We're all pathologized at some point. We live in a society that will fight tooth and nail to make you think there's something wrong with you for being human.
Exactly how I feel about this whole "Anxiety Disorder". I am not sick with anxiety, the world is sick with so many layers of disconnection. etc. Thank you.
damn straight, anxiety is a healthy response by emotionally intuitive people to emotionally repressed people and cultures. We're not pathological, the brutes and bullies that grab authoritative positions are.
That's what they thought in Russia in the early 20th century, then the 'emotionally intuitive' people set out to kill and exterminate all the farmers, patriarchal figures and institutions and then out of the chaos and political vacuum came Stalin and the country descended into hell. So it seems that reality is not as simple as you think.
@Rick It's not the words, but what they meant with it.... 'What's in a name? That which we call a rose By any other word would smell as sweet'... that's what all cults do: highjacking the meaning of language...among other horrors.
But I think we need to recover from that bullying. I have a friend who's really empathic and kind and she's not anxious. We need to recover from anxiety because it causes us problems. Even if the world isn't with us
Here my comment I posted; ''I have anxiety and I don't agree with you. You can lower your anxiety. I never seen it as a disorder only you english people call it like that, I just saw it as something I had that I knew most people don't and that it was related to my way of thinking about things that happened to me. The fact that your mother acted like this with you, I feel like it affected a lot your point of view about this. I don't agree with you because I think it is a problem. But I think this is a symptom of something else that is wrong in your life. That you need to solve.''
My whole life I was a sensitive child. When I would get anxious my mom would laugh at me and would just label me as dramatic and tell me I was weak and not strong like her. When I had full blown panic attacks, I would hide because a relative of mine once slapped me hard across the face while having a bad panic attack in front of her and called me a brat. It was an adrenaline response from the attack that sent me into a flight or fight mode and I was running through the house crying because I had no idea what was happening to me. After that I always felt weird and like I did not belong and would hide from people when getting panic attacks because I was afraid of being judged. I was always taught by my mother to be polite to adults and never talk back to them or rock the boat, when inside I was filled with rage when adults were doing dishonest and cruel things and I couldn't speak up. I suppressed that rage my whole life and always hid my anxiety and panic attacks from people because they would call me a wuss when I felt anxious and act as if I was weird. After my mother recently died, a beast has emerged. I no longer care about sparing other's feelings and just tell it like it is if they are being jerks. Most people have been shocked because I have always been passive and quiet and non-confrontational. Now If I feel someone needs to be told off, I have no more phucks to give and let them know how I feel right away. A lot of people dropped me from their life because they liked the passive, polite, quiet person better. I feel lonely, but will never suppress how I feel ever again.
i relate . still getting free . why is it always the bullies who become the victims when i just speak plainly? because they are still scared little traumatized children who need a mommy and a daddy... im in the same boat... learning how to be my own daddy and mommy... cheers fellow feeler 🤜🌠 🤛
I can totally relate to this. I have always been considered sensitive and anxious myself which stopped me from telling my version of the truth. But I am slowly realizing it is all a ploy to shut me down. The whole family, and the society are all the same. They want a comfortable life without anyone rocking the boat.
@@stevanoottokun 100% agree. I used to be a people pleaser. Not many people like me anymore because I started to tell it like it is and they can all go suck it. I rather be all alone than someone who kisses people's asses to pacify them. It sounds selfish, but now I put myself first and them last and they don't like it.
I have had a social anxiety myself, but I am slowly realizing that the anxiety comes from the constant struggle between my spirit and the expectations of society. So when I get nervous, I knew it is the perfect moment to assert the truthful version of me and just say it as it is. I don't give a rat's ass what anyone thinks of me now or how it can make me feel lonely. For me, being myself is the most important thing.
Most people around me seem so dull. I've had the "what would you do if you wouldn't work? Wouldn't you be BORED?" conversation with so many people. Bored? When I'm busy reading, writing, crafting, exploring nature, learning foreign languages and making music? Sometimes I can sit and daydream for hours. How could I be bored?? All they do is go to work, do their household and vegetate in front of facebook or TV. Such dull, boring people. I'm glad that my parents accepted me, but my teachers and other adults did not. I never want to give up being me!
I'm never bored either. Except possibly in situations when I'm forced to perform some bureaucratic operation for example to get the help that the system gives me right to. And yes, trying to earn a living is often boring, and very very tough.
Yes it is sad, my aunt is retiring soon and I said "thats great I bet your relieved finally!" I was excited for her I wish I can stay home and get paid. Then she said "No I have a husband that doesnt want to do anything with me, and theres nothing for me to do at home Im still going to work." It felt awful hearing that like my gut felt sick.
These people are so brainwashed. It is not natural that we spent most of our time either asleep or at work. Most of the jobs we have now are just useless and came to be because our society is so messed up. And of course if you don't feel right about, when being at work feels like a waste of time, you're lazy or there's something wrong with you. I don't see why people think work is so meaningful. Loving, changing someone's life by being there for them, improving yourself...those things are meaningful. Most jobs are bullshit.
The real mental illness is 7 billion people orchestrating the complete destruction of the planet that feeds them. I can't think of anything more mental than that.
Anyone who isn't passionate, open-minded, and honest is a product of this insane society we're living in. We open-minded, honest ppl are anxious bc we're constantly and poignantly aware that we're living in HELL. I relate to this post with all my being. Thanks for making this post.
You're on the right train of thought, but you have the wrong outcome. You can have compassion towards those who do wrong precisely because they are the product of a bad environment. This world is so beautiful, our perspectives shouldn't be focused on the worst aspects of it.
This. While I think it’s good to be wary of society and it’s agendas, I don’t think it’s good to be so suspicious of other people. These people are automatically assuming that everybody else is an NPC and that they are a poor, tortured, authentic soul - which is ultimate form of narcissism.
best therapist I ever saw told me that I have no "condition", I just have to structure my life and stop thinking too hard about myself. My anxiety fell by like 80% since.
On god, having a routine and staying outside your head is the best medicine. I'm diagnosed with a personality disorder and a few comorbid things, but my quality of life only suffers when I think about it. Much like how someone with a physical disability can have a full, rich life if they don't focus on their missing leg, or tremors, or whatever.
It becomes a disorder when we learn to suppress our simple emotions - “I am sad” turns into life long depression. “I am scared” turns into life long anxiety. Keep it simple and honest - “I am...” :)
You are absolutely correct. Society has a herd mentality, if you go against this collective mentality you will suffer. However, its not about being criminal. Its about being self aware, practicing self reflection, and being overall in tune with reality. Most people live in a fantasy about how their lives are going. They put words and status as measures of success, but in reality they get nothing out of wealth or job titles and constantly pursue goals with no means to an absolute end, which should be themselves.
I was an ice breaker as you called it since childhood. Drawing a tree in 5 grade art class the teacher scolded me. She says that doesn't look like a tree. I answered, "Who says ? " She walked away from me. My mantra, It would be fine if you like me but if you don't I truly don't care. 50 years later it's never wavered . I have told friends through the years if you confident and love yourself you'll be no ones doormat. You won't live a fake life pleasing others.
My feeling is that you are more an artist than a therapist..... I just looooove what you are saying. So much expression. Makes me breathe.... in this limited box called life.
Say that everything is literally connected and that you can visualize it, it's 'schizophrenia'. Say that everything is literally connected and that you can visualize it-- And throw the word 'quantum' in there and you're a scientist. When you said 'limited box called life', it reminded me of dimensional/string/M-theory. There probably are higher dimensions that control the ruleset that is our 3rd dimension physics. Also, time is dimension 3a, not 4.
As a sensitive person who has yet to and will never adjust myself to society standards thank you! So many of us spend so much time since childhood feeling shame and guilt for not being able to desensitize it has taken me most of my life to accept myself and adjust MY WORLD accordingly.
You provide a rare, deep kind of validation for me. Thank you. I crave to be truly myself...it's difficult to in this world. Meeting the right people who are also doing the hard work, and want to know the real me makes it easier.
This really gets me thinking. I was that bright, curious, outspoken child who is now an anxious 45 yr old adult. Been dealing with anxiety since my teens. Lost my outspokenness, my willingness to disagree with others or ruffle feathers. I tolerate treatment that I shouldn't and as a result I go out of my way to avoid drama and confrontation even when it is called for. I think over the years it was pounded out of me mentally and physically. I now avoid close friendships outside of my safe circle which is mostly my husband and children. I'm a social being and can talk to a stranger in the grocery store, no problem. But to open up and let them in on an ongoing basis? Nope. Too hard to internalize issues that should be discussed or stand up for myself when my boundaries have been violated so I avoid it. I secretly admire people who are outspoken and demand respect from others one one hand and on the other hand they almost disgust me that they are willing to speak up and the consequences, anger or hurt feelings of the perpetrator be dammed. I wish I could break out of this pattern and speak my truth loudly but it seems an impossible task. Something to think about while I toss and turn tonight.
Very enlightening!....PSYCHIATRY is pretty much flawed....medications and hospitalisations... Look at its barbaric history.....treating patients worse than animals.. This guy is a breath of fresh air!
Wow this really resonates with me and brought up a very distinct memory that really turned me away from thinking I needed a psychologist. I went to see one for "social anxiety" and only 3 sessions in I could tell she wasn't getting me so I asked her if I was okay enough to not need anymore therapy. She said yes, BUT she handed me a slip that said "cognitive delusions" basically just stating that everything I confided in her was a lie I was making up in my head. But I knew I told her nothing but objective truth. I wasn't delusional. She made money and I walked out insulted.
Thank you so much for this Daniel. Real words of wisdom. I identify so much with you. 'It is no measure of health to be adjusted to a profoundly sick society.'
I'm a 30 years old woman with lots of social anxiety.. each time I go out into the world, I feel forced to adapt to a way of living, a way of existing that is totally artificial to me. I'm scared of work, if I could I wouldn't work and I isolate myself.. because I simply don't wanna live in a world like this.
totally relate. Its very anxiety provoking seeing through peoples BS, but then being stuck in situations around them, they always find ways to try to put you down, sometimes subtle sometimes not, its because in reality you threaten them, for being authentically you and owning yourself. it threatens them and they get flooded with insecurity and dont know how to cope. I think a lot of more creative souls who are more sensitive can really struggle in a world that tries to make them conform or force them to do things in a way that doesnt make any sense to them...its happened to me.. still trying to find the balance between being yourself and not feel any guilt, fear or pressure to be different from who I really am and what I think when it clashes with others... they try to bring you down and try to change you or your behaviour.. letting go of the opinions of others and the need for validation/approval can be very difficult.
This SO resonates with me! Step outside the norm and people blow a fuse.. then I'm the recipient of their upset and accusations that I need to shut up, sit down and fall into rank. I notice when I stay silent and keep stepping back and out of situations, in that regard its a lot more peaceful for me. Many times, depending on the situation, I have to just sit back and watch things implode. Its so weird.
lambchopxoxo that’s the experience I recently had at a clinic. But when I stepped aside I felt bad because I didn’t feel like I’m myself which was like lying to myself constantly which in fact actually gave me anxiety
I really admire when you are controversial. I've been watching your videos for a few days. You really speak your mind from a deep place. I'm a therapist. I appreciate hearing it and I'm finding it to be helpful!
After seeing your documentary, These broken wings, I can only imagine WHY you were anxious and still are anxious about sharing some of your opinions online. But the thing is, content like that is worth it. It's worth it because the attackers are slaves to ignorance or worse malicious individuals who do make a living out drugging people up and saying, that's all we can do for you. Even if only one person started looking at their condition differently after seeing your documentary ( I'm sure it's more than one person), it's worth it! People who've been through a lot are first betrayed by life itself and then they are betrayed by very system who is supposed to save them. You are fighting the good fight. Keep going!
Me, too! All of it! I was labeled "severely shy", and "hard to deal with"; it was explained by the adults in my life as some sort of disease or innate character flaw. I, too, was extremely curious, adventurous, creative, smart and wanted to know the why's and how's of everything. My curiosity was seen as talking back, disrespect, and i was often told i was just "bad". My desire to know and touch, and understand was unacceptable, because, first, I was a girl, and second, I was a child. I was beat into submission, physically and mentally. However, I had a very resilient and stubborn streak that strengthened my resolve to not let them "win". Somehow, I knew their world views and narrowminded thinking was missing the most basic tenants of human needs, unconditional love. In my 20s I realized my anxiety and shyness was due to my empathic, intuitive, and sensitive nature. I started purging negative people and circumstances from my life, but It was often painful and I "face-planted" a lot, because i bucked the current. I appreciate your genuine and honest accounting of your own journey, and I agree with your conclusions on the toxicity of some of the processes of our current mental healthcare system. The whole healthcare system has become insurance driven, not patient driven, and change is needed. I feel like we are losing too many bright souls because of this and I love your courageous spirit and willingness to be vulnerable in order to be a change-agent, thank you.
Hi Michelle, I second everything you said. Fellow old soul, empath, high sensitive here. Glad we're finally starting to realize, it's not us, it's them!!
Oh boy can I ever relate to you, Daniel. I've lived most of my life with anxiety, and I'm a high functioning person on the autism spectrum. I've battled to appear normal to people, and at night when I'm alone with my thoughts, the anxiety comes. I've had some success in the last 10 years in letting it all go, but mostly it's because I just stopped socializing. BTW, I'm 70 years old.
"The cult fights back and I get anxiety." Best line ever cuz it's so true. Stand for something different than what is considered the norm, n u will always get pushback.
Thank you for being you, it makes me feel less alone in the world. I desperately crave having true people like you near me, but online is better than nothing.
Oh my gosh this is exactly how I feel! I constantly feel controversial and it causes me severe anxiety but I can’t seem to endure the thought of keeping my unpopular thoughts to myself. I’m terrified of suppression while simultaneously fearing the reaction of others. But I see myself as brave for making myself speak up anyway regarding rejection.
YES!!!!! Please keep sharing. Waking up unconscious people and disturbing them is a great service. Welcome conflicts. You don’t need to defend your authentic sharing!!!! Very valuable.
these insights are Golden my friend...WE are such resilient souls, we've been here many times(imho) but more over we have struggled most or all our adult lives....stil feeling wounds to heal deep foundational wounds...that affect the core of who iv always been but letting go can heal the deepest wounds.. 😢😂❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉 love to you all, even you reading this
Thank you for this explanation, I needed to hear this from another. People feeling "too much" is not the problem of society, people feeling too little is.
This reminded me of being taught that avoidant attachment is caused by unresponsive caregivers while anxious attachment is causer by inconsistent caregivers
'The Courage to be Disliked' a book by Ichiro Kishimi Train your self-value like a muscle by expressing heartfelt passion and genuine integrity on a daily basis.
I am a born Empath and you are absolutely right..I could have spoken these very words myself. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for posting this. When we are good to such an extreme within we end up carryinhg the weight of the pain in the world on our shoulders. I relate to you more then words could EVER expresss. I am freatful from my very Soul for you.
I only "liked" this video because there's no option to "love" it. I can relate to this on so many levels, and I'm sure a million other people can too. We don't hear this perspective enough, and so this video is a deeply valuable gift to the world. YOU are a gift to the world. Thank you so much for sharing!
Telling the truth is always the better way to go! Some people think if you say certain "truths," you are not doing the right thing because you are being "negative." But the truth is never negative. In fact, telling someone a lie is ALWAYS negative. The moment you tell a lie, you destroy trust. You are also probably pandering to someone which is also wrong because it infantilizes and patronizes the other person.
Unfortunately telling the truth is exactly what other people do not want, don't forget, they have spent years trying to hide, some will do anything to silence you....
So understandable. Right. Healthy reaction to a toxic environment. It is unbelievable what you had to go through. You keep fighting that toxic world Daniel. It won't get you down. The anxiety will leave with the self doubt, I feel.
I feel like I am listening to myself speak as I hear your words. I am 47 working toward my PhD in Psychology. I was considering becoming a LPC until I became very honest with myself and said there was no way ultimately that I would be able to withstand the effects of VT and or Empathy Fatigue. And, because I love psychology and counseling theory, I prefer instead to research the subjects instead of counseling them. I was finding the incessant push of diversity to be quite irritating as well, not because I do not support the plight of alleged target groups in western civilization, but because I don't want the whole diversity thing rammed down my throat every single day, which becomes stifling in my opinion. Great videos keep up the movement toward self-actualization! Awesome to hear you speak with such authenticity, cheers!
Terrifying that I also had the same experience as described in the video. What I have learned, that suffering is not abnormal, letting go and feeling what you feel is healthy. Resisting whatever you are feeling is the destructive behavior. The honesty and wisdom that these videos communicate is helping me fix myself. Thanks for making them!
anxiety can only be a disorder if we have a conflicted relationship with it. Kudos Daniel! It's a strong spirit to choose the anxiety of aloneness over the comfort of conformity. Or the conformity of comfort... Comfort with confusion is the ticket... ;-)
Thanks for your videos Daniel, they really help me to understand a lot of things. Don’t worry about what people think. Those who don’t like what you’re saying are probably not ready to hear it.
My 2nd grade teacher was the first memory i have of someone bullying me for being "sensitive" and "not being able to take a joke". Internalized it every since. I completely agree with you, my mom now will yell at me (I'm 21) about sharing my feelings in my intimate relationships. Weird way some people live. I feel outside of society all the time, never ends.
The world pushing back on you and “stressing” you is trying to show or teach you something! That stress, just like anxiety (remember these are just words, not truth!!), is a signpost that you still have work to do and fear to uncover, to heal🦋 Good luck to us all : )
I really enjoy your authenticity! You seem like such a genuine, sensitive, real person. I agree that anxiety is annoying, but it's not a "disease". It's a natural response to things in life being out of alignment.
I have a history of being bullied for being 'different' and abused as well. Thankfully, I grew used to feeling alone so much that I sort of accepted it. I do not ask for much tbh I will find those who are deep souls like me somewhere else, even if it's not even a dozen of people. I know I'm not the only one who feels this, so why settle for anything less than what I deserve? But lots of times I wish I could just go to an alternate, peaceful dimension
My mother considered me a nuisance to be subdued or sidelined, rather than a spirit to be guided and nurtured. At 67, I see myself as being in this world but not of it. When it comes, my death will be welcomed, but I have to endure until it does.
I’m sorry you’re struggling so much with life and hope you can find some more peace & reconnection before you die. Reading Alice Miller really helped me undergo a deep healing process. I now feel a much deeper & more enduring connection to nature, to life, and to myself than I did before, no matter what this crazy damaged human world does. Best wishes to you.
Thank you for making me smile and then laugh at how true your words are! All the best wishes in a pretty messed world are still worth something, I hope, and I do send them to you.
I got this diagnosis too from one psychiatrists. And another one later, even worst. Yes, it sticks to you in many ways. I never thought about it in that way, so thanks for your honesty.
Can’t thank you enough for this analysis. Between your work and the work of Dr. Peter Breggin, I have a great deal of insight and self compassion that I did not before. Thank you!
Hoping our 34 year old will listen to you ever though Mum's recommending. Your openness is much appreciated. I love people who aren't toxic and won't shut up !
I love your perspectives, Daniel. They resonate deeply and I feel often more at home in myself after I listen to you. Grateful for that you share with us of your thoughts 💗🎶
One of my all-time favourite quotes is from the philosopher J. Krishnamurti: "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society."
Hey, I am a teen and I would just like to thank you for the video! Hearing you talk was like… talking to myself! It was like my brain talking to me! I get it, I also feel very different, I get anxious easily (I didn’t have childhood problems like that tho, but other things), I always had a need to express myself and because of that, I am very creative! Also, despite all this, I really have this strong core feeling of not changing for the world (but still improving to be the best version of myself). YKW, I think you should try looking into Elaine Aron’s research on Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), because you really seem to fit one of those (I am one too)! Anyways, thank you so much for the validating yet intellectual video, I really feel listened to
I had kind of a strong reaction listening to this because I'm chronically anxious, and, although I am directly or indirectly responsible for many of the things that cause me that anxiety, I feel a lot of it has to do with wanting to live a life of expression and exploration while living in a culture ruled by deception and posturing.
I definitely found a kindred spirit in you. I have always felt the same way, like I took the red pill and the rest of the world is still asleep. It's a weird feeling to walk around the world this way, can be very isolating...
You are the first person I’ve ever heard put this into words out loud. Thank you. Thank you for helping me not feel crazy as I’ve had a similar experience. I feel so validated right now.
I had a problem with GAD and Adj disorder labels too. Thank you so so much for sharing your work. Relate so incredibly much. I started healing, understanding myself in this way you speak about, and letting go more when I left the pathologizing behind.
this is the second video of yours i've seen thus far (the first was 6 reasons why i stopped being a therapist). very insightful content, i look forward to exploring the rest of your channel. please continue feeling, thinking, and expressing even as a newcomer it is obvious you're providing meaningful information many people can benefit from, and i thank you for deciding to share yourself with the world.
I realy enjoyed watching this video. Thank you Daniel. It feels very honest. It gives me hope actualy and courage to stick to my instinct which is telling me adjusting to this world is not always the healthiest thing and my anxiety is not a problem itself although it is bloody uncomfortable. please keep going. Happy new year x Anna
I can relate. Whole family treated me differently because I was considered ‘sensitive’. I wasn’t born anxious. I just have a low tolerance for BS.
Yep whole family treated me like there was something wrong with me
Me too. It's only today at 37 that I am learning this and it sucks. Half of my expected life living a lie for the benefit of maintaining BS.
I'm stealing that 😛
Ditto
That is called ableism - when neurotypicals (conformist) prejudge neurodivergent (anyone who is not egocentric).
We're all pathologized at some point. We live in a society that will fight tooth and nail to make you think there's something wrong with you for being human.
So true
Yes, it's the very convenient default, and especially by those who have been found out by "whistleblowers" of various kinds....
I'm putting this quote on my social media.
they even have a disorder that when you read it's swell of a info is basically being creative & an artist.
Exactly how I feel about this whole "Anxiety Disorder". I am not sick with anxiety, the world is sick with so many layers of disconnection. etc. Thank you.
Couldn't agree more.
Exactly!
YES!
You're a woman, you are different.
Love sweet heart king congratulations happy
damn straight, anxiety is a healthy response by emotionally intuitive people to emotionally repressed people and cultures. We're not pathological, the brutes and bullies that grab authoritative positions are.
That's what they thought in Russia in the early 20th century, then the 'emotionally intuitive' people set out to kill and exterminate all the farmers, patriarchal figures and institutions and then out of the chaos and political vacuum came Stalin and the country descended into hell. So it seems that reality is not as simple as you think.
and what made these people the emotionally intuitive? Did they all suffer from mental illness or how were they identifiable?
@Rick It's not the words, but what they meant with it....
'What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other word would smell as sweet'...
that's what all cults do: highjacking the meaning of language...among other horrors.
But I think we need to recover from that bullying. I have a friend who's really empathic and kind and she's not anxious. We need to recover from anxiety because it causes us problems. Even if the world isn't with us
Here my comment I posted;
''I have anxiety and I don't agree with you. You can lower your anxiety. I never seen it as a disorder only you english people call it like that, I just saw it as something I had that I knew most people don't and that it was related to my way of thinking about things that happened to me. The fact that your mother acted like this with you, I feel like it affected a lot your point of view about this. I don't agree with you because I think it is a problem. But I think this is a symptom of something else that is wrong in your life. That you need to solve.''
My whole life I was a sensitive child. When I would get anxious my mom would laugh at me and would just label me as dramatic and tell me I was weak and not strong like her. When I had full blown panic attacks, I would hide because a relative of mine once slapped me hard across the face while having a bad panic attack in front of her and called me a brat. It was an adrenaline response from the attack that sent me into a flight or fight mode and I was running through the house crying because I had no idea what was happening to me. After that I always felt weird and like I did not belong and would hide from people when getting panic attacks because I was afraid of being judged.
I was always taught by my mother to be polite to adults and never talk back to them or rock the boat, when inside I was filled with rage when adults were doing dishonest and cruel things and I couldn't speak up. I suppressed that rage my whole life and always hid my anxiety and panic attacks from people because they would call me a wuss when I felt anxious and act as if I was weird.
After my mother recently died, a beast has emerged. I no longer care about sparing other's feelings and just tell it like it is if they are being jerks. Most people have been shocked because I have always been passive and quiet and non-confrontational. Now If I feel someone needs to be told off, I have no more phucks to give and let them know how I feel right away. A lot of people dropped me from their life because they liked the passive, polite, quiet person better. I feel lonely, but will never suppress how I feel ever again.
i relate . still getting free . why is it always the bullies who become the victims when i just speak plainly? because they are still scared little traumatized children who need a mommy and a daddy... im in the same boat... learning how to be my own daddy and mommy... cheers fellow feeler 🤜🌠 🤛
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I can totally relate to this. I have always been considered sensitive and anxious myself which stopped me from telling my version of the truth. But I am slowly realizing it is all a ploy to shut me down. The whole family, and the society are all the same. They want a comfortable life without anyone rocking the boat.
@@stevanoottokun 100% agree. I used to be a people pleaser. Not many people like me anymore because I started to tell it like it is and they can all go suck it. I rather be all alone than someone who kisses people's asses to pacify them. It sounds selfish, but now I put myself first and them last and they don't like it.
It's better to be hated for who we are rather than be liked for who we aren't.
I have had a social anxiety myself, but I am slowly realizing that the anxiety comes from the constant struggle between my spirit and the expectations of society. So when I get nervous, I knew it is the perfect moment to assert the truthful version of me and just say it as it is. I don't give a rat's ass what anyone thinks of me now or how it can make me feel lonely. For me, being myself is the most important thing.
I like your comment. '...struggle between my spirit and the expectations of society...' is a way of putting it that I like.
Most people around me seem so dull. I've had the "what would you do if you wouldn't work? Wouldn't you be BORED?" conversation with so many people. Bored? When I'm busy reading, writing, crafting, exploring nature, learning foreign languages and making music? Sometimes I can sit and daydream for hours. How could I be bored?? All they do is go to work, do their household and vegetate in front of facebook or TV. Such dull, boring people. I'm glad that my parents accepted me, but my teachers and other adults did not. I never want to give up being me!
BEING AT WORK IS BORING. When im away i am never bored with myself daydreaming like you said. people can be boring too.
I'm never bored either. Except possibly in situations when I'm forced to perform some bureaucratic operation for example to get the help that the system gives me right to. And yes, trying to earn a living is often boring, and very very tough.
The sad thing is that people are bored when they are at home for more than a weekend. When they AREN'T doing the boring work crap.
Yes it is sad, my aunt is retiring soon and I said "thats great I bet your relieved finally!" I was excited for her I wish I can stay home and get paid. Then she said "No I have a husband that doesnt want to do anything with me, and theres nothing for me to do at home Im still going to work." It felt awful hearing that like my gut felt sick.
These people are so brainwashed. It is not natural that we spent most of our time either asleep or at work. Most of the jobs we have now are just useless and came to be because our society is so messed up. And of course if you don't feel right about, when being at work feels like a waste of time, you're lazy or there's something wrong with you. I don't see why people think work is so meaningful. Loving, changing someone's life by being there for them, improving yourself...those things are meaningful. Most jobs are bullshit.
"its no measure of health to be adjusted to a profoundly sick society"
The real mental illness is 7 billion people orchestrating the complete destruction of the planet that feeds them.
I can't think of anything more mental than that.
Krishnamurti.
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I hear you.... sensitive beautiful people should stick together.
Lumiere What about the sensitive and ugly?
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Can we have our own island?
Anyone who isn't passionate, open-minded, and honest is a product of this insane society we're living in. We open-minded, honest ppl are anxious bc we're constantly and poignantly aware that we're living in HELL. I relate to this post with all my being. Thanks for making this post.
100%
You're on the right train of thought, but you have the wrong outcome. You can have compassion towards those who do wrong precisely because they are the product of a bad environment. This world is so beautiful, our perspectives shouldn't be focused on the worst aspects of it.
This. While I think it’s good to be wary of society and it’s agendas, I don’t think it’s good to be so suspicious of other people. These people are automatically assuming that everybody else is an NPC and that they are a poor, tortured, authentic soul - which is ultimate form of narcissism.
Amen
best therapist I ever saw told me that I have no "condition", I just have to structure my life and stop thinking too hard about myself. My anxiety fell by like 80% since.
Isn't it funny how not looking for the answer is often the answer?
On god, having a routine and staying outside your head is the best medicine. I'm diagnosed with a personality disorder and a few comorbid things, but my quality of life only suffers when I think about it. Much like how someone with a physical disability can have a full, rich life if they don't focus on their missing leg, or tremors, or whatever.
Isn't that just distracting yourself from the feelings rather than addressing them?
@@SantaFeSuperChief1 no, it's more like not amplifying them.
@@SantaFeSuperChief1 right! This sounds like a distraction to me! Doesn’t seem right!
It becomes a disorder when we learn to suppress our simple emotions - “I am sad” turns into life long depression. “I am scared” turns into life long anxiety. Keep it simple and honest - “I am...” :)
I am scared!
True. :) And Im angry.
Angry
Scared and ashamed
I am scared, lonely, and sad!
You are absolutely correct. Society has a herd mentality, if you go against this collective mentality you will suffer.
However, its not about being criminal. Its about being self aware, practicing self reflection, and being overall in tune with reality.
Most people live in a fantasy about how their lives are going. They put words and status as measures of success, but in reality they get nothing out of wealth or job titles and constantly pursue goals with no means to an absolute end, which should be themselves.
Sasquatch Guy that was wonderful
I was an ice breaker as you called it since childhood. Drawing a tree in 5 grade art class the teacher scolded me. She says that doesn't look like a tree. I answered, "Who says ? " She walked away from me.
My mantra, It would be fine if you like me but if you don't I truly don't care. 50 years later it's never wavered . I have told friends through the years if you confident and love yourself you'll be no ones doormat. You won't live a fake life pleasing others.
RenegadeTimes I love this. I’m an ice breaker too! 🌳😂😊
Thank you
It is not "confidence" or "love for yourself", is is how the brain processes certain information and orders hormonal response.
@@p4nd4b01same thing
Anxiety is the emotion of fear ! Not a mental illness !
My feeling is that you are more an artist than a therapist..... I just looooove what you are saying. So much expression. Makes me breathe.... in this limited box called life.
thanks kali. greetings to you. daniel
Say that everything is literally connected and that you can visualize it, it's 'schizophrenia'.
Say that everything is literally connected and that you can visualize it--
And throw the word 'quantum' in there and you're a scientist.
When you said 'limited box called life', it reminded me of dimensional/string/M-theory. There probably are higher dimensions that control the ruleset that is our 3rd dimension physics. Also, time is dimension 3a, not 4.
As a sensitive person who has yet to and will never adjust myself to society standards thank you! So many of us spend so much time since childhood feeling shame and guilt for not being able to desensitize it has taken me most of my life to accept myself and adjust MY WORLD accordingly.
You provide a rare, deep kind of validation for me. Thank you. I crave to be truly myself...it's difficult to in this world. Meeting the right people who are also doing the hard work, and want to know the real me makes it easier.
Narcissists smell maybe you have a crush on him?
J. F. M he’s kinda cute lol
i know, hes a keeper.
Just curious, why did you go there?
This really gets me thinking. I was that bright, curious, outspoken child who is now an anxious 45 yr old adult. Been dealing with anxiety since my teens. Lost my outspokenness, my willingness to disagree with others or ruffle feathers. I tolerate treatment that I shouldn't and as a result I go out of my way to avoid drama and confrontation even when it is called for. I think over the years it was pounded out of me mentally and physically. I now avoid close friendships outside of my safe circle which is mostly my husband and children. I'm a social being and can talk to a stranger in the grocery store, no problem. But to open up and let them in on an ongoing basis? Nope. Too hard to internalize issues that should be discussed or stand up for myself when my boundaries have been violated so I avoid it. I secretly admire people who are outspoken and demand respect from others one one hand and on the other hand they almost disgust me that they are willing to speak up and the consequences, anger or hurt feelings of the perpetrator be dammed. I wish I could break out of this pattern and speak my truth loudly but it seems an impossible task. Something to think about while I toss and turn tonight.
Very enlightening!....PSYCHIATRY is pretty much flawed....medications and hospitalisations...
Look at its barbaric history.....treating patients worse than animals..
This guy is a breath of fresh air!
To be well adjusted to a sick world is not a sign of good health...you are a man after my own heart..thank you for speaking out about this.
Wow this really resonates with me and brought up a very distinct memory that really turned me away from thinking I needed a psychologist. I went to see one for "social anxiety" and only 3 sessions in I could tell she wasn't getting me so I asked her if I was okay enough to not need anymore therapy. She said yes, BUT she handed me a slip that said "cognitive delusions" basically just stating that everything I confided in her was a lie I was making up in my head. But I knew I told her nothing but objective truth. I wasn't delusional. She made money and I walked out insulted.
Thank you so much for this Daniel. Real words of wisdom. I identify so much with you. 'It is no measure of health to be adjusted to a profoundly sick society.'
you're welcome. love the quote!
I'm a 30 years old woman with lots of social anxiety.. each time I go out into the world, I feel forced to adapt to a way of living, a way of existing that is totally artificial to me. I'm scared of work, if I could I wouldn't work and I isolate myself.. because I simply don't wanna live in a world like this.
With you
You are not alone!!
same here.
Isolating and avoiding people is my specialty
totally relate. Its very anxiety provoking seeing through peoples BS, but then being stuck in situations around them, they always find ways to try to put you down, sometimes subtle sometimes not, its because in reality you threaten them, for being authentically you and owning yourself. it threatens them and they get flooded with insecurity and dont know how to cope. I think a lot of more creative souls who are more sensitive can really struggle in a world that tries to make them conform or force them to do things in a way that doesnt make any sense to them...its happened to me.. still trying to find the balance between being yourself and not feel any guilt, fear or pressure to be different from who I really am and what I think when it clashes with others... they try to bring you down and try to change you or your behaviour.. letting go of the opinions of others and the need for validation/approval can be very difficult.
I suffered extreme anxiety as a kid because I was the only normal person in the family who could see how messed up the situation was.
Its taken me 40 years to even formulate this for myself so thankyou
This SO resonates with me! Step outside the norm and people blow a fuse.. then I'm the recipient of their upset and accusations that I need to shut up, sit down and fall into rank. I notice when I stay silent and keep stepping back and out of situations, in that regard its a lot more peaceful for me. Many times, depending on the situation, I have to just sit back and watch things implode. Its so weird.
lambchopxoxo that’s the experience I recently had at a clinic. But when I stepped aside I felt bad because I didn’t feel like I’m myself which was like lying to myself constantly which in fact actually gave me anxiety
If they won't listen, all you can do alot of the time is watch things implode, as painful as it is. And frustrating!
lambchopxoxo finally i like to be seen as different, not the norm. It reflects very nicely the limitations of other people.
I really admire when you are controversial. I've been watching your videos for a few days. You really speak your mind from a deep place. I'm a therapist. I appreciate hearing it and I'm finding it to be helpful!
Your videos are extremely helpful and insightful. Much cheaper than therapy, too :)
He's also kinder and more knowledgeable than the last "therapist" who thought herself a female shaman that I had. 😬
I wish there where more people like you. You are more open minded. People need to be for flexible in life.
After seeing your documentary, These broken wings, I can only imagine WHY you were anxious and still are anxious about sharing some of your opinions online. But the thing is, content like that is worth it. It's worth it because the attackers are slaves to ignorance or worse malicious individuals who do make a living out drugging people up and saying, that's all we can do for you. Even if only one person started looking at their condition differently after seeing your documentary ( I'm sure it's more than one person), it's worth it! People who've been through a lot are first betrayed by life itself and then they are betrayed by very system who is supposed to save them. You are fighting the good fight. Keep going!
I love how expressive you are!
Me, too! All of it! I was labeled "severely shy", and "hard to deal with"; it was explained by the adults in my life as some sort of disease or innate character flaw. I, too, was extremely curious, adventurous, creative, smart and wanted to know the why's and how's of everything. My curiosity was seen as talking back, disrespect, and i was often told i was just "bad". My desire to know and touch, and understand was unacceptable, because, first, I was a girl, and second, I was a child. I was beat into submission, physically and mentally. However, I had a very resilient and stubborn streak that strengthened my resolve to not let them "win". Somehow, I knew their world views and narrowminded thinking was missing the most basic tenants of human needs, unconditional love. In my 20s I realized my anxiety and shyness was due to my empathic, intuitive, and sensitive nature. I started purging negative people and circumstances from my life, but It was often painful and I "face-planted" a lot, because i bucked the current. I appreciate your genuine and honest accounting of your own journey, and I agree with your conclusions on the toxicity of some of the processes of our current mental healthcare system. The whole healthcare system has become insurance driven, not patient driven, and change is needed. I feel like we are losing too many bright souls because of this and I love your courageous spirit and willingness to be vulnerable in order to be a change-agent, thank you.
Hi Michelle, I second everything you said. Fellow old soul, empath, high sensitive here. Glad we're finally starting to realize, it's not us, it's them!!
Try being empathic, intuitive and sensitive as man. to most that equals gay, and that includes women.
Oh boy can I ever relate to you, Daniel. I've lived most of my life with anxiety, and I'm a high functioning person on the autism spectrum.
I've battled to appear normal to people, and at night when I'm alone with my thoughts, the anxiety comes.
I've had some success in the last 10 years in letting it all go, but mostly it's because I just stopped socializing.
BTW, I'm 70 years old.
"The cult fights back and I get anxiety." Best line ever cuz it's so true. Stand for something different than what is considered the norm, n u will always get pushback.
Thank you for being you, it makes me feel less alone in the world. I desperately crave having true people like you near me, but online is better than nothing.
I have never felt so understood. Thank you.
Anxiety is the price of being alive.
Seekthetruth3000 Exactly. Some people don’t look at it that way.
Yes it is a part of human life but once it starts to become a daily issue that's when you need to get help
"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society"
Oh my gosh this is exactly how I feel! I constantly feel controversial and it causes me severe anxiety but I can’t seem to endure the thought of keeping my unpopular thoughts to myself. I’m terrified of suppression while simultaneously fearing the reaction of others. But I see myself as brave for making myself speak up anyway regarding rejection.
It's a double bind isn't it? I haven't figured out the proper balance there yet.
YES!!!!! Please keep sharing. Waking up unconscious people and disturbing them is a great service. Welcome conflicts. You don’t need to defend your authentic sharing!!!! Very valuable.
yes yes and live vegan too
I'm so glad I found your channel, you are a friend everyone needs in their life.
I love this guy. He has so much common sense.
Thank you so much. Though we have never met you've helped me more than I could ever express. Keep up the good work.
It's nice to hear somebody actually talking some sense on here that I can totally relate to. So refreshingly honest.
Oh my god this is so good. How I feel and felt all my life. Thank you for being real.
these insights are Golden my friend...WE are such resilient souls, we've been here many times(imho) but more over we have struggled most or all our adult lives....stil feeling wounds to heal deep foundational wounds...that affect the core of who iv always been but letting go can heal the deepest wounds.. 😢😂❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉 love to you all, even you reading this
I love this guy. 💗
It is like he mirrors my mind and talks my own conclusions about the life. I am aligned to his perspective.
Thank you for this explanation, I needed to hear this from another. People feeling "too much" is not the problem of society, people feeling too little is.
This reminded me of being taught that avoidant attachment is caused by unresponsive caregivers while anxious attachment is causer by inconsistent caregivers
'The Courage to be Disliked' a book by Ichiro Kishimi
Train your self-value like a muscle by expressing heartfelt passion and genuine integrity on a daily basis.
I am a born Empath and you are absolutely right..I could have spoken these very words myself. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for posting this. When we are good to such an extreme within we end up carryinhg the weight of the pain in the world on our shoulders. I relate to you more then words could EVER expresss. I am freatful from my very Soul for you.
I only "liked" this video because there's no option to "love" it. I can relate to this on so many levels, and I'm sure a million other people can too. We don't hear this perspective enough, and so this video is a deeply valuable gift to the world. YOU are a gift to the world. Thank you so much for sharing!
Thank YOU for existing Daniel 💐
Telling the truth is always the better way to go! Some people think if you say certain "truths," you are not doing the right thing because you are being "negative." But the truth is never negative. In fact, telling someone a lie is ALWAYS negative. The moment you tell a lie, you destroy trust. You are also probably pandering to someone which is also wrong because it infantilizes and patronizes the other person.
Unfortunately telling the truth is exactly what other people do not want, don't forget, they have spent years trying to hide, some will do anything to silence you....
So understandable. Right. Healthy reaction to a toxic environment. It is unbelievable what you had to go through. You keep fighting that toxic world Daniel. It won't get you down. The anxiety will leave with the self doubt, I feel.
I’m with you bro. Right there with you. You are not even close to alone. I am with you.
I feel like I am listening to myself speak as I hear your words. I am 47 working toward my PhD in Psychology. I was considering becoming a LPC until I became very honest with myself and said there was no way ultimately that I would be able to withstand the effects of VT and or Empathy Fatigue. And, because I love psychology and counseling theory, I prefer instead to research the subjects instead of counseling them. I was finding the incessant push of diversity to be quite irritating as well, not because I do not support the plight of alleged target groups in western civilization, but because I don't want the whole diversity thing rammed down my throat every single day, which becomes stifling in my opinion. Great videos keep up the movement toward self-actualization! Awesome to hear you speak with such authenticity, cheers!
Terrifying that I also had the same experience as described in the video. What I have learned, that suffering is not abnormal, letting go and feeling what you feel is healthy. Resisting whatever you are feeling is the destructive behavior. The honesty and wisdom that these videos communicate is helping me fix myself. Thanks for making them!
anxiety can only be a disorder if we have a conflicted relationship with it.
Kudos Daniel! It's a strong spirit to choose the anxiety of aloneness over the comfort of conformity. Or the conformity of comfort... Comfort with confusion is the ticket... ;-)
Thanks for your videos Daniel, they really help me to understand a lot of things. Don’t worry about what people think. Those who don’t like what you’re saying are probably not ready to hear it.
Reminds me of the following quote:
It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.
J. Krishnamurti
I am glad you kept expressing yourself! I am glad you kept fighting for who you are!
My 2nd grade teacher was the first memory i have of someone bullying me for being "sensitive" and "not being able to take a joke". Internalized it every since. I completely agree with you, my mom now will yell at me (I'm 21) about sharing my feelings in my intimate relationships. Weird way some people live. I feel outside of society all the time, never ends.
The world pushing back on you and “stressing” you is trying to show or teach you something! That stress, just like anxiety (remember these are just words, not truth!!), is a signpost that you still have work to do and fear to uncover, to heal🦋
Good luck to us all : )
I relate so much! Thank you for making this video ❤
You make me wonder if anxiety is intelligence on a short leash?
I’d give you a RUclips award, which should be a hammer. For nailing it...
I really enjoy your authenticity! You seem like such a genuine, sensitive, real person. I agree that anxiety is annoying, but it's not a "disease". It's a natural response to things in life being out of alignment.
I have a history of being bullied for being 'different' and abused as well. Thankfully, I grew used to feeling alone so much that I sort of accepted it. I do not ask for much tbh I will find those who are deep souls like me somewhere else, even if it's not even a dozen of people. I know I'm not the only one who feels this, so why settle for anything less than what I deserve? But lots of times I wish I could just go to an alternate, peaceful dimension
I admire your honesty and dedication, the life you have lived. Keep fighting the good fight.
My mother considered me a nuisance to be subdued or sidelined, rather than a spirit to be guided and nurtured. At 67, I see myself as being in this world but not of it. When it comes, my death will be welcomed, but I have to endure until it does.
I’m sorry you’re struggling so much with life and hope you can find some more peace & reconnection before you die. Reading Alice Miller really helped me undergo a deep healing process. I now feel a much deeper & more enduring connection to nature, to life, and to myself than I did before, no matter what this crazy damaged human world does. Best wishes to you.
Thank you for this. I feel like it basically describes me: wanting to be myself, but not wanting to bother other people.
Daniel you are an icebreaker...with your warm soul, compassion and wisdom😍
Thank you for making me smile and then laugh at how true your words are! All the best wishes in a pretty messed world are still worth something, I hope, and I do send them to you.
I got this diagnosis too from one psychiatrists. And another one later, even worst. Yes, it sticks to you in many ways. I never thought about it in that way, so thanks for your honesty.
Can’t thank you enough for this analysis. Between your work and the work of Dr. Peter Breggin, I have a great deal of insight and self compassion that I did not before. Thank you!
Hoping our 34 year old will listen to you ever though Mum's recommending. Your openness is much appreciated. I love people who aren't toxic and won't shut up !
I love your perspectives, Daniel. They resonate deeply and I feel often more at home in myself after I listen to you. Grateful for that you share with us of your thoughts 💗🎶
Thank you! I can sooo relate to this. Guess people like us will never be popular. But stay true to yourself!
One of my all-time favourite quotes is from the philosopher J. Krishnamurti: "It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society."
What a lovely man you are Daniel! So relatable!
Hey, I am a teen and I would just like to thank you for the video! Hearing you talk was like… talking to myself! It was like my brain talking to me! I get it, I also feel very different, I get anxious easily (I didn’t have childhood problems like that tho, but other things), I always had a need to express myself and because of that, I am very creative! Also, despite all this, I really have this strong core feeling of not changing for the world (but still improving to be the best version of myself). YKW, I think you should try looking into Elaine Aron’s research on Highly Sensitive Person (HSP), because you really seem to fit one of those (I am one too)! Anyways, thank you so much for the validating yet intellectual video, I really feel listened to
I had kind of a strong reaction listening to this because I'm chronically anxious, and, although I am directly or indirectly responsible for many of the things that cause me that anxiety, I feel a lot of it has to do with wanting to live a life of expression and exploration while living in a culture ruled by deception and posturing.
Your words give me a lot of values. Do not give up
Thanks so much for posting these videos - you bless so many people by posting these
I definitely found a kindred spirit in you. I have always felt the same way, like I took the red pill and the rest of the world is still asleep. It's a weird feeling to walk around the world this way, can be very isolating...
You are the first person I’ve ever heard put this into words out loud. Thank you. Thank you for helping me not feel crazy as I’ve had a similar experience. I feel so validated right now.
Hope you'll sleep better tonight Daniel :)
Thank you very much for this awesome video.
Best wishes 🙏
You are simply georgious ! Love your vids ! 👍❤
Daniel- so thankful to have found you! Thank You 🙏🏼♥️
I had a problem with GAD and Adj disorder labels too. Thank you so so much for sharing your work. Relate so incredibly much. I started healing, understanding myself in this way you speak about, and letting go more when I left the pathologizing behind.
Your content means the world to me. I hope you feel seen and appreciated. Because I do.
...""and the cult fights back and I get anxiety"". Lol. - love it -> telling the story of my life
The truth is we must live lives pretending,one of the biggest contribution to depression and sadness.
this is the second video of yours i've seen thus far (the first was 6 reasons why i stopped being a therapist). very insightful content, i look forward to exploring the rest of your channel.
please continue feeling, thinking, and expressing
even as a newcomer it is obvious you're providing meaningful information many people can benefit from, and i thank you for deciding to share yourself with the world.
Wearing beautiful bright colours on the days you feel sad, it really helps.
I'm with you dude!!
I realy enjoyed watching this video. Thank you Daniel. It feels very honest. It gives me hope actualy and courage to stick to my instinct which is telling me adjusting to this world is not always the healthiest thing and my anxiety is not a problem itself although it is bloody uncomfortable. please keep going. Happy new year x Anna