What really gets me emotional is that so many of my problems in life could have been avoided if someone thought me basic emotional self management and care. The social expectation is that our parents teach us this but in way to many cases that just isn't happening. We have to start teaching basic psychology like this in our schools and make talking about our emotions a regular part of our day. Then of course is something that gets me more emotional is that this will likely not happen any time soon. Too much money hinges on manipulating people's emotions. Every ad is designed to manipulate your emotion and so is every speech by every politician. They don't want a population that can manage their emotions well. That would be terrible for profit.
Yes, I agree and you’re right, but also its your own responsibility and duty to yourself. I think its better to learn to not blame external factors for 99% of your emotions and find happiness within
honestly, that’s completely valid. It sucks feeling like you got cheated out of a healthy childhood because nobody taught you the skills on how to have one. but you got a remember that your life isn’t over just yet. You still have so much time to learn healthy coping skills, have fun with friends, make chocolate chip pancakes, and do whatever you want with your life. You still have so much time left
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Another useful trick is to focus more on positive emotions. Human beings naturally attribute more weight to negative emotions than positive ones. Looking at the bright side IS effective in helping you stay happy and calm. Great Video as always . You guys help people all over the globe with your content.
You mean like when people say "go to your happy place"? That helps me sometimes when I'm trying to stay calm under pressure; my happy place is the bottom of the ocean, I just repeat to myself "you are at the bottom of the ocean, it's cold, it's dark, it's quiet".
To clarify for anyone in the comments who want to say this is very pollyanne, I think the original poster is talking about things like a gratitude journal and savoring. University of Pennsylvania and UC Berkeley have some great resources for this, but to start off: Write down 3 good things that happened today. Try to make then as detailed as possible, and try not to repeat the same thing (like, don't just say "I woke up." Say "I woke up after a restful sleep" or "I woke up and had a great conversation with my mom"). And try to savor positive experiences. We can think of savoring food, like really enjoying each bite, the texture of the food, the smell, the way it looks, etc. The world can be dark at times. Darkness can feel endless, so appreciating the tiny glimmers of light can make life just a little bit brighter.
Trying to keep things in perspective is very important. When I catch myself thinking about how terrible something, I remind myself how good I've got it compared to many, many other people in the world.
@@PretendingToBeAHuman for me what works is ranting about all of my negative thoughts (to either a diary or another person, I use the app Finch), and then once I have all my negative thoughts out, I try to figure out some positives. like I could be having a terrible day and I would vent about it, but then once I vented, that would clear up my thoughts enough for me to look at the positives
One strategy I’ve started using is pausing to identify and name my emotions when they get intense. For example, a few days ago, I felt overwhelmed after a tough conversation at work. Instead of letting the frustration take over, I stopped and said to myself, 'I’m feeling frustrated and unappreciated right now.' Just naming it gave me clarity and helped me respond calmly instead of snapping back. It’s amazing how such a simple technique can create space for reflection and better choices.
Emotional response steps: 👇🏻 - Enter a situation real or imaginary. - Evaluate the situation. - Help / hinder your goals. - Changes in feeling/thoughts/emotions. ---------------- Strategies: 👇🏻 - Avoid the situation. - Attend but not interact. - Shift attention & focus elsewhere. - reevaluate your thoughts about the situation. - Tempering is tricky cause you compress or hide your emotions, that'll lead to more negative feelings and health issues. - Better strategies: go in a long walk, deep breaths, call someone to talk to. ---------------- Important 👇🏻 - Knowing where your feelings are coming from is half of the battle. - Expressing negative emotions is healthy, compressing your emotions regularly is not, forcing a smile to deal with a one time annoyance is reasonable. - Don't be always happy nor let sadness take over, Find your own balance.
I recently started living life with a mentally of “If i cant change it, theres is no point of putting energy towards it” -Dont deal with things that you can’t effect (theres no point in it) And to also never make something bigger then what it is I feel doing this has help me keep my emotions together and react more calmly and coordinated to anything
That's such a powerful mindset to adopt-it aligns so well with the idea of focusing on what we can control. Have you noticed any specific situations where this approach has made a big difference for you? It’s always interesting to hear how these principles play out in real life.
100%! I’m working swiftly towards all of that myself. Being grateful, happy, peaceful and loving has helped me tremendously on my journey. Thanks for you comment, it’s very much appreciated!
I hope everyone here....dealing with mental health have a great life ahead and overcome all the obstacles you face. And let me tell you.. the fact you're watching this video and you could breath... You are so lucky so be grateful for what you have and look how far you've come.....
@@Davis... I see that the original comment has been edited and it is now spelled correctly. I actually was confused by the original comment, I thought midset meant the waist or something. I am sorry if my comment offended anyone.
I would like to take a moment to appreciate such personal mental development videos. I come from a place where regulating and understanding why certain things happen to me, for example emotions and the brain's response, is extremely strenuous. Not only because our society highly discourages mental talks but also, I personally pressurise myself to be perfect. A huge and I mean a huge gratitude to the team for letting me understand myself better and accept myself just the way I am WHILE ALSO improving myself. Thank you.
I feel you. Coming from the same kind of environment, it’s not easy for us to discuss mental health and allow ourselves to be fully open. It’s really heartbreaking to know that many people are unable to express and embrace their real feelings. But thankfully, videos like this can really support people in understanding and in accepting themselves better.
It's truly admirable how you've recognized the importance of understanding and accepting yourself. The pressure to be perfect can be overwhelming, especially when society discourages open conversations about mental health. It's inspiring that you're embracing both self-acceptance and self-improvement. Do you think this journey of emotional understanding could be a continuous process, where small steps are just as important as big breakthroughs? How do you usually find balance when emotions feel particularly intense?
I recently went through a 3 month rehab program for learning how to deal with difficult thoughts and emotions when dealing with chronic (physical) pain, through group sessions in mindfulness techniques and individual therapy. The professional team also provided us with a lot of useful information of how chronic pain works and why our brains are wired to focus on the negative. One of the biggest take aways I had was that according to some studies, around 80 percent of all of our thoughts are negative in some way. 80 percent! When I heard that, I felt such a relief. I'm not the only one with a brain that's constantly risk assessing in every situation. When I have negative thoughts, I remind myself of that number. Sometimes it can be a relief to know that we are wired in a certain way for survival, and there is nothing wrong with you. And to affirm that thinking in a more positive way is hard work! Thank you for reading this far and I hope you have a nice day :)
Even though I’m still young I have learned many lessons concerning emotional regulation. I’ve learned that it’s okay to feel negative emotions and if I don’t accept them and feel them then it’ll only make me feel worse.
Been learning that myself - sure I try look on the “bright side” but a strategy I’m learning in counselling is to give myself time to feel and not block out negative emotions in tough times. Like journaling, venting to friends who’re available or even just sitting there with them for a little while.
This really inspired me - there's no good or bad emotions, only helpful or unhelpful emotions. To an extent, i have the power to judge what emotions are helpful without being guilty about being emotionally vulnerable
One time when I was in a really dark place I went to see a therapist. They tried to prescribe me antidepressants but I told them no because I feel like even though it sucks depression and other negative emotions are a part of life, take the good with the bad. He was surprised but we went on talking and keep at it every few months or as I need to. I know everyone's different emotionally but I think a lot of the time you just need someone to talk to. EDIT: I wanted to share my experience with depression, this worked for me but is in NO WAY a solution for everyone. Medication is important and has saved millions of lives, I'm not against using it at all. In no way am I expert in psychology or mental health. If your doctor recommends medication you should really consider taking it.
Dosent mean you don't take meds . This is some real "fake deep" nonsense! Depression shouldn't be a part of life! Sadness is ok but feeling low everyday ISN'T
Yeah, no, depression isn't just "a part of life." Sadness is. Sadness serves a function. Depression is more akin to something like cancer: a disease that eats away at you mindlessly and purposelessly.
Depression and being sad are two very different things. One is a mental illness which needs to be treated as such. I agree we do need to normalize sitting in and feeling the emotions we experience, good or bad. But again, it’s a mental illness and not simply just an emotion. To those reading this, if your doctor recommends antidepressants, please consider it. Mine saved my life, literally.
Wow, so helpful! My biggest takeaway is that emotions are not good or bad, they are helpful or unhelpful. That really makes me see clearer when I am overreacting.
Great as always! I so appreciate the subtle but important mention of emotional responses being caused by both real AND imagined situations! People often like to undermine the emotional reactions of others for "fake" scenarios, which is just tiring and belittling to those feeling the emotion, such as over thinkers like myself, which does not help calm us down
These techniques are under the purview of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which is great for most people, and can be helpful. There is a lot of research to support these techniques. But, it's important to note that these techniques may not always work for everyone all the time. So if you try them and they don't work, it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. This is a great first step for most people, but there are other techniques out there if this doesn't work.
This is such a necessary topic and helpful tool for everyone, especially in the modern world that every emotional expression of us could be judged imprecisely and then lead to more unintended consequences. As always, many thanks to TED-ed team for your meaningful works.
I meditate for about 10~20 minutes daily for a year, and I realized that it helps a lot now that my body is conditioned to 'let go' whenever there's a need to.
Experiencing and allowing oneself to experience a range of emotions is essential to mental health. What to watch out for is, when a negative emotional response keeps popping up after similar external triggers. It could indicate an underlying trauma that needs resolving.
Mark Manson wrote in his book that looking for a good experience is a bad experience. I feel like part of regulating your emotions is understanding that your emotion are ABSOLUTELY normal, because you’re a human being once you accept that you can choose what to do with you emotion - being angry is ok, punching a wall because of that is not. Personally, I have an issue of bottling up emotions and I’m working through it, it doesn’t always feel good and at times I feel as though I am retracting back into my old ways but I look forward to more of these up and down emotions because that’s what living is
I feel like always since I've been a little kid I've been "suppressing" my emotions. And I guess it's somehow become the normal for me, because all the people around me tell me that I lack emotions. I personally consider it as a good trait as it allows me to sort of "select" which emotions I want to express. It also helps me mitigate feelings like envy. A thing I always enjoy however, is being in the present, just looking around yourself, noticing the details and realizing that you will never be in the same situation again gives you a lot more appreciation for the smaller things, simply because you know that they won't be there your entire life.
Hmm, I think you suppressing your emotions may have been caused by something(s) that happened in your life, maybe some traumatic experiences. Maybe you should talk with a therapist about it. Envy I think means wanting something someone else has that you don't have the right to, in that case you should just accept the reality you can't change and embrace what you can in a fair way, not supress emotions. And some natural emotions are really good, you should definitely review that.
I always talking to myself (especially out loud) when i felt overwhelmed or upset to reevaluate my emotions. It’s just like talking to a friend that is always listen to you without judging you first. And in the same time, i hear what i said and it’s like i also listen to someone problems, and i can sometimes giving myself an advice or even a solution.
Thanks a lot Ted-Ed for bringing up this issue! The current generation is becoming so addicted to social media, things which give instant gratification, and all the materialistic stuff and they forget to care about their mental health and handle their emotions, which I'd say is a very needed skill these days. This world could become a real good place to live in and interact if everyone becomes keen on paying attention to their mental health. So If you're reading this, it begins with you!! Go out there, get out of your comfort zone, accomplish, learn, study, enjoy, read, eat health, sleep well and most importantly love yourself. You can do it! I wish everyone an awesome life ahead lesgoooooo
I’ve spent years trying to fix my emotions and anxiety attacks since my breakup. While I’ve gotten better at it I still struggle with it and this video helps.
I was full of doubt and sadness in my teenage. But now I feel like I got all the answers. Now I am comfortable. I studied my emotions and I now how to handle it now. As we get old, we will learn it by ourselves. 😊
Those born as adhd individuals, me included deal with emotional deregulation syndrome. Which make dealing with our emotions that more harder. Especially if an individual is naturally a very emotional person, or just undiagnosed and not being medically treated and not working with a adhd specific therapist/ adhd life coach. Or if medication doesn't work for them or they just can't afford either meds or both meds and a adhd coach/ therapist.
Thank you for the reminder that life isn't about avoiding misery or seeking happiness! It reminds me of a forum that distinguished between hedonism, moralism, relativism, and relationalism as centers of family values.
I think I am always reevaluating how I feel, most of the time I try to have a positive mindset and face situations in a way that can make me stronger from it.
A good approach, mate. Our emotions can be our enemy at times, this is why it is good to analyse our feelings and get a better understanding of them. Don't forget that feelings are rooted in the brain, they are the output of the electro-chemical flashes in the brain. As long as you have volition, you can undermine negative feelings and focus on the healthy ones.
When I am, for example, upset, I would type it all out as if I'm sending it to a friend. Then I would reread it again and a lot of the times, the things I feel upset about are miniscule in comparison to the things I feel happy about and that helps reassure myself that whatever I am upset with isn't that big of a deal. This isn't me, ignoring the negative feelings I felt but rather embracing it and realize how our brain tends to magnify and upscale the negative situations we go through when in reality, it plays such a small role. It's normal, of course, to feel negative from time to time but remember that just like the good things that happen to us, the bad things are also temporary
This is what I actually needed. I'm going through a lot right now. I just wanted to hear something like this. Less than a year ago I didn't even have the hint about how hard life can be. Now here I am finding every possible thing that can make me feel better; or show a ray of hope. One moment I feel OK the other I collapse again. If this is what life is going to be then that's something to think about.
I'm not the best at controlling my emotions but the times I do manage to keep cool, I found that being able to detach and see it from the 3rd person helped.
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:06 *🧠 Regulación de emociones* - Se plantea la pregunta sobre si es posible controlar nuestras emociones. - Se introduce el Modelo de Proceso como un marco para comprender las estrategias de regulación emocional. - Se describen los cuatro pasos del proceso emocional y las oportunidades de intervención en cada fase. 01:33 *🔄 Estrategias de regulación emocional* - Se presentan diversas estrategias para intervenir en el proceso emocional, incluyendo evitar la situación, modificarla, desplazar la atención y reevaluar la situación. - Se mencionan métodos de ajuste de la respuesta emocional después del hecho, destacando la importancia de estrategias sostenibles. - Se enfatiza la práctica y la conciencia emocional como fundamentales para dominar estas técnicas. 02:59 *😊 Percepción de las emociones* - Se cuestiona si se debe buscar constantemente mantener un estado de ánimo positivo. - Se analiza la naturaleza de las emociones como útiles o no útiles según el contexto. - Se destaca la importancia de encontrar un equilibrio personal en la gestión emocional, evitando la obsesión por la felicidad constante. Made with HARPA AI
I wish the ed system could teach us how to regulate emotions in school or somewhere formally at least as part of the growing up experience. Most parents don't, my parents have very volatile emotional cycles which I still can't deal with them peacefully at age 35. Just sharing my experience of how to keep balance after years of self learning from personal trial & fails, hope it'd be helpful: I used to get fixated on thoughts just kept circling in my mind & hard to control the emotions comes along with them. Then I learned to take long walks + sit alone quietly to meditate using reflection & critical thinking to breakdown those thought & emotions logically. Don't let the wild emotions take over, might lead to bad decisions that could cause severe consequences in life. Use conscious & rationality to get a hold of it & bend it towards your own advantage. It's mostly the subconscious that's running unchecked, gotta use your consciousness to put it back to its place in order to keep the mind balanced. Reflection: 1. Imagine/replay the things/experiences that bring those occupying emotions in your mind, over & over if possible until you're so used to it & become comfortable enough. Even though it's a painful frustrating process at first, could take hours, but try to endure & live through it, this torturing process helps you achieve conscious awareness of which part is causing what emotions in you, it's also a self learning & identifying experience. Once you're used to the process in meditation, it'll become a natural flow to self analyze the mind. I used to take hours long walk or sit like a monk to go through this when it first started, now I can do it anywhere anytime to run a check on my mind if I'm consciously aware of some unwanted thoughts/emotions. 2. dig & think deeper, ask yourself why it's triggering such emotion, find the root & cause of it. Mostly it's past experience related, then pull that memory up & replay it, repeat step 1. It's a looping long process, very tiring, might wanna get a protein shake or energy bar during the meditation. Brain consumes lots of power. I also used INDICA eatables gummy/mint to help sleep better at night after long walk/meditation during the day. One effect I really like is after it kicks in, that's when the mouth is dry & stomach feels hungry & the body feels sinking, but the mind now goes super fast & so much better at deep thinking, now there is a 30 mins window to begin a realm of problem solving & life question answering. My logical thinking process was so fast I actually couldn't trace back my thoughts, it's kinda amazing! I used it for 6 mths, figured out all the life stuff. But I wouldn't recommend long term use, I do feel it lowered my IQ a bit, but the tradeoff was worth it. There will be sleeplessness after stop using, but the good sleep & IQ recover after a few months of healthy lifestyle. Good luck :)
This is really nice to hear right now especially with the stress of school starting to build up as we approach the end of the school year so thanks a lot for this ted. :)
i think we need to talk more about how most times there isnt a battle between being happy, sad or angry. Half of our lifes are probably spent feeling nothing- NEUTRAL.
I panicked today during a final exam, and that panic lead to more mistakes, which lead to an F, which lead to even more panic and self-hatred. These feelings come seemingly at random, and when they come I feel powerless to stop it yet all too aware of how my behavior is affecting myself and everyone around me. I have more final exams to complete. I pray that awful feeling doesn't strike again.
I wish for the best for you, I think you might've had a panic attack, I've had them during exams before too. I dont know if you can seek professional help or take meds but at the very least I want to tell you that its normal. The panic you felt doesn't make you a worse student or person, your brain was likely overwhelmed with all the fears and what ifs. Im sorry about that, and wish for the best for you
I'm really happy that nowadays we have such videos to learn more about ourselves. And with the help of such videos we can analyse and percept information and use it in our lives and make society healthier.
Keep up the great work for the animators, editors and other great artists!! You have been a part of childhood. 🥰🥰 Love your great work!!👍 I love a good and funny animation😩
It's never too late to learn and implement emotional intelligence. The goal is to learn from what we didn't receive in our childhood and apply it to our everyday lives. It will be challenging, but it's worth it. When you start a family, teach them early enough so that your children will learn to regulate their emotions while young. Acknowledgment leads to improvement.
I was never very emotional until after my wife died and I realized that I was alone. Now, I cry when I hear a song from my life , any song that has emotional memories.
Summary 1. It is possible to manage your emotions Ways : Deep breathing exercises (meditation) Re evaluating situation (personal tip focus on why more than what) Talk to someone in your support 2. Its OK to feel sad, angry at times dont run from them accept them but dont let them take over yourself and be hopefull that although things are not well now your emotions are not well now but things will get better with time, have some COURAGE and have LONG TERM THINKING.
As someone who is stressed out by being the only group with three members while the other groups have five members for ALL of our college projects and getting the feeling of wanting to punch someone, I hope this video would help me control my emotions better (commenting while watching lol) Edit: huh, the later part of the video is something I feel like I needed to hear. Thank you again, Ted Ed for releasing videos that eerily are the solution to my current problem(s)
For me, understanding my emotions and where they come from is the most important part. Avoiding them sounds unhealthy tbh And the animations are so sick!
Emotional intelligence is the door to an almost infinite number of beautiful possibilities. You can find one such possibility in the poem "Reason and Passion" by Khalil Gibran.
Whenever I feel overwhelmed with emotions sadness, anger, happiness , I remind myself that life is temporary and NONE OF THIS MATTERS IN THE END !.. we are just random souls carrying energy of this universe and are meant to join a bigger cleaner purer source of energy when we die so we don't have to come back to this illusion (maya) of a life we live with ups and downs of emotions aka moksha .. So truly none of this matters but still we get to live this life on this earth might as well make use of it and serve our intentions of helping other souls attain their moksha in whatever way we can.. my unwise heart/mind craves richness, luxury, fame , love.. I will chase this for sure because I want to feel what it feels like to be my higher self who is living her dream life. but even if I dont achieve it its ok and its ok even when I achieve it .. Because none of this actually matters..
Usually your sadness or anger is justified, and you have every right to feel the way you do. It only becomes a problem when mismanagement of your emotions causes additional problems which could have been avoided. Obvious examples of mismanagement include, drug abuse, alienating friends or family, or openly violent behavior.
“every emotion is helpful or unhelpful. it depends on situation. you should find own balance of your emotions you MUST NOT be happy or pleased every time” these words i liked from video💥
Thank you I wish you would continue to do more videos on psychology. I would also love to watch more videos about"The Demon Of Reason" "Riddles" and videos based on the "Economy" Thank you!!♥ im proud to be a subscriber 😊
As someone who’s more focused on logic emotions have always been a weak point for me. But despite this natural weakness I’ve tried my best to cultivate better emotional awareness. Anyone can, even if they don’t think so.
PROCESS MODEL OF EMOTIONS 1. consider wether the situation is real or imaginary 2. appraise the situation (does it help or hinder?) 3. contemplate feelings, thinkings and behaves (emotional response)
Acquiring how to control emotions will be important skill in life~ everyone has their own way~ i would like to say that only experience is the answer !
If you're sad you should 1) acknowledge your sadness; 2) accept it and don't try to force anything, ever; 3) communicate clearly and sincerely to closed ones how you feel (not colleagues, not random people - unless in a bar at night in front of a glass of whiskey - but people close to you which you can reasonably expect can and will listen); 4) interrogate yourself about the apparent reasons of your sadness; 5) wonder if there are deeper reasons, or if the the apparent reasons are the consequences of something more structural; 6) don't intellectualize away your sadness, don't find artifact explanations to compress and hide your feelings; rather, look for the reasons of the sadness you feel and you should neither deny nor try to control. In the end, most likely, your sadness (if not the result of a recent, clear accident or grief) will be linked to three major reasons: 1) loneliness - 2) fear of change - 3) living under neoliberal globalized capitalism. In all three cases, what you need is not "hope of better times" but action. Not only because without action you won't see changes; but because action will empower and subjectivize yourself in the face of adversity and redefine the situation not just as a source of pain but as a problem to be solved. [the exact same can be said replacing the word 'sad' and 'sadness' with 'angry' and 'anger'. Don't waste or hide your anger, it will kill you; channel it toward action.]
What really gets me emotional is that so many of my problems in life could have been avoided if someone thought me basic emotional self management and care. The social expectation is that our parents teach us this but in way to many cases that just isn't happening. We have to start teaching basic psychology like this in our schools and make talking about our emotions a regular part of our day.
Then of course is something that gets me more emotional is that this will likely not happen any time soon. Too much money hinges on manipulating people's emotions. Every ad is designed to manipulate your emotion and so is every speech by every politician. They don't want a population that can manage their emotions well. That would be terrible for profit.
Yes, I agree and you’re right, but also its your own responsibility and duty to yourself. I think its better to learn to not blame external factors for 99% of your emotions and find happiness within
You fools, there is nothing to learn in this.
@@lauradowell5569 You lumphead, there is nothing to learn in this.
Well said
honestly, that’s completely valid. It sucks feeling like you got cheated out of a healthy childhood because nobody taught you the skills on how to have one. but you got a remember that your life isn’t over just yet. You still have so much time to learn healthy coping skills, have fun with friends, make chocolate chip pancakes, and do whatever you want with your life. You still have so much time left
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Nah fr 😂
They got new animations style for each video and i love it
They are incredible! Minimal but larger than life expressions. Love.
Another useful trick is to focus more on positive emotions. Human beings naturally attribute more weight to negative emotions than positive ones. Looking at the bright side IS effective in helping you stay happy and calm. Great Video as always . You guys help people all over the globe with your content.
You mean like when people say "go to your happy place"?
That helps me sometimes when I'm trying to stay calm under pressure; my happy place is the bottom of the ocean, I just repeat to myself "you are at the bottom of the ocean, it's cold, it's dark, it's quiet".
To clarify for anyone in the comments who want to say this is very pollyanne, I think the original poster is talking about things like a gratitude journal and savoring. University of Pennsylvania and UC Berkeley have some great resources for this, but to start off:
Write down 3 good things that happened today. Try to make then as detailed as possible, and try not to repeat the same thing (like, don't just say "I woke up." Say "I woke up after a restful sleep" or "I woke up and had a great conversation with my mom").
And try to savor positive experiences. We can think of savoring food, like really enjoying each bite, the texture of the food, the smell, the way it looks, etc.
The world can be dark at times. Darkness can feel endless, so appreciating the tiny glimmers of light can make life just a little bit brighter.
Trying to keep things in perspective is very important. When I catch myself thinking about how terrible something, I remind myself how good I've got it compared to many, many other people in the world.
how terrible something IS
@@PretendingToBeAHuman for me what works is ranting about all of my negative thoughts (to either a diary or another person, I use the app Finch), and then once I have all my negative thoughts out, I try to figure out some positives. like I could be having a terrible day and I would vent about it, but then once I vented, that would clear up my thoughts enough for me to look at the positives
One strategy I’ve started using is pausing to identify and name my emotions when they get intense. For example, a few days ago, I felt overwhelmed after a tough conversation at work. Instead of letting the frustration take over, I stopped and said to myself, 'I’m feeling frustrated and unappreciated right now.' Just naming it gave me clarity and helped me respond calmly instead of snapping back. It’s amazing how such a simple technique can create space for reflection and better choices.
Emotional response steps: 👇🏻
- Enter a situation real or imaginary.
- Evaluate the situation.
- Help / hinder your goals.
- Changes in feeling/thoughts/emotions.
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Strategies: 👇🏻
- Avoid the situation.
- Attend but not interact.
- Shift attention & focus elsewhere.
- reevaluate your thoughts about the situation.
- Tempering is tricky cause you compress or hide your emotions, that'll lead to more negative feelings and health issues.
- Better strategies: go in a long walk, deep breaths, call someone to talk to.
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Important 👇🏻
- Knowing where your feelings are coming from is half of the battle.
- Expressing negative emotions is healthy, compressing your emotions regularly is not, forcing a smile to deal with a one time annoyance is reasonable.
- Don't be always happy nor let sadness take over, Find your own balance.
You didn’t need to write this down, they said it in the video.
thank u for the recap, helps me to not rewatch it over and over again.
I'm Japanese and this video is difficult for me , but your comment helped me to grasp the contents of it. Thanks
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Thanks! I’m a bit busy procrastinating but now I can cut down on five minutes lolll
I recently started living life with a mentally of
“If i cant change it, theres is no point of putting energy towards it” -Dont deal with things that you can’t effect (theres no point in it)
And to also never make something bigger then what it is
I feel doing this has help me keep my emotions together and react more calmly and coordinated to anything
This comment is so underrated, it’s like what it says in the video, shifting the focus but you explained it in a much detailed way 😂❤
That's such a powerful mindset to adopt-it aligns so well with the idea of focusing on what we can control. Have you noticed any specific situations where this approach has made a big difference for you? It’s always interesting to hear how these principles play out in real life.
100%! I’m working swiftly towards all of that myself. Being grateful, happy, peaceful and loving has helped me tremendously on my journey. Thanks for you comment, it’s very much appreciated!
I hope everyone here....dealing with mental health have a great life ahead and overcome all the obstacles you face. And let me tell you.. the fact you're watching this video and you could breath... You are so lucky so be grateful for what you have and look how far you've come.....
Don't tell me what to do
:'-) thank you so much
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Ted talks are always very helpful in curbing psychological mindset
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@@simonr-vp4if This guy does not know how to speak English . I mean 'midset'? what is that?
@@alexanderstar8360 mindset. I'm not good at detecting jokes.
@@Davis... I see that the original comment has been edited and it is now spelled correctly. I actually was confused by the original comment, I thought midset meant the waist or something. I am sorry if my comment offended anyone.
@@alexanderstar8360 it's totally understandable as some people deserve such insults, this one, as far as i am concerned, is supposed to be positive
I would like to take a moment to appreciate such personal mental development videos. I come from a place where regulating and understanding why certain things happen to me, for example emotions and the brain's response, is extremely strenuous. Not only because our society highly discourages mental talks but also, I personally pressurise myself to be perfect.
A huge and I mean a huge gratitude to the team for letting me understand myself better and accept myself just the way I am WHILE ALSO improving myself.
Thank you.
I feel you. Coming from the same kind of environment, it’s not easy for us to discuss mental health and allow ourselves to be fully open. It’s really heartbreaking to know that many people are unable to express and embrace their real feelings. But thankfully, videos like this can really support people in understanding and in accepting themselves better.
I'm with you. We're all searching for healing 🙏
@@SearchOfSelf well said. I totally agree with you
It's truly admirable how you've recognized the importance of understanding and accepting yourself. The pressure to be perfect can be overwhelming, especially when society discourages open conversations about mental health. It's inspiring that you're embracing both self-acceptance and self-improvement. Do you think this journey of emotional understanding could be a continuous process, where small steps are just as important as big breakthroughs? How do you usually find balance when emotions feel particularly intense?
I recently went through a 3 month rehab program for learning how to deal with difficult thoughts and emotions when dealing with chronic (physical) pain, through group sessions in mindfulness techniques and individual therapy. The professional team also provided us with a lot of useful information of how chronic pain works and why our brains are wired to focus on the negative. One of the biggest take aways I had was that according to some studies, around 80 percent of all of our thoughts are negative in some way. 80 percent! When I heard that, I felt such a relief. I'm not the only one with a brain that's constantly risk assessing in every situation. When I have negative thoughts, I remind myself of that number. Sometimes it can be a relief to know that we are wired in a certain way for survival, and there is nothing wrong with you. And to affirm that thinking in a more positive way is hard work! Thank you for reading this far and I hope you have a nice day :)
The amount of work Ted Ed does for the world,
give this man a nobal prize.
id rather give it to the whole team ;)
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this Comment is so funny unintentionally lol.
Even though I’m still young I have learned many lessons concerning emotional regulation. I’ve learned that it’s okay to feel negative emotions and if I don’t accept them and feel them then it’ll only make me feel worse.
Been learning that myself - sure I try look on the “bright side” but a strategy I’m learning in counselling is to give myself time to feel and not block out negative emotions in tough times. Like journaling, venting to friends who’re available or even just sitting there with them for a little while.
This really inspired me - there's no good or bad emotions, only helpful or unhelpful emotions. To an extent, i have the power to judge what emotions are helpful without being guilty about being emotionally vulnerable
One time when I was in a really dark place I went to see a therapist. They tried to prescribe me antidepressants but I told them no because I feel like even though it sucks depression and other negative emotions are a part of life, take the good with the bad. He was surprised but we went on talking and keep at it every few months or as I need to. I know everyone's different emotionally but I think a lot of the time you just need someone to talk to.
EDIT: I wanted to share my experience with depression, this worked for me but is in NO WAY a solution for everyone. Medication is important and has saved millions of lives, I'm not against using it at all. In no way am I expert in psychology or mental health. If your doctor recommends medication you should really consider taking it.
Ya I just feels like alot of us just need a way to release them but don't get the opportunity too sadly
@@booklover2435 unfortunately isolation and loneliness often comes with depression
Dosent mean you don't take meds .
This is some real "fake deep" nonsense!
Depression shouldn't be a part of life! Sadness is ok but feeling low everyday ISN'T
Yeah, no, depression isn't just "a part of life." Sadness is. Sadness serves a function. Depression is more akin to something like cancer: a disease that eats away at you mindlessly and purposelessly.
Depression and being sad are two very different things. One is a mental illness which needs to be treated as such. I agree we do need to normalize sitting in and feeling the emotions we experience, good or bad. But again, it’s a mental illness and not simply just an emotion. To those reading this, if your doctor recommends antidepressants, please consider it. Mine saved my life, literally.
"Learning to notice your emotions and reflect where they are coming from is half the battle"
Note for future self if I ever revisit this
Wow, so helpful! My biggest takeaway is that emotions are not good or bad, they are helpful or unhelpful. That really makes me see clearer when I am overreacting.
I would rather say they are pleasant or unpleasant. In my opinion they are always helpful- if used for identifying your needs behind them.
I have emotional and mental struggles that are mostly incurable, so I completely disagree.
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Great as always! I so appreciate the subtle but important mention of emotional responses being caused by both real AND imagined situations! People often like to undermine the emotional reactions of others for "fake" scenarios, which is just tiring and belittling to those feeling the emotion, such as over thinkers like myself, which does not help calm us down
These techniques are under the purview of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, which is great for most people, and can be helpful. There is a lot of research to support these techniques. But, it's important to note that these techniques may not always work for everyone all the time. So if you try them and they don't work, it doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. This is a great first step for most people, but there are other techniques out there if this doesn't work.
This is such a necessary topic and helpful tool for everyone, especially in the modern world that every emotional expression of us could be judged imprecisely and then lead to more unintended consequences. As always, many thanks to TED-ed team for your meaningful works.
I meditate for about 10~20 minutes daily for a year, and I realized that it helps a lot now that my body is conditioned to 'let go' whenever there's a need to.
Experiencing and allowing oneself to experience a range of emotions is essential to mental health. What to watch out for is, when a negative emotional response keeps popping up after similar external triggers. It could indicate an underlying trauma that needs resolving.
Mark Manson wrote in his book that looking for a good experience is a bad experience. I feel like part of regulating your emotions is understanding that your emotion are ABSOLUTELY normal, because you’re a human being once you accept that you can choose what to do with you emotion - being angry is ok, punching a wall because of that is not.
Personally, I have an issue of bottling up emotions and I’m working through it, it doesn’t always feel good and at times I feel as though I am retracting back into my old ways but I look forward to more of these up and down emotions because that’s what living is
I feel like always since I've been a little kid I've been "suppressing" my emotions. And I guess it's somehow become the normal for me, because all the people around me tell me that I lack emotions. I personally consider it as a good trait as it allows me to sort of "select" which emotions I want to express. It also helps me mitigate feelings like envy. A thing I always enjoy however, is being in the present, just looking around yourself, noticing the details and realizing that you will never be in the same situation again gives you a lot more appreciation for the smaller things, simply because you know that they won't be there your entire life.
Hmm, I think you suppressing your emotions may have been caused by something(s) that happened in your life, maybe some traumatic experiences. Maybe you should talk with a therapist about it.
Envy I think means wanting something someone else has that you don't have the right to, in that case you should just accept the reality you can't change and embrace what you can in a fair way, not supress emotions.
And some natural emotions are really good, you should definitely review that.
This is some of the most relatable things I've ever read. Sending you hugs 🫂
The amount of time in awe that i found this fking gem of a channel... Its mad how they keep pumping out these quality stuff for free
I always talking to myself (especially out loud) when i felt overwhelmed or upset to reevaluate my emotions.
It’s just like talking to a friend that is always listen to you without judging you first. And in the same time, i hear what i said and it’s like i also listen to someone problems, and i can sometimes giving myself an advice or even a solution.
Thanks a lot Ted-Ed for bringing up this issue! The current generation is becoming so addicted to social media, things which give instant gratification, and all the materialistic stuff and they forget to care about their mental health and handle their emotions, which I'd say is a very needed skill these days. This world could become a real good place to live in and interact if everyone becomes keen on paying attention to their mental health.
So If you're reading this, it begins with you!! Go out there, get out of your comfort zone, accomplish, learn, study, enjoy, read, eat health, sleep well and most importantly love yourself.
You can do it! I wish everyone an awesome life ahead lesgoooooo
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“back in my day we used to climb mt Kilimanjaro to go to school without any shoes 👵👴 this new generation is so entitled”
I’ve spent years trying to fix my emotions and anxiety attacks since my breakup. While I’ve gotten better at it I still struggle with it and this video helps.
How are you doing, right now?
how come ted ed every time comes up with such videos when i need them the most! bravo guys
"there's no emotion inherently good or bad there either helpful or unhelpful depending on the situation" ❤❤❤
This feels like good advice. I have a hard time trying to regulate my emotions with everything else going in my life so this is really helpful.
I was full of doubt and sadness in my teenage. But now I feel like I got all the answers. Now I am comfortable. I studied my emotions and I now how to handle it now. As we get old, we will learn it by ourselves. 😊
Burmese translates are really good help me to understand more deeply.Really appreciate the effort of Burmese translators and Ted talk.
Those born as adhd individuals, me included deal with emotional deregulation syndrome.
Which make dealing with our emotions that more harder. Especially if an individual is naturally a very emotional person, or just undiagnosed and not being medically treated and not working with a adhd specific therapist/ adhd life coach.
Or if medication doesn't work for them or they just can't afford either meds or both meds and a adhd coach/ therapist.
Are you a demigod?
Its so weird i have adhd but i have zero stress and i am really low with emotions i think the last time i cried is 10years ago. I feel like a robot
Thank you for the reminder that life isn't about avoiding misery or seeking happiness! It reminds me of a forum that distinguished between hedonism, moralism, relativism, and relationalism as centers of family values.
Mood is never good or bad, its always helpful or harmful.
Powerful words!! Thank you. I'm gonna remember that. 💪💪💪
I think I am always reevaluating how I feel, most of the time I try to have a positive mindset and face situations in a way that can make me stronger from it.
A good approach, mate. Our emotions can be our enemy at times, this is why it is good to analyse our feelings and get a better understanding of them. Don't forget that feelings are rooted in the brain, they are the output of the electro-chemical flashes in the brain. As long as you have volition, you can undermine negative feelings and focus on the healthy ones.
learning how to curb a frustration spiral has been one of the hardest things ive done in college, but it pays off!!
When I am, for example, upset, I would type it all out as if I'm sending it to a friend. Then I would reread it again and a lot of the times, the things I feel upset about are miniscule in comparison to the things I feel happy about and that helps reassure myself that whatever I am upset with isn't that big of a deal. This isn't me, ignoring the negative feelings I felt but rather embracing it and realize how our brain tends to magnify and upscale the negative situations we go through when in reality, it plays such a small role. It's normal, of course, to feel negative from time to time but remember that just like the good things that happen to us, the bad things are also temporary
This is what I actually needed. I'm going through a lot right now. I just wanted to hear something like this. Less than a year ago I didn't even have the hint about how hard life can be. Now here I am finding every possible thing that can make me feel better; or show a ray of hope. One moment I feel OK the other I collapse again. If this is what life is going to be then that's something to think about.
I'm not the best at controlling my emotions but the times I do manage to keep cool, I found that being able to detach and see it from the 3rd person helped.
Ok but the movement at 4:25 is so calming
🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation:
00:06 *🧠 Regulación de emociones*
- Se plantea la pregunta sobre si es posible controlar nuestras emociones.
- Se introduce el Modelo de Proceso como un marco para comprender las estrategias de regulación emocional.
- Se describen los cuatro pasos del proceso emocional y las oportunidades de intervención en cada fase.
01:33 *🔄 Estrategias de regulación emocional*
- Se presentan diversas estrategias para intervenir en el proceso emocional, incluyendo evitar la situación, modificarla, desplazar la atención y reevaluar la situación.
- Se mencionan métodos de ajuste de la respuesta emocional después del hecho, destacando la importancia de estrategias sostenibles.
- Se enfatiza la práctica y la conciencia emocional como fundamentales para dominar estas técnicas.
02:59 *😊 Percepción de las emociones*
- Se cuestiona si se debe buscar constantemente mantener un estado de ánimo positivo.
- Se analiza la naturaleza de las emociones como útiles o no útiles según el contexto.
- Se destaca la importancia de encontrar un equilibrio personal en la gestión emocional, evitando la obsesión por la felicidad constante.
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I wish the ed system could teach us how to regulate emotions in school or somewhere formally at least as part of the growing up experience. Most parents don't, my parents have very volatile emotional cycles which I still can't deal with them peacefully at age 35.
Just sharing my experience of how to keep balance after years of self learning from personal trial & fails, hope it'd be helpful:
I used to get fixated on thoughts just kept circling in my mind & hard to control the emotions comes along with them. Then I learned to take long walks + sit alone quietly to meditate using reflection & critical thinking to breakdown those thought & emotions logically.
Don't let the wild emotions take over, might lead to bad decisions that could cause severe consequences in life.
Use conscious & rationality to get a hold of it & bend it towards your own advantage.
It's mostly the subconscious that's running unchecked, gotta use your consciousness to put it back to its place in order to keep the mind balanced.
Reflection:
1. Imagine/replay the things/experiences that bring those occupying emotions in your mind, over & over if possible until you're so used to it & become comfortable enough. Even though it's a painful frustrating process at first, could take hours, but try to endure & live through it, this torturing process helps you achieve conscious awareness of which part is causing what emotions in you, it's also a self learning & identifying experience. Once you're used to the process in meditation, it'll become a natural flow to self analyze the mind. I used to take hours long walk or sit like a monk to go through this when it first started, now I can do it anywhere anytime to run a check on my mind if I'm consciously aware of some unwanted thoughts/emotions.
2. dig & think deeper, ask yourself why it's triggering such emotion, find the root & cause of it. Mostly it's past experience related, then pull that memory up & replay it, repeat step 1. It's a looping long process, very tiring, might wanna get a protein shake or energy bar during the meditation. Brain consumes lots of power.
I also used INDICA eatables gummy/mint to help sleep better at night after long walk/meditation during the day. One effect I really like is after it kicks in, that's when the mouth is dry & stomach feels hungry & the body feels sinking, but the mind now goes super fast & so much better at deep thinking, now there is a 30 mins window to begin a realm of problem solving & life question answering. My logical thinking process was so fast I actually couldn't trace back my thoughts, it's kinda amazing! I used it for 6 mths, figured out all the life stuff. But I wouldn't recommend long term use, I do feel it lowered my IQ a bit, but the tradeoff was worth it. There will be sleeplessness after stop using, but the good sleep & IQ recover after a few months of healthy lifestyle.
Good luck :)
Just wanna say the animations and art for this clip was adorable
This is really nice to hear right now especially with the stress of school starting to build up as we approach the end of the school year so thanks a lot for this ted. :)
i think we need to talk more about how most times there isnt a battle between being happy, sad or angry. Half of our lifes are probably spent feeling nothing- NEUTRAL.
Ted talks are amazing , really got some real knowledge
"Now that doesn't mean let sadness or anger take over-"
*Sadness and Anger from Inside Out fighting over the control panel*
This is one of the most informative & useful video I’ve ever found, centered around emotions. More people should learn about this.
I panicked today during a final exam, and that panic lead to more mistakes, which lead to an F, which lead to even more panic and self-hatred.
These feelings come seemingly at random, and when they come I feel powerless to stop it yet all too aware of how my behavior is affecting myself and everyone around me.
I have more final exams to complete. I pray that awful feeling doesn't strike again.
I wish for the best for you, I think you might've had a panic attack, I've had them during exams before too. I dont know if you can seek professional help or take meds but at the very least I want to tell you that its normal. The panic you felt doesn't make you a worse student or person, your brain was likely overwhelmed with all the fears and what ifs. Im sorry about that, and wish for the best for you
Teded not only helps to improve my listening skills but it also helps to increase my culture level .thanks a lot ^^
I loves TED so much, many things I learned by watching videos
I'm really happy that nowadays we have such videos to learn more about ourselves. And with the help of such videos we can analyse and percept information and use it in our lives and make society healthier.
Keep up the great work for the animators, editors and other great artists!! You have been a part of childhood. 🥰🥰 Love your great work!!👍
I love a good and funny animation😩
It's never too late to learn and implement emotional intelligence. The goal is to learn from what we didn't receive in our childhood and apply it to our everyday lives. It will be challenging, but it's worth it. When you start a family, teach them early enough so that your children will learn to regulate their emotions while young. Acknowledgment leads to improvement.
Tried watching this video on mute and without context... A hilarious experience. Always love to see your videos!
I was never very emotional until after my wife died and I realized that I was alone. Now, I cry when I hear a song from my life , any song that has emotional memories.
Love this voice over artist on TED-ed. Dont remember exactly what Ted channel had the other / previous one, but this one just rocks.
Summary
1. It is possible to manage your emotions
Ways :
Deep breathing exercises (meditation)
Re evaluating situation (personal tip focus on why more than what)
Talk to someone in your support
2. Its OK to feel sad, angry at times dont run from them accept them but dont let them take over yourself and be hopefull that although things are not well now your emotions are not well now but things will get better with time, have some COURAGE and have LONG TERM THINKING.
I was so Lucky to read this comment
Yes it is so okay to feel sad 🥺
The natural man is the enemie of peace. To be above emotion is to be above nature and intern generate peace.
Thank you, Ted ED Team! ❤
As someone who is stressed out by being the only group with three members while the other groups have five members for ALL of our college projects and getting the feeling of wanting to punch someone, I hope this video would help me control my emotions better (commenting while watching lol)
Edit: huh, the later part of the video is something I feel like I needed to hear. Thank you again, Ted Ed for releasing videos that eerily are the solution to my current problem(s)
For me, understanding my emotions and where they come from is the most important part. Avoiding them sounds unhealthy tbh
And the animations are so sick!
LOVED THE ANIMATION
Emotional intelligence is the door to an almost infinite number of beautiful possibilities. You can find one such possibility in the poem "Reason and Passion" by Khalil Gibran.
I’m coming off gardening but totally read this as “are you manure?” Then actually read it and went
“Ah no”
The guy who wrote the concept for this video deserves a raise!
Whenever I feel overwhelmed with emotions sadness, anger, happiness , I remind myself that life is temporary and NONE OF THIS MATTERS IN THE END !.. we are just random souls carrying energy of this universe and are meant to join a bigger cleaner purer source of energy when we die so we don't have to come back to this illusion (maya) of a life we live with ups and downs of emotions aka moksha .. So truly none of this matters but still we get to live this life on this earth might as well make use of it and serve our intentions of helping other souls attain their moksha in whatever way we can.. my unwise heart/mind craves richness, luxury, fame , love.. I will chase this for sure because I want to feel what it feels like to be my higher self who is living her dream life. but even if I dont achieve it its ok and its ok even when I achieve it .. Because none of this actually matters..
Ted Ed releases a video just when I need it ! So accurate of a coincidence
Love Ted Ed...great content 👍
Great content, great animation!!
Usually your sadness or anger is justified, and you have every right to feel the way you do. It only becomes a problem when mismanagement of your emotions causes additional problems which could have been avoided. Obvious examples of mismanagement include, drug abuse, alienating friends or family, or openly violent behavior.
This video came at the right time! I'm in the process of being more aware about my negative and positive emotions!❤
"Associate with people who are likely to improve you." - Seneca
"No emotion is inherently good or bad. They´re either helpful or unhelpful, depending on the situation"
I love how Ted Ed always manage to create videos when I need to learn it
The animation is insane 😍
“every emotion is helpful or unhelpful. it depends on situation.
you should find own balance of your emotions
you MUST NOT be happy or pleased every time”
these words i liked from video💥
Can we take a moment to appreciate this animation?
Ted ed animations are on their own God tier +1
It's like ted-ed always knows what I need, they're like a mind reader
3:14 is the emotion helpful or unhelpful?
You CAN regulate your emotions
Thank you for putting in the effort and time to make this video, it was very helpful.
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2:55 internalize(v) tiếp thu
3:52 upbeat(adj) lạc quan vui vẻ
What a meaningful video! The topic is so necessary for everyone. The message that emotions are not good or bad is impressive😊
Thank you
I wish you would continue to do more videos on psychology.
I would also love to watch more videos about"The Demon Of Reason"
"Riddles"
and videos based on the "Economy"
Thank you!!♥ im proud to be a subscriber 😊
This is the earliest I've ever been to watch a new video...
As someone who’s more focused on logic emotions have always been a weak point for me. But despite this natural weakness I’ve tried my best to cultivate better emotional awareness. Anyone can, even if they don’t think so.
PROCESS MODEL OF EMOTIONS
1. consider wether the situation is real or imaginary
2. appraise the situation (does it help or hinder?)
3. contemplate feelings, thinkings and behaves (emotional response)
Acquiring how to control emotions will be important skill in life~ everyone has their own way~ i would like to say that only experience is the answer !
Ted Ed: “Learning to notice your emotions and reflect on where they’re coming from is half the battle.”
Me: “G! I! JOE!”
I’m here because I lost her. I made terrible mistakes and took wrong decisions and actions. Here I am trying to figure out how to control my emotions.
this artstyle is amazing
Thank you for everything ☺️
I often avoid such an awkward situation. It may be nice to jump in such a situation to understand correctly how I feel.
If you're sad you should 1) acknowledge your sadness; 2) accept it and don't try to force anything, ever; 3) communicate clearly and sincerely to closed ones how you feel (not colleagues, not random people - unless in a bar at night in front of a glass of whiskey - but people close to you which you can reasonably expect can and will listen); 4) interrogate yourself about the apparent reasons of your sadness; 5) wonder if there are deeper reasons, or if the the apparent reasons are the consequences of something more structural; 6) don't intellectualize away your sadness, don't find artifact explanations to compress and hide your feelings; rather, look for the reasons of the sadness you feel and you should neither deny nor try to control.
In the end, most likely, your sadness (if not the result of a recent, clear accident or grief) will be linked to three major reasons:
1) loneliness - 2) fear of change - 3) living under neoliberal globalized capitalism. In all three cases, what you need is not "hope of better times" but action. Not only because without action you won't see changes; but because action will empower and subjectivize yourself in the face of adversity and redefine the situation not just as a source of pain but as a problem to be solved.
[the exact same can be said replacing the word 'sad' and 'sadness' with 'angry' and 'anger'. Don't waste or hide your anger, it will kill you; channel it toward action.]
Loved it ... thankyou !!
Really love these current psychology -related videos
The animation of the head patting is too cute 🥰
I cannot control my emotions seeing these eccentric animations-
Don't let pain define you; let your resilience shine. Everyone has a strength within them.