1- the guy she really wanted has made it clear he doesn't want her. 2- the other guys she really wanted ain't making time for her after getting what they wanted from her 3- she needs an ego boost to feel good again and you do that well with the attention you give her. 4-all her previous options have moved on and you're the best out of a crap bunch of options she has remaining. 5- she's had enough fun and games and wants to see what she can get from you if she gives you a chance. 6- she's just bored currently she will reject you again once someone else who excites her shows interest. 7- she has well and truly hit the wall and no longer attracts her ideal type or balanced men, she doesn't like you but you're the safest option left and the only one willing to take her seriously.
@CREATIVE MINDSET Get yourself a woman from another country no matter the religion or country. Trans women are also a good option if you don't plan children. People's minds will change in regard to that. If a a woman can't have a child, what is a trans woman different than? I've seen a lot of trans women that look 50 times better than your average woman. If you're not wanting to have children don't die alone. Women have no mercy, they will pay for their behavior karma is coming don't worry, but you don't have to be the looser in these times of trouble. This advice is coming from a young white european (straight guy - hate men how they look, love female body) Do the right thing don't fall into depression buddy.
It's a trap my friends, she didn't catch the Chad Vader so she gets back at you as a last option, never accept that, stay strong and never lose your dignity.
you loved her face, her body, her laugh, the scent of her neck, the taste of her lips...when she tuned cold and indifferent, mean and bitter and projected all of her daddy issues on you and expected you to take care of everything and she had zero expectation of herself to be a decent human being or show compassion, love attention or affection...it was over and you walk away. you never return, because that magical person you met is never going to be the the person you originally met.
Thank you so much for sharing this, this sounds like you fell in love with a complete lie, the only good thing is that you live in learn this experience has taught you a lot💕 thank you for watching
Yes, it's spot on! 3 years of a Roller Coaster Ride, and everything said texted here is what was going on, including the Daddy and trust issues. I was very faithful and genuine with this woman, showing her compassion and giving affection to feel loved, comfortable and secure, to envelope her in safety, as showing understanding that I was there for her. I've also waited for her twice when she went back to Honduras to take care of her sick mother for a couple of months each time! Hmm, as if that were really the case? Then, if we had an argument over something not good for our relationship, or it wasn't going her way, she would retreat for months and wouldn't speak to work it out, as it was always my fault, my flaws, as it was dealing with a woman having unrequited love, being so flakey, distant, cold, and judgemental! I've also helped her out financially, enough to pay a bill or two, as she was working herself, and she would say that I never gave anything? I've cooked for her, given her things that she can use, gave her a new comfort bed that has rising features head to toe. I've done more for this woman, and if I asked for anything with the little that I asked for, was too much, with no mirroring qualities whatsoever. I really wonder how she gets along with her older children and grandchildren, all whom I've never formally met? Now, I'll just date women, with no expectations, until meeting one with attraction and having the chemistry together, as she must be also a Woman who shows interest, communication, affection, compassion, who would then come down to developing trust, loyalty, love, and looking for commitment... I won't settle for less!
@@GeraldDelGiorno ....yep, been down that track and recently got rid of such a woman the first time she shut down to me emotionally at the 3 month mark. I gave her 3 days to snap out of it but she didn't so on day 4 I abruptly ended the relationship. It was actually an awesome 3 months, not even so much as a single cross word, just that her ability to mirror all my love, intimacy, communication and affection was truly amazing and I never saw even a hint of who she really was till she typically ran out of energy to keep up the facade. I have zero tolerance and strong boundaries when it comes to this sort of nonsense in relationship so she simply had to go, hard as that was. I've not seen her since and she will know better than to gravitate back towards me because she would know she'd have to face up to herself and these cowards don't do that.
The best way to find out if she's serious about coming back is to make her make the first move to come back and make sure she's genuine about it. I'm going through this now. I don't think she's a game player she just didn't see my that way and now maybe she does. I'll pursue on my own time but I'm not asking her out again. She'll have to come to me.
Oh, thank you for sharing that, as long as you have clarity of why she didn’t want you before and honesty is on the table, then you act as your mind and heart, tell you to act🌸
I am going thru the same situation with one girl at the gym. She always gets on my way, takes quick glances at me, acts weird in my presence in hopes I catch her staring at me. It’s annoying situation but I would really appreciate a feedback on what I need to do
It's simple guys: She thought she had other options, but came back to ol' reliable because she's lonely. She'll leave again as soon as a "better" option presents itself. She probably desires a bad boy, but will come crawling back when bad boy leaves her a single mother. All of a sudden, stability and kindness looks great for baby.
These people who do this are personality disordered. They will do the push pull thing to anyone who allows it. They're never happy for long and constantly need to find the greener grass only to burn the whole garden. Leave it and work on yourself. You don't want these people in your life bringing chaos to your peace. And for those who can't, who find themselves going back to this game, you're probably codependent or personality disordered yourself and need to work on yourself big time and get to the root cause of it. If you don't, you'll continue attracting these people into your life. Hope these harsh truths help someone who needs to hear it. It needs to be called out for what it is.
this applies to even if there is no pregnancy, they realize they were used and want real love suddenly, but don't kid yourself, once they see something else they like they won't care again
I like to one more to your list, most women come back after rejecting a guy is because they test the guy to see how much he wants her by playing hard to get and force the guy to desperately chase her, but the guy does not give in to her test and just ignores her, but thats when the tables are turned and she begins to chase him, but by then he's moved on and she's left wonderiing why he keeps ignoring her
If she's playing hard to get she does NOT like you..and it's more a game to her where she thrives of the attention and chasing you do ..women do not reject men they like, they go above and beyond for such men..cancel plans with friends, cancel dates with other men, cancel work ,call in sick to spend more time, spend her money to see him, treat and impress him and most importantly they try to be in his physical presence asap!!! With a good 75% chance of creating a physical sexual interaction
@@a.b5625 wrong. sometimes, the guy that she likes the most, is the guy she plays hard to get with, because she wants you to respect her because she wants it all with you. the other guys, she doesn't care what they think about her, so she'll get drunk and sleep with them.
Because even though she does not want you and never will, it pains her to see you are no longer paying her any attention and giving it to someone else. Do not fall for it, the minute you give her attention again, you will be dropped like a brick.
Truest comment here. Attention has always been currency for most women. Which is fine if it's genuine, *and* reciprocated, appreciated. However, social media has categorically created more and more narcissists and narcissistic behavior, And conditioned Women primarily to see others as a source of attention, weather in the forms of likes and hearts or dms. And men, being statistically more visually driven, take the bait, and "simp" far too easily. Just look at the average growth rate of an Instagram or TikTok account of girls posting sensual content. We have created the equivalent of an entire nation of spoiled and self indulgent "child stars" - Or people who have contributed little or nothing of worth, yet have thousands of people pedestalyzing them. It's also rewired our brains incentive reward system in a terrible way. Adolescent and young adult girls rates of self-deleting has seen yet another uptick this last year. At some point we need to recognize that attention doesn't equal intention, and not everyone praising you actually cares about you.
Women often think that "the grass is greener on the other side" but once they find out that there is NO grass on the other side to begin with, then they start to rethink their choices and maybe think about that they had made a mistake. Dont make it easy for them. Because you are worth no matter what she, or anyone else thinks. You are valued :)
She told the truth, excellent video. If a man was innocent in a relationship, and the woman unfairly rejected him, sooner or later she will definitely be punished with guilt. I was rejected by my ex-wife despite my true love for her and my dedication to keeping the family alive. Now, 8 years later, I'm still single but have managed to move on with a contented attitude toward life and healing from my battered self-esteem.
Thank you so much, you're a great example of coming out better and stronger. I hope you don't give up on love and wish it comes soon to you again.🫶 I invite you to subscribe❤️
That’s a good outlook, though it can happen that they realize they did. Love you., but then you have to realize if they are what you need in your life.
I'm in this EXACT situation right now. 18 days after refusing to see me before I went abroad, maintaining radio silence, ending our relationship with each other on Facebook and changing herself to single. I went no contact, deleted her pics off my social media and MOVED ON...now she's messaging my best friend saying how much she misses me, sent me a message asking if I'm okay...I'm being curt...that door is closed and "Ridin Solo" is playing in my mind 😂❤
Sounds to me like she regrets her fast and absurd actions . Analyze why the breakup took place . And see if she can mature up! Because her actions were all out of anger and not well based ❤️
But no matter what you do, NEVER disrespect the girl who rejected you. act like nothin happens, act like the rejection didn't even bother you. don't ever planning on taking revenge to them especially if it's a violent one. Be kind to them always even if it hurts you inside. always show them respect and wish them have a great life and that's how being a MAN really is.
Yes, I recommend you not giving space in your mind to think of someone who wasn’t honest with you and who used you for any advantage, and then blocking them stops you from reaching out I absolutely recommend it❤️
Man WTF you being kind to her for? She rejected you. She dont care about your feelings. Thats not kind of her. So why the fuckk would you be kind to her? Man Fuckk that.
She doesn't come back for you she comes back to save herself because it didnt work out with the new guy do not kid yourselves they only return to save themselves from the destruction they caused themselves by leaving your protection. Never forget your worth kings and stay toxic!
A down to earth lady is rare these days. Well said everyone should find someone who’s willing to stick through the good and bad, ride or die. You don’t find loyalty in the pound or the dollar, as you say money comes and goes.
Fellas pick a start date and dedicate 6 -18 months to self improvement.. financial, mental health and physical health.. start an additional job, read books socialise privately only with those friends that are successful,smart, motivating and humble .. save money!!!, ignore women, bars, clubs, social media etc hibernate and develop yourself and naturally you'll become more confident, attractive, and have more money when the 6-18 months are ove, go buy new clothes a new car, decorate or move house and you'll be much more vibrant, upbeat and enthusiastic especially when you go out / start socialising again rejoin social media etc and you'll attract much better in all aspects of life...women included, multiple women..and you won't ever care about rejection again you'll be to busy
My God! You drew me into your message as if I was reading a story, amazing advice💗 thank you for sharing those words of wisdom for all the gentleman out there!
My wife left one morning and never returned, this after 22 years. If you want to play these games don't do it with a man or woman who has been so severely rejected, he may never allow you within a hundred yards of himself. This girl I liked a lot did that to me even though she knew my wife left like that. She tried to come back and I told her to go away. She spent the next year trying to get close to me but I can't take that shit.
If your wife left then this means you did something stupid, insecure and she was just done with you. If we only saw your life, how feminine or insecure you pretended and let her rule over you and she was done with you. Women dont dump men they are in love with and it didn't happen in 1 sec. It was a whole process.
I will take this type, immediately notice their deep need for ego gratification, play along well, and then say u have to earn my time, energy, and effort now, priceless.
Thank you for this, I realize it is true and it takes time. I am in no contact and it is very rough but she needs to feel to realize. Hearing this video I see she took me for granted.
wow Maritza , This was happening to me . She was rejecting me, coming back , rejecting again. I a high valuable man that I need to respect myself. Thank you
I like that she actually gives it to you accurately from a women's standpoint, don't get me wrong the guys giving their version of it in the comments have truth but some is a bit more on the side of unresolved emotions from past experiences
A lot of times these type of girls are talking to other men that pedestalize them. She is not emotionally attached to you because she is exploring her options. She will test you to see what she can get away with or if you are going to be a pushover. Best thing to do is to let her know in the beginning of what expectations you have and that you do not tolerate nonsense. I understand that men are attracted to youth and beauty. However they need to realize that they can't treat women special if they are not reciprocating the same energy. If a woman disrespects you, try not to block her. Just ignore her like she doesn't exist. Find something to keep you distracted or do something that's going to benefit you, because she will know if you are playing games with her. Especially if you continue to talk to a mutual friend. Women don't value attention from men that they are already receive it from. They want attention from the guy that doesn't give it to her. Don't waste your time, money, energy or resources on these type of girls, because they won't appreciate it. They think that the Grass is greener on the other side. Once they start getting older. They won't receive the same amount of attention, because there is always going to be a new generation of younger girls that will receive more attention.
RC. I am so proud of the man you are.❤️ so many can learn a lot from you🥂 Hope You Find Yourself an amazing woman, who appreciates such a wonderful person like you
Thank you so much, but I think that I had already given up on true love. I learned from bad experiences from previous relationships and I value your opinion on your videos on female nature. Not all women are going to be honest about how the female mind works.
I think people come back because the grass is not always greener elsewhere. When they come back, you have to decide whether that person is worth being with you.
her new guy turned out to be a looser,,,cut her loose,but make sure she knows you are doing great and keep her around in the friend zone just to rub it in, like woman do
I was ghosted this past week from a girl I had been dating for the past couple of months. It hurts even more because I already suffer from depression. She told me everything from "I made her feel safe," "she is not used to a respectable, kind, fun guy. I tried to be mysterious and fun with this girl, but I think she just got irritated with me. It's my fault. I kind of wish she would come back. Thank you Maritza
It's ok bruh, if she likes you she's going to miss you and will come back to you, stay strong and don't worry too much about her not coming back, she just wanted space, let her have her space and don't worry too much about losing her, just focus on your wellbeing, and accupy your time staying busy working or fitness hobbies, your path and purpose, keep in mind when one door closes another one opens, bruh
No, my sweetheart no, if it was meant to be then she would be there, she didn't appreciate you, now go and be better and work on you and find yourself a great lady, and in the meantime, enjoy the ride. I invite you to subscribe ! ❤️
Although my ex girlfriend didn't reject me when we first met she left me for another guy but after It not Working out she tried to come back ,no chance I value myself to much her ship has sailed .
My fiancé and I broke up on the morning of our wedding day. I did all I could for her, but it was not enough. She hasn’t looked back and come back but I know she won’t find someone who cared about her as much as I did.
@@Soulbooklet won’t get into too much detail but she could not get along with my parents, she thought they were too much, even though they live away from me and wouldn’t be that big a part of my lives. She basically asked me to choose between her or them. Also, she took for granted things I did for her. She didn’t respect me so I let it go.
Families are not easy , it’s up to us to balance it out and to be the middle union between them all, sad to know 1 fight can end all the good times , but life does happen how it needs to , I hope your doing better , hope you have moved on and healed , maybe a good lady friend can help you overcome any issue much faster 😇 thanks for opening up
@@Soulbooklet thank you Maritza, I can sense the sincerity in your response just as I can see it in your videos. I am on the path to healing. And I agree, she should have been mature enough to understand that it’s me and her together as a team against the issue.
@@Soulbooklet no this is very bad sad and painful ending. Because we have also a child . A household. A safe bubble. And all that is destroyed. I all started with a break that she wanted because she lost her feelings for me. And she started to acting cold to me. And sometimes she gave me the feelings that there was hope than pushing me away like acting cold again and rejecting me. A week later again she showed some love. I felt insecure needy and desperate. And it ended up that she cheated when i was at home with our child she slept with someone else. A day later she told me that she made a big mistake. And that she’s scared she screwed everything up. But now I’m done. This was to much for me. And what she didn’t said to me last month I said to her. I don’t want you anymore. Your disgusting. I want a divorce. I’m still in pain but that’s not because i lost her. It’s because my daughters safe bubble is destroyed our family life
@@jdnrotterdam2150 I’m so sorry you are going through this. Do you really want a divorce or do you think there is any space for healing and reconciliation? The human is a complex creature, sometimes we need to find ourselves again in order to be the best of us in a relationship. If you need to talk, you can send me an email. Have a wonderful weekend., and if you decide not to take her back, then, that is what the world wanted for you, because everything in life happens for a reason❤️
@@Soulbooklet i believe that 2! No she had sex with someone else. That’s exit for me. It’s very painful but how can you do this to your family? I’m in allot of pain and don’t know how to handle it. Also dor my daughter it’s a big nightmare. Every morning when i wake up than i’m hoping that it’s a bad dream. But it’s not. I wish a nice sweet woman. That accepts me who i am. Who’s next to me also in bad and good times. And that i can trust that she won’t leave
Bandana lady ! Yes , some people don't realize what they have until it's gone. Exactly what you say. One thing though : between some people / couples it does last. So it is possible. Whether people want to stay with one person forever is another matter. You should use your Spanish more in your videos ; it sounds lovely with your natural accent. Adiós chica guapa !
I am submerged under an ocean of grief. No air; I cannot, do not: breathe. I want to die. I can't bear the pain. Terror and horror live inside me. No safe space. I am raped. He left me. And all I see is him and her together; all over social media. He raped me. He raped my soul. HOW THE FUCK COULD HE DO THIS TO ME? HOW? HOW DOES HE NOT MISS ME? HOW COULD HE JUST THROW AWAY OUR CONECCTION? HOW HOW HOW HOW HOW??? the waves of grief come crushing me. CONSUMING ME!! leaving me unable to breathe. drowning in darkness. one moment I'm okay. the next I'm in panicked despair. how could my best friend do this to me? abandon and betray me, and discard me like garbage? how? how could he so easily replace me with another? my heart is shattered; my soul is raped. rage and grief: torment and torture me, leaving me breathless... I desperately want to escape the pain that I'm in: debilitating paralyzing all-consuming hyperventilating panic and grief... His name is Bryan and he raped my soul. Viciously maliciously brutally violently. I thought he was my best friend. He betrayed and abandoned me and left me alone to die. Replaced me. Discarded me. So... Now... I must: Release all chords, hooks, ties, and attachments to him specifically, and also generally: to any person, place, or thing, on any time continuum, that is no longer for my highest and best good, and healing... I release all of these things now, and forevermore, and I watch them dissolve into the nothingness, from which they came... Thank you, thank you, thank you - IT IS DONE! 🙏 And here are 14 gentle and urgent reminders I must always remember: 1. You're ALWAYS exactly where you are supposed to be 2. Self-esteem is measured by you (nobody else gets to decide your worth) 3. Get rid of fear: FOREVER 4. When things are tough, change the way you see things 5. Don't dwell on/in the past (come back to this present moment) 6. It's only temporary (all of it!) 7. You have what it takes 8. You don't need to change 9. Release your need for control 10. Accept. Allow. Breathe. Deep. 11. Remember where you came from 12. Remember that you are not alone (not ever!) 13. Remember who you are 14. What they did/do to you has nothing to do with you Now I am taking my power back. Stepping out of the prison. By remembering: I am the manifestation of Divine Life. I call upon my truest highest self to step forth to (re)claim my power: as a beautiful manifestation of God! I affirm peace and comfort and joy and magic and bliss. AFFIRMATIVE PRAYER: I am one with the Divine. I experience, peace, BLISS, love, and joy: CONSTANTLY AND CONSISTENTLY. I experience everything as grace AND AS LOVE. I am at peace. I honor the Divine within me.
Dear very profound words , thank you for sharing . You need to find happiness in yourself even if your without him, he is not your life , he was a part of it at one point, but your life continues . Be strong and be thankful for the opportunity you get every day .
None of these are convincing anyone of high value to take them back, best to move on. "life is 1 big party when your still young, but whose gonna have you back when it's all done".
Love is an illusion. It’s a word used to mask the truth behind our actual motivation which is our desire to feel valued by people whose opinion matters to us at the moment. Once people gain your appreciation they look for someone else more valuable than you to see if they can gain their appreciation. Once they fail they will come back to you. It’s called narcissism and everyone has a degree of it in them.
I’m not looking for appreciation. I’m looking for feedback so I can ground my awareness of my own human nature and motivation in reality instead of being blinded by idealistic thinking and language games.
Man, She's a Sweet Woman. I had to get My Maritza Fix Today. It's been Awhile. Not Disappointed! Kind, Intelligent, Useful, Video as Always. No Rope No Goat!
Never happened to me, but in all honesty, I think I was as much to blame for relationship break ups, as the one common denominator, there's a reason why all of my partners cheated. I'm no prince charming, I used to feel sorry for myself, I have since grown to learn, not everyone is meant to be in a relationship.
Hell no there’s no take back. Damn right stay gone. Honestly never take a person back because thing’s will only be worse if you do. Honestly I look at it this way if a person truly love are cares they aren’t going to do anything that could ruin a relationship they have. Maybe that’s just me??????
The best is to hear someone out, but if you have moved on, that is probably a better option for you, thank you for watching and for giving us your good opinion💕
Just remember fellow gentlemen there are 3.8 billion women in this world. So don't chase mentally damaged goods. There ARE still good women left in this world who are genuinely good n clear hearted and get it. Those are the ones we have to find and teach to the younger generation. God bless
I have a story it was the first girl in high school i had a crush on the girl rejected me and she eventually left and got a bf in university 5 years after no contact she came to my martial arts with her friend and tried to come back with me her face was priceless that i walked by her
Going through this now. Had a gym crush on a girl who showed interest. I was working on my self-confidence when I approached, I was a little weak. She rejected me for another guy. I'm now more fit and outgoing, and she stares and glances at me and stays when her bf leaves.. no thanks
Oh duck ! I'm sorry . But use this time to take cold shower and think clear . Go excercise, look great , be confident . And understand your born alone and you will die alone . You don't need her to live . So use this as an experience to be the best of you !
@@Soulbooklet Thank you so much for your advice. I think what's hurting me is not knowing what i did wrong. I guess this is what you get for being the nice guy. I really thought everything was going great. I give her space, and from nowhere she ended and wants to be friends. I said no thank you and removed her from everything so that way we have no mode of communication.
Oh! Maritza, if only women can behave as you explained, there will be more love, marriages and kids. It's a shame the useless games some women play that causes men like me not to bother but to concentrate on his business and on himself.
I dated a girl and discovered she had other lovers she is very beautiful yet she is a narcissist, bipolar, addicted to zanax , alcohol and sex... She is 40 yrs old and last month suffered 3 heart attacks in the same month.....but now she drinks more alcohol and is even more rebellious and wild...as if she wants to die She has never been a true girlfriend dating only me....she has always had lots of lovers behind my back ..one guy she dated tried to kill her by throwing her from a 6 story window...he went to prison...she dropped the charges he is out and seeing her again. another guy broke her ribs and hit her in the head now she is deaf out of one ear...she is still seeing him.. She treats those guys nicely....and treats me like dirt...although she was very sweet to me in the beginning...and made me feel like I found the woman of my dreams. I was always a gentleman to her....and after a while, she rejected me.....I tried to take her to a doctor to help her detox naturally.....and to church to get close to God...I tried to get her s nice job...and tried to help her get her degree online. These things didn't appeal to her....she wanted the wild life with others who had the same addictions as she has.... I don't fit in.....I go to church to pray for her....this is a spiritual war....she has demonic spirits that have control over her...I have the holy spirit in my heart....her spirits want to drive me away because I represent a life plan for her.....the so called bad boys she associates are also demon possessed...they encourage her to get drunk and high and use and abuse her... They could care less for her as a human being. In at first wanted to marry her buy a house and have children.....until I saw how she really is. However, I love her and care for her as a human being....I have some neighbors who have been convincing her to go to church....as a little girl, she used to go to church....so it is in her upbringing. I don't want her to die... She is showing signs that she may want to go to church... .if I see her trying to turn her life around...I will be there for her only as a friend.....and if she is truly repented and gives up 100% all her bad addictions and no good friends.....and starts new friendships with clean and decent church going people, I may consider dating her again....if God wants this to happen. In the meantime, she is a sick woman...and it would be so easy to walk away....eve though I am in love with her... she right now doesn't know what love is...and cannot maintain a committed relationship....if God sends me a woman that is right for me, I will date her.....and I will still try and help the sick woman.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us, this sounds like a big love dilemma . Always remember you have to be very well in order to help someone else, and only love who is willing to love you the same way back💕
Wake up simp! You will help the sick woman by getting a real new girlfriend! When the sick woman sees you with another woman, Watch how fast she suddenly wants to go to church with YOU!
She lost feelings for me, rejected me, then friend-zoned me .... after years. How do you get her back after she chose someone else over you and is now seeing him? She reaches out and breadcrumbs me to make sure she still has me, even when in no contact. Ella sabe que yo se que tiene pareja, y sabe que lo odio y me duele. She blocks me, unblocks me, blocks me, etc. I just want to forget about her and walk away from this pain, but it seems so impossible. Why does she keep fucking with me? I wish her and her new pareja's relationship would fail. Sorry, I'm just hurt.... I like your videos ❤
Benjamin I am so sorry you're going through this, have you not blocked her every single way possible? Why haven't you found another woman who will eventually heal the wound. If I were you I would just focus on you and progressing as a man as an individual, and finding woman to keep you happy and busy and be determined and don't allow her and don't give her the time of the date ever again. Thank you so much for watching, if you need more help you can contact me through email and I will listen to you and see what else you can do.
@@Soulbooklet Hola Maritza, gracias for your response. Im not a guy who typically blocks people, but in the case of this Bruja, you're right, maybe I should. I appreciate the words and encouragement, and also the email invite. That's very kind of you. I'll do that, and I'll be sure to keep it brief, as I'm sure your time is valuable. And I could use the help. I am working on myself, but it is still painful, sitting with it each day, and being in such close proximity to her doesn't make it any easier, but that's no fault but my own. Again thank you ❤️🩹
Got rejected twice by my old crush so I blocked her and moved on. 5 months later I got into a new relationship that I am happy with but one day my old crush's friend reached out to me and told me that she's been trying to get back in contact with me and I told her no that I am in a new relationship and moved on
Could also be the person she rejected was'nt the person she thought he was and was actually better. Maybe she thought he was just going to use her for sex and run away but after getting to know the guy actually a good person who treats women good. Pretty sure if some of the women who rejected me seen me with a girlfriend and actually treated her good it could make them realized they made a mistake rejecting me.
She's coming half heart half heart for someone... She's pride i don't like pride people... She comes n go it doesn't matter one day jearney that's it ... Impression is very important . She doesn't have any good impression on me so she behaved reckless, i felt bad impression on her i just avoiding her pride people doesn't care others impression they always gives importance for their own feelings that's why they loose others good impression towards them ... I don't want...i moved on ....
My side of the story makes me look like the innocent party. Even tho she love bombed me and was crazy for me and acted like the world would end if we weren't together she never thought to engage with me "properly". She had no interest in knowing me, she just wanted me to play the dutiful role.....in serving her desires du jour complete with the option of bailing out for whatever flaky reason. You don't build a house on quicksand. Not sure where that kind of entitlement comes from.
Hello, you have the right to act on your instinct and thoughts, if this is how you feel, and she didn’t show you are tell you otherwise when you are in your right, thank you for sharing 💕
I just ended a 3 1/2 year relationship with a woman… July 11, 2024, she pushes me away… I got up grab my things walked out like a man focus on myself… 20 minutes later, she text me back. I did not answer a few days after that on her late Saturday afternoon she text me back again….. I never replied… Her birthday was July 26, 2024. I did not send her a text or birthday wish…. I focus as a man and I stay in abundance….🐅
It sounds to me like she didn't know what she had until she lost it! See if you can talk and work things out! If you think she loves you and it is repairable
Women, do want ever you want, not my concern. Men, never go back to someone who discards you, ever. Nothing good will come of it. Forget it, cross it off and move on.
@@Soulbooklet Its not about hurt. Its about doing the right thing. And someone who crosses your boundaries is not someone who is doing the right thing by you. These are small, selfish people and more often than not, they are also of low intelligence. None of that is good for a relationship. Letting them go means you will have a better life without them.
This is so accurate Maritza. If she doesn’t appreciate your presence, bless her with your absence.
Yes, my love right on❤️
Absolutely dead right
She not right your just a simp her target audience 😂😂
@SoulBooklet With Maritza, I would marry you in Australia ❤
Im being taken for granted was a phrase that keot popping into my mind
Im gonna more strict in myself and demanding of others
1- the guy she really wanted has made it clear he doesn't want her.
2- the other guys she really wanted ain't making time for her after getting what they wanted from her
3- she needs an ego boost to feel good again and you do that well with the attention you give her.
4-all her previous options have moved on and you're the best out of a crap bunch of options she has remaining.
5- she's had enough fun and games and wants to see what she can get from you if she gives you a chance.
6- she's just bored currently she will reject you again once someone else who excites her shows interest.
7- she has well and truly hit the wall and no longer attracts her ideal type or balanced men, she doesn't like you but you're the safest option left and the only one willing to take her seriously.
Thank you for those other options that can absolutely be true!
@CREATIVE MINDSET Get yourself a woman from another country no matter the religion or country. Trans women are also a good option if you don't plan children. People's minds will change in regard to that. If a a woman can't have a child, what is a trans woman different than? I've seen a lot of trans women that look 50 times better than your average woman. If you're not wanting to have children don't die alone. Women have no mercy, they will pay for their behavior karma is coming don't worry, but you don't have to be the looser in these times of trouble. This advice is coming from a young white european (straight guy - hate men how they look, love female body) Do the right thing don't fall into depression buddy.
The seventh sentence is brutal
Raw and spot on
@@frankt.1391 trans?? Disgusting
It's a trap my friends, she didn't catch the Chad Vader so she gets back at you as a last option, never accept that, stay strong and never lose your dignity.
Yes that's a valid possibility 🥂
@@Soulbooklet Its a probability
you loved her face, her body, her laugh, the scent of her neck, the taste of her lips...when she tuned cold and indifferent, mean and bitter and projected all of her daddy issues on you and expected you to take care of everything and she had zero expectation of herself to be a decent human being or show compassion, love attention or affection...it was over and you walk away. you never return, because that magical person you met is never going to be the the person you originally met.
Thank you so much for sharing this, this sounds like you fell in love with a complete lie, the only good thing is that you live in learn this experience has taught you a lot💕 thank you for watching
GET A REALITY CHECK YOU ARE BEING PLAYED TILL THE NEX T TIME
So true
Yes, it's spot on!
3 years of a Roller Coaster Ride, and everything said texted here is what was going on, including the Daddy and trust issues. I was very faithful and genuine with this woman, showing her compassion and giving affection to feel loved, comfortable and secure, to envelope her in safety, as showing understanding that I was there for her.
I've also waited for her twice when she went back to Honduras to take care of her sick mother for a couple of months each time!
Hmm, as if that were really the case?
Then, if we had an argument over something not good for our relationship, or it wasn't going her way, she would retreat for months and wouldn't speak to work it out, as it was always my fault, my flaws, as it was dealing with a woman having unrequited love, being so flakey, distant, cold, and judgemental!
I've also helped her out financially, enough to pay a bill or two, as she was working herself, and she would say that I never gave anything? I've cooked for her, given her things that she can use, gave her a new comfort bed that has rising features head to toe.
I've done more for this woman, and if I asked for anything with the little that I asked for, was too much, with no mirroring qualities whatsoever.
I really wonder how she gets along with her older children and grandchildren, all whom I've never formally met?
Now, I'll just date women, with no expectations, until meeting one with attraction and having the chemistry together, as she must be also a Woman who shows interest, communication, affection, compassion, who would then come down to developing trust, loyalty, love, and looking for commitment...
I won't settle for less!
@@GeraldDelGiorno ....yep, been down that track and recently got rid of such a woman the first time she shut down to me emotionally at the 3 month mark. I gave her 3 days to snap out of it but she didn't so on day 4 I abruptly ended the relationship. It was actually an awesome 3 months, not even so much as a single cross word, just that her ability to mirror all my love, intimacy, communication and affection was truly amazing and I never saw even a hint of who she really was till she typically ran out of energy to keep up the facade.
I have zero tolerance and strong boundaries when it comes to this sort of nonsense in relationship so she simply had to go, hard as that was. I've not seen her since and she will know better than to gravitate back towards me because she would know she'd have to face up to herself and these cowards don't do that.
The best way to find out if she's serious about coming back is to make her make the first move to come back and make sure she's genuine about it. I'm going through this now. I don't think she's a game player she just didn't see my that way and now maybe she does. I'll pursue on my own time but I'm not asking her out again. She'll have to come to me.
Oh, thank you for sharing that, as long as you have clarity of why she didn’t want you before and honesty is on the table, then you act as your mind and heart, tell you to act🌸
I am going thru the same situation with one girl at the gym. She always gets on my way, takes quick glances at me, acts weird in my presence in hopes I catch her staring at me. It’s annoying situation but I would really appreciate a feedback on what I need to do
It's simple guys: She thought she had other options, but came back to ol' reliable because she's lonely. She'll leave again as soon as a "better" option presents itself. She probably desires a bad boy, but will come crawling back when bad boy leaves her a single mother. All of a sudden, stability and kindness looks great for baby.
Any option is possible, but it’s best to weigh out your own options and benefits before taking someone back
These people who do this are personality disordered. They will do the push pull thing to anyone who allows it. They're never happy for long and constantly need to find the greener grass only to burn the whole garden. Leave it and work on yourself. You don't want these people in your life bringing chaos to your peace.
And for those who can't, who find themselves going back to this game, you're probably codependent or personality disordered yourself and need to work on yourself big time and get to the root cause of it. If you don't, you'll continue attracting these people into your life.
Hope these harsh truths help someone who needs to hear it. It needs to be called out for what it is.
this applies to even if there is no pregnancy, they realize they were used and want real love suddenly, but don't kid yourself, once they see something else they like they won't care again
I married a nice guy, who wasn’t a bad boy. I’m glad I dodged the bad boys.
I like to one more to your list, most women come back after rejecting a guy is because they test the guy to see how much he wants her by playing hard to get and force the guy to desperately chase her, but the guy does not give in to her test and just ignores her, but thats when the tables are turned and she begins to chase him, but by then he's moved on and she's left wonderiing why he keeps ignoring her
Ok that's a great one too ❤️ thank you for adding it
If she's playing hard to get she does NOT like you..and it's more a game to her where she thrives of the attention and chasing you do ..women do not reject men they like, they go above and beyond for such men..cancel plans with friends, cancel dates with other men, cancel work ,call in sick to spend more time, spend her money to see him, treat and impress him and most importantly they try to be in his physical presence asap!!! With a good 75% chance of creating a physical sexual interaction
I agree with everything you said, bruh, thanks for the reminder, women will indeed make it clear that they are attracted to you by their actions, Amen
There's no test involved, that's bs! While she "test" she is rotating dicks and see if any of them stick, if not she goes back.
@@a.b5625 wrong. sometimes, the guy that she likes the most, is the guy she plays hard to get with, because she wants you to respect her because she wants it all with you. the other guys, she doesn't care what they think about her, so she'll get drunk and sleep with them.
Because even though she does not want you and never will, it pains her to see you are no longer paying her any attention and giving it to someone else. Do not fall for it, the minute you give her attention again, you will be dropped like a brick.
💯
Every situation is different but yes, we have to analyze all outcomes❤️
An ex is an ex for a reason. Next
Truest comment here. Attention has always been currency for most women. Which is fine if it's genuine, *and* reciprocated, appreciated. However, social media has categorically created more and more narcissists and narcissistic behavior, And conditioned Women primarily to see others as a source of attention, weather in the forms of likes and hearts or dms. And men, being statistically more visually driven, take the bait, and "simp" far too easily. Just look at the average growth rate of an Instagram or TikTok account of girls posting sensual content. We have created the equivalent of an entire nation of spoiled and self indulgent "child stars" - Or people who have contributed little or nothing of worth, yet have thousands of people pedestalyzing them. It's also rewired our brains incentive reward system in a terrible way. Adolescent and young adult girls rates of self-deleting has seen yet another uptick this last year. At some point we need to recognize that attention doesn't equal intention, and not everyone praising you actually cares about you.
Not all women are born to be run over. Else you will give love & attention to no one even the good women
Women often think that "the grass is greener on the other side" but once they find out that there is NO grass on the other side to begin with, then they start to rethink their choices and maybe think about that they had made a mistake. Dont make it easy for them. Because you are worth no matter what she, or anyone else thinks. You are valued :)
Ellesar, those are powerful words you said, thank you for sharing them🌸
Actually in my case, I did find grass worth to water, and we are going into our fourth wedding anniversary. :)
Money and my fitness are my priorities. They never disappointed me unlike some women :) Congrats on 2k subs!
Good priorities . But also my love , find your self a nice humble honest lady .
🥂😘thx for the congrats
$100 will always be $100
She told the truth, excellent video. If a man was innocent in a relationship, and the woman unfairly rejected him, sooner or later she will definitely be punished with guilt. I was rejected by my ex-wife despite my true love for her and my dedication to keeping the family alive. Now, 8 years later, I'm still single but have managed to move on with a contented attitude toward life and healing from my battered self-esteem.
Thank you so much, you're a great example of coming out better and stronger. I hope you don't give up on love and wish it comes soon to you again.🫶 I invite you to subscribe❤️
It took you 8 years later😮
You are absolutely right! It's too late to realized. It's her loss not mine! She's not worth it to live for.
That’s a good outlook, though it can happen that they realize they did. Love you., but then you have to realize if they are what you need in your life.
Good one! If someone wants space, give them the universe. When they circle back it will be the same or worse.
There you go ! Saying good things 😁🥂
I think of this situation as. "You had your chance, now I'm moving on"
That is very respectable
I'm in this EXACT situation right now.
18 days after refusing to see me before I went abroad, maintaining radio silence, ending our relationship with each other on Facebook and changing herself to single.
I went no contact, deleted her pics off my social media and MOVED ON...now she's messaging my best friend saying how much she misses me, sent me a message asking if I'm okay...I'm being curt...that door is closed and "Ridin Solo" is playing in my mind 😂❤
Sounds to me like she regrets her fast and absurd actions . Analyze why the breakup took place . And see if she can mature up! Because her actions were all out of anger and not well based ❤️
But no matter what you do, NEVER disrespect the girl who rejected you. act like nothin happens, act like the rejection didn't even bother you. don't ever planning on taking revenge to them especially if it's a violent one. Be kind to them always even if it hurts you inside. always show them respect and wish them have a great life and that's how being a MAN really is.
Do you recommend I block them on social media and whatsapp if they rejected me but did it in a lying way?
You are a gentleman. Thank you for that response.🌸
Yes, I recommend you not giving space in your mind to think of someone who wasn’t honest with you and who used you for any advantage, and then blocking them stops you from reaching out I absolutely recommend it❤️
@@Soulbooklet thank you so much for your advice
Man WTF you being kind to her for? She rejected you. She dont care about your feelings. Thats not kind of her. So why the fuckk would you be kind to her? Man Fuckk that.
She doesn't come back for you she comes back to save herself because it didnt work out with the new guy do not kid yourselves they only return to save themselves from the destruction they caused themselves by leaving your protection. Never forget your worth kings and stay toxic!
Hi Jose, thank you for your thoughts, you are right, that could be a high probability🌸
A down to earth lady is rare these days. Well said everyone should find someone who’s willing to stick through the good and bad, ride or die. You don’t find loyalty in the pound or the dollar, as you say money comes and goes.
Thank you for adding such valuable words to the video ❤️
I invite you to subscribe
Never be anyone second choice!
Very smart thinking southwind 💗
Fellas pick a start date and dedicate 6 -18 months to self improvement.. financial, mental health and physical health.. start an additional job, read books socialise privately only with those friends that are successful,smart, motivating and humble .. save money!!!, ignore women, bars, clubs, social media etc hibernate and develop yourself and naturally you'll become more confident, attractive, and have more money when the 6-18 months are ove, go buy new clothes a new car, decorate or move house and you'll be much more vibrant, upbeat and enthusiastic especially when you go out / start socialising again rejoin social media etc and you'll attract much better in all aspects of life...women included, multiple women..and you won't ever care about rejection again you'll be to busy
My God! You drew me into your message as if I was reading a story, amazing advice💗 thank you for sharing those words of wisdom for all the gentleman out there!
If she rejects me, I'm older and past games, I won't bother anymore, I'm gone
That's great ! That's what maturity does , it teaches us !
And when she tries to Slingback
you look her right in the eye and say
"You didn't want me then
What makes you think I need you now."
My dear Jerry, those are wise words you said💝 maybe you can listen to her and see what she has to say, but for the most part, it's best to be strong.
No thanks once you reject me I have to move on because, I don't trust that you won't do it again.
OK Jeffrey, you have a right to stand in your ground and having respect for yourself❤️
My wife left one morning and never returned, this after 22 years. If you want to play these games don't do it with a man or woman who has been so severely rejected, he may never allow you within a hundred yards of himself. This girl I liked a lot did that to me even though she knew my wife left like that. She tried to come back and I told her to go away. She spent the next year trying to get close to me but I can't take that shit.
You are one strong man Mark. Strong for opening up with us., and strong for proving you don’t allow anyone to step on you.💕
If your wife left then this means you did something stupid, insecure and she was just done with you. If we only saw your life, how feminine or insecure you pretended and let her rule over you and she was done with you. Women dont dump men they are in love with and it didn't happen in 1 sec. It was a whole process.
I have no respect for cold people
It shows how worthless their inner self really is
Yes, it happened to me, but never gave a second chance to anyone.
It’s OK to listen and see peoples responses, but for the most part, it’s best to move on
I will take this type, immediately notice their deep need for ego gratification, play along well, and then say u have to earn my time, energy, and effort now, priceless.
Good one 🫶👌🏻
Thank you for this, I realize it is true and it takes time. I am in no contact and it is very rough but she needs to feel to realize. Hearing this video I see she took me for granted.
Thank you for the nice message, and I’m happy this can help you in anyway💕
Your positive attitude is infectious. Thanks!!!!
Those are very sweet words. Thank you, Ron.
wow Maritza , This was happening to me . She was rejecting me, coming back , rejecting again. I a high valuable man that I need to respect myself. Thank you
Andres ! We live and learn and only experiences teach us what we need and we deserve !
@@Soulbooklet it is hard because I love her so much but I need to respect myself in order to give love . Thank you 🙏🏻
Be strong ! We are born alone , and we will leave this world alone. No one is indispensable !
I like that she actually gives it to you accurately from a women's standpoint, don't get me wrong the guys giving their version of it in the comments have truth but some is a bit more on the side of unresolved emotions from past experiences
Thank you G for enjoying and appreciating ❤️
Making these videos give reminds us to keep passionate but remember our worth
That's it my jeramaine, always smart ❤️
finally a smart talking woman nice video
Those are some special words. Thank you sir.💕
"The grass wasn't greener on the otherside" after she left (to late)
it never usually is. but things happen alwasy for a reason. though at times we may not know the reason ❤️
A lot of times these type of girls are talking to other men that pedestalize them. She is not emotionally attached to you because she is exploring her options. She will test you to see what she can get away with or if you are going to be a pushover. Best thing to do is to let her know in the beginning of what expectations you have and that you do not tolerate nonsense. I understand that men are attracted to youth and beauty. However they need to realize that they can't treat women special if they are not reciprocating the same energy. If a woman disrespects you, try not to block her. Just ignore her like she doesn't exist. Find something to keep you distracted or do something that's going to benefit you, because she will know if you are playing games with her. Especially if you continue to talk to a mutual friend. Women don't value attention from men that they are already receive it from. They want attention from the guy that doesn't give it to her. Don't waste your time, money, energy or resources on these type of girls, because they won't appreciate it. They think that the Grass is greener on the other side. Once they start getting older. They won't receive the same amount of attention, because there is always going to be a new generation of younger girls that will receive more attention.
RC. I am so proud of the man you are.❤️ so many can learn a lot from you🥂 Hope You Find Yourself an amazing woman, who appreciates such a wonderful person like you
Thank you so much, but I think that I had already given up on true love. I learned from bad experiences from previous relationships and I value your opinion on your videos on female nature. Not all women are going to be honest about how the female mind works.
I block to keep my sanity intact, if they wanna reach back, they can find their way, no easy access
I think people come back because the grass is not always greener elsewhere. When they come back, you have to decide whether that person is worth being with you.
Very wise !
She thought she was going to get with a hotter guy, and crashed/burned instead. You’re just the backup plan
It’s all a possibility my dear George ❤️
I try to watch other women talking about relationships sometimes Maritza, but they all lie, only you speak the truth.
My Wellington you always go missing ! Good to know your there ❤️
@@Soulbooklet My mind is a little bit "airy" this month Maritza, but I'll be back on track, I promise!
Jessica J is probably the worst
Like how she mixes that latin flavor - SOMETHING RUclips IS DEFINITELY MISSING. Good Job, Homegirl 🎉🎉🎉
Wow Jay, what a special compliment, Thank you.🌸 I’m glad you enjoyed.
Very smart advice, always strive for the best, never settle for being the 2nd option
Thank you so much ! I'm glad you appreciate ❤️
her new guy turned out to be a looser,,,cut her loose,but make sure she knows you are doing great and keep her around in the friend zone just to rub it in, like woman do
oh my 👀
I really like the way she presented this video , i just agree with all the things she said
thank you so much Eli's. I am glad you enjoyed it.❤️
I was ghosted this past week from a girl I had been dating for the past couple of months. It hurts even more because I already suffer from depression. She told me everything from "I made her feel safe," "she is not used to a respectable, kind, fun guy. I tried to be mysterious and fun with this girl, but I think she just got irritated with me. It's my fault. I kind of wish she would come back. Thank you Maritza
It's ok bruh, if she likes you she's going to miss you and will come back to you, stay strong and don't worry too much about her not coming back, she just wanted space, let her have her space and don't worry too much about losing her, just focus on your wellbeing, and accupy your time staying busy working or fitness hobbies, your path and purpose, keep in mind when one door closes another one opens, bruh
No, my sweetheart no, if it was meant to be then she would be there, she didn't appreciate you, now go and be better and work on you and find yourself a great lady, and in the meantime, enjoy the ride.
I invite you to subscribe ! ❤️
@@oscargonza2748 thank you so much man
@SoulBooklet With Maritza thank you Maritza. It means a lot. I am subscribed. I like your videos
No problem, bruh, God bless
AND THE TRUTH SHALL SET ME FREE.....!!!!!
yes sir just like that! 🥂
Although my ex girlfriend didn't reject me when we first met she left me for another guy but after It not Working out she tried to come back ,no chance I value myself to much her ship has sailed .
Wow . You have your worth well self valued 💕good for you
@@Soulbooklet thank you hun
Thank you Maritza, right now it hurts but I don't think I will want her back if she trys to come back.
Good for you my love it's your decision
My fiancé and I broke up on the morning of our wedding day. I did all I could for her, but it was not enough. She hasn’t looked back and come back but I know she won’t find someone who cared about her as much as I did.
Oh dear Sparsh, things always do happen for a reason , but what happen if you mind sharing ?
@@Soulbooklet won’t get into too much detail but she could not get along with my parents, she thought they were too much, even though they live away from me and wouldn’t be that big a part of my lives. She basically asked me to choose between her or them. Also, she took for granted things I did for her. She didn’t respect me so I let it go.
Families are not easy , it’s up to us to balance it out and to be the middle union between them all, sad to know 1 fight can end all the good times , but life does happen how it needs to , I hope your doing better , hope you have moved on and healed , maybe a good lady friend can help you overcome any issue much faster 😇 thanks for opening up
@@Soulbooklet thank you Maritza, I can sense the sincerity in your response just as I can see it in your videos. I am on the path to healing. And I agree, she should have been mature enough to understand that it’s me and her together as a team against the issue.
@@sparshrastogi2646 thanks for those words ! Time does surely cure the heart from any pain ! 🥂 have a good day
Exactly what my wife did to me. And know i’m done. We’re going to divorce. First i was destroyed now she’s the one crying
Hello !
Thx for sharing that private story with us, I like happy endings, so I'm sorry this ended up like this❤️
@@Soulbooklet no this is very bad sad and painful ending. Because we have also a child . A household. A safe bubble. And all that is destroyed. I all started with a break that she wanted because she lost her feelings for me. And she started to acting cold to me. And sometimes she gave me the feelings that there was hope than pushing me away like acting cold again and rejecting me. A week later again she showed some love. I felt insecure needy and desperate. And it ended up that she cheated when i was at home with our child she slept with someone else. A day later she told me that she made a big mistake. And that she’s scared she screwed everything up. But now I’m done. This was to much for me. And what she didn’t said to me last month I said to her. I don’t want you anymore. Your disgusting. I want a divorce. I’m still in pain but that’s not because i lost her. It’s because my daughters safe bubble is destroyed our family life
@@jdnrotterdam2150 I’m so sorry you are going through this. Do you really want a divorce or do you think there is any space for healing and reconciliation? The human is a complex creature, sometimes we need to find ourselves again in order to be the best of us in a relationship. If you need to talk, you can send me an email. Have a wonderful weekend., and if you decide not to take her back, then, that is what the world wanted for you, because everything in life happens for a reason❤️
@@Soulbooklet i believe that 2! No she had sex with someone else. That’s exit for me. It’s very painful but how can you do this to your family? I’m in allot of pain and don’t know how to handle it. Also dor my daughter it’s a big nightmare. Every morning when i wake up than i’m hoping that it’s a bad dream. But it’s not. I wish a nice sweet woman. That accepts me who i am. Who’s next to me also in bad and good times. And that i can trust that she won’t leave
@@jdnrotterdam2150 im here if you need to talk ! 🙏🏻
Bandana lady ! Yes , some people don't realize what they have until it's gone. Exactly what you say. One thing though : between some people / couples it does last. So it is possible. Whether people want to stay with one person forever is another matter. You should use your Spanish more in your videos ; it sounds lovely with your natural accent. Adiós chica guapa !
Hola mi Gunter . Gracias por tu lindo mensaje ❤️
@@Soulbooklet De nada !
I am submerged under an ocean of grief.
No air; I cannot, do not: breathe.
I want to die.
I can't bear the pain.
Terror and horror live inside me.
No safe space.
I am raped.
He left me.
And all I see is him and her together;
all over social media.
He raped me.
He raped my soul.
HOW THE FUCK COULD HE DO THIS TO ME? HOW?
HOW DOES HE NOT MISS ME?
HOW COULD HE JUST THROW AWAY OUR CONECCTION?
HOW HOW HOW HOW HOW???
the waves of grief come crushing me. CONSUMING ME!!
leaving me unable to breathe.
drowning in darkness.
one moment I'm okay.
the next I'm in panicked despair.
how could my best friend do this to me?
abandon and betray me, and discard me like garbage?
how? how could he so easily replace me with another?
my heart is shattered; my soul is raped.
rage and grief: torment and torture me, leaving me breathless...
I desperately want to escape
the pain that I'm in:
debilitating paralyzing
all-consuming hyperventilating panic and grief...
His name is Bryan and he raped my soul.
Viciously maliciously brutally violently.
I thought he was my best friend.
He betrayed and abandoned me
and left me alone to die.
Replaced me.
Discarded me.
So...
Now...
I must:
Release all chords, hooks, ties, and attachments
to him specifically, and also generally:
to any person, place, or thing,
on any time continuum,
that is no longer for my highest and best good, and healing...
I release all of these things now, and forevermore,
and I watch them dissolve into the nothingness, from which they came...
Thank you, thank you, thank you
- IT IS DONE! 🙏
And here are 14 gentle and urgent reminders I must always remember:
1. You're ALWAYS exactly where you are supposed to be
2. Self-esteem is measured by you (nobody else gets to decide your worth)
3. Get rid of fear: FOREVER
4. When things are tough, change the way you see things
5. Don't dwell on/in the past (come back to this present moment)
6. It's only temporary (all of it!)
7. You have what it takes
8. You don't need to change
9. Release your need for control
10. Accept. Allow. Breathe. Deep.
11. Remember where you came from
12. Remember that you are not alone (not ever!)
13. Remember who you are
14. What they did/do to you has nothing to do with you
Now I am taking my power back.
Stepping out of the prison.
By remembering:
I am the manifestation of Divine Life.
I call upon my truest highest self
to step forth to (re)claim my power:
as a beautiful manifestation of God!
I affirm peace and comfort and joy and magic and bliss.
AFFIRMATIVE PRAYER:
I am one with the Divine.
I experience, peace, BLISS, love, and joy:
CONSTANTLY AND CONSISTENTLY.
I experience everything as grace AND AS LOVE.
I am at peace. I honor the Divine within me.
Dear very profound words , thank you for sharing . You need to find happiness in yourself even if your without him, he is not your life , he was a part of it at one point, but your life continues . Be strong and be thankful for the opportunity you get every day .
Wow this video made a lot of sense, and i love the grounded delivery. Thank you! Subscribed!!
Welcome aboard! Thank you for the nice comment❤️
None of these are convincing anyone of high value to take them back, best to move on. "life is 1 big party when your still young, but whose gonna have you back when it's all done".
very true dear Jones....
Love is an illusion. It’s a word used to mask the truth behind our actual motivation which is our desire to feel valued by people whose opinion matters to us at the moment. Once people gain your appreciation they look for someone else more valuable than you to see if they can gain their appreciation. Once they fail they will come back to you. It’s called narcissism and everyone has a degree of it in them.
Very profound words and unique point of you. Thank you for sharing it with all of us 💕
I’m not looking for appreciation. I’m looking for feedback so I can ground my awareness of my own human nature and motivation in reality instead of being blinded by idealistic thinking and language games.
Man, She's a Sweet Woman. I had to get My Maritza Fix Today. It's been Awhile. Not Disappointed! Kind, Intelligent, Useful, Video as Always. No Rope No Goat!
You are so sweet Joe ! Hope all is well❤️
Thank you so much ❤ this made me stronger.
hello Jarrel. Believe me when I tell you, that those beautiful words you tell me ,melt my heart. 💕 have a wonderful week ahead.
Never happened to me, but in all honesty, I think I was as much to blame for relationship break ups, as the one common denominator, there's a reason why all of my partners cheated. I'm no prince charming, I used to feel sorry for myself, I have since grown to learn, not everyone is meant to be in a relationship.
Yes you are correct Andrew! Happiness comes within , and that is whatever makes you happy 💝
Regardless there's no reason for someone to cheat. They should have just broken up with you
Someone who is Perfect does not exist!
You are correct 100%
This sounded like a motivation🔥
hey Nhlanha, first time I see you in the chats, thanks for watching great unique name you have.💕
Great video! Thank you 💙🙏
Thank you so much for watching. I am glad you enjoyed.
Great vid!!! Quick and understandable!!! Bless💯
Thank you for watching. I appreciate that.
Rule number one gentlemen, never take her back!
We can never say never, but usually you are correct
Your words are so true... you are Excellent... ❤
Thank you so much for those meaningful words❤️
I love you sis , thanks for your beautiful words.
So sweet ❤️
Hell no there’s no take back. Damn right stay gone. Honestly never take a person back because thing’s will only be worse if you do. Honestly I look at it this way if a person truly love are cares they aren’t going to do anything that could ruin a relationship they have. Maybe that’s just me??????
The best is to hear someone out, but if you have moved on, that is probably a better option for you, thank you for watching and for giving us your good opinion💕
You are such a sweetheart and thank you for your help through a tough time 😍
You are so welcome . Thank yuh so much for these nice words 😘
Just remember fellow gentlemen there are 3.8 billion women in this world. So don't chase mentally damaged goods. There ARE still good women left in this world who are genuinely good n clear hearted and get it. Those are the ones we have to find and teach to the younger generation. God bless
Amazing and very truthful words ! thx for sharing them
I have a story it was the first girl in high school i had a crush on the girl rejected me and she eventually left and got a bf in university 5 years after no contact she came to my martial arts with her friend and tried to come back with me her face was priceless that i walked by her
Achiles, people can change! But ultimately you do what is right for you 💝
Has happened to us all, hasn’t it?
Yes, my love to both men and women💓
Thank you sweetheart for this. I love you so much........Sal : )
Thank you so much for those sweet words for watching Kyotosal.🌸
Going through this now. Had a gym crush on a girl who showed interest. I was working on my self-confidence when I approached, I was a little weak. She rejected me for another guy. I'm now more fit and outgoing, and she stares and glances at me and stays when her bf leaves.. no thanks
Good for you …confident , in good shape, and with good self esteem ♥️♥️
Thanks for the advice have a fantastic day ❤
You are very kind thank you for watching and enjoying the videos.💕
Well presented our dear Maritza
thank you my Philipsk 💕
This may explain why she started saying things behind my back after she thought i had a gf
In glad you found your answer !
@@Soulbooklet How can i punish her further?
Ty I needed this 💯
Your very welcome Pj 🌸 makes me happy you found it useful
No words to appreciate you !!!
Thank you so much, I appreciate and value your kindness towards me❤️
Beautiful video!
thank you so much❤️ glad you enjoyed it
This is sooo true. Gracias Mi Amor ❤❤👍
You are so welcome💝thanks for watching
This is facts!
Thank you for watching and for appreciating🌸
I got dumped for no reason and she used age as excuse. I feel terrible right now.
Oh duck ! I'm sorry . But use this time to take cold shower and think clear . Go excercise, look great , be confident . And understand your born alone and you will die alone . You don't need her to live . So use this as an experience to be the best of you !
@@Soulbooklet Thank you so much for your advice. I think what's hurting me is not knowing what i did wrong. I guess this is what you get for being the nice guy. I really thought everything was going great. I give her space, and from nowhere she ended and wants to be friends. I said no thank you and removed her from everything so that way we have no mode of communication.
You did good ! Go get your self another lady today ! No waiting , and no looking back ! Go have fun . Life can be short and clock is ticking
@@Soulbooklet thank you so much for lifting me up. It made feel so much better and slowly accepting my the outcome.
Move on!! women that want you wont reject you period.
That’s a very probable statement you have shared 🌸 thx Christian
Oh! Maritza, if only women can behave as you explained, there will be more love, marriages and kids.
It's a shame the useless games some women play that causes men like me not to bother but to concentrate on his business and on himself.
Hello, Chris, believe me a good woman are out there looking for a kind man, when you find one, just tell her and teach her how you want to be loved🌸
@@Soulbooklet Emphasis on him saying “behave” lol
I dated a girl and discovered she had other lovers she is very beautiful yet she is a narcissist, bipolar, addicted to zanax , alcohol and sex...
She is 40 yrs old and last month suffered 3 heart attacks in the same month.....but now she drinks more alcohol and is even more rebellious and wild...as if she wants to die
She has never been a true girlfriend dating only me....she has always had lots of lovers behind my back
..one guy she dated tried to kill her by throwing her from a 6 story window...he went to prison...she dropped the charges he is out and seeing her again.
another guy broke her ribs and hit her in the head now she is deaf out of one ear...she is still seeing him..
She treats those guys nicely....and treats me like dirt...although she was very sweet to me in the beginning...and made me feel like I found the woman of my dreams. I was always a gentleman to her....and after a while, she rejected me.....I tried to take her to a doctor to help her detox naturally.....and to church to get close to God...I tried to get her s nice job...and tried to help her get her degree online.
These things didn't appeal to her....she wanted the wild life with others who had the same addictions as she has....
I don't fit in.....I go to church to pray for her....this is a spiritual war....she has demonic spirits that have control over her...I have the holy spirit in my heart....her spirits want to drive me away because I represent a life plan for her.....the so called bad boys she associates are also demon possessed...they encourage her to get drunk and high and use and abuse her...
They could care less for her as a human being.
In at first wanted to marry her buy a house and have children.....until I saw how she really is.
However, I love her and care for her as a human being....I have some neighbors who have been convincing her to go to church....as a little girl, she used to go to church....so it is in her upbringing.
I don't want her to die...
She is showing signs that she may want to go to church...
.if I see her trying to turn her life around...I will be there for her only as a friend.....and if she is truly repented and gives up 100% all her bad addictions and no good friends.....and starts new friendships with clean and decent church going people, I may consider dating her again....if God wants this to happen.
In the meantime, she is a sick woman...and it would be so easy to walk away....eve though I am in love with her...
she right now doesn't know what love is...and cannot maintain a committed relationship....if God sends me a woman that is right for me, I will date her.....and I will still try and help the sick woman.
Thank you so much for sharing this with us, this sounds like a big love dilemma . Always remember you have to be very well in order to help someone else, and only love who is willing to love you the same way back💕
Wake up simp! You will help the sick woman by getting a real new girlfriend! When the sick woman sees you with another woman, Watch how fast she suddenly wants to go to church with YOU!
Great, balanced advice!!!
Thank you for watching, I am glad you found it balanced, and useful🥂
She only comes back when it didnt work out with Chad
Oh my Paul! That can be 1 of many possibilities 💗
@@Soulbooklet But a very high probability
One narcissist witch I know 8 years after I left her she’s still trying to control, destroy, or kill me.
Oh my! Sounds like a scary woman, sorry !
Que onda Ritz! Love the bandana homes, What’s your chola nickname? Spooky, Sad girl, la Smily, Baby face, what is it?
Hahah ! They call me chorizo 😹
Which means sausage , ever since I am three years old
@@Soulbooklet that is hilarious! Never heard that before. What’s the story behind it? You liked huevo con chorizo as a baby?
She lost feelings for me, rejected me, then friend-zoned me .... after years. How do you get her back after she chose someone else over you and is now seeing him? She reaches out and breadcrumbs me to make sure she still has me, even when in no contact. Ella sabe que yo se que tiene pareja, y sabe que lo odio y me duele. She blocks me, unblocks me, blocks me, etc. I just want to forget about her and walk away from this pain, but it seems so impossible. Why does she keep fucking with me? I wish her and her new pareja's relationship would fail. Sorry, I'm just hurt.... I like your videos ❤
Benjamin I am so sorry you're going through this, have you not blocked her every single way possible? Why haven't you found another woman who will eventually heal the wound. If I were you I would just focus on you and progressing as a man as an individual, and finding woman to keep you happy and busy and be determined and don't allow her and don't give her the time of the date ever again. Thank you so much for watching, if you need more help you can contact me through email and I will listen to you and see what else you can do.
@@Soulbooklet Hola Maritza, gracias for your response. Im not a guy who typically blocks people, but in the case of this Bruja, you're right, maybe I should. I appreciate the words and encouragement, and also the email invite. That's very kind of you. I'll do that, and I'll be sure to keep it brief, as I'm sure your time is valuable. And I could use the help.
I am working on myself, but it is still painful, sitting with it each day, and being in such close proximity to her doesn't make it any easier, but that's no fault but my own.
Again thank you ❤️🩹
@@benjaminnielsen4288 it’s my pleasure in being able to add one grain of sand and tranquility in your mind. 🌸 Have a nice weekend.
My ex wanted to come back but he already find someone new so I didn't accept it and I left him.
Good for you
Let’s go!! 🙏👌
im Glad your enjoying the videos ❤️
Got rejected twice by my old crush so I blocked her and moved on. 5 months later I got into a new relationship that I am happy with but one day my old crush's friend reached out to me and told me that she's been trying to get back in contact with me and I told her no that I am in a new relationship and moved on
Good for you !
You're being honest with yourself with the person who you're with now and you have given your heart another chance good for you ❤️
Could also be the person she rejected was'nt the person she thought he was and was actually better. Maybe she thought he was just going to use her for sex and run away but after getting to know the guy actually a good person who treats women good. Pretty sure if some of the women who rejected me seen me with a girlfriend and actually treated her good it could make them realized they made a mistake rejecting me.
Hello Kent, that is a great possibility also 💕 thank you for taking your time to share it with us
She's coming half heart half heart for someone... She's pride i don't like pride people... She comes n go it doesn't matter one day jearney that's it ... Impression is very important . She doesn't have any good impression on me so she behaved reckless, i felt bad impression on her i just avoiding her pride people doesn't care others impression they always gives importance for their own feelings that's why they loose others good impression towards them ... I don't want...i moved on ....
Thank you for those words very poetic🙏🏻
Totally Agree Maritza 💎✨️
Thank you for watching 💝
Wonderful words ❤
this is my first video of yours appreciate your words keep up your good work
You are so sweet thank you very much, I invite you to subscribe to the channel❤️
@@Soulbooklet 👍done
@@exploreglobe5318 wonderful 💗
My side of the story makes me look like the innocent party. Even tho she love bombed me and was crazy for me and acted like the world would end if we weren't together she never thought to engage with me "properly". She had no interest in knowing me, she just wanted me to play the dutiful role.....in serving her desires du jour complete with the option of bailing out for whatever flaky reason. You don't build a house on quicksand. Not sure where that kind of entitlement comes from.
Hello, you have the right to act on your instinct and thoughts, if this is how you feel, and she didn’t show you are tell you otherwise when you are in your right, thank you for sharing 💕
I just ended a 3 1/2 year relationship with a woman… July 11, 2024, she pushes me away… I got up grab my things walked out like a man focus on myself… 20 minutes later, she text me back. I did not answer a few days after that on her late Saturday afternoon she text me back again….. I never replied… Her birthday was July 26, 2024. I did not send her a text or birthday wish…. I focus as a man and I stay in abundance….🐅
It sounds to me like she didn't know what she had until she lost it! See if you can talk and work things out! If you think she loves you and it is repairable
Who's the girl in the video? So innovative.....You look like your ready to go to a Grateful Dead concert. Way to keep it fresh. 🤣👍
My Phil , that's me your friend 🥂
@@Soulbooklet You are a good friend. Isn't the internet great?😉
Maritza says to get better, not bitter. Tonight was my first night in the gym in years. You inspired me.
@@hughjanis6439 your very sweet ❤️
She missed me n she want me back. 😂😂😂
Why not?
I have watch more then 80 videos in couple of days but I only liked & feel like commenting here.. you are the best
Your very special , thanks for saying so 🌸
Thank you!
You're welcome!, thank you also 💝
Women, do want ever you want, not my concern. Men, never go back to someone who discards you, ever. Nothing good will come of it. Forget it, cross it off and move on.
That is some good advice to someone who hurt you ,dismissed You , and now wants you back.
@@Soulbooklet Its not about hurt. Its about doing the right thing. And someone who crosses your boundaries is not someone who is doing the right thing by you. These are small, selfish people and more often than not, they are also of low intelligence. None of that is good for a relationship. Letting them go means you will have a better life without them.