5 Steps to Get Your Dismissive Avoidant Ex Back

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  • Опубликовано: 23 июл 2024
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    Do you want to get your dismissive avoidant ex back? There are 5 steps you can take to re-attract your avoidant ex. If you follow these steps it will give you the best chance of reconnecting with your dismissive avoidant partner. We will also talk about what not to do with a dismissive avoidant when trying to reconnect with them.
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    0:00 Intro
    0:50 Your ex will need THIS to be open to reconnecting!
    02:04 Step 1: Engage their mind
    04:00 Did you share THIS with your avoidant ex?
    04:11 Step 2: "Put the conversation down"
    05:04 Step 3: Pick the conversation back up!
    05:49 Step 4: Time to meet up!
    07:17 Step 5: Let them bring up THIS first.
    09:20 Bonus Step: Most important MINDSET
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  • @KatyaMorozova
    @KatyaMorozova  4 месяца назад +3

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  • @livewires8637
    @livewires8637 4 месяца назад +56

    Pro tip: Don’t.

    • @KatyaMorozova
      @KatyaMorozova  4 месяца назад

      Thanks for sharing. What would you like me to make a video about instead?

    • @livewires8637
      @livewires8637 4 месяца назад +6

      @@KatyaMorozova​​⁠a video exploring the difference between avoidant attachment and character flaws could be interesting and enlightening.
      When deactivating strategies cross over into abuse.
      This could help raise the avoidants awareness of their behavior, and help those unaware of what they are experiencing to recognize that this may not be a narcissist (easy mistake to make for the uninitiated), and to emphasize the need for boundaries in any situation that becomes toxic or abusive.

    • @fabiocosta3306
      @fabiocosta3306 4 месяца назад

      ​@@KatyaMorozova I love your work Katya but what's the point? Avoidant people are selfish self centered people and to be honest I don't care how many traumas they have, they don't give a damn about anybody else but them (sometimes not even that). We need to be even more avoidant than they are. They're close to narcissists

    • @KatyaMorozova
      @KatyaMorozova  4 месяца назад +1

      Great idea! I'm definitely open to making a video on this topic. Feel free to share anything else on the topic that you'd like to see me cover in the video.

    • @livewires8637
      @livewires8637 4 месяца назад +3

      @@KatyaMorozovait was eye opening for me to understand attachment style by itself is benign. The same way having NPD is. Unfortunately us humans don’t live in that vacuum and these unhealthy ways of relating are going to cause problems in relationships. Awareness, education, and boundaries have helped me to be less effected by abusive behavior. This has been a hard fought uphill battle that is far from over.

  • @kazao4403
    @kazao4403 4 месяца назад +15

    When you do become secure, you don't want that behaviour back

    • @KatyaMorozova
      @KatyaMorozova  4 месяца назад +1

      Nice observation! Anything you'd like me to make a video on?

  • @nickus51
    @nickus51 4 месяца назад +25

    We connected via a common hobby. However, I am not sure I want her back. DAs can be extremely hurtful and devaluing when they discard you, almost to the point of being narcissistic.

  • @carolinelaronda4523
    @carolinelaronda4523 4 месяца назад +14

    Yay !!! get them back so they can ignore you again!! That oughta teach them!

    • @JasonPeters-pd7sg
      @JasonPeters-pd7sg Месяц назад +1

      Holy crap, that reality hurts. But it's so true!

  • @sadiqua7
    @sadiqua7 4 месяца назад +23

    Yeah this works, but they’ll keep you in the friend zone. I don’t have the time to play high school games trying to lure an alley cat. My ex and I connect on entrepreneurship fashion and pop culture, also food, life goals. The one thing we don’t connect on is communication and that outweighs everything so no, if he wants to grow up and have an adult relationship he needs to make that first step. I don’t want a partner I have to be aloof with, I want one that wants me as much as I want them if not more so. Avoidants with severe avoidance are emotional stunted and they need to work on that. I was always FA leaning secure, this last guy made me anxious and unsure because he was insecure and defensive. It was terrible experience

    • @plusone8015
      @plusone8015 4 месяца назад +1

      You learned a lot 🙏

    • @KatyaMorozova
      @KatyaMorozova  4 месяца назад

      Thanks for sharing your experience. I'm glad that you were able to arrive at a more profound conclusion about what you need in a relationship.

    • @daughteroftheking6402
      @daughteroftheking6402 3 месяца назад +2

      I went through the same for two years. 40 years old and he acted 15. Never took accountability, even laughed at me when I would try to hold him accountable for his words and actions. Not only that, only see him 5 times in the two years. 🤦‍♀️ never met his family, and he never met mine. Super avoidant and I triggered him all the time. He would block me for months just because I triggered him and he couldn’t talk, then he’d come back months later acting like nothing had ever happened, and if I tried once even, to hold him accountable, or to mention anything that had happened previously. He would disappear for months at a time again.

  • @Ken-od7gc
    @Ken-od7gc 4 месяца назад +18

    Why would you want a person like this back? I guess if you would like to put your needs aside, devote yourself to understanding your DA, walk on eggshells so you do not trigger them and watch them toss you aside again...then by all means carry on. Repeat over and over until you have totally lost yourself.
    Your mileage may vary but there are far more stories of heartbreak and few stories of success.

    • @KatyaMorozova
      @KatyaMorozova  4 месяца назад

      Thanks for sharing. What would you like me to make a video about instead?

    • @karaszimarianna4003
      @karaszimarianna4003 2 месяца назад

      ​@@KatyaMorozovahow to get over such an addiction forever. They come back anyway, just to hurt and ignore you again. There is no amount of self control which would protect you from walking on eggshells and triggering them all the time and just not knowing, why, what the hell did I wrong again? Mine was even triggered from a question mark after How are you doing.... He told me, I shouldn't use question mark (after so an innocent question) , because it feels like police and interview to him... I accidentaly used it anyway, because its just proper Grammar to me... I really didnt think anything controlling asking this as soft as possible. This is just only one example from his eggshells, and it were a LOT.

  • @DeltaTempest
    @DeltaTempest 4 месяца назад +8

    Seems like a good way to get friendzoned. They get you back and they dont have to give you affection or anything.

  • @sherryvan4627
    @sherryvan4627 4 месяца назад +30

    i dont want him back, i want the me that has never been thru avoidant trauma back

    • @sunnydayz3577
      @sunnydayz3577 4 месяца назад +2

      Yessss

    • @KatyaMorozova
      @KatyaMorozova  4 месяца назад +2

      I'm sorry to hear that your relationship affected you so deeply. What would you like me to make a video about instead?

    • @knitnpaint
      @knitnpaint 4 месяца назад +1

      Yeees

    • @Kimberlyelayyne
      @Kimberlyelayyne 3 месяца назад +1

      Wow, this!!!

  • @sharonb519
    @sharonb519 4 месяца назад +8

    Why would you want someone back that’s just going to run away again? Wash. Rinse. Repeat. SMDH 😫

  • @plusone8015
    @plusone8015 4 месяца назад +6

    She went away and devalued me... long ago... now she's back knocking on my 🚪 door
    I hear a dismissive knocking
    I say you can't come in
    I hear ya knocking
    Go back where you been....
    If she had listened back in '23
    She would have known I detest misery....
    Anyway.... keep your hands up at all times and when instructed go to a neutral corner.
    Our common interest was horizontal.... now I am vertical
    Geometry ❤

  • @innal8244
    @innal8244 4 месяца назад +1

    Amazing video and strategy, Katia❤

    • @KatyaMorozova
      @KatyaMorozova  4 месяца назад

      Thank you! I'm glad you found it helpful.

  • @miss_tinksi
    @miss_tinksi 4 месяца назад +3

    I tried, he agreed to give us another go only to betray and then leave me for the first available alternative. 🤷‍♀️

  • @karaszimarianna4003
    @karaszimarianna4003 2 месяца назад +2

    You will be retraumatized and be back with CPTSD gratis. It would be more helpful to give advice on how to get over this addiction forever, because it works like a drog.

  • @mudar.hajjar
    @mudar.hajjar 25 дней назад +1

    This a lot of fucking work and no one want this headache ….. OMG!
    We want an easy relationship full of love and care ….. let them go and treat themselves!

  • @glsn3825
    @glsn3825 4 месяца назад +3

    Hi Katya, does this apply to fearful avoidants and how long should the NC be? I work some of my insecure sides in the meantime but for me.

    • @fabiocosta3306
      @fabiocosta3306 4 месяца назад

      From my experience, 1 year and on. They don't give a damn. NC does not work on them. They will get another source of supply soon or get something to be amused about, avoiding you altogether

  • @courtneyhall9368
    @courtneyhall9368 Месяц назад

    Told me ex DA to not contact me any more then 1 week later I got a text saying she unblocked me saying she was sorry we didn’t workout and I was such an amazing person blah blah. What did that mean?

  • @brunalina2275
    @brunalina2275 День назад

    Ex avoidant did not go to non contact phase! Everyday he is the one who txt me talking about his daily routine
    He tell me that i am his bestie forever!

  • @grabbelton
    @grabbelton 2 месяца назад

    We had the same hobby in common, but i was only at the surface, but since we parted, i bought my own and now we can connect by me asking him for his expertise...it works. But i still don't know if i bought one to keep in touch with him or that i bought it because i myself really dig it and all the perks that comes with it ..🤔. Probably both??

  • @grabbelton
    @grabbelton 2 месяца назад +1

    How about when a dismissive dates a disorganised. Trying to make it work? ( Plus the View of people thinking you are Crazy to even think about is hard to handle, cuz i cried my Eyes out by them. How to keep your Dignity in the proces? I dont mind but people judge...

    • @grabbelton
      @grabbelton 2 месяца назад

      Ps: he was the one who contacted me, picked the conversation up. after me breaking up with him .
      It was only superficial but it was...i was greatfull 🙏.
      Step for step.
      ( We are going to see eachother at an event we both are going to. I hope we can be in eachothers vicinity without it ruining the day and or without falling in eachothers arms again like nothing happened before...

    • @grabbelton
      @grabbelton 2 месяца назад

      Oh and my brain power amongst other is what he is attracted too as wel. Very much..
      And i became More self assured and i stand stronger in my own shoes.

  • @AG-vp1ok
    @AG-vp1ok 3 месяца назад +1

    Nice video, but do you have one on how to get back a fearful avoidant?

  • @TimMillernapavalleyfilmworks
    @TimMillernapavalleyfilmworks 4 месяца назад +3

    I’ve run into my ex DA three times this last month including today. I have no idea what this means?? Please help!

    • @AnimeNewsRadio101
      @AnimeNewsRadio101 4 месяца назад

      You need help, go watch love with lucia youtube about dealing exes are avoidant(s) and how to deal over your ex. Unless you want them back? don’t try rush things.

    • @plusone8015
      @plusone8015 4 месяца назад +2

      You need to sweep for FSB transmitters & bugs....
      008

    • @fabiocosta3306
      @fabiocosta3306 4 месяца назад

      You need to get a restraining order soon

    • @JasonPeters-pd7sg
      @JasonPeters-pd7sg Месяц назад +1

      Simply called coincidence
      Don't overthink
      Or over want
      Something you can't have anyway.
      I can say that easy enough,but doing it....

    • @TimMillernapavalleyfilmworks
      @TimMillernapavalleyfilmworks Месяц назад

      Still nothing two months later. But we’re in the same circles

  • @paulharrison8612
    @paulharrison8612 3 месяца назад

    I Want her back, i love her unconditionally that i except her because i see through her advoidant behaviour, deep down im willing to show her what i have and that ee can one day work through anything dhe feels she can at the time.
    I cant believe there are so many comments on here saying otherwise, what sre you foing yhen watching videos on getting an advoidant back???

  • @krisgi00710
    @krisgi00710 4 месяца назад

    We shared a love of playing chess together.

  • @WitchOvTheeWood
    @WitchOvTheeWood 4 месяца назад +1

    This seems like solid advice. Thanks for sharing your insights, @katyamorozova!

    • @KatyaMorozova
      @KatyaMorozova  4 месяца назад

      Thank you! I'm glad you found it valuable.