making more friends is easy, actually
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In a world where too many people overthink social interactions, and too many people underthink them, one stick figure learned to simply just not think, and instead, carry a bag of 16 tricks to choose from. And they work! probably.
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yuhhh
Wsp bro
cool.
The sup community will overthrow you
And i will make sure of it
thanks lot bro :0 :) .....i hope meet u one day
I think bro read the tutorial of life
fr man
Thats why you shouldnt skip the tutorial
He understands life because getting smart is easy, actually
wait they give you manuals? Can I pick one up somewhere
@@saycap
Too late, you can only do that at the beginning of the game. Might have to try that next run
"so what is it like to be red" 💀
"so what is it like to be yellow" 💀💀
he’s colorblind :(
Imagine asking about this irl
"Omg a black person whats it like to be black "
"sure is nice not being blue, right? haha"
Like friendship comrade, WE all get our dues equally xD.
the gist of all the apps in the beginning was dangerously accurate
Thats how you know he went under cover
@@suvid9490 haha
Thats why I really only use YT and occasionally Reddit; the rest of the social media apps aren’t going to benefit you in any way
“Discord messages are from people you don’t wanna know” couldn’t be more accurate
@@HeeHeeHawHaw-ts8mt i do the same, but dont be tricked, youtube can be just as bad if it isnt in moderation
Video Suggestion:
Quitting addictions (social media)
Sleeping is easy (Fixing broken sleep schedules improved sleep)
Building confidence (would help a lot of ppl)
don't out urself like that
@@ferlamer4240 This is a nonjudgmental community man, anything goes
Bump
we're so chronically online 😭😭
The only thing that made me quit the social media addiction was uninstalling them one by one.
First one was facebook years ago, didn't miss it, second one was tiktok, it gave me fomo but ended up not missing it either. Current one is instagram, it's being harder since I'm losing a tiny part of the lives of people I actually care, plus losing some messages from them (I still access on chrome, tho). After some time now I can't stand the influencers I was following, and ig seems boring after few minutes since it's almost impossible to keep doomscrolling when I'm just trying to reply messages.
Hope this helps!
This guy is secretly an immortal who has done literally everything.
being immortal is easy, actually
@@sashanknrlI need that video ASAP
@@crix_h3eadshotgg992 You boutta die?
@@crix_h3eadshotgg992really?
Note to self…
Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
I was gonna comment requesting "Drawing is Easy, Actually" but then I realized the art style of this channel and think I'll search elsewhere
well he is drawing, and i don't think it brings him any trouble, its serves its purpose, THIS IS A painter!!!
thats a violation!
he is drawing. so it's easy, actually
a doodler as I like to call it,
his drawing are very charming and it brings me great joy. :D
Some people put much less effort in their drawing when it s made just for the sake of the video, but they can make impressive works when they are taking their time to draw something. Maybe after he learn how to draw, he may make a video like that. :)
great tips, i find the hardest part of "making" friends is not talking to them initially but keeping it going, this video is useful for that
Yeah same for me bud. It's like I can get along with people easily if it's for a short time but then it becomes difficult to keep up
@@-TonyaKim-Yeah and then it feels like you can make friends but can't keep friends lol
@Akshat_Sinha_ literally you said it perfectly!
I feel like it's a bad thing to be honest and I just kind of hate talking at this point and gets annoyed with myself and the ppl for not talking to me even tho I'm the one who isn't keep on going with convo
im also struggling with making friends, but its natural to not talk to the same people irl every single day or even via text, especially if you are relatively new friends, people are busy and most of the time if they don't mind talking to you they won't mind you talking to them a week or 2 later without any in between, it's almost never too late and sometimes what you need most is to excuse your lack of speaking to yourself so that you can send them a message and eventually when things or interests you have in common come closer you might be able to strategize meeting up more and getting to know them better to have more to talk about.
Here something that helped me when you feel the conversation is becoming boring and dry try to end it smoothly at first when talking to new people its difficult to have long conversations but as you get to know them better it comes naturally so in the meantime just have small fun conversations
You've been killing it since you started the channel, dude. Like idk how you do it. Every single video is well-researched, a script with just enough humour, and what are basically technical drawings that do just enough to get your point across. It's like a singularity of just the right amount of effort in every discipline
Yeah, exactly! And because they’re so well thought out and researched, they’re actually useful and practical. I keep referring back to his language learning one cuz I’m trying to relearn my native language and it’s been really helpful, and I have a feeling I’ll keep coming back to this video too.
Because making these videos is easy, actually.
Its not really about research
@MrAaaaazzzzz00009999
1. Research is 100% part of it. 2. If thats what youu think, then mention what its about in your eyes
@@jusatesst he doesnt cite any sources or books for further reading or to support his claims. He doesnt do interviews, surveys or tests to support his theory. he presents everything as common sense street smarts that he's gained through experience, and indeed thats how most life advice is acquired.
You think you can learn to socialize with people by reading up about it, by doing "research"? No, you learn to socialize by socializing.
So instead of saying "probably nothing" I should say "trying to find more legal ways to harvest bones for my mantle"?
that'd work on me and my girlfriend, we have a collection of (legally obtained) animal bones and skulls
@@Mazurecki56 sweet ill try this the next time I talk to a stranger
Would work for me, and no I don't have a collection of bones
@@Prod.Dizzy0nz excellent excellent
Genuinely yes
✨ finding a purpose in life is easy, actually
✨ beating depression is easy, actually
✨ losing weight is easy, actually
✨ avoiding emotional eating is easy, actually
thankyou very much
last 2(debatably 3 depending on which is the main topic) could be grouped into one
i checked his channel again and completley forgot that losing weight was already a topic he covered
would looooove to see him do the first 2
i need this guy to be my financial advisor next
I can't say I had to lose too much weight, but I gained a ton of muscle recently. My advice would be to just start, pick any exercise and do it. Also when I went on a cut, eating less was WAYYY easier compared to working out more and also more effective.
0:34 "Be patient" *Shows person in a hospital bed*
yep, about right
The AI result lmao
0:25
Are you alive
Romans 10:9 because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.
Me reading: #1 Filter out boring people
Me looking at my hobbies: Meditating in silence, reading books alone, looking at boring charts all day long
Looking at my social skills: zero friends and finding fun things boring
Also me: That's not fair
(pulls out gun) never has been
He said that more in the sense that in a group, you should try to look for people that have hobbies or talk about something that interests you. If you find a book lover, you can ask what are his favourite books and stuff like that
I'm also very boring, and I have boring friends with office jobs and kids. Non-boring people are exhausting in the long run. I need people for love and support. If I want to be entertained I'll just watch youtube or something.
These don’t sound boring! These sound like you’d find chill people like you!
maybe join a book club! you only have to meet up with them every now and again and the thing you do together pertains to your interests.... or start a book club and put a bulletin advertising for it in your local church, library, ice cream shop, or grocery store, and then you can get a bunch of random people to also geek out about your favorite books!
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hehe
THIS VIDEO WAS SPONSORED BY INCOGNI?!? NO WAY!1!!!!1
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@@medusa.sensai good to see u alive :3
"with great power comes great potential to be weird." TRUE. I swear if anyone says my name too many times it's pretty obvious they read "how to win friends" and are using the method on me and its so cringe.
Ima hit you with critiquing people that say your cool name to often is kinda cringe
@@thatoneguyyouthinkshouldbe2431 it’s fine but if it’s obvious it’s because they read about it in the book, it comes off as they’re manipulating or trying to win you over or something. That’s all.
I got this friend and she has a very cool name to say and I say it all the time because it just feels good, i am now wondering if she thinks im tryna manipulate her, also im wondering if maybe I succed to manipulate her even tho I didnt mean to? It would be cool
Ppl should remember how most friendships start,which is not spontaneously.
When its visibly evident that people are dogmatically following advice on the internet to be charismatic & co it is cringe n kinda sad.
@@GL887 Very true. The internet doesn't just get in the way by distracting people from socializing, but it's remedies and tips on how to be social get in the way as well.
For anyone wondering when you grow up especially in high school people care less around junior year and just talk, anxiety really just kinda fades away(sometimes, try not to overthink it)
true
its a great way to start because you will (hopefully) take in peoples responses and get better at socialising from that!
and when you get exposed to others who are good at socialising, you can watch what they do and mimic it a bit too maybe
when I started high school, I had a voice but I spoke to a mic that has active noise cancelling for my voice and a speaker that plays silence on full blast... but in my final year of high schol, I befriended a large amount of my batchmates, even a couple of younger years and teachers and the guards of our schol of all things, a lot of my friends pointed out me having many friends in different ways... so yea it kinda fades away and I just showed the possibility of being very social
I honestly js struggle just not knowing how to respond to things or what to even say lol
yeah well i never went to high school all 4 years so i didnt make any friends. no idea what to do now, not old enough to go to bars yet
@@R3strict there's many ways to respond lol, the simple direct answer is there, you can also be more philosophical and understand their question deeply (like if they ask where's the teacher, you can ask where they last met or even join in finding), or reflect that to them, redirect it to a nearby friend, socratic ignorance et al
but I usually include another nearby friend, like if I'm asked if I know where the teacher is, I say I dunno and end with "maybe [nearby friend] knows" and that other guy will be included, I once did it with my teachers when a teacher sneezed a lot, I was like "bless you, then God bless you [teacher who didn't sneeze], and also you too [friend who walked by]"
method 5: be the main character
method 6: be a side character
sounds easy enough
i tried this and now i have a restraining order :(
bro you are fast
I tryed it to and now i’am pregnant
Tried, now have a Rizzstraing order.
You weren't supposed to use the discord ss as your method of socialization
It just been an hour since the video dropped 😭😭😭 IS an speedrun of being weird ?
I'm really glad other people have summarized How to Win Friends and Influence People; I couldn't get through it because it started to make me feel like a sleezy car salesman.
Also, it is very American to respond to "how are you/how's it going" more like a greeting than an actual wellness check. About a dozen years ago, a foreign exchange student pointed this out. He stopped and expected a conversation from the other person but they always kept walking by.
this guy majored in every subject
Knowing everything about anything is easy, actually.
he made a video about learning lmao
But the first was probably power washing (driveways)
@@TheFlygoniq well I assume the first was cleaning, with power washing being his specialty
Every subject majored in this guy
8:10 Stick City? The lore is getting deeper...
we also see people talking about their colour
@@happyboy4770 racism lore
The best way I have seen being used is to be authentic. People tend to open up when they know you're acting yourself, and that makes them be themselves too
Remember that generic advice he mentioned at the start? You’ve done it, pal 😭
I agree. What are you doing? What do you want? What you looking for? What you can offer? These are questions always in my head when look at people. But.
Some people can sense your intention lurking underneath. So it should be natural. If you pretend to be someone else or fake like something just to get someone to like you, well it's obvious to them. They will walk away. So, only talks to someone when you got the same interest, hobby, or job. Something that connects with both sides. Not because you keep googling about them. It's not good for long run.
Actually, easy is friends new making.
That of thought never I wow
Right I know, thought always was it intimidating.
9:10
I think the only problem with this method is that some people treats you in a mean way that is only okay when you've been a friend with them for a while, you can't be mutually disrespectful if you just met them, it only sounds like you're insulting them.
True. Some people will be sensitive with certain words. They will be defensive and walk away. Call you with anything. For example, ohh.. you are cute. But like it's genuinely cute. However, some people think different and expect something other than just cute or i was wrong to say it. So awkward.
Is my yt glitching why is your comment right aligned
Talk to new people:
"Hi, what's your name?"
Other person: "Mmmm ok but who asked?"
This is why it's so hard to make new friends.
Are you talking to middle schoolers?
npc ass response
then you are a kid basically
sounds like they’re immature, are you like twelve? Wait- don’t answer that 😂
Your talking to people who are like 14 and under lmao
For English we had an assignment about our “Harmless Vice” basically something that we do often of that kinda is an addiction, one guy sitting next to me said Elden ring, and I told him I just killed the godslay duo, and the moment when I blinked after telling him this, he was already across the room and talking to someone else… did I do good chat?
hell yeah you did good!! f that godskin duo!!! (godskin duo is actually my favourite fight lol)
Do one for "reading books is easy, actually" and "improving self esteem is easy, actually"!!!!
Your genuine request for the books one says a lot about the viewership
@@tempestandacomputer6951 yea his content resonates with certain viewers I believe.
but reading books is easy... 💀
@@_sandy_ obviously, this goes towards hard text to decipher blud lol
@@Zaya7even not quite obvious, that'd be better to say "interpreting hard text is easy, actually". But there's many ways you can interpret your version
I already knew all of this. What I lack isn't social skills, I lack any realistic means of finding people to begin with.
What good is knowing exactly how to make friends when you can't even find people to befriend in the first place?
....wanna be friends? 😂
Yeah @@thekage100
Maybe clubs related to your hobbies
Or maybe a pub
I feel you. I live in buttfuck nowhere. Granted I'm looking for a female partner and not a friend but like dude I gotta drive an hour and a half just to go out on the town.
A little summary 💞✨
1. Be your unfiltered self to exclude boring people
2. talk to ppl about your interests (explain so they can understand)
3. Don’t think your thoughts over to much
4. Don’t force to speak with people who don’t care about you
5. Be the main character (simple questions)
6. Be side character (ask ppl about them)
7. Questions out of your comfort zone (transparent)
8. Ask if anything is bothering them recently and not “How are you?”
9. Do a group chat
10. Do them a favor
11. Ask THEM for a favor
12. Ask a question that everybody could answer (pick up line) -> leads into a conversation
13. When you overwhelmed to talk with everyone in a big group only talk to the one for an example at your side who doesn’t talk so much
14. Act like you are already friends
15. Do something with them they always wanted to do, suggest a meeting
16. Write a SMS
Attention span too short lol thanks for the highlights :)
Thank you!
"With great power comes great potential to be weird" is soooooo true
7:37 "That's not friendship, that's just networking" Yup, totally me unemployed
This is actually really good advice! Normally, I just make small talk and ask pointless questions with little to no interest to keep the convo going. I'm going to a new school tomorrow, and I'm basically hyping myself up to making more friends and overcoming my anxiety :3 I'll make sure to try these tips out ✨
im also starting a new school!! it’s so scary since you don’t know what sort of people you’ll meet or if you’ll even have the courage to initiate a conversation with them, but those r just things to overcome I guess. hope ur first day of school went awesome :)
Cooking class one is insane. You get that soooo much and that volunteering
Gonna keep coming back to this video.
This is the most straightforward, down-to-earth vid I’ve seen on this topic.
Overthinking really holds me back in this regard. I’ve recently started a new job where the people are really cool and funny but I’m still being too polite and not saying much.
The risky things I say aren’t the same as the risky things they joke about. Not in a mean way, my humor is closer to anti-humor, satire, bad puns and just straight-up making myself out to be deranged (for some reason) whereas their humor is mainly centered around light-moderate banter, and in-jokes.
“Just be yourself” The textbook definition of lies
Right lol. It’s like yeah I get it- authenticity is important if you want real friends, but how does that help me know how to go about approaching people??? This is probably the first video that actually gave me ideas about how to do that, finally.
I cannot believe anybody says that line genuinely. Being myself led me to being alone!
Here I will help you anime pfp the reason why you cant just be yourself is because you know anime is cringe and lame and normal people will think you are a weirdo get some new hobbies lose weight learn how to be interesting go talk to your family hell go outside these are the steps to becoming a normal functioning person
@@Oboarlooks it's already time to use tip#1: "filter out the boring people"
the appropriate way to say this would be: don't try to be someone you're not.
don't show people your every attractiveness but also don't show people a perfect version of you. for example you don't have to tell them about your messed up child-trauma but also give your opinions and don't try to hide your weaknesses. Don't lie but censor your choice of conversations. don't talk about uncomfortable stuff to people you barely know. the more you know them the less censoring you need.
I personally think finding like-minded people is key.
now if only I weren't deathly scared of people
relatable
So im not the only one??? aAAAAAHHH
me with agoraphobia
Overcoming social anxiety is easy, actually.
I don't have social anxiety, but I fear humans very much. I don't know why
I really appreciate the walls of text you place in these videos, it's like a flood of funny aimless thoughts
2:36 Tip for this is to keep a couple fun facts ready about your hobbies so you don't automatically start reciting a wikipedia page.
Watching this I realized i've been unintentionally doing method 16 all along!
Saying hi to a stranger is probably the most difficult thing for me.
try to sell pretty painted rocks
W vid, I’m actively a hermit and haven’t seen the light of day in years. (For real though I have trouble making friends so thanks for this!)
The fact you open up your comment with “W vid” makes me chuckle, you really not lying when you say you a hermit 😂❤ all jokes aside
@@maryn4150 ❤️
If you ever listen to anything while reading comments let it be this- go read the book social secrets mastery, then come back and thank me
When I search it up it seems incredibly sketchy. The only thing I can find is a RUclips video with a single comment linking the book. The video description says that the ebook is on a blacklist. What's so controversial about it?
@@once.upon.a.time. Just read it and then comment🙏
@@bocbocigi.-hs5nd With all due respect, that is shady as heck and I will not be reading it. Thanks for the advice, though.
This is just someone selling their (probably ghoswritten) book trying to make a quick buck
@@alanissac1294 bro i just reccomended
What a good time to make this video! I just tried bumble bff, got g-g-ghosted by 8 girls in my area, then started hitting it off much better with 2 coworkers. Wouldn’t say they’re friends yet, but being more confident and excited has definitely been helpful
Keep us updated on the coworker storyline
Bumble bff is really great in theory but also actually terrible and I've never succeeded in finding a real friend off of there :(
Step 1. Don't be neurodivergent
Step 2. Do not be neurodivergent
LMAOO
Step 3. If you're neurodivergent, find other neurodivergent people
yup
What struggles to you have specifically with being neurodivergent?And perhaps can u specify the specific category you fall into?
LMAOOOOO
So the thing for me is that I generally don't have much of an urge to make friends, but once in a blue moon (think every few years) someone comes along who I _really_ want to befriend. That happened a few months ago.
Watching this was very interesting now because I basically did _all_ of the things mentioned here with that particular person 😅 But I did them intuitively, or because these things seemed obvious. I always felt like I was terrible at making friends, but apparently I know the whole playbook lol. I just rarely have the impulse to do these things because I don't tend to feel lonely.
But this one person I really wanted to get to know. (And it did work, we quickly became close friends)
The ‘act like you're already friends’ tip is so powerful! It's amazing how quickly you can bond with people when you skip the polite phase
I can't wait to instead focus my anxiety on if I'm using these tactics right instead!
I LOVE THIS CHANNEL SO SO MUCH! You actually sum up all the garbage advice out there and step away from it. You yourself could have stooped that low and made cheap "Charisma on Command" or "Stare at the side of their nose for 5 seconds to show interest" content farm trollop. But no, you decided to be a major help to millions of people by giving actual advice that isn't behind some scummy paywall. Thanks so much, man.
I don't think those channels are lying, but they just aren't helpful for the types of people who they attract because they're high level concepts that don't really matter to people who don't know where to actually start improvement
@@inedholp1565 Yeah they don't lie per se but it's just worthless advice
this is the lifeskills class that i used to hope for back in school, but the lifeskill subject teachers would never deliver. thank you so much !
-Puedes dejar una conversación si quieres, no todas tienen que tener éxito y está bien dejarla si es muy incómoda y poco interesante (yo solo haría esto después de probar las otras estrategias en el video)
-Haga preguntas, especialmente aquellas que tengan una conexión emocional con la otra persona (es importante mencionar que si acaba de conocer a esta persona, no se ponga vulnerable (como en el caso de un trauma), ya que es posible que no quiera hablar de ello y se sienta incómodo). )
-Intentar conectarse a través de intereses compartidos o preguntarle a alguien sobre sus intereses (me resulta más fácil hacer esto cuando les haces preguntas en un entorno compartido, por ejemplo, si ambos están en un equipo deportivo, pregúntales qué les gusta de él o cómo Hace mucho que han estado jugando)
-¡Está bien hacer pausas! No son tan incómodos como cree y puede darle una buena cantidad de tiempo para hacer preguntas de forma natural.
No puedes esperar que cada encuentro social sea todo lo que esperabas que fuera, pero es importante seguir adelante, ya que así te acostumbrarás y desarrollarás toneladas de habilidades sociales.
GENUINELY a video i NEEDED in my life right now. thanks man. seriously. actually!!!!
0:55 bro's rizz is underrated
Fastest click on the video in my life 💀
same
Swear, the moment I saw it was easy, actually...
Awww....😂
7:28 "nice try blue guy, i'm literally bald" lol that looks just like my everyday conversations
7:59 someone told me lets get pizza, but he gave me mayo in a dark room instead. is he my friend now ?
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as someone who is starting uni in september this is incredibly helpful
3:02 Bro accidentaly described everything that happens when I try to speak japanese...
I've been shoved into adulthood without any training wheels and you've been helping me so so much. As someone with major social anxiety, I have to thank you a TON for what you do.
method #13 was natural to me and what i have always done unconsciously
yeahh I do this too, it really helps in finding other people who are also more quiet at first
I do method 14 a lot but thats because I don't really understand social cues a lot and I just want to get to know everyone. In my experience, I find that if it does get to werid for them, just dial it back but not so much you are withdrawn. Keep being there for them.
"living alone with no friends is easy actually" video please!
8:18 "nice try blue guy I'm literally bald" lol took me out
Video ideas:
Living a happy life is easy, actually
Quitting social media is easy, actually
Loving to be alone is easy, actually
Becoming a successful youtuber is easy, actually
We need tutorials for the most basic things, and thats fucked up. It says a lot about the way we all grew up
Maybe its just me, but I feel like it would be better if these videos covered more general topics rather than borderline specific ones.
Theres just something about the way the title is formatted that can possibly undermine the struggles of those who are struggling depending on the subject of the video
unrelated but... playing stardew valley made me realize why I don't keep my friendships, because you have to be pending of that person every day or the hearts keep decreasing.
Nice video. There is just one problem: I am introverted, and I get social anxiety even when ordering at the restaurant
Just expose yourself constantly to social situations. At one moment in my life couldn't even look at people's eyes. It's just error and practice
Very well done video! My biggest problem is feeling a strong connection with someone, only for them to ghost me, which makes me question myself and wonder what I did wrong. It makes me scared to be my real self next time, fearing rejection again. I agree with putting yourself out there, but it still hurts when it ends like that.
Bout to see the vid, I wonder if its gonna work with relationships too (and/or my volley club.. and church.. and upcoming animecon... man I need this)
Method 15 definitely
Being outside of my head also helps when doing tasks, I'm always so clumsy when I'm stuck in my head.
The thing is. Is that there is no people of my age anywhere I go. It's either people way older than me, or way younger than me.
Aside, I'm scared of the people of my age.
How old are you? I am guessing mid 20s?
@@Akaki1999 21
@@pasalasaga Oh, I see, yeah early-mid 20s is weird time period... No longer in late teens, so teens look at you as "old" but older adults still look at you as "young." I'm about to become 25 and kinda feel the same way.
@@Akaki1999 But the thing is, that I don't see people around my age.
All these points legit sounds like pretty sound advice, I did do "the Iso-play" more or less subconsciously with people and it works well.
I think the main issue people have with making friends is finding a reason or a way to encounter new people without looking creepy or weird, rather than solidifying a relationship from acquaintance to friends.
First step "meet new people" THIS IS WHERE I FAIL
My favorite part was 3:33 the whole monologue that yellow makes about being yellow if you stop and read it is actually hilarious
Literally go to a pub or a club and start talking getting to know how people react to things you will become a master of socializing and start networking fast
Cringe
@@HenryShoemaker-be4dd how is that cringe it's literally the best thing to do
@@HenryShoemaker-be4ddPpl rlly be calling socializing cringe now 😭
@@Idamensional theyre the ones who struggle to talk to people as well
@@HenryShoemaker-be4dd found the no lifer
Some people tend to take you for granted when you praise them or ask about them a lot. People might assume you're a desperate and might avoid you or take you for granted. So the question is, How to stop yourself being taken for granted???
Hey dude, just a video idea here, "How to learn an instrument". I really wanna see out you would explain this topic
Buy the instrument and watch a bunch of RUclips videos. I learned Piano, Bass and Drums by myself with this approach. Let me know if you need assistance.
Make yourself practice for like 5 minutes a day
It might seem small but after 5 minutes you might find that you're enjoying yourself and won't want to stop
Force yourself to join your school’s band, that will motivate you to improve and not make a fool of yourself in front of your peers :,)))
it’s literally like how you learn anything else, it’s hard at first then it gets easier. Buy or rent the instrument, learn music theory, practice 30 minutes at least once a week or whenever you have the time, you could do it everyday for all I care, and soon you’ll get the hang of it!
There's a certain skill curve when it comes to learning your first instrument which will take quite a while to overcome, but generally, constant practice is key, because knowing your instrument and its quirks its gonna be a life saver, and you need to know how to work around problems IF they come at at a time where you can't exactly fix it.
Me when I realised I unintentionally follow these solutions
"cooking class" 😭
what does that have to do with making friends
extra tip: use any of these methods on a person you have a crush on, then after establishing that you're compatible to be friends with, ask if they'd like to go on a coffee date, ice cream date, or dinner date
how do you meet these friends?? sure these things are usefull if you find people to use them against but there is literally no one to find other than random people on the street which you probably shouldnt ask "is there anything that bothers you lately"
I kinda expected this to be another sarcastic venting video about current friend making scenes but I didn’t expect to come out of this with actual useful tips lol you’re really good at making it sound easy actually
Who knew that after trying to speak to people you learn how to do it.
I find it hard to maintain relationships. I just tend to disappear from society whenever I get my "ghosting phases" which can last for months, I just simply don't answer anyone on phone or in social media, there's some barrier stopping me lol
bro's been watching a bit too much casually explained
All great advice. He forgot the most most important thing. Regular showers. Showers = Friends
Oh my god, I use Meetup and literally just sit in a corner of my group and kind of enjoy just being out 😬😅 They always try to bring me in closer but I smile and am like, "oh no, I'm totally good here, haha, just enjoying being out. Thank you though!"
Gambling is easy, actually
Uberman sleep cycle is easy,actually
Self-defence is easy,actually
Learning is easy,actually
Now I’ll have friends to share your videos with! 😭🙏
I literally love this channel because you don't post that much videos do that they are high quality
Problem is i cant really find any groups of people, discord really works though!
Discord is not inherently bad, you have to know how to filter the people you talk to. In real life it's not much different, you still have to filter out the "bad" people
@@coffee-is-power yes i never said anything bad about it
0:41 Just summarized the most popular social media platforms
you’re video was so helpful I just got 8 billion friends
the be ur self part is the most important, even if u are the weirdest mf on earth just do what u like and u will find real frinds like u and never be alone.
this is just what i've been needing thank you
As a kid I had to sit through presentations on how to pick up women just to learn how to have friends. This would have been a very useful video to have a decade ago.
I would just like a separate video on how simple it is to deal with the anxiety around approaching strangers.
It can be very stressful to talk to people, usually because of narratives in your mind so this could actually be a video about social anxiety in general.
My trick personality is the idea of "framing", that is, when you propose to the other person you are talking to what kind of relationship you two have. That makes you two no longer strangers and instead makes the conversation be between potential friends, lovers, business stuff, etc...
I tried this and now i have more friends then naruto.
"nice try blue guy, i'm literally bald"
nice work buddy you finally remembered your password
real
7:48 This concept is really good for me, since i'm more quiet than everyone else in my friend groups, it's easier to talk with people who don't talk ask much like me and engage them (which engages you to into a conversation) and then ease in into the actual conversation after we become comfortable with each-other and get what i call "talk flow" (a flow like state that makes it easier for you to talk with other people by making you less stressed and clearing your mind). You'll basically have a teammate to help you!
They'll also probably notice and become friends with you sooner than usual.
Finally, I was bored of those literal copy videos with your style and thumbnail, always reported them if they weren't you. Finally the real easy, actually uploaded 🎉