In public? 🙄 you guys talk about other people's contradictions but skip your own? You did a whole video about making another race a fetish. And how it's corny and disciminitory. But I mean it's just a joke about white girls not being good enough for anything in public, I shouldn't feel a way.. but as somebody's who's followed you guys, loved your work and have been mad supportive I think that's wack. But I'm assuming at this point, my opinion isn't anything you care about.
I'm in an interracial marriage and this lady, who didn't know my wife, said "So, what's it like to be in an interracial marriage?" My wife was just "uhhh.... the same as being in a same racial marriage I imagine."
jk • 전국아 my wife is Colombian and I am American, her first language is Spanish and mine is English (she learned English and I learned Spanish) and even saying all that, it feels like a pretty normal marriage.
jk • 전국아 A lot of time there cultural differences interracial couples specifically between black and white. I don’t know why so many people in the comment section keep overlooking that
@@Nijilove78 no they both are in the same boat. They are not different. White marries white, they perfectly understand one another and their life and can relate to one another. Same culture. Black marries black same situation. Black culture marries white culture you can only sympathize but NEVER relate to struggles. So you really can't have one without the other. JS
I'm black I have to be aware of what others think could mean life or death here in the south so I make sure I greet everyone with a smile. I don't need the cops being called on me for simply being somewhere
SHADOW PIONEER - ENT. What’s right or wrong when it comes to who I choose to put my dick in? I’m black with a Mexican woman and she sexy as fuck if the black community want me to have a black woman who is just as sexy tell them to bring her to me until I got what I got.
@SHADOW PIONEER - ENT. Shit the writing the dude made makes it hard to answer the question. I guess they want people to stop saying it's a loss for not dating a black woman.
Agreed “If someone tries to take control over your body and make you a slave, you would fight for freedom. Yet how easily you hand over your mind when anyone insults you. When you dwell on their words and let them dominate your thoughts, you make them your master.” -Epictetus
I agree but to be honest you hear that from almost anybody nowadays and I can only imagine how many are insecure inside. Maybe I just don't fancy cliches nowadays. Oh well, it is what it is.
Completely agree I've never understood why people take on other peoples ish especially from a comment on social media. People get obsessed with what one troll said to them on twatter. I couldn't give two s***s what people think or say about me cos it dont matter.
Also, don't give a fuck what other people think, because you can't fix stupid. You'd think that by 2020 people would stop caring about interracial dating seeming odd, but then again I am heavily mixed, so it just seems normal to me anyways.
Why is it that when you search interracial relationships, it's always white and black? Interracial relationship is much more abroad, than just white and black.
mariana, its because of the perception that asians are the "other white meat" . people don't bat an eyelid when Ming-chow is married to Braeden . but raise eyebrows with Latasha is married to Teddy.
@Chief Tahchawwickah You obviously didn't listen to the part of the video where they said the Black community are judgemental about interracial relationship
i mean peoples perception of you does affect your life. at the end of the day if 99 percent of the world says you are a *insert here* it doesn't really matter what you think because they out number you and can affect others around them and by extent the world you live in. so i don't think not caring is the answer. edit: if that makes any sense edit: and if you really wanna go deeper i can could also say you letting them slide with that perception of you being whatever it is you inserted can feed into others' view of the world as well,hence the whole "affect others around them" thing. and that in and of itself can be negative or positive.
When my wife and I first got together we used to get looks and comments always directed towards me because I’m a white man and my wife is Japanese. Asian people didn’t like that I was with her. We’re still together after 21 years, nothing bugs me anymore. My give a damn broke along time ago. We still love each other
It's such a cringe thing to say. Typical defensive whataboutism. Not here to sh** on the uploader, but just saying: Racial mixing is encouraged by the media for a reason and it's a nefarious one. Look up Cloudenhove-Kalergi.
“Black Women don’t like it at all...” PLEASE don’t generalize us like that. That’s not fair and feeds into the stereotype of the Bitter Black Woman. Many of us don’t care. Love who you love.
When my big sis found out I had a bf, she was excited and wanted to see pictures, but when I showed her he was white she got mad at me saying that I was disrespecting our black culture, that I needed to breakup with him, and that she doesn’t want to have any mixed nieces or nephews. 🤷🏾♀️
I’m a white dude in college. I Just got out of a relationship with a black girl. I ended it for multiple reasons even though i didnt want to. One thing I always heard when she was on her phone with her mom was shit like “You with that white boy arent you”, “You really dating a white bit huh” shit like that, it always seemed so weird and like I wasn’t accepted.
@@AlatOnDemand yea. she also had this weird mentality of the man in the relationship pays for everything and all that. I was buying food for us all the time, I was always driving because she has no car or liscence. I find it weird that she once told me “I was just raised that the man does all that” when I told her i felt I was being used because it was always me doing these things and investing so much into her but she never reciporocated it. She expected me to be spending so much despite her having no money herself and she herself couldnt live the lifestyle I was providing for her... Mind you im 19 and i was spoiling her lol. Idk she just was very entitled and expected so much and her family I felt pushed me out too
Expat In UK Biker America was called the Land of the Free because that’s essentially our rule set. Don’t fuck with other people, do what you want. Those are the rules.
I mean I don't know... some people are called haters for a reason 😂 and as for america,there seems to be quite some troubles with interracial dating over there but heh...
The issue is when people literally impose their views on people in these kinds of relationships. Stares are to be expected but when they are staring for more than 4 seconds and following you as you walk past? I think its not simply just projecting at that point. Its just plain rude. You can be super confident in your relationship and still be uncomfortable when strangers harass you.
Speaking Truth Its definitely at varying degrees depending on where you live. I’m from the US and like I said since seeing a darker person with a much lighter person (cuz I think its more of a skin thing than anything else since not only black people are of african decent) is not as common as people think its completely normal to get minor stares. But Ive even heard of people who have been approached by other black people. So yea lol
@@Alvin-xs7db But do you want to be stared at everywhere, at every store, at every restaurant? At some point it gets to you, even when people are staring in admiration. And let's be honest, most of them aren't.
Alvin Hill of course. I can definitely agree that that is possible. I was just saying it is normal to feel uncomfortable when strangers stare, and that its not always some outward projection that stems from a lack of confidence. and you can differentiate sometimes (when they follow you and glare for example, or even confront you which happens) There is a good number of people who are negative. I got no stats to reference but I think there are more negative than positive people. Racial conflicts still exist, and its definitely more likely that there is more negative associated with dating someone of a different race or cultural background.(In my opinion. Tbh what im sayin doesnt matter just date who you want be free f the haters lol easier said than done tho)
I've dealt with insecure interracial couples. I was walking through the park texting and a black man yelled "you can't stand to see a black man with a non black woman ". I even had situations where an interracial couple would follow me with their eyes expecting a response. It's so strange to me.
True true. One time I just glanced in their direction - And the mumbles and disapproval ensued... My family has a few white men and women in it - trust me ‘Bm,Ww couple’.... I didn’t care 🤷♀️😅😭
Which makes what Aba says partially right. Sometimes you react and FEEL based on what you THINK is there.. but ultimately, you can never truly know what the other person is thinking, if at all (as I was just staring off into space).
Its true. I remember when I first start dating my hubby and I remember we were on the subway and a man who didn't even know us. Started cussing about white guys taking all the black women and he was pissed. And he didn't even know us. It does happen
I'm in one of those.I'm Black , she's white and we've been together 10 years .Time hasn't fixed anything. We hear comments , weird stares all the time. We're both lowkey type people. The funniest I ever got was from a white guy in Texas ( With all the stereotypes attributed to a white man in Texas) that told me I was too weak to be with a real Black queen so I had to settle for a Becky. I've heard that line from Black folks before but this white dude flipped it on me and went Dr Umar on my ass. I was confused
@@DB-wp2yj No but I'm sure you can find him wherever khaki pants and tiki torches are sold if it makes your front bum wet. Get your Candace Owens on with yo musty self! lol
I'm confident enough in myself to never take it personally if anyone says they won't date my ethnicity or if they only like an ethnicity that's not mine. As long as you don't come for me personally, I won't be affected nor feel the need to get defensive. I am however from Haiti (95% Black and African descent) so I do not carry the historical weight of racial conflict that Americans faces every single day. I understand why they might feel different and extrapolate personal relationships to political stands.
@kwazue I think the point she was trying to make is that while their are general similarities in those experiences, they are still different and cant be compared.
@kwazue Differences in culture. People from different backgrounds and cultures handle things in different ways. America's culture is one of "speak up, and be loud", so that's what we get. But I'd say our true levels of racial tension are relatively low in most areas....but high in some specific areas, mostly the larger cities and the places that are most fixated on the idea of racism. (I say the "idea of racism" because some people will claim the most odd things are "racist" when it's really just normal actions/behaviors. o.o )
Did you really just say Haiti doesn't have historical racial conflict. Do you know why Haiti even exists as it does in the first place? That was literally the first place they landed lmao
You guys do know that white ppl can be "African-American" idk why we even claim that term. You're American plain and simple. Smh this world is so dumb y are we even considered "black"
Bruh, when I was with a Asian girl people said so much wild stuff about me and the girl I was dating at the time. This to me just makes me realize how much people judge something that doesn't concern them.
I'm dating a black guy and it's such a "wild idea" to the public that people will say anything about it. I don't understand why people feel like they have to stick to their own race, if they want to. that's fine but I dont understand why they have judge other people for interracial relationships.
MY NIGGA! You did it! All jokes aside I assumed asians weren't allowed to mess with us. In college I had one Korean girls mother say to my face her daughter either gets with nice Asian boy or rich white man. And when I was stationed in Okinawa, I may have been surrounded by water but this guy was dry af
@@TheSnKoh no it just certain Asians. China, korea, and Japan are known to love white. However Philippines, Vietnam, and Singapore loves black over white. Heck it starting to change with every generation that black is more acceptable with time
When I was dating my ex-girlfriend, she was from Kingston jamaica, some of my friends would get on me about dating her and say some shit like "you need a break up with her, you don't want your kids to look like chocolate chip cookies". I understand how it is, I've also had people asking me if I paid to be with her like she's a prostitute instead of my girlfriend. I understand preach.
I am glad she is your ex-girlfriend. Those who you still call your 'friends' were certain full of hatred for her. Not to mention those that think of her as a prostitute just because she is with 'you'. But that may be what they thought of you, maybe. In any case, Preach would allow NO ONE to say anything about his, "her", and get away with it. And certainly not twice. I don't think you understand Preach the way you think you do.
I am white man and have been married to a black woman since before interracial relationships became the trendy thing to do . I haven't had any issues other than black dudes looking at her ass from time to time so i just grab her ass and give her a kiss and then i give them a head nod laugh and keep walking. Havent had any negative comments granted i am 6`4 and 300 lbs so i dont think many people want to try and test the waters with me.
The random freestyle at the end by Aba & then Preach Adlibing is too much🤣 I wonder what jokes & antics take place with these two turn the cameras off ps I hope future generation fix this bs so the term interracial dating will no longer exist & we call it what it is just regular humans dating ✌
This was me two years ago with my ex who was a Hispanic woman. I would get various looks and comments from other Black women, and like Preach said I understood where it came from. Date whomever you want, but please do it without needing to shade your own race.
@da don I mean.. the same could be said in the inverse. Don't you think this point of view is a bit racist? "Date within your own race y'all. Don't wanna be potentially less black" hmm 🤔 sound's pretty racist to me I don't know..
@da don that's false, people with melanin always have the more dominant Genes. In the future if this keeps up everyone will be olive skinned in the west.
@da don no, it is. Because you're thinking black people or white people are different races. There's only one race and multiple ethnicities. You can't even determine the difference. You don't have the capacity to speak on this and your opinion is invalid.
@da don well, I kinda agree with you there. That wanting your race to not go extinct isn't racist.. but that kind of thinking CAN lead to a bias which we'd probably want to avoid. It's also kinda a silly way to think because while your right it would be a different race, it would still be derived from two other races which is kinda cool no? It's not like race really means anything anyway. It's your values, morals, and traditions that matter and if you can create a new person with both races' way of living wouldn't that be worth it?
It's not always hostile! I'm guilty of this because I'm always somewhat surprised. Also, I like to see if I can detect a pattern in what type of white man/ black woman does this. Personally I think there's a lot of pressure for black women to not date outside of the community so when I see those kind of relationships I assume that chick found some dude who is amazing and she's not letting social conventions get in the way of her happiness, so I'm rooting for y'all sis!
That sucks :( I have a very specific type when it comes to black girls and they’re usually already taken by white guys. I don’t try to stare if I see them, just wonder things like did she give up on black men? I don’t mind when black women date outside the race. It’s just disheartening when I see the black women that are my type doing it
Black men don't care if you date white men we actually encourage it as long as your happy go where you are celebrated and appreciated I deal with other races of women because they are just Nice 👍
Men do care and take it personally when it's the other way around. In college the first time I dated a white guy I was on a PWI campus. There were black men that I knew on campus that literally said they would NEVER date a black woman. I was single for a long time, so I decided to date outside of my race. All of a sudden they cared about me dating a white guy (specifically 3 black men). They would talk so much about us behind our backs. One of them literally asked me why don't you date black men? They never asked me on a date, noticed me or cared ever until I dated him.
I had a weird similar experience as a black man with a hispanic woman who didnt want anything to do with me until this white girl in my class and I started dating. People want what they think they can't have I guess.
People in general become more desirable they are dating. They see more confidence, acceptance and self -love and it makes you glow. That’s what makes people gravitate towards you when you’re dating someone else
Only black women would be concerned with that scenario. If you flip it around to black man/white woman is when you may get issues with a broader segment of society/circles in the U.S.
CGSteve8718 Not true. Black men make comments to black women in interracial relationships all the time. Idk if black men really get after other black men for being in interracial relationships. Not that I've seen in my experience but I'm sure it's happened.
@@CGSteve8718 I was dating a non black men and all his black friends told him he shouldn't date black women because we have fake hair and bad attitude. We broke up and his black friends added me all in the same time. I block them and they thought I did it because I don't like black men 🤦🏾♀️ I was a teenager and the same dudes are still gossiping about me 2day 💁🏾♂️
@@bmgfrosty7089 as long as a white girl is honest with me that she's race mixed in the past I have no issues, but willingness to mix requires a certain mentality (not necessarily good or bad) and it's a mentality I don't want in a wife or bred into my kids. Other than that it's a you do you kind of thing with me, each to their own.
@@fatmanyevo6235 white people are not better than anyone else. Once you realize this your life will be much better. You’re on this channel, I’m sure you know that preach is with a white women yet you seem to have an issue with that. Maybe go to a white national**t channel?
@@jzhvaeduh I grew up thinking "no one is better than anyone else" but abandoned such beliefs because of exposure to facts and reality. Of course no race or people are objectively better than all others, people who claim that only do so because the subjective values they hold are best met by "X" race. Someone who loves "Western civilization" for example will inevitably be led to the conclusion that the Mediterranean Europeans and/or Western Europeans are the most superior people as the west is built almost entirely off of their intellectual, physical and spiritual output. The same goes for those who identify with African culture or Asian culture or Arabian culture etc. None are objectively superior but people will inevitably have preferences but I digress.
Best part of being a child of an interracial couple is hearing people telling you that interracial couples are bad and dilute the essence of being white/black. Love hearing that people like me shouldn’t exist :) dunno why people can’t just let people be, the colour of someone’s skin shouldn’t pigeonhole you into a certain dating pool
As someone who is highly likely to have mixed children (nigerian + Japanese), I fear the social and cultural alienation they might go through growing up. Heck, even in my case being from Nigeria and being raised in the states, it was always clear i wasn't exactly "black". But conversely i never fully felt Nigerian either. I was raised very american and i've come to see myself as an american orphan. And it's not like i could just go back to Nigeria and be Nigerian. They know exactly where i'm from and i'm not treated the same as others, sometimes it's positive discrimination other times negative. As a mixed child yourself, do you feel any isolation at all? And what part of you did you fully embrace? Culturally as well as from an identity perspective.
Vee Suvious i live in Ireland, you don’t really see many mixed people as the majority of people would be first or second generation African or Asian or something of that sort so the mixing hasn’t really occurred. My mum is half Congolese and half Belgian and I do find myself taking on more of what she picked which Would be my Congolese heritage. I do see myself as mixed since I’m not really from anywhere. I also do feel isolated since no matter which group I try to associate with will never really get me and I won’t fully get them. One thing I learned being mixed was that people tend to be more open with their racism since they think I’m just white enough to not care or that I’m not “really” African. Imo being mixed or being in an interacial family does give you such an insight into other cultures. Hope you’re not put off having an inter racial family because of outside prejudice, love is love and that will give you and your family the strength to overcome any social or cultural alienation as you’ll always have each other.
@@kingcrocbbc6730 Your comment wasn't directed at me, but I hope it's okay to contribute my perspective a bit. My dad's Nigerian and my mum's Moldovan. They met in the Soviet Union in the 80s and got married then moved to Nigeria where I was raised. I still got to travel with my mum to Moldova now and then when there was enough money so I had the experience of living in totally different places. I'd say that there's positive and negative discrimination everywhere depending on the people. Weird thing is that in Nigeria, I'm considered white, but in Moldova (and elsewhere) I'm black or mixed, so I've never had to identify as either. As a kid, there'll be some teasing from other kids, and later on prejudices from both sides will be projected on me, but it's never been outright malicious since you can always tease back or throw the opposing prejudice in their faces. I also lived in Japan for a few years, and I can say that I was treated the most neutral way there than anywhere else; no more different than any other foreigner. I agree with Killian though about never fully being understood, and that people are more open about their racism; so there're either moments in life spent correcting them, or time spent just smiling politely until they go away. Having good friends (of any race) has been important, and has always offset any negative experiences I've had. About culture, I think a big part of which one you fully embrace depends a lot on how much the parents make an effort, and the child is enthusiastic. My parents spoke Russian to each other, so that's what I learnt until I started school where English was spoken. From living in Nigeria, I got to experience the culture there, but I still never learnt the language of my father's tribe. Another weird thing I experienced though was that people from each country nearly always wanted me to say I was from their country, and once or twice they even got annoyed when I said and acted like I was from both Nigeria and Moldova since I identify as from both places and refuseed to pick just one side. Still, I've always suspected that it would be a very different experience if I'd lived in the US or the English-speaking west. Growing up, I've observed that in the US especially there's an unhealthy focus on race. It's always seemed to me that people in the US voluntarily segregated themselves based on their skin colour or language, and embrace some toxic ideas about it being taboo to go 'outside'. I've never experienced such a thing myself in Europe, Nigeria or Japan but US American media always pushes the message that you must self-segregate, act your race, and only date within your race. I think that would be very difficult to live and grow up with, but with the support of good friends and a loving family it'll probably turn out quite well.
@@anthonyabraham762 Wow great comment. My primary concern for my future children is an identity crisis, it sounds like both parents investing in the learning of their cultures is the proper way to go. There's definitely something about having a bloodline connection with the land and culture you grow in that I didn't have and that they won't have. I'm definitely envious of both Generational Americans and Nigerians, but nothing can be perfect after all. Obviously there are ways to lessen the damage, as you both are proof. And yeah the American media is heavily invested in racial tensions for political and financial reasons. Oddly enough the US is still less nationalistic than other countries from what I hear. It was always funny to me how we are encouraged to add prefixes to American. Are there such terms in Moldova or Nigeria as African-Russian and Russian-Nigerian? Thanks for responding guys, I've been thinking about this for awhile now.
True. There was this one time on the subway though, and my boyfriend was standing in front of me while I was sitting down. (I'm white and he's mexican) And this old white lady sat next to me and kept grilling my boyfriend real stank-like.. She even had the nerve to turn her head a full 90 degrees at me and look me up and down for a whole 2 minutes!! I was like, "can i help you????" and she looked scared and tried to deflect by commenting on my tattoos. Bitch please I know exactly what you were doing and she wiped that look off her face real quick and never looked in our direction the rest of the ride hahaha
That is not necessarily true. I am happy that lots of people have not experienced it enough to know there is a very definite difference. Trust someone who has experienced it in life and Thank God you have to learn that from someone else's experiences.
@@xkxshx Damn! I mean, just say a friendly hello. Maybe it was the way you two looked as in dressed. A friendly greeting would've probably changed the way she looked at or thought of you lol!
When I dreamed of who I'd marry I thought, handsome, respected, kind, funny. Not once did i think about hair color, eye color, or skin color. I just wanted to be with someone I loved.
The main question is are you attracted to that person, and if you make a detailed list you could be missing out on someone that could be a great person.
Being mixed I'm always going to be in an interracial relationship. Unless I find someone exactly the same mix as me, but my heritage is more complex than half black half white so thats not likely lol.
Katie Bent growing up AA with parents from the south who lived in segregation, I use to think wtf if you any part AA, what are we really talking about... Now 2020 🥴 I still don’t understand... What are we really trying to say?
I live in the UK and until the 2001 census we didn't have a mixed box...it was still based on the one drop rule...so one drop of "black blood" means you're black. As this new mixed box was added by different organisations over the years the wording was sometimes kinda offensive. Yes lots of places put mixed or dual heritage but I can remember having to tick ethnically challenged on a form in 2009. Just made me feel dirty. Now I always tick other...I'm not made up of just 2 halfs. My family did the ancestry test and found we have DNA from every continent other than Antarctica! I'm proud of this and not willing to simplify it to just black and white.
Katie Bent if I did one of those DNA tests and with ancestry rooted in the deep US south I’m sure mine would come out various results as well. My mother is light skin, I’m brown skin, with a fine curly hair. I know I have the indigenous Americans blood in my lineage. I identify as a Black woman.
when im with my girl, im always paying so much attention to her that idk who's looking at us... everyone gets looked at, our insecurities make us think of the reason why
Thank you! I'm the same way. People have asked is it weird and I'm just sitting there like, what's weird about us being happy??? People always seemed so surprised when I say I'm engaged to a white woman, but in the end, they tend to be pretty supportive.
True! Also, I look at all sorts of couples and groups of people just because I like people watching. Individuals, less so, since they're not interacting with anyone.
I don't get your point. Obviously it's not an accident that he is dating a white woman, but his point is you never know who you will love and in his case the lady he loves happen to be white. My first girlfriend happened to have dark skin. I didn't expect to fall in love with her but I did
Growing up I had a best friend and we got a lot of looks just because we were the type of friends to be attached at the hip and it was glorious. Most of the comments we got were positive but when they got nasty it was baaaaaaaad. As a young kid I was relatively short, day glow white with white blonde hair and my best friend was this tall willowy model-esque graceful very dark skinned girl with gorgeous long natural hair. I know we were 'just friends' and not 'in a relationship' of the romantic kind but I'll never stop missing her as the negative comments finally outweighed the positive and drove her away. I don't blame her, in fact I do understand why she made the decisions she did, but it still hurts. Hell I was litterally talking with my husband about her today and crying because I miss her so much and I'm always going to love her like family.
💔 I have a best girlfriend that passed away young. You should reach out to her. If she's willing to reconnect that would be glorious. 🙌☺️ I've never met anyone else like her. She was a one of a kind gem. 💎
I so feel you on this. My best friend was literally like a sister to me. I'm 32 now, and I've still never met another person, male or female, who understood me and who I vibed with like her. I lost her to an abusive boyfriend and now, she refuses to talk to me. It's been so many years, yet I think about her all the time and miss her so much it hurts. We're the same race, but there is something truly special about positive female friendships. Especially in a culture where all we see in music, movies, on TV, and online is this bullshit narrative about how all women hate each other, and we sit back and watch women tear each other down. We need each other just as much as we need romantic partnerships. It's one of those things that we need in order to become fulfilled human beings. We can't get the same things from a man that we can get from another female.
Dude if you could somehow chat with her again, even if its strictly digital, i bet that would be awesome! Maybe its harder cuz when youre young judgement is harder to handle. But things could be different now! 🤞
My best friend is white we are a week apart. She has been struggling with her mental health and suicide attempts in and out of the hospital since 8th grade. Now we are long distance but talk more
As a son born from an interracial couple (mother is hispanic and father is middle eastern), I was not one to look to deep into a person's skin color when it came to attraction and dating. As Preach said, when friends asked me why or if I was into a particular ethnicity, I just said that the girl I would be attracted to at the time happened to be "insert ethnicity here" It was never a matter of looking for someone that was hispanic or middle eastern, but just simply getting to know someone and finding them to be attractive both in their appearance and character. Race has honestly never been a barrier for me. This is probably due to the fact that since I grew up in an interracial household, it made me believe that such a thing is normal, meanwhile there are probably more people that grow up in a single race household and that has been their worldview with regards to dating, marriage, and family.
Brother, "Hispanic" is not a race.... neither is "middle eastern." Not to mention those 2 different ethnicities do not have the adversarial relationship and history of oppression that white society and Black people do.
@@MrZBlackneffect You could argue that the inquisition and moorish occupation of Al Andalus could cause some friction if they're Muslim middle easterners.
DEmantothepower I feel the same as my mum is an Afro-Latina and my Dad is Greek, so I do have as well the same mentality in which I believe it’s the best since if following MLK’s ideology which is to see through and ignore the persons skin colour and focus on the character of the individual
@@blackpanther1082 Racism is defined as a pseudo-science that groups people into ''races'', often with a hierarchy. Races don't exist among human beings, we're not dogs or cats, believing in races is the first step of being racist.
I’ve been with my wife for 26 years she’s black and I’m white with two boys 16 and 21 the only problems I’ve ever came across this other black men being mad or making comments to me or my wife because she was with me that’s the only racism I’ve ever came across
Because it's a very deep cutting issue. People get defensive about it. Why? Because it directly triggers our biological survival instinct. We see one of "our kind" with someone else and it's a sore sight, doubly so if you're single yourself. As humans, we have survived the longest time by being tribal. And fun fact: The Neanderthals went out of history because they were outbred, gen**ide by sex.
Shentel J. I suggest you don’t go to East Asia. It’s not for the thin-skinned. But then again, it’s some of the most hilarious stuff. Yeah - it can cut deep but then you realize that most people saying absurd shit, tend to not be worth taking seriously. So long as you’re in a place where you’re not likely to be assaulted - or worse purely based on you and your partner’s looks that is.
Im a cashier whenever I get a couple that's interacial(blackman/whitewoman) I try to be as nice as possible cause I dont want them thinking that I have some grudge against them. I also try to avoid looking at interracial couples cause I dont want them to think I'm staring.
lol there's no winning, is there? if you're avoiding looking at someone to not offend them, there's probably some chance of them being offended that you won't even look at them or something :P
@@MrTubbs-zt3hd its bc as a black women if you look for too long or see as if you are being mean than they label you as the angry black women. you're jealous...etc so go away
i’ve been in a relationship with a black woman (i’m a white man) for about 6 months now in an incredibly diverse part of Houston. From MY EXPIERENCE so far, we haven’t really gotten any like comments or anything but i do sometimes get like very stern looks from older black men. But my black friends or other black men my age are like super encouraging about it. Again from MY EXPERIENCE , black women of all ages seem to be like super supportive about it and i’ve never gotten any “stares.” we also have had “stares” and dirty looks from older white couples (senior citizen types). We haven’t been out a ton cuz covid and again we live in a very diverse part of Houston, but that’s just my experience so far. interesting topic to me but i don’t see why people care so much. people that fetish and obsess about interracial relationships are weirdos and lowkey kinda racist imo.
I remember the first time a black girl asked me why I don't date black men, because I am black. AND that's happened a few more times. But no one ever asked why I don't date white men. I am EQUALLY black and white. And at the time, my two long term relationships had been with a 1: Mexican man 2: a half Guamanian & half Puerto Rican man. Since then I dated a black man and then married a white man. Ya girl just don't discriminate HAHAHA. People are so weird about race.
That’s even more weird because your half black and half white, people in general both black and white need to recognize that mixed people with black ancestry are not completely one race or the other but both.👌🏾
@@swordartonline6719 but they don't sadly and I find it odd. If I'm not mistaken, I remember Halle Berry was getting flack for saying her kids aren't black. However, it's rare to find black people feel any kind of why when people don't acknowledge other races if they are bi/multiracial.
To make things easy, the answer as to why you do not date black men is that in teh enviroment you live you have a pool madeup of mostly white men, incase the pool was made evenly distributed teh balck girl would not have asked the question. Being black and have dated women some new white friends I have made have asked me why I do not date black women or not married to a black woman, my answer was so simple where I live and hang out there is a predominatly white population, and I blend in like any other person leaving out the prejudices of my parents as per race issues. By the way the women I almost married was Mexican and my mum was always worried about her not fitting in the family though my brothers as usual always said your choice your dreams.
@@Micheph Actually, that's not true for me. I was surrounded by mostly black/latino/islander men. which is why my dating tended to fall into those categories as I stated. Glad you can see that sometimes it's as simple as where we live though!
I’m confused about how both of them openly discuss and empathize with Preach’s experience in an interracial relationship, but openly mock the experience of the black woman in an interracial relationship. Idk this the most common reaction I see from black people specifically black men - that only black men can reasonably date outside their race “because black women are at the bottom of the totem pole”. I have yet to meet black men who can sincerely discuss this issue without making it about themselves and how black women hate them and their non-black partners
Ma'am, have you considered that your comment is what Black people (not just Black men) are talking about? Some Black people/Black women take on these interracial relationships because of some issues with the opposite sex in the Black community.
Preach's girl sounds like a real one. I've been in a couple of interracial relationships with some really interesting black women, they didn't really "care" about what did or didn't fit in with the black community or any other community for that matter, one was an islander/mixed, very well educated and we had GREAT political and philosophical convo, and she would never get personally or emotionally involved, she didn't believe you had to accept or believe an idea in order to just entertain it or talk about it, and so we never got in fights about that kind of shit people typically get worked up about. The other woman I dated was older than me at the time, I was 26 and she was 35, really talented musician, 100% african (ethiopian) and we played a couple shows together and did some other really cool shit (i was a pretty good piano player back in the day) and she, again, was not super "about" the black community or what was going on socio-culturally at large with race and shit, she was just super passionate about music and art and gave no fucks about anybody elses opinions or what she was "supposed' to do or act like as a black woman. really great experiences and because of our outspoken natures and really solid public presentation (never argue or even tease each other in public or around others, always present a unified team to the world, etc.) we made a really interesting couple (same as with the other girl) people were naturally more interested in what we had to say at social gatherings and how we acted together in public than they were in making rude comments and shit.
My entire adult life I dated within my own race,...2 of them I had plans to marry and 1 of them I proposed to. They both did some foul things that ended the relationship those same women were the same ones who then accused me hating myself and my people when I married outside my race. Sometimes it feels like it’s expected that you settle for nonsense to show how loyal you are to your race.
I'm in an interracial marriage. I'm white and my husband is black. Our backgrounds are very different because I'm a homeschooled, army brat from a large family and he's a public schooler, only child who has lived his whole life in one area. I love his skin tone, but when we were dating I never considered it to be one of my deciding factors when I married him until a friend of mine who has a background in psychology made an interesting observation. You see, as a small child I was molested and I since then I have had an issue with physical contact of any kind (especially from men). Even though I did date I ended the relationships because even innocent contact such as holding hands made me uncomfortable. (Nearly hit a guy I was dating because he put his arm around my shoulders while watching TV, totally innocent on his part as he was not aware of my past at the time.) When I started dating the man I would go onto marry I was elated to find that it wasn't only a non-issue with him, I was attracted to the contact. He is a good man, I'm very high strung and he's very laid back, he's what I need. It never occurred to me that his skin color was even a factor. However, my friend pointed out: all my ex's were white, the man who molested me was white. My husband is the first black man I dated. See the correlation here? I'm not really sure how to feel about it honestly.
Your experience and self reflection on your choice of partner is something I have wondered about for a while. I think I have seen what you described play out. But I always wonder if ppl saw it themselves. I wish you luck on your exploration of your self a d how you came together with you husband.
@Green Mills Yeahhhhh, nahhhh. Wrong. Aversion is a primal thing, it latches onto simplistic physical factors. Look at abused dogs in rescue homes - many are very scared of ALL men, because they got beaten by A man. Survival triggers need to be easy and FAST, and they are completely under the conscious radar. If @CircusMonkey could only safely feel attraction when AVERSION was not triggered, what's difficult to understand? It's sad for her, but beautiful that she found someone anyway, and bless her man too, just for being himself. ALL people are the same. Culture differentiates us. Cultures and the people within can grow, change, share, exchange and merge. Difference can be (and should be) celebrated and embraced, not turned into an ideological battle ground. Her qualified friend sounds very astute too, and perhaps brave for raising the point at all.
Correlation doesn't always mean causation, make sure to keep that in mind. PERHAPS your man being so physically different helped with your general comfort with him, but I'm sure that comfort came from more reasons than his skin :) (example being: were you more comfortable around ALL other races besides your own? Or ALL other black ppl? If not, then maybe that wasn't a huge factor.)
I find it as a pretty common thing across all races that a good number of people are uncomfortable with or out right reject the idea of interracial relationships, on different levels for different people, but the discomfort is there.
I feel the discomfort is learned. We are visually taught (i.e. media, our patents, our neighborhoods) what relationships look like. In most places relationships consist of two people from the same ethnicity so when you see something that isn't what you've been seeing all your life it makes you uneasy. Exaxle, Aba always stands on the right and Preach on the left. Now imagine seeing Aba & Preach switch places on the screen for the first time. Most people would be shocked and a little confused, some may protest by asking them to keep their original format because they aren't used to what they are seeing. "It's weird" It's all visual, perception.
ZaRita August HetHeru Actually, children as young as 4 and 5 are able to differentiate between races, many scientific studies have been done on this topic.
I have four brothers. Two are in interracial marriages and a third lived in an interracial relationship for years. I've gotten the question "Sooo... your brothers..." a million times. Now when they have kids and been together for many years no one asks anymore, thankfully. Don't understand why so many have so much to say about who someone else chooses to spend their life with.
If u dont understand then u obviously live under a rock. From my perspective, black ppl need to build amongst their own bcuz we are "too far behind" by mixing with white ppl it takes away from the potential progression. I guess the question could be why do black ppl who mix wit white not understand that. Inclusion and equality only exsist when there is a white benifit, further more from my perspective these 2 words are being weaponized against us. Hence Gentrification and culture appropriation, to name jus a couple of examples
@@jaimsish No black people involved here, but I don't think it would be other black peoples business even if there were. Let everyone love who they want, love is hard enough to find anyway.
I also feel like both black men and women have been pitted against one another, so seeing unity between us, especially if we can hold a successful relationship is beautiful and black love is so special because we all know black hate is real.
Imagine how much better people's lives would be if they focused on themselves and their own relationships. As someone who is an intercultural marriage I could care less about outside opinions. It doesn't occur to some people actually like each other as humans. 🤷♀️
I am in an interracial relationship. And I didn't intend to be in one. But I met a guy. That just happened to be white and in the begining I was aware of all the looks but now we just enjoy making old people uncomfortable on the train😂😂😂
You are so right. I'll spare you the number of times I had to explain to my family that I don't have a fetish for white girls and that I don't hate black women. The woman I fell in love with just so happen to be White.
@Twenty Faces "normal" lmfao Imagine being insecure enough to physically confront a complete stranger for being with someone that isn't like you and calling it normal
Ha! It happened to me as well. But I had a secret weapon. A scrawny guy literally jumped in front of my friend and me and yelled ''Come get with a real man!'' I used my hardest stereotypical Russian accent to ask ''So, where do you think we could find that real man you speak about?'' The horror on the guy's face, it was priceless.
Aba saying he's been with white girls, but not in public had me dying. 🤣 Jokes aside though, everyone should be able to live their lives as they want and choose to date/marry whoever they want. No shame if you love the person you're with. Just ignore the negative comments from other people and you'll be fine. And Preach is so precious. I'm glad he has found the love of his life, regardless of her race/looks.
If everyone lived that way, there'd be no Whites or Blacks left. All interracially mixed. Yes, there should be limits to freedom. This world isn't a kind one, you just don't foresee the long-term consequences of such dire actions.
@@Mayhzon what's wrong with all being interracially mixed though? Sorry to break it to you, but that's where we're headed. In the future, our grand grandchildren will most likely be interracially mixed. I don't see a problem with that. Studies show that interracial offsprings are healthier and stronger than those within race. You, on the other hand, see color instead of the individual. Free your mind, mr.
@@teameta7823 There is a lot on my mind I'd want to tell you, but I will get it across this way the best. Since you say I only see color, I hope you don't mind if I just run with that. ;) There once were two painters, LeBlanc and Jerome. Both were avid lovers of all the colors. Yes, they loved their brushes and colorful pallettes more than anything. They secretly had their favorite color of course, too, but generally they'd use a bit of every color to craft masterful pieces of art. One day LeBlanc and Jerome were challenged to enter a competition together. The goal was to create the most colorful picture their followers yet had seen. Both intent to create a picture more colorful than their rival, they swore to use entirely different techniques to outdo each other. Both were handed an empty palette and several pots with all the basic colors + White and Black as to lighten or darken a color. LeBlanc carefully placed only drops of the colors he desired to mix onto the palette, but made sure to leave the pots with their original colors intact. Jerome on the other hand emptied out all the pots with color onto the palette and stirred it purposefully with his brush until it was one mass of color, then started painting. Question 1: Why did LeBlanc win that competition? Question 2: Why could Leblanc easily draw another, completely differently colored picture, but why is Jerome now unable to do so? You don't have to write me back, but just from reading this the answers will be apparent in your mind. How you feel about that will be up to you, even if it is a negative emotion you might be feeling. That is alright. Process the feeling, the emotion. Then ask yourself, how you want your world, your reality to be painted. If this is all too spiritual to you, however, I recommend you to click this link and think about the implications of what you are, likely without malice, proposing: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genocide_Convention#Definition_of_genocide
@@Mayhzon it's okay. We're having a civil honest discussion here. No feelings hurt. About the tale of Leblanc and Jerome, I only have one thing to say. Since they're painters, art is subjective. Who's to say that Leblanc was better than Jerome? I might have liked Jerome's painting more than Leblanc's. It's about the skill, not which color they used for their paintings. As for the genocide link you brought up, having interracial babies isn't genocide. All the categories that describe a genocide don't have to do with whom you love and decide to have babies with. White or Black genocide is total bs imo if we're talking about mixed babies. You know what's the no.1 cause of blacks' genocide? Killing the fetus. No.2 is black on black crime. Whites have similar issues, even though not to that degree. There are many more serious problems in this world than being interracial. You're entitled to your opinion though and I respect that. No hard feelings. Everyone can have a preference and that's fine. Me personally, I don't like to choose (in my case) my man based on the color of his skin. I don't care if you're white, black, asian, latino or any other ethnicity. If I love you for who you are, color is only skin deep.
I think most times so called interracial couples tend to always wanna prove something tbh majority of ppl don’t really give a dam.. some do but most don’t.
Gee Whiz I agree.. society due to the history of the two tend to still put pressure on the ones who are in these relationships so most so called interracial couples feel like they have to prove a point
I agree 100%. I personally don’t give a damn about who other people date. Life is short let people love who they love. But yeah it’s like interracial couples feel like they need to prove something, it’s just insecurity.
I've literally only been in interracial relationships (wasnt intentional and was always open to dating black men) so it's kind of normal to me. There are definitely down sides that I can imagine don't exist on the other side. My boyfriend is a white passing hispanic, and the biggest racial dilemma we have is his family honestly. Everything else feels so natural, because we don't feel like a spectacle to one another I'm just me and he's just him. But I've casually dated a few black guys and I can say I've definitely felt like a specimen to some of them for being light skinned. I've thought about my race more around black men than I have with my latino boyfriend because he doesn't have some weird fetish. I think the problem is introduced in ANY kind of relationship when people date for the wrong reasons. Don't just date based on looks, especially not for race. Find someone you feel natural around.
Tessitura9 Same here, except it's been mostly black men I've dated. I had one relationship with someone nonblack and one with someone half black and Hispanic. I'm half Caucasian and Hispanic myself. It was never a requirement for me, I was always open to dating any race, but that's just where the mutual attraction was. I didn't date much and I'm really shy, so I was never the type to approach someone and initiate. Most of the guys who seemed interested in me and approached me were black.
White passing Hispanic? Girl , there are many white hispanics , Im one of them . hate that phrase "white passing" , lol. Hispanic , Latino , south american , are not races , its a language term . A Latino can be black , white , asian , native , or a mix of all the others.
This was very interesting to me. I’ve never seen an issue with interracial relationships. I remembered that my first “boyfriend” @ 6 years old was Asian and my second one week later (because I was 6) was Hispanic. I know that probably doesn’t mean much, because I was a child, but I never saw anything that could be seen as weird by someone else and none of the kids in my class made fun of us when we sat together or held hands in the hallway. Fast forward to today and I have so many friends and family members who are married to someone of another race and have mixed children. I can’t understand how people today can look down on others for dating someone of another race. My belief is that we are all God’s children. I know it sounds corny, but it’s true.
Its nice to hear that at least you and many others around you have accepted it as a natural thing. ☺ hopefully that acceptance keeps growing and stemming worldwide from such positivity✌
I dated a black girl when we where in secondary school (ages 11-16) We were 14 at the time (so still young and innocent) she was beautiful, funny and kind her family where amazing fun to be around lots of music dancing and laughter really friendly nice people. At school there was a large ethic community but within the diversity of the term “ethnic community” there was smaller numbers to each family group, Chinese, Korean, Caribbean, Indian etc. A lot of the other girls started picking on her and then her younger brother started getting bullied about it too. She’d get upset and try and hide it and when I went round hers on Fridays after school for homework dinner and a family movie I could see the change in them both. The guys didn’t care but the girls just wouldn’t stop. I gave her an out and she took it. Shortly afterwards the girls moved on to picking on somebody else. I learnt a lot from that. This was in 1998 North London, England.
Aba had a verbal fuck up once in a previous video where he wanted to say something along the lines of "how many rings i got on my fingers" but instead said "how many ringers i got on my fings" lmao
I’m very conscientious about looking at interracial couples. I’m aware that they may feel judged, so I try my hardest not to look their way. I stare at everyone but when it comes to interracial couples, I just look the other way. I don’t want them to think I’m an angry black woman that’s invested in their business. I know it’s weird but that’s just my remedy to the situation.
Me too!!!!!! I'm in an interracial marriage and have been for nearly 20 years.I always notice couples and families but I take particular notice of IR couples. It's probably because for many years I didn't see any or i saw very few. My husband and I would usually be the only ones. I genuinely am happy to see IR couples, but I always avoid looking at all if it is a black man with another race woman. I do not want to feed into the black women are angry narrative.
The problem is they LOOK AT ME....maybe for a reaction, but I cannot be bothered. Coins need to be made. How does their relationship buy me a house? People have an unhealthy sense of importance.
Yeah, in New York. I'm in an interracial relationship myself and it used to really make me hate visiting my family in the Bronx. At least in the beginning. We had one incident where a group of Sistas wanted to fight my wife because one of their men try to spit game to her. She politely declined. And I was like, why are you mad at her? Get mad at your man! Nowadays if anyone tries to treat our relationship as a negative, we just laugh at them. It does way more damage to their self-esteem than arguing with them.
I am Pro Black but I don't date white girls. They're beautiful nice and kind but a Black Woman understands me better and I don't have to worry about a potentially racist relative. Also I don't care who anyone dates! Am not gonna side eye or name-call unless you try to diss my peeps. And I also agree with your statement I always look at people especially couples when they're walking
Jazzy Jeff literally same. I’m not even attracted to white men, but I will work cordially with them, say hello. I want someone that looks like me. Same features, same societal struggles I want someone I can relate to when I come home.
@@swiitdoll especially after a long day after work or being in a stressful society. Someone who understands and will be easy to communicate with on that level. 🤙🏿😎 I've never dated out of my race or even had a fling and as a kid my guardian's and parents used to force me to date interracially because they want "Pretty babies"
"Beautiful, nice and kind"? Are you kidding me? The mothers and participants of centuries anti-black hatred and terrorism? Whose lies and actions destroy the lives of countless black people globally?
@@sentinel9651 I am aware of all that and that we still suffer from a lot of those atrocities to this day. But I will not negate the fact that many of them are also decent Humans with love for us ik you won't agree with that statement. But many have also died fighting for us that just proves that there are many great white folks in the world the idea to believe they're all evil is moronic despite the atrocities they've committed in this world and still continue to do so today.
I’m white and my wife is black and the only negative experiences we have come from young black men. Older black people and white people are always positive.
@MyTribe T.V All Out Attack WTF are you talking about. Everyone out here attacking black people. I guess you forget about black on black crime as well.
I'm pretty sure that it varies... Different areas, different cultures, different times, different individuals... A lot of stuff will affect the responses people and groups have... I reckon in some places you'd see the opposite lol But yeah, people shouldn't worry about it so much, we're all human and all individuals, even within different groups ... Culture can be a great thing to preserve, but mixing cultures can create more stuff and interesting stuff too.
Interracial is just normal to me. I don’t see the big deal. When you got close friends of all colors, having intimate relationships with all colors should be seen as normal.
Especially for people who come from homogeneous communities, it's almost expected. Like who the heck am I not related to around here? Maybe it's only a native thing, i don't know.
5:05 as a black woman, I dont care. Love and date who you want. I date Black, White, Asian, Latino, whoever. I have gotten black guys saying things like "you dont like your own people" 🙄 I just try to ignore it because I know who I am. I use to walk down the street with my mixed male friend (Russian/ Yemeni). And we get some stares. This isn't 1950 people should just move along
I’ve never dated a black guy and my family hates me for it. I’ve dated white, PR, Mexican, Spaniard (fresh from Barcelona) a half Cuban half White ... I date everyone but black because idk I like what I like.
When I see an interracial couple I just think 'ha, you don't see that often' and get on with my day. Even though I'm in an interracial relationship myself! Pretty sure that's what 99% of people do.
I've mostly been in interracial relationships and I haven't felt the backlash of being in one. It possibly could be I didn't care or haven't heard other people's comments. All comments that mattered or still matters is my family or friends. I always had surrounded myself with those who believe in character than colour. I love that about them ❤
@@mor1artyyyy137 Actually yes he is but I've been in relationships with people of all different kinds of cultures before and never had an issue with people around me.
I both love and hate interracial relationships. On the good side, it helps eliminate racism and bonding of cultures but as a black man, I hate how we're either stereotyped/demonized or fetishized like we're a gimmick or trophy
Interracial relationships have taken place for thousands of years and not much have changed. You cant claim to love something and complain about the cons that comes with it.
It does NOT eliminate racism (don't be delusional). It exposes it even further. Also, mixed children that come out of those marriages have their own set of sociopolitical and psychological issues to deal with. To top that off, IR relationships have been happening since ancient and BC and Anno Domini, Jim Crow, Civil Rights and Apartheid. In those times interracial children were formed out of the sexual violation of black women and sometimes black men. So with all the generational existence of biracial children, racism was progressing and regressing at its own trajectory, independent of whether there were IR relationships or not.
@@background187 Uhm yes you can, haven't you heard of critiquing something you love? You're allowed to talk about whatever life experiences you have. You literally made no sense
@@trudy_triad I said it HELPS eliminate racism. You can't tell me that someone from another race respects and appreciates another's culture so much so they get into an intimate relationship, despite what is said and done to them.
I've been married to my husband who is white for nearly 16 yrs. I rarely get any negative comments from black men. Usually, when we are out it is older (50+) white women that will always have something negative to say about our relationship. They make it a point to stare at us and stay something stupid. We either laugh about it, stare back or ignore it. Every once in a while an older black man will say something but not often. We have extensively traveled also.
@@ohmissyme9582 probably they are mad that you are brave enough to go against silly societal norms lol and they missed their shot being with someone they liked just because they’re from a different tribe. It’s always been an issue hooking up with someone from a tribe outside of yours or outside of what your tribe allows. Thank goodness for science we don’t have to follow silly rules based on make believe.
@@goodmorningfrommt I believe that's what it is also. Ive learned to ignore people because it's a waste of time. Its really sad that person that has the same nationality as you is seen as a different tribe.
“Not every reaction needs an action No, not every action needs a reaction How many ringers you have on your fingers Touché You can’t touché yourself I’m touche myself right now” golden
Interracial relationships have been goin on throughout history every group has been involved with another it's nothing new. But what I notice and also while growing up is that The black community values other ethnics more than themselves. Please don't chew me out for this. My honest take is there's nothing like your roots. Where you come from.
It has never been a big thing and was always met with harsh stigma. For good reason. It doesn't work usually and is based on fetishization alone. Also, can lead to geno**dal results if done in too large quantities, see the Neanderthals. "Swirling" truly is a bad practice. The reason we see it populized now is because sick f***s in politics promise themselves something out of this type of social engineering. Either some deep rooted conflict they will be able to exploit later for profit or the purposeful destruction of one or several ethnic groups. It is something be wary of either way. And I'm with you. Your roots matter and should be recognized. You forget them and you become yet another pawn without identity for the corporate workslave cult.
@@Mayhzonyou raise a very good point. Also: *"Sick f***s in politics".* Soon as i finished reading politics, and i immediately thought of metal gear references because of war waging PMC's that "donate" to politicians.
So many people complaining about which interracial relationship is “most difficult”, can we just agree that IRs in general are looked down upon? We don’t need to tackle it one by one, we’re all in the same boat
It's not that damn serious. I've been in an interracial relationship for 3 years, We've had very few issues in public. Stop letting people dictate your happiness ugh.
Hi so i was the same as you did not intend to marry outside my race ,but my friend invited me to Xmas party I met her brother and that was it 28 years later still together ,and i never cared about ppls opinions that i don't even know ,love knows no color ,love you guys you are hilarious
@SHADOW PIONEER - ENT. and your the reason for the division in our society today ,washing away my essence is laughable, makes no sense to me ,we are all God's creation ,I really don't understand you ,but your comment is respected thanks
I dated one big girl and alot of peoples idea of me changed and told me..I was just baffled learning about some perception others have of you is really surprising
In public? 🙄 you guys talk about other people's contradictions but skip your own? You did a whole video about making another race a fetish. And how it's corny and disciminitory. But I mean it's just a joke about white girls not being good enough for anything in public, I shouldn't feel a way.. but as somebody's who's followed you guys, loved your work and have been mad supportive I think that's wack. But I'm assuming at this point, my opinion isn't anything you care about.
Exactly, we dont care. CUZ YOU A WYT GURLL. But holla at me in private and I promise to listen attentively. Real attentive knowhaimsaiyen.
Aba & Preach lol careful you guys she might end up playing victim and say you guys are doing reverse racism and sexual harassed her for this comment 🤭
Aba & Preach 😂
Hooligans 😹 bruh.Y’all 😂
Jenny Rebecca do you know what “facetious” means? If not, look it up.
It’s fine to date outside your race. Just don’t bash your race when you do it.
Best comment about this conversation on interracial relationships!
Asian women you hear that!?
@@dcinreallife905 loool
Facts!!
@@bmgfrosty7089 I- no, black men shit on black women so much. It's ridiculous.
I'm in an interracial marriage and this lady, who didn't know my wife, said "So, what's it like to be in an interracial marriage?" My wife was just "uhhh.... the same as being in a same racial marriage I imagine."
i don't get that 😂 its a marriage bt too people.... i think cross cultural is different than interracial
jk • 전국아 my wife is Colombian and I am
American, her first language is Spanish and mine is English (she learned English and I learned Spanish) and even saying all that, it feels like a pretty normal marriage.
jk • 전국아 A lot of time there cultural differences interracial couples specifically between black and white. I don’t know why so many people in the comment section keep overlooking that
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@@Nijilove78 no they both are in the same boat. They are not different. White marries white, they perfectly understand one another and their life and can relate to one another. Same culture. Black marries black same situation. Black culture marries white culture you can only sympathize but NEVER relate to struggles. So you really can't have one without the other. JS
Can't live your whole life based on what other people think. That's a recipe for disaster.
I'm black I have to be aware of what others think could mean life or death here in the south so I make sure I greet everyone with a smile. I don't need the cops being called on me for simply being somewhere
😂 blam I also live in the south and I’ve never gotten the police called on me for being somewhere.
SHADOW PIONEER - ENT. What’s right or wrong when it comes to who I choose to put my dick in? I’m black with a Mexican woman and she sexy as fuck if the black community want me to have a black woman who is just as sexy tell them to bring her to me until I got what I got.
SHADOW PIONEER - ENT. No it’s not.
@SHADOW PIONEER - ENT. Shit the writing the dude made makes it hard to answer the question. I guess they want people to stop saying it's a loss for not dating a black woman.
It’s amazing how not caring about the opinions of random strangers makes life so much easier.
Agreed
“If someone tries to take control over your body and make you a slave, you would fight for freedom. Yet how easily you hand over your mind when anyone insults you. When you dwell on their words and let them dominate your thoughts, you make them your master.”
-Epictetus
I agree but to be honest you hear that from almost anybody nowadays and I can only imagine how many are insecure inside. Maybe I just don't fancy cliches nowadays. Oh well, it is what it is.
I start to grasp that concept a lot lately because i used to put peoples opinions ona pedestal few years back (20 to 25 years old)...
@@mr.talldarkandhandsome4111 I think it's a really good way to handle things but it's hard to put into practice
Completely agree I've never understood why people take on other peoples ish especially from a comment on social media. People get obsessed with what one troll said to them on twatter. I couldn't give two s***s what people think or say about me cos it dont matter.
Date who you're attracted to. It's that simple.
Also, don't give a fuck what other people think, because you can't fix stupid. You'd think that by 2020 people would stop caring about interracial dating seeming odd, but then again I am heavily mixed, so it just seems normal to me anyways.
Who is an adult & wants to date you back.
Studio Autio stay single
Studio Autio What race are they?
@Tyrone Simmons Did they ruin the black community?
Why is it that when you search interracial relationships, it's always white and black? Interracial relationship is much more abroad, than just white and black.
mariana, its because of the perception that asians are the "other white meat" . people don't bat an eyelid when Ming-chow is married to Braeden . but raise eyebrows with Latasha is married to Teddy.
History given in this country
S H don’t act like Canada doesn’t have an issue witH “race”. Besides I’m sure she’s speaking of it on a US scale seeing all that goes on.
Because this is a weaponized political tool against ethnic Europeans, not to empower you or grant you freedom.
Because of the porn industry made BBC happen.
Date who you want, why are people so concerned with how people perceive them
Because people to nosy in other peoples life than their own life.
@Chief Tahchawwickah You obviously didn't listen to the part of the video where they said the Black community are judgemental about interracial relationship
@Razer Mantis slavery hasn't been abolished everywhere
i mean peoples perception of you does affect your life. at the end of the day if 99 percent of the world says you are a *insert here* it doesn't really matter what you think because they out number you and can affect others around them and by extent the world you live in. so i don't think not caring is the answer.
edit: if that makes any sense
edit: and if you really wanna go deeper i can could also say you letting them slide with that perception of you being whatever it is you inserted can feed into others' view of the world as well,hence the whole "affect others around them" thing. and that in and of itself can be negative or positive.
@Chief Tahchawwickah Blanket racist statement, the irony will be lost on you though
When my wife and I first got together we used to get looks and comments always directed towards me because I’m a white man and my wife is Japanese. Asian people didn’t like that I was with her. We’re still together after 21 years, nothing bugs me anymore. My give a damn broke along time ago. We still love each other
Glad to hear that! This is YOUR relationship, not anyone else ❤
jk • 전국아 So True. Crazy how other people like to mess with other people’s relationships
" My give a damn broke along time ago." ..buahahaaaaaaaaaa
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@@Jeromeparker5150 and then when the person pulls out a gun and shoots you lol
Ignore them mfs yo, ppl have died for less.
"I dont date white women, the woman i am dating happens to be white"
I love that so much
@@ts8404 He's only dated one girl,the white girl he's with. Since he was like 15.
It's such a cringe thing to say. Typical defensive whataboutism. Not here to sh** on the uploader, but just saying:
Racial mixing is encouraged by the media for a reason and it's a nefarious one. Look up Cloudenhove-Kalergi.
Mayhzon wtf the kalergi plan is a nazi conspiracy theory. Not any nazi, the nazi! Racist asshole
Momos Wandelndesschloss did the other dude delete his comments or have you been spam ranting him?
Linden Salter It was one comment, three sentences. How is that spam or ranting?
“Black Women don’t like it at all...” PLEASE don’t generalize us like that. That’s not fair and feeds into the stereotype of the Bitter Black Woman. Many of us don’t care. Love who you love.
Girls going outta the race have it easier than Bros
For real. Just keep us out of your mouth and stop talking bad about us.
Exactly. I don’t give a flying fuck 😭
Opps, "blackmen don't know how to love blackwomen"- LONI LOVE
Until she gets checked by a sister in the media about generalizations , I give no fucks.
@b ray reason is bc u the devil
When my big sis found out I had a bf, she was excited and wanted to see pictures, but when I showed her he was white she got mad at me saying that I was disrespecting our black culture, that I needed to breakup with him, and that she doesn’t want to have any mixed nieces or nephews. 🤷🏾♀️
Really? That's upsetting
It's not the skin color that will make him make efforts and care for you tho, it's his love. So choose what makes you happy.
I learned the hard way to stop giving a shit what my family think, which I did a lot of.
Especially they never care what I think.
She doesn't have the right to dictate who you like. She doesn't want mixed family then tough. That's her problem :)
She’s not wrong. Cream don’t make black coffee any stronger but go off.
I’m a white dude in college. I Just got out of a relationship with a black girl. I ended it for multiple reasons even though i didnt want to. One thing I always heard when she was on her phone with her mom was shit like “You with that white boy arent you”, “You really dating a white bit huh” shit like that, it always seemed so weird and like I wasn’t accepted.
🙁 that’s soo sad!
Its very sad and wrong and I have also heard the same from white mums, its wrong on both sides. I say date who you want to date and be happy.
Some black families act like that and try to pass that mentality to their kids, it’s sick .
@@AlatOnDemand yea. she also had this weird mentality of the man in the relationship pays for everything and all that. I was buying food for us all the time, I was always driving because she has no car or liscence. I find it weird that she once told me “I was just raised that the man does all that” when I told her i felt I was being used because it was always me doing these things and investing so much into her but she never reciporocated it. She expected me to be spending so much despite her having no money herself and she herself couldnt live the lifestyle I was providing for her... Mind you im 19 and i was spoiling her lol. Idk she just was very entitled and expected so much and her family I felt pushed me out too
@@AlatOnDemand I left even though I didnt want to because it was better for me to be out
The secret to living free is in knowing no one cares how you spend your time as long as you don't become an ass about it.
Expat In UK Biker America was called the Land of the Free because that’s essentially our rule set. Don’t fuck with other people, do what you want. Those are the rules.
PREACH!!
I mean I don't know...
some people are called haters for a reason 😂
and as for america,there seems to be quite some troubles with interracial dating over there but heh...
SJW’s, socialists, and the liberal media/universities would disagree
@@Topgamer357 yep. Republicans and right leaning media would also disagree. Everyone is judgmental.
The issue is when people literally impose their views on people in these kinds of relationships. Stares are to be expected but when they are staring for more than 4 seconds and following you as you walk past? I think its not simply just projecting at that point. Its just plain rude. You can be super confident in your relationship and still be uncomfortable when strangers harass you.
Speaking Truth Its definitely at varying degrees depending on where you live. I’m from the US and like I said since seeing a darker person with a much lighter person (cuz I think its more of a skin thing than anything else since not only black people are of african decent) is not as common as people think its completely normal to get minor stares. But Ive even heard of people who have been approached by other black people. So yea lol
Hang in there. You'll get that white girl one day.
Rusty James LMAO
@@Alvin-xs7db But do you want to be stared at everywhere, at every store, at every restaurant? At some point it gets to you, even when people are staring in admiration. And let's be honest, most of them aren't.
Alvin Hill of course. I can definitely agree that that is possible. I was just saying it is normal to feel uncomfortable when strangers stare, and that its not always some outward projection that stems from a lack of confidence. and you can differentiate sometimes (when they follow you and glare for example, or even confront you which happens) There is a good number of people who are negative. I got no stats to reference but I think there are more negative than positive people. Racial conflicts still exist, and its definitely more likely that there is more negative associated with dating someone of a different race or cultural background.(In my opinion. Tbh what im sayin doesnt matter just date who you want be free f the haters lol easier said than done tho)
I've dealt with insecure interracial couples. I was walking through the park texting and a black man yelled "you can't stand to see a black man with a non black woman ". I even had situations where an interracial couple would follow me with their eyes expecting a response. It's so strange to me.
::texting:: ::outoftheblue:: "YOU JUST CAN'T STAAAAND...." ..buhahahaaaaaaaaaa
True true. One time I just glanced in their direction - And the mumbles and disapproval ensued...
My family has a few white men and women in it - trust me ‘Bm,Ww couple’.... I didn’t care 🤷♀️😅😭
Which makes what Aba says partially right.
Sometimes you react and FEEL based on what you THINK is there.. but ultimately, you can never truly know what the other person is thinking, if at all (as I was just staring off into space).
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yes people project. They dont understand most people dont give a shit about you. They want people to care.
Its true. I remember when I first start dating my hubby and I remember we were on the subway and a man who didn't even know us. Started cussing about white guys taking all the black women and he was pissed. And he didn't even know us. It does happen
Yes, some BM don't like it all, I even got hate from BM with non/BW?
@@mjohnson1741 sure you did and these scenarios are not made up in your head
The guy screaming at you probably was made because he hasn't been laid
I'm in one of those.I'm Black , she's white and we've been together 10 years .Time hasn't fixed anything. We hear comments , weird stares all the time. We're both lowkey type people. The funniest I ever got was from a white guy in Texas ( With all the stereotypes attributed to a white man in Texas) that told me I was too weak to be with a real Black queen so I had to settle for a Becky. I've heard that line from Black folks before but this white dude flipped it on me and went Dr Umar on my ass. I was confused
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Looooool
A true white man!
@@DB-wp2yj No but I'm sure you can find him wherever khaki pants and tiki torches are sold if it makes your front bum wet. Get your Candace Owens on with yo musty self! lol
@@brotherbrandon9666 I feel like wearing a suit , deplete my spice rack out of anything with flavor and steal the land you stand on.
I'm confident enough in myself to never take it personally if anyone says they won't date my ethnicity or if they only like an ethnicity that's not mine. As long as you don't come for me personally, I won't be affected nor feel the need to get defensive. I am however from Haiti (95% Black and African descent) so I do not carry the historical weight of racial conflict that Americans faces every single day. I understand why they might feel different and extrapolate personal relationships to political stands.
@kwazue I was about to say! That history definitely contributes to this stance. She's separating herself from such things.
@kwazue I think the point she was trying to make is that while their are general similarities in those experiences, they are still different and cant be compared.
@kwazue Differences in culture. People from different backgrounds and cultures handle things in different ways. America's culture is one of "speak up, and be loud", so that's what we get. But I'd say our true levels of racial tension are relatively low in most areas....but high in some specific areas, mostly the larger cities and the places that are most fixated on the idea of racism. (I say the "idea of racism" because some people will claim the most odd things are "racist" when it's really just normal actions/behaviors. o.o )
Did you really just say Haiti doesn't have historical racial conflict. Do you know why Haiti even exists as it does in the first place? That was literally the first place they landed lmao
You guys do know that white ppl can be "African-American" idk why we even claim that term. You're American plain and simple. Smh this world is so dumb y are we even considered "black"
Bruh, when I was with a Asian girl people said so much wild stuff about me and the girl I was dating at the time. This to me just makes me realize how much people judge something that doesn't concern them.
I'm dating a black guy and it's such a "wild idea" to the public that people will say anything about it. I don't understand why people feel like they have to stick to their own race, if they want to. that's fine but I dont understand why they have judge other people for interracial relationships.
MY NIGGA! You did it! All jokes aside I assumed asians weren't allowed to mess with us. In college I had one Korean girls mother say to my face her daughter either gets with nice Asian boy or rich white man. And when I was stationed in Okinawa, I may have been surrounded by water but this guy was dry af
Nicole Wu but is it because of bbc ur are u genuinely attractive to him ?
@@TheSnKoh no it just certain Asians. China, korea, and Japan are known to love white. However Philippines, Vietnam, and Singapore loves black over white. Heck it starting to change with every generation that black is more acceptable with time
Were they saying things about her being Asian or were the comments about how she was acting?
When I was dating my ex-girlfriend, she was from Kingston jamaica, some of my friends would get on me about dating her and say some shit like "you need a break up with her, you don't want your kids to look like chocolate chip cookies". I understand how it is, I've also had people asking me if I paid to be with her like she's a prostitute instead of my girlfriend. I understand preach.
Chocolate chip cookies are literally the most popular cookies in America 😂
@@Ascension1004 yes!! 🤣🤣🤣
@@mariejae lmao
I am glad she is your ex-girlfriend. Those who you still call your 'friends' were certain full of hatred for her. Not to mention those that think of her as a prostitute just because she is with 'you'. But that may be what they thought of you, maybe. In any case, Preach would allow NO ONE to say anything about his, "her", and get away with it. And certainly not twice. I don't think you understand Preach the way you think you do.
Dr Phil : I want youuuu to tell me where this video touched youuuuuu and made youuuuu cringe.
From the jump! 🗣😹😹
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I am white man and have been married to a black woman since before interracial relationships became the trendy thing to do . I haven't had any issues other than black dudes looking at her ass from time to time so i just grab her ass and give her a kiss and then i give them a head nod laugh and keep walking. Havent had any negative comments granted i am 6`4 and 300 lbs so i dont think many people want to try and test the waters with me.
The random freestyle at the end by Aba & then Preach Adlibing is too much🤣 I wonder what jokes & antics take place with these two turn the cameras off ps I hope future generation fix this bs so the term interracial dating will no longer exist & we call it what it is just regular humans dating ✌
@@187blacmagic u gave ur dimensions, lemme guess ur girls. 5'9" 310?
This was me two years ago with my ex who was a Hispanic woman. I would get various looks and comments from other Black women, and like Preach said I understood where it came from. Date whomever you want, but please do it without needing to shade your own race.
@da don I mean.. the same could be said in the inverse. Don't you think this point of view is a bit racist? "Date within your own race y'all. Don't wanna be potentially less black" hmm 🤔 sound's pretty racist to me I don't know..
@da don that's false, people with melanin always have the more dominant Genes. In the future if this keeps up everyone will be olive skinned in the west.
da don ok and?
@da don no, it is. Because you're thinking black people or white people are different races. There's only one race and multiple ethnicities. You can't even determine the difference. You don't have the capacity to speak on this and your opinion is invalid.
@da don well, I kinda agree with you there. That wanting your race to not go extinct isn't racist.. but that kind of thinking CAN lead to a bias which we'd probably want to avoid. It's also kinda a silly way to think because while your right it would be a different race, it would still be derived from two other races which is kinda cool no? It's not like race really means anything anyway. It's your values, morals, and traditions that matter and if you can create a new person with both races' way of living wouldn't that be worth it?
Ummmm, Black men stare at black women who date white guys too. I know from experience 🙋🏾♀️
It's not always hostile! I'm guilty of this because I'm always somewhat surprised. Also, I like to see if I can detect a pattern in what type of white man/ black woman does this. Personally I think there's a lot of pressure for black women to not date outside of the community so when I see those kind of relationships I assume that chick found some dude who is amazing and she's not letting social conventions get in the way of her happiness, so I'm rooting for y'all sis!
All the time! My boyfriend is white and always says it
That sucks :( I have a very specific type when it comes to black girls and they’re usually already taken by white guys. I don’t try to stare if I see them, just wonder things like did she give up on black men? I don’t mind when black women date outside the race. It’s just disheartening when I see the black women that are my type doing it
Black men don't care if you date white men we actually encourage it as long as your happy go where you are celebrated and appreciated I deal with other races of women because they are just Nice 👍
The reason we stare is because we are just wondering how come this pretty girl has bad credit
Men do care and take it personally when it's the other way around. In college the first time I dated a white guy I was on a PWI campus. There were black men that I knew on campus that literally said they would NEVER date a black woman. I was single for a long time, so I decided to date outside of my race. All of a sudden they cared about me dating a white guy (specifically 3 black men). They would talk so much about us behind our backs. One of them literally asked me why don't you date black men? They never asked me on a date, noticed me or cared ever until I dated him.
I had similar experiences when dating Asian girls as a white guy from white women
I had a weird similar experience as a black man with a hispanic woman who didnt want anything to do with me until this white girl in my class and I started dating. People want what they think they can't have I guess.
People in general become more desirable they are dating. They see more confidence, acceptance and self -love and it makes you glow. That’s what makes people gravitate towards you when you’re dating someone else
Those type of people can't say shit💯💯💯💯
Well thats just fucked up.
Men do care. In the States, when a black woman is with a white man there are plenty of comments.
Only black women would be concerned with that scenario. If you flip it around to black man/white woman is when you may get issues with a broader segment of society/circles in the U.S.
CGSteve8718
Not true. Black men make comments to black women in interracial relationships all the time. Idk if black men really get after other black men for being in interracial relationships. Not that I've seen in my experience but I'm sure it's happened.
Chalchiuhtlicue we are more concerned if it’s a corny dude versus if it’s Travis Kielce
@Hugh Mungus sucks for you... Guess you're not cut out for interracial dating....
@@CGSteve8718 I was dating a non black men and all his black friends told him he shouldn't date black women because we have fake hair and bad attitude.
We broke up and his black friends added me all in the same time. I block them and they thought I did it because I don't like black men 🤦🏾♀️
I was a teenager and the same dudes are still gossiping about me 2day 💁🏾♂️
The only downside in IR relationships is when you start care about the race too much.
when her family and friends are racist
The kids are sure gonna care when they don't know where they belong.
@@bmgfrosty7089 as long as a white girl is honest with me that she's race mixed in the past I have no issues, but willingness to mix requires a certain mentality (not necessarily good or bad) and it's a mentality I don't want in a wife or bred into my kids.
Other than that it's a you do you kind of thing with me, each to their own.
@@fatmanyevo6235 white people are not better than anyone else. Once you realize this your life will be much better. You’re on this channel, I’m sure you know that preach is with a white women yet you seem to have an issue with that. Maybe go to a white national**t channel?
@@jzhvaeduh I grew up thinking "no one is better than anyone else" but abandoned such beliefs because of exposure to facts and reality. Of course no race or people are objectively better than all others, people who claim that only do so because the subjective values they hold are best met by "X" race.
Someone who loves "Western civilization" for example will inevitably be led to the conclusion that the Mediterranean Europeans and/or Western Europeans are the most superior people as the west is built almost entirely off of their intellectual, physical and spiritual output.
The same goes for those who identify with African culture or Asian culture or Arabian culture etc. None are objectively superior but people will inevitably have preferences but I digress.
Best part of being a child of an interracial couple is hearing people telling you that interracial couples are bad and dilute the essence of being white/black. Love hearing that people like me shouldn’t exist :) dunno why people can’t just let people be, the colour of someone’s skin shouldn’t pigeonhole you into a certain dating pool
Killian O'Callaghan wise
As someone who is highly likely to have mixed children (nigerian + Japanese), I fear the social and cultural alienation they might go through growing up. Heck, even in my case being from Nigeria and being raised in the states, it was always clear i wasn't exactly "black". But conversely i never fully felt Nigerian either. I was raised very american and i've come to see myself as an american orphan. And it's not like i could just go back to Nigeria and be Nigerian. They know exactly where i'm from and i'm not treated the same as others, sometimes it's positive discrimination other times negative.
As a mixed child yourself, do you feel any isolation at all? And what part of you did you fully embrace? Culturally as well as from an identity perspective.
Vee Suvious i live in Ireland, you don’t really see many mixed people as the majority of people would be first or second generation African or Asian or something of that sort so the mixing hasn’t really occurred. My mum is half Congolese and half Belgian and I do find myself taking on more of what she picked which Would be my Congolese heritage. I do see myself as mixed since I’m not really from anywhere. I also do feel isolated since no matter which group I try to associate with will never really get me and I won’t fully get them. One thing I learned being mixed was that people tend to be more open with their racism since they think I’m just white enough to not care or that I’m not “really” African. Imo being mixed or being in an interacial family does give you such an insight into other cultures.
Hope you’re not put off having an inter racial family because of outside prejudice, love is love and that will give you and your family the strength to overcome any social or cultural alienation as you’ll always have each other.
@@kingcrocbbc6730 Your comment wasn't directed at me, but I hope it's okay to contribute my perspective a bit.
My dad's Nigerian and my mum's Moldovan. They met in the Soviet Union in the 80s and got married then moved to Nigeria where I was raised. I still got to travel with my mum to Moldova now and then when there was enough money so I had the experience of living in totally different places. I'd say that there's positive and negative discrimination everywhere depending on the people. Weird thing is that in Nigeria, I'm considered white, but in Moldova (and elsewhere) I'm black or mixed, so I've never had to identify as either. As a kid, there'll be some teasing from other kids, and later on prejudices from both sides will be projected on me, but it's never been outright malicious since you can always tease back or throw the opposing prejudice in their faces. I also lived in Japan for a few years, and I can say that I was treated the most neutral way there than anywhere else; no more different than any other foreigner. I agree with Killian though about never fully being understood, and that people are more open about their racism; so there're either moments in life spent correcting them, or time spent just smiling politely until they go away. Having good friends (of any race) has been important, and has always offset any negative experiences I've had.
About culture, I think a big part of which one you fully embrace depends a lot on how much the parents make an effort, and the child is enthusiastic. My parents spoke Russian to each other, so that's what I learnt until I started school where English was spoken. From living in Nigeria, I got to experience the culture there, but I still never learnt the language of my father's tribe. Another weird thing I experienced though was that people from each country nearly always wanted me to say I was from their country, and once or twice they even got annoyed when I said and acted like I was from both Nigeria and Moldova since I identify as from both places and refuseed to pick just one side.
Still, I've always suspected that it would be a very different experience if I'd lived in the US or the English-speaking west. Growing up, I've observed that in the US especially there's an unhealthy focus on race. It's always seemed to me that people in the US voluntarily segregated themselves based on their skin colour or language, and embrace some toxic ideas about it being taboo to go 'outside'. I've never experienced such a thing myself in Europe, Nigeria or Japan but US American media always pushes the message that you must self-segregate, act your race, and only date within your race. I think that would be very difficult to live and grow up with, but with the support of good friends and a loving family it'll probably turn out quite well.
@@anthonyabraham762
Wow great comment.
My primary concern for my future children is an identity crisis, it sounds like both parents investing in the learning of their cultures is the proper way to go. There's definitely something about having a bloodline connection with the land and culture you grow in that I didn't have and that they won't have. I'm definitely envious of both Generational Americans and Nigerians, but nothing can be perfect after all. Obviously there are ways to lessen the damage, as you both are proof.
And yeah the American media is heavily invested in racial tensions for political and financial reasons. Oddly enough the US is still less nationalistic than other countries from what I hear.
It was always funny to me how we are encouraged to add prefixes to American. Are there such terms in Moldova or Nigeria as African-Russian and Russian-Nigerian?
Thanks for responding guys, I've been thinking about this for awhile now.
If you’re looking for it, even a glance seems like a stare.
Thats true
Definitely true
True. There was this one time on the subway though, and my boyfriend was standing in front of me while I was sitting down. (I'm white and he's mexican) And this old white lady sat next to me and kept grilling my boyfriend real stank-like.. She even had the nerve to turn her head a full 90 degrees at me and look me up and down for a whole 2 minutes!! I was like, "can i help you????" and she looked scared and tried to deflect by commenting on my tattoos. Bitch please I know exactly what you were doing and she wiped that look off her face real quick and never looked in our direction the rest of the ride hahaha
That is not necessarily true. I am happy that lots of people have not experienced it enough to know there is a very definite difference. Trust someone who has experienced it in life and Thank God you have to learn that from someone else's experiences.
@@xkxshx Damn! I mean, just say a friendly hello. Maybe it was the way you two looked as in dressed. A friendly greeting would've probably changed the way she looked at or thought of you lol!
When I dreamed of who I'd marry I thought, handsome, respected, kind, funny. Not once did i think about hair color, eye color, or skin color. I just wanted to be with someone I loved.
Stop it, dont believe you.
everyone has preferences, nothing to be ashamed of.
The main question is are you attracted to that person, and if you make a detailed list you could be missing out on someone that could be a great person.
I thought like that when i was 10. As i got older i knew i had to land a provider no matter what.
@@brianbouf8303 I'm so sorry that someone hurt you. I appreciate you not being super mean about you thoughts though, ♥️
Being mixed I'm always going to be in an interracial relationship. Unless I find someone exactly the same mix as me, but my heritage is more complex than half black half white so thats not likely lol.
Same sister.
I'm mixed too. I can't be with a mixed guy because they always look too similar to my little brother ha!
Katie Bent growing up AA with parents from the south who lived in segregation, I use to think wtf if you any part AA, what are we really talking about... Now 2020 🥴 I still don’t understand... What are we really trying to say?
I live in the UK and until the 2001 census we didn't have a mixed box...it was still based on the one drop rule...so one drop of "black blood" means you're black. As this new mixed box was added by different organisations over the years the wording was sometimes kinda offensive. Yes lots of places put mixed or dual heritage but I can remember having to tick ethnically challenged on a form in 2009. Just made me feel dirty. Now I always tick other...I'm not made up of just 2 halfs.
My family did the ancestry test and found we have DNA from every continent other than Antarctica! I'm proud of this and not willing to simplify it to just black and white.
Katie Bent if I did one of those DNA tests and with ancestry rooted in the deep US south I’m sure mine would come out various results as well. My mother is light skin, I’m brown skin, with a fine curly hair. I know I have the indigenous Americans blood in my lineage. I identify as a Black woman.
when im with my girl, im always paying so much attention to her that idk who's looking at us... everyone gets looked at, our insecurities make us think of the reason why
Thank you! I'm the same way. People have asked is it weird and I'm just sitting there like, what's weird about us being happy???
People always seemed so surprised when I say I'm engaged to a white woman, but in the end, they tend to be pretty supportive.
True! Also, I look at all sorts of couples and groups of people just because I like people watching. Individuals, less so, since they're not interacting with anyone.
"I don't date white women, the woman I date happens to be white."
That is true wisdom.
Frr date whoever u want. We on this planet for a limited time who cares. Love is love at the end of the day
Happens to be white? Like it's a fcking accident.
I don't get your point. Obviously it's not an accident that he is dating a white woman, but his point is you never know who you will love and in his case the lady he loves happen to be white. My first girlfriend happened to have dark skin. I didn't expect to fall in love with her but I did
@@pittflick7986 The point is whether you build up relations with people based on immutable characteristics or based on values and actions.
And /or, true love. Not the fairy tale kind of love, but the kind Godly kind of "humans are all the same"' love.
I got a lumedeodorant ad right when Preach said him and his girl speak French. Ad starts with 'Bon'jour'.
vh9network 😳😂
Just got a primsluer(sp?!) ad (a language learning program). 👀
Lumedeodorant sounds like a medical device for your pits. . . Just saying 😅😅
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It's the illuminati bro, stay woke.✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿
Growing up I had a best friend and we got a lot of looks just because we were the type of friends to be attached at the hip and it was glorious. Most of the comments we got were positive but when they got nasty it was baaaaaaaad. As a young kid I was relatively short, day glow white with white blonde hair and my best friend was this tall willowy model-esque graceful very dark skinned girl with gorgeous long natural hair. I know we were 'just friends' and not 'in a relationship' of the romantic kind but I'll never stop missing her as the negative comments finally outweighed the positive and drove her away. I don't blame her, in fact I do understand why she made the decisions she did, but it still hurts. Hell I was litterally talking with my husband about her today and crying because I miss her so much and I'm always going to love her like family.
💔 I have a best girlfriend that passed away young. You should reach out to her. If she's willing to reconnect that would be glorious. 🙌☺️ I've never met anyone else like her. She was a one of a kind gem. 💎
I so feel you on this. My best friend was literally like a sister to me. I'm 32 now, and I've still never met another person, male or female, who understood me and who I vibed with like her. I lost her to an abusive boyfriend and now, she refuses to talk to me. It's been so many years, yet I think about her all the time and miss her so much it hurts. We're the same race, but there is something truly special about positive female friendships. Especially in a culture where all we see in music, movies, on TV, and online is this bullshit narrative about how all women hate each other, and we sit back and watch women tear each other down. We need each other just as much as we need romantic partnerships. It's one of those things that we need in order to become fulfilled human beings. We can't get the same things from a man that we can get from another female.
Dude if you could somehow chat with her again, even if its strictly digital, i bet that would be awesome! Maybe its harder cuz when youre young judgement is harder to handle. But things could be different now! 🤞
My best friend is white we are a week apart. She has been struggling with her mental health and suicide attempts in and out of the hospital since 8th grade. Now we are long distance but talk more
@@kelviannaepperson3677 you are a good friend
As a son born from an interracial couple (mother is hispanic and father is middle eastern), I was not one to look to deep into a person's skin color when it came to attraction and dating. As Preach said, when friends asked me why or if I was into a particular ethnicity, I just said that the girl I would be attracted to at the time happened to be "insert ethnicity here" It was never a matter of looking for someone that was hispanic or middle eastern, but just simply getting to know someone and finding them to be attractive both in their appearance and character. Race has honestly never been a barrier for me.
This is probably due to the fact that since I grew up in an interracial household, it made me believe that such a thing is normal, meanwhile there are probably more people that grow up in a single race household and that has been their worldview with regards to dating, marriage, and family.
Brother, "Hispanic" is not a race.... neither is "middle eastern." Not to mention those 2 different ethnicities do not have the adversarial relationship and history of oppression that white society and Black people do.
@@MrZBlackneffect You could argue that the inquisition and moorish occupation of Al Andalus could cause some friction if they're Muslim middle easterners.
Those are not 2 races, but two cultures.... Educate yourself.
DEmantothepower I feel the same as my mum is an Afro-Latina and my Dad is Greek, so I do have as well the same mentality in which I believe it’s the best since if following MLK’s ideology which is to see through and ignore the persons skin colour and focus on the character of the individual
@@blackpanther1082 Racism is defined as a pseudo-science that groups people into ''races'', often with a hierarchy. Races don't exist among human beings, we're not dogs or cats, believing in races is the first step of being racist.
I’ve been with my wife for 26 years she’s black and I’m white with two boys 16 and 21 the only problems I’ve ever came across this other black men being mad or making comments to me or my wife because she was with me that’s the only racism I’ve ever came across
Whew 😅. When interracial dating is discussed I always expect a good ole toxic comment section..😂
Because it's a very deep cutting issue. People get defensive about it. Why? Because it directly triggers our biological survival instinct.
We see one of "our kind" with someone else and it's a sore sight, doubly so if you're single yourself.
As humans, we have survived the longest time by being tribal. And fun fact: The Neanderthals went out of history because they were outbred, gen**ide by sex.
Shentel J. I suggest you don’t go to East Asia.
It’s not for the thin-skinned.
But then again, it’s some of the most hilarious stuff. Yeah - it can cut deep but then you realize that most people saying absurd shit, tend to not be worth taking seriously. So long as you’re in a place where you’re not likely to be assaulted - or worse purely based on you and your partner’s looks that is.
Shentel. Did they deliver?
There’s that infectious laugh of Preach’s😂😂😂😂😂
I've been waiting for it for the past few videos lmao
Have you seen the vid where they reacted to the Onion? That was awesome 😂😂
Yup I saw that one too😂😂😂😂
Which one is Preach?
@@GoaWay...On the left.
Im a cashier whenever I get a couple that's interacial(blackman/whitewoman) I try to be as nice as possible cause I dont want them thinking that I have some grudge against them. I also try to avoid looking at interracial couples cause I dont want them to think I'm staring.
lol there's no winning, is there? if you're avoiding looking at someone to not offend them, there's probably some chance of them being offended that you won't even look at them or something :P
It's amazing that you do that for interracial couples
@@MrTubbs-zt3hd its bc as a black women if you look for too long or see as if you are being mean than they label you as the angry black women. you're jealous...etc so go away
I honestly don’t think they feel that way
How is that not walking on eggshells, though?
Let's just admit it: Interracial dating is deepyl unsettling to witness.
i’ve been in a relationship with a black woman (i’m a white man) for about 6 months now in an incredibly diverse part of Houston. From MY EXPIERENCE so far, we haven’t really gotten any like comments or anything but i do sometimes get like very stern looks from older black men. But my black friends or other black men my age are like super encouraging about it. Again from MY EXPERIENCE , black women of all ages seem to be like super supportive about it and i’ve never gotten any “stares.” we also have had “stares” and dirty looks from older white couples (senior citizen types). We haven’t been out a ton cuz covid and again we live in a very diverse part of Houston, but that’s just my experience so far. interesting topic to me but i don’t see why people care so much. people that fetish and obsess about interracial relationships are weirdos and lowkey kinda racist imo.
Congrats! 💖👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Oohh Housten Texas?
I remember the first time a black girl asked me why I don't date black men, because I am black. AND that's happened a few more times. But no one ever asked why I don't date white men. I am EQUALLY black and white. And at the time, my two long term relationships had been with a 1: Mexican man 2: a half Guamanian & half Puerto Rican man. Since then I dated a black man and then married a white man. Ya girl just don't discriminate HAHAHA. People are so weird about race.
That’s even more weird because your half black and half white, people in general both black and white need to recognize that mixed people with black ancestry are not completely one race or the other but both.👌🏾
@@swordartonline6719 but they don't sadly and I find it odd. If I'm not mistaken, I remember Halle Berry was getting flack for saying her kids aren't black. However, it's rare to find black people feel any kind of why when people don't acknowledge other races if they are bi/multiracial.
To make things easy, the answer as to why you do not date black men is that in teh enviroment you live you have a pool madeup of mostly white men, incase the pool was made evenly distributed teh balck girl would not have asked the question. Being black and have dated women some new white friends I have made have asked me why I do not date black women or not married to a black woman, my answer was so simple where I live and hang out there is a predominatly white population, and I blend in like any other person leaving out the prejudices of my parents as per race issues. By the way the women I almost married was Mexican and my mum was always worried about her not fitting in the family though my brothers as usual always said your choice your dreams.
@@Micheph Actually, that's not true for me. I was surrounded by mostly black/latino/islander men. which is why my dating tended to fall into those categories as I stated. Glad you can see that sometimes it's as simple as where we live though!
@@jazzimilz Agree with you but i tend to believe that life is lived better without the prejudices of our parents.
I’m confused about how both of them openly discuss and empathize with Preach’s experience in an interracial relationship, but openly mock the experience of the black woman in an interracial relationship. Idk this the most common reaction I see from black people specifically black men - that only black men can reasonably date outside their race “because black women are at the bottom of the totem pole”. I have yet to meet black men who can sincerely discuss this issue without making it about themselves and how black women hate them and their non-black partners
Ma'am, have you considered that your comment is what Black people (not just Black men) are talking about? Some Black people/Black women take on these interracial relationships because of some issues with the opposite sex in the Black community.
na ive seen it in women too tbh, theyre all like "you betrayed our people" and shit, foh
Its the opposite on my experience... Black women can date out with little to no negative attention while black men get attacked and harassed.
@@TheSkyrimps3 we as black men are always heavily monitored on what we like, what we do, say, eat, date, wear, have sex, etc
@@eberwolf2k Are you an atheist. You sound like one.
Preach's girl sounds like a real one. I've been in a couple of interracial relationships with some really interesting black women, they didn't really "care" about what did or didn't fit in with the black community or any other community for that matter, one was an islander/mixed, very well educated and we had GREAT political and philosophical convo, and she would never get personally or emotionally involved, she didn't believe you had to accept or believe an idea in order to just entertain it or talk about it, and so we never got in fights about that kind of shit people typically get worked up about. The other woman I dated was older than me at the time, I was 26 and she was 35, really talented musician, 100% african (ethiopian) and we played a couple shows together and did some other really cool shit (i was a pretty good piano player back in the day) and she, again, was not super "about" the black community or what was going on socio-culturally at large with race and shit, she was just super passionate about music and art and gave no fucks about anybody elses opinions or what she was "supposed' to do or act like as a black woman. really great experiences and because of our outspoken natures and really solid public presentation (never argue or even tease each other in public or around others, always present a unified team to the world, etc.) we made a really interesting couple (same as with the other girl) people were naturally more interested in what we had to say at social gatherings and how we acted together in public than they were in making rude comments and shit.
My entire adult life I dated within my own race,...2 of them I had plans to marry and 1 of them I proposed to. They both did some foul things that ended the relationship those same women were the same ones who then accused me hating myself and my people when I married outside my race. Sometimes it feels like it’s expected that you settle for nonsense to show how loyal you are to your race.
Within own race.... Huh... Human race you mean?
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I'm in an interracial marriage. I'm white and my husband is black. Our backgrounds are very different because I'm a homeschooled, army brat from a large family and he's a public schooler, only child who has lived his whole life in one area.
I love his skin tone, but when we were dating I never considered it to be one of my deciding factors when I married him until a friend of mine who has a background in psychology made an interesting observation.
You see, as a small child I was molested and I since then I have had an issue with physical contact of any kind (especially from men). Even though I did date I ended the relationships because even innocent contact such as holding hands made me uncomfortable. (Nearly hit a guy I was dating because he put his arm around my shoulders while watching TV, totally innocent on his part as he was not aware of my past at the time.)
When I started dating the man I would go onto marry I was elated to find that it wasn't only a non-issue with him, I was attracted to the contact. He is a good man, I'm very high strung and he's very laid back, he's what I need. It never occurred to me that his skin color was even a factor.
However, my friend pointed out: all my ex's were white, the man who molested me was white. My husband is the first black man I dated. See the correlation here? I'm not really sure how to feel about it honestly.
Interesting and I totally understand where you are coming from as someone who has experienced sexual abuse
Your experience and self reflection on your choice of partner is something I have wondered about for a while. I think I have seen what you described play out. But I always wonder if ppl saw it themselves. I wish you luck on your exploration of your self a d how you came together with you husband.
@Green Mills Yeahhhhh, nahhhh. Wrong. Aversion is a primal thing, it latches onto simplistic physical factors. Look at abused dogs in rescue homes - many are very scared of ALL men, because they got beaten by A man. Survival triggers need to be easy and FAST, and they are completely under the conscious radar.
If @CircusMonkey could only safely feel attraction when AVERSION was not triggered, what's difficult to understand? It's sad for her, but beautiful that she found someone anyway, and bless her man too, just for being himself.
ALL people are the same. Culture differentiates us. Cultures and the people within can grow, change, share, exchange and merge. Difference can be (and should be) celebrated and embraced, not turned into an ideological battle ground.
Her qualified friend sounds very astute too, and perhaps brave for raising the point at all.
Correlation doesn't always mean causation, make sure to keep that in mind. PERHAPS your man being so physically different helped with your general comfort with him, but I'm sure that comfort came from more reasons than his skin :) (example being: were you more comfortable around ALL other races besides your own? Or ALL other black ppl? If not, then maybe that wasn't a huge factor.)
So you feel safer with a black man, that's why you married him 🤔?
I find it as a pretty common thing across all races that a good number of people are uncomfortable with or out right reject the idea of interracial relationships, on different levels for different people, but the discomfort is there.
Erwin Schrodinger yep. And their children, “hybrids” are always “rejected”.
That’s normal I guess.
Yep
I feel the discomfort is learned. We are visually taught (i.e. media, our patents, our neighborhoods) what relationships look like. In most places relationships consist of two people from the same ethnicity so when you see something that isn't what you've been seeing all your life it makes you uneasy.
Exaxle, Aba always stands on the right and Preach on the left. Now imagine seeing Aba & Preach switch places on the screen for the first time. Most people would be shocked and a little confused, some may protest by asking them to keep their original format because they aren't used to what they are seeing. "It's weird"
It's all visual, perception.
ZaRita August HetHeru Actually, children as young as 4 and 5 are able to differentiate between races, many scientific studies have been done on this topic.
I have four brothers. Two are in interracial marriages and a third lived in an interracial relationship for years. I've gotten the question "Sooo... your brothers..." a million times. Now when they have kids and been together for many years no one asks anymore, thankfully. Don't understand why so many have so much to say about who someone else chooses to spend their life with.
A mixed cocktail of Tribalism and Racism
If u dont understand then u obviously live under a rock. From my perspective, black ppl need to build amongst their own bcuz we are "too far behind" by mixing with white ppl it takes away from the potential progression. I guess the question could be why do black ppl who mix wit white not understand that. Inclusion and equality only exsist when there is a white benifit, further more from my perspective these 2 words are being weaponized against us. Hence Gentrification and culture appropriation, to name jus a couple of examples
@@jaimsish No black people involved here, but I don't think it would be other black peoples business even if there were. Let everyone love who they want, love is hard enough to find anyway.
@@emmalide6413 u completely missed the point of what I jus said and that was just a drop in the bucket.
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My girl is black and we joke about our differences. We shaved my head on the weekend now she calls me Casper 😂
That's cute 😂
Lol 😂 that is cute! Wishing you happiness and lots of love!
I also feel like both black men and women have been pitted against one another, so seeing unity between us, especially if we can hold a successful relationship is beautiful and black love is so special because we all know black hate is real.
Laneisha Francis That’s true.
One of the only comments here that makes sense.
Love is love I didn't realise it had a colour
Arinze Madu nobody said it did.
@@lane89 "black love "
Imagine how much better people's lives would be if they focused on themselves and their own relationships. As someone who is an intercultural marriage I could care less about outside opinions. It doesn't occur to some people actually like each other as humans. 🤷♀️
I feel the same. Let me love my man and you worry about your own personal growth lol.
Thank you for using the term intercultural instead of interracial. It is so much more accurate and appropriate.
I am in an interracial relationship. And I didn't intend to be in one. But I met a guy. That just happened to be white and in the begining I was aware of all the looks but now we just enjoy making old people uncomfortable on the train😂😂😂
You are so right. I'll spare you the number of times I had to explain to my family that I don't have a fetish for white girls and that I don't hate black women. The woman I fell in love with just so happen to be White.
😂😂😂
Save the Last Dance-ish?
Lmao
I like how he explained that "I don't date white girls the girl im dating happens to be white"...that was cool as hell
I’m not in an interracial relationship but when I was out with my Iranian friend and got bad stares by blk men and one even bumped me on purpose.
Wtf
That's heavy
@Twenty Faces "normal" lmfao
Imagine being insecure enough to physically confront a complete stranger for being with someone that isn't like you and calling it normal
MyTribe T.V All Out Attack Iranian is not the same as Indian and yes it is true that Indians discriminate against other races including black
Ha! It happened to me as well. But I had a secret weapon.
A scrawny guy literally jumped in front of my friend and me and yelled ''Come get with a real man!''
I used my hardest stereotypical Russian accent to ask ''So, where do you think we could find that real man you speak about?''
The horror on the guy's face, it was priceless.
Aba saying he's been with white girls, but not in public had me dying. 🤣 Jokes aside though, everyone should be able to live their lives as they want and choose to date/marry whoever they want. No shame if you love the person you're with. Just ignore the negative comments from other people and you'll be fine.
And Preach is so precious. I'm glad he has found the love of his life, regardless of her race/looks.
harambey hungi tragic
If everyone lived that way, there'd be no Whites or Blacks left. All interracially mixed.
Yes, there should be limits to freedom. This world isn't a kind one, you just don't foresee the long-term consequences of such dire actions.
@@Mayhzon what's wrong with all being interracially mixed though? Sorry to break it to you, but that's where we're headed. In the future, our grand grandchildren will most likely be interracially mixed. I don't see a problem with that. Studies show that interracial offsprings are healthier and stronger than those within race. You, on the other hand, see color instead of the individual. Free your mind, mr.
@@teameta7823
There is a lot on my mind I'd want to tell you, but I will get it across this way the best. Since you say I only see color, I hope you don't mind if I just run with that. ;)
There once were two painters, LeBlanc and Jerome. Both were avid lovers of all the colors. Yes, they loved their brushes and colorful pallettes more than anything. They secretly had their favorite color of course, too, but generally they'd use a bit of every color to craft masterful pieces of art.
One day LeBlanc and Jerome were challenged to enter a competition together. The goal was to create the most colorful picture their followers yet had seen. Both intent to create a picture more colorful than their rival, they swore to use entirely different techniques to outdo each other. Both were handed an empty palette and several pots with all the basic colors + White and Black as to lighten or darken a color.
LeBlanc carefully placed only drops of the colors he desired to mix onto the palette, but made sure to leave the pots with their original colors intact.
Jerome on the other hand emptied out all the pots with color onto the palette and stirred it purposefully with his brush until it was one mass of color, then started painting.
Question 1: Why did LeBlanc win that competition?
Question 2: Why could Leblanc easily draw another, completely differently colored picture, but why is Jerome now unable to do so?
You don't have to write me back, but just from reading this the answers will be apparent in your mind. How you feel about that will be up to you, even if it is a negative emotion you might be feeling. That is alright. Process the feeling, the emotion. Then ask yourself, how you want your world, your reality to be painted.
If this is all too spiritual to you, however, I recommend you to click this link and think about the implications of what you are, likely without malice, proposing:
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genocide_Convention#Definition_of_genocide
@@Mayhzon it's okay. We're having a civil honest discussion here. No feelings hurt. About the tale of Leblanc and Jerome, I only have one thing to say. Since they're painters, art is subjective. Who's to say that Leblanc was better than Jerome? I might have liked Jerome's painting more than Leblanc's. It's about the skill, not which color they used for their paintings. As for the genocide link you brought up, having interracial babies isn't genocide. All the categories that describe a genocide don't have to do with whom you love and decide to have babies with. White or Black genocide is total bs imo if we're talking about mixed babies. You know what's the no.1 cause of blacks' genocide? Killing the fetus. No.2 is black on black crime. Whites have similar issues, even though not to that degree. There are many more serious problems in this world than being interracial. You're entitled to your opinion though and I respect that. No hard feelings. Everyone can have a preference and that's fine. Me personally, I don't like to choose (in my case) my man based on the color of his skin. I don't care if you're white, black, asian, latino or any other ethnicity. If I love you for who you are, color is only skin deep.
I think most times so called interracial couples tend to always wanna prove something tbh majority of ppl don’t really give a dam.. some do but most don’t.
Rohan Das I’m just in it for the coochie.
K dot AfroClan to each is own lol
Gee Whiz I agree.. society due to the history of the two tend to still put pressure on the ones who are in these relationships so most so called interracial couples feel like they have to prove a point
@Gee Whiz depends on the look
I agree 100%. I personally don’t give a damn about who other people date. Life is short let people love who they love. But yeah it’s like interracial couples feel like they need to prove something, it’s just insecurity.
Dr Umar is having a heart attack
I'm in an interracial relationship right now. It wasnt her skin color that influenced me. It was all the things we have in common.
Preach 🙏🏾
ok
And that is exactly how it should be. Some people need to work on themselves
I've literally only been in interracial relationships (wasnt intentional and was always open to dating black men) so it's kind of normal to me. There are definitely down sides that I can imagine don't exist on the other side. My boyfriend is a white passing hispanic, and the biggest racial dilemma we have is his family honestly. Everything else feels so natural, because we don't feel like a spectacle to one another I'm just me and he's just him. But I've casually dated a few black guys and I can say I've definitely felt like a specimen to some of them for being light skinned. I've thought about my race more around black men than I have with my latino boyfriend because he doesn't have some weird fetish. I think the problem is introduced in ANY kind of relationship when people date for the wrong reasons. Don't just date based on looks, especially not for race. Find someone you feel natural around.
Tessitura9
Same here, except it's been mostly black men I've dated. I had one relationship with someone nonblack and one with someone half black and Hispanic. I'm half Caucasian and Hispanic myself. It was never a requirement for me, I was always open to dating any race, but that's just where the mutual attraction was. I didn't date much and I'm really shy, so I was never the type to approach someone and initiate. Most of the guys who seemed interested in me and approached me were black.
White passing Hispanic? Girl , there are many white hispanics , Im one of them . hate that phrase "white passing" , lol. Hispanic , Latino , south american , are not races , its a language term . A Latino can be black , white , asian , native , or a mix of all the others.
I always pictured Preach's wife as a Haitian woman
devincognito same
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Same here tbh) interesting why that would be the first assumption to come to)
Really? Hmm he kinda always had that I slap white cheeks vibe to me... idk why. Not that it matters but I wasn't surprised in the least.
devincognito
maybe his wife is a Haitian
woman...
This was very interesting to me. I’ve never seen an issue with interracial relationships. I remembered that my first “boyfriend” @ 6 years old was Asian and my second one week later (because I was 6) was Hispanic. I know that probably doesn’t mean much, because I was a child, but I never saw anything that could be seen as weird by someone else and none of the kids in my class made fun of us when we sat together or held hands in the hallway.
Fast forward to today and I have so many friends and family members who are married to someone of another race and have mixed children. I can’t understand how people today can look down on others for dating someone of another race. My belief is that we are all God’s children. I know it sounds corny, but it’s true.
Agreed it is so dumb. In Toronto here, IR is so common.
Its nice to hear that at least you and many others around you have accepted it as a natural thing. ☺ hopefully that acceptance keeps growing and stemming worldwide from such positivity✌
The problem is only when the man is black.
@@shans4167 i wish i can get out of toronto
Wow, this whole time I thought Preach was with a black woman lol
Lol you and me both!
@@sfregion7653 He's only been with one girl his entire life. Since he was like 14 or 15.
He definitely gives swirly vibes. And he told me a long time ago that he liked white, vegan alternative girls with tattoos and piercings
I know he wasn't when I see the video about the black bachelorette and Ari Lennox .
Mike Gee is that supposed to make a difference?
“Touché” you can’t touché yourself, yes I can I’m touché my self right now.
I dated a black girl when we where in secondary school (ages 11-16) We were 14 at the time (so still young and innocent) she was beautiful, funny and kind her family where amazing fun to be around lots of music dancing and laughter really friendly nice people. At school there was a large ethic community but within the diversity of the term “ethnic community” there was smaller numbers to each family group, Chinese, Korean, Caribbean, Indian etc. A lot of the other girls started picking on her and then her younger brother started getting bullied about it too. She’d get upset and try and hide it and when I went round hers on Fridays after school for homework dinner and a family movie I could see the change in them both. The guys didn’t care but the girls just wouldn’t stop. I gave her an out and she took it. Shortly afterwards the girls moved on to picking on somebody else. I learnt a lot from that. This was in 1998 North London, England.
Such a sad story 😢
I look away for 2 seconds and all i see is Preach laughing and falling down🤣🤦🏿
When he said “not in public” ... I felt that.
He was joking.
I don’t even get the joke but your guys’ laughs are so contagious
Aba had a verbal fuck up once in a previous video where he wanted to say something along the lines of "how many rings i got on my fingers" but instead said "how many ringers i got on my fings" lmao
helter skelter lol I literally just watched that video
@@bmgfrosty7089 I have no f*cking clue. That was FIVE MONTHS AGO lol...
Abas facial expressions when Preach goes on his laughing fits are hilarious.
I’m very conscientious about looking at interracial couples. I’m aware that they may feel judged, so I try my hardest not to look their way. I stare at everyone but when it comes to interracial couples, I just look the other way. I don’t want them to think I’m an angry black woman that’s invested in their business. I know it’s weird but that’s just my remedy to the situation.
Me too!!!!!! I'm in an interracial marriage and have been for nearly 20 years.I always notice couples and families but I take particular notice of IR couples. It's probably because for many years I didn't see any or i saw very few. My husband and I would usually be the only ones. I genuinely am happy to see IR couples, but I always avoid looking at all if it is a black man with another race woman. I do not want to feed into the black women are angry narrative.
I look, wait a second or two until one of them sees me, then I beam my biggest smile. Sometimes I'll even give a thumbs up.
Just give a friendly wave or head nod if they catch you staring at them.
If you “look the other way” they will most likely believe you are against them. It’s better to speak up and say hi or smile.
The problem is they LOOK AT ME....maybe for a reaction, but I cannot be bothered. Coins need to be made. How does their relationship buy me a house? People have an unhealthy sense of importance.
Wait... in New York? You got “looks” for interracial dating? 🤔
Depends on which parts
Yeah, in New York. I'm in an interracial relationship myself and it used to really make me hate visiting my family in the Bronx. At least in the beginning. We had one incident where a group of Sistas wanted to fight my wife because one of their men try to spit game to her. She politely declined. And I was like, why are you mad at her? Get mad at your man! Nowadays if anyone tries to treat our relationship as a negative, we just laugh at them. It does way more damage to their self-esteem than arguing with them.
100% they are seeing things that aren't there.
In my experience no one gives interracial couples double takes hrre in NY unless they look really out there.
@Gee Whiz I'm from NY and that surprises me! Gee Whiz...it is what it is 🤷🏾♂️
#bars
I am Pro Black but I don't date white girls. They're beautiful nice and kind but a Black Woman understands me better and I don't have to worry about a potentially racist relative. Also I don't care who anyone dates! Am not gonna side eye or name-call unless you try to diss my peeps. And I also agree with your statement I always look at people especially couples when they're walking
Jazzy Jeff literally same. I’m not even attracted to white men, but I will work cordially with them, say hello. I want someone that looks like me. Same features, same societal struggles I want someone I can relate to when I come home.
@@swiitdoll especially after a long day after work or being in a stressful society. Someone who understands and will be easy to communicate with on that level. 🤙🏿😎 I've never dated out of my race or even had a fling and as a kid my guardian's and parents used to force me to date interracially because they want "Pretty babies"
"Beautiful, nice and kind"? Are you kidding me? The mothers and participants of centuries anti-black hatred and terrorism? Whose lies and actions destroy the lives of countless black people globally?
@@sentinel9651 I am aware of all that and that we still suffer from a lot of those atrocities to this day. But I will not negate the fact that many of them are also decent Humans with love for us ik you won't agree with that statement. But many have also died fighting for us that just proves that there are many great white folks in the world the idea to believe they're all evil is moronic despite the atrocities they've committed in this world and still continue to do so today.
@James nice!
I think Preach is dude with the dreads, but holmie falls over a lot when he laughs.
His laughter be hilarious tho
its a black thing, we're a animated people.
@@devilshand0740 yeah basically lol
DevilsHand 07 especially when we laugh while running away from the joke.
I love the way he laughs though... it's so real
“In public” made me choke I could not stop laughing 😂 love the intense stares at the camera..
Eventually, you have to ignore other people, what they feel think or believe, and worry about yourself and keep it moving forward.
Preach sounds like the “look at this dude” guy when he laughs😂😂
I’m white and my wife is black and the only negative experiences we have come from young black men. Older black people and white people are always positive.
I am so sorry you are experiencing this..
I cannot say the same. I am black guy that have talked and dated white women. I got stared down by older white and black people most of the times.
@MyTribe T.V All Out Attack WTF are you talking about. Everyone out here attacking black people. I guess you forget about black on black crime as well.
I'm pretty sure that it varies... Different areas, different cultures, different times, different individuals... A lot of stuff will affect the responses people and groups have... I reckon in some places you'd see the opposite lol
But yeah, people shouldn't worry about it so much, we're all human and all individuals, even within different groups ... Culture can be a great thing to preserve, but mixing cultures can create more stuff and interesting stuff too.
@@gmitch8648 yes but when qwhy people shoet up schools we don't call it "white crime" or "white on white crime" in the case of pedophilia
“Maybe she thought yo girl was a lesbian” lmao, that’s valid assumption lol
There are ppl who dont like to see it. But sometimes people look because its not a common site and it's more like..oh...there goes a unicorn
"You cant stress over somethings you cant change"
People should get this
If U think it's that easy then man ur name must be Patrick star cause ur living under a rock
@@ggtube1233 it is that easy you just need to accept reality
@@Myemnhk bro u either have no life experience in this topic or just VERY IGNORANT
@@ggtube1233 nice opinion but didn't ask
Calling others ignorant for ignoring some unchanging characteristic of mankind😕
No one changes a racist, it changes itself...if it wants😅
Interracial is just normal to me. I don’t see the big deal. When you got close friends of all colors, having intimate relationships with all colors should be seen as normal.
Especially for people who come from homogeneous communities, it's almost expected. Like who the heck am I not related to around here? Maybe it's only a native thing, i don't know.
Nope
Exactly we are still talking about this today is crazy
Can't wait to die down! It's annoying
5:05 as a black woman, I dont care. Love and date who you want. I date Black, White, Asian, Latino, whoever. I have gotten black guys saying things like "you dont like your own people" 🙄 I just try to ignore it because I know who I am. I use to walk down the street with my mixed male friend (Russian/ Yemeni). And we get some stares. This isn't 1950 people should just move along
34 seconds in and I. Am. Out. Cringed so hard I hurt my neck. Can’t do it.
Jacquie Montclair Same here
I may be weird; been in an interracial relationship for 13 years. I just assume no one cares. We've never had any issues with anyone.
Is her name Jane doe?
@@philipehusani no, HIS name is not Jane Doe but thanks for your concern.
@@johndoe-wv3nu Lol.
Are you black or white or other?
White....New England WASP and Carribian and we live in a small NC town.
I’ve never dated a black guy and my family hates me for it. I’ve dated white, PR, Mexican, Spaniard (fresh from Barcelona) a half Cuban half White ... I date everyone but black because idk I like what I like.
"Because idk I like to learn different cultures" .... is that what you're telling yourself? Okay.
Do you intentionally avoid dating black dudes?
P A N D O R A and don’t let anyone change that. Because black men proudly go around telling anyone that listens they won’t date black women
Blackn .effect what else would be the reason? You seem to have an idea.
@@BlueBerryBronzer then, in that case, it's a fetish.
When I see an interracial couple I just think 'ha, you don't see that often' and get on with my day. Even though I'm in an interracial relationship myself! Pretty sure that's what 99% of people do.
I've mostly been in interracial relationships and I haven't felt the backlash of being in one. It possibly could be I didn't care or haven't heard other people's comments. All comments that mattered or still matters is my family or friends. I always had surrounded myself with those who believe in character than colour. I love that about them ❤
Same.
lol, watch this. Is your significant other a white male?
@@mor1artyyyy137 why does it matter?
@@mor1artyyyy137 Actually yes he is but I've been in relationships with people of all different kinds of cultures before and never had an issue with people around me.
@@mor1artyyyy137 why does it matter?
I both love and hate interracial relationships. On the good side, it helps eliminate racism and bonding of cultures but as a black man, I hate how we're either stereotyped/demonized or fetishized like we're a gimmick or trophy
Interracial relationships have taken place for thousands of years and not much have changed. You cant claim to love something and complain about the cons that comes with it.
It does NOT eliminate racism (don't be delusional). It exposes it even further. Also, mixed children that come out of those marriages have their own set of sociopolitical and psychological issues to deal with. To top that off, IR relationships have been happening since ancient and BC and Anno Domini, Jim Crow, Civil Rights and Apartheid. In those times interracial children were formed out of the sexual violation of black women and sometimes black men. So with all the generational existence of biracial children, racism was progressing and regressing at its own trajectory, independent of whether there were IR relationships or not.
@@background187 Uhm yes you can, haven't you heard of critiquing something you love? You're allowed to talk about whatever life experiences you have. You literally made no sense
@@trudy_triad I said it HELPS eliminate racism. You can't tell me that someone from another race respects and appreciates another's culture so much so they get into an intimate relationship, despite what is said and done to them.
@Kenzita Damn, yall really have no reading comprehension skills...
Preach with the Steve Harvey laugh 🤣
As a person who has travelled a lot I feel like black women get by far the most abuse / stares.
Mainly from black men
I've been married to my husband who is white for nearly 16 yrs. I rarely get any negative comments from black men. Usually, when we are out it is older (50+) white women that will always have something negative to say about our relationship. They make it a point to stare at us and stay something stupid. We either laugh about it, stare back or ignore it. Every once in a while an older black man will say something but not often. We have extensively traveled also.
@@ohmissyme9582 probably they are mad that you are brave enough to go against silly societal norms lol and they missed their shot being with someone they liked just because they’re from a different tribe. It’s always been an issue hooking up with someone from a tribe outside of yours or outside of what your tribe allows. Thank goodness for science we don’t have to follow silly rules based on make believe.
@@goodmorningfrommt I believe that's what it is also. Ive learned to ignore people because it's a waste of time. Its really sad that person that has the same nationality as you is seen as a different tribe.
@@ohmissyme9582 boomer white women. 100%
“Not every reaction needs an action
No, not every action needs a reaction
How many ringers you have on your fingers
Touché
You can’t touché yourself
I’m touche myself right now” golden
The downside is SPELLING INTERRACIAL CORRECTLY
Loool
Interracial relationships have been goin on throughout history every group has been involved with another it's nothing new. But what I notice and also while growing up is that The black community values other ethnics more than themselves. Please don't chew me out for this. My honest take is there's nothing like your roots. Where you come from.
It has never been a big thing and was always met with harsh stigma. For good reason. It doesn't work usually and is based on fetishization alone. Also, can lead to geno**dal results if done in too large quantities, see the Neanderthals.
"Swirling" truly is a bad practice. The reason we see it populized now is because sick f***s in politics promise themselves something out of this type of social engineering. Either some deep rooted conflict they will be able to exploit later for profit or the purposeful destruction of one or several ethnic groups. It is something be wary of either way. And I'm with you. Your roots matter and should be recognized. You forget them and you become yet another pawn without identity for the corporate workslave cult.
@@Mayhzonyou raise a very good point.
Also: *"Sick f***s in politics".*
Soon as i finished reading politics, and i immediately thought of metal gear references because of war waging PMC's that "donate" to politicians.
MyTribe T.V All Out Attack
We have been aware of this, but Black people (men majorly) refuse to change it.
Mayhzon how does “swirling” in large quantities lead to geno**dal results?? I’m not being rude I’m just genuinely curious🥺🙏🏾
Aluta N because the two races proceed to go extinct so to say. You are left with a mixed mess with no racial identity and no unique features.
"I'm touche-ing myself right now" 🤣🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
People celebrate Dr. MLK Day yet anyone hardly remembers what Malcolm X stood for.😅
No part of government wants anyone to know about Malcom x and what he stood for
And what DID HE STAND FOR?
People celebrate MLK day and don't really know what MLK stood for. Most people only remember his speech.
MLK is a sellout.
I don't celebrate him
@James Exactly! We only hear the message that made white Americans comfortable. They skipped over the deeper messages.
Me: clicks on the video.
Nobody:
Girl in video: when yi eme imi heebee jeebee meeyee
Me: which mumble rapper does she ghostwrite for?
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Lil Xan
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
Lebogang Seleleko 😂😂😂😂😂 well fuck
@@halosandhorns8 are you the girl in the video?
Her laugh doesn’t align with the way she talks. The code switching made me uncomfortable. And the conversation was pointless.
That's a reach lol
LDNballer what is?
Yeap got to edit yourself when your outside culture my guy
😂😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
So many people complaining about which interracial relationship is “most difficult”, can we just agree that IRs in general are looked down upon? We don’t need to tackle it one by one, we’re all in the same boat
It's not that damn serious. I've been in an interracial relationship for 3 years, We've had very few issues in public. Stop letting people dictate your happiness ugh.
@@92deadbodyman I don't wipe my ass....
We use bidets here.
@@eagle0114 You rich rich.
Hi so i was the same as you did not intend to marry outside my race ,but my friend invited me to Xmas party I met her brother and that was it 28 years later still together ,and i never cared about ppls opinions that i don't even know ,love knows no color ,love you guys you are hilarious
@SHADOW PIONEER - ENT. we were also much more stupid in the past to
@SHADOW PIONEER - ENT. Yeah and in Salem Witch trials, they hanged toddlers. Everyone was in their right mind I guess
@SHADOW PIONEER - ENT. and your the reason for the division in our society today ,washing away my essence is laughable, makes no sense to me ,we are all God's creation ,I really don't understand you ,but your comment is respected thanks
@SHADOW PIONEER - ENT. bc my husband is a different race I'm washing away my essence, that statement , you feel the way you do more power to ya
@SHADOW PIONEER - ENT. we were still stupid and ignorant in the past. Yea they were "smart" for their time.
I dated one big girl and alot of peoples idea of me changed and told me..I was just baffled learning about some perception others have of you is really surprising