I think the bigger question is.....WHY would you want a marriage to end...a REAL woman has EMPATHY.....a woman with that will have a moral compass... she would ask the question....how would I feel if I had a husband running around on me? How would I feel if I had children and their father was going to leave for someone else? Could I hurt someone so deeply and cause such pain to children? A wise woman KNOWS....the right man for her does NOT have a wife .
You make a great point. That man is already showing you that he has a sneaky side. However I have seen cases where men will insist they are separated, divorced, being abused in their marriage, some have even said their wife has died. The sympathy 'poor me' card works well on those women with empathy. Once those women are hooked they start being loyal to someone who doesn't understand what loyalty is. There are women who know they are going for a married man, but most of them are being tricked.... the story changes once the wife starts finding out
@@gayhendrie84 I truly understand every person’s respond . But each one of you did not respond when the other half is house bound from Cancer , dementia, depression etc etc . Should the other half just withered away at the same time ??? If we cannot take care of our well beings . How can we take care of others ? We should not learn to make judgments too quickly . There is always another picture on the other side of the coin.
Someone used to say, "The way a man does one thing is the way he does everything." If a man can cheat on his wife now, he may cheat on you later on, because he does not value the trust, commitment and loyalty. You fulfil his unmet needs, physically, emotionally and interculturally. If he really want to be with you, and if he is a man with courage and integrity, he should face the truth, clear things in his end first, then consider to start things with you. Otherwise, he is a man you will not respect or trust, there is no way to build a good relationship without respect and trust, period.
And to top it off his unmet needs might not be what you think they are or what he says they are since the infidel is surely a master liar. The infidel's unmet needs might just be his/her need for more sex, especially since a lot of these infidels are porn addicts, sex addicts and alcoholics. Sex with the spouse, then sex watching porn with Rosey Palm or with the favorite dildo, then sex with the adulterous fling partner, then sex, sex, sex and that's all the infidel really wants. And you think that type of person respects you? Or is someone you can trust? If you're "supposed love" is with an infidel, then just know you're sharing your body with a demon. Better run. And better Pray.
Dating a married person is terrible. It's saying that you don't mind purposely destroying someone's marriage, family, children's lives, etc. Go find someone single. If this man can cheat on his wife, he can and will cheat on you. It's a matter of time. Besides, infidelity is understood to be bad and sinful in most cultures, traditions, and religions of the world. Why? Marriage is supposed to be a sacred promise between the couple and God.
Yes absolutely. Many many people hide their marital status or lie and say that their marriage is just a living arrangement... my experience is that most if the people involved with married people have been duped until they start to get emotionally involved. My greatest encouragement is for anyone who is dating to do all they can to confirm whether the person they are dating is married and do all they can to confirm the marriage is over, possibly talk to the wife and ask her... If the marriage is over to the degree you need it to then there should be no objection to this. If they hide you now, they will hide you later. I’ve noticed that people respect you more if you hold yourself to that standard. Once you’re in their love web you loose the chance to negotiate this... set this up upfront... the married person’s response will tell the entire truth of what your status will be as you date.
Yes. Agreed. Some people are also tricked into thinking the marriage is over. It's the manipulators that will hurt you and they don't mind lying to get what they want.
Ladies! Don't play with fire. Everyone gets hurt in these situations. I know a man who had an affair, but refused to leave his wife. The mistress tried for 6 months and in the end the she committed suicide.
I met a married man that "I fell in love with" during Covid 19. He told he he was in an open marriage. Sneaking around, secrecy is not being in an open marriage. I ended it felt so much shame as I hurt his family and was living a lie. I was divorced was lonely. We are only human. I agree marriage is sacred and I broke my core values and morals. But for the grace of God I gained my dignity and self respect by ending the "Affair".
@@catherinebrims8986 Affair is too nice a term. It’s an adulterous fling. Kuddos to you for finding self respect and respect for others. People need to take a stand against these infidel demons who have no moral compass and are so evil that the destroys lives and even themselves on a whim to satisfy King Dick. Truly disgusting.
Thank you for sharing Cathrine. He lied to you. This is not your fault. No need to take on the shame and blame. In fact be so proud of yourself for being able to pull yourself away from his web
@@beccaboselli8444 all of you assume the worst. When a mature adult wants companionship from a married man with No marriage in mind and do not talk about money or future . Our heart and minds open up to a newer level .
ppl fall in love with married ppl everyday and married ppl fall in love with a outside person everyday. These RUclips videos are not everyone’s reality. I’ve seen my mom get left for a side chick.. I’ve seen her talk to different men throughout her marriage. I have friends , homegirls etc that have been dating the same married man for years. Don’t take much. I’m not saying it’s right …. But I’m saying let’s not say married men/women won’t leave because they will! It’s rare .. but they will leave. If anyone is married i say being God in and keep him close. Marriage seems hard & i definitely can’t and won’t do it unless God is involved.
Don't do it. It is the most painful experience if you do it because of love. 99 percent of the time they will not divorce their spouse especially if they have children. And the irony is you will be used consciously or unconsciously to improve their marriage. You are last and used by him.
Adulterous flings don’t improve the backstabbing infidel’s marriage. It will blow it up like a bomb. However, you are 100% right about the fling partner being last and used. He’s probably a sex addict who gets off on his wife and can’t get enough, so he gets himself off with porn, then moves on to get himself off on you. The only thing it improves is making his dick happy. Real relationships are built on trust and respect. The betrayer has no respect and people who trespass on another’s “committed” relationship have zero respect for anyone especially not for one’s self. Get a clue… the adulterous infidel is a backstabbing lying devious cheater. Nothing but a creepy snake. You’re “in lust” with a sneaky snakey betrayer and that’s the kind of person you want? Can’t build a house on quicksand without it sinking and you can’t build a successful relationship on adultery. No good relationship can be built without trust and respect.
I hear you. I’m currently involved with a married man. He was separated but now he’s back with her but still seeing me. He says he doesn’t want to cheat but he is with me. He says one thing but does another. It’s hard to end it but know that I should.
Marriage is a commitment. The married person has a soul bond with their spouse. And the adulterous partner shares that bond with their infidel’s spouse. So you’re participating in a love triangle or more. He’s probably cheating on you and the spouse with even more people.
True to that, I've been in that triangle, fell in love deeply, became so emotional dependant on him. A man twice my age, I'm a born again church gal. Fighting everyday with guilt and lust at the same time. I could not compare him to any other guy I've ever had. I refused to have his baby though, I kept asking him why he never left his wife if they never had a happy marriage.. Later I just found he had other 3 side chicks and all are pregnant. Very hurting but an even better reason for me to completely move on. I've been trying to leave over and over again but with no success. This time is for good. NB: he has no idea I know of the other side chicks, my intuition led me to sneak into his phone and boom!!!
That’s beautiful. Let your intuition guide you. Any guidance that is coming from an urgency, an emergency, a panic, a fear, is not from your intuition it is from your anxious parts or your ego. Intuition comes from a connection with our authentic self which in spirituality is also called soul. Since you are a born-again Christian the more you use the connection with your soul or your authentic self to make your decisions The more you are going to be reinforcing whom you actually are. Dependencies are as hard to break as addictions so I understand. When you look at brain scans of people who are under love addictions and those under substance addictions, they are the same. The only way to break a dependency like this is to go to a higher part of yourself... Your authentic self or your soul If you stay in your ego parts/your anxious parts, you are going to remain dependent and remain in pain. Whatever you practice most becomes your experience . if you live in your fear your fear will multiply if you live in your faith your faith will multiply. Where there is Faith there is no fear... where there is fear there is no faith
I too am a Christian, and I know this married guy has been sent by the enemy, the devil himself, to distract me from God’s calling on my life! The enemy wants our commitment to the Lord, and he’ll use our loneliness & need to be appreciated, to distract us. I know all of this in my head, but it still makes it difficult to break this imitation love, off!!! I also believe that ungodly men are attracted to Christian women because of our kindness and godly joy. They, and their dear wives, are searching and in need of, the peace that we have, and are actually attracted to the God within us! I’ll pray for you too. I really need to trust God more, to send the right guy. And you and I both deserve it!!! 😀🌷
I too fallen in love with a married guy...i love him alot and i cant leave without him..i wish to get married to him...but I don’t want him to get divorced to his wife..I want him to accept me as his second wife..But i am scared to discuss about marriage.Because I donno whether he have the intention to marry me..But i knw he loves me..Please help me out to get a solution
We were both married and wanted to be together. His kids were small, mine were pretty well grown. In the end he couldn’t leave his wife. She found out. We broke up. He stayed I left my husband and moved on. Yet 30 years later I still think of him. Did I really love him. Or did I just to win him or were we mutually co dependent….I think the latter
As a man who’s been in a rocky marriage, I’m sure he stayed because of the kids as I am . At least he got to fool around, I’m over here staying faithful and loyal 😅
I have a woman in this situation who will not confess to this . She wants to use me constantly I guess u until she gets the call .. And like I said somewhere else very viscous towards me and I travel 7 hours for her … until I told her I know what she is doing she blocked me and I have moved on I doubt she contacts me again . Sad she couldn’t be truthful , we could have had something but no …. She like to take her extreme hatred out on me . Thats bad ,, anyone know or have a reply on this ? Thanks
@@90charim Falling in love with a married person should be a crime. It’s called adulterous infidelity. It’s not ok to destroy anyone from the inside out by blowing up their soul. The faithful betrayed partners experience severe PTSD. It is ok to fall in love with a single person and it is ok to be in an open relationship. It is not ok to break the marriage vow. It is not ok to be a lying, deceptive, sneaky snake who disrespect with that type of backstabbing adulterous infidelity. Don’t get married if you want to have sex with anyone anytime anywhere especially if you committed your life to the supposed love of your life. People get taken to court all the time for breaking contracts. Betrayers should be held accountable for breaking their marriage contract and commitment and for destroying their partner. Murdering someone’s soul because they broke their commitment should be a crime. It’s worse than murdering their body because they are alive but dead inside… the walking dead.
my Lord ! you are awesome ! you have said everything correctly on this subject ! I am facing this now, my heart is very painful but it is very toxics and abusive to me to be with that married man !
It looks like you are already on your way to finding a way out of the pain... the most important thing is realizing you don’t want to put up with the pain anymore... once you set off on the path to finding your liberty from pain, you’ll eventually find it... good luck 💕
Why does it seem that you think dating a married man is only a problem if the man does not leave his wife? Is his lack of integrity while leaving a committed union not a problem for the other woman? Is the other woman’s lack of integrity also not a problem either? Getting into a relationship based on lies and infidelity is a problem even if he leaves the woman who believed his promises to her.
You are right. All of the things you mention are a problem. This video is made because there is an impression that the other woman has a grand time. It is also a way to give women who may not understand what they are getting into a warning to leave as quickly as they can. This is a video to speak about a prespective that most people don't consider
Im in this type of situation now. Married my whole adult life and im 72. Wife had grown cold and distant. No intimate contact let alone sex for years. Tried talking to her about it and she just gets pissed. Im ran into my first gf from when i was 13 or 14. She was married 40 yrs and her husband passed. We started talking and meeting for coffee and such One thing led to another and we wound up in the rack. We text all the time talk once in a while and see each other when we can. This has been going on just under 5 years. No matter how many hints I drop she won't let go. If called her right now and asked her to drive to Hell and pick me up, she would pack a bag and leave asap. Thats how deep this goes. If she were to do the same, Id find and excuse not to. My wife is not well and I can't leave after all these years. I thought in the beginning I thought I could. This story runs deeper then i can go without it being a novel. Bottom line is she is Absolutely crazy about me. This started out very fast and only got deeper faster. I do love her but its like the right person but wrong time. I know it has to end because its to deep just to be friends. I promised her at the beginning that any bad news would be in person not in a text. I never expected to this deep in love. I was feeling sorry for myself and it was so easy for this to get out of hand. You are 100% right no matter what I do someone is going to get hurt.. At this age i got myself into a real mess.
I can relate. Some wives know that since you "got papers" on them they can do as they please and treat you like you are nothing. Then when you do meet someone who cares about you then wife wants to play the victim card
Its a question of self respect and integrity. A person with enough self respect, dignity and integrity will not knowingly cheat on their partner, especially when there are kids involved. This includes the person they are cheating with. Clearly they are lowing their self worth to be considered a "side fling"
I think that women who knowingly become the other woman should try to reflect on whether some of the temptation associated with being with a married man comes from their own sadistic, destructive and narcissistic impulses that they have (we all do) but refuse to own up to/honestly acknowledge by playing the role of a victim who is being emotionally taken advantage of or tricked. I've noticed that many of them recount the experience in a near child-like way where they come off as having no control or active participation in the affair
100% on target. These lying devious snakey cheaters find people who are just like them. They have zero respect for anyone especially not for oneself. The adulterous fling partner is just as disgusting as the demon they’re doing.
The truth is that there's many story of men leaving their wife with who they do not bond anymore for their mistress. And they end up marrying their mistress.
It’s very rare. I wouldn’t bet on it. Maybe the wife throws them out when she finds out and he goes to the mistress. Then will eventually cheat on the mistress too.
When people leave their married partner and get with the disrespectful adulterer, statistics show it only works out 3-5% of the time. So do you really want a person who can’t keep their commitment and lies, cheats, and disrespects in order to seek out their lust filled ambitions and is a backstabbing adulterous infidel. I supposed if you disrespect and become involved in that kind of deception then you’re just like the betrayer. You deserve each other. Hope you don’t develop PTSD like most betrayed spouses do when the snake starts cheating on you with another disrespectful adulterer. Try respecting yourself and others.
Wow! Your advice. He asked me out yesterday and today he told me he is married but he loved me at first site. Now we planning our first date. I gave him my contact details because he seemed cute, articulate, clean and decent only to tell me that he is married but he liked me and asked if we should kick it. I agreed and told him as long as his wife don't find out, now i feel like it's WRONG and UNETHICAL of me to participate. This will be my first time engaging with a married guy, on the other hand I'm lonely been single for 4 years. I don't know what to do.
@@leesedilee6849 imo explore it, why not? especially if he is the one trying to impress and chase YOU. let the man.. just reap the benefits and keep your options open!
Best cut it off while you can before a wife like me destoys your reputation and probably your chances with a nice single guy who will not be willing to get involved with one like you.
Why do you want to go with him in particular knowing he is married ? I'm not judging I'm just curious A man flirted with me at work he has come a few times he owns a company that has a deal with my employer. Turns out at one point he held the door open for me and I saw he had a wedding ring. I was pretty disappointed because I feel this very strong attraction to him and I think it's mutual. He's a couple years older than me, he has a good situation I suppose, he's super attractive, seems mature. Maybe I would have said yes if he had asked me for coffee or something, not saying I would have slept with him but still. I'm at this point in my life where all the men that I meet are immature, undecisive... i'm starting to have a pretty negative outlook on love, I don't even know if I really want to have kids and get married someday (with all the things i'm hearing about marriage etc). I'm really bummed out he was married I could sense that him and I we would have had a lot in common, which is so hard to find these days I feel. Anyway sorry for the long ass paragraphe I was just wondering why you chose him and not a single guy instead
Therapists see marriage and relationship problems as their business, making money out of your problems, they will never solve marriage and relationship problems, problems and suffering are part of this existence, you must understand.
Almost everything you said is true-my only biggest deviation is he was honest enough to tell me that he loved his wife and that our relationship and their issues had nothing to do with why he loves me... his love for me was not hinged on their failures and didn't want me to take on the competitive behaviors because he loved us both. And I believe him. (Some context : is that he comes from a polygamous father but had vowed it was not for him until we met. He claims that's what he's working towards. He is a very brillian man - one of the smartest doctors in the country so maybe he's just outsmarted me).. I think with everything you have said about the love unlike any other is where I am, and willing to live in that triangle if we all maintain the boundaries. However I see no effort from him to create the boundaries he claims after 5yrs and 1 son together.) I'm beginning to feel that he never wants to upset the balance at home because his wife is not having it..) he has introduced me to his whole entire family and they all acknowledge our relationship on the one hand but do not want to upset the wife on the other. It is a mess. I keep trying to get out of this situation and find someone who will be my person but what we share is rare
No you just think it’s rare. What’s not rare is the number of disrespectful adulterers that think their fling partner is so special and that they are so in love. Why do you adulterous fling last choice people want a lying, devious, snake who can’t honor commitment and who disrespect the love of his life on the lowest level possible? That’s what you love… a backstabbing adulterous lustful infidel?Why not be in a real relationship? Why do you want to be in a relationship where you get used for sex when it’s convenient for the lying cheating snake? Do you like being used? Or are you just blind from the truth?
Why condemn the married man . As a single mature woman, I don’t want to cook,clean,do laundry,iron for another man. I only want his company when we are in our best moments . We only talk about fun topics, we laugh, enjoy each other’s company and sent him home to his wife to deal with their own issues. We look forward to our next meeting.
What Sanya maybe doesn't realize is married men are nicer, cleaner, more empathic, and easier to be with than single guys. It's like the married guy is "preowned" and has been trained on how to treat a woman. I agree that as a mature woman, I don't want to do the happy housewife stuff or take care of him when he's sick or just in a bad mood...let his wife do all that.
Met him on a dating app, he said married but lonely and looking for a friend to chat to. So we met after 8 weeks, i fell in love that day, then in October he said we needed to be more restrained and needed boundaries! He said he and his wife sleep alone and haven't had intimacy since 2007, yet he's still there living in this sham.... 2:27
That’s because he lies to you, to his wife and to himself. The infidel is NOT a nice man. He is a demon. He is a destroyer of his wife’s soul, and yours too. Why not tell his wife if you want that kind of evil?
What sucks is that he’s begging to keep it going but I don’t want to hurt myself at the end , he said he wants it forever but I know that’s not reality, it’s barely been a month and he’s hooked , he wants to see me everyday but I only see him once a week bc I don’t want to be attached. So instead he lives his home every just to get in the phone with me , he calls me all times a day when he’s at work. It’s so hard bc he’s becoming a friend too . We tell eachother eveything . He doenst want me to leave but I can’t stand being the other . He going out with her tonight and it made me feel like shit so I’ll end it ASAP.
@@Erika29.17 no we just went to vegas this weekend , first time we spend 3 nights together . Tbh I think I’m starting to like him more each time. It’s insane how can someone married have feelings for someone else .
@@Erika29.17 this Thursday I guess he kinda got caught by his wife. He had the whole freaking weeknd to fix it I was scared this day and he called and said he fixed things and nothing has to change between us
Omg im trying so hard to finish the relationship, but we haven't. And I feel depressed and regret all the time I accept be "the other". And I feel I can't leave him.
I felt sorry for the female because he lied to her. She didn’t know he was married but when she find out she told him he need to choose and it should be her. WTH!!! The sorry feelings went out the door. I told her she can have him when I’m done with him. How about that!!!
What if he didnt told you he was married when you guys just and its after intimacy and falling for him that you found out hes married... what do you do then??
@Sanya-kay Smith • You stay if you want to continue staying. Either way it is not wrong to continue sleeping with him, as long as you are using protection and don't fall for him either as far as your feelings. Go find yourself a second man so you won't have feelings for the married man.
Omg..everything here is so true,I was going through a divorce and went to a lawyer I used to work for,I was vulnerable and he wanted and made me felt special,I have a newborn baby girl for him and it's true what you're saying,he has no integrity,sorry I saw that too late,now he doesn't mine his child but represents people in child support cases,lucky for me I didn't pour out my whole heart otherwise I would have been heartbroken but its my daughter am concerns about,growing up father less. I recently lost my Dad and can't imagine a girl child growing up without their father.
Getting involve in a married man is really ridiculous i just waist my time and energy i just found out that he is married he intentionally lied to me. but for now i realize how difficult to deal. I walked away realizing no future at all amd limited movements.
I applaud you for respecting yourself and for not continuing to live a lie. You freed yourself from a devious snake. You freed yourself from a creepy backstabbing adulterous infidel. He’s a predator. He doesn’t honor or love anything but his penis.
majority of the time, no matter how much time he spends with you, what he spends on you, or how he proves he doesn't want his wife...you are not worthy, beautiful, ask him to leave his wife...He won't. And be blessed...move on. Thank God you are not the wife he betrayed. You, I deserve BETTER. Men get bored and it's so sad because you knowing he has a family. Honeymoon faze...he will never introduce you to his family.
@@michaelkebederak5242 Sad thing is if he does the same things he does for his side piece for his wife she would make sure he had fun...marriage is real life...those extras don't want that...trust me. If they knew what married women go through...
Never never date a married man because such a person has two faces .Actually he loves his wife and kids,but will show you that he is unhappy in his married life.If you involve emotionally in him then your life will defenately miserable as he will leave you for one more option.
What if I’m not in love with him but just enjoy having fun with him and we are both on the same page? I’m his escape and he’s mine. I don’t see what’s wrong with it. His marriage was in shambles before he met me
Hi Mausi. These things can be a fun escape in the moment but by their nature they are deep traps of pain all around. If you didn’t have emotional hooks in this relationship then you wouldn’t watch this, or comment here. Please watch out... he’s the one who benefits the most and your the one who has the biggest potential to get hurt. Remember if a marriage is truly in shambles then it doesn’t last... it’s obviously fulfilling some role that he wants to keep getting otherwise he’d leave and be with you. Infidelity shows a high level of lack of courage, it’ll take a lot for him to do the right thing. Good luck to you my friend and so much love.
@@sanyabari thank you for your comment. I appreciate it. There’s a lot of truth in what you’re saying but it seems that even after a month, he seems to be the one falling for me and is all over me, and I’m not falling for him. But the second I do start to catch feelings, I know how to back out.
@@FransceneJK98 it's a tactic they use,,, to boom love you until they completely win your trust... When u start to fall for him, and he starts to pull away, you'll find yourself chasing after him.. He'll make sure that u kinda get addicted to him so that leaving him won't be easy even when he start to show no interest in you.
This is what my ex husband mistress thought, but she was left crying, and yelling because she thought she was above being mistreated by him. How she got him she lost him....
Never mind the "moral" question. For many, that's not an issue, or at least not enough of an issue. IT'S a LOSING proposition! I've seen it several times! DO NOT waste your lives on these married men! WTAF!
That's what I was trying to say in a previous comment. A handsome, successful, kind, fun man is infinitely better than some shlub with old Chinese food and beer cans in the fridge, chilling out in front of the game or Netflix, hoping to get a call from the employer he just applied to...Sanya has to live in the real world, not in the fantasy world of many therapists who think attractive men grow on trees...the supply is very limited so why not share?
He grew anxious as we grew into each other, and then he began to pull away. I ended it after 2 months after he lied claiming that he had a crippling headache, i tried to call for support but he shot me a text saying he had company 😂. Later on he tried to call but I did not answer , the folliwing day he called explaining what he meant when he said he had company, he said he meant he was surrounded 😢😂, then I said we needed to talk, we havent spoken since,its been 3 months. I just didnt call and so did he. A few weeks ago I cut him out of my Netflix and he attempted to call but I did not answer. He is a low quality person.There's more to the story but i dont want to bore you with each detail.
Dating a married man is like saying you don’t respect his commitments any more than he does, and why should you? Because as a potential future stepmom, you’ll need a positive relationship with them and ruining their mothers’ life isn’t the foot you want to start on. Isn’t the best 1st impression.
Impossible to have a positive relationship with a devious, deceptive, sneaky snakey liar who can't keep a commitment. The adulterous infidel can never be trusted. The betrayer doesn't respect anyone.
@@BAMshazammy 👉 my point exactly. 💯 Thanks for clarifying for the slow pokes ;o) So glad you could read between my lines there. 😀 I worried I might have been unclear. Phew! Thanks for picking up the slack. 🍻 cheers!
Hi mam pls help me,he is my bf for 3 yrs but his family find for him a girl to marry as an arranged marriage,i know he love me but he cannot disobey his mom bec.he is the only son,and we are from different culture and country,we are LDR we never meet yet,he ask me to stay with him he will marry this girl only for his family.we love each other so much ,he get married but still he call me video call everyday,send message.i want to let him go because its hurting me,but he doesnt want to ler me go,now he is already went to work other country and leave the wife in his family,mam shall i stay or ahall i leave ?pls give me advice
Find a single man. That's what to do. Going for a married one is selling yourself short. Many of them are also deceivers. If they can cheat on their wife, why wouldn't they cheat on you?
My husband went back to an old flame , in 6 weeks she did the divorce papers for him because they were madly in love, she taunted me with pics on fb of them together, she bragged to me he was divorcing me, and she was his fiancee ,then after the divorced she bragged he divorced me.
Im on this triangle right now we talk from the time he wakes up video calls while heading to work n in between the day until he go home mon. To fri. Sat n Sunday is not much bcoz shes home. He was my first love a high school love but he is married so im hooked i need ur help to think im from Florida n his in California. Im thinking his far anyways he is consistent i go there 2x a year we spent time together i dont feel like to be together so im ok with this situation
No offence doctor... but I'm never the one they want to show off. It's strange because they tell me I'm so beautiful blah blah blah and yet, it's always another woman they pick to show off or to give the title of "girlfriend" or wife to. I see them posting photos of these women and it really makes me feel like all the negative things I think about myself really are true. Like, "Okay, maybe I really don't deserve to be with a man who doesn't want to keep me a secret".
You're both lying, deceptive, devious adulterous betrayers. Infidels who disrepect and who can't be trusted. Divorce your spouses and get together. You deserve each other.
Delusional people do this. Become mature n if he or she really loves you they will handle what they need to first THEN marry you however you wonder why your not married your deceitful nin your heart your heart myst be right n clean in Gods eyes not man. Then hell givrbyou your OWN MAN NOT SOMEONE ELSE'S. #futureDoctor
How about dont just dont hes using you for what he aint getting in his marrage your nothing more than a ten second fly by.Your an emotionl cruch an it not long before hes over it an out the door on both of you.Hes got kids your his convenent babysitter.Dont date a married man just dont it aint worth it.But your not dateing hes just using you for sex litterly.
I think the bigger question is.....WHY would you want a marriage to end...a REAL woman has EMPATHY.....a woman with that will have a moral compass... she would ask the question....how would I feel if I had a husband running around on me? How would I feel if I had children and their father was going to leave for someone else? Could I hurt someone so deeply and cause such pain to children? A wise woman KNOWS....the right man for her does NOT have a wife .
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If he cheats on her He will cheat on you
Why would you like a marriage full of infidelity to keep going? This it is the real question. Is nothing to save there once he cheated on you
You make a great point. That man is already showing you that he has a sneaky side. However I have seen cases where men will insist they are separated, divorced, being abused in their marriage, some have even said their wife has died. The sympathy 'poor me' card works well on those women with empathy. Once those women are hooked they start being loyal to someone who doesn't understand what loyalty is. There are women who know they are going for a married man, but most of them are being tricked.... the story changes once the wife starts finding out
@@gayhendrie84 I truly understand every person’s respond . But each one of you did not respond when the other half is house bound from Cancer , dementia, depression etc etc . Should the other half just withered away at the same time ??? If we cannot take care of our well beings . How can we take care of others ? We should not learn to make judgments too quickly . There is always another picture on the other side of the coin.
Someone used to say, "The way a man does one thing is the way he does everything." If a man can cheat on his wife now, he may cheat on you later on, because he does not value the trust, commitment and loyalty. You fulfil his unmet needs, physically, emotionally and interculturally. If he really want to be with you, and if he is a man with courage and integrity, he should face the truth, clear things in his end first, then consider to start things with you. Otherwise, he is a man you will not respect or trust, there is no way to build a good relationship without respect and trust, period.
And to top it off his unmet needs might not be what you think they are or what he says they are since the infidel is surely a master liar. The infidel's unmet needs might just be his/her need for more sex, especially since a lot of these infidels are porn addicts, sex addicts and alcoholics. Sex with the spouse, then sex watching porn with Rosey Palm or with the favorite dildo, then sex with the adulterous fling partner, then sex, sex, sex and that's all the infidel really wants. And you think that type of person respects you? Or is someone you can trust? If you're "supposed love" is with an infidel, then just know you're sharing your body with a demon. Better run. And better Pray.
Dating a married person is terrible. It's saying that you don't mind purposely destroying someone's marriage, family, children's lives, etc. Go find someone single. If this man can cheat on his wife, he can and will cheat on you. It's a matter of time. Besides, infidelity is understood to be bad and sinful in most cultures, traditions, and religions of the world. Why? Marriage is supposed to be a sacred promise between the couple and God.
Yes absolutely. Many many people hide their marital status or lie and say that their marriage is just a living arrangement... my experience is that most if the people involved with married people have been duped until they start to get emotionally involved.
My greatest encouragement is for anyone who is dating to do all they can to confirm whether the person they are dating is married and do all they can to confirm the marriage is over, possibly talk to the wife and ask her...
If the marriage is over to the degree you need it to then there should be no objection to this.
If they hide you now, they will hide you later.
I’ve noticed that people respect you more if you hold yourself to that standard.
Once you’re in their love web you loose the chance to negotiate this... set this up upfront... the married person’s response will tell the entire truth of what your status will be as you date.
The married person destroys his or her own marriage.
😂🤣 people cheat. It’s a part of life unfortunately
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The number one tip for dating a married man: don’t.
@Amy Damjanovic • Absolutely NOT. I will STILL Date a married man. Nothing wrong with that.
Let’s see who is going to date a single mother
I m single marriad
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@daval husen she must be...
@@brooklynzoo2810until you’re the wife 😅
No one wants to date a married man. It happens when you don’t enforce boundaries and before you know it you’re in so deeply, it’s hard to get out.
Men always always lie so just stay away from married men because all you have to do is hide it from ppl.
Yes. Agreed. Some people are also tricked into thinking the marriage is over. It's the manipulators that will hurt you and they don't mind lying to get what they want.
Ladies! Don't play with fire. Everyone gets hurt in these situations. I know a man who had an affair, but refused to leave his wife. The mistress tried for 6 months and in the end the she committed suicide.
That's terrible. I'm sorry to hear that.
@@sanyabari yeah.
Wah, that is so sad
Play devil games get devil rewards.
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I met a married man that "I fell in love with" during Covid 19. He told he he was in an open marriage. Sneaking around, secrecy is not being in an open marriage. I ended it felt so much shame as I hurt his family and was living a lie. I was divorced was lonely. We are only human. I agree marriage is sacred and I broke my core values and morals. But for the grace of God I gained my dignity and self respect by ending the "Affair".
@@catherinebrims8986 Affair is too nice a term. It’s an adulterous fling. Kuddos to you for finding self respect and respect for others. People need to take a stand against these infidel demons who have no moral compass and are so evil that the destroys lives and even themselves on a whim to satisfy King Dick. Truly disgusting.
Thank you for sharing Cathrine. He lied to you. This is not your fault. No need to take on the shame and blame. In fact be so proud of yourself for being able to pull yourself away from his web
@@catherinebrims8986 that’s completely is your problem . Felling in love for someone or something you cannot have . Is your big mistake.
Run girls!! Nothing but heartbreak 💔 Great job explaing this
@@beccaboselli8444 all of you assume the worst. When a mature adult wants companionship from a married man with No marriage in mind and do not talk about money or future . Our heart and minds open up to a newer level .
Four words: Girl, don't do it!
ppl fall in love with married ppl everyday and married ppl fall in love with a outside person everyday. These RUclips videos are not everyone’s reality. I’ve seen my mom get left for a side chick.. I’ve seen her talk to different men throughout her marriage. I have friends , homegirls etc that have been dating the same married man for years. Don’t take much. I’m not saying it’s right …. But I’m saying let’s not say married men/women won’t leave because they will! It’s rare .. but they will leave. If anyone is married i say being God in and keep him close. Marriage seems hard & i definitely can’t and won’t do it unless God is involved.
Don't do it. It is the most painful experience if you do it because of love. 99 percent of the time they will not divorce their spouse especially if they have children. And the irony is you will be used consciously or unconsciously to improve their marriage. You are last and used by him.
Your so right indeed.
Adulterous flings don’t improve the backstabbing infidel’s marriage. It will blow it up like a bomb. However, you are 100% right about the fling partner being last and used. He’s probably a sex addict who gets off on his wife and can’t get enough, so he gets himself off with porn, then moves on to get himself off on you. The only thing it improves is making his dick happy. Real relationships are built on trust and respect. The betrayer has no respect and people who trespass on another’s “committed” relationship have zero respect for anyone especially not for one’s self. Get a clue… the adulterous infidel is a backstabbing lying devious cheater. Nothing but a creepy snake. You’re “in lust” with a sneaky snakey betrayer and that’s the kind of person you want? Can’t build a house on quicksand without it sinking and you can’t build a successful relationship on adultery. No good relationship can be built without trust and respect.
His wife is getting used also and he doesn’t love anybody & ppl that cheat isn’t in love with anyone unless they leave the wife for the mistress
OMG...this is 100% true! I’m lucky that I had managed to break up with him. But even now, it is still difficult for me to not care about him.
It's definitely not easy so kudos to you💕
I hear you. I’m currently involved with a married man. He was separated but now he’s back with her but still seeing me. He says he doesn’t want to cheat but he is with me. He says one thing but does another. It’s hard to end it but know that I should.
@@loriblythe6635 💪🏻💪🏻 end it now before you he hurt you
You women have self esteem. How can you wanna be with someone married .
No self esteem
Marriage is a commitment. The married person has a soul bond with their spouse. And the adulterous partner shares that bond with their infidel’s spouse. So you’re participating in a love triangle or more. He’s probably cheating on you and the spouse with even more people.
This is true, he is cheating on both of you with other people, he is a low quality person. THE END!
This is the best and most insightful advice I've ever heard on this subject. Everything you said resonated deeply with me. Thank you so much.
I'm so glad to hear that his was helpful
True to that, I've been in that triangle, fell in love deeply, became so emotional dependant on him. A man twice my age, I'm a born again church gal. Fighting everyday with guilt and lust at the same time. I could not compare him to any other guy I've ever had. I refused to have his baby though, I kept asking him why he never left his wife if they never had a happy marriage.. Later I just found he had other 3 side chicks and all are pregnant. Very hurting but an even better reason for me to completely move on. I've been trying to leave over and over again but with no success. This time is for good. NB: he has no idea I know of the other side chicks, my intuition led me to sneak into his phone and boom!!!
That’s beautiful.
Let your intuition guide you.
Any guidance that is coming from an urgency, an emergency, a panic, a fear, is not from your intuition it is from your anxious parts or your ego.
Intuition comes from a connection with our authentic self which in spirituality is also called soul.
Since you are a born-again Christian the more you use the connection with your soul or your authentic self to make your decisions The more you are going to be reinforcing whom you actually are.
Dependencies are as hard to break as addictions so I understand.
When you look at brain scans of people who are under love addictions and those under substance addictions, they are the same.
The only way to break a dependency like this is to go to a higher part of yourself... Your authentic self or your soul
If you stay in your ego parts/your anxious parts, you are going to remain dependent and remain in pain.
Whatever you practice most becomes your experience .
if you live in your fear your fear will multiply if you live in your faith your faith will multiply.
Where there is Faith there is no fear... where there is fear there is no faith
@@sanyabari thank you so
I too am a Christian, and I know this married guy has been sent by the enemy, the devil himself, to distract me from God’s calling on my life! The enemy wants our commitment to the Lord, and he’ll use our loneliness & need to be appreciated, to distract us. I know all of this in my head, but it still makes it difficult to break this imitation love, off!!! I also believe that ungodly men are attracted to Christian women because of our kindness and godly joy. They, and their dear wives, are searching and in need of, the peace that we have, and are actually attracted to the God within us! I’ll pray for you too. I really need to trust God more, to send the right guy. And you and I both deserve it!!! 😀🌷
@@lorischellenberg3219 Amen, I pray for u too. God will heal us and send us our own.
I too fallen in love with a married guy...i love him alot and i cant leave without him..i wish to get married to him...but I don’t want him to get divorced to his wife..I want him to accept me as his second wife..But i am scared to discuss about marriage.Because I donno whether he have the intention to marry me..But i knw he loves me..Please help me out to get a solution
If your trying to date a married person …You need to look into Polygamy
We were both married and wanted to be together. His kids were small, mine were pretty well grown. In the end he couldn’t leave his wife. She found out. We broke up. He stayed I left my husband and moved on. Yet 30 years later I still think of him. Did I really love him. Or did I just to win him or were we mutually co dependent….I think the latter
As a man who’s been in a rocky marriage, I’m sure he stayed because of the kids as I am .
At least he got to fool around, I’m over here staying faithful and loyal 😅
I have a woman in this situation who will not confess to this . She wants to use me constantly I guess u until she gets the call .. And like I said somewhere else very viscous towards me and I travel 7 hours for her … until I told her I know what she is doing she blocked me and I have moved on I doubt she contacts me again . Sad she couldn’t be truthful , we could have had something but no …. She like to take her extreme hatred out on me . Thats bad ,, anyone know or have a reply on this ? Thanks
Falling in love with someone isn’t a crime although circumstances aren’t the best
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@@90charim Falling in love with a married person should be a crime. It’s called adulterous infidelity. It’s not ok to destroy anyone from the inside out by blowing up their soul. The faithful betrayed partners experience severe PTSD. It is ok to fall in love with a single person and it is ok to be in an open relationship. It is not ok to break the marriage vow. It is not ok to be a lying, deceptive, sneaky snake who disrespect with that type of backstabbing adulterous infidelity. Don’t get married if you want to have sex with anyone anytime anywhere especially if you committed your life to the supposed love of your life. People get taken to court all the time for breaking contracts. Betrayers should be held accountable for breaking their marriage contract and commitment and for destroying their partner. Murdering someone’s soul because they broke their commitment should be a crime. It’s worse than murdering their body because they are alive but dead inside… the walking dead.
A woman would never date a man who lives with his mother but she would date a man who lives with his wife
Ladies: He’s already made his choice, and it’s NOT YOU! Times two if he has children.
You shouldn’t be dealing with a married woman or man period
my Lord ! you are awesome ! you have said everything correctly on this subject ! I am facing this now, my heart is very painful but it is very toxics and abusive to me to be with that married man !
It looks like you are already on your way to finding a way out of the pain... the most important thing is realizing you don’t want to put up with the pain anymore... once you set off on the path to finding your liberty from pain, you’ll eventually find it... good luck 💕
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The best explanation of the issue i have ever heard of anyone.Thanks for your time and integrity😊
Thank you. I really appreciate your compliment
Why does it seem that you think dating a married man is only a problem if the man does not leave his wife? Is his lack of integrity while leaving a committed union not a problem for the other woman? Is the other woman’s lack of integrity also not a problem either? Getting into a relationship based on lies and infidelity is a problem even if he leaves the woman who believed his promises to her.
You are right. All of the things you mention are a problem. This video is made because there is an impression that the other woman has a grand time. It is also a way to give women who may not understand what they are getting into a warning to leave as quickly as they can. This is a video to speak about a prespective that most people don't consider
Im in this type of situation now. Married my whole adult life and im 72. Wife had grown cold and distant. No intimate contact let alone sex for years. Tried talking to her about it and she just gets pissed. Im ran into my first gf from when i was 13 or 14. She was married 40 yrs and her husband passed. We started talking and meeting for coffee and such One thing led to another and we wound up in the rack. We text all the time talk once in a while and see each other when we can. This has been going on just under 5 years. No matter how many hints I drop she won't let go. If called her right now and asked her to drive to Hell and pick me up, she would pack a bag and leave asap. Thats how deep this goes. If she were to do the same, Id find and excuse not to. My wife is not well and I can't leave after all these years. I thought in the beginning I thought I could. This story runs deeper then i can go without it being a novel. Bottom line is she is Absolutely crazy about me. This started out very fast and only got deeper faster. I do love her but its like the right person but wrong time. I know it has to end because its to deep just to be friends. I promised her at the beginning that any bad news would be in person not in a text. I never expected to this deep in love. I was feeling sorry for myself and it was so easy for this to get out of hand.
You are 100% right no matter what I do someone is going to get hurt.. At this age i got myself into a real mess.
You sure did, not feel sorry for you.
I can relate. Some wives know that since you "got papers" on them they can do as they please and treat you like you are nothing. Then when you do meet someone who cares about you then wife wants to play the victim card
Sir your wife doesn’t want you. And you’re going to play the person who actually wants you because you are afraid to leave.
Its a question of self respect and integrity. A person with enough self respect, dignity and integrity will not knowingly cheat on their partner, especially when there are kids involved. This includes the person they are cheating with. Clearly they are lowing their self worth to be considered a "side fling"
I think that women who knowingly become the other woman should try to reflect on whether some of the temptation associated with being with a married man comes from their own sadistic, destructive and narcissistic impulses that they have (we all do) but refuse to own up to/honestly acknowledge by playing the role of a victim who is being emotionally taken advantage of or tricked. I've noticed that many of them recount the experience in a near child-like way where they come off as having no control or active participation in the affair
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exactly! I can't even talk about this type of woman's personality. Awful.
100% on target. These lying devious snakey cheaters find people who are just like them. They have zero respect for anyone especially not for oneself. The adulterous fling partner is just as disgusting as the demon they’re doing.
Much appreciation for your openness 💕
My pleasure. 🙏🏽💕
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The truth is that there's many story of men leaving their wife with who they do not bond anymore for their mistress.
And they end up marrying their mistress.
Yep. Steve Harvey did.
And most of them continue to cheat. Don't be a dumb ass.
It’s very rare. I wouldn’t bet on it. Maybe the wife throws them out when she finds out and he goes to the mistress. Then will eventually cheat on the mistress too.
When people leave their married partner and get with the disrespectful adulterer, statistics show it only works out 3-5% of the time. So do you really want a person who can’t keep their commitment and lies, cheats, and disrespects in order to seek out their lust filled ambitions and is a backstabbing adulterous infidel. I supposed if you disrespect and become involved in that kind of deception then you’re just like the betrayer. You deserve each other. Hope you don’t develop PTSD like most betrayed spouses do when the snake starts cheating on you with another disrespectful adulterer. Try respecting yourself and others.
So? Look what happened to Khloé Kardashian
Wow! Your advice. He asked me out yesterday and today he told me he is married but he loved me at first site. Now we planning our first date. I gave him my contact details because he seemed cute, articulate, clean and decent only to tell me that he is married but he liked me and asked if we should kick it. I agreed and told him as long as his wife don't find out, now i feel like it's WRONG and UNETHICAL of me to participate. This will be my first time engaging with a married guy, on the other hand I'm lonely been single for 4 years. I don't know what to do.
I wish he never told me he's married. Should i go on this first date?
@@leesedilee6849 imo explore it, why not? especially if he is the one trying to impress and chase YOU. let the man.. just reap the benefits and keep your options open!
Best cut it off while you can before a wife like me destoys your reputation and probably your chances with a nice single guy who will not be willing to get involved with one like you.
Why do you want to go with him in particular knowing he is married ? I'm not judging I'm just curious
A man flirted with me at work he has come a few times he owns a company that has a deal with my employer. Turns out at one point he held the door open for me and I saw he had a wedding ring. I was pretty disappointed because I feel this very strong attraction to him and I think it's mutual. He's a couple years older than me, he has a good situation I suppose, he's super attractive, seems mature. Maybe I would have said yes if he had asked me for coffee or something, not saying I would have slept with him but still. I'm at this point in my life where all the men that I meet are immature, undecisive... i'm starting to have a pretty negative outlook on love, I don't even know if I really want to have kids and get married someday (with all the things i'm hearing about marriage etc). I'm really bummed out he was married I could sense that him and I we would have had a lot in common, which is so hard to find these days I feel. Anyway sorry for the long ass paragraphe I was just wondering why you chose him and not a single guy instead
@@littlelily4 why not both? Who said you have to pick one?
Therapists see marriage and relationship problems as their business, making money out of your problems, they will never solve marriage and relationship problems, problems and suffering are part of this existence, you must understand.
Exactly, it's not always as black and white as this Woman is telling it.
Never date a married man!! He belongs to someone else. Get your own man.
Almost everything you said is true-my only biggest deviation is he was honest enough to tell me that he loved his wife and that our relationship and their issues had nothing to do with why he loves me... his love for me was not hinged on their failures and didn't want me to take on the competitive behaviors because he loved us both. And I believe him. (Some context : is that he comes from a polygamous father but had vowed it was not for him until we met. He claims that's what he's working towards. He is a very brillian man - one of the smartest doctors in the country so maybe he's just outsmarted me).. I think with everything you have said about the love unlike any other is where I am, and willing to live in that triangle if we all maintain the boundaries. However I see no effort from him to create the boundaries he claims after 5yrs and 1 son together.) I'm beginning to feel that he never wants to upset the balance at home because his wife is not having it..) he has introduced me to his whole entire family and they all acknowledge our relationship on the one hand but do not want to upset the wife on the other. It is a mess. I keep trying to get out of this situation and find someone who will be my person but what we share is rare
Hmmm sis mine is same as urs
No you just think it’s rare. What’s not rare is the number of disrespectful adulterers that think their fling partner is so special and that they are so in love. Why do you adulterous fling last choice people want a lying, devious, snake who can’t honor commitment and who disrespect the love of his life on the lowest level possible? That’s what you love… a backstabbing adulterous lustful infidel?Why not be in a real relationship? Why do you want to be in a relationship where you get used for sex when it’s convenient for the lying cheating snake? Do you like being used? Or are you just blind from the truth?
I hope you have left him by now. You deserve more than any man's crumbs and the leftovers from his wife
Yes she said that this is what the women will think. What we have is so rare. It's not rare.
Going through this now
Keep coming back to this video...Can't break me...
I'm so happy this has been helpful. How have things turned out for you?
Very true all the way but very hard to give up if you love them with all your heart.
Why condemn the married man . As a single mature woman, I don’t want to cook,clean,do laundry,iron for another man. I only want his company when we are in our best moments . We only talk about fun topics, we laugh, enjoy each other’s company and sent him home to his wife to deal with their own issues. We look forward to our next meeting.
What Sanya maybe doesn't realize is married men are nicer, cleaner, more empathic, and easier to be with than single guys. It's like the married guy is "preowned" and has been trained on how to treat a woman. I agree that as a mature woman, I don't want to do the happy housewife stuff or take care of him when he's sick or just in a bad mood...let his wife do all that.
your words have saved me in time ..
Im so happy to hear that... this was what i was hoping for... feel free to reach out if you wish
Met him on a dating app, he said married but lonely and looking for a friend to chat to. So we met after 8 weeks, i fell in love that day, then in October he said we needed to be more restrained and needed boundaries! He said he and his wife sleep alone and haven't had intimacy since 2007, yet he's still there living in this sham.... 2:27
That’s because he lies to you, to his wife and to himself. The infidel is NOT a nice man. He is a demon. He is a destroyer of his wife’s soul, and yours too. Why not tell his wife if you want that kind of evil?
Absolutely true, thank you for that eye opener and a handcuffed key. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
I'm glad to be of service♥️
What sucks is that he’s begging to keep it going but I don’t want to hurt myself at the end , he said he wants it forever but I know that’s not reality, it’s barely been a month and he’s hooked , he wants to see me everyday but I only see him once a week bc I don’t want to be attached. So instead he lives his home every just to get in the phone with me , he calls me all times a day when he’s at work.
It’s so hard bc he’s becoming a friend too . We tell eachother eveything . He doenst want me to leave but I can’t stand being the other . He going out with her tonight and it made me feel like shit so I’ll end it ASAP.
Did you broke up? It's an awful place to be, when you'r having feelings for him, but somehow, you know he's just playing with you :(
@@Erika29.17 no we just went to vegas this weekend , first time we spend 3 nights together . Tbh I think I’m starting to like him more each time. It’s insane how can someone married have feelings for someone else .
@@Erika29.17 this Thursday I guess he kinda got caught by his wife. He had the whole freaking weeknd to fix it I was scared this day and he called and said he fixed things and nothing has to change between us
Omg im trying so hard to finish the relationship, but we haven't. And I feel depressed and regret all the time I accept be "the other". And I feel I can't leave him.
@@Erika29.17 I mean do you want him to leav his wife ??? Or are you okay with keeping it the way it is ?
I felt sorry for the female because he lied to her. She didn’t know he was married but when she find out she told him he need to choose and it should be her. WTH!!! The sorry feelings went out the door. I told her she can have him when I’m done with him. How about that!!!
Sorry you have pos
What if he didnt told you he was married when you guys just and its after intimacy and falling for him that you found out hes married... what do you do then??
You leave because eventually you will be in the wife shoes ! Know your worth
@Sanya-kay Smith • You stay if you want to continue staying. Either way it is not wrong to continue sleeping with him, as long as you are using protection and don't fall for him either as far as your feelings. Go find yourself a second man so you won't have feelings for the married man.
Drop his ass because it will get worse. Ghost hard
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Just remember he has already lied to you. Don't allow him to do it again and ghost him. He deserves to be ghosted. Can't resolve anything with a liar
Omg..everything here is so true,I was going through a divorce and went to a lawyer I used to work for,I was vulnerable and he wanted and made me felt special,I have a newborn baby girl for him and it's true what you're saying,he has no integrity,sorry I saw that too late,now he doesn't mine his child but represents people in child support cases,lucky for me I didn't pour out my whole heart otherwise I would have been heartbroken but its my daughter am concerns about,growing up father less. I recently lost my Dad and can't imagine a girl child growing up without their father.
Talk to state Bar association about what happened.
Should have thought earlier. Gross behaviour.
Getting involve in a married man is really ridiculous i just waist my time and energy i just found out that he is married he intentionally lied to me. but for now i realize how difficult to deal. I walked away realizing no future at all amd limited movements.
I applaud you for respecting yourself and for not continuing to live a lie. You freed yourself from a devious snake. You freed yourself from a creepy backstabbing adulterous infidel. He’s a predator. He doesn’t honor or love anything but his penis.
majority of the time, no matter how much time he spends with you, what he spends on you, or how he proves he doesn't want his wife...you are not worthy, beautiful, ask him to leave his wife...He won't. And be blessed...move on. Thank God you are not the wife he betrayed. You, I deserve BETTER. Men get bored and it's so sad because you knowing he has a family. Honeymoon faze...he will never introduce you to his family.
he need you only for havefun
@@michaelkebederak5242 Sad thing is if he does the same things he does for his side piece for his wife she would make sure he had fun...marriage is real life...those extras don't want that...trust me. If they knew what married women go through...
@@sessionivory It just means that the married man is in LOVE with BOTH women, the side chick and the wife.
@@brooklynzoo2810 Which is pitiful.
Thank you! How do i stop to get attached to unavailable men?
Thank you for this video! Very informative n not condemning
Never never date a married man because such a person has two faces .Actually he loves his wife and kids,but will show you that he is unhappy in his married life.If you involve emotionally in him then your life will defenately miserable as he will leave you for one more option.
What if I’m not in love with him but just enjoy having fun with him and we are both on the same page? I’m his escape and he’s mine. I don’t see what’s wrong with it. His marriage was in shambles before he met me
Hi Mausi. These things can be a fun escape in the moment but by their nature they are deep traps of pain all around.
If you didn’t have emotional hooks in this relationship then you wouldn’t watch this, or comment here.
Please watch out... he’s the one who benefits the most and your the one who has the biggest potential to get hurt.
Remember if a marriage is truly in shambles then it doesn’t last... it’s obviously fulfilling some role that he wants to keep getting otherwise he’d leave and be with you.
Infidelity shows a high level of lack of courage, it’ll take a lot for him to do the right thing.
Good luck to you my friend and so much love.
@@sanyabari thank you for your comment. I appreciate it. There’s a lot of truth in what you’re saying but it seems that even after a month, he seems to be the one falling for me and is all over me, and I’m not falling for him. But the second I do start to catch feelings, I know how to back out.
All the power to you. Stay safe, stay happy. Love Sanya
@@FransceneJK98 it's a tactic they use,,, to boom love you until they completely win your trust... When u start to fall for him, and he starts to pull away, you'll find yourself chasing after him.. He'll make sure that u kinda get addicted to him so that leaving him won't be easy even when he start to show no interest in you.
This is what my ex husband mistress thought, but she was left crying, and yelling because she thought she was above being mistreated by him. How she got him she lost him....
lol without getting to the end of the video i felt in love with you. humble soul . subscribing
Iam in a same situation..iam cofused ..Lord help me to do the right thing
Thanks just what I needed find this useful.
I felt like a kid watching this video. You were talking so slow as if we are in grade school, Thanks for the content.
Never mind the "moral" question. For many, that's not an issue, or at least not enough of an issue. IT'S a LOSING proposition! I've seen it several times! DO NOT waste your lives on these married men! WTAF!
He lie to his wife .....thé Woman at home is thé most Hurt Woman
Not thé outside Woman
The outside woman will soon be in pain too when she starts to wither and finds out there is another outside woman
Not when she knows nothing about the other woman. In my case she never found out about me nor did I tell her. I got out I was manipulated and lied to.
@@wangui9908 As a side check I don't care if he has other women as long as I don't get an std from him, if that happens I am done.
Thank you so much for this video.
It's better to date a married man, really. Better to share a successful man than be saddled with a faithful loser.
Amen. I’m the married man with a wife and a gf.
Youre trash
Sad you think married men are successful
You missed the entire point. Looks like reading comprehension is not your strong suit.@@savleensur8670
That's what I was trying to say in a previous comment. A handsome, successful, kind, fun man is infinitely better than some shlub with old Chinese food and beer cans in the fridge, chilling out in front of the game or Netflix, hoping to get a call from the employer he just applied to...Sanya has to live in the real world, not in the fantasy world of many therapists who think attractive men grow on trees...the supply is very limited so why not share?
He grew anxious as we grew into each other, and then he began to pull away. I ended it after 2 months after he lied claiming that he had a crippling headache, i tried to call for support but he shot me a text saying he had company 😂. Later on he tried to call but I did not answer , the folliwing day he called explaining what he meant when he said he had company, he said he meant he was surrounded 😢😂, then I said we needed to talk, we havent spoken since,its been 3 months. I just didnt call and so did he. A few weeks ago I cut him out of my Netflix and he attempted to call but I did not answer. He is a low quality person.There's more to the story but i dont want to bore you with each detail.
That’s not love. Its the opposite
I don’t know why every respond speak of love and marriage in an affair. Easy come , easy go . No one gets hurt .
Where’s the link to bread-crumbing?
Dating a married man is like saying you don’t respect his commitments any more than he does, and why should you? Because as a potential future stepmom, you’ll need a positive relationship with them and ruining their mothers’ life isn’t the foot you want to start on. Isn’t the best 1st impression.
Impossible to have a positive relationship with a devious, deceptive, sneaky snakey liar who can't keep a commitment. The adulterous infidel can never be trusted. The betrayer doesn't respect anyone.
@@BAMshazammy 👉 my point exactly. 💯 Thanks for clarifying for the slow pokes ;o) So glad you could read between my lines there. 😀 I worried I might have been unclear. Phew! Thanks for picking up the slack. 🍻 cheers!
This video is a godsend
Dont fall in love with a married man.
Let’s wait and see you becoming a single mother and will see how that turns. 180 degree not in your favor ladies
Very helpful thank you so much
Lovely voice and you’re right on!
Hi mam pls help me,he is my bf for 3 yrs but his family find for him a girl to marry as an arranged marriage,i know he love me but he cannot disobey his mom bec.he is the only son,and we are from different culture and country,we are LDR we never meet yet,he ask me to stay with him he will marry this girl only for his family.we love each other so much ,he get married but still he call me video call everyday,send message.i want to let him go because its hurting me,but he doesnt want to ler me go,now he is already went to work other country and leave the wife in his family,mam shall i stay or ahall i leave ?pls give me advice
LMAOOO you can’t love someone you have never met 😂😂
This is true thank you 💜
My pleasure 💕
Oh! God what to do???
Find a single man. That's what to do. Going for a married one is selling yourself short. Many of them are also deceivers. If they can cheat on their wife, why wouldn't they cheat on you?
my husband had emotional affairs with his colleague from last 6 months how can I bring him back I don't know how to manage things please help me
Shine the light on it and tell him...NOT ACCEPTABLE !
Why do you want to stay with a man who has affairs ?
Leave him
I know this is off topic, but you could totally do ASMR.
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not need ever date or make relation with married man period!
My husband went back to an old flame , in 6 weeks she did the divorce papers for him because they were madly in love, she taunted me with pics on fb of them together, she bragged to me he was divorcing me, and she was his fiancee ,then after the divorced she bragged he divorced me.
Wtf jerk. Hope you were not with him for too long. Good riddance
love this video
Need to turn this around and give advice to the married man who is being chased by the immoral woman.
Im on this triangle right now we talk from the time he wakes up video calls while heading to work n in between the day until he go home mon. To fri. Sat n Sunday is not much bcoz shes home. He was my first love a high school love but he is married so im hooked i need ur help to think im from Florida n his in California. Im thinking his far anyways he is consistent i go there 2x a year we spent time together i dont feel like to be together so im ok with this situation
Can you share link to your breadcrumbing video
If takes a heartless man to leave his wife and especially his 3 children
No offence doctor... but I'm never the one they want to show off. It's strange because they tell me I'm so beautiful blah blah blah and yet, it's always another woman they pick to show off or to give the title of "girlfriend" or wife to. I see them posting photos of these women and it really makes me feel like all the negative things I think about myself really are true. Like, "Okay, maybe I really don't deserve to be with a man who doesn't want to keep me a secret".
Wow you nailed it
I suggest you improve your sound system. The sound is not too loud enough to be heard
Thanks... You're right... I'll look into it
“Codependent “ yes!
No I don’t, but he insisted that he wants to see me, I do like him tough, I’m married too 🙄
so so so true Sanya. You have really really spoken the mind of THOSE women..... its the absolute truth..
Thank you!
What if both of you are married?
I am in love with a married man long distance he always tells me he can't live without me and that l stole his heart l love him what should l do
You're both lying, deceptive, devious adulterous betrayers. Infidels who disrepect and who can't be trusted. Divorce your spouses and get together. You deserve each other.
He will NEVER be YOURS FULLY if he is married....stay satisfied with those crumbs or go find a fully available unmarried man of your own!!😂😂😂...
I only want him part time
@@Ballerina_777 well ur just nasty gross then....how little you think of yourself that you desire crumbs....seek therapy and find your worth
Coming from the wife who has been betrayed! Do not date a married man!!!!!!!!
Monogamy is an unrealistic fairytale…especially if you happen to have a penis
Is really true 😢
😢sad as it is
Date? Married people can't date.
Rule 1: Don't date married men. Wait until after divorce has been finalized. Do not be a homewrecker.
Thank you
I am gay and my bf is married and we are happy for past 7 years. His wife is happy too 🙂 She is good friend with me and she is aware about it ☺️☺️
You are fooling yourself. This is fake happiness. You're fooling no one
If it's an open relationship and every knows and that's what you want then go for it. However, don't call it a marriage because it truly is not.
Delusional people do this. Become mature n if he or she really loves you they will handle what they need to first THEN marry you however you wonder why your not married your deceitful nin your heart your heart myst be right n clean in Gods eyes not man. Then hell givrbyou your OWN MAN NOT SOMEONE ELSE'S. #futureDoctor
Why do you have this on youtude about dating a married man thats wrong your not suppose to cheat.
How about dont just dont hes using you for what he aint getting in his marrage your nothing more than a ten second fly by.Your an emotionl cruch an it not long before hes over it an out the door on both of you.Hes got kids your his convenent babysitter.Dont date a married man just dont it aint worth it.But your not dateing hes just using you for sex litterly.
You are so amazing....
Thank you Shilpy 🙏🏽
Men should not leave without bread
1 thing to know : DONT