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WHY YOU SHOULD FOCUS ON YOURSELF ♡ (how to date yourself & my self love journey)

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  • Опубликовано: 17 авг 2024
  • I love you all. you all go give yourself some love now.
    timestamps:
    00:00 intro
    01:55 chapter 1: what is self love
    04:33 chapter 2: my journey
    08:33 chapter 3: solo date ideas
    camera I use!: go.magik.ly/ml...
    kinda inspired by this article:
    thoughtcatalog...
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    business: rebecca@sparkmedia.la
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    health ig: / healthandleah
    personal ig: / frencherrrr
    linkedin: / leahfrench
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    ❥ Music by Nicky Youre - Sunroof - thmatc.co/?l=1...
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    #selflove #focusonyourself #motivation

Комментарии • 961

  • @florxlbouxxet713
    @florxlbouxxet713 2 года назад +2445

    I love how transparent you are about your life, and are willing to make yourself vulnerable to help us! You have changed my life and allowed me to see past adhd and severe anxiety and spend time bettering myself and studying.

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +54

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @siljaabhilash5412
      @siljaabhilash5412 2 года назад +10

      More videos for selfcare mental health etc.take care

  • @amanda-gv6bd
    @amanda-gv6bd 2 года назад +1804

    One of my goals for 2022 is to be my own best friend, just cause I'm tired of hating myself. Your videos are such inspiring and help me to change my life, thanks so much!!

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +21

      ❤️❤️❤️

    • @lynekexve844
      @lynekexve844 2 года назад +3

      Same!

    • @kaylakattah6487
      @kaylakattah6487 2 года назад

      honestly same :))

    • @kaylakattah6487
      @kaylakattah6487 2 года назад +1

      you've got it amanda, all love. *heart*

    • @Jay_0605
      @Jay_0605 2 года назад +2

      Relatable. Most people including me are very sick of themselves but now I'm learning self-love

  • @jennadianne222
    @jennadianne222 2 года назад +717

    I can totally relate to the feeling of being completely lonely all throughout high school. I graduated alone and felt like nobody cared. You deserve the world, and just because people have not acknowledged that does not mean you are any less worthy of love and friendship. I live all the way in Canada, but consider me a friend

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +22

      I live in Canada too!!

    • @jennadianne222
      @jennadianne222 2 года назад +9

      @@RebeccaJayy No way!! Whereabouts, if you are comfortable sharing?

    • @blessieyang8070
      @blessieyang8070 2 года назад

      You are loved 🤍

  • @lillianmarilley3884
    @lillianmarilley3884 2 года назад +611

    Rebecca , you’re the only RUclipsr that always inspires me and actually has influenced my lifestyle 🥰🥰 love uuuu

  • @katelynngaddis4180
    @katelynngaddis4180 2 года назад +155

    I know that in this video you ended up crying but I like these videos because you show who you are and you don't fake emotions. Nor do you try to hide them when your on camera. You just live life and it is so inspiring! Thank you so much for making these videos and making me smile everytime I watch them!

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +4

      thank you so much for watching them ❤️

  • @mingchang4759
    @mingchang4759 2 года назад +383

    I cried with you😭😭Great to see you're doing things for yourself. That was a short motivating video. Can't wait for more uploads. And we love youu❤️

  • @evelynpower8993
    @evelynpower8993 2 года назад +189

    i love that you are so honest and that you are showing us who you are

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +6

      thank u guys for making a comfortable community ❤️❤️

  • @iliyr7763
    @iliyr7763 2 года назад +56

    I feel lonely and I struggle with being alone. I wish I could get better at self love. I really needed this. Your video really helped me and I’m glad I came across your channel. It was my sign to start my self love journey for real.

  • @michellefishhead
    @michellefishhead 2 года назад +87

    this is exactly how i feel, you describe it perfectly, moving schools led me to not making long lasting friendships and even caused me to develop social anxiety, im now self studying at home and learning to love myself, thank you so much for this video :)

  • @gabydollo
    @gabydollo 2 года назад +148

    I'm so relieved to hear that you still felt lonely in university, cause I'm struggling with that too right now. Everyone makes it seem like it's supposed to be the best 4 years of your life filled with fun and parties, but with covid it's been hard making new friends. I'm glad to know you got through it and hopefully I will too!

    • @SapphicSis
      @SapphicSis 2 года назад +2

      i’m graduating in 2 months and my experience was a lot less fun than i expected college to be. i expected to meet many more life long connections but yk, life isn’t over. so ig i’ll get over it (just trying to adapt contentment)

    • @gayathrykrish7
      @gayathrykrish7 2 года назад +3

      @@SapphicSis same. I have one more year in college and I always thought college life would be so fun. but it's so boring and I didn't make much friends. I feel so out of place there. I just want it to end soon

    • @SapphicSis
      @SapphicSis 2 года назад +2

      @@gayathrykrish7 honestly same. i failed a class because of how unmotivated i am and this is my first time in 4 years. i didn’t think college would be majority school tbh.

    • @gayathrykrish7
      @gayathrykrish7 2 года назад +2

      @@SapphicSis It's okay. we will get through college somehow. I'm actually very used to it now. I was very sad in the beginning but now I'm like meh whatever. like Rebecca said in the video, let's take that energy to focus on ourselves💕

    • @yutassmilehealsme6572
      @yutassmilehealsme6572 2 года назад +1

      :( all my years were online so i didn’t get to make friends. On top of that i lost all my high school friends. now I work full time but it’s been incredibly lonely not having friends for like 4 years now lol

  • @Jenstine
    @Jenstine 2 года назад +21

    I was just thinking this morning as I was sitting alone on the commute "I'm not lonely, i'm just on a date with myself" so I feel like I manifested this video into my existence 🤣💜 love this video so much and such a good reminder to care for and respect yourself :)

  • @violasimeone8398
    @violasimeone8398 2 года назад +334

    Hey Rebecca, thank you so much for this video. I was having a bad day and when I saw you published I felt better already, but this is definetely your best video: I really appreciate how you were vulnerable and honest. I'm not good at words, but I hope you got what I mean lol. Have a lovely day

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +14

      I hope you feel better ❤️ have a great day ☺️☺️

  • @mollykatesullivan5298
    @mollykatesullivan5298 2 года назад +104

    I also lost one of the closest people to me when I was 11. My grandma was also my #1 role model, and I moved schools the school year after she passed. I feel for you so much and I am so glad you make such positive videos that change my perspective around. You are such a beautiful soul.🥺❤️❤️

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +10

      crazy how our stories are so similar ❤️

    • @shwetarstudying2321
      @shwetarstudying2321 2 года назад +2

      We are almost the same but for me my grandma passed away when i was 8

    • @mollykatesullivan5298
      @mollykatesullivan5298 2 года назад +1

      @@shwetarstudying2321 I’m so sorry to hear that. It’s so bittersweet to know that others in this community have had similar experiences

  • @saashi2482
    @saashi2482 2 года назад +36

    I was literally talking to my bestie about what if I like "date myself" and now u post this!! im sO GLAD that ur back love!! you always motivate me:)

  • @carlocaoili2781
    @carlocaoili2781 2 года назад +2

    stumbled across your video randomly, and i really love the authenticity that i feel from you. Loving yourself is very important. I feel like the theme of 2022 for me is love yourself and working on yourself. I felt like i poured a lot of my love to people that didnt really deserve it and neglected my own needs most of the time. I have social anxiety and it makes it hard for me to do certain things like starting conversations with male and females, old and young, eye contact, approaching people in groups. but i feel like ive gotten a lot better with it. i can go to places and order or ask for things and just be around people. ive lost a lot of weight (130 pounds) and despite it helping my confidence, it didnt help me with much with my anxiety. I feel its very important to be nice to people because a lot of the times, they could be going through things we may not know about. Please keep us updated and making more videos.

  • @oldaccount90909
    @oldaccount90909 2 года назад +20

    Dang. The part about feeling like no one cared for you/feeling alone got to me. Thank you for this vid. ❤️❤️ Subscribing.

  • @i_likedogs
    @i_likedogs 2 года назад +10

    thank you, i need this. i just feel like no one cares about me, like a burden and i feel like giving up a lot. i’m trying hard to work on myself and be there for me. your really inspiring and i’m taking baby steps. sending love❤️

    • @nuggetbucket1864
      @nuggetbucket1864 2 года назад

      Hey, as someone who felt that way for so long, almost all of my teenage years up till this year (currently 16), I promise u it gets better. But the most important thing is to try. Try to love urself, try to appreciate urself, try to take care of urself. When u appreciate urself, everything seems easier. I can promise u that. One day you'll get out of this horrible state and it'll get so much easier. You can do it. :) 💜

  • @infinityyyyyyy
    @infinityyyyyyy 2 года назад +16

    I read it somewhere : If only we knew how quickly ppl forget the dead ones , we'd stop living for impressing others . So girlss , are you gonna hate yourself according to some one else's insecurities 💜 We see so many pretty girls on social media , and start comparing ourselves.. But let me tell you that no one is happy in real. The girl you saw on social media , might be comparing herself with some one else.. And I believe -- that god is the greatest artist and every single thing he creates , is a masterpiece and so are you 💜💜comparing yourself is a huge disrespect to god.. 💜💜💜💜💜💜 Chin up queen , your crown is falling 🤗

  • @sofie3266
    @sofie3266 2 года назад +40

    omg i can’t even express how MUCH i LOVED this video 🤍🤍 the tips are so helpful and inspiring + please know that we support you SO FREAKING MUCH and you make our lifes genuinely better!

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +3

      thank you SO MUCH for being so kind ❤️ i think I have the best audience on RUclips

  • @LeahFrench
    @LeahFrench 2 года назад +71

    REBECCA!! You’re truly my favorite person on this platform. I’m so grateful I get to work with you 😃

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +4

      couldn’t have done it without you ❤️

  • @camilades587
    @camilades587 2 года назад +14

    I'm honestly going through a hard time, and this kind of content was just what I needed. Thank you for being so honest, it's so complicated feeling lonely in a world where everything it's just appearance.

  • @sirena47
    @sirena47 2 года назад +3

    When you started to cry as you talked it really touched me. All those times when I start to verbalize everything I’ve been feeling, yeah…I get you.

  • @erikaandco.6318
    @erikaandco.6318 2 года назад +26

    10:18 this transition was actually so smart, I love it XD Also, I'm a 100% sure that you inspire so many young people out there that don't know who they are or what meaning their life has yet. You're creating great and important influence and a safe space!! Thank you, keep it up and stay safe

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +2

      ahh thank you so much for watching ❤️❤️

  • @beingrinz3914
    @beingrinz3914 2 года назад +6

    the one and only youtuber I love the most

  • @isabellaa.4643
    @isabellaa.4643 2 года назад +11

    I feel like I am going through the exact journey that you did. I went from public to private, and back to public school, so I wasn't able to maintain any strong friendships. I'm a senior now, and it's been really difficult, and sometimes I feel really alone. But despite of this, I don't feel lonely, because I try to remember who I am as a person, and my family who cares so much about me. I'm working on being kinder to myself and I'm finally starting my self love journey :)

  • @teridactyl8129
    @teridactyl8129 2 года назад +9

    Thank you so much for this!! I've always felt like everyone else had a best friend who they would always be with except for me, and I never realized that I should be my own bestie.

  • @toad4112
    @toad4112 2 года назад +5

    I can relate to feeling lonely. I downloaded a couple of dating apps, skipped school, got into a relationship that both made me feel really happy and extremely sad this school year. I felt like I could not be alone because I would feel lonely. I was so used to getting validation from guys (from the dating apps and the relationship) that I did not see my own value without male attention. I lost interest in school and it was really hard for me to get out of the house. I just saw NO point in anything and I felt like I made all the issues in my life. I lied to my closest friend and we got into a discussion and lost contact for a while. I used to meet up with a guy late at night, even on school nights, because I just did not like my life and had such a low self esteem. I really want to start focusing on my self and I want to improve my grades, especially work a lot in math and physics. I know that I can do it if I want to. I just need to stay focused and find a good balance between being strict with myself but also kind. I do not need a relationship to be happy. I do not need external validation to see my own value. I am worthy even though I do not get as much compliments from guys without the dating apps.

  • @Jay_0605
    @Jay_0605 2 года назад +4

    This came up on my FYP and I don't regret clicking it. Everyone is going through pain or self-hate in one way or the other and we just put on a mask and pretend all is well thinking that will solve anything. I absolutely love the fact that you are real with us because in doing so you are helping a lot of people.
    Yes, working on ourselves is one of the best things we can do for ourselves. Be the best version of you for yourself

  • @ganeshprem3043
    @ganeshprem3043 2 года назад +4

    As someone who hates himself, and really can't comprehend what it means to love yourself, this is probaby the video that made me understand it quite a bit. Love how honest you are!

    • @toni5543
      @toni5543 Год назад +1

      Imagine the kind of parent you want to be, and parent yourself like that. That helps me!

  • @lillianmarilley3884
    @lillianmarilley3884 2 года назад +19

    Who else is soooo happy when Rebecca uploads?

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +4

      I’m so happy you watched ❤️

  • @aoifelol
    @aoifelol 2 года назад +7

    I love your channel and your videos so much, you never focus on quick fixes and always talk about things that can really change a persons life, not just things that sound good to a camera. Thank you for being real with us all the time and thank you for making these videos ❤️❤️

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +1

      Thank you for watching ❤️

  • @Manchimallow
    @Manchimallow 2 года назад +4

    The moment i started appreciating the relationship with myself and how it inst so scary to be 'alone' its made me never settle for less and not let other people treat me like trash. Im more vocal, confident and less scared to be upfront with my needs and boundaries

  • @annelieseclair3416
    @annelieseclair3416 2 года назад +16

    this made me realize im not alone when i feel this way. thank you for being so honest and transparent about your feelings

  • @abc-df3xq
    @abc-df3xq 2 года назад +10

    Our story is so similar
    Focusing on myself is the best decision I've ever made. Stay strong girl. Sending lots of love💕

  • @bitsofgissy2097
    @bitsofgissy2097 2 года назад +7

    ♡I've been wanting to love myself since I left middle school and from this video I am able to say that I am ready to be who I really want to be and love myself. I love your videos! I hope everyone finds ways to date themselves💜💜 ty so much for this

  • @Rebecca-jh1ct
    @Rebecca-jh1ct 2 года назад +3

    I honestly know how you feel cos when you talking about feeling alone I’ve felt like that for so long. But honestly this video made me realise that doing things by yourself has so many benefits and I’m going to get into fitness too! So I’m excited about that. My summer hasn’t exactly gone to plan but I’ll try to make it somewhat better. Thank you for this video it’s very inspiring and positive! I suffer with anxiety too so doing this and going out of my comfort zone can be the worst but I think I will try to do more things for myself even if I do feel a bit uncomfortable at times I know my future self will thank me for it! 💕

  • @ynghr03
    @ynghr03 2 года назад +11

    Welcome back sweetie! So good to see you again!
    I truly am fond of this type of videos. You add defintions, sources, chapters, etc. It's so professional! We can see that you really are someone brilliant!
    I relate so much to what you said and your story. Even if I have only moved once in my life, I've always felt like a foreign specter, someone left-behind. So, I came by myself to the same conclusion as you: if no one's gonna help me and love me, I have to do it myself. Why shall we rely on people while we are the person with whom we're gonna share our whole life and spend the most time with? Since then, I still have harsh times sometimes but I'm proud of the path I'm taking and all the changes in my life since I've taken the decision to pull myself together and improve the latter!
    I hope that you are doing well. You truly are someone endearing and I wish you the best, you deserve it

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад

      I’m so proud of you❤️ I hope you have a wonderful year :))

    • @ynghr03
      @ynghr03 2 года назад

      @@RebeccaJayy Oh yes it's true!! Happy New Year to you too! Hope this year will bring good things♥️

  • @jessicahong5090
    @jessicahong5090 2 года назад +8

    Rebecca, I just want to give you a hug because sometimes I do feel that no one likes me, and I don't have anyone by my side. But once I started to find the love and respect within myself, it made me realize that I don't need anyone to like me; all I have to do is be myself and love me for all of me. Especially I also have families by my side whenever I needed. And Thank you for being transparent and also sharing your personal story. I find you through your Tiktok account; you have influenced me to change my perspective or lifestyle. So once again, thank you so much, and please keep up with uploading more content. I am always looking forward to your videos.

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад

      thank you so much for watching and supporting ❤️

  • @LongNguyen-zg3gv
    @LongNguyen-zg3gv 2 года назад +1

    i have lived like this past couple months and i feel myself so much better. i spend more time for myself to exercises, mediate, reading book and learning new skills. so i love your video.

  • @itslamarspamzz3560
    @itslamarspamzz3560 2 года назад +13

    Rebecca! We love u so much! You don’t know us but we sure know you, you inspire so many, I just wanna let you know, everyone who reached success went through hard times! We are here for u all the time! Keep going! You got this bestieeee💕💕

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +1

      Ahhh thank youuuu ❤️❤️❤️

  • @honeycoverdkeys
    @honeycoverdkeys 2 года назад +5

    awe this is so sweet! beautiful bbg! I hope you find the loving community your searching for and am happy you are grounding yourself in loving you. I have been on the same journey to love in its fullness too! I read all about love by bell hooks, it really helped firmly grasp myself on the concept of romantic, familial, and platonic love. would highly recommend ! keep well mama xo

  • @pudge2792
    @pudge2792 2 года назад +1

    the amount of serotonin ur uploads give me omg

  • @ameliau9588
    @ameliau9588 2 года назад +2

    Thank you for being real, it makes me just relate and appreciate you so much. loving yourself is so important but is never talked about. This world teaches us to hate every little thing that makes us ourselves and makes us unique. Loving yourself is such a super power.

  • @roosvanschaik2160
    @roosvanschaik2160 2 года назад +3

    I'm so happy that you uploaded a new video i really started my day off right because of this video. All these comments are so sweet and i really hope you notice how many people care about you and how loved you are. Because of your videos i realised how important it is to love yourself first and ig not to be too hard on yourself. You're the only youtuber i feel like has a good impact on society because you're honest and stay true to yourself and i love that about you. I love youuu ♥

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +1

      I love youuu❤️❤️❤️

  • @janarrthinek8809
    @janarrthinek8809 2 года назад +5

    Hearing your story makes me wanna give you a long comforting hug. . .thank you for the much-needed video, and for being an awesome light as you are ❤️

  • @miffysounds
    @miffysounds 2 года назад

    i happened to stumble across this video just when i needed to. i also went from school to school and never had a stable person. i let people treat me bad because i tried to validate their actions. guys always coming in when im at my most vulnerable moments. ive felt like i have no purpose but then i realize how far ive made it.
    if i went through hell and back, i can with take more and more

  • @mimiekoker4530
    @mimiekoker4530 2 года назад +1

    Thank you so much I was stuck in ths mindset for the past weeks and i just felt numb like i felt nothing but then eventually let it all by crying and now that i have watched this video i have realised that i always wanted someone else's validation but need to love myself first.

  • @hih1590
    @hih1590 2 года назад +4

    this is so beautiful!! after trying to lay the foundation for self-care & prioritizing myself last year, i feel like this year is definitely gonna be the year of me. i have a hard time not feeling guilty when i'm not being "productive", although self-care & relaxing on my own actually is super productive and important for a happy life. thank you for inspiring me!

    • @nicky6762
      @nicky6762 2 года назад +1

      proud of you!!

    • @hih1590
      @hih1590 2 года назад +1

      @@nicky6762 aw thank you so much that’s so kind of you :’) sending well-wishes to you

  • @mmviniaa
    @mmviniaa 2 года назад +3

    I starting watching this video not expecting to cry , but I did!! You have helped me realize a few things and I honestly want to say thank you

  • @srijasinghxa436
    @srijasinghxa436 2 года назад +2

    when you cried, it made me feel so sad. I just recently discovered your channel and I absolutely love it it’s so good.I just want to say that me and the subscribers are there for you, you don’t need to feel lonely anymore, we are there for you! Cheer up 😭💞

  • @starheartzzlyricz
    @starheartzzlyricz 2 года назад +1

    Your story made me tear up because it's exactly how I'm feeling currently, I lost my sense of self because I constantly tried to fit in with others and on top of that I always had a hard time defending myself and also have a problem with being to nice and kind so people could walk all over me, and I also don't feel like I have a purpose In life right now, also don't have any friends currently because I find it difficult. Watching your video's inspired me to love myself and make time for myself before anyone else. Thank you

  • @lunita_lou9790
    @lunita_lou9790 2 года назад +11

    It is so great to see you again Rebecca! We missed you🤍

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +1

      great to see you too ❤️

  • @angel-qx5mr
    @angel-qx5mr 2 года назад +3

    bestieeee you're back omgggg i love you

  • @froggywaffles9454
    @froggywaffles9454 2 года назад

    i’ve watched some of your videos but i’m bingeing them at 11pm rn and fr your story actually made me cry. i used to have people send me stuff like you mentioned and i totally welcomed it because i was feeling so insecure and depressed at the time, even though i was only like 9 or 10 and 100% being taken advantage of. relating to that and seeing her cry made me literally sob lmao.

  • @valbond8197
    @valbond8197 2 года назад +1

    literally sobbing, this is the fist video i have seen from your channel and I already love it, thank you so much for this video

  • @crystalchavez5220
    @crystalchavez5220 2 года назад +5

    Thank you for sharing yourself in every light🥺Your videos always inspire/motivate me to be productive but take care of myself on the way. I love your videos and hope we can all have a better year

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +2

      I hope you have a great year ❤️

  • @mirelevance
    @mirelevance 2 года назад +6

    Rebecca, I really appreciate sharing your story and I love how honest and vulnerable you were! That’s so brave of you! For me, my childhood was a little similar to yours where my grandparents practically raised me due to my parents working. Unfortunately, I was placed into child sex trafficking from age 8-16 and I really struggled to love myself for the longest of time. Still, to this day men want me for my money, brain, or my body and I’ve just accepted that. Thankfully, I have learned to love myself and I have dated myself ever since. There’s power in self-love and now I use my rescue story as an inspiration to others when I make motivational speeches and when I counsel other females who have been sex trafficked. :)

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад

      I’m sorry you had to go through that, and I’m so happy that you’ve learned to love yourself ❤️

    • @mirelevance
      @mirelevance 2 года назад

      Thank you! It has been a rough journey and my biggest fear is still being used for someone else’s pleasure but I’m slowly working on it even today. It’s a journey for sure and I love how you said that. Well said. ❤️

  • @lauralynx_
    @lauralynx_ 2 года назад

    I feel you. And I almost cried with you. I felt so lonely for almost my entire life too. I always had one friend or two, but even though I tried to make it last as I could, some of them would get away from me for any reason. At school, I thought that everyone hated me. And I hated everyone, including myself. It has been such a journey to love myself and I am grateful I made it with my strength and good will, always hoping for the best days to come. I have been doing therapy for 5 years until now. Thank you for the video. You look like a lovely person. Also, the editing is great!

  • @auroraa1645
    @auroraa1645 2 года назад

    this video came just when i needed it omg, i was just talking to my friends about a guy that is making me feel very bad and self conscious and i realize that i should just focus on myself, but at the same time i want to feel loved. this video made me realize that im so much more important than a guy and that im the only person that should need my approval and unconditional love

  • @mariahs.8481
    @mariahs.8481 2 года назад +4

    Thank you so much for sharing this to us. You actually sharing your story along with the comments in this video made me feel like I wasn't alone. In my village, I have no friends. I was forcing myself to go out and socialize but there was no one I can socialize with. I feel sad and feel like no one cares about me and I'm going to be lonely forever (which I find funny and sad). But I'm watching this video right now hoping I can fully love myself and not depend my happiness to other people.

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +1

      Wishing you the best of luck ❤️❤️❤️

  • @mishti6589
    @mishti6589 2 года назад +1

    BESTIE YOU'RE THE BEST, YOU'RE LITERALLY THE ONLY ONE WHO INSPIRE ME

  • @erinnz
    @erinnz 2 года назад +2

    I am so proud of you and how you've pushed through all those hard days. I wish you the best of luck on your self-love journey and growth as an individual ♡

  • @manitadeb4787
    @manitadeb4787 2 года назад +20

    Love you and your videos Rebecca !!!! As I've said earlier, you're my monthly boost of motivation !💖💝

  • @noaberthejurjens622
    @noaberthejurjens622 2 года назад +3

    Girl I love your videos you’re so open about your life and emotions that is so beautiful and it’s so beautiful that you trust us with those vulnerable moments I love how you grow and update us about it it feels real cause growth isn’t lineair this video mend a lot to me and I look forward to using your tips and I look forward to a new video thank you so much for all of this ❤️❤️❤️

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +1

      you guys are so kind it makes me feel really comfortable ❤️ thank you guys for always being amazing

    • @noaberthejurjens622
      @noaberthejurjens622 2 года назад

      @@RebeccaJayy of course it rare that someone is so real I really appreciate it

  • @gabbynicole2946
    @gabbynicole2946 2 года назад +1

    Okay I dont know how I found your youtube channel but im so so thankful and glad I did! I've been feeling depressed and just sad and thinking I need a relationship to be happy when that relationship can bring you more down and in pain. Recently I got cheated on my first boyfriend and he was everything I ever wanted and since I found this video I feel like I need to make myself be more happy and treat myself with lots of love. You really helped me and I thank you! Actually watching this video made me cry. Were in this together queen and were here for each other! I love you queen xoxo💗💗💗

  • @ItsVey-us7vj
    @ItsVey-us7vj 2 года назад +1

    i appreciate vlogs like this a lot, since it keeps me on the grid whenever i feel like slipping away. It motivates me, touches me, and makes me not feel alone.

  • @tobiokageyama7589
    @tobiokageyama7589 2 года назад +3

    Hey rebecca, I usually never comment, but I just wanted to thank you for all of your amazing content and know that you will never be lonely. Love u !

  • @ioanna111
    @ioanna111 2 года назад +5

    Honestly , Rebecca I can relate to you in many senses . From 6th grade even , many of my co-students felt like they didn't want to hang out with me (or my siblings) and many times they were gossiping and saying bad stuff without any reason (from mine perspective. Because as I think of it now , maybe they were jealous amongst other causes ). I remember these situations so vividly because as children something that now may be , those days these would feel like our whole life . That's why I think many kids are traumatised . This lasted until the end of high school pretty much , with fluctuations . On another note , my grandma passed away this summer (August 2021) and it was such a traumatising event . I knew that this was gonna happen eventually , but not so soon (she was only 71) . Honestly , my biggest fear of mine is losing my close people . I still miss her so much and can't come to the realisation of her death . (I think that you never realise this ) She was such a kind soul , always putting other people (her family , friends) above herself . She had gone through so many difficulties ( losing a baby , surgeries due to cancer, diabetes due to a gone bad surgery ) but still she would always smile and be positive and so loving . I always admired her , but I didn't say that to her . I still regret this due to this day . I realise now more than ever how she was and felt her like a second mother , like a best friend . Sorry for the big text !! Hope you and your loved ones are safe and healthy

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +3

      that’s so difficult to go through :( I know you got this ❤️ stay healthy!

  • @taylordeal4154
    @taylordeal4154 Год назад

    Thank you so much for making this. My boyfriend and I have been attached at the hip for so long after moving in together that I put all of my self worth and comfort in him. We recently had a major rift and I've never felt so lost and alone. I realized I haven't spent any time with myself at all. I haven't done anything on my own for so long. My whole schedule revolves around him. While we're working on our relationship, I'm making some changes to spend more time by myself, doing more things by myself, and doing things FOR myself. Even if it's "us against the world" there are going to be times when you are the only person you have, and you have to be comfortable with that.

  • @keiiannie2282
    @keiiannie2282 2 года назад

    i actually glad i found this video SO MUCH .my college year start next month so this is what i needed ,not as a motivation , but more like i need the truth ,the reality of life as a student and as a person . I'm really thankful for this and i hope you have great days , always

  • @emiliebrygger-enoksen7608
    @emiliebrygger-enoksen7608 2 года назад +3

    You are so inspiring and I’m so glad that you’re back on RUclips!

  • @kritibhardwaj7482
    @kritibhardwaj7482 2 года назад +3

    I missed you so much that i rewatched your channel twice as you always gives me so much motivation, love you thanks for all of your hardwork❤❤

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +1

      I’ve missed you more!!

    • @kritibhardwaj7482
      @kritibhardwaj7482 2 года назад +1

      @@RebeccaJayy and please never ever ever give up you mean alot to us and don't ever feel you are not important you are and forever will be important for us 💕💕❤️❤️❤️

  • @iselinthorsen
    @iselinthorsen 2 года назад +2

    never related to someone so much, thank u

  • @isabellegosling7491
    @isabellegosling7491 2 года назад +2

    I needed this…this week I’ve just been randomly breaking down and not giving myself enough love over others. I struggle to prioritise my own feelings so thank you.

  • @katherinelowell220
    @katherinelowell220 2 года назад +3

    we love you hun and your content never fails to make me smile

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +1

      your comments never fail to make me smile ❤️

  • @ioanna111
    @ioanna111 2 года назад +3

    Okay but this was a video much needed right now . Honestly ! Thank you so much Rebecca ! :)

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +1

      thank you for watching ❤️❤️

  • @anna6809
    @anna6809 2 года назад +1

    I'm someone who has changed schools a lot, almost every other year and your story felt so personal. I've had years of wondering who I was and what I meant to other people. I struggled a lot with the feeling of being someone who was easily replaceable. It shot down my self confidence and at one point, I stopped trying to get to know people or make friends because I knew it wasn't going to last anyways. I've felt isolated, lonely, hopeless and helpless and no one ever seemed to quite understand why I felt the way I did.
    But over the years, I worked on my relationship with myself. I'm currently working and I've managed to make a few but very reliable friends, something teenage me felt would always be out of reach.
    On one side, I'm glad someone understands what it feels like to be in my shoes and on the other side, I'm so sorry you had to feel like that. I hope now you know that you're so very loved. Thank you for sharing your story. It made my day💗
    Much love! XOXO

  • @makhinpyaesone7744
    @makhinpyaesone7744 2 года назад +2

    I have been missing you and waiting for something related to 2022 so far

  • @pogca384
    @pogca384 2 года назад +3

    i loved this video so much, your always so inspirational for me rebecca, ilysm

  • @alice-sz4rb
    @alice-sz4rb 2 года назад +4

    you're such a inspiration. never stop doing this amazing work!!

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +1

      you guys make it worth it!!

  • @irennavoyan2327
    @irennavoyan2327 2 года назад +2

    Girllll, you have such a pure heart and sweet personality 🥺 Thank you for making me realise I’m not the only one feeling this way. Will use the tips you have given! 💕

  • @TynishaTalks
    @TynishaTalks 2 года назад +2

    Aw baby! Hearing your cry makes me want to hug you. We are from vastly different backgrounds but I totally relate to you.
    You’re so brave to be vulnerable and share your story! Sending love your way ❤️

  • @carlaverginenastase9948
    @carlaverginenastase9948 2 года назад +5

    Love your energy 💗

  • @natashalizmanoj6171
    @natashalizmanoj6171 2 года назад +3

    I LOVEEEE YOUUU SOO MUCH. YOU'VE REALLY HELPED ME ALOT ❤❤

  • @ChisChanTian
    @ChisChanTian 2 года назад

    Stumbled on your channel as I was searching for videos to help me feel more comfort as I've recently been feeling lost and out of sorts. I moved around a lot growing up and continue to do so for work. I've been able to build community but still searching for where home is and where I want to set my roots down. Thanks for sharing and being so vulenrable. The way your voice sounds during chapter 2 broke my heart. Hope you continue strong on your self love journey and know that you've helped so many people already :)

  • @Peekaab00
    @Peekaab00 2 года назад

    It feels like people actually care about me” this sentence broke me and now I’m crying!

  • @kadsyz2462
    @kadsyz2462 2 года назад +3

    Hello beautiful girl I just want to tell you one think ! Every people who don’t see your values ARE COMPLETELY DUMB ! You don’t need to prove to anyone here that’s YOU’RE GORGEOUS because it’s a fact. Peridot! They don’t have the chance to have you in theirs lives . So be you without thinking JUST ONE MINUTE that your not a person with potential or personality or just something to give to others ! BECAUSE YOU’RE THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF!
    Ps:love the vibe you give ! Keep going girl !

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +1

      Thank you for your support ❤️❤️😭

  • @sofijaasonja8383
    @sofijaasonja8383 2 года назад +3

    Hellooo everyone

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад +1

      hiii

    • @sofijaasonja8383
      @sofijaasonja8383 2 года назад +1

      @@RebeccaJayy hey, just wanted to say thank you 💜 this video motivated me soo much bcs i am feeling better about myself and my situation right now so once again THANK YOU 💜😘

  • @ciaprice9537
    @ciaprice9537 2 года назад

    Omg when you started crying when you said it feels like people actually care about you I wanted to cry too!!! You're such a sweetheart

  • @cassandraa7435
    @cassandraa7435 2 года назад +1

    thank you for showing us a different side of self love. I feel like a lot of people feel like they NEED to be in a relationship to feel happy but most of the times happiness starts within and I’m glad I watched this video :)

  • @fayelam5037
    @fayelam5037 2 года назад

    Rebecca, you're an angel sent from above. You're a kind soul. Also to the person/people behind your camera, you're amazing.
    Something pulled me this video, despite it being posted 4 months ago. My life hasn't been the best lately and I thought I didn't need any of this. But you just proved me wrong, and I'm thankfull.
    And to everyone, you are all loved, and love is not forcefull. We all start out as a kind soul. We love ourselves.

  • @aestheticluv3r697
    @aestheticluv3r697 2 года назад +2

    Self love is so so sooo important thank u for thisssd

    • @RebeccaJayy
      @RebeccaJayy  2 года назад

      I always look forward to your comments ❤️❤️

    • @aestheticluv3r697
      @aestheticluv3r697 2 года назад

      @@RebeccaJayy ahhhhh ur videos make me so happy tyyyy

  • @EnvyInEloquence
    @EnvyInEloquence Год назад

    Ah! You break my heart ❤️ Just know you've made a difference in my life, your school tips have really helped me in university. This is my first term back and I feel more prepared than I ever did before. Thank you! If no one has told you lately, you're doing great!

  • @nayanendusanthosh8255
    @nayanendusanthosh8255 2 года назад

    your channel feels like a safe place :') the way you talk is so comforting

  • @pinkeeluvr
    @pinkeeluvr 2 года назад +2

    Rebecca, I literally started crying when you said that people actually care about you on this channel because we do ❤️ Im a new subbie and really needed this video. You mean so much to us! Thank you for the beautiful and transparent words you shared 💕

  • @tallulahwonders2816
    @tallulahwonders2816 2 года назад

    I’ve moved a ton since kindergarten, also. And then as a adult after having multiple apartments, I felt like I “had it all”, yet wasn’t happy. Started the nomad life, made it to CO and am still struggling to learn the difference between superficial socialization, and real connection. After moving so much, there’s a feeling of a desire to run, go to the next place but I know I can’t if I want to have real deep connections. I haven’t had a best friend since highschool. Your video composition is awesome, I can tell you put alot of time and thought into it. Inspires me because I’ve been wanting to do this for so long, and the people that have responded to my inspirational speaking and ranting have shown me… people actually care about me.

  • @faithbradley4224
    @faithbradley4224 2 года назад +2

    I have a bunny and I love her to pieces, and she takes up my whole day, which forces me to be more intentional about my time to myself and my family. I look forward to each day, to just wake up and have my 'me' time. Lots of love ❤

  • @hialoevera793
    @hialoevera793 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for making me feel like I’m not alone. My family immigrated to the US when I was 11 & I had to leave everyone & everything I know behind. I’ve been feeling lonely & out of place ever since. I hope you know that you’re not alone anymore!! Love this video & love you girl! Will always be rooting for you!!! 💗💗

  • @rjbarney1054
    @rjbarney1054 2 года назад +1

    i moved around a ton as a kid and as a teenager and it was really cool to know that someone had a similar experience and also to see how you worked through it to the place you are now. it was such a inspirational video. Thank you

  • @kokoxo_
    @kokoxo_ 2 года назад

    i was having a badd last few days and god made me find your channel and I'm so grateful