The 2 main reasons why the narcissist comes back | The Narcissists' Code Ep 888
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You bro I got one that went a put a bugus PRo order on me and I voice taking bout she love me Iam here soul mate taught me would grow old together Iam still in love with you that's why I can't move on why Iam doing this I want you to be my husband I was her lover and friend but I still been no contact it's just crazy will I please forgive her I don't get it got me drinking more than normal to stay no contact
"Once you glow up, don't you f'king dare let them back into your life."🔥🔥🔥🔥
Love it ❤
I MADE THAT MISTAKE ONCE AND ONCE I REALIZED I RUN 🏃♂️😂
Preach
Never! I went back twice cause our kid! Now I gave her till December 1st to go to therapy. If she doesn't, custody court it is. I'm done with her after December!
We was starrrN at me yesterday... BEAT IT MJ
Weaponizing someone's empathy is one of the most evil things a human being can do.
True but if we have and stick to boundaries and standards and provide consequences for them not abiding by them we then have only our selves to blame. We have our own accountability in this.
@alisachaise3 yes I agree. Boundaries are crucial.
Narcissist see people and world differently. They see people have emotion or kind, they consider "WEAK" so they attack the weak and bite them just like an animal attack the weak animal. In narcissist's world, Win or Lose, Kill or Killed. Whatever it takes, fake or true is not matter to them. They attack people first before they got attacked. Inside of them, they are in the war. Abused dog by an owner would attack all people. Dog got loved by owner, they are kind and easy with all other people. Abused human feels feel same way to other people and world. They have full of fear in their mind world. Too ouch to feel their insecurity, shame, and weakness because unsealed wound s. so they throw out and project the feeling to any targets. They think that all other people think same way.
They hijack our humanity.
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The line I always got . “checking on your well-being.” He was the reason that my well-being was off!!!
Mine discarded me last March by secretly trying to ghost me so I blocked him on everything and behind closed doors I started glowing up. I never posted about it much because I didn’t want him running back in my life. Since October I’ve been getting weird text messages and calls even fake cat fish messages from him and I have a feeling his sister is involved. Last week a day before his bday he texted me from a random number saying “hope all is well” I responded “who’s this?” And for almost three or four days no comment. I feel like that’s him so I blocked it just in case. He’s secretly trying to come back in my life but he discarded me so he doesn’t know how… I’m ready with my fingers on that blk button.
What he really meant was he was checking to see if he still had access to you. People like that are emotionally dangerous.
Mine also, left me out there to the wolves several times and did not call or see about me, this three strikes...YOUR OUT! I AM OUT! I AM NOT RETURNING!
@@whatupdoemia Yes!!
EXACTLY ! 😂 just checking on you! Hope you’re well! 😮😅😂 umm I’m well without you! Sir!
Don’t ever stay friends with them after a breakup, they only want control over you.
What kind of control?
Territorial beings
Yes Lee. Everytime you let them back all your progress goes down the drain. Never will I ever let that person who took me for granted back in to destroy me
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FACTSSSSSSSSSS
"They tried to bury you but didn't realise you were a seed..." WOW!!! EXCELLENT saying. I LOVE it! What does a seed do? It grows, it blossoms, it bears fruit.
These narcs have a heart of ice.
NO, these narcs have NO ❤
The "don't you fucking dare" was exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you.
Me too!!!
Realize that you are lucky to be out of the toxic relationship. Stop thinking your missing something or they are doing bettter where they are. A toxic person is toxic no matter where they go or who they will be with. Count your blessings, heal, then move on.
Thank you I needed that very important reminder.
When I was starting to get upset about him talking to other supply, was starting to get upset, but then had to remind myself that it's no loss and the new supply better watch out!
Your funny Lee😂 but you are so right! That's how the narc came into my life to begin with! They played the Saviour when we first met! And used it to manipulate me throughout!
They So play on our sympathetic hearts!
@wonderfullee2332 A narc CAN NEVER do better than you or truly be more successful than you or the universe or whatever and here's why...(1) A narc lives DAILY behind a smoke screen and mask of lies. They can NEVER be their true authentic self because that 'SELF' doesn't exist. So they lose from the jump and they will ALWAYS lose until they die. By the time they approach death most people would have figured them out and remove themselves from the narc. so a narc dies alone and lived a useless life and are a waste of life. And the painful thing is by the time they get really old, they know it too and they also know that they would have been better off not being born.
(2) The Shakesparean saying is, "To thine ownself be true, and it must follow as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man". The modern translation is, "Be true to yourself and you can't lie to anyone else". Here's the kicker...a narc lies to themselves, they don't want to face the truth and they can't face the truth even though the evidence is right in front of their eyes. So they spin and believe in their own bullsh!t even though it's all false. When you cut yourself off from a narc you become a helium balloon and what does a helium balloon do? It rises up and up and up! Go away and live your life. Say namaste and walk away and be a helium balloon and rise from the narcissist, succeed in life and be at peace.
@@ep3629 Mine did too, thought it was a sure sign we were meant to be but that first discard, narcissi tic rage showed up...well let's just say, glad I am divorcing after six months of matrimony.
@@LaMesaC same! The narc rage! Narc got diagnosis of borderline and bi polar 2 as well! Im also divorcing mine-- after 4 years! It was TOO MUCH! Are in san diego btw?? I grew up near LA mesa!
I’m a Psychologist and the best thing you can do with a narcissist is set boundaries, grey rock and disconnect. They hate being ignored and they hate not being in control.
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They definitely DO hate being ignored. Grey rock is hard sometimes though if it's not someone you know personally. I've tried really hard to disconnect from toxic people at work and it just doesn't work very well. They play all kinds of mind games and trap you in elaborate situations to embarrass you.
My ex NARC called me from a hospital bed so he could see how I was doing. 😂😂He asked if I missed him, I said NO.. He didn't believe me 😂😂😂😂. That was the last time he ever called.
When I was with him, I worked in a skilled nursing facility and he told me any trained monkey could do my job.. I bet he has a different perspective now😂😂. He broke up with me about a year prior to the Hoover. He is blocked everywhere and I am much happier ❤
Go girl🎉❤
Lee, you have helped me to permanently stay away from my ex narc. Without your shorts and videos, I would not have fully understood all the harmful aspects of the past relationship. I can understand your frustration when people keep getting hurt in these relationships, but it will finally click for people eventually.
Don't Even Claim That Narc As Yours. The Narc Is O.P.P. (Other Peoples Problem) Now!
He keeps it 💯
I completely agree! Same here!
Same!!!!! He’s helped undo all the gaslight and manipulation/ brainwashing i was under
@@cancerianzodiac5349 O.P.P. is now my new perspective. 🥰
They definitely want to see you have a big emotional reaction. They will pick and pick until u get upset, then they will say you are overreacting.
If they ask for help, tell them no or simply ignore it. You don't need to help someone who will weaponize your empathy against you. They need to get "help" somewhere else.
Just say No. When they ask for help. It saves you a lot of years, time and life.
That’s why maintaining no contact is the best plan. However, I know some people have to co parent with them. I can’t imagine how hard it is. 😢
😭 I wish I would've seen this before I let my ex back into my life after I healed and grew and set boundaries and started to love myself. It took me a year and a half to get to that solid point and he destroyed it all in less than 1 week. So true, don't ever let them back in.
I needed this 20 yrs ago when I remarried my first husband again. To help me get my child from the second husband that broke me down so far I was he threatened to take me to state if I didn't do what he said. So my 1st husband was let back in....what a disaster
Did you let him in again after a year and a half? That would be so hard ..
You are correct when you’ve said that IF you take them back they get worse! That’s is 1000% percent true. I’ve experienced it first hand
Set your BOUNDARIES and STAND on where you're at! Thank you for HELPING me to HELP MYSELF
It's not that easy when she's the only person I'm clapping cheeks with. But I'm setting limits on the amount of money I spend lol
@@marco3330😂then just go get another girl!!
“THEY TRIED TO BURY ME
BUT THEY DIDN'T KNOW
TWAS A SEED!” ❤️
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Every time Lee says, “Cheek clappin!” 😂🤣
I love how narcs believe in their head that the person they hurt bad is so f-up that they need them . How egotistical. Let them go!
Omg..... They didn't bury, they planted a seed. That is one of the most powerful things I've ever heard!!!! Wow!!!!
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Damn, I didn't see that second reason coming, but you got it spot on. He's coming back to try to get to me and hurt me more. He hasn't changed a bit. The sad thing is I'm watching another girl now go through what I went through with him. Why do we do this to ourselves???
the mind can be both fragile and resilient
My heart aches for us all. I battled with myself with informing his new supply. I only told her to educate herself on Narcissism. I did not come off as a scorned, bitter ex, but instead, an ex more concerned about her emotional well-being. I did not expect a response, but did expect to be blocked. She did not, so hopefully she heeded my warning.
And no, you don't cuss too much. Like you said, you cuss when you're mad (and passionate), so don't stop. If they don't like it, they can move on to another channel. Love ya Lee and I love that you keep it real. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
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I agree. Hey Gina 👋
@@tranquility9325 👋 😊
Yup, my ex has been trying to "help" me with home renovations lately. I think he just secretly wants to help me so he can have access and move in with me. I already told him I am no longer interested in a sexual relationship.
DO NOT let him help you. That is a foot in the door tactic.
I have learned such great lessons and understanding. I would be a fool now to ever accept him back. I swear, after healing it would be trouble. I will never forget how one year felt like 10 years, mentally, physically and spiritually! Hell to the No.
Try 14 years. 😢 It's over now.
My ex definitely used to hospital scenario. Had his brother texting me lying saying he died. I told his brother to stop the bull and be honest. He later told me he got in a dispute with another woman, and was trying to get me to help him. I only talked to him for 5 minutes, and kept it moving with my life. Never looked back💯
Can’t believe it’s been 2.5 yrs out of 10yrs 2 children … the message never gets old when you’ve been so brutally abused confused and tricked 🥹
Thank you 🙏🏼👑🥰 best friend 🫶🏼
Lee, I want you to know I have been watching your videos for about 6mo, and they have brought me the clarity, validation, and strength I needed to break the toxic cycle I was in. You just may have saved my life, and I want to say thank you; from the bottom of my heart, you are truely doing Gods work.❤
This was brilliant. Something about hearing this from not just a male but a diagnosed narcissist is especially helpful. Thank you for this work.
Another great video. I left the narcissist, was hoovered back 3 weeks later. Was discarded over the phone 3 months later 2 weeks before Thanksgiving. Hoovered back again 6 weeks later, he wanted to help me. 6 months later while he was raging over something stupid I left. It's been 3 months, he began hiis hoovering, this time to hurt me. Now I know what he is and I am strong have boundries. Never again will I fall victim. I'm too good for him nd his games.
It’s just another way to get you back under their control and manipulation tactics. It is frustrating I understand. I have completely disconnected. I get it Lee. Thank you 🙏
Thank you kind sir 17 years never been better God is Good❤️
That is so deep “they try to bury you but didn’t know you were a seed” love ❤️ this very much.
Yep he ain't Lyin! Mine would always hit me with " I just been going through so much lately and today was such a crazy day and he thought he could reach out to the only person who would understand" yadadadada
I rarely hear U cuss! That gets the point across better, after all aren’t we all adults here? 🤦♀️
Lee U are AMAZING! I grabbed UR I am Self Love journal, love it. I cannot hear don’t go back enough. ❤ Thank you for all your messages.
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The comparison to 'Minority Report' and 'they arrest you for things you for crimes that might commit'. They hurt you for things that might happen. WOW. So good and so helpful. Thank you Lee, lots of your videos resonate and remind me I am better off without this person
😂😂😂😂😂 mine knows empathy is not my first name anymore .... he dare not. I'm so grown up .... He'll be scared to be in touch. I dont need him saving me. The trauma is much more than any good memories. Boundaries are imminent.
Yes he can try to come back to hurt me but no chance ....hes done enough damage already. He can't hinder my progress and joy anymore . I'm a fruitful tree. Once beaten, 10 trillion times shy ....
Bless you Lee
It's so true, they come back to hurt you. The exact thing happened to me.
So true. My ex tried to reach out to "help" me and my fam. I took great pleasure in telling him "we don't need your help" and " we don't NEED you, for anything, ever".
Dang narc literally just left me 2 voicemails asking for me to call” I need your help” nope not responding.. you give me that brother vibes like sis, no more drama.. I hear you and I’m following through.
I LOVE you!!! This is so true!!!! Thank you for sharing your tremendous amount of knowledge!!!
I listened to Lee ALL THE TIME. Everything he says is true. It’s always about them NEVER us. So true 🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I started ignoring him like he ignored me. I then received emails. "You've been silent. You never loved me".
Chile when Lee said “don’t you f*€¥ing dare”! I felt that in my soul 😂. Thank you for the constant reminder! 👍🏽👍🏽
I never thought I'd find myself in a relationship like this.......7 years too long!! I finally left, and that's the most important thing, but I just can't understand WHY I stayed in this craziness for so long, enduring so much stress; pain; aggravation; anger; depression...... everything!
I'm thinking of now seeking a therapist, to heal, and work through the trauma, and drama.
I devised a vengeful strategy, and bombshell that sent this man into an emotional tailspin, as I made my departure.....and although he deserved it, I still feel a little guilty, as this is NOT who I am. However, I had to think like the narc😢 and now I'm moving on, focusing on peace of mind, and healing my spirit💖🕊️🙏🏽
Im not saying this is the right thing to do, but I did what was best for me, at the time.
God bless, and protect all of us who are dealing with the darkness of these relationships, and trying to find our way back to the light❤
Girl, I usually teach my toxic exes lessons but I didn't this very last one. I believe its because I'm older and just wanted this relationship to be different all the way around, no matters how much shit and verbal abuse he dealt out towards me. I now have walked away knowing there's absolutely NOTHING he can say I've done to him. ill sleep good at night and he just wont. The worst thing I did to him was walk away. He never saw it coming. So no judgement for you💛 I get it...I really wanted to teach him SOME type of lesson but I had my bestie to keep me grounded and wanted to keep to the new me. I'm glad you're on your way to healing💛
Exactly right. Narc was so toxic and caused his own problems. Once I see the pattern I left most indefinitely. They were also praying on others in the same way. It was so draining. Never again. Energy vampires. Thank You for this video! I hope others learn from this. 😊
Lee U are my favorite person with NPD!!! Thank U for creating this platform for those of Us who have been affected!
Thank you for being here
Who have been infected.😢
2008-2022, off and on.. longest gap was 4yrs. One child together, only man my daughter has ever seen me deal with. Final episode was him going into a rage and she witnessed. Final straw was when on the night of his father's funeral, I was sitting with him to be supportive, he was angry at a friend that didn't show up. Allegedly because said friend had slept with the 3rd party that the narc had me triangulated with for over half of our relationship. As if all the other years I hadn't already realized where I stood, that moment FINALLY made it VERY CLEAR to me.
I choose me now
@kimperkin5010 spot on!! 💪🏾😂
He’s back after 2 years. I know he needs help. His supply mustve kicked him to the curve. But NOPE! Yessss I cracked open that bottle of Good Emotions. I’m thinking of aaaallll the beautiful things about this beautiful demon. But Mental Healness, you are a blessing. You helped me leave him, and you are helping to keep him away. Thank you!
Thanks for the videos Brother. I'm a poster child for hoovering experience. They'll ask you back, when you call them out on their bluff and show up, you'll see they weren't serious. My ex is up to her 9th hoovering. At this point I'm just doing it for practice. Wants to work things out, I show up, I get "I don't know what to do". Well, I'm standing right in front of you. If you'd have meant it, you'd already have your arms around me. Don't ever discount the obvious energy you not only feel, but see. If someone tells you they're crazy, needs a psychologist and has problems. Believe them. You can't save them. You can barely save yourself and you already know. If you find yourself willing to be cannon fodder, that's your answer. It's going to hurt either way. Hurt for you, not for them.
Thanks for this Lee. I didn’t get chance to view it when it first came out. I’m glad I did. My ex who ended the relationship with me last year - called me yesterday through an unknown number. As soon as I heard..his voice say..”did you ever love me?” I hung up the phone. He went on to call me over 100 times (could be more than) I had to put my phone on airplane mode. Anyway I stuck to my boundaries. It was hard but there’s nothing harder than having to rebuild yourself worth and esteem. This video came to me as a reminder that what I did was the right thing to do. Thanks again for the support and keep up the great work you do in educating people about narcissistic behaviour.
He literally dumped our whole 6x12 storage unit in my driveway and it started pouring. Instead of taking his " help". ( He offered several times) , i did it myself, one box at a time. My rooms are still filled with boxes but im going through them a lil at a time. 😊
Lee I'm so grateful for all your videos. They protect us from pure hell.
The quote you like "they tried to bury me but they didn't know I was a seed" is a poem from a greek poet named Ntinos Christianopoulos (1978). I feel this poem in my skin in all this journey to my mental healing.
I send you much ❤and 🙏 to you and your beautiful wife and kids from Greece.
Man, if i didn’t just get the information that I would’ve shown empathy, this video shows up and puts me back in the car and drive away. Thank you for the F-Bombing. I needed this because this situation for 2 and a half months, blew my mind. Thank You Lee!!
Whenever my narcissistic (soon-to-be ex) husband begins to hoover, all I hear now is, “Blah, blah, boo, boo, bee, bee.” 😂
Thank you for your perspective and channel; you’ve educated and empowered many who have been going through this emotional hell.
God bless you; keep healing and growing 💪🏻.
You and we got this💪🏿 hit the road jack🦶🏾🦶🏾🦶🏾don't come ba ck no moe🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
LOL
I hear the Charlie Brown teacher.
"Wah wah wah wah wah wah"
Your right every time I try and set boundaries I get smacked in the face😢. He doesn't hoover, its me that goes back after the silence. Shit wanna stop me from being happy with me
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Lee, your acting or example giving voice is killin me!!!💀⚰️💀⚰️💜💙
I'm actually laughing because I'll never get this honesty from him... and it hurts so bad but I appreciate your videos.
Just in one conversation he said..
"I'm trying to help you through this"
"How could you let someone take your happiness"
"Yes i was wrong but you shouldn't have gone digging, now your feelings are hurt"
Fact, Fact, Fact‼️I’m a living witness to this whole video. I had to truly pray, and I’m still praying, to fight through this type of evil existence. But like Lee said, you’re a seed , so they can try to bury you all that they want, but know that you’re a seed ! You’ll blossom through it all. Faith over Fear🙌🏾🙏🏾
Yeah I’ve moved on finally, and he said I am your friend. I will always have your back I don’t need friends like him anymore. Seriously.
Lee, you’ve preached a WORD on this one‼️
♥️ Thank you
I have been binge watching your videos, ever since I broke up with my Narc ex, thank you for making videos like this! 🙌🏽✨
Same I walked away from mine and started watching Dr. Ramani (whom i watched a while ago) and Lee. The videos have been so healing.💛😍💪🏾
Oh yes! I absolutely love her channel too! I have been watching her for years. 🤗
It's tough because it takes time to learn self-love, but once you get there it's a lot easier to cut things off even if you love that narcissist a lot. I think a lot of people genuinely hope they'll get help and change, but honestly the only way they will change is if their games no longer work and no one takes them back. Maybe at that point they'll actually work on themselves. Going back to them achieves nothing for either of you.
Some people have to experience it in order to "understand". I know I did. But....I suited up with knowledge and patterns of Narcs. So....ya....I needed to know for "myself". It's all true what Lee is telling us!!
Don't let your empathy be weapon ize against you❤😢
Thank you, Lee. I needed to hear this. He is physically stalking me and repeatedly telling me that he's not eating because of the breakup. He is also offering help anytime I need it. Your videos are helping me stay strong and offer me a safe place to vent. Please continue doing what you are doing. You are a big help to a lot of us during these scary times. ❤
Lee you and my best friend and really helping me leave my Narc Husband. Been a victim for 10yrs. I have a trauma bond it's going me a hard time to leave but I've already taken steps with a protective order. We have 2 kids together I'm done. You're videos really be helping me me get through the day
My covert narcissist popped up 😮 I made sure I saw a video before I decided to respond and I decided to I keep conversation serious no emoji and I made sure to be clear and to the point before he shuts down again freaking incredible the mind games they play I am so good I feel strong because of videos like this
Thank You for this. I believe the 2nd reason you said in this video is what my ex girlfriend (narcissist) at 3 years is trying to do now. She didn't want me, left me for a new supply that appears to not have worked out, and now she's wanting to come back into my life. She was out of my life for 2 months.
Yep, it will never work out fine with anyone in their lifes. They come and go, between all people they can keep in their hands. They don't even want the relationship be happy and long lasting.
Keep no contact, better home alone than home wishing you were alone.
Thanks Lee, needed to hear this today. He's doing exactly what your saying atm. I'm not falling for it. I've moved on, he's not a happy bunny 😂 atm. fake profiles...I love you's..I'm sorry..I need you..miss you...blah blah..circling in his car. It's great when you get your power back and see through the illusions.
Mine just hoover me saying he wanted to explain and apology for the cheating that i caught him with. Bloody hell. No explanation. Everything is crystal clear
Thank you Lee!!!
“They didn’t know that you become a fruitful seed!!! “👍🎇🎇🎇Love it! ❤️
Lee I received a bday gift from him, I called him(knowing I shouldn’t but thought I was strong enough to tell him off) he did tell me tho that he knows I blocked him because he’s toxic, and that someone broke his heart that’s y he’s going around breaking hearts, he also said he cannot forget abt me(the
Magical seggs ofc) 👀🧐 and that he wants to see me😡, he also blame shifted saying “u ghosted me” I know he’s back to harm me because he’s mad I discarded him blocked him and was DONE
be safe
And yet again, this is my ex. I stopped talking to him, I stopped doing things for him. So now, he started taking me out and talking to me. I helped him when he was in the hospital and lost his toe last year. Now, his leg is not doing good. So I think he's trying to hang on to me because he knows I'm gonna help him. We already agreed that we are done but did he mean that? I'm trying to move on from him, and I made plans for myself in the future that i'm working on now. He doesn't know any of it. He'll find out when it's done and I'm gone. Because if he knows, he'll try and stop me. Thank you again so much for your videos
This was so on time ⏲️😢 Thanks for this motivational guidance... today has been difficult, but I haven't broken my detoxification....Praise God x 🙏
BROTHER, I APPRECIATE ALL THE EDUCATION & FACTS YOU’VE PRESENTED TO ME. BUT IT CUTS LIKE A KNIFE, TO KNOW I WAS MARRIED TO SUCH EVIL! I CLINCH MY FISTS & GRIT MY TEETH, WHEN YOU TEACH! BUT I APPRECIATE YOU LEE! THANK YOU SO MUCH! 😔
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LEE! Literally im 4 min in and the I need help/ I just wanna help, the hospital 😂he has done all that in the past.
Thank you for sharing your perspective😃❤I know it’s healing all these open wounds for people who didn’t and can’t get closure
I won’t fuckin dare. Thank you again
You are my favorite narcissist. Far away and no harm done. Good luck with the kid's book! Thank you!
you’re welcome
Mine also wrote that he was in the hospital and that I should get in touch urgently to get back to Hoover. If I blocked his numbers then he made new numbers again.When I got involved with him again and met with him, he showed me photos of the relationship with a new woman that he had built up with me during the relationship, he came back to hurt me with it, he told me that he I looked for someone else because he knew I wouldn't stay much longer. But he had several affairs during our relationship
Omg Lee you are so on point. My ex husband has been so helpful lately. I actually needed help buying parts for my car but Im paying him back. My ex husband has always been really helpful. Its sad because he was the only one helping me after the break up. We divorced last year because he wanted to be with his sidechick. But then my whole family left me. I had no one. He even took care me when I had covid last year. Its hard when you have no one else. I had all my family when I was married. Its just been me and God.
I like the cussing, means business!! I'm still trying to figure out why my soon to be ex husband wants me to be begging for him back after telling me he has been done for a long time and no longer loved me.... I hate these stupid games... thank you for this video. If he ever comes running back, I'm prepared to laugh and say nope you had your chance. I'm learning I can be strong and stand my ground and its okay to do so.
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I love your brutal honesty and many times I find myself laughing because you are so on point, I love it thanks to you I have been no contact with my narc husband and moving forward in my life for me and the kids, long overdue
Lee you have helped me thus far, it’s a journey and I do have withdrawals but I start thinking how I’ve put 2and2 together to why this or that happened and it gives me my answer bc I was in the blind. But I’m Trusting in God to see me thru, Hallelujah 🙌
Sometimes we may never have all the answers, but that is okay, too. I believe that in these difficult times, it is best to not overthink it; to just move on and never look back. You may never really know the narc or the reasons for their actions, but now is the time to know YOURSELF.
U are right, I listen to u a lot & every time I see my situation… well that use to be my situation. I am absolutely No contact & thank you I couldn’t be more happier.
Amen!!! Preach it Lee!!! I have a rule. I tell a person things to help 1x. Person don't listen, I move on. Life is too short to waste precious time. Thank you for your strong & powerful message. You care Lee ☺️. We need more people like you in the world, to tell us the truth, help set us free from toxic relationships, and encourage therapy. Being free of a toxic relationship, feels like a huge weight lifted off one's shoulders. Leaving a narcissist, sets us free to have beautiful lives. I watch your videos to heal and grow 🪴. They are truly a blessing. Because you care, you use strong language to get your point across. You want people to be delivered, heal, grow and be safe. The truth isn't always pretty, but the truth remains the truth. God bless you and family Lee. Thank you for your honesty and transparency 😀
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My narcissistic ex is a bit of a shock jock. He loves to get reactions from people. Last week he told me he was selling his very low profit business. I believe that this comment was meant to upset me and make me worry. Instead, I said I wish that he had made that decision years ago as as his business makes so little money. I let him believe he had hurt me with the news. Chalk one up for team survivor!
Thank you for sharing this. I’m finally getting to see the light. No more helping me or them. I will have the strength to never go back again.
You got this!
Ultimately hoovering is the narcissists attempt to restore their (lost) grandiosity.
This literally happened to me last Labor Day weekend we haven’t talked since 2019 n try n help me …however I’m a whole home owner with no roommates,fully furnished…
I need no help …n he started love bombing me! I called him out on it n blocked him! Thanks again Lee💚
I started watching Ur video .I pray that with Ur videos will heal me and get my power back .3 yrs of lot of hurtful lies and we all the rest I thank y for all Ur knowledge to really genuinely teach Us and truly care .God bless y 🙏🙏 and thank y .Mr Lee .
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Lee! You're like my secret weapon against my narcissist ex! Thanks for doing what you're doing
I love your humorous videos, but this video might be my favorite of all! this is 💯🔥It's mind boggling how true this is! 💕
You are dead right. My husband offered a help yesterday and I accepted it and it was a big mustake!!!! Never again.
i needed you to say it like that this am fr dont u fn dare!
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I see you struggle with the same thing I have in the past. It IS unbelievable how much effort and truth you are giving that goes in one ear and out the other. It's a common frustration of all people who add to the individual and collective health and do so because they want to give the tools and information for best quality life from doctors to x-ray tech's to mental health providers especially the survivers and thrivers of said ... I can't tell you how many thousands of times I've said to new diabetics, NO DON'T EAT STRAWBERY CAKE after lunch and dinner, explained why and they say they understand then two days later they are in the ER with crazy high blood sugar, so you tell them everytime your sugar goes up it burns the blood veins and arteries especially around your kidneys and heart and brain, just the things a human has to have to live without pain. Big sigh, mental heath can be just as destructive as Diabetes over the long haul every episode of staying where no boundaries serve you brings the etheral vessels that nourish clarity of mind, aware of the negatives to boot away as they occurr to lose track of the difference in joy and hate as was planned for them. People do what their grocery store clerk advises more than people who devote time to be the voice of reason giving facts and likely outcomes. It's tha od saying you can't make people do any thing, it's not that you haven't done something right you are doing the ony right thing there is to do, right? Keep on being about your mission - growth is like a yawn. It's catching.
it's so frustrating sometimes!
Yeag, he keeps blocking me then after a week or two he will call me . I always ask him why he's calling me and he says, "I wanted to check on you to see how you're doing.." I'm really so damn sick andbtired of him.playing with my emotions. He knows exactlynwhat buttons to push. He enjoys the over the top reaction he gets from me when he says and does certain things to hurt me.
Thank you for your honesty you drop some nuggets today that were life changing. Since I’ve been listening to you it’s all making sense. I can, I am a Survivor 🙏🏽 I’m a Seed that is blossoming ❤️
My nac ex reached out yesterday, hitting me with a 'hey ,look, I am in your city just in case you wanna see me ' Thanks to you, I wasn't surprised because in one of your episode you said we should expect this.
Dang why are you so on point, he used to send me pics of the emergency room bracelets.. I swear you’re in my head with all the stuff he’s doing. It’s like your right here😤
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I had one do it..
Thank you Lee. I needed to hear this today. I’m five months no contact.
Run away as fast as you can and never look back!