Girl Chat: Does Dating Hinge on Race?
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- Опубликовано: 26 окт 2016
- Should dating sites include a race or ethnicity category? "The Real" ladies and guest co-host Phaedra Parks share thoughts in this Girl Chat. Watch and tell us your thoughts below.
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omg they did Loni wrong with this look
Obey Amma lol, so true
Obey Amma right
Obey Amma thats my first comment they didnt blend to well just pat with sponge
Yes. Is she in black face? She's already black.😂
Obey Amma she looks terrible
"I ain't looking for a broke man so let's put that in the app." BISH 💀💀💀💀 Loni slam dunk everyone with that comeback.
I ain't looking for a woman that so god damn loud and obnoxious the whole concert hears her over the band. I need that feature.
CompPerformanceFreak hmm sounds like you believe every stereotype that you hear and you haven’t got off your ass and searched to prove weither it’s true or not
Can we filter for gold diggers while we’re at it
Loni's face is so distracting😧 makeup artist went too far...not even a dark lip😳😳 it's all too much for me to take in
Darnell Fortune lol I thought no one was going to mention that. I was wondering myself
Pause at 0:48, you'll like it:)
Darnell Fortune she looks flat
I want to know where her eyebrows are though.
Darnell Fortune yes like where is her eyebrows lol
This discussion was very interesting. Everybody's point was pretty valid
i like the filter. this way people dont have to see that you dont like them. you just wont show up.
Seriously, I don't have ANY opinions on this. I am waiting the man that God will give me, period.
yes girl but you can also ask God for a man you want. In God's words ''ASK and you will receive''
MegaCadette55 I know that too
Agreed!
Yes!! Exactly
Muriel Melly yes girl
Ok let's get this straight, PREFERRING a specific kind of race just simply because you're more attracted to that, is alot different than weeding out someone or automatically saying no because of their race. Which in my opinion, is racist.
The question is WHY do you prefer a specific race. There are usually unpleasant truths associated with that answer (if you prefer a race other than your own).
NYCzora Also true
NYCzora Lol because I find English people intriguing and also tend to find blue eyes attractive.. which, just happens to occurr alot in Europeans. Does that mean I automatically reject someone because the color of their skin? Nope. But yeah I just happen to like a specific culture a little more than the rest. Its no different than loving pizza, but just loving pineapple pizza a little more than the rest.
THANK you, Gus! It's the same as saying you prefer a certain height, but it's silly to totally exclude ppl who don't reach that height
RandomGus but preferences can actually be racist/rooted in racism
I started out with a tight list of my preferences but I've learned to be more open with some things.. However, there are some non-negiotable things like faith, character and some personality traits. I gotta be physically attracted to him.
Esther Grace beautiful list for physical attraction to me it's good hygiene
+fullyshimmer that and height for me.Can't really date a man who is shorter than me (unless he is mega rich like Kevin Hart and Eniko Parish.lol jk)
To me, that's the thing, being physically attracted. My dream guys is white, tall, blonde hair, and blue eyes point blank period. Don't get me wrong, I've actually had crushes on guys who haven't met that criteria, even a black guy once! Back in fifth grade lol he was just really nice. But I know myself and I know that even though I love their personality, I can never look at them and be attracted the same way I would be attracted to another man that did have blonde hair and blue eyes. And that to me is really sad because that person deserves to be with someone that will look at them and think they're the most attractive man in the world and if I can't give that to them then they should be with someone else.
Is it just me or does Loni's makeup look a bit odd ? I LOVE Loni's makeup usually , but this face is off
Asiah Coker yeah i see some dark spots maybe there are bruises underneath? But overall it looks good
Asiah Coker I noticed that too. they tried TOO hard to give her the neutral look,and made her look washed out instead. A darker shade of brown lipstick or a wine color would've saved this look imo
Asiah Coker she has no eyebrows
Fajr’s Life I was just about to say that
I thought it was the eyebrows
If you don't want to date people of a certain race then don't. There are people who do this everyday but they don't vocalize it. I don't see a problem in it.
agree! but we live in a world were its frowned upon to say the truth. Honestly there are some races that I would never date; however i don't tell people.
Honestly.. I feel like dont knock it till u try it cuz like Jeannie says u never know. If uve dated someone of that race and u found the differences to be too much then it makes sense if u dont want to date that race but excluded ppl from the get go b4 giving them a chance just seems ignorant personally
***** I never understand why people would only date a race separate from their own. Why did you decide to do that before ?
I had the completely opposite experience but it's true that misconceptions often skews your perception of an entire race. I know my aunt told me not to date a black guy because they're all cheaters.
I (black woman) have dated outside my race, but I prefer to be with a black man, and am thankful for my current boyfriend. Love is love, but I wanna be with someone who understands what it means to be black. Empathy is not enough.
Whenever I date a white guy my mom always asks him if he's seen my natural hair.
crying haha guessing you black ?
Obi Braxton i think that's a white guy and not a girl
Legit question though 😂
Ash lol
haha nice
I'm from Trinidad and my ideal guy was Indian (trini) guys. But I'm currently in love and in a relationship with an African guy. So it's personality that attracts me in the end. But i can appreciate a handsome guy of any race.
just out of curiosity would you date a white man?
Yes! Aisan, Mexican, once their personality attracts me and they have sex appeal. But i find white guys with dark hair more attractive.
Esha Augustine see Im attracted to black guys and Latino men anything else honestly not my cup of tea
Janelle W lol I think she meant African in terms of black. Indian is a race here. African is a race here. She doesn't mean males actually from India or males actually from Africa
Esha Augustine girl I'm trini too and I'm very attracted to light skin Indian guys but when I see a tall dark chocolate man looking my way....lawdddd. I think most people tend to be attracted to their own race the most and I wonder why is that. people like people similar to them I guess
...i do not want race option. I want religion option.
i agree
What, Christians only?
+Knez Fikol im not christian or religious but I care more about a guy spiritual beliefs that is compatiable to mine than the color of his skin. Its a deal breaker for me
This is a very important option to me
Christian Mingle?
Come on what is going with Loni's MAKEUP?!!!👵🏽😳 They're doing something different and it's not cute. They had her cute in the beginning of Season 3
I have dated people out of my race. But FOR ME i find it easier and better to be with someone that understands my culture and who i can speak Spanish with. My boyfriend of 3 years is hispanic and i love him and i am happy with him. I see nothing wrong with dating within your race or outside of your race. Just as long as you are happy and in love nothing else will matter.
You beautiful. Your bf very lucky
You're very right imo.
I prefer Latino men too
I appreciate Phaedra's response. It is refreshing to have a apolitically correct person on the panel. Let's be real, there are individuals (such as myself) who prefer to date/marry within my own race because there are commonalities that we share that if we have children, there won't be any confusion about who we are and what we stand for. Yes, love can be found in other races. But race is not just a color, it is the metaphysical history, traditions, values, culture and experiences that cannot be equally understood and practiced by those outside of it. Go Phaedra!!!!
I hear people talk about "preferences" all the time. But people need to ask themselves *WHY* they prefer a certain race (if it's a race that is not their own). Preferences don't just come from nowhere. They are usually conditioned from a young age, ingrained and associated with prejudices and stereotypes.
yeah I think this is a good question. Personally I prefer people who look like me, dark hair, blue eyes and white or tan or mixed skin, why? i don't know..possibly i'm a bit selfcentered or it's just what i grew up around, and that always manifests as beauty if that's what you are around at a young age. we are also biologically incined to prefer certain feauteres to create the most beautiful/successful offspring mixed with our own dna. So it's not just predjudice and stereotypes. If you adopt a child of another race and that child grows up in a not so multicultural environment, that child will most often prefer the looks he/she grew up among. I have an adopted asian friend and he thinks white, blonde and blueyed women are the most gorgeous, which is exactly like his mother looks and many in school.
I think it's all a mix honestly, biologically, stereotypes and predjudice (race, femininity/masculinity/religion/cultural behaviour ). How we associate things and features with attractive, unattractive, repulsive or just average. we also learn by patterns so if someone of a race treats us badly we might be more caucious even without us knowing abbout it the next time we meet somemone that has the same features. And whatever is culturally praised in what we are raised as will be viewed as more attractive
NYCzora thank you. When people say preferences I think height, religion, maybe jobs...to put race as a preference is stupid as hell & people really don't realize it comes from prejudices.
Thaleya1 actually...not in reality. Beauty is a social construct. What you think is beautiful is what you are told is beautiful....and what you believe is ugly you were taught to see as ugly. So if you grow up in a racist society like most of us...tah dah!
SparklingJuice247 No that's not entirely true. Biology makes us attracted to women with larger hips, or men with more muscles or a certain weight that increases fertility. subtle attraction that we have in-scripted
since birth.
But yes it's in large part a social construct, but you don't have to grow up in a racist society to have a strong preferance, i still am not attracted to pale redhaired men. if i dig deep within myself i think it's because when i was a kid we had an annoying kid in school who had red hair, and later on we had another redhaired child in school and he was so uncomfortably cringy in his mannerisms that you got embarrassed for him every time he entered a room, zero confidence. Maybe that lay the ground for me. cuz i have in no way grown up in a society where red haired people are frownd upon, i've had red hair myself many times.
Thaleya1 I'm sorry to disregard your "preferences" but you're speaking from a very privileged standpoint. Minorities, specifically women of color, and especially black women, grow up with very little representation in media outlets. So yes I can grow up around plenty of dark skinned people and see the beauty in them, but whenever I pass by a billboard or see a commercial their is mostly people with Eurocentric features that are being sold as beautiful and it's very conflicting. Things don't have to be blatantly racist to create prejudices, by not being inclusive to a wide range of people creates prejudices on it's own. Basically, it's easy for you to say attraction is based mainly on biology or past experiences when you didn't grow up thinking people with features like yours are inferier to Eurocentric or "white" ones.
Jeannie obviously is not attracted to asian men. That's why she can't see it from a same race aspect like was Adrienne was saying. If a person wants to filter out race by choosing to date their own race, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Attractive men and women come in every color. I don't think race should be a factor at all, that's just my honest opinion. We're all human. If I'm being completely honest, I think the reason people choose to avoid dating others of a certain race is because of stereotypes or racism, two of the stupidest ideas of mankind.
Vanessa G I agree smh
Vanessa G Well I don't want to say race is a factor but it's something I won't ignore for certain reasons
not really (just my opinion) I am not attracted to some races HOWEVER I do not disrespectful NOR am I racist to them in my everyday life. AS far as who im fucking if I am not attracted to those races why am I wasting their time and mine?
Candy Flores For me, it's not about race. I'm just starting to lose hope about people in fact
Yeye Osun Well, I don't think the human sex organs were meant to look all that great anyway. Lol and dick just gets the "job" done and helps to reproduce so in my opinion it doesn't really matter what they look like. Especially when it comes to race..
I can't understand why ANYONE would be opposed to interracial dating, completely baffles me. I'm attracted to every race and I see that as a blessing
Rossellini Rossical Ross C awww
Me Too, im attracted to girls of every ethnic group.
Same!
I use the filter, and select asian women. Blocking out all other races. It's my preference. So what?
Mr J we don’t care
I haven't dated alot of guys, but my first boyfriend was italian and black. Second was puerto rican and now a white man. He has been the most caring and understanding person Ive ever met. And it has NOTHING to do with race. Ive always connected with black men because thats what I've grown up around. 3 of my close guy friends were. For me, it had to do with personality and what they were able to offer me in a relationship. The men I got close to, Ive seen how they were in relationships and I didnt want to deal with that lol and I never really thought I would be with a white man, but it happened. Jeannie is right. Stuff like that arent planned out. It just happens. But it happened because I knew I didnt care about race. Personalities is what keeps me. Not someones apperance or skin color. Why does it matter to other people? I will never really know. Why does race matter so much? Idk. Ethnicities doesn't divide us human beings. It shows diversity, but race man.. it has caused so much ridiculousness lol and for what? We all bleed red.
Judith Francine I agree with you completely.
Judith Francine agree
Love your comment so muuuch
Yesss girl!!! Get that Italian & Black culture! 👏🏽💕
Frantz Germain And you're projecting your own self hate onto her it seems lol
I don't see anything wrong with it. I'm a black women who doesn't date outside her race.
I don't think there is anything wrong with a person not wanting to date outside of their race. I do have a problem with people, however, who look down on people in interracial relationships. I have come across a lot of black women who get mad at black men who have white girlfriends. That just gets on my nerves.
Bex G
If it's genuine I don't have a problem. I do, however, have a problem with Black men who date outside their race to spite their black Mothers, aunts, cousins, etc. That's not ok and they need to figure whatever wound they have and are trying to pacify. I prefer dating outside my race because like Jeannie said I love learning about other cultures. However, if someone of my race walked up to me and asked me out and he seema genuine I would say hell yes.
Bluebird RedRobin same here
I don't mind preferences but my only issue is using preference as an excuse not to date members of your own race, (ie black men who "prefer" only white and latina women but reject their own).
And most of these date them just because they dont like bw for stereotypical reasons never right reason
Preferences seem to only be used to exclude black women, period. Dont really hear many "not into Asian women"
Mustafa Alam sadly :(
@Masearte Abraha No it isn't. I'm white. I like asian women. I don't hate myself.
I prefer dating black men point blank period. black love is so beautiful!
Cosmic Angel agree
Cosmic Angel me too...me too...me too..
yes!!!
Unfortunately studies have shown black men are less likely to choose black women online, which is pretty sad. Loni is right women should go for who wants them period.
honeybee19892 wrong lol black men marry black women 87% of the time.if anything black men mostly they just date other races.you are kind of a bitch for saying that as well saying that whatever faux studies you reas said black men dont like them and then loni said we should go for people who like us .😂😂😂you are joke black men barely MARRY other races they mostly date yall
I love what Tam's mom told Adam.
I wonder if Adam had dated black women before Tamera. Tamera didn't reveal that
NYCzora Tamera was his first black girlfriend
Queen Mina and he never went back..
once you go black, you never go back....unless you Miley Cyrus
She’s not black she’s biracial so is her child #Fact
Phaedra is my favorite meme. She can throw shade with just her stank face expressions 😂 But anyway, I feel like people should just stop giving there 2 cent on other people's preference. So they're vanilla and like chocolate ...why are you giving you're unwanted strawberry opinion? Unless they openly bash a race, then let them enjoy what they like.
Eve Yitu
Right!
Eve Yitu Thank you! 👏👏👏👏👏👏
I don't understand why people get offended by people's preferences, you like what you like. You should not bash or tear down people who don't fit your liking but you shouldn't be considered narrow minded if you prefer a certain type of person
Exactly. It’s not self hate to not be attached to your own race
@@user-pp9df6ml6i Depends. It’s a bit weird
Jeannie was really trying to push this conversation into something about politically correctedness. But Phaedra hit it on the nail...some of us are religious and cultural people and that's important for our identity and how we later want to raise our children. It's also important for how our families will receive the person we date. So glad Phaedra and Loni say the truth of the matter.
Yep u right
I’m Indian and my mother is very religious and cultured. My father is also cultured. They were always very open minded regarding who I date. As long as they are the right person who fully gets who I am.
they talk bout dating n marriage a lot in this show
Habiba Waliyow its kinda necessary lol
NeilyMusic How is it a struggle? Loni is the only single one🤔... And she WANTS to be single.. She enjoys it.
most of their audience are women and women like those topics lmao
Sooo what! it's gossip! i love hearing about these topics! Maybe because I'm a grown women ,and love to hear different point of views about these topics💅 Go play at the park kid.. You sound childish since this bores you 😉
Elizabeth Rubio 😂😂😂😂 I swear you funny. y u getting pissed. sweetie im 21 and yes im old too. I didn't said I was bored though. Child. u need a chill pill😂
the woman in the middle is like a black bratz doll omg so.beautiful
Phaedra.
You talking about Fakedra?
If its racist to not want to date outside your race, then by the same token, it would also be sexist not to want to date a certain sex. It would also be ageist to not want to date someone old/young.
Not really the same "token" but ok
You cant force attraction if its there its there if not then it doesnt happen. Race of course has some bearing on dating.
Elle Marie
It is the same. Just like straight people prefer the opposite sex, some people prefer a certain skin color
@@user-pp9df6ml6i i dont personally correlate sex to race. Men and women are biologically and factually different. I have ovaries, a man doesn't. I have a host of organs that a man does not have and vice versa. Other than skin tone which still functions the same, humans are the same. So comparing gender to race is insinuating that like sexes, different races are inherently different biologically....which isnt that the same thinking that slave masters used to justify slavery? Skin tone isnt biologically as different as say a penis or vagina. A pale person can get a tan if they so desire to. I get lighter in the winter. All it takes is a change in their environment like sitting on a beach or staying indoors. I cant cause my female body to sprout testicles just by adjusting my physical environment. So i dont see how sex and race can be used in the same example. People can change their gender if they so desire but im yet to meet someone who has the capability to change their race🤔 i can bleach my skin but im still going to be considered black. Hmm....maybe because race is a social construct? I personally believe that humans are actually the same despite race but i guess if you believe that humans are not equal or not the same then i could see why you'd have a racial preference socially or romantically.
If you are unattracted to darker skin then why not just say that? Why connect a specific race to it if the shade of skin is the only thing you dont prefer? There are other races in the world who posses dark skin other than black people. If you dont like curly hair then why not just say that? You don't have to attach a race to it because there are MANY races who have curly/kinky hair. If you dont like big noses then why not just say that? Plenty of other races have big noses if thats your concern. The fact that people have "race" as a preference essentially points to the idea that they are either leading by stereotypes or prejudice. You can prefer pale skin and blue eyes as physical features without elevating one race above the other....because if you look up the definition of racism... you might find that very idea. I mean i have a friend who is Mexican with very pale skin and piercing blue eyes but because he isnt white you suddenly are no longer attracted to the very same features you said you liked? Sounds a lil sus to me. If a black person says they like dimples, tan skin and dark curly hair and are suddenly turned off because they discover the person is white....uhh how is that not prejudice? If someone said they really want someone with darker skin, big eyes, and thick hair but were suddenly turned off because the person was Indian...what the heck is that then? You can easily prefer particular physical features without RACE being a factor. If race HAS to be a factor then I'd ask myself why.
Lol there’s so much wrong in this statement. First, yes it’s racist to disqualify someone on the basis of their skin colour (literally in the defn of racism). Secondly, not choosing to date the same sex has nothing to do with anything because that’s partly genetics and wiring of the brain- and no one is born “attracted” to once race. Thirdly, not choosing to date an old person, again is no comparison. You’re so stupid.
Woooow this is crazy the first time I watched this I was all about black love and never saw myself with any other race, and her I am 6 months later with a white man who is the love of my life all because I chose to open my heart a lil more! I still love black love don't get me wrong but when you find someone who's perfect for you wow that's special! 😊❤️❤️❤️
Finally starting to enjoy the show post-Tamar. The girls seem to have gotten back in rhythm. Great job, ladies!
You can tell that jeannie has never dated an asian guy before. That's probably why she's trying so hard to convince everyone that dating interracial is super easy. It's not. I don't discriminate at all but there are some races of people that just wont connect with your culture, religion, language, morals and standards. And some people just stick to their own because of that. It's a little easier.
Race, and culture are not the same thing.
Sometimes it's also fetishizing a race or ethnicity. Some get more love than others. Being Latino makes it difficult for me.
@@Acord718 um what?? Latinos are considered the sexiest
What's wrong with loni's makeup today😳
Hi :/ you saw it too, somethin aint right😁😁
No eyebrows 😂
@@itsnhyira okay I was thinking no lashes 😂
I think there is a problem with an individual who doesn't want to date someone who looks like them. I'm not talking about the one's who date multiple different races, I'm speaking the one's who SPECIFICALLY chooses not to date someone of their own race. That is a problem.
I agree. And I think it has to do with self-hate if you 100% would NEVER date someone of your same race.
NYCzora That's right, that's exactly what it is. They don't like what they see in they self, and they don't want to pass it on to their off-springs. It's sad.
SheLivee I absolutely agree.
SheLivee Watching this video and reading some of these comments, this is a different conversation for black women and people don't seem to understand that.
Maybe but at the same time cant do anything about it
Is Loni doing black face?? I’m confused
Ca Ka no her makeup artist did her wrong. She can't do black face. She is black. Her foundation is that colour. They should have prbably given her a dark colour for her lip.
It's Umi!! I'm tired of hearing her makeup artist did her wrong that day , she been doin her wrong all along n who does her wigs , maybe they try really hard w loni but can't get her lookin how they want .. cuz comon after a long time u can't keep blaming the makeup artist ! Cuz that's the persons work n someone who does their work n wants to get recognition n more cliental publicity .. It's jst gotta be lonis own looks n face do her bad .
Ca Ka lol
hebrew queen makeup can completely change what you look like. These days Loni looks bomb. She look🔥. Loni is not bad looking. Not the best not the worst. Your point might be right. The artist probably needed to adapt to her facial features . It looks like they did because they do her well these days 😊.
It's Umi!! I know that makeup can change how somebody looks I do makeup ! It ain't changin nothin for loni tho or workin so .. all I'm sayin is stop blaming the artist already before I would hear the artist did her bad n I'd believe it but I'm like na they still doin her bad think abt it it's their work n she's on tv . She artist gotta want her work to be known as good n relevant for all of Hollywood . If she's really doin it on purpose she's kickin her self n the ass ..
I don't like Tamera's saying one "can't help" who they're interested in within the context of race...I feel like the statement ignores the implantation of eurocentric beauty standards as a result of media...
+Tré I don't have a problem with what Tamera said, because ultimately, love is not about your ethnicity. Love is about your feelings, emotions, attraction ect...to that individual person. So no, a human being can not help who they fall in love with or are attracted to. Not to mention every person has a preference. So true unconditional love has nothing to do with race. Sadly the people on this earth have such learned and taught prejudices and judgements, that unless we get honest about it, these issues will never be resolved. People need to be open minded and stop categorizing, generalizing and putting labels on everything and individuals in a box.
A good very point, when people have this type of conversation they always ignore the deep rooted prejudices/racism that influences some thinking and preferences.
Some people are conditioned to think lighter is better and you CAN help that lol
The colonization of the mind. Preferences aren't formed in a vacuum. If you prefer something totally different from what you see in the mirror, something is off about that.
Tré it's tamera we're talking about...this is one of the few things I dislike about her..when she talks about race she sounds so damn ignorant
and here i am, age 24, and never been asked out on a date :( i wish i had preference problems lol
Calibeachgirlie same but I'm 23
Calibeachgirlie me too :(
Expecting men to do all the work typical
Sometimes, dating a specific race has NOTHING to do with preference. In many parts of the world, it is frowned upon to date someone outside of your own race. Some people believe that it's culturally unacceptable to date someone outside of their own race and their families won't accept it. Hense the race filter on dating apps. But I do agree that this limits meeting someone who you may hit it off with. I personally love men of all types.
That's still a preference. The reason WHY you have a preference, is irrelevant. It's still a preference. As long as you have a choice, it's a preference. Yes, it may be considered culturally unacceptable or frowned upon, but it is every individual's choice to adhere to those expectations or not adhere and accept the consequences. There's a documentary called Club Native about Native Americans in Canada. If they date out of their race, they lose all status and are shunned. The documentary follows women who choose to date out anyway and they end up having to leave the reservation because they aren't welcome anymore. A preference is a predisposition, a bias, or an inclination. Dating someone of your own race because it's culturally acceptable is you exercising your predisposition or your bias. Your bias for your own race. This is not a bad thing. It's just a fact.
Jennifer Humphries
Jennifer Humphries you do realize that a lot of people don't really have that choice? dating out of your race, religion, even out of the same city is difficult for a lot of people. so if i get shunned as a result of dating someone out of my race, you think that is a choice? the fact that i have to choose my family vs my desire to date out of my own race is NOT a freedom of choice, its called an ultimatum, it isn't fair of you to assume girls have the "choice" when a lot is at stake. im not reffering to the western world, think asian countries and middle east (im arab)
aisha L, I agree. Just the other day my neighbor (she's Pakistani) told me that her own mother would not speak to her because she was in a relationship with a white man. She was married to a Pakistani man that abused her and after she left him, she fell in love with this man. She recently put an end to the relationship because her family (and possibly the people in her community) would not speak to her, and even though she ended the relationship, they still ignore her to this day. Crazy
These ppl seem to forget about religion and stuff..
ellaxoxo15 race doesn't specify your religion
ellaxoxo15 you could be an Asian Jew, or Arab Catholic etc
You may be true, however that is very rare.
and culture...i would have a really hard time fitting in with a culture that is demeaning towards women, or are ok with hitting children. And i wouldn't date any really religious person, you can be a little religious for yourself, but don't be stupid or push it towards me.
Why should religion matter? There all made up story's.
People should be able to have their own dating preferences, *period*. And especially when it comes to race. Who wants to date somebody that they're kinda sorta interested in? You wanna be all the way in and the only way to do that is by being with somebody you truly want. Be upfront like Loni said. Also, know that everybody's not gon like you.
I don't care about race at all, what is annoying is some people date outside of their race for the experience. Just date someone because you like them not because you are trying to do some weird scientific type of experience with race.
I agree
Sooo if I only date men, am I missing out on the love of my life by not dating women?? even tho I am not attracted to them?? Doesn't that make me sexist???
Candy Flores I'm not sure you're understanding what they're saying...
Tyler Burnside I am obviously being over the top LMAO-- sorry you couldn't tell
+Candy Flores hahahahahahaha i love ppl with a sense of humor like urs....
Candy Flores I am floored lmao
I think it's kind of weird the way if someone says ' I only like dating black people' everyone is okay with it but as soon as someone says ' I only like dating white people' then it's a problem. I'm a black 16 year old girl and I won't lie, I only find black males attractive , Yoruba to be exact , and it's mainly because I feel most comfortable around people that are like me & understand me in a more cultural manner. We can speak the same language(Yoruba) & vibe on a deeper level in my opinion . But even though I hold this preference I've just always thought it was weird you know
When I was dating online, I didn't care what the guys race was. If he was nice, good looking, and wanting to know me for me, they got my attention. I've been dating a white man for 8 months now. And race didn't mean a thing to us then or now.
That's nice. I'm white and really fancy black women.
I call bullshit
Mr J is it
Cap and judging by your display picture, you’re on the ugly side ngl. Somehow you landed some white guy simp and think he’s the “best”.
This cute and all but I'm not dating outside my race. Black love all day
madmann1000 hope that works for you.thats a lot of awesome guys you're not giving a chance
that's too bad! you're missin all the action
dopeness im black and love black men but hispanic dudes are great as well
exactly! I love a black man anytime any-day.
I never dated outside my race but you should try it though. Don't be closed minded about this.
This racial fetishes creep me out
They're talking racial preferences, not fetishes.
Shut up bitch
Sanjay Mohammed the 3rd 😂😂
"look who came and changed his lifeeee" I love Jeannie!! Haha
There is nothing wrong with being attracted to a certain race but you should always keep your options open.
Personally for me, I never been attracted to Vietnamese guys (most of them be looking like they can be brother lol!) I always wanted to date/marry someone that's outside of my ethnicity because I love learning a new culture and language. Earlier I said "Also mixed babies are so cute" & ppl want to jump on me for saying that's a terrible reason to want to date someone outside your race. What I meant was I think interracial families and mixed kids are a beautiful thing. Something that sometimes is looked down upon in certain parts of the world & something that wasn't even possible decades ago. Being able to love someone that might be totally different in culture, language and the color of their skin is beautiful and w/ all the racism in the world, it helps gives hope for the future.
not all mixed babies are cute some are ugly.. lol
mentioning mixed babies as a reason to date out is so questionable lol like thats the only reason?
Candy Flores 😂😂😂😂
ALL babies aren't cute whether they're mixed or not.
Dating out because you want mixed babies is questionable but that wasn't her only reason. As long as your intentions aren't creepy, you good. Remember when Kanye was saying he wants North to have a body like Kim? Uh uh. That's such a nasty thing to say. Ew.
Race does not equal culture!
are u a wendy watcher?
Linda B I was thinking the exact same thing.
Very true!
The correlation is extremely strong. How many asian rnb artists do you know?
Adrienne you should of had some FILTERS on your man choice
Lol!!!
You didn't have tooooo lmaoooo
Yeah, she forgot to filter out 5+ kids.
I am cracking up
Are you shading Rob?
I agree with Phaedra and Loni with regards to race! Be cautious and don't waste your time. And I agree with Jeannie and Tamera that you never know what might happen. Be open!
When she said "Loni, Loni, your face" I almost positive she was referring to her makeup but I'm not here to judge the shade.
If the preference is just physical,I see nothing wrong with that,but the issue is that people base their preference off of stereotypes and what they THINK somebody will be like,solely based on their race.
My only filter is that I don't want a man with children.
I thought Jeannie was gonna say "guess who came around and changed his mind" but she said changed his LIFE I was like whoop! Alright girl
I'd rather just date/marry within my own race. I want children to look like me 😂
Idkhafsaaa girlll int nothing wrong with that...however you are seen as racists lmao
Like you? Why...?
Thank youuu it'll very likely not have orange hair, that is hard enough😢 If I want a child that looks adopted I'll adopt one😅
Idkhafsaaa nothing wrong with wanting your children to look like you.
As a black man. I have not and never will date or sleep with any woman outside my race period!
I go for any race.
Lonny's makeup artist should be fired for today's look. Lonny has beautiful skin and she looks completely unblended, muddy and blotchy.
For me if I like you I like you. I'm not gonna have a preference in terms of race. I just have to be attracted to you.
Adrienne looks SO GOOD here!!!!! 😱😱😱😍😍😍🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾✨✨✨
Race may not be the issue but culture is definitely a factor for me. I love my culture and I would like to be with someone who I can share my culture with and not have to water it down to make them feel more comfortable.
misskemo yessss! I don't have time to try and explain everything to a man that is not of my culture.
I think factoring out race is offensive and discriminatory. You're not gunna be with someone based on their SKINCOLOR. That's so ignorant.
It's just as shallow and offensive as factoring out someone's height, weight or income or age. We live in a shallow superficial world unfortunately
Staja Thomas sometimes a person just isn't attracted to certain features or sorry to say skin tone. just like some people don't like short men or tall women. they can't control that either but it's just the way some humans are wired, at the end of the day their loss. there will always be someone else that likes those same features
Staja Thomas sometimes a person just isn't attracted to certain features or sorry to say skin tone. just like some people don't like short men or tall women. they can't control that either but it's just the way some humans are wired, at the end of the day their loss. there will always be someone else that likes those same features
lk76 K no still. People usually have reasons for wanting someone tall/short or particular stature. But when it comes to race, veerrryy few preferences are innocent, and are more than likely rooted in racist beliefs and ideas
It would be superficial if it was height, or weight. But SKIN COLOR is discrimination.
this was a great topic!
I agree with Jeannie we have enough to worry about people should think about each other and go with them
I've never dated outside my race, although I've been approached and I'm not against it. For me, it all boils down to whether or not I vibe or have a connection with you as person. And if they happen to not be black, that's fine with me, I'm not going to fight against my natural feelings or attraction just because I have preferences. I always have and always will love my black men tho. And that won't change. There's plenty of diverse beauty in my people and I love that.
i wish we lived in a time where this isn't an issue💖 we're all human! #loveislove #weallbleedthesame
Am I the only one that doesn't have a preference and is attracted to all races????
So what? Everyone's different.
I get if someone has a preferred race or wants to maybe stay with in their race but to completely reject or wouldn't date another or certain type of race is ignorant imo.
Agreed. Having a racial preference is one thing, but to actively filter out every person who isn't of that race is ignorant and prejudice. Just like I can say I prefer men over 5'10", but then I meet a good man who is 5'9" and refuse to date him because of that criteria. It's understandable to have preferences, but complete rejection over that piece of criteria is just stupid.
It is my own personal taste and understanding, that measures these things and no one else's. For instance, what could be good looking to me wouldn't be to you, what intelligence is to me isn't the same to you. Those who measure beauty according to the media (or what someone else tells them is attractive), that may very well be the problem, ladies.
As for race, that never mattered to me nor does culture/background; If I feel that spark, that's all need. I would say, I don't have a type; I can't visualize who I would end up with.
Regardless, we can't tell people what they should be attracted to, can't judge them for what they aren't attracted to either.
I use to say I would never date outside of my race but now I'm open to it !
That last comment...👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👌🏾👌🏾 LOVE Tamera's mom.
I mean, I don't know. If someone just isn't attracted to a darker skin color because maybe he doesn't find it pretty and this person wants to only hook up on a dating app -which is obviously only about the attractiveness and the appearance, maybe a tiny little bit about personality too- then I don't know why it should be wrong to say that somebody tanner or somebody brighter, is just not my type. Like it doesn't mean somebody's racist, just because he doesn't find certain things attractive and yeah obviously we shouldn't look at it as all of them, but stereotypes are stereotypes for a reason. Like for example asian people having different looking eyes than white people, you can't say all of them, but the majority of them do have asian eyes and maybe somebody just doesn't find that attractive, so instead of leaving asian in the filter and waiting for the 1 or 2 possibilities that somebody may don't have the things he isn't looking for in the first place, he just leaves it out. And I know racism is a big issue, I agree on that, but not EVERYTHING that has to do with race is automatically racist, because people with different races do look different. And it's okay like that, as long as you don't judge someone's personality or worth by the skin color or culture.
Fatime Nemes Amen
There's nothing wrong having a preference, you like what you like. But if you have to go around and leave nasty remarks like I don't date such a such because off......, ect I been reading nasty, rude mean remarks like that etc, that means they are not happy with themselves,they are very bitter, because if you have to put your own people of gender down. People who date base off of skin color or race is setting themselves for failure. I date all races, regardless of race,creed, religion, skin color, etc There's beautiful women in all races, beautiful black women, beautiful white women, beautiful asian women, beautiful, hispanic women, beautiful indian women, beautiful african women, beautiful samoan women, etc
Phaedra. IS STUNNING. . OMGOODNESS SHE LOOKS SOOO GREAT..
I just thing it's one thing to have a preference and then it's a whole other level when you say you're not attracted to one race or you say you would never date outside your race cause negative perspectives. Preference is a preference but I think it still good to be open minded.
For me it's not about race, but If you are not a Christian and can't speak french that's a deal breaker for me lol. Because you need to communicate with my family and most of them only speak french and we need to pray the same God. thanks Jesus I found my The One and got married lol
Cycy K-A Ayyyy Same lmao at
Your all set then
It's just a preference like any other preference any individual can have. For example if you prefer a tall man over someone who is average height or etc thing. Prefering a latino man over a black man or a black man over a latino man does not mean you are racist.
I agree with what Loni said but I also understand the other ladies, Adrienne's point was very good too.
I think it's great that people date outside their race because it exposes that person to a different culture. However I think it's terrible when people downgrade or disrespect their own race to uplift a race that they specifically chose dating or embrace. You can have preferences without pulling down the other options that you rejected. I always thought there was something wrong with person when they did that.....
my god what adrienne said about filters makes me wanna cry lol...my friend says my standard is too high, my mom just put it straight out in the open "you're standing low, looking high" omg i was mad but dying in laughter...so freakin true..its like, im not that beautiful, smart or rich but why do i expect so much out of guys???? #singleforever
I've been told that I am racist (in a joking way supposedly) because I don't like to date men of my own kind anymore, that is Latin men. It's not that I don't like them (I am quite attracted to them) but it's because since I am latina the women in my family have had been married and had kids with latin men and they all cheated on them and that's that main reason why I don't date latin men, sorry not sorry but I don't trust them. I do like me some black men, but my preference is white men. And I will not apologize for it.
Lexa M I respect that. Rather don't them at all than having a relationship where you can't trust someone due to past events that shaped you.
Racist!
I have no preference I love discovering others culture like I love it and I also love to connect with a black man that has the “same culture” as me it’s beautiful 🙏🏿
I just believe Love is Love.... I think being vulnerable is a beautiful thing... Just allowing yourself to be free ...... Seeing the world through somebody else's eyes.... I think brings something special to the relationship...
I love this! ♥ Beautifully said!
@@candacedawn357 I think beliefs are passed down... But when you step out of that box.... And you see that there's more than just what you were taught.... People are afraid of the unknown I love it....
In a person, I look for what's on the inside, no matter what race you are ❤️😊
I don't see anything wrong with a preference
Race shouldn't be considered a preference
Excluding entire races is not preference, it's racism.
wwe creative I disagree. It's an attraction. I mean at least I don't think so. and I don't think you can help that.
Dating Apps are soo ignorant. Most people I know (like myself) are mixed. Where is an option on that dating app for a multi-racial black women ? My dad is black/jewish and mom (black/Portuguese/irish/native), so would a guy exclude me if he doesn't like "black women"
yes.
Britney Waldron yes, unfortunate me love blonde ad blue eyes.
Britney Waldron
Britney Waldron yes
Interesting topic I like what Adrienne said you gotta open up but don't be stupid sometimes there are reasons why some people want to date you and it ain't always obvious in the beginning
i really like this week's guest host. She is eloquent, intelligent and is a great addition to the table.
I have preference ( Latinas and short girls ) but I'm also into dating into all colors of the rainbow ! It's not like " IM LOOKING ONLY FOR LATINAS " but it is my preference ! But God will present you with not exactly what you want but what you need in a successful relationship/marriage! I'm open to dating all types of women !
Is it wrong to have a preference ? jesus. if i dont wanna date a certain race, i wont !!
Danielle Danielle thats the thing about time now, everything is about race. not everything has to do with race. stop being so sentimental
Adrienne's hair looks SO BEAUTIFUL here!!!!! 😍😍😍😍😍🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾✨✨✨✨✨
I was talking to my partner recently about this topic: we both were born and raised in England, he lived in a multi cultural city and I lived in a very white populated town/village. I am half Filipino and half white and he is fully Caucasian. Me and my sister were the only Asian people in our school. Essentially, I have only dated maybe two people who are mixed, everyone has been pretty white. But they’re the only people who were around actually. My partner said he only felt attracted to Caucasian people until he was in secondary school, but he recognised this had more to do with not finding the right connection with someone more so than their ethnicity. I feel like by the time my world opened up when I went to university, and gained a broader perspective of different ethnicities and them being attractive. I decided to just stay within what is familiar, mainly because it was challenging for me to grow up in a mixed household, am also culturally process things differently to my mum and that causes miscommunication about beliefs. Anyway, what I’m saying is that maybe if multiculturalism is new to you it can make it a very exciting thing, and you become intrigued about finding a life partner with a new culture. For me, my partner makes me feel at home, he has a northern accent and we have common interests in 20th century Brit culture. I even think it would stress me out if my partner didn’t drink as much tea as me! It feels sad not making one for company, and is just a part of how everyone in the uk socialises. I think I bonded with being British in a household that had mixed views and wasn’t settled in other ways. I think I just want my future children to find more cultural stability than what I had.
I don't see a problem in having a preference. I'm not judging an entire nationality just because I don't want to date outside of my race. There's nothing wrong with knowing what you want. I want a black man, to give me beautiful black babies, and catch allllll this black love. Simple 😍😍
kiss you boo ;)
I honestly have no racial preference when it comes to dating . I don't care what race you are or where you come from . Treat me right and my family right , and we can be cool .
Bullshit
that's true I NEVER considered Asian men until recently I agree with Jeanie I truly love learning about other people and their languages and culture
I personally love this feature and tinder should have it!
Most (MOST, not all) black men on dating websites (and in life) rule out black women!! Does anyone know of any other race that does that??? On that level? Smh!
But black mem still marry black women the most and not all black men use dating sites so those stats mean nothing
But that's why those men are on those sites so it's a weighted/biased group. Black people who are interested in other Black people go to the Black sites. I'm like Wendy Williams on this one though, you may be inviting the 'killer' into your life.
Asian women rule out Asian men
Not true
Honestly, I love this. I'm white and I would NOT want to be with a white man. I've always dreamed of having a racially mixed family. I've never been really been attracted to white guys.
I also want a mixed family. My nuclear and extended family is mixed anyway.
So you fetish mixed race families and children? Cool.
Aerial Mitchell lol I was thinking this
This is the kind of racial fetishism that makes me not date outside my race. I can't imagine dating a white guy and hearing he said something like this. I'd feel disgusting knowing he wanted me initially because he saw me as a "exotic" object that could procure him the mixed family he'd fetishised about for years.
They can have you.
Its easy to date outside your race. the hard part is the acceptance of the families. family members can cause a lot of tension depending on their beliefs.
The slicked back hair look on Tamera is😍just stunning 😩
Yes, indeed!
I only have a preference for black men and it's annoying being on apps like tinder and I have to scroll through all these races lol