That’s when I’d tempted to say, “I’m not shy, I just don’t like you” lol 😂 I haven’t been called shy to my face though, like wtf that’s really rude 😵💫
I have spent a lifetime with varying degrees of depression and melancholy. (65 yrs old) It has often seemed to me that only an insane person could celebrate life in this messed up and frightening world. However, I'm coming to understand that the world is what it is and no amount of hating this reality will make it better....so one must simply make the best of it. I can't see myself ever being the loud and raucous partier but I can see myself more contented with a somewhat melancholy serenity.
Charles, kepp remaining inside of your serenity. Life creates no junk, mankind have that honor at times, for man. It is said to "stop, and smell the roses" nicely put, will do when the time comes. I believe one may love to observe and learn of the rose' coming into existence, its growth through the trials and storms of its life. I'd smell at this point. Doing this i hope one comes away 'smelling like a rose'! Peace.
Dear Daniel, excellent video. During my training to become an occupational therapist, during a seminar, another student commented how all the abused people were locked up in psychiatric hospitals labelled as being sick, while their abusers were walking around in society seen as being sane. It was a life-changing comment. I believe in a trauma-based model of mental health. Also, I personally think people talk about there being 'many realities' as an externalisation/projection/reflection/explanation of and for their own internal fagmentation.
OT this was me!!! I am 43, and currently (finally in a trauma based therapy) that was my total 20-30 something experience. Smoking pot, and talking about how there were multiple realities. Now, looking back, i was just trying to make sense of my fucked up past. I am grateful for the hope of integration and living in reality.
To me you’re an example of a person who has achieved a high level of sanity and insight Daniel. But society probably won’t like the fact that you’re not materialistic, that you don’t want to get married and have kids and all these other aberrations. I love your dedication to the truth - thank you ❤️
Sadly I feel so lonely in this world, like no one can understand and what you’re saying here resonate so much and explains a lot of what I’m feeling and going through Thank you 🙏
“Human sickness is so severe that few can bare to look at it...but those who do will become well." - Vernon Howard "It's no measure of health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society." - Jiddu Krishnamurti
"YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!!!". I have dissociative identity disorder and I'm usually the sanest and most rational person in any room. So, yeah, I'm pretty crazy and the sanest person in the room wherever I go. I also feel the most accepted, normal, and least lonely in a mental hospital while my family thinks I must be at my sickest. Where else on the planet except a mental hospital are people with multiple personalities not stigmatized? (Nowhere) I could go on with the ironies of mental health for days. But Daniel is SO right. Walk into a mental hospital and the staff pathologizes everyone and everything while the patients slowly realize that they are quite sane in spite of the place they now find themselves. I've met some of the most wonderful people in my life among those wanting to die. Irony. Irony. Irony.
I go through these phases of hating your videos then loving them, then hating them and then finding something really useful that I only really understood once I reached a certain point/situation in my life. Has to be my favorite channel. Wish we had a MacklerAI we could pump questions into.
reminds me of when i was so confused because my extreme grief over capitalism and the education system and inequality was pathologized as clinical depression with a lot of emphasis on chemical imbalance when i knew it didnt feel like that. what i needed was to grieve, learn to manage my real and valid feelings, and frankly the adoption of a little bit of denial. and i wondered why the antidepressants never worked!
That reminds me of when I went to a therapist because I was so depressed to find out all my friends and families in South Carolina really were straight up racists. For years, I had tried to convince myself that their love of NASCAR, football, country music and the confederate flag was just a matter of taste; and their lack of intellectual curiosity was simply a matter of temperament. Then after a few years of listening to what they had to say about Obama, it became plain to me they believe they are part of a master race that needs to be protected from obliteration! Damn! Imagine my surprise. By the time I started seeing Trump signs in people's yards, I felt like I was going to lose my mind.
@@jedwardsish It helps me to understand that confirmation bias is a real thing. I don't believe we have much control over what we think is "true". Our brains fool us all the time. Whatever belief we start with snowballs because of confirmation bias and we can't do much about it unless we somehow become aware of it and examine our thinking. How else can one explain people with opposite ideas and both are CERTAIN that THEY possess the "truth"? Everybody wants the same things, we just have different ideas on how to get there depending on our lifetime perceptions. Also, consider the idea the free will is an illusion. It can lead to more compassionate feelings about both others and yourself. Cheers!
I wonder if antidepressants' real goal is to make victims of abuse shut up. I mean the pills don't make the abuse stop but they make the victim numb and uninterested in talking about their experience.
@@tinet7056 yes 100% it’s only goal. If you look at any clinical trials success isn’t considered actually working through the trauma or grief. It’s based on does this chemical hide the symptoms enough for you to go to work or function. It never actually addresses the problem just masks it! Holy Shit.....
@@jedwardsish So you figured out your family are idiots! :D I feel you. It took me years to understand that my parents were not showing me love not because I was a bad child...but because they are idiots incapable of expressing love.
I love that you make it clear that often a person is pathologized simply because that's what society is taught to do with every person. I can't say I always agree with you, but I really appreciate you. Your voice is strong and informative. Thank you.
Interesting. My mother and sister both blocked out family stuff. My sister still dissociates but calls it shutting down. The capacity for denial is stunning. I had a psych prof who said family violence can be cultural. I disagreed. If it's sick it's sick. It may occur more frequently in some cultures, or be more acceptable, but it's still wrong. Nothing healthy comes out of it.
If by cultural, he means they have no laws against it, then I agree that it's cultural. Doesn't make it healthy. Doesn't mean they wouldn't benefit from progress. Some cultural shifts are overdue.
Several years ago I went to what was for me an important meeting, whether I would be accepted onto a training course. This was something I'd wanted to do for a long time, I wanted to help others after my own horrible experiences. But, just before I left the house, I had the sad news that a good friend of mine had suddenly died from the cancer she'd only been recently diagnosed with. I loved that woman like my sister. I was really upset, so my mother offered to drive me to my interview. I couldn't stop crying. However, I managed to stop the tears before I walked in the building. There were two of them interviewing me and I felt like I was being analysed the whole time...oh, your glasses are green!, you write with a green pen! Staring at my tear-stained face. I explained to them about my friend. Soon, after the interview I had a letter saying they would NOT accept me on their training course as a therapist because of my own trauma... That was so unfair. I later learned they had too many applicants and that was their inhuman response. I think NOT crying when a best friend has suddenly died young would be a REAL cause of concern, wouldn't it?!
"Projection: seeing unresolved, unconscious, split off parts of ourselves in somebody else." "It's very painful for society to change. It's very painful for people to change." Great insights!
Watching your videos is like listening to myself talk, the shared experiences and world view are uncannily similar. I never studied psych though, just thought about it.
The difference between crazy and not crazy depends on the therapist, researcher, professor, or narrator at any given time. It also depends on current psychological fashion. And many people ha e crazy moments or irrational moods.
It can also be healthy to be crazy in certain situations. By that, I mean the person is reacting normally. This Kavenaugh situation is making millions of women relive their sexual assaults. It's all over twitter. Reliving it is common.
How people define "crazy" is arbitrary (outside of going on shooting sprees) and, if we're lucky enough to grow in to old age having wandered into many different villages, crazy happens.
@ Rosanne No, being crazy is not relative to other peoples' opinions. It is not in the eye of the beholder. The social, cultural norm of sanity/craziness, however, is relative in this sense, but actual sanity is not. Over the years I have matured and grown much more open. This maturation is essentially due to a lot of meditation, healing work and psychotherapy. As a result I have become wiser, believe it or not. It is perfectly clear to me that sanity is a matter of the objective degree of an individuals emotional openness and how well integrated the individuals actions and thoughts are with her emotional world. This is difficult to measure, but the degree of sanity is nevertheless essentially an objective feature of reality. Perhaps you were focusing on the cultural norm of sanity in your comment, in which case I agree totally. However, sanity is such an important issue that a brief comment perhaps was called for. Best regards
Whatever I'm doing I interrupt it when I see you posted a new video and watch immediately. Enlightening material, thank you. And often the timing for my life is perfect, too.
Love this. I’ve always been that person that I feel is on the “healthier side of crazy” whose been labeled crazy(by family members). I’m an empath that also tends to attract people with narcissistic traits and feel incredibly lonely most of the time. Every time I’ve seen a therapist though they all tell me that I’m very intelligent(not trying to come across as arrogant), and they will even go as far to say as I don’t seem like I should have a mental illness because I’m so aware. But that awareness is why I suffer. I’ve always been the scapegoat of my family trying to address issues, but I’m “bad” because I do. For example, my mom will smoke in front of my son or nephew, I get angry and cut her off, but according to her she “didn’t do it” even though I saw her while she was doing it and I’m “crazy.” It’s 2018, everyone knows smoking is terrible and you don’t do it in front of children. I got mad when my parents kept letting my senior dog out by the pool because she could drown. What happened within a week of me moving out, she drowned in the pool. I was so angry at my fathers pure recklessness, but what could I do? My dog was dead and he wouldn’t care what I thought. I’m surrounded by carelessness and negligence and tend to attract those people, so I often feel “crazy” for trying to cope or make sense out of fucked up situations. Most of the time I just have to let things go, and keep people at a distance until I can address it. I’ve recently joined lots of meet ups with like minded and healthy people and having the validation from others that these situations are fucked up(and even more so than I’m aware of at times) and I’m not “crazy” has helped me. I suggest anyone going through something similar to find any groups regarding growth and healing, I promise it will help.
i still havent been able to really put my finger on why narcissists are attracted to me (as an "empath"). like i get it intellectually but it still doesnt really make sense to me.
OMG!! Everything you said is exactly me too. For years i thought i was 'the crazy' one. Finally at 55 i'm realizing the same thing. THEY were the crazy ones. I get the loneliness too. I've locked myself away in my home for years now, to keep myself safe from toxic people and narcissists. I needed to hear what you wrote today and i will try your meet up suggestion. I need to surround myself with people, healthy people. The problem is they are so hard to find.
Incredible what you say about childhood. I am remembering things from my childhood every day. My childhood has been very good overall and for that I am thankful. Still, there have been a few "odd" days. I ask myself if I downplay them, or overrate them. Thanks for your great videos. I will read at least one of your books too.
I have had very similar thoughts and observations of a long time now. I wrote about this in a draft for a book a few years ago. Good video, Daniel. Cheers! -Darius
I am experiencing this right now. I finally told the truth last night and the response I got from the person who is supposed to love and protect me was absolutely insane and subversive. I expected a degree of denial but this was illuminating as to the depth of sickness that's there. Luckily I have friends who are able to affirm my reality. But wow.
Es cierto. Las personas se aterran con la verdad, una de las principales mentiras es que aprecian a las personas honestas, pero cuando se encuentran con un persona que realmente dice las cosas como son o incluso como las ve o las siente haciendo distinción en que es una percepción personal. La persona honesta es rechazada. Yo he sufrido este rechazo y aislamiento todo la vida, porque siempre he tratado de poner la verdad en primer lugar y esa búsqueda de la verdad, de ver las cosas tal como son me ha llevado a tomar este viaje al crecimiento personal. He estado conectado con el pasado, enfrentando la verdad, por dolorosa que sea y atravesando los traumas. Debo decir que vale la pena, aún así llorando diariamente nunca me he sentido tan libre y feliz. Y me alegra no ser la única que está haciendo este viaje. Gracias por los videos, me han ayudado de formas que no puedo explicar.
This video explains why people are afraid of me. I advocate for people with disability and since the disability sector attracts a lot of nasty parasitical type of people who relish the opportunity to abuse those less fortunate than themselves or to simply exploit them, I have a tendency to speak up about the injustice that is perpetrated. This always leads me to having many companies (care or support work providers) refuse me service because I’m not afraid to call them out on their bullshit thus making me an enemy. I’ve become accustomed to being a loner but there was a time when I felt very isolated. What keeps me going is the fact that I have purpose. Looking out for people with disability, especially intellectually disabled people who wouldn’t hurt a fly, gives me a tremendous sense of purpose and I find it to be rewarding even if people don’t like me or gang up on me. That’s when I know I’m really doing my job!
Hey Daniel, the best 10 min post ever!!! I resonate with all you say, keep the videos coming.....you’re an inspiration that is changing many people’s thoughts....and thought is everything 👍🏻🙏🏻
Once again..bless you one million times Daniel..your bright insight always offers new prdcious updated perspectives..you are coming to the new path if psychology even if you left your profession.Bless you..thanks God your intelligence is still going on working in this field. You are really helping many to understand much more..THANK YOU FOR THIS WORK!!
One of the biggest obstacles to warding off society's craziness is when anti-social traits are exemplified as a society's top virtues, whether due to attaining wealth, "purity," or popularity in a given society. Another huge obstacle, as Daniel has pointed out, are traditions that we carry over that are fundamentally toxic to our mental and public health, simply because many of them helped us survive in a more brutal past (such as traditional gender roles). While women have made great leaps and strides in this area due to women's rights advocacy, the push-back is much greater for men to stay in their traditional roles or face ridicule and scorn from many different parts of society, including from folks who would advocate for women's rights.
Hi Dan, thanks for this insightful video. ~ Two stories come to mind, that I feel inclined to share., one day I was speaking with my therapist & was feeling frustrated with the feeling of not getting anywhere with the bi-weekly sessions, I tell him a story. “ imagine a guy comes to NYC, and he has a fight with a person on the subway. He is under attack , and he defends himself & in the process kills the man, then cuts off his ear & eats it. He would be arrested & locked up as criminally insane ! ~ My therapist balked, & looked at me. “What are you trying to say ? “ ~ “ but wait, “ I say, “ there’s more to the story . What if I told you that the guy is from Papua New Guinea, and in his indigenous tribe, the warrior men kill & eat their enemies. It’s a tribal thing.” ~ Would you still classify him as insane ? ~ CSW, is still in a panic thinking I was trying to tell him I was in the mood to kill somebody ! Ok, obviously he was just a body in the room where I went in & talked to the walls. ~ A few years later, getting bored with my many sessions & group meetings at a local clinic, I asked my doctor, she was the top doc in the psych clinic, very professional, and always treated me nice. ~ One day, I asked her, “ do people ever get well?” She askes, “ what do you mean?” So I rephrase it, “ ~ have you ever met a person without symptoms of imbalance or abnormalities ? “ She laughed & said, “~ no, everybody has glitches. Even me. “ ~ I ask her again, to be sure I heard her correctly. Yep. Everybody has glitches. There is no such thing as a perfect person ! So I said, “ then why am I coming here ? “ ~ She didn’t answer. ~ I never went back. ~ In my recent years, I found out, I was going to therapy to get some help, with moving thru painful past experiences, and I needed help learning some processes to continue to develop myself as an individual. ~ Unfortunately, most of my seasons consisted of me talking about what went wrong .. today, last week, etc. The counselors do not give advice or lead.. 🤔🙄😎 I am happy to say, I figured out that LIFE itself hurt me, but LIFE itself, can help me get well. And, it did !!!
It's interesting how most if not all therapists want to keep you in the story but never give real methods to navigate out and find peace. Last one told me to just not think about it anymore. She was a CBT person. It was a total waste. I the decided I'm done. No more I'm perfect the way I am. I'm good I'm decent I'm sensitive than others. That's just they baseline of my perceptions. It truly is time to move on.
yeah at the hospital I was at I saw a few times nurses will tie patients just for crying, I saw one youtuber from the US shared that when patients cried at her ward they will inject them. I think this is crazy, psychiatry in itself is crazy.
Purff I love the way he talks with his hands! I'll tell ya Jews and Italians(which i am) r so similar characteristically. He's like balm so sweet and soothing :-) :-) Or maybe im just CRAAAAAAAAAAAZY!!!!!!! 😊🎅☺😂💝🎃🎆🎊🎉🎵🎼🎤🎶
Thank you for this. I’ve grown up outside of my parents’ country aka third culture kid. And I’ve been think a lot about the relationship between culture and mental illness and where I fit in. Your video really helped in giving me courage in living my truth.
I think it is bipolar who will most tend to be "healthier than society". You can even find lowered dynorphin during the manic phase, and dynorphin is linked to the suffering states, I believe psychosis and depression both stem from dynorphin activity. Dynorphin causes dysphoria, dissociation, etc. I believe mania is the state that psychedelics induce.
you speaks so much common sense and truth. when you talk about healthy people it reminds me of shamanism, shamans were healers who had experienced a level of pain and trauma but though they are/were healers, they were often feared and shunned.
Schopenhauer explained very well in his superb " Counsels and Maxims, how people who have GREAT CAPACITY are often "aliens in society" or even misanthropic in the sense that they PREFER to be alone, even though they DO feel lonely. Yes, they have no friends. Yet society stigmatizes them because they think that if you prefer to be alone, there must be something wrong with you, just like you said people say. Schopenhauer explains that while it is true that being alone is not natural, " for when we are born we are surrounded by parents and siblings", it is indeed the "lesser of two evils, for having as little to do as possible with the majority of people is wise, since by doing that you also avoid their wickedness and stupidity, which are characteristics most people have." Instead, no, society says that if you are not throwing parties etc you are a weirdo.
🙏 ‘s truth traveler. Over and over again, video after video I can relate positively to your views. I remember the video in witch you said a good friend could replace a therapist and it’s so true. 💗 💗 💗 💗
I had 2 psychotic episodes. I spoke a lot of words in my episodes, but no one could understand anything I was saying. Individual parts of my sentences could make sense, but the entire sentence made no sense. I also couldn't understand other people, as any reply I made was completely unrelated or on some mad tangent. Many times in these experiences I was pinned down and had some sort of tranquilliser injected into me. I wasn't being violent, but I was probably being loud and appeared angry. I was very deluded and had many crazy thoughts so I'm pretty sure it's fair to have called me crazy. But I understand how deluded I was, now that I am healthy. Luckily I managed to not get stuck on psychiatric drugs, I don't think they help - at best they zombify you, a bit like getting a lobotomy but not so bad and more over long term. My anti-psychotics were making me feel very strange, but since I was ill I did not realise it was the drugs, I thought it was part of me being ill/crazy, but when I just decided to stop taking them, and then after a month start taking them again, these weird feelings started coming back, so I stopped and now the weird feelings are gone. I still have a bit of jaw clenching, but no way near as much as when I was taking anti-psychotic drugs. I think medicine has a long way to come to get anywhere near solving mental illness. Medicine has come so far in so many other areas, but I believe mental illness is the last area that has yet to be substantially solved. I think it will take a good 200 years before decent progress is made. In the mean time, simple yet powerful drugs will be prescribed for complex problems, and psychiatrists will still believe it is all about 'chemical imbalance', when actually these crazy states of consciousness are much more complex - we don't understand consciousness so how can they explain away different states of consciousness as 'chemical imbalance' ? And there is very little understanding of how these drugs actually fix the mental illness, instead they seem to mostly zombify people and take their personality away - yeah they won't go "crazy" because they are zombies on these brutal drugs.
Perfect timing Daniel!! Today I am connecting with deep emotions from childhood and I have this "am I becoming crazy?". I know I am not but I think the fear has to do with experiencing these "inaproppiated" emotions. This is a fantastic video, it reminds me of your first series of videos here on TY.
Also. I have been 'that guy' you describe who tackles stuff people don't like me talking about. I've learned to be somewhat considerate to people, how and when I express this stuff but I've also made a definite decision to be apart from what people too-quickly value or judge as sane or crazy. I just realized that's not at all in vain, but useful. So. Thanks!
This Video helps me a lot I denial a lot. Even withdrawal into my room for days. Only leave my room to buy food or do a short walk. My conflict is to see people when I go outside and to have the wish to approach them. But in the same time I don’t want to look awkward. So I just walk through the streets and ignore everyone and walk almost like a blind guy, loosing touch too my body. And I hear everyone say: „He looks only. He does not come.“ This repeats everyday. Sometimes I see or hear happy people and want to join them but then I think they will see I’m weird. And I start to feel uncomfortable and prefer to hide and run away. Sometimes I join a group - my maximum is one hour. Then I want to cry because I see it’s all in my head and the people around me a good, joyful and in peace. Their is nothing to worry about. In that moment I want to grab someone and cry into his shoulders. But then I’m afraid the people around me see I’m not in a good state of mind. So I refuse every situation of joy and happiness in a group. It’s a lonely life.
Totally makes sense, from start to finish. I can't believe I missed those videos in 2018. I was scanning psychological videos from 2015 - I never stumbled upon Daniel. And that is partly due to topic of this video. It is only in 2020 that I discovered term Complex Trauma - by reading random DK book about general health. It was not even mentioned on you tube videos which I watched weekly since 2015 for 5 years. As soon as I discovered concept of CPTSD I got exposed to much deeper and healthier videos on you tube, such as this one.
I have so often wondered if I was crazy. Or..if the world around me was. Perhaps I was actually quite sane and the workings and processes of society were crazy, as well as cruel and greedy instead. How do we justify the state of our earth, oceans and beautiful animal kingdom, if not by concluding that most of humanity is crazy? Why are we destroying what is the most wonderous gift and vital to our sutvival? Turn on the TV and surely you shake your head at what's entertainning the masses...me crazy? Because I cry at a dead roo on the road, because I can't help more, because I see and hear the loneliness and fear of others...me crazy because my parents hurt each other so much and I still, at 60, feel so hurt by that time. .... I choose to live alone, isolated with my dogs and garden and part time carer work. I long for connection with another human that understands. Daniel thank heavens I've stumbled upon your work! You say what I'm thinking with such clarity and humour, oh I could hug you for being out there amongst all the craziness!!! Thank you. Please continue.
OMG!!!!Thank you! I love you for doing this video I stumbled upon today! Today I feel justified and feels good! Thanks for just getting it.For REAL.TKS AGAIN,PEACE.
im a very young adult from europe and i have listened to your videos and felt so validated. Truly, thank you Daniel. You really alleviate my doubts a lot. Could you explore the question of how one gets closer to split of parts of themselves? If you did that would be wonderful and id be grateful to be able to liste. If not, im still going to listen to whatever you put out. Have a great day/week/month/season/year!
Well said. Describes the following: in the subway a young black guy says something ab’t my sneakers. Then threatens me with a dental pick. I say, what’s that? He says “it’s for your teeth.” I ignored him. Later I find out ab’t a nasty tooth infection I had for years. Strange stuff like that has been going on forever. Too crazy to think about. Average MD or P-doc? If other anomalous stuff comes up they’d likely refer me elsewhere or whip out the prescription pad. I took the whole prescription menu 17 years ago. Made everything worse. I stay away from prescriptions, OTC & street drugs.
Yep. The people don’t like to see themselves, and will call you crazy if you call them out. Big society is just like little society (family). Well 🤔 thank you 🙏
Dave Chappelle would agree with agreed with your first 2 minutes you correctly asserted. The rest of it is spot on, strong language. R-rated for those have multiple realities. Call me crazy, I remain quiet, they will take their rage, anger elsewhere everytime. … It’s more about the sick situation. “Society is……
Certainly there are aspects of American society, which as an Australian, just look wacko jacko out of this galaxy. Like children saying the pledge every day and flag worship. One sees this and think WTF is this cult called the good old US of A! Sometimes there is mention that Yahweh should not be in the pledge and I think "What are you blabbering on about? The whole pledge with or without a god is religious mania and why have ANY pledge at all". There are penalties for children who not want any part of that flag worship, and shunning. Americans can not see it the mania, beyond the inclusion of Yahweh bit.
To consider that "my crazy" could actually be the result of having to adhere to a false narrative of reality (societies' mass denial), is eye opening and empowering. Raised in a dysfunctional family, I used to see myself as the invisible child. Recently, I learned children from narcissistic families, exhibit another set of character traits. In my case, I am a Truth Teller. So, if I add what I know to what you know Daniel, kids who expose the truth are GAS LIT to believe they are "crazy". Good to know. Thanks.
This is a super troll day for me. RUclips put Russian captions on this video when I started watching. First time I ever saw that.😂TY so much for your work & sharing your valuable voice & experience. I agree with all you say because I know from my years in Foster Care & Psych nursing. I was a suicidal Psych med Nurse. Bless you & all you hold dear.🙏💞
This is so fucking true. Also here's an alternative way of looking on the word 'crazy': Maybe it is just a word that people created to refer to a psychological and behavioral state of a person that makes them afraid of them and is used to judge them so that 'crazy people' will hide these parts of themselves and judge themselves so that tge others don't have to deal with what makes tgem afraid and why.
This really resonates, I guess my dilemma is in finding healthy ways to cope and exist in our current society without resorting to escapism and isolation. Finding out how to cultivate happiness..I think a lot of pain comes from a desire to be unconscious to the madness because that's accepted as "normal". In our society there seems to be a comfort that comes from unawareness. It seems like a luxury, it's what to do with the awareness that is troubling for me. Like yes everything is fucked up and that includes me because i'm a product of the whole system now what ? healing feels like a life time journey with no destination in site.
To say that there is only one reality is .. a theory at best. An idea we can casually state, though have no idea of the scope of or metaphysical influences to reality. We can have a general consensus on basic aspects of shared human existence that are within a set 'normal' range based on average experience, but we cannot say with authority that there is one overarching reality when unexplained cosmic and even quantum events occur constantly that defy laws of physics as we understand.
This is a super educational and awesome video! Such a great n passionate communicator! I’d love to see one about how if you are authentic and trying to work thru stuff like that... and... the jail system and society... and gaslighting people who are honest n real. Because they already admitted they’re a little crazy soooo it’s easy to blame them for everything cuz they already offered up the escape route. It’s their fault! Haha
A great example of this is veganism. People like to condemn and label vegans as militant and religious and on and on when in reality they don't have any protests with the intent to destroy property and attack people and such or believe in a higher being. All they say is to stop using animals unnecessarily, such as eating them for every meal. The amount of health and environmental issue this causes is insane, not to mention the conditions of the places they keep those animals in while labeling them "free range" "organic" "pasture raised"... all labels are basically meaningless with terrible laws protecting those statements, an easily abused system. Also those slaughter houses and the workers are sick. Tons of psychopathic junkies that punch and kick and stab those animals before slitting their throats. It's an absolute disgrace that we allow such places to exist.
Daniel, did you hear for those "primitive" people, in Africa, who surround their neighbor-citizen who make something bad or wrong, and talk to him, all together, few days without brake, that he/she is gorgeous, that they all love him so much and that all society is so sad and need him to feel better :-) How "primitive", ha? Only Soul can heal soul..
I realize that I can be in touch with reality when I hear voices. It seems to happen when I am depressed. I know what is going on while I hear them. Everyone who insulted me seem to be in denial of how they hurt me. My Dad who is dead, I am was hoping that he get some help because he seemed to have explosive anger disorder. I think my family has forgotten how my Dad got them against me. A lot of people will harass me for my look which is my age, race and nationality. I have people who curse at me while they drive. I had a person yell at me because I wasn’t walking fast enough when I had the right of way. I am glad for your ideas. Maybe I wasn’t what people thought I was or think that I am. Today, I heard these young men talk about their ancestry while they are supposed to disrespect me for being Karen looking. My Mom tells me not to talk about people who are wrong about me. I wish that this man was my psychiatrist. Is there something wrong with defending me
The best is when people call you "shy" because you clearly don't want to interact with them but are trying to be polite about it
Right? Lol
True
That’s when I’d tempted to say, “I’m not shy, I just don’t like you” lol 😂
I haven’t been called shy to my face though, like wtf that’s really rude 😵💫
The same when girls are called sluts when they say no to some intrusive dude.
"It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society."
- Jidu Krishnamurti
I have spent a lifetime with varying degrees of depression and melancholy. (65 yrs old) It has often seemed to me that only an insane person could celebrate life in this messed up and frightening world. However, I'm coming to understand that the world is what it is and no amount of hating this reality will make it better....so one must simply make the best of it. I can't see myself ever being the loud and raucous partier but I can see myself more contented with a somewhat melancholy serenity.
Charles, kepp remaining inside of your serenity. Life creates no junk, mankind have that honor at times, for man. It is said to "stop, and smell the roses" nicely put, will do when the time comes. I believe one may love to observe and learn of the rose' coming into existence, its growth through the trials and storms of its life. I'd smell at this point. Doing this i hope one comes away 'smelling like a rose'!
Peace.
Oh fantastic!!
This is my favorite quote!
Thank you
Dear Daniel, excellent video. During my training to become an occupational therapist, during a seminar, another student commented how all the abused people were locked up in psychiatric hospitals labelled as being sick, while their abusers were walking around in society seen as being sane. It was a life-changing comment. I believe in a trauma-based model of mental health.
Also, I personally think people talk about there being 'many realities' as an externalisation/projection/reflection/explanation of and for their own internal fagmentation.
OT this was me!!! I am 43, and currently (finally in a trauma based therapy) that was my total 20-30 something experience. Smoking pot, and talking about how there were multiple realities. Now, looking back, i was just trying to make sense of my fucked up past. I am grateful for the hope of integration and living in reality.
Makes you wonder who established the institution and how sane were those folks!
I love this thank you
I’m four years too late to say you probably meant fragmentation, but fagmentation works too.
@@ryanlipple6854 well I have to say that that comment was worth every moment of the four year wait. That made me laugh. Alot 🙂
To me you’re an example of a person who has achieved a high level of sanity and insight Daniel. But society probably won’t like the fact that you’re not materialistic, that you don’t want to get married and have kids and all these other aberrations. I love your dedication to the truth - thank you ❤️
Agree with your comment.
Sadly I feel so lonely in this world, like no one can understand and what you’re saying here resonate so much and explains a lot of what I’m feeling and going through
Thank you 🙏
Me too. So you’re not completely alone!
Same here too
You are not alone
“Human sickness is so severe that few can bare to look at it...but those who do will become well." - Vernon Howard
"It's no measure of health to be well-adjusted to a profoundly sick society." - Jiddu Krishnamurti
You're on a good path. I love people who speak truth and reality, regardless of societies' "norms". You are not crazy. Sending you lots of love.
"YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!!!". I have dissociative identity disorder and I'm usually the sanest and most rational person in any room. So, yeah, I'm pretty crazy and the sanest person in the room wherever I go. I also feel the most accepted, normal, and least lonely in a mental hospital while my family thinks I must be at my sickest. Where else on the planet except a mental hospital are people with multiple personalities not stigmatized? (Nowhere) I could go on with the ironies of mental health for days. But Daniel is SO right. Walk into a mental hospital and the staff pathologizes everyone and everything while the patients slowly realize that they are quite sane in spite of the place they now find themselves. I've met some of the most wonderful people in my life among those wanting to die. Irony. Irony. Irony.
When i was put in a mental hospital at 15 i had at least two staff members ask me what the hell i was doing there... This video really hit home😢😢💚💚💚
My clients have a habit of asking “am I crazy?” so this video has helped me.
I go through these phases of hating your videos then loving them, then hating them and then finding something really useful that I only really understood once I reached a certain point/situation in my life. Has to be my favorite channel. Wish we had a MacklerAI we could pump questions into.
reminds me of when i was so confused because my extreme grief over capitalism and the education system and inequality was pathologized as clinical depression with a lot of emphasis on chemical imbalance when i knew it didnt feel like that. what i needed was to grieve, learn to manage my real and valid feelings, and frankly the adoption of a little bit of denial. and i wondered why the antidepressants never worked!
That reminds me of when I went to a therapist because I was so depressed to find out all my friends and families in South Carolina really were straight up racists. For years, I had tried to convince myself that their love of NASCAR, football, country music and the confederate flag was just a matter of taste; and their lack of intellectual curiosity was simply a matter of temperament. Then after a few years of listening to what they had to say about Obama, it became plain to me they believe they are part of a master race that needs to be protected from obliteration! Damn! Imagine my surprise. By the time I started seeing Trump signs in people's yards, I felt like I was going to lose my mind.
@@jedwardsish It helps me to understand that confirmation bias is a real thing. I don't believe we have much control over what we think is "true". Our brains fool us all the time. Whatever belief we start with snowballs because of confirmation bias and we can't do much about it unless we somehow become aware of it and examine our thinking. How else can one explain people with opposite ideas and both are CERTAIN that THEY possess the "truth"? Everybody wants the same things, we just have different ideas on how to get there depending on our lifetime perceptions. Also, consider the idea the free will is an illusion. It can lead to more compassionate feelings about both others and yourself. Cheers!
I wonder if antidepressants' real goal is to make victims of abuse shut up. I mean the pills don't make the abuse stop but they make the victim numb and uninterested in talking about their experience.
@@tinet7056 yes 100% it’s only goal.
If you look at any clinical trials success isn’t considered actually working through the trauma or grief.
It’s based on does this chemical hide the symptoms enough for you to go to work or function. It never actually addresses the problem just masks it!
Holy Shit.....
@@jedwardsish So you figured out your family are idiots! :D I feel you. It took me years to understand that my parents were not showing me love not because I was a bad child...but because they are idiots incapable of expressing love.
I love that you make it clear that often a person is pathologized simply because that's what society is taught to do with every person. I can't say I always agree with you, but I really appreciate you. Your voice is strong and informative. Thank you.
Interesting. My mother and sister both blocked out family stuff. My sister still dissociates but calls it shutting down. The capacity for denial is stunning. I had a psych prof who said family violence can be cultural. I disagreed. If it's sick it's sick. It may occur more frequently in some cultures, or be more acceptable, but it's still wrong. Nothing healthy comes out of it.
do most cultures tolerate familial abuse? seems like it though some cultures are worse than others
If by cultural, he means they have no laws against it, then I agree that it's cultural. Doesn't make it healthy. Doesn't mean they wouldn't benefit from progress. Some cultural shifts are overdue.
Several years ago I went to what was for me an important meeting, whether I would be accepted onto a training course. This was something I'd wanted to do for a long time, I wanted to help others after my own horrible experiences. But, just before I left the house, I had the sad news that a good friend of mine had suddenly died from the cancer she'd only been recently diagnosed with. I loved that woman like my sister. I was really upset, so my mother offered to drive me to my interview. I couldn't stop crying. However, I managed to stop the tears before I walked in the building. There were two of them interviewing me and I felt like I was being analysed the whole time...oh, your glasses are green!, you write with a green pen! Staring at my tear-stained face. I explained to them about my friend. Soon, after the interview I had a letter saying they would NOT accept me on their training course as a therapist because of my own trauma... That was so unfair. I later learned they had too many applicants and that was their inhuman response.
I think NOT crying when a best friend has suddenly died young would be a REAL cause of concern, wouldn't it?!
If they stopped accepting people with their own trauma into therapist training programs, there would be no therapists in this world.
Yes. People are deranged.
Your videos inspire me and make me feel less alone. Thank you!
Sadness comes to.all in time
Feeling sad is not a crime
Release those tears; let them flow
You will see it will help you grow.
😊
So hard to wake up thanks for the encouragement and validation on moving forward!
"Projection: seeing unresolved, unconscious, split off parts of ourselves in somebody else."
"It's very painful for society to change. It's very painful for people to change."
Great insights!
Watching your videos is like listening to myself talk, the shared experiences and world view are uncannily similar.
I never studied psych though, just thought about it.
The difference between crazy and not crazy depends on the therapist, researcher, professor, or narrator at any given time. It also depends on current psychological fashion. And many people ha e crazy moments or irrational moods.
It can also be healthy to be crazy in certain situations. By that, I mean the person is reacting normally. This Kavenaugh situation is making millions of women relive their sexual assaults. It's all over twitter. Reliving it is common.
How people define "crazy" is arbitrary (outside of going on shooting sprees) and, if we're lucky enough to grow in to old age having wandered into many different villages, crazy happens.
@ Rosanne No, being crazy is not relative to other peoples' opinions. It is not in the eye of the beholder. The social, cultural norm of sanity/craziness, however, is relative in this sense, but actual sanity is not. Over the years I have matured and grown much more open. This maturation is essentially due to a lot of meditation, healing work and psychotherapy. As a result I have become wiser, believe it or not. It is perfectly clear to me that sanity is a matter of the objective degree of an individuals emotional openness and how well integrated the individuals actions and thoughts are with her emotional world. This is difficult to measure, but the degree of sanity is nevertheless essentially an objective feature of reality. Perhaps you were focusing on the cultural norm of sanity in your comment, in which case I agree totally. However, sanity is such an important issue that a brief comment perhaps was called for. Best regards
Love this.
The world needs more people like you.
Whatever I'm doing I interrupt it when I see you posted a new video and watch immediately. Enlightening material, thank you. And often the timing for my life is perfect, too.
Love this. I’ve always been that person that I feel is on the “healthier side of crazy” whose been labeled crazy(by family members). I’m an empath that also tends to attract people with narcissistic traits and feel incredibly lonely most of the time. Every time I’ve seen a therapist though they all tell me that I’m very intelligent(not trying to come across as arrogant), and they will even go as far to say as I don’t seem like I should have a mental illness because I’m so aware. But that awareness is why I suffer. I’ve always been the scapegoat of my family trying to address issues, but I’m “bad” because I do. For example, my mom will smoke in front of my son or nephew, I get angry and cut her off, but according to her she “didn’t do it” even though I saw her while she was doing it and I’m “crazy.” It’s 2018, everyone knows smoking is terrible and you don’t do it in front of children. I got mad when my parents kept letting my senior dog out by the pool because she could drown. What happened within a week of me moving out, she drowned in the pool. I was so angry at my fathers pure recklessness, but what could I do? My dog was dead and he wouldn’t care what I thought. I’m surrounded by carelessness and negligence and tend to attract those people, so I often feel “crazy” for trying to cope or make sense out of fucked up situations. Most of the time I just have to let things go, and keep people at a distance until I can address it. I’ve recently joined lots of meet ups with like minded and healthy people and having the validation from others that these situations are fucked up(and even more so than I’m aware of at times) and I’m not “crazy” has helped me. I suggest anyone going through something similar to find any groups regarding growth and healing, I promise it will help.
i still havent been able to really put my finger on why narcissists are attracted to me (as an "empath"). like i get it intellectually but it still doesnt really make sense to me.
OMG!! Everything you said is exactly me too. For years i thought i was 'the crazy' one. Finally at 55 i'm realizing the same thing. THEY were the crazy ones. I get the loneliness too. I've locked myself away in my home for years now, to keep myself safe from toxic people and narcissists. I needed to hear what you wrote today and i will try your meet up suggestion. I need to surround myself with people, healthy people. The problem is they are so hard to find.
@@rishaa682 i get that.
Incredible what you say about childhood. I am remembering things from my childhood every day. My childhood has been very good overall and for that I am thankful. Still, there have been a few "odd" days. I ask myself if I downplay them, or overrate them. Thanks for your great videos. I will read at least one of your books too.
I have had very similar thoughts and observations of a long time now. I wrote about this in a draft for a book a few years ago. Good video, Daniel.
Cheers!
-Darius
This is really great work you're doing now, DM. The Human Cognosphere is improving as you talk!
Cognoshpere?what does this mean
I am experiencing this right now. I finally told the truth last night and the response I got from the person who is supposed to love and protect me was absolutely insane and subversive. I expected a degree of denial but this was illuminating as to the depth of sickness that's there. Luckily I have friends who are able to affirm my reality. But wow.
As usual Daniel you are the sanest person I’ve ever listened to. Much love ❤️ to you.
Es cierto. Las personas se aterran con la verdad, una de las principales mentiras es que aprecian a las personas honestas, pero cuando se encuentran con un persona que realmente dice las cosas como son o incluso como las ve o las siente haciendo distinción en que es una percepción personal. La persona honesta es rechazada. Yo he sufrido este rechazo y aislamiento todo la vida, porque siempre he tratado de poner la verdad en primer lugar y esa búsqueda de la verdad, de ver las cosas tal como son me ha llevado a tomar este viaje al crecimiento personal. He estado conectado con el pasado, enfrentando la verdad, por dolorosa que sea y atravesando los traumas. Debo decir que vale la pena, aún así llorando diariamente nunca me he sentido tan libre y feliz. Y me alegra no ser la única que está haciendo este viaje. Gracias por los videos, me han ayudado de formas que no puedo explicar.
No puedo llorar lo tanto que lo trato, y eso duele.
This video explains why people are afraid of me. I advocate for people with disability and since the disability sector attracts a lot of nasty parasitical type of people who relish the opportunity to abuse those less fortunate than themselves or to simply exploit them, I have a tendency to speak up about the injustice that is perpetrated.
This always leads me to having many companies (care or support work providers) refuse me service because I’m not afraid to call them out on their bullshit thus making me an enemy. I’ve become accustomed to being a loner but there was a time when I felt very isolated. What keeps me going is the fact that I have purpose. Looking out for people with disability, especially intellectually disabled people who wouldn’t hurt a fly, gives me a tremendous sense of purpose and I find it to be rewarding even if people don’t like me or gang up on me.
That’s when I know I’m really doing my job!
Hey Daniel, the best 10 min post ever!!! I resonate with all you say, keep the videos coming.....you’re an inspiration that is changing many people’s thoughts....and thought is everything 👍🏻🙏🏻
Once again..bless you one million times Daniel..your bright insight always offers new prdcious updated perspectives..you are coming to the new path if psychology even if you left your profession.Bless you..thanks God your intelligence is still going on working in this field. You are really helping many to understand much more..THANK YOU FOR THIS WORK!!
One of the biggest obstacles to warding off society's craziness is when anti-social traits are exemplified as a society's top virtues, whether due to attaining wealth, "purity," or popularity in a given society.
Another huge obstacle, as Daniel has pointed out, are traditions that we carry over that are fundamentally toxic to our mental and public health, simply because many of them helped us survive in a more brutal past (such as traditional gender roles). While women have made great leaps and strides in this area due to women's rights advocacy, the push-back is much greater for men to stay in their traditional roles or face ridicule and scorn from many different parts of society, including from folks who would advocate for women's rights.
Hi Dan, thanks for this insightful video. ~ Two stories come to mind, that I feel inclined to share., one day I was speaking with my therapist & was feeling frustrated with the feeling of not getting anywhere with the bi-weekly sessions, I tell him a story. “ imagine a guy comes to NYC, and he has a fight with a person on the subway. He is under attack , and he defends himself & in the process kills the man, then cuts off his ear & eats it. He would be arrested & locked up as criminally insane ! ~ My therapist balked, & looked at me. “What are you trying to say ? “ ~ “ but wait, “ I say, “ there’s more to the story . What if I told you that the guy is from Papua New Guinea, and in his indigenous tribe, the warrior men kill & eat their enemies. It’s a tribal thing.” ~ Would you still classify him as insane ? ~ CSW, is still in a panic thinking I was trying to tell him I was in the mood to kill somebody ! Ok, obviously he was just a body in the room where I went in & talked to the walls. ~ A few years later, getting bored with my many sessions & group meetings at a local clinic, I asked my doctor, she was the top doc in the psych clinic, very professional, and always treated me nice. ~ One day, I asked her, “ do people ever get well?” She askes, “ what do you mean?” So I rephrase it, “ ~ have you ever met a person without symptoms of imbalance or abnormalities ? “ She laughed & said, “~ no, everybody has glitches. Even me. “ ~ I ask her again, to be sure I heard her correctly. Yep. Everybody has glitches. There is no such thing as a perfect person ! So I said, “ then why am I coming here ? “ ~ She didn’t answer. ~ I never went back. ~ In my recent years, I found out, I was going to therapy to get some help, with moving thru painful past experiences, and I needed help learning some processes to continue to develop myself as an individual. ~ Unfortunately, most of my seasons consisted of me talking about what went wrong .. today, last week, etc. The counselors do not give advice or lead.. 🤔🙄😎 I am happy to say, I figured out that LIFE itself hurt me, but LIFE itself, can help me get well. And, it did !!!
Yay!
Thank you for sharing this.
Merry Graphix
Awesome! Been there, done that. Not the killing part!
It's interesting how most if not all therapists want to keep you in the story but never give real methods to navigate out and find peace. Last one told me to just not think about it anymore. She was a CBT person. It was a total waste. I the decided I'm done. No more I'm perfect the way I am. I'm good I'm decent I'm sensitive than others. That's just they baseline of my perceptions. It truly is time to move on.
yeah at the hospital I was at I saw a few times nurses will tie patients just for crying, I saw one youtuber from the US shared that when patients cried at her ward they will inject them. I think this is crazy, psychiatry in itself is crazy.
You are so refreshing. I can't thank you enough for these videos.
Depending who I'm around, I sometimes hear myself say 'let's look at reality.. what's right in front of us' over & over 😥
Our society needs people like you!!!! 👏👏👏👏👏❤️
You have a gift explaining this stuff. Thank you for making videos.
Purff I love the way he talks with his hands! I'll tell ya Jews and Italians(which i am) r so similar characteristically. He's like balm so sweet and soothing :-) :-) Or maybe im just CRAAAAAAAAAAAZY!!!!!!! 😊🎅☺😂💝🎃🎆🎊🎉🎵🎼🎤🎶
agreed 100%---truth is soooo refreshing
Thank you for this. I’ve grown up outside of my parents’ country aka third culture kid. And I’ve been think a lot about the relationship between culture and mental illness and where I fit in. Your video really helped in giving me courage in living my truth.
Another wonderful video. How can we support you best?
I think it is bipolar who will most tend to be "healthier than society". You can even find lowered dynorphin during the manic phase, and dynorphin is linked to the suffering states, I believe psychosis and depression both stem from dynorphin activity. Dynorphin causes dysphoria, dissociation, etc. I believe mania is the state that psychedelics induce.
you speaks so much common sense and truth. when you talk about healthy people it reminds me of shamanism, shamans were healers who had experienced a level of pain and trauma but though they are/were healers, they were often feared and shunned.
Schopenhauer explained very well in his superb " Counsels and Maxims, how people who have GREAT CAPACITY are often "aliens in society" or even misanthropic in the sense that they PREFER to be alone, even though they DO feel lonely. Yes, they have no friends. Yet society stigmatizes them because they think that if you prefer to be alone, there must be something wrong with you, just like you said people say. Schopenhauer explains that while it is true that being alone is not natural, " for when we are born we are surrounded by parents and siblings", it is indeed the "lesser of two evils, for having as little to do as possible with the majority of people is wise, since by doing that you also avoid their wickedness and stupidity, which are characteristics most people have." Instead, no, society says that if you are not throwing parties etc you are a weirdo.
Fantastic share! Thanks for content. Just bought your book on breaking with parents. Looking forward to reading :)
Daniel, you are just phenomenal, thank you man :-)
🙏 ‘s truth traveler. Over and over again, video after video I can relate positively to your views. I remember the video in witch you said a good friend could replace a therapist and it’s so true. 💗 💗 💗 💗
I had 2 psychotic episodes. I spoke a lot of words in my episodes, but no one could understand anything I was saying. Individual parts of my sentences could make sense, but the entire sentence made no sense. I also couldn't understand other people, as any reply I made was completely unrelated or on some mad tangent. Many times in these experiences I was pinned down and had some sort of tranquilliser injected into me. I wasn't being violent, but I was probably being loud and appeared angry. I was very deluded and had many crazy thoughts so I'm pretty sure it's fair to have called me crazy. But I understand how deluded I was, now that I am healthy. Luckily I managed to not get stuck on psychiatric drugs, I don't think they help - at best they zombify you, a bit like getting a lobotomy but not so bad and more over long term. My anti-psychotics were making me feel very strange, but since I was ill I did not realise it was the drugs, I thought it was part of me being ill/crazy, but when I just decided to stop taking them, and then after a month start taking them again, these weird feelings started coming back, so I stopped and now the weird feelings are gone. I still have a bit of jaw clenching, but no way near as much as when I was taking anti-psychotic drugs.
I think medicine has a long way to come to get anywhere near solving mental illness. Medicine has come so far in so many other areas, but I believe mental illness is the last area that has yet to be substantially solved. I think it will take a good 200 years before decent progress is made. In the mean time, simple yet powerful drugs will be prescribed for complex problems, and psychiatrists will still believe it is all about 'chemical imbalance', when actually these crazy states of consciousness are much more complex - we don't understand consciousness so how can they explain away different states of consciousness as 'chemical imbalance' ? And there is very little understanding of how these drugs actually fix the mental illness, instead they seem to mostly zombify people and take their personality away - yeah they won't go "crazy" because they are zombies on these brutal drugs.
Perfect timing Daniel!! Today I am connecting with deep emotions from childhood and I have this "am I becoming crazy?". I know I am not but I think the fear has to do with experiencing these "inaproppiated" emotions. This is a fantastic video, it reminds me of your first series of videos here on TY.
Thank you. These talks breathe life into me. Thank you for sharing your experience and great wisdom. 🙏
This made me feel validated thank you I’m around a bunch of crazy people who aren’t in touch with themselves it’s aad
Best description of "crazy vs not crazy" I've ever herd! We are all crazy or delusional to some degree, but some (most?) are more crazy than others.
Also. I have been 'that guy' you describe who tackles stuff people don't like me talking about. I've learned to be somewhat considerate to people, how and when I express this stuff but I've also made a definite decision to be apart from what people too-quickly value or judge as sane or crazy. I just realized that's not at all in vain, but useful.
So. Thanks!
Yes SOCIETY IS DELUSIONAL. I am the antithesis of SOCIETY AND hated for not going along. I’ve had to get used to being alone. Love ❤️ u Daniel.
This Video helps me a lot I denial a lot. Even withdrawal into my room for days. Only leave my room to buy food or do a short walk. My conflict is to see people when I go outside and to have the wish to approach them. But in the same time I don’t want to look awkward. So I just walk through the streets and ignore everyone and walk almost like a blind guy, loosing touch too my body. And I hear everyone say: „He looks only. He does not come.“ This repeats everyday. Sometimes I see or hear happy people and want to join them but then I think they will see I’m weird. And I start to feel uncomfortable and prefer to hide and run away. Sometimes I join a group - my maximum is one hour. Then I want to cry because I see it’s all in my head and the people around me a good, joyful and in peace. Their is nothing to worry about. In that moment I want to grab someone and cry into his shoulders. But then I’m afraid the people around me see I’m not in a good state of mind. So I refuse every situation of joy and happiness in a group. It’s a lonely life.
I am fond of this series
I enjoyed the wording used to explain things. Thank you
Totally makes sense, from start to finish. I can't believe I missed those videos in 2018.
I was scanning psychological videos from 2015 - I never stumbled upon Daniel.
And that is partly due to topic of this video. It is only in 2020 that I discovered term Complex Trauma - by reading random DK book about general health. It was not even mentioned on you tube videos which I watched weekly since 2015 for 5 years.
As soon as I discovered concept of CPTSD I got exposed to much deeper and healthier videos on you tube, such as this one.
So spot on. Daniel speaks the truth! Thank you Daniel!
I love your channel. I appreciate your openness. Thanks for sharing your perspective on the psychotherapy field.
Why aren't your channel bigger, your content is amazing.
This is the single best video I've ever seen.
I have so often wondered if I was crazy. Or..if the world around me was. Perhaps I was actually quite sane and the workings and processes of society were crazy, as well as cruel and greedy instead. How do we justify the state of our earth, oceans and beautiful animal kingdom, if not by concluding that most of humanity is crazy? Why are we destroying what is the most wonderous gift and vital to our sutvival?
Turn on the TV and surely you shake your head at what's entertainning the masses...me crazy? Because I cry at a dead roo on the road, because I can't help more, because I see and hear the loneliness and fear of others...me crazy because my parents hurt each other so much and I still, at 60, feel so hurt by that time. .... I choose to live alone, isolated with my dogs and garden and part time carer work. I long for connection with another human that understands. Daniel thank heavens I've stumbled upon your work! You say what I'm thinking with such clarity and humour, oh I could hug you for being out there amongst all the craziness!!! Thank you. Please continue.
Brilliant as always keep it coming!
This is brilliant!
Please keep posting videos
I love your videos please keep making them!
So well articulated Daniel so well articulated!!!!!!
OMG!!!!Thank you! I love you for doing this video I stumbled upon today! Today I feel justified and feels good! Thanks for just getting it.For REAL.TKS AGAIN,PEACE.
im a very young adult from europe and i have listened to your videos and felt so validated. Truly, thank you Daniel. You really alleviate my doubts a lot. Could you explore the question of how one gets closer to split of parts of themselves? If you did that would be wonderful and id be grateful to be able to liste. If not, im still going to listen to whatever you put out. Have a great day/week/month/season/year!
Man you're such a Genius I learn so much from you thank you so much
Great session.... Thanks
Well said. Describes the following: in the subway a young black guy says something ab’t my sneakers. Then threatens me with a dental pick. I say, what’s that? He says “it’s for your teeth.” I ignored him. Later I find out ab’t a nasty tooth infection I had for years. Strange stuff like that has been going on forever. Too crazy to think about.
Average MD or P-doc? If other anomalous stuff comes up they’d likely refer me elsewhere or whip out the prescription pad.
I took the whole prescription menu 17 years ago. Made everything worse. I stay away from prescriptions, OTC & street drugs.
Yep. The people don’t like to see themselves, and will call you crazy if you call them out. Big society is just like little society (family). Well 🤔 thank you 🙏
AGREE!!! Rock on!!!
Daniel, you are so wright!
Your videos are great help in saving my sanity and integration. Thank you :)
Dave Chappelle would agree with agreed with your first 2 minutes you correctly asserted. The rest of it is spot on, strong language. R-rated for those have multiple realities.
Call me crazy, I remain quiet, they will take their rage, anger elsewhere everytime. …
It’s more about the sick situation. “Society is……
Certainly there are aspects of American society, which as an Australian, just look wacko jacko out of this galaxy. Like children saying the pledge every day and flag worship. One sees this and think WTF is this cult called the good old US of A! Sometimes there is mention that Yahweh should not be in the pledge and I think "What are you blabbering on about? The whole pledge with or without a god is religious mania and why have ANY pledge at all". There are penalties for children who not want any part of that flag worship, and shunning. Americans can not see it the mania, beyond the inclusion of Yahweh bit.
Put this on my favourites - totally agree with this - thank you
well said. well thought out. thanks again.
I really enjoy your videos and take on psychological issues. Very insightful. You are a gifted human being!
Thank you for making this video it is much appreciated.
To consider that "my crazy" could actually be the result of having to adhere to a false narrative of reality (societies' mass denial), is eye opening and empowering. Raised in a dysfunctional family, I used to see myself as the invisible child. Recently, I learned children from narcissistic families, exhibit another set of character traits. In my case, I am a Truth Teller. So, if I add what I know to what you know Daniel, kids who expose the truth are GAS LIT to believe they are "crazy". Good to know. Thanks.
I love your videos. You make me think.
Marla Robinson i love his vids because hes so damn cute!! :-) :-) CRAZY NO??? :-) :-)
Such a great video. This is where I trying to get at. Thank you.
This is a super troll day for me. RUclips put Russian captions on this video when I started watching. First time I ever saw that.😂TY so much for your work & sharing your valuable voice & experience. I agree with all you say because I know from my years in Foster Care & Psych nursing. I was a suicidal Psych med Nurse. Bless you & all you hold dear.🙏💞
This was great! Thank you!
This is so fucking true. Also here's an alternative way of looking on the word 'crazy': Maybe it is just a word that people created to refer to a psychological and behavioral state of a person that makes them afraid of them and is used to judge them so that 'crazy people' will hide these parts of themselves and judge themselves so that tge others don't have to deal with what makes tgem afraid and why.
This really resonates, I guess my dilemma is in finding healthy ways to cope and exist in our current society without resorting to escapism and isolation. Finding out how to cultivate happiness..I think a lot of pain comes from a desire to be unconscious to the madness because that's accepted as "normal". In our society there seems to be a comfort that comes from unawareness. It seems like a luxury, it's what to do with the awareness that is troubling for me. Like yes everything is fucked up and that includes me because i'm a product of the whole system now what ? healing feels like a life time journey with no destination in site.
If only someone like you could be my mentor as a beginning psychologist.
That's right - there are not multiple realities. There is just one reality, with multiple nuances that make the picture complex.
Thanks 🙏 so much Daniel !
To say that there is only one reality is .. a theory at best. An idea we can casually state, though have no idea of the scope of or metaphysical influences to reality. We can have a general consensus on basic aspects of shared human existence that are within a set 'normal' range based on average experience, but we cannot say with authority that there is one overarching reality when unexplained cosmic and even quantum events occur constantly that defy laws of physics as we understand.
This is a super educational and awesome video! Such a great n passionate communicator! I’d love to see one about how if you are authentic and trying to work thru stuff like that... and... the jail system and society... and gaslighting people who are honest n real. Because they already admitted they’re a little crazy soooo it’s easy to blame them for everything cuz they already offered up the escape route. It’s their fault! Haha
AMAZING AMAZING WORK, thx so much for the authenticity and kick assnsss
YES! YOU'RE A GODSEND!
A great example of this is veganism. People like to condemn and label vegans as militant and religious and on and on when in reality they don't have any protests with the intent to destroy property and attack people and such or believe in a higher being.
All they say is to stop using animals unnecessarily, such as eating them for every meal. The amount of health and environmental issue this causes is insane, not to mention the conditions of the places they keep those animals in while labeling them "free range" "organic" "pasture raised"... all labels are basically meaningless with terrible laws protecting those statements, an easily abused system. Also those slaughter houses and the workers are sick. Tons of psychopathic junkies that punch and kick and stab those animals before slitting their throats. It's an absolute disgrace that we allow such places to exist.
Daniel, did you hear for those "primitive" people, in Africa, who surround their neighbor-citizen who make something bad or wrong, and talk to him, all together, few days without brake, that he/she is gorgeous, that they all love him so much and that all society is so sad and need him to feel better :-) How "primitive", ha? Only Soul can heal soul..
That's wonderful, we should learn from them.
I realize that I can be in touch with reality when I hear voices. It seems to happen when I am depressed. I know what is going on while I hear them. Everyone who insulted me seem to be in denial of how they hurt me. My Dad who is dead, I am was hoping that he get some help because he seemed to have explosive anger disorder. I think my family has forgotten how my Dad got them against me. A lot of people will harass me for my look which is my age, race and nationality. I have people who curse at me while they drive. I had a person yell at me because I wasn’t walking fast enough when I had the right of way. I am glad for your ideas. Maybe I wasn’t what people thought I was or think that I am. Today, I heard these young men talk about their ancestry while they are supposed to disrespect me for being Karen looking. My Mom tells me not to talk about people who are wrong about me. I wish that this man was my psychiatrist. Is there something wrong with defending me