I had my ex tell me, after the breakup, "I take responsibility for my actions", as if saying those words had any meaning at all. Just a straight farce. Her words mean nothing, and her actions speak volumes
Actually they are. But the general collective cannot stand and must have a share in it. Sort of like a group orgy. The underhanded enjoys the privileges and observe with tenacity. 😏
Lord knows why he would let Rick James into my life to assault my couch, and then have Charlie launch a reprisal on Rick's legs (which I was dismayed to see escalating an already untenable circumstance) but I realized
Thanks for this video. I've been with my girl for 2 years and I identified all of these pillars in her long before I discovered your video. I was recently researching if it was bipolar disorder or PMS but now it all makes sense. I was only asking her about her empathy last week and she's extremely hypersensitive to any form of constructive criticism but yes she easily doles it out
she can have bpd. it took me a long time. and i still have times i get upset over anything and everything. the 2 disorders can be very easily misdiagnosed. although most times since 2x as many girls have BPD as guys and 2x as many guys have NPD as girls some girls who actually have NPD end up being misdiagnosed as having BPD. since both disorders share 6 similarities i wonder what having comorbidity of both would really look like in a person
My ex is that way he use to accuse me of trying to poison him and I was the one always the one to blame for everything. He even was physical towards not only me but my things that I owned I am glad he is out of my life 👍
@Alice-ts3vl i believe there are narcs but u have to describe it better because even u if someone says something bad to u ofcourse you will react negatively. If u get disrespected.
@@slickrick5596think of yourself as a mirror. When they look at you (the mirror) they see everything they hate about themselves & you receive all their hatred.
They dole out the criticism in the hope they get some back, then flip the tables to paint themselves as the victim. The breathless hypocrisy is quite stunning 😳
As much as a narcissist seems to be looked at as weak minded and emotionally disregalulated, some are literally black belts of psychological mayhem, especially those who are anti social and involves sociopathy and psychopathy.
I like the way you worded this, perfect. I have purposely isolated myself just to get my thoughts straight and my life. Sometimes we have to. Thank you for sharing 🤗
What she doesn't mention is narcissism is at an all time high, narcissists are everywhere grandiose covert and malignant their all very dangerous disgusting people, smearing your name is one of their favoured traits
That's true my kids cousin Claire McKenna is so intelligent on taking in manipulation tactics that she's viewed as the devil herself, she's already played a part in killing her own dad, killed her friend in a road smash and stole her best friends inheritance money,got her boyfriend to lie for her up at Court,then destroyed his life and reputation as an accountant,she then targeted my lawyers clarity simplicity in Glasgow and had an affair with the trainee solicitor that I was appointed,I told their owners Billy smith and Emma king what Claire was up to and they turned against me and took as much money of me as they could,then dumped my case,I found out the owners Billy smith and Emma king were malignant narcissists and have done the same thing to other clients,they knew what they were going to have to deal with because they're the same type of people as Claire and jumped ship
So true they want to be everyone but themselves they hate themselves if you’ve ever empowered one and it’s a man oh boy they will forget how in the dumps they were so fast then say your the loser and they never needed help with their life and they will act like they were like that all along !!!?? It’s a sight to see I have text messages where you can actually see the narcissist I’ll never get rid of them it’s all proof !!
Yes they do steal from you. My sister copies everything I wear, how I speak. What scares me is she is obsessed with a movie where a woman tries to steal another woman's identity and at the end tries to kill her to become her. I have had to distance from her, block her. She is very competitive only with me. I've tried so hard to be a good sister to her, but it's getting very weird, and scary. The very strange thing is iam 65 and she is 69. Why would a person have this type of behavior at her age? She behaves more like a young girl, and yes she is very sensitive to criticism, and yes doles it out but can't take it. So exhausting. It will be difficult to cut her out permanently, but feel I need to put some distance between us to send a strong message.
Their rage and abuse leaves behind utter chaos in their wake. If you’re one of the people being forced to deal with the chaos, it can squander your life.
Exactly and it feels so stressful like a life wasted over this evil? It's terrible. And if you defend yourself the legal system protects them and locks you away for decades for snapping and getting enough?? How is that fair?
They get angry if you mention any wrong doing they have done. You can address it calmly and their reaction is not proportionate to what you have said. If you take the baite and slightly raise your voice, you're the one with anger issues. The original conversation has now been forgotten and you receive silent treatments due to your "anger.'
My dad died when I was 8 year's old in 1972. Right after that my mother turned into a complete stranger and a psycho path she was allright until then. As I got older she got worse and one day I got in her face and CUSSED HER OUT! She would beat me and then i would give it right back to her. And then I finally realized that the anger towards her was eating me alive. I went to her grave and made an amends to her and then JESUS TOOK all that anger away and that's been almost three years ago. I'm at peace now.
@@tomthackston1442 And the peace of God, which passeth (transcends) all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7 (KJV)
My ex husband hits every single one on this list, plus never apologized. It was hell all these years! Praise the Lord who gave me the strength to get out!
Be very careful for some of these traits you will carry within you after being subjected to this type of abuse super sensitivity is one, when you break free, it takes time to heal, but the gift you will see, underneath lies the key, what and why did you not see? Blessing always for your days ❤
You see, but don't understand. I know I didn't. This is when you know you're different. Get therapy to help you. Getting away is not enough! You need healing to therapy. If one therapist doesn't work, don't say it doesn't work, because it does. Get another therapist who was trained in trauma and especially NPD.
Oh but I do we use words to describe an underneath, what is at the core of any living thing , we say it’s child hood trauma that got us this way, I say it’s the trauma of the Collective that gets it’s way, of course I’m leaning to the esoteric ways and the games that do get played when you see the energy that runs, you get to inner stand, the frequency on this land ❤
They want you to listen to all their problems and gossip for 3 hours but when you call them they are busy & never call back like they said they would.😡
silent treatment for weeks or months at a time, no acknowledgement of any issue, no apology, disingenuous & fake, interrupting every conversation you try to have….so many more.
@@dominiquefatevirginia1354 no you’re not. You’re trauma bonded. Watch Dr. Ramani’s videos and start doing some real reflection on this “relationship” of yours. Is it even that good? Are they even that good? Or do you just pity them? Or are the bad days sooo bad/emotionally exhausting that when your emotionally abusive narc SO let’s up for one day you consider that day a “good” one? If you believe yourself to be “in love” with someone who engages in this narc behavior - then your perception of the relationship (and of yourself and what you deserve) is off. WAY OFF. You’ll see with more knowledge, self-knowledge, self-love, distance, and time.
Totally agree with you maam. Describes so well the few narcissists I know. They all have a deep complex problems. They thirst for attention and are very jealous, cold and vengeful people. They go into a rage over trivial matters and never admit their faults. Never apologises either. They throw very hurt insults even curses. It's the way they were brought up since childhood. Nothing can be done to change them. The only way is to keep a distance and avoid arguments with them cos they are always right. Narcissists are mentally unstable people and do not see how they are. One has to spend the whole life pleasing them. It is very tiring to be with a narcissist as a life partner. Thank you maam.
If it was not for the wisdom Yahweh Elohim put in to Dr.Ramni and her generosity with this wisdom I would not have survived my decades long war waged by the Malignant sadistic Narcissist psychopath that really tried to unalive me,This was one of my best friends.Thank you Dr.Ramni Halleluyah.
The ones that will do and say anything to you, expect to be treated like they are special and the same ones that say, "How could you do this to me?, Who do you think you're talking to?, and Who do you think you are?"
Im not saying your wrong but, your statement is vague. Because this things can happen to a non narcicist like you as well. Id say be nore specific with the context of how these things happened.
The best way I've found to describe them is as people who never developed past being toddlers. My mother, who at the time was too young to read a clock, was more mature and more worried about taking care of her little brother than their mother was when she had a tantrum and stormed out of the house while Grandpa was at work.
Truth! And they love to argue. And they love to fight. And they love picking fights. And this why they’re so exhausting to be around. They literally suck the life out of us. Until we’re nothing more than empty shell of our form selves. With no self respect or will of own. I just Thank GOD that I finally reached my breaking point and realized what I was married to for seven years. And dated for three years. Ten years of pure hell. But not anymore Thank GOD. And she will never, ever be able to deceive me again. Because I am well educated on the games that these CRAZY MAKERS play with their family members and friends. Thank’s to you and people like you who are exposing them to the world. GOD IS GOOD! And Jesus Is Lord! Thank You GOD. I needed to hear this RUclips Video message. To help me in my wellness journey back to being myself again. Happy. And no longer confused. 🙏✝️❤️👍
You could have not said any better as I am on same boat as you! In Jesus name amen 🙏🏽… gods been warning me & at first I thought it was the devil trying to tear my marriage.
Been dealing with one since 2019. 2022 we separated then reconciled last year (2023). Now she is all up again and is even worse than she was ....got.into so many debts to make her happy and comfortable, little did I know. Am sensing another break up, and when it happens I'll run.... Run like mad away from this Jezebel.
It’s scary to realize how many of these people are around on the loose looking for their next victim. My son is dealing with one right now. Wishing all of you well. ✨⭐️⚡️🌟💫
I had a narcissist as therapist for years and just discovered it recently. She went completely crazy when I criticised some of the hurtful things she said, then made everything about herself, told me really awful things, put me down, told me I am just too sensitive and so on. The gaslighing was a real nightmare.
I had one and her version of EMDR directly led to the breakdown I had several months later-- was inpatient for over 1/3 of the year as a result, she missed a major diagnosis due to her own self absorption, and was overall one of the worst professionals I have ever met in my life. Wouldn't it be nuts if we were all talking about the same person lmao
It's all about them the dominator the cruel man who may have suffered during his childhood . This was not my fault but they take it out on their partners
This describes the narcissist in my life perfectly. And her explanations illuminate his behavior, and make me feel more sure in my decision to have limited contact.
My narc 65 yr old mom still thinks she's superior w absolutely no evidence to support it. She's homeless living in a drug den, unemployed (her whole life!) currently married to 3 different men but runnin round Oakland, Ca tryna be a minister and tell me how to run my life. But is she crazy?? Oh heck no, I'm the crazy one. Poor poor poor sick woman who will never get it. Disgustingly sad
My ex! He was cute. Body builder very obsessed on his looks. Anyway. I’m the opposite. A lot of people have given me very beautiful compliments but the real compliment is given about my soul, personality and not my appearance. Wow. This really opens up a lot for me.
You just described my Evil Ex ... and everyone around him. They were a GANG of Narcissists, with a Psychopathic Component ... working together against a single victim: Unsuspecting ME.
There is a cure for narcissism. Develop Christ like Character, narcissism is Anti-Christ like.Feed on God's word. Read the 4 Gospels in the bible, revelation 13,14.
May I add, their Outward Facade and treatment of others is always so sweet and kind, hidden in pseudo Spirituality even, yet for spouse and immediate family they are unkind and unloving.
Hallelujah! An accurate definition of a narcissist appears online. Seems that everyone is called a narcissist these days just for displaying any kind of questionable behaviour. Nice to see this.
I THINK I WAS DEALING WITH A NARC I NEVER KNEW ABOUT LOVEBOMBING OR GHOSTING BUT HE TAUGHT ME 💯 BUT THE RED FLAGS CAME EARLY ON WHEN HE SAID HE LOVED ME HE HID HIS PERSONAL ISSUES I FELT LIKE HE WAS DRAINING MY ENERGY HE'S OUT NOW AND SO AM I❤
I Think That Dr. R. Has Covered A Very Valuable Overview of Narcissists In Many Previous Videos That I Have Watched. I Really Like How Personable She Is & Her Descriptions Seem To Have More Substance To Them.
They're usually just skin deep and a pretty package with a ton of emptiness and unused space when you open the package. The product inside is a small little bottle inside a giant beautifully aesthetic box on the outside.
The tantrums when others don't follow their orders. The "I know it all" so just sit there and listen to my endless stories of how I've put this person and that person in their place because I'm so fabulous 🤮 it's just exhausting!
Thank you so much for the video. I'm a quiet person. I married again n I'm so glad you understand what's I did. I lost a lot since I married this narcissist. My sister has a similar husband. She learned to work all the time. Away from the house. We don't have a few friends n my husband has lots of friends...
They freak out on you when you call them out, even when its done in a civil manner. This triggers your fight response and you walk right into the trap. Now YOU are the bad guy and the spotlight is off of them.
She just described my former friend/colleague. Except she wasn't a beautiful facade with very little behind it. Her looks were already starting to go when I met her and she prided herself and having been a former model who had been in beauty pageants when she was in her late teens and early twenties. I later found out, surprise surprise, this was a total lie. At bare minimum, she had a very huge opinion of herself, and even more huge fragile ego, no respect for boundaries, zero regard for the word know being a complete sentence and nothing resembling a sense of accountability. She turned everything that happened into an argument. Even a minor disagreement over something trivial or a name or even a difference of opinion would turn into an all-out war. Then when I would try to remove myself from the exchange, she accused me of abandoning her and being a terrible friend. Trying to reclaim my peace of mind and stability in my life, led to her embarking on a very nasty smear campaign against me. as educated as she was, she was too damned to realize that she had defamed, slandered and liable to me to anyone who would listen. Being even more foolish, she left a paper trail. It made it very easy for me to take legal action against her.
Wow! Describes my sister. I stay away from her. Charming, then quickly turns on a person in a flash, if she perceives the slightest criticism, becomes hateful, hurtful, ruthless, extreme revenge.
P.S. My wife who I divorced would say to me… I’m A Strong Willed Woman! I Always Get My Way! And it’s because of those words that I chose to divorce her and to shut her out of my life forever. And I’m so glad that I did. Because she was so manipulative and deceitful. And she was a Crazy Maker.
My son's father was exactly this! Blindsided me completely and his true character came out behind closed doors. Especially to his scapegoat child. No friends is also another sign.
Dr Ramani, you just described my sister, a person that for years I never understood until I started watching your videos. TY, and a hug to you, for I no longer have to live under her tyranny,
Diabetes can cause someone to feel depressed, anxious, zapped of energy, and cranky. That is no reflection on others but others can misinterpret as such.
Hearing this gives me some relief. My problem is mainly when i get overwhelmed or criticized especially when its not specific and constructive, i over react and get vicious in retaliatory criticism. I will get overly honest but hurtful. So far the best thing for me is to get away from any family member that talks way too much. As I cant even have a back in forth.
I’m a narcissist due to being raised by a toxic one (C-ptsd) and it’s true lol. We can recover! I’m currently in trauma therapy with an amazing therapist❤
If you're a narcissist, you will never recover because your ego is too fragile for the truth necessary for therapeutic growth. However, if you've picked up what some call "narcissistic fleas" because you were raised by a narcissist; I wish you all the best ❤❤❤❤❤
They Thrive on making hurting humiliating comments in the presence of others . Knowing you won't fight back because it will make you look and sound crazy in front of others.
And by superficial, it's not just the textbook understanding that they are fixed on looking good BUT also fixed on social appearance, they need to look like the perfect [fill in blank] It can be the "perfect" family, the "happiest" family, the most intellectual, and so on
Being an actual, real narcissist and having a narcissistic trait are two completely different things. Real narcissists, once their mask has fallen, act like crazy psycho maniacs - there are many people who think they're better than others but will not try to destroy anyone - but people with narcissistic personal disorder do.
@@martinledermann1862 exactly that’s what I meant if you think your better than somebody doesn’t make you a narcissist it just means your competitive and you know how good you are or were I’m like that I know what I do well and I say it I say I can do that better I’m better narcissistic people destroy they are intimidated by realness and people that they feel are better that them when we are just being ourselves minding our own business and if your chosen they really hate and want to smear you !
What I meant is the actors narcissist not the actual evil narcissist I’m lucky some people stay in relationships with narcissists years after three months I was out I didn’t even want him as a friend he was pure evil to his core FOUL and real demon narcissist I wouldn’t wish him on my worst enemy
Never apologize because they wont accept accountability for anything wrong they have done. Always take it back a few steps to pinpoint someone else's fault why something went wrong
Everything you've been teaching has taught me so much about the relationship i am in. And why and how I'm choosing to put up with this treatment and way of living.
They’re 110% exhausting, married to two, still married to second one. Thank you Dr. Ramani for letting me know I’m fine and he isn’t. They hate holidays. Since I call my husband out when he acts out, he now calls me a demon. I love it and now laugh at him.
I watch her all the time. I love her knowledge and how she explains in such wonderful detail. I just saw this clip and it hit hard. This was on point !! She didn't say too much but hit all the main facts about these sort of individuals.
This sounds like my sister who was actually diagnosed with narcissism! She then asked me if she is narcissistic, my response was i dont really know what that means! She was paying the bills and rent to help me get my feet on the ground after my divorce! I agreed with diagnosis, but also needed the place to live! Lol
Having BPD and being called a narcissist by someone who was dating an ACTUAL narcissist was one of the most confusing things I’ve ever experienced. I could not fathom how my (used to be) friend thought I was a narcissist because I had fear of abandonment issues yet his partner could verbally/emotionally/financially and even sometimes physically abuse him and it was okay because he USED to be nice and kind (aka the love bombing stage). I had to recently cut this friend off for my own sanity because I couldn’t take the push and pull cycle anymore and being labeled crazy when I caught feelings after he lead me into believing we could be more than friends at some point. The lengths an enabler will go to to avoid accountability is the real craziness!
They don’t lack empathy or they wouldn’t be able to sense exactly what would hurt you the most. They lack the ability to see other people as being WORTH consideration. Your existence is just for them, not for yourself in any way.
Amen To That Doctor Ramani!!! I've Dealt With Narcissistic People On And Off For Most Of My Life!!! They're Truly Exhausting To Be Around Indeed!!! Shalom And Amen!✝️✝️🛐🛐😇🌟🤗🙏🙏🙏🇨🇦🇮🇱♾️🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲🗽🦅‼️
They are everywhere!! I was surrounded by them at one point with family & friends Now I deal with them outside of my house. But they are still everywhere like the walking d e a d😢
After being with a narcissist for 5 years, I can confirm all of these are true. You start to lose your mind slowly and stop recognizing yourself in the mirror. You give and give, and the amount increases and you start feeling that nothing is really enough for them. And the moment you start asking for the bare minimum, they get offended and start treating you badly. As if it was a sin to expect some love and appreciation from them. It leads to a point in your life where you become hollow and empty, giving every ounce of you. And when you finally start pulling away, they sense it and they hoover you back. It's an endless cycle of love-neglect-bread crumbs-detachment-love. It's the worst place to be mentally and physically. It justs sucks the life out of you, untill you look back at old pictures before them, and you can't find that carefree smile anywhere now. It's just about them all day every day, years after years.
Smear campaign is generally done by narcissist to damage reputation to stop the targets from buying/selling just as given in the revelation 13 in the Bible. Also the people who worship the beast (narcissit) and receive the mark might be tormented as given in revelation 14.Fight the good fight people. Help and strengthen each other. Revelation 13: 15 The second beast was given power to give breath to the image of the first beast, so that the image could speak and cause all who refused to worship the image to be killed. 16 It also forced all people, great and small, rich and poor, free and slave, to receive a mark on their right hands or on their foreheads, 17 so that they could not buy or sell unless they had the mark, which is the name of the beast or the number of its name Revelation 14: 9 A third angel followed them and said in a loud voice: “If anyone worships the beast and its image and receives its mark on their forehead or on their hand, 10 they, too, will drink the wine of God’s fury, which has been poured full strength into the cup of his wrath. They will be tormented with burning sulfur in the presence of the holy angels and of the Lamb. 11 And the smoke of their torment will rise for ever and ever. There will be no rest day or night for those who worship the beast and its image, or for anyone who receives the mark of its name.” 12 This calls for patient endurance on the part of the people of God who keep his commands and remain faithful to Jesus.
Phonies with no substance who wish they were as important & special as they believe themselves to be. I’ve known lots of these folks. Once I understood who I was dealing with I began to distance myself and have limited to no contact.
Everything you said was exactly what I dealt with when I was married to this man that was a narcissist, but all counselors had no training and no understanding of this, and so there was always someway that he could twist it around and say that I was making everything up when he was the one that made everything up. It was crazy. It was a horrible time that was during 80s and 90s and the early to mid 2000s that I dealt with all that and the counselors didn’t know how to deal with it now it’s so wonderful that you are addressing these issues and making the people who deal with the narcissist understand more what they’re dealing with it’s kind of sad, but it is what it is and I’m glad you’re trying to help us figure out how to deal with what it is! 😊Thank you!
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They are hell to be with.
Confirmation. Wow.
I had described a few relationships in my Life as Hell…..
Trying living with two of them one is way worse then the other.
But the other is the supply,enabler, and she is codependent on him
Indeed
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I live with 1 😂emotional damage
Zero accountability is a major one too
YUP
cough younger sibling cough..
Yes
yup
True . They’re just only have the fake image
I had my ex tell me, after the breakup, "I take responsibility for my actions", as if saying those words had any meaning at all. Just a straight farce. Her words mean nothing, and her actions speak volumes
They never apologize. Ever. Particularly for matters of substantial meaning.
Oh never….
They're over it! You should get over it too
I know a few 😰
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When they do, you can BEST BELIEVE, they have an agenda.
They can apologize, but they will repeat the same toxic act over and over again.
They demand respect but don't give it.
Facts!!!💯💯💯💯
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They demand forgiveness but don’t give it.
Big time!
Exactly omg!!!!! Like we're only a slave or a pet my goshhhh
They think they are better than others. They want special treatment from others and expect that their suggestion will always be entertained.
That’s exactly what she said…😂
I'm like this, I realized it just now. I'm just a kid I can't tell if it's a normal trait in a child
Actually they are. But the general collective cannot stand and must have a share in it. Sort of like a group orgy. The underhanded enjoys the privileges and observe with tenacity. 😏
That moment when a couch is a more active listener than your partner ever was 💀
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I wondered who the invisible person was!
And that’s a sign from God that we need to make changes
The couch is always there but never judges 📿
Lord knows why he would let Rick James into my life to assault my couch, and then have Charlie launch a reprisal on Rick's legs (which I was dismayed to see escalating an already untenable circumstance) but I realized
Thanks for this video. I've been with my girl for 2 years and I identified all of these pillars in her long before I discovered your video. I was recently researching if it was bipolar disorder or PMS but now it all makes sense. I was only asking her about her empathy last week and she's extremely hypersensitive to any form of constructive criticism but yes she easily doles it out
RUN 2 years 2 long
Hopefully they are now an ex
she can have bpd. it took me a long time. and i still have times i get upset over anything and everything. the 2 disorders can be very easily misdiagnosed. although most times since 2x as many girls have BPD as guys and 2x as many guys have NPD as girls some girls who actually have NPD end up being misdiagnosed as having BPD. since both disorders share 6 similarities i wonder what having comorbidity of both would really look like in a person
Get out while you can.
RUN FFS
Covert narcissists are trickier to detect.
Very much so.
Nasty people
Thanks, Captain Obvious 🤡
I am schooled now... Trust your gut feelings!
Because they are playing victims
Spot on, they get jealous when light starts to come in your direction😂🥴🤯
Yes!!!
Soooooooooo trueeee!
When you're genuinely happy or laughing with people you love. The narc hates this.
Narcissistic people are very good at putting on a Act .If they don't get their way in life , they can become very dangerous with their temper
True. The my ex would hit me, hit everything around in the house, always said his failed life is my fault 😂
My ex is that way he use to accuse me of trying to poison him and I was the one always the one to blame for everything.
He even was physical towards not only me but my things that I owned
I am glad he is out of my life 👍
@@Melissa-bw6ok They Never. Apologize. Even when they are to. Blame
That's true
So true
Taking notes 📚✍️📊✨📈✨ MENTAL ✨HEALTH ✨ CLASS
Like attending masters level lecture.
Yup. She's from the asylum.
I always wondered if psych majors took notes from the comment sections or maybe even someone looking to write a script on a psycho for Netflix.
Criticism can dish it out but can't take it lol spot on
Lack of empathy and projecting pain are main factors
What u mean projecting pain?
Sounds awfully similar to a lot of the comments on this video. They're directing their ugly inside out.
@Alice-ts3vl i believe there are narcs but u have to describe it better because even u if someone says something bad to u ofcourse you will react negatively. If u get disrespected.
@@slickrick5596think of yourself as a mirror. When they look at you (the mirror) they see everything they hate about themselves & you receive all their hatred.
Certainly can dish it out but can’t take it. “It’s everyone else’s fault” “I deserve more” type of attitude, it’s absolutely unbearable to be around
Unbearable and dangerous
They dole out the criticism in the hope they get some back, then flip the tables to paint themselves as the victim.
The breathless hypocrisy is quite stunning 😳
My situation…so agonizing😢
Very well said!
As much as a narcissist seems to be looked at as weak minded and emotionally disregalulated, some are literally black belts of psychological mayhem, especially those who are anti social and involves sociopathy and psychopathy.
I like the way you worded this, perfect. I have purposely isolated myself just to get my thoughts straight and my life. Sometimes we have to. Thank you for sharing 🤗
What she doesn't mention is narcissism is at an all time high, narcissists are everywhere grandiose covert and malignant their all very dangerous disgusting people, smearing your name is one of their favoured traits
True
That's true my kids cousin Claire McKenna is so intelligent on taking in manipulation tactics that she's viewed as the devil herself, she's already played a part in killing her own dad, killed her friend in a road smash and stole her best friends inheritance money,got her boyfriend to lie for her up at Court,then destroyed his life and reputation as an accountant,she then targeted my lawyers clarity simplicity in Glasgow and had an affair with the trainee solicitor that I was appointed,I told their owners Billy smith and Emma king what Claire was up to and they turned against me and took as much money of me as they could,then dumped my case,I found out the owners Billy smith and Emma king were malignant narcissists and have done the same thing to other clients,they knew what they were going to have to deal with because they're the same type of people as Claire and jumped ship
This. Its so scary
And they steal everything they can of you
literally.
… while playing a big victim!
So true they want to be everyone but themselves they hate themselves if you’ve ever empowered one and it’s a man oh boy they will forget how in the dumps they were so fast then say your the loser and they never needed help with their life and they will act like they were like that all along !!!?? It’s a sight to see I have text messages where you can actually see the narcissist I’ll never get rid of them it’s all proof !!
Especially your time
Yes they do steal from you. My sister copies everything I wear, how I speak. What scares me is she is obsessed with a movie where a woman tries to steal another woman's identity and at the end tries to kill her to become her. I have had to distance from her, block her. She is very competitive only with me. I've tried so hard to be a good sister to her, but it's getting very weird, and scary. The very strange thing is iam 65 and she is 69. Why would a person have this type of behavior at her age? She behaves more like a young girl, and yes she is very sensitive to criticism, and yes doles it out but can't take it. So exhausting. It will be difficult to cut her out permanently, but feel I need to put some distance between us to send a strong message.
Accurate description. the tantrums and the fights are real all of the above
Their rage and abuse leaves behind utter chaos in their wake. If you’re one of the people being forced to deal with the chaos, it can squander your life.
Exactly and it feels so stressful like a life wasted over this evil? It's terrible. And if you defend yourself the legal system protects them and locks you away for decades for snapping and getting enough?? How is that fair?
They get angry if you mention any wrong doing they have done. You can address it calmly and their reaction is not proportionate to what you have said. If you take the baite and slightly raise your voice, you're the one with anger issues. The original conversation has now been forgotten and you receive silent treatments due to your "anger.'
You said a mouthful of truths. Grandiose egos.
Took 57 years to realize my mother was one. Once I realized it, so much made sense then.
I hear you, it's my dad who's the narcissistic in my life. I'm 66 yrs and he is 87. 😢
My dad died when I was 8 year's old in 1972. Right after that my mother turned into a complete stranger and a psycho path she was allright until then. As I got older she got worse and one day I got in her face and CUSSED HER OUT! She would beat me and then i would give it right back to her. And then I finally realized that the anger towards her was eating me alive. I went to her grave and made an amends to her and then JESUS TOOK all that anger away and that's been almost three years ago. I'm at peace now.
Women are narcissists 🎉🎉🎉🎉
@@tomthackston1442 And the peace of God, which passeth (transcends) all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7 (KJV)
I have the same experience with my sisters. I wish I had understood this many years ago because it would have saved me a lot. of sadness and stress. 😢
My ex husband hits every single one on this list, plus never apologized. It was hell all these years! Praise the Lord who gave me the strength to get out!
Be very careful for some of these traits you will carry within you after being subjected to this type of abuse super sensitivity is one, when you break free, it takes time to heal, but the gift you will see, underneath lies the key, what and why did you not see? Blessing always for your days ❤
Amen 🙏🏻
You see, but don't understand. I know I didn't. This is when you know you're different. Get therapy to help you. Getting away is not enough! You need healing to therapy. If one therapist doesn't work, don't say it doesn't work, because it does. Get another therapist who was trained in trauma and especially NPD.
Oh but I do we use words to describe an underneath, what is at the core of any living thing , we say it’s child hood trauma that got us this way, I say it’s the trauma of the Collective that gets it’s way, of course I’m leaning to the esoteric ways and the games that do get played when you see the energy that runs, you get to inner stand, the frequency on this land ❤
Yes! Childhood PTSD can have very similar symptoms to narcissism. After being exposed to NPD, you can pick up some of the traits.
Omg. After 38 years. He asked what is empathy? I fell out of my chair
Yeah! He doesn't get it. When they asked that, RUN!
So did the couch
Hey, thats a first step 😂
Run. Run now
I didn't know what passive aggressive was and he's 54 years old and I am 38 wild!!!!
They want you to listen to all their problems and gossip for 3 hours but when you call them they are busy & never call back like they said they would.😡
Absolutely
They are plain EVIL.
Awe Dr Ramani is So Beautiful! She’s helped me through so many Heart Wrenching Break ups.
silent treatment for weeks or months at a time, no acknowledgement of any issue, no apology, disingenuous & fake, interrupting every conversation you try to have….so many more.
Ooof
So you know my mom??? 😂
Oh my goshhhh! SPOT ON!!!
Omg huhuhuh I'm in love with that person sucks hahahah
@@dominiquefatevirginia1354 no you’re not. You’re trauma bonded. Watch Dr. Ramani’s videos and start doing some real reflection on this “relationship” of yours. Is it even that good? Are they even that good? Or do you just pity them? Or are the bad days sooo bad/emotionally exhausting that when your emotionally abusive narc SO let’s up for one day you consider that day a “good” one?
If you believe yourself to be “in love” with someone who engages in this narc behavior - then your perception of the relationship (and of yourself and what you deserve) is off. WAY OFF. You’ll see with more knowledge, self-knowledge, self-love, distance, and time.
Totally agree with you maam. Describes so well the few narcissists I know. They all have a deep complex problems. They thirst for attention and are very jealous, cold and vengeful people. They go into a rage over trivial matters and never admit their faults. Never apologises either. They throw very hurt insults even curses. It's the way they were brought up since childhood. Nothing can be done to change them. The only way is to keep a distance and avoid arguments with them cos they are always right. Narcissists are mentally unstable people and do not see how they are. One has to spend the whole life pleasing them. It is very tiring to be with a narcissist as a life partner. Thank you maam.
Absolutely 💯 facts 👏 💯
If it was not for the wisdom Yahweh Elohim put in to Dr.Ramni and her generosity with this wisdom I would not have survived my decades long war waged by the Malignant sadistic Narcissist psychopath that really tried to unalive me,This was one of my best friends.Thank you Dr.Ramni Halleluyah.
The ones that will do and say anything to you, expect to be treated like they are special and the same ones that say, "How could you do this to me?, Who do you think you're talking to?, and Who do you think you are?"
Im not saying your wrong but, your statement is vague. Because this things can happen to a non narcicist like you as well.
Id say be nore specific with the context of how these things happened.
You should treat your partner like they are special. And if they lie, there's nothing wrong with saying How could you do this to me.
The couch gets it!
And yes this is spot on 🎉
The couch said "mmm" 😂
😂😂😂
Aw bless the couch!
Yeah, what’s with the empty seat?
Right? What's going on here?
Amen, amen, amen. One THOUSAND percent true. 💯💯💯 Lacking Empathy, ENTITLED, Superficial 🎯🎯🎯🔥🔥🔥
The best way I've found to describe them is as people who never developed past being toddlers. My mother, who at the time was too young to read a clock, was more mature and more worried about taking care of her little brother than their mother was when she had a tantrum and stormed out of the house while Grandpa was at work.
Truth! And they love to argue. And they love to fight. And they love picking fights. And this why they’re so exhausting to be around. They literally suck the life out of us. Until we’re nothing more than empty shell of our form selves. With no self respect or will of own. I just Thank GOD that I finally reached my breaking point and realized what I was married to for seven years. And dated for three years. Ten years of pure hell. But not anymore Thank GOD. And she will never, ever be able to deceive me again. Because I am well educated on the games that these CRAZY MAKERS play with their family members and friends. Thank’s to you and people like you who are exposing them to the world. GOD IS GOOD! And Jesus Is Lord! Thank You GOD. I needed to hear this RUclips Video message. To help me in my wellness journey back to being myself again. Happy. And no longer confused. 🙏✝️❤️👍
You could have not said any better as I am on same boat as you! In Jesus name amen 🙏🏽… gods been warning me & at first I thought it was the devil trying to tear my marriage.
Been dealing with one since 2019. 2022 we separated then reconciled last year (2023). Now she is all up again and is even worse than she was ....got.into so many debts to make her happy and comfortable, little did I know. Am sensing another break up, and when it happens I'll run.... Run like mad away from this Jezebel.
It’s scary to realize how many of these people are around on the loose looking for their next victim. My son is dealing with one right now. Wishing all of you well. ✨⭐️⚡️🌟💫
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Amen
I had a narcissist as therapist for years and just discovered it recently. She went completely crazy when I criticised some of the hurtful things she said, then made everything about herself, told me really awful things, put me down, told me I am just too sensitive and so on. The gaslighing was a real nightmare.
I had one too and she wrecked havoc on my entire life.
I had one and her version of EMDR directly led to the breakdown I had several months later-- was inpatient for over 1/3 of the year as a result, she missed a major diagnosis due to her own self absorption, and was overall one of the worst professionals I have ever met in my life. Wouldn't it be nuts if we were all talking about the same person lmao
I had a terrible therapist like that last year. I was so triggered the whole time I was seeing him!
80/20 rule is ubiquitous. 80% of therapists, doctors, police, teachers, etc are charlatans
It's all about them the dominator the cruel man who may have suffered during his childhood . This was not my fault but they take it out on their partners
For every narcissist there's 20 enablers.
They're called Flying Monkeys
They want everyone to see them through rose colored glasses. Image is key.
This describes the narcissist in my life perfectly. And her explanations illuminate his behavior, and make me feel more sure in my decision to have limited contact.
My narc 65 yr old mom still thinks she's superior w absolutely no evidence to support it. She's homeless living in a drug den, unemployed (her whole life!) currently married to 3 different men but runnin round Oakland, Ca tryna be a minister and tell me how to run my life. But is she crazy?? Oh heck no, I'm the crazy one. Poor poor poor sick woman who will never get it. Disgustingly sad
You are one of the best psychologists I have ever heard. I don’t know your exact degree but you are the best.
My ex! He was cute. Body builder very obsessed on his looks. Anyway. I’m the opposite. A lot of people have given me very beautiful compliments but the real compliment is given about my soul, personality and not my appearance. Wow. This really opens up a lot for me.
You just described my Evil Ex ... and everyone around him.
They were a GANG of Narcissists, with a Psychopathic Component ... working together against a single victim: Unsuspecting ME.
The more of these I see the more I think I'm just a traumatized human. But I won't give up, ever.
There is a cure for narcissism. Develop Christ like Character, narcissism is Anti-Christ like.Feed on God's word. Read the 4 Gospels in the bible, revelation 13,14.
May I add, their Outward Facade and treatment of others is always so sweet and kind, hidden in pseudo Spirituality even, yet for spouse and immediate family they are unkind and unloving.
No, they are like this with everyone iif they are a true narcissist. They can't hide it.
@@francesbeth2077oh bet me. Performative Art of the highest order.
My dad.
For me he showers his children with love but with me it's abuse and nasty comments and arguments
Hallelujah! An accurate definition of a narcissist appears online. Seems that everyone is called a narcissist these days just for displaying any kind of questionable behaviour.
Nice to see this.
I THINK I WAS DEALING WITH A NARC I NEVER KNEW ABOUT LOVEBOMBING OR GHOSTING BUT HE TAUGHT ME 💯 BUT THE RED FLAGS CAME EARLY ON WHEN HE SAID HE LOVED ME HE HID HIS PERSONAL ISSUES I FELT LIKE HE WAS DRAINING MY ENERGY HE'S OUT NOW AND SO AM I❤
Narcissistic crave admiration and validation. They may go to great lengths to ensure they are the center of attention
Yes so true
I Think That Dr. R. Has Covered A Very Valuable Overview of Narcissists In Many Previous Videos That I Have Watched. I Really Like How Personable She Is & Her Descriptions Seem To Have More Substance To Them.
I wish I had this kind of wisdom when I was dating narcissists. That’s all I dated, unfortunately. I did not want to go out with nice guys.
You may have been conditioned by your family or other early caregivers to accept unacceptable behavior.
Ditto. Every relationship was with an entitled narcissist. Exhausting.
All the narcissists have the same frequency, don't they?
No
I'm not asking a question here and you sure can have your own opinion.@@dlizzy3835
Most of society ,TV, etc are narcs nowadays.
@kriskairn3715 spot on! And they now have easy access to manipulate society
They’re channeling dark entities so that’s the low vibe which can be observed in them.
They're usually just skin deep and a pretty package with a ton of emptiness and unused space when you open the package. The product inside is a small little bottle inside a giant beautifully aesthetic box on the outside.
The tantrums when others don't follow their orders. The "I know it all" so just sit there and listen to my endless stories of how I've put this person and that person in their place because I'm so fabulous 🤮 it's just exhausting!
She just described the woman I been involved with for the past two years
Thank you so much for the video.
I'm a quiet person. I married again n I'm so glad you understand what's I did. I lost a lot since I married this narcissist.
My sister has a similar husband. She learned to work all the time. Away from the house. We don't have a few friends n my husband has lots of friends...
They freak out on you when you call them out, even when its done in a civil manner. This triggers your fight response and you walk right into the trap. Now YOU are the bad guy and the spotlight is off of them.
This
So true. Spot on!
Yes, She's very knowledgeable.
Thank You!
She just described my former friend/colleague. Except she wasn't a beautiful facade with very little behind it. Her looks were already starting to go when I met her and she prided herself and having been a former model who had been in beauty pageants when she was in her late teens and early twenties. I later found out, surprise surprise, this was a total lie.
At bare minimum, she had a very huge opinion of herself, and even more huge fragile ego, no respect for boundaries, zero regard for the word know being a complete sentence and nothing resembling a sense of accountability.
She turned everything that happened into an argument. Even a minor disagreement over something trivial or a name or even a difference of opinion would turn into an all-out war. Then when I would try to remove myself from the exchange, she accused me of abandoning her and being a terrible friend.
Trying to reclaim my peace of mind and stability in my life, led to her embarking on a very nasty smear campaign against me. as educated as she was, she was too damned to realize that she had defamed, slandered and liable to me to anyone who would listen. Being even more foolish, she left a paper trail. It made it very easy for me to take legal action against her.
The cuts to show the invisible man were really thoughtful. I'm sure that helped him feel seen.
The couch is a great interviewer
Wow! Describes my sister. I stay away from her. Charming, then quickly turns on a person in a flash, if she perceives the slightest criticism, becomes hateful, hurtful, ruthless, extreme revenge.
P.S. My wife who I divorced would say to me… I’m A Strong Willed Woman! I Always Get My Way! And it’s because of those words that I chose to divorce her and to shut her out of my life forever. And I’m so glad that I did. Because she was so manipulative and deceitful. And she was a Crazy Maker.
My son's father was exactly this! Blindsided me completely and his true character came out behind closed doors. Especially to his scapegoat child. No friends is also another sign.
Dr Ramani, you just described my sister, a person that for years I never understood until I started watching your videos. TY, and a hug to you, for I no longer have to live under her tyranny,
I like this empty sofa series.😄
Nice one 😅
😅
Eek
Thank you so very kind
Right on the money they feel entitled self consumed 😊
I noticed my husband exhibits the narcissist behaviour much more when his blood sugar isn’t controlled. He’s diabetic
Diabetes can cause someone to feel depressed, anxious, zapped of energy, and cranky. That is no reflection on others but others can misinterpret as such.
These are spiritual problems, too.
I wonder how much metabolic dysfunction plays a role. Has anyone ever come across a healthy narcissist? Inflamed brains are a real thing.
Yeah its probably harder to regulate emotions when your blood sugar is off.
Hearing this gives me some relief.
My problem is mainly when i get overwhelmed or criticized especially when its not specific and constructive, i over react and get vicious in retaliatory criticism.
I will get overly honest but hurtful.
So far the best thing for me is to get away from any family member that talks way too much. As I cant even have a back in forth.
This is so true!! Hit the nail on the head!
I’m a narcissist due to being raised by a toxic one (C-ptsd) and it’s true lol. We can recover! I’m currently in trauma therapy with an amazing therapist❤
Congratulations! I'm rooting for you.
If you're a narcissist, you will never recover because your ego is too fragile for the truth necessary for therapeutic growth. However, if you've picked up what some call "narcissistic fleas" because you were raised by a narcissist; I wish you all the best ❤❤❤❤❤
If your a narcissist you won't recover. People with CPTSD are not toxic! You are!
@@CoachCreesh❤
LOL this is such a joek "truama therapy" for narcissism XDDDD what has the world come to lmfAO
It's definitely troubling living with one.
They Thrive on making hurting humiliating comments in the presence of others . Knowing you won't fight back because it will make you look and sound crazy in front of others.
Exactly
So so true ❤
You explained the situation down to a T ❤
And by superficial, it's not just the textbook understanding that they are fixed on looking good BUT also fixed on social appearance, they need to look like the perfect [fill in blank] It can be the "perfect" family, the "happiest" family, the most intellectual, and so on
Wow she has it nailed.
We all have narcissistic traits but some people have all understand that they are the highest more debilitated version .
Being an actual, real narcissist and having a narcissistic trait are two completely different things. Real narcissists, once their mask has fallen, act like crazy psycho maniacs - there are many people who think they're better than others but will not try to destroy anyone - but people with narcissistic personal disorder do.
As a mental health professional, I can tell you that we don’t all have these traits.
Yes, it's a spectrum.
@@martinledermann1862 exactly that’s what I meant if you think your better than somebody doesn’t make you a narcissist it just means your competitive and you know how good you are or were I’m like that I know what I do well and I say it I say I can do that better I’m better narcissistic people destroy they are intimidated by realness and people that they feel are better that them when we are just being ourselves minding our own business and if your chosen they really hate and want to smear you !
What I meant is the actors narcissist not the actual evil narcissist I’m lucky some people stay in relationships with narcissists years after three months I was out I didn’t even want him as a friend he was pure evil to his core FOUL and real demon narcissist I wouldn’t wish him on my worst enemy
Never apologize because they wont accept accountability for anything wrong they have done. Always take it back a few steps to pinpoint someone else's fault why something went wrong
That's a very accurate description 😮
Everything you've been teaching has taught me so much about the relationship i am in. And why and how I'm choosing to put up with this treatment and way of living.
They’re 110% exhausting, married to two, still married to second one. Thank you Dr. Ramani for letting me know I’m fine and he isn’t. They hate holidays. Since I call my husband out when he acts out, he now calls me a demon. I love it and now laugh at him.
Exactly, Pay "ATTENTION" people! 🥺😇🙏♥️♥️♥️
She's most definitely on point. Everything sounds familiar
I watch her all the time. I love her knowledge and how she explains in such wonderful detail. I just saw this clip and it hit hard. This was on point !!
She didn't say too much but hit all the main facts about these sort of individuals.
The cut aways kill me!😅😅😅
Being interviewed by a Couch is tough
I guess he didn’t want to be shown for whatever reason. But showing the couch was odd
This sounds like my sister who was actually diagnosed with narcissism! She then asked me if she is narcissistic, my response was i dont really know what that means! She was paying the bills and rent to help me get my feet on the ground after my divorce! I agreed with diagnosis, but also needed the place to live! Lol
Having BPD and being called a narcissist by someone who was dating an ACTUAL narcissist was one of the most confusing things I’ve ever experienced. I could not fathom how my (used to be) friend thought I was a narcissist because I had fear of abandonment issues yet his partner could verbally/emotionally/financially and even sometimes physically abuse him and it was okay because he USED to be nice and kind (aka the love bombing stage). I had to recently cut this friend off for my own sanity because I couldn’t take the push and pull cycle anymore and being labeled crazy when I caught feelings after he lead me into believing we could be more than friends at some point. The lengths an enabler will go to to avoid accountability is the real craziness!
I got 2 of these traits. Doing shadow work to get rid of any narcissistic tendencies.
They don’t lack empathy or they wouldn’t be able to sense exactly what would hurt you the most. They lack the ability to see other people as being WORTH consideration. Your existence is just for them, not for yourself in any way.
Amen To That Doctor Ramani!!! I've Dealt With Narcissistic People On And Off For Most Of My Life!!! They're Truly Exhausting To Be Around Indeed!!! Shalom And Amen!✝️✝️🛐🛐😇🌟🤗🙏🙏🙏🇨🇦🇮🇱♾️🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲🗽🦅‼️
Why is there so many narcissist. Seems like I have nowhere to run, they are everywhere
They are everywhere!!
I was surrounded by them at one point with family & friends
Now I deal with them outside of my house. But they are still everywhere like the walking d e a d😢
You can run from narcs but you can't hide. They can be anywhere.
They are some of the worst people you could ever deal with and it’s even worse when you share children…. My children’s father is the epitome of this!
After being with a narcissist for 5 years, I can confirm all of these are true. You start to lose your mind slowly and stop recognizing yourself in the mirror. You give and give, and the amount increases and you start feeling that nothing is really enough for them. And the moment you start asking for the bare minimum, they get offended and start treating you badly. As if it was a sin to expect some love and appreciation from them. It leads to a point in your life where you become hollow and empty, giving every ounce of you. And when you finally start pulling away, they sense it and they hoover you back. It's an endless cycle of love-neglect-bread crumbs-detachment-love. It's the worst place to be mentally and physically. It justs sucks the life out of you, untill you look back at old pictures before them, and you can't find that carefree smile anywhere now. It's just about them all day every day, years after years.
Smear campaign is generally done by narcissist to damage reputation to stop the targets from buying/selling just as given in the revelation 13 in the Bible. Also the people who worship the beast (narcissit) and receive the mark might be tormented as given in revelation 14.Fight the good fight people. Help and strengthen each other.
Revelation 13:
15 The second beast was given power to give breath to the image of the first beast, so that the image could speak and cause all who refused to worship the image to be killed. 16 It also forced all people, great and small, rich and poor, free and slave, to receive a mark on their right hands or on their foreheads, 17 so that they could not buy or sell unless they had the mark, which is the name of the beast or the number of its name
Revelation 14:
9 A third angel followed them and said in a loud voice: “If anyone worships the beast and its image and receives its mark on their forehead or on their hand, 10 they, too, will drink the wine of God’s fury, which has been poured full strength into the cup of his wrath. They will be tormented with burning sulfur in the presence of the holy angels and of the Lamb. 11 And the smoke of their torment will rise for ever and ever. There will be no rest day or night for those who worship the beast and its image, or for anyone who receives the mark of its name.” 12 This calls for patient endurance on the part of the people of God who keep his commands and remain faithful to Jesus.
Happy Thanksgiving,Doctor.You are beautiful.
Phonies with no substance who wish they were as important & special as they believe themselves to be. I’ve known lots of these folks. Once I understood who I was dealing with I began to distance myself and have limited to no contact.
@fifilafleur5555 it's best that way. I ghosted the guy I was seeing.
My ex use to tell me “even though I don’t show it, trust me, I’m a very jealous person”
The cross cutting to an empty couch is hilarious though.
Everything you said was exactly what I dealt with when I was married to this man that was a narcissist, but all counselors had no training and no understanding of this, and so there was always someway that he could twist it around and say that I was making everything up when he was the one that made everything up. It was crazy. It was a horrible time that was during 80s and 90s and the early to mid 2000s that I dealt with all that and the counselors didn’t know how to deal with it now it’s so wonderful that you are addressing these issues and making the people who deal with the narcissist understand more what they’re dealing with it’s kind of sad, but it is what it is and I’m glad you’re trying to help us figure out how to deal with what it is! 😊Thank you!
My mother & sister . I am so done with both of them.