When we accept a situation regardless the outcome and detach ourselves from the results, this is where we find peace and freedom from anxiety. To commit an action is in our hands but not the results and this is what we have to be always aware of. Expectations are the root cause of all misery.
Always feel thankful for your sharing about your vulnerable side...make me feel confident in my insecurities..u make me feel that m not alone. Very valuable content ❤
I enjoyed this video , it looked like a conversation with hear , like taking a coffe together, the most useful and valuable video on RUclips!! Thank you for spreading your knowledge Francesca ❤ so much love 🫶🪐
finally someone said it i was having hard time faking it to be loud , making long eye contact , having many people around you and at the end of the day i felt not good enough then i started accepting as i am being calm, talking slowly , taking things slow and i never felt more happier it just feels me
Never understood the eye contact thing, like a glance here and there yea but I ain’t gunna stare at someone in the eyes while talking to them n what not, but still, don’t know why that’s a thing , as long as you listen to them right ?
Hi Francesca, thank you for this video! I liked it. However I have question on a completely different topic. May I ask where are your earrings coming from? They suit you very well. I'm searching for exactly this kind, but didn't find so far. Thank you!
Its the inner beauty that matters not what is external. No matter what’s the shape and colour of a temple, what matters is inside.. the God.. the Supreme Consciousness
Look at your external as a fuel and physical part of you with what you do best as much as you can. And take care of your inner self your soul your human strings those really matter the most. Tell yourself that you’re strong, healthy, energetic, smart, effortlessly managing life. When you start to respect and care about what God gave you, God will give you more it’s just a matter of time and journey, love 💗
I'm a very confident person and I could actually agree and align ok every point that you said. It's true indeed. Insecurity is loud, confidence is silent. :)
Im 26 and my mother told my brother last year that of he wouldnt act in a certain way he would be an idiot like me. It was more like a question. She asked my brother : "do you want to be an idiot like your brother?". And I was sitting in the next room hearing that. Also my whole family doesnt really respect me or acknowledge my whole personality. I have a really bad relationship with my father. All things I always got taught from him were like "you are dumb and worth nothing ". So I decided to cut him out of my life so I don't have to hear all this bullshit coming from him. Doesnt matter what I do. If I went back to school to get my high school degree or going to the gym going out with friends he always made me feel like I'm a bum. I'm 26 as I said and I really struggle to get friends and or a relationship with a woman. Also I obsess over every woman who treats me with kindness and respect. I don't know I will try to get more confident but its hard. It's really really hard.
You are worthy just as you are and as a human. I hope and pray you get good role models and mum /dad figures in your life. People who show you unconditional love 💕 I hope you achieve your dreams. I actually have grandparent figures. That give me that love I seek too. Sometimes family can let you down. Or even be abusive. I think gratitude is important. To celebrate positives that you do have. But I hope someone can come and speak powerful truth over you. And that you do that too. But you deserve so much more then that. I'm praying you find it. Or it finds you. Shalom. ❤
Im always following your videos and so far this is the vid that made me in tears, i relate myself in everything u have said and somehow I felt that someone's understands me. Thank you so much for this. ❤❤
Even being a man, i've always had problems in accept my appearance. It came since my chilhood.It's a little bit hard for me to search for girls. After a long time i'm trying to change these thoughts. I expect to overcome it.
So beautiful and wholesome! Thank you for this Video, Francesca. True confidence is where peace is. I love the calming and easygoing way you deal with so important topics. Continue with your videos. I subscribed❤
You actually describe the way of healing that I have just read a good book about one of very powerful techniques. The name of the book as well as the technique is "Feed your deamons". Basically I understood that an inner deamon is basically famined part of ourselves. That guy desperatelly needs to be fed. The book describes a meditation technique that works with visualisations. An example: The feeling of insecurity can be visualised. It might look like some dark smoke kind of thing with a feeling of desperation and emptiness (abandonment). Just an example. It can be anything. In the meditation you just personalise that thing and There you see the deamon. It might be a shadowy dark figure of a drug adicted homeless kid (again just an example). And you start a conversation with the deamon. You give him 3 questions 1. What is it that you want from me? 2. What is it that you truly desire? 3. How will you feel if you get what you desire? Then you become the deamon and answer the questions. You might give answers (again, just an example): 1. I want your suffering because I hate you. 2. In fact I just need you to accept me and love me! 3. I will stop feeling so lonely and rejected. I will feel loved! In such scenario you visualise your body turning into something that represents what the deamon truly desires for. In this particular case its love and acceptance. And you let him feed on it. In this point you might experience intensive emotions as you are feeding part of yourself that was famined for years. The deamon should change its appearence into something more cheerful, handsome and alive! In this new being you are finding your ally. Yiu give 3 questions to this new being: 1. Are you my ally? 2. How are you going to help me? 3. I don remember anymore. Anyway, get yourself the book "feed your deamons" and let it roll! I nail my ass on it that this is a powerful stuff!
I had the worst day of my life day before yesterday. Im studying physical ed and my sport is basketball. But that day i was sick but i still decided to attend basketball class and i couldn't score any goals during the practice in class while everyone watched me. I felt like smthg was wrong with me and i felt so ashamed of myself. Everyone looked at me like i was stupid and guy i loved came and told me - u said u knew basketball, but it seems u were lying!😭 i felt horrible i was almost on the verge of tears.
I'm glad someone finally talked about Maddie. It troubled and confused me whenever someone brought up Maddie as the perfect example (the paragon) of confidence. And then I asked myself, so is that all? Confidence is fakeness, immaturity, arrogance and shallowness? I was utterly disappointed. (I've heard that incompetence-a lack of experience in people leads to confidence and I thought perhaps it might be true....) So thank you! This soothes my soul.
question: as a people pleaser, how do u find yourself? for example, when i try to think of what my real sense of style is, or what kind of music i truly like and dislike, i come up blank. i'm so used to being flexible and adapting to trends and others' opinions that i truly feel like i can enjoy lots of different things without having strong opinions about anything. in other words, i can be convinced of anything by anyone since i don't feel strongly about things at all. i never know if what i'm wearing is actually something i like or something others would approve of. i really GENUINELY cant tell. pls help.
When i first got to college...i tried to fake myself,change my personality and be like who I'm not really supposed to be. After a while....my real personality came biting up my a** . Like really,really hard. Through that experience i was able to adopt something very useful in life. And I'm always happy for that. But i came to love my real personality. It's peaceful. Later on i realised that so many people,my friends are always doing things to either please people,or just doing them so other will realize they're also around. I realised they were struggling so much. When i be myself...i found it very peaceful and I've come to love it. That's why I love Francesco,she teaches so real stuff. Frances...can i get your handles please???
Not feeling good enough isn't a bug, it's a feature. I've heard the stories about these "securely attached people", but I'm still searching. (You're doing great.) Oh, and "You gotta lose to know how to win." ~Aerosmith, Dream On
5:43 Nice, this overlaps what I learned early on: “Nobody will say or do anything that is not out of the direct reflection of themselves.” Glad it appears again.
Hey Fransesca I was journalling and thought of the factors that enables confidence, My mind was messed up so I closed it and thought of , i should get to know about ways that would build confidence and here's yours !!! I learn Lot From Your Wisdom , continue sharing it Sending Lot's Of Love To You 💗
Great vid. I think the key is in the "wrong conclusions we draw, and carry forward with us". External people and events happen. When we are young we are taught to ask permission, say please and thank you, etc. great stuff, however I think we fail that lesson, in concluding that it means all things such as worth and permissibility, only come from objective externals. In all those cases, we always held the control and drew a conclusion and lived by it; not seeing our own role right there. We too often conclude and carry forward, powerlessness, unacceptability, lack of worth and so on. Believing it comes from outside, someone criticizes, or we fail to achieve a goal, we conclude ourselves a failure. We did it; not the other
I respect you so much. I remember your post about how to seem more confident like body language etc. But we are all human and it makes me love you even more to hear how much you’ve grown with this post. Congrats girl! You rock. Thank you
I watch all your video's for two reasons. 1) For the awesome content you provide. 2) My girlfriend looks similar to you... 😊 Thank you and appreciate all tour efforts..
This is great! It helps to not push those parts of us away that bring shame or felt unwanted or unloved but embracing them and giving love to those parts of ourselves. Those parts of us just want to be loved, validated, and accepted.🩷
When we accept a situation regardless the outcome and detach ourselves from the results, this is where we find peace and freedom from anxiety. To commit an action is in our hands but not the results and this is what we have to be always aware of. Expectations are the root cause of all misery.
Exactly the same thing is written on the 'Bhagvat Gita', that is also approx 2500 years ago
Amazingly well put
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Bhagavad Gita was given to mankind at the end of Dwapar Yug. Since then 5000 years have passed.
Always feel thankful for your sharing about your vulnerable side...make me feel confident in my insecurities..u make me feel that m not alone. Very valuable content ❤
wow very raw and vulnerable
Wow you explain this so perfectly!!! You’re so talented and creative Thank you so much for this great video!!!
I enjoyed this video , it looked like a conversation with hear , like taking a coffe together, the most useful and valuable video on RUclips!! Thank you for spreading your knowledge Francesca ❤ so much love 🫶🪐
finally someone said it i was having hard time faking it to be loud , making long eye contact , having many people around you and at the end of the day i felt not good enough then i started accepting as i am being calm, talking slowly , taking things slow and i never felt more happier it just feels me
Never understood the eye contact thing, like a glance here and there yea but I ain’t gunna stare at someone in the eyes while talking to them n what not, but still, don’t know why that’s a thing , as long as you listen to them right ?
Thanks for your great advice 🙏
I find your video very useful. Thanks so much.
Thank you ,i find it a very useful video ❤
I do not know why I am single, I am cute, fit, kind, educated, have a job. 🤔
I love your videos and insight.... ❤ thank you beautiful
Confidence is an illusion, it's about competence, if you're competent about something, you are "confident"
If you're competent and experienced with socializing, you're seen as confident.
This did help.
Thank you.
Hi Francesca, thank you for this video! I liked it. However I have question on a completely different topic. May I ask where are your earrings coming from? They suit you very well. I'm searching for exactly this kind, but didn't find so far. Thank you!
Thank you so much
When i am ugly,short,... How can i love myself?
focus on improving your strengths and also what makes you think that you are ugly this might just be a limiting belief
Its the inner beauty that matters not what is external. No matter what’s the shape and colour of a temple, what matters is inside.. the God.. the Supreme Consciousness
Look at your external as a fuel and physical part of you with what you do best as much as you can. And take care of your inner self your soul your human strings those really matter the most. Tell yourself that you’re strong, healthy, energetic, smart, effortlessly managing life. When you start to respect and care about what God gave you, God will give you more it’s just a matter of time and journey, love 💗
Can you please do a video on removing the sting of thinking about my dudes ex?
Okk
Sorry, but thats a very bad hairdo for you. U are amazing but thats one awful hairstyle
I'm a very confident person and I could actually agree and align ok every point that you said. It's true indeed.
Insecurity is loud, confidence is silent. :)
Im 26 and my mother told my brother last year that of he wouldnt act in a certain way he would be an idiot like me. It was more like a question. She asked my brother : "do you want to be an idiot like your brother?". And I was sitting in the next room hearing that. Also my whole family doesnt really respect me or acknowledge my whole personality. I have a really bad relationship with my father. All things I always got taught from him were like "you are dumb and worth nothing ". So I decided to cut him out of my life so I don't have to hear all this bullshit coming from him. Doesnt matter what I do. If I went back to school to get my high school degree or going to the gym going out with friends he always made me feel like I'm a bum. I'm 26 as I said and I really struggle to get friends and or a relationship with a woman. Also I obsess over every woman who treats me with kindness and respect.
I don't know I will try to get more confident but its hard. It's really really hard.
You are worthy just as you are and as a human.
I hope and pray you get good role models and mum /dad figures in your life.
People who show you unconditional love 💕
I hope you achieve your dreams.
I actually have grandparent figures.
That give me that love I seek too.
Sometimes family can let you down.
Or even be abusive.
I think gratitude is important.
To celebrate positives that you do have.
But I hope someone can come and speak powerful truth over you.
And that you do that too.
But you deserve so much more then that.
I'm praying you find it. Or it finds you.
Shalom. ❤
Im always following your videos and so far this is the vid that made me in tears, i relate myself in everything u have said and somehow I felt that someone's understands me. Thank you so much for this. ❤❤
Even being a man, i've always had problems in accept my appearance. It came since my chilhood.It's a little bit hard for me to search for girls. After a long time i'm trying to change these thoughts. I expect to overcome it.
So beautiful and wholesome! Thank you for this Video, Francesca. True confidence is where peace is. I love the calming and easygoing way you deal with so important topics. Continue with your videos. I subscribed❤
Explain awesome about confidence ✌🏽✌🏽✌🏽
I really love this girl thinking ❤
You actually describe the way of healing that I have just read a good book about one of very powerful techniques. The name of the book as well as the technique is "Feed your deamons". Basically I understood that an inner deamon is basically famined part of ourselves. That guy desperatelly needs to be fed. The book describes a meditation technique that works with visualisations. An example: The feeling of insecurity can be visualised. It might look like some dark smoke kind of thing with a feeling of desperation and emptiness (abandonment). Just an example. It can be anything. In the meditation you just personalise that thing and There you see the deamon. It might be a shadowy dark figure of a drug adicted homeless kid (again just an example). And you start a conversation with the deamon. You give him 3 questions 1. What is it that you want from me? 2. What is it that you truly desire? 3. How will you feel if you get what you desire? Then you become the deamon and answer the questions. You might give answers (again, just an example): 1. I want your suffering because I hate you. 2. In fact I just need you to accept me and love me! 3. I will stop feeling so lonely and rejected. I will feel loved! In such scenario you visualise your body turning into something that represents what the deamon truly desires for. In this particular case its love and acceptance. And you let him feed on it. In this point you might experience intensive emotions as you are feeding part of yourself that was famined for years. The deamon should change its appearence into something more cheerful, handsome and alive! In this new being you are finding your ally. Yiu give 3 questions to this new being: 1. Are you my ally? 2. How are you going to help me? 3. I don remember anymore. Anyway, get yourself the book "feed your deamons" and let it roll! I nail my ass on it that this is a powerful stuff!
I had the worst day of my life day before yesterday. Im studying physical ed and my sport is basketball. But that day i was sick but i still decided to attend basketball class and i couldn't score any goals during the practice in class while everyone watched me. I felt like smthg was wrong with me and i felt so ashamed of myself. Everyone looked at me like i was stupid and guy i loved came and told me - u said u knew basketball, but it seems u were lying!😭 i felt horrible i was almost on the verge of tears.
Thank you for sharing such a beautiful message! 🙏💙
Francesca can you recommend a book or a course to improve communication skills, become a better storyteller. Thank you
I'm glad someone finally talked about Maddie. It troubled and confused me whenever someone brought up Maddie as the perfect example (the paragon) of confidence. And then I asked myself, so is that all? Confidence is fakeness, immaturity, arrogance and shallowness? I was utterly disappointed. (I've heard that incompetence-a lack of experience in people leads to confidence and I thought perhaps it might be true....)
So thank you! This soothes my soul.
Fantastic
I need this information madam
Thank you so much for your support
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I really like what you said in this video. I agree, confidence comes from within. Self-acceptance and love is very important.
question: as a people pleaser, how do u find yourself? for example, when i try to think of what my real sense of style is, or what kind of music i truly like and dislike, i come up blank. i'm so used to being flexible and adapting to trends and others' opinions that i truly feel like i can enjoy lots of different things without having strong opinions about anything. in other words, i can be convinced of anything by anyone since i don't feel strongly about things at all. i never know if what i'm wearing is actually something i like or something others would approve of. i really GENUINELY cant tell. pls help.
Maybe in your other videos , you could say I love you too ? :p *puppy face *
When i first got to college...i tried to fake myself,change my personality and be like who I'm not really supposed to be.
After a while....my real personality came biting up my a** . Like really,really hard. Through that experience i was able to adopt something very useful in life. And I'm always happy for that. But i came to love my real personality. It's peaceful. Later on i realised that so many people,my friends are always doing things to either please people,or just doing them so other will realize they're also around. I realised they were struggling so much. When i be myself...i found it very peaceful and I've come to love it. That's why I love Francesco,she teaches so real stuff. Frances...can i get your handles please???
This is like a full therapist session. And its the best advice I have heard. Thanks so much 🤗
Be a little nicer to yourself, it makes it much easier to try again and stay positive.
Francesca could u make a video on how to deal with physical bullying, when a guy stronger than u tries to get u to do things...
Oh, that must be so scary for you! Praying you can separate yourself or protect yourself from this person!
“My flesh and my heart faileth: But God is the strength of my heart, and my portion for ever.”
Psalm 73:26 kjv
If I could master all these childhood trauma, I would be a new person. Maybe your video helps me to a new birth
This is the worth 20min of my entire life..
Not feeling good enough isn't a bug, it's a feature. I've heard the stories about these "securely attached people", but I'm still searching. (You're doing great.)
Oh, and "You gotta lose to know how to win." ~Aerosmith, Dream On
5:43 Nice, this overlaps what I learned early on: “Nobody will say or do anything that is not out of the direct reflection of themselves.”
Glad it appears again.
You're becoming a more grammatical English speaker - keep it up.
Thank you ❤
Confidence comes frm inteligence
I love you and your concepts ❤
Hey Fransesca I was journalling and thought of the factors that enables confidence,
My mind was messed up so I closed it and thought of , i should get to know about ways that would build confidence and here's yours !!!
I learn Lot From Your Wisdom , continue sharing it
Sending Lot's Of Love To You 💗
I really appreciate that you made this video.
Great vid. I think the key is in the "wrong conclusions we draw, and carry forward with us". External people and events happen. When we are young we are taught to ask permission, say please and thank you, etc. great stuff, however I think we fail that lesson, in concluding that it means all things such as worth and permissibility, only come from objective externals. In all those cases, we always held the control and drew a conclusion and lived by it; not seeing our own role right there. We too often conclude and carry forward, powerlessness, unacceptability, lack of worth and so on. Believing it comes from outside, someone criticizes, or we fail to achieve a goal, we conclude ourselves a failure. We did it; not the other
Hii hello can I?😊
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wonderful🙂
Keep it up
I respect you so much. I remember your post about how to seem more confident like body language etc. But we are all human and it makes me love you even more to hear how much you’ve grown with this post. Congrats girl! You rock. Thank you
Same thoughts. She's awesome.
I watch all your video's for two reasons.
1) For the awesome content you provide.
2) My girlfriend looks similar to you... 😊
Thank you and appreciate all tour efforts..
That's why I blame parents for dysfunctional upbringing.
confident = be ur self, be enjoy and proud about urself
Nonsense
Do you mean it, or are you one of those people who realized being contradicted a lot breeds confidence? ^^
Very interesing topic, which reminded me of my own stories of my childood which influences how I embrase new people ( actually I don't).
unusual for you to ramble and not really make a point that links to your title...
Have a purpose in life and grow everyday individually with learning.
Absolutely nothing to disagree with here .
Very insightful and relatable - thank you
this makes sense , it's a great video, thank you .
Inner child work 🥳❤
Wonderful video. Love you too!
This one comfort me
Fa l'uomo, Just be a man
A big help as usual.
T h ale de ng ing
Thanks
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The Badness of other people like your own parents is what the christians call the long-term aftereffects of Sin over generations
I have watched most of your videos. But why are you looking wierd in this one what did you do to your hairs ???
What a great comment on a post about confidence :/
She looks Amazing!
beautiful❤🩹
This is great! It helps to not push those parts of us away that bring shame or felt unwanted or unloved but embracing them and giving love to those parts of ourselves. Those parts of us just want to be loved, validated, and accepted.🩷
I really needed this video thank you for the reminder 🤍✨💕💕💕💕💕💕