistor what's wrong with tattoos?
Zeek Banistor Calliope music plays. Sideshow barker: Step right up! See the freak! Only one thin dime.
2039: What a schway babe
@Zeek Banistor You're so supercilious, yet you seem unaware of the simple fact that styles of behavior continually change, for better and worse. The kids in this film would have horrified previous generations, what with their ankles showing, their makeup, and the "jungle music" (the term shocked elders used for the swing era bands). Girls bobbing their hair was horrifying to elders in the 1920s. You just sound foolish.
When I was a teenager, nobody gave me any advice on dating. I knew a lot of swell girls but I didn't know how to date them. The closest advice I received about dating was from health class at school, which only addressed STD's like HIV. I think it would be a swell idea to bring back videos like these to teach life skill to teenagers, rather than just teaching them how to put on a condom.
Alley Trash Facts
Thats so true! No one my age knows ANYTHING about how to properly date
* We learn from experience! And often our parents gave us bad useless advice if any. ♣
I took a shot everyone you said “swell” and am now on my way to be drunk. Keep it up.
"Swell" is old-fashioned. "Awesome" is used in this decade.
So basically, the best dates involve an activity; not just eating awkwardly in front of them at a table. This video was a huge help. My boyfriend and I went to the carnival for our first date a little while back. Super fun!
No pressure dates work best
I love the reassuring older man's voice narrating. I feel assured.
You should hear my voice...
@@PutDownTheBunny no, I should. :)
Anyway, back to reality.
Back then that was considered just an average man talking or something, i mean just look at the boy in the video talking like that 😂 kinda crazy to be honest
@@janielrin4471yeah but they put that voice on for the film, they weren’t actually always like that in every day to day life.
@@paladinheadquarters7776 umm yes they were just look at normal videos from that era almost everyone talked like that
"What if she says no?"
famous last words 😂
"No" means "yes, but you have to be more keen". I came to that conclusion after observing wildlife. 🐤🐤
@@SuperNevileI can assure you that no almost always means a definite no.
People who ignore others explicit will are potentially dangerous creeps.
haha
She will.
Then "oh well" plenty of girls in this world. Learn to give and take
He is so sincere with her and about his intentions towards her. It’s beautiful.
This holds up very well, 73 years later! The culture was much more polite and respectful at this time.
Remember this is what's on tape
@@helenacorreia7613It’s still better. I’m a man that got/gets almost every woman I ever really wanted so far, and the way women act (not all but most) now is close to basic primates or prostitutes, then complain I don’t stick around or call back. Life has never been perfect but I can guarantee people were more polite, classy and less degenerate at the time.
This ship has sailed.....
@@helenacorreia7613 Just because the media and academia brainwashed you into thinking a value-based society is awful doesn't mean it's true.
Yeah and most dude just beat up their wifes
If I were to ever meet a guy who watched these videos or even had manners like these, I’d marry him in a heartbeat.
Well, Dreamyfool, my generation did watch and grow up by these videos. Many of us are/were still married to the same person until death did do us apart. There are still people like that in younger generations - guys (and gals) that dress nicely, have good manners, and show respect to one another. But understand that you will not find these people at the local bar. I was married to my late wife 30 years, how could I want more? She wrote to me every single day while I was in combat, not even knowing that I would make it back or marry her. Her love kept me alive through hell - do not give up, there are still some good souls around to "build a nest". Peace be with you, Ciao, L
I'm like this in the modern sense ( I love the 1940s & 50s) but modern woman just laugh at men like this.
I try to be very caring and chivalrous but unlike people in the 50s I have and arm full of tattoos and big gauges. Idk if you’d go for that sort of thing😉⚓️💎
Ironically enough, this is why I’m struggling so much in dating. I get rejected left and right because I’m either seen as “not their type” or “too nice”. The majority of the girls I’ve dated in the past have had a history with abusive boyfriends who beat and cheated on these girls. It’s amazing how flipped everything became from the 1950s and how girls now have the upperhand in controlling exactly how they want their dating life to be and guys have no say. At least in the east coast of the United States
Well I just watched it....
Guy is an absolute winner at life, he was scared and still went for it
Un terrible ganador el loco
@@Kaizen747 Mira el caramelito que se comio jujuuuuuuuuuu
@@zenmorte2793jajaj
I was also scared and went for it. In the end I was rejected because I'm ugly and unsuccessful.
Hmm a group activity as a first date. That's actually a pretty swell idea 🤔
Golly! Real swell!
It's the bee's knees and really swell!😍
Jeepers!
Golly Gee, maybe we should ask Wally and the Beaver to come along too! 😂😂😂
Hmmm. I think both of them have swell pants
Kay: Why is Jeff here?
Nick: He's my emotional support system.
Lawd help! Peace!
Ha ha ha
“Emotional Support Humans” are a real thing. My dog has one.
He is my Google machine hahahaha😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 😅😅😅😅
Need more real friends like Jeff. That's just a good dude.
The main guy the story is about can’t act to save himself. He sounds like Mr Ed
Jeff is a great wing man!
I just came here after watching " young Mans Fancy " which is my very favorite of these old films after I first saw it on Mystery Science Theater years ago. The actor playing Jeff is the same actor from " young Mans Fancy " and is still living at 97 years old which is great!
Cheers to a time when people still knew how to socialise, despite being shy and treat each other with respect and politeness, despite barely knowing each other.
Lol treat each other with respect yet back then black people weren’t even allowed to use the same water fountain as everyone else. Not to mention husbands would routinely beat their wives for small things. Where is the respect in that?
@@jacklaker1939yes, it’s much better now to have black on black gang violence in the streets and 50% of all marriages ending in divorce. So much better now. All things considered, people seemed much happier back then, and society seemed much more cohesive.
@@starlit_hawser11 they had gang violence back then too like with the mafia for example. And the reason they had lower divorce rates back then is because society generally frowned upon divorce. And yeah obviously when you look at videos from back then they’re gonna seem happy because these videos are basically a highlight reel of these times. Like they aren’t gonna show you a video of a man beating his wife or people getting shot to death in ww2 because that wouldn’t display happiness. Yes there were definitely some good aspects that we lost but overall you are extremely lucky to live in 2023 instead of like 1960 and below
@@jacklaker1939 You have a really good point, I can't argue with that. We've improved a lot since then, although there are some aspects from that time, as I mentioned, that would be nice to have back. Life is a give-and-take, I suppose.
@@moniquevanwyk9304 yeah give and take is the best way to put it
This is 1950s wikihow
Same house as "Dating Do's and Don'ts" from 1949.
The fabric industry was so much advanced than today's, their clothes feel like high class, unlike today, everything is blue collar.
😎
5:41 The most hurtful part of this: people are so starved for even just simple platonic community activities these days. Imagine there being a literal list of activities and events you could just sign up for, right there.
Ayo the goat hadvar
Find a good church !
Doing volunteer work is another great way to meet people...
@@bruhice6058 Fuck religion.
Imperials and their damn lists!
This is outrageously wholesome…need more
How often do you get wholesome like this irl?
Yeah not gonna happen pal lmaoo
Heard they’re releasing a sequel soon
@@donkeyparadise9276I act and dress like 1950s man living in 2023.
Yes we sure do 👍😊
I love the crackling sounds of these vintage videos.
This is 70 years old and it’s surprisingly good advice. Just talk with the person, find out what they like to do and then go on a date.
It’s much better than most of the “mind games” people give as advice.
@kyon_designer - Best comment! so many other advice videos are below common sense and they are downright antisocial and malicious
These vids are so relaxing
Love them, makes me sleepy
@@capricornlove4816 ASMR?
@@lemurianchick I am sorry Lol I dont know what ASMR mean?
lemurian chick don’t make this weird😂
Yes
I still remember the first date when I was allowed to drive. It was my dad's car, a '64 Pontiac Catalina. I consider it my first real date. It was after my sophomore year in high school, the summer of 1967. I was 16 and had my driver's license for a couple of months. The girl sat next to me in a study hall in the school auditorium. I surprised her with my telephone call and probably not in a good way. I believe she was unprepared with an excuse to say no. I asked her to go to a movie. With a discernable lack of enthusiasm, she agreed. After the movie I think we went for ice cream. There was no kiss goodnight. A few days later I called her for a second date and that time she was ready. She said no with an assortment of excuses. I felt downtrodden for about a week. Now, over 50 years later, those few days are filed in my brain under _Marty's nostalgia_ and it now brings a worldly smile. She is on Facebook. She is a grandmother in her upper 60s and works in a little craft shop. We are not Facebook friends. In fact, she may not remember my name.
I've always figured that in western cultures, the mid-teen years are the most trying. Maybe that's why they can be the most memorable.
To The Brilliance of Martin Teboski Fifty years past and you still remember so much about the whole thing, right down to the initial telephone call. And yet she declined a second date. As a diehard romantic, I can appreciate bittersweet nostalgia.
Awww..ya ought to send a friend request anyway!
@Paula Zemeckis If history tells us anything, I would assume that if he sent her a Facebook friend request it would be rejected.
Aw, thanks for sharing your story!
Watching this as a Gen Z and man we effed up. I love all the respect and socializing, how hard everyone tried. It’s so beautiful to see and sad
Be the change you want to see in the world
Me too! Gen Z here, and I hope to set a good example for others and be more mature and respectful :)
I don't care it's really dumb to see how people acted like dorks lol all u need is porn my dude
@@marcomendiola8381I hope you get better someday.
@@marcomendiola8381Jesus loves you so much. More than the human brain can comprehend, whether you believe it or not
I find myself watching these more and more. Applying these common sense ideas is making a huge difference in my relationships.
Group dates are perfect. You get to see how they interact with others, how they place themselves in social situations, and less pressure in terms of being alone.
Man, when I was dating, we would go to the woods, the park, a hike, and mainly IN our friend groups! Dodged so many bullets that way.
You get to see how they treat other people. Very informative.
What would you do if you have no frens? :(
@@omuffin1854 great question. Put yourself out there. Online or in real life. Build connections and relationships based in common interests and consistency first!
I understand how lonely no friends can feel like. You will overcome this challenge and realize you were able all along!"
@@omuffin1854Your stuffed animals are your friends too!!! 😊😊
Group dates for first date are no good typically kind of a gamble lol
This is astronomically better dating advice than on TikTok
“Ask that baddie for her snap, and hopefully you can bag her” 😂😂
Ya that's all just a bunch of bullshit. Especially when it's coming from women😂💀💀
Obviously better than tik tok
Of course it is because it's made by people who actually like people for not fucking then only
how the heck do women worsen it up lol i thought it was shitty people like andrew tatti and more of those bald single people that gave the disgusting advice, i mean tik tok is just completely unhelpful but those guys really want us to repel women more than attract
So, the slang word in the 50's was "swell".
Dude!
swell actually started in the 1920s
Groovy was used, too.
@@JoeKaye-hn5dt I thought ‘groovy’ was more in the sixties around the time of the hippie movement. I remember a song in the sixties when I was growing up called, ‘Feeling groovy’.
@@JoeKaye-hn5dt I think "groovy" is more 60's ...
yall r sleeping on how cute Nick is
Nicks probably dead or in a retirement home
@@Elflacito 😀
Im drooling already😂
He’s probably racist af tho
Yeah, very cute!! Tall, dark and handsome!! 🤗🥰
My name is George. I identify super closely with the George in this video. It was truly a George thing to do. Only other Georges can understand what I mean.
when you are so awkward you watch a 1950s video on how to date
Modern society is so pathetically awkward, why not watch a 1950's video on how to date?
And proceed to ask your date on a "weenie roast." Lol...
@@BlackOperations530facts
I mean that advice ain't bad
I like that they put an emphasis on getting to know each other well and becoming friends. Modern day dating focuses just of the intimacies of a relationship rather then the connection. I feel like it's something we've forgotten about. It makes sense why most relationships nowadays don't last.
It's so bad that our modern society has forgotten the clear distinctions between romantic attraction and sexual attraction.
@@MrBaumGeo fr :[ it's really sad
I wish so badly that we would have a list of social events everywhere
Yeah the connection of a community is really lacking nowadays
Meetup apps
Local library or college.
I always check my local city weekly/weekend events on ig.
This is why we need to protect Third Spaces at all costs (local public libraries, public parks, community centers the list goes on)
“I need to be told what NOT to do on a date.” - Crow T. Robot
Don't have sex.
soldier person why so?
Crow also did that riff where Nick calls Kay to ask her out and Kay says, "Is it okay if I bring my boyfriend Dave???"
YOU LOOKED IN MY BOOK DIDN'T YOU!
@@daniel6648Most likely you will only see the person once and never meet them again. Also it is better to get to know the person when meeting someone for the first time before anything.
Currently a Freshman in High school that’s infatuated with the 50’s, and even more so with a girl I met last week. Just last Friday, I asked her if she’d like to have lunch with me and she said yes, I’m now here looking for advice, and I’d like to thank whoever uploaded this
You better update us!
@@andrewbedell9175 It went well, and I’ll be buying her a drink tomorrow and we’ll talk more and hangout
Do quick and easy food. I literally remember freshman yr like it was yesterday (am a freshman in college now) because of the quarantine cut my hs yrs short.. don't see it as a date, don't pedestalize her
Jeff is a time-traveller and he just fixed the timeline by getting Nick and Kay together.
You know what the world is like now? Imagine the world he was trying to save us from o_o.
Jeff seems like an old wise soul in a young guy's body.
This is sweet. My mom was in high school at this time. They all did things like this.
Seems like a swell time
Geee willikers
At 4:25 the classic art nouveau lamp Kay is holding would be worth about $4,500 now.
poetcomic1 it is an old timer. I’ll give them a nickel for it.
I noticed that too!!! Love it
Not me being jealous of whoever picked up some lamp at a 50's scavenger sale
Thats swell commentary. Adds to the fun watching these neato How To Live 50s Films.
My mother would buy depression glass for nickels and dimes in thrift shops in the '60's. Even before she passed in 1985, some of the pieces went for a couple hundred dollars.
I'm 23, never been on a date but still pleasant to watch
I love this, when people knew how to treat people 😊
Same!!
But only those actually considered *people*
Except for African Americans and gays 😬
@@CrodolookslikeFrody they knew how to treat gays back then. Unfortunately we don't treat them that way anymore.
@@thecensoredmuscle563 you seem like someone who jerks off to Andrew Tate’s videos
I know this is just supposed to be a social guide, but I was really rooting for Nick the whole time, waiting for when he’d get the courage to talk to Kay about another date! 😂
Never been on a date but this seems way better than how this generation calls dating
I'm 70 and have ONE piece of advice for old fashioned dating. If he calls you for a date, you have a nice dinner or whatever and then you wait for him to call you again? Rather call him THE NEXT DAY. Be 'in a hurry' as when at work... and THANK HIM FOR DINNER or whatever but DON'T talk future dates... just a quick dose of 'nice'. I can't believe how few young women know this trick. It can end in marriage.
👌🏼 haha, thanks for the tip!
@@veggiezz it really Isa good one❤🎯🫡
Gratitude and appreciation. Goes well both ways. Great advice!
Yes this does work !
Dear madam, I'm sorry to report that women today aren't interested in being treated with respect. They laugh at men that treat them well and make fun of them with their female friends. They quickly put them in what is called in today's vernacular "the friend zone". The men that women today obsess over is guys that treat them like trash: cheat, lie, ignore them, dating dozens of other women at the same time, pressure them sexually right away, etc. Women today would rather share a man that's out of their league with several other women, than marry a good man who's at her level.
5:37
Ah yes the bulletin board of great ideas!
It's crazy how even though this isn't most of our decades we still in a way sometimes miss it and have nostalgia
Petition to bring back "say" as a sentence starter again
You don’t need to petition bro, just start doing it yourself
Already started it.
Say that's a swell idea
he checks in with her so often throughout!! and revolving time spent together around activities has always been my favourite way to date, over staring at each other over coffee!
This is so sweet I could cry. Almost wish this was a series lol
Its so cool how relevant and useful this info still is after all this time
Get money and muscles then any guy can get a woman to be attached to them.
@@goshawk4340 If you're still small on the inside, no amount of money or muscles will conjure a satisfactory and loving relationship. Certainly helps to take care of yourself though, not just for women but for career, social life and everything else.
Just watched this with my grandpa born 1910. He says it's just like any other advertisement or a movie portraying what the society wants to be but rarely are, like a good guide for what to be. Nothing changed for the last 70+ years, we still making movies and advertisements on how better we should be.
Yes. Some people in the comments are lying to themselves thinking this was the norm in the "good old days".
It's still some wholesome advice though.
Based
No One Said It Was Accurate, These Videos Were Always More About Being A Guide Than A Depiction Of How It Was
@@Least_Banging_Headbanger No one said but tons of people think and say that it was and is real, even me. We want to believe in better things, not reality.
When I see ads of pop singers twerking on satan and sports ceremonies with literal demons I beg to differ
In 1950, I was only 10. My very first date was in 1957, right after graduating the 6th grade and going into junior high. I was 13. It was on a saturday. I went to her house to get her. I already knew her mom so when she asked where we were going, I said we were going to the Ice cream parlor for an Ice cream sundae and back to her house to play records. She approved ! (It was a 10 minute walk from her house). I remember how nervous I was, but I was so excited because now I thought I was becoming a teenager ! We went back to her house where she promptly threw up and I went home ! 😂😂😂 I couldn't believe what had happened. Anyway, we went to different junior high, so we never saw eachother again. Oh, young love. To learn a lesson so early in life ! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Your first date was actually in 1953.
@@mikey92362actually no, he aged only 3 years in 7 years.
Love your smiles sir😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
You can just feel the jubilation once you wrote that the mother approved! What a moment that probably was for a kid lol
@@mikey92362 yo chill math is hard sometimes 💀
I think what has been denigrated is the sense of community and neighborhood and that even generations that weren’t around for this are longing for it
Exactly! You're so right! This has been something this generation is missing, especially in the U.S. I am of the opinion that both the prevalence of the internet and suburbanization have been driving factors in this loss of community. It's sad, but that's reality today.
Yup. I would love for people to be able to socialize more, and more often. Unfortunately they all need to work full time jobs just to survive and we all don't think the same way, and many people get offended just for what you believe.
💯
@@ZealousWinsAnd franchises that kill local businesses and send profits to headquarters, draining the wealth out of small towns.
This is honestly better advice than modern dating advice.
My first date happened like this. When I was 15 in 1973 I was in a park and an extremely cute blonde haired blue eyed girl with a perfect figure was throwing a football with her brother and a friend. She was 14. At one point they threw the ball over by me and so I threw it back and then we started playing touch football. I tackled her a couple of times and she was really playful and seemed to flirt with me and I got her name. A few days later a friend of mine who was 16 told me he was going on a date and asked me if I could find a girl for a double date. I asked around and found out how to get in touch with the girl I met in the park and asked her about a double date. To my surprise she said yes. So my friend came over with his date driving his dad's pickup. One bench seat. I got in and we went and picked up my date and the four of us went to the skating rink. We skated for about an hour and then sat down. We talked for a while and I got close to her and then leaned over and started kissing her. We kissed for like 15 minutes straight but then she said "everyone is watching us" so we stopped.
Later we went to the drive in and ordered a cherry lime sprite. Then we started kissing again for 10 more minutes and I asked her if she had fun and she said "well one thing I know for sure.... you are a really good kisser!" That was one of the funnest days of my life partly because the girl looked almost like Marilyn Monroe. She soon found a guy taller and more handsome than me but I was just happy for that one night. I just couldn't believe that all happened. Later my dad found out that I was kissing a girl at the skating rink in front of everyone. He wasn't mad though, he seemed proud. That was funny. Years later I met another blond haired blue eyed girl and we dated and got married when I was 21 and she was 18 in 1979. We are still married. Life is good but sometimes I really miss my teenage years.
I’m a teenager myself and hearing this makes me smile like a freaking lunatic! Thank you for reminding me again to enjoy the rest of my teenage years. Good luck to your marriage, glad it’s doing better than ever!
@@jalixvintageyou’d do best to stay away from girls now they’ll just ruin your life
@@jalixvintageI’m too! And back then I think was so much fun to make friends, no social media, decent people I mean there were weirdos ofc 😂 but I would love to travel in time and date someone from 1950 😅hahaha
What a cool story!!!!! You ever tried to find the first blonde on Facebook to see what she’s up to today??? Just curious.
@@FransceneJK98 No I never did. That was so long ago now. I think it's best to just let the past be the past. I already have a 60 something year old woman... I have no interest in another one!
I had my first date when I was 16 ( wasn’t allowed to date until I was sophomore in high school) I went on a group date with some of my friends. We went for ice cream and went bowling. It was actually fun. Everyone was relaxed and having fun.
I actually don’t see anything wrong with dating in a group or public setting
Is that something someone is debating?
Charming and wholesome. How times have changed.
Nick, two words for you:
*Weenie*
*Roast*
That's funny Ben.🥂
Nick, no.
Lol😂
Bring back the
*W e e n i e*
*R o a s t*
Weenie roast is a swell idea!
I remember in the 60s my older sister, 16 or 17, would get ready for dates. She'd use dippity doo and put her hair in large curlers for most of the day to get ready for the evening. Her dresses were gorgeous with lots of lacy layers and twirl.
Where did she go in the evening then??
I can't say this enough, but these old tv time how to videos are the best! I am learning more from these videos about dating, self care, relationships etc then school ever taught me!
Gee, I sure do wish I was from this era.
Me too
Golly Gee me too
Right all the racism is fun
If you are white and a male maybe.
No guessing on wether they like you or not in a romantic way. Very straight to the point, no games.
10 years later... "congratulations you are being sent to the jungles of vietnam."
Is social media ruining dating? This is an excellent and safe way to get to know people, isn’t it? And who doesn’t like to have fun?
Love how they carried around books, not electronic devices, like today. People were much more attentive to each other!
I sure wish I was back in the old days.
Girls are always on their blasted phone.
If they had phones they'd used them
If I was around back than, I know one of those kids wouldn't think twice about calling me the "N" word
@@dillasoul2228don’t flatter yourself son
It the 1950s so of course they won't have that that almost 100 years ago.
Man, never before in history has this video been more needed than it is now. Kids today barely even know how to talk to each other in person.
I love all these wholesome comments! It gives me hope for humanity.
The first few dates I went on with my boyfriend were group dates, they were really nice and not as nerve wracking
Hi Alyssa, that is the way it was "in my days". We learned about "good manners" and "proper etiquette" at home, at school, at church, in 4H/Boy Scouts... and most of the people from my community that remained in our community (farms and ranches) married for life. It was a time of mutual respect - that is the way we (my late wife and I) raised our children. Peace be with you, Ciao, L
@@lancelot1953Sad we never get to experience them ever again. As a young person I'm envious of you.
Such unbridled optimism at this time. Wish we were more like that.
it’s impossible to be an optimist nowadays. The closest you can get to optimism is Optimistic Nihilism.
I can't believe this came out four years ago! It's so helpful and current to the times, it seems like it might have been made yesterday!
Teenagers in 1950: "how do you know what a girl likes"
"Just ask her"
Pick up artists in 2022: "women don't have hobbies"
EDIT: come on people... Society changed, but women are still human beings.
Controversial opinion here!!: women have opinions and ways to express them.
I'm pretty sure that independently of what are your beliefs on religion, politics, philosophy, you name it, there are women out there who think the same, you just don't bother to have deep conversations. If you don't like the possibility of someone challenging your worldview, THAT'S A YOU PROBLEM.
Lmao
That’s not pickup artists but stupid sexists, a fine but well defined line.
Something happened with girls between the years 1950 and 2023.
@@winstonwolf5706 yeah, I know what happened with them. They gained voting rights and equal pay. (Lmao)
@@winstonwolf5706feminism
If these people say “that is an old timer” at that time, you know that thing is ancient now.
Damn! This was actually shockingly solid and wholesome!
Constant eye contact while sucking on straw. Gets 'em every time!
Does that still work today?
@@wbnxd5856 Think it's kinda hard-wired!
Eye contact while doing a guy works, too. Makes you irresistable.
Creepy.
" I wonder if she'd like a weenie roast?" I swear I almost died.
God this is SO REFRESHING!!!!! You have no idea how much my eyes thirst for this good normal straight content. Thank you!
In the early 1980s I was in high school. One day while sitting in class, out of the blue, for reasons i cant recall, the school 16mm movie projector was rolled into the classroom. And they played for us several of these old, antiquated 1950s instructional films on how to date, how to be polite, how to behave, etc.
My classmates laughed through them. The wooden acting, the cheap production values, the over politeness, the squeaky clean activities (a picnic, a carnival, a weenie roast, bike riding, a day at the park, dinner at home with the family, etc), the innocent slang of the time (gee, golly, swell, etc).
I on the other hand, wasn't laughing. To the contrary. As someone who was being raised in a severely abusive, dysfunctional home, i found these films to be quite charming. A sort of a time capsule of a more innocent era.
DON'T get me wrong. I had no illusions. I was well aware that the 1950s wasnt so perfect and innocent. That there were negative things going on in the 1950s, such as segregation, criminal activity, corruption in the public and private sectors, poverty, the occasional economic recession, war, etc. No decade is perfect.
But still, it seems to me that there were SOME things in the 1950s they were doing so right back then that we were doing so horribly wrong in the early 1980s as well as today.
You had me up until segregation
I’m sorry you had to live in an abusive home. I hope you are doing OK now.
I believe almost everything was better don’t let others tell you otherwise😊
I liked everything about this video . the world has changed so much.
I love watching these old instructional videos. So interesting.
I wish I’d heard this advice sooner. When I first started dating all I knew was that you’re supposed to kiss and then start calling him your boyfriend. It made me so scared! I didn’t even know him! How am I supposed to know if I’m ok with kissing!
But you aren’t supposed to know anything on a first or second date. You’re just supposed to do something meaningless with a stranger that results in normal conversation so they become less of a stranger. If I had dated that way I might have been less stressed and had more success sooner
if you're an mildly attractive female, you'll be fine.
horrible advice
Step 1. Find a girl
Step 2. Should probably work on step 1
ajshgdja
Been stuck at step one for years
mysecond emailatl you and me both
mysecond emailatl don’t worry you’ll find one 😀
I've hit a roadblock with square one. I've found many girls but I don't think they found me. I wouldn't be offended by a few suggestions
Everything seems so wholesome and intentions seem pure. Back when people seem to actually want to know each other by investing time and effort and actually marry.
My son is 15 and has a 17 year old girlfriend. They're been together for 2 years now. They met the last week of public school before we took him out to homeschool him. They were both skipping class, wandering around the playground thinking about what to do. Schools in Australia are locked with security fencing so kids can't get out (or bad people in). He saw her, she took his breath away, and he mustered up the courage to approach her. As soon as they started talking they got on swell and they both realised they had a lot of things in common. He tells me they have a favourite movie, "Elemental" and that the movie's promotion picture looks like the two of them so they've taken it to represent them.
Are you and the males in your family circumciwed or not?
Yeah what @HowieHoward-ti3dx said...
@@deadNdivine12 What do you mean?
I went on a date one time in college, took her to Round Table Pizza. When I brought the pizza to the table I spun it with a flourish on its metal plate. Centrifugal force took care of things and most of the slices landed on her lap, if not the floor.
Omg. I'm sorry, but I just laughed so hard at that! Did you have a second date? 😂
Smooth
Ya should have bought her a hotdog , and then you ......
I remember Round Table Pizza. Decent place.
Save some 😺 for the rest of us
This is special. I’m all in for character like this. I’m in Perth for any like minded gentleman and ladies looking to create this culture.
OMG, I need to show this to my children.
I wish things stayed like that today. Simple and classy
Old media and the concept of generations fascinates me so much.
I hope fashion like this comes back. It's the roaring 20's so maybe😂
This is 1950’s which is wildly different than 1920’s
Believe me, I just know it’s going to happen.
Labratuga SMF Sorry but i have a hard time believe this. Hopefully it comes true though
This time the 20's rolled out with a cough!
We'll likely never live to see that.
My clothes are mostly generic polos, button ups, or tshirts with khakis and the occasion jeans from Goodwill/value village or Walmart if i want something nicer.
when they’re looking at the antiques, cool to think about how lots of the antiques we have now were actually new and modern when this was released
It’s unanimous… WEENIE ROAST!! Nick is VERY happy! 🤣
This has far more better dating advice than most of the dating tip videos in youtube
This kind of advice is actually really timeless a lot of that culture did not age well but this is actually still practiced in this day and age
All because of false feminism.
@@jaceblueberries1634 what about men with porn addictions that only care about sleeping with women and not loving and cherishing her? Exactly 🙄
Wish they'd had this film when I was in high school .
Their so mature for their ages back then.Reminds me of Leave it to Beaver - Wally
o.k Dad that sounds swell
I'll take Beaver with me.
If you travel to countries that are still traditional or conservative you see this too. Teenagers are treated like adults and expected to face adult consequences. Pretty much if you are having sex or old enough, you are grown and have to act like it. It’s strange for me to see how in Western countries people infantilize adolescence so much that they call adults in their 20’s “kids”... it’s extended way too long. The decline of marriage and expectations of marriage with romantic partners also kind of removes this sense of responsibility.
Testosterone levels dropped since then
Leave it to beaver weekmornings at 7:00 am on METV
CHANNEL 55-1
OR 22-1
@@Cx10110100 and that's been done intentionally by the GOVERNMENT
I prefer to watch these mini-series over anything else!
Help me why I can’t stop watching those videos😭
2:04 Back when phone numbers were only 5 digits long 😂
No matter how weird you are, if you choose to improve and reflect, you can find your way with great content like this :)