21:12 The speech at the end was so beautiful.... You can tell it was written from a heart that has been through hardship and has acquired wisdom from experience. People blast these 1950s videos all the time like they know better than their parents and grandparents. Sure, some of these sensibilities are outdated, but many other points are golden, timeless, and our current society would be happier if we rediscovered what truly matters.
That's the problem. The generation or generations that think they know better are currently living in the consequences of thinking they know better and don't even know it as they speak with false authority to past generations that actually had morals and common sense. Secondly, you can't change and or transform that which is already tainted. People today are who they are and that won't change. The change would have to be accomplished over a 4 to 5 generation transformation. In the same way people were slowly transformed into the mess we are today over the course of several generations... The same would need to happen in reverse. That can't happen because if our generation doesn't have the morals of past generations.. how would they be able to teach future generations something they themselves know nothing about? Once it's gone... It's gone for good... All you can do is watch on a film what it was like, while having no idea how to emulate something you're not.
45 yrs of marriage to same girl I met in school. My parents WWII babies. Their parents WWI and depression. I still ❤my honey. You can do it. Fall in love, lose the cell phones , date , hold hands, never swear or call each other names ❤
These gems are needed today more than ever! It doesn't matter race, gender/sexual preference, there's something we can learn from each film. I'd like to see these in schools
@@ryans450 MORE black families were intact than white families up till the 1960's and the creation of the Democratic Welfare Plantation that made certain that a baby-mama could make MORE from welfare than the support of a man.
When you grew up back in my grandmother's time, a married couple knew there was no such thing as divorce. You married literally for better and for worse. In those days there wasn't any such thing as his work or her work, there was just work, and it didn't matter who did it, it HAD to get done. The same thing applied to marriage. You had to stay: you made a promise you would, and honor and respect mattered. So if you loved each other, you stayed and worked it out. That's not to say you don't argue, or have a difference of opinion, you find a way to get around it. If people would only understand it's more than just a wild party with a white dress, a suit, and a three tier cake, and look beyond the ceremony to the future, they'd be a lot less likely to make a mistake with the wrong person.
It also forced a lot of people to remain in abusive, addiction-riddled marriage. No thanks. I’ve been happily married a long time. Part of that is knowing it is a choice to be here for both of us. No one is stuck financially for example.
My parents married in the very year this film came out, 1950. After 10 years of enduring my father’s dishonesty and emotional abuse, my mom freed herself and us from his narcissistic ways. I commend people for getting divorced when doing so saves them from further harm. I don’t worship any false notion of lifelong commitment.
When divorce was legal for women the female suicide rate dropped by half they were not happy also most were heavily medicated cause most things were legal for a very long time they had ads for unhappy wives to take hard sedatives
"It's not cowardice that makes them [young people] think twice about the problems of raising children..." "...where rising living costs seem to always outdistance lagging earning power." Applies to 2020 as it did in 1950, apparently. If there were doubts like this back then, why do Boomers (who I admit came after the generation in this video) give Gen X and Millenials such a hard time about family life?
Because the Baby Boomer generation are conservative and still hold family values. They want Gen X and Millennials to have the same views so that they too can be married and have a family of their own.
@@LadyL31786 we’d love it. We can’t afford it even with multiple jobs and neither parent could stay home. We couldn’t give our kids the life we would want them to have (one parent staying home) and I don’t mean luxuries.
"A child must get in order to live and enjoy life. An adult has enough for himself and so he can afford to give. A child is weak and helpless, had has to receive love and food and shelter in order to feel strong and secure. A grown ups strength and security is increased by the knowledge that he can give these things to someone else. Without a sense of sacrifice or loss." Every millennial and zoomer in the west needs to hear that, and take it to heart. It's time to grow up kids.
I was 3 months old when my parents married. I attended the wedding. I found out about this when I was 13. A smart ass neighbor woman told me that I was really illigetimate and was lucky my daddy gave me his name. I never really liked her after that. I felt she was viscious old biddy and wasn't my mother's friend at all. She had always claimed to be my mother's best friend . After asking my mother about it she was furious she told me she was going to tell me when I was older but it had never come up. Some people.
Same with my mom's friend . When my mom told a friend that my 27 year old sister was gonna have her first baby (never married but still together after 16years ) she knew her friend was gonna have something negative to say. my mom says to her friend so because she's not married I'm gonna lose my daughter & grandchild over them not being married? A few years later the friends daughter is raising her child by her self at 18. Oh the irony .
"War that twice in their parents' lifetimes called young husbands away from their family life" --two years before Korea. This video is so packed with wisdom, the only thing missing is being able to see the future. We should learn from that as well.
My marriage ended in divorce - I would love to be married again but in a marriage of mutual respect and kindness. I even miss the simple things like holding hands and passing notes of affection.
@@phoenixrising55 That wasn't a big deal back then My mom's old nursing textbooks said that a pregnant woman can smoke, but no more than 7 cigarettes a day!
That’s because the director was a pioneer of avant- garde cinema, along with his then ex-wife Maya Deren, who was a dancer and certainly influenced each other. I looked him up after seeing this film, something about this one is different indeed. Documentarian. So interesting that the war efforts brought all sorts of filmmakers.
True and their marriages usually survived everything . Then again, they did not want to see the 20s all over again, I suppose. After WWI, governments had encouraged loose morals to speed up the birth of babies to repopulate the Earth as millions had been killed in 4 years. But men not ready after war trauma and single mothers resulting, children grew up rioting and leading to the need for a strong u-turn in governments as heavy borrowing soon exposed the frauds in banks, which lead to a crash which lead to some going in power, which lead to the Allied to use this as excuse for starting a war our governments needed to hide their own failures. If we wanted peace after WWII, we needed to avoid repeating that mistake, thus these shows first telling already married couples how to handle war trauma and then later to give the younger generation a role model in marriage, which the war had robbed them of. Sadly today we have "influencers" doing this role-modelling instead and parents acting as children or pals rather than as guides full of experience. You can ask he who has always failed at marriage, what he has done, so as not to carry out the same mistakes, but you would still not know what works, only what doesn't.
… do you have any idea how many couples in this period got married because they were pregnant? It was a lot. People today just don’t get married after is the only difference. Neither is right nor wrong.
Lol I proposed to my husband in 1984. I often playfully proposed and he would equally playfully said Nah. One night he said yes. I was stunned. All i could think to say was " If you are kidding me I am going to smack you upside the head" Thankfully he actually meant it. We married in August of 1986 at 21 & 20 years old. Will be 37 years this year and we are still going strong. We have had conflicts of course and what has helped is mutual respect and being each others best friend. Communication and mutual respect is vital.
On a serious note, there are some refreshingly honest and progressive ideas expressed in this film. It’s not the Norman Rockwell-esque orthodox view of marriage I expected.
Marriages are based upon - and remain together - for all manner of different things. But when you're the very best of friends, and that person is the most important person in your whole life - I'd say that your marriage stands the best chance of success of any.
Mel said Frank is gay sometimes. He said he is playing it straight. I mean she said he doesnt last long and he said he really enjoys when they sit in silence and he doesnt have to touch her.
The opening and closing music is the first suite from the Ancient Airs and Dances by Ottorini Respighi. They are Renaissance tunes set to modern (early 20th c.) orchestrations.
I know one woman from my church who chose to be a stay-at-home mom, and her husband payed for her to get 2 masters and a phd. She homeschooled all her kids, and they sounded like politicians when they spoke: very elegant, composed, etc. Very intelligent kids. Just because you get an education doesn't mean you have to work with it. You can use it to benefit your future generations. All the smartest kids I have seen in my lifetime were either homeschooled for a time (whether by an educated parent or a good online system) or were the child of a teacher who made sure they MILKED the education system.
Of course this is a very old fashioned video about a very old fashioned way of life, but in some ways it reminds me a little of married life nowadays lol
That was basically the only thing I had an issue with, especially the way it was phrased, but then I reminded myself that she did choose for herself to be a housewife and that's what I assume their point was. It totally wouldn't fly nowadays lol. But I think what they meant was that basically as a modern woman you can get a good education (and be even more brilliant than the men) and choose to pursue a valuable career, but if you don't you are still valid and should be respected as an equal. It still seems a shame to me that she didn't choose this and do great things, but I think that's just my modern world view. At the end of the day, she chose not to, and good for her being able to make that choice, and for having respect from her husband as an intelligent woman.
@@RagDollCookie I know one woman from my church who was a stay at home mom, and her husband payed for her to get 2 masters and a phd. She homeschooled all her kids, and they sounded like politicians when they spoke: very elegant, composed, etc.
Awww, this was golden...lovely golden twilight. Such a realistic look at depression-era born children as adults in the 50's, a portrait of the times. Pretty enlightened for the time it was produced. Warm fuzzy feelings abound. Overlooking the surprisingly few slips in language and attitude for modern times values, this was actually pretty in alignment with what I would consider good advice and keen insights for life and relationships in general.
That's right, marriage is a covenant- and a sacrament-blessed by God when done so properly in church. This alone gives strength to the couple to stick together through thick and thin. Reply
Does this mean that you only count Christians as married? Jews and Muslims make their vows before God too... and Hindus and Sikhs make their vows as do many others. I think we all agree what makes a marriage, just remember that it's the oldest and widest spread institution and not just a Christian monopoly.
Not me.... Never wanted kids. And I enjoy going and doing what I please in life and not having to go to kids concerts, or helping them with homework. If I want to go out to dinner I can. If I want to watch a movie I can. And if I want to take a last minute trip I don't have to worry about kids.
Pansy Flower and that’s the beauty of personal choice. Your decision is not wrong, and neither is Arsecant. We have the opportunity to choose how we move forward with our lives, and we have to respect the decision of the way others choose their lives
There is a new wave of people realizing this. I am a homemaker after 10 years working and we love it. It works for our family. When we have kids, I will stay home and invest in our family. I still have hobbies, and a small work from home business. Its all about balance.
Post WW2...well, no wonder it was slightly more progressive than some films of it's time. Women were starting to realize that they'd gotten somewhat of a raw deal and men were starting to realize they were going to have to get their act together if they planned to keep getting any.
I was born in 1950. Tragic how little things have changed. I read and see this in the news every fucking day. I suspect in another 73 years, if there is another 73 years, things will not perceptibly change.
Very well done and insightful film, wish it had been shown to my generation coming of marriage age in the 80s...by then most young people I knew were very focused on college and career with marriage being deferred until at least age 30....
I saw this comment of yours in response to someone elses comment. It isn't wise to promote smoking during pregnancy. You and your wife might have lucked out, but the fact of the matter is that it CAN cause irreperable damage. It isn't worth the risk!
@@ShockResistor Not promoting cigarette smoking as much as debunking the over the top hysteria surrounding smoking during pregnancy. Yes its not a "Good" thing but lets not overact on how bad it is either. Stop the "Smoke shaming"!
Such noble altruistic sentiments and philosophy are beyond the grasp or desire of too many individuals today. In that time it was not uncommon to hear of couples who had been married 60 years or more.
@@lilacspring2556 WRONG, this is the reality, television is a powerful tool what people see on TV has a powerful affect on their mind When 1950 people saw this on TV this what they try to behave like, when you see modern day degeneracy on TV that is how people behave today TV influences the mind of the people, not the other way around, besides before TV people were much more grounded in reality and marriages lasted, people understood responsibility that life is not all about YOU but rather society at large
Hi Lynne Wright-Glzrbug - interracial marriage was not illegal up north and was addressed in the movie "Guess who's coming to dinner (1967), it was happening. I trained in the South (Alabama, North Florida, Texas), it was frown upon but it happened in the sixties; there were some "bad apples" and some prejudiced people, there will always be but it was civilized, more than now in Detroit or Chicago at least. It seems to me that it was also a white (and black) female fantasy - that is what I studied - the breakdown of the American family 1950 ~2000 and its consequences. Are we better off now? Ciao, L
This video sounds like it was made right when things began to go south...an underlying layer of doubt is what it sounds like. I prefer countless other 1950’s videos relative to this one.
@@kenbob1071....well three things I can tell you... The divorce rate in 1950 was much lower than it is today... It is about 42% today, but was 26% in 1950. That happened despite the fact that many more people got married back then... The current marriage rate is more than 60% lower than it was in 1950. In addition, the current rate of single motherhood is now much higher. Currently, about 40% of children are born to a single mother. In 1950, this rate was about 5%. So, compared to now, 1950 was sunshine and candy for children in families.
@@RS-tz2zn thats because back then it was taboo and women never said anything about their horrible marriage.. they took it. Women now speak up and leave. Plus tecnology now ruins ALOT OF THINGS
@@veronicasolorzano889 It's good that women can say if they feel unhappy but the higher rate of divorce is definitely because men AND women don't commit themselves to marriage
Oh my.. "my husband is a person and he expects me to be a person". Could it be?? today some call that feminism. I call it just being people. And in 1950! 👍
{{•PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND THIS•}} “Of course I don’t mind waiting it’s what I gave up Catholigy for…” What does she mean by that..? Time Stamp: 18:00
21:12 The speech at the end was so beautiful....
You can tell it was written from a heart that has been through hardship and has acquired wisdom from experience. People blast these 1950s videos all the time like they know better than their parents and grandparents. Sure, some of these sensibilities are outdated, but many other points are golden, timeless, and our current society would be happier if we rediscovered what truly matters.
So agree with you, very well put!!!! Thank you!!!!
That's the problem. The generation or generations that think they know better are currently living in the consequences of thinking they know better and don't even know it as they speak with false authority to past generations that actually had morals and common sense. Secondly, you can't change and or transform that which is already tainted. People today are who they are and that won't change. The change would have to be accomplished over a 4 to 5 generation transformation. In the same way people were slowly transformed into the mess we are today over the course of several generations... The same would need to happen in reverse. That can't happen because if our generation doesn't have the morals of past generations.. how would they be able to teach future generations something they themselves know nothing about? Once it's gone... It's gone for good... All you can do is watch on a film what it was like, while having no idea how to emulate something you're not.
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45 yrs of marriage to same girl I met in school. My parents WWII babies. Their parents WWI and depression. I still ❤my honey. You can do it. Fall in love, lose the cell phones , date , hold hands, never swear or call each other names ❤
" nor do brains and strength make a girl any less feminine"
Ikr? Sexist!
@@fembotprincess1 why is it sexist? It's true.
@@fembotprincess1 why don't you READ the post before commenting.
@@fembotprincess1 🥴
This video is pretty radical!
This is so intelligently written....
Best description of the immediate Postwar social realities I have seen.
‘That bond of relaxed silence’ couldn’t agree more. Over seventy years later
This is why I married my wife.
The scene with the grandparents made me want to cry. The man made me think of my father in law, who passed away years ago.
Just realized that this was made around the time my grandparents got married.
Mine got married in 1957 I believe and my other grandparents 1959 or 60
Mine married in 1950 and 1952.
it was made the year I was born.
Mine too
These gems are needed today more than ever! It doesn't matter race, gender/sexual preference, there's something we can learn from each film. I'd like to see these in schools
To be fair race did matter at this time. Don't forget that until 1967 mixed race marriages were illegal in 16 states.
@@ryans450 MORE black families were intact than white families up till the 1960's and the creation of the Democratic Welfare Plantation that made certain that a baby-mama could make MORE from welfare than the support of a man.
Liberal Democrats ruined families with their debauchery and fighting of the sexes
@@poetcomic1 BINGO!!
@@poetcomic1 I’m so happy to see a sane person who understands this. Proud of you.
When you grew up back in my grandmother's time, a married couple knew there was no such thing as divorce. You married literally for better and for worse. In those days there wasn't any such thing as his work or her work, there was just work, and it didn't matter who did it, it HAD to get done. The same thing applied to marriage. You had to stay: you made a promise you would, and honor and respect mattered. So if you loved each other, you stayed and worked it out. That's not to say you don't argue, or have a difference of opinion, you find a way to get around it. If people would only understand it's more than just a wild party with a white dress, a suit, and a three tier cake, and look beyond the ceremony to the future, they'd be a lot less likely to make a mistake with the wrong person.
It also forced a lot of people to remain in abusive, addiction-riddled marriage. No thanks.
I’ve been happily married a long time. Part of that is knowing it is a choice to be here for both of us. No one is stuck financially for example.
My parents married in the very year this film came out, 1950. After 10 years of enduring my father’s dishonesty and emotional abuse, my mom freed herself and us from his narcissistic ways. I commend people for getting divorced when doing so saves them from further harm. I don’t worship any false notion of lifelong commitment.
Yeah because people in the 50s nEVer got divorced 🙄
When divorce was legal for women the female suicide rate dropped by half they were not happy also most were heavily medicated cause most things were legal for a very long time they had ads for unhappy wives to take hard sedatives
@@estrellacasias yea, and to think research shows woman cheat 80% of the time versus males like 20%. Go figure
After watching the Coronet Films of the same time period, this is refreshingly honest.
"It's not cowardice that makes them [young people] think twice about the problems of raising children..."
"...where rising living costs seem to always outdistance lagging earning power."
Applies to 2020 as it did in 1950, apparently. If there were doubts like this back then, why do Boomers (who I admit came after the generation in this video) give Gen X and Millenials such a hard time about family life?
Because the Baby Boomer generation are conservative and still hold family values. They want Gen X and Millennials to have the same views so that they too can be married and have a family of their own.
@@LadyL31786 we’d love it. We can’t afford it even with multiple jobs and neither parent could stay home. We couldn’t give our kids the life we would want them to have (one parent staying home) and I don’t mean luxuries.
I'm a blomer. Alot of times when I s
ee the young couples with babies, I think, "we are those babies."
@@LadyL31786They were liberal in their time, as was this video. We must broaden our view of history.
I really like this one. I've been watching these old videos for days now and this is a new favorite. Very relatable (for me) and insightful.
Phyllis and Chad should start their own design firm.
"A child must get in order to live and enjoy life. An adult has enough for himself and so he can afford to give. A child is weak and helpless, had has to receive love and food and shelter in order to feel strong and secure. A grown ups strength and security is increased by the knowledge that he can give these things to someone else. Without a sense of sacrifice or loss."
Every millennial and zoomer in the west needs to hear that, and take it to heart. It's time to grow up kids.
I love how he had to get his suit jacket on before answering the door lol
I know. I'm seventy and I'm still wearing play clothes like I'm 12.
I was 3 months old when my parents married. I attended the wedding. I found out about this when I was 13. A smart ass neighbor woman told me that I was really illigetimate and was lucky my daddy gave me his name. I never really liked her after that. I felt she was viscious old biddy and wasn't my mother's friend at all. She had always claimed to be my mother's best friend . After asking my mother about it she was furious she told me she was going to tell me when I was older but it had never come up. Some people.
Same with my mom's friend . When my mom told a friend that my 27 year old sister was gonna have her first baby (never married but still together after 16years ) she knew her friend was gonna have something negative to say. my mom says to her friend so because she's not married I'm gonna lose my daughter & grandchild over them not being married? A few years later the friends daughter is raising her child by her self at 18. Oh the irony .
"War that twice in their parents' lifetimes called young husbands away from their family life"
--two years before Korea.
This video is so packed with wisdom, the only thing missing is being able to see the future. We should learn from that as well.
It's the year that the Korean war started actually
My marriage ended in divorce - I would love to be married again but in a marriage of mutual respect and kindness. I even miss the simple things like holding hands and passing notes of affection.
So refreshing to hear emphasis on responsibility and working as a team rather than the narcissistic view focusing on ME and MY "RIGHTS"
Indeed 😂😂😂
I love how she casually smokes a cig at the dining room table while looking at the blueprints with her husband 🖤💕
I thought she was pregnant though 😂
@@phoenixrising55 That wasn't a big deal back then My mom's old nursing textbooks said that a pregnant woman can smoke, but no more than 7 cigarettes a day!
While pregnant XD
@@ohmoflife1 HA! Love it❣️
This one is really lovely. Almost like a poem. All the scenes seem wonderfully natural and real.
That’s because the director was a pioneer of avant- garde cinema, along with his then ex-wife Maya Deren, who was a dancer and certainly influenced each other. I looked him up after seeing this film, something about this one is different indeed. Documentarian. So interesting that the war efforts brought all sorts of filmmakers.
This is still the best short film on marriage after all these years.
Doesn't seem to be a lot of babymamadrama around here. Quite nice, thinking about it. Wholesome.
Yea cause everyone got married first for the right reasons then got pregnant
People now trivialize sex and have made a mess
True and their marriages usually survived everything .
Then again, they did not want to see the 20s all over again, I suppose.
After WWI, governments had encouraged loose morals to speed up the birth of babies to repopulate the Earth as millions had been killed in 4 years. But men not ready after war trauma and single mothers resulting, children grew up rioting and leading to the need for a strong u-turn in governments as heavy borrowing soon exposed the frauds in banks, which lead to a crash which lead to some going in power, which lead to the Allied to use this as excuse for starting a war our governments needed to hide their own failures.
If we wanted peace after WWII, we needed to avoid repeating that mistake, thus these shows first telling already married couples how to handle war trauma and then later to give the younger generation a role model in marriage, which the war had robbed them of.
Sadly today we have "influencers" doing this role-modelling instead and parents acting as children or pals rather than as guides full of experience. You can ask he who has always failed at marriage, what he has done, so as not to carry out the same mistakes, but you would still not know what works, only what doesn't.
@@merveillemusangu2562 not exactly. In many cases it was the other way around. If and when she got pregnant they'd then get married.
… do you have any idea how many couples in this period got married because they were pregnant? It was a lot. People today just don’t get married after is the only difference. Neither is right nor wrong.
Lol I proposed to my husband in 1984. I often playfully proposed and he would equally playfully said Nah. One night he said yes. I was stunned. All i could think to say was " If you are kidding me I am going to smack you upside the head" Thankfully he actually meant it. We married in August of 1986 at 21 & 20 years old. Will be 37 years this year and we are still going strong. We have had conflicts of course and what has helped is mutual respect and being each others best friend. Communication and mutual respect is vital.
On a serious note, there are some refreshingly honest and progressive ideas expressed in this film. It’s not the Norman Rockwell-esque orthodox view of marriage I expected.
I’d rather be *from* a “broken home” than *in* one.
Very interesting and affectionate educational film from 1950.
Marriages are based upon - and remain together - for all manner of different things. But when you're the very best of friends, and that person is the most important person in your whole life - I'd say that your marriage stands the best chance of success of any.
I love all of your videos. Thanks for sharing💜💜💜💜
“Whoso findeth a wife, findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.”
- Proverbs 18:22
Ken you got that right! Both my wife and I are GOD fearing Christians and we've been married for over 30 years.
Mel said Frank is gay sometimes.
He said he is playing it straight.
I mean she said he doesnt last long and he said he really enjoys when they sit in silence and he doesnt have to touch her.
Wow these moral values!!💎💎💎
Listen from 16:15 and few seconds. A man trusting his wife to help in his work is showing RESPECT to her, NOT OPPRESSING😙
This seems pretty fair.
"Freedom of Choice: it's a modern privilege and a modern responsibility." I wish more people in Gen Z (my generation) knew that.
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19:12 he totally puts his jacket on to answer the door at his own home ❤❤
"She's given up her career....." thank God those days are over!
Enough of that and we'll be over as a species
Great music in the intro and the guitar playing in the lake scene.
The opening and closing music is the first suite from the Ancient Airs and Dances by Ottorini Respighi. They are Renaissance tunes set to modern (early 20th c.) orchestrations.
@@buchan1965a never guessed someone would identify it-thank you so much.
I know one woman from my church who chose to be a stay-at-home mom, and her husband payed for her to get 2 masters and a phd. She homeschooled all her kids, and they sounded like politicians when they spoke: very elegant, composed, etc. Very intelligent kids. Just because you get an education doesn't mean you have to work with it. You can use it to benefit your future generations. All the smartest kids I have seen in my lifetime were either homeschooled for a time (whether by an educated parent or a good online system) or were the child of a teacher who made sure they MILKED the education system.
Of course this is a very old fashioned video about a very old fashioned way of life, but in some ways it reminds me a little of married life nowadays lol
5:45 - "She earned better grades than Chad. She is now a housewife and he is an engineer." *Rolls Eyes*
That was basically the only thing I had an issue with, especially the way it was phrased, but then I reminded myself that she did choose for herself to be a housewife and that's what I assume their point was. It totally wouldn't fly nowadays lol. But I think what they meant was that basically as a modern woman you can get a good education (and be even more brilliant than the men) and choose to pursue a valuable career, but if you don't you are still valid and should be respected as an equal. It still seems a shame to me that she didn't choose this and do great things, but I think that's just my modern world view. At the end of the day, she chose not to, and good for her being able to make that choice, and for having respect from her husband as an intelligent woman.
She chose to be a housewife, remember? Don’t shame someone for their choices to stay at home.
@@RagDollCookie I know one woman from my church who was a stay at home mom, and her husband payed for her to get 2 masters and a phd. She homeschooled all her kids, and they sounded like politicians when they spoke: very elegant, composed, etc.
And they thought the world was bad THEN....
Awww, this was golden...lovely golden twilight. Such a realistic look at depression-era born children as adults in the 50's, a portrait of the times. Pretty enlightened for the time it was produced. Warm fuzzy feelings abound. Overlooking the surprisingly few slips in language and attitude for modern times values, this was actually pretty in alignment with what I would consider good advice and keen insights for life and relationships in general.
"I'll have to change a lot of habits" continues to smoke like a chimney.
That's right, marriage is a covenant- and a sacrament-blessed by God when done so properly in church. This alone gives strength to the couple to stick together through thick and thin.
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Does this mean that you only count Christians as married? Jews and Muslims make their vows before God too... and Hindus and Sikhs make their vows as do many others. I think we all agree what makes a marriage, just remember that it's the oldest and widest spread institution and not just a Christian monopoly.
She likes Frank, even if he's gay. That really IS a modern marriage.
Lol 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Gay meant happy back then. Not homosexual
I'd take a housewife over a career woman any day. Money won't bring the well-kept home, good food, and memories to enrich a lifetime.
Not me.... Never wanted kids. And I enjoy going and doing what I please in life and not having to go to kids concerts, or helping them with homework. If I want to go out to dinner I can. If I want to watch a movie I can. And if I want to take a last minute trip I don't have to worry about kids.
True fact
Pansy Flower and that’s the beauty of personal choice. Your decision is not wrong, and neither is Arsecant. We have the opportunity to choose how we move forward with our lives, and we have to respect the decision of the way others choose their lives
Are you rich enough to afford a housewife?
There is a new wave of people realizing this. I am a homemaker after 10 years working and we love it. It works for our family. When we have kids, I will stay home and invest in our family. I still have hobbies, and a small work from home business. Its all about balance.
And the pregnant lady is smoking. Oye.
Mandy Robbins those teratogens, i hope the baby had no birth defects
@@eggshells652 these were very different times .
Stopping cold turkey can be worse than simply trying to cut back.
My wife smoked thru all four of her pregnancies. The result was 4 Beautiful healthy daughters. So much for the over rated danger.
Chad is an absolute player
Beautiful story! I hope they had a happy life together
Post WW2...well, no wonder it was slightly more progressive than some films of it's time. Women were starting to realize that they'd gotten somewhat of a raw deal and men were starting to realize they were going to have to get their act together if they planned to keep getting any.
Yes, WWII had women out and earning their own money. That gave them leverage. Of course they didn't want to go back so we moved forward.
They wanted to give the jobs back to the men who had come home C from the war
Great film Seems timeless and still approprraite today
Chads been killing the game since the 1950s and beyond.
I was born in 1950. Tragic how little things have changed. I read and see this in the news every fucking day. I suspect in another 73 years, if there is another 73 years, things will not perceptibly change.
3:20 Shostakovich's 7th Symphony "Leningrad." A strange piece to play given the context.
Wrong! Marriage and modern living is a war of sorts.
Very well done and insightful film, wish it had been shown to my generation coming of marriage age in the 80s...by then most young people I knew were very focused on college and career with marriage being deferred until at least age 30....
The attitude towards marriage and education seems to be the same. It’s the desire to have children that seems to be different
Nothing wrong with that. Age should bring wisdom. I met my spouse at 18 but didn't marry until we were 30+.
Marriage is a lot different today
Unfortunately
I guess they didn’t know back then that you shouldn’t smoke while you’re pregnant!😳
My wife smoked thru all four of her pregnancies. The result was 4 Beautiful healthy daughters. So much for the over rated danger.
I saw this comment of yours in response to someone elses comment. It isn't wise to promote smoking during pregnancy. You and your wife might have lucked out, but the fact of the matter is that it CAN cause irreperable damage. It isn't worth the risk!
@@ShockResistor Not promoting cigarette smoking as much as debunking the over the top hysteria surrounding smoking during pregnancy. Yes its not a "Good" thing but lets not overact on how bad it is either. Stop the "Smoke shaming"!
At 8:02 the marriage deal worked if the husband was sober and he brought home a paycheck
& no STDs
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“I love to like.”
Such noble altruistic sentiments and philosophy are beyond the grasp or desire of too many individuals today. In that time it was not uncommon to hear of couples who had been married 60 years or more.
LOL I wasn't even BORN YET when this came out!
I love these old films.
What happened to their ⛺️? Great film. Kids should watch this. Nice kiddie truck. Wonderful respect for each other.
What city or region is the narrator is from?
I love seeing the old timers in this film
Going to the movies with friends makes her a playgirl?!
Yes
There was a time when being gay meant you were happy and content. Times and contexts change.
WISH I COULD TRAVEL BACK IN TIME. THEY DON'T MAKE IT LIKE THAT ANYMORE. IN 2020. P.S. MARRY CHRISTMAS 🎄
I don't think this is the entire reality
@@lilacspring2556 WRONG, this is the reality, television is a powerful tool what people see on TV has a powerful affect on their mind
When 1950 people saw this on TV this what they try to behave like, when you see modern day degeneracy on TV that is how people behave today
TV influences the mind of the people, not the other way around, besides before TV people were much more grounded in reality and marriages lasted, people understood responsibility that life is not all about YOU but rather society at large
3:26 that baby is 71-72 years old now 😳
Hi Lynne Wright-Glzrbug - interracial marriage was not illegal up north and was addressed in the movie "Guess who's coming to dinner (1967), it was happening. I trained in the South (Alabama, North Florida, Texas), it was frown upon but it happened in the sixties; there were some "bad apples" and some prejudiced people, there will always be but it was civilized, more than now in Detroit or Chicago at least.
It seems to me that it was also a white (and black) female fantasy - that is what I studied - the breakdown of the American family 1950 ~2000 and its consequences. Are we better off now? Ciao, L
@gumshoesoul did you forget your pills darling?
This video sounds like it was made right when things began to go south...an underlying layer of doubt is what it sounds like. I prefer countless other 1950’s videos relative to this one.
and then there's marriage today.....
Yeah! Any better?
Yes, everything was sunshine and candy in the '50s...or so this film wants you to believe.
@@kenbob1071....well three things I can tell you...
The divorce rate in 1950 was much lower than it is today...
It is about 42% today, but was 26% in 1950.
That happened despite the fact that many more people got married back then...
The current marriage rate is more than 60% lower than it was in 1950.
In addition, the current rate of single motherhood is now much higher.
Currently, about 40% of children are born to a single mother. In 1950, this rate was about 5%.
So, compared to now, 1950 was sunshine and candy for children in families.
@@RS-tz2zn thats because back then it was taboo and women never said anything about their horrible marriage.. they took it. Women now speak up and leave. Plus tecnology now ruins ALOT OF THINGS
@@veronicasolorzano889
It's good that women can say if they feel unhappy but the higher rate of divorce is definitely because men AND women don't commit themselves to marriage
Oh my.. "my husband is a person and he expects me to be a person". Could it be?? today some call that feminism. I call it just being people. And in 1950! 👍
This is needed.
Anyone know what the lake scene guitar tune is?
In southern California homes were $5K in the 50’s. Those days are gone now.
Was this made in 2020?
12:15 “I like Frank… whether he’s gay, or tired.” Wow, I’m surprised by the forward thinking outlook in this film!
😂
I think u are misunderstanding.......
Gay as in happy and carefree; Not homosexuality
@@FollowerofJesusChristmySavior Of course. I was making a joke, based on the changing meaning of that term.
But where did she throw the egg shell?
I was thinking same
Thought the same so I rewind it, there wasn't really any food used in this if you look closely the pan is empty and she mocks serving his plate.
"She got the better grades. Now he`s an engineer and she`s a housewife."
How were marriage/divorce laws back then?
If you left the state you didn't have to pay child support. I'm sure plenty took advantage of this. Sad.
I love this
The days when great indie film makers were used for war and post war efforts is a particular time and eye opening for documentarians.
Man this shit is so sweet.
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“Of course I don’t mind waiting it’s what I gave up Catholigy for…”
What does she mean by that..?
Time Stamp: 18:00
She said Pathology (it’s a degree)
Bill Hader better stop messing around with that under aged boy.
John Howerton 😂😂😂
Yup he's a kinky sick bitch.🤨
A slide rule!
E6b is still very popular among pilots .
Its so simple.
Liking each other, tolerating each other....sounds like settling to me lol
10/10 childless cat ladies agree
@@dachickenmanWhat's with the JD Joke?
Seems like a paradox, progressive in many respects, yet still quite traditional 🤔
How many of us have unattractive spouses,badly behaved children , pernicious in-laws and seem to get along ?
That’s Robert Wagner! I think. Women did work back then married or not, where i come from.
In 1950s Men were so handsome and courageous! 🥰
She didn’t have to give up her career. Together they could afford a housekeeper and a nanny.
Why go work for some corporation just so you can invite a stranger into your house
@@swampnutz5201 people unfortunately dont think like this
Moderns: what’s a woman? 2 women can be 2 men that got married and had a baby. Yes the 50’s were so modern.
I love how they are just pantomiming everything.
Marriage is and always has been a wonderful fantasy.
Just make my sammich and everything will be fine!
5:50 she got the better grades than Chad but she went to become a house wife....
Maybe she wanted to there's nothing wrong with being a house wife as long as she wants to be one
Just because ur smart it doesn’t mean u have to surrender to your Brian and become a working woman
@@merveillemusangu2562 yes
Literally the video said she became a housewife BY CHOICE.
No smoking while pregnant!
She gave up pathology to be a woman. Sheez.