• Create polarity between feminine and masculine energy • Switch from a dopamine system to a serotonin oxytocin system • Practice gratefulness for what you have • Take action towards the person you're obsessed with • Kill the hope that something will happen between you two • See the person for who they truly are • Write down what you're obsessed about • Build your life in a way that integrates the qualities you appreciate in the person you're obsessed with • Make your life more interesting by saying yes to opportunities, going to courses, and attending camps
My obsession stems from a lack of attention and insecurity. When I get attention from someone, I want them to be obsessed with me. When they pull back, I wonder why and I push forward. I am able to speak with virtually anyone but I am unable to create meaningful relationships. I love the distractions, not the person. If you time, I would love to have a conversation about this. I need to break this. My purpose and life is worth too much.
Hey, I was once in a similar situation, and what helped me was getting a new hobby that I used to want to have as a kid for a while, and generally working on myself so I'll learn to both love who I was when I started this process, and to work on myself so I'll be more like the person I want to be. I don't know if it will help you, but I think it could... good luck💕 and sorry if my English is bad.
You're on point. I was obsessed with someone for almost 2 years. And slowly I realized, I was obsessed with their life and what they do. I ended up getting all the skills listed on their LinkedIn profile and got the same job and have almost the same lifestyle now :D And I am no longer obsessed with them.
You put out new information your channel is really helpful, I am a sufferer of obsession maybe partly it begins with my introvert and imaginative nature, but now living in a poor situation with 3 children. I’m finding myself falling for many people and over thinking and over fantasising them but you said in another video was escapism. I am trying to escape but since you have hit that nail on its head now I don’t want to escape through love obsession now I want to work on my financial situation to get out of love obsession. You are very intelligent because you have a way of putting it into words that’s helping me to breakaway from this pattern it’s a very very unhealthy pattern for me. Lately I fell for a guy I made music with turns out he had a wife and she phoned me. Sadly I’m Not over him because our music was so good but I don’t think it will ever work out good because I was at one point obsessed with him. I need to make friends ina. Group but as an introvert that’s hard for me.
I think they are retarded, I'm not shy, I have gone out and met people, but I know people seem to have an OCD issue with me, they must be retarded. And these are people I knew for year's.
I think Teal Swan among others has a video about this, it "Intermittent Reinforcement". I'm so sorry that is happening to you, it is hell and I wish you kind healing.
@@mostlyysorryy you need to forgive yourself. You were toxic cause of some patterns probably and it happens. Regret isn't a very helpful quality to be honest. He seems like he's not able to forgive you completely and wants to show you he's doing good. That's my 2 cents. Take it or leave it. Would like to talk if you want to talk further.
@esoterrorist stop waiting. This is unhealthy. Move on. Find better. Be better. Find self love. You will be love. And attract love into your life. Keep practicing self love until you get there please let's break this generational curse. Be an empowered women. We are here to be the change.
now i don't know if this channel is targeted towards men or women but as a guy i took more away from this video than many others. the obsession being with what the person has or represents instead of the person themself is not something i have heard before and honestly a great help for the suffocating obsessions i often find myself faced with. it's a real thing and the fact it's something universal makes it that much more realistic to handle
I am someone with ADHD, I still have this problem of being obsessed with someone irrespective of their interests in me. This video is so useful, Thanks for sharing Francesca
Hey, in which terms does your ADHD influence why you obsess over someone? I also have ADHD and recently realized that I always get into unhealthy obsessions with the person Im interested in. I wondered how ADHD might influence that behaviour?
@@Risingnewman Yeah sure, you're absolutely right. I was just wondering how your experiences were. But I do understand that its quite private information to share here on YT. Nevertheless, thank you for replying :)
Dear UC, do you think ADHD can also associates with being obsessed with someone?? I have ADHD, I didn't know it's relates. CN you share your point of view?
@@xw6475 Yes, this works differently for different people. It is known that people who have Adhd are known to be obsessed with people as our brain needs constant Dopamine all the time. As a known fact we do have rejection sensitivity.
My problem is that I’m obsessed with my girlfriend. And she loves me a lot too, but I feel like I’m obsessed w her. I try to hide it as much as possible. Not sure she even knows how strong I feel for her. But she is in my head 24/7. I love her sooo much that it kinda feels more like an obsession. Although what I like that you shared is changing from dopamine to serotonin. I’m going to practice gratitude
How is she even called your girlfriend in the 1st place. So unless you have to mean she is your ex girlfriend. If she is already your girlfriend, you have no need to get over her. Why do you need to hide your feelings if you are already in relationship with her? So if you really need to hide your feelings, it start by not lying to yourself. You got to admit that she is not your girlfriend. If she is really your girlfriend, you will have permission to be all over her long time ago. If you 2 love each other, then there is no need to hide your feelings. Just like if people were to love each other and get married, there is no such thing as hiding feelings. You only hide your feelings if she is out of your league and no chance for you to be in a relationship with her.
@@hp2546 Op was talking about how they r both in love and obsessed with their partner. And that they need to hide and possibly get rid of this obsessive feeling towards their gf. I've also felt the same way when I was dating. I would show a lot of love and affection to my partner but I would hide my obsession that I had with them. I had this obsession even after we broke up. So basically what I'm trying to say is, u can feel obsessed with someone even if ur still dating them.
Oscar, I know EXACTLY what u mean and I hope that u can get rid of those obsessive feelings at the earliest and I also hope that u and ur gf will hv a lasting and happy relationship❤. I wish I had found Francesca back when I was dating, then I wouldn't have to deal with so much pain😭
@@hp2546 I never said I wanted or needed to get over her. I just haven't experienced such strong feelings before in any previous relationship. And I started to think this might not be healthy for the future of my relationship. So I'm trying to understand the obsession, and I want to change it so my relationship is healthy and balanced And the reason I hide my feelings is because I know they're too strong. If had a girlfriend and she told me she would think about me all day and admitted she was obsessed with me, I would probably look at her a bit different. I don't want to risk losing the best thing in my life right now. So I'm trying to work on myself by understanding where obsession comes from, and how to get rid of it.
You’ll never get the person you want when you are obsessed with them. Because of the law of detachment. You’ll push and they’ll pull away. Your best bet is to detach from the outcome which is hard because you’ve placed this person on a pedestal and are in love with an idol[your imagination-your idea of them) if you act like a fan then they’ll treat you like a fan. Best bet is to read the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. Master meditation. Focus on loving yourself by doing the things you are imaging with that person - by yourself. If you have sex with him while your obsessed he’ll just pull away.
I'm underconfident and I'm always conscious about what others are goona think about me. I always want to look perfect infront of others so I'm attracted to guys who are confident and doesn't care what others are gonna think about him
Tell us about attachment theory and how the way we interact with our parents as a baby/child impacts the way we interact with others for the rest of our lives.
what if you feel really deep love towards someone you're obsessing? you're aware of every flaws, you don't romantize and idolize them, but the more you get to know them the more you want them
Basically alone/idle time with no action taken on person will create obsession, either get busy or take action on person you are obsession, so you come out of obsession... None of the married people say I'm obsessed with my spouse.why ?
"you" is "me" & "me" is "you" . And this fucking video was not even a bit long . I related to every single word you said in this damn useful video after wandering for some help on spotify , youtube , pinterest etc. And it is actually heaps better than my expectation. Now its the first video of yours that i watched and i don't fucking know how am i gonna live without you . Thank you girlllll😭we love you so much aaaaa❤️❤️❤️ i don't even know if ur gonna read my comment ☺
when a man leaves abruptly it’s because he had someone else all along. men always work with a safety net to fall back on always. Just try to think about your sister, whether she knows about you or not. Try to think about each other’s pain. Take a deep look at the dirt bag and say to yourself for this we’re destroying ourselves. Same principles apply for the gentleman with the liar cheater, secret keeper‘s, your woman. And know that a cheater will always be a cheater, because they never destroyed the path that they built that took them to betray you. That path, until it is undone and made on hospitable it will always be a path of preparation meets opportunity and opportunity always comes
I agree with these sharp and well-earned insights, Francesca, with one qualification: they apply in cases where the "obsessed object" is not the one for you, but is rather a "lightning rod" for all the emotions you describe, and so can be a means for you to try to incorporate the other's good qualities for your own personal growth. Also, I don't think that you will necessarily be disillusioned with the admired person the closer you get; in fact, I often am charmed by the flaws of the other; their humanity. But you are certainly spot on: the pedestal effect is not healthy and has to be torn down! :)
I don't know if it's the same in my case cuz the obsession I get is more like seeing a female stranger on the streets or wherever that I find attractive and sorta of obsess over her looks or over some character on TV shows like for example Hannah McKay from dexter.
Feels like I'm talking to my best friend. Thanks for making sense of everything. Your voice sounds so pleasant I was listening to this video while eating lunch and glancing at your angelic face from time to time. Thanks for contributing to my healing and I hope to see you soar in your field. I'm a fan and will always watch your videos from now on
and there's me ... obsessed with myself... and that's because I give myself the attention my mind needs...work on your needs and fulfill them by yourself, not to any other person... that's what happens when you give control of your mind to someone else and that kinda fuks your mental health if the other person doesn't care about you...
Ty...I think this surprisingly helped me a lot.. especially the part where you said you were obsessing over someone and realized you maybe wanted the life they had / wished your life was more like theirs... That just made a lot of sense for me. ❤️ Now I have a new angle at my attack on getting over things ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Good stuff! You are actually talking about limerence obsession that is similar to infatuation but not quiet the same. Even without knowing it you did gave a very good advise correctly which is funny and interesting though.
Thank you for the video! I never considered the perspective of obsessing over someone due to them possessing qualities that you desire in yourself but it makes a lot of sense looking back. Looking forward to future videos!
I don't know why but I kinda find myself looking out to this particular guy who doesn't give me any attention and is somewhat cold at time and than starts being friendly other times I won't call that obsession but I kinda like him and I want to stop doing that cause I can understand this is toxic and bad and shouldn't Down myself like that what should I do?
Ma'am, could you answer the following question? Do you think it is a sinful act to think about someone who is no longer in your life and has moved on to someone else? And I must add here that you are not thinking of contacting/ stalking them rather you are thinking of their well-being and their mental health. I mean is it okay to do that?
this was such a good video - i watched all of it and took notes. You have such a great mind for this stuff. I love how you break things down and are so analytical.
Hi this video is a life saver. I’m glad I watched this video. I know in this video you are talking about relationships (even though it can apply to anyone) but I wondering if you can also talk about idolizing celebrities. I tend to look up to celebrities and just see them as pitch perfect like they can do no wrong and kind of obsessed over them (I’m not sure 😅) because maybe I need to talk to someone about it. But yea thank you for the video and keep up the good work
I love this you are absolutely stunning beautiful and smart. I'm obsessive so obsessive I kept thinking it's me only me. You helped me so much thank you.
Thankyou very much this video has made things way simple for me ..will definitely try everything you mentioned ❤️ literally watched this video thrice..Thanks alot
I still love my ex-wife. That will never change. It's been 15 years and I recently saw a picture of her, (she sent it to me) and she is still the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. It's a real shame that her personality shifts so bad. I thought we were going to start contact again because she called me. But she went cold and ghosted me. I'm no longer working, so I feel this is the best. She likes lavish vacations and dinners. I buy my food at Walmart and cook. Anyway, great video! Thank you for sharing.
I am so glad I discovered your video! What really hit me was the part you mentioned what made me obsessed with this person. I realized I wanted to be like him because of his lifestyle and that he's in a relationship, which those are the things I was looking for. It's like a lightbulb lit up!
I do this with fast food. I romanticize my food addictions. So I allow myself to immerse myself into a meal of fries-cheeseburger-milkshake. I honestly take a few bites and toss the rest. Same with Halloween Candy and Christmas Candy. This takes away the obsession. Make your life a romance. Stop romanticizing dramatic people and fast food.
What if the reason of obsession is not material but purely Emotional and connection based? Like how deeply and spiritually uplifted I felt when I first met this person? Instant connection.
Very nice advice actually! You are really courageous! Good! You are one of the rare women (at least in the West) who gives good, honest, conscious and dare I say "deep" advice. I'm very happy about women like you! :)
Hey Francesca , I love your content and I find it very engaging when it comes to understanding people and certain things about myself. However , would it be an unreasonable request for me to ask you to create a video about envy and jealousy and how it can negatively influence people's perceptions ..?
I’ve read a lot of comments and realized a lot of people have or had problem with obsession. But here is my tip; U only get obsessed about someone when u have to much time on ur hand, so be busy… u’ll find yourself in a limitless situation, and u’ll forget them
Hi! I'm from Romania and I want to tell you that your advice helped me a lot, thank you for explaining in a way that everyone can understand how this obsession works and how you can get rid of it. I appreciate the fact that you also give us valuable information and keep it up, you're doing great!!! ❤❤❤
Im not sure but i think someone is playing cruel games with me. Atleast it feels that way 1 im extremely confused 2 or they are an evil master minipulator. Need you take. Can i message you.
I have only one issue I can’t understand. The same person, could have two different behavior, one when he/she is interested and the other when she/he is not. How can I know the true being of a person if she /he is not interested in me in the first place? I could continuing convincing myself that this person is narcissistic, or selfish, or rude, but what if she is simply not interested in me? I struggle with the idea that I would never know the personality of that person because she is not interested. And for this reason I have difficulties tagging her as narcissistic, rude and so on. How can you spot red flags if the person is not even interested in you and you don’t have access to the “relationship” behaviors?
4:22 I wish ugh!😭 I had a crush on a guy friend from an online game for a whole month and the moment I decided to shoot my shot I found out that his account had just gotten banned. It’s been a few days and I literally cannot stop thinking about him😬
I am obsessed with my friend but seddenly she is talking to new person and she start ignoring me and dont replying me on massager and whats app. She know i have a deep feeling for her😭😭😭
Thanks i needed this. Especially to surpress my grudge (which proportional to my "once" love) towards someone which strong enough to "metamorphosis" me entirely. Its been 4 years since that moment and my grudge is still blazing wildly even when she approached me countless time.
Ps. I slept 2 hours a day coz not only i work 13 hours on oil and gas company, i also own several company which worth millions dollar each. Where no one wouldnt have time to think about small thing, let alone someone unimportant from the pasts, but also i lack of sleep so u wouldnt considerate me bearing grudge because i need to "get a life". Im tired of that shit coz even when i do, i stil possess the grudge
I got rejected by her twice (the second time being a hard no) and for some reason I still got the hope as if I stil can get with her. Sometimes I hate my confidence or rather delusion
ok ive just watched this video but i think (hope) its going to be life-changing for me.. i get obsessed with people while hardly knowing them if at all. and i think its just because i want to be them!! so i need to work on giving myself the life and things that i desire!
• Create polarity between feminine and masculine energy
• Switch from a dopamine system to a serotonin oxytocin system
• Practice gratefulness for what you have
• Take action towards the person you're obsessed with
• Kill the hope that something will happen between you two
• See the person for who they truly are
• Write down what you're obsessed about
• Build your life in a way that integrates the qualities you appreciate in the person you're obsessed with
• Make your life more interesting by saying yes to opportunities, going to courses, and attending camps
Thank you 🙏 I’m
How do we create polarity between feminine and masculine energy?
My obsession stems from a lack of attention and insecurity. When I get attention from someone, I want them to be obsessed with me. When they pull back, I wonder why and I push forward. I am able to speak with virtually anyone but I am unable to create meaningful relationships.
I love the distractions, not the person.
If you time, I would love to have a conversation about this. I need to break this. My purpose and life is worth too much.
Hey, I was once in a similar situation, and what helped me was getting a new hobby that I used to want to have as a kid for a while, and generally working on myself so I'll learn to both love who I was when I started this process, and to work on myself so I'll be more like the person I want to be. I don't know if it will help you, but I think it could... good luck💕 and sorry if my English is bad.
I am exactly the same
Its harmful for you. You'll loose your value soon if you make attention your sole goal.
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I'm going through the same and want to break this
Hands down one of the best videos on psych/obsession I’ve ever seen. You kept my attention the entire time. And you are incredibly charismatic ❤
Very useful information indeed♡
#SaveSoil
You're on point. I was obsessed with someone for almost 2 years. And slowly I realized, I was obsessed with their life and what they do. I ended up getting all the skills listed on their LinkedIn profile and got the same job and have almost the same lifestyle now :D And I am no longer obsessed with them.
You put out new information your channel is really helpful, I am a sufferer of obsession maybe partly it begins with my introvert and imaginative nature, but now living in a poor situation with 3 children. I’m finding myself falling for many people and over thinking and over fantasising them but you said in another video was escapism. I am trying to escape but since you have hit that nail on its head now I don’t want to escape through love obsession now I want to work on my financial situation to get out of love obsession.
You are very intelligent because you have a way of putting it into words that’s helping me to breakaway from this pattern it’s a very very unhealthy pattern for me. Lately I fell for a guy I made music with turns out he had a wife and she phoned me. Sadly I’m
Not over him because our music was so good but I don’t think it will ever work out good because I was at one point obsessed with him. I need to make friends ina. Group but as an introvert that’s hard for me.
Why would a girl be obsessed about avoidant shy guy but he gives signals from time to time that he is interested 🤔
ur on the dopamine system . just like in gambling ur inconsistently get the hits & keep sticking around for another one
I think they are retarded, I'm not shy, I have gone out and met people, but I know people seem to have an OCD issue with me, they must be retarded. And these are people I knew for year's.
I think Teal Swan among others has a video about this, it "Intermittent Reinforcement". I'm so sorry that is happening to you, it is hell and I wish you kind healing.
@@mostlyysorryy you need to forgive yourself. You were toxic cause of some patterns probably and it happens. Regret isn't a very helpful quality to be honest. He seems like he's not able to forgive you completely and wants to show you he's doing good. That's my 2 cents. Take it or leave it. Would like to talk if you want to talk further.
@esoterrorist stop waiting. This is unhealthy. Move on. Find better. Be better. Find self love. You will be love. And attract love into your life. Keep practicing self love until you get there please let's break this generational curse. Be an empowered women. We are here to be the change.
Seeing her talking about her experience sounds so much like my own struggles and experiences. Thanks for sharing your story.
now i don't know if this channel is targeted towards men or women but as a guy i took more away from this video than many others. the obsession being with what the person has or represents instead of the person themself is not something i have heard before and honestly a great help for the suffocating obsessions i often find myself faced with. it's a real thing and the fact it's something universal makes it that much more realistic to handle
I am someone with ADHD, I still have this problem of being obsessed with someone irrespective of their interests in me. This video is so useful, Thanks for sharing Francesca
Hey, in which terms does your ADHD influence why you obsess over someone?
I also have ADHD and recently realized that I always get into unhealthy obsessions with the person Im interested in. I wondered how ADHD might influence that behaviour?
@@diane2520 The best person who can answer this is a Therapist. Because ADHD affects people differently.
@@Risingnewman Yeah sure, you're absolutely right. I was just wondering how your experiences were. But I do understand that its quite private information to share here on YT. Nevertheless, thank you for replying :)
Dear UC, do you think ADHD can also associates with being obsessed with someone?? I have ADHD, I didn't know it's relates. CN you share your point of view?
@@xw6475 Yes, this works differently for different people. It is known that people who have Adhd are known to be obsessed with people as our brain needs constant Dopamine all the time. As a known fact we do have rejection sensitivity.
The most useful part if this video for me, when she was sharing her obsession experience. I feel so much appreciation for this, that I'm not alone😘💖💖💖
My problem is that I’m obsessed with my girlfriend. And she loves me a lot too, but I feel like I’m obsessed w her. I try to hide it as much as possible. Not sure she even knows how strong I feel for her. But she is in my head 24/7. I love her sooo much that it kinda feels more like an obsession.
Although what I like that you shared is changing from dopamine to serotonin. I’m going to practice gratitude
How is she even called your girlfriend in the 1st place. So unless you have to mean she is your ex girlfriend. If she is already your girlfriend, you have no need to get over her. Why do you need to hide your feelings if you are already in relationship with her? So if you really need to hide your feelings, it start by not lying to yourself. You got to admit that she is not your girlfriend. If she is really your girlfriend, you will have permission to be all over her long time ago. If you 2 love each other, then there is no need to hide your feelings. Just like if people were to love each other and get married, there is no such thing as hiding feelings. You only hide your feelings if she is out of your league and no chance for you to be in a relationship with her.
@@hp2546 Op was talking about how they r both in love and obsessed with their partner. And that they need to hide and possibly get rid of this obsessive feeling towards their gf. I've also felt the same way when I was dating. I would show a lot of love and affection to my partner but I would hide my obsession that I had with them. I had this obsession even after we broke up. So basically what I'm trying to say is, u can feel obsessed with someone even if ur still dating them.
Oscar, I know EXACTLY what u mean and I hope that u can get rid of those obsessive feelings at the earliest and I also hope that u and ur gf will hv a lasting and happy relationship❤. I wish I had found Francesca back when I was dating, then I wouldn't have to deal with so much pain😭
Love ur pfp btw
@@hp2546 I never said I wanted or needed to get over her. I just haven't experienced such strong feelings before in any previous relationship. And I started to think this might not be healthy for the future of my relationship. So I'm trying to understand the obsession, and I want to change it so my relationship is healthy and balanced
And the reason I hide my feelings is because I know they're too strong. If had a girlfriend and she told me she would think about me all day and admitted she was obsessed with me, I would probably look at her a bit different. I don't want to risk losing the best thing in my life right now. So I'm trying to work on myself by understanding where obsession comes from, and how to get rid of it.
My dear Francesca, I so needed this message at this moment. You cannot even imagine. Thank you so much xx
You’ll never get the person you want when you are obsessed with them. Because of the law of detachment. You’ll push and they’ll pull away. Your best bet is to detach from the outcome which is hard because you’ve placed this person on a pedestal and are in love with an idol[your imagination-your idea of them) if you act like a fan then they’ll treat you like a fan. Best bet is to read the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, The Untethered Soul by Michael Singer. Master meditation. Focus on loving yourself by doing the things you are imaging with that person - by yourself. If you have sex with him while your obsessed he’ll just pull away.
I absolutely love your videos. Informative . Well presented and of course beautiful. Thank you very much
I'm underconfident and I'm always conscious about what others are goona think about me. I always want to look perfect infront of others so I'm attracted to guys who are confident and doesn't care what others are gonna think about him
I am forever thankful to you you have helped a lot
Tell us about attachment theory and how the way we interact with our parents as a baby/child impacts the way we interact with others for the rest of our lives.
This! I have just become aware of my attachment issue and see it clearly stemming from childhood.
what if you feel really deep love towards someone you're obsessing? you're aware of every flaws, you don't romantize and idolize them, but the more you get to know them the more you want them
Basically alone/idle time with no action taken on person will create obsession, either get busy or take action on person you are obsession, so you come out of obsession...
None of the married people say I'm obsessed with my spouse.why ?
Why am I obessing over you francesca ?
"you" is "me" & "me" is "you" . And this fucking video was not even a bit long . I related to every single word you said in this damn useful video after wandering for some help on spotify , youtube , pinterest etc. And it is actually heaps better than my expectation. Now its the first video of yours that i watched and i don't fucking know how am i gonna live without you . Thank you girlllll😭we love you so much aaaaa❤️❤️❤️ i don't even know if ur gonna read my comment ☺
when a man leaves abruptly it’s because he had someone else all along. men always work with a safety net to fall back on always. Just try to think about your sister, whether she knows about you or not. Try to think about each other’s pain. Take a deep look at the dirt bag and say to yourself for this we’re destroying ourselves. Same principles apply for the gentleman with the liar cheater, secret keeper‘s, your woman. And know that a cheater will always be a cheater, because they never destroyed the path that they built that took them to betray you. That path, until it is undone and made on hospitable it will always be a path of preparation meets opportunity and opportunity always comes
i came here to stop my obsession now i m obsessed with u🤦♀🤦♀
You've brought so much clarity to my life in this video! Thank you so much!
I agree with these sharp and well-earned insights, Francesca, with one qualification: they apply in cases where the "obsessed object" is not the one for you, but is rather a "lightning rod" for all the emotions you describe, and so can be a means for you to try to incorporate the other's good qualities for your own personal growth. Also, I don't think that you will necessarily be disillusioned with the admired person the closer you get; in fact, I often am charmed by the flaws of the other; their humanity. But you are certainly spot on: the pedestal effect is not healthy and
has to be torn down! :)
I can’t place your accent?
I don't know if it's the same in my case cuz the obsession I get is more like seeing a female stranger on the streets or wherever that I find attractive and sorta of obsess over her looks or over some character on TV shows like for example Hannah McKay from dexter.
Feels like I'm talking to my best friend. Thanks for making sense of everything. Your voice sounds so pleasant I was listening to this video while eating lunch and glancing at your angelic face from time to time. Thanks for contributing to my healing and I hope to see you soar in your field. I'm a fan and will always watch your videos from now on
and there's me ... obsessed with myself... and that's because I give myself the attention my mind needs...work on your needs and fulfill them by yourself, not to any other person... that's what happens when you give control of your mind to someone else and that kinda fuks your mental health if the other person doesn't care about you...
Thank you, Franceska, your bits of advice are very practicable, completely agree with your thinking.
That was the advice that I needed Francesca " Kill the hope" well said!!
Ty...I think this surprisingly helped me a lot.. especially the part where you said you were obsessing over someone and realized you maybe wanted the life they had / wished your life was more like theirs... That just made a lot of sense for me. ❤️ Now I have a new angle at my attack on getting over things ❤️❤️❤️❤️
She's AMAZING
I am obsessed with you and I don't want to stop ❤️
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Good stuff! You are actually talking about limerence obsession that is similar to infatuation but not quiet the same. Even without knowing it you did gave a very good advise correctly which is funny and interesting though.
Thank you for the video!
I never considered the perspective of obsessing over someone due to them possessing qualities that you desire in yourself but it makes a lot of sense looking back.
Looking forward to future videos!
I don't know why but I kinda find myself looking out to this particular guy who doesn't give me any attention and is somewhat cold at time and than starts being friendly other times I won't call that obsession but I kinda like him and I want to stop doing that cause I can understand this is toxic and bad and shouldn't Down myself like that what should I do?
Thanks for really being there and evoking the consciousness of why being obsessed with someone; you are really confident and i like your high vibes😊💖
Ma'am, could you answer the following question?
Do you think it is a sinful act to think about someone who is no longer in your life and has moved on to someone else? And I must add here that you are not thinking of contacting/ stalking them rather you are thinking of their well-being and their mental health. I mean is it okay to do that?
Very good analyse and understanding of how we behave as a human being. Really liked…
11:53 you didn't have to expose me like that!!!
Francesca i lovee all your videos you're an amazing content creator. Could you pls pls make a video on how to move on from someone after breakup ilyyy
Now I want to be like you because your so eloquent and beautiful😘😘😘
this was such a good video - i watched all of it and took notes. You have such a great mind for this stuff. I love how you break things down and are so analytical.
Your videos are just too much for me. I mean they are better than any psychologist has ever explained in such a short time ))
6:01 I actually have done this to find out instead of avoiding the situation))
I obsess over francesca now what
Everything just resonated as if you're talking to me directly. Notes taken, thanks and keep up the good work
Hi this video is a life saver. I’m glad I watched this video. I know in this video you are talking about relationships (even though it can apply to anyone) but I wondering if you can also talk about idolizing celebrities. I tend to look up to celebrities and just see them as pitch perfect like they can do no wrong and kind of obsessed over them (I’m not sure 😅) because maybe I need to talk to someone about it. But yea thank you for the video and keep up the good work
This has been by far my favorite video of yours.
Thank you so much! It was really helpful!!
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p. s.You're so pretttyyyy ommmggaaa!!!
I have ADHD and therefore am chronically dopamine-deprived, this is really hard for me
Listen to Dr. Andrew Hubermann's podcast on Dopamine.
The way you decode and express ❤️
I love this you are absolutely stunning beautiful and smart. I'm obsessive so obsessive I kept thinking it's me only me. You helped me so much thank you.
Thankyou very much this video has made things way simple for me ..will definitely try everything you mentioned ❤️ literally watched this video thrice..Thanks alot
Well, this completely makes sense. Something I’ve been struggling with for two years. You’ve cleared it up for me in 17 minutes.❤
I still love my ex-wife. That will never change. It's been 15 years and I recently saw a picture of her, (she sent it to me) and she is still the most beautiful woman I have ever seen. It's a real shame that her personality shifts so bad. I thought we were going to start contact again because she called me. But she went cold and ghosted me. I'm no longer working, so I feel this is the best. She likes lavish vacations and dinners. I buy my food at Walmart and cook. Anyway, great video! Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for this because this is the best advice I've received so far about moving on :)
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I am so glad I discovered your video! What really hit me was the part you mentioned what made me obsessed with this person. I realized I wanted to be like him because of his lifestyle and that he's in a relationship, which those are the things I was looking for. It's like a lightbulb lit up!
YOU ARE SO NECESSARY!!!!!💛💛💛 thank youu very much
Literally felt like a big sis empowering me! 🥰
Some good advice, thanks! You drop a lot of F bombs, Francesca. No Serial Killer.
I do this with fast food.
I romanticize my food addictions. So I allow myself to immerse myself into a meal of fries-cheeseburger-milkshake.
I honestly take a few bites and toss the rest.
Same with Halloween Candy and Christmas Candy.
This takes away the obsession.
Make your life a romance.
Stop romanticizing dramatic people and fast food.
I so much needed this video today and clarity. Thank you so much.
What if the reason of obsession is not material but purely Emotional and connection based? Like how deeply and spiritually uplifted I felt when I first met this person? Instant connection.
Very nice advice actually! You are really courageous! Good!
You are one of the rare women (at least in the West) who gives good, honest, conscious and dare I say "deep" advice. I'm very happy about women like you! :)
who do you think you are ?
@@munchkinsophie this is actually a very deep question I cannot answer like that on RUclips.
Hey Francesca , I love your content and I find it very engaging when it comes to understanding people and certain things about myself.
However , would it be an unreasonable request for me to ask you to create a video about envy and jealousy and how it can negatively influence people's perceptions ..?
You're in my media, though. I'm certain that you're with a rapper. You can't possibly be obsessing over me. Is HE obsessing over me. Seems gay.
Thank you Francesca ❤ Can you please do a video about how to integrate your own shadow? ✨❤️🙏🏻✨
I think this is your best video Francesca, thank you!
What if I’m obsessing over you, Francesca?
I’ve read a lot of comments and realized a lot of people have or had problem with obsession. But here is my tip;
U only get obsessed about someone when u have to much time on ur hand, so be busy… u’ll find yourself in a limitless situation, and u’ll forget them
Oh boy got to hear this again, man you are a god sent, at the time I need to hear this , time to listen again lol
I would like to ask when is your birthday? You are amazing. I always watch your videos
Hi! I'm from Romania and I want to tell you that your advice helped me a lot, thank you for explaining in a way that everyone can understand how this obsession works and how you can get rid of it.
I appreciate the fact that you also give us valuable information and keep it up, you're doing great!!!
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Im not sure but i think someone is playing cruel games with me. Atleast it feels that way 1 im extremely confused 2 or they are an evil master minipulator. Need you take. Can i message you.
I have only one issue I can’t understand. The same person, could have two different behavior, one when he/she is interested and the other when she/he is not. How can I know the true being of a person if she /he is not interested in me in the first place? I could continuing convincing myself that this person is narcissistic, or selfish, or rude, but what if she is simply not interested in me?
I struggle with the idea that I would never know the personality of that person because she is not interested. And for this reason I have difficulties tagging her as narcissistic, rude and so on.
How can you spot red flags if the person is not even interested in you and you don’t have access to the “relationship” behaviors?
I like your accent
is ADHD people are more prone to obessing over someone?!! because ADHD people have less dopamine..
Your pretty 🥰
What if you see the "flaws" and took action and are still obsessed, even though they are not interested?
" I was no more obsessed coz I got what I wanted "
Girl ur toxic.... Hahaha... But I like it... 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Obsession is a powerful tool
4:22 I wish ugh!😭 I had a crush on a guy friend from an online game for a whole month and the moment I decided to shoot my shot I found out that his account had just gotten banned. It’s been a few days and I literally cannot stop thinking about him😬
I am obsessed with my friend but seddenly she is talking to new person and she start ignoring me and dont replying me on massager and whats app. She know i have a deep feeling for her😭😭😭
If he likes you you’ll know, if you’re unsure, he does not like you.
Im obessed with this girl bcoz evryone wants her. Wat do i do to get her out of my head.
I think it's the 4th....he's got something i wish i can do plus he's so nice and kind and good looking,
Can you talk mor about the healing of the inner child , because it is an inner child issue that has me blocked
I had no obsession or infatuation before watching this video...
Thanks i needed this. Especially to surpress my grudge (which proportional to my "once" love) towards someone which strong enough to "metamorphosis" me entirely. Its been 4 years since that moment and my grudge is still blazing wildly even when she approached me countless time.
Ps. I slept 2 hours a day coz not only i work 13 hours on oil and gas company, i also own several company which worth millions dollar each. Where no one wouldnt have time to think about small thing, let alone someone unimportant from the pasts, but also i lack of sleep so u wouldnt considerate me bearing grudge because i need to "get a life". Im tired of that shit coz even when i do, i stil possess the grudge
I got rejected by her twice (the second time being a hard no) and for some reason I still got the hope as if I stil can get with her. Sometimes I hate my confidence or rather delusion
What if I'm attracted to people who can get me and understand me what that suppose to mean ?
Is it healthy to block this someone on social media just to get over the obsession
Awww❤❤❤ I'm from Romania too and I moved to uk 7 years ago too
Thank you so much for this video. I understand my obsession now ❤
How will we ever find someone to be with? If we just try to be like them?
ok ive just watched this video but i think (hope) its going to be life-changing for me.. i get obsessed with people while hardly knowing them if at all. and i think its just because i want to be them!! so i need to work on giving myself the life and things that i desire!
You have a very beautiful accent!
I agree with you. I was obsessed with this girl even though I'd never wanted to have sex her(let alone relationship). It's weird!
You can try subtitle there for more views and likes
RUclips could've recommended me this video before
Am , was ObsesseD cause he was a bad boy who treats me like sht 🤣🤣🤣💔