@@lishmarlin7055 One of the greatest challenges as a creator is that our most impactful/hardest to produce work doest get the same financial support as some of the easier projects.😔
The wisdom of this woman is a reflection of deeper understanding of what a woman actually is. The people who have been engineering the destruction of the family will pay dearly. Their time is almost up.
His dialogue on "Different perspectives" is such a great dialogue that a lot of men (myself included) needed to hear. It's not about someone being better, it's about someone being able to help you simply because they can see the situation from a different vantage point 👏🏿👍🏿🔥.
Shout out to you brother Obi for recognizing the imminent danger ahead for our people in our current trajectory, and attempting to remedy it in advance. Our Ancestors smile favorably upon you!
Bruh… I Dig this couple and I’m praying for there Union, I caught them on another platform and love their message. Tap in‼️ I haven’t even heard the episode yet but I know the message is full of 💎!! Shout out to the 336!!!
This video is a gem! This is complimentary to how I foresee the lifestyle of marriage. This video will definitely be in my archives and watched over and over again! This is black love! Thank you for this beautiful couple and their story!
Omg this conversation was soooo needed! So many things that I tell my husband is being confirmed here. Please show more of this cause this definitely is going to set this page apart from all the nonsense being fed to men in the manesphere
@@mafamac4069 No shots or tactics intended on the movement. I’m totally down with the whole uprising and I watch and discuss a lot of the content with my husband. It’s undeniable that there is a lot of content out there that is just as damaging as what is being revealed about the “modern woman” and thats what I mean by the “nonsense”. I salute this brother every time I get the chance because his content is truly genuine and he gives me the vibe that he truly wants resolution and understanding between the genders for the black community, that is only way to build the bridge back to one another. Not just saying what’s trending to caress the male ego. which is what is seen on most channels with the same content. He has a way of articulating what needs to be said for there to be understanding. My hat is off to this man every time and wish there where more like him.
@@preciousmocha78 Don't you think saying what's trendy to appease the so called "Male Ego" is justified and necessary I mean As a modern young man ever since birth I hv been seeing and hearing how terrible, stupid, inconsiderate and useless we are as men. Especially from these female Talk shows our mothers watch and the news, Female blogs, TV shows etc For once men have a voice and they hv a right to use it how ever they see fit. Just like this Sir right here who's trying to use his platform and voice for the betterment of his community Even the bitter ones deserve to talk and spread their message. that's how i see it anyway 😅
@@mafamac4069 I hear what your saying. I guess two things can be true at the same time. At the end of the day I’m just trying to say that this brothers content is what will actually make a difference.
The fact is that these two individuals right here did the best thing you could do for the black community. Which is when they got married, stayed married & raised a family together. Mission Accomplished. Job well done.
As the provider husband to a domestic engineer who home schools our children and provides peace in our household, this video was phenomenal to see. It is critically important to have a counterbalance of imagery and expression from Black married couples who’ve achieved success in their relationship. There has literally never been a TV show that showcased a Black happily married, fulfilled, stay at home mother. There’s a reason for that… Thank you for giving a platform for what success in our community looks like beyond finance. 🙏🏾🤙🏾
Their kids are in such an excellent position like good lord to have two parents like this raising you and one homeschooling you omg they’re going to be immaculate. Thank you Obi because we would’ve never had the chance to be a fly on their wall w/o your platform. Salute, keep doing what you’re doing to save the community black man ✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿
Another amazing conversation and I appreciate their viewpoints. I will say That I think a lot of these conversations we have about love,marriage, and relationships never fully take into account the role social media\technology play in how we view them.
Conversation was 🔥. Loved her awareness of the need for a journey of self awareness. Clearly she is educated and plays a dual role without abandoning her femininity. They chose the best family dynamic for them and will build. No doubt a recipe for happiness and success.
A lot of us Muslims Christians Jews aren't supposed to live a promiscuous lifestyle and listening to people in a healthy marriage is important too. We have a community to build.
This may be content I need, bc lately I feel myself becoming MGTOW almost involuntarily. Casual dating doesn’t interest me anymore, at the same time I don’t trust enough to risk giving a woman my seed or my last name either. So lately I rather just not waste nobody’s time. Logic has brought me to this point, but I’m open to new perspectives.
This is what we need to see more on our social media timelines ( I am not on social media) we need to see more beautiful black couples on here to feed us with positivity.
The key here is mentorship, as well as several other factors they discuss (mindset, collective planning, self awareness, same mindedness, delayed gratification, priorities, etc). Getting married young, in this society, is not a good idea unless the components this couple discusses are present. Our society does not produce mature young people. Our society produces self-centered individualist mindsets. I believe they are the exception to the rule. I think it is important for people to receive their message within the proper context. Again, if you listen to the conversation, they provide the context that made their young marriage successful. But if you do not find yourself inside of this mindset/consciousness and context, then a young marriage is absolutely not going to work for you.
This was the most solid marriage conversation I've ever watched... They were so on point with everything! Do they have a marriage class for singles who want to prepare for thier mate?
Dope interview and necessary perspective. You don't hear enough from happily, successfully, married couples almost ever. Let alone having them breakdown the many aspects of marriage and how one person impacts the other. Plus they highlighted the importance of a support system of married people you can trust to help you through rough patches.
This is absolutely crème de la crème of content that feeds and is simultaneously entertaining, but it’s only for a select few by transitive property of: “common sense not being so common” May this rise to the top like it should
Allen, despite all the misunderstandings and miscommunication going on in this sphere, from all sides, this was simply beautiful. We don’t have to agree all the time on everything as long as we are going in the right direction.
Thanks brother Obi for producing content on a high frequency. The couple being interviewed brought tons of wisdom and substance. I have difference of opinion on men marrying before the age of 30 yrs. old. However, I respect the perspective.
This is a great masterclass in what Commitment, Marriage, & Blk Love looks & sounds like. It's great exposure for people in these YT spaces that didn't grow up in good, traditional households with two married parents. I saw & experienced my parents day to day cooperation & marriage for the 43 years of my life, up to that time. They were together for 10 years before I was born. Many years ago... 17yrs in fact, I had to have this conversation with my wife who didn't grow up with her father in the house, married to her mother, and didn't recognize what cooperation looked like. Her mom raised her as a divorced, single mother and she was too young to remember her father in the home. I had to remind her what a committed, Blk marriage felt and looked like. Hopefully, this video helps a lot of people need to see & hear what Commitment, Cooperation, and Blk Love looks and sounds like. This is a good move and should be repeated on your channel. 👍🏾👍🏾
This is a Wonderful conversation! I hope it gains traction... Enough said except I might add when my Brotha was talking about happiness being feelings and we should seek Joy... What I would say is Joy is given to us by the Lord, through His Grace... Good section!
Hey Brother, this is a great couple and conversation, I think they have a perspective that is really needed in our community. Every black person needs to see and hear this. Although it would help be from any background. Bless keep the ministry coming 🙏🏿
Bro I’ve been binge watching these and you’re a god seen. We’re the same age and you got on every aspect of the black community. You bring the great Dr. T Hassan Johnson more prominence and still keep Kev alive. You take the best of Kevin and the Dr.’s best points and you just create masterpieces.
This conversation right here, is a conversation that everyone needs to tune into, my wife and I got married young, we've been married for 18 years, I believe that it saved us from this crazy dating world we see now, seeing friends and family members go through the dating seen now is wild, but anyway our marriage is working because, we are on the same path and we actually like and love each other, with the understanding that marriage is a duty first
Weellllllllll……. Good segment between the two. I think that the experience the sista was speaking was invaluable!! The brotha seemed like he was speaking against the manosphere than about personal experience, in which from what he described, sounded invaluable when he went into detail!
Like James, I have been married to my wife longer then I have not. Im 43 and this July will be 24 years. Thank you for this interview and illustrating to people that marriage is and can be a beautiful blessing, when you have two people committed to their covenant. Salute to all involved.
This is and was a great watch.... 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 applause for there amazing pair respect.... I like how she said if she was a men she would be her husband and that's amazing to hear from her as a wife... a woman that manages her emotions Is great woman in my opinion
I would love to hear more context surrounding the correlation between the 29:25 “Good Man v. Nice Guy” conversation and the upbringing/family environment conversation 1:13:42 . Less than 20% of Black people in America grow up in an environment with a married mother and father in the house; so the purpose, and character trait conversations end up being completely foreign. This also ties back to the focusing on purpose segment since purpose is tied to character.
It’s great to hear this advice. I advocate for doing the extra work, research and self-examination as much as you possibly can, to make the best decision for a spouse. If you believe in the Bible, you know Marriage is till death do you part. So, make this commitment with wisdom, knowledge, Love and joy.
These are the tenured professors with the credibility worth listening to. It's not a sensational as some of the clips and interviews of lost confused women but this is where the answer lies
I hear the marry young concept but if they are not grounded it can't work. Women period want something from men whether young or older. However I appreciate the conversation and seed planting of promoting family
No thanks. I woul not reccomend young men marry young. All the OGs reccomend that, that is not conducive or good idea for young men. Ion really listen to women when it comes to conversation about manhood. Not saying that I'm not a student of life, but women tend to not deal in logic as well as a man. Especially in this climate. Young men barely know how to vet women properly
@@furiousgtribal4325 that’s the problem. You can’t encourage young women to marry early without encouraging young men to marry early. As long as men delay marriage so will women.
@@aferg76 That's fine. I don't believe in encouraging women to marry young. Especially because women flip flop their emotions day by day. Since the abundance of options they have with simps offering to fly them out, take trips, and have all these exciting experiences. Women have always been the more spontaneous sex when it comes to their day to day. Imagine, two months of your man not having taken you out on a date because of time, work, or whatever? Her mind may wander back to remembering this guy offered to get her in the club a day ago. VIP, drinks all night, behind the DJ Booth and all. And dudes are so lame today, these chicks will break their weak asses. With the amount of female games that's out there. That's why it's best for a guy to focus on his physique, , financial, and relationship skills. You gotta become that guy, she know she'd be a fool to lose
Western society is based on liberal ideologies and values. It’s not based on religious ones and that’s why there’s so much moral decay and social turmoil. I’m a muslim and lived in the Middle East for almost a decade. People getting married while they’re teenagers is normal. I only know one person, a former coworker, who married when he and his wife were 16.
You cannot walk into the Gym on the first day and be ready to perform at high level. That is an apt analogy for relationships. The problem is that there is no best practices that's commonly followed and too many people get damaged in the process of showing up. If I showed up at the gym and they just had equipment's all over the place with no instruction/instructors, I am likely to exercise incorrectly thereby hurting myself and developing an aversion to working out. That's why gym equipment are idiot proofed as much as possible.
I love this couple and what they are speaking is true. The problem is most people don’t want to sacrifice. That’s one of the root factors with today’s issues.
When men ask women what they bring it to the table we’re not talking about money. This is how I can tell they’ve been married for a long time and or not out here in the streets. When men say this, they are asking what do you bring to table that can benefit me as a man rather that be submissiveness, nurturing, support or even just great sex… money is the very last thing these men are talking about which shows me that this couple is really not fully up-to-date for this conversation…
Great conversation especially from Yolanda's side. Going to be honest the brother's perspective was off, maybe its because he hasn't been in the dating world for a while but he didn't even attempt to try to speak to the guys who is out there doing all the right things or at least on track to getting there. Seem like every perspective that was brought up of a guy having issues in the dating world it has to be something they are doing wrong. Like he brought up men should marry earlier and don't sleep around. To me that shows he doesn't have a good perspective on men I know plenty of men that would of been married in their 20s if they could, but either they weren't in a position financially to do so or the women in the environments there are in aren't looking to get married they are in their "fun" phase. That has been my experience as well. And a large percentage of guys in their 20s aren't even in a position to sleep around like that.
As men we can try our best to focus on where we can improve. Then these women also need to do same thing through listening to women like Yolanda. That’s how I interpreted it, although I get what you are saying.
She was a purpose driven women that's the main reason why any of this worked. Going to therapy means taking accountability and admitting you have issues. Good luck with finding a female to do that today. I never had a mentor. I grew up fighting kids in school, defending me and my brother from my mom's horrible decisions in men. Running away from my dad's house because all he knew was to beat me when made a mistake. It was and still is hard for me to trust anyone because everyone that I've called family has either let me down or I had to fight. I really don't trust black men even though I'm one myself. Around early June this year I asked my girlfriend after a little over a year to marry me. I had laid my out what I was going to do in the next 3 years. I got a promotion or so I thought, to a better job, purchased a house for my future family. Well my job sent me to a location that the corporation was actually cutting ppl in my field. Lots of ppl. So many ppl that I couldn't understand why was I even sent to that location. Well because of this my income went down, then on top of that my fiance hates the house that I purchased for our future family. The house is all brick 3 bedroom 2000 sq-ft in the university district in Detroit. Her complaint was it looks too old. The house was built in 1936 but was in excellent shape. Mind you She had no money to put forth to the purchase and the area she wanted to stay was more than I could afford at the time. But I had to make a move because interest rates were low. Well I guess that was enough.for hee to start having "issues". Saying stuff like I don't think I want to gave kids anymore, and I don't think I'm enough for you....well she went to rent a condo for almost more money than she could afford. She could've been here in the house with me not struggling. I know that's a lot but.i had ti air some things out. It's not as simple as the couple in the video will have you to believe.
This was a good listen. Thank you to all involved in producing this.
Thank YOU for the support 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Man brother Allen, this conversation is on a completely different level. This is "substance". Chai!!
Thank you so much my brother🙏🏿
@@wnttalkthis is what the community needs frfr salute to you fam 🫡
@@PrinceInawRakah 🫡
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This was necessary… showing how a family dynamic works with two willing spouses who accept and understand their roles in the marriage.
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This is the best conversation I've seen on RUclips this year, if not since I have been on this platform. Very much needed
Thank you so much!! 🙏🏿
Omg NEEDED THIS!!!🙏🙏
@@lishmarlin7055 One of the greatest challenges as a creator is that our most impactful/hardest to produce work doest get the same financial support as some of the easier projects.😔
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This joint got me slapping my desk and yelling in AGREEMENT, it's so GOOD. Thank you, I'm DEFINITELY sharing this wit my loved ones.
Preciate the love! 🙏🏾
The wisdom of this woman is a reflection of deeper understanding of what a woman actually is. The people who have been engineering the destruction of the family will pay dearly. Their time is almost up.
27 minutes in and I'm like 😮. This is well needed for our community right now. 💎 💎 💎 💎 🔥🔥🔥🔥👏🏾👏🏾
Knocked it out the park. Been looking for the next level to this conversation since KS. This is it!!
Wow! Thx! 🙏🏾
@@JamesPennJr No, thank you and your other half for being open and real with us. You both showed us a side of marriage many of us don't get to see!
His dialogue on "Different perspectives" is such a great dialogue that a lot of men (myself included) needed to hear. It's not about someone being better, it's about someone being able to help you simply because they can see the situation from a different vantage point 👏🏿👍🏿🔥.
You can only see from where you sit! 💯
@@Lionel_Can_Tell 🎯🎯
Shout out to you brother Obi for recognizing the imminent danger ahead for our people in our current trajectory, and attempting to remedy it in advance.
Our Ancestors smile favorably upon you!
Thank you my brother🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
@@wnttalk always, my brother!
This is the best episode I have heard thus far. They dropped so many gems that it's ridiculous. I love it.
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This is a series I definitely want to see more often.
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Bruh… I Dig this couple and I’m praying for there Union, I caught them on another platform and love their message. Tap in‼️ I haven’t even heard the episode yet but I know the message is full of 💎!! Shout out to the 336!!!
Yessir✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿
Preciate the prayers! 🙏🏾 💯
This video is a gem! This is complimentary to how I foresee the lifestyle of marriage. This video will definitely be in my archives and watched over and over again! This is black love! Thank you for this beautiful couple and their story!
Great interviews! A++ content as usual. Amazing blueprint for the black family dynamic in 2022. WE NEED MORE OF THIS!!!!
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This is it! Do not stop this series man. People need to see and hear what it takes to get married and what its actually like.
Omg this conversation was soooo needed! So many things that I tell my husband is being confirmed here. Please show more of this cause this definitely is going to set this page apart from all the nonsense being fed to men in the manesphere
😂😂 still had to take that shot at manosphere. I hear u tho
For the fact that you Said "nonsense" 😂
Good luck convincing ppl with that tactic.
@@mafamac4069 No shots or tactics intended on the movement. I’m totally down with the whole uprising and I watch and discuss a lot of the content with my husband. It’s undeniable that there is a lot of content out there that is just as damaging as what is being revealed about the “modern woman” and thats what I mean by the “nonsense”.
I salute this brother every time I get the chance because his content is truly genuine and he gives me the vibe that he truly wants resolution and understanding between the genders for the black community, that is only way to build the bridge back to one another. Not just saying what’s trending to caress the male ego. which is what is seen on most channels with the same content. He has a way of articulating what needs to be said for there to be understanding. My hat is off to this man every time and wish there where more like him.
@@preciousmocha78 Don't you think saying what's trendy to appease the so called "Male Ego" is justified and necessary
I mean As a modern young man ever since birth I hv been seeing and hearing how terrible, stupid, inconsiderate and useless we are as men. Especially from these female Talk shows our mothers watch and the news, Female blogs, TV shows etc
For once men have a voice and they hv a right to use it how ever they see fit. Just like this Sir right here who's trying to use his platform and voice for the betterment of his community
Even the bitter ones deserve to talk and spread their message. that's how i see it anyway 😅
@@mafamac4069 I hear what your saying. I guess two things can be true at the same time. At the end of the day I’m just trying to say that this brothers content is what will actually make a difference.
The fact is that these two individuals right here did the best thing you could do for the black community. Which is when they got married, stayed married & raised a family together. Mission Accomplished. Job well done.
As the provider husband to a domestic engineer who home schools our children and provides peace in our household, this video was phenomenal to see.
It is critically important to have a counterbalance of imagery and expression from Black married couples who’ve achieved success in their relationship. There has literally never been a TV show that showcased a Black happily married, fulfilled, stay at home mother. There’s a reason for that…
Thank you for giving a platform for what success in our community looks like beyond finance. 🙏🏾🤙🏾
Their kids are in such an excellent position like good lord to have two parents like this raising you and one homeschooling you omg they’re going to be immaculate. Thank you Obi because we would’ve never had the chance to be a fly on their wall w/o your platform. Salute, keep doing what you’re doing to save the community black man ✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿
Thanks for the kind words! 🙏🏾
@@JamesPennJr thank you my brother for sharing your story 🙏🏾
Another amazing conversation and I appreciate their viewpoints. I will say That I think a lot of these conversations we have about love,marriage, and relationships never fully take into account the role social media\technology play in how we view them.
That was a great line of question from Allen! 💯
Conversation was 🔥. Loved her awareness of the need for a journey of self awareness. Clearly she is educated and plays a dual role without abandoning her femininity. They chose the best family dynamic for them and will build. No doubt a recipe for happiness and success.
Best episode by far! Wish you blow up even bigger my brother. We NEED those conversations in our community!
A lot of us Muslims Christians Jews aren't supposed to live a promiscuous lifestyle and listening to people in a healthy marriage is important too. We have a community to build.
Let’s build! 💪🏾
This was a 5 star movie. Great work we need to get these views up
Thank you so much!!!
The wisdom in this video!!!! PHENOMENAL
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That was awesome. Been with my wife since I was 16. Im 40 now. This video humbled me.
Amazing to hear the candid stories from how the lasting married couples have formed and workout issues.
This may be content I need, bc lately I feel myself becoming MGTOW almost involuntarily. Casual dating doesn’t interest me anymore, at the same time I don’t trust enough to risk giving a woman my seed or my last name either. So lately I rather just not waste nobody’s time. Logic has brought me to this point, but I’m open to new perspectives.
Hang in there brotha! Men and women need each other.
It’s amazing the admiration they have for each other when they say my wife or my husband is truly a beautiful thing
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This the best convo I’ve heard in a looooooooong time…gonna share this everywhere, and I’m only 30 mins in
Love this. This needs way more views.
This is what we need to see more on our social media timelines ( I am not on social media) we need to see more beautiful black couples on here to feed us with positivity.
Regardless of your faith etc., this conversation is necessary for Black men and women. Share.
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The key here is mentorship, as well as several other factors they discuss (mindset, collective planning, self awareness, same mindedness, delayed gratification, priorities, etc). Getting married young, in this society, is not a good idea unless the components this couple discusses are present. Our society does not produce mature young people. Our society produces self-centered individualist mindsets. I believe they are the exception to the rule. I think it is important for people to receive their message within the proper context. Again, if you listen to the conversation, they provide the context that made their young marriage successful. But if you do not find yourself inside of this mindset/consciousness and context, then a young marriage is absolutely not going to work for you.
Spot on! Gotta take it all in full context! You get it! 💯
What a breath of fresh air! This was wonderful and needed. I'm taking notes. Thanks so much of this. Keep up the good work.
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This was the most solid marriage conversation I've ever watched... They were so on point with everything! Do they have a marriage class for singles who want to prepare for thier mate?
Dope interview and necessary perspective. You don't hear enough from happily, successfully, married couples almost ever. Let alone having them breakdown the many aspects of marriage and how one person impacts the other. Plus they highlighted the importance of a support system of married people you can trust to help you through rough patches.
Preciate the love! 🙏🏾
This couple man ❤. This they real life. But they spoke my values from beginning to the end every last shred. And gave me some for growth.
Thank you for putting this out. I needed to see it. Much success to this couple and their family
This is absolutely crème de la crème of content that feeds and is simultaneously entertaining, but it’s only for a select few by transitive property of:
“common sense not being so common”
May this rise to the top like it should
This was great. High level conversation indeed. I appreciate the beautiful couple’s testimony. 💯🔥
WOW…This is soooo good and relatable 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 gotta keep this going
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Allen, despite all the misunderstandings and miscommunication going on in this sphere, from all sides, this was simply beautiful. We don’t have to agree all the time on everything as long as we are going in the right direction.
TRUTH! 💯
Thanks brother Obi for producing content on a high frequency. The couple being interviewed brought tons of wisdom and substance. I have difference of opinion on men marrying before the age of 30 yrs. old. However, I respect the perspective.
This is a great masterclass in what Commitment, Marriage, & Blk Love looks & sounds like. It's great exposure for people in these YT spaces that didn't grow up in good, traditional households with two married parents. I saw & experienced my parents day to day cooperation & marriage for the 43 years of my life, up to that time. They were together for 10 years before I was born. Many years ago... 17yrs in fact, I had to have this conversation with my wife who didn't grow up with her father in the house, married to her mother, and didn't recognize what cooperation looked like. Her mom raised her as a divorced, single mother and she was too young to remember her father in the home. I had to remind her what a committed, Blk marriage felt and looked like. Hopefully, this video helps a lot of people need to see & hear what Commitment, Cooperation, and Blk Love looks and sounds like. This is a good move and should be repeated on your channel. 👍🏾👍🏾
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So many gems! This has to be one of your best videos! 💪🏾✊🏾
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This is a Wonderful conversation! I hope it gains traction... Enough said except I might add when my Brotha was talking about happiness being feelings and we should seek Joy...
What I would say is Joy is given to us by the Lord, through His Grace...
Good section!
Hey Brother, this is a great couple and conversation, I think they have a perspective that is really needed in our community. Every black person needs to see and hear this. Although it would help be from any background. Bless keep the ministry coming 🙏🏿
Preciate the kind words! 🙏🏾
Bro I’ve been binge watching these and you’re a god seen. We’re the same age and you got on every aspect of the black community. You bring the great Dr. T Hassan Johnson more prominence and still keep Kev alive. You take the best of Kevin and the Dr.’s best points and you just create masterpieces.
Wow!!! I appreciate you my brother. You are too kind🙏🏿
I loved this. The perspective of a functioning successful black marriage is beautiful!
Preciate the love! 🙏🏾
I really can't wait for this
This conversation right here, is a conversation that everyone needs to tune into, my wife and I got married young, we've been married for 18 years, I believe that it saved us from this crazy dating world we see now, seeing friends and family members go through the dating seen now is wild, but anyway our marriage is working because, we are on the same path and we actually like and love each other, with the understanding that marriage is a duty first
Salute to you and your bride! 🥂
Love this channel brother. You are doing great work. I’ll be sure to try to tune in Friday for the live.
This is golden. Appreciated
Wow! Thank you 🙏🏿
Weellllllllll……. Good segment between the two. I think that the experience the sista was speaking was invaluable!! The brotha seemed like he was speaking against the manosphere than about personal experience, in which from what he described, sounded invaluable when he went into detail!
Salute for seeing the value in the detail. ✊🏾
Love you Allen brother…. This one for the books, give our community faith and hope. Bless both this brother and sister.
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This was a fire episode. Great questions and great answers. Greatly edited and directed. Okay Allen “Spike Lee” Obi 😂
Allen was definitely on his Spike Lee! 😆
Love it love it LOVE IT!!! So empowering and motivating!!!! Love all the positivity directed towards being us as a people! ✊🏾
Loved this one Mr. Obi. these are the solutions we need and the mindset to achieve our goals.
Glad you got value! 🙏🏾
Very great episode. Different perspective on marriage. Definitely do more episodes like this.
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This is a video right here is a perfect art piece.
On yhe road to 100k subs
100k just the pit stop to 1 Mill!
My heart is full.
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Great conversation. 59 minute mark was a jewel that many don’t understand.
Babe was spittin!
High level conversation 👌.
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Love this episode featuring a married couple! One of the best episodes yet! 🔥
Preciate the love!
Game changing, relatable, and immediately useable content good man. Thank you.
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Best one yet this is what we need to hear more of keep ot coming WOW
Wow to your compliment! Thx! 🙏🏾
YOOOOO, IVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 20 YEARS AND THIS WAS SO INSPIRING TO ME!!!!
Like James, I have been married to my wife longer then I have not. Im 43 and this July will be 24 years. Thank you for this interview and illustrating to people that marriage is and can be a beautiful blessing, when you have two people committed to their covenant. Salute to all involved.
Salute to you and your bride! 🥂
@@JamesPennJr appreciate it good sir, keep up the good work you’ve been doing on these panels.
This is and was a great watch.... 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 applause for there amazing pair respect.... I like how she said if she was a men she would be her husband and that's amazing to hear from her as a wife... a woman that manages her emotions Is great woman in my opinion
She made me proud with that one! 😊
This gives me hope....cause I have been on the opposite side of the spectrum for SOO long.
Brother Allen, this was your best piece by far!!!
Wow! 🙏🏾
Man this hit the spot.
I loved the conversation. I watched their podcast faithfully.
Well thank you! 🙏🏾
This was a very good insightful conversation!
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I would love to hear more context surrounding the correlation between the 29:25 “Good Man v. Nice Guy” conversation and the upbringing/family environment conversation 1:13:42 .
Less than 20% of Black people in America grow up in an environment with a married mother and father in the house; so the purpose, and character trait conversations end up being completely foreign.
This also ties back to the focusing on purpose segment since purpose is tied to character.
I’ll be bringing them back for a live stream very soon. Make sure your notifications are on🙏🏿
Excellent Broadcast!!!✌🏿🙏🏿
Was an amazing experience! 🙏🏾
To the whole/producer/creator of these shows & Network. Thank you... Really
Allen is providing crazy value for sure!
It’s great to hear this advice. I advocate for doing the extra work, research and self-examination as much as you possibly can, to make the best decision for a spouse. If you believe in the Bible, you know Marriage is till death do you part. So, make this commitment with wisdom, knowledge, Love and joy.
These are the tenured professors with the credibility worth listening to. It's not a sensational as some of the clips and interviews of lost confused women but this is where the answer lies
The "conflict resolution" portion starting 1:20, 💯💯
I hear the marry young concept but if they are not grounded it can't work. Women period want something from men whether young or older. However I appreciate the conversation and seed planting of promoting family
No thanks. I woul not reccomend young men marry young. All the OGs reccomend that, that is not conducive or good idea for young men. Ion really listen to women when it comes to conversation about manhood. Not saying that I'm not a student of life, but women tend to not deal in logic as well as a man. Especially in this climate. Young men barely know how to vet women properly
@@furiousgtribal4325 that’s the problem. You can’t encourage young women to marry early without encouraging young men to marry early. As long as men delay marriage so will women.
@@aferg76 That's fine. I don't believe in encouraging women to marry young. Especially because women flip flop their emotions day by day. Since the abundance of options they have with simps offering to fly them out, take trips, and have all these exciting experiences. Women have always been the more spontaneous sex when it comes to their day to day. Imagine, two months of your man not having taken you out on a date because of time, work, or whatever? Her mind may wander back to remembering this guy offered to get her in the club a day ago. VIP, drinks all night, behind the DJ Booth and all. And dudes are so lame today, these chicks will break their weak asses. With the amount of female games that's out there. That's why it's best for a guy to focus on his physique, , financial, and relationship skills. You gotta become that guy, she know she'd be a fool to lose
Amazing episode probably the best one 🙏🏾
Whoa! Thanks! 🙏🏾
I prayed for this video. Appreciate the work you do!
Wow! 🙏🏾
Whow! Inspirational!
This was sooo good!
Excellent video 💯 keep up the good work brotha ✊🏾
I loved everything about this
Western society is based on liberal ideologies and values. It’s not based on religious ones and that’s why there’s so much moral decay and social turmoil.
I’m a muslim and lived in the Middle East for almost a decade. People getting married while they’re teenagers is normal. I only know one person, a former coworker, who married when he and his wife were 16.
You cannot walk into the Gym on the first day and be ready to perform at high level. That is an apt analogy for relationships. The problem is that there is no best practices that's commonly followed and too many people get damaged in the process of showing up. If I showed up at the gym and they just had equipment's all over the place with no instruction/instructors, I am likely to exercise incorrectly thereby hurting myself and developing an aversion to working out. That's why gym equipment are idiot proofed as much as possible.
Nothin but the truth! 🔥
Great stuff Allen 👏
I love this couple and what they are speaking is true. The problem is most people don’t want to sacrifice. That’s one of the root factors with today’s issues.
We gotta be the change! 💯
When men ask women what they bring it to the table we’re not talking about money. This is how I can tell they’ve been married for a long time and or not out here in the streets. When men say this, they are asking what do you bring to table that can benefit me as a man rather that be submissiveness, nurturing, support or even just great sex… money is the very last thing these men are talking about which shows me that this couple is really not fully up-to-date for this conversation…
Excellent conversation, the couple is solid, and they made good points. However, marriage isn't for everyone, and I'll leave it at that.
If you marry, you need mentorship no matter what the age!
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They need to teach classes. They let you know what works and allows you to set your expectations for yourself and your partner.
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Great conversation especially from Yolanda's side. Going to be honest the brother's perspective was off, maybe its because he hasn't been in the dating world for a while but he didn't even attempt to try to speak to the guys who is out there doing all the right things or at least on track to getting there. Seem like every perspective that was brought up of a guy having issues in the dating world it has to be something they are doing wrong. Like he brought up men should marry earlier and don't sleep around. To me that shows he doesn't have a good perspective on men I know plenty of men that would of been married in their 20s if they could, but either they weren't in a position financially to do so or the women in the environments there are in aren't looking to get married they are in their "fun" phase. That has been my experience as well. And a large percentage of guys in their 20s aren't even in a position to sleep around like that.
As men we can try our best to focus on where we can improve. Then these women also need to do same thing through listening to women like Yolanda.
That’s how I interpreted it, although I get what you are saying.
I say it depends on the older man and younger women but faith will play a big part
Crazy she mentioned family matters because I definitely get a Harriette Winslow vibe from Yolonda
She was a purpose driven women that's the main reason why any of this worked. Going to therapy means taking accountability and admitting you have issues. Good luck with finding a female to do that today.
I never had a mentor. I grew up fighting kids in school, defending me and my brother from my mom's horrible decisions in men. Running away from my dad's house because all he knew was to beat me when made a mistake. It was and still is hard for me to trust anyone because everyone that I've called family has either let me down or I had to fight. I really don't trust black men even though I'm one myself.
Around early June this year I asked my girlfriend after a little over a year to marry me. I had laid my out what I was going to do in the next 3 years. I got a promotion or so I thought, to a better job, purchased a house for my future family. Well my job sent me to a location that the corporation was actually cutting ppl in my field. Lots of ppl. So many ppl that I couldn't understand why was I even sent to that location. Well because of this my income went down, then on top of that my fiance hates the house that I purchased for our future family. The house is all brick 3 bedroom 2000 sq-ft in the university district in Detroit. Her complaint was it looks too old. The house was built in 1936 but was in excellent shape. Mind you She had no money to put forth to the purchase and the area she wanted to stay was more than I could afford at the time. But I had to make a move because interest rates were low. Well I guess that was enough.for hee to start having "issues". Saying stuff like I don't think I want to gave kids anymore, and I don't think I'm enough for you....well she went to rent a condo for almost more money than she could afford. She could've been here in the house with me not struggling.
I know that's a lot but.i had ti air some things out. It's not as simple as the couple in the video will have you to believe.