They Ghosted you and now they're back.Why? Do this now!
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- Опубликовано: 24 июл 2024
- This Video shows you exactly what to do when people ghost you and come back. It tells you why they return, what to do about it and the best questions to ask someone who has ghosted you.
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00:00 - Intro
00:57 - What is Ghosting? & the types
01:36 - Keep these in mind
01:53 - Reasons 'Ghosters' come back
02:21 - Number 2
02:45 - Number 3
03:03 - Number 4
03:33 - Number 5
04:03 - Number 6
04:28 - Number 7
04:49 - Number 8
05:27 - Number 9
06:01 - Number 10
06:23 - Number 11
06:54 - Number 12
07:19 - What to do when they return
07:52 - Solution 2
09:18 - Solution 3
09:55 - solution 4
10:14 - Solution 5
10:47 - Solution 6
11:14 - Important Questions to ask
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Never ever get back with someone who ghosted you They did it once they will do it twice. If someone wanted to be with you they will never ghost you in the first place.
Yeah ex did this to me now 6 times. The last time she did it while leading me on when diagnosed with a serious health issue.
Not alwaaaays. Maybe it was YOU who messed up the energy at first. Now that you fixed your mistake and she’s back she can see you’ve changed. And she won’t want to ghost again. The first ghost isint the end all be all
@@chrismoemohammed4584 respect IS everything...If she disrespecting U by ghosting you she has No value (in my eyes)
She ghosted me I forgave her and now she's doing the same thing
Makes sense to me
For me once a person ghost me, you can never come back. No way.
This is what i do when been ghosted: Never try to contact the ghoster again, delete her number and our convos. If in a future they try to contact again i do not answer, dont care about any excuses (been busy, a lot of work, didnt know what i wanted, etc...) Working pretty well so far. There is nothing more rude than talking to someone regulary and out of the blue that person dissapears. Respect yourself and move on.
Never Take Them Back No Matter What They Don’t Like it When you Move On Just Move On it’s Way Better
Last time I was ghosted by someone i knew 20 years ago. I felt hurt and didn't know why I was ghosted. I decided to respect her decision and I moved on. But suddenly she made an eye contact and gave me a smile seemed like she interested on me. But I just can't, I really can't. I don't know why but maybe the pain that I overcame when I was ghosted. It was hurt not to talk to her again even she showed interest. I just lost respect on her. I believe God has a plan for me.
They ghosted, they didn’t want you, so you focused on yourself and life got better whereas for them their life isn’t going so well now the person wants you back I’d say it’s a no because I’m moving forward and not backwards
You said it all my G nothing more to add 👌
@@Kingbob217 💯😎 appreciate it
My ghost is very disrespectful she and consistent like Nigeria Nepa, whenever getting myself together and moving forward she would pop up bam, after a short while she is gone again. We talked about it on countless occasions still same repeat.
@@lawansonolalekan3964 gotta leave her alone bro and stop going backwards while moving forward, you’re a king and the prize, know your worth and stop letting her disrespect you
Respect is everything...if they don't respect you, they should not have any value for you ...
Dont take them back you were never a priority to them they just want something from you and will always put you down block them just remember they left you when you need them stop being nice to them they dont deserve you.
I was ghosted by multiple persons and it was my blessing in disguise. When they came back I rejected them. They need to keep the same energy.
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Hi Tacy
The best thing to do with those who ghosted you, block them such that they’ll have no channel of coming back.
In my experience, they'll never know nor care that you blocked them because they'll never think about you or text you ever again.
When she ghosts you, become just that. A ghost
Life goes on without them, block their number or change your phone number...life goes on without them! "Stay Strong!"
Matured people talk so don't waste time on anyone who ain't ready to communicate but choose to ghost instead. Stay focused on you and be better ☺️💯👌
Spot on!
@@RafaelSilva-od4bbwhat about “friendship pickup where they last left off”? Sometimes, we are in bad situations where we can’t respond to the other person.
@@BuyingFriendsForCompanionship Never leave someone guessing why you've disappeared if you to a certain degree value such a bond. Picking up where you last left off healthily happens after saying 'see you next time, take care'. Ending a conversation politely and adequately will always make you feel like you last talked to each other yesterday, doesn't matter how long last time has been - a week, six months, six years, a decade.
Ghosting is never nice, shows a little indifference towards the relationship, some degree of immaturity, not to mention people might suspect you hold ASPD and/or NPD traits.
@@RafaelSilva-od4bb There may be exceptions. Let's say you and I talk on facebook messenger for a bit. After both saying byes, and 3 years pass, I forgot about you and I switched to a new facebook account. You try to contact me but I never contact back because I didn't really expect you to contact me. That would be technically ghosting, but I do not think I should be at fault for that.
There may be other times where I look at your message but will respond later. Later comes, but I forgot about your message.
or there may be other times where you ask me some question but I just don't want to talk at that time or just don't want to answer that question.
Let's say you try to contact me on Jan 2nd 2024, but since December 29th 2023 I was hospital or in a coma and it is now February 2026. If I was in a coma, I wouldn't be able to respond to you. I have had this happen like 2 times before and I thought the same as you but that was a bad decision. I assumed that person ghosted me but that person never ghosted me. That person says It's never that he stopped caring about me.
For me, I try to not judge others for not responding to me and not take anything personally. It is very presumptuous that you are judging others just because they don't respond to you. You actually don't know every single situation.
@@BuyingFriendsForCompanionship So, please don't judge me, I'm not in the mood to continue having this particular argument with you. Wish you good luck!
THANK YOU!! Ghosting is the most rude thing ever.. this so so needed ❤️
Damn!! I just can't get over my gal of 2yrs ghosting me mehn!! Absolute wickedness
Pure narcissism 😢
Never take back
Jessica,you have earned your place in the life coaching industry especially where romantic relationships are concerned. I salute your insights.
Very accurate Jez, I can relate to all the points. Thanks for sharing and keep it up 👍
RIGHT TOPIC at the RIGHT TIME🥳🥳
THANK YOU JESSICA.
You’re such a master at these matters. Your advice is golden.
Good job and Thank you Jessica for saving innocent souls. You are the best
Wow...very relevant...this came at the right time. Thanks Jessica
So true. Thanks for sharing, lady Jess. 🤝
Let go of anyone who makes you their option
Well researched topic, the truth is many men have fallen victims ghosting and they have remained innocent like a ball kicked towards a wall repeatedly. Oh God forbid
Thus is why we love our Big Sister Jess
Fantastic video please keep making these video four us men we desperately need them
You are the best I've seen on social media
Thanks once
agian Jessica
Kevin from UK 🇬🇧
Radcliffe
Manchester
Currently being ghosted by someone I love deeply. Definitely applying these tips.
My advice stay off the grid and live your best life. Her loss
Sray strong, you dont need the manipulation
I always love listening to your talk and it's really a bang💣
I admire your knowledge and expertise in this matters
What could be a "genuine " reason for ghosting? The only reason is that they are not interested.
A good reason would be if someone is abusive and mean.
something really serious and abrupt happened, like a death in the family or getting fired something like that. even then, a healthy person would inform you and say they're not in a good space at the moment
You are awesome, thanks for this.
Yep this is what I went through.. been ghosted over a month definitely not giving her another shot... your right being ghosted really sucks....
somebody ghosted and came back she was hurt n confused and remorseful. only thing is when she did ghost it set me on a path of extreme success and self improvement ,ofcourse im emotionally detarched and feel sorry for her ,i really am sad that she might think im available when i am over it and understand that there are literallty a chunk load of better people who put in the work
Ghosting someone is very disrespectful if some one did something wrong or said wrong be a man or woman pull em to da side work out the problem once you 👻 someone or people you ve lost all their respect
You so good at this, keep it up
I took your advice a few months ago and felt much better for it. Thanks Jessica! 😊❤️
Fantastic!
@@JessicaOS absolutely! 👍
Jessy once beaten twice shy once any ghosted me that person remain a ghost forever to me, those who ghost one need not to be trusted again no need bothering oneself for such people
Thank you Jessica for your brilliant video. We men need all the help we can get
You are the best on social media
I only watch your video's they teach me so much about women
Thanks once again
Kevin from UK 🇬🇧
Radcliffe Manchester
Truly appreciate you Kev!
I've learned in the past things didn't work(other options)out as planned, now they're coming back with egg on their faces. Thanks Jessica 😊
Right don't ever take them back.
@@jayceegenocide4402 I agree I told both of them I don't hear from you for months and I'm supposed to sit around and wait on you? Guess again & I'm happy in my current space. I'm better than good here 😆
That was very good Jess!
Your excellent at your analysis
Thank you so much for this. This video is really helpful. In my opinion, they are not worth responding to. Ghost the ghost
Subscribed. Thank you.
This video is so much educative. Thanks Jessica
I really want to appreciate you for the good work you've been doing, this particular video and some others have really been helpful, you're a true counselor ❣️💯🙏🏻...
Very reasonable approach to when you're or got ghosted, your check points made sense..thanks 👍
No problem 👍
If dey ghost you they're already dead go haunt someone else.
Very interesting..
I have a girlfriend that does that everytime. And the reason is because she has another guy. Anytime the guy is not available, she comes back and when he is around, she disappears..
Whenever she goes back to her boyfriend, I use the SILENCE SYNDROME and this makes her feel bad and immediately wants to come back anytime he is not around..
But i keep wondering why she does this. This video has given the right questions to ask her, when she comes back, and I know she will definitely come again when her boyfriend is out of sight...
Keep the good work up.
Thumbs up
Current stage .thanks Jessica i now know how to handle them.
Thanks Jess 🖤
If she ghosted you in the first place she's not interested in you. Then she come back to contact you. All she want is benefit.
If I'm in this far, I really don't Need any answers From her
all about the 2 of us.. we've got this, thank you, Jessica😅.
She is the most amazing woman in my life. No history, no answers. I don't need anything I just Want her!
Thanks so much sis,God bless you
Thanks a lot for this
Superb Jessica 👍
Very clean ❤️
Good luck getting back with me after ghosting me... It has happened to me as a matter of fact & I totally ignored that person no response or anything. Make a fool of me once shame on you. Twice shame on me..... Nope I'm good.
Listen to your gut! Thanks
Always!
Love your vids Jessica :)
Thank you!! Appreciate you
This is amazing
Jessy Jessy the original Jessica. Your ideas are really awesome.
Quite relative... Yes, yes, yes🙏🏿
First to comment. Thanks for always dropping knowledge Jess ❤
Nice topic 🙏🏾
Thanks very much cc
Exactly... My story 😅... I was so desperate.
shows a huge sign that they are immature and can't communicate when there's a conflict. unless it been many years where maybe they've had time to grow up and learned better communication skills and they can acknowledge why they ghosted in the first place, don't take them back. they will do it again.
This happened to me 6 times now. My ex keeps doing this to me. Its my fault of course. I reach out. The last time though she lead me on about us being together again. Wanted to be there for me because I'm sick with something serious. Then ghosted me right before i was to visit her. My health condition has turned into full blown cancer now and since telling her she hasnt even said a word. She mentioned getting married, being there for me etc and now she's gone.
Exactly! I’m done
I THINK I TOLD YOU THIS YOUR WONDERFUL THANK YOU REALLY THANK YOU 😊
You're welcome 😊
Thank you
Thanks for the advices you giving us ,... Are very helpful, I appreciate them.,
Here we go another one 👌🔥♥️🤝
Excellent
I ghosted someone once. I do feel bad about it Also been ghosted many times. People that ghost may have their reasons maybe due to poor communication abilities. I'll give my thought process. I knew someone for a few months over the mobile phone texting. However without knowing I realized I could be in something more than a friendship. For some reason giving the explanation of just wanting to be friends seem so overwhelming for me. The possibility they wanted something more I didn't know how to respond to it. Also the possibility if I liked them and found out I'm not attracted to them. How would I respond to that? Also the possibility if they like you but you want to remain friends should you stay friends? There are scenarios to be played out. Also this person never messaged me first so afterwards a short ghosting period a few times I did think about genuinely texting them again however I could never come up with a good idea about music to talk about. We shared interest in music. Maybe if she responded me to first at least once or sometimes it could of saved the friendship or whatever it was. Because when you haven't spoken to someone for awhile they ain't always on your mind. Sometimes you could be not even thinking about them not even once for a whole month or year. Sometimes you think about contacting them again but you are hesitant and have doubts and that thought only holds for a single moment then you go back to not remembering again. If they just initiated contact it could remind you of them.
Also never talking about the awkward topic of where everything is going was another problem. I recommend to not fall into ghosting or getting ghosting. Both people should initiation the conversation to a degree. Also be upfront about the awkward topic early of were the whole experience is going. Maybe even be open about discussing about what you like and dislike about eachother. The thing is if you avoid talking about these awkward topics from the beginning it becomes a habit to avoid. It becomes more and more difficult to talk about it over time. I think that's why there is ghosting happening in some cases.
Thank you Jessica
This help me so much
I been ghosted by a man who i thought the best man i ever met...i thought we're so in love.....we're had great time together , no fight, no misunderstood, all just fine and sweet...but suddenly he ghosting me...i'm so devastated, wondering where did i do wrong that made him acting like this towards me...i'm so broken hearted.....now i get up and pick my broken pieces to stay strong...
U got this
Watched the other video on what to do when you ghosted and boom she texts back and we are here
You are saying there truth, AMB SINGLE from kenya
Amazing
I was ghosted given the silent treatment for 8 months by someone in the friend zone I talked to her when she finally contacted but I ghosted her too the gut tell me this I’m getting or going nowhere with this person
Once again for this video has come at a good time since one of my friends ghosted me for months and now wants me back i guess its not worth it. But to be honest it felt bad and miserable after all the investments of time, energy and resources... this person thinks i am crazy but this time she will have a taste of her own medicine...
I wish this video came earlier enough 😭😭
This happen to me... I was almost dying chasing someone who use to ghost me 😭😋
I'm Always for Revenge. Any Day Any Time
love the music
CLOSE 2 DAT MIL SUBS!!
It matches my friends situation for real
It’s ironic how this video was recently made after what happened to me. To keep my story as short as possible, I had a girlfriend who loved me and I loved her, things didn’t go well (she became Christian) and we ended it months back. There obviously was lingering feelings still hanging however it was easier for her to get over me than for me to get over her (she has been through about 3 heartbreaks, this was my first one). Because it was difficult for me to get over her after a month of no contact, we tried to meet halfway as being just friends. I accepted because I still liked her and I was willing to suck it up and work through the feelings. We lasted as friends for about 2-3 months and as things got comfortable again, there was a lot of resentment arguments (mostly from my end) I guess because I was unconsciously talking to her like if she was still my girlfriend sometimes. After this past Christmas my guess is she got tired of it and ghosted me. I tried reaching out asking what’s wrong what did I do wrong and she kept ghosting, I would give a week break and then reach out again, still no answer. She was always the type to reach out to me no matter how ugly things got, so from this unusual ghosting behavior, I started getting anxious and overthinking (maybe she’s talking to someone and out of respect to him she just ghosted me etc.) and I wasn’t okay with it because I told her that if she were to meet someone new just tell me at least, I’m going to accept it and still be there for her as a friend. As time progressed I gave space once again (about 2-3 weeks) and then I reached one more time and still no answer. It lead me to go find her in person and try to see if she speaks to me that way, still no answer and walked past me. I was hurt by the fact that I had a good bond with this person and I don’t know what is going on that I’m just getting kicked out of her life all of a sudden, she was so disrespectful to me that I got threatened with a restraining order over nothing, just me trying to talk things out as her friend. I obviously got disgusted after that behavior she displayed of threat, after all the care, support, love and things I did for her to see her grow so I left her alone of course. A lot of people keep telling me that I did absolutely nothing wrong she’s just toxic and manipulative and mad that she didn’t get to control me the way she wanted to. A lot of people keep telling me that if he she keeps acting the way she is she’s going to regret losing me and possibly find me and come back. I don’t care if she does or doesn’t but if she does idk how to go about it.
Masa forget about this girl and move on. There are a lot of women out there, why are you wasting your time going through this shit stress? Forget am!
@@elikemquashigah8903 hey ma brother! So looks like she came back quicker than I expected. She apologized for her behavior and of course I forgave her, but for my clean conscience, I still got cold hearted after the situation, and she knows she did wrong by doing that. Chances are now that I don’t look for her I don’t think it will stop.
@@julianmartinez8415how long did she take before coming back
I don't know if I have the right answer but it's hard to just try to identify yourself as friends and totally ignore that you both were lovers or more than just friends in that past relationship. I know you were trying and whatever you felt u needed to do for her sake, but you were dying inside...It want work as u saw...Now you back to square one even more hurt.... When u want to be with someone it's impossible to just try to pretend. Your heart and feelings aint going to take it...Sorry you are going through that...I'm experiencing some unexpected mess myself. I was happily minding my own until...lol
Chia!!!! This one touch me @3:40 😅
True
Hey Queen Jessica
Your awsome❤
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Brian Aginga, from Nairobi Kenya
So..i went out on a date with this lovely lady before the date was over she confirmed a 2nd date, i invited her out she said shes interested in going out to said place. This past week to encourage one of my friends who has trouble dealing with rejection, i posted on my IG the population of Women in the city we live in (charlotte) and how you gotta keep pushing dont take rejection personal. Since than she hasnt responed to my text for going on a full week and we were supposed to hang out this weekend. Yall think she was bothered by my post😂😂it didnt apply to her
I want to know about that person that ghost when she has some personal problem sometimes pretty obvious to the other person hence you try asking her about it but never let things out or share anything personal with you. Placing you always in that position that you assume things but she's never bordered or try communicating with you unlike before. What do you think...
I wouldn't waste my time i would just block her and move on to next girls ...
Very good points to be honest. Someone l love so much ghosted me for 2 years and suddenly send a message requesting for £500. I refused and she called me to say l have failed her test
🤣🤣🤣 that's so ridiculous
Why am I laughing now🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Haha happened to me siad I was not nice to them for not giving not a chance.