3 Mindset Shifts To STOP Relationship Anxiety
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Relationship Anxiety sucks. Constantly wondering whether or not your partner is going leave you can turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy. This type of thinking is due to not understanding your real worth in the relationship or using ineffective points of comparison.
In this video, I talk about 3 mindset shifts you can make to learn how to stop being insecure in your relationships:
It's how you dance within the connection with them [03:31]
Focus on the connection [03:39]
Your differences create attraction [04:46]
Embrace your differences [05:09]
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I get anxious in my relationship because I don’t want to get hurt by becoming too vulnerable with my partner
Omg same here , this is ruining my life . Tell me please are you still together?
Its all about letting go and acceptance
@@jessecageller3463 No we broke up almost a year ago and it was for the best
Monica, I feel the same way!
Sooo true
1. Stop competing with your partner or everyone else around you. The differences will be the glue.
2. Understand That you have a sacred part in your partner's life.
3. Continue to grow and work on yourself!! Be your best self!!
thanks!
This is good advice..thank you 💜
Bingo
It honestly doesn't get any simpler than that!!! Love it.
My Beau and I had this conversation recently.
We both have our fears. The man has no idea how much I love him. It’s been 1 year but I think once we get passed 2 years, I’ll feel more secure.
As a guy, my anxiety is always my not so hidden shame. I've had experiences in the past where the communication and vibes are heavy early on, but if one little thing changes ....like some daily communication to a lapse in a text message of three hours or so...my anxiety kicks in and I become concerned I'm being abandoned and she's no longer interested in me. And it hurts so much and makes dating a nightmare.
I'd say that regarding messages, let's say she writes you, you respond, then 4 to 6 hours go by, without a message from her,you start to wonder, maybe she doesnt really like me and such, shift your thoughts to, if she wouldn't like me, she wouldn't write me to start with, or to she is busy at work or with her family, start to shift the flow of negative thoughts to positive
I feel you man
CutlassFire2722 I so o o get it. It's crippling...ugh
CutlassFire2722 We anxious attachment style people suffer with this a lot. Thanks to early childhood parenting 😬
CutlassFire2722 you need to look inside yourself and maybe even find a professional help to address what you are dealing with being in panic, this is deep problem that may bring you a divorce if you ever get married.
For me the anxiety comes from texting and online interaction. I find that when we are together in person, there can still be some anxiety but for the most part it’s just not there at all. I get the most anxious when I don’t get a text back right away, when she responds to my relatively long text with a short text... things like that. Also when I wake up in the morning and see that she has posted on her social medias but I go to my texts/snapchat and see nothing from her.
Deep down when I think about it logically I know it is nothing to worry about. I know she loves me so much but still my mind just can’t stop filling in the blanks with terrible negatives. It makes being in a relationship really hard for me sometimes. I really just wish this anxiety would go away because it can definitely get debilitating.
man I feel the same and it's really pain😭
Absolutely the exact same thing for me. I work away and a lot of the time. While we’re home it’s good, like you said a little anxiety, not much. As soon as I’m away, it goes completely opposite. It feels for me how much love and passion you have for this person and you’re not getting it on return the same you give it.
The anxiety and stories that my mind makes can make me feel so sick and the lack of sleep is awful.
It’s son very hard.
I get the same thing brother, you aren’t alone in this horrible experience and habit.
damn going through this exact thing rn
Ugg! This is exactly me 😭
Any slight change in their texting style makes me jump to black and white thinking and triggers this hypervigilence that causes me to read into the conversation and find things that aren’t even there. It’s so hard to pinpoint and stop.
Nice awareness, Hadley. Has me confident that you'll make progress given your ownership and language about your experience.
Hads same dude
I'm telling you, mate, if you have the mental capacity to see your flaws, you have the power within to change them. One of the most important things is to stop hating yourself when the problem occurs. The worst thing you can do is being your own enemy. Self-love goes a long way. It's the first step. The seed of healthy change is the realization that you're not horrible the way you currently are. You're alright and you deserve to be even better. I've spent years trying to get a gym routine going, fuelled by self-hatred and always stopping after a few months. Now I'm in the best shape of my life, all because I've learned to accept myself as the first step.
I can relate to this so much.. have you been doing better now?
I feel you. Same here
I always feel like this 😥 he’s never left me but it’s past pain that haunts me
Same. PTSD from the crap that happened between us before we were even together. It's painful, and I get so anxious and can't seem to let go of the past.
Hey girls, same. And I do communicate. But it doesn’t help. I feel better for a few days but then memories come up or I start to think I am not good enough again. Thankfully he understands and try’s to comfort me when I go through this. But I just feel so bad for bringing up my insecurities. I also feel like he’ll leave eventually because I can’t get over it and it’s been years. I thought I would be somewhat better... but it’s not. I often want to leave because I think he’ll be better off, I’d rather just rip the bandage off, but I can’t. It’s like Zenoa said, a type of ptsd that just keeps reoccurring in memories and dreams. Small behaviors can trigger me when generally he’s just tired or dealt with someone difficult. It’s just so annoying and I wish my brain would just get over it.
I understand 😔
@@zenoameli same. Im scarred from a situation tht happened between us 4 years ago.
Exactly what I’m going through now
I feel insecure everytime my girlfriend doesn't text me back for a long period of time. And I know deep inside that I trust her and she's so loyal to me but things wrestle my mind. And as I watch this video, I finally learned something. Yeah, just think that you have a special place in your partner's heart that no one has and you also have to love and trust yourself. Both of you have your own life. No matter your difference are, you two are still connected to each other. Thank you for the advice.👍
Thanks for that advice Mark. I needed it.
@@Nulimitz your welcome.👍
Break her up
If my boyfriend doesn't text for a long time or he isn't active on Insta or he has left me on "seen" I have very bad stomach cramps bc our relationship is from a distance 😖
@@user-pw9ie9ou7t I'm in my first relationship now (we are Together for a month now)and i feel you
Everytime he doesn't text me back for a long time I start to overthink and because of Corona and exams we can't see each other this much which make it worse but reading that i am not alone with it helps so much. I think especially because it's my first relationship i have to learn so much 🌻
I’m in a relationship that I been in for a year and I’m still insecure, I honestly really hate it but it’s like my mind won’t let it go, it’s getting to the point where I hate myself so much that I don’t wanna be in the relationship just for the fact that I hate how it makes me feel. I need help man :/
Burzey oh man! That sucks!
Seek a therapist for a counselling! Maybe only some appointments. I’ve been stuck in a symbiotic relationship which lead to this kind of feelings in me.
Hope you’re able to work on yourself, take a time out to focus on your feelings and to feel what your guts are telling you really to do. Fear is always a not very wise counsellor! Wish you all the good luck from Germany
Me too mate. I have the exact same feeling. can't handle my girlfriend who talked to one of her co workers. My mind also can't get lose. we should talk about it. because it doesn't work when you talk about this kind of situations with someone who is close to you
You are not alone buddy.. I have felt the same in my relationship and it is one of the scariest feelings in the world.
Seek help from people, talk to people whom you can trust and whom you love, keep working on yourself no matter what. I know it seems too difficult to do this at this time, but try to do it.
All will be okay buddy.. relax.. you are worthy.. I promise!
@@mauricejohnson1902 Yeah.. you just feel worthless about yourself at that time and that feeling is too bad.
Is not being in a relationship at all the only option to end this feeling?
suraj mehra for me it isn’t. Been with this girl for 4 years ! And it’s a feeling that is since 0,5 years ago..... I created a jealousy for myself which is to bad. But I’m working hard and things get better. I’m not feeling like breaking up with a girl that I’m happy with for 4 years !
**sobbing in anxiety**
I feel horrible for saying this, but this comment cracked me up! LOL
My anxiety is tearing me apart. It makes me feel insecure and jealous when I know nothing's wrong and I shouldn't be. I just wish it would end. I want to feel happy, but sometimes I feel like nothing will ever get better and I should just off myself
anxiety is really hard to deal with but you have the power to heal from it and live a fulfilling life, you have to give yourself the room to improve rather than close yourself off
hard agree
this helped a lot, I want my relationship to last but it’s been hard cause I overthink every little thing sometimes /: I’m trying to get better tho and learn trust
SAME THING FOR ME
It's a growth journey!! I feel you on that.
Please tell me you guys are together
🙏🙏🙏
Me too! And im in LDR where i see him mostly every other week so it just makes it harder but im getting a little better
I am editing my post because I now realize how powerful my words are. Therefore: I am worthy of love, I am love-able. Being in a healthy, wonderful relationship is as natural as breathing to me. I am successful in love. My anxieties have faded away, only to be replaced with a happy marriage, filled with comfort, affection and trust. Thank you God 🙏❤️
I feel you
I feel exactly the same way. My head hurts everyday.
Gabriella G. Hi Gabriella, I understand your frustration, we have this in common, I’m single for this reason, fall in love with yourself and cherish yourself and your life will change, hope this helps, regards, Bob,
Study Attachment Science Theory. It's very helpful. You are some form of Anxious Attachment. Look up Thais Gibson, of Personal Development School. She's on RUclips and Facebook and it very helpful for free. Shalom
I’m doing this too. I want to be loved and love someone else so much. I do think I kind of love him but I don’t want to, I wish I didn’t. It’s making me so insecure and miserable :( I can’t handle rejection, I don’t want it. I’d rather sabotage / f it up than carry on sometimes cus I don’t want to face him eventually rejecting me. It’s crap.
I am trying to learn this lesson. Because I lost the love of my life because of relationship anxiety. Men get tired of it and then they can't take it and they leave . Please please if you are going through this and still have your partner please heal yourself.
sandysmith71 is true..my partner always complain about it..we have been dating for 5 months now but because of my relationship anxiety, my relationship is not going well
It's been almost six months and he never came back and I never heard from him again 😕
Oh I need to fight this. I can't loose him
Sending you hugs
@@graceewenam8753 then look up the art of love or coach Ken good coaches on you tube to listen to if yoy want to have a chance of getting him bqxk or keeping him. We Sabotage ourselves sometimes by what we do when it's really what will push them away. I'm cheering you on
This is just what I needed today, i am always insecure and most of the time overthink.
Thanks for the vulnerability, Joao. Much respect
overthinking by far yes
I’m experiencing this right now and I’m in a relationship. I don’t want to mess this one up. I’ve been doing mental exercises and trying to fix myself for my relationship.
Wow dude you made me feel much better lol. Wasn’t my intuition. Just anxiety!! I know my man loves me. I was hardcore going to the gym when we got back together and I got comfortable and stopped going to the gym. Now he’s hanging with his friends a little more and I have nothing to do but think and think and watch him have fun thinking he’s having more fun with them than with me and it makes me overthink but it ALL stems from insecurity which I have gained more from being comfortable. Wow I love you. Made me think. You may have prevented my relationship from taking a turn due to me overreacting. Thank you
Alexis G i have this problem, how did you stop overthinking and overreacting because i do this and its ruining our relationship :’( please, how did you feel more comfortable and less on edge when hes not with you and hes with his friends having fun?? X
hey girl! if theres anything i know its that intuition whispers while anxiety screams. sometimes its hard to tell between them, but if its intuition it definitely hits different.
Are still together with your husband. I’f so how did you build that so you didn’t have to create to much anxiety.
You had me crying man. You don't know how long I've dealt with this. Every morning waking up and within the first five minutes I'm in the bathroom vomiting. And through the course of the day. Always doubting myself and always thinking the person your with is gonna do you like a previous relationship did. I remember being confident in myself and never getting thoughts that felt like they were being pushed into my head where that all you can think about till your hot all over sweating and that's when I vomit. I'm glad I'm not the only one like this but then again I wish no one felt the way I do. I even get this way with my job or even when I was going to school not near as bad as "relationship anxiety" but some of the same building blocks I think.
i started getting this anxiety the month of my anniversary . that whole month was the worst thing i’ve ever been through . i was focusing so much on the negatives that i almost forgot what love felt like . i cried to my bf every night almost .. i hated it . i was scared and i thought i was going mental . it’s been 3 months since then , and i’m recovering . my bf is helping me and no matter how bad it gets .. i won’t let my anxiety take away the man i love .
I know 😇even in my case it’s been a month now 😢that feeling is the worst scariest ever +i don’t want to loose him he loves me sooo much I’m also still recovering 🙏🏻I hope I can get over this and love him even more cause he deserves it ❤️I too don’t want this overthinking take him away 😡
Ppl that are here watching this video are amazing cause they're trying to do their best for their partners I'm really proud of you I hope my anxiety will go away same as yours❤️
3 years ago, I was in a really dark place. This video helped me immensely.
Today, I am happier than ever and I tracked it down 3 years later just to tell you one thing;
Thank you for being there, random RUclips video, when no one else was.
Heard. Thank you for tracking this down. Made my night!
wow what a sweet comment. May your love keep soaring
The 3rd point is really a game changer! It really comes down to self love. Filling yourself up first. Knowing and being who you are. Accepting who you are. Trusting who you are. For the first time in my adult life I am able to truly show up authentically as I am getting to know someone new. My level of consciousness is a result of learning and more importantly feeling love for myself. Healing past wounds. This now gives me the opportunity to freely give to someone else....without all the pressure and expectations for someone to fill me up.
This is good advice. In the past I have had relationships with narcissists and surrendered my whole self to their wants and needs. They still cheated on me and left me. Now I have done a great deal of self work, and being on my own and learning to love who I am gain confidence and undo all of the damage from years of insidious emotional abuse. I have recently met a lovely guy and my anxieties naturally surface. The key is not to be NEEDY and stay true to yourself. Treat the other person as a PERSON, love them and care for them as a friend. Love and care for yourself as a friend too - and I find talking out loud and asking myself questions, and reassuring myself helps get me back into a healthy space. I recognise triggers and can analyse where they come from. If you just be yourself, and kind, and not demanding from the other person, you will have a friend first and foremost. If your partner is a narcissist, then no amount of kindness will make them love you, as they are incapable. A good person will talk things over and not be defensive if you approach any problems with kindness. This new relationship is unlike any other because I am now with a person who actually cares about my feelings, and that is quite amazing to me.
That's so beautiful! Your story caused me to shed a tear ! I hope your relationship continues in that path !
*Honestly, just owning it and not trying to hide it is partially why I watch you. It's the honorable thing to do and it make the rest of the jobs much more believe when you are call out of the spots like that, so thank you minslegend* .
What causes my anxiety is that I worry I’ll mess up somehow or that we’ll encounter a problem down the road that we both won’t be able to fix and it makes us both very unhappy. I worry that one day one of us will wake up and just not love each other somehow? Not that I think it’s possible for love to fade so quickly. I know some of these fears are irrational, and I always try to convince myself that we can fix it or brave through it no matter. We’ve gotten this far already. It gets hard sometimes to rationalise like this.
My anxiety is what drove him away...if only I watched this video months ago :(
Why am I here? I don't even have a girlfriend.
Articfox there you go, now you two can be together
Unknown 😂😂😂
Kepo Bola Ha Ha
I'm here cuz my boyfriend gives me anxiety but I love him
Your comment is great! Sometimes being single is better than being in a failing relationship.
Hands down this dude will be recognized as a goat.. this dude has literally saved my life..listening to his work and job I can relate to it.. *minslegend* keep it up and thank you for your talent... 💯
Really affirming to see so many people dealing with the same issues as me. This video was very helpful. I believe in y’all! Let’s break this shitty cycle and graduate into healthy, strong, loving and trusting relationships
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Needed to hear this, my last two relationships the rug was pulled from under me and I’m afraid of that feeling again with my current girlfriend. But now I see myself falling into every behavior you described and that’s just not me. I create crazy scenarios, and start spiraling as soon as something goes slightly off. It’s good to hear it’s not just me, the process starts now!
So true, we get comfortable and stop going to the gym once we are back with our X. I just realized it and started to hit the gym again.
Wow man, you managed to calm me down and clear my mind and my life in just 10 minutes
You always give the best advice. This video went straight to my little anxious soul :) Thank you so much for taking the time to put out valuable content for all of us!
Honestly, this was by far one of the best videos I’ve watched regarding relationships. The breakdown and explanation was impeccable. Keep up the good work.
Your video is really helpful. I am insecure right now. I need to find ways to get rid of the insecurity.
Nancy VanDeventer, you are absolutely gorgeous 🌷🌺🌷 🌷🌺 🌺🌷 🌺 🌺
I like your attitude, so passionate and serious 😎
I have never heard more sound advice, my man. This is pure truth. Thanks.
Thank you so much. I can't overstate this. Your video has given me a peaceful break to the storm of anxiety that I've been feeling. For so long I feel that I've chased away great people because of anxiety. Your tips were simple but insightful. They were very much needed. Thank you for actually providing help as a coach rather than a fluffed up teaser with a money making pitch at the end.
I've been through years of therapy, and this is one of the most helpful things I've heard on the topic. Thank you so, so much!!
You're very welcome. Thank you
One of the best things I’ve heard about anxiety in relationships. Thank you especially on the second point on finding value not just materialistic value but an intrinsic value that you bring to the relationship. Thank you for that
Wow! I started watching this to better understand my boyfriend’s anxiety and I realize that I have a ton of relationship anxiety also! So amazing. I’m excited to work on feel more secure as a person ❤️
I love this! This has always been my biggest issue in relationships. Thank you for the insight! I just thought of a great analogy! I feel very secure in my job. I know I do a very good job so I am a valuable employee. They will encounter a very big setback if they lose me. They NEED me. Because of this, I know if I continue to work hard and find more ways to integrate myself, I will become even more indispensable. The thought of getting fired will never even cross my mind.
Jo See that’s a very unique analogy!
So, I honestly feel that way about my job! The question is, why wouldn’t I feel the same in my relationship? Could it be because I haven’t thought about this before using this specific analogy or other areas of my life I achieve greatly in? Is it because it takes two to make someone secure in the relationship? Very interesting content to ponder on! Thanks!!
This advice may have just saved my relationship my future and my entire life thanks
Love love love this video. I feel like everyone who is struggling with this NEEDS to watch this video.
Yes controlling yourself when someone isn’t showing concern is a tough one, that is true having sexual attraction is important
I can't leave without him ..when ever his not around.. my mind tells me that maybe his busy with other girls. How can I over come this mara..
I feel the same way when my girlfriend is out doing stuff I'm always anxious about stuff that's not gonna happen and never will happen
I can't even go on my instagram bc it gives me anxiety. All bc of my ex🤦♀️. But thanks to this im starting to fight it. Im like gosh, we are going to be 2 years why would i throw all that away i need to stop and get bk on track. Thank u sm This helpeddd👍
This was by far one of the BEST video on relationship anxiety I have watched. Thank you!
Just wanted to say that this video is a massive help. It stopped an anxiety attack dead in its tracks, and I wanted to say thank so much.
I have entered the dating scene recently after years of committed relationships. I find that my attachment anxiety is magnified enormously with texting and internet dating. In trying to work through this I realized that I can not enter into any undefined situationship " nor can I be sexual prior to building a deep, trusting friendship. I also need the man to move forward in his masculinity, first in terms of claiming me and wanting monogamy during the dating process and second in his consistency of communication. Without these assurances the relationship will be doomed and I become, for lack of a better term a freaking basket case. Clarity, Boundaries and Consistency are just as important these days as a foundation to partnership as are Romance , Chemistry and Loyalty. And I would argue they are a biological imperative ... no human can successfully handle the specter of emotional or physical abandonment . Understand the Self, understand the psyche & be kind to Other's ❤️🙏🏻.
Wow thank you Clayton this is just what I needed to learn
The dude is just not fakeing . The finishes of the goals. Beautiful. Magisterial. Love you *Minslegend!.* .🙏🏼.
i guess this would be fixed by never stop growing, you know getting smarter, more healthy, wealthier, in sumattion: always trying to reach our goals.
this eased my anxiety thank you
i rejected love in every aspect bc it get this relationship anxiety all the time. i had a couple really horrible experiences in the past and it affected a relationship that was pure and meaningful. now that im trying to get back out, everytime i get close to another connection my senses are automatically heightened. i felt like i couldnt have one or the other. i looked up how to get rid of relationship anxiety and i cant even begin to express how thankful i am that you shared this. its been weighing on me for so long and i didnt understand that i could actually fix it. thank you, thank you SO MUCH.
I get anxious because of our big differences, I see him much more intelligent than me, more determined, more skilled and I often feel inadequate. So when you said that our differences are the glue, it just gave me hope and strength, thank you :)
I'm in a long distance relationship (well kinda, we wanna see each other) and plan to see someone soon. It irks me when they don't answer texts or get busy, but know what, this video helped. I'm gonna go to the gym more often, because I can do to use 10 pounds or so. Plus, im doing research into how to improve myself. I told my interest about my anxiety, and she says it's fine, but it's time to shape up.
I mean, she wouldn't be talking to me, let alone try to see me, if she wasn't interested. Everyone gets busy. She says she misses me, says sorry when she's not online. Like honestly, what am I thinking. I can now answer my questions with "If she says all those things, there's no way she's not interested." :)
Same i am in a loving perfect relationship, she is going to be an officer so she barley has time but she calls me the minute she has time and brainpower to talk.its all intrusive thoughts that mean nothing yoi know what you feel and why she fall in love with you in the end it doesn't even matter what thought comes to you mind
When ever I get in a relationship i get super bad anxiety.. I suddenly get uncomfortable when they call me pet names, I get jittery {in a bad way} to their touch, I want to avoid them becaus I feel .. well... I don't understand how I feel other than anxious... I'm I alone this?...
Vade 666 - I'm not sure of your age, but I understand you because it was the same for me.
Now, I will tell you this.
Inside your heart is your true love
And you actually know who that is but for some reason you are not together and its probably something like you are scared to make that choice
and so you choose "New" people - but then discover that your body rejects the idea.
That's because your body and heart are TELLING THE TRUTH - our Body and Heart can Never Ever lie.
The only real challenge for you is to Quieten your mind which has given you a massive list of "reasons why it has to be NO'
..
and you have to do the brave thing.
Follow your True North
Get on the path of your Heart xxx
Have courage !
It's going to be TGE BEST ADVENTURE EVER !!
and
You will become Spiritually VERY Strong xx
Look up a book called 'Attached'. Its all about relationship attachment styles and its very interesting, informative and can give you insight on your own behaviours amd how to deal with them. I'm no therapist but you sound 'avoidant' (so am I!). Maybe check it out :)
Look up avoidant attachment style
Thank you for going deep into relationship issues. The surface things are fun and needed but the way you go deeper is very life changing! This material is SO VALUABLE Clayton! :). Thank you!
I got cheated on before like 2 years ago. And this guy im with hes just the best. He does stuff for me that my ex never did for me. I get anxiety often and i over think. I think ill get cheated on again. And he says that he will never hurt me. He said, " what makes u think that ima cheat on u wen i wanna meet your dad and let him know that i trully care about u and i want u forever in my life". Thanks to this im really starting to control my anxiety and my stress😊
Continue growing is a really good advice, but my problem is, that I often have no energy to do it when in a relationship. I give so much focus and energy towards relationship that I cant focus on much else. I dont know what to do.. It is stronger than me :(
Thanks for that reveal. Perhaps the greatest growth while in relationship is to learn to love yourself as much as you love the other. Sounds like the perfect crucible to practice self love and care.
I feel quite insecure too as I suffer from anxiety. I feel like my boyfriend will leave and I get paranoid.
One of the best videos I’ve ever seen. Excellent content and even better delivery.
Awesome. My partner gets anxious In the ways that you describe and now I have soothing responses and solutions for a better way to think about us and bond us closer together. Thank you
Amada R,you look stunning 🌹 🌹🌺 🌺🥀🌺🌺🥀 🥀
Life changing. Your a genius, thank you❤️
i self sabotage relationships because i'm scared of them developing and then them leaving :(
Gosh this video is helping so much!! I always know theres literally no reason to be this anxious because i can trust my partner, but the anxiety always tries to come back. "I'm probably being annoying. He doesn't want to talk to me. I'm probably too stupid for him. Etc etc." These mindsets you talked about actually help accept those thoughts being nonsene.
Thank you for making this video ^^
Thank you for this. I do feel anxious especially during this pandemic and I'm in a long distance relationship. But this helped me to stop overthinking and just to continue to build my best self and encourage my partner to develop his best self too and just to trust the process.
just wanted to let you know that you've got this! you're worthy of the love they show, especially when you're in a long distance relationship, that can take a lot of work and commitment! you got this ❤️
best advicer ever❤ 💐thank you
I have to say this is one of the best videos on this topic.
My girlfriend and I balance each other out in our differences. Our sexual polarity is so strong and it connects to our emotions and our ease with each other. It's natural. It flows. I love how you mentioned how these qualities aren't limited by gender because you're absolutely right. By girlfriend and I both have masculine and feminine qualities, but they are opposite and thus balanced.
I’m always overthinking the little things lately the “goodnight” ain’t been the same, snaps ain’t been the same, leaving me on delivered for hours, but she’s done this before and I’ve confronted her and I had nothing to worry about, unless she was lying to me, I really don’t know anymore this shit is stressful I don’t think it’s worth it but I’m not going to end it because I’m so in love with her
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem ❤️❤️❤️
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What if you really don't like yourself and can honestly find nothing of value to give in a relationship? I mean nothing!
We are heading up to 30 years married and I've driven my husband crazy with my questions and insecurity and trust issues. I feel like he has always wanted more than I am. There is so much I need to say, but it's all too personal to share on here.
Lee BK Try to work on yourself instead of worrying about how he feels. He saw something beautiful in you whether you believe that or not and that is why he’s still with you. No one is perfect and I’m sure he has flaws too. There’s no way you give nothing, as I can see from your comment and you watching this video that you care deeply and want to help him and help yourself. That is not nothing. Stay strong ♥️ I have definitely been in your position before
Why would you stay in a relation of no value to yourself or the other person These are horrible examples for others who truly want a loving and honest loyal relationship too sad too toxic and also too insecure to move on wow........ I would be so pissed if my partner stayed with me just to say Id been married for the sake of being married what a horrible thing to do to some none dead weight is dead weight ....
Your situation is identical to mine. I’d really love you talk with you. If you use social media, my Instagram is @s_sublime_e , my Snapchat is opal_dancer. Send me a message.
@@gloriacampbell1227 I think you are being the horrible one. Really??? This is how you respond to someone who is in obvious emotional pain? What a misreable excuse for a human being!!!!!!
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This not something I would say
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This is incredibly valuable information. Your communication style is better than most delivering this type of content too. Cheers!
My boyfriend broke up with me because he got bored of the relationship. A month passed and he wanted to get back together but honestly that one month was the worst month of my life. We've been back together for four days now but I'm getting more and more paranoid every single day. I'm so tired of worrying and I feel like I'm going to go insane. What if he gets bored and breaks up with me again? I don't think I can handle that so I don't want to break up with him but I've never been this stressed in my life. I know this is not how a healthy relationship should be but I can't just leave him either because I'm too attached to him. I don't know what to do, please help.
Nil - my recommendation is to schedule a session with me. We'll get to the core of the anxiety shift it. My email is clayton@claytonolsoncoaching.com
Clayton Olson Coaching I wish I could but I'm just a 16 year-old with no money, sorry dude. :(
Nil Gerilecek You are too young to be worried about a breakup bc you will probably have at least 10 more relationships with different guys before you reach your 20s.
Nil Gerilecek this is the same issue I have 😭 I know the right thing to do is leave, but it's too difficult right now because I feel so attached
That used to happrn to me and honestly you havr to do what u dont want to do which is leave him. IF THEY CAUSE YOUR PEACE IT IS TOO EXPENSIVE.
Omg yes that is so true I have been faced with my own uncertainty with being with guys
wow this video has literally changed my point of view wayyyyy more than I thought thank you so much for helping me get through my insecurities
This video is astonishing. Seriously. I’m writing down the pointers you made. Because that is exactly what I needed!!
This video is life changing
Savage Brock thanks for the comment man
Clayton thank you for these videos man.. i just found you today and my outlook on my current relationship and myself has totally changed in the best way possible... amazing man just what i have been looking for!
I was once so anxious about my relationship to an ex, I left her. It seems strange now, someone who overwhelmingly says they love you, but the stress and confusion I felt, made me leave her. It was like after years my mind just was looking beyond the relationship. It was like I had to accept we were no longer together and i was living a life beyond her even though I was still with her. It started when questions in my mind started to get more and more to the forefront. It was like what I thought should a relationship was being questioned in my heart and mind and it was hurting. To this day I regret how it ended, I couldn't apologise enough. This was a relationship which ended years ago, I have been another relationship since now for years. But i know what I did and I could never put it right or express my deepest regret.
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I was so in need of this advise, I’m so I love but I also needed a reminder that self value and self improvement will always lead to shore in a relationship. Gracias!! Awesome 👏🏼
This is not relationship advice..this is self awareness..greatttt..thank you
Thanks man. I have a problem where if they are having a bad day or are distant I somehow twist it around onto my self, that I am the problem and I need to change. Or if they dont look at my texts as much, or if they dont give certain responses that I'm use to. I really needed this video
This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you. Great advice!
Love the delivery. Probably the best ones I’ve ever heard. So much Validity. Powerful stuff ! Thank you so much. Has been a benefit
Honestly this has been the most helpful video i have watched in terms of relationship anxiety/ insecurities. Thank you so much!
This really helped thanks
You're welcome, Gabriel.
Gabriel Jackson EXACTLY
I’m insecure that my girlfriend is going to leave for someone better.. I’m not the best looking guy, she’s way to good for me.. She has big dreams while I’m overthinking what to do when I grow up.. Honestly I don’t know what she sees in me.. I’m like the most basic guy. And she’s just amazing, she deserves the best that their is in the world..
Your value isn't based on what you do, nor what you look like. Can you be valuable even though you may be in the process of figuring out big life plans? Of course. You deserve the best, Christian. I appreciate your confession about feeling basic, and perhaps this can be a catalyst for you to reach for things in life that make you come alive.
This video helps a lot. My anxiety gets out of control.
I find myself getting extremely insecure and overthinking how much I make my boyfriend laugh. I have never experienced this until recently as he has made some really good close friends that have him cracking up all the time. I can never seem to make him laugh as much as his friends make him laugh, but then we have moments where we are dying laughing and it’s because I wasn’t overthinking every single moment I’m making him laugh. Does anyone else have a similar feeling? It’s so silly but it crippled me to the point where I feel a girl who is as funny as his friends will come along and sweep him off his feet.
I feel relationship anxiety because he keeps lying to me, saying he deleted his dating profile, but he hasn't. Then he ghosted and sorta came back and breadcrumbung since.
Look at the book 'attachment' amor levine understand which attachment you may have first work on that to feel more secure in yourself then look at what you can do for the relationship if you're able to
All advices are on point, totally relatable. Thank you for this.
Wow. Thank you so so much for taking the time to make this video. This really helped me and definitely changed my way of thinking, right when I needed it the most.
I love your videos! Can you make one about What to do when guys don't commit?
Can you expand? When they don't commit in what type of context... to be your boyfriend, monogamous, marriage?
Thanks and I appreciate you asking.
when it comes to comparing I think that being in a gay relationship makes it slightly worse. I mean, as a man I tend to compare myself with man and I find myself doing it with the person I'm with. All comparison is nonsense since we're all very different, even if there is no "polarity" in this case.
Fidel Spagolla not true. Men and women can possess the latter. A woman can have masculine traits and vice versa.
Wonderful video, thank you. love the lanterns in the background too! ☺
Clayton this has helped me tremendously. Thank you.
Hi Clayton. Thank you for your in-depth advice, I really enjoy your videos.
I have a question. At the beginning at the video you say that a person’s core value shouldn’t be in the things they do. Yet the third point of curing the anxiety in relationship is through continuing of doing things to improve yourself. That sounds contradicting to me.
My question is, is there a distinguished balance where you do things to improve yourself but they don’t become a source for your core value? Thank you.
I need medical help..my anxiety level is too high can't able to cope up with it😐
Thank you so much for the tips Clayton.
Incredible. I'll be listening to this a few more times. Thank you for doing what you do.