Masks behind types 1: I'm competent and certain. Heart centre 2: I'm kind and I'm here for u. 3: I'm accomplished and I have got this. 4: I'm different and you'll never get this. Head centre 5: I'm independent and I don't need u. 6: I'm trustworthy and I'm trying to make best decisions. Gut centre 7: It's all fine, I just need to keep going 8: I'm fearless, I'm in control 9: Im a tolerant and easy going, easy to get along with.
Just a suggestion, but can you put a timestamp on your next collective video of 9 types. It would be soo much easier to go straight to the viewer’s personal type😁
I thought it was interesting that type 4s and 6s both need people in their lives who are steady and dont panick when they do, meanwhile type 5s in the middle try to stay level headed as possible when crisis hit.
As a "sensual" five, rather a "sexual" five, this stands to be true. I work for a guy who seems like a 7w8 and pushes people buttons all day and no one really reacts, myself most of all, but I am also a Leo and fire within takes ALL I've observed and cut him verbally in ways he's not use to. My line to 8 is revealed and he believes I'm "emotional". Smh lol I don't need to feel a thing to put someone in their place. We're human before anything and I can't stand seeing people crossing lines without care. So I address it prematurely to give them a false sense of my line which is actually no where near the points they toy with. After scenario to show this pseudo line, I have returned to bring chill. He's sixty and knows better now.
As a 4, I don't relate as much. I don't have any fear to show all my weakness, trauma and stronger opinions to people I'm interested in. I tend to overshare and sometimes it seems like a test if those people are ready to deal with me and get to know me. But maybe it's because of my subtype so/sx. But when they don't get me right away, I tend to say ''U don't get me anyway'' pretty often though. But with people that don't interest me, I don't want to interact with them at all, also with the people I need to seem 'professional' to, like on my workplace etc.
For me as an 8 I found out that I had a fear of feeling my emotions, that was behind my vulnerability issues. So i dont care too much of what others thought of my feelings if i talked about them, it was more i couldn't lean into my emotions and actually feel. I had built up so many systems to avoid them, i was totally disconnected from feeling in general. Emotion therapy didn't work on me, due to this, I had no reference on how i felt at any given moment. Not until i found Byron Katie and "the work" which is like a thought therapy version did i really see epic emotional changes in my life. Its super helpful for 8s try it out, you use your thoughts (thinking in MBTI) to access your emotions, which is way more accessible for 8s.
Thank you for this! I am trying to sort out if I am really a 4. The teen years would say YES! But now I present to most people as a 9. I think they would be surprised to hear I have a lot of stuff going on in there. But of course, they just wouldn't understand all that so I don't mention it :) Or maybe I am a 9 and just try to sweep things under the rug. IDK. Will keep watching and and learning. Thanks again!
I beleive that our personalities have reflections of more than one type as I have been typed as 1,4 and 5 though my basic type is 4 but i can relate to 70% of things 5 do and feel and almost 50% of 1's things are related to me as well.
Love this video! 💚 You explained each type so well & it really helped me to finally understand which wing I most identify with for myself & a few other people I've been trying to type. Thanks!! 🙂
“Angry and _stuck_ “ is very good! Stuck has been a big theme for me 🫠 And watching this makes me realize again how I’ve been in such good Health for the past while! And that makes me really happy :) Getting to know and love yourself is so worth it, and to be so excited and curious about all the ways you’ll grow and are growing all the time - life opens up to you! ☀️ Life is good 💞 Hasn’t felt that way for a long time, and now so overdue, I’m really glad I took the time to take care of myself again! And I have so many things I want and am working for now; it’s lovely! Growth happens 💛
I'm in a bad way when it comes to these masks. It's like I'm Janus or something and wear two masks at the same time that are always fighting for dominance: the Type 5 and the Type 4. One moment, I'm feeling competent and independent; the next, I'm feeling weird and ostracized. Sometimes, it's a blend of the two and I feel like I'm the wise, eccentric old hermit that people scoff at, yet come to for help when they can't figure things out. I can really relate to technical difficulties with trying to make videos. I have had several in which my camera or the editing software has had a problem at some point. Like you did here, I just go ahead and post the video anyway if I'm happy with the rest of it.
Notes: 1s - Competent and certain What’s wrong with me? 2 - Kind and here for you Do you need me too? 3 - Accomplished and I got this Am I good enough?
5 - I’m independent & I don’t need you. Help, I feel isolated! 6 - I’m trustworthy. I’ve got to hold it together. 7 - Everything is gonna be fine. I’m detached from myself & scared to feel.
Audio stopped listening during type 9. Typical lol. Hearing what is really the 4s core issue was very enlightening. Seems they just want to be understood and not fixed.
Yes, that is very true. The moment someone tries to fix me I check out. But most people want to fix others to make themselves feel better or superior. As a four I want so little, just listen to me, don't judge me, above all, don't try to "gaslight" me. Let me own my experiences and feelings, don't try to devalue them or take them, we have been stolen from so much already. The Doctor did not give the "help" instructions for the fours as he did for other types. I guess he feels helpless (as a 7). I am so glad for the fours in your life that you take an interest. Bless you.
@lenaa🍃 Bless you, dear one. I hear you although I am 73 years old. I have struggled with that since I was as young as you. When someone kind really listens to me I often don't need advice. Talking about whatever the problem is, talking it out often gives me the solution or I realize that there is really no problem. But when there is a problem, and I want help, I trust only the person who actually had listened to me. I only give advice when someone actually asks for it, and then very carefully. You are right, many people mean well and may just care for you to want to help. When that happens I try to be mature and kind in return and listen. Yes, you heard me right, old people can be very immature at times, and young ones can be wise beyond their years. I think you are one of those; keep growing and stay true to yourself. Trust your instincts and be careful of your soul.
So I am a 4 and my significant other is a 9 and when I talk to him about some things I also come out and say I am not perfect either and is there anything that I need to work on for you? He always says no everything is good you’re doing great, it’s just me. I’m like oookkaayyy… like I know that’s a lie. Then he promises me he will work on it then he don’t. I’ve told him a million times actions speak louder then words. Sometimes I wonder if he has this invisible shield in front of his eyes that this is real life. Like we aren’t getting any younger and blah blah blah… and he just says I know… I know. I promise I’ll work on it. We will do it. Then it’s like I feel like I’m the only one doing something. And his priorities are complete opposite then what was said. But I’m starting to have more compassion for him now just because I am learning the enneagram and it helps us understand some of the more habitual behaviors we have and paradigms and notice it. Having compassion for yourself. But also don’t let that be an excuse.
I don't understand when people say "you have inherent worth". Sooo, I just have to take that on faith?! My brain wont let me do that. I still haven't found a proper reasoned explanation as to why people believe that or why I should believe it. You can't just throw something out there and expect people to just pick it up at treat it as fact. Jordan Peterson gives good explanations and reasons for nearly everything, loses me on the fluffy, abstract religious stuff though. That's type 6 right? 😏
I'm not religious anymore but I still believe we all have inherent worth. Even poop when placed in the right circumstances can have value. And I personally believe we all have way more inherent worth than poop, mainly due to how humans interact together. Our perspective and way of thinking is largely shaped by the experiences we have with each other. You never know when that one positive conversation you might have with someone may inspire them to do something great or become a better person. And the same goes for the opposite, negative interactions can influence people to do bad things.
Kinda same, cause value is arguably in eye of the beholder, like money is just a bunch of printed papers/pieces of metal/digital numbers but we as a society decided to assume they are of value (in which case hey, we are valuable on black market and have a kidney to spare :D) I guess that's what creates confusion? A banknote without market becomes just a piece of paper, so that begs the question: what's the value of a human without society? Ultimately as much as people try to provide an explanation for themselves by attaching their sense of value to the external stuff (helping others, accomplishments, uniqueness and so on, hi to Heart triad) the words "you have inherent worth" are not as much to reason but to hopefully make believe somehow, maybe through faith as well Tl;dr : you might not have inherent worth and honestly then no one does, we give it to each other in our eyes and that's what's precious in it, chillax
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2:14 type 1
3:44 type 2
6:50 type 3
9:05 type 4
12:03 type 5
14:35 type 6
17:16 type 7
21:00 type 8
26:01 type 9
Masks behind types
1: I'm competent and certain.
Heart centre
2: I'm kind and I'm here for u.
3: I'm accomplished and I have got this.
4: I'm different and you'll never get this.
Head centre
5: I'm independent and I don't need u.
6: I'm trustworthy and I'm trying to make best decisions.
Gut centre
7: It's all fine, I just need to keep going
8: I'm fearless, I'm in control
9: Im a tolerant and easy going, easy to get along with.
09:08 type 4
Just a suggestion, but can you put a timestamp on your next collective video of 9 types. It would be soo much easier to go straight to the viewer’s personal type😁
The 4 is very accurate, thank you!
4 is so on point
I thought it was interesting that type 4s and 6s both need people in their lives who are steady and dont panick when they do, meanwhile type 5s in the middle try to stay level headed as possible when crisis hit.
As a "sensual" five, rather a "sexual" five, this stands to be true. I work for a guy who seems like a 7w8 and pushes people buttons all day and no one really reacts, myself most of all, but I am also a Leo and fire within takes ALL I've observed and cut him verbally in ways he's not use to. My line to 8 is revealed and he believes I'm "emotional". Smh lol I don't need to feel a thing to put someone in their place.
We're human before anything and I can't stand seeing people crossing lines without care. So I address it prematurely to give them a false sense of my line which is actually no where near the points they toy with. After scenario to show this pseudo line, I have returned to bring chill. He's sixty and knows better now.
17:22 type 7
As a 4, I don't relate as much. I don't have any fear to show all my weakness, trauma and stronger opinions to people I'm interested in. I tend to overshare and sometimes it seems like a test if those people are ready to deal with me and get to know me. But maybe it's because of my subtype so/sx. But when they don't get me right away, I tend to say ''U don't get me anyway'' pretty often though. But with people that don't interest me, I don't want to interact with them at all, also with the people I need to seem 'professional' to, like on my workplace etc.
For me as an 8 I found out that I had a fear of feeling my emotions, that was behind my vulnerability issues. So i dont care too much of what others thought of my feelings if i talked about them, it was more i couldn't lean into my emotions and actually feel. I had built up so many systems to avoid them, i was totally disconnected from feeling in general. Emotion therapy didn't work on me, due to this, I had no reference on how i felt at any given moment. Not until i found Byron Katie and "the work" which is like a thought therapy version did i really see epic emotional changes in my life. Its super helpful for 8s try it out, you use your thoughts (thinking in MBTI) to access your emotions, which is way more accessible for 8s.
Very interesting ....Thank you for sharing this . It helped me understand myself better . ...and my loved ones.
I am an 8, this brought tears to my eyes ❤ Thank you. I am constantly working on being more open and vulnerable 🙏
You're so welcome!
Thank you for this! I am trying to sort out if I am really a 4. The teen years would say YES! But now I present to most people as a 9. I think they would be surprised to hear I have a lot of stuff going on in there. But of course, they just wouldn't understand all that so I don't mention it :) Or maybe I am a 9 and just try to sweep things under the rug. IDK. Will keep watching and and learning. Thanks again!
I beleive that our personalities have reflections of more than one type as
I have been typed as 1,4 and 5 though my basic type is 4 but i can relate to 70% of things 5 do and feel and almost 50% of 1's things are related to me as well.
I'm a type 9 - that's very true!
Outstanding as always
Love this video! 💚
You explained each type so well & it really helped me to finally understand which wing I most identify with for myself & a few other people I've been trying to type.
Thanks!! 🙂
I'm a 6 and I feel so attacked because you're very accurate!
Type 6 14:35
26:05 type 9
Loved watching it all tho, to understand other ways people in my life are!
“Angry and _stuck_ “ is very good! Stuck has been a big theme for me 🫠
And watching this makes me realize again how I’ve been in such good Health for the past while! And that makes me really happy :) Getting to know and love yourself is so worth it, and to be so excited and curious about all the ways you’ll grow and are growing all the time - life opens up to you! ☀️ Life is good 💞 Hasn’t felt that way for a long time, and now so overdue, I’m really glad I took the time to take care of myself again! And I have so many things I want and am working for now; it’s lovely!
Growth happens 💛
Loved this! Would love if you could put together a list of theme songs for each type. I’ve got a whole playlist of 4 songs if you need any! 😉
I found that quite helpful. Thanks!
I’m a 4 🫥 omg too accurate and funny. Gotta watch again and again.
Yes, that’s too bad and it makes me very angry (of course I’m able to recognize I’m angry thanks to your video) I’m a 9w1sx
Very accurate as a 9! Also, I have to add, of COURSE the 9s got shortchanged because of the camera issue 🤣🤣🤣
I'm in a bad way when it comes to these masks. It's like I'm Janus or something and wear two masks at the same time that are always fighting for dominance: the Type 5 and the Type 4. One moment, I'm feeling competent and independent; the next, I'm feeling weird and ostracized. Sometimes, it's a blend of the two and I feel like I'm the wise, eccentric old hermit that people scoff at, yet come to for help when they can't figure things out.
I can really relate to technical difficulties with trying to make videos. I have had several in which my camera or the editing software has had a problem at some point. Like you did here, I just go ahead and post the video anyway if I'm happy with the rest of it.
Notes:
1s - Competent and certain
What’s wrong with me?
2 - Kind and here for you
Do you need me too?
3 - Accomplished and I got this
Am I good enough?
4 - I’m different & you’ll never get it. It’s too much, & won’t you try to understand?
5 - I’m independent & I don’t need you. Help, I feel isolated!
6 - I’m trustworthy.
I’ve got to hold it together.
7 - Everything is gonna be fine.
I’m detached from myself & scared to feel.
8 - I’m fearless and in control.
I want to let someone in, but I don’t know how.
9 - I’m easygoing.
I’m frustrated.
Amazing work as always Dr Tom, lots of love
So so good
Audio stopped listening during type 9. Typical lol. Hearing what is really the 4s core issue was very enlightening. Seems they just want to be understood and not fixed.
Yes, that is very true. The moment someone tries to fix me I check out. But most people want to fix others to make themselves feel better or superior. As a four I want so little, just listen to me, don't judge me, above all, don't try to "gaslight" me. Let me own my experiences and feelings, don't try to devalue them or take them, we have been stolen from so much already. The Doctor did not give the "help" instructions for the fours as he did for other types. I guess he feels helpless (as a 7). I am so glad for the fours in your life that you take an interest. Bless you.
@lenaa🍃 Bless you, dear one. I hear you although I am 73 years old. I have struggled with that since I was as young as you. When someone kind really listens to me I often don't need advice. Talking about whatever the problem is, talking it out often gives me the solution or I realize that there is really no problem. But when there is a problem, and I want help, I trust only the person who actually had listened to me. I only give advice when someone actually asks for it, and then very carefully. You are right, many people mean well and may just care for you to want to help. When that happens I try to be mature and kind in return and listen. Yes, you heard me right, old people can be very immature at times, and young ones can be wise beyond their years. I think you are one of those; keep growing and stay true to yourself. Trust your instincts and be careful of your soul.
@@weissblau yESSS
So I am a 4 and my significant other is a 9 and when I talk to him about some things I also come out and say I am not perfect either and is there anything that I need to work on for you? He always says no everything is good you’re doing great, it’s just me. I’m like oookkaayyy… like I know that’s a lie. Then he promises me he will work on it then he don’t. I’ve told him a million times actions speak louder then words. Sometimes I wonder if he has this invisible shield in front of his eyes that this is real life. Like we aren’t getting any younger and blah blah blah… and he just says I know… I know. I promise I’ll work on it. We will do it. Then it’s like I feel like I’m the only one doing something. And his priorities are complete opposite then what was said. But I’m starting to have more compassion for him now just because I am learning the enneagram and it helps us understand some of the more habitual behaviors we have and paradigms and notice it. Having compassion for yourself. But also don’t let that be an excuse.
Awww… to bad 9’s got cut short due to technical problems. Wish there was more a nines not that I’m angry about it lol…
Type 5 - "I'm independent and don't need you." That's a problem? 😄
This is such interesting content.
Excelent, thank you
12:19
nice riff
I don't understand when people say "you have inherent worth". Sooo, I just have to take that on faith?! My brain wont let me do that. I still haven't found a proper reasoned explanation as to why people believe that or why I should believe it. You can't just throw something out there and expect people to just pick it up at treat it as fact.
Jordan Peterson gives good explanations and reasons for nearly everything, loses me on the fluffy, abstract religious stuff though.
That's type 6 right? 😏
I'm not religious anymore but I still believe we all have inherent worth. Even poop when placed in the right circumstances can have value. And I personally believe we all have way more inherent worth than poop, mainly due to how humans interact together. Our perspective and way of thinking is largely shaped by the experiences we have with each other. You never know when that one positive conversation you might have with someone may inspire them to do something great or become a better person. And the same goes for the opposite, negative interactions can influence people to do bad things.
Kinda same, cause value is arguably in eye of the beholder, like money is just a bunch of printed papers/pieces of metal/digital numbers but we as a society decided to assume they are of value (in which case hey, we are valuable on black market and have a kidney to spare :D)
I guess that's what creates confusion? A banknote without market becomes just a piece of paper, so that begs the question: what's the value of a human without society?
Ultimately as much as people try to provide an explanation for themselves by attaching their sense of value to the external stuff (helping others, accomplishments, uniqueness and so on, hi to Heart triad) the words "you have inherent worth" are not as much to reason but to hopefully make believe somehow, maybe through faith as well
Tl;dr : you might not have inherent worth and honestly then no one does, we give it to each other in our eyes and that's what's precious in it, chillax
@@absentabsinthe1049 lol. Fair enough 😄
I think that last word is good advice for people like me, though maybe a tall order for a brain like mine
You have inherent worth since you are made by God and His child - you have inherent worth in Christ!
as a 5, I feel exposed 🥴
Yeah, that instantaneously went straight to the core
@@The_SmorgMan jup
same here
I'm curious how many other 4's are also starseeds? 💫
Seems like my older sis was an 8 to me but was a 6 out in the world...
Link to the meme?
21:10
I'm 8w9 and I don't yell at people LMAO
I'm also phlegmatic first choleric second
A Stoic 8 B)
4 💙🥺🤗
4w5