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Thank you Kris, my eyes have opened to narcissist abuse, all your videos discribes my life and experiences. As the Bible say "you shall know the truth(reality) and the truth(reality) shall set you free! I can't even begin to express how freeing this is to me, my eyes are opened completely 🙏🙏 Thank you Kris
Every word you've spoken here is true. Because I'm a Christian I was especially bound by a commitment to not divorce...and when I did go to church leaders I was consistently told to "learn how to live with him." It was only when I was seriously considering suicide that I finally started using the brain that God gave me and left. I am still healing from the ravages of it all. And I also have a different perspective about "church" authority. Thank you for your helpful information.
I am sorry you didn't find support from church leaders. I too married a narcissist, covert to be exact. My pastor fully supported my decision to leave after months of agonizing. He told me that the marriage covenant was not fully formed in the presence of abuse. I still struggle 3 years later while he is engaged to a woman from a third world country.
You had no bibical grounds to leave and now could be in adultery same as your spouse who in the eyes of God you are still married to. Your story only says who he is as a heathen overcome who you should have stepped up to be in Christ to carry the spirit if long suffering perseverance and endurance for the sake of his soul 1 Corinthians 7:14. Your situation is not good.
@@user-ir5ul1ph1c You in the same boat of also like the commenter having no bibical grounds to leave emotional abuse from a Narcissist isn't grounds for abuse. Never refer that pastor who told you bad advice to anyone. Your story also says that your spouse as a heathen overcame who you should have stepped up to be in Christ to carry the spirit of long suffering perseverance and endurance for the sake of his soul 1 Corinthians 7:14. Your situation also is not good.
They are vessels for demons. Lucifer sends his soldiers out to torment those who are of God because he hates us and he is the original narcissist. Lucifer wants to copy God narcissist like to copy others as well.
I fell in love with and married a sweet, fun, handsome Covert Narc. (19 yrs ago I didn't know what that even was.) His family (Family Cult) all attend Church. After a really vicious 2 week Toxic Episode he woke up one morning and had returned to his charming self. After much apologizing, begging forgiveness, he started to walk away, turned, looked me square in the eyes and said "This is demonic you know" and then went on with his day! I was stunned. I never questioned IF it's all demonic again! Handle it like any other curse!
I keep my distance from any narcissist. Whether it be my family, neighbors, etc. I pray for people from afar but you ain't coming close to me with that demonic energy and toxicity. God warns us to stay away from people like that and I do.
Toxicity is Too Polite a word. Demonic energy is more accurate. I was divorced 30 yrs ago. My ex died 10 yrs ago. Today, I have 2 neighbors, & one lives next door. I can feel that demonic energy coming through the walls at times. (Don't worry. I know what to do/Pray). This is really weird though. We Don't live in the same apt. We're Not married. I Can't even Divorce him !!
Last month, my husband of 30+ yrs, literally said to our adult daughter "see, kid...the narcissistic toxicity I have to put up with your mother?" After yrs of his verbal and mental abuse. Yet, of course, I'm the narcissist and he has to deal with MY toxicity...
I used to think I could help my covert husband. I thought my love and sacrifices would turn him around. I’m about 6.5 years I was destroyed mentally and physically. And when I called out to God and asked Him what to do, He sternly told me to leave! I asked Him when, and He even gave me a date. I couldn’t make myself to pack to go, I was so depleted. Then my friend called me (she didn’t know what God told me), and she said God moved her to tell me pack lightly. I left so many important to me things behind. I took bare minimum for myself and kids. Just a couple suitcases and documents. This is what narcissists do, they destroy everyone around them, and their goal is not to change. It took me a year to recover, and I am so happy I left.
Same here! God told me to leave 7 months ago. Seeing the reactions continuing to this day, I was happy I got myself and my sons to safety. I didn't pack anything! I sneaked back in to pick up a few things. I am healing now, and have so much peace.
My husband has so many things wrong with him that I can't deal with him anymore, I'm looking for a way out because he controls all the money and I only get an allowance. He has destroyed my health, but God is so good that he is still healing my body.
The hardest part of being a Christian married to a narcissist is that we feel heavily bound to our wedding vows; we experience cognitive dissonance between our wedding vows, Jesus proclamation of "hardness of heart" (Matt 19:8), and the narcissist's campaign of deception and manipulation. This video helped a lot.
So what do you do if you had this relationship and now you're divorced? Divorce is very particular in scripture. Even though I was married to a "demon" of a women and I doomed forever to live alone? Hard questions I know.
@@SeanHovater Both Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19:9 stipulates that divorce is illegitimate “except for marital unfaithfulness” or “sexual immorality”. If your ex-wife was cheating on you and you are divorced, you are at liberty to re-marry or stay single. Consider using your favorite search engine to read "What Did Jesus Teach about Divorce and Remarriage?".
@@SeanHovater You do not need to live alone. She broke her marriage vows to love and cherish you. Living with a demon woman, well I'm pretty sure she didn't make you feel loved or cherished. Like the 10 commandments, you break one you break them all.
@@tmo.48 Narcist makes weeding wows without bonds in mind. He /she has only own gains in mind - whole marriage is for them such personal gain. How much it suppose to be obligatory for both? It is not their target to make happy or just live deserved life to second person . Someone who have lived with narcist knows well that words do not bond them - theyir meaning is used to take advantage, manipulate, not to oblige. It may happen that narcist is faithful in body sense because of fear of calculated legal consequences. It doesn't solve the problem . I say such marriage is waste of God' plan for life of good person and that is why divorce repairs person relations with God. About another relation in my opinion we should let Him guide us instead of making own judgements.
My former spouse is a narcissist. I thank God that she is now out of my life so that I can finally live. However, a lot of damage was done. Thank you, Jesus.
PROVERBS 6:16-19 16 There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: 17 haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, 18 a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, 19 a false witness who pours out lies and a person who stirs up conflict
I am not a Christian, but I really like what you have to say. I am Jewish, and have dealings with gaslighters and narcissists. I don't go near them. They blame everyone else for their stuff and don't take any accountability or responsibility for their behaviour. They deliberately make another person feel worthless. I don't go near people like that anymore.
Thanks for your insight Kris, I’m a 68 year old man that existed with a wife who was so deep in Cluster B that the overlap between the 4 groups made her impossible to be diagnosed because she was such a good actress. Deceived counselors quite well. Divorced now with a very stunted 18 year old son living with me who doesn’t want anything to do with her. That’s sad. Thanks to God for exposing the problem before she completely destroyed the boy and I completely. The financial devastation is bad enough but we can live with that. Thanks to God for a church family that could see clearer than I and stood with my son and I through the most difficult time in my life. Thanks to God for the Family Court judge that wasn’t fooled. Just thanks to God for everything. May God’s blessings be upon you, yours and your career.
So very glad to know of your good outcome. I've lived with a steady stream of false accusations and general crazyness in my marriage of 32 years. She about ruined her youngest son's life with this stupidity among many other things. I'm dealing with all of this now.
I’m glad you got out of a horrific existence. After my mom died my dad married a malevolent narcissistic woman. He got Parkinson’s and I don’t know if that is because of the stress.he was so co-dependent, and she changed his attitude as well. He died 4 days ago and is finally free from the demon. She is even fighting over keeping his ashes! 😢I’ll pray that you and your son have healing and comfort from Jesus ❤
Thank you!! Biblical teachers seldom teach about this. Most of them just tell us we’re supposed to love everyone. This is about setting protective boundaries and guarding your heart. We can still love and pray for them BUT that doesn’t mean to be a part of their life. A loving parent doesn’t want their children to be friends with people like this. Our Father in heaven doesn’t want us to be friends with them either because He loves us!
Eternal life isn’t worth it? Spouses aren’t allowed to deny one’s self from the other unless you both agree and that is only for a short time for prayer. Who knows, perhaps your living righteous will cause them to repent and start living righteously? Jesus only gives us one reason to leave the marriage and that’s being fornicated against. Something to consider and easier said than done.
I was NOT going to stay in that marriage. I was already ideating taking my own life, and decided not to. Additionally, she had been already talking about other men. I was not going to stay and find out whether is was true. You know nothing about my situation or similar situations with other people and couples, and you sound an awful lot like you're a Mormon. I was part of that cult for over 30 years--another narcissistic relationship I got out of, honestly. The only good thing coming from your "highlighted response" is that you're not God. You have likely never been in a relationship with a narcissistic person, and you definitely demonstrate a lack of empathy for others going through the hell of a narcissistic relationship. Narcissistic individuals don't repent from who they are. They deflect responsibility and blame their victims.
What's further is that she used to quote scripture to justify her abuse. There is no shortage of narcissistic people and behavior in the Church. If it can be used and manipulated by individuals to get fame, power, and stature, you'll find narcissists there. It doesn't affect my personal relationship with Jesus, but it does open my eyes toward what to stay away from.
@@MattTheBandGuy spouses with other mental illnesses miss apply the Bible to attempt to justify their position or behavior too. In the end, when push comes to shove, they claim that the Bible applies or everyone but them and that God has given them a special mandate or loophole to not be subject to Ephesians 5. The most common one is claiming they they are only held to Ephesians 5 if their spouse is “worthy” and being “worthy” is dictated by being worthy only if they are prefect.
You're so right about the narcs SAYING they forgive but then live out contempt and hatred towards you. The thing I hate most is when they say, "I'll pray for you" 🤢
as a retired psychotherapist, I can say that God does not want us living with abuse period. However, it is important to consider that the general culture we live in now is what I call self absorbed. Therefore, some consideration needs to be given to that in terms of separating ones individual make up vs cultural formation. Ultimately, one needs to hear from Holy Spirit for discernment.
My poor mother thought being in subjection to your husband was the right thing to do. She is gone but my hope is one day she can realize her worth and that she did not have to put up with the abuse she endured. I love you so much mom
I dated a narcissist briefly for two months and I heard Jesus literally in my head say to me you must end this NOW! I did as instructed as I truly love and trust in Our Lord Jesus Christ and after ending it and going no contact I was offered up an extreme amount of information on NPD, having absolutely no clue on the disorder. Thank you Jesus for your love, protection and guidance. I’ve been healing as narcissistic abuse can open the door to other trauma and my peace has returned. My heart goes out to those who have been in long term relationships with narcissists. I do not wish any ill on others but for me going no contact and trusting in God has worked wonders, my eyes have been truly opened to people and their bad intentions towards me now and I cannot unsee, nor would I want to. If you can get out please get out and stay out.
There is no doubt narcissists lie during their vows. They promise to love, be faithful, honor, etc. Are you married? As a lawyer, I have to wonder. Interesting question for sure.
@@CO2isfake if someone marries a Narcissist then its not on God that the person by their free will chooses to be with Narcissist that had they went to God about he would have not approved for them to marry because a narcissist isn't a godly person and God would have reveal that. Thats the problem. People reap what they sow by their free will choices and then will use God saying God doesn't want them to be unhappy after they can't take it anymore and then try to divorce forgetting the biblical fact narcissism isn't grounds for divorce therefore they would potentially be entering into adultery in another relationship they seek after divorce.
In the 90’s, I marred a narc, who rushed me in to marriage. He manipulated the wedding. I had no idea what a narc was and no one else knew what they were either. It was the worst craziest relationship ever!!!! I didn’t leave because I didn’t want to sin. But one day in prayer I felt the peace to leave, so I planned my escape and when he went to church, my son and I packed the van and left. I never looked back. He stalked me until he found someone else. He harrased me calling, we didn’t have caller ID. After 10 years, he was married but showed up at my moms house looking for “everybody”
Manipulation for sure. My ex-wife acted so kind, loving, and sweet when we were dating. When she went into full discard mode it was like a different person. Her voice, tone, look, and very body language all changed as if she was another person. It was like Clark Kent and Superman. It was as if this woman that was standing before me was the sister of the woman I married to and not really her.
After a 16 year marriage to a narcissist, I just could not anymore. I love GOD/JESUS and I knew divorce was wrong. I had to first accept my own responsibility in ever becoming involved with this person, then I got myself free, painfully. With GOD'S help I did not divorce, but live a single and celibate life in honor of GOD. May not be the stuff of my dreams, but I am at peace. I am so blessed to have very close family relationships and plenty to do. GOD is so GOOD!!
I've been married for 23yrs, and living apart for 10 because of the abuse. I have NEVER heard another voice like yours. It's a very lonely hard road as no one understands why I live this way. Biblical divorce does not cover "N" abuse.
@@nicoleh.5499 Dear Nicole, my heart goes out to you; there are not many who understand GOD's view on marriage. Yes, there are lonely times for me too, as there are not many spaces for single women in a world of couple's. Likewise, it is just not as enjoyable to do many things, alone. I can honestly say though, I have not been as lonely on my own, as I was in the marriage and I do not spend my days in bitter tears. It helps me a lot to remember, this short life is not the main event. I sincerely hope the very best for you and that the LORD will open other doors of fulfillment for you. He wants us to be content, at peace, growing and enjoying. Not mourning. All thing's our narcissist's can never experience.
Just had to let a narcissist go. It almost destroyed me wondering should I or should I not. Since that day of release, I have felt like a bird set free from her cage. But it was by the strength God gave me to make that decision, I could not do it alone......Love your hair Kris!
My Landlord is a self serving, gaslighting, evil narcissist! Cheat me, money, harassing everyday! I'm always targeted! Power and control! I'm not doing anything wrong! I just want my peace back!
I am glad I came here by the holy spirit leading me. I have suffered narcissistic abuse from a spouse for 20+ years since day one. I only learnt about narcism 5 years ago and stopped him from it but he got violent and tarnished my name. I suffered from depression and more but now I am seeking healing so that I may exit peacefully
@@ednahchirchir1924 Church (faith), talking with others, time. Also, don't forget who you are. Wake up tomorrow morning standing tall and proud. Leave the narcissist behind you and move on.
Dear lady, I dealt with same thing for 27 years and 8 years after trying to co-parent. They can't co-parent as it is all about them. Keep praying and Yah will get you through it.
Finally someone who teaches the truth and the truth sets us FREEEEEEE!!!! I had these evil people in my life, all my life. Father, 2 brothers, son and bosses and some co workers, not to mention an ex husband.. I am so done with these evil liars. Done! God does not want us to be abused and He even says to depart from foolish evil men. So many people keep trying to suck me back into relationships with them because they are family... nope... done... I am so happy to have walked away... they are ARROGANT, UNTEACHABLE, UNFORGIVING, LIARS, SLANDERERS, THE CHILDREN OF THEIR fATHER THE DEVIL! RUN FROM THESE EVIL BOTTOM FEEDERS.
The reason you should have mercy to these people is because im sure you haven't been perfect also in the eyes of God but God loved you faithfully and still does and for your behavior towards him he doesn't have a negative name that he will ever call you but only his beloved daughter nor does he have emotions of disdain for your shortcomings. We are to exemplify love to those who persecute us because not one of us is justified. If you left your ex husband because he was a Narcissist I pray you are not in adultery because narcissism isn't grounds for divorce. We by the free will of our choices pick who we choose to love and then when its gets too much we want to abandon them only reaping what we sown in our own free will choices that we made then we'll use the excuse of "God doesn't want me miserable" but had you went to God and ask was this man a godly man for you from the jump you might have had found out to save ypu from what you went through. And when was the last time God abandon you? I say this speaking from experience still bearing my cross and because of who I am in Christ I am still in a miserable marriage with a narcissist but I know how to with love endure and spiritually combat the demons that uses him to get me to take back on hate unforgiveness. 1 Corinthians 7:14 for the true believing spouse says we hold all the cards if you have Christ in you to love someone to be willing to make that sacrifice as Father made for us. God bless.
Your situation sounds like mine. It seems my entire family are all of what you said and they keep trying to suck me back into relationship. The hardest ones to get away from are the ones who allowed me to be sexually abused as a child and throughout my adult life have verbally abused me, lied and manipulated me and used me for money. I am exhuasted of them and really I should not be in contact with them anymore. I am trying to get to that level.
@@endtimewarrioress My ex husband was a sex addict, alcoholic, serial cheater liar so.. no I am NOT the adulter here. I am so fed up of people thinking Christians need to be doormats and yes I believe in forgiveness but not lying down and being abused because that is NOT what I call a good Christian and I know and love God's word very well so please do not think you need to teach me with all your spiritual jargon... when and if you have walked in my shoes than you can talk. God bless!
I sincerely believe that God led me this video because I, today, am struggling with the rantings of a narcissistic person within my family. Thank you so very, very much for this message. God bless.
A well done video. I have had to deal with narcissism in people at various times, including an ex-wife. It was well disguised until shortly after we got married, then it was 14 years of trauma for me. When she threw me out I was grateful it ended. Her life has ended up in complete misery, which is where it seems narcissist end up. God blessed me in subsequently met an amazing Christian woman who demonstrated nothing but love for me. We've been married since 2011 and it's been fabulous; peaceful, and mutually supportive with strong Christian beliefs and actions. Thank you or this video.
I know that time & chance happen to us all. Ecc. 9:11b. I had left three times. Yet each time he wormed his way back into my life. Worm lol. 5.75 years ago I was violently discarded. The future faking was the reason I stayed. God's love for me is very rich in testing & trials that without Jesus' faith & God's grace & the power of the Holy Spirit I would still be in that loveless marriage. I heard the Spirit tell me this year that I will be walking through the fire. Also I will lose a lot. I was ripped off of my belongings. Yet God's Spirit told me that I would. I found that God has given me love that was unexpected. I praise God for making me ask for help. I have love in my life that is purely from God.
My husband claims he is Aspergers. But everything you describe about Covert behavior, is him. If I bring up a topic, he rushes for his phone, searching Google, then reads the information that is counter to my idea, even if his "resource" is wrong. Friends, family, have not believed me, until they see the behavior directed at them. And when he is wrong, he has never apologizes. Just walks away and claims to feel "shame". I know many with Aspergers, and that it is no longer used, but it is the best way to identify him, for this. He is extremely intelligent with software design. He also claims to be a Christian, but never once taught the children, and has never led prayer. Thank you for your videos. They help to restore me. ❤
Its refreshing to my soul to know it is not my responsibility to be friends with such people. I try to be polite without feeling like I need to give them more of me than what I feel I want to. God tells us to love one another and to love a narcissist can mean a healthy distance either mentally or physically. Spot on with your video! I'm going to listen to it again
My mother is a narcissist. I have sinned by disrespecting her and turned the other cheek at the same time for so long now. I nothing but freedom from all of the attacks. I'm sick and tired of it.
My mother was easy to quit having a relationship with because she didn’t raise me, but having many kids with a narcissist with not one friend or family member to turn to is very difficult… I trust God though, I truly do and fiction raising God fearing children and one day I will be free from his clutch!
This is what I’m enduring now. It’s the worse pain I have ever have to go through besides the lost of my own mom. I’m so sorry no one deserves this kind of pain.
Kris, Thank you for your videos. You are a gift of enlightenment to so many people. Sharing Biblical scriptures allows all of us survivors a clear path and direction for choosing Freedom, Truth, and Light. It is an eye opener knowing God does not want us to be controlled by anyone but instead led by the Holy Spirit. Being with a Narcissist is not the Life that God wants for us.
#4 hits me hard. EVERY time I try to share "what God has been teaching me" with my wife of 33 years (first 11 unsaved) she just acts like "Who doesn't know that,? get with game here man!" but at the same time she doesn't seem to grasp the basic things in Christ, like freedom and genuine connection.
I've been with my covert Christian narcissist wife for over 25 years. It's been a very difficult journey. Finding videos such as this one helps. She has always made me feel like I am a second class Christian (even though I grew up in the church), that she is a superior parent than I am (even though I have a solid relationship with our three kids, and she doesn't), and a second class spouse. I needed to hear this because I have been judged harshly by fellow Christians online, asking how dare I consider divorce? (Not sure which path to take right now though.). They don't know nor understand the struggle.
You could also include 2 Corinthians 6:14 @9:45 " Do not be mismatched with unbelievers. For what partnership is there between righteousness and lawlessness? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?".
What if you’re already in it? What if you were blindsided and never had any signs before marriage but a few months after BAM! A total FLIP. I want it to work and a miracle. I’m tired too.
I knew there was something wrong 3 months after I was married. Caught him texting an ex love. I stayed 7 years. I nearly left him after the first episode. Several more to follow - leaving me feeling anxious, lonely and confused. I prayed and prayed to God to show me what to do. His timing is perfect. He found other (wealthy) supply when I refused to co-sign on a loan. He discarded me within a month. Don’t waste your life on him- God tells us not to stay in these demonic relationships. He has greater plans for you. He did for me and I am forever grateful.
Your videos are helpful. I struggle with my dad and sister being narcissistic and haven’t talked to them in 3 years. I struggle thinking there’s something I should do. Self-condemnation
if you STRUGGLE with them, thats the Holy Spirit telling you to STAY AWAY from them! its THEIR DECISION to treat you badly dont forget! they are TELLING you they dont LIKE YOU by their behaviour towards you; they are TELLING you they DONT want to be in a relationship with you! so AVOID them, fill your life/time with people who demonstrate they WANT to b with you and RESPECT you.
My wife's son is an alcoholic. He wrecked a truck we got for him. He refused to stop drinking in our home, then he stole something from her, and he attacked his own mother, my wife. She refused to call the police. I had to leave from work and told her I was going to call the police. He called her every fowl word he could. When I expressed my displeasure about what he did to her....she said that I really didn't love him. Mind you she, behind my back, spent $10,000 and bought the truck that he wrecked while he was drunk. No insurance. Then she said I loved my son more ...who is not an alcoholic...plus he hasn't lived with us since 2010. Her son is almost 30. Been in and out of our home since 18. I've bought cars, paid rent, got him out of jail, food, bills...you name it ...but according to her I don't love him or don't really love her. We are separating now. Why? Her son is back, started drinking again, and has now been rushed to the hospital. She refuses to listen to me...always brings up the past, says I really don't love her, or her son, she NEVER apologizes, blames me for her son's condition, and accuses me of stuff that I know nothing about. For instance she blamed me for losing her keys. Got angry and called me names. She accidentally put them in her other purse. She said she will not apologize as I did something bad in the past. Listening to you helps strengthen my resolve. I was worried, started fasting & praying trying to make sure where I was wrong. EVERYTHING you said summed her up. Thank you and may Jesus bless you.
Avoid isn’t a strong enough word,a narcissist has nothing to offer you but a compromised existence! They are predators and they will dismantle your self esteem and never think twice about the damage they’ve done! Pray for wisdom and protection for your own self.
Like most have said, whereas Narcissim is not a basis for divorce, non-stop cheating and being given more and more chances and being forgiven but no remorse and no repentance can only live the forgiving spouse exhausted. I don't know how such a marriage would survive. 😢😢😢
@S challenge with adultery in a court of law is a difficult one if you didn't catch the perpetrator red-handed. Even when you know its happening, apparently.
Proverbs 15:32 was used against me over and over by narcissist in my life, from my youth and my adult life but, yes, they never seemed to accept it for themselves. I learned on my own to be careful of WHO I accepted and trusted "discipline" from.
My pastor cut me down from ministry without telling me himself or giving any reason. The first time he did it, I had a meeting to ask him why but he changed the topic. He then cut me off from another ministry by telling someone else to do it for him. He came to church for a month and acted like he never even saw me. I was truly in a state of hurt and confusion. I eventually had a meeting with him and he said he never saw me around to talk to me. He never gave a reason as to why I was truly cut off. There is a whole lot more to this story which is too much to type atm. But I left the church because the gas lighting was messing me up badly. I've spent lots of money in therapy to heal from this but its still tough. I stay away from the pastor and evem his wife because for the past six years, whenever they talk to me, they act like what happened tk me, never happened at all, and that's why drives me insane because I always have to question my reality. I went to the church yesterday for the first time only because my nephew was being dedicated and STILL the pastor and his wife would never ask me how I'm doing and where I've been going to since I left. It's really unbelievable to me because my dad was the founding pastor of the church. When he died, the current pastor took over. I served with every fibre of my being under his ministry for 20 years. All I wanted was to be given a fair explanation as to why I was being cut off, but I didn't even deserve that. I live behind the church but I can never go back to my father's church because it's extremely lonely there now. Not even all my good friends who saw me grow up there tried to help me when they found out what kept happening to me. They just gave a sad look and continued supporting their pastor without questioning him. I'm the only one thats convinced he is a narcissist and gas lighter, but no one believes me. I really never wanted to leave my home church but I can't spend the rest of my life always having to fight up with the gas lighting...its physically and emotionally draining and depressing. I wish I had another spiritual leader to support me but I'm very grateful for your videos.
@@Lauren-vd4qe That was my initial burning desire. My therapists even told me the same. However, my mother is aging and she needs someone to stay with her and I'm the only person that can do that. I also want to remain here to stay close to the little family I have, being far away is isolating and dangerous for my mental health, since I'm single with no kids and few friends. Even more importantly, I want to stay and develop my late father's property and make sure the current pastor does not convince my mother to sell it over to his church (she is.very gullible) because that will leave me with nothing tangible to remember my father with; I have plans for this place to honor my father's legacy. I did however, purposefully change my job which is in a location 40 miles away and I go to church in another town, so at least the majority of my time is spent far away from them. I only went to the church recently in six years because my baby nephews must know that their aunty will be there for them especially on their significant occasions. And one day, I will tell them about the years of service their grandfather and aunty gave to the church they attend.
@@kimberlyborosa5097 I’m so sorry! Prayers for you to keep focused on Truth and for your life and mind to be freed from the devil gaslighter. I speak clarity of mind over you in your thought processes and plans, and say you have the mind of Christ, in Jesus’ Name, Amen!
My! How I'd LOVE to meet you! For my entire life, I've wanted to develop a "transitional living" facility for women who've experienced abuse. But now, I myself have not only experienced childhood trauma,but just left (no contact) a "Christian" deceptive relationship after 20 months of connecting the dots! Now I'm meeting other women who are Sur"thrivers", and total victims with no hope or purpose. I see God's vision for my life. Its bigger than I am...but I LOVE learning... and your insight has set me free and restored my vision!
Here is another important scripture with which ppl can guard their hearts with! 1 Corinthians 15:33 "Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners."
Recently found another RUclips channel, surviving narrsasism. In the 8 years of verbal abuse from my husband....I'm now understanding what it is, and who he is. There are good days when everything is going his way, and there are oh my I want to crawl in a hole days and hide. Thank you for these teachings. Now, I'm already married....and I know what divorce means to God. I know I can't change my husband in anyway!!!! I've started counseling with my pastor. I'm in confusion, as to what to do....stay or should I go. I want a better life, sanity and peace. He has a daughter from a previous relationship....and 3 grandkids I love dearly. I don't want any division, and have turned things over to God Learning from the other RUclips channel, Dr. Carter says there are 3 things running a narsasist... Fear, guilt and shame...those are all demonic forces. So my prayers have been that all 3 of these spirits be bound and tossed back to the pits of hell. To be replaced with truth, wholeness through Christ and redeemed
Michelle, I was in the same predicament. I stayed for 22 years in this toxic marriage. I found out about narcissism in 2017 and began watching videos as reading books on the subject. I left and filed for divorce in January. I am still waiting on the paperwork to be finalized. However, once I left God guided me to a place closer to my family. I found a new church where I know God wanted to attend. The Holy Spirit spoke to me after I made my decision and has showed me that God is for me not against me. It’s the narcissist that’s not right with God. He’s dealing with him, God’s ways are higher than our ways.
@@mariagargus7726 You had no bibical grounds to leave and now could be in adultery same as your spouse who in the eyes of God you are still married to. Your story only says who he is as a heathen overcome who you should have stepped up to be in Christ to carry the spirit if long suffering perseverance and endurance for the sake of his soul 1 Corinthians 7:14. Your situation is not good.
Sometimes we don't choose godly spouses and we reap what we sow but 1 Corinthians 7:14 for the true believing spouse says they hold all the cars. Ask for the spirit of long suffering perseverance and endurance and combat your spouse with your full armor. Ask for wisdom if you don't handle your spouse in the way of Christ you will be defeated by the demons on the Narcissist spouse and like most people divorce and go marry into adultery. Narcissism is not grounds for divorce. I pray strength over you. Only the power of Christ in you can help you endure your spouse for the saving of his soul. Its about bearing your cross. Think of your reward.
@@endtimewarrioress When we met everything was good but after we married, he turned violent and angry. I became a Christian, therefore I tried to stay and did for 22 yrs. I raised our sons in church, I kept growing in The Lord, he kept mocking the men of God. We went to 4 Christian marriage counseling. I’m right with God, I forgive my ex and pray for his salvation. God’s opened many doors of Favor and blessings for me. I have Victory in Christ.
I hear and believe the entire word of God. I am a daughter of God. I do not believe in divorce except on the biblical grounds of adultery. Which has not happened in my marriage. However, my husband was professionally diagnosed with a narcissistic personality disorder. His mother was very critical to him as a young boy into adulthood. Every word you spoke and what the word of God says describes my husband completely. I pray and pray for him. But it's a vicious cycle. I can't continue to live a Christian life like this. What do I do?
Dear Heavenly Father, I lift up this sister to you. Give her wisdom and grace in this situation as she seeks to honor You in her marriage. Please lead her to people who will encourage her, lift her up, and point her to You and to Your truth. Remove the blinders from her husband's eyes and draw him to Yourself. Guard her heart and mind from the lies of the devil and provide a solution that is in alignment with Your Word and her conscience. Please rescue her from this horrible and destructive situation that she is in. Heal her from the damaged that has been caused and draw her to Yourself. Amen
Thank you so much for these videos! I have a former friend that is a narcissist and I was so confused by the behaviors and the arrogance, lying, manipulation, jealousy, inability to take responsibility or apologize etc.
It does say in the bible that you are supposed to remain in the circumstance you were in when you found your faith and for a lot of us we found our faith when we hit rock bottom due to the narcissistic relationship so we are obligated to remain in that situation. I believe it's 1 Corinthians 7:17
Quite informative ... living with a narcissistic husband for 17 years.... backstabbing and silent treatment is the order of the day.... planning to move out but not financially stable...
Please reconsider unless your husband is fornicating against you. Jesus said that is the only reason God accepts for divorce. Also a spouse can’t deny themselves to their spouse unless they both agree to do so and then only for a short time for prayer. I hope you find Biblical marriage counseling that will have your husband set his sights on Jesus and try to live up to Ephesians 5.
I am sorry for yr suffering, shame & low sense of worth. Do NOT listen to those to say you must stay & suffer. You are a child of the most high God & your Lord & Savior Jesus Christ gave you life that you might live it to the fullest. NO ONE has the right to take that life you were meant to live. You were created for a purpose NOT a door mat or punching bag. Rise your head & keep living. God has your back. Glorify Him & live well
@@adamholmes1992Sorry Adam that yr advice is WRONG. Anyone who is a Child of the Most High God bought & paid for by the blood of Jesus Christ does NOT need to be a door mat or punching bag for anyone. Born with a divine purpose...this woman you instructed to stay with her NARC spouse, has 1 life & must live it well for Christ...NOT to be tormented by a demonic controlled spouse who stole what God created.
@@sandracrandall4561 We were put on this earth to worship God and be righteous. The purpose of life is to be righteous, not happy. Happiness must come out of being righteous or it is sin. Can you cite in the New Testament where it says Jesus was just kidding or wrong when He said there is only ONE reason that is acceptable for divorce? The ONLY reason He gave is for being fornicated against. He said this reason is the ONLY reason that is acceptable to break your marriage. Who is wrong? The person citing the Word of God or you?
The phrase "difficult times" actually means "ragingly insane" times in the original languages. The word "difficult" is not strong enough in our English, it is severe.
You did not mention THE ONE THING about Christianity that caused soooo much grief for me.... Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. It does not work well when dealing with a narcissist. Patient, kind, considerate, boundaries, COMMUNICATE, share, respect, give... these are things I LOVE and enjoy doing but some people do not reciprocate and will use and abuse the person who lives within the parameters of these values. It's a hard life. Being naturally calm and gentle is hard.
I’ve just got out of a relationship that has taken me a few months to understand after it was over and was identical to what you’re saying here. The whole relationship I was dumb founded at the arguments and fights we had. I’ve never experienced this behavior from a woman that said she loved me before and it was one of the worst pains I’ve ever experienced when it was done and I knew what she had done to me. Please people that see this video, it’s real real. We serve a great GOD and he really does equip us with the aresnal we need. It’s in the book, just got to read it haha. 🙏🏼💪🏻 Thank you Kris for the content! This particular video helped me and I hope you keep giving them.
My mother is a narcissist, I thank you for this word, I always feel guilty when I defend myself from her, cause of her being who gave me life. and how God says to respect your mother and do not judge her and God will add year to your life.
from India, totally agree, my only daughter suffered domestic violence and harrassment from her husband for 18 years, had tolerated as they were blessed with a daughter, and since my daughter lost her father at a very young age, didn't want to deprive my granddaughter of her father. She moved out of his roof 7years ago after she was pregnant and afraid he will get the baby aborted (he made her abort the earlier pregnancy), my daughter was blessed with a son, same tolerance for the son. few years ago he brutally assaulted my daughter. My daughter decided, this will not change, and always he says, (18 years) he wants a divorce and a mutual divorce, my daughter filed for mutual divorce and in settlement he did not give her or the children even a rupee. All the expenses for the children's food, wellbeing, education, school, fees, books etc. are borne by my daughter. we don't have anyone to support us in anyway, we are born again believers and he took full advantage of our Christian love and tolerance but to no avail. He is egotistical, eccentric and a psycho, but still praying for him for the sake of Jesus Christ our Lord and Saviour ✝️
Narcissists rarely, if ever, demand forgiveness because they don't think they ever do anything wrong - and if they did, they will minimalize or even justify it by saying YOU did or said something to provoke them. And how do you "avoid" such people if you are married to a narc? Certainly it wouldn't be God's will to divorce them (except perhaps for very severe cases, because this comes in all different levels or measures)
This is one Awesome video - I love looking at this from a spiritual view - uplifting for us battered souls! Bless you and keep going in this direction!
I believe that God in order to teach me about true unconditional love is that He allows the Devil to send to me a Narcissistic wife. I feel and believe that Gods Grace is sufficient in me and that through my weakness His power will be manifested. Love is patience Love is Kind Love endures all things. St Paul the Apostle of the Gentiles
You did a great job on this video, thank you. I figured that the pharisees where Narcissists and that Jesus did not pretend to love them. But all the other supporting scripture was excellent. Just what I needed.
This is a difficult situation for many reasons..the flesh wants to “be happy.” God never promised us “happiness.” We have to pick up our Cross and Follow Him-daily. The Cross that Jesus carried was H E A V Y and someone had to assist Him in carrying it. No servant is greater than their master. Our Cross will be H E A V Y as well and we will need assistance (from Christ) to carry it. The Word says we are not to divorce but if we do we are to remain single OR reconcile to our spouse (that we divorced). We are only able to remarry if our spouse died naturally. This is difficult for me. Not because I desire to remarry but because I desire to finally find peace away from all the constant drama. But I love My God and those that Love Him will keep His Commandments and be obedient to what he says.
Stop this nonsense God doesn't want any of his children to be miserable and abused. What happened to God being Love, Peace and Joy. Should we not have that in a marriage?😤
Thank you so much for all your videos! 💖💖💖 May all people on this planet heal and live happy and joyful esp those who are in total darkness. Lots of love and compassion to all who are reading 🙏 and a big hug 🤗
ThX Sis. ! I needed to hear that ! May The Holy Spirit wrap You with warm wings of love and give You a Big Hug. Thank You so very much God Bless You I pray in every way.Shalom
Knowing that GOD does not want divorces, do I, or do I not divorce, separate or what do I do? Nothing has changed in 40 years. Always hoping but now I understand what I'm dealing with,I need to know what to do. I'm so drained. I'm also an Elder at my church. Thank you for this video, it did help me! 🙏
Newest studies on narcissism states it’s a deep trauma coping response usually from a mother wound. And very difficult to heal unless they have a narcissist collapse
You described my wife and her family to me....I'm an Israeli who went all the way to South Africa to marry this beautiful English girl...only to find out this horrible truth...its been so painful and everyone here believes her, because she is fair, pretty, one of them! She continues to attend church and they welcome her...how refreshing to hear you..
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Thank you Kris, my eyes have opened to narcissist abuse, all your videos discribes my life and experiences. As the Bible say "you shall know the truth(reality) and the truth(reality) shall set you free! I can't even begin to express how freeing this is to me, my eyes are opened completely 🙏🙏 Thank you Kris
Every word you've spoken here is true. Because I'm a Christian I was especially bound by a commitment to not divorce...and when I did go to church leaders I was consistently told to "learn how to live with him." It was only when I was seriously considering suicide that I finally started using the brain that God gave me and left. I am still healing from the ravages of it all. And I also have a different perspective about "church" authority. Thank you for your helpful information.
I am sorry you didn't find support from church leaders. I too married a narcissist, covert to be exact. My pastor fully supported my decision to leave after months of agonizing. He told me that the marriage covenant was not fully formed in the presence of abuse. I still struggle 3 years later while he is engaged to a woman from a third world country.
Am thankful for your comment. Because I see help from church leader and they saying I should stay in it but once I get up on my feet am leaving.
You had no bibical grounds to leave and now could be in adultery same as your spouse who in the eyes of God you are still married to. Your story only says who he is as a heathen overcome who you should have stepped up to be in Christ to carry the spirit if long suffering perseverance and endurance for the sake of his soul 1 Corinthians 7:14. Your situation is not good.
@@user-ir5ul1ph1c You in the same boat of also like the commenter having no bibical grounds to leave emotional abuse from a Narcissist isn't grounds for abuse. Never refer that pastor who told you bad advice to anyone. Your story also says that your spouse as a heathen overcame who you should have stepped up to be in Christ to carry the spirit of long suffering perseverance and endurance for the sake of his soul 1 Corinthians 7:14. Your situation also is not good.
Narcissists lie during the wedding vows. They have no intention of loving or cherishing you.
Because of the tremendous increase in narcissism, I’m beginning to be convinced it is a evil spirit
You’re right. It is
Narcissistic personality disorder aka demonized
Tbh it isn’t increasing it’s just being exposed
Right, the Bible says in the last days, people's hearts will grow cold, and also so many people have reprobate minds.
They are vessels for demons. Lucifer sends his soldiers out to torment those who are of God because he hates us and he is the original narcissist. Lucifer wants to copy God narcissist like to copy others as well.
I fell in love with and married a sweet, fun, handsome Covert Narc. (19 yrs ago I didn't know what that even was.) His family (Family Cult) all attend Church. After a really vicious 2 week Toxic Episode he woke up one morning and had returned to his charming self. After much apologizing, begging forgiveness, he started to walk away, turned, looked me square in the eyes and said "This is demonic you know" and then went on with his day! I was stunned. I never questioned IF it's all demonic again! Handle it like any other curse!
Never invite evil into your home.
I keep my distance from any narcissist. Whether it be my family, neighbors, etc. I pray for people from afar but you ain't coming close to me with that demonic energy and toxicity. God warns us to stay away from people like that and I do.
Same here. After getting burned by my ex-husband.
Toxicity is Too Polite a word. Demonic energy is more accurate.
I was divorced 30 yrs ago. My ex died 10 yrs ago.
Today, I have 2 neighbors, & one lives next door. I can feel that demonic energy coming through the walls at times. (Don't worry. I know what to do/Pray). This is really weird though. We Don't live in the same apt. We're Not married. I Can't even Divorce him !!
I keep my distance too
Amen
Amen to that… for real!
Craziest thing is a narcissist will call you out for being a narcissist. It's best to just walk away.
Last month, my husband of 30+ yrs, literally said to our adult daughter "see, kid...the narcissistic toxicity I have to put up with your mother?" After yrs of his verbal and mental abuse. Yet, of course, I'm the narcissist and he has to deal with MY toxicity...
Yup. 33 years and I am tired
I stayed with my Narcissist husband for 29 years because I thought God wanted me to stay with him no matter how I was treated.
I used to think I could help my covert husband. I thought my love and sacrifices would turn him around. I’m about 6.5 years I was destroyed mentally and physically. And when I called out to God and asked Him what to do, He sternly told me to leave! I asked Him when, and He even gave me a date. I couldn’t make myself to pack to go, I was so depleted. Then my friend called me (she didn’t know what God told me), and she said God moved her to tell me pack lightly. I left so many important to me things behind. I took bare minimum for myself and kids. Just a couple suitcases and documents. This is what narcissists do, they destroy everyone around them, and their goal is not to change.
It took me a year to recover, and I am so happy I left.
May I ask how you got your health back? And how did he treat you while you were sick?
Same here! God told me to leave 7 months ago. Seeing the reactions continuing to this day, I was happy I got myself and my sons to safety. I didn't pack anything! I sneaked back in to pick up a few things. I am healing now, and have so much peace.
@@Naiaworship May God continue to walk along with you towards healing. Jesus did everything so we can be healed.
May God continue to watch over you and your children. ❤️
My husband has so many things wrong with him that I can't deal with him anymore, I'm looking for a way out because he controls all the money and I only get an allowance. He has destroyed my health, but God is so good that he is still healing my body.
Tell him you don't feel like he's honoring you.
The hardest part of being a Christian married to a narcissist is that we feel heavily bound to our wedding vows; we experience cognitive dissonance between our wedding vows, Jesus proclamation of "hardness of heart" (Matt 19:8), and the narcissist's campaign of deception and manipulation. This video helped a lot.
So what do you do if you had this relationship and now you're divorced? Divorce is very particular in scripture. Even though I was married to a "demon" of a women and I doomed forever to live alone? Hard questions I know.
@@SeanHovater Both Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19:9 stipulates that divorce is illegitimate “except for marital unfaithfulness” or “sexual immorality”.
If your ex-wife was cheating on you and you are divorced, you are at liberty to re-marry or stay single.
Consider using your favorite search engine to read "What Did Jesus Teach about Divorce and Remarriage?".
@@SeanHovater You do not need to live alone. She broke her marriage vows to love and cherish you. Living with a demon woman, well I'm pretty sure she didn't make you feel loved or cherished. Like the 10 commandments, you break one you break them all.
@@tmo.48 Narcist makes weeding wows without bonds in mind. He /she has only own gains in mind - whole marriage is for them such personal gain. How much it suppose to be obligatory for both?
It is not their target to make happy or just live deserved life to second person . Someone who have lived with narcist knows well that words do not bond them - theyir meaning is used to take advantage, manipulate, not to oblige. It may happen that narcist is faithful in body sense because of fear of calculated legal consequences. It doesn't solve the problem .
I say such marriage is waste of God' plan for life of good person and that is why divorce repairs person relations with God.
About another relation in my opinion we should let Him guide us instead of making own judgements.
Adultery by loving themselves in place even of partner
My former spouse is a narcissist. I thank God that she is now out of my life so that I can finally live. However, a lot of damage was done. Thank you, Jesus.
PROVERBS 6:16-19
16 There are six things the Lord hates,
seven that are detestable to him:
17 haughty eyes,
a lying tongue,
hands that shed innocent blood,
18 a heart that devises wicked schemes,
feet that are quick to rush into evil,
19 a false witness who pours out lies
and a person who stirs up conflict
They believe that forgiveness means that we are required to have a relationship with them
Exactly! It’s called manipulation.
Yes!
No it doesn't!🤢
I am not a Christian, but I really like what you have to say. I am Jewish, and have dealings with gaslighters and narcissists. I don't go near them. They blame everyone else for their stuff and don't take any accountability or responsibility for their behaviour. They deliberately make another person feel worthless. I don't go near people like that anymore.
Pretty much no matter what you do and say it's always your fault!
Thanks for your insight Kris,
I’m a 68 year old man that existed with a wife who was so deep in Cluster B that the overlap between the 4 groups made her impossible to be diagnosed because she was such a good actress. Deceived counselors quite well. Divorced now with a very stunted 18 year old son living with me who doesn’t want anything to do with her. That’s sad. Thanks to God for exposing the problem before she completely destroyed the boy and I completely. The financial devastation is bad enough but we can live with that. Thanks to God for a church family that could see clearer than I and stood with my son and I through the most difficult time in my life. Thanks to God for the Family Court judge that wasn’t fooled. Just thanks to God for everything.
May God’s blessings be upon you, yours and your career.
So very glad to know of your good outcome.
I've lived with a steady stream of false accusations and general crazyness in my marriage of 32 years.
She about ruined her youngest son's life with this stupidity among many other things.
I'm dealing with all of this now.
I am glad you and your son are being supported.
I’m glad you got out of a horrific existence. After my mom died my dad married a malevolent narcissistic woman. He got Parkinson’s and I don’t know if that is because of the stress.he was so co-dependent, and she changed his attitude as well. He died 4 days ago and is finally free from the demon. She is even fighting over keeping his ashes! 😢I’ll pray that you and your son have healing and comfort from Jesus ❤
Thank you!! Biblical teachers seldom teach about this. Most of them just tell us we’re supposed to love everyone. This is about setting protective boundaries and guarding your heart. We can still love and pray for them BUT that doesn’t mean to be a part of their life. A loving parent doesn’t want their children to be friends with people like this. Our Father in heaven doesn’t want us to be friends with them either because He loves us!
I left mine and divorced her. It wasn't worth sacrificing my mental health to stay with her.
Eternal life isn’t worth it? Spouses aren’t allowed to deny one’s self from the other unless you both agree and that is only for a short time for prayer. Who knows, perhaps your living righteous will cause them to repent and start living righteously? Jesus only gives us one reason to leave the marriage and that’s being fornicated against. Something to consider and easier said than done.
I was NOT going to stay in that marriage. I was already ideating taking my own life, and decided not to. Additionally, she had been already talking about other men. I was not going to stay and find out whether is was true. You know nothing about my situation or similar situations with other people and couples, and you sound an awful lot like you're a Mormon. I was part of that cult for over 30 years--another narcissistic relationship I got out of, honestly.
The only good thing coming from your "highlighted response" is that you're not God. You have likely never been in a relationship with a narcissistic person, and you definitely demonstrate a lack of empathy for others going through the hell of a narcissistic relationship. Narcissistic individuals don't repent from who they are. They deflect responsibility and blame their victims.
What's further is that she used to quote scripture to justify her abuse. There is no shortage of narcissistic people and behavior in the Church. If it can be used and manipulated by individuals to get fame, power, and stature, you'll find narcissists there. It doesn't affect my personal relationship with Jesus, but it does open my eyes toward what to stay away from.
@@MattTheBandGuy spouses with other mental illnesses miss apply the Bible to attempt to justify their position or behavior too. In the end, when push comes to shove, they claim that the Bible applies or everyone but them and that God has given them a special mandate or loophole to not be subject to Ephesians 5. The most common one is claiming they they are only held to Ephesians 5 if their spouse is “worthy” and being “worthy” is dictated by being worthy only if they are prefect.
You're so right about the narcs SAYING they forgive but then live out contempt and hatred towards you.
The thing I hate most is when they say, "I'll pray for you" 🤢
Avoid such people
as a retired psychotherapist, I can say that God does not want us living with abuse period. However, it is important to consider that the general culture we live in now is what I call self absorbed. Therefore, some consideration needs to be given to that in terms of separating ones individual make up vs cultural formation. Ultimately, one needs to hear from Holy Spirit for discernment.
My poor mother thought being in subjection to your husband was the right thing to do. She is gone but my hope is one day she can realize her worth and that she did not have to put up with the abuse she endured. I love you so much mom
I dated a narcissist briefly for two months and I heard Jesus literally in my head say to me you must end this NOW! I did as instructed as I truly love and trust in Our Lord Jesus Christ and after ending it and going no contact I was offered up an extreme amount of information on NPD, having absolutely no clue on the disorder. Thank you Jesus for your love, protection and guidance. I’ve been healing as narcissistic abuse can open the door to other trauma and my peace has returned. My heart goes out to those who have been in long term relationships with narcissists. I do not wish any ill on others but for me going no contact and trusting in God has worked wonders, my eyes have been truly opened to people and their bad intentions towards me now and I cannot unsee, nor would I want to. If you can get out please get out and stay out.
THIS IS ONE OF THE BEST SCRIPTURALLY SOUND VIDEOS IVE SEEN CAN U PLEASE DO ONE FOR MARRIED PEOPLE WHO ARE WITH NARCISSISTS AND THEY WANT TO GET OUT
Exactly! Scripture based in every way. Don’t cast your pearls amongst swine, be sure to get some garlic for those vampire energy devils
Narcissism isn't biblical grounds for divorce but 1 Corinthians 7:14 puts all the cards in the true believing spouse hands.
There is no doubt narcissists lie during their vows. They promise to love, be faithful, honor, etc. Are you married? As a lawyer, I have to wonder. Interesting question for sure.
@@CO2isfake if someone marries a Narcissist then its not on God that the person by their free will chooses to be with Narcissist that had they went to God about he would have not approved for them to marry because a narcissist isn't a godly person and God would have reveal that. Thats the problem. People reap what they sow by their free will choices and then will use God saying God doesn't want them to be unhappy after they can't take it anymore and then try to divorce forgetting the biblical fact narcissism isn't grounds for divorce therefore they would potentially be entering into adultery in another relationship they seek after divorce.
@@endtimewarrioress it isn't biblical.
In the 90’s, I marred a narc, who rushed me in to marriage. He manipulated the wedding. I had no idea what a narc was and no one else knew what they were either. It was the worst craziest relationship ever!!!! I didn’t leave because I didn’t want to sin. But one day in prayer I felt the peace to leave, so I planned my escape and when he went to church, my son and I packed the van and left. I never looked back. He stalked me until he found someone else. He harrased me calling, we didn’t have caller ID. After 10 years, he was married but showed up at my moms house looking for “everybody”
That's my same story. It's like they all have the same play book.
Manipulation for sure.
My ex-wife acted so kind, loving, and sweet when we were dating.
When she went into full discard mode it was like a different person.
Her voice, tone, look, and very body language all changed as if she was another person. It was like Clark Kent and Superman.
It was as if this woman that was standing before me was the sister of the woman I married to and not really her.
After a 16 year marriage to a narcissist, I just could not anymore. I love GOD/JESUS and I knew divorce was wrong. I had to first accept my own responsibility in ever becoming involved with this person, then I got myself free, painfully. With GOD'S help I did not divorce, but live a single and celibate life in honor of GOD. May not be the stuff of my dreams, but I am at peace. I am so blessed to have very close family relationships and plenty to do. GOD is so GOOD!!
I've been married for 23yrs, and living apart for 10 because of the abuse. I have NEVER heard another voice like yours. It's a very lonely hard road as no one understands why I live this way.
Biblical divorce does not cover "N" abuse.
@@nicoleh.5499 Dear Nicole, my heart goes out to you; there are not many who understand GOD's view on marriage. Yes, there are lonely times for me too, as there are not many spaces for single women in a world of couple's. Likewise, it is just not as enjoyable to do many things, alone. I can honestly say though, I have not been as lonely on my own, as I was in the marriage and I do not spend my days in bitter tears. It helps me a lot to remember, this short life is not the main event. I sincerely hope the very best for you and that the LORD will open other doors of fulfillment for you. He wants us to be content, at peace, growing and enjoying. Not mourning. All thing's our narcissist's can never experience.
@@dannettepeters1507 Your words bring me much comfort. Thank-you. If you ever want a "pen pal" let me know!
Just had to let a narcissist go. It almost destroyed me wondering should I or should I not. Since that day of release, I have felt like a bird set free from her cage. But it was by the strength God gave me to make that decision, I could not do it alone......Love your hair Kris!
Me Too!
It is an evil spirit. I watched it control my ex when he went into a rage. I could see the demonic force using him.
My Landlord is a self serving, gaslighting, evil narcissist! Cheat me, money, harassing everyday! I'm always targeted! Power and control! I'm not doing anything wrong! I just want my peace back!
God help us with these type of people
I am glad I came here by the holy spirit leading me. I have suffered narcissistic abuse from a spouse for 20+ years since day one. I only learnt about narcism 5 years ago and stopped him from it but he got violent and tarnished my name. I suffered from depression and more but now I am seeking healing so that I may exit peacefully
I went through the same. Life will get better. Many blessings to you.
@@Zona-dw9rp thank you. How did you handle it successfuly?
@@ednahchirchir1924 Church (faith), talking with others, time. Also, don't forget who you are. Wake up tomorrow morning standing tall and proud. Leave the narcissist behind you and move on.
Dear lady,
I dealt with same thing for 27 years and 8 years after trying to co-parent. They can't co-parent as it is all about them. Keep praying and Yah will get you through it.
Finally someone who teaches the truth and the truth sets us FREEEEEEE!!!! I had these evil people in my life, all my life. Father, 2 brothers, son and bosses and some co workers, not to mention an ex husband.. I am so done with these evil liars. Done! God does not want us to be abused and He even says to depart from foolish evil men. So many people keep trying to suck me back into relationships with them because they are family... nope... done... I am so happy to have walked away... they are ARROGANT, UNTEACHABLE, UNFORGIVING, LIARS, SLANDERERS, THE CHILDREN OF THEIR fATHER THE DEVIL! RUN FROM THESE EVIL BOTTOM FEEDERS.
The reason you should have mercy to these people is because im sure you haven't been perfect also in the eyes of God but God loved you faithfully and still does and for your behavior towards him he doesn't have a negative name that he will ever call you but only his beloved daughter nor does he have emotions of disdain for your shortcomings.
We are to exemplify love to those who persecute us because not one of us is justified. If you left your ex husband because he was a Narcissist I pray you are not in adultery because narcissism isn't grounds for divorce.
We by the free will of our choices pick who we choose to love and then when its gets too much we want to abandon them only reaping what we sown in our own free will choices that we made then we'll use the excuse of "God doesn't want me miserable" but had you went to God and ask was this man a godly man for you from the jump you might have had found out to save ypu from what you went through. And when was the last time God abandon you?
I say this speaking from experience still bearing my cross and because of who I am in Christ I am still in a miserable marriage with a narcissist but I know how to with love endure and spiritually combat the demons that uses him to get me to take back on hate unforgiveness.
1 Corinthians 7:14 for the true believing spouse says we hold all the cards if you have Christ in you to love someone to be willing to make that sacrifice as Father made for us. God bless.
@@endtimewarrioress that sounds like gas lighting in and of itself, she has a right to be angry as long as she sins not
Your situation sounds like mine. It seems my entire family are all of what you said and they keep trying to suck me back into relationship. The hardest ones to get away from are the ones who allowed me to be sexually abused as a child and throughout my adult life have verbally abused me, lied and manipulated me and used me for money. I am exhuasted of them and really I should not be in contact with them anymore. I am trying to get to that level.
@@endtimewarrioress My ex husband was a sex addict, alcoholic, serial cheater liar so.. no I am NOT the adulter here. I am so fed up of people thinking Christians need to be doormats and yes I believe in forgiveness but not lying down and being abused because that is NOT what I call a good Christian and I know and love God's word very well so please do not think you need to teach me with all your spiritual jargon... when and if you have walked in my shoes than you can talk. God bless!
@@happydays199 God bless you and I pray God strengthens, heals and guides you! We are to be innocent as doves and wise as serpents! Stay safe!
I sincerely believe that God led me this video because I, today, am struggling with the rantings of a narcissistic person within my family. Thank you so very, very much for this message. God bless.
A well done video. I have had to deal with narcissism in people at various times, including an ex-wife. It was well disguised until shortly after we got married, then it was 14 years of trauma for me. When she threw me out I was grateful it ended. Her life has ended up in complete misery, which is where it seems narcissist end up. God blessed me in subsequently met an amazing Christian woman who demonstrated nothing but love for me. We've been married since 2011 and it's been fabulous; peaceful, and mutually supportive with strong Christian beliefs and actions. Thank you or this video.
I know that time & chance happen to us all. Ecc. 9:11b. I had left three times. Yet each time he wormed his way back into my life. Worm lol. 5.75 years ago I was violently discarded. The future faking was the reason I stayed. God's love for me is very rich in testing & trials that without Jesus' faith & God's grace & the power of the Holy Spirit I would still be in that loveless marriage. I heard the Spirit tell me this year that I will be walking through the fire. Also I will lose a lot. I was ripped off of my belongings. Yet God's Spirit told me that I would. I found that God has given me love that was unexpected. I praise God for making me ask for help. I have love in my life that is purely from God.
My husband claims he is Aspergers. But everything you describe about Covert behavior, is him. If I bring up a topic, he rushes for his phone, searching Google, then reads the information that is counter to my idea, even if his "resource" is wrong. Friends, family, have not believed me, until they see the behavior directed at them. And when he is wrong, he has never apologizes. Just walks away and claims to feel "shame". I know many with Aspergers, and that it is no longer used, but it is the best way to identify him, for this. He is extremely intelligent with software design. He also claims to be a Christian, but never once taught the children, and has never led prayer. Thank you for your videos. They help to restore me. ❤
Its refreshing to my soul to know it is not my responsibility to be friends with such people. I try to be polite without feeling like I need to give them more of me than what I feel I want to. God tells us to love one another and to love a narcissist can mean a healthy distance either mentally or physically. Spot on with your video! I'm going to listen to it again
Thanks for watching Emily!
My mother is a narcissist. I have sinned by disrespecting her and turned the other cheek at the same time for so long now. I nothing but freedom from all of the attacks. I'm sick and tired of it.
My mother was easy to quit having a relationship with because she didn’t raise me, but having many kids with a narcissist with not one friend or family member to turn to is very difficult… I trust God though, I truly do and fiction raising God fearing children and one day I will be free from his clutch!
This is what I’m enduring now. It’s the worse pain I have ever have to go through besides the lost of my own mom. I’m so sorry no one deserves this kind of pain.
Kris, Thank you for your videos. You are a gift of enlightenment to so many people. Sharing Biblical scriptures allows all of us survivors a clear path and direction for choosing Freedom, Truth, and Light. It is an eye opener knowing God does not want us to be controlled by anyone but instead led by the Holy Spirit. Being with a Narcissist is not the Life that God wants for us.
#4 hits me hard. EVERY time I try to share "what God has been teaching me" with my wife of 33 years (first 11 unsaved) she just acts like "Who doesn't know that,? get with game here man!" but at the same time she doesn't seem to grasp the basic things in Christ, like freedom and genuine connection.
So glad I'm free from the narcissist!
This was excellent! You used scripture which is so clear. Thank you!
I've been with my covert Christian narcissist wife for over 25 years. It's been a very difficult journey. Finding videos such as this one helps.
She has always made me feel like I am a second class Christian (even though I grew up in the church), that she is a superior parent than I am (even though I have a solid relationship with our three kids, and she doesn't), and a second class spouse.
I needed to hear this because I have been judged harshly by fellow Christians online, asking how dare I consider divorce? (Not sure which path to take right now though.). They don't know nor understand the struggle.
Wow you said the same thing I'm always thinking. That Narcissists are like aliens who come to this planet. Trying to copy us. It's so bizarre.
This video is everything. Thank you for your ministry. I'm going through it. Praying for deliverance and healing.
You could also include 2 Corinthians 6:14 @9:45 " Do not be mismatched with unbelievers. For what partnership is there between righteousness and lawlessness? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?".
OMG!! I've been looking for you. Finally Christian advise on narcissism. Thank you. 💖
What if you’re already in it? What if you were blindsided and never had any signs before marriage but a few months after BAM! A total FLIP. I want it to work and a miracle. I’m tired too.
I knew there was something wrong 3 months after I was married. Caught him texting an ex love. I stayed 7 years. I nearly left him after the first episode. Several more to follow - leaving me feeling anxious, lonely and confused. I prayed and prayed to God to show me what to do. His timing is perfect.
He found other (wealthy) supply when I refused to co-sign on a loan. He discarded me within a month. Don’t waste your life on him- God tells us not to stay in these demonic relationships. He has greater plans for you. He did for me and I am forever grateful.
Wow unforgiving ….offenses are used against us . Revelation
my x wife and mother in-law who is a pastor aswell, covert narcissist. this video just open my eyes.
Your videos are helpful. I struggle with my dad and sister being narcissistic and haven’t talked to them in 3 years. I struggle thinking there’s something I should do. Self-condemnation
I'm so glad you find the videos helpful and pray you find the healing you need. thank you for watching
if you STRUGGLE with them, thats the Holy Spirit telling you to STAY AWAY from them! its THEIR DECISION to treat you badly dont forget! they are TELLING you they dont LIKE YOU by their behaviour towards you; they are TELLING you they DONT want to be in a relationship with you! so AVOID them, fill your life/time with people who demonstrate they WANT to b with you and RESPECT you.
@@Lauren-vd4qe thank you! I know I have no peace about making any contact with them.
Same relationships for me though my sister is not malignant like my dad.
My wife's son is an alcoholic. He wrecked a truck we got for him. He refused to stop drinking in our home, then he stole something from her, and he attacked his own mother, my wife. She refused to call the police. I had to leave from work and told her I was going to call the police. He called her every fowl word he could.
When I expressed my displeasure about what he did to her....she said that I really didn't love him.
Mind you she, behind my back, spent $10,000 and bought the truck that he wrecked while he was drunk. No insurance. Then she said I loved my son more ...who is not an alcoholic...plus he hasn't lived with us since 2010. Her son is almost 30. Been in and out of our home since 18. I've bought cars, paid rent, got him out of jail, food, bills...you name it ...but according to her I don't love him or don't really love her.
We are separating now. Why? Her son is back, started drinking again, and has now been rushed to the hospital. She refuses to listen to me...always brings up the past, says I really don't love her, or her son, she NEVER apologizes, blames me for her son's condition, and accuses me of stuff that I know nothing about. For instance she blamed me for losing her keys. Got angry and called me names. She accidentally put them in her other purse. She said she will not apologize as I did something bad in the past.
Listening to you helps strengthen my resolve. I was worried, started fasting & praying trying to make sure where I was wrong.
EVERYTHING you said summed her up.
Thank you and may Jesus bless you.
Avoid isn’t a strong enough word,a narcissist has nothing to offer you but a compromised existence! They are predators and they will dismantle your self esteem and never think twice about the damage they’ve done! Pray for wisdom and protection for your own self.
Like most have said, whereas Narcissim is not a basis for divorce, non-stop cheating and being given more and more chances and being forgiven but no remorse and no repentance can only live the forgiving spouse exhausted. I don't know how such a marriage would survive. 😢😢😢
Noone should be in that kind of marriage
It can’t survive.
You can divorce if there's adultery. There's no reason to put up with that, even Biblically..
What about abuse though? Is the biblical grounds for that?
@S challenge with adultery in a court of law is a difficult one if you didn't catch the perpetrator red-handed. Even when you know its happening, apparently.
Proverbs 15:32 was used against me over and over by narcissist in my life, from my youth and my adult life but, yes, they never seemed to accept it for themselves. I learned on my own to be careful of WHO I accepted and trusted "discipline" from.
My pastor cut me down from ministry without telling me himself or giving any reason. The first time he did it, I had a meeting to ask him why but he changed the topic. He then cut me off from another ministry by telling someone else to do it for him. He came to church for a month and acted like he never even saw me. I was truly in a state of hurt and confusion. I eventually had a meeting with him and he said he never saw me around to talk to me. He never gave a reason as to why I was truly cut off. There is a whole lot more to this story which is too much to type atm. But I left the church because the gas lighting was messing me up badly. I've spent lots of money in therapy to heal from this but its still tough. I stay away from the pastor and evem his wife because for the past six years, whenever they talk to me, they act like what happened tk me, never happened at all, and that's why drives me insane because I always have to question my reality. I went to the church yesterday for the first time only because my nephew was being dedicated and STILL the pastor and his wife would never ask me how I'm doing and where I've been going to since I left. It's really unbelievable to me because my dad was the founding pastor of the church. When he died, the current pastor took over. I served with every fibre of my being under his ministry for 20 years. All I wanted was to be given a fair explanation as to why I was being cut off, but I didn't even deserve that. I live behind the church but I can never go back to my father's church because it's extremely lonely there now. Not even all my good friends who saw me grow up there tried to help me when they found out what kept happening to me. They just gave a sad look and continued supporting their pastor without questioning him. I'm the only one thats convinced he is a narcissist and gas lighter, but no one believes me. I really never wanted to leave my home church but I can't spend the rest of my life always having to fight up with the gas lighting...its physically and emotionally draining and depressing. I wish I had another spiritual leader to support me but I'm very grateful for your videos.
WHY would u still b in contact with them at all? go ELSEWHERE!!! move out of that city if u need to.
@@Lauren-vd4qe That was my initial burning desire. My therapists even told me the same. However, my mother is aging and she needs someone to stay with her and I'm the only person that can do that. I also want to remain here to stay close to the little family I have, being far away is isolating and dangerous for my mental health, since I'm single with no kids and few friends. Even more importantly, I want to stay and develop my late father's property and make sure the current pastor does not convince my mother to sell it over to his church (she is.very gullible) because that will leave me with nothing tangible to remember my father with; I have plans for this place to honor my father's legacy. I did however, purposefully change my job which is in a location 40 miles away and I go to church in another town, so at least the majority of my time is spent far away from them. I only went to the church recently in six years because my baby nephews must know that their aunty will be there for them especially on their significant occasions. And one day, I will tell them about the years of service their grandfather and aunty gave to the church they attend.
@@kimberlyborosa5097 I’m so sorry! Prayers for you to keep focused on Truth and for your life and mind to be freed from the devil gaslighter. I speak clarity of mind over you in your thought processes and plans, and say you have the mind of Christ, in Jesus’ Name, Amen!
@@k60c85 I appreciate your prayer. It's the first time anyone prayed for me about this, actually. I receive it and believe it.
@@kimberlyborosa5097 🙏🏻✝️🙏🏻❤️
My! How I'd LOVE to meet you! For my entire life, I've wanted to develop a "transitional living" facility for women who've experienced abuse. But now, I myself have not only experienced childhood trauma,but just left (no contact) a "Christian" deceptive relationship after 20 months of connecting the dots! Now I'm meeting other women who are Sur"thrivers", and total victims with no hope or purpose. I see God's vision for my life. Its bigger than I am...but I LOVE learning... and your insight has set me free and restored my vision!
Thanks Kris......your videos have helped me grow through Christ! God Bless!!
Thank you for sharing Sherri. That means a lot to me.:)
God bless you dear! The bible references in the end are very helpful.
Thanks for watching Masood.
Your videos are very very helpful to me. Bibilical references are eye openers to me. Thank you very much.
Thank you for watching. I'm delighted to hear that you're being helped by them
Here is another important scripture with which ppl can guard their hearts with!
1 Corinthians 15:33
"Be not deceived: evil communications corrupt good manners."
this lady is a blessing ☺️☺️
I just fell out of my chair at 5:28. THAT IS SO TRUE!!!!
Recently found another RUclips channel, surviving narrsasism. In the 8 years of verbal abuse from my husband....I'm now understanding what it is, and who he is. There are good days when everything is going his way, and there are oh my I want to crawl in a hole days and hide.
Thank you for these teachings.
Now, I'm already married....and I know what divorce means to God. I know I can't change my husband in anyway!!!!
I've started counseling with my pastor.
I'm in confusion, as to what to do....stay or should I go.
I want a better life, sanity and peace.
He has a daughter from a previous relationship....and 3 grandkids I love dearly.
I don't want any division, and have turned things over to God
Learning from the other RUclips channel, Dr. Carter says there are 3 things running a narsasist... Fear, guilt and shame...those are all demonic forces. So my prayers have been that all 3 of these spirits be bound and tossed back to the pits of hell.
To be replaced with truth, wholeness through Christ and redeemed
Michelle, I was in the same predicament. I stayed for 22 years in this toxic marriage. I found out about narcissism in 2017 and began watching videos as reading books on the subject. I left and filed for divorce in January. I am still waiting on the paperwork to be finalized. However, once I left God guided me to a place closer to my family. I found a new church where I know God wanted to attend. The Holy Spirit spoke to me after I made my decision and has showed me that God is for me not against me. It’s the narcissist that’s not right with God. He’s dealing with him, God’s ways are higher than our ways.
@@mariagargus7726 You had no bibical grounds to leave and now could be in adultery same as your spouse who in the eyes of God you are still married to. Your story only says who he is as a heathen overcome who you should have stepped up to be in Christ to carry the spirit if long suffering perseverance and endurance for the sake of his soul 1 Corinthians 7:14. Your situation is not good.
Sometimes we don't choose godly spouses and we reap what we sow but 1 Corinthians 7:14 for the true believing spouse says they hold all the cars. Ask for the spirit of long suffering perseverance and endurance and combat your spouse with your full armor. Ask for wisdom if you don't handle your spouse in the way of Christ you will be defeated by the demons on the Narcissist spouse and like most people divorce and go marry into adultery. Narcissism is not grounds for divorce. I pray strength over you. Only the power of Christ in you can help you endure your spouse for the saving of his soul. Its about bearing your cross. Think of your reward.
@@endtimewarrioress No we were unequally yoked. He was abusing me. God does not condone abuse.
@@endtimewarrioress When we met everything was good but after we married, he turned violent and angry. I became a Christian, therefore I tried to stay and did for 22 yrs. I raised our sons in church, I kept growing in The Lord, he kept mocking the men of God. We went to 4 Christian marriage counseling. I’m right with God, I forgive my ex and pray for his salvation. God’s opened many doors of Favor and blessings for me. I have Victory in Christ.
I hear and believe the entire word of God. I am a daughter of God.
I do not believe in divorce except on the biblical grounds of adultery. Which has not happened in my marriage. However, my husband was professionally diagnosed with a narcissistic personality disorder. His mother was very critical to him as a young boy into adulthood.
Every word you spoke and what the word of God says describes my husband completely.
I pray and pray for him. But it's a vicious cycle. I can't continue to live a Christian life like this. What do I do?
I understand how you feel.
Reevaluate your definition of adultery
Dear Heavenly Father, I lift up this sister to you. Give her wisdom and grace in this situation as she seeks to honor You in her marriage. Please lead her to people who will encourage her, lift her up, and point her to You and to Your truth. Remove the blinders from her husband's eyes and draw him to Yourself. Guard her heart and mind from the lies of the devil and provide a solution that is in alignment with Your Word and her conscience. Please rescue her from this horrible and destructive situation that she is in. Heal her from the damaged that has been caused and draw her to Yourself. Amen
You can leave without divorcing and live a celibate life.
Thank you everyone for the prayers.
Thank you for putting forth so readily that many manipulative narcissists are as likely to be female as male.
Thank you so much for these videos! I have a former friend that is a narcissist and I was so confused by the behaviors and the arrogance, lying, manipulation, jealousy, inability to take responsibility or apologize etc.
It does say in the bible that you are supposed to remain in the circumstance you were in when you found your faith and for a lot of us we found our faith when we hit rock bottom due to the narcissistic relationship so we are obligated to remain in that situation. I believe it's 1 Corinthians 7:17
Unfortunately when you are a child you have no choice but to stay
That's how a child develops coping mechanisms that have to be unlearned as an adult
Quite informative ... living with a narcissistic husband for 17 years.... backstabbing and silent treatment is the order of the day.... planning to move out but not financially stable...
Please reconsider unless your husband is fornicating against you. Jesus said that is the only reason God accepts for divorce. Also a spouse can’t deny themselves to their spouse unless they both agree to do so and then only for a short time for prayer. I hope you find Biblical marriage counseling that will have your husband set his sights on Jesus and try to live up to Ephesians 5.
I am sorry for yr suffering, shame & low sense of worth. Do NOT listen to those to say you must stay & suffer. You are a child of the most high God & your Lord & Savior Jesus Christ gave you life that you might live it to the fullest. NO ONE has the right to take that life you were meant to live. You were created for a purpose NOT a door mat or punching bag. Rise your head & keep living. God has your back. Glorify Him & live well
@@adamholmes1992Sorry Adam that yr advice is WRONG. Anyone who is a Child of the Most High God bought & paid for by the blood of Jesus Christ does NOT need to be a door mat or punching bag for anyone. Born with a divine purpose...this woman you instructed to stay with her NARC spouse, has 1 life & must live it well for Christ...NOT to be tormented by a demonic controlled spouse who stole what God created.
@@sandracrandall4561 We were put on this earth to worship God and be righteous. The purpose of life is to be righteous, not happy. Happiness must come out of being righteous or it is sin. Can you cite in the New Testament where it says Jesus was just kidding or wrong when He said there is only ONE reason that is acceptable for divorce? The ONLY reason He gave is for being fornicated against. He said this reason is the ONLY reason that is acceptable to break your marriage. Who is wrong? The person citing the Word of God or you?
Thank you, Kris.
2 Timothy 3
"... From such withdraw thyself"
Never Ever for your self betterment.❤❤❤
The phrase "difficult times" actually means "ragingly insane" times in the original languages. The word "difficult" is not strong enough in our English, it is severe.
Wow thank you. Interesting
I love learning about that kind of stuff
You did not mention THE ONE THING about Christianity that caused soooo much grief for me.... Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. It does not work well when dealing with a narcissist. Patient, kind, considerate, boundaries, COMMUNICATE, share, respect, give... these are things I LOVE and enjoy doing but some people do not reciprocate and will use and abuse the person who lives within the parameters of these values. It's a hard life. Being naturally calm and gentle is hard.
This is so true thank you for this video.
I’ve just got out of a relationship that has taken me a few months to understand after it was over and was identical to what you’re saying here. The whole relationship I was dumb founded at the arguments and fights we had. I’ve never experienced this behavior from a woman that said she loved me before and it was one of the worst pains I’ve ever experienced when it was done and I knew what she had done to me. Please people that see this video, it’s real real. We serve a great GOD and he really does equip us with the aresnal we need. It’s in the book, just got to read it haha. 🙏🏼💪🏻 Thank you Kris for the content! This particular video helped me and I hope you keep giving them.
My mother is a narcissist, I thank you for this word, I always feel guilty when I defend myself from her, cause of her being who gave me life. and how God says to respect your mother and do not judge her and God will add year to your life.
from India, totally agree, my only daughter suffered domestic violence and harrassment from her husband for 18 years, had tolerated as they were blessed with a daughter, and since my daughter lost her father at a very young age, didn't want to deprive my granddaughter of her father. She moved out of his roof 7years ago after she was pregnant and afraid he will get the baby aborted (he made her abort the earlier pregnancy), my daughter was blessed with a son, same tolerance for the son. few years ago he brutally assaulted my daughter. My daughter decided, this will not change, and always he says, (18 years) he wants a divorce and a mutual divorce, my daughter filed for mutual divorce and in settlement he did not give her or the children even a rupee. All the expenses for the children's food, wellbeing, education, school, fees, books etc. are borne by my daughter. we don't have anyone to support us in anyway, we are born again believers and he took full advantage of our Christian love and tolerance but to no avail. He is egotistical, eccentric and a psycho, but still praying for him for the sake of Jesus Christ our Lord and Saviour ✝️
Kris this video is so powerful!
Please continue teaching us the truth about that is going on today.
Healing WILL change our lives and Jesus is KING!
Narcissists rarely, if ever, demand forgiveness because they don't think they ever do anything wrong - and if they did, they will minimalize or even justify it by saying YOU did or said something to provoke them. And how do you "avoid" such people if you are married to a narc? Certainly it wouldn't be God's will to divorce them (except perhaps for very severe cases, because this comes in all different levels or measures)
This is one Awesome video - I love looking at this from a spiritual view - uplifting for us battered souls! Bless you and keep going in this direction!
I believe that God in order to teach me about true unconditional love is that He allows the Devil to send to me a Narcissistic wife. I feel and believe that Gods Grace is sufficient in me and that through my weakness His power will be manifested. Love is patience Love is Kind Love endures all things. St Paul the Apostle of the Gentiles
I love how you are so blatant.
This was an amazing eye opener. Thank you
You did a great job on this video, thank you. I figured that the pharisees where Narcissists and that Jesus did not pretend to love them. But all the other supporting scripture was excellent. Just what I needed.
This is a difficult situation for many reasons..the flesh wants to “be happy.” God never promised us “happiness.” We have to pick up our Cross and Follow Him-daily. The Cross that Jesus carried was H E A V Y and someone had to assist Him in carrying it. No servant is greater than their master. Our Cross will be H E A V Y as well and we will need assistance (from Christ) to carry it. The Word says we are not to divorce but if we do we are to remain single OR reconcile to our spouse (that we divorced). We are only able to remarry if our spouse died naturally. This is difficult for me. Not because I desire to remarry but because I desire to finally find peace away from all the constant drama. But I love My God and those that Love Him will keep His Commandments and be obedient to what he says.
Stop this nonsense God doesn't want any of his children to be miserable and abused. What happened to God being Love, Peace and Joy. Should we not have that in a marriage?😤
Thank you so much for all your videos! 💖💖💖 May all people on this planet heal and live happy and joyful esp those who are in total darkness. Lots of love and compassion to all who are reading 🙏 and a big hug 🤗
Wise WORDS!!!! Thankyou for the Teaching
ThX Sis. ! I needed to hear that ! May The Holy Spirit wrap You with warm wings of love and give You a Big Hug. Thank You so very much God Bless You I pray in every way.Shalom
Knowing that GOD does not want divorces, do I, or do I not divorce, separate or what do I do? Nothing has changed in 40 years. Always hoping but now I understand what I'm dealing with,I need to know what to do. I'm so drained. I'm also an Elder at my church. Thank you for this video, it did help me! 🙏
i am a christian but as for the church if u can love most of them you can love anyone
Such an excellent video
Unteachable …
thank you very much for the Scripture 🙏🙏🙏
Newest studies on narcissism states it’s a deep trauma coping response usually from a mother wound. And very difficult to heal unless they have a narcissist collapse
Really, I didn't do anything to my daughter to behave in this manner.☹
Thanks alot woman of GOD, more grace and stay blessed
You described my wife and her family to me....I'm an Israeli who went all the way to South Africa to marry this beautiful English girl...only to find out this horrible truth...its been so painful and everyone here believes her, because she is fair, pretty, one of them! She continues to attend church and they welcome her...how refreshing to hear you..
This is EXCEPTIONAL. I have lived this as a scapegoat for years. Thank you!