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Never ever get back with someone who ghosted you They did it once they will do it twice. If someone wanted to be with you they will never ghost you in the first place.
Not alwaaaays. Maybe it was YOU who messed up the energy at first. Now that you fixed your mistake and she’s back she can see you’ve changed. And she won’t want to ghost again. The first ghost isint the end all be all
This is what i do when been ghosted: Never try to contact the ghoster again, delete her number and our convos. If in a future they try to contact again i do not answer, dont care about any excuses (been busy, a lot of work, didnt know what i wanted, etc...) Working pretty well so far. There is nothing more rude than talking to someone regulary and out of the blue that person dissapears. Respect yourself and move on.
They ghosted, they didn’t want you, so you focused on yourself and life got better whereas for them their life isn’t going so well now the person wants you back I’d say it’s a no because I’m moving forward and not backwards
My ghost is very disrespectful she and consistent like Nigeria Nepa, whenever getting myself together and moving forward she would pop up bam, after a short while she is gone again. We talked about it on countless occasions still same repeat.
@@lawansonolalekan3964 gotta leave her alone bro and stop going backwards while moving forward, you’re a king and the prize, know your worth and stop letting her disrespect you
@@andcarbiochemistry Once they pick a side they gotta stay there, and if they cross that line they gotta lay there! I don’t give second chances! Once they paint you a picture, don’t let em paint you another picture. Trust a thief to steal from you, trust a liar to lie to you, trust a snake to snake you and trust a rat to snitch on you! When folks show you who they are believe em. Don’t blindly over look a red flag. If they show you a flaw believe that flaw exist!
Dont take them back you were never a priority to them they just want something from you and will always put you down block them just remember they left you when you need them stop being nice to them they dont deserve you.
@ItzBeautifulll Never leave someone guessing why you've disappeared if you to a certain degree value such a bond. Picking up where you last left off healthily happens after saying 'see you next time, take care'. Ending a conversation politely and adequately will always make you feel like you last talked to each other yesterday, doesn't matter how long last time has been - a week, six months, six years, a decade. Ghosting is never nice, shows a little indifference towards the relationship, some degree of immaturity, not to mention people might suspect you hold ASPD and/or NPD traits.
4 months ago a friend (who is long disntace and known eachother 2 years) ghosted me after many attempts reaching out to her i left her alone, was getting me nowhere, looked dumb and felt dumb. What hurted me most is the fact i've been their for her listening and gave advice if needed only to ghost me in the end. Now Depending on the situation if a ghoster comes back dont expect anything let them be the ones to explain themselves and if not respect yourself enough to leave
Last time I was ghosted by someone i knew 20 years ago. I felt hurt and didn't know why I was ghosted. I decided to respect her decision and I moved on. But suddenly she made an eye contact and gave me a smile seemed like she interested on me. But I just can't, I really can't. I don't know why but maybe the pain that I overcame when I was ghosted. It was hurt not to talk to her again even she showed interest. I just lost respect on her. I believe God has a plan for me.
I feel you. It happened also with me, last year when I tried to reach out to someone. I didn't send no sexual contents or wrote any harmful And I sended out a text message, while I introduced myself so politely. But it was a bit longer which was my fault. Then I got blocked by her, because she didn't knew me in the first place. I laughed first about it. But months were passed by and I was deeply heartbroken by her action. I had some breakdowns when I was alone and felt guilty of my longest text message. I've could done it better. But a great friend of mine showed her some pics and videos of mine. And she loved it. And all of a sudden she had unblocked me. But I didn't want to fall in her trap again, because I assume she try to test me if I would approach her again. So I became very bitter and blocked her, to let her feel the same way how I've felt last year with some grief. This will do the trick to give the ghosters some karma and they will be in a panic mode. And start looking for some contact with you.
“Don’t cry over spilled milk.” It reminds us that no relationship is worth crying over once it’s in the past; better to clean it up and look ahead to avoid future messes!
Well researched topic, the truth is many men have fallen victims ghosting and they have remained innocent like a ball kicked towards a wall repeatedly. Oh God forbid
something really serious and abrupt happened, like a death in the family or getting fired something like that. even then, a healthy person would inform you and say they're not in a good space at the moment
somebody ghosted and came back she was hurt n confused and remorseful. only thing is when she did ghost it set me on a path of extreme success and self improvement ,ofcourse im emotionally detarched and feel sorry for her ,i really am sad that she might think im available when i am over it and understand that there are literallty a chunk load of better people who put in the work
Jessy once beaten twice shy once any ghosted me that person remain a ghost forever to me, those who ghost one need not to be trusted again no need bothering oneself for such people
I was ghosted given the silent treatment for 8 months by someone in the friend zone I talked to her when she finally contacted but I ghosted her too the gut tell me this I’m getting or going nowhere with this person
Very interesting.. I have a girlfriend that does that everytime. And the reason is because she has another guy. Anytime the guy is not available, she comes back and when he is around, she disappears.. Whenever she goes back to her boyfriend, I use the SILENCE SYNDROME and this makes her feel bad and immediately wants to come back anytime he is not around.. But i keep wondering why she does this. This video has given the right questions to ask her, when she comes back, and I know she will definitely come again when her boyfriend is out of sight... Keep the good work up. Thumbs up
@@JayceeGenocide I agree I told both of them I don't hear from you for months and I'm supposed to sit around and wait on you? Guess again & I'm happy in my current space. I'm better than good here 😆
This happened to me 6 times now. My ex keeps doing this to me. Its my fault of course. I reach out. The last time though she lead me on about us being together again. Wanted to be there for me because I'm sick with something serious. Then ghosted me right before i was to visit her. My health condition has turned into full blown cancer now and since telling her she hasnt even said a word. She mentioned getting married, being there for me etc and now she's gone.
shows a huge sign that they are immature and can't communicate when there's a conflict. unless it been many years where maybe they've had time to grow up and learned better communication skills and they can acknowledge why they ghosted in the first place, don't take them back. they will do it again.
Ghosting someone is very disrespectful if some one did something wrong or said wrong be a man or woman pull em to da side work out the problem once you 👻 someone or people you ve lost all their respect
Thank you Jessica This help me so much I been ghosted by a man who i thought the best man i ever met...i thought we're so in love.....we're had great time together , no fight, no misunderstood, all just fine and sweet...but suddenly he ghosting me...i'm so devastated, wondering where did i do wrong that made him acting like this towards me...i'm so broken hearted.....now i get up and pick my broken pieces to stay strong...
If I'm in this far, I really don't Need any answers From her all about the 2 of us.. we've got this, thank you, Jessica😅. She is the most amazing woman in my life. No history, no answers. I don't need anything I just Want her!
Fantastic video please keep making these video four us men we desperately need them You are the best I've seen on social media Thanks once agian Jessica Kevin from UK 🇬🇧 Radcliffe Manchester
Thank you Jessica for your brilliant video. We men need all the help we can get You are the best on social media I only watch your video's they teach me so much about women Thanks once again Kevin from UK 🇬🇧 Radcliffe Manchester
Good luck getting back with me after ghosting me... It has happened to me as a matter of fact & I totally ignored that person no response or anything. Make a fool of me once shame on you. Twice shame on me..... Nope I'm good.
Rule number 1: If someone wants to contact you, they won't play games. Unless they had a car crash, broke their spine or are hospitalized, they'll get back to you as soon as they can, because they value you. Rule Number 2: If they do play games, or if it takes them a whole week to get back to you giving you hope but nothing ever happens, then maybe you're dealing with a manipulative narcissist or an uninterested match. Don't insist and move away. Rule Number 3: Nobody who cares about you will end up ghosting you. If you hold this person in high regards, maybe it's time to rethink your priorities.
I ghosted someone once. I do feel bad about it Also been ghosted many times. People that ghost may have their reasons maybe due to poor communication abilities. I'll give my thought process. I knew someone for a few months over the mobile phone texting. However without knowing I realized I could be in something more than a friendship. For some reason giving the explanation of just wanting to be friends seem so overwhelming for me. The possibility they wanted something more I didn't know how to respond to it. Also the possibility if I liked them and found out I'm not attracted to them. How would I respond to that? Also the possibility if they like you but you want to remain friends should you stay friends? There are scenarios to be played out. Also this person never messaged me first so afterwards a short ghosting period a few times I did think about genuinely texting them again however I could never come up with a good idea about music to talk about. We shared interest in music. Maybe if she responded me to first at least once or sometimes it could of saved the friendship or whatever it was. Because when you haven't spoken to someone for awhile they ain't always on your mind. Sometimes you could be not even thinking about them not even once for a whole month or year. Sometimes you think about contacting them again but you are hesitant and have doubts and that thought only holds for a single moment then you go back to not remembering again. If they just initiated contact it could remind you of them. Also never talking about the awkward topic of where everything is going was another problem. I recommend to not fall into ghosting or getting ghosting. Both people should initiation the conversation to a degree. Also be upfront about the awkward topic early of were the whole experience is going. Maybe even be open about discussing about what you like and dislike about eachother. The thing is if you avoid talking about these awkward topics from the beginning it becomes a habit to avoid. It becomes more and more difficult to talk about it over time. I think that's why there is ghosting happening in some cases.
I'm in my late 30's. Not once has a girl who ghosted me ever come back. Not once. I love how she says that most people will experience ghosting in their lives like it's a rare occurrence, just something that might happen once or twice. Yeah, ghosting, disinterest and rejection is ALL some of us guys experience. I honestly can't remember the last time I was interested in a girl and she actually reciprocated interest. The best part of this whole video though is how she acts like we have options, choices and power. If I had those, I wouldn't need to watch videos like this.
keep working on yourself. it could be something as complicated as you are going out of women out of your league, or you simply aren't good at making "definite" plans for a date. When, where, what. Tell, don't ask. Anyway, originally, I wanted to say even if she came back, most times you won't want them back anyway.
@@hsamzsd Thanks for the encouragement! Sometimes I might go for girls that are out of my league, but, and I mean this in the least pretentious way possible, I'm a pretty attractive guy. I'm in fantastic shape, have an attractive face, good jawline, full head of hair etc. I also have been interested in girls that most people would probably say are less attractive than me, but I liked their personalities and thought they were cute, so I went for it anyways. But in all instances, it never even gets to the "planning a date" stage. But if it did, as you said, you tell them when you're going out, you don't ask.
@@fuzzypanda1684 "I'm a pretty attractive guy. I'm in fantastic shape, have an attractive face, good jawline, full head of hair etc." physical attraction usually ranks last for women Also, there is no "getting to planning a date stage." You get there by telling her you want to meet for a date, im free on this day at this time lets meet at xyz etc
Very good points to be honest. Someone l love so much ghosted me for 2 years and suddenly send a message requesting for £500. I refused and she called me to say l have failed her test
Once again for this video has come at a good time since one of my friends ghosted me for months and now wants me back i guess its not worth it. But to be honest it felt bad and miserable after all the investments of time, energy and resources... this person thinks i am crazy but this time she will have a taste of her own medicine...
So..i went out on a date with this lovely lady before the date was over she confirmed a 2nd date, i invited her out she said shes interested in going out to said place. This past week to encourage one of my friends who has trouble dealing with rejection, i posted on my IG the population of Women in the city we live in (charlotte) and how you gotta keep pushing dont take rejection personal. Since than she hasnt responed to my text for going on a full week and we were supposed to hang out this weekend. Yall think she was bothered by my post😂😂it didnt apply to her
I really want to appreciate you for the good work you've been doing, this particular video and some others have really been helpful, you're a true counselor ❣️💯🙏🏻...
I ghosted someone and we talked for like 4 to 6 months because they knew I liked them and decided to be my friend but I still caught feelings and they were in a relationship and a kid a whole family and I didn’t want to open up a can of worms or be string along I’m a full meal and a vacation not a 2for 3 at McDonald’s but now I have to see this person everyday I feel bad for ghosting but not for my decision at the time I was 18 and she was 28 now I’m 22 and she is 32 now the past is resurfacing and I was young at the time so I didn’t know any better and she was really up set she tried contacting me but I blew her off because I still didn’t know what to say I should of just said sorry now every time we walk past each other it’s nothing and she told some people she told me personal things and I ghosted that why she don’t mess with me but I really ghost her because she said something about a man and I just accepted reality and she still with him to this day I was right but it could of been something said before I left but that was the first person I went for so I felt a lil hurt and we never kissed or was sexual it was just straight vibes so to all the people that has been ghosted and feel some type of way I know you didn’t deserve it but some things is bigger than what it seems and apologize to all the people that has been ghosted and pray for you guys healing
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Never ever get back with someone who ghosted you They did it once they will do it twice. If someone wanted to be with you they will never ghost you in the first place.
Yeah ex did this to me now 6 times. The last time she did it while leading me on when diagnosed with a serious health issue.
Not alwaaaays. Maybe it was YOU who messed up the energy at first. Now that you fixed your mistake and she’s back she can see you’ve changed. And she won’t want to ghost again. The first ghost isint the end all be all
@@chrismoemohammed4584 respect IS everything...If she disrespecting U by ghosting you she has No value (in my eyes)
She ghosted me I forgave her and now she's doing the same thing
Makes sense to me
This is what i do when been ghosted: Never try to contact the ghoster again, delete her number and our convos. If in a future they try to contact again i do not answer, dont care about any excuses (been busy, a lot of work, didnt know what i wanted, etc...) Working pretty well so far. There is nothing more rude than talking to someone regulary and out of the blue that person dissapears. Respect yourself and move on.
Respect is everything...if they don't respect you, they should not have any value for you ...
They ghosted, they didn’t want you, so you focused on yourself and life got better whereas for them their life isn’t going so well now the person wants you back I’d say it’s a no because I’m moving forward and not backwards
You said it all my G nothing more to add 👌
@@Kingbob217 💯😎 appreciate it
My ghost is very disrespectful she and consistent like Nigeria Nepa, whenever getting myself together and moving forward she would pop up bam, after a short while she is gone again. We talked about it on countless occasions still same repeat.
@@lawansonolalekan3964 gotta leave her alone bro and stop going backwards while moving forward, you’re a king and the prize, know your worth and stop letting her disrespect you
For me once a person ghost me, you can never come back. No way.
@@andcarbiochemistry Once they pick a side they gotta stay there, and if they cross that line they gotta lay there! I don’t give second chances! Once they paint you a picture, don’t let em paint you another picture. Trust a thief to steal from you, trust a liar to lie to you, trust a snake to snake you and trust a rat to snitch on you! When folks show you who they are believe em. Don’t blindly over look a red flag. If they show you a flaw believe that flaw exist!
@@missinlink6733 word! 💯💖
Never Take Them Back No Matter What They Don’t Like it When you Move On Just Move On it’s Way Better
Dont take them back you were never a priority to them they just want something from you and will always put you down block them just remember they left you when you need them stop being nice to them they dont deserve you.
I was ghosted by multiple persons and it was my blessing in disguise. When they came back I rejected them. They need to keep the same energy.
💯💯💯
Hi Tacy
Never take back
Matured people talk so don't waste time on anyone who ain't ready to communicate but choose to ghost instead. Stay focused on you and be better ☺️💯👌
Spot on!
@ItzBeautifulll Never leave someone guessing why you've disappeared if you to a certain degree value such a bond. Picking up where you last left off healthily happens after saying 'see you next time, take care'. Ending a conversation politely and adequately will always make you feel like you last talked to each other yesterday, doesn't matter how long last time has been - a week, six months, six years, a decade.
Ghosting is never nice, shows a little indifference towards the relationship, some degree of immaturity, not to mention people might suspect you hold ASPD and/or NPD traits.
@ItzBeautifulll So, please don't judge me, I'm not in the mood to continue having this particular argument with you. Wish you good luck!
@ItzBeautifulll Don't worry, it's okay. I understood what you meant, too. Disagreeing is healthy. Have a good day.
When she ghosts you, become just that. A ghost
The best thing to do with those who ghosted you, block them such that they’ll have no channel of coming back.
In my experience, they'll never know nor care that you blocked them because they'll never think about you or text you ever again.
4 months ago a friend (who is long disntace and known eachother 2 years) ghosted me after many attempts reaching out to her i left her alone, was getting me nowhere, looked dumb and felt dumb. What hurted me most is the fact i've been their for her listening and gave advice if needed only to ghost me in the end. Now Depending on the situation if a ghoster comes back dont expect anything let them be the ones to explain themselves and if not respect yourself enough to leave
Last time I was ghosted by someone i knew 20 years ago. I felt hurt and didn't know why I was ghosted. I decided to respect her decision and I moved on. But suddenly she made an eye contact and gave me a smile seemed like she interested on me. But I just can't, I really can't. I don't know why but maybe the pain that I overcame when I was ghosted. It was hurt not to talk to her again even she showed interest. I just lost respect on her. I believe God has a plan for me.
I feel you. It happened also with me, last year when I tried to reach out to someone.
I didn't send no sexual contents or wrote any harmful
And I sended out a text message, while I introduced myself so politely. But it was a bit longer which was my fault.
Then I got blocked by her, because she didn't knew me in the first place.
I laughed first about it.
But months were passed by and I was deeply heartbroken by her action.
I had some breakdowns when I was alone and felt guilty of my longest text message.
I've could done it better.
But a great friend of mine showed her some pics and videos of mine. And she loved it. And all of a sudden she had unblocked me. But I didn't want to fall in her trap again, because I assume she try to test me if I would approach her again.
So I became very bitter and blocked her, to let her feel the same way how I've felt last year with some grief. This will do the trick to give the ghosters some karma and they will be in a panic mode. And start looking for some contact with you.
THANK YOU!! Ghosting is the most rude thing ever.. this so so needed ❤️
“Don’t cry over spilled milk.” It reminds us that no relationship is worth crying over once it’s in the past; better to clean it up and look ahead to avoid future messes!
Life goes on without them, block their number or change your phone number...life goes on without them! "Stay Strong!"
Well researched topic, the truth is many men have fallen victims ghosting and they have remained innocent like a ball kicked towards a wall repeatedly. Oh God forbid
Currently being ghosted by someone I love deeply. Definitely applying these tips.
My advice stay off the grid and live your best life. Her loss
Sray strong, you dont need the manipulation
@@finaltouchpro648 let them stay ghost
What could be a "genuine " reason for ghosting? The only reason is that they are not interested.
A good reason would be if someone is abusive and mean.
something really serious and abrupt happened, like a death in the family or getting fired something like that. even then, a healthy person would inform you and say they're not in a good space at the moment
Self-Sabotage could also be a reason 🤷🏻♀️
@@hsamzsd
Definitely, cus life is hard ..
Jessica,you have earned your place in the life coaching industry especially where romantic relationships are concerned. I salute your insights.
Listen to your gut! Thanks
Always!
Damn!! I just can't get over my gal of 2yrs ghosting me mehn!! Absolute wickedness
Pure narcissism 😢
It's pure craziness. Sorry, they are no good. Just move on and be better.
somebody ghosted and came back she was hurt n confused and remorseful. only thing is when she did ghost it set me on a path of extreme success and self improvement ,ofcourse im emotionally detarched and feel sorry for her ,i really am sad that she might think im available when i am over it and understand that there are literallty a chunk load of better people who put in the work
Jessy once beaten twice shy once any ghosted me that person remain a ghost forever to me, those who ghost one need not to be trusted again no need bothering oneself for such people
I was ghosted given the silent treatment for 8 months by someone in the friend zone I talked to her when she finally contacted but I ghosted her too the gut tell me this I’m getting or going nowhere with this person
Thus is why we love our Big Sister Jess
Let go of anyone who makes you their option
Very interesting..
I have a girlfriend that does that everytime. And the reason is because she has another guy. Anytime the guy is not available, she comes back and when he is around, she disappears..
Whenever she goes back to her boyfriend, I use the SILENCE SYNDROME and this makes her feel bad and immediately wants to come back anytime he is not around..
But i keep wondering why she does this. This video has given the right questions to ask her, when she comes back, and I know she will definitely come again when her boyfriend is out of sight...
Keep the good work up.
Thumbs up
If she ghosted you in the first place she's not interested in you. Then she come back to contact you. All she want is benefit.
No I dissagree it is not as simple as you say
@@ritapeters1330 How is it not simple?
I've learned in the past things didn't work(other options)out as planned, now they're coming back with egg on their faces. Thanks Jessica 😊
Right don't ever take them back.
@@JayceeGenocide I agree I told both of them I don't hear from you for months and I'm supposed to sit around and wait on you? Guess again & I'm happy in my current space. I'm better than good here 😆
Thank you so much for this. This video is really helpful. In my opinion, they are not worth responding to. Ghost the ghost
Yep this is what I went through.. been ghosted over a month definitely not giving her another shot... your right being ghosted really sucks....
I'm Always for Revenge. Any Day Any Time
Watched the other video on what to do when you ghosted and boom she texts back and we are here
Exactly... My story 😅... I was so desperate.
I wouldn't waste my time i would just block her and move on to next girls ...
This happened to me 6 times now. My ex keeps doing this to me. Its my fault of course. I reach out. The last time though she lead me on about us being together again. Wanted to be there for me because I'm sick with something serious. Then ghosted me right before i was to visit her. My health condition has turned into full blown cancer now and since telling her she hasnt even said a word. She mentioned getting married, being there for me etc and now she's gone.
shows a huge sign that they are immature and can't communicate when there's a conflict. unless it been many years where maybe they've had time to grow up and learned better communication skills and they can acknowledge why they ghosted in the first place, don't take them back. they will do it again.
You are right, the'll do it again 💯
Love your vids Jessica :)
Thank you!! Appreciate you
Current stage .thanks Jessica i now know how to handle them.
Ghosting someone is very disrespectful if some one did something wrong or said wrong be a man or woman pull em to da side work out the problem once you 👻 someone or people you ve lost all their respect
Thank you Jessica
This help me so much
I been ghosted by a man who i thought the best man i ever met...i thought we're so in love.....we're had great time together , no fight, no misunderstood, all just fine and sweet...but suddenly he ghosting me...i'm so devastated, wondering where did i do wrong that made him acting like this towards me...i'm so broken hearted.....now i get up and pick my broken pieces to stay strong...
U got this
If dey ghost you they're already dead go haunt someone else.
Quite relative... Yes, yes, yes🙏🏿
You’re such a master at these matters. Your advice is golden.
If I'm in this far, I really don't Need any answers From her
all about the 2 of us.. we've got this, thank you, Jessica😅.
She is the most amazing woman in my life. No history, no answers. I don't need anything I just Want her!
Fantastic video please keep making these video four us men we desperately need them
You are the best I've seen on social media
Thanks once
agian Jessica
Kevin from UK 🇬🇧
Radcliffe
Manchester
RIGHT TOPIC at the RIGHT TIME🥳🥳
THANK YOU JESSICA.
I took your advice a few months ago and felt much better for it. Thanks Jessica! 😊❤️
Fantastic!
@@JessicaOS absolutely! 👍
Exactly! I’m done
Good job and Thank you Jessica for saving innocent souls. You are the best
Thank you
Your excellent at your analysis
Very reasonable approach to when you're or got ghosted, your check points made sense..thanks 👍
No problem 👍
I THINK I TOLD YOU THIS YOUR WONDERFUL THANK YOU REALLY THANK YOU 😊
You're welcome 😊
This happen to me... I was almost dying chasing someone who use to ghost me 😭😋
I admire your knowledge and expertise in this matters
Very accurate Jez, I can relate to all the points. Thanks for sharing and keep it up 👍
So true. Thanks for sharing, lady Jess. 🤝
I wish this video came earlier enough 😭😭
Thank you Jessica for your brilliant video. We men need all the help we can get
You are the best on social media
I only watch your video's they teach me so much about women
Thanks once again
Kevin from UK 🇬🇧
Radcliffe Manchester
Truly appreciate you Kev!
I always love listening to your talk and it's really a bang💣
He ghosted me immediately he promised to meet my parents, how he is back,am observing in a distance
Good luck getting back with me after ghosting me... It has happened to me as a matter of fact & I totally ignored that person no response or anything. Make a fool of me once shame on you. Twice shame on me..... Nope I'm good.
Chia!!!! This one touch me @3:40 😅
Subscribed. Thank you.
Wow...very relevant...this came at the right time. Thanks Jessica
Damn!! Jessica you're really are a life saver thanks for this
Mwangi wi guku??
Rule number 1: If someone wants to contact you, they won't play games. Unless they had a car crash, broke their spine or are hospitalized, they'll get back to you as soon as they can, because they value you.
Rule Number 2: If they do play games, or if it takes them a whole week to get back to you giving you hope but nothing ever happens, then maybe you're dealing with a manipulative narcissist or an uninterested match. Don't insist and move away.
Rule Number 3: Nobody who cares about you will end up ghosting you. If you hold this person in high regards, maybe it's time to rethink your priorities.
Jessy Jessy the original Jessica. Your ideas are really awesome.
Superb Jessica 👍
I ghosted someone once. I do feel bad about it Also been ghosted many times. People that ghost may have their reasons maybe due to poor communication abilities. I'll give my thought process. I knew someone for a few months over the mobile phone texting. However without knowing I realized I could be in something more than a friendship. For some reason giving the explanation of just wanting to be friends seem so overwhelming for me. The possibility they wanted something more I didn't know how to respond to it. Also the possibility if I liked them and found out I'm not attracted to them. How would I respond to that? Also the possibility if they like you but you want to remain friends should you stay friends? There are scenarios to be played out. Also this person never messaged me first so afterwards a short ghosting period a few times I did think about genuinely texting them again however I could never come up with a good idea about music to talk about. We shared interest in music. Maybe if she responded me to first at least once or sometimes it could of saved the friendship or whatever it was. Because when you haven't spoken to someone for awhile they ain't always on your mind. Sometimes you could be not even thinking about them not even once for a whole month or year. Sometimes you think about contacting them again but you are hesitant and have doubts and that thought only holds for a single moment then you go back to not remembering again. If they just initiated contact it could remind you of them.
Also never talking about the awkward topic of where everything is going was another problem. I recommend to not fall into ghosting or getting ghosting. Both people should initiation the conversation to a degree. Also be upfront about the awkward topic early of were the whole experience is going. Maybe even be open about discussing about what you like and dislike about eachother. The thing is if you avoid talking about these awkward topics from the beginning it becomes a habit to avoid. It becomes more and more difficult to talk about it over time. I think that's why there is ghosting happening in some cases.
Thank you so much for all your vidéos Jessica. 😊you are amazing !
You so good at this, keep it up
God bless you 🎉
I'm in my late 30's. Not once has a girl who ghosted me ever come back. Not once. I love how she says that most people will experience ghosting in their lives like it's a rare occurrence, just something that might happen once or twice.
Yeah, ghosting, disinterest and rejection is ALL some of us guys experience. I honestly can't remember the last time I was interested in a girl and she actually reciprocated interest.
The best part of this whole video though is how she acts like we have options, choices and power. If I had those, I wouldn't need to watch videos like this.
keep working on yourself. it could be something as complicated as you are going out of women out of your league, or you simply aren't good at making "definite" plans for a date. When, where, what. Tell, don't ask.
Anyway, originally, I wanted to say even if she came back, most times you won't want them back anyway.
@@hsamzsd Thanks for the encouragement! Sometimes I might go for girls that are out of my league, but, and I mean this in the least pretentious way possible, I'm a pretty attractive guy. I'm in fantastic shape, have an attractive face, good jawline, full head of hair etc.
I also have been interested in girls that most people would probably say are less attractive than me, but I liked their personalities and thought they were cute, so I went for it anyways.
But in all instances, it never even gets to the "planning a date" stage. But if it did, as you said, you tell them when you're going out, you don't ask.
@@fuzzypanda1684 "I'm a pretty attractive guy. I'm in fantastic shape, have an attractive face, good jawline, full head of hair etc."
physical attraction usually ranks last for women
Also, there is no "getting to planning a date stage." You get there by telling her you want to meet for a date, im free on this day at this time lets meet at xyz etc
Nice topic 🙏🏾
This video is so much educative. Thanks Jessica
First to comment. Thanks for always dropping knowledge Jess ❤
Very good points to be honest. Someone l love so much ghosted me for 2 years and suddenly send a message requesting for £500. I refused and she called me to say l have failed her test
🤣🤣🤣 that's so ridiculous
Why am I laughing now🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Haha happened to me siad I was not nice to them for not giving not a chance.
You did a g8 research. It was really helpful. Although we knew theis thinks but you made it crystal clear.
Thank you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you, ur explanation is very clear. 🙏🏻🌸
Once again for this video has come at a good time since one of my friends ghosted me for months and now wants me back i guess its not worth it. But to be honest it felt bad and miserable after all the investments of time, energy and resources... this person thinks i am crazy but this time she will have a taste of her own medicine...
Yeah. Giving them some of the taste what they gave you before to let you suffer with much pain.
Just been ghosted and i have made the mistake of trying to get her to answer as would rather have a formal breakup. I wish i found these videos 1st
Amazing
Thanks a lot for this
Thanks so much sis,God bless you
So..i went out on a date with this lovely lady before the date was over she confirmed a 2nd date, i invited her out she said shes interested in going out to said place. This past week to encourage one of my friends who has trouble dealing with rejection, i posted on my IG the population of Women in the city we live in (charlotte) and how you gotta keep pushing dont take rejection personal. Since than she hasnt responed to my text for going on a full week and we were supposed to hang out this weekend. Yall think she was bothered by my post😂😂it didnt apply to her
I Hope My Best Friend Eric To Comeback Soon One Day But I Don’t Like He Comeback Next 20 Years After Been Ghost Me Hope Not
Very clean ❤️
You are saying there truth, AMB SINGLE from kenya
Good video. Thank you!
I really want to appreciate you for the good work you've been doing, this particular video and some others have really been helpful, you're a true counselor ❣️💯🙏🏻...
That was very good Jess!
Great Video on point
Glad you think so!
Thanks Jess 🖤
I ghosted someone and we talked for like 4 to 6 months because they knew I liked them and decided to be my friend but I still caught feelings and they were in a relationship and a kid a whole family and I didn’t want to open up a can of worms or be string along I’m a full meal and a vacation not a 2for 3 at McDonald’s but now I have to see this person everyday I feel bad for ghosting but not for my decision at the time I was 18 and she was 28 now I’m 22 and she is 32 now the past is resurfacing and I was young at the time so I didn’t know any better and she was really up set she tried contacting me but I blew her off because I still didn’t know what to say I should of just said sorry now every time we walk past each other it’s nothing and she told some people she told me personal things and I ghosted that why she don’t mess with me but I really ghost her because she said something about a man and I just accepted reality and she still with him to this day I was right but it could of been something said before I left but that was the first person I went for so I felt a lil hurt and we never kissed or was sexual it was just straight vibes so to all the people that has been ghosted and feel some type of way I know you didn’t deserve it but some things is bigger than what it seems and apologize to all the people that has been ghosted and pray for you guys healing
Congrats on your 1million + 🎉🎉❤