How do you spot a Narcissist early on? | The Narcissists' Code Ep 584
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- Опубликовано: 12 ноя 2024
- How do you spot a Narcissist early on?
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Thank you so much
Mine from experience would be...
1) giving you praise that hasn't been earned.
2) the conversation always seems to be about them.
3) they are overly excited to see you.
4) don't like you talking to anyone else (especially with their own sex)
5) they always seem to have the same problems.
6) it's never their fault.
7) a simple conversation turns complicated.
8) they don't respect your personal space.
9) over keen to respect you.
10) all of your friends (people close to you) tell you how much they talk about/ask about you.
and the worse, it can be very subtle and indirect. so you second guess if their behavior fit under the red flags
@@hashh2019 This is very true.
I remember thinking their behavior was odd but believing that over time they'd calm down. Instead it got worse.
#7 is HUGE!! I would leave so many conversations confused trying to figure out why a simple conversation become so complicated.
@@MrsTruthTeller Yes.
At the workplace I've had many conversations about work safety and they would always twist the conversation around and make up bizzare excuses and we'd end up talking for longer than needed. When the same conversation with anyone else would be a logical explanation and solved with a simple 30 second conversation.
Omg... You knocked it out of the park with Number 5...
I remember leaving my first conversation with the narcissist feeling like I couldn’t get a word in. He spent two hours talking about himself and all of his childhood trauma and all of his dating woes and how many women want him and blah, blah, blah. I genuinely was on the fence about him almost immediately. My intuition was right.
And I did this and I did that.
If I had a penny for every lie or every I. Then I would be a millionaire.
Lolll thanks u made my year
Happy 2023 🤩
Yessssss this is it!!!! I was like what just happened here...
I had a roommate like that. She would cut me if I want to speak.
"those are not butterflies, it's anxiety" 😂❤❤❤
Idk how people can't tell the difference. Lol!
When someone shows you who they are Believe that the first time
Hello Lee 🌷 3 months and 2 days out. 65 years old - feeling 30. I have been blessed with watching your channel for over a year now and I am a survivor. Thank you for this education. 🙏
Welcome to freedom!
@@realliving7340 Thank you so much 🌸🌷🌸
😂 Hilarious description-awesome- haha! I was SO miserable 6 months in, so too funny!!!😂😂😂
Hi. The thing is an aware covert narcissist will pretend to share back with you. You will share, and then they will share something equally...but what they share is a lie. There's no true way to know except time and leaving at the first lie or rage moment.
💯% FACTS. It was more like a TRAUMA BOND❗🤔😮😕😥
My covert narc exes would share their trauma with me and i would share mine difference is i wouldn't try trigger it or use it against them like they did to me. Also when you call them out they can just "wahhh you know i have trauma too why are you be so mean to me?"
yesss
Wow! I never thought about not answering the question “what are you looking for in a man/relationship”!? I will never answer that question again! Yes it does give them the opportunity early in to deceive you and for them to try to be everything you want them to be. I learn something new every time I watch one of your videos! Thanks❤
I find it hard to believe you have NPD, you manage to keep it under control so well. I bet your friends and family are glad to have you in their life. You are truly inspirational
Simke sims I've heard Lee Hammock say that he's not as disordered as some highly narcissistic people, which is definitely the case!
I'm aware that I don't even know him, except from the videos, but I've known MANY in my time and this brave man seems almost normal (I was going to put perfect, lol) compared to them, because there's NO way that they'd be able to do what he's doing. 😊
@@cyndigooch1162 I went to the first work shop he had with Ben Taylor, please if they offer one close to you, please go, these guys genuinely want to help people by learning from their experience.
He seems narcissistic to me but the thing is he really hacks it, he is using it for a win-win good purpose. He is doing a very smart and very good thing. Great video, so useful!
@@rebeccalucas6063 be careful with how much you watch them you're still apemdimg time with narcs and it's still dangerous. Protect your energy.
Maybe it just means therapy is working for him. He may still struggle internally but he’s more aware and better prepared to deal with it.
Listen to this 2 or 3 times, this information is golden!!
When they ask you a question, and instead of paying attention, they say uh huh, uh huh, uh huh, and you know good and well they aren't actually listening to a damned word you say, they're really tuning you out.
I had a narcissist actually start snoring in the middle of me talking about my career plans, with no warning.
You had me crying with laughter with the car analogy. 🤣 I survived a relationship with a Narc...but barely. And I stayed with him despite all of the red flags. It ended horribly while we were on vacation. He turned into a complete stranger. He ignored me the whole time. When we got back home he asked me for the ring he gave me, back...He screamed at me. Also had a "horrific " incident (s) in his childhood. Moved very quickly. I pray for him. But I am grateful that I didn't take my own life...PLEASE run if you notice any of these signs. Looking back, I was lonely and I thought he was Everything I ever wanted in a man. So I just went along with the fast pace, against my better judgment. 😫
Mine asked me to move in. In 2 months. Then got into a drunken rage telling me how I tried to take advantage of him! I left while he was at work the next day. I'm out. Never look back.
Well you are not alone. I stayed way to long and it destroyed myself almost. Building myself up again. Never again. I wish u healing and power to overcome. Sending hugs💖
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤sending love il glad your okay!!!!
Same here.
They create urgency. Get mad when you tell them to slow down. They tell you a bit about their trauma to get you to spill your guts.
I dated a narc on my early '30.... it ruined my life for 4 years... it took me long time to get better after the psychological and financial damage.... it can happen to anyone really, glad there is more awareness today...❤ when you see the signs it can feel like you are under a spell .. support from people around you that can open your eyes and give you strenght can really help....
The fact that he started the video with “ur favorite favorite favorite” and “my lovely lovely lovey voice” just made it so much better😂 he gave you the first sign of a narcissist right there.
Please advise:
• How to make a narcissist uninterested in you with out feeling threatened?
• Example: work, social settings, family
I just wanted to say that I have learned SO much from you and your wife, not just about my ex BUT about me. It started out wanting to "fix" him.. then there was this HUGE shift when I started watching your video's.. something finally clicked with they way you and your wife communicated that I needed so much. I have researched the hell out of NPD and DID for my situation and in doing that, I felt MORE sympathy for him and I just knew that all he needed was someone to stay... but the staying was MY desire to control, and fix him to secure my self worth through him (can you say co-dependent much) 8 years of sick thinking, self doubt and chaous.. I came across your platform and SWITCH, the light came on and I recognized that I needed help and the only one I could fix is me. THANK YOU and expect a phone session soon bc I am on my own trail now of healing.. and I feel like speaking with you is in my journey! You are a unique soul and in your owning your disorder, you have been true light for me.
Thanks So much for your Story! Such a Inspiration!
I know how I’ve spotted a narc early on my number one warning sign is that I like them 🤣😩
This is absolutely the best video I've ever seen on early relationship dealing with a narcissist.
My ex was going 250😂
I thought he was just super insecure and clingy and needy and that in time he would get more secure. I was so wrong. Silent treatment just got longer and longer.
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@@MentalHealnessplease every time I see this emoji I want to punch it’s face coz my ex narc friend used it all the time the guilt trip and play victim to manipulate me to give attention to her and agree with what she wants
Great vid! One more to add: when their timelines don't match up. They talk about how successful they used to be, but don't have anything to show for it, and can't explain how they 'lost it all'. Live in a fantasy that they are successful and loved by all, but only doing the bare minimum (aka not hardworking)... and start telling stories about how they are always having a "falling out" with someone they know. No consistency in personality, actions or narrative, lots of contradictions
this is exactly what happened to me at 18 yrs old he stalked me at the end of my shift I used to close the subway i worked at, at midnight he was there to walk me home and ask me to go out with him everytime he found out i was moving out of my dads house with my best friend from highschool weeks later he asked if he could move in i let him i just cannot believe that this is my reality and what i fell for
Dang! For real ! 💯Put up your boundaries people.
TY,
Part 1:
Don't go backwards to past connections, jobs, organizations/affiliations that you are let go from or you let go of.
When it is over; it is over. Don't look back. You never know who is behind the next door. -Terry McMillan
Part 2:
That is the same for all connections: if you have too much in common &/or mirroring....it is probably a trauma bond &/or manipulation is involved.
Definitely, trust your intuition or gut instincts.
Be safe
Stay Alert Stay Alive-The Armed Forces
Part 3:
Be careful of rebounders and the illusions of cuffing season.
Take your time and enjoy the process. Not all connections are meant to evolve into a relationship or friendship.
A connection isn't meant to be a meal ticket unless you both mutually agree on those terms of you being a sugar daddy or sugar momma or you being the recipient of said services.
Part 4:
You are meant to feel nurtured in all of your connections. There should be give and take.
Part 5:
May you maintain your own individual identity, values, boundaries/preferences, life purpose, beliefs, and somethings that you can enjoy alone as well as with others.
May you live your own life not what is projected nor expected.
Letting go is a daily process-Melody
May you be authentically and unapologetically YOURSELF daily 🥰
May you too give yourself the gifts 🎁🎁 of healing your inner child and enjoy your inner child and enjoy self love ❤️
May you continue to practice self care daily ☺️
Laugh 😂 out 🤣 loud 😹 daily 😘
Namaste
🕊️Peace 🤸 Shalom 🐵
#WalkForFreedom
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#NotInvisible.org
#WoundsWithin.com
☮❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤🤍💕
Thank you for what you wrote. I am going to write it down so I will always be able to reference it in my journal, as I am on this long journey of healing and contentment and peace.
Hugs.
spot on.....when tapped brakes, got major push back and guilt trip and I gave in....you articulated this so well
Favourite Narcissist channel, always so informative.Thank you Lee
My ex must be the exception to the 'driving too fast' trait. I wanted to meet his friends and family and spend holidays together but even after 9 months he said it was too soon, he works at a slower pace blah blah. He strung me along for 6 years, not wanting me but not letting me go. It was crazy as I never knew what I was to him. He hated labels, blamed my insecurities and low self-esteem as the reason he couldn't commit, said too many conundrums etc etc (then denied saying it). If you're happy with the pace things are going whether it's slow or fast then that's fine. Important thing is to make sure your feelings are validated or you could end up like me and wasting years hoping for something that's never going to happen.
Perhaps he’s got other woman who met his family
What are you looking for? When I see it .. I’ll know 😉 They will tell you every horrible detail of their childhood as soon as you meet them.. sorry to hear that. I’m out 😅 Lesson learned
I love the invaluable information you provide Lee tysm 🎯😌
You're so welcome!
Even if you don't tell them what you are looking for in a person and what you expect, watch out if someone else introduced you who is related to them and knows you really well because they are supposedly your friends and they informed them all about you but do not inform you about who their relative really is. So the person doesn't need any info from you, they already have everything they need to play you, mirror you, and present themselves as genuine and there is no way of knowing they are not because you are being immaculately set up in this situation by people who are not your friends - they are just exploiting you for the benefit of their own. It can get really sick when it goes far enough that you marry the person who is fooling you and these false friends are pretending to be your family too. It's harder to spot the red flags here. Beware of this situation where someone knows your good characteristics beforehand can exploit them in a long game. They will drop the mask eventually with no real prior warning when they got you where they want you.
Wow, that's a scenario I hadn't thought of. So, the relative that introduced you is either a Narc also or an enabler. DAMN, and all this time you thought they were your friend❗ 😭😭😭
@@ysmithriley Yes, it was a woman friend and her husband who were a part of my life for about 10 years who got to know me well. They introduced me to the husband's brother and set about matchmaking us saying to me that they want to see him with someone loyal and stable and said they know that is what I am. Since they knew that it was all the more terrible that they didn't back me when he started turning on me and intead they stabbed me in the back because it was their relative even though I was also their relative by this time. He was hiding his past and kept up the good guy persona for about 5 years then all of a sudden dropped it and admitted that he was fooling me all along, was a illicit drug user, was never interested in an upstanding life, and was never committed from the start to staying married to me. By this time I was not hearing from my brother and sister in law/so-called good friends to even check if I was ok. They had fed him everything about me for him to put this over and were trying to encourage him to get property off me that I had before I met him because they knew all about that too, but he didn't succeed at that.
It happened to me. He asked what I like to drink and will make sure he buy that when I visit him. What I noticed is that they only know how to focus on you when they are love bombing you, but it doesn't take long for the mask to fell off. For example they are control freak even in conversation and they are overly sensitive. They expect you to predict their needs and when you don't do that she act frustrated and start attacking your personality. I remember telling my narc that someone stopped me in the middle of the road and asked for a jump start and when I gave it to him he handled me money that I refused. He was like you are nice with other people. I remember replying to him that I don't even know who he is. Their mask can't let you love them properly. Lee is so march better as he sounds smart. Mine was malignant narcissist. He mirrored me that it took time to notice how dumb he was. He used to just listen carefully when I share something intellectual. They have a criminal mind that they can't share whatever that crosses their mind. Recently I dated another one introduced by my cousin. Fortunately he didn't have someone to tell him what I like, but whenever I said something I noticed to someone else he will be like what did you learn from that so that you can take care of me. For example I told him about a roommate who was a good cook and cleaning freak and used to use that to get the guys. She will be giving them different days and they will all see her as a wife material. She was so clever and manipulative. She ended up marrying one of the guys who was down to earth and more financially stable. The guy was like I hope you learned from her how to take care of a home. When you tell them something that is supposed to be a joke they make it around them. Another day I told him about a friend who got married to a guy and brought her to Canada and decided to move to another city so that they can both start together from the scratch since the guys tend to have some insecurities when you bring them to your place. He was like I hope you learnt from that friend. That's a wife material. He expect you to be strategic on how to treat them. Also, I have a feeling that he would have used all of these stories againt me later. Another incident: I told him about a friend he knows who is so career oriented and successful that she bought a house. Later on when I told something he didn't like he told me how all my friends are doing big stuff for themselves and I didn't accomplish anything in life. He doesn't have a career and doesn't have any stable source of income and at some point I brought that up and told him how it concerns. I guess I triggered him and he had to revenge. He will tell me if you are a wise woman you would have helped your mom to finish her building. That one scared me a lot because I feared guys who will want me because they know I will inherit my mom's assets. I remember him telling his uncles about my mom's building. The only thing he was bringing to the table was his family name as it is a popular name because of his grandfather and the first time he approached me he asked me if I don't mind taking his name as their wives have to have their names. Most of his uncles are divorced including his dad. And also he will be like there are services you get in this country because of our name, which may be true but he was going to join me in the US. I got confused, but he accused me of wasting his time because I didn't know what I want.
@@TheJoyofCooking24 omg, sounds like he was on the take for everything! And they are never grateful or satisfied.
I am sorry that you get to the point of marrying that disorded individual. It can be terrifying to find yourself in a marriage that seem to be a fraud while surrendered by fake friends. Your so called friends set u up. Your situation sounds exactly like mine. A girl that I thought was a Friend. I used to help her a lot. She gave the guy all the information about me and will also give me all the information about him. She just survive in society that way and she believes that if you are underprivileged you should associate yourself with privileged. She is an orphan, but she hate other orphans like herself unless they are successful. Now that I know I can tell she is a covert narcissist with sociopathic tendencies as she is so lazy. She is unable to survive on her own that's why she has to con people to survive by sharing the information. She is like a spy she knows information about everybody in community and she can read a target in a second. She is a predator. Even cutting her from my life wasn't easy.
You forget to mention your great sense of humor 😁👍🙏
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The last time I felt like I was going too fast we had been together for not even a weekend and he tried saying "I love you" I told him I'm not saying it back because I'd be lying qnd that I don't know him well enough to know that.
He kept doing this "oh I know you wanna say it" type thing and them the next week he's like "so ima need a roommate in a couple months, you should move in" and I said we'd see how things go for q while beforehand first and he took that qs a flat "yes" so the next WEEK he's like "you should move in" and wouldn't understand why I said I wasn't ready
So then I just flat out said I felt we were going too fast and wanted to take a step back.
He was all upset like "but you wanted this too" qnd kept throwing out so many unrelated things thinking those were my real reason or something
Ended up breaking up with him right after that and told him I know I won't live up to his expectations qnd that we were better off seeing other people
He was obsessed with me for like half a year after that but been gone since
I don't know if he was technically a narc, but definitely toxic for me
Close enough, Sis, close enough. If not, he was "Controlling and Manipulative as HELL"❗ I'm glad you ESCAPED intact.
Naccis
I'm sorry but he was def AT LEAST toxic.
This is 100% gospel truth. The speed analogy....spot on.
He told me I love you in 1 week, and asked to move in together. Then one month dating he suddenly told me he lost feelings out of blue. But yeah last dates he started be rude with me. I really don’t understand he is narc or not.
Yes.
I just found your channel. Thank you for the message and I will go follow you on TT.
Excellent advice. 3 weeks in I love you with 2 narcs. 3 months in engaged and moving in. Then you are stuck in a hell hole having to deal with their shit with no escape. With the last narc I didn't expect to see him every day. He said I have to see you so I did. That sped up the addiction massively for me. He got bored asap I got stuck to him and lost all my strength and boundaries. I lost my power. I have left him 6 months ago but the pain is deep. Never again.
Someone I know did not have a favorite color or a firm opinion on controversial subjects; it depended on the situation.🤷This person also used someone else to ask me out. Communication was bad... I just thought it would get better, NO. Invited his "crush" and his friend (her boyfriend) on our date and then informed me about it. My advice today...walk away when people have these signs.🚩
Thanks again Lee! Undersharing/oversharing. Yup I had the second date😂but then I was done. It didn't feel good. Acted in my intuition. After that he appeared in the newspaper for scamming lots of women! Then I met a covert narcissist. He listened and wanted to know everything about me. He was very quick with i love u and i want to marry u stuff. Didn't see the RED flags then. Now i know it was lovebombing. I fell for it. He is now my ex. So you are so right. I met both, the ego who talks about himself nonstop or the one who avoid to say anything and make it all about you. I will never ignore my intuition again. I will run like grazy. Love your videos! Equally sharing is the key!😎This one I will remember!
Thankyou for sharing this invaluable information
My pleasure
Hi Lee. I'm wondering if you can talk more about covert narcissism. Thank you for all your wisdom. 🙏
I Love You Lee!
Love to the FAM!
Love the RED FLAGS !!🚩
I also want to make sure I am not doing what others may see as narcissistic...and so I watch your videos and I review my own behavior and ask myself, "Am I asking others to put me first? Am I asking too much?". You have taught me a LOT!
So if you was one you are making sure you get it under control?
@@coollikethat2691 I guess. I mean, I want to leave every interaction clean and without hurting anyone. I don’t want to be someone’s problem. I look at what Lee is giving us and I try to think, “How am I behaving in the world? Does any of this sound uncomfortably familiar?”. *shrug*.
Facts…even with friendships
lol glad i resurfaced to this video. Went on a date a month ago and I was really, I mean really vibing with this woman. But something in my spirit didn’t sit right with her. She’s was attractive, spoke great, and was funny. But I caught her in 3 different lies and she would respond to more than one person being jealous of her. Right then and there I knew I was out lol
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@@MentalHealness I did fam. With the quickness 😂. Thank you again for this video. Def a reminder lol
So on point! I wish I knew this in the beginning.
Perfect video
Love your videos you tell the absolute truth!
Yes wanted me to meet his father on Father’s Day…12 days after I met him!!!😮😂 How about non-romantic relationships?
Me you and me shadow!!!! So true
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Sonic the Hedgehog fast? Red flag! 😆
That was my relationship 😂 first date meet his dad. 2 weeks he loved me and wanted me to live with him. Rushed me into a relationship. I asked my friends but they thought it was good signs and he knew what he wanted. Kid talk a month in
Ohhh, he was putting a LOCK ON YOU❗🙂😮😥
Pretty Pri That is a perfect example of moving fast and a lot of people do believe that it's a good sign!
I'm extremely glad so many are learning that it's the opposite case now, due to people like Lee Hammock and others, but he's the favourite. 😊
Let someone else get in their fast car and later you'll drive by an accident. Oh look it's them with their new supply with their car wrapped around a damn tree. Giggle and keep on driving by and be happy it's not you that got thrown out of their car!
All of this is legit! 🙌🏾🙏🏾
Great video Lee! I enjoyed the analogies.
How to spot a narcissist:
1.) They talk about themselves, constantly. Hardly letting you get a word in. They always have to talk about themselves or turn the conversation back to them.
"Me, me, me, me, me, me, me."
On the other hand, if you do talk about yourself they will look bored or space out until you are finished. Sometimes they will even be on their phone, ignoring you while you talk.
2.) They come up to you out of the blue, randomly, and ask you for a huge favor even though you are strangers and feel awkward as they ask it because you hardly know them.
When you reluctantly agree they say "Thanks Buddy. You are my bff." and then tell other people you are super close. 👯
3.) They get into your personal space and won't leave you alone. If you break up with them, they will show up at your house unannounced and knock on your door and peer through your window like a creeper. Sometimes they will even send you love letters for months and months, never leaving you alone. *They don't understand the word "no"*
If they want you back, and know you will be attending a specific event like your friend's wedding, they will show up even if they weren't invited.
*coughs* Megan. *coughs*
They don't take the hint, and have no social manners/boundaries.
4.) They name their pets/child after themselves and/or celebrate their birthday month with 3 birthday parties. Each on a different day throughout the month.
5.) They embarrass family and friends in public. They will be rude to wait staff and then storm out of the restaurant, leaving you in the dust.
"I'm sorry, so sorry about my husband's rude behavior." you will apologize before running after your husband. Meanwhile, your husband is long gone, sitting in the car on his phone.
They make you feel like you need to apologize constantly.
6.) They make things weird/awkward.
They will ask too personal questions like, "Hey, can you look at my bunion?" or "I think I got a rash on my butt, can you check?"
You will feel weird/grossed out and suggest they go see a doctor.
"Why would I do that?" they respond, dumbfounded. Like a doctor isn't even part of the equation.
7.) They have low self esteem.
"Does my hair look okay?"
"Are you SURE I don't look fat?" then they will say "oh my gosh! My hair looks awful. Just awful. What do I do?? My life is over! What will the neighbors think?"
They will act dramatic, like their life is over because their hair isn't perfect.
8.) They take things fast. They wanna move in together after knowing you a week. They wanna introduce you to their parents after a month. They paint a beautiful life picture of future vacations, 3 kids, a giant house with a picket fence. Telling you that is what they wanna work towards with you. (Future faking)
Everything seems so great, but everything is so moving fast. Too fast.
9.) They may wear cool clothes, expensive sunglasses indoors, and fix their hair often.
They may also take selfies constantly and admire their reflection in mirrors.
10.) They tell you how you should feel or what you should do or tell you what you are feeling is wrong. (Put their ideas on you)
If you are working behind a counter, they will walk up to you and say "You look miserable. You should smile more. That would make customers happy."
Or if you are friends with them and they ask "What's your favorite food? I like sushi."
And you answer honestly "my favorite is spaghetti, I don't really like sushi."
They will respond, "😱oh no no no, sushi is the best! Here, let's go to a sushi restaurant. Once you try it I'm sure you will like it."
"I really don't want t-"
"Nonsense! Let's go have sushi! It will be your new favorite food in no time! You'll love it. It's best food out there!"
Covert that wanted to spend 24/7 with me..missed that red flag
it happens
These are not butterflies everyone, they’re bats 🤣
There should be a data base that we can put names into. If I saw a potential date on the list, I’d run very fast in the opposite direction.
Yes🤣🤣🤣
I have so many questions but I'm new on here so.ill be patient. However my thoughts are these..what made u make this channel and more rather your story
i have a couple vids on my origin
i got hurt too many times i have come to a point i don't allow anyone drinks eats junk come close i m safe forever i have nothing to do with anyone don't love themselves these people r not capable of love just take use people.
How do i know if its intuition or my old traumas showing up to protect me
This is a good one
Another very helpful vid…really… thank you
Can a narc be both overt at first then switch up and act covert?
love you
A car??? Yes I can drive but im the shittiest driver around unfortunately so I haven't been able to for at least 18 months now!!! I own my own car and I'll be driving it when I'm ready to!! New life for me!!! 🙂❤
So good and so funny too 😄
This should be good
They have empty souls and future fake the next victim??? That's what I had for 27 years!! The use all your beautiful traits and pretend that they are theirs??? I can go on and on but from my experience action speaks louder than words!!! Thank God that's over! I'm not lazy!!! 😂😂😂❤❤🌷🌷🙏🙏🙏🙌
I know your in therapy for npd but do you ever have bad days?
How do you get away from a Narcissist?? Most people get into a trauma bond and have trouble leaving. Once you know they're a narcissist...wats next?
Empress Afiya I want to mention that it is a matter of simply ending the "relationship," BUT it needs to be done safely when the person is extremely dangerous! It depends on other factors, such as children being involved etc as well.
It's important to add that it's not easy in a lot of cases (some people are just relieved and happy to be free), because it can be like withdrawing from a powerful drug and childhood trauma wounds get triggered, especially abandonment issues, which was the case with me.
It's certainly worth it in the end though and I wish you all the VERY best with your situation. I don't usually get a chance to get back to any replies, so it's okay if you don't respond. I'm planning to catch up eventually though. ❤
@@cyndigooch1162 thank you so much!! We're neighbors living a block apart so that's the only issue. It's not easy and I end up going back 💁🏾♀️💁🏾♀️ but I realize life is short and time is precious. Love shouldn't cause so much pain and confusion. I hope you've healed well from your passed experience.
Where do we get the shirt you got on?
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@@MentalHealness awesome. Thanks! What do you think if I wear this in court when seeing him? 🤣 From narc perspective, does it bother them?
Totally agree
Can two toxic people be really good friends?
Slam on the brakes and watch him/her fly!!!!!!!!!!!! Stop being a push over ! To all my empaths it’s time to toughen up I can smell a narcissist 😂
The narc side eye 😂😂😂
Is that malignant or covert??? I thought covert was more like eeyore?
First sign: they post videos of themselves.
Lee I love what you do...but them eyes bubba...you have the same eyes my narcissist does...it's creepy actually....but in a weird way its confirmation to me I'm on the right track lol 😆🤷🏻♀️😉🙄😒 after 15 years(in a narcissistic shit show) ...the eyes are a dead giveaway for me...
My ex fiancé I left 1 1/2 year ago has stalked me ever since and he has hovered a lot of times 2 weeks ago he left a message on my car saying had cancer which is a lie and 2 days ago I saw him waiting for me on the parking lot to my workplace as soon as a saw him I changed my way he kept walking after me saying how he is never gone give up he was about to die the past is past I didn’t look at his face at look just look down on the ground while I was walking trying to get away from him I totally ignored I walked into a store hoping he would go away and he finally did.. but today he was waiting for me after work I saw him standing by my car !
what is this doesn’t his actions look like a borderline also? I know he is a cover narcissist will he ever stop ? the police won’t do anything I don’t live alone that’s why he probably doesn’t come to my house.
I moved with my ex around just when I met him in person omg 🤦♀️
I’m glad I left at 1.5 years before the marriage and kids
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Wednesday I mean the person is a narcissist of they only listen to u talk and they don't share much about themselves does that guarantee they are a narc
Nice shirt. Let me google it.
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Ask about their parents.
The answer should warn ya!!!
Do narcissism be gay or bi or in the closet
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I love you in 7-10 months❓How about in one week❓🤔😮😐
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@@Imnotyourdoormat STOP IT❗✋🚫🤔😮😕🙂 I hope 🙏 you RAN FOR YOUR LIFE‼️
@@Imnotyourdoormat WHEWWWww, glad you understand NOW❗🥰🥰🥰
I really want to know if narcissism is hereditary my poor grandson has a covert malignant narcissistic father and my daughter is an overt narcissist I have custody till he was 7 but he got out of prison and after a year I had to give up my boy to this abusive man he never talks he's a liar you sneaky he's mean and manipulative my grandson was hanging out the truck window 8 years old yelling my nana my nana the only one that ever took care of him since I cut his cord and that man said roll up the effing window and drove away won't let my grandson talk to me I don't know what kind of thread I am if it wasn't for me that baby would have went to foster care he did a home invasion but supposed to be twenty years but did 6 I just don't know how to get him to forgive me for fighting them in court seems like that's the reason he doesn't want me to see my boy he lies about me he's makes people think I'm crazy I'm just so devastated if he loves his son how can you do this to him so I wonder if his father wasn't and I'm afraid he's going to brainwash my grandbaby to hate me
Love your grandson and keep him away from a toxic environment. Show him right from wrong in a meaningful way . Guide him from a path of lies and let him be honest on who he really is . That’s a good step on him not ended up a narcissist.
U can’t trust them .
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Guys pray for me, by this point I am so scared to trust someone again. I feel every single person or man will betray me and do the same to me. Every time someone tries to be nice to me it reminds me of my ex at the beginning stages and I start feeling anguish and anxious like if I am going to die or something. It is an horrible feeling. 😢
How to spot a narcissist:
1.) They talk about themselves, constantly. Hardly letting you get a word in. They always have to talk about themselves or turn the conversation back to them.
"Me, me, me, me, me, me, me."
On the other hand, if you do talk about yourself they will look bored or space out until you are finished. Sometimes they will even be on their phone, ignoring you while you talk.
2.) They come up to you out of the blue, randomly, and ask you for a huge favor even though you are strangers and feel awkward as they ask it because you hardly know them.
When you reluctantly agree they say "Thanks Buddy. You are my bff." and then tell other people you are super close. 👯
3.) They get into your personal space and won't leave you alone. If you break up with them, they will show up at your house unannounced and knock on your door and peer through your window like a creeper. Sometimes they will even send you love letters for months and months, never leaving you alone. They don't understand the word "no"
If they want you back, and know you will be attending a specific event like your friend's wedding, they will show up even if they weren't invited.
coughs Megan. coughs
They don't take the hint, and have no social manners/boundaries.
4.) They name their pets/child after themselves and/or celebrate their birthday month with 3 birthday parties. Each on a different day throughout the month.
5.) They embarrass family and friends in public. They will be rude to wait staff and then storm out of the restaurant, leaving you in the dust.
"I'm sorry, so sorry about my husband's rude behavior." you will apologize before running after your husband. Meanwhile, your husband is long gone, sitting in the car on his phone.
They make you feel like you need to apologize constantly.
6.) They make things weird/awkward.
They will ask too personal questions like, "Hey, can you look at my bunion?" or "I think I got a rash on my butt, can you check?"
You will feel weird/grossed out and suggest they go see a doctor.
"Why would I do that?" they respond, dumbfounded. Like a doctor isn't even part of the equation.
7.) They have low self esteem.
"Does my hair look okay?"
"Are you SURE I don't look fat?" then they will say "oh my gosh! My hair looks awful. Just awful. What do I do?? My life is over! What will the neighbors think?"
They will act dramatic, like their life is over because their hair isn't perfect.
8.) They take things fast. They wanna move in together after knowing you a week. They wanna introduce you to their parents after a month. They paint a beautiful life picture of future vacations, 3 kids, a giant house with a picket fence. Telling you that is what they wanna work towards with you. (Future faking)
Everything seems so great, but everything is so moving fast. Too fast.
9.) They may wear cool clothes, expensive sunglasses indoors, and fix their hair often.
They may also take selfies constantly and admire their reflection in mirrors.
10.) They tell you how you should feel or what you should do, or tell you what you are feeling is wrong. (Put their ideas onto you)
If you are working behind a counter, they will walk up to you and say "You look miserable. You should smile more. That would make customers (them) happy."
Or if you are friends with them and they ask "What's your favorite food? I like sushi."
And you answer honestly "Oh I don't really like sushi. My favorite food is spaghetti."
They will respond, "😱oh no no no, sushi is the best! Here, let's go to a sushi restaurant. I insist! Once you try it I'm sure you will like it."
You try to stop them though. "I really don't want t-"
"Nonsense!" they bulldoze. "Let's go have sushi! It will be your new favorite food in no time! You'll love it, I just know it. It's best food out there!"