1. Looking at words, not actions 2. Going after emotionally unavailable person 3. Going for looks, charisma, external traits - go for someone who makes you feel safe - go for reliability, consistency - attraction grows in time 4. Feeding on drama 5. 16:52 always looking for something better. Having inflated ego. I liked the tips and examples too
its true, when i got my wife i didn't have a job, i could even say that was my lowest point, and my very successful friend also approached her, but she chose me haha, the point is just be yourself never be ashamed to be yourself.
I was dealing with a person in the fist mistake. And also I was a girl in the 5th mistake as well . 😂😂😂 im that kind of person. But after been though a lot of painful and trauma and I have grow up a lot. I would say “ listen to this vdo and use in your real life!!” A thousand thank to her. A message from me : do not use a dating app. I know some people found their true love from the app. That’s a luck. But better put yourself out in a real world. Just go out from your house instead of sitting and swiping 😇 may be for a walk in the park or a coffee shop.
Everything is good but I didn’t like the part where you say don’t go for the handsome or beautiful people because they will cheat on you. Basically you are saying that good looking people will cheat and ugly people won’t ! That’s not true at all .. ugly people cheat too when they get a chance.. good looks or money can trigger lust and greed in other people.. that doesn’t mean the person who have those things is a bad person.
They split the bill because you need to take your own accountability for the financial costs of the relationship. It's 2023 for everyone, and 'feminism' it's not a cherry picking mentality.
Simple mistake is too many people are quick to judge based on looks regardless of intelligence or true kindness and when someone is nice to them they rush into a relationship because of misinterpreting niceness as attraction besides standards of what a guy or girl should be is unrealistic these days so it is quite a challenge
I am the kind of seductive guy who do not seek validation but I do find myself inclining towards unavailable women and elder women. I find them very attractive especially the way they carry themselves and the maturity. During the youth, I did go for looks but now I look more for maturity, understanding and loyalty.
Thanks a lot Francesca this is always a good reminder of how to really be a healthy person and how to look for other people that are not extravagant for long term success
Nice to the ears like always but Francesca ,would you elaborate on how to behaviourally integrate these tenets because no matter how much we know of this but still when we are faced with a situation as such then all these teachings become a shelved theory. How to practice at not letting naivety kick in at the wrong moment ?
Tbh I don’t think there’s any «correct » or one way of going about it maybe we shouldn’t see it from this not trying to be wrong view but shifting to not making it a conflict but finding a way you could have the good and the bad go together
Thank you for your videos, Francesca! I find it really a cool mix of objectiveness and still somehow personal, not like as if I was reading a scientific paper, it has humanity! I just would suggest you to include homossexual couples when commenting on examples. I myself am heterossexual, but I think it could be a cool thing for them as well to expand the examples including non-heterossexual persons :) Thank you for your videos! They have helped me in those times to think about my life, realise and think about issues with me. It was deep to me to see how I can create a projection when going for emotional unavailable people and when they become available how it conflicts with my personal expectations and then the person becomes all of sudden less interesting and even boring. That really broadened my views on me myself and many things! Thank you!
Francesca is always OBJECTIVE. Quite an achievement for a FEMALE psychologist. (It is the longest video and you spent enough minutes to explain EACH). Thanks for your amazing work!
1. Looking at words, not actions
2. Going after emotionally unavailable person
3. Going for looks, charisma, external traits
- go for someone who makes you feel safe
- go for reliability, consistency
- attraction grows in time
4. Feeding on drama
5. 16:52 always looking for something better. Having inflated ego.
I liked the tips and examples too
People who grew up in abusive households actually feel safe around toxic people as their behaviours are familiar and remind them of mum or dad
Your videos have helped me so much. Thank you Francesca.
its true, when i got my wife i didn't have a job, i could even say that was my lowest point, and my very successful friend also approached her, but she chose me haha, the point is just be yourself never be ashamed to be yourself.
You are so right! Thank you for this vidéo, this is exactly what I needed !:D
You are absolutly right 🤗☺️👌!!!
Amazing video :) Thank you!
Great video ! Straight up no chaser
I was dealing with a person in the fist mistake.
And also
I was a girl in the 5th mistake as well . 😂😂😂 im that kind of person.
But after been though a lot of painful and trauma and I have grow up a lot. I would say “ listen to this vdo and use in your real life!!” A thousand thank to her.
A message from me : do not use a dating app. I know some people found their true love from the app. That’s a luck. But better put yourself out in a real world. Just go out from your house instead of sitting and swiping 😇 may be for a walk in the park or a coffee shop.
I really Need a video that explain how to talk to a woman
Everything is good but I didn’t like the part where you say don’t go for the handsome or beautiful people because they will cheat on you. Basically you are saying that good looking people will cheat and ugly people won’t ! That’s not true at all .. ugly people cheat too when they get a chance.. good looks or money can trigger lust and greed in other people.. that doesn’t mean the person who have those things is a bad person.
ur accent is funny(in a good way)
I don't know but she has a thick French accent
I think it’s attractive af
Getting the woman out of her clothes first date .
They split the bill because you need to take your own accountability for the financial costs of the relationship. It's 2023 for everyone, and 'feminism' it's not a cherry picking mentality.
Omg.. You just made me realize why I always get attracted to emotionally unavailable men.Shitz!
Sister I love you.😢
"when they like you, you'll know for sure" thanks ❤
How is she not famous yet ?! she’s so good at talking about her point of view, and is clear behind the causes for these relatable experience
Because our society loves making stupid people famous probably 🤪 🙈
she has like a mil on tiktok
@@Eliane-pf5nb what if someone was using it on you?
Because she isn't delusional. Truth hurts many
She has too much heart and gives advice for free. People don't value that.
Ahhhh sometimes I really think that the only person who can make you happy is non other than yourself. 😂🎉😅
What a great video!!!👏 I needed this
Can you talk about fear of happiness, and Self destructive behaviour.
Best advice ever.thank you ❤
Now I want to go on a date with you after watching this lol
Thank you
I'd love to have a sit down with you but my concern is that one of us, (me), would end up being the subject of a case study.
Simple mistake is too many people are quick to judge based on looks regardless of intelligence or true kindness and when someone is nice to them they rush into a relationship because of misinterpreting niceness as attraction besides standards of what a guy or girl should be is unrealistic these days so it is quite a challenge
Thank you for your aducation. Love watching your Videos.
I Like Your calmness and Charisma while talking.
U make Psychology great again 😅👍
Loved it. So clear, wise and useful. I even cried a little xP (in a good way. It was healing, actually). Thank you SO much.
1st point is so accurate, people will say anything to get laid
Best one yet
You are gorgeous ❤
😉
Love u ❤
Such a nice concept n it really say lot about how relationship actually works
Thanks Francesca, always with the Best advice
Thanks for this precious video, I will follow your advice from now on
Gorgeous White woman here 😮 whit the most beautiful chest ever 😍
I am the kind of seductive guy who do not seek validation but I do find myself inclining towards unavailable women and elder women. I find them very attractive especially the way they carry themselves and the maturity. During the youth, I did go for looks but now I look more for maturity, understanding and loyalty.
Maybe..I identify with all of the flaws..I feel I am incredibly in love with you.... I think I am so susceptible...but it's true... honestly
Great video. Lot of info
Please make a video about psychology behind female beauty standards. How it affects females psychologically.
Thanks a lot Francesca this is always a good reminder of how to really be a healthy person and how to look for other people that are not extravagant for long term success
you are looking cute like little girl😍😊😋
3rd comment i love your content
Your insight is so valuable and well thought-out. Appreciate the time you take in these videos and your explanations are so well-conveyed.
Love youuu❤
👏🏼👏🏼💗
Please make video like that longformate ❤❤
Nice to the ears like always but Francesca ,would you elaborate on how to behaviourally integrate these tenets because no matter how much we know of this but still when we are faced with a situation as such then all these teachings become a shelved theory.
How to practice at not letting naivety kick in at the wrong moment ?
Tbh I don’t think there’s any «correct » or one way of going about it maybe we shouldn’t see it from this not trying to be wrong view but shifting to not making it a conflict but finding a way you could have the good and the bad go together
Thank you for your videos, Francesca! I find it really a cool mix of objectiveness and still somehow personal, not like as if I was reading a scientific paper, it has humanity! I just would suggest you to include homossexual couples when commenting on examples. I myself am heterossexual, but I think it could be a cool thing for them as well to expand the examples including non-heterossexual persons :) Thank you for your videos! They have helped me in those times to think about my life, realise and think about issues with me. It was deep to me to see how I can create a projection when going for emotional unavailable people and when they become available how it conflicts with my personal expectations and then the person becomes all of sudden less interesting and even boring. That really broadened my views on me myself and many things! Thank you!
You remind me of jisoo from blackpink
27:43 my cat when i pet her
Francesca is always OBJECTIVE. Quite an achievement for a FEMALE psychologist. (It is the longest video and you spent enough minutes to explain EACH). Thanks for your amazing work!
Thank you for your insight and perspective! 🤔 🫶