Let’s Talk Porn | Maria Ahlin | TEDxGöteborg

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  • Опубликовано: 20 июн 2019
  • We have to talk about porn! We have to talk about what message porn is sending and what it teaches our children! More and more extreme content found in mainstream porn, making people less sensitive to sexual aggression. Despite these alarming facts, porn is still one of our biggest taboos. Today, most children are first exposed to pornography at a worryingly young age, in fact, porn is the number one sex educator among young teenagers. Porn is a drug, but why isn’t it treated as an addiction?
    In addition to being a public speaker, author and educator Maria is also head of youth organization 'Changing attitudes'. As an expert on issues concerning pornography and sex-buying she has given more than 400 public talks. In her research, she has met with more than 500 people in prostitution, as well as thousands of sex-offenders. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

Комментарии • 11 тыс.

  • @kamilsaifi7974
    @kamilsaifi7974 3 года назад +15043

    U Never really know u r addicted until u try to quit...

  • @vircervoteksisto5038
    @vircervoteksisto5038 4 года назад +14866

    "Wanting something without liking it" is the most succinct definition I have ever heard for addiction.

    • @wreathlings
      @wreathlings 4 года назад +53

      Hart Weber Yes! That was very well said!

    • @daranester5449
      @daranester5449 4 года назад +90

      In a lot of cases near the end of peoples addiction they tend to not like the life they're living hence what they are doing but cant stop do to addiction...

    • @brucecaldwell6701
      @brucecaldwell6701 4 года назад +15

      Yep, just to be able to be able to half way function & feel "normal".

    • @owenivins6378
      @owenivins6378 4 года назад +13

      Jacob Alanheimer and also find a woman that doesn’t judge u by looks or money Which is IMPOSSIBLE!

    • @IKeepItHyper
      @IKeepItHyper 4 года назад +8

      literally me with the juul.... hate it so much but can't stop craving it... very confusing feeling

  • @MrTskull99
    @MrTskull99 Год назад +2077

    Jesus how calmly can she talk about a sensitive subject....that's what I call confidence.

    • @carlnestor1476
      @carlnestor1476 Год назад +51

      Atm is not the money machine 😂

    • @nickpenaranda725
      @nickpenaranda725 Год назад +21

      You people over compliment bare minimum, just because it comes from a woman🙄🙄🙄

    • @captainmerc2018
      @captainmerc2018 Год назад +23

      Nah she’s actually a very good speaker her cadence is extremely educated and easy to listen to , especially when it comes to something this sensitive and because it’s a women she deserves more praise because they don’t have the same speaking talents men usually do the aggression and strong tone

    • @krisgopi_8
      @krisgopi_8 Год назад +3

      So no one has balls to stop this p rn
      Very sickening 🤮

    • @carlnestor1476
      @carlnestor1476 Год назад +31

      @@nickpenaranda725 do you know what the odds are of a sentence ending intelligently when starting with “you people”?

  • @jaxbarnettprice
    @jaxbarnettprice Год назад +615

    I know it’s good seeing men talk about this, but seeing a FEMALE talk about this topic makes me even happier. I love it! Because I feel like really no women out there stand up to this and talk about what’s wrong with it. I respect this lady right here!

    • @ivorjones6618
      @ivorjones6618 Год назад +8

      i wonder how much money she makes to talk rubbish

    • @jjkv2686
      @jjkv2686 Год назад +29

      @@ivorjones6618 Some people like you just don't understand.

    • @ivorjones6618
      @ivorjones6618 Год назад +2

      @@jjkv2686 what dont we understand tell me

    • @jjkv2686
      @jjkv2686 Год назад +14

      @@ivorjones6618Even if you don't appreciate her for what she's doing, don't comment nonsense

    • @ivorjones6618
      @ivorjones6618 Год назад +3

      @@jjkv2686 not nonsence you need to get a life and do what you want to do not what the bible says you should do

  • @kingfckncole9340
    @kingfckncole9340 4 года назад +9464

    The people in the crowd all deleting their search histories

    • @dereksmith30
      @dereksmith30 4 года назад +72

      Kingfckn Cole lmao 😂 😂😂😂😂

    • @kunal__pawar
      @kunal__pawar 4 года назад +31

      😂

    • @avigujar2538
      @avigujar2538 4 года назад +39

      Get serious. Grow up bro.

    • @bobyu9785
      @bobyu9785 4 года назад +107

      @@avigujar2538 calm down incel

    • @aliabo6403
      @aliabo6403 4 года назад +10

      🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🎯

  • @PHARAOHLOVECHILD1
    @PHARAOHLOVECHILD1 3 года назад +5869

    “When something is free, that means you’re the product”. Your attention and presence should always be properly compensated. Protect your energy kings.

    • @AnaS-hy6kt
      @AnaS-hy6kt 3 года назад +98

      And Queens

    • @augustrhodes7478
      @augustrhodes7478 3 года назад +17

      Kings? LULZ HAHAHAA!!

    • @BigZac12
      @BigZac12 3 года назад +30

      protect your energy worms

    • @st4ne4rmthevill63
      @st4ne4rmthevill63 3 года назад +30

      This just blew my mind rn. It's so obvious but I've never once thought about it.

    • @GnosticSeeker369
      @GnosticSeeker369 2 года назад +8

      Kings? Energy- kings ??, that hurt my frontal lobe dude, wtf did your last two words relate to?

  • @gargi-thevocalist3634
    @gargi-thevocalist3634 2 года назад +1725

    I'm 14 , and I'm really happy that I'm getting this education much earlier , and I'm learning to control myself 💜

    • @4651adri
      @4651adri 2 года назад +40

      I applaud you for this. Your love and s3x life are going to benefit a lot from this effort!

    • @allanfolsom9474
      @allanfolsom9474 2 года назад +14

      Blessings to you. Stay strong.

    • @znlaft
      @znlaft Год назад +7

      i'am so happy for you

    • @jin6000
      @jin6000 Год назад +4

      Respect!

    • @noah_75856
      @noah_75856 Год назад +5

      Never forget

  • @gabriellafabiyi7399
    @gabriellafabiyi7399 2 года назад +729

    I love her bravery. It is not easy to talk about it infront of an audience even though the audience was silent.

    • @jimmyolsenschannel6263
      @jimmyolsenschannel6263 Год назад +8

      She's Swedish, i.e brought up differently than you seem to be.

    • @gabriellafabiyi7399
      @gabriellafabiyi7399 Год назад +1

      @@jimmyolsenschannel6263 oh...ok

    • @yuppiemobile69
      @yuppiemobile69 Год назад

      She's making money out of it one way or another. Doesn't seem to be honest or more than all negativist...I'm never eating swedish meatballs again!! Rots the brain!!!!!

    • @gabriellafabiyi7399
      @gabriellafabiyi7399 Год назад

      @@yuppiemobile69 bot

    • @marvingproductions
      @marvingproductions Год назад +3

      You know the crowd is very much in tune when they are silent=listen

  • @successzone2024
    @successzone2024 3 года назад +7798

    To anyone who is fighting this addiction, I hope you succeed. Stay strong and never give up the fight!

  • @bvanbanan
    @bvanbanan 3 года назад +7942

    Watching random youtube videos is the same addiction. We don’t realise this problem at all.

    • @nishal0073
      @nishal0073 3 года назад +827

      Reading random comments is another 😵

    • @ethancohen12
      @ethancohen12 3 года назад +414

      We just gotta toss our phones away man

    • @ThatGuyyy1
      @ThatGuyyy1 3 года назад +134

      @@ethancohen12 My friend calls it the misery rectangle

    • @dustinpriest5111
      @dustinpriest5111 3 года назад +65

      How do I quit yt?

    • @flyme2themoon720
      @flyme2themoon720 3 года назад +16

      Your right on that

  • @kingvirgo5624
    @kingvirgo5624 2 года назад +428

    This should be talked about in schools

    • @mwamsonge
      @mwamsonge 2 года назад +14

      We also need to talk about the dangers of marriage too where half of your assets can be seized by the gynocentrism

    • @philipyates3194
      @philipyates3194 2 года назад +43

      No, it should be talked about by parents. Why does everyone think schools should be raising children, their job is to educate them in primarily academic subjects.

    • @alexgrubb1057
      @alexgrubb1057 2 года назад +5

      @@philipyates3194 Absolutely damn right

    • @piermarcosechi8054
      @piermarcosechi8054 Год назад +4

      @@philipyates3194 i agree with you but you cannot make sure every family Is doing a good job or Is teaching these things.
      Having It teached in schools May Be a safer way for many people to have access to this kind of education

    • @robertwilber1909
      @robertwilber1909 Год назад +1

      School is no place to discuss these matters. Home is where this belongs.

  • @anthonygonzalez5953
    @anthonygonzalez5953 Год назад +274

    I've seen funerals with a more cheerful audience...but she did a great job addressing such an uncomfortable issue! Although I feel a little sorry for her, since I'm guessing most crowds she talks to are too awkward by the topic to give a laugh at any of her jokes, kind of like this one

    • @seantill9505
      @seantill9505 Год назад

      unfortunately their faces were that way because most of them probably watch p***

    • @ladyzhenska
      @ladyzhenska Год назад +6

      I have a guess why this happened. I am living myself in Gothenburg for a few years now and have to admit that Scandinavian audience is a bit cold. Not because they don’t enjoy it but that’s a part of mentality 😊 They less expressive.

    • @Xarfax321
      @Xarfax321 Год назад +1

      What is funny here?

    • @arpudli8962
      @arpudli8962 Год назад +1

      Sweedish are good listeners, love göteborg 😊

    • @alex2jz140
      @alex2jz140 7 месяцев назад +1

      To be fair it’s very surface level and boring (porn=bad) Everyone understands and knows all of this already.

  • @vazeerkhan4838
    @vazeerkhan4838 3 года назад +5249

    Me : why is this in my recommendation?
    RUclips : hmm wonder how that happened?
    google search history : I told them everything.

    • @elite_mittens9483
      @elite_mittens9483 3 года назад +76

      That why you delete your history😂

    • @W42P
      @W42P 3 года назад +110

      @@elite_mittens9483 that literally does nothing

    • @twilight8475
      @twilight8475 3 года назад +90

      Your FBI agent is trying to tell u something

    • @tiagosilv248
      @tiagosilv248 3 года назад +7

      Damn ! Lol

    • @pkandrew22
      @pkandrew22 3 года назад +27

      It’s all coming together now

  • @Resanessa
    @Resanessa 3 года назад +2325

    "Chains of habits are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken"

  • @sarah-dq5rl
    @sarah-dq5rl Год назад +65

    this is so eye-opening. I didn't realize how normalized all of this is becoming until she pointed it out

  • @ebenezeronuche9536
    @ebenezeronuche9536 Год назад +206

    This is a very sensitive topic. It takes great courage to be able to carry out this kind of research (without getting addicted to it yourself) and give this kind of presentation publicly. Welldone.. keep up the good work. Your work will transform countless lives positively...

    • @rachelgoodkind6545
      @rachelgoodkind6545 Месяц назад +2

      Right on brother. And women deserve to be respected and elevated for the queens we are. And men should be protectors, not perpetrators. peace to you.

    • @luckystoller6171
      @luckystoller6171 Месяц назад +1

      @@rachelgoodkind6545 So true.❤

    • @rachelgoodkind6545
      @rachelgoodkind6545 Месяц назад

      @@luckystoller6171 The world has been manipulated to be backwards. However we all have to work tegether to make a kind loving compassionate world for all.

    • @luckystoller6171
      @luckystoller6171 Месяц назад

      @@rachelgoodkind6545 ❤You are so right!

  • @mozesmusik8718
    @mozesmusik8718 3 года назад +5876

    Leaving your kid alone with a computer without proper restrictions can be just as dangerous as leaving them with a stranger.

    • @hmp01
      @hmp01 3 года назад +130

      no

    • @EnkiMMXII
      @EnkiMMXII 3 года назад +70

      True... they may figure out that god isn't real. Lmao. FREAK. Restricted access to information is literally the cause of all the world problems.

    • @korajanel
      @korajanel 3 года назад +109

      @@EnkiMMXII it's like you didn't even watch the video......

    • @yuu5974
      @yuu5974 3 года назад +450

      No, restricting your children will only make them become liars and go behind your back. Instead, teach them the bad about it. And talk about it with them. Especially in there teen years.

    • @punkabillybetty6851
      @punkabillybetty6851 3 года назад +49

      It's not just about kids... This applies to adults too.

  • @a1autobuild112
    @a1autobuild112 3 года назад +2547

    6 years old wtf I’m so glad I grew up before internet

    • @danielfecklessness2796
      @danielfecklessness2796 3 года назад +15

      Same, fam.

    • @akrammakmouk6795
      @akrammakmouk6795 3 года назад +42

      Same. Though I was born in 2000 I live in lebanon. We didn't know about the internet until 2008. And it didn't get popular until 2012

    • @knowledgeman86
      @knowledgeman86 3 года назад +17

      I think alot of this has to do with your up bringing and what u expose yourself too.. im 34 n some of the things she is talking about is new to me..🤷🏾‍♂️ don't get me wrong I've herd of some but, she taught me something new..

    • @a1autobuild112
      @a1autobuild112 3 года назад +19

      Donald Ford absolutely but it’s just crazy to see what the future generation will evolve to and what’s the norm and what’s not. Especially this online fans page thing, girls go online to get donations from their viewers and these viewers actually pay. They don’t know how to interact with one another in real life but online there’s no boundaries.

    • @adaon2282
      @adaon2282 3 года назад +5

      Haha 8 for me :)

  • @BlueSky-vb5ih
    @BlueSky-vb5ih 2 года назад +31

    The most amazing speech ever… I normally don’t write comments unless the speech touches me for its content and has an impact for critical societies unspoken topics. This lady is a gem 💎 for all the globe 🌎. I liked her elaboration on the subject, her confidence and she seemed that she absorbed and understood the topic from the A to Z. As a coach and scientist I understood her very well and understood my coachees who come to ask for help. God bless her

  • @kingsleyudeagha
    @kingsleyudeagha Год назад +52

    This delivery is Topclass.

  • @yeee3602
    @yeee3602 4 года назад +9173

    In my recommended list? lol I guess incognito mode has failed me

  • @danielmoore62
    @danielmoore62 4 года назад +11964

    Prostitution is illegal unless you film it and sell it.

    • @apuuvah
      @apuuvah 4 года назад +178

      @@muhammedovezmuradov2910 Nothing, if it's not forced.

    • @SuperSufiSaint
      @SuperSufiSaint 4 года назад +47

      Muhammed Ovezmuradov shame on you for such comments

    • @hyliahero
      @hyliahero 4 года назад +272

      The shame is the government regulating people’s bodies and folks shaming people who think differently or feed themselves differently than you.

    • @ThisIsTurnerr
      @ThisIsTurnerr 4 года назад +35

      Taxation

    • @qossii
      @qossii 4 года назад +6

      So true....

  • @central3425
    @central3425 2 года назад +222

    Glad to see more people talking about this.
    Young men are being taught this is normal to do but it is slowly changing how they act and treat women.

  • @aungphyooo3584
    @aungphyooo3584 Год назад +16

    Brilliant talks about this major hidden issues. It’s a quick quit for sure. Everything is about mentality and how strong you can divert your focus to other positive things like healthy hobbies. Thank you, Maria x

  • @marvinmandela948
    @marvinmandela948 3 года назад +3612

    I stopped a few years ago. Best decision ever made. My social life improved 100%.

  • @stevenconnors9198
    @stevenconnors9198 3 года назад +3389

    It's hilarious how uncomfortable the audience looks.

    • @podvig
      @podvig 3 года назад +26

      Side splitting...

    • @geoffoakland
      @geoffoakland 3 года назад +129

      well, the audience is Swedish in general they are reserved and shy in public spaces, unless they've had a few drinks! Skal!

    • @zan3zan344
      @zan3zan344 3 года назад +72

      It's also hilarious how she's oblivious to it all.

    • @GH-do9ke
      @GH-do9ke 3 года назад +16

      🤣🤣🤣 kills me everytime

    • @melkor3496
      @melkor3496 3 года назад +2

      Mjolnir G. Skål

  • @martinc6987
    @martinc6987 2 года назад +58

    thanks for showing that its possible to actually talk about it in front of others without feeling embarassed !If a woman talks about it its much different than when a man tries to do so !

  • @bjorn3847
    @bjorn3847 2 года назад +42

    “Wanting something with out liking it” a great definition of addiction when you want to stop. Doesn’t work so well for addicts that don’t see a problem with their addiction and both like it and want it.

    • @gatanegra8815
      @gatanegra8815 Год назад +2

      If they are happy and not harming anybody, there is no problem.

  • @mrdondada1
    @mrdondada1 4 года назад +3593

    I knew this comment section was going to be lit

  • @halibuthero
    @halibuthero 4 года назад +9559

    How do you explain Ass2Mouth to a room-full of people with a straight face...

    • @SoupBrigade
      @SoupBrigade 4 года назад +409

      Start with explaining how it is not an ATM so you don't have to touch it

    • @TheChadPad
      @TheChadPad 4 года назад +122

      I mean, 3:56 says it all xD

    • @danielvanemmerik9823
      @danielvanemmerik9823 4 года назад +72

      On stage demo !

    • @healthdios
      @healthdios 4 года назад +157

      How about DP or choking...? and not even a peep from the audience...

    • @deng1188
      @deng1188 4 года назад +31

      😂🤣😂🤣

  • @nealschieberl9601
    @nealschieberl9601 2 года назад +22

    I love you for exposing the truth about this subject! I have tried and tried for years. Having no science or anything to back me up. Just the innate knowledge that it was causing problems and on a downward spiral. Thank you so much 😉

  • @cattleprods911
    @cattleprods911 Год назад +8

    This is excellent, this video needs to go viral. God bless the presenter and her work.

  • @noahtabacchi3451
    @noahtabacchi3451 3 года назад +3701

    Notice how expressionless the audience is. You know they were uncomfortable, and they knew exactly what she was talking about. It's not always easy to be called out.

    • @anshik.k.t
      @anshik.k.t 3 года назад +39

      What do you expect from them man?

    • @christianwood8328
      @christianwood8328 2 года назад +15

      @@anshik.k.t what do you expect from them?

    • @anshik.k.t
      @anshik.k.t 2 года назад +64

      @@christianwood8328 i expect that silence that they are having.

    • @meenakshi.v7385
      @meenakshi.v7385 2 года назад +63

      @@anshik.k.t I must say that some of the things she said were worthy of applause or sign of acknowledgement at the least. They, as you can see, are as cold as ice.

    • @anshik.k.t
      @anshik.k.t 2 года назад +7

      @@meenakshi.v7385 it's confirmation. Initially it was awkward, then no one gathered courage to start it. Nothing to bother.

  • @ericalmao7051
    @ericalmao7051 4 года назад +4810

    its actually sad the amount of people that will laugh this off because they themselves are addicted

    • @danjokic860
      @danjokic860 4 года назад +236

      and aren't able to admit it

    • @fn9681
      @fn9681 4 года назад +211

      The first part is admitting that you are addicted. I used to give any reason other than addiction for quitting, I then used to say that I was kind of addicted but not that bad but now I am strong enough say that I am addicted. 10 days without so far.

    • @mshbeatbox
      @mshbeatbox 4 года назад +62

      @@fn9681 Stay my brother. We both know you got this!

    • @fn9681
      @fn9681 4 года назад +40

      @@mshbeatbox thanks bro. You gave me that little extra strength I needed to get through this evening
      Will sub you too

    • @mshbeatbox
      @mshbeatbox 4 года назад +48

      @@fn9681 No subs needed. Just understand that you are better than this addiction!

  • @hamhead2765
    @hamhead2765 Год назад +38

    We also need to stop the insanity of sexualizing women. It's all over social media and advertising.

  • @bigo_637
    @bigo_637 Год назад +10

    Thank you for the details. You opened my eyes as a parent and the potentials of what my kids have seen. This needs to be discussed.

  • @masongregory2
    @masongregory2 3 года назад +2063

    First step to overcoming addiction is realizing you have a problem 💪🏽

    • @gameplaykingz9545
      @gameplaykingz9545 3 года назад +5

      Preach sir

    • @thenextbondvillainklaussch3266
      @thenextbondvillainklaussch3266 3 года назад +19

      So.... a massive bicep on one arm ? 🤷 😉
      Thats why you included that emoji right? lol

    • @kevc21
      @kevc21 3 года назад +7

      I love it. No problem. Can't get a disease with it. Can't impregnate a chick. Saves time and money. I love it.

    • @fabmc8816
      @fabmc8816 3 года назад

      I have a problem

    • @crashraynor
      @crashraynor 3 года назад +5

      ...technically the first step to overcoming addiction is becoming addicted

  • @Alienbrain23
    @Alienbrain23 3 года назад +5615

    Uhhh here’s a solution, stop giving your kids tablets and smartphones at age 2

    • @alcik_palcik
      @alcik_palcik 3 года назад +59

      I'm just wondering why you're comenting that twice

    • @huh5087
      @huh5087 3 года назад +172

      Fax tho, i seen a 5yr old kid w the newest iphone

    • @codydembo4257
      @codydembo4257 3 года назад +131

      I agree, kids need to read more books fr

    • @enlightenmentdoesntcomeeas5337
      @enlightenmentdoesntcomeeas5337 3 года назад +108

      If I ever have kids I actually plan on giving them a playstation or an Xbox to keep them distracted from the internet or phones.

    • @expressyourselfab6285
      @expressyourselfab6285 3 года назад +56

      Read more books? Lol.
      I say more life experience.
      You’re disconnected from reality when you got an iPad shoved up your face.

  • @pharmclare
    @pharmclare Год назад +32

    Educating the younger generation is key. Welldone Sis. Interesting insights

  • @tugumisirizechrispas4116
    @tugumisirizechrispas4116 Год назад +62

    The that someone always gets after quitting the addiction is always awesome . Thank you and I pray we all overcome it🙏🙏🙏

  • @jaredjensen4558
    @jaredjensen4558 3 года назад +4644

    Currently on day 68 going strong! Feeling better then ever!

    • @sarcastictamalito4316
      @sarcastictamalito4316 3 года назад +123

      keep it up!!

    • @harshaljadhav4338
      @harshaljadhav4338 3 года назад +66

      Keep going

    • @TheGerminator350
      @TheGerminator350 3 года назад +83

      Congrats! I'm hoping to get there soon too. Keep up the good fight. You got this!

    • @kyleisom962
      @kyleisom962 3 года назад +24

      How long did it take to notice a change?

    • @jaredjensen4558
      @jaredjensen4558 3 года назад +97

      @@kyleisom962 For me personally around day 7 I started to feel a bit better then around day 20 I could really start to feel a difference and then day after day continued to feel better some days not always but yeah definitely worth it.

  • @Clutterlicious
    @Clutterlicious 4 года назад +3300

    A whole audience of people acting like this is the first time they've heard of these things :p

    • @georgehouston6327
      @georgehouston6327 4 года назад +63

      Clutterlicious; keep in mind that this was in Sweden and for many in the audience English may be there second or third language

    • @prajupraju3312
      @prajupraju3312 4 года назад +1

      Thanks

    • @luminous6969
      @luminous6969 4 года назад +44

      You'd be surprised. There are still people out there that wince if they hear an F bomb.

    • @georgehouston6327
      @georgehouston6327 4 года назад +12

      @@luminous6969 True, depends on your upbringing/environment in my opinion.

    • @entertain7us148
      @entertain7us148 4 года назад +1

      🤣🤣🤣🤣💀

  • @abdelrahmanmohsen8184
    @abdelrahmanmohsen8184 10 месяцев назад +4

    That was spectacular. Massively important topic. I hope all people and especially teenagers get to watch it!

  • @user-ys5ve3mw8k
    @user-ys5ve3mw8k Месяц назад +1

    You're really making a wave as regards this... this lecture is gradually upscaling my social life fr🎉

  • @dhaninel7902
    @dhaninel7902 3 года назад +4317

    I’m so glad more people are starting to talk about this. She did a fantastic job.

    • @joelraphael4838
      @joelraphael4838 3 года назад +45

      @@gedazcrew Not the focus of the video...

    • @brendanfloyd4033
      @brendanfloyd4033 3 года назад +17

      @@gedazcrew yes she is a beautiful person, but that’s not what you should’ve gotten out of this video.

    • @austriandeathmachine8829
      @austriandeathmachine8829 2 года назад +1

      Yeah I fapped with this video.

    • @muhammadisaac07
      @muhammadisaac07 Год назад

      Absolutely

    • @epaminon6196
      @epaminon6196 Год назад +8

      I'm sure she could perform a fantastic job elsewhere as well. One where she won't have to talk so much but should still moisten her lips regularly.
      She could be a great flute player in a Grand Band.

  • @IOxyrinchus
    @IOxyrinchus 4 года назад +1409

    The fact that this was on my recommended feed scares me

    • @zephilde
      @zephilde 4 года назад +73

      Do you think Google Chrome Incognito mode is hiding you?

    • @hellamv
      @hellamv 4 года назад +1

      Xddd same

    • @kennethvekima
      @kennethvekima 4 года назад +1

      Back Country Pastimes the NSA got your back...just trying to help you get better..

    • @marksr8784
      @marksr8784 4 года назад

      Oh oh

    • @bestof4227
      @bestof4227 4 года назад +3

      Probably because you have watched self improvement videos or other Ted talk vids

  • @timtravasos2742
    @timtravasos2742 2 года назад +25

    I agree. I've never been comfortable with those acts. It is dangerous and damaging to men, but more so, for women.

  • @user-uy2os5gj7x
    @user-uy2os5gj7x 2 месяца назад +2

    I really surprised her confidence, even she talked about the most sensitive subject in front of the audience
    Well done lady ❤

  • @ZhenRizen
    @ZhenRizen 4 года назад +4885

    Girls locker room : this vid
    Boys locker room : the comment section

  • @newtonbridges2574
    @newtonbridges2574 3 года назад +2078

    i was an everyday "consumer" for about 12 years. i was able to stop and been off it now for almost 4 years.

    • @WarriorsFanSince-ur3zu
      @WarriorsFanSince-ur3zu 3 года назад +15

      Nice

    • @WarriorsFanSince-ur3zu
      @WarriorsFanSince-ur3zu 3 года назад +32

      How'd you do it?

    • @iandres2394
      @iandres2394 3 года назад +8

      @Newton Bridges noticed any change?

    • @newtonbridges2574
      @newtonbridges2574 3 года назад +250

      @@iandres2394 Yes. Tons of changes. I stopped lusting over women. I Felt calmer all around. I slept better. I had more time because I didn't have to do that every single night for an hour after work. I loved having that extra hour! I used that hour for meditation and exercise instead. Thank you for your comment.

    • @newtonbridges2574
      @newtonbridges2574 3 года назад +136

      @@WarriorsFanSince-ur3zu Honestly, sometimes, I don't know. I wouldn't recommend this but I happened to move states. From California to Colorado. Maybe it was the mountain air although the air quality actually is not that good after all in Colorado. I got here and on my first night here pulled up my laptop per the usual but just decided at the moment not to. Then decided the next day I would continue trying that. In a way I believe it to be some type of spiritual experience. Ever since that day I have not returned to it.

  • @nitishkshirasagar6416
    @nitishkshirasagar6416 Год назад +8

    Thank to this girl for talking one of the most bad addiction courageously

  • @adrianaslund8605
    @adrianaslund8605 2 года назад +12

    If a coping mechanism causes you great harm or make you do or feel things under its influence that are contrary to your own sense of decency then that is a problem.
    If you get caught up in the coping mechanism when you should be doing something else and this causes you to miss out on life then that is an issue.
    And you shouldn't let go of those feelings just because society tells you to.

  • @mathsdebater
    @mathsdebater 3 года назад +5391

    0.5 seconds clean. Wish me luck.

  • @spencernelson1560
    @spencernelson1560 4 года назад +5157

    All the guys in the audience be sweating just like the Key and Peal skit

  • @ZazooEel57
    @ZazooEel57 Год назад +10

    I enjoyed this. Much needed talk. It's too normalized and affects us only in a negative way.

  • @Javashtv
    @Javashtv Год назад +3

    This woman has got to be the best speaker of an uncomfortable topic in history. 😄…Great Job‼️

  • @youngsuit
    @youngsuit 3 года назад +6285

    My brain: this is decently informative.
    My other brain: she's so pretty!

    • @nishantrajpoot1866
      @nishantrajpoot1866 3 года назад +264

      TitusMatTurbo you’re toxic Bro 🤣🤣🤣

    • @architverma3304
      @architverma3304 3 года назад +484

      Objectifying someone who is fighting objectification

    • @elchuzalongo4339
      @elchuzalongo4339 3 года назад +242

      My brain: how do these people have two brains? Tf

    • @markobozovic3971
      @markobozovic3971 3 года назад +83

      I_am_sme11y two heads equals two brains, think about it

    • @codecobra
      @codecobra 3 года назад +10

      😂😂😂

  • @ladragodamultus6815
    @ladragodamultus6815 4 года назад +1365

    You never really know you are addicted until you try to quit
    And then the relapses kills you

    • @AO-qv5hl
      @AO-qv5hl 4 года назад +42

      When they addict a customer, they have a customer for life.

    • @Anonymous-uw4sr
      @Anonymous-uw4sr 4 года назад +15

      @@AO-qv5hl NO

    • @AO-qv5hl
      @AO-qv5hl 4 года назад +4

      @@Anonymous-uw4sr yes

    • @ladragodamultus6815
      @ladragodamultus6815 4 года назад +34

      @thegrandfinale2 if it was as easy as that people wouldn't be struggling.
      Everyone has their Q you have to find yours maybe going to gym or maybe reading novels, going to church etc

    • @khustlin34
      @khustlin34 4 года назад +3

      🤣🤣

  • @divingdeepinthought7609
    @divingdeepinthought7609 2 года назад +6

    Amazing presentation touching on some sensitive topics!! Thanks heaps 👏👏👏

  • @hichammed1886
    @hichammed1886 2 года назад +18

    This educational show could be a great aid for people who are addictive to strike this dangerous habit. It's very helpful and brave to talk about it and make people aware that is necessary to deal with without shame.

  • @72151
    @72151 3 года назад +2213

    She speaks about a serious issue with the expectations of intimacy, or I should say the sacrifice of intimacy between people. I applaud her for her efforts.

  • @youtubingbabs
    @youtubingbabs 3 года назад +2013

    Anybody gonna mention every title says stepmom, stepbrother, dad, etc... It's like what in the actual...????

    • @limitedquantitysufiyyahexp3913
      @limitedquantitysufiyyahexp3913 3 года назад +61

      You bad boy

    • @styler19721
      @styler19721 3 года назад +162

      when i read the statistics on that i was disgusted.. it wasnt like that 10 years ago.

    • @youtubingbabs
      @youtubingbabs 3 года назад +11

      @@limitedquantitysufiyyahexp3913 who's a bad boy?

    • @dankay7982
      @dankay7982 3 года назад +16

      Right? But without a valid passport to prove it's legit it's all nothing and just blah.

    • @jazz4dayz543
      @jazz4dayz543 3 года назад +90

      What are you doing stepbro?!

  • @aaronb369
    @aaronb369 9 месяцев назад +2

    I stopped about 6 months ago and it's so good to not be caught in that cycle

  • @xXKittyDollXx
    @xXKittyDollXx Год назад

    She is such a role model in the way she speaks and approaches this topic.

  • @jagadishgospat2548
    @jagadishgospat2548 3 года назад +780

    *Openly admitting you got a problem is the first step to recovery.*
    -Gumball waterson

    • @mikefin8847
      @mikefin8847 3 года назад +20

      Why gumball lmfao

    • @jagadishgospat2548
      @jagadishgospat2548 3 года назад +12

      @@mikefin8847 watch the Darwin potato episode

    • @Doomemdtrader
      @Doomemdtrader 3 года назад +9

      I have a problem. I just can't help myself doing it over and over again. I just can't stop eating food. Each time when I stop, I get that craving inside, that it wants food again. I can't resist it.

    • @jagadishgospat2548
      @jagadishgospat2548 3 года назад +7

      @@Doomemdtrader firstly if you can try to have a mirror in the kitchen. Second, it's not only the taste that we're after but also full tummy feeling and the process of eating itself. So find out which one you're after and do this.
      Taste: try eating some candy or some very small alternative.
      Eating: chewing gum.
      Full tummy: soup or drink or something in those lines.
      All of these are just quick fixes, but if you want to stop eating more, try a 24 hrs fasting your stomach will shrink and eating one plate feels full and be more discipline you know? . Tell your friends that you're eating less. And please avoid junk food, fast food, they numb your brain making you feel dizzy ALL THE TIME. this should get you through.

    • @crashraynor
      @crashraynor 3 года назад +6

      ...the first step to getting out of a hole is being in a hole
      -Crash Raynor

  • @tessascarlett5367
    @tessascarlett5367 3 года назад +1504

    majority of these comments prove her point.. props to the men/women speaking out and acknowledging this issue.

    • @scooby6147
      @scooby6147 3 года назад +24

      comments are jokes mostly dont take it too seriously :)

    • @tessascarlett5367
      @tessascarlett5367 3 года назад +76

      @@scooby6147 not all comments are jokes.. and this isn’t something to be joked about anyways.

    • @johnsilver8480
      @johnsilver8480 3 года назад +15

      @@scooby6147 need to say it- the most people making jokes about that I know working for a motel.
      Coincedence?
      I am sad that those people do not think about their own daughter. This problem is somethning every girl and woman face eaxh day - and the big majority of their husbands, brothers and and fathers just looking the other direction.
      Dont joke. Blame the joker. Let them feel what tjey give their girls.
      That is the only way this will not happen to your own daughter or granddaughter.

    • @DS-lk3tx
      @DS-lk3tx 3 года назад +6

      Nice rack.

    • @afrodrummajors4lovepeacech508
      @afrodrummajors4lovepeacech508 3 года назад +8

      Your pic is apart of the problem

  • @jisooya7878
    @jisooya7878 Год назад +3

    we are really lucky to be able to hear these kinds of conversations for free, Time to Change!!

  • @iftstv9814
    @iftstv9814 2 года назад +2

    She is such a positive energy to be around.

  • @Iconiquemusique
    @Iconiquemusique 3 года назад +890

    I started when I was 9. I am 23 now and I stopped counting my No cap Streak. I stopped sometime last year. I Will not relapse I strongly believe. From Nigeria.

    • @Luke-xt6jr
      @Luke-xt6jr 3 года назад +18

      I’m proud

    • @nicolosari4912
      @nicolosari4912 3 года назад +9

      Stay strong my friend

    • @JohnFlessas
      @JohnFlessas 3 года назад +10

      9???

    • @Marc-wj3sx
      @Marc-wj3sx 3 года назад +10

      Hey man, I don't understand the topic completely. It's about stop watching it, not stopping to mast*rb*te?

    • @crusher6589
      @crusher6589 3 года назад +4

      @@JohnFlessas i started at 7

  • @OneTrueEmotion
    @OneTrueEmotion 4 года назад +1871

    Thank you for speaking on this very important and heavily normalized issue. This is incredibly brave because a lot of people don't take it seriously. I support your work and I loved this talk. :)

    • @beswron
      @beswron 4 года назад +4

      So did I

    • @DiasDenny
      @DiasDenny 4 года назад +10

      Well why should we quit

    • @DiasDenny
      @DiasDenny 4 года назад +11

      It's not affecting us financially

    • @kyledettmers3057
      @kyledettmers3057 4 года назад +5

      You call this work?

    • @joshuaragon6676
      @joshuaragon6676 3 года назад +18

      Because most people don’t realize that it’s the new drug. The brain becomes addicted the exact same way as alcohol and illegal drugs.

  • @sumatinair
    @sumatinair Год назад +1

    Comparison to touch on cheek is just superb.. Beautiful talk..

  • @michelleruizcalle
    @michelleruizcalle Год назад +1

    i´m 15 and i´m so thankful for this informational video, also I try to watch another ones to educate myself of what I don´t have to do, and how I can overcome that thoughts.

  • @shamanthkashyap4805
    @shamanthkashyap4805 3 года назад +1572

    The balls u have to have to explain atm and gagging to an auditorium

    • @saftschubse9575
      @saftschubse9575 3 года назад +17

      Hahahahah true

    • @d33bo67
      @d33bo67 3 года назад +25

      I was trying to focus the whole time she was talking lol

    • @alilrooj
      @alilrooj 2 года назад +29

      right? kudos to her

    • @GnosticSeeker369
      @GnosticSeeker369 2 года назад +12

      I know
      I love this chick man

    • @SAAD-hy7oe
      @SAAD-hy7oe 2 года назад +16

      she don't hav balls actually

  • @satoshigerbil8789
    @satoshigerbil8789 3 года назад +549

    I wonder if there is an audience member sitting next to their parents

  • @davidtoledo2323
    @davidtoledo2323 2 месяца назад

    Great topic. Class in session! TY FOR EDUCATING!👏🏽❤️

  • @dilluxion9
    @dilluxion9 Год назад +16

    She said her favorite show was friends and I almost quit watching

  • @deeluvsu4l
    @deeluvsu4l 3 года назад +3321

    I'm stopping on the 1st of October. wish me luck.

    • @nitishroy153
      @nitishroy153 3 года назад +108

      Good luck brother

    • @Dani-lk3ed
      @Dani-lk3ed 3 года назад +52

      Same

    • @nonasenpai
      @nonasenpai 3 года назад +52

      Good luck mah dude (not meant in a sarcastic way, will be hard for me to stop completely too tbh)

    • @deeluvsu4l
      @deeluvsu4l 3 года назад +238

      I'm doing good so far boys. I'm craving it but i can control it and divert that energy into other things

    • @nitishroy153
      @nitishroy153 3 года назад +14

      @@deeluvsu4l great

  • @LookAroundMore
    @LookAroundMore 3 года назад +451

    It's heartening to see so many men in the comments addressing this addiction in their own life. I'm sure it's not easy but I hope that this addiction will be replaced with joyous and fulfilling relationships in your life with real partners. I'm nobody to you, but for what it's worth, and in case no one else says it, I'M PROUD OF YOU. ✌🙌👏

    • @alvingardner7943
      @alvingardner7943 3 года назад +6

      Thank you!!!

    • @darielrowe1324
      @darielrowe1324 3 года назад +1

      I hope you know those boys are cap. 🤭🤭🤭

    • @LookAroundMore
      @LookAroundMore 3 года назад

      @@darielrowe1324 cap?

    • @CC-hi9fh
      @CC-hi9fh 3 года назад +1

      @@LookAroundMore means they're lying

    • @tracyavent-costanza346
      @tracyavent-costanza346 3 года назад +1

      what if you have all of those other trappings and you are not satsified. What if that is really nobody's fault.

  • @MOHDFAISAL-qw8mz
    @MOHDFAISAL-qw8mz 2 года назад

    she and ran gavrieli changed my mindset. Thanks to you guys and special thanks to TEDx.

  • @AbhishekRai-qo2fj
    @AbhishekRai-qo2fj Год назад +2

    This is a great initiative for everyone especially youngsters

  • @shereeh175
    @shereeh175 3 года назад +524

    I feel like the industry is going to get even bigger with the internet being our only connection to be with people

    • @eviljesus6111
      @eviljesus6111 3 года назад +34

      That's what they want

    • @dddila
      @dddila 3 года назад +48

      Its horrifying

    • @eviljesus6111
      @eviljesus6111 3 года назад +8

      @@hopewonder why would anyone consider it charity
      it ain't a necessity
      At the same time it can be your best friend and an enemy

    • @christien6230
      @christien6230 3 года назад +23

      It will get worse with virtual reality and the new gadgets there making

    • @Ad-Ac
      @Ad-Ac 3 года назад +3

      @@hopewonder It wasn't free acess, it was free acces to *premium content* . Normally, this site is free access all the time.

  • @Pastorella_COD_Mobile
    @Pastorella_COD_Mobile 3 года назад +1270

    I am seriously stopping tomorrow. Wish me luck.

  • @alessandropizzocaro7506
    @alessandropizzocaro7506 10 месяцев назад +4

    3 months clean! Just do it guys.

  • @triggersf2
    @triggersf2 2 года назад +6

    Her husband probably clears browsing history every 30 minutes to be safe

    • @jimwerther
      @jimwerther 2 года назад +2

      Lol! She's a serious babe.

    • @qfab1064
      @qfab1064 Год назад

      Haha… he is on incognito all thetime

  • @reubenbroussard6955
    @reubenbroussard6955 3 года назад +270

    That part “no longer contributing to an offensive and obnoxious industry” hit hard.

    • @tommiethrash
      @tommiethrash 3 года назад +1

      Sarcasm?

    • @simonphoenix3789
      @simonphoenix3789 3 года назад +2

      that rammed the point home?

    • @justbecause9645
      @justbecause9645 2 года назад +1

      religion?

    • @NoFretBrettCSSMBFF
      @NoFretBrettCSSMBFF 2 года назад

      16:00... but listen well before so that you get the context better...

    • @user-du4kw9tt3f
      @user-du4kw9tt3f 2 года назад +4

      I find it both silly and morally wrong to pay for people to be pretending and prostituting their bodies - all the while plentiful amateurs are eager to share online their much more normal (physically and psychologically) adventures.

  • @thexmen9435
    @thexmen9435 3 года назад +943

    Day 103 free after almost 16 years addiction to this destructive act i want to thank every one help me in my journey including you with this video 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

    • @Rozex9
      @Rozex9 3 года назад +18

      God bless man

    • @thexmen9435
      @thexmen9435 3 года назад +7

      @@Rozex9 thank you brother 💖💖💖

    • @ScarzChosenspokesmen
      @ScarzChosenspokesmen 3 года назад +15

      You're punishing yourself for no reason

    • @ayushmansinghrathore
      @ayushmansinghrathore 3 года назад +9

      Yoooo ..are you serious??? I am trying to get rid of the addiction. Please help me. I have failed 20+ times

    • @cryptobliss924
      @cryptobliss924 3 года назад +3

      Have you seen benefits my friend?

  • @jamesb687
    @jamesb687 2 года назад +5

    I will continue to watch Ted talks about how to over come it, because it would help me recover better, it would motivate me to feel the urge less

  • @suhaibalazzeh3255
    @suhaibalazzeh3255 2 месяца назад +1

    Good job spreading the awareness to the people, thank you .

  • @YG-zx6tv
    @YG-zx6tv 4 года назад +1288

    daily reminder you're only watching this because there's a comment section...

  • @codacreator6162
    @codacreator6162 4 года назад +2708

    Sounds like she's done plenty of research.

    • @insertname7750
      @insertname7750 4 года назад +110

      coda creator lol haven’t we all 😏

    • @jacobandrews2663
      @jacobandrews2663 4 года назад +9

      🤣🤣

    • @Lala_15666
      @Lala_15666 4 года назад +47

      coda creator she’s really has, lol 10 years of experience

    • @williamhunter8773
      @williamhunter8773 4 года назад +61

      Sounds like her research is a bunch of junk science

    • @CelestialSapien703
      @CelestialSapien703 4 года назад

      coda creator this comment right here 😂🤣

  • @mrnoob3789
    @mrnoob3789 2 года назад +5

    I was 334 days strong, but failed on that day. I’m currently one day strong rn.

    • @nulldotorg1612
      @nulldotorg1612 2 года назад +2

      Never discredit the fact that you were 334 days strong, my freind I know you can and will keep going. Go until you don’t even count your days. You will do it my freind, I know it.

    • @L_aurora_X
      @L_aurora_X 25 дней назад

      I saw him far off in the distance, fading but fell("that day") and then through the dust the great survivors whispered to him, "...i know you can, and will keep going..." and he stood up between the dust, far off and slowly but surely he was so far away from the dust i couldn't see him again. Now me, still in the building trying to go, i make up my mind today, and I'm going into the dust. To my brothers still in, hope to see you all in the other side, and to those out of the dust...I'm coming brothers, I'm coming.

  • @asifislam4276
    @asifislam4276 Год назад +4

    one of the finest ted talks.

  • @Romeox1994
    @Romeox1994 4 года назад +682

    Good talk. Not to be rude or anything, but here's a tip for the other viewers : this video still manages to sound quite fine with 1.25x speed

    • @rajadhirajmaharaj
      @rajadhirajmaharaj 4 года назад +27

      it sounds normal with 2x

    • @Ondulado.
      @Ondulado. 4 года назад +53

      Too bad i read this with 1 minute left

    • @georgemeadows6951
      @georgemeadows6951 4 года назад +5

      Yes double time still wasn't fast enough it's like an intentional stretching of the information

    • @bakh91
      @bakh91 4 года назад +9

      Man, you're very respectful

    • @kasekuchentv7282
      @kasekuchentv7282 4 года назад +2

      thegrandfinale2 you tip on the video, on the upper right corner are 3 dots, you tip on them

  • @zachdurocher1166
    @zachdurocher1166 3 года назад +887

    So this is what they meant by "for research purposes"

    • @recoilzriot6211
      @recoilzriot6211 3 года назад +15

      I hope everyone understanding this comment will Like it , It's 10 likes now, I will see later

    • @simba4572
      @simba4572 3 года назад +1

      @@recoilzriot6211 😂😂😂😂

    • @Jay2423M
      @Jay2423M 3 года назад +3

      Yes that’s exactly what we mean

    • @zachdurocher1166
      @zachdurocher1166 3 года назад +9

      @@recoilzriot6211 Ah the investor

    • @andykharisma99
      @andykharisma99 3 года назад +2

      Underrated

  • @alexanderaguilastratt7497
    @alexanderaguilastratt7497 9 месяцев назад +1

    If your commercials interrupt this, I will never buy their product

  • @nightfears3005
    @nightfears3005 16 часов назад +1

    If you were a better parent you would have nothing to worry about.

  • @johnbarrick4836
    @johnbarrick4836 4 года назад +544

    I like how she’s giving definitions like these people need it.

    • @SomeGal
      @SomeGal 4 года назад +12

      Oh, so EVERYONE knows what those acts are?

    • @shawnyoung5960
      @shawnyoung5960 4 года назад +50

      @@SomeGal I know I didn't. I've only known ATM to be a machine to get money from. And I've done my share of "research" though the years,...LOL

    • @burneracc2567
      @burneracc2567 4 года назад +19

      I didn't know bout ATM

    • @paigedygert7051
      @paigedygert7051 2 года назад +4

      A lot of people do not know this stuff.

    • @ivorjones6618
      @ivorjones6618 Год назад +1

      @@paigedygert7051 thats because it does not matter

  • @divyeshkatariya4951
    @divyeshkatariya4951 3 года назад +676

    I can give a great speech but being so honest, brutal and confident on stage for this topic (being a woman) makes me shiver to my core and give blessing to this woman to make some lives better who understand what this means!

    • @noahstegane6582
      @noahstegane6582 3 года назад +36

      @Alex Burch He was just being nice, Mr. Big Balls

    • @tapratalkies6115
      @tapratalkies6115 3 года назад

      WONDERFUL .... 2021

    • @luca7675
      @luca7675 3 года назад +12

      what does being a woman have to do with that? Either you are confident or you are not. The subject doesnt matter i feel.

    • @user.1743
      @user.1743 Год назад

      siden
      “Being a woman…” wtf??? She is from a civilized world…. Not like you moren…

  • @jbapparel10
    @jbapparel10 Год назад +2

    Great talk, We need more awareness like this....

  • @pajeetsingh
    @pajeetsingh Месяц назад +2

    "My favorite sitcom of all time is Friends"
    Stopped watching there.