What Creates Insecurity?
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I am a result of 13.7 billion years of the universe's evolution, I'm as close to thermodynamically impossible as it gets, I'm taking a dump rn
Inspiring
So eloquent
Thank you for your contribution
Im the most advanced lifeform that to our knowledge has ever existed in the entire universe, my brain can do things that all other animals can't even begin to try to imagine, i have the capacity to be deeply integrated into an abstract social network that exists only to us. Our modes of communication can become so advanced that it takes others literal years to even begin to catch up, and our art has the capacity to make us feel like we're transcending this earthly existence altogether.
currently a stinking turd is exiting my butt as i think about the burrito i had for dinner and scratch my pubes.
I knew what was coming but I still burst out laughing 😆 thank you
Good rule for relationships: Never compare your partner to someone else. Even if you go back on it, they will have it on their mind and eventually explode.
You meant directly, right? Because according to Dr. K, we are most definitely comparing each other/thing indirectly in our mind/subconscious. At least that’s my pov
me when my partner literally explodes
@@FallenAatrox Either honestly. If you start comparing your partner to others, it will eventually come out, and then they will compare themselves as well. Things will start be framed in comparisons, and nothing good will come out of it.
@@Soul-Burn oh, haven’t thought about this way, thanks
I AM A SURGEON
I AM A STURGEON
That is specially bad for those raised by parents that used to compare them to other children...
Common saying "comparison is the thief of joy"
your honor im not guilty thats just a comparison of the mind
Upbringing creates insecurities when you're not brought up in a positive environment or being surrounded by narcissistic family members as a kid.
People who lack substance can only feel secure in their existence when someone else (with substance) is made less.
Imagine what kind of a cursed existence that must be. Only feeling great about yourself when you're living off the blood of others.
If you believe in yourself then there's not really anyone else around to compare yourself to. There's just inspiration.
I agree 100%
Well fuck me I’ve been comparing things my whole life so that makes a lotta fuckin sense
Comparison is the thief of joy
@@pinaise88 I’ve heard that 100000 times already
Someone: "Is this also you?"
Me: ♪I am ALL of me!♪
(Crush 40/Shadow the Hedgehog video game intro)
the problem is that it's hard to not do comparisons, when we perfectly know that other people will compare us to other people. If one lived in a desert world, probably that person would not have any comparison problem in the first place.
it’s hard not to do comparisons when we know people do comparisons? That was the point of the video. It was explaining how everything, every single abstractions your ego makes is a result of comparison. But i think he did a poor job explaining this. In buddhism it’s simpler, the “comparisons” he refers to is upadana which is that “force” that makes you attached to your thoughts and beliefs. The fact that you wrote this proves it. You are essentially saying being tall is being tall, and being short is being short. And being isolated in a desert is peaceful because being around people will inevitably get you compared. Isn’t that a hugeee comparison there?
But you are almost right, stopping comparisons come with nirvana or enlightenment, which is all bs probably. Nirvana includes dis attachment to life, but even then, going to a desert wont rid comparison, you can compare heat to cold, light to dark, abstractions to abstractions and worst of all, abstractions from your thoughts.
It is necessary to make comparisons! Otherwise you would Not be able to live.
For example if I cant reach things in the supermarket because I am too small, I have to search a Person who is taller than me.
But it would be good if you dont depend your own value with those comparisons.
Another issue related to this is that people put values to comparisons in order to judge you. Bullies, for example, will prey on abstractions you believe to be true when it's said or acted upon to you. That force overwhelms you and you can either retaliate back(fight) or take it(flight or freeze) and what follows depends on specific situations. There's a cost to what we believe to be true or false(positive or negative) and that affects how we see the world.
@@gamewriteeye769 Yes it can be really hard to get treated Like that. But it can help to realise that These are just the conditions of the other person, you have norhing to do with them. If you can activate less ego, you will surely find the best way to handle it. But yeah thats though in such situations.
what about to yourself? I am bald. Compared to who? compared to my younger self.
And to people with hair.
Balding is negative because you change into something less of someone you was before. It's required new perspective on yourself
I think Ego is never just "it." So you think you are comparing yourself to yourself, but that's not really it. You are comparing the person who you used to be with the person you are. And psychologically these are different persons. Thats what I think.
Bald is not a bad thing. But thinking "I am ugly because I am bald" is
So we can't have ego rooted in our subconscious? Must it be born of a thought?
Comparing is necessary. Without it you don't know who you are, what are you good at, what you need to work on, and what you are bad at it but still don't need to fix it.
oddly enough, i bumped into this short after reciting some prayers from feeling some insecurity.
Thank you, Dr. K
based on his intro, the ego is born out of false identification, and and comparison is a consequence that spring out of it because you feel insecure, insecure because you are identifying with what you are not
I AM A DOCTOR
So well put ❤
...So that's why I'm so secure. =]
Ok but the difficulty is increased when the comparison is of your former self. I used to effortlessly enter the flow state during my creative pursuits. Now it's an immense struggle, and Im lucky if it happens at all. I could accept, let go and be much more at peace. But I dont want to be more at peace. I want to solve this dilemma.
Comparison makes you stay in your comfort zone
I'm not even sure I'm a person anymore.
what if your ego makes you feel good about yourself and has helped you
Certain types of Ego are good I think, not egotistical ego, but like having a core telling you that you ARE important!
A lot of "sins" can be useful depending on how you use them.
Then thats good, ego is an operating system. All system errors lie within, as well as all the operations. Tell a computer to find happiness and it’ll never find it in the OS
I... am me
But what is me, besides profession?
A Good question
The awareness behind it.
If you fill in “I am…” with just your profession you’re missing the whole point of life. That’s a much deeper philosophical journey to take, finding purpose for existing. Altho if you are able to find your purpose and passion and MAKE it your profession, it “I am…” could be a description of your profession I guess. Instead of “I am a psychiatrist”, it would be “I am a person who helps other people feel better and live more fulfilling lives.” Or “my purpose is to help others find their purpose”.
You are the sum of your memories and decisions
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I am a gummy bear
Bouncing here and there and everywhere.... 🎶🎶🎶
Yes I'm a gummy bear 🗣️🔥🔥💯💪😤
So how do I know if how I define myself isn't the result of my comparison with others? I just don't quite understand the concept of who I am if I don't have something to compare myself to, how do I relate or don't relate. Like if there's nothing besides me there's just me.
How can we know what we are then?
If my person thinks "I am..." because it's comparing myself with something or someone else then what is my essence?
I hope you mean "the more comparison will go away and the less ego is activated" once we accept what we are...
Don't we have to compare ourselves with other people to exist in our daily lives?
As chaotic as it is, we exist in this collection of people and we've got to play by their rules sometimes.
What's a good balance of comparison and lack of?
you’re gonna be shocked but you actually don’t have to compare yourself to others. you are your own being, there is no good reason to compare yourself to anyone else. you’ll never be them, so why bother? you only have your unique experience and that’s it.
@@oleksandrfedoriv Don't we compare our behavior to other people's behavior? To figure out how we should or shouldn't act in the moment? To read the room, so to speak?
It's seems impossible to exist in our society if we never use other people's experiences to bounce our own off of
@@RohtixYeah, if we never care about what is socially acceptable in what scenarios, aren't we then sociopaths?
I just spoke about acception with my therapist
It really helps with anxiety
I can’t be something I’m not.
I mean yea but we live in a competitive world I’m not sure how we can go about our lives without comparing given the environment we live in?
Alok, you become doctor; now become the best doctor!
Abstractions are the true reality
Dr. K, is this kind of similar to the looking glass self theory?
I Am... Me
So what is the super ego?
And the id?
Dr. K is talking about Indian concept of ego which is ahamkhar (dunno how to spell it). Superego if I’m not mistaken is a concept first described by Freud but what he talked about is different from the Easter perspective on psyche
@@leavenleaven691Yeah that's what I thought too, it is said(in the book) that ego is the root cause of all suffering, and it makes us identify with our thoughts, emotions and experiences, and it kind of seperates us from others and our surroundings.
@@animatedmvs8818 yeah, could be
@@animatedmvs8818ego = operating system
But wouldn't it take some enjoyment away from life, being without the ego? You can't enjoy bragging as a winner if there aren't losers to brag to (am I right about this? Genuinely curious)
Not necessarily! Think of it like this there's always going to be someone who always thinks they're not good enough whether you win or lose all the time like Doctor K said it's all about comparison you can be either a Winner or Loser and still feel like you're not enough a lot of the time from those insecurities brought up from your upbringing and your Ego is where all of that is stored so the idea isn't to say the Ego is bad or if we remove it we lose that slice of life it's rather saying the Ego is where our defense mechanisms are and bad/toxic habits (Which could be bragging if taken too far where it starts to become invalidating toward one party leveraging over each other leading to arguments from you guessed it insecurities!) and things that we use for us to say we can't do something or vice versa something is justified for so and so reason to protect us when something bad happens that we learn from our Parent's typically that made us feel neglected or dismissed or abandoned or destroyed our self esteem through abuse or were too overbearing which we then set ourselves up to think this is the standard for a healthy relationship and those things are okay to do toward another person also that we have to unlearn and relearn so theoretically the more you come to peace with those things the more fun you actually have because you're not worried or stressed out about what if and are instead setting yourself up for excitement and success doing the things you need to do for you instead of turning everything around the world against you living to others expectations it starts to become for you by living for your own expectations :). So the question here is are you bragging for yourself or for leverage over someone else and that's your answer! It's okay to be proud of yourself for saying you did it but not proud to the point that it becomes a leverage game of beating someone else for the influence or gain of something that will only lead you toward a downward spiral hence the 1st of the Seven Deadly Sins, the Sin of Pride.
I am a God
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