hey besties, it would mean the WORLD to me if you considered subscribing and liking this video 🫶😭 (and watching until the end!!) I appreciate all of you so much you have no ideaaaa
I really needed this video. I'm struggling with being alone since I ended up messing up a relationship that I really valued. Just so worried about the future and being without this person. Learning that all I really need is myself and God and I'll be ok. Some days I feel better than others, but really appreciate this video.
Bruhh same- but i need a advice for it like i really love that person ( not one sided) but i can imagine and its impossible of them being in my future life wtf- should i do leave it here or lets see whsts gonns happen???
@@yoonmin.aesthetic i feel like you should try it. Even if you think it's not possible. You don't want to reget it and think in a few years 'damn. I should have asked this person to go on a date' have a good one, bye
@Brianna I was in the same situation one year ago. My boyfriend ended our long relationship and I couldn't imagine being alone or without him. But oh I can't tell you how much changed in this one year. I promise you it will get better and you will start feeling comfortable with being alone. If you work on it and start seeing it as a quality time to improve yourself, reflect or rest, you will start to value your alone time. One year from now you will be in total different position and a different state of mind. Never give up on yourself xx
I had constantly been getting jealous of everyone around me and I was unconsciously avoiding spending time alone, but today now that I finally did I understand that I was skipping on needed self-care time and your video made me realise these things
Studying abroad in Japan made me realized that I only have myself at the end of the day. It was lonely at first but I’m used to it now :) Going out alone is my favorite thing to do now!
as an introverted myself, I've always appreciated my alone time, and I think this video explains one of the best thing we can do for our mental health! Now you reminded me that i have a beautiful garden so i'll go there to read :) thank u
i have social anxiety so one of my biggest struggles is being by myself in public places. i turned seventeen couple of days ago and when i say i have social anxiety people literally laugh in my face and they're like oh so you can't go to the grocery store alone grow up finally. i can go to grocery store alone, i can pay for myself and everything but with huge amount of anxiety on my back. i'm growing up in toxic and at some point abusive household so when my parents comment on my body or anything else, i think that others think the same as them. i like to be alone, you know just reading my books, listening to music, playing games and more. i don't feel lonely when i'm alone. but these days when you're focusing on yourself and you don't really hang out with people, or you don't go to parties to drink etc you're considered to be a "boring" person with no life. when i think of it all, people my age literally f*ck around and i'm stuck in my house trying to figure out myself because now i have no idea who i am or who i am supposed to be. anyways, i loved the video so much. your channel is one of my comfort things for quite a while. i love you and hope you're having a great day/night. much love. 🤍🧚♂
thank you for sharing, it must be really hard living with social anxiety :( but just bc you like to be alone doesn’t mean you’re boring!! I appreciate u and thank u for watching ❤️ I wish u the best ☺️
omg i related to this so much, my entire schoolyear i barely looked into eyes of anyone in school - but now im excited for it. We are gonna be so, so brave, i wish you luck!
"People can change, people can leave without any reasons, people can pass away in 1,000 different ways. The only person you have in the end is yourself." Wow, I loved it when you said that. Thank you for sharing all your wonderful videos and content - I've found your videos so helpful.
I’m the same. I do go on short breaks alone but I’ve never eaten out by myself or attend most events but it’s worth taking yourself out of your comfort zone sometimes.
It's not just a content, it makes a real difference in someone's way of thinking and feeling. I'm really grateful to be here and knowing that the feeling that have been bothering me so much is actually something I should be cherishing.
it felt so great being understood ! my mom always feel worries when i do stuff alone, when i go to museums alone, restaurants alone, i just need some honest time with myself to feel better with others
I have no friends or partner, and two years ago, by the end of the summer, my mental health was at zero. I even spent a couple of weeks in the hospital. the doctor said that everything was fine with my physical health. now, looking back at it, I understand that it was from the fact that I could not spend time alone. but now I'm working on myself, and it's much easier for me to survive the summer. thank you, Rebecca, I always enjoy watching your vids. you are awesome!!!!!
i know that i’m a year late but this really helped me. after being in a 4 year relationship that ended in a traumatic way, i realised i never did things for myself. During the sudden breakup and extreme exam stress, i had also pretty much lost all my friends. at first i was afraid of being alone but it has allowed me to have time to heal and better myself. sometimes its hard to feel good about it but seeing how much i’ve grown and how much happier i’ve been really makes it feel worth it. i’m 18 in less than 2 months, have no friends and don’t go out every weekend partying but i’m ok with that! as long as i’m happy, why does it matter to other people?
the fact that going to a restaurant by yourself was on level 3 is surprising to me lol, as someone who has super bad social anxiety and hates being perceived in public, going to restaurants is one of the few things i can convince myself to do (probably because my constant desire for food is stronger than my aversion to people but idk)
I used to wait for my friends to be available so that I could go out with them. but many times, I ended up being pissed at myself that I wasted my off days waiting for someone to be available. that's when I started going out on my own. to the mall, to the movies (multiple times), to a restaurant. I would advise listening to music/podcast, watching RUclips, anything that can sorta distract you a little bit during your first few times going out alone so that you don't get so overwhelmed with the thought whether everyone's staring at you or judging you, especially for those with social anxiety/awkwardness. I wanna try the beach/picnic/cycling idea soon. all the best! we can do it!! ❤
I just saw your "WHY YOU SHOULD FOCUS ON YOURSELF ♡ (how to date yourself & my self love journey)" and It inspired me, *might try something like you did as well* I felt lonely in this world, like I didn't fit with anyone when I was in grade 4-9...but in the 10th grade I started to love myself more and learn new things (music, dancing, art...) , gave me popularity and confidence in myself for the last 3 years of HS Struggled and went through a dark past Spending time alone to myself again for the last 5 months..losing my Mom to Cancer, I felt empty during the 2 months she passed away and currently on a Journey to Self-Love again. Trying to go on dates with myself and enjoying nature. God bless to everyone on their journey to love yourself, it's a important thing to keep in mind.
its good to learn how to like being alone. obviously, its also good to have social reactions every once and a while, but its good to learn to be independent and spend time with yourself :)
This has to be my favorite video from you yet!!😀. There’s a toxic family member I need to break away from, but I’m scared to do it because we’ve always been so close. But I can’t deal with the pain anymore. This video helped me to know that I’m going to be okay🥰. Thanks Becca. Love you and your videos😊💕💕
Definitely feeling lonely. My birthday is in a week and I will literally have nobody around me. BUT i will treat myself to a nice gym session followed by some skateboarding afterwards. I'll go get a nice haircut and I will give myself the day off from doing work. Ending the day with some fresh pizza and a nice movie I can watch ,':D
Thank you so much for being real, Rebecca. It's easy to assume that a college age and attractive looking girl like yourself would be "living it up", having parties and being surrounded by people 24/7. But as you've mentioned, it isn't the case for many people, yourself included. And we should all learn to detox from social media and be comfortable with ourselves every once in awhile! Sending you hugs from Singapore :) - Just another recent college grad who chanced upon and fell in love with your style of vlogs!
My phone broke at the beginning of summer and my parents have been to busy to get it fixed and not being able to talk to anyone and I've legit started to cry a lot, and I still can't stand being alone, but this video has helped me :')
Thank you for posting this video! I feel like I need time alone, because I sometimes still feel insecure about my height because my friends are like way taller than me, even I think you're taller than me and I'm a boy lol. Your channel helped me accept who I am, and thank you for that.
I definitely get the struggle to be a small guy when it is kind of the standard to be tall. Just know that some people like small guys (at least I do) and that your physical appearance do not define who you are. Be comfortable and happy with who you are. You height does not define your worth💕
I was just searching how to "take yourself on a date and this video appeared. Tomorrow I'm gonna go to library then have a picnic outside, thanks for the video :))
Dealing with a long distance relationship where my bf is in the military has really forced me to spend time with myself and I’ve come to enjoy my time alone. I don’t have a ton of friends, either. This last year has been a growing and learning experience for me, and this video made me feel validated ❤
I realized since my school year started i haven't been loving myself as much, I was so confused on why I am feeling so down and sad, coming across your video helped me feel like me again, thank you I am me again ❤
I found out my bf of 5 years cheated on me last year, leading to the past events we shared out together turning into one huge lie. Like you said, I kept him around despite issues we’ve had cause I didn’t want to be alone until this moment. This video really helped me realize I can be single and free again, thinking of going to a restaurant by myself now
Thank you for this video. In high school I had held onto a friend who was really hurting me because I was afraid to be alone. When I finally let her go, it was so hard to be alone. I’m learning now that it’s okay! I took myself out one day. I was scared but I did it and it was so relaxing. And you are so right. I wanted to grow but felt like I was going in circles. I asked my cousin for some advice and she said that you need that time by yourself to really grow just as much as you need to be surrounded by good people! Your videos are so amazing! Keep up the good work! 💖
I love this video sm, thank you for posting it! Often times I used to find myself feeling alone bc I the majority of the time I wasn’t accompanied by people where I’d go but lately I’ve adapted to the feeling of being alone with myself and no longer feel bad about it. This video truly shows that you don’t need the company of other to have a good time and being alone isn’t a bad thing
Hi Rebecca, I have just found your channel and this is the first video of yours that ı have watched. I feel depressed and lost in my own way and don't know what to do in the case of crisis. I feel worthless and desperate after failing in my job which I started only a week ago. Although I believe it was for my own good, I still can't help myself see it in that way. I have returned to my family home in the village and try to adjust to the atmosphere here after living alone for many years in a big city. I have dreams to follow my higher education like Master's and even Phd. However I can't get admissions from many universities in Europe and even if I did, it will cost me a lot and I can't afford it right now. That was why I was looking for a job so that I could save some money and then apply for the suitable program. Anyways, I just wanted you to know that this video will help many people like me to take a deep breath and focus on themselves, to know how to spend some quality time even if there is no one around. Thank you so much, and one more thing, you are beautiful
I love this video it gives me so much comfort and I am so excited for summer myself! I am from Germany and in 6 days my summer break begins, after my vacation in Croatia I am finally starting my bulk and I am just so excited for the time I get to spent with myself going book shopping, to the gym and some meet up with friends! Thank you for this video it just made me more excited 🤍🤍
Dear Rebecca, thank u so much for this video!! Every summer since middle school I spend mostly alone. That's why I always feel uncomfortable and stay at home nearly all day long. But this vid trully motivated me to do something New alone💗
Thanks I really needed this ♡︎ I’m always alone in high school, and I have social anxiety, thank you for comforting me, hope one day I can overcome myself and step out of comfort zone to stop worried too much and being sacred, thank you 💕
You’re not the only one experiencing loneliness in high school. There are others out there, I’m dealing with it too. But we will be okay ❤️ keep that chin up.
Me watching this video.. in the mind of it I’m literally saying “ omg I love this girl, I love her “ cuz she’s really amazing! and I love watching her💗
Well I tried this experience, of having a picnic by myself and I must say… It was completely awesome ❤️ Thank you so much for the inspiration Rebecca ❤️
second summer in a foreign country. first summer i spent in someone else’s house babysitting my little brother by myself. now the second summer i’ve spent most of it in my bedroom alone because i don’t have any friends to hang out with. i have people here that i sit with at school but no actual friends. so i’m trying to spend the rest of my summer actually doing something and enjoying it instead of staying in bed and rewatching the same two tv shows :)
Your videos and your voice bring me so much peace and I just start feeling better immediately 🥰 A great source of useful information and motivation, thank you so much for making these videos
as always the perfect timing of your video uploads is what really makes me feel really connected to you I guess. I was struggling with the fact of being alone for last 2-3 months a lot. The fear of being lonely at life became so crrippling in my life all of a sudden! Your video just led me to be at ease with the fact. Thank you Rebecca!🤍
Hey sister!! This video is so amazing, it made me realise that I have been wasting my life by seeking external validation and totally forgot to enjoy my own company. Now that I have realised it I will only focus on myself and do what is important for me.
Having beach days on my own was one of the best decisions I've made. I used to think it was super weird to just do stuff alone, like everyone would judge me for it. The truth is that absolutely nobody cares (in a good way).
thank you for this.. i have lived my life hating myself, afraid to be judged. And I also thought being with people would make me feel better and that being alone is something worthless. But now I know, so thank you for this. Thank you for curing my sadness. Appreciate it if you notice my comment, thank you! My goal next year is to live life happy, to be successful in enjoying my own company, overcoming and breaking away from my comfort zone.. bless you..
This video helped me a lot as I struggle to focus on myself and constantly want to be around others. I always feel like I need to have someone with me to keep myself entertained and it leads to an unrealistic mindset. I've been told that I need to care and love myself more and this video definitely made me think about what I can do to change my unhealthy lifestyle.
Hi Rebecca! This video was so beautiful and well done! It brought a smile to my face. This is definitely something that does not get talked about enough, and becoming my own best friend has changed my life. Even though I’m only 15 and I can’t really take myself anywhere, just being ok with being alone is the perfect start.
Thank you so much Rebecca for being there. Currently I feel so down and low because I was on a weight loss journey and I've been failing for 2 years. This summer I really thought that I would do it but now I feel otherwise. I just turned 18 and I never pictured my 18 to be this depressing and having such a bad body image. I hope I can improvise and not give up. I love you. Keep doing you.
Thanks for posting this! I really needed this video with that message. I always forget that I should not hold people in my life even though I do not feel good with them or was hurt by them. Just so I am not alone. But also what's my reminder to everyone else here: Even if you feel alone, like nobody is there for you, I believe (and maybe you can too) that there is someone out there (doesn't matter, if it's god, a loved person that isn't near you right now or someone who has passed away) who really cares for you and will always be with you and watch over you. I really like to picture myself being watched and cared by my grandma, who passed away over 10 years ago. I like to believe that she is so proud of me for getting through this and that she will always be there to guide me. I really wish you all the best!
Gorgeous shots! Also, the message is so true. I never thought to just have a picnic by myself. Makes sense to enjoy yourself in your own company than try and demand attention from those who might be toxic. And it's healthy to have boundaries put into place for yourself
This video is so much beatiful , i apreciate the amount of research and information you put in , you letearly described what iam being throguh , and yeah i used to be upset and sad when iam by my self , but whith time i start to enjoy my company and to stay out of negativity and toxic people or people who doesn't preciate you, it very beatiful especialy in your 20's you can do what you love and focus on your self and solve your problems and heal from your truamas and better undertand who you are and plan for your future , peacful meaningful life .
i really love your videos because they make me feel validated and accepted in how i feel, but they also help me understand those feelings better with science which is so cool. i love learning new things, so every time you mention a quote, person, book or a study i literally screenshot it for later so i can learn more. love you
Rebecca you don't even know... How much I needed this video... It's calm my mind.. I was overthinking for 1 week... Kw I have only 20 days left before school starts... So I want to thank you...
The floral dress looked great on you but you also looked good in the jeans and white top too! You seem like a really fun person with a positive energy and spirit 💕
I normally watch your videos at like 5pm because I’m bored of sitting around and watching tv and they give me motivation so I’m going to try and watch some in the morning so I a can be motivated to do stuff. You are my favourite youtuber btw x
Definitely going to try some of these activities. I notice I get sad and feel lonely waiting for people to reach out to me to do things. Sometimes I must take the initiative and do things for myself (and try to include others if u want) !!
hey! i appreciate your videos a lot, i’m 13 and i don’t really have any friends as i just feel like i can’t find someone who relates to me or has similar interests. i’ve always been alone but i’ve been embarrassed to be alone, everyone looks at me whenever i’m sitting or walking alone. but i find peace with being alone, this video’s helped me realize that there’s nothing to be ashamed of, when being alone. this summer i want to workout, get my dream body (not to look good in clothing, or to look good for others, but for me. so i can feel comfortable with myself) and start eating healthier and developing healthy habits. your channel has helped so much with that. i love your videos, each one of them motivates me more and more, i love you rebecca, please don’t stop posting these amazing vids! thanks to you, i’m gonna be working on myself, by myself this summer.
samehere ! Im 16 and ive chosen to be alone this summer , you may feel alone but dont worry your not the only person going through this, the right people will find you girll dw !
hi!! I have just seen your video and that really help me because these last year i spend more time alone and It's very difficult to me to spend time with my friends because i feel less in trust. Alone, I can decide what I want and when I will do something and no one can stop me to doing it. A couple month ago, I went alone for the first time to a restaurant and I really enjoy it. I try every single day to do feel better and I want it too, so this video help me a lot. Thanks you for your words :))
thank you for this video. recently I've been feeling lonely and your video helped me find a different perspective. I'm gonna work on myself for a bit and see where I'll end up on the other side :)
I've been trying to enjoy being by myself more recently. I was in active addiction for years and distracting myself, so I forgot how to actually spend time being sober and actually enjoying it. I spend a lot of time alone but I'd usually just be sitting on my phone or watching videos all day until I could go out with people again. I seem to have forgotten that hobbies are a thing, I don't really know what I enjoy doing but I'm trying to relearn this again.
heyyyyy Rebecca bestie 💌 you're really giving me vibe of " myself " thank you sooo muchhh for realizing me that myself is precious, GORGEUS ASF 😭🤙🏻and just me will be at the end 👄
You literally motivated me to come out of a really bad depression episode, thank you so much for all of your hard work into your videos!! it really really does mean a lot to all of us 🥰🥹
Im a shy person but always had friends never had in my life got out alone for lunch or for the movies or anything I always thought that I needed someone to go with and have fun... cut the story short I have no friends anymore I spend all my time at home and after a lot of thinking I realized that okay I have no friends but I have myself and that's enough not gonna lie I'm so hesitant about going out alone it feels so weird but it's a must I need to learn how to enjoy my time alone I will try to get there and explore my city to anyone out there who feels the same you are not a loser you are enough for yourself and that's what matters
The word Relationship gave me ghost bump 😆 may be I'm introvert , I'm so good being as a loner cause i can breath fully and enjoy own company . People's say alone is bored but for me it is much more better 😘😘 i love being alone .
I just found your channel and honestly, you're an interesting individual. I find it fascinating that we are very alike so I can relate on many levels. I love the positive messages you deliver - you're the type of people I would consider role models so I'm subscribing 😇 Don't ever change, people like you are rare. Btw you're super pretty! I'm looking forward to your next video. Stay safe ☺️
Love this ❤️this is exactly what my summer has been like and it’s definitely healing ,difficult but really good for myself. I like how you did research about certain facts too .
i needed this video so much. i used to be good at doing things alone but its hard to get that feeling back after covid!! i also get so nervous for my safety as a young girl being out by myself
i love your videos, they make me feel whole! They make me want to strive for a better life & i will. I want to be happy alone without needing others. Thank you!!
You're right thanks for giving me more ideas about loving myself and trying to create a better version of me. You're video is so inspirational indeed it gave me more strength to face a better me 💗😊
Struggling with not having any friends is tough i have no one to help me except my family im gratefull but sad since i dont have any firends i am just home on my phone and doing nothing all day knowing damn well i can do something but i would not im trying to do something with it even tho its not helping its really pretty outside and i wanna go out but i dont have anything to do outside my mom has work to do my dad is not home my sister doesnt pay attention to me so i would preffer staying inside but i really wanna go outside to do something i hope this video will give me ideas❤🎉 UPDATE- i went on a drawing picnic by myself it was a little scary but fun❤
Today I was really depressed bcs I didn't want to waste my summer, while I was literally wasting it with thinking of that. And I was rly scared bcs I have no irl friends, that's why I am rly grateful u uploaded this :)
hey Rebecca, i just discovered your channel today and i wont lie, it was extremely inspirational and it makes people that are going through tough times just a bit better maybe its because we all fear to be alone and to do things that we need to be validated for. anyways thank you for such having such a kind heart to share your experiences and such vulnerable yet self loving content ! keep going
Thank you so much for such an incredible video. I am so thankful that half a year ago I came across your channel and from that day I never missed your single video. your voice somehow brings peace to my mind and your outlook on life is so beautiful. 🤩n you are so pretty.thank you for such great content.
Your channe is comfort zone for me and your videos are like my therapy ❤️ thank you for motivating me when I'm on my lowest 😊🥰 lots of love from Nepal 🇳🇵💜❣️
hey besties, it would mean the WORLD to me if you considered subscribing and liking this video 🫶😭 (and watching until the end!!) I appreciate all of you so much you have no ideaaaa
You are super cute and special,you are very pretty,love you
Your so smart!!!
hello ! i just found ur account and i really like ur video it helped me a lot thank u (i also like and subscribed😭💗) !!
I really needed this video. I'm struggling with being alone since I ended up messing up a relationship that I really valued. Just so worried about the future and being without this person. Learning that all I really need is myself and God and I'll be ok. Some days I feel better than others, but really appreciate this video.
Bruhh same- but i need a advice for it like i really love that person ( not one sided) but i can imagine and its impossible of them being in my future life wtf- should i do leave it here or lets see whsts gonns happen???
@@yoonmin.aesthetic i feel like you should try it. Even if you think it's not possible. You don't want to reget it and think in a few years 'damn. I should have asked this person to go on a date' have a good one, bye
@@hello-jz5vb thank you for your advice i love you you have a good day 💗✨
@@yoonmin.aesthetic 😘
@Brianna I was in the same situation one year ago. My boyfriend ended our long relationship and I couldn't imagine being alone or without him. But oh I can't tell you how much changed in this one year. I promise you it will get better and you will start feeling comfortable with being alone. If you work on it and start seeing it as a quality time to improve yourself, reflect or rest, you will start to value your alone time. One year from now you will be in total different position and a different state of mind. Never give up on yourself xx
I had constantly been getting jealous of everyone around me and I was unconsciously avoiding spending time alone, but today now that I finally did I understand that I was skipping on needed self-care time and your video made me realise these things
take care of yourself ❤️
Studying abroad in Japan made me realized that I only have myself at the end of the day. It was lonely at first but I’m used to it now :) Going out alone is my favorite thing to do now!
Japan is so nice ❤️ hopefully I can go there in the future ☺️
Aww that's so cool though, how long are you staying there?
@@victoriah.3857 About 5 years :)
Hey I wanna know about how do you feel living in Japan because I wanna go there one day too
@@mirzasha5375 do u have any social
as an introverted myself, I've always appreciated my alone time, and I think this video explains one of the best thing we can do for our mental health! Now you reminded me that i have a beautiful garden so i'll go there to read :) thank u
aw that sounds so peaceful ❤️❤️ thank YOU for your support always 🥺
i have social anxiety so one of my biggest struggles is being by myself in public places. i turned seventeen couple of days ago and when i say i have social anxiety people literally laugh in my face and they're like oh so you can't go to the grocery store alone grow up finally. i can go to grocery store alone, i can pay for myself and everything but with huge amount of anxiety on my back. i'm growing up in toxic and at some point abusive household so when my parents comment on my body or anything else, i think that others think the same as them. i like to be alone, you know just reading my books, listening to music, playing games and more. i don't feel lonely when i'm alone. but these days when you're focusing on yourself and you don't really hang out with people, or you don't go to parties to drink etc you're considered to be a "boring" person with no life. when i think of it all, people my age literally f*ck around and i'm stuck in my house trying to figure out myself because now i have no idea who i am or who i am supposed to be. anyways, i loved the video so much. your channel is one of my comfort things for quite a while. i love you and hope you're having a great day/night. much love. 🤍🧚♂
thank you for sharing, it must be really hard living with social anxiety :( but just bc you like to be alone doesn’t mean you’re boring!! I appreciate u and thank u for watching ❤️ I wish u the best ☺️
Always love yourself & enjoy every moment because you deserve beautiful♥️
omg i related to this so much, my entire schoolyear i barely looked into eyes of anyone in school - but now im excited for it. We are gonna be so, so brave, i wish you luck!
Jesus loves you❤
"People can change, people can leave without any reasons, people can pass away in 1,000 different ways. The only person you have in the end is yourself." Wow, I loved it when you said that. Thank you for sharing all your wonderful videos and content - I've found your videos so helpful.
I love this! I’m comfy spending time alone at home but not always outside of that so I could challenge myself more
you got this ❤️❤️
I’m the same. I do go on short breaks alone but I’ve never eaten out by myself or attend most events but it’s worth taking yourself out of your comfort zone sometimes.
@@mariancounsellor I bet it just is uncomfortable for a little bit! We will get used to it soon enough
It's not just a content, it makes a real difference in someone's way of thinking and feeling. I'm really grateful to be here and knowing that the feeling that have been bothering me so much is actually something I should be cherishing.
it felt so great being understood ! my mom always feel worries when i do stuff alone, when i go to museums alone, restaurants alone, i just need some honest time with myself to feel better with others
I have no friends or partner, and two years ago, by the end of the summer, my mental health was at zero. I even spent a couple of weeks in the hospital. the doctor said that everything was fine with my physical health. now, looking back at it, I understand that it was from the fact that I could not spend time alone. but now I'm working on myself, and it's much easier for me to survive the summer. thank you, Rebecca, I always enjoy watching your vids. you are awesome!!!!!
i wish you the best on your healing ❤️❤️ thank you for watching ☺️
i know that i’m a year late but this really helped me. after being in a 4 year relationship that ended in a traumatic way, i realised i never did things for myself. During the sudden breakup and extreme exam stress, i had also pretty much lost all my friends. at first i was afraid of being alone but it has allowed me to have time to heal and better myself. sometimes its hard to feel good about it but seeing how much i’ve grown and how much happier i’ve been really makes it feel worth it. i’m 18 in less than 2 months, have no friends and don’t go out every weekend partying but i’m ok with that! as long as i’m happy, why does it matter to other people?
the fact that going to a restaurant by yourself was on level 3 is surprising to me lol, as someone who has super bad social anxiety and hates being perceived in public, going to restaurants is one of the few things i can convince myself to do (probably because my constant desire for food is stronger than my aversion to people but idk)
I used to wait for my friends to be available so that I could go out with them. but many times, I ended up being pissed at myself that I wasted my off days waiting for someone to be available. that's when I started going out on my own. to the mall, to the movies (multiple times), to a restaurant. I would advise listening to music/podcast, watching RUclips, anything that can sorta distract you a little bit during your first few times going out alone so that you don't get so overwhelmed with the thought whether everyone's staring at you or judging you, especially for those with social anxiety/awkwardness. I wanna try the beach/picnic/cycling idea soon. all the best! we can do it!! ❤
I just saw your "WHY YOU SHOULD FOCUS ON YOURSELF ♡ (how to date yourself & my self love journey)" and It inspired me, *might try something like you did as well*
I felt lonely in this world, like I didn't fit with anyone when I was in grade 4-9...but in the 10th grade I started to love myself more and learn new things (music, dancing, art...) , gave me popularity and confidence in myself for the last 3 years of HS
Struggled and went through a dark past
Spending time alone to myself again for the last 5 months..losing my Mom to Cancer, I felt empty during the 2 months she passed away and currently on a Journey to Self-Love again. Trying to go on dates with myself and enjoying nature.
God bless to everyone on their journey to love yourself, it's a important thing to keep in mind.
its good to learn how to like being alone. obviously, its also good to have social reactions every once and a while, but its good to learn to be independent and spend time with yourself :)
This has to be my favorite video from you yet!!😀. There’s a toxic family member I need to break away from, but I’m scared to do it because we’ve always been so close. But I can’t deal with the pain anymore. This video helped me to know that I’m going to be okay🥰. Thanks Becca. Love you and your videos😊💕💕
love u and thank u for watching ❤️ stay strong
im trying to improve throughout the summer & this video really inspired me
Definitely feeling lonely. My birthday is in a week and I will literally have nobody around me. BUT i will treat myself to a nice gym session followed by some skateboarding afterwards. I'll go get a nice haircut and I will give myself the day off from doing work. Ending the day with some fresh pizza and a nice movie I can watch ,':D
happy birthday for next week ! :)
HAPPY BIRTHDAY ❤️❤️ treat yourself ☺️
Sounds like the best bday. My birthday is in 2 weeks. I'm a widow.
Happy birthday in advance queen🎀💋
@@Belluser-we1uc5cb2lhappy birthday, sorry I’m late! ❤
Thank you so much for being real, Rebecca. It's easy to assume that a college age and attractive looking girl like yourself would be "living it up", having parties and being surrounded by people 24/7.
But as you've mentioned, it isn't the case for many people, yourself included. And we should all learn to detox from social media and be comfortable with ourselves every once in awhile! Sending you hugs from Singapore :)
- Just another recent college grad who chanced upon and fell in love with your style of vlogs!
thank you so much for watching ❤️❤️ I appreciate you!
My phone broke at the beginning of summer and my parents have been to busy to get it fixed and not being able to talk to anyone and I've legit started to cry a lot, and I still can't stand being alone, but this video has helped me :')
Thank you for posting this video! I feel like I need time alone, because I sometimes still feel insecure about my height because my friends are like way taller than me, even I think you're taller than me and I'm a boy lol. Your channel helped me accept who I am, and thank you for that.
I definitely get the struggle to be a small guy when it is kind of the standard to be tall. Just know that some people like small guys (at least I do) and that your physical appearance do not define who you are. Be comfortable and happy with who you are. You height does not define your worth💕
I don't have too many friends so it's time to be with myself finally. You're inspire me, thank you
I was just searching how to "take yourself on a date and this video appeared. Tomorrow I'm gonna go to library then have a picnic outside, thanks for the video :))
Dealing with a long distance relationship where my bf is in the military has really forced me to spend time with myself and I’ve come to enjoy my time alone. I don’t have a ton of friends, either. This last year has been a growing and learning experience for me, and this video made me feel validated ❤
I realized since my school year started i haven't been loving myself as much, I was so confused on why I am feeling so down and sad, coming across your video helped me feel like me again, thank you I am me again ❤
Can we mention how absolutely adorable is that she's trying to respond to every single one comment? It means a lot
I appreciate every comment ❤️
I found out my bf of 5 years cheated on me last year, leading to the past events we shared out together turning into one huge lie. Like you said, I kept him around despite issues we’ve had cause I didn’t want to be alone until this moment. This video really helped me realize I can be single and free again, thinking of going to a restaurant by myself now
That’s such a hard position. I’ll keep you in my prayers, Abby !
Thank you for this video. In high school I had held onto a friend who was really hurting me because I was afraid to be alone. When I finally let her go, it was so hard to be alone. I’m learning now that it’s okay! I took myself out one day. I was scared but I did it and it was so relaxing. And you are so right. I wanted to grow but felt like I was going in circles. I asked my cousin for some advice and she said that you need that time by yourself to really grow just as much as you need to be surrounded by good people! Your videos are so amazing! Keep up the good work! 💖
I’m proud that you got through that ❤️ thank you for your support too 🥺❤️
I love this video sm, thank you for posting it! Often times I used to find myself feeling alone bc I the majority of the time I wasn’t accompanied by people where I’d go but lately I’ve adapted to the feeling of being alone with myself and no longer feel bad about it. This video truly shows that you don’t need the company of other to have a good time and being alone isn’t a bad thing
I love Rebecca’s self-care vlog so much!!!
❤️❤️☺️
Hi Rebecca,
I have just found your channel and this is the first video of yours that ı have watched. I feel depressed and lost in my own way and don't know what to do in the case of crisis. I feel worthless and desperate after failing in my job which I started only a week ago. Although I believe it was for my own good, I still can't help myself see it in that way. I have returned to my family home in the village and try to adjust to the atmosphere here after living alone for many years in a big city. I have dreams to follow my higher education like Master's and even Phd. However I can't get admissions from many universities in Europe and even if I did, it will cost me a lot and I can't afford it right now. That was why I was looking for a job so that I could save some money and then apply for the suitable program. Anyways, I just wanted you to know that this video will help many people like me to take a deep breath and focus on themselves, to know how to spend some quality time even if there is no one around. Thank you so much, and one more thing, you are beautiful
I love this video it gives me so much comfort and I am so excited for summer myself! I am from Germany and in 6 days my summer break begins, after my vacation in Croatia I am finally starting my bulk and I am just so excited for the time I get to spent with myself going book shopping, to the gym and some meet up with friends! Thank you for this video it just made me more excited 🤍🤍
All your videos are so well made, they make me think about things in a different (and more positive) way and they’re sooo relaxing
i appreciate u so much for watching 🫶☺️
Dear Rebecca, thank u so much for this video!! Every summer since middle school I spend mostly alone. That's why I always feel uncomfortable and stay at home nearly all day long. But this vid trully motivated me to do something New alone💗
Thanks I really needed this ♡︎ I’m always alone in high school, and I have social anxiety, thank you for comforting me, hope one day I can overcome myself and step out of comfort zone to stop worried too much and being sacred, thank you 💕
You’re not the only one experiencing loneliness in high school. There are others out there, I’m dealing with it too. But we will be okay ❤️ keep that chin up.
Me watching this video.. in the mind of it I’m literally saying “ omg I love this girl, I love her “ cuz she’s really amazing! and I love watching her💗
To be honest, this video made me become productive today. I finally did some things that I couldn't get myself to do today. Thank you so much!
Well I tried this experience, of having a picnic by myself and I must say… It was completely awesome ❤️
Thank you so much for the inspiration Rebecca ❤️
second summer in a foreign country. first summer i spent in someone else’s house babysitting my little brother by myself. now the second summer i’ve spent most of it in my bedroom alone because i don’t have any friends to hang out with. i have people here that i sit with at school but no actual friends. so i’m trying to spend the rest of my summer actually doing something and enjoying it instead of staying in bed and rewatching the same two tv shows :)
Your videos and your voice bring me so much peace and I just start feeling better immediately 🥰
A great source of useful information and motivation, thank you so much for making these videos
thank YOU so much for watching ❤️❤️
as always the perfect timing of your video uploads is what really makes me feel really connected to you I guess. I was struggling with the fact of being alone for last 2-3 months a lot. The fear of being lonely at life became so crrippling in my life all of a sudden! Your video just led me to be at ease with the fact. Thank you Rebecca!🤍
i wish you all the best ❤️ thank YOU for watching!!
i’m alone this summer and this video helps a lot!!! love you rebecca 💗💗💗
Hey sister!! This video is so amazing, it made me realise that I have been wasting my life by seeking external validation and totally forgot to enjoy my own company. Now that I have realised it I will only focus on myself and do what is important for me.
Having beach days on my own was one of the best decisions I've made. I used to think it was super weird to just do stuff alone, like everyone would judge me for it. The truth is that absolutely nobody cares (in a good way).
TYSM . YOU HAVE OPENED MY MIND!
this video is so healing i cant explain it
thank you for this..
i have lived my life hating myself, afraid to be judged. And I also thought being with people would make me feel better and that being alone is something worthless. But now I know, so thank you for this. Thank you for curing my sadness. Appreciate it if you notice my comment, thank you!
My goal next year is to live life happy, to be successful in enjoying my own company, overcoming and breaking away from my comfort zone..
bless you..
This video helped me a lot as I struggle to focus on myself and constantly want to be around others. I always feel like I need to have someone with me to keep myself entertained and it leads to an unrealistic mindset. I've been told that I need to care and love myself more and this video definitely made me think about what I can do to change my unhealthy lifestyle.
So much wisdom packed in 10 minutes! Thank u
Loved this! Alone time is so important. There’s 💯a difference between being alone and being lonely!
Your content is everything I needed in my life right now! Thank you for supporting me through my own journey to loving being alone!
Hi Rebecca! This video was so beautiful and well done! It brought a smile to my face. This is definitely something that does not get talked about enough, and becoming my own best friend has changed my life. Even though I’m only 15 and I can’t really take myself anywhere, just being ok with being alone is the perfect start.
That Pascal quote is one of my favorites. Rings so true.
Thank you so much Rebecca for being there. Currently I feel so down and low because I was on a weight loss journey and I've been failing for 2 years. This summer I really thought that I would do it but now I feel otherwise. I just turned 18 and I never pictured my 18 to be this depressing and having such a bad body image. I hope I can improvise and not give up. I love you. Keep doing you.
happy late birthday ❤️ you got this ☺️☺️ ily
Thanks for posting this! I really needed this video with that message. I always forget that I should not hold people in my life even though I do not feel good with them or was hurt by them. Just so I am not alone. But also what's my reminder to everyone else here: Even if you feel alone, like nobody is there for you, I believe (and maybe you can too) that there is someone out there (doesn't matter, if it's god, a loved person that isn't near you right now or someone who has passed away) who really cares for you and will always be with you and watch over you. I really like to picture myself being watched and cared by my grandma, who passed away over 10 years ago. I like to believe that she is so proud of me for getting through this and that she will always be there to guide me. I really wish you all the best!
Gorgeous shots! Also, the message is so true. I never thought to just have a picnic by myself. Makes sense to enjoy yourself in your own company than try and demand attention from those who might be toxic. And it's healthy to have boundaries put into place for yourself
thank you for watching ❤️❤️❤️
This video is so much beatiful , i apreciate the amount of research and information you put in , you letearly described what iam being throguh , and yeah i used to be upset and sad when iam by my self , but whith time i start to enjoy my company and to stay out of negativity and toxic people or people who doesn't preciate you, it very beatiful especialy in your 20's you can do what you love and focus on your self and solve your problems and heal from your truamas and better undertand who you are and plan for your future , peacful meaningful life .
i really love your videos because they make me feel validated and accepted in how i feel, but they also help me understand those feelings better with science which is so cool. i love learning new things, so every time you mention a quote, person, book or a study i literally screenshot it for later so i can learn more. love you
Rebecca you don't even know... How much I needed this video... It's calm my mind.. I was overthinking for 1 week... Kw I have only 20 days left before school starts... So I want to thank you...
The floral dress looked great on you but you also looked good in the jeans and white top too! You seem like a really fun person with a positive energy and spirit 💕
Thank you for this! This summer has been hard because it’s the first time I’ve really ever been alone
Thnx , I love this video so much
Cz need spend time alone more without someone
The video So satisfying ..
I love picnic ❤
Definitely love being alone at home and excited to go out alone when I learn to drive 😊
Remember you're never alone God will always be with you even if no one else is 💛💛
I watch this video everytime I need a pick me up and it really helps everything you say is helping me mentally even told my therapist about you 💜💜
I normally watch your videos at like 5pm because I’m bored of sitting around and watching tv and they give me motivation so I’m going to try and watch some in the morning so I a can be motivated to do stuff. You are my favourite youtuber btw x
Definitely going to try some of these activities. I notice I get sad and feel lonely waiting for people to reach out to me to do things. Sometimes I must take the initiative and do things for myself (and try to include others if u want) !!
hey! i appreciate your videos a lot, i’m 13 and i don’t really have any friends as i just feel like i can’t find someone who relates to me or has similar interests. i’ve always been alone but i’ve been embarrassed to be alone, everyone looks at me whenever i’m sitting or walking alone. but i find peace with being alone, this video’s helped me realize that there’s nothing to be ashamed of, when being alone. this summer i want to workout, get my dream body (not to look good in clothing, or to look good for others, but for me. so i can feel comfortable with myself) and start eating healthier and developing healthy habits. your channel has helped so much with that. i love your videos, each one of them motivates me more and more, i love you rebecca, please don’t stop posting these amazing vids! thanks to you, i’m gonna be working on myself, by myself this summer.
samehere ! Im 16 and ive chosen to be alone this summer , you may feel alone but dont worry your not the only person going through this, the right people will find you girll dw !
@@veemeg2172 oh! im sure you’ll have tons of fun this summer. thanks, im glad im not the only one! :)
hi!! I have just seen your video and that really help me because these last year i spend more time alone and It's very difficult to me to spend time with my friends because i feel less in trust. Alone, I can decide what I want and when I will do something and no one can stop me to doing it. A couple month ago, I went alone for the first time to a restaurant and I really enjoy it. I try every single day to do feel better and I want it too, so this video help me a lot. Thanks you for your words :))
thank you for this video. recently I've been feeling lonely and your video helped me find a different perspective. I'm gonna work on myself for a bit and see where I'll end up on the other side :)
hi rebecca! jus wanna say u deserve everything and that thank u for being an online big sis/best friend to me! love u
Thank you Rebecca, going through a break up and your content is just all I need
I've been trying to enjoy being by myself more recently. I was in active addiction for years and distracting myself, so I forgot how to actually spend time being sober and actually enjoying it. I spend a lot of time alone but I'd usually just be sitting on my phone or watching videos all day until I could go out with people again. I seem to have forgotten that hobbies are a thing, I don't really know what I enjoy doing but I'm trying to relearn this again.
this video really helped a lot...I relate so much to this! thanks for reminding me that I'm not alone❤❤
heyyyyy Rebecca bestie 💌 you're really giving me vibe of " myself " thank you sooo muchhh for realizing me that myself is precious, GORGEUS ASF 😭🤙🏻and just me will be at the end 👄
You literally motivated me to come out of a really bad depression episode, thank you so much for all of your hard work into your videos!! it really really does mean a lot to all of us 🥰🥹
Im a shy person but always had friends never had in my life got out alone for lunch or for the movies or anything I always thought that I needed someone to go with and have fun... cut the story short I have no friends anymore I spend all my time at home and after a lot of thinking I realized that okay I have no friends but I have myself and that's enough not gonna lie I'm so hesitant about going out alone it feels so weird but it's a must I need to learn how to enjoy my time alone I will try to get there and explore my city to anyone out there who feels the same you are not a loser you are enough for yourself and that's what matters
Thank you so much, I love these kinds of video’s. They always motivate me to be better. You’re an idol❤️
rebecca posting two videos in a week feels illegal but way to exicted to watch it
just spent all day/night editing I was too excited about this one hahah
This video is SO BEAUTIFUL, as an introvert/ person who is used to being alone (and I like it tho), I find this video very inspirational and pretty
You really shows how to love yourself in a realistic way. Love you from Bangladesh ❤️
watching this when in my country is friendship day and it's my 3rs year spending it alone
The word Relationship gave me ghost bump 😆 may be I'm introvert , I'm so good being as a loner cause i can breath fully and enjoy own company . People's say alone is bored but for me it is much more better 😘😘 i love being alone .
I was here to know what to do this summer, but instead I got a lecture. I love it.
I just found your channel and honestly, you're an interesting individual. I find it fascinating that we are very alike so I can relate on many levels. I love the positive messages you deliver - you're the type of people I would consider role models so I'm subscribing 😇 Don't ever change, people like you are rare. Btw you're super pretty! I'm looking forward to your next video. Stay safe ☺️
Love this ❤️this is exactly what my summer has been like and it’s definitely healing ,difficult but really good for myself. I like how you did research about certain facts too .
Cute and i‘m pretty sure a much needed video!! Thank you
Thank you very much. I've been in need for this kind of content in this phase of my life. 🥰
i needed this video so much. i used to be good at doing things alone but its hard to get that feeling back after covid!! i also get so nervous for my safety as a young girl being out by myself
Your words made me feel deeply happy
You are an angel for me rn !!! Badly needed this video !!! Thank you so much dear !!! 🥺❤️ God bless you 🥺✨
i love your videos, they make me feel whole! They make me want to strive for a better life & i will. I want to be happy alone without needing others. Thank you!!
You're right thanks for giving me more ideas about loving myself and trying to create a better version of me. You're video is so inspirational indeed it gave me more strength to face a better me 💗😊
Struggling with not having any friends is tough i have no one to help me except my family im gratefull but sad since i dont have any firends i am just home on my phone and doing nothing all day knowing damn well i can do something but i would not im trying to do something with it even tho its not helping its really pretty outside and i wanna go out but i dont have anything to do outside my mom has work to do my dad is not home my sister doesnt pay attention to me so i would preffer staying inside but i really wanna go outside to do something i hope this video will give me ideas❤🎉
UPDATE- i went on a drawing picnic by myself it was a little scary but fun❤
do you have online friends? if no i can be yours ❤
Today I was really depressed bcs I didn't want to waste my summer, while I was literally wasting it with thinking of that. And I was rly scared bcs I have no irl friends, that's why I am rly grateful u uploaded this :)
hey Rebecca, i just discovered your channel today and i wont lie, it was extremely inspirational and it makes people that are going through tough times just a bit better maybe its because we all fear to be alone and to do things that we need to be validated for. anyways thank you for such having such a kind heart to share your experiences and such vulnerable yet self loving content ! keep going
thank you so much for your support 🥺❤️
Thank you so much for such an incredible video. I am so thankful that half a year ago I came across your channel and from that day I never missed your single video. your voice somehow brings peace to my mind and your outlook on life is so beautiful. 🤩n you are so pretty.thank you for such great content.
ahh thank you so much for your support, I appreciate it ❤️❤️☺️
I enjoyed this video alot and I literally searched for it ! It was a time when i needed it the most ❤
Your channe is comfort zone for me and your videos are like my therapy ❤️ thank you for motivating me when I'm on my lowest 😊🥰 lots of love from Nepal 🇳🇵💜❣️