I’m definitely not a narcissist, I’m probably the most humble person ever despite the fact that I’m one of the smartest, best looking, most competent, and overall best people I know
you are one of the smartest, best looking, most competent, and overall best people ever. I can assure you of this. because I am the #1 in all of these things.
A lack of empathy is a big indicator of narcissism. This indicates that the narcissist is unable or unwilling to understand the desires, needs, or emotions of other people. They find it challenging to accept accountability for their actions as a result. From my own experience, narcissistic people are extremely resistant to changing their behavior, even when it's causing them problems.
Tbf you don't need to understand or share other's feelings to feel bad for and/or have desire to help them. I'm not too empathetic but I don't think I'm a narcissist (though I do get worried sometimes, I don't relate to the symptoms)
Indeed, changing one's behaviour starts with admitting you have a problem, or at least admitting you aren't perfect. But a narcissist would rather die than admit to that.
Nah, you are wrong. They absolutely understand others emotions, they have a lot of empathy, BUT they only use it to their own advantage, manipulation. They are not psychopats. Worse.
I landed on this video to understand narcissism as I have a bad time with my wife and this comment pretty well sums up her up. She seems to have a total lack of empathy and her face contorts and reacts so angrily to any form of criticism but she gives it me about 10 times a day without a second thought, I give up a long time ago in telling her when I had an issue with her due to the fallout of it all ( yes I know I made a massive rod for myself by not confronting her but I just wanted a quiet life). The only thing is she is a real high achiever and extremely clever and if anyone in family or friends have a problem she will happily help them all she can, she can cope with any situation or problem which she just meets head on, she loves an argument or confrontation with anyone she feels has wronged her or even does the smallest of thing she deems unacceptable but breaks all of her own rules no problem. She told me she no longer loves me about 2 years ago and I was devastated but now the love has gone my end as well I see I have a lucky escape and may become happier in the latter part of my wife. So can people help is she a narcissist or a psychopath or whatever else as I’d really like to know, I appreciate it might be hard to come to a conclusion from my description but I’d just like a ballpark estimate.
@@brianwalsh1401 I know this from personal experience, they can’t handle any criticism even when it’s gently delivered, and begin projecting onto you instead and changing the subject to talk about how you’re not perfect either and everything that’s wrong with you. Talking to them is a waste of time.
When Narcissus died, the entire creations around wept for him. The trees, the river, the animals and the birds, everyone mourned his death, as they no longer could enjoy his beauty. After sometimes, they all gradually forgot about Narcissus, except the river. The river kept on crying and the water become salty, making it non drinkable for the animals and birds. To solve the problem an angel arrived and asked the river why she was still crying for Narcissus. The river remained quite and kept on crying. The angel asked whether it was because she no longer could enjoy the beauty of Narcissus staring at her. At last the river replied. "I am not crying because Narcissus is no more there to stare at me. It's because I will miss seeing my own reflection in his eyes when he stared at me" -The Alchemist.
I grew up with a narcissistic father. He once said, "I am right even when I'm wrong". I developed a habit to always reflect myself just to make sure I don't turn out like him. My growth to seek love, success, or even such as happiness, has been severely stunted. For those who suffered as I did, don't give up. You can't save them but you can save yourself.
Thank you for your comment, I'm currently still suffering from his narcissistic behavior and honestly it gets tiring and as you said I tend to always think twice before I think or say anything, I make sure I'm not selfish as much as possible.
It's actually low self esteem covered with bravado. Every moment is spent trying to convince themselves and others that they are better. Lived with one for 13 years. The psychological abuse they put you through is stunning.
Spot on. They're caricatures of what they think is perfect. My stepfather was one and so was my last partner, who never misses an opportunity to tell me dumping her was the biggest mistake of my life, although we get along fine, apart from that one jibe. I've healed sufficiently that I can now laugh in her face. Why, against all reason and our own personal experience, did we think our love would change them for the better? If push came to shove I'd rather spend the rest of my life on my own than get back with her. I take solace in the fact she hasn't found a suitable victim in the four years we've been broke up. 😂😂😂
@@TheLace She's my sister. And I don't give two shits about her but she's harming my parents mentally so I am staying for my parents and when I get married, I'll take my parents with me
A narcissistic ex lover after I broke up with him once told me- "I think we should get back together because rn we're both unhappy but if we get back ik I'll be happy and that's better than the both of us being unhappy" That was the most manipulative,scary, infuriating and outrageous thing I'd ever heard, please don't put up with it, don't try to change them, just LEAVE.
@@nabsterific so a person refusing to stay in a relationship that makes them miserable sounds less technically correct than them staying in it for the other's happiness? What are y'all on?😂 Oh no wait. Let's just play devil's advocate to be cool rather than have the emotional maturity to understand how relationships work.
My friend's husband asked, "Why do my children hate me? The neighbors have family fights too, they scream at each other too. I don't gamble, drink, or womanize" LOL He doesn't work, his family has many medical problems that are paid for by his wife and daughter. He uses his family for self-actualization and rages or shuts off when his mistakes are laid bare to him. His son is mentally unsound because of the years of verbal abuse and manipulation. His wife and daughter have anxiety that manifests in physical ailments and sometimes panic attacks. They have no choice but to move out. May be homeless once they bleed out of all savings. And yet, he refuses to divorce his wife so that she can take her fair share and buy another smaller property to live in. But at least, she had finally left him so that she and her family can heal.
@@csy897 I hope she and the kids are doing better man. These situations often make the person feel guilty for not helping or supporting their partner when in reality that's just a manipulation. All they really want is a person to baby them instead of taking responsibility. That may be because of their own personal trauma or experiences but it is still quite toxic for people around them
Many People will still blame saying there is mothing like narcissism and sensitiveness, these are gen z's melodrama and people should continue emotional abuse as daily normal part of teaching 'way of life' Mostly parents do this as an excuse to emotionally manipulate youngers
It’s hard to be humble when your perfect in every way. Yo Yo! Sup? Word up. Come on my peeps, that other guys way to far ahead,, make with the likes already!
Humility is a strange subject...if you think you're humble your probably not , if you don't think you're humble, you just might be humble. It's like blurting out " I am the greatest" ...its best to let someone else bestow that title on you. It might also be a good idea not to believe your own press. The Lord's Prayer might teach humility if you heed it.
Narcissism isn't generally about thinking they're better than someone or not.. It's more about thinking of one self as the main character in a movie and everybody else exists only in relation to their self-image (supporting casts). Narcissists feel shame, no guilt. They are vaguely dissatisfied with their life. They often feel rage, sadness, anxiety with high intensity and frequently. They don't feel joy or happiness outside of themself.
The main character in a film they are directing. I like how you said they are 'vaguely dissatisfied' with life. That is an important distinction. They aren't fully aware that they are dissatisfied, but they know something isn't quite 'right', and it's this feeling that probably keeps moving them forward, in the search for the next 'hit', 'conquest' etc. Their lives are on infinite loop.
Who tf doesn’t think they are somewhat the main character in some ways? Everyone is the main character in their own life, don’t just throw around a serious clinical diagnosis
I thought I was a narcissist because I spend a lot of time realising myself and my person. I spend a lot of time analysing how I think and act. I thought this was excessive and became so worried I asked my friends and family if they thought I was narcissistic. One of my friends told me that if you worry about being a narcissist and deem it a negative feature you most probably aren’t one.
Narcissists lack self analysing and realising ability, but still are selfish to their fullest Means they really don't have any idea about their own thoughts and actions and how it affects others because they are always right in their own pov.
narciisism is deeper than just taking lots of selfies. I had narc parents and ex, it's exhausting, confusing, draining, painful being with them. They will drive you crazy.. Save yourselves.
Yeah I can understand how narcissist parent can drain ur soul , they will accuse you for everything , they will abuse (physically, verbally, socially) you for things u haven't even done. My mom and I are facing this everyday, from my dad, he like I am ur dad u can't even buy cloths against my wish and permission, if not then I will abuse you.
I was raised under a matriarchal narc - she is a blackhole and my family convened around her to save themselves and scapegoated me for decades. Took me 30 years to understand what was going on. Given that it stated in my childhood it completely stunted my development - I spend so much time feeling anxious and either hiding or diminishing my personality to appease her to ensure my "survival". I couldn't really think of the future or who I wanted to be cos I was always preoccupied with the present. Spent years and years feeling atomized and random - only in the last five years has my life started to make sense since learning what narcissism is. Yes, deeper than bloody selfies! :-)
definitely a lot more to it. they never admit that they were wrong, they act the victim, they're really impatient, they'll gaslight you, they always think you owe them something if they've done one act of compassion for you and they'll throw you under the bus for their own needs, in other words, they put themselves first over everyone else's needs.
The only connection I can think of is that both are based on the perpetrator’s undue emphasis of his/her own thoughts/emotions. In narcissistic abuse, perpetrators usually expresses the attitude that everything centers around them. They may object to that description and even insist that they don’t believe that; but, their actions say otherwise. Virtually everything you do/don’t do gets tied back to the perpetrator as a person. You’re either doing something right b/c you’re smart, capable, etc., or you’re intentionally doing it wrong in order to hurt/anger the perpetrator in some way. You are also likely to be accused of doing it wrong, even if you’re doing it right-again b/c of the perpetrator’s thoughts/emotions. Toxic positivity is generally not perpetrated with the intention to hurt anyone, and most wouldn’t even recognize it as being toxic/hurtful; but, in most cases, the perpetrator is still oblivious to the effect it has on others, and to the value of that effect. Narcissism is a psychological disorder and, with few exceptions, abuse is perpetrated with the tangible intention of causing harm. In contrast, toxic positivity is a behavioral flaw that is essentially an extreme version of selfishness, based in denial, and is generally perpetrated with the intention of maintaining and creating happiness. Most people are selfish, in some way or another. Toxic positivity is a subtle expression of selfishness-so subtle that even the perpetrator may not realize why it’s wrong b/c, after all, s/he is only seeking to encourage/uplift people. This is where denial comes in. Most people struggle/suffer, at some point or another. I believe that most people are also aware that there are people who experience more pain than they are aware of from their own lives. Denial allows people to look at someone who reminds them of themselves and assume that they cannot be justified in their suffering b/c the observer is not suffering. Denial also allows people who have suffered to deny the significance of other people’s suffering b/c it is notably different from their own, or b/c they perceive it as being notably different. From here, there are 2 extremes: One is for them to be semi-consciously abusive-meaning that they are generally aware that their actions are hurtful; but, they rationalize it as being justified. The other is to perpetrate toxic positivity-in which they are completely unaware that their actions are hurtful and it’s difficult for them to identify why they would be. Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when him or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator Barryinvestigation@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me.
The most succinct description I like is: A narcissist isn't trying to convince _you_ they're amazing; they're trying to convince _themselves_ they are.
You forgot to mention how they can be so toxic, manipulative and abusive, and how a narcissistic parent would think we owe them for everything they’ve done for us especially when taking care of us when we were infants. I’ll never forget my dad saying “I CHANGED YOUR DIAPERS”. They think there is just no point in a raising a child if there is nothing in it for them. That is not unconditional love and kindness
I can relate to you in so many ways. My father is a narcissist and that made our whole family suffer all throughout. And the last things that u said.. You just spoke my mind
My parents put me on a pedestal. They never said no to me, had the money to spoil me greatly and never criticized or disciplined me. My whole childhood I was told I was the best, the smartest, the prettiest and so on. As a result I catch narcissistic tendencies in my thinking all the time, like subconsciously thinking I "need" a car and couldn't handle taking the bus from school and back everyday. Luckily I am pretty good person and can think critically about my character, so I don't have narcissistic personalty disorder and recognize that getting an education is much more important than the means of getting to the school. But don't spoil your kids like that, they might turn out to be narcissistic assholes.
I can relate too even tho I've just opened my eyes to the fact that i do have some of those traits... The only problem i have is just that I'm self concious way after I do the things and mostly when I'm high so I'm very confused right now haha but I'll figure it out
i always thought i was a narcissist, and i kinda am. I realised that i am not only a bit egoistic but i'm also a bit of a vulnerable narcissist. I get irritated or annoyed when someone is actually being better than me in something i'm good at, or when someone tries to say that they're smarter than me. I never told this to anyone for obvious reasons
Each of us registers somewhere on the Narcissist scale, but the import factor is that you are self-aware enough to acknowledge these happening. It's on each of us, individually, to make ourselves better. In this case, instead of focusing on the negative feelings of not being first (those are natural BTW), focus in the positive things. "I did my best" "they have come so far" "wow, working together makes things go faster is is more fun"... It's all in how we view things. As someone who has spent my whole life with a Narc that ranges from a 7.6 to an 8.2 on the Narc scale, I'd place you between a 2.8 and a 3.3. You have some learning and healing to do, but the first big step is acknowledging that something is wrong. Now that that hurdal is out of the way, move forward with hope and confidence that things can change for the better. You've got this!
I was in a long, toxic relationship with a narcissist. It drove me insane, brought me nothing but depression and suicidal thoughts, and all that time I thought that I was the one that wasn't ok or good enough, that I was the problem. If you notice that someone around you makes you feel like you're not good enough for them but still keeps exploiting you, leave them and never look back, doesn't matter if it's a friend, relative or significant other. You're better off alone or with people that can empathize with you and don't see you as a second grade person ❤️
Same experience here. It’s so subtle too. If you see red flags, pay attention. I’m an empath. I saw red flags. Looked passed them. I’m no longer an empath. It can change you.
@@josephobetta2732 now that almost two years have passed I kinda see that too. It's a long and painful story but this year I got my sweet little revenge hehe
I remember telling a guy, whom I thought to be narcissistic, that he acted like Narcissus. He asked me who it was and I retold him the myth. Do you know what he said, "Isn't it a good thing?"
Its a good thing tho, People should have a limit to care about everyone else, I used to care about everyone else till I realized how much it damaged me, I care for myself but don’t brag about how good I am
Ayesha Julia By wondering that you prove you probably are not. A true narcissistic type would either get mad at this video, or it would never cross their mind to apply it to themselves
The problem with this is: by wondering this, not just to yourself, but broadcasting it to other people might be your attempt at trying to get positive affirmation by other people, thus proving, to yourself at least, that you aren’t what you might’ve thought you are. Self acknowledgement is the first step on the right path, yes, but the worst kind of narcissists are the kind that subtly manipulate themselves along with the people around them. Thank you, this was my ted talk. And no, a standing ovation is not required, though my speech *was* quite impeccable, if me and my colleagues are to be believed, and trust me, they are both outstanding judges. No hate, I was just stating my own thoughts.
@@suzannahardjono9951 god doesn't exist. Please shut up and stop shoving your religion down everyone's throats we're sick of it. Plus it's a joke, when are you people getting those sticks out your asses?
I feel like this video glosses over the fact that narcissism impacts the person's life just as it does everyone around them. When you have unrealistic expectations for everything, you will always be disappointed, frustrated, and miserable, no matter how much you paint your image. It also makes it hard to connect emotionally with others, a vital part of being a human being. While you hurt others around you, you hurt yourself too. I think the best way to help them is to develop more ways to help them. More treatments, more help. You don't have to be in a relationship with a narcissist to help them.
I'm slowly realising that I've been a narcissist all my life. I strongly believe reflection is the best kind of therapy. Different perspectives certainly help.
I thought so until I realised narcissism as an aspect of our personality is a spectrum. We all fall on it to some degree,. It is possible that you are overestimating the narcissism in you. A full blown narcissist is unlikely to recognize that they are a narcissist apparently.
First, it's a good thing that you're willing to admit that. Second, like it was said before, narcissism is a spectrum, so yes, you might be somewhere in it, but if you've realised that on your own and you understand the need for you to address it, then let me tell you you're not a pathological narcissist. That's because they live in the shell, never allowing themselves to look inside themselves. That's actually why they destroy everything around them; since they need constant attention, they get bored easily, and for them being bored is a major issue because they don't want to be left alone with their thoughts and feelings. That's why they're always plotting their next move, be it a career move or just something they can use to cause trouble between two or more people.
The fact that you're admitting that you are means you're likely not one. Also. Humans are naturally narcissistic, it is when it goes beyond the lines of normal that you are labelled as one
help i think im slowly turning into a narcissistic. I want attention but at the same time i dont really want it. There are a bunch of other things but its weird.
That was back then, but narcissism is increasing in this new generation because they grow up with social media, Special Snowflake Syndrome and weak parents
It’s a strange disorder at first. It takes a while to understand the behavior could be that petty, superficial, and juvenile. What amazes people is that they seem so charming, bold, and magical. Both men and women can fall in love with the same person. It is a paradox that such talent in one aspect of life could exist next to such idiocy in the next moment. But, the most difficult lesson is earned later when he or she becomes the very last person you should ever trust on anything. Essentially this desperate, frightened and unlovable individual wants to be hugged and protected by anyone stronger or wiser than he/she. All their selfish, bombastic, and reckless behaviors are designed to create more space and exceptions for the actor. The boundaries that are shattered may be sacred to you, but meaningless to them. This is how they stun onlookers and seize the moment hypnotizing their prey. Imagine what a deer does when headlights catch them halfway across the road. That’s what they try to achieve with bigger and bigger audiences. Furthermore, they are always testing true believers for the extent of their situational loyalty. This repeating fraudulent cycle explodes opportunities to gain leverage and do crimes upon the unwitting fools that he intended to set up all along. So, his game always creates and follows the same cycles. Once you get used to the way he/she speaks, thinks, and connives, you can see if its you about to be set up, or whom among the key players that show loyalty. The narcissist giant blindspot is two fold: 1) they make a bunch of repeated mistakes, and 2) never expect the person that is setting him up to be caught. The narcissist rarely does anything he’s never done many times before. And, in most of the mistaken actions he doesn’t learn, improve, or vary in the end result. Lastly, the narcissist never works alone, he always recruits willing volunteers to abuse. Often these people are from the hypnotized or the smitten that become abusable volunteers that will always let him come back in. The cycles are always a version of what he did before. That’s why the narcissist is so predictable. If you need to find out about a cheating narcissist; send a request to: Metaspyhub@gmail. com
I classify myself as a “narcissist” although im not so proud of my condition. The part where he said “narcissists feel good but the people around them suffer” is absolutely true, i destroyed the best person i ever had in my life and i didnt even know why and how i did it. Seek for help? Impossible i feel too much guilt. Not all narcissists feel good about themselves believe me.
@@Jaylade Yes. "Therapy"=i need to go to a psychologist or psychiatrist= i need to tell him/her exactly why i belive im a narcissist/ open up about it. Cant really do that rn to be honest
@@5hu5hu85 well why not? Everybody should go to therapy tbh, we all have problems, the sooner you deal with coping with your guilt the better. Though, npd can’t be cured but you can learn to treat it and others around you better. And ofc not all narcissists feel good about themselves, it’s a part of narcissism
Being an Asian child with very controlling parents , I am so sure that I am a vulnerable narcissist and it is very hard to go on with life with this condition. I check myself in the mirror like 100 times in the mirror everyday thinking I am very handsome but when I meet someone whom I think is more attractive than me , I feel depressed to the point I won’t eat and sleep . I think it has something to do with my parents comparing me to everyone who is better than me. Narcissistic people are confident they say but I think they are equipped with a lot of insecurities as well. I am not sure but that is my case . I wish to go to therapy but mental illness isn’t a thing here yet.
the whole world literally make fun of me for not being smart and pretty,but idc i just accept myself for who i’am,even tho my whole family is handsome/pretty and smart,my parents and siblings tell me that they are very embarrassed to be with me bc of my school level i live in the netherlands and my level of school is literally SO low,everyone ask me what level i’am when i’m telling them truth they making fun of me even strangers do that,so i studied hard and school starts getting better and people until now still making fun of my old school level,that’s the time when i realised there is no respect in this world no matter who you are.
the whole world literally make fun of me for not being smart and pretty,but idc i just accept myself for who i’am,even tho my whole family is handsome/pretty and smart,my parents and siblings tell me that they are very embarrassed to be with me bc of my school level i live in the netherlands and my level of school is literally SO low,everyone ask me what level i’am when i’m telling them truth they making fun of me even strangers do that,so i studied hard and school starts getting better and people until now still making fun of my old school level,that’s the time when i realised there is no respect in this world no matter who you are.
SAME HERE , BEING AN ASIAN AUTOMATICALLY PUTS YOU INTO THE CATEGORY OF NARCISSIST, I HOPE WE BOTH FEEL GREAT ABOUT OURSELVES AND FEEL LESS VULNERABLE SEEING OTHERS HAPPY.
The worst part of it is that as a narcissist, you legit feel that everything you do is fine or in some way, superior. Even mistakes. And so accepting that is a problem and you have to change its almost imposible because you feel super proud of it
I'm sorry but I feel narcisst need to go get their head examined they are truly sick mentality I've had too much of that toxicity in my life I can't think of anything good a narcissist does except trying to ruin people's lives because their lives are ruined internally
As a matter of fact I think this new administration the pretend ministration there's a bunch of narcisst in our government oh my God they're all over the kind of reminds me of cockroaches
She is a reflection, always in sight Of herself, in mirrors, day and night Her ego shines brighter than the sun Making her feel superior, never wrong Her words can cut deep, with a sharpened tongue As she manipulates and controls, all day long She drains your energy, with her constant needs And you feel yourself drowning, in her greed But hold your head high, with grace and might For you are the one, who will see the light Do not let her words, fill you with despair And hold on to your self-worth, with care Set boundaries, with a strong and steady hand And never let her actions, take control of the land Focus on yourself, and all that you hold dear And one day, you'll see, she'll no longer be near So rise above it, and stand tall and proud With the strength of your character, and your heart unbound And know that you're not alone, in this fight For you will come out, as the winner, shining bright.
Trixi trxi the propaganda meant to help them plays a role in that, like when domestic abuse is portrayed as full on knocking your spouse out cold or something as bad as that then they won't think it's abusive, when statistics show that blah blah only 2 percent of blah get blahed then they'll lose trust in the legal system which makes them not bother to try, and also their spouse can threaten to kill them and their family and other horrible things like that notice i used gender neutral pronouns, men can get abused too (someone's gonna spark a flame war and i'm gonna regret this extra little bit but right now that doesn't matter)
Dependence. Financial dependence when the victim has not learned a job. Social dependence when the spouse has isolated the victim from its friends and family. Emotional dependence when the victim can not imagine a life without the spouse or when the victim already has children it does not want to leave behind.
there is a lot missing in here regarding narcissistic personality disorder: 1. if you deny a narcissist his/her wishes, they can hurt tremendously - and this will lead to them wanting to strike back - a mere "no, i dont wanna go an a walk with you now" can lead them into a downward spiral of negative thoughts which they will try to counter with even more grandiose ideas about themselves. 2. the are often very depressed either coz they notice that others dont get their awesomeness, or because they themselves can not ever reach the level of perfection they feel they would need to reach to be as worthy as they want (need) to be. 3. as they despise ppl who are not outstanding, they can hate themselves big time when they make mistakes, and again counteract with more grandiose ideas. 4. they really have very little to no emotional empathy (just like a psychopath), but do possess rational empathy (also like a psychopath) - which is nothing but being good at understanding what motivates ppl and they use it only to maliciously manipulate ppl. 5. they have a a deformed or no personality core at all. as in, they dont really exist as individuals.
"they have a a deformed or no personality core at all. as in, they dont really exist as individuals." I found that statement very interesting. Would love to hear more of your thoughts on that!
You're absolutely spot on! It's true that trying to understand others solely through outward observation can lead to inaccurate assumptions. We can never fully know what's going on in someone else's mind or what their internal experiences are like. Here's why relying solely on outward behavior can be misleading: Hidden emotions: People often mask their true emotions or present a different persona to the world. What you see on the outside might not reflect their internal state. Misinterpretations: Our own biases and experiences can color how we interpret others' behavior. We might misinterpret actions or words based on our own assumptions. Lack of context: Without understanding the full context of a situation, it's easy to misjudge someone's actions. There might be underlying reasons for their behavior that aren't immediately apparent. Individual differences: Everyone experiences and expresses emotions differently. What might seem like anger to you could be sadness or frustration for someone else. How to improve understanding: While outward observation has its limitations, it's still an important part of social interaction. Here are some ways to improve your understanding of others: Active listening: Pay attention not just to what people say but also to their body language and tone of voice. Empathy: Try to put yourself in their shoes and imagine how they might be feeling. Open communication: Ask clarifying questions and encourage open dialogue to gain a better understanding of their perspective. Consider the context: Take into account the situation and any external factors that might be influencing their behavior. Be mindful of your own biases: Recognize that your own experiences and perspectives can shape your interpretations. By combining outward observation with empathy, active listening, and open communication, you can develop a more accurate and nuanced understanding of others.
I was raised by a vulnerable narcissist who brought me up to be obsessed with him-as a teenager I talked to my friends about him and his opinions about different subjects instead of my own. He was also a heavy gaslighter and made me think I was crazy and that everything that made me unhappy or went wrong was my fault; and I believed it until I finally was able to question things at the age of thirty. It took three years after that and a lot of help from friends before I was brave and mentally healthy enough to to leave him and move out.
damn, thats rough. i dated a vulnerable narcissist for around 7 years and what most ppl dont seem to realize about that type of naricssist, is that they almost seem "normal" but are really good at putting other ppl down (through gaslighting and genral manipulation) to make themselves feel better. gratz on being able to see what was going on and moving out. its often the hardest step, but the best one too
That’s not fair at all. I wish life had been kinder to you. I’m glad you are free now but I’m guessing it’s still really hard. Keep a strong support system and you’ll be ok.
They know what they're doing, they don't changejust because they don't want to change. They enjoy their lifestyle and how they are, and think there's nothing actually wrong.
This hit me hard. I grew up with a single mother who spoiled me like I was the best thing ever while also hurting my self-esteem in many ways. As long as I fit her idea of a good person, I was still great. I've self-reflected on myself for a long time now. I enjoy being around people again, stopped reading too much into things, and have begun thinking more for others than just myself.
I feel u, I grew up with parents that critised a lot and wanted to be spolied by my parents so I lied a lot to make me appear better, eventually I started to believe my own lies
I'll never forget my father telling me "Why do you care more about making your mom upset than you care about making me upset?" when I told him I was having nightmares because of stress about wanting my mom to be happy and healthy when she was going through a rough time.
As some side notes, you can be selfish without being a narcissist. You can be vain and like taking care of your physical appearance without being a narcissist. You can like compliments and positive attention without being a narcissist. You can also lack self-awareness without being a narcissist. And you can be a narcissist without being a sociopath or a psychopath. Narcissists can feel depressed. Narcissists generally lack in empathy but it can come sometimes, rarely. Don't go expecting it, though, otherwise you're just asking to be hurt. The main focus is that a narcissist does these things while also lacking in empathy, and that they are more likely to do things to hurt others because of it, and that they generally lack the self-awareness to realize that what they're doing is bad or that they just shouldn't be doing it, and reasoning with them generally doesn't work. If a person does any of these things, together or separately, and they still have empathy, than it's less likely that they're a narcissist.
One needs to display the majority of the symptoms at an extreme level (so it affects their social life, relationships, and even work or school) so they can be properly diagnosed with NPD. Someone with these symptoms but doesn't have it at a very extreme level may just be a narcissist without NPD.
@@neha0009 I agree when they know how to pretend to be those things it makes it much harder for the victims to detect what the narc is planning to do to them.
my mother is a narcissist and a horrible human being honestly I've tried many ways to help her cause she has affected me so badly but the problem she thinks she's normal and doesn't need any help that it's the other way around and I should be the one getting help at this point I don't even know what to do with my life she's always there to make me feel like shit no matter how good I do in life and I've even moved thousands of miles away and she's still harassing me and sending me horrible messages I can't live my life normally anymore I am so afraid I'll end up like her help
plus she's religious af and eveytime I tell her to go see a therapist she says that God is the only one she'll talk to that why I fucking hate religions
Sarahhh You can't help her, you can only help yourself. You've got to remove yourself from her sphere of influence. Also try some counseling and/or group therapy.
I experience this too with my sister. My dad, my brother and me think the same (my mother have dementia, always forget thing) we planned to bring her to see psychiatrist but she immediately got angry and offended. She say we take her to psychiatrist because want her personality be changed.
i think my brother is too?? He has LITERALLY (not an exaggeration but as in that he actually said this) that we are inferior to him. That he deserves everything because he is doing good in medicine school (which kind of scares me tbh), he HAS said he has the right to eat all the food in the house or play electric guitar at 2 in the morning because of his good grades and because he's the best musician/most inteligent person he knows. He claims knowing more than his teachers and is obsessed with correcting people even if he contradicts himself. He even once said he had perfectioned Nietzsche's existencialist theories and HE should be a philosopher, instead of everyone that actually studies philosophy. he's only 19. He thinks he is a genius. He is racist. He is an atheist that claims WE fucked up his life for being christian (even thought im agnostic but he says I'm a liar and thinks he knows better??) He even says everyone HATES him (which is not true) because he's better that everyone.
actually you are completely wrong. i am literally a god and you are my slaves, im probably the best person i know. and the most humble. i am ont a narccasist
Thanks for posting. I draw on my clinical and corporate background to teach classes on identifying and handling narcissism. Two more types: malignant (which borders on sociopathy) and communal (doing things for others in order to get praised). Important to remember too that narcissism isn't just a characteristic of those people over there: we all have some, especially when raised in cultures or subcultures that frame narcissistic entitlement, selfishness, ambitiousness, and grandiosity as positive.
they develop attention seeking tactics to feed their ego. imagine them having an ego demon in their head, that demon feeds on attention, and will go to extreme levels when it's starving.
WW Alex it’s hundreds of millions of people, so yeah a lot of people. It just sounds low, but in reality it’s a lot. Just like if a plane had a 1-2% chance of crashing then there would be a crash or two a day. No one would ride airplanes because they were too dangerous.
WW Alex Only 1-2% of the human population have “narcissistic personality disorder” which is like the worst, most intense, and most dangerous type of it. But narcissism is really on a spectrum and there are many variations and extents of it. In general, the figures for people with narcissistic traits go up to 25%, which is 1 in every 4 people.
1.5% psychopaths are narcissist, 10% sociopath are narcissist, and there are other types of narcissists some of them are not that harmful, internet psychological quizzes show me that I have what is called (positive narcissism) which is not even an issue, like I love myself, my looks, and stuff like that, but I don't think people owe me anything, just don't harm me and I'll ignore you, be nice to me and I'll be nice to you, I am cuter than you tho :P
Internet provides anonymity. It removes all social constructs and personas we all have to follow, and when it all goes, the true, human nature reveals itself. Some good, some bad. After all, internet is all about words and clicks, not actions with definitive consequences.
my father has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and narcissistic personality disorder. he's both a grandiose and vulnerable narcissist, depending on what will get him the most attention. because of his narcissism, he completely destroyed his life and marriage, but he still refuses to acknowledge that his behavior caused these things. ever since i noticed that i exhibited similar traits to my dad's narcissism as an older teenager, just more subdued, i've been working really hard to improve myself so that i don't continue the cycle into my early adulthood. i'm not where i want to be, yet, as it's legitimately a daily struggle because of the environment i grew up in and the behaviors that were modeled to me, but i'm really trying. i just want to live a good and honest life.
It’s hard to get inside your mind but I think you truly need to like someone before you can unlearn narcissism because you need to look at someone and have a instinctual reaction if they are unhappy to feel bad. Like when I see a injured or crying baby or animal it should make you feel empathy
@@chickenwarrior3067 yes, this is so true. i genuinely care about the people around me (even if i don't like them) and i don't like making people feel small, so i think that's helped me a lot with consciously avoiding manipulative behavior. i don't think i'm a narcissist like my father bc i have empathy for others, but i wanted to be the center of attention when i was younger bc that's what my dad displayed, and i realized if i continued w that mindset i could develop more of those traits.
Long ago, there was a nymph named Echo, who was a favored servant of Artemis, the Greek goddess of the hunt. Echo loved to talk to anyone and everyone, and often Zeus would use her to distract his wife Hera so he could sneak down from Mt. Olympus and entertain himself with the women of Earth. Eventually Hera realized what was happening, and in her anger she cursed Echo so that the nymph could no longer speak any words of her own. Morose at her loss, Echo wandered the lands, only able to repeat what others had said. One day on her travels, she encountered a young man who was very beautiful to behold. She longed to tell him how she felt, but unless he spoke to her first, she could only follow him in silence. Eventually the man heard the sound of her footsteps, and he called out, 'Who's there?' Echo repeated his words, and again he tried, 'Why do you run from me?', but again she could only repeat what he had said. One more time he spoke, 'Let us meet here together.' Overjoyed at his invitation, Echo leapt from the woods to embrace him, but as soon as he saw whom he had been talking to, the young man rejected her. Never would she have him or his love, he said before running away. The heartbroken nymph was again alone, and as she grieved she withered away, until eventually all that was left was her voice. Artemis was furious at the callousness with which the young man had treated the nymph, and so she cursed him that he might know the same pain he had so casually inflicted. The young man soon came upon a still pool, and as he bent down to take a drink, he gazed upon a handsome man. He reached out to his newfound love, but no matter how he tried, he could not manage to touch him. His mind cleared then, and he realized that he had fallen deeply, irrevocably in love with his own reflection in the water. With a cry of anguish, the young man pulled out his knife and stabbed himself in the heart, and he bled out as he looked at himself. Where his blood touched the shore, flowers sprang up, flowers that even today share that young man's name. Narcissus.
Actually, in another version the curse was there from the beginning. Narcissus nynph mother, Liriope, was warned one day by a seer called Teiresias that her son would live a long life as long as he never knows himself or sees himself. The mother removed all type of surface that would cause reflection on their house such as mirrors, metals, etc And like it says, teen Narcissus went out to hunt and the rest is history.
Loving yourself is good, but loving yourself without recognizing your imperfections or loving yourself to ignore your weaknesses or loving yourself to show others low is not right.
user5315qwerty yay thanks I was getting worried like what if I am narcissist I mean I love myself but as you replied I don’t think I am prefect and even though for some weird reason I love attention and admiration I know my weaknesses and try to keep that ego small
@@anigoel6189 I am not an expert 🙈 but glad I could make some sense. Your words sounded very genuine about yourself. I have had personal (very hard) experience with narcissists , thus these observations.
I think my father has this.. 😑 He always thinks he's right and he becomes aggressive when someone disagree with him even though he's the one who's wrong 😒
Steffie Swift The day Trump reversed his unpopular policy of taking children away from their illegal immigrants, Ivanka merely congratulated and thanked him. There was a bit of an uproar around that because she didn't call him out on it. Notice she would never disparage or criticize him in public. I assume she does that in private with him as well... Because you can never confront or argue with a Narcissist. It's a fool's errand. They will never change and will never admit fault or take responsibly for anything they've done
The two top comments "I'm way too amazing to be a narcissist" and "I’m definitely not a narcissist, I’m probably the most humble person ever despite the fact that I’m one of the smartest, best looking, most competent, and overall best people I know" sound like Trump quotes
People acting as if all narcissist want the world to burn smh. I’m diagnosed narcissist and I try my best to control myself and i isolate when I know I can’t control it...
‘Now Moses was a very humble man, more humble than anyone else on the face of the earth.’ (Numbers 12:3 probably written by Moses 😂) I always giggle when I read this verse of the Bible.
"If Narcissus had a brother named Social Anxietus, he would get nervous whenever people look at him, internally die at the sight of his reflection, and then blame himself for dying." -JaidenAnimations, "Anxiety" (I think)
Pika Ču lol 😂😂😂 narcissists don't say they are perfect.. It's like the word offends them but they want one to act as if they are head boss most wanted etc..
BleuHãwaii you probably don't even know what autism is. Jake and Logan Paul are closer to narcissists. Autism is completely different from what most people think it is. Narcissism is being self-centered and not caring about others, not autism.
It is important to keep in mind that any disorder appearing to be higher in one culture or becoming more frequent over time can be greatly affected by cultural outlooks, testing rigor, and changing metrics and definitions.
i used to have NPD and it was the time when my best friend talked about how i act hurts him i said to myself i treated people badly and they left now i need to change that thing about me because i don't want to lost him. it was a rough journey and i am still on it but i become so much better,i am still a sarcasm queen tho but in the end i am proud of myself for choosing to get help and seeing my disease because it's a disease and a narcissist never accept that
I am happy that you are on your way to recovery! It seems like it’s a really difficult decision form the POV of someone who has NPD. When you mentioned that it was the time your best friend talked about how you hurt him with the way you acted, did he confront you about it or did he talk about that with other people? I’m curious about the exact moment that made you seek help.
@@camsueee he talked with me about it,he wasn't rude or he didn't act though he just opened his heart and explained how he feels when i talk sarcastic. the most important thing with talking a someone with NPD you need to be nice with them because any small detail can make them feel threatened and it won't work.
@@hekate342 Wow. That's truly amazing. You are blessed to have a friend like him too. It means he cares for you so much. I am with you towards your complete recovery. :)
I'm sure you wrote this comment not to get attention and imply your heightened sense of humor and wit, and also not to imply that you don't go to Starbucks because you're better than those who go.
@@justine8558 It's a pseudonym that I gave myself. Also, how does it scream "narcissism"? Because you don't like what I said, or because of the "Real", or "Christian" part? You're so full of yourself, it's nearly toxic.
justine Wow, just wow. I’m insecure even though you replied to ME that I’m narcissistic because of my name. You’re the one who insulted people first, not me. Get off your high horse.
+Andrea Marino dude, I just realised im prob. a so called "vulnerable narcissist". Not in a very high sense though, but I felt kinda hit in loads of the examples of behaviour and experiences, in the video.
+Axel Maikano In my experience one of the things that defines someone with Narcisistic Personality Disorder (NPD), is an inability to acknowledge the problem. They will never accept it. People who grow up around others with NPD tho, often pick up a lot of the traits themselves, but as they grow up they are more often willing to identify the problems and improve. In support groups they call these picked-up traits "fleas". The basic rule is that if you read about Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and get really worried that you have the condition yourself, then this very ability to question yourself means that you *probably don't have it*. People with NPD find the idea that they're flawed so utterly acceptable, that the thought doesn't get very far at all before being completely rejected. I'd recommend /r/raisedbynarcissists subreddit (and the various associated subreddits)
Actually they work really well together. I work with so many narcissists. They constantly compete with one another on literally every single trifling thing there is and they really dedicate themselves to those things and they love it!
put 100 victims in one place and they will start to rot into starvation and create gulags to punish their "opressors". no, we need diversity in personalities. some people are better at sitting down thinking of their emotions, others are better at bettering their objective conditions. both are important.
A Narcissist is the last person to admit he is a narcissist and it's almost against his trait to change. Try asking King Henry the V111 to change. Straight to the gallows with you my boy. Avoid a Narcissist at all cost if possible, it's not your job to fix them. Find loving people instead to hang out with.
Kathleen King I don't think that's true. I recently started reading about narcissism and admittedly, recognize a lot of those ideas/behaviors in myself. Having done that I would like to change those things
The easiest way to know if someone is a narcissist is to ask them. If they say yes they definitely are. A true narcissist isn't ashamed of what they are. They're proud of it
Kathleen King idk pal narcissists actually acknowledge they are narcissists. The problem is when they don't seek to change themselves. I was showing various signs of npd but im trying to change that... So idk. But yeah if you know someone that has a toxic behavior and doesnt want to change then stay tf away from them
Narcissim can be a real mind trip if you actually get to know one. Somewhat like sociopaths they can act in ways coinciding with empathy or compassion because they recognize the social currency element in such acts, a means of "appearing good" in order to further stroke their inflated self-image. My ex would do things like mentor kids and contribute to charities, but his actual mental investment in those activities was almost non-existent. He did good works because he wanted to be able to say he did good works - which amounted to more gaslighting ammunition when you tried to call him out for bad behavior.
my whole life, my dad always thought that he was the smartest. not the best looking or anything, but he actually says things like "I know everything". his attitude affects me, my brother, and my mother, and probably more people. one day I was super depressed and after talking to my counselor I felt much better. immediately after seeing my counselor, as I was having a conversation with my dad, he starts correcting my words (he does this multiple times per day to a lot of people). I have negative self esteem, and part of it is from him constantly making me feel stupid. I have asked him to stop multiple times before, but he goes on to say things like "if you're wrong, I'm going to correct you." I've told him how this makes my family feel, but he insists that it makes him feel good about his self. he's probably narcissistic, but idk. not a psychiatrist.
You should make sure your dad gets evaluated for Narcissism Personality Disorder. This sounds like narcissism. Your life, your dad's life, and your family's life will be better if your dad gets evaluated. It might be hard since your dad might think that of course he doesn't have narcissism, but he should really get evaluated.
I think the label "narcissist" is thrown around a lot to label someone who is confident and that we don't like. We have become a society that reacts too much and understands too little. I think an even worse epidemic in society is not the narcissistic tendencies people exhibit, but rather our sudden urge to label someone we don't understand or even appreciate as someone who "obviously" has a mental problem. As someone who has a diagnosed mental health "label", I think a better way to explain someone who is acting in a different manner then we might like or even expect, would be to go and talk to that person, and let THEM explain to you what it is that might be causing them to be perceived in a certain way. Most people have other attributing factors that are leading to their less then ideal behavior, and we should judge less and understand more, before throwing around labels like "narcissist".
Thank you for your input, it helps others like meself to see the whole picture! I still draw the line at abuse/violence, but compassion & understanding for our fellow humans goes a long way, maybe even make a new friend!☺️
@@qxqp Yep that's what I also observed from people who least know what NDS is. They will label anyone that's against them as narcissist. And it's popularized more by those who have been to bad relationships.
I had a """"""friend"""""". he literally talked behind everyones back and when we confronted him, he said we were a waste of time and our friend, who was his crush, was told she was a waste of time liking. is that narcissism?
LOL modern women are far more likely to be narcissistic. Compete with each other, cheat, lie, take undue resources, and be in the mirror for hours. Toxic self esteem, toxic insecurity, and a calm collected front. Mgtow is a thing because of it.
@@paulnoecker1202, exactly when did she mention that women are less likely to be narcissistic? Why must you jump the gun and accuse people of being biased when no bias was even hinted towards?
I have to wonder whether narcissistic personality disorder really affects men more than women. Psychology has historically been male-dominated, so not only could females simply be being ignored outright, but female narcissism could be manifesting in ways that the male psychologists aren't even familiar with enough to look for, like with social groups, female-only parties, weddings, dating etiquette, etc. We've all heard about and/or heard of movies/shows about catty women who want to be the head of their social groups and are willing to do unethical things to get there or remain there. In fact that plot line extremely common in TV shows aimed at teen girls. Also, women have historically been treated as too stupid and innocent to really be blamed for anything, so a (male) psychologist might just be mentally patting women on the head, writing off anything they do as in their "feminine nature". This mentality towards females continues today. There's a very good reason that Veruca Salt was female and not male in Charlie And The Chocolate Factory- it just wouldn't have been believable for a boy to act like that without being slapped and told to grow up.
I suppose this does make sense. Going by what you said, more females would probably have vunerable narcissism as opposed to the other kind, since, their behavior is constantly being written off as "girl problems" or "crazy jealous girlfriend things."
I agree with you Hexx. And it definitely is on the rise, Oberyn. Like children trapped in the bodies of adults. That's why unhappiness is on the rise too if you ask me. Empathy is key for a '' normal '' human being. If we don't pay attention to each others we tend to focus too much on our problems and emotions. We end up trying to fix every little frustration that we have, eventually using other people as a tool to achieve that. And there's no end to that. When caring for others and helping out people is normally here to stop and prevent such spiral, the narcissism and lack of empathy tend to keep more and more people into this pit, full of small satisfactions, sadness, and evilness towards one another.
The amount of men and women I see that are brats are generally the same. But I'm not sure if those bratty behavior I see are the same thing as narcissism diagnosis. Cuz it's definitely more the 1-2% of the population. Men can be more extreme about it, maybe that's why they go over the threashold of an actual diagnosis more often. I wouldn't be surprised if women in general complain a bit more and have less discipline with smaller issues because society tolerates women crying and whining more than men. But again, I don't know if that counts as being a narcissist.
Fun fact: the flower was named for Narcissus because of how it arcs towards the water; as if it’s looking at its reflection.
True
Cool fact 😎
Wild narcissuses also smell like rot
Yep
That's a cool fact
I’m definitely not a narcissist, I’m probably the most humble person ever despite the fact that I’m one of the smartest, best looking, most competent, and overall best people I know
you are one of the smartest, best looking, most competent, and overall best people ever.
I can assure you of this.
because I am the #1 in all of these things.
I believe you and we haven't even met.
HeadCanon same but thats me talking about me and also by the way youre lying im the greatest thing
@@seli3631 excuse me, did someone call (greatest thing) ??
You think so?
My therapist said that my narcissism causes me to misread social situations.
I’m pretty sure she was hitting on me.
Very underrated comment
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i love this comment
Hey as a ex narcissist i can understand what you said
lmfao 🤣 🤣🤣🤣 dude
A lack of empathy is a big indicator of narcissism. This indicates that the narcissist is unable or unwilling to understand the desires, needs, or emotions of other people. They find it challenging to accept accountability for their actions as a result. From my own experience, narcissistic people are extremely resistant to changing their behavior, even when it's causing them problems.
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Tbf you don't need to understand or share other's feelings to feel bad for and/or have desire to help them. I'm not too empathetic but I don't think I'm a narcissist (though I do get worried sometimes, I don't relate to the symptoms)
Indeed, changing one's behaviour starts with admitting you have a problem, or at least admitting you aren't perfect. But a narcissist would rather die than admit to that.
Nah, you are wrong.
They absolutely understand others emotions, they have a lot of empathy, BUT they only use it to their own advantage, manipulation.
They are not psychopats. Worse.
I landed on this video to understand narcissism as I have a bad time with my wife and this comment pretty well sums up her up.
She seems to have a total lack of empathy and her face contorts and reacts so angrily to any form of criticism but she gives it me about 10 times a day without a second thought, I give up a long time ago in telling her when I had an issue with her due to the fallout of it all ( yes I know I made a massive rod for myself by not confronting her but I just wanted a quiet life).
The only thing is she is a real high achiever and extremely clever and if anyone in family or friends have a problem she will happily help them all she can, she can cope with any situation or problem which she just meets head on, she loves an argument or confrontation with anyone she feels has wronged her or even does the smallest of thing she deems unacceptable but breaks all of her own rules no problem.
She told me she no longer loves me about 2 years ago and I was devastated but now the love has gone my end as well I see I have a lucky escape and may become happier in the latter part of my wife.
So can people help is she a narcissist or a psychopath or whatever else as I’d really like to know, I appreciate it might be hard to come to a conclusion from my description but I’d just like a ballpark estimate.
"For a narcissist, self-reflection is hard from an unflattering angle."
Midnight Midnight sounds like my mom. its scares me now
Love that. Perfect way to put it
Hard? I'd say usually impossible for a full blown narcissists.
@@kaliautencio6520 you should check out r/raisedbynarcissists
@@brianwalsh1401 I know this from personal experience, they can’t handle any criticism even when it’s gently delivered, and begin projecting onto you instead and changing the subject to talk about how you’re not perfect either and everything that’s wrong with you. Talking to them is a waste of time.
When Narcissus died, the entire creations around wept for him. The trees, the river, the animals and the birds, everyone mourned his death, as they no longer could enjoy his beauty.
After sometimes, they all gradually forgot about Narcissus, except the river. The river kept on crying and the water become salty, making it non drinkable for the animals and birds. To solve the problem an angel arrived and asked the river why she was still crying for Narcissus.
The river remained quite and kept on crying.
The angel asked whether it was because she no longer could enjoy the beauty of Narcissus staring at her.
At last the river replied.
"I am not crying because Narcissus is no more there to stare at me. It's because I will miss seeing my own reflection in his eyes when he stared at me"
-The Alchemist.
What does that even mean?
@@leandre8896 The river is a narcissist.
@@Yiching-qs3dh Aaah ok
@@leandre8896 😂
@Ayshah Shahab I want
I grew up with a narcissistic father. He once said, "I am right even when I'm wrong".
I developed a habit to always reflect myself just to make sure I don't turn out like him.
My growth to seek love, success, or even such as happiness, has been severely stunted.
For those who suffered as I did, don't give up. You can't save them but you can save yourself.
Thank you for your comment, I'm currently still suffering from his narcissistic behavior and honestly it gets tiring and as you said I tend to always think twice before I think or say anything, I make sure I'm not selfish as much as possible.
@Kraker Heya Currently, he is by himself in his home. I still keep in touch. I would visit occasionally but couldn't since lockdown.
I once said to my Dad, the only thing you taught me is how NOT to raise my children now I'm not proud to have said that to him but I did.
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I like what you said.
It's actually low self esteem covered with bravado. Every moment is spent trying to convince themselves and others that they are better. Lived with one for 13 years. The psychological abuse they put you through is stunning.
Spot on.
They're caricatures of what they think is perfect.
My stepfather was one and so was my last partner, who never misses an opportunity to tell me dumping her was the biggest mistake of my life, although we get along fine, apart from that one jibe.
I've healed sufficiently that I can now laugh in her face.
Why, against all reason and our own personal experience, did we think our love would change them for the better?
If push came to shove I'd rather spend the rest of my life on my own than get back with her.
I take solace in the fact she hasn't found a suitable victim in the four years we've been broke up. 😂😂😂
Currently living with one for 20 years and I agree with every word.
@@lucyheartfilia2015 why haven’t you LEFT them?
@@TheLace She's my sister. And I don't give two shits about her but she's harming my parents mentally so I am staying for my parents and when I get married, I'll take my parents with me
@@lucyheartfilia2015 hang in there babes
A narcissistic ex lover after I broke up with him once told me-
"I think we should get back together because rn we're both unhappy but if we get back ik I'll be happy and that's better than the both of us being unhappy"
That was the most manipulative,scary, infuriating and outrageous thing I'd ever heard, please don't put up with it, don't try to change them, just LEAVE.
that literally doesn't sound like any of those things, it just sounds like you are scared to truly recognize how unhappy you are without him
Yeet Smith It shows that the other person only cares for themself
@@nabsterific so a person refusing to stay in a relationship that makes them miserable sounds less technically correct than them staying in it for the other's happiness? What are y'all on?😂
Oh no wait. Let's just play devil's advocate to be cool rather than have the emotional maturity to understand how relationships work.
My friend's husband asked, "Why do my children hate me? The neighbors have family fights too, they scream at each other too. I don't gamble, drink, or womanize" LOL He doesn't work, his family has many medical problems that are paid for by his wife and daughter. He uses his family for self-actualization and rages or shuts off when his mistakes are laid bare to him. His son is mentally unsound because of the years of verbal abuse and manipulation. His wife and daughter have anxiety that manifests in physical ailments and sometimes panic attacks. They have no choice but to move out. May be homeless once they bleed out of all savings. And yet, he refuses to divorce his wife so that she can take her fair share and buy another smaller property to live in.
But at least, she had finally left him so that she and her family can heal.
@@csy897 I hope she and the kids are doing better man. These situations often make the person feel guilty for not helping or supporting their partner when in reality that's just a manipulation. All they really want is a person to baby them instead of taking responsibility. That may be because of their own personal trauma or experiences but it is still quite toxic for people around them
it’s so interesting to find out more about my parents culture 💕
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I've realized that over the years of rise of social media, we've gotten a front-row seat to how narcissistic some people can be.
Many People will still blame saying there is mothing like narcissism and sensitiveness, these are gen z's melodrama and people should continue emotional abuse as daily normal part of teaching 'way of life'
Mostly parents do this as an excuse to emotionally manipulate youngers
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2 Timothy 3 🎯💯💯💯
Narcissus died because he heard about my birth. He was afraid of competition
@No comments why?
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I’m way too great to be a narcissist.
haha
+Robert Gavrila its a jokeeee
bow to the master everyone
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I've heard about you
It’s hard to be humble when your perfect in every way.
Yo Yo! Sup? Word up.
Come on my peeps, that other guys way to far ahead,, make with the likes already!
Perfect except that you wrote "your" instead of "you're".
@@gewgulkansuhckitt9086Lmao, what a slap for Bill Bright
Bill Bright I hope this is a joke lol
Humility is a strange subject...if you think you're humble your probably not , if you don't think you're humble, you just might be humble. It's like blurting out " I am the greatest" ...its best to let someone else bestow that title on you. It might also be a good idea not to believe your own press. The Lord's Prayer might teach humility if you heed it.
I don't think I'm perfect.
I don't know I'm perfect.
I AM PERFECT.
Narcissism isn't generally about thinking they're better than someone or not.. It's more about thinking of one self as the main character in a movie and everybody else exists only in relation to their self-image (supporting casts). Narcissists feel shame, no guilt. They are vaguely dissatisfied with their life. They often feel rage, sadness, anxiety with high intensity and frequently. They don't feel joy or happiness outside of themself.
The main character in a film they are directing.
I like how you said they are 'vaguely dissatisfied' with life. That is an important distinction. They aren't fully aware that they are dissatisfied, but they know something isn't quite 'right', and it's this feeling that probably keeps moving them forward, in the search for the next 'hit', 'conquest' etc.
Their lives are on infinite loop.
so basically they live in gta, but they dont do crimes
I feel like i have this...
It's weird and I am aware of it but sometimes they just happen even though they are very unreal...
Edit: grammar
Anybody who refers to another real life human being as an "NPC" is definitely a red flag for a narcissist.
Who tf doesn’t think they are somewhat the main character in some ways? Everyone is the main character in their own life, don’t just throw around a serious clinical diagnosis
There’s nothing wrong with being positive about your image. Just don’t tear others down.
Yeah thats what i think......theres absolutely nothing wrong with you guys being not as great as me !!!
Underrated comment
I agree except for the part about “tearing others down”. It’s a shame they’re so weak like that & I’m strong & handsome & amazing &-
@@dantheman3022 😂😂😂
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I thought I was a narcissist because I spend a lot of time realising myself and my person. I spend a lot of time analysing how I think and act. I thought this was excessive and became so worried I asked my friends and family if they thought I was narcissistic. One of my friends told me that if you worry about being a narcissist and deem it a negative feature you most probably aren’t one.
Thank you. I do the same thing and was kinda getting worried.
Narcissists lack self analysing and realising ability, but still are selfish to their fullest
Means they really don't have any idea about their own thoughts and actions and how it affects others because they are always right in their own pov.
Everybody is, it’s measured on a spectrum and it’s obviously human nature. (All things in moderation)
Thanks You cleared by doubt
Maybe you are a kind of empath
narciisism is deeper than just taking lots of selfies. I had narc parents and ex, it's exhausting, confusing, draining, painful being with them. They will drive you crazy.. Save yourselves.
Yeah I can understand how narcissist parent can drain ur soul , they will accuse you for everything , they will abuse (physically, verbally, socially) you for things u haven't even done. My mom and I are facing this everyday, from my dad, he like I am ur dad u can't even buy cloths against my wish and permission, if not then I will abuse you.
@@t.s.p1864 same...your dad and mine would be great friends
Fax, my ex was toxic af
I was raised under a matriarchal narc - she is a blackhole and my family convened around her to save themselves and scapegoated me for decades. Took me 30 years to understand what was going on. Given that it stated in my childhood it completely stunted my development - I spend so much time feeling anxious and either hiding or diminishing my personality to appease her to ensure my "survival". I couldn't really think of the future or who I wanted to be cos I was always preoccupied with the present. Spent years and years feeling atomized and random - only in the last five years has my life started to make sense since learning what narcissism is. Yes, deeper than bloody selfies! :-)
definitely a lot more to it. they never admit that they were wrong, they act the victim, they're really impatient, they'll gaslight you, they always think you owe them something if they've done one act of compassion for you and they'll throw you under the bus for their own needs, in other words, they put themselves first over everyone else's needs.
The only connection I can think of is that both are based on the perpetrator’s undue emphasis of his/her own thoughts/emotions. In narcissistic abuse, perpetrators usually expresses the attitude that everything centers around them. They may object to that description and even insist that they don’t believe that; but, their actions say otherwise. Virtually everything you do/don’t do gets tied back to the perpetrator as a person. You’re either doing something right b/c you’re smart, capable, etc., or you’re intentionally doing it wrong in order to hurt/anger the perpetrator in some way.
You are also likely to be accused of doing it wrong, even if you’re doing it right-again b/c of the perpetrator’s thoughts/emotions. Toxic positivity is generally not perpetrated with the intention to hurt anyone, and most wouldn’t even recognize it as being toxic/hurtful; but, in most cases, the perpetrator is still oblivious to the effect it has on others, and to the value of that effect. Narcissism is a psychological disorder and, with few exceptions, abuse is perpetrated with the tangible intention of causing harm. In contrast, toxic positivity is a behavioral flaw that is essentially an extreme version of selfishness, based in denial, and is generally perpetrated with the intention of maintaining and creating happiness. Most people are selfish, in some way or another. Toxic positivity is a subtle expression of selfishness-so subtle that even the perpetrator may not realize why it’s wrong b/c, after all, s/he is only seeking to encourage/uplift people. This is where denial comes in. Most people struggle/suffer, at some point or another. I believe that most people are also aware that there are people who experience more pain than they are aware of from their own lives.
Denial allows people to look at someone who reminds them of themselves and assume that they cannot be justified in their suffering b/c the observer is not suffering. Denial also allows people who have suffered to deny the significance of other people’s suffering b/c it is notably different from their own, or b/c they perceive it as being notably different. From here, there are 2 extremes: One is for them to be semi-consciously abusive-meaning that they are generally aware that their actions are hurtful; but, they rationalize it as being justified. The other is to perpetrate toxic positivity-in which they are completely unaware that their actions are hurtful and it’s difficult for them to identify why they would be.
Additionally, That feeling when your partner cheated and you don't have the courage to leave him / her so you just death with the pain and live everyday asking questions about your worth. This pain is different from the cheating one_living and seeing him everywhere anticipating when him or she do it again. The best thing is to hire a private investigator Barryinvestigation@gmail. com to help you spy on their cellphone remotely just like he did for me.
I ain’t reading allat
The most succinct description I like is: A narcissist isn't trying to convince _you_ they're amazing; they're trying to convince _themselves_ they are.
wrong. The shortest explanation is: Donald J Trump.
@@scottdoesntmatter4409 TDS
You nailed it KesselRunner606 😍
@@scottdoesntmatter4409 TDS
@@scottdoesntmatter4409 LMAO
You forgot to mention how they can be so toxic, manipulative and abusive, and how a narcissistic parent would think we owe them for everything they’ve done for us especially when taking care of us when we were infants. I’ll never forget my dad saying “I CHANGED YOUR DIAPERS”. They think there is just no point in a raising a child if there is nothing in it for them. That is not unconditional love and kindness
Facts
Could not have said it better...
Raising children is waste of time
Sorry that you feel like that , hope they get better 💓
I can relate to you in so many ways. My father is a narcissist and that made our whole family suffer all throughout. And the last things that u said.. You just spoke my mind
My parents put me on a pedestal.
They never said no to me, had the money to spoil me greatly and never criticized or disciplined me. My whole childhood I was told I was the best, the smartest, the prettiest and so on. As a result I catch narcissistic tendencies in my thinking all the time, like subconsciously thinking I "need" a car and couldn't handle taking the bus from school and back everyday. Luckily I am pretty good person and can think critically about my character, so I don't have narcissistic personalty disorder and recognize that getting an education is much more important than the means of getting to the school.
But don't spoil your kids like that, they might turn out to be narcissistic assholes.
I can relate
Yellow W a common defense mechanism is to reject every compliment as to not be misconstrued as a narcissist.
If you don't teach kids the value of hard work they won't learn.
Same honestly, my parents never exactly put me on a pedestal but other influences sort of let this happen.
I can relate too even tho I've just opened my eyes to the fact that i do have some of those traits... The only problem i have is just that I'm self concious way after I do the things and mostly when I'm high so I'm very confused right now haha but I'll figure it out
i always thought i was a narcissist, and i kinda am. I realised that i am not only a bit egoistic but i'm also a bit of a vulnerable narcissist. I get irritated or annoyed when someone is actually being better than me in something i'm good at, or when someone tries to say that they're smarter than me. I never told this to anyone for obvious reasons
Each of us registers somewhere on the Narcissist scale, but the import factor is that you are self-aware enough to acknowledge these happening. It's on each of us, individually, to make ourselves better.
In this case, instead of focusing on the negative feelings of not being first (those are natural BTW), focus in the positive things. "I did my best" "they have come so far" "wow, working together makes things go faster is is more fun"... It's all in how we view things.
As someone who has spent my whole life with a Narc that ranges from a 7.6 to an 8.2 on the Narc scale, I'd place you between a 2.8 and a 3.3. You have some learning and healing to do, but the first big step is acknowledging that something is wrong. Now that that hurdal is out of the way, move forward with hope and confidence that things can change for the better. You've got this!
Legend has it, we all have one person in mind while watching this....
💯
My crush
Tonald drump
@@meowpoosaymeow Yikes
Agree!
I was in a long, toxic relationship with a narcissist. It drove me insane, brought me nothing but depression and suicidal thoughts, and all that time I thought that I was the one that wasn't ok or good enough, that I was the problem.
If you notice that someone around you makes you feel like you're not good enough for them but still keeps exploiting you, leave them and never look back, doesn't matter if it's a friend, relative or significant other. You're better off alone or with people that can empathize with you and don't see you as a second grade person ❤️
Same experience here.
It’s so subtle too.
If you see red flags, pay attention.
I’m an empath. I saw red flags. Looked passed them. I’m no longer an empath. It can change you.
YES! Wow that's exactly what happened to me too! I feel ya.
Seems like you were in a relationship with a psychopath. We'll they're all under the same spectrum
@@josephobetta2732 now that almost two years have passed I kinda see that too. It's a long and painful story but this year I got my sweet little revenge hehe
Cant exactly walk away from my dad though... :(
I remember telling a guy, whom I thought to be narcissistic, that he acted like Narcissus. He asked me who it was and I retold him the myth. Do you know what he said, "Isn't it a good thing?"
😂
It is a good thing but not if its too much so yeah for him it probs aint a good thing
It is a good thing actually from a narcissistic point of view it is like overconfidence it is good until someone destroys it
he was just a psycho
Its a good thing tho, People should have a limit to care about everyone else, I used to care about everyone else till I realized how much it damaged me, I care for myself but don’t brag about how good I am
*Me:* I can’t be a narcissist. I’m too insecure and nervous around people.
*Ted-Ed:* Well, yes, but actually-
*Me:* [hyperventilates]
Oh my god exactly me🤣
Same but with new people that don't speak my language
I'm just as scared as you are.
I'm not narcissistic right? *nervous laugh intensifies*
I am so scared that people are not gonna like me becuz of reasons like this
me watching this: “am i a narcissist?”
Ayesha Julia
By wondering that you prove you probably are not. A true narcissistic type would either get mad at this video, or it would never cross their mind to apply it to themselves
self awareness is the first step to self improvement
Same.
Might be borderline but who isn’t?
The problem with this is: by wondering this, not just to yourself, but broadcasting it to other people might be your attempt at trying to get positive affirmation by other people, thus proving, to yourself at least, that you aren’t what you might’ve thought you are.
Self acknowledgement is the first step on the right path, yes, but the worst kind of narcissists are the kind that subtly manipulate themselves along with the people around them.
Thank you, this was my ted talk. And no, a standing ovation is not required, though my speech *was* quite impeccable, if me and my colleagues are to be believed, and trust me, they are both outstanding judges.
No hate, I was just stating my own thoughts.
I’m not a narcissist, it’s just that everybody else sucks and I’m awesome and should be venerated as a living god.
Becareful using those words, god can see E V E R Y T H I N G.
also all of us is not always the best, including you sir.
@@suzannahardjono9951 Lighten up Suzanna, it’s a joke, you know because narcissists think like that, get it?
@@suzannahardjono9951 he’s being sarcastic ya dingus
@@suzannahardjono9951 god doesn't exist. Please shut up and stop shoving your religion down everyone's throats we're sick of it. Plus it's a joke, when are you people getting those sticks out your asses?
@@suzannahardjono9951 shut up
I feel like this video glosses over the fact that narcissism impacts the person's life just as it does everyone around them. When you have unrealistic expectations for everything, you will always be disappointed, frustrated, and miserable, no matter how much you paint your image. It also makes it hard to connect emotionally with others, a vital part of being a human being. While you hurt others around you, you hurt yourself too.
I think the best way to help them is to develop more ways to help them. More treatments, more help. You don't have to be in a relationship with a narcissist to help them.
I'm slowly realising that I've been a narcissist all my life. I strongly believe reflection is the best kind of therapy. Different perspectives certainly help.
I thought so until I realised narcissism as an aspect of our personality is a spectrum. We all fall on it to some degree,. It is possible that you are overestimating the narcissism in you. A full blown narcissist is unlikely to recognize that they are a narcissist apparently.
@@shubhadas4072 some of them are more likely to even admit that they're more narcissistic than others
First, it's a good thing that you're willing to admit that. Second, like it was said before, narcissism is a spectrum, so yes, you might be somewhere in it, but if you've realised that on your own and you understand the need for you to address it, then let me tell you you're not a pathological narcissist. That's because they live in the shell, never allowing themselves to look inside themselves. That's actually why they destroy everything around them; since they need constant attention, they get bored easily, and for them being bored is a major issue because they don't want to be left alone with their thoughts and feelings. That's why they're always plotting their next move, be it a career move or just something they can use to cause trouble between two or more people.
The fact that you're admitting that you are means you're likely not one. Also. Humans are naturally narcissistic, it is when it goes beyond the lines of normal that you are labelled as one
help i think im slowly turning into a narcissistic. I want attention but at the same time i dont really want it. There are a bunch of other things but its weird.
I work with a colleague who is not only narcissistic but alcoholic as well. Loads of fun!
I feel so bad for you! Good luck!
Stay strong my friend. You are the hero of your story :)
SunshineHurricaneMix lol
Tsnore lol
Tsnore Mine smoked pot 24/7
Only 1-2% of the population? That sounds awfully low.
people are less selfish than you think
That was back then, but narcissism is increasing in this new generation because they grow up with social media, Special Snowflake Syndrome and weak parents
Jboy J I agree. I can easily think of at least 5 narcissistic people that I know.
Well, its still around 70 - 140 million people, so yeah.
1-2% is a lot, it's like the population of France
It’s a strange disorder at first. It takes a while to understand the behavior could be that petty, superficial, and juvenile. What amazes people is that they seem so charming, bold, and magical. Both men and women can fall in love with the same person. It is a paradox that such talent in one aspect of life could exist next to such idiocy in the next moment. But, the most difficult lesson is earned later when he or she becomes the very last person you should ever trust on anything. Essentially this desperate, frightened and unlovable individual wants to be hugged and protected by anyone stronger or wiser than he/she. All their selfish, bombastic, and reckless behaviors are designed to create more space and exceptions for the actor. The boundaries that are shattered may be sacred to you, but meaningless to them. This is how they stun onlookers and seize the moment hypnotizing their prey. Imagine what a deer does when headlights catch them halfway across the road. That’s what they try to achieve with bigger and bigger audiences. Furthermore, they are always testing true believers for the extent of their situational loyalty. This repeating fraudulent cycle explodes opportunities to gain leverage and do crimes upon the unwitting fools that he intended to set up all along. So, his game always creates and follows the same cycles. Once you get used to the way he/she speaks, thinks, and connives, you can see if its you about to be set up, or whom among the key players that show loyalty. The narcissist giant blindspot is two fold: 1) they make a bunch of repeated mistakes, and 2) never expect the person that is setting him up to be caught. The narcissist rarely does anything he’s never done many times before. And, in most of the mistaken actions he doesn’t learn, improve, or vary in the end result. Lastly, the narcissist never works alone, he always recruits willing volunteers to abuse. Often these people are from the hypnotized or the smitten that become abusable volunteers that will always let him come back in. The cycles are always a version of what he did before. That’s why the narcissist is so predictable. If you need to find out about a cheating narcissist; send a request to: Metaspyhub@gmail. com
I classify myself as a “narcissist” although im not so proud of my condition. The part where he said “narcissists feel good but the people around them suffer” is absolutely true, i destroyed the best person i ever had in my life and i didnt even know why and how i did it. Seek for help? Impossible i feel too much guilt. Not all narcissists feel good about themselves believe me.
too much guilt to go to therapy..?
@@Jaylade Yes. "Therapy"=i need to go to a psychologist or psychiatrist= i need to tell him/her exactly why i belive im a narcissist/ open up about it. Cant really do that rn to be honest
Well hey! At least you took the first step to betterment - self awareness
@@ririchi6062 Thanks, i guess...
@@5hu5hu85 well why not? Everybody should go to therapy tbh, we all have problems, the sooner you deal with coping with your guilt the better. Though, npd can’t be cured but you can learn to treat it and others around you better. And ofc not all narcissists feel good about themselves, it’s a part of narcissism
Being an Asian child with very controlling parents , I am so sure that I am a vulnerable narcissist and it is very hard to go on with life with this condition. I check myself in the mirror like 100 times in the mirror everyday thinking I am very handsome but when I meet someone whom I think is more attractive than me , I feel depressed to the point I won’t eat and sleep . I think it has something to do with my parents comparing me to everyone who is better than me. Narcissistic people are confident they say but I think they are equipped with a lot of insecurities as well. I am not sure but that is my case . I wish to go to therapy but mental illness isn’t a thing here yet.
you should do research before self diagnosing.
Damm stole the words from my mouth
the whole world literally make fun of me for not being smart and pretty,but idc i just accept myself for who i’am,even tho my whole family is handsome/pretty and smart,my parents and siblings tell me that they are very embarrassed to be with me bc of my school level i live in the netherlands and my level of school is literally SO low,everyone ask me what level i’am when i’m telling them truth they making fun of me even strangers do that,so i studied hard and school starts getting better and people until now still making fun of my old school level,that’s the time when i realised there is no respect in this world no matter who you are.
the whole world literally make fun of me for not being smart and pretty,but idc i just accept myself for who i’am,even tho my whole family is handsome/pretty and smart,my parents and siblings tell me that they are very embarrassed to be with me bc of my school level i live in the netherlands and my level of school is literally SO low,everyone ask me what level i’am when i’m telling them truth they making fun of me even strangers do that,so i studied hard and school starts getting better and people until now still making fun of my old school level,that’s the time when i realised there is no respect in this world no matter who you are.
SAME HERE , BEING AN ASIAN AUTOMATICALLY PUTS YOU INTO THE CATEGORY OF NARCISSIST, I HOPE WE BOTH FEEL GREAT ABOUT OURSELVES AND FEEL LESS VULNERABLE SEEING OTHERS HAPPY.
The worst part of it is that as a narcissist, you legit feel that everything you do is fine or in some way, superior. Even mistakes. And so accepting that is a problem and you have to change its almost imposible because you feel super proud of it
Yes.... and it is explained in the video... So....
I'm sorry but I feel narcisst need to go get their head examined they are truly sick mentality I've had too much of that toxicity in my life I can't think of anything good a narcissist does except trying to ruin people's lives because their lives are ruined internally
As a matter of fact I think this new administration the pretend ministration there's a bunch of narcisst in our government oh my God they're all over the kind of reminds me of cockroaches
She is a reflection, always in sight Of herself, in mirrors, day and night Her ego shines brighter than the sun Making her feel superior, never wrong
Her words can cut deep, with a sharpened tongue As she manipulates and controls, all day long She drains your energy, with her constant needs And you feel yourself drowning, in her greed
But hold your head high, with grace and might For you are the one, who will see the light Do not let her words, fill you with despair And hold on to your self-worth, with care
Set boundaries, with a strong and steady hand And never let her actions, take control of the land Focus on yourself, and all that you hold dear And one day, you'll see, she'll no longer be near
So rise above it, and stand tall and proud With the strength of your character, and your heart unbound And know that you're not alone, in this fight For you will come out, as the winner, shining bright.
Got it? He *fell in* love.
ROFL
Love killed him...
Fell in 😂😂 got it
Gives a new meaning to falling in love
no
The hardest truth to accept is the truth about oneself.
James Bradley amen
James Bradley although we all know who we really are!! Each person knows him or herself !
alice p They don't.
So true
how can you accept yourself if you are a narcisist?
Dude I'll be honest I thought this was TED talk and clicked bait but then realized it wasn't and your videos are better.
Best clickbait of my life.
Your own good ol' algorithms lead you down this rabbit hole. Big brother is learning about what you gets your attention. But will your ads change?
Clickbaited herself/himself
Both these channels are part of same organisation
R. C. Or themself.
Cainfoe well it’s made by the same people who make TED, i know what you mean but still
As infants, we all begin as narcissists. We need to be taught to care about others.
I agree 1000%
I would like one about why women stay in abusive relationships
One of the reasons could be Stockholm syndrome
Trixi trxi the propaganda meant to help them plays a role in that, like when domestic abuse is portrayed as full on knocking your spouse out cold or something as bad as that then they won't think it's abusive, when statistics show that blah blah only 2 percent of blah get blahed then they'll lose trust in the legal system which makes them not bother to try, and also their spouse can threaten to kill them and their family and other horrible things like that
notice i used gender neutral pronouns, men can get abused too (someone's gonna spark a flame war and i'm gonna regret this extra little bit but right now that doesn't matter)
da Wolfy
Yes men can also be abused, although there are mostly women.
But yes I totally agree with what you say.
Cognitive Dissonance/Trauma Bonding results in C-PTSD its a head fuck!
Dependence.
Financial dependence when the victim has not learned a job. Social dependence when the spouse has isolated the victim from its friends and family. Emotional dependence when the victim can not imagine a life without the spouse or when the victim already has children it does not want to leave behind.
there is a lot missing in here regarding narcissistic personality disorder:
1. if you deny a narcissist his/her wishes, they can hurt tremendously - and this will lead to them wanting to strike back - a mere "no, i dont wanna go an a walk with you now" can lead them into a downward spiral of negative thoughts which they will try to counter with even more grandiose ideas about themselves.
2. the are often very depressed either coz they notice that others dont get their awesomeness, or because they themselves can not ever reach the level of perfection they feel they would need to reach to be as worthy as they want (need) to be.
3. as they despise ppl who are not outstanding, they can hate themselves big time when they make mistakes, and again counteract with more grandiose ideas.
4. they really have very little to no emotional empathy (just like a psychopath), but do possess rational empathy (also like a psychopath) - which is nothing but being good at understanding what motivates ppl and they use it only to maliciously manipulate ppl.
5. they have a a deformed or no personality core at all. as in, they dont really exist as individuals.
good comments
what do you mean when you say that they don't really exist as individuals, can you expand on that?
Chad Thundercock no sense of self, as in they are shallow people with little to no personality whatsoever/ prone to being unpredictable
lizvlx thanks bro...that would be me
İ have it then :(
"they have a a deformed or no personality core at all. as in, they dont really exist as individuals." I found that statement very interesting. Would love to hear more of your thoughts on that!
"Its like a disease where the sufferers feel pretty good, but the people around them suffer."
Sounds like my family😅
Leisa Faimalie same
It runs in your blood. 😁
Lol same
That's a :( not a :D
I recommend that your family goes to family therapy to deal with the narcissism.
Leisa Faimalie I've seen this play out more than once!
You're absolutely spot on! It's true that trying to understand others solely through outward observation can lead to inaccurate assumptions. We can never fully know what's going on in someone else's mind or what their internal experiences are like.
Here's why relying solely on outward behavior can be misleading:
Hidden emotions: People often mask their true emotions or present a different persona to the world. What you see on the outside might not reflect their internal state.
Misinterpretations: Our own biases and experiences can color how we interpret others' behavior. We might misinterpret actions or words based on our own assumptions.
Lack of context: Without understanding the full context of a situation, it's easy to misjudge someone's actions. There might be underlying reasons for their behavior that aren't immediately apparent.
Individual differences: Everyone experiences and expresses emotions differently. What might seem like anger to you could be sadness or frustration for someone else.
How to improve understanding:
While outward observation has its limitations, it's still an important part of social interaction. Here are some ways to improve your understanding of others:
Active listening: Pay attention not just to what people say but also to their body language and tone of voice.
Empathy: Try to put yourself in their shoes and imagine how they might be feeling.
Open communication: Ask clarifying questions and encourage open dialogue to gain a better understanding of their perspective.
Consider the context: Take into account the situation and any external factors that might be influencing their behavior.
Be mindful of your own biases: Recognize that your own experiences and perspectives can shape your interpretations.
By combining outward observation with empathy, active listening, and open communication, you can develop a more accurate and nuanced understanding of others.
I was raised by a vulnerable narcissist who brought me up to be obsessed with him-as a teenager I talked to my friends about him and his opinions about different subjects instead of my own. He was also a heavy gaslighter and made me think I was crazy and that everything that made me unhappy or went wrong was my fault; and I believed it until I finally was able to question things at the age of thirty. It took three years after that and a lot of help from friends before I was brave and mentally healthy enough to to leave him and move out.
damn, thats rough. i dated a vulnerable narcissist for around 7 years and what most ppl dont seem to realize about that type of naricssist, is that they almost seem "normal" but are really good at putting other ppl down (through gaslighting and genral manipulation) to make themselves feel better.
gratz on being able to see what was going on and moving out. its often the hardest step, but the best one too
That’s not fair at all. I wish life had been kinder to you. I’m glad you are free now but I’m guessing it’s still really hard. Keep a strong support system and you’ll be ok.
Congratulations on getting out
Is that supposed to be a picture of Trump at 1:31?
+Physics Videos by Eugene Khutoryansky This Channel is run by libtards.
+Physics Videos by Eugene Khutoryansky I noticed the shade.
+Deadalus DX So, you're unable to respect people's political beliefs like an adult?
+Deadalus DX
the fact that donald trump has so much support, shows how pathetic the republican party has become
+Physics Videos by Eugene Khutoryansky Obvious propaganda is obvious.
My "dad" 100% but one thing is wrong here, the narcissistic doesn't change. They don't have the slightest clue on how to be a normal person.
Courtney G *P R E A C H*
They know what they're doing, they don't changejust because they don't want to change. They enjoy their lifestyle and how they are, and think there's nothing actually wrong.
My mother too. Our whole family suffers because of her.
@@sneha3777 Sounds like a perfect Indian or south asian mother
@@zongxina1817 lmao
This hit me hard.
I grew up with a single mother who spoiled me like I was the best thing ever while also hurting my self-esteem in many ways. As long as I fit her idea of a good person, I was still great.
I've self-reflected on myself for a long time now. I enjoy being around people again, stopped reading too much into things, and have begun thinking more for others than just myself.
I feel u, I grew up with parents that critised a lot and wanted to be spolied by my parents so I lied a lot to make me appear better, eventually I started to believe my own lies
Loving yourself & being obsessed with yourself is absolutely fine , just make sure you don't bring other people down
I'll never forget my father telling me "Why do you care more about making your mom upset than you care about making me upset?" when I told him I was having nightmares because of stress about wanting my mom to be happy and healthy when she was going through a rough time.
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As some side notes, you can be selfish without being a narcissist.
You can be vain and like taking care of your physical appearance without being a narcissist.
You can like compliments and positive attention without being a narcissist.
You can also lack self-awareness without being a narcissist.
And you can be a narcissist without being a sociopath or a psychopath.
Narcissists can feel depressed.
Narcissists generally lack in empathy but it can come sometimes, rarely. Don't go expecting it, though, otherwise you're just asking to be hurt.
The main focus is that a narcissist does these things while also lacking in empathy, and that they are more likely to do things to hurt others because of it, and that they generally lack the self-awareness to realize that what they're doing is bad or that they just shouldn't be doing it, and reasoning with them generally doesn't work. If a person does any of these things, together or separately, and they still have empathy, than it's less likely that they're a narcissist.
One needs to display the majority of the symptoms at an extreme level (so it affects their social life, relationships, and even work or school) so they can be properly diagnosed with NPD.
Someone with these symptoms but doesn't have it at a very extreme level may just be a narcissist without NPD.
Sounds like something a narcissist would say
You can also be a victimhood narcissist. People who try to get validation, attention and special privileges due to some "trauma".
@@tubester4567 soooo LGBTQIALMNOP?
@@calico9046 yes 😂
True growth of character and self actualization can only happen when you admit to your flaws and take steps to address them
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Humility, Compassion and Self-awareness are some great values anyone can practice to avoid being narcissist.
A narcissist becomes more dangerous with that!
@@neha0009 how? I might be wrong though
@@neha0009
I agree when they know how to pretend to be those things it makes it much harder for the victims to detect what the narc is planning to do to them.
@@jeremyrebullar5216 I think what they meant to say is that narcissistic people will most likely fall into self pity instead of actual humility.
A narcissist never change best option shoot at sight
my mother is a narcissist and a horrible human being honestly I've tried many ways to help her cause she has affected me so badly but the problem she thinks she's normal and doesn't need any help that it's the other way around and I should be the one getting help at this point I don't even know what to do with my life she's always there to make me feel like shit no matter how good I do in life and I've even moved thousands of miles away and she's still harassing me and sending me horrible messages I can't live my life normally anymore I am so afraid I'll end up like her help
plus she's religious af and eveytime I tell her to go see a therapist she says that God is the only one she'll talk to that why I fucking hate religions
Sarahhh You can't help her, you can only help yourself. You've got to remove yourself from her sphere of influence. Also try some counseling and/or group therapy.
I feel sorry for you
I experience this too with my sister. My dad, my brother and me think the same (my mother have dementia, always forget thing) we planned to bring her to see psychiatrist but she immediately got angry and offended. She say we take her to psychiatrist because want her personality be changed.
i think my brother is too?? He has LITERALLY (not an exaggeration but as in that he actually said this) that we are inferior to him. That he deserves everything because he is doing good in medicine school (which kind of scares me tbh), he HAS said he has the right to eat all the food in the house or play electric guitar at 2 in the morning because of his good grades and because he's the best musician/most inteligent person he knows. He claims knowing more than his teachers and is obsessed with correcting people even if he contradicts himself. He even once said he had perfectioned Nietzsche's existencialist theories and HE should be a philosopher, instead of everyone that actually studies philosophy.
he's only 19. He thinks he is a genius. He is racist. He is an atheist that claims WE fucked up his life for being christian (even thought im agnostic but he says I'm a liar and thinks he knows better??) He even says everyone HATES him (which is not true) because he's better that everyone.
So basically everyone is a narcissist lmao except me cause I'm better than anyone.
i love your profile pic (◍•ᴗ•◍)✧*。
hhhhhhh
that's what a sight sounds like
actually you are completely wrong. i am literally a god and you are my slaves, im probably the best person i know. and the most humble. i am ont a narccasist
@@kairon5249 i created God, take that. I'm better then everyone😌✨👑
@@bruh......2005 what am I a potato?
I am great namjesus, creator of everything
Thanks for posting. I draw on my clinical and corporate background to teach classes on identifying and handling narcissism. Two more types: malignant (which borders on sociopathy) and communal (doing things for others in order to get praised). Important to remember too that narcissism isn't just a characteristic of those people over there: we all have some, especially when raised in cultures or subcultures that frame narcissistic entitlement, selfishness, ambitiousness, and grandiosity as positive.
Honestly just don’t give a narcissist any attention it’ll kill them 😂
Harry Sabbat nah mate they’ll just pester you until you finally give in
@@chrisding1976 yeah basically, had a guy in class who did this
LOL WUT OMG THATS TRUE 😩 uhhh this person does that to me
they develop attention seeking tactics to feed their ego.
imagine them having an ego demon in their head, that demon feeds on attention, and will go to extreme levels when it's starving.
Ahh been in a relationship with a narcissist psychopath.. he made me a joke in whole university.. worst 3 years of my life
Only 1-2 % of the population? I swear I can meet one 3 steps walking out of my door
WW Alex it’s hundreds of millions of people, so yeah a lot of people. It just sounds low, but in reality it’s a lot. Just like if a plane had a 1-2% chance of crashing then there would be a crash or two a day. No one would ride airplanes because they were too dangerous.
WW Alex Only 1-2% of the human population have “narcissistic personality disorder” which is like the worst, most intense, and most dangerous type of it. But narcissism is really on a spectrum and there are many variations and extents of it. In general, the figures for people with narcissistic traits go up to 25%, which is 1 in every 4 people.
1.5% psychopaths are narcissist, 10% sociopath are narcissist, and there are other types of narcissists some of them are not that harmful, internet psychological quizzes show me that I have what is called (positive narcissism) which is not even an issue, like I love myself, my looks, and stuff like that, but I don't think people owe me anything, just don't harm me and I'll ignore you, be nice to me and I'll be nice to you, I am cuter than you tho :P
Is there a mirror there?
Population is growing exponentially
This sounds like a lot of people on the internet
Sounds like a lot of people in real life.
Alot of people on the internet are actual people
An example is this: ruclips.net/video/JztHPOr3zzU/видео.html
Internet provides anonymity. It removes all social constructs and personas we all have to follow, and when it all goes, the true, human nature reveals itself. Some good, some bad. After all, internet is all about words and clicks, not actions with definitive consequences.
Blank Eyed for most people.
It’s a whole other story when you have a big enough following.
The human mind is one of the most complex things, governed by mysterious and elusive rules.
my father has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder and narcissistic personality disorder. he's both a grandiose and vulnerable narcissist, depending on what will get him the most attention. because of his narcissism, he completely destroyed his life and marriage, but he still refuses to acknowledge that his behavior caused these things. ever since i noticed that i exhibited similar traits to my dad's narcissism as an older teenager, just more subdued, i've been working really hard to improve myself so that i don't continue the cycle into my early adulthood. i'm not where i want to be, yet, as it's legitimately a daily struggle because of the environment i grew up in and the behaviors that were modeled to me, but i'm really trying. i just want to live a good and honest life.
same for me, literally to the detail
@@oskartalacko9634 it sucks that we relate on this, but hey, at least we're self-aware lol.
It’s hard to get inside your mind but I think you truly need to like someone before you can unlearn narcissism because you need to look at someone and have a instinctual reaction if they are unhappy to feel bad. Like when I see a injured or crying baby or animal it should make you feel empathy
I think I'm in a similar situation and I'm so proud of us for trying to break this cycle
@@chickenwarrior3067 yes, this is so true. i genuinely care about the people around me (even if i don't like them) and i don't like making people feel small, so i think that's helped me a lot with consciously avoiding manipulative behavior. i don't think i'm a narcissist like my father bc i have empathy for others, but i wanted to be the center of attention when i was younger bc that's what my dad displayed, and i realized if i continued w that mindset i could develop more of those traits.
Long ago, there was a nymph named Echo, who was a favored servant of Artemis, the Greek goddess of the hunt. Echo loved to talk to anyone and everyone, and often Zeus would use her to distract his wife Hera so he could sneak down from Mt. Olympus and entertain himself with the women of Earth. Eventually Hera realized what was happening, and in her anger she cursed Echo so that the nymph could no longer speak any words of her own. Morose at her loss, Echo wandered the lands, only able to repeat what others had said. One day on her travels, she encountered a young man who was very beautiful to behold. She longed to tell him how she felt, but unless he spoke to her first, she could only follow him in silence. Eventually the man heard the sound of her footsteps, and he called out, 'Who's there?' Echo repeated his words, and again he tried, 'Why do you run from me?', but again she could only repeat what he had said. One more time he spoke, 'Let us meet here together.' Overjoyed at his invitation, Echo leapt from the woods to embrace him, but as soon as he saw whom he had been talking to, the young man rejected her. Never would she have him or his love, he said before running away. The heartbroken nymph was again alone, and as she grieved she withered away, until eventually all that was left was her voice. Artemis was furious at the callousness with which the young man had treated the nymph, and so she cursed him that he might know the same pain he had so casually inflicted. The young man soon came upon a still pool, and as he bent down to take a drink, he gazed upon a handsome man. He reached out to his newfound love, but no matter how he tried, he could not manage to touch him. His mind cleared then, and he realized that he had fallen deeply, irrevocably in love with his own reflection in the water. With a cry of anguish, the young man pulled out his knife and stabbed himself in the heart, and he bled out as he looked at himself. Where his blood touched the shore, flowers sprang up, flowers that even today share that young man's name. Narcissus.
And Zeus didn't got into trouble again . Someone else has to bear the anger again .
That's tragically beautiful.
WAIT ARTEMIS IS A GIRL?!? IM NOT GOOD WITH MYTHOLOGY 😭😭
thats much sadder
Actually, in another version the curse was there from the beginning. Narcissus nynph mother, Liriope, was warned one day by a seer called Teiresias that her son would live a long life as long as he never knows himself or sees himself. The mother removed all type of surface that would cause reflection on their house such as mirrors, metals, etc
And like it says, teen Narcissus went out to hunt and the rest is history.
"You don't have to be a narcissist if you love yourself"
Loving yourself is good, but loving yourself without recognizing your imperfections or loving yourself to ignore your weaknesses or loving yourself to show others low is not right.
Unconditional self love is not narcissism
user5315qwerty yay thanks I was getting worried like what if I am narcissist I mean I love myself but as you replied I don’t think I am prefect and even though for some weird reason I love attention and admiration I know my weaknesses and try to keep that ego small
@@anigoel6189 I am not an expert 🙈 but glad I could make some sense. Your words sounded very genuine about yourself.
I have had personal (very hard) experience with narcissists , thus these observations.
user5315qwerty you worded this so perfectly. Thank you
“Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before a fall.” Proverbs 16:18
I think my father has this.. 😑 He always thinks he's right and he becomes aggressive when someone disagree with him even though he's the one who's wrong 😒
Steffie Swift The day Trump reversed his unpopular policy of taking children away from their illegal immigrants, Ivanka merely congratulated and thanked him. There was a bit of an uproar around that because she didn't call him out on it.
Notice she would never disparage or criticize him in public. I assume she does that in private with him as well... Because you can never confront or argue with a Narcissist. It's a fool's errand. They will never change and will never admit fault or take responsibly for anything they've done
Thats called stubborness.
Steffie Swift this is so true
Then that would mean 80% of the father's in the world have NPD. Lol
My dad is this
The two top comments "I'm way too amazing to be a narcissist" and "I’m definitely not a narcissist, I’m probably the most humble person ever despite the fact that I’m one of the smartest, best looking, most competent, and overall best people I know" sound like Trump quotes
Well, when you have to compulsively plaster your name on all your products and buildings..... you're probably not a very humble guy to begin with
They did show him around 1:30
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Yeah, that is incredibly true
Thanks to this video I have discovered I'm a vulnerable narcissist. Thank you TED-Ed!!!
The quality of your videos is top-notch! It's always a pleasure to watch.
"Fabulous party, you know, I haven't seen this much love in a room since Narcissus discovered himself."
Eve S. Haha Hercules for the win!
Hercules 1997 lol
Herculeeees
Tough crowd.
Hercules is the best
People acting as if all narcissist want the world to burn smh. I’m diagnosed narcissist and I try my best to control myself and i isolate when I know I can’t control it...
What's the opposite of narcissism? :)
Sorry we have all suffered from narcissists so maybe they r just taking our their anger or soemthing but kudos to u!
i m curious, how does it feel?
Empathic person
@@lerpy4338 sounds tiresome.. do you also get depressed when you dont get the attention and treatment you want?
Q: What is NARCISSISM?
A: All "Instagram Models"
True lulW
Lou Cof , too much self love ..
Lou Cof it’s actually much more nuanced and dangerous than someone who takes selfies too often.
@@monicalinette8191 nah that's a pretty good sign
Some ended up on drug charges .
‘Now Moses was a very humble man, more humble than anyone else on the face of the earth.’ (Numbers 12:3 probably written by Moses 😂)
I always giggle when I read this verse of the Bible.
"If Narcissus had a brother named Social Anxietus, he would get nervous whenever people look at him, internally die at the sight of his reflection, and then blame himself for dying."
-JaidenAnimations, "Anxiety" (I think)
Ah
I am probably a reincarnation of social anxietus.
@@casanova7635 Except... you didn't die! Great job! 😃
I am not Narcissist.... I am perfect
Pikachu :3 hah
Me to
Demetrica Pryor How can you be perfect if you don't know how to spell me too
Pika Ču lol 😂😂😂 narcissists don't say they are perfect.. It's like the word offends them but they want one to act as if they are head boss most wanted etc..
Jake Paul and Logan Paul are definitely Narcissistic
More like D I C K H E A D S
hahahahha
BleuHãwaii you probably don't even know what autism is. Jake and Logan Paul are closer to narcissists. Autism is completely different from what most people think it is. Narcissism is being self-centered and not caring about others, not autism.
MischievousMoo naw they're just actors
no they're just really annoying and attention seeking but they Could be
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Type in "racism and narcissism" by Richard Grannon. The essence of Racism/w.supremacy is psychopathy and innate narcissism which can not be cured.
yup! Indian culture creates narcissists in waiting. as a child you bow to themand as you grow older you become them.
i used to have NPD and it was the time when my best friend talked about how i act hurts him i said to myself i treated people badly and they left now i need to change that thing about me because i don't want to lost him. it was a rough journey and i am still on it but i become so much better,i am still a sarcasm queen tho but in the end i am proud of myself for choosing to get help and seeing my disease because it's a disease and a narcissist never accept that
I am happy that you are on your way to recovery! It seems like it’s a really difficult decision form the POV of someone who has NPD. When you mentioned that it was the time your best friend talked about how you hurt him with the way you acted, did he confront you about it or did he talk about that with other people? I’m curious about the exact moment that made you seek help.
@@camsueee he talked with me about it,he wasn't rude or he didn't act though he just opened his heart and explained how he feels when i talk sarcastic. the most important thing with talking a someone with NPD you need to be nice with them because any small detail can make them feel threatened and it won't work.
@@hekate342 Wow. That's truly amazing. You are blessed to have a friend like him too. It means he cares for you so much. I am with you towards your complete recovery. :)
@@camsueee thank you💖
At least be a narcissist with the gramme please.
Starbucks customers should learn from this
amen
I'm sure you wrote this comment not to get attention and imply your heightened sense of humor and wit, and also not to imply that you don't go to Starbucks because you're better than those who go.
+Sakatoki91 I actually work for Starbucks, it's a common personality type I experience very often
I agree Starbucks customers are mostly narcissistic
+Ace of Scares LOL REALLY? I kinda always thought this but I wasn't sure. Hehehe ;D
Patience is an appreciative virtue & the more rightly & truly it gets appreciated, the better it evolves.
1:31 I’m screaming that they used trump as the example😂
Trump Supporter : I like him because he is strong.
translation : he shows traits of dominance, which I see as strength.
Belal Abu Sultan Dominating politics so people can support them is pretty much the goal of politics. So, I don’t get what’s bad.
@@justine8558 It's a pseudonym that I gave myself. Also, how does it scream "narcissism"? Because you don't like what I said, or because of the "Real", or "Christian" part? You're so full of yourself, it's nearly toxic.
justine Wow, just wow. I’m insecure even though you replied to ME that I’m narcissistic because of my name. You’re the one who insulted people first, not me. Get off your high horse.
@@belalabusultan5911 "Trump is a man's man"
0:21 "nope" is such a delightful detail 👌
The animation has its own style just like audio, this video itself is a piece of art!
1:33 refers to nobody I know...
hahaha
+Andrea Marino dude, I just realised im prob. a so called "vulnerable narcissist". Not in a very high sense though, but I felt kinda hit in loads of the examples of behaviour and experiences, in the video.
+Axel Maikano I can totaly relate to this..
+Axel Maikano just puting it out there, pouring my heart out, feel me, suck me, what
+Axel Maikano In my experience one of the things that defines someone with Narcisistic Personality Disorder (NPD), is an inability to acknowledge the problem. They will never accept it.
People who grow up around others with NPD tho, often pick up a lot of the traits themselves, but as they grow up they are more often willing to identify the problems and improve. In support groups they call these picked-up traits "fleas".
The basic rule is that if you read about Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and get really worried that you have the condition yourself, then this very ability to question yourself means that you *probably don't have it*. People with NPD find the idea that they're flawed so utterly acceptable, that the thought doesn't get very far at all before being completely rejected.
I'd recommend /r/raisedbynarcissists subreddit (and the various associated subreddits)
This video explains psychology in a very simple way, I enjoyed how the concepts were broken down step by step.
put 100 narcissistic person in one place for a week and everything will go mayhem
AL That's the US Senate.
That's what happens in reality shows like Big Brother
No put 100 narcissistic people in one room and blow it up.
Actually they work really well together. I work with so many narcissists. They constantly compete with one another on literally every single trifling thing there is and they really dedicate themselves to those things and they love it!
put 100 victims in one place and they will start to rot into starvation and create gulags to punish their "opressors". no, we need diversity in personalities. some people are better at sitting down thinking of their emotions, others are better at bettering their objective conditions. both are important.
A Narcissist is the last person to admit he is a narcissist and it's almost against his trait to change. Try asking King Henry the V111 to change. Straight to the gallows with you my boy. Avoid a Narcissist at all cost if possible, it's not your job to fix them. Find loving people instead to hang out with.
Ain't that the truth
yes, but I think that a narcissist that wants to change should be loved, just in a humbling way. (if that makes sense) :)
Kathleen King I don't think that's true. I recently started reading about narcissism and admittedly, recognize a lot of those ideas/behaviors in myself. Having done that I would like to change those things
The easiest way to know if someone is a narcissist is to ask them. If they say yes they definitely are. A true narcissist isn't ashamed of what they are. They're proud of it
Kathleen King idk pal narcissists actually acknowledge they are narcissists. The problem is when they don't seek to change themselves. I was showing various signs of npd but im trying to change that... So idk. But yeah if you know someone that has a toxic behavior and doesnt want to change then stay tf away from them
My ex was a narcissist he made me feel like i'm a fugly bag of potato and he's a Greek god! I suffered almost 2 years to get back my self-esteem.
Sorry for hearing that, you are so beautiful girll
@@malaknezar7406 you made my day thank you queen 🥺❤️
If only I was there, I could have gave him a good verbal abusing for u
@@michaelpapageorgious5053 😆
I’ll replace him....
Narcissim can be a real mind trip if you actually get to know one. Somewhat like sociopaths they can act in ways coinciding with empathy or compassion because they recognize the social currency element in such acts, a means of "appearing good" in order to further stroke their inflated self-image. My ex would do things like mentor kids and contribute to charities, but his actual mental investment in those activities was almost non-existent. He did good works because he wanted to be able to say he did good works - which amounted to more gaslighting ammunition when you tried to call him out for bad behavior.
“Social currency” so true.
@@serenabaney997exatamente
Anyone see trump when they mentioned politicians?!?!
tattoodrdoke But he isn't a politician.
No, only Obama
tattoodrdoke yep
Give it a rest.
Only the malicious bother me. We have yet to see about Trump.
My dad is a Narcissist...
Also aggressive
*WHAT A LOVELY LIFE FOR ME*
Same
Or your just a whiny, defective kid.
Nick Marquez you’re*
Sounds like my father. Maybe we are long lost siblings. :|
Hates to be you then doesn't it. . . Good job I am me . . . Because I am essentially what is known as
PERFECT
my whole life, my dad always thought that he was the smartest. not the best looking or anything, but he actually says things like "I know everything". his attitude affects me, my brother, and my mother, and probably more people. one day I was super depressed and after talking to my counselor I felt much better. immediately after seeing my counselor, as I was having a conversation with my dad, he starts correcting my words (he does this multiple times per day to a lot of people). I have negative self esteem, and part of it is from him constantly making me feel stupid. I have asked him to stop multiple times before, but he goes on to say things like "if you're wrong, I'm going to correct you." I've told him how this makes my family feel, but he insists that it makes him feel good about his self. he's probably narcissistic, but idk. not a psychiatrist.
Animation Freak discern the message
Omg wow.. this is like exactly what I'm going through with my dad too, exactly how he is💯
Maybe if you were smart enough he wouldn't have to correct you. Dont forget you brought this on yourself.
You should make sure your dad gets evaluated for Narcissism Personality Disorder. This sounds like narcissism. Your life, your dad's life, and your family's life will be better if your dad gets evaluated. It might be hard since your dad might think that of course he doesn't have narcissism, but he should really get evaluated.
It happened to me but with my mom.....somehow i feel done with life
It's very hard to deal w them tbh. Having a quick,simple convo w them will leave you DEVASTATED!
That guy at 1:33 looks oddly familiar, but I can't put my finger on where I've seen him before.
The white house maybe...
Harrison Shone trump
Harrison Shone lmao
I think his name was Tonald drump? I can't remember
Harrison Shone loll it looks like trump
I think the label "narcissist" is thrown around a lot to label someone who is confident and that we don't like. We have become a society that reacts too much and understands too little. I think an even worse epidemic in society is not the narcissistic tendencies people exhibit, but rather our sudden urge to label someone we don't understand or even appreciate as someone who "obviously" has a mental problem. As someone who has a diagnosed mental health "label", I think a better way to explain someone who is acting in a different manner then we might like or even expect, would be to go and talk to that person, and let THEM explain to you what it is that might be causing them to be perceived in a certain way. Most people have other attributing factors that are leading to their less then ideal behavior, and we should judge less and understand more, before throwing around labels like "narcissist".
Thank you for your input, it helps others like meself to see the whole picture!
I still draw the line at abuse/violence, but compassion & understanding for our fellow humans goes a long way, maybe even make a new friend!☺️
Spoken like a true narcissist 🤣🤣
@@qxqp Yep that's what I also observed from people who least know what NDS is. They will label anyone that's against them as narcissist. And it's popularized more by those who have been to bad relationships.
You literally missed the point. Not everyone is a narcissist who’s confident, there’s obviously a difference/line between both
I had a """"""friend"""""". he literally talked behind everyones back and when we confronted him, he said we were a waste of time and our friend, who was his crush, was told she was a waste of time liking.
is that narcissism?
take a shot every time you hear a golf ball being swung
Balls don't swing, so the children are safe.
Elvis Del Rio I'm crying xD
Elvis Del Rio noooo, can't unhear it now lmao
Elvis Del Rio Now I can't unhear it
Elvis Del Rio It can’t be unheard ahhh
I don’t suffer from narcissism, i enjoy every bit of it.
Exactly my ex. It took me YEARS to heal from his damage.
LOL modern women are far more likely to be narcissistic. Compete with each other, cheat, lie, take undue resources, and be in the mirror for hours. Toxic self esteem, toxic insecurity, and a calm collected front. Mgtow is a thing because of it.
@@paulnoecker1202, exactly when did she mention that women are less likely to be narcissistic? Why must you jump the gun and accuse people of being biased when no bias was even hinted towards?
@@NabPunk He is referring to 2:40. It's the only mention in the video.
Your comment it is based in an opinion and experience. Pretty much biased.
In the video it is based on science and research.
Ger Flor guys are more likely to be geared towards being laid back and not caring about _anything._
I have to wonder whether narcissistic personality disorder really affects men more than women. Psychology has historically been male-dominated, so not only could females simply be being ignored outright, but female narcissism could be manifesting in ways that the male psychologists aren't even familiar with enough to look for, like with social groups, female-only parties, weddings, dating etiquette, etc. We've all heard about and/or heard of movies/shows about catty women who want to be the head of their social groups and are willing to do unethical things to get there or remain there. In fact that plot line extremely common in TV shows aimed at teen girls. Also, women have historically been treated as too stupid and innocent to really be blamed for anything, so a (male) psychologist might just be mentally patting women on the head, writing off anything they do as in their "feminine nature". This mentality towards females continues today. There's a very good reason that Veruca Salt was female and not male in Charlie And The Chocolate Factory- it just wouldn't have been believable for a boy to act like that without being slapped and told to grow up.
interesting point...i do see some real life scenarios theses days where women act narcissistic ...men too...hell narcisism is fully on the rise
I suppose this does make sense. Going by what you said, more females would probably have vunerable narcissism as opposed to the other kind, since, their behavior is constantly being written off as "girl problems" or "crazy jealous girlfriend things."
I agree with you Hexx. And it definitely is on the rise, Oberyn. Like children trapped in the bodies of adults.
That's why unhappiness is on the rise too if you ask me. Empathy is key for a '' normal '' human being. If we don't pay attention to each others we tend to focus too much on our problems and emotions. We end up trying to fix every little frustration that we have, eventually using other people as a tool to achieve that. And there's no end to that.
When caring for others and helping out people is normally here to stop and prevent such spiral, the narcissism and lack of empathy tend to keep more and more people into this pit, full of small satisfactions, sadness, and evilness towards one another.
To your testosterone suggestion, I have to refer to a saying of mine, "Beware the simplistic explanation for human behavior."
The amount of men and women I see that are brats are generally the same. But I'm not sure if those bratty behavior I see are the same thing as narcissism diagnosis. Cuz it's definitely more the 1-2% of the population. Men can be more extreme about it, maybe that's why they go over the threashold of an actual diagnosis more often. I wouldn't be surprised if women in general complain a bit more and have less discipline with smaller issues because society tolerates women crying and whining more than men. But again, I don't know if that counts as being a narcissist.
That speaks to just about everyone on the internet now a-days. But I am the only person above all this crap.
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